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Speaker 1: Hello, my loves, Welcome to the bonus episode of Give

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Speaker 1: Them La La Podcast. What a special special day beyond.

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Speaker 2: I'm so excited for you.

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Speaker 3: I want to be well mama, to be momma of two,

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Speaker 3: to be Okay, that breaks me out, does it?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? But I will say I'm so happy that the

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Speaker 1: picture finally came out because I've been rocking a beer

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Speaker 1: belly for like a few weeks now, and I'm Here's

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Speaker 1: the good thing is I always wear baggy clothing, so

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Speaker 1: like that part, it's like I'm not like, it's not

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Speaker 1: like I'm walking around in latex every day and then

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Speaker 1: all of a sudden, I'm in baggy stuff. But it's

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Speaker 1: strange when you can't wear skin tight things you want to.

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Speaker 1: I want a belly shirt on.

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Speaker 2: Well, now you can. You can rock the belly shirt.

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Speaker 4: No, it's kind of like you're you feel thick, but

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Speaker 4: you don't look pregnant.

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Speaker 1: Oh it's the worst, Yeah, it is is.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's kind of you can't you look, in my

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Speaker 3: opinion though, you have a tiny belly, now, don't you.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I look just like the Grinch for those

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Speaker 1: of you who don't look exactly like the Grinch. For

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Speaker 1: those of you who don't follow me on Instagram, yeah,

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Speaker 1: and only follow the podcast. First of all, thank you.

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Speaker 1: But I'm expecting my second child, which is very, very amazing. Congratulations.

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Speaker 3: We're all expecting.

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Speaker 1: It feels with child. Oh mom keep saying every time

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Speaker 1: I'm like I feel nauseated or like I'm so tired.

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Speaker 1: Why am I so tired? She goes, you're with child.

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Speaker 1: I know I'm about to Bitchla. Do not say that?

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Speaker 2: Why don't say with child?

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Speaker 1: Jessica. You can say she's pregnant, she's knocked up. I

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Speaker 1: don't care anything except with child.

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Speaker 3: Oh, ild, I'm gonna be saying it all the time.

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Speaker 3: You six feet I'm with child.

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Speaker 2: I will.

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Speaker 1: I totally see you doing that. So I've been off

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Speaker 1: social media because I wanted to create. I found out

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Speaker 1: on December twenty second, Oh.

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Speaker 2: My god, get it, get into it.

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Speaker 1: We were going to head to Palm Springs on the

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Speaker 1: twenty third for Christmas. And here's the weird thing about

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Speaker 1: the way that I conceived this child, right is when

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Speaker 1: like you're bumping peepees with your partner, people aren't actively

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Speaker 1: checking in like did it take? Did it take? With mine?

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Speaker 1: It was like I'm going in for my IUI because

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Speaker 1: I got a donor, and so people who I would

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Speaker 1: tell I didn't think this went through. People who I

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Speaker 1: actively would text me the next day when do you

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Speaker 1: find out if it took? So I had people actively

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Speaker 1: asking me like are you pregnant? Are you pregnant? Are

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Speaker 1: you pregnant? And it's so weird the first trimester because

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Speaker 1: which we've completed. We love that first trimester is over.

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Speaker 1: So I had people asking me. And Sheena and her

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Speaker 1: family were going to Palm Springs and I was gonna

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Speaker 1: a like beautiful zen place and I but I'm thinking

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Speaker 1: I was like, what if I get to know, it

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Speaker 1: will ruin and it will ruin my Christmas. So we're

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Speaker 1: like in the apartment on the twenty second and Easton's

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Speaker 1: passed out on the floor. We're watching like something about

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Speaker 1: So I'm just gonna go take it on my own.

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna tell anybody. And so I go up there,

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Speaker 1: pee on my little stick and I'm a waitin. I'm

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Speaker 2: Oh no, I don't expect.

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Speaker 1: It when I went into the fertility specialist because again

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Speaker 4: And the doctor was amazing though, he really was, and

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Speaker 4: the way he explained everything me at sixty three years old,

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Speaker 1: I was like, so that's what a fallopian tube does. No,

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Speaker 1: It's like hungry, hungry.

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Speaker 4: In fact, the mere fact that people get pregnant, like

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Speaker 3: Which is even more wild that you got pregnant the

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Speaker 4: Because the doctor that did the procedure, he said like

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, on average.

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Speaker 2: That's what it is.

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Speaker 1: That where you were saying that they thought that you

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Speaker 2: Women do what you do?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 1: Wow? Three? What was that percentage? Well, I got my

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Speaker 1: my donor through the California Cryo Bank, and so when

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Speaker 1: specialist a lot like they were, they knew of each other.

