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Speaker 1: What's up. It's lip service. I'm Angela Yee.

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Speaker 2: I'm Gg maguire, I'm Jordi Banuel and.

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Speaker 1: YadA, YadA, YadA. Oh my gosh. Well, first of all,

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Speaker 1: thank you for joining us today, YadA. I know you

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Speaker 1: flew in just to do lip service with us, and

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Speaker 1: we've seen you go viral quite a few times on

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Speaker 1: social media, and you have a very interesting story. So

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Speaker 1: there's a lot of things that we want to clear up.

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Speaker 1: There's a lot of advice that we want to hear

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Speaker 1: from you, you know. So first of all, good to

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Speaker 1: see you. How was BT Awards? How was Essence?

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Speaker 3: Have been non stop playing trains automobiles, crazy, like I

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Speaker 3: don't even know how I'm surviving. Essence was Let's start Essence,

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Speaker 3: because that's like from last night. I literally just got

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Speaker 3: on a plane from New Orleans at six am, landed

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Speaker 3: and Atlanta eight am, and then was back on another

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Speaker 3: plane to here in New York at two pm.

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Speaker 4: So I'm like moving, moving, moving.

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Speaker 3: Essence was amazing, and so as many times as I've been,

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Speaker 3: this was my first time actually working, so I was

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Speaker 3: pressed on behalf of the show, and I did the

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Speaker 3: convention Center, I did the concerts. I did the after

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Speaker 3: parties the field more saw a lot of familiar faces

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Speaker 3: and got it shown a.

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Speaker 4: Lot of love and I heard it. Love you hear me.

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Speaker 3: I love New Orleans just in general, Like I've drive

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Speaker 3: to New Orleans from Atlanta just to eat, so you know,

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Speaker 3: just like all of the energy and just you know,

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Speaker 3: all of the love that was shown.

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Speaker 4: It was a really really really.

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Speaker 1: Good time, well deserved. Thank you for working. Okay, by

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Speaker 1: the way, foot it on the way.

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Speaker 3: And then prior to that, I did, uh well, I

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Speaker 3: was in l A for BT Weekend on behalf of

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Speaker 3: Tailorport and I did my first official event with them, Okay,

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Speaker 3: so that.

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Speaker 1: Was pretty cool.

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Speaker 4: I also did some tail Report stuff in New Orleans.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 4: So we're shaking and moving and moving and shaking and

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Speaker 4: you love things.

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Speaker 1: Happening, and we're going to talk about positivity. But Jordan,

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Speaker 1: what about you these past few weeks last time, last

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Speaker 1: time you were here, we didn't even know that. But

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Speaker 1: the summer House, Martha's Vineyard is no longer.

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Speaker 2: It's paused. It's paused. I'm still living my life though.

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Speaker 2: I went to France South my friend and I was Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so I was on planes, boats and automobile.

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Speaker 2: And then I came back went to d C for

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Speaker 2: the National Alopecia Foundation organization, so that was really great.

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Speaker 2: And then I came back to the Hamptons did an

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Speaker 2: event for c DJ's Yes the event, then came back

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Speaker 2: and it's just been NonStop too.

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Speaker 1: So I also am losing my voice and the look.

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Speaker 1: And now we have Yat here. And you know, I

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Speaker 1: know you talk a lot about like positivity, manifesting the

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Speaker 1: things that you want in life, and how your life

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Speaker 1: can change when you put some positivity out there. So

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Speaker 1: let's talk about you and your background. For people who

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Speaker 1: are listening, they've seen you on social media, they've seen

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Speaker 1: some viral clips, and let's talk about who Yat it is.

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Speaker 1: Because you've had a really I would say that your

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Speaker 1: background has prepared you for where you are today. And

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Speaker 1: sometimes it's easier to listen to somebody when they've been

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Speaker 1: through when they've been through it and come out on

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Speaker 1: the other side, you know, So let's talk about kind

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Speaker 1: of where you got started. Because your life was not

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Speaker 5: No I wasn't no, no, no no no. I was

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Speaker 5: raised by a beautiful, beautiful woman, single parent that busted

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Speaker 5: her butt to make sure her children were good. We

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Speaker 5: were some bad boys. We were horrible.

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Speaker 1: How many boys?

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Speaker 5: Was it two?

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Speaker 1: Just two of you? Okay? Too terrible?

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Speaker 5: No, definitely terrible.

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Speaker 4: Are the older or the younger?

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Speaker 5: I'm the middle, I'm in the middle, so it's two. I

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Speaker 5: I was raised in California, moved around. My mother, remarried

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Speaker 5: to a military guy, and that that was what it was.

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Speaker 5: And then I started traveling, got into medicine, and then

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Speaker 5: But I went there for fun. I went I went

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Speaker 5: opportunities to make some money.

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Speaker 4: So you took advantage of that.

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Speaker 3: Of course, got yourself an empire, got yourself a wife

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Speaker 1: Some of those viral clips, you know, just to examine

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Speaker 1: that a little something something, you know, the fifty to

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Speaker 1: hundred and fifty thousand dollars a year. That was something

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Speaker 1: the conversations that you've had surrounding that, and it feels

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Speaker 1: like when I see a lot of these podcasts, a

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Speaker 1: lot of men don't like the fact that, you know,

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Speaker 1: women have it. Some women have an issue with going

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Speaker 1: for like the man should be able to hold it down,

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Speaker 1: take care of the household. Before we talk about it.

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Speaker 1: What do you think about fifty to fifty versus the

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Speaker 3: I personally think that it should be based on your

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Speaker 3: personal situation, financial situation. You know, there's levels to life,

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Speaker 3: and if you are on a level where you're grinding

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Speaker 3: and you're figuring it out and we're better and stronger

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Speaker 3: in numbers, then yeah, let's hold each other down until

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Speaker 3: we get to where we need to be. Would you

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Speaker 3: be okay with being the main provider me personally at

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Speaker 3: the stake that I'm in right now. No, absolutely, it's

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Speaker 3: like yeah, no, I'm holding it down for myself.

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Speaker 2: It's more than me. Like, I know, I work hard,

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Speaker 2: I can take care of myself. God forbid anything happen.

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Speaker 2: But you need to be working harder than me. Okay,

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Speaker 2: working harder than you, working harder than me, and playing

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Speaker 5: My thoughts is if a man has to if a

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Speaker 5: prepare her every need. Now, if I'm grind, I don't

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Speaker 5: I can bring you into my world because you can't

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Speaker 5: respect me if you're taking care of me. You can't

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Speaker 5: respect me if you're going half on my bills. And

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Speaker 5: this is what happened. A lot of men don't date

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Speaker 5: to bring a woman into the world to uplift them.

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Speaker 5: They're dating for a financial assistance. And this is why

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Speaker 1: Let me ask you this, how do you know a

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Speaker 5: Your I want a woman to woman for my money.

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Speaker 5: I'm a provider, want me to provide. Why are you

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Speaker 5: choosing me? You want an alpha man? I'm sure you're

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Speaker 5: an alpha man. I'm here to take care of your

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Speaker 5: every needs. And that's not just financially, that's mentally, that's emotionally,

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Speaker 5: that's spiritually because I'm here to lead in every aspect

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Speaker 5: to me. When I put you in an environment of peace,

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Speaker 5: when I put you in an environment when you feel secure,

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Speaker 5: you're going to elevate. And when a woman elevates, good

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Speaker 5: women are going to elevate the men right next to them.

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Speaker 5: So you become my diamond in a rough How do you.

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Speaker 1: Know who's a good woman and who's not?

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Speaker 5: Though I don't worry about that. I'm a good man.

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Speaker 5: I don't care if you're if you're tarnished, I'm going

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Speaker 1: I love this like he's like, I'm here for it.

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Speaker 1: I need this recorded. I need to pray with ladies. Right.

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Speaker 1: But so this is an interesting conversation because I saw

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Speaker 1: a lot of people pushing back on this, and even

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Speaker 1: for myself, like I know that I always do tend

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Speaker 1: to bring a lot to the table, like I'm used

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Speaker 1: my top priority as far as financial status. So I've

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Speaker 3: So I want to chime in and say that I

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Speaker 3: The thorn in my side in that situation was that

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Speaker 5: She that's the problem, and that's why I pay my

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Speaker 5: go to nothing but her in a bank account that

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Speaker 5: I have no access to. Real men want to see

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Speaker 5: you succeed. Now you have been with money. I want

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Speaker 1: So you believe in keeping your assets like having she

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Speaker 1: does that mean you have that as well?

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Speaker 5: No, my money is her money and her money is

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Speaker 5: her money. My money is her money, and her money

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Speaker 5: is her money. She has access to all my bank account.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. See, situation wasn't like that.

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Speaker 3: When we broke up, there was like a severance package

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Speaker 4: They helped me out there.

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Speaker 3: Okay, but but yeah, it would be like whenever we

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Speaker 3: I would go swipe that card and it would get

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Speaker 3: the client. So you know, it was like he held

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Speaker 5: That's men that only know how to lead with money.

