1 00:00:01,400 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:04,120 --> 00:00:08,119 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please 3 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:12,720 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:15,720 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 5 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:18,880 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're gonna read this 6 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:21,640 Speaker 1: one right here, right, Hey, Shirley. Before you read the letter, 7 00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:24,919 Speaker 1: I want to say to a singer out of Detroit 8 00:00:25,120 --> 00:00:31,240 Speaker 1: name Bobby Storm. Bobby Storm, She's a singer out of Detroit. 9 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 1: This girl ain't no damn joke. Really, my wife sent 10 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 1: me a video or this girl singing a song, this 11 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 1: girl about her business. Hello, Bobby Storm out of Detroit, Detroit, 12 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:53,720 Speaker 1: all the talent and Detroit. Yeah, all right, Well here 13 00:00:53,880 --> 00:00:58,480 Speaker 1: is Strawberry letter. Thank you, nephew. Subjects my grandson's girlfriend 14 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 1: jumped me even Shirley. I'm a sixty eight year old 15 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:05,320 Speaker 1: divorced woman living with my daughter and her sixteen year 16 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:08,759 Speaker 1: old son. Well, they're living with me in my house, 17 00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: and I gave my primary bedroom to my daughter upstairs, 18 00:01:12,319 --> 00:01:15,679 Speaker 1: and I moved to the bedroom downstairs. I wanted for 19 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 1: her and my grandson to have their own space because 20 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:21,679 Speaker 1: she lost her house during the pandemic, and she's saving 21 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 1: money to get back on her feet. So in the meantime, 22 00:01:25,920 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 1: I'm running my house as I normally would. I pay 23 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:32,200 Speaker 1: the bills and I buy the groceries. She's a great cook, 24 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:36,399 Speaker 1: so it's a win win situation. My grandson is expected 25 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 1: to do his fair share by keeping his room clean, 26 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:42,679 Speaker 1: run errands, do his laundry, and keep his grades up. 27 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:45,959 Speaker 1: He's been dating an eighteen year old girl that he 28 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:49,040 Speaker 1: met at a basketball game, and she's from the wrong 29 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 1: side of the tracks, if you know what I mean. 30 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: His whole attitude is changed since he met her, and 31 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:57,200 Speaker 1: I told his mother to keep an eye on him. 32 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:00,520 Speaker 1: She's more relaxed with him than I was her at 33 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:03,680 Speaker 1: that age, so I don't understand it. I told him 34 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 1: the girl can't ever be upstairs in my home. I 35 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:10,760 Speaker 1: caught her up there several times, so I banned her 36 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 1: from coming inside period. My grandson had her on speakerphone 37 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 1: one day and she said a few cross words about 38 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 1: me for not letting her visit. I told him to 39 00:02:21,360 --> 00:02:24,320 Speaker 1: watch her mouth. I told her to watch her mouth 40 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 1: and mind her manners. My grandson was very apologetic. I 41 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:32,480 Speaker 1: knew then that he is unable to control this young 42 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 1: woman because she has whooped a good one on him. 43 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 1: After a few days after that, I caught the girl 44 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:40,960 Speaker 1: upstairs in his room again, so I told her to 45 00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 1: get out. She raised up and threw a pillow and 46 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:48,680 Speaker 1: broke my glasses. My grandson had to restrain me because 47 00:02:48,720 --> 00:02:52,360 Speaker 1: I was about to wear her out. She cursed me 48 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:56,679 Speaker 1: out all the way outside. My daughter said she'd handle her. 49 00:02:56,919 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 1: But I want to press charges. Should I do it? Well, 50 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 1: of course I don't think you should press charges. And 51 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 1: first let me say this. I'm sorry about your daughter 52 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 1: losing her house in the pandemic. A lot of people 53 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:12,360 Speaker 1: have gone through that and I'm sorry, but I'm glad 54 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:13,919 Speaker 1: she had a place to go to and that was 55 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:18,079 Speaker 1: your head. But I can still say that. I can 56 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 1: still say that because you know, I know you aren't. 57 