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Speaker 1: And only to one percent of women who go into

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Speaker 1: the California Cryobank to seek out a donor because they

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Speaker 1: want to do parenthood on their own. There's only ten

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Speaker 1: most people that are coming in are like same sex couples,

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Speaker 1: But the California Cryobank, they were absolutely fantastic, like they

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Speaker 1: You know you're going in you look at all of

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Speaker 1: but I also didn't need them to be extremely smart

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Speaker 4: A defining moment when you pict your donor, when you

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Speaker 3: And which I am dying to get into, but I don't.

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Speaker 3: I want to make sure you go back because you

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Speaker 3: were in the middle of telling the story of how

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Speaker 1: Oh sorry, emotional, we love yeah.

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Speaker 2: Ever excited with you.

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Speaker 1: You.

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Speaker 3: Say, you tell this journey however you want. I wanted

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Speaker 3: to remind you it's just.

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Speaker 1: Such a wild experience that I'm like, I don't even

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we're so proud of you, We're so excited.

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Speaker 1: So yes, there was a defining moment, but let's go

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Speaker 4: We were just doing a daily routine, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Nightly routine, which is vegging to the highest degree, right okay,

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Speaker 1: and edibled out, passed out on the floor, and I go, guys,

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Speaker 1: I wanted to wait to tell you, but I really

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Speaker 1: just what? I'm pregnant and they're like you are. I

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Speaker 1: go Eastern Care, I'm having a baby. He's like, that's

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Speaker 1: so great. When did you find out? I was like

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Speaker 1: it a dream?

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Speaker 2: I would have done that.

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Speaker 3: I would have actually, I would have taken one and

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Speaker 3: been like, if it were me, this is probably wrong,

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Speaker 1: Did you take him by the one? I certainly did, Lisa.

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Speaker 1: So I took a lot. It took a lot. I

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Speaker 2: It was so fast.

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Speaker 3: It was incredible. So you tell Lisa and Easton? Who

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Speaker 3: do you tell next? Do you tell me?

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Speaker 1: Is it? I tell you next? Okay, I tell you next.

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Speaker 3: So tell me this because I want to tell you

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Speaker 3: from my side where this comes from.

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 2: So you yeah, well.

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Speaker 1: Well I said I have to tell Jessica. So I

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Speaker 1: I called you and I was like, hey, there's like

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Speaker 1: able to read a contract like instead of like Darryl you.

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Speaker 3: Know, but I did in my mind this second you

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Speaker 3: said that, I'm like, oh, I gotta read this contract now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I go, I don't understand it, and I'm hoping

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Speaker 1: you do. And so she gets it and she's like, okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: let me check it out. What paragraph? And I'm like,

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Speaker 1: just get in and I'll walk you through it. And

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Speaker 1: she says it just and she's just that was Jessica

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Speaker 1: I'm like, are you.

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Speaker 3: Okay, you said Jess, Jess, because she gonna hear me.

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Speaker 3: So what happened was, I'm laying in bed with Kyle.

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Speaker 3: I was just really tired that day. I was supposed

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Speaker 2: It was my dad's birthday, and we did and we

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Speaker 3: And Lala calls me and I'm like, hey, hey, and

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Speaker 3: she's like, hey, she said what she just said, like,

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Speaker 1: So my mom, who's like the chillist of chill and

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Speaker 2: I wonder if they thank you too? Are a couple?

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, she's my mom.

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Speaker 4: We went to the neighborhood watch meeting, and mate, you went.

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Speaker 4: So this baby will be one hundred percent our baby

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Speaker 2: Off socials correct when? How when did you decide to

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Speaker 4: Want it to remove yourself because you want to enjoy

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Speaker 1: I'm sure I do want to venture back into what

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Speaker 1: But the defining moment, what do you remember from that? Well?

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And and back to sort of your defining moment.

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Speaker 1: Just sorry, I'm all over the place. Door.

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Speaker 3: it has to do with this journey, so very excited

439
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Speaker 3: for that. You'll sort of see on vander Pump roles

440
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Speaker 3: this season who Lala chose to help her to choose

441
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Speaker 3: the donor and stuff like that.

442
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Speaker 2: It was very positive, very beautiful, and I think we

443
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Speaker 2: can tease that.

444
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:25,480
Speaker 1: Right, I think we absolutely can. It was a way

445
00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 1: for me to make something that again could be very

446
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Speaker 1: like isolating and cold, because it's very scientific. You're going

447
00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:40,320
Speaker 1: in and like being artificially inseminated, which I hate that term. Yeah,

448
00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:44,040
Speaker 1: it's the worst, it's horrible. But when I've read articles

449
00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:48,920
Speaker 1: like talking about this process, they'll say, like also known

450
00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:52,399
Speaker 1: as artificial insemination, right, So for me that's very like

451
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Speaker 1: scientific jargon cold, like what those robotic me being there.