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Speaker 5: If a man can lead you in every aspect of

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Speaker 5: pull money out. You're not playing double dutch with the money.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and let's be honest though, things do happen in life,

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Speaker 1: like one of the main reasons that people end up

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Speaker 1: I like the way that sounds right now. There's also

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Speaker 3: Because I hate the Internet and period with their opinions

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Speaker 1: Well, how do you how do you mage that.

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Speaker 5: My woman's glow? My woman glows with understand a woman

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Speaker 1: Now you also have two wives, right is that?

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Speaker 5: Of course. Now now I have to I have to,

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Speaker 5: My wife here runs the company here, they're bosses. She

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Speaker 3: But you do.

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Speaker 1: You are sexually attracted to both women.

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Speaker 5: There, beautiful women. Beautiful women.

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Speaker 5: Of course I have I have beautiful women, but it's

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Speaker 4: All Right, how do you split up the time?

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Speaker 1: So they hang out with each other and everybody.

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Speaker 5: It's their sisters. They'll be cool even if I wasn't

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Speaker 2: But when y'all are all in the same house, do

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Speaker 5: The same No, no, no, I'm not. No, no, they

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Speaker 5: No, I have, I have two o's. I'm committed to

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Speaker 5: I try to pull other women into the scenario. No,

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Speaker 1: I don't choose, and that's for business purposes. The company's expanding,

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Speaker 1: So you couldn't be with the women who was like,

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Speaker 5: Now. If a woman comes and says, look, I just

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Speaker 1: Okay. So how many children do you have?

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Speaker 5: I have five beautiful children, and.

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Speaker 5: But they're all our children.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, wow, this is I love this.

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Speaker 4: It through like through my family.

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Speaker 5: You know, a lot of men are doing what I'm doing.

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Speaker 5: They're just secretive about it. Yes, the women don't know

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Speaker 1: Okay, So you're saying a lot of men are having

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Speaker 4: Definitely, the women just don't know about it.

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Speaker 1: You think that women would be if they knew.

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Speaker 5: In this era, with the low quality of men, women

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and that happens, there's a TV show.

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Speaker 5: Honestly, I don't think women. You guys are different like women.

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Speaker 4: The room and do.

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Speaker 1: I don't know that every man is like that. I

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Speaker 4: But there's a lot.

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Speaker 2: I think it becomes a decision like they they're more

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Speaker 2: It's like, nope, I'm actively turning around rather than naturally saying, oh,

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Speaker 1: Because yeah, if a woman walked in here and was

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Speaker 5: No, when women walking up, put my head down. I

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Speaker 1: You know what, we do refer him to a friend.

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Speaker 1: I think it's well if it's something you're attracted to do,

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Speaker 5: Well, listen, but this is why women are failing. This

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Speaker 5: If you're building off how tall he is, how big

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Speaker 1: But that's just a physical attraction. That doesn't mean you

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Speaker 1: handsome that you're like, he talked and I can't stand

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00:19:37,480 --> 00:19:41,119
Speaker 1: him now, Like, yeah, so I think that you know,

440
00:19:41,240 --> 00:19:43,359
Speaker 1: it can vary, but I feel like men are a

441
00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:47,200
Speaker 1: lot more physical, Like that's why you guys can immaturement.

442
00:19:47,560 --> 00:19:51,359
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, immaturement because if man's just looking at the

443
00:19:51,400 --> 00:19:53,360
Speaker 5: body and that say, he ain't going too far.

444
00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:55,840
Speaker 1: But look, both of your wives are beautiful, and if

445
00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:57,520
Speaker 1: they were not attractive, I was.

446
00:19:57,440 --> 00:19:59,560
Speaker 5: Blessed with that though, But I didn't marry him for looks.

447
00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:02,440
Speaker 1: You didn't. But you know, there's like, I think attraction

448
00:20:02,600 --> 00:20:05,080
Speaker 1: is a real thing. If it was somebody that was

449
00:20:05,119 --> 00:20:09,199
Speaker 1: completely like horrible looking, Yeah, you may not be like

450
00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:12,600
Speaker 1: I'm marrying her because I'm attracted to her, you know,

451
00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:15,240
Speaker 1: mind and her business. I think it all has to

452
00:20:15,280 --> 00:20:16,720
Speaker 1: come together full package.

453
00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:21,720
Speaker 5: Nah, but not with me, because marriage is business to me,

454
00:20:22,040 --> 00:20:24,520
Speaker 5: Like marriage is business. So this woman can walk and

455
00:20:24,560 --> 00:20:28,399
Speaker 5: have four hundred pounds, but she knows how to run

456
00:20:28,440 --> 00:20:33,520
Speaker 5: oil company. She's fluent in Arabic. You know, she's fluent

457
00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:36,520
Speaker 5: in Mandarin like that. Yeah, come on, we can work

458
00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:38,840
Speaker 5: that weight up off you.

459
00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:40,960
Speaker 1: You can accept it for how she is too. But

460
00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:43,600
Speaker 1: health is important to you too. So let's talk about

461
00:20:43,720 --> 00:20:46,480
Speaker 1: your journey when it comes to not just physical health,

462
00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:48,959
Speaker 1: mental health as well. So let's talk about where you

463
00:20:49,040 --> 00:20:50,320
Speaker 1: were and where you are now.

464
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Speaker 5: Right. I was in a very dark place, you know.

465
00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:56,919
Speaker 5: I grew up with not really being loved, so I

466
00:20:56,920 --> 00:21:00,159
Speaker 5: had to teach myself how to love and accept love.

467
00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:03,879
Speaker 5: You know, it was a very hard struggle to mix up.

468
00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:06,360
Speaker 5: In my home. I never heard the words I love

469
00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:09,439
Speaker 5: you like I have never heard my mom say I

470
00:21:09,520 --> 00:21:11,880
Speaker 5: love you, or I'm proud of you, or you're doing

471
00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:15,560
Speaker 5: a great job. And the only people ever heard say

472
00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:17,199
Speaker 5: they loved me was the dudes in the streets. My

473
00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:19,040
Speaker 5: brother's in the streets. I never heard no one else

474
00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:21,680
Speaker 5: say it. So, you know, I how to teach myself

475
00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:23,239
Speaker 5: how to love a woman, how to teach myself, how

476
00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:24,880
Speaker 5: to be patient with a woman, how to teach myself

477
00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:26,840
Speaker 5: how to be understanding. And then I how to teach

478
00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:29,439
Speaker 5: myself when a woman tells me she loves me, to

479
00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:32,119
Speaker 5: believe it rather than I she's trying to run a

480
00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:35,000
Speaker 5: game on me, or you know that. So I was

481
00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:37,359
Speaker 5: in a very dark place because I didn't never know

482
00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:40,360
Speaker 5: how to love myself. Because my mother, she's my first teacher, right,

483
00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:41,720
Speaker 5: she didn't teach me how to love.

484
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Speaker 1: Myself, but she probably felt like she was showing you

485
00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:45,080
Speaker 1: because she was doing everything to make sure there was

486
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Speaker 1: food on the table.

487
00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:49,680
Speaker 5: Of course, you know my mother's my mother's love language

488
00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:52,680
Speaker 5: was providing. You know, I'm gonna make sure you got

489
00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:55,320
Speaker 5: clothes on your back, of haircut, shoes on your feet,

490
00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:58,040
Speaker 5: that a roof over your head. That that was her

491
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:02,400
Speaker 5: love language. But or a child, we don't know about providing.

492
00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:04,359
Speaker 5: We don't know about the roof over your head. I

493
00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:06,119
Speaker 5: just want to be love and hugged, you know, And

494
00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:08,639
Speaker 5: I didn't get that. So I grew up in a

495
00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:12,119
Speaker 5: very very dark place, you know, to the point I

496
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:16,560
Speaker 5: got sick, I got overweighted. You know, I had diabetes, cancer,

497
00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,280
Speaker 5: I was going through it like I was going through it.

498
00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:23,240
Speaker 1: And so then you also are into the wellness space.

499
00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:25,880
Speaker 1: So I want to discuss how you managed to pull

500
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Speaker 1: through it, like you said, because you were diabetic, overweights,

501
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:33,040
Speaker 1: dealing with depression, all of those things. So what pulled

502
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:35,960
Speaker 1: you out of that and what did you discover about nutrition?

503
00:22:36,560 --> 00:22:41,280
Speaker 5: I went, so I traveled to Ecuador, this village in Ecuador,

504
00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:45,040
Speaker 5: and this guy, he's from Spain, and he took me

505
00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:48,720
Speaker 5: to the Amazon jungles and these guys are all into

506
00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:52,399
Speaker 5: all natural stuff. I'm looking at people fifties, sixty seventy,

507
00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 5: looking like they're nineteen twenty twenty two, and they talking

508
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:57,880
Speaker 5: about we don't get sick. You didn't mean you don't

509
00:22:57,920 --> 00:23:01,480
Speaker 5: get sick. No, everybody gets sick. I thought sickness was normal.