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:25,400 Speaker 1: We know that. I think everyone in this letter is 58 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 1: out of line. I think everyone um except for you, 59 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 1: sixty eight year old grandmother. While it should be clear 60 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 1: because you've made it crystal clear as your house, your rules, 61 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 1: they've ignored and disregarded these rules. I placed the blame 62 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:42,280 Speaker 1: solely on your daughter because, instead of being grateful that 63 00:03:42,320 --> 00:03:44,600 Speaker 1: she and her son have a place to live during 64 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:48,360 Speaker 1: these hard times for her. She's allowing him to disrespect 65 00:03:48,480 --> 00:03:52,040 Speaker 1: his girl, to disrespect your home. You never said that 66 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 1: the girl couldn't come over initially, you just said she 67 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 1: couldn't be upstairs in his room. That's fair enough. I mean, 68 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 1: this kid's only sixteen. He's only sixteen years old. He 69 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 1: can entertain her in the living room. And I'm not 70 00:04:04,800 --> 00:04:08,560 Speaker 1: understanding how something hasn't been done about the young lady already. 71 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 1: I mean, you've caught her up there several times. This 72 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:14,840 Speaker 1: last time she threw a pillow at you, broke your glasses, 73 00:04:14,960 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 1: and cursed you out all the way outside. I don't 74 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:21,159 Speaker 1: think you should press chargers like I said, but I 75 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 1: do think it's time for them to go. Your daughter 76 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 1: needs to get her own place now. I don't think 77 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:29,080 Speaker 1: there's any way your daughter should have let that girl 78 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 1: get away with that, even if she wasn't there when 79 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 1: it happened. You know, and as long as they live there, 80 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:36,760 Speaker 1: the girl will be sneaking in and she's going to 81 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:40,520 Speaker 1: be going upstairs. She never stopped. Your daughter said she 82 00:04:40,560 --> 00:04:43,120 Speaker 1: would handle it, so far as she hasn't, so now 83 00:04:43,160 --> 00:04:44,919 Speaker 1: I think it's time for you to handle it. And 84 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:48,520 Speaker 1: you're gonna have to, you know, put them out, give 85 00:04:48,520 --> 00:04:50,320 Speaker 1: her some money to get a new place, whatever you 86 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:52,400 Speaker 1: have to do. But they need to go. I mean, 87 00:04:52,440 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 1: this can't continue because if something could happen where the 88 00:04:56,000 --> 00:05:07,240 Speaker 1: police might have to be called in Steve, Well, how 89 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:11,080 Speaker 1: much time I got on this first half? I got 90 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:15,160 Speaker 1: about ninety sex. Let me explain something to you. This 91 00:05:15,360 --> 00:05:18,000 Speaker 1: sixty eight year old divorced woman that has this house 92 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:21,200 Speaker 1: that she says she's living with her daughter and his 93 00:05:21,320 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 1: sixteen year old son, But well, they living with me 94 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 1: because in my house. Then she gave her primary bedroom 95 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:32,120 Speaker 1: to her daughter upstairs, and I moved to the bedroom 96 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:35,120 Speaker 1: downstairs because I want to hear my grandson to have 97 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:38,760 Speaker 1: their own space since she lost her house during the pandemic. 98 00:05:38,800 --> 00:05:45,800 Speaker 1: And and well you can come here before how are 99 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: you getting up in my room and all the pandemic 100 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:53,920 Speaker 1: house lost his stories and all this here. I'll help 101 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:56,479 Speaker 1: you out, but your ass gonna be down in this basement. 102 00:05:58,839 --> 00:06:01,560 Speaker 1: I'm not moving out of my room upstairs because I 103 00:06:01,600 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 1: got stuff in there. Don't nobody need to go through 104 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 1: the draws. I'm sixty eight, girl. I got some stuff 105 00:06:09,040 --> 00:06:13,440 Speaker 1: in him that's gonna require therapy, the explanation of it. 106 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 1: Hang on, Steve, Hang on, crazy man. We'll have part 107 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:20,880 Speaker 1: two of your response coming up at twenty three minutes 108 00:06:20,920 --> 00:06:23,520 Speaker 1: after the hour of the subject for today's Strawberry letter, 109 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:26,760 Speaker 1: My grandson's girlfriend jumped me. We'll have part two of 110 00:06:26,839 --> 00:06:31,159 Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up right after this. You're listening Steve 111 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap 112 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:38,840 Speaker 1: today's strawberry letter. The subject is my grandson's girlfriend jumped me. 113 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:41,920 Speaker 1: The sixty eight year old divorced woman daughter ran into 114 00:06:41,960 --> 00:06:45,560 Speaker 1: some hard times doing the pandemic. Understood, she let her 115 00:06:45,640 --> 00:06:48,359 Speaker 1: daughter move in with her sixteen year old son. She 116 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:50,840 Speaker 1: gave me a bad room upstairs so so they can 117 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:54,119 Speaker 1: have their own space on space, my ass, you lost 118 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:57,840 Speaker 1: your house doing the pandemic. I'm not fitting inconvenience myself. 