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Speaker 4: I thought it was really beautiful. I mean, I like,

453
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Speaker 4: I'm choked out. Oh, just the whole thing. Yeah, I

454
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Speaker 4: would highly recommend it for people that can't seek.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Well, I think that's the biggest thing, is like anything

457
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:24,639
Speaker 1: can become isolating and cold if you don't like add

458
00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:32,679
Speaker 1: your own. I just think it's beautiful.

459
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Speaker 4: I think the way that like the donor came to

460
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:40,840
Speaker 4: you in a roundabout way, like there's so many similarities,

461
00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:42,199
Speaker 4: like the lion.

462
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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, really really beautiful.

463
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I just can't wait for this baby to be here.

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Speaker 1: There are moments where I do start freaking out when

466
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Speaker 1: ocean starts kicking my ass. I'm like, I'm gonna have

467
00:24:57,520 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 1: to what have I done? Stossy was like, don't worry.

468
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:06,560
Speaker 1: I like obviously was so excited for Messer to be here,

469
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: but there were moments where Harvard would act out and

470
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Speaker 1: I'm like, no, no, I.

471
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Speaker 2: Can't do too. What did I do?

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Speaker 1: Right? So that is important that not every day I'm

473
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Speaker 1: sitting here going like I just can't wait when Ocean's

474
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Speaker 1: really really fucking me up, I'm like, wow, two of.

475
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Speaker 3: You, are you turning to certain people for you have

476
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Speaker 3: friends you mentioned Stacy who have.

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Speaker 1: To Stacy and I have gotten extremely close. In fact,

478
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Speaker 1: she was the second person after you just that I

479
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Speaker 1: called and told just because we're very in sync in

480
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Speaker 1: a lot of different ways. Like she loves being a mom.

481
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Speaker 1: She loves being a mom, right, and so do I.

482
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Speaker 1: She's also very honest about being a mom. She's also

483
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 1: out there, like really working her ass off. So there's

484
00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 1: just so much that we have in common where we

485
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:10,959
Speaker 1: can talk to each other and it just feels like

486
00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:14,119
Speaker 1: I get what I need from that from that friendship,

487
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 1: and I feel like we've become extremely close.

488
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Speaker 4: Yes, and she can relate when Ocean's kicking your bat,

489
00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:23,960
Speaker 4: Yes she can.

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Speaker 1: She certainly can't. There was one time I went over

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Speaker 1: to her house and she was like, how do you

492
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:33,040
Speaker 1: get Ocean to like just chill, and I was like,

493
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Speaker 1: I tell her, you know, hitters get hit, biders get bit,

494
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:38,440
Speaker 1: you know. I was like, we don't play, and she

495
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 1: was like, I just can't picture myself telling Hartford hitters

496
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,680
Speaker 1: get hit. And I'm like, you're right, it does hit

497
00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 1: different when you say it. And then when I'm thinking

498
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 1: about it, I'm like, I'm driving home and I'm like,

499
00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:53,439
Speaker 1: Ocean is just the perfect child. And then all of

500
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:57,880
Speaker 1: a sudden, overnight just not magical anymore.

501
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:00,440
Speaker 4: Become magic again.

502
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 1: Yeah she has. Yeah, she's rounded back to match. She's

503
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:10,680
Speaker 1: come back to home. Baby like that.

504
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:12,919
Speaker 4: She's pushed you to your limit and.

505
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:13,359
Speaker 2: Now we're back again.

506
00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:15,640
Speaker 1: I think she's going to be so good with this

507
00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:16,240
Speaker 1: baby though.

508
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:19,520
Speaker 3: I was just gonna ask, yeah, and I am excited

509
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 3: to get into like when you told her and how

510
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:23,640
Speaker 3: but you have told her?

511
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:27,080
Speaker 1: She knows, Ocean knows. I didn't really tell her in

512
00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:32,160
Speaker 1: like some big way. Yeah. She wanted to sit on

513
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:33,919
Speaker 1: me or something, and I said, Okay, we have to

514
00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 1: be really careful because guess what, mama has a baby

515
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:40,080
Speaker 1: in her belly. She you have a baby in your belly?

516
00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:44,840
Speaker 4: I say, yeah, let me see see and then she

517
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 4: tells us she doesn't have a baby.

518
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 2: In her belly.

519
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:48,960
Speaker 1: I don't have a baby in my belly. I was like,

520
00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 1: that is correct, and then she'll she knows because I

521
00:27:53,680 --> 00:27:56,840
Speaker 1: moved all of her old furniture because we ball on

522
00:27:56,880 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 1: a budget, of course, her old nursery for furniture into

523
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,680
Speaker 1: a bedroom for the baby. So like we're pretty teed

524
00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:06,200
Speaker 1: up as far as furniture, Like I have to decorate

525
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:09,320
Speaker 1: and make it like its own space right now, just

526
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:14,920
Speaker 1: kind of new. Oh she's no, she's got her princess bed.