510
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:04,879
Speaker 5: I thought we're supposed to get sick. Then they say, no,

511
00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:09,960
Speaker 5: the food that you guys eat is causing your sickness.

512
00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:12,640
Speaker 5: I said, nah, man, They said, stop this, do this,

513
00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 5: stop this, do this, fast fast what's fasting? Don't eat

514
00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 5: no food? Don't eat no food. What you want me

515
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:19,640
Speaker 5: to do just drink.

516
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:22,359
Speaker 1: Water, drink water, nice butter fast.

517
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Speaker 5: My whole life, my whole, my whole life changed everything

518
00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:27,760
Speaker 5: and went away. They started giving me herbs and telling

519
00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 5: me about herbs, and I'm going back and forth in

520
00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 5: an Amazon. Now I'm sponsoring them because they don't have

521
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:36,000
Speaker 5: no electricity, so I'm buying the cords for electricity. And

522
00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:39,560
Speaker 5: they're just teaching me every single thing on how to

523
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:43,160
Speaker 5: heal different diseases. And I thought it was crazy because

524
00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:45,159
Speaker 5: we know we come over here, we know medicine, medicine,

525
00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:48,080
Speaker 5: medicine over there's like plants, plants, plants.

526
00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:51,280
Speaker 1: You know, for me, I definitely because I don want

527
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:54,800
Speaker 1: to juice bar too, and I've done water fast before too.

528
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:57,080
Speaker 1: And I also know about how like fasting like that

529
00:23:57,119 --> 00:24:00,520
Speaker 1: can help rebuild your organs give you more strength. Things

530
00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:01,920
Speaker 1: I don't eat at all, Like I don't eat any

531
00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:04,440
Speaker 1: cold cuts. I try not to eat like I don't

532
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 1: eat like processed, processed foods.

533
00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 4: And if you can just.

534
00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:11,080
Speaker 1: Do like fruits and vegetables and fruits and all of that. Now,

535
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:13,920
Speaker 1: of course I don't eat perfect at all, having a

536
00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:16,320
Speaker 1: drink right now, but I just try to make sure

537
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:19,480
Speaker 1: I do things in moderation when I want to do it,

538
00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:21,960
Speaker 1: you know, Jordan, like.

539
00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:27,480
Speaker 2: I've been you know, I've done fast, I've done water fast,

540
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:32,240
Speaker 2: I've done cleanses. It's hard for me, especially I DJ

541
00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:38,119
Speaker 2: so I'm outside outside, and it's hard to fight the

542
00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:40,720
Speaker 2: temptation of a little beverage, a little champagne. Little so

543
00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:42,360
Speaker 2: do something every now and then, and then you want

544
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 2: a late night snack. Usually it's a baked potato for me.

545
00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:46,639
Speaker 2: So it's hard.

546
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:49,080
Speaker 1: It's a process get there.

547
00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:51,400
Speaker 3: It's a process, it is, but once you really get

548
00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:54,639
Speaker 3: in the groove of it, it becomes easier for me personally.

549
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 3: This week, I'm celebrating three years since I've been drunk.

550
00:24:57,400 --> 00:24:59,680
Speaker 3: I have had alcohol. I will have a glass of

551
00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:03,280
Speaker 3: red one, but I'm like ninety percent of alcohol free

552
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:06,680
Speaker 3: for these entire three years. And in the beginning during

553
00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 3: this time, I was still bartending, so I'm behind the

554
00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 3: bar and people are offering me drinks, and I really

555
00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:14,360
Speaker 3: stood firm on no alcohol at all for a whole

556
00:25:14,359 --> 00:25:17,160
Speaker 3: two years. As far as food is concerned, my mother

557
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:21,159
Speaker 3: was also a erbalist, so I was raised on we

558
00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:23,360
Speaker 3: did not have fast food. I didn't have fast food

559
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 3: until I was old enough to get it myself. We

560
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:30,399
Speaker 3: are candy was dried fruits and chocolate covered raisins and

561
00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:33,200
Speaker 3: yoga covered pretzels, and we ate a lot of trail

562
00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:35,920
Speaker 3: mix and everything was always fresh, never frozen.

563
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 4: She cooked every meal.

564
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:40,320
Speaker 3: I can only remember going to a restaurant in my

565
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:43,440
Speaker 3: childhood one time in my fourth grade, my graduation from

566
00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:46,440
Speaker 3: private school, we went to TGI Fridays. That's the only

567
00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 3: experience I have that I can remember as a child

568
00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:50,040
Speaker 3: being in the restaurants.

569
00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:51,040
Speaker 1: Why you spe all the time?

570
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:53,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I'm the same way. I cook a lot.

571
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,919
Speaker 3: It's been almost twenty years since I've had since I've

572
00:25:56,960 --> 00:25:58,800
Speaker 3: eaten fast food on a regular basis.

573
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:01,120
Speaker 4: I did have the Popa's Chickens, which because I decided.

574
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:03,680
Speaker 1: That marketing was amazing. I had to see why they're

575
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:04,959
Speaker 1: killing people over this sandwich.

576
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:08,840
Speaker 3: I did have the but I will not, and I

577
00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:11,000
Speaker 3: get asked so when I tell people that I don't

578
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:13,840
Speaker 3: eat fast food, and since I travel so much, I

579
00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:16,040
Speaker 3: always get asked, well, what do you do in the clutch?

580
00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:17,840
Speaker 3: What do you do when you're traveling and there's nothing

581
00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:20,560
Speaker 3: else around? And I'm like, I go to my favorite

582
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:23,119
Speaker 3: gas station snacks, which is trail mixed cheese, which I

583
00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 3: know cheese ain't all that great, but trail mixed cheese,

584
00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:30,879
Speaker 3: you know, I go with like peanut butter crackers and

585
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:33,199
Speaker 3: like things like that just to give me something to

586
00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 3: have on my stomach until I can get to a

587
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:37,960
Speaker 3: healthy meal of solid or you know, whatever I can have.

588
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:41,679
Speaker 3: So and I do see the difference at myself. You know,

589
00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:43,879
Speaker 3: I just turned forty five and I sit next to

590
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 3: my twenty seven year old daughter, and people don't believe

591
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 3: that we are mother and daughter. And that's because you know,

592
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:50,879
Speaker 3: I still maintain my youthfulness and I'm active.

593
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 4: I walk a lot.

594
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:53,720
Speaker 3: I don't really work out, but I used to dance,

595
00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:55,520
Speaker 3: so I kind of have all of that built up

596
00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:58,840
Speaker 3: in And yeah, like health is wealth, and I just

597
00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:01,960
Speaker 3: really wish that more people would understand that the food

598
00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 3: is killing us. You know, they put all these preservatives

599
00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:07,320
Speaker 3: and all of this process, you know, stuff in our

600
00:27:07,359 --> 00:27:10,000
Speaker 3: food that's making a sick. So in return, we can

601
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:11,760
Speaker 3: go to these doctors.

602
00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 1: They causes cancer but still advertise.

603
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:16,080
Speaker 4: It and gives.

604
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:17,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy.

605
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:19,800
Speaker 4: It's insane the way that in the United States.

606
00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:21,320
Speaker 3: And I travel a lot abroad, so when you go

607
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:24,440
Speaker 3: to other countries in these smaller islands, and everything is fresh,

608
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:27,040
Speaker 3: and you can see and taste and feel the difference when.

609
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 4: You spend time in other places and eat their food.

610
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:30,719
Speaker 3: I just wish that America would really do the right

611
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 3: thing and more people would be open to learning how

612
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 3: to take care of business themselves, really with food and

613
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:41,040
Speaker 3: fruits and vegetables, because herbs really are medicine.

614
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:43,200
Speaker 4: Of course, you know what I was raised doing.

615
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 3: My mother gave us for everything, Golden seal, golden seal.

616
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 3: My mother gave I talk about you got a headache,

617
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:50,200
Speaker 3: drink some gold.

618
00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 1: And you sing. Drinks some gold. I put a little

619
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:59,240
Speaker 1: ginger in it. Ginger, some fresh ginger and humberic.

620
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 5: Yes.

621
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:01,240
Speaker 1: Yes.

622
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 3: And during COVID, a lot of people did get on

623
00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:06,359
Speaker 3: the wave of being healthier and building the immune system

624
00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 3: and the sea moss and all of that. So that

625
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:10,439
Speaker 3: did kind of help people kind of awaken themselves to

626
00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 3: being a little bit more healthy. But they can't shake

627
00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:15,679
Speaker 3: them shake check shakeles seconds. They can't get out that

628
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,159
Speaker 3: Chick fil a line, you know, And it's because of

629
00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 3: all of theats and the stuff that.

630
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 1: They pumping into it.

631
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 5: They to it.

632
00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:25,959
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, aside from this. Before you got here, we

633
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:29,159
Speaker 1: were talking to Jordan about you. Are you ready to

634
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 1: settle down? Jordan Like, no, I know, that's right, Jordan.