119 00:06:58,040 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 1: Y'all can come over him, but nothing. Your asses on 120 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:04,760 Speaker 1: the bottom flow. I'm on the top because this is 121 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 1: my house. I ain't that damn friend anyway. She let 122 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:10,800 Speaker 1: the baby in, her daughter and her son stay that. 123 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: She's saving money until she get on her feet. In 124 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 1: the meantime, Grandmama say she run her house like she 125 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:18,760 Speaker 1: normally do. She pay all the bills and buy the 126 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:22,520 Speaker 1: groceries and everything, and your grandson is expected to do 127 00:07:22,640 --> 00:07:25,880 Speaker 1: his part. Just keep your room clean and keep your 128 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:31,160 Speaker 1: grades up. That's all that ain't no damn responsibility. Now 129 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:34,000 Speaker 1: he's been dating this eighteen year old girl. Now he's sixteen. 130 00:07:34,080 --> 00:07:36,600 Speaker 1: Now he's been dating this eighteen year old girls that 131 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:39,040 Speaker 1: he met at the basketball game. And she from the 132 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:41,520 Speaker 1: wrong side of the tracks. If you know what I mean. 133 00:07:42,080 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: That means they live out in the suburbs and she 134 00:07:44,600 --> 00:07:47,800 Speaker 1: frond the hood. That's what that mean. Ain't cool. And 135 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 1: his whole attitude is changed, Grandma, it had to. He's sixteen, 136 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:57,360 Speaker 1: she eighteen from the hood. He got changed his attitude 137 00:07:57,880 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 1: because he trying to fit in. So he hold on 138 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 1: this thing, and this thing is doing some things to 139 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:06,120 Speaker 1: your grandson. And he never heard happened before, and it's 140 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:10,040 Speaker 1: happening at your house. That's why they can't stay from upstairs, 141 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:14,680 Speaker 1: because he's going down up stairs. Now. His whole attitude 142 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: has changed since he met her. And I told his mother, 143 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:20,720 Speaker 1: keeping it well, you probably did. She's a lot more 144 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:22,560 Speaker 1: lenient with him than you were with her. And you 145 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:24,960 Speaker 1: don't understand that, but you got tightened the reins on 146 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: the board. An undisciplined board leads to a few things. 147 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 1: He's gonna be a father early, he's gonna go to jail, 148 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:36,559 Speaker 1: or he gonna get shot. So now he's already on 149 00:08:36,640 --> 00:08:40,080 Speaker 1: his way to be in a daddy. He's already on 150 00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:44,240 Speaker 1: his way because they upstairs. I told him that the 151 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:47,920 Speaker 1: girl can't be ever be upstairs in my home. I 152 00:08:48,040 --> 00:08:50,480 Speaker 1: didn't caught her up there several times, so this is 153 00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 1: more than once. You didn't caught her up there several times, 154 00:08:54,240 --> 00:09:00,440 Speaker 1: so I banned her from coming inside. Period. Now I 155 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 1: want you to say something about your grandson. He can't 156 00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:06,840 Speaker 1: help it. He can't help it because what's happening to 157 00:09:06,920 --> 00:09:11,240 Speaker 1: him upstairs, it's way more beneficial to him than this 158 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:15,200 Speaker 1: cussing out for her being upstairs. We're gonna take the 159 00:09:15,280 --> 00:09:19,840 Speaker 1: chances up setting grandmother's what's happening upstairs, Grandma's popping off. 160 00:09:19,920 --> 00:09:21,760 Speaker 1: And I told you not to let their rag lass 161 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:24,240 Speaker 1: in your house upstairs. Should have him down in a basement. 162 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:28,040 Speaker 1: They all up in stairs, up in your room, just clowning. 163 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:33,320 Speaker 1: So anyway, you told her she couldn't come over to 164 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:35,960 Speaker 1: the house, Pierre, so you banned her from coming inside. 