527
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 1: It's very strange. I'm like this, you used to be

528
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:21,280
Speaker 1: like this little tiny infant sleeping in a crib and

529
00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:23,760
Speaker 1: now you're in this big girl bed, I know, with

530
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:24,640
Speaker 1: a down comforter.

531
00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:25,440
Speaker 2: I know.

532
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 1: It's very weird. That's all.

533
00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:30,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, that she needed a bed when she started crawling

534
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 4: out of her crib.

535
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was intense.

536
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 3: About to be a big sister. This I hear for

537
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 3: just from friends who have had two. The second you

538
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 3: have your little baby, then you're older one that like

539
00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:46,200
Speaker 3: was the baby, You're like, oh my god, You're like

540
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:48,360
Speaker 3: you're like not in it.

541
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 2: You're like grown. Yeah, And it's crazy.

542
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:55,280
Speaker 3: And what's crazier just bringing this back because in my mind,

543
00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:57,560
Speaker 3: my sister is just weeks behind you.

544
00:28:57,880 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 1: I know, isn't that crazy?

545
00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 2: That is crazy.

546
00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:03,360
Speaker 3: I found out my sister was pregnant just like a

547
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:04,520
Speaker 3: few weeks after.

548
00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 1: Law But if we both had our babies on the

549
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Speaker 1: exact same day.

550
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 3: I told Katie, I said, of course, like pros and cons,

551
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:14,479
Speaker 3: But the two most important women in my life besides

552
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:16,480
Speaker 3: my mom, are having babies at the same time. I'm

553
00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:20,160
Speaker 3: so excited about I told Katie. I said, I will

554
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 3: be in the hospital and Lawa's having her baby, but

555
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 3: I'll I said, so, I'll probably be there the day

556
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 3: after for you.

557
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Speaker 2: I don't think you guys are having a.

558
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 1: We're definitely not. Do you know why on your birthday?

559
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 1: What if I have my baby on my birthday? Did

560
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:35,160
Speaker 1: you just call it a hurt? I did? Do you

561
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:37,000
Speaker 1: think it's a Girl's a girl?

562
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 2: I don't know.

563
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:43,480
Speaker 1: Everyone I've never heard you say if.

564
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 3: You did that, because I'm talking about Katie and my sister.

565
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 2: I don't know.

566
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Speaker 1: Maybe yeah, in a way, I kind of feel like

567
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:56,080
Speaker 1: it's a girl because I heard girls still your beauty

568
00:29:56,120 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 1: and I look busted as well. I was saying, everyone's

569
00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:07,480
Speaker 1: gorgeous you're glowing by very nice? Are different? Is there

570
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 1: like anything that would indicate maybe it's a different gender

571
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:11,479
Speaker 1: from no? Nothing?

572
00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:14,080
Speaker 4: Are you? Do you have the same morning sickness?

573
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:18,520
Speaker 1: Like that's today. That's what's so hard, is like, let's

574
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:20,480
Speaker 1: just say I got to lay in bed all day

575
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 1: and just eat all day long. I don't think I'd

576
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 1: be nauseated, right well, which is what I got to

577
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:28,960
Speaker 1: do during the pandemic with ocean. I'm like, was I nauseated?

578
00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 1: I wouldn't even know because I just laid there all day.

579
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:34,920
Speaker 4: Like yesterday, she was nauseated and I asked her, have

580
00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 4: you eaten?

581
00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:38,760
Speaker 1: And I did, though I had two waffles.

582
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:44,480
Speaker 2: That's not the media, that's the thing. It's the work.

583
00:30:44,880 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 1: It's working. Like I shove food in my face just

584
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:49,040
Speaker 1: to like get a little something, and then I go

585
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 1: out into the world because I have to make money

586
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 1: right to support now two children and my other two

587
00:30:55,920 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 1: children household. And then next thing I know, I'm bent

588
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:04,240
Speaker 1: over the toilet being like why am I so sick?

589
00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:08,480
Speaker 4: And it's like, oh, oh, last night we went to

590
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:10,920
Speaker 4: in and out Burger, Yeah.

591
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:13,680
Speaker 1: And wait a whole save it for Wednesday.

592
00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:16,520
Speaker 4: I said, I'm telling you that she you hurled the

593
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 4: out out burger.

594
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:18,080
Speaker 1: It's fine.

595
00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 3: Well, I'm excited for you to talk really dive deep

596
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:23,160
Speaker 3: in Wednesday's episode.

597
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:25,960
Speaker 1: So I love a deep dive, Love a deep dive.

598
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:28,440
Speaker 1: I love you, guys. Thank you so much for listening

599
00:31:28,480 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 1: to the bonus episode of the Give Them La La podcast.

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Speaker 1: Send me positive vibes and I will send you the same.

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Speaker 1: I will catch you next week