635
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 2: I would like to do a year. I would celibate

636
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 2: for two years. Okay, So I'm coming out of my celibacy.

637
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 2: I kind of want to have a phase where I

638
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:46,680
Speaker 2: have three hose. Yeah, just to like live that life

639
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:49,040
Speaker 2: for a little bit, like a boster, just because I've

640
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 2: never done that.

641
00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:51,479
Speaker 1: But I would say coming out of your celibacy? Are

642
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:52,960
Speaker 1: you out of it already? Yeah?

643
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, but you know then I got ghosted, so

644
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 2: that's a whole other story. But I'm like, you know

645
00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 2: what I want to have like a little Tuesday, a

646
00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 2: little Wednesday, little Saturday.

647
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 1: Right, So what do you think about that?

648
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:13,040
Speaker 5: I say, data mall and.

649
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:12,360
Speaker 2: And so what do I do? Like, I don't even

650
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 2: know where to I don't know where to find them,

651
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,720
Speaker 2: b I don't know what to say. I'm so out

652
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:18,120
Speaker 2: of the game.

653
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 1: It's so hard to tell if somebody has money to

654
00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:20,640
Speaker 1: or not.

655
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:24,320
Speaker 5: You know what, you know what, I'll tell you, data mall,

656
00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:26,440
Speaker 5: but keep your vaginanty yourself.

657
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:28,560
Speaker 1: Okay that's not what she wants.

658
00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 5: Yes, date them all? But keep your vaginity yourself because

659
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 5: the one that's playing with you, he's not going to

660
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,320
Speaker 5: he's not going to last. He's going to show because

661
00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:41,440
Speaker 5: he's going to move you on to the next one. Okay,

662
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:43,640
Speaker 5: because you're pretty, So a lot of men try to

663
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 5: get you to sleep with you.

664
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 2: So how long do I have to do that before

665
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:48,400
Speaker 2: I can actually get you?

666
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:51,200
Speaker 4: Know, just because clearly she wants some physical attention?

667
00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 1: Now, what if okay, so what if you would be like,

668
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 1: you want to sleep with me fifty thousand dollars facts,

669
00:29:58,000 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 1: because that's that's advice you would give right.

670
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:00,240
Speaker 5: No.

671
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:06,320
Speaker 2: Conversation, that conversation looks like I need.

672
00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 5: And it's funny. It's funny now because I told my

673
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 5: sisters this. If if a dude wants a day to

674
00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:15,959
Speaker 5: fifty thousand, fifty thousands like cash or no, if they

675
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 5: can't afford a payment plan fifty thousand okay, okay, and

676
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 5: if they don't have your dating in a wrong pool.

677
00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 2: So let's run a scenario, right, let's get it. Let's

678
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:30,680
Speaker 2: say I'm at a bar, a man approaches me and

679
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:32,239
Speaker 2: he's like, you know, I'd like to take you out

680
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 2: to dinner.

681
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 1: What am I?

682
00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 2: I'm just like, okay, that's fifty thousand, of course, just

683
00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 2: just like this is going to work.

684
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 5: Listen, listen, listen, listen. In America, women been programmed a

685
00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:47,600
Speaker 5: certain way. In these other countries, it's the norm. Okay,

686
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 5: it's normal here, and then it's crazy because you have

687
00:30:51,440 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 5: men that's willing to take care of you all.

688
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:55,680
Speaker 1: So you got to go to like Sweden or where

689
00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 1: am I going?

690
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:56,840
Speaker 4: You got to go to.

691
00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:01,240
Speaker 1: But I feel like men are terrified of being used. Also,

692
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:03,080
Speaker 1: you know who's terrified of being used?

693
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:04,000
Speaker 4: The ones that ain't got it?

694
00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:11,320
Speaker 5: There we go. But I listen, a man can go

695
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 5: to a strip club and blow ten to twenty thousand

696
00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 5: in a few hours, and you about to sleep with them,

697
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 5: cook for them, iron his clothes, maybe clean his house.

698
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:23,160
Speaker 5: That's not worthy of you getting paid.

699
00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:24,880
Speaker 1: But most cause I know, aren't going to spend ten

700
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 1: and twenty thousand dollars in the strip club. And if

701
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 1: he is, I don't know that I want to be

702
00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 1: with somebody because I would be like, what are you doing?

703
00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:33,320
Speaker 1: I know, gg, I mean, I've been there nice and

704
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:39,240
Speaker 1: that's happening. I've been there and it happens. But like

705
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 1: if I'm dating a guy and he spends twenty thousand

706
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 1: in the strip club. I'm I don't think I want

707
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:49,960
Speaker 1: that either, Like I feel like that's not financed five thousand. Okay, sorry, gg,

708
00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:51,200
Speaker 1: I'm just being I mean, it's I.

709
00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:54,760
Speaker 3: Mean, I listen years moved from the game, so you know,

710
00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:55,640
Speaker 3: I don't.

711
00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 1: Want to hate on the strippers and hit on y'all game,

712
00:31:57,800 --> 00:31:59,840
Speaker 1: but I'm just saying that I feel like, for me,

713
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 1: that's not like fiscally responsible.

714
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:06,120
Speaker 5: That's like, but what is my thing is? What's your value?

715
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 1: What?

716
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 5: What is your value? A heartache and some dingling, like

717
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:11,200
Speaker 5: what's the no?

718
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 2: I think I have a hard time because I feel

719
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:18,720
Speaker 2: like my standards are almost too high. I don't I

720
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:20,640
Speaker 2: just don't know where to find them. That's my thing,

721
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 2: Like where are they at? Okay, I can activate all this.

722
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 2: I just need to be in the right place where

723
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:27,440
Speaker 2: where you.

724
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:29,320
Speaker 5: Are you need to go. You need to go with

725
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:32,240
Speaker 5: a grown man, the grown The grown men are playing

726
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:34,320
Speaker 5: in places that these average men don't be.

727
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:36,480
Speaker 2: At the hotel.

728
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:41,200
Speaker 5: Bar where men with money are. They're not in places

729
00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 5: where the average guy is at now now prefixed, no, no, no, no,

730
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 5: now now you need to travel? Got a passport? Yes,

731
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:50,680
Speaker 5: So we got, we got so so we got we

732
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 5: gotta find.

733
00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 2: I'm like, what is going on?

734
00:32:57,600 --> 00:32:58,360
Speaker 1: Is the place to be?

735
00:32:58,520 --> 00:32:59,200
Speaker 4: No one?

736
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:00,320
Speaker 1: Man?

737
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:03,120
Speaker 5: Listen, listen you, I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell

738
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:05,920
Speaker 5: you some things, right, and this is between us right right,

739
00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 5: this is just room right just in this room, right

740
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 5: in these cameras. Right. If you truly want a man

741
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 5: to provide your every need, and I'm not just talking

742
00:33:17,600 --> 00:33:22,960
Speaker 5: about financially, more mentally, physically, spiritually, love everything that comes

743
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:26,080
Speaker 5: with you, you have to know your value because a man

744
00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 5: will treat you as you come. So if you're saying, oh,

745
00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 5: I don't have to do nothing for you, and I can,

746
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 5: I can knock you down every night, That's exactly what

747
00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:35,720
Speaker 5: I'm going to do. And then I'm gonna get the

748
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 5: chick that's playing hard to get, that's giving me a

749
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 5: hard time and expecting all this. I'm wife and her,

750
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 5: but I'm just knocking you down. I'm having fun with you.

751
00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 5: So if you really want a man to really change

752
00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:49,680
Speaker 5: your world, you have to know what you deserve and

753
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:51,040
Speaker 5: don't settle for nothing else.

754
00:33:53,040 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 1: Word something say if you say fifty thousand, and that's

755
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 1: like prostitution. You know, I'm telling you are going to say.

756
00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:09,239
Speaker 5: But but listen to it. A man will get you,

757
00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 5: will have sex with you. Sometimes the sex is horrible.

758
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 5: We're mentally abusive. We don't know how to take care

759
00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:18,319
Speaker 5: of you emotionally. We have no spiritual connection, so we

760
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:20,640
Speaker 5: can't elevate you most of the time. It is stupid,

761
00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:23,280
Speaker 5: so we can't feed your brain. What are you worth?

762
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:26,400
Speaker 5: And you just gave me six months of your life,

763
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:28,719
Speaker 5: a year of your life, three years of your life.

764
00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:31,359
Speaker 5: You can't even get that back, and all you got

765
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:32,239
Speaker 5: what is heartache?

766
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 1: Wait? Did you used to be that guy? Hmm? Before

767
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:44,479
Speaker 1: you know? You can here again?

768
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:49,240
Speaker 4: Finger to my own life. I'm not that guy no more.

769
00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:52,959
Speaker 1: Because the journey is important to me. Like we said,

770
00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 1: we talked about everything you went through physically to get

771
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 1: yourself to where you are now. But let's talk about

772
00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 1: this sexually wise and being in a relationship wise. Did

773
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:03,520
Speaker 1: you used to be that guy that was wasting time?