165 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:39,000 Speaker 1: Your grandson had on speaker phone one day, and she 166 00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:42,000 Speaker 1: said a free cross words about me for not letting 167 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:44,880 Speaker 1: her visit. I told her to watch her mouth and 168 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:49,560 Speaker 1: mind her manners. My grandson was very apologetic. Oh, my grandmama, 169 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:51,800 Speaker 1: I'm so sick. I don't know why she's tripping like that. 170 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:55,000 Speaker 1: But your grandson can't do nothing about this because it's 171 00:09:55,000 --> 00:09:58,079 Speaker 1: some things happening to your grandson. I'm telling you that 172 00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:01,560 Speaker 1: you don't provide for now. I know you cleaning the 173 00:10:01,600 --> 00:10:04,480 Speaker 1: house and panny bills and behind the groceries, but the 174 00:10:04,640 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 1: real groceries is popping off up stairs, and her groceries 175 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:12,760 Speaker 1: is better than your groceries. That's what to see is 176 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 1: this is about groceries. I knew he was unable to 177 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:20,840 Speaker 1: control a young woman because she had shipped a good 178 00:10:20,840 --> 00:10:24,200 Speaker 1: one on it. Girl. You had no idea. A few 179 00:10:24,280 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 1: days after that, I caught the girl upstairs in the 180 00:10:26,600 --> 00:10:29,920 Speaker 1: room again, so I told her to get out. She 181 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:32,440 Speaker 1: raised up and threw a pillar and broke my glasses. 182 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:35,040 Speaker 1: My grandson had to restrain me because I was about 183 00:10:35,080 --> 00:10:37,400 Speaker 1: to wear her out. Now you must really be from 184 00:10:37,400 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 1: the other side that tracked, because how he restrained you. 185 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:42,439 Speaker 1: I don't know, because I know if I ever had 186 00:10:42,440 --> 00:10:46,040 Speaker 1: grabbed my grandmoma, these words would immediately came out of 187 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:55,720 Speaker 1: her mouth. Take your punk ass hands awfully right. And 188 00:10:55,840 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 1: I can't grab my grandmoma. That's I can't grab my 189 00:10:59,040 --> 00:11:02,520 Speaker 1: I really can't. I can't, just can't. So you should 190 00:11:02,559 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 1: have whipped her ass right there in your house. She 191 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:10,320 Speaker 1: cussed me out all the way outside. My daughter said, 192 00:11:10,360 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 1: she's handling, but I want to press charge and shut 193 00:11:13,200 --> 00:11:17,720 Speaker 1: press charge. This ain't the press charge issue. You got 194 00:11:17,720 --> 00:11:21,400 Speaker 1: to teach her ass some manners now, obviously. I'm just 195 00:11:21,559 --> 00:11:23,520 Speaker 1: maybe you just got this one daughter. I don't know 196 00:11:23,520 --> 00:11:26,960 Speaker 1: if you got any sons anywhere, but I'm but I 197 00:11:27,160 --> 00:11:29,920 Speaker 1: know you got some brothers and sisters. Where is your nieces? 198 00:11:31,679 --> 00:11:34,920 Speaker 1: You gotta get some nieces involved in here. You got 199 00:11:34,920 --> 00:11:38,839 Speaker 1: to get equal opportunity. Ass. Whoop a seat. Let me 200 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:41,680 Speaker 1: explain something to you. I had a minor one time 201 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:44,880 Speaker 1: that was shooting off his mouth at me, and I 202 00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:47,360 Speaker 1: wanted to knock his ass out, but I knew I 203 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:50,600 Speaker 1: would lose everything I had. So what did I do? 204 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:54,000 Speaker 1: I went and got the miners in my family who 205 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:59,840 Speaker 1: have nothing, who have nothing. Then I paid them something 206 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 1: so they would have something. Yeah, I ain't had no 207 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 1: more problems about this little bit. No more problems because 208 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:14,040 Speaker 1: they warmed his ass. This young girl been fined off 209 00:12:14,040 --> 00:12:18,080 Speaker 1: in her mouth, being managed, not being respectful, and she 210 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 1: needs to be taught some respect. Tell your nieces about 211 00:12:22,240 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 1: this and let them go talk to her as a group. 212 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:30,160 Speaker 1: As a group. Yeah, it's always group ass. Whoops, is 213 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:34,840 Speaker 1: very effected. All right, that's a lot of response to 214 00:12:34,880 --> 00:12:38,600 Speaker 1: this letter. Shit, I press charges hell loup No, all right, 215 00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:41,439 Speaker 1: thank you, Steve. Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter 216 00:12:41,440 --> 00:12:43,880 Speaker 1: at Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check 217 00:12:43,920 --> 00:12:47,000 Speaker 1: out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. Coming up at 218 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:50,160 Speaker 1: forty six minutes after the hour, it's Sports Talk with Junior. 219 00:12:50,440 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 1: Right after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.