774
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:07,239
Speaker 5: I was wasting time. I wasted so many women's time.

775
00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 4: And you're essentially wasted your own time in facts.

776
00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 5: You know, And it's so sad that we go through

777
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:15,920
Speaker 5: good women to learn how to be good men. I'm

778
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 5: gonna repeat that we go through good women, We hurt you,

779
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:21,799
Speaker 5: we scar you to learn how to be good men.

780
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:24,040
Speaker 5: And guess who's still walking around with the heartache and

781
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:26,560
Speaker 5: the pain you are? So if this man is going

782
00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:28,680
Speaker 5: to treat you as a test, you better come up.

783
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 5: You better come up.

784
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:33,160
Speaker 1: Well, what about you getting hurt though by a woman?

785
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:35,600
Speaker 1: Because I mean that happens too, right, there's times that

786
00:35:35,640 --> 00:35:38,160
Speaker 1: you might put your all into somebody. What happens when

787
00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:43,360
Speaker 1: it's the reverse? And now I don'e gave you for

788
00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:47,240
Speaker 1: five dates and now you're done, broke my heart because

789
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:48,280
Speaker 1: you had two other holes.

790
00:35:48,680 --> 00:35:53,160
Speaker 5: Right? But but but that don't happen to good men,

791
00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 5: not real good men. Real good men don't get played with.

792
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:59,959
Speaker 5: It's the boys that believe that through the good men

793
00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:02,279
Speaker 5: be played with. Because if a man steps into a

794
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:06,200
Speaker 5: woman's life and he's elevating her on every single level,

795
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:09,279
Speaker 5: and she can see her growth. When she looks in

796
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:12,360
Speaker 5: the mirror, she sees a whole different person, a woman's

797
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:14,440
Speaker 5: not going to messgu I don't care how crazy this

798
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:16,240
Speaker 5: woman is, it's not going to happen.

799
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:17,919
Speaker 1: Do you believe that some woman ain't shit?

800
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:19,000
Speaker 4: I believe it.

801
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:26,319
Speaker 3: I also believe from experience that I have elevated in

802
00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:28,359
Speaker 3: life with the help of a man, and even he

803
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:34,480
Speaker 3: didn't see it, you know, with me in this you know,

804
00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 3: we know I talk about the same person all the time.

805
00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 3: I had somebody in my life for almost fifteen years

806
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:43,840
Speaker 3: and we've been through a lot, and you know, the

807
00:36:43,880 --> 00:36:45,960
Speaker 3: person that I was fifteen years ago is not the

808
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:48,720
Speaker 3: same woman that I am right now. But for some reason,

809
00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 3: well I'm not going to say right in this moment,

810
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 3: but for some reason, there was a time when I

811
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:54,759
Speaker 3: was dealing with this man after all of these years

812
00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:57,880
Speaker 3: had went by, and he's his his mindset and his

813
00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 3: concept of thinking about me and deal and with me.

814
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 3: Was the same woman that was that woman way back then,

815
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:06,840
Speaker 3: and you helped me see my worth. You helped me

816
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:09,640
Speaker 3: elevate and become a better woman and to better myself

817
00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 3: all the way around the board.

818
00:37:10,760 --> 00:37:11,759
Speaker 4: Why don't you see it?

819
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:12,239
Speaker 1: Right?

820
00:37:13,120 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, the world may never know.

821
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:18,799
Speaker 1: When is it time to give up to you know,

822
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 1: as we're talking about conversations now, but you know, yeah,

823
00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 1: you know, you grew from things that you've done in

824
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:31,000
Speaker 1: the past, for sure, and if somebody is holding you down,

825
00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:33,200
Speaker 1: you know, when when is it time to tell a

826
00:37:33,239 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 1: woman since this is just not it, like, it's not

827
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:38,840
Speaker 1: going to happen. If you've been through a lot, she's

828
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:41,840
Speaker 1: done things, he's done things. When is it time to

829
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 1: say we could work on this? And when is it

830
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:46,080
Speaker 1: time to say enough enough? Like what are those signs?

831
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:49,399
Speaker 5: When like she just said, and this is perfect if

832
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 5: you're grown as a woman, but he's still trying to

833
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:54,279
Speaker 5: treat you like the first that he met you, it's

834
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:57,400
Speaker 5: over with. He doesn't realize who you are. If he

835
00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:59,839
Speaker 5: can't see who you are, your growth, it's time to.

836
00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:03,399
Speaker 3: Go, especially when he had a hand in it help

837
00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:03,960
Speaker 3: me get here.

838
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 5: How do you not say, but that's crazy man, and

839
00:38:06,280 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 5: teach you don't don't take this, don't take that. But

840
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:11,200
Speaker 5: they still try to dish it out to you. Come on,

841
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:13,880
Speaker 5: you can't do that. You can't heal a person and

842
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:15,919
Speaker 5: hurt a person at the same time. You can't lead

843
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:17,680
Speaker 5: a person and drag a person back at the same

844
00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:18,440
Speaker 5: time as impossible.

845
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 3: I didn't know I was coming to church today, told

846
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:25,080
Speaker 3: you these Monday.

847
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 1: But you know, sometimes I also believe that men have

848
00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:33,400
Speaker 1: their trauma too that they dealt with, Like look you

849
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:35,960
Speaker 1: talked about I know you recently. Like with your father,

850
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:39,400
Speaker 1: he wasn't around the way he could have been, and

851
00:38:39,440 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 1: you did reconnect with him. Yeah, you found him. And

852
00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:45,480
Speaker 1: guys do deal with some things and maybe they don't

853
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 1: even realize at times, and so how can you help

854
00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 1: them also because sometimes the way that they teach you

855
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:55,839
Speaker 1: is it's an excuse sometimes, but sometimes it's real, right,

856
00:38:56,280 --> 00:39:00,400
Speaker 1: you know, Yeah, because and so there is some grace

857
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:01,439
Speaker 1: right for that too.

858
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:06,120
Speaker 5: A man that's striving to become better and accepts where

859
00:39:06,160 --> 00:39:08,279
Speaker 5: he came from and where he wants to go. Now,

860
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:10,480
Speaker 5: a man that's using what he went through as a

861
00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:14,399
Speaker 5: clutch as a crutch, it's over with for him because

862
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:16,400
Speaker 5: he's always going to blame what he went through for

863
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:17,719
Speaker 5: why he is who he is.

864
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:19,759
Speaker 1: He's never going to chat at a certain point because

865
00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:24,560
Speaker 1: you know, guy, I'm a work in progress. He's still loading.

866
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:27,840
Speaker 1: So talk to me about reconnecting with your father too, and.

867
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:31,440
Speaker 5: So that Yeah, So I called. I called one of

868
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:33,719
Speaker 5: my partners. I said, I just gave him my name

869
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 5: and the address. And I remember, I'm driving through Chicago

870
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,960
Speaker 5: at this time. I'm coming from Ohio. I'm driving through Chicago,

871
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 5: and I said, man, his name, his address, find this

872
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:46,000
Speaker 5: for me, he said, I found it. It was in tennesc.

873
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:48,440
Speaker 5: He found the address. So I'll pull up to this

874
00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 5: man's house. I remember, I'm hopping. Now I'm fat. I'm fat,

875
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 5: drop top bends long dreads. I'm knocking on the door.

876
00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:59,040
Speaker 5: He's like, Yo, who are you? Wow, I'm your son.

877
00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 5: He just he gave me a hug, and I spend

878
00:40:02,160 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 5: the night over there for three days and I left.

879
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:07,160
Speaker 5: Now I take care of my father. You know, I'm

880
00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:08,839
Speaker 5: teaching my father how to be a man.

881
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:11,640
Speaker 1: And what did he say? Like, what conversation did you

882
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:12,080
Speaker 1: guys have?

883
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:16,040
Speaker 5: I asked my son? I said, while ago, Yeah, I

884
00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:18,399
Speaker 5: saying why did you leave me? Like? Why'd you leave

885
00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 5: your baby? Boy? He said? Drugs? Son, he said, And

886
00:40:22,040 --> 00:40:24,759
Speaker 5: this is like the crack era. He's like, I met

887
00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:27,680
Speaker 5: a woman your mom. This, you know, he spoke highly

888
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:30,000
Speaker 5: of my mother. But he said, I left for work,

889
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:32,440
Speaker 5: to work somewhere else, and I met this woman and

890
00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 5: she got me hooked on crack. And I was on

891
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:38,760
Speaker 5: crack your whole life until two weeks before I knocked

892
00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:39,359
Speaker 5: on his door.

893
00:40:39,480 --> 00:40:43,839
Speaker 1: Wow, damn, So you just came to them crazy?

894
00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:44,839
Speaker 5: Crazy?

895
00:40:45,080 --> 00:40:47,320
Speaker 4: Also the father to your brothers.

896
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:50,879
Speaker 5: Or no, no, no, just me. But now I take

897
00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:53,800
Speaker 5: care of him, you know, I provide for him, and

898
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 5: I'm showing him how to be a man. I'm showing

899
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:57,319
Speaker 5: him how to be a father to me, love of

900
00:40:57,320 --> 00:40:59,879
Speaker 5: my own children. Yeah, it was hard.

901
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:02,919
Speaker 1: So how did like not having connected with your father

902
00:41:02,960 --> 00:41:06,120
Speaker 1: before that, how did that affect how you treated women?

903
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:07,120
Speaker 4: Do you think it?

904
00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:09,640
Speaker 5: I never, I never, I never seen I never seen

905
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:13,440
Speaker 5: a woman loved. I never seen a man love a

906
00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:14,880
Speaker 5: woman ever.

907
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:17,400
Speaker 1: Even when your mom got remarried.

908
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 5: I've never. I never My mother married a week pretty boy.

909
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:23,000
Speaker 5: He was just six ' four, green eyes, light skin,

910
00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:26,400
Speaker 5: just pretty but weak. You know, I don't consider him

911
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 5: a man. I consider him a man and a boy

912
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:30,919
Speaker 5: in a man's body. He wasn't a man. He was cheap, too,

913
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:32,360
Speaker 5: very cheat, but.

914
00:41:33,400 --> 00:41:35,799
Speaker 1: He was weak, Like what define what that is?

915
00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:38,080
Speaker 5: Every time they got through it, he ran to his mother.

916
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:41,560
Speaker 5: Every time they had disagreements, he would run to his

917
00:41:41,640 --> 00:41:44,440
Speaker 5: mother and put his mother in my mother's business, you know.

918
00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:47,320
Speaker 5: Or if we're going to school and it's time to

919
00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:49,160
Speaker 5: get school closed, and it'll get my mom one hundred

920
00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:51,080
Speaker 5: dollars for me and my brother, what's one hundred dollars

921
00:41:51,080 --> 00:41:55,279
Speaker 5: on part we can't get shoes, you know. But yeah,

922
00:41:55,040 --> 00:42:00,160
Speaker 5: my father, my father was hooked on drugs, and it

923
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:02,160
Speaker 5: scarred me for a very long time because at one

924
00:42:02,160 --> 00:42:03,560
Speaker 5: point I wanted to kill him. I said, if I

925
00:42:03,560 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 5: ever find this man, I'm gonna kill him because I

926
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 5: seen what my mother went through. And to be honest

927
00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 5: with you, that day, I was going there. I was

928
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:14,200
Speaker 5: gonna kill him. Oh damn, it's the truth. I was

929
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:16,040
Speaker 5: gonna kill him. That's why God his age. I was

930
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:19,439
Speaker 5: gonna kill him. But when he said son, I turned

931
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:22,439
Speaker 5: into a little boy all over again, and I told

932
00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 5: him him. I brought him and my mom together, Oh wow,

933
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:29,640
Speaker 5: together after thirty plus years right of not seeing each other.

934
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:32,319
Speaker 5: I put him in one space, I'm detoxing him, and

935
00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:33,839
Speaker 5: I set him in front of my mother. I said

936
00:42:33,840 --> 00:42:35,759
Speaker 5: I was gonna kill you. He said, son. I felt

937
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:37,920
Speaker 5: it coming. I felt that you was gonna do something

938
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:38,160
Speaker 5: to me.

939
00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know. And this is interesting to talk about

940
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:44,240
Speaker 1: because when you think about like your father, like Jordan,

941
00:42:44,280 --> 00:42:46,920
Speaker 1: I don't know what your relationship is, but like, how

942
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:50,279
Speaker 1: do you think that plays a role with my dad? Oh,

943
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 1: my dad's my best friend. Okay.

944
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 2: I lost my mom when I was seventeen, so it's

945
00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:59,640
Speaker 2: just really been us. We have a very interesting dynamic,

946
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:03,919
Speaker 2: a lot more open minded than most father daughter relationships.

947
00:43:03,920 --> 00:43:04,880
Speaker 1: But I think that's.

948
00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:08,560
Speaker 2: What's made me so communicative and open and honest about

949
00:43:08,560 --> 00:43:13,480
Speaker 2: who I am whenever wherever. He also had a really

950
00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:16,359
Speaker 2: good relationship with both of his parents, and especially his mother,

951
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:19,800
Speaker 2: So I think we come from a fairly healthy line

952
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:22,600
Speaker 2: of open communication in a different way that I don't

953
00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 2: see in a lot of parent child relationships. However, him

954
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:32,960
Speaker 2: and my mom, they were married till she passed. They

955
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:37,359
Speaker 2: had some complications, and I think something calmon that I

956
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:39,360
Speaker 2: see that I think my dad is a little false

957
00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:41,680
Speaker 2: victim to himself, is like, these men want to be

958
00:43:41,719 --> 00:43:43,799
Speaker 2: bad bitches, Like they want to be coddled, and they

959
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,719
Speaker 2: want to be chased, and they want mothers. And I'm

960
00:43:46,760 --> 00:43:49,840
Speaker 2: not raising nobody's son. So that's kind of where the

961
00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:56,680
Speaker 2: downside of that relationship is, of having that healthy nurturing

962
00:43:56,719 --> 00:43:58,520
Speaker 2: relationship is like, oh, you want to marry your mom,

963
00:43:59,200 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 2: I'm not your mom.

964
00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:04,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, And you know you're the You're the type of

965
00:44:04,160 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 1: person you take care of your women right, like question right, everything,

966
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:10,880
Speaker 1: massage their feet, do everything everything.

967
00:44:11,880 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 5: Nanny's maids. Whatever. I want my woman soft, I don't.

968
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:17,920
Speaker 5: I don't. I don't want her upset. I don't want

969
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:22,600
Speaker 5: her looking tired. You know, anything they need that I

970
00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:25,759
Speaker 5: can provide to make their lives easier, I'm going to

971
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:29,719
Speaker 5: provide it because I take being a provider seriously. I

972
00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:31,640
Speaker 5: see what it does to a woman when she doesn't

973
00:44:31,680 --> 00:44:33,600
Speaker 5: have that right, you.

974
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:35,320
Speaker 4: Know, and it makes a woman hard.

975
00:44:36,160 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 3: It makes them very strong, and you know, we pride

976
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:42,800
Speaker 3: ourselves on being strong, right, but it brings a part

977
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:45,759
Speaker 3: of masculinity that we really don't need that we take on.

978
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 5: And then when then when you meet a man that's

979
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:51,040
Speaker 5: trying to be a man, it's kind of hard for

980
00:44:51,080 --> 00:44:53,880
Speaker 5: you to accept it because you've been hard for so long.

981
00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 1: But I also feel that because I've been very independent

982
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:01,680
Speaker 1: as far as like taking, I believe that I should

983
00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:04,200
Speaker 1: be able to take care of myself. But it's great

984
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:06,879
Speaker 1: for me when I can find somebody who can take

985
00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 1: some of that off of me. But I feel comfortable

986
00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:11,439
Speaker 1: knowing that I that you got it. Yeah, but I'm good.

987
00:45:11,560 --> 00:45:15,319
Speaker 5: But it's a better feeling knowing that if you weren't good,

988
00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:16,520
Speaker 5: your man got your back.

989
00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:19,560
Speaker 1: Yeah. But I never want to not be good like

990
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:22,520
Speaker 1: I want to feel like I can appreciate what you

991
00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:24,040
Speaker 1: bring to the table and what you do for me,

992
00:45:24,080 --> 00:45:27,439
Speaker 1: and it's amazing. But I also take great comfort because

993
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:29,840
Speaker 1: I think sometimes like Gigi was saying to her point earlier,

994
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 1: feeling like this could all be taken away. Right, So

995
00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:35,319
Speaker 1: it's nice to know, like to come together as two

996
00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:40,480
Speaker 1: whole individuals where neither one of us are necessarily reliant

997
00:45:40,600 --> 00:45:42,319
Speaker 1: on each other. But it's great that we can be.

998
00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:43,480
Speaker 1: But you don't have to.

999
00:45:43,560 --> 00:45:46,120
Speaker 5: But the thing is, the weak men have messed it

1000
00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:48,520
Speaker 5: up for men that really want to provide. And the

1001
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:51,040
Speaker 5: leading god a woman, because like she say, you got

1002
00:45:51,120 --> 00:45:53,319
Speaker 5: men that dangle all this and then as soon as

1003
00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 5: you don't do what they want, they pull it back.

1004
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:57,439
Speaker 5: And then you have men like me that want to say,

1005
00:45:57,520 --> 00:46:00,319
Speaker 5: I want you good with me or without me, I

1006
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:03,200
Speaker 5: want you good. Now, it's kind of hard for me

1007
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:06,160
Speaker 5: to convince you to allow me to properly take care

1008
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:06,320
Speaker 5: of you.

1009
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:08,879
Speaker 1: What do you think about prenups? Know what you mean,

1010
00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 1: like a prenup before you get if you're getting married, No, no.

1011
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:15,640
Speaker 5: If I'm setting you up. If I'm if I'm setting

1012
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:18,319
Speaker 5: you up properly, we're not gonna have no problem. The

1013
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:20,759
Speaker 5: problem is most men don't know how to lead. They're

1014
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 5: coming into these relationships without knowing how to be providers mentally, emotionally, physically,

1015
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:28,920
Speaker 5: and spiritually. Because money is just an add on money.

1016
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:31,319
Speaker 5: Money is the bonus. But if I can't lead you

1017
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:34,560
Speaker 5: emotionally or mentally, come on now, now you need a prenup.

1018
00:46:34,600 --> 00:46:36,960
Speaker 5: You now I need a prenup. But if I know

1019
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:39,600
Speaker 5: who I am, I know who I chose because I

1020
00:46:39,680 --> 00:46:43,200
Speaker 5: trust me, I trust me completely. I know who I chose.

1021
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:45,640
Speaker 5: I'm going to set you all the way up. You're up.

1022
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:49,120
Speaker 5: I'm changing your life overnight. It's no waiting, no waiting.

1023
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:51,880
Speaker 5: I'm not gonna date you for three, four or five months,

1024
00:46:52,200 --> 00:46:55,480
Speaker 5: it's no My wife in Africa met her one day,

1025
00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:58,160
Speaker 5: spoken to her on the phone before I even seen her.

1026
00:46:58,680 --> 00:47:01,279
Speaker 5: Love the conversation about business, y'oll. Let me talk to

1027
00:47:01,320 --> 00:47:03,680
Speaker 5: your parents, let me marry you. My first wife here

1028
00:47:03,680 --> 00:47:06,000
Speaker 5: in America went to her father. Hey, I'm gonna change

1029
00:47:06,000 --> 00:47:08,280
Speaker 5: your daughter's life. She'll never need you again for anything

1030
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:09,920
Speaker 5: but to be a father.

1031
00:47:10,200 --> 00:47:11,640
Speaker 1: And how long too before you did that?

1032
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:15,160
Speaker 5: What do you mean a week? I'm not playing old games.

1033
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:18,960
Speaker 3: I'm coming in crazy accepting that man's proposal after three

1034
00:47:19,040 --> 00:47:19,960
Speaker 3: day Okay.

1035
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:22,440
Speaker 1: But Jiji, here we are, y'all did not get married.

1036
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:23,920
Speaker 1: We did not get married.

1037
00:47:24,239 --> 00:47:28,239
Speaker 3: Maybe you were engaged. He's sixty five days. And then

1038
00:47:28,280 --> 00:47:30,040
Speaker 3: I realized that this was DJ.

1039
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 1: Came in a week after me, well, reconnecting with this guy,

1040
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:35,120
Speaker 1: like I'm engaged, y'all. I was like, what.

1041
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:36,719
Speaker 5: Right?

1042
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 1: But hey, if you like it, I love it.

1043
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:40,360
Speaker 4: But one thing, I liked it for two months?

1044
00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:42,200
Speaker 5: Right, But when a real man wants you, he don't

1045
00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:43,799
Speaker 5: let you know. He ain't playing again. He don't want

1046
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:46,040
Speaker 5: you to he he doesn't want you on the market.

1047
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:49,359
Speaker 5: It's over with. It's your my responsibility. I love you.

1048
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:51,759
Speaker 5: Can you hold me down? Can you nurture me what

1049
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:54,480
Speaker 5: I provide? Can you nurture what I provide? Not me

1050
00:47:54,520 --> 00:47:55,719
Speaker 5: as a man, because I don't need you to be

1051
00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:57,759
Speaker 5: my mother. I'm not choosing to sleep with my mother.

1052
00:47:57,960 --> 00:48:00,319
Speaker 5: I'm not a needy boy. I'm completely healed as a man.

1053
00:48:00,560 --> 00:48:04,200
Speaker 5: Can you nurture this business? Can you nurture these thoughts?

1054
00:48:04,440 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 5: Can you nurture this spiritually? And she said, yeah, I'm

1055
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:08,840
Speaker 5: gonna change your whole. I'm gonna change in your whole

1056
00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:10,360
Speaker 5: world your mind?

1057
00:48:11,360 --> 00:48:12,040
Speaker 4: Are you teaching this?

1058
00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:15,040
Speaker 1: He does have of course, because we need more men

1059
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 1: like you out here. I don't know a.

1060
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:20,719
Speaker 3: Week though, do you love more men like you out here?

1061
00:48:20,719 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 4: You're speaking?

1062
00:48:21,560 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 5: But when a man knows himself, though.

1063
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:29,200
Speaker 3: Class, where are you students? Where are your students? Because

1064
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:30,560
Speaker 3: we will also tell you.

1065
00:48:30,480 --> 00:48:31,920
Speaker 1: That it takes a while to get to know a

1066
00:48:31,960 --> 00:48:35,279
Speaker 1: person's true self and not their representative. That's another conversation

1067
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:37,719
Speaker 1: you know that's being had all the time.

1068
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:40,480
Speaker 5: But when you know yourself. See the problem with a

1069
00:48:40,520 --> 00:48:43,520
Speaker 5: lot of people don't know themselves, so they're attracting, they're

1070
00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:46,040
Speaker 5: attracting certain parts of them that they truly don't like.

1071
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:48,800
Speaker 5: I know me, I know me, I know I'm the leader.

1072
00:48:49,080 --> 00:48:51,840
Speaker 5: I know if we go back, I'm responsible because I

1073
00:48:51,960 --> 00:48:54,720
Speaker 5: brought you into my life. I'm not blaming you for nothing.

1074
00:48:54,840 --> 00:48:56,200
Speaker 5: I'm gonna pay for you. I pay for you to

1075
00:48:56,200 --> 00:48:57,480
Speaker 5: come in. I'm gonna pay for you to go out.

1076
00:48:59,200 --> 00:48:59,959
Speaker 2: Do they get raised?

1077
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:06,640
Speaker 5: Is my wife? My wives? Every time they give birth,

1078
00:49:06,719 --> 00:49:08,680
Speaker 5: every time they give birth, I pay them one hundred.

1079
00:49:08,440 --> 00:49:13,960
Speaker 2: And fifty What a what a push present?

1080
00:49:13,960 --> 00:49:20,360
Speaker 1: That is? My gosh? This is like I mean, listen,

1081
00:49:20,400 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 1: I already know there's gonna be all kinds of conversations

1082
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:25,880
Speaker 1: in the comm because I told you earlier, you know,

1083
00:49:25,920 --> 00:49:28,960
Speaker 1: because I've I followed your page and I see people

1084
00:49:28,960 --> 00:49:32,080
Speaker 1: will be like, yeah, they don't believe it. They put

1085
00:49:32,080 --> 00:49:34,040
Speaker 1: the little cap emoji because they.

1086
00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 2: Don't believe they're worth receiving. That type of is what

1087
00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:39,960
Speaker 2: I'm hearing exactly. I'm gonna let y'all know I'm going

1088
00:49:40,000 --> 00:49:43,360
Speaker 2: to capital girl for this. Somebody's gonna hit on me.

1089
00:49:43,400 --> 00:49:46,759
Speaker 2: I like fifty thousand dollars. I would love to do

1090
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:51,560
Speaker 2: this experiment. Look, we need to make it an experiment.

1091
00:49:51,680 --> 00:49:52,800
Speaker 2: Jordan's okay, let's do that.

1092
00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:55,080
Speaker 1: I'm ready because there's going to be some pushback because

1093
00:49:55,080 --> 00:49:57,640
Speaker 1: some guys I already know they're gonna say, especially if

1094
00:49:57,640 --> 00:50:01,359
Speaker 1: they just met you and you're like me, not even

1095
00:50:01,440 --> 00:50:02,719
Speaker 1: like a date first.

1096
00:50:03,640 --> 00:50:05,879
Speaker 5: He's coming into your life to play with you. When

1097
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:07,560
Speaker 5: a man a man know what they want. I'm not

1098
00:50:07,600 --> 00:50:09,399
Speaker 5: coming to play. I want you. I'm gonna take care

1099
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:09,640
Speaker 5: of you.

1100
00:50:09,640 --> 00:50:12,080
Speaker 1: You mind, But you know that instantly because you just

1101
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:14,880
Speaker 1: told me earlier. You know, we talked about physical attraction.

1102
00:50:15,360 --> 00:50:17,719
Speaker 1: How do you even know? Because that has to be

1103
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 1: a physical attraction if you are. I know me, right,

1104
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:21,360
Speaker 1: I know me.

1105
00:50:21,480 --> 00:50:23,400
Speaker 5: I'm not dating for a look, I'm thinking for a

1106
00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:25,799
Speaker 5: mental a mind state. I'm not dating for you.

1107
00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:28,000
Speaker 1: But what I'm saying is if you're like somebody approaches

1108
00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:31,480
Speaker 1: Jordan and Capitol Grille today right when they approach, when

1109
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:34,719
Speaker 1: they approach her, but they don't know her at all,

1110
00:50:34,880 --> 00:50:36,799
Speaker 1: Like they just know what she looks like. They don't

1111
00:50:36,840 --> 00:50:39,680
Speaker 1: know anything about her. So you can't just be like

1112
00:50:39,719 --> 00:50:42,200
Speaker 1: fifty thousand dollars. They don't even know that they would.

1113
00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:47,239
Speaker 5: But there are men, I'm telling you, I'm telling there

1114
00:50:47,320 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 5: are men that will approach a woman, so I want

1115
00:50:49,680 --> 00:50:50,400
Speaker 5: to change your life.

1116
00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:52,799
Speaker 1: But how do they know? They don't know anything about you? Like,

1117
00:50:52,840 --> 00:50:53,399
Speaker 1: how do they.

1118
00:50:53,280 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 4: Don't have to?

1119
00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:56,080
Speaker 5: They know themselves, They know themselves.

1120
00:50:56,120 --> 00:50:57,680
Speaker 3: But I'm saying you feel the same way about that

1121
00:50:57,719 --> 00:51:00,959
Speaker 3: situation I was in when this guy said after day three,

1122
00:51:01,160 --> 00:51:01,759
Speaker 3: I want you to be.

1123
00:51:03,880 --> 00:51:04,160
Speaker 1: A lot.

1124
00:51:04,239 --> 00:51:06,680
Speaker 5: A lot of women are dealing with athletes and rappers

1125
00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 5: and their money's not really that long. Y'all gotta get

1126
00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:15,880
Speaker 5: around some real boss. And I'm just being.

1127
00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 2: But I feel like when you do approach someone right,

1128
00:51:19,840 --> 00:51:22,880
Speaker 2: it's like, Okay, do I look clean? Is my you

1129
00:51:22,920 --> 00:51:24,640
Speaker 2: know that there are certain things that we can tell

1130
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:27,560
Speaker 2: about people off the rip that are aligned with what

1131
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:28,359
Speaker 2: we're looking for.

1132
00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:30,680
Speaker 1: But I also feel like that's still physical. You don't

1133
00:51:30,719 --> 00:51:33,399
Speaker 1: know anything about somebody's mental just approaching them at all,

1134
00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:34,759
Speaker 1: Like how can you but.

1135
00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:36,560
Speaker 2: If you look a mess, I'm gonna be like, you're

1136
00:51:36,600 --> 00:51:37,480
Speaker 2: mentally unstable.

1137
00:51:38,360 --> 00:51:40,800
Speaker 1: But to be mentally unstable and be well put together

1138
00:51:41,160 --> 00:51:46,040
Speaker 1: tracks you know, you can be having an off day

1139
00:51:46,080 --> 00:51:49,160
Speaker 1: and like you just know, like when.

1140
00:51:49,040 --> 00:51:51,759
Speaker 4: You know, you know, when you know yourself, and when

1141
00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:52,879
Speaker 4: you know yourself, you know.

1142
00:51:53,040 --> 00:51:55,439
Speaker 3: Yes, he proposed after three days, but thirty minutes into

1143
00:51:55,480 --> 00:51:58,200
Speaker 3: our first day he asked me to commit to him.

1144
00:51:58,239 --> 00:52:01,799
Speaker 1: So and I said, yes, this would be great if

1145
00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:02,399
Speaker 1: it worked out.

1146
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 3: Because it did not work out. But guess what, I

1147
00:52:05,360 --> 00:52:07,520
Speaker 3: was the one who called it off. It wasn't like

1148
00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:09,440
Speaker 3: saying it did all that and was then dropped me

1149
00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:12,000
Speaker 3: like once I realized it wasn't gonna work for me.

1150
00:52:12,120 --> 00:52:13,920
Speaker 3: I was the one who said, Okay, I'm cool, but

1151
00:52:14,320 --> 00:52:17,360
Speaker 3: I also felt like because again, but the best yeah

1152
00:52:17,400 --> 00:52:23,319
Speaker 3: and stop, it's your anniversary.

1153
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:28,640
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, So let's say initially after that week,

1154
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:30,440
Speaker 1: when you were like, okay, I already know what I

1155
00:52:30,480 --> 00:52:32,839
Speaker 1: wanted what it is, So had you guys already had

1156
00:52:32,880 --> 00:52:33,799
Speaker 1: sex and did that.

1157
00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:36,480
Speaker 5: I'm talking to parents like I want I wanted. I'm

1158
00:52:36,560 --> 00:52:40,000
Speaker 5: locking you in before I'm talking to your parents. It's

1159
00:52:40,040 --> 00:52:42,520
Speaker 5: over with, you know. I'm talking to the father. I'm

1160
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:45,640
Speaker 5: pulling to the silid. I'm gonna take care of your daughter.

1161
00:52:46,239 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 5: Both fathers know about each other, both of my wife.

1162
00:52:49,120 --> 00:52:50,719
Speaker 5: They know about each other like nothing in my life

1163
00:52:50,800 --> 00:52:53,640
Speaker 5: is a secret. And the father said, as long as

1164
00:52:53,760 --> 00:52:57,839
Speaker 5: my daughter is happy, I'm happy for and I see

1165
00:52:57,880 --> 00:52:59,439
Speaker 5: that you're doing an amazing job.

1166
00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:01,320
Speaker 1: Would your father say that, Jordan?

1167
00:53:01,440 --> 00:53:04,680
Speaker 4: If no, he might.

1168
00:53:04,800 --> 00:53:07,719
Speaker 2: You know, I've done some wild things, you know, some

1169
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:10,800
Speaker 2: pile things. My father came to my playmate of the

1170
00:53:10,880 --> 00:53:12,719
Speaker 2: year shoe, you know what I'm saying, and things like that,

1171
00:53:12,800 --> 00:53:15,799
Speaker 2: so he might. He's like, usually it'll be like you're

1172
00:53:15,840 --> 00:53:18,000
Speaker 2: grown and as long as you're good and as long

1173
00:53:18,000 --> 00:53:21,239
Speaker 2: as you're saying, you'll be okay. He might say some

1174
00:53:21,280 --> 00:53:24,080
Speaker 2: things behind my back that I don't know, but the family.

1175
00:53:23,760 --> 00:53:27,239
Speaker 1: Be like, right there she go again. Right now? What

1176
00:53:27,280 --> 00:53:29,640
Speaker 1: do you say to men who are listening to this

1177
00:53:29,760 --> 00:53:32,640
Speaker 1: right now? And they're like, I want to be able

1178
00:53:32,640 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 1: to find a woman that can match me. But it's

1179
00:53:35,040 --> 00:53:35,920
Speaker 1: a hard thing to do.

1180
00:53:36,160 --> 00:53:37,120
Speaker 5: What do you mean match me?

1181
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:39,760
Speaker 1: Like, just match what it is that he wants, compliment

1182
00:53:40,280 --> 00:53:43,319
Speaker 1: who he is, because you know, let's be real. For women,

1183
00:53:43,320 --> 00:53:44,719
Speaker 1: it's hard for us to find a man for a man.

1184
00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:46,600
Speaker 1: For a man, it's hard to find the right.

1185
00:53:46,480 --> 00:53:49,920
Speaker 5: Woman's but it's not not for a man. A lot

1186
00:53:49,960 --> 00:53:52,360
Speaker 5: of these boys are stuck in men's bodies. But a

1187
00:53:52,480 --> 00:53:55,080
Speaker 5: real man can lead a woman to greatness. It's my

1188
00:53:55,440 --> 00:53:57,080
Speaker 5: job to lead you.

1189
00:53:57,360 --> 00:53:59,479
Speaker 1: But what should they be looking for if they're like, okay,

1190
00:53:59,520 --> 00:54:00,160
Speaker 1: what are some of this?

1191
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:03,880
Speaker 5: Sign a woman that's open minded. If you're willing to

1192
00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:07,120
Speaker 5: be led, you can be led. That's it. And he

1193
00:54:07,160 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 5: has to make sure that he's a man. Majority these

1194
00:54:09,560 --> 00:54:11,960
Speaker 5: men that you see aren't men. They're not men. They

1195
00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:14,839
Speaker 5: sound like men, they look like men, they're not men,

1196
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:17,160
Speaker 5: and that's why so many women are hurt.

1197
00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:21,360
Speaker 1: Men get hurt too. Nowadays. I feel like I feel.

1198
00:54:21,120 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 5: Like men hurt themselves if you're if a man. These

1199
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:29,279
Speaker 5: boys only want to be leaders when it's convenient. If

1200
00:54:29,320 --> 00:54:31,600
Speaker 5: I'm the leader and I chose you, how can you

1201
00:54:31,680 --> 00:54:34,080
Speaker 5: hurt me? I brought you into my world. How can

1202
00:54:34,120 --> 00:54:34,560
Speaker 5: you hurt me?

1203
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:39,880
Speaker 1: I hurt me me by example, and I brought up

1204
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:42,319
Speaker 1: the course earlier. Can you talk about that because you

1205
00:54:42,360 --> 00:54:43,920
Speaker 1: also do help couples?

1206
00:54:44,440 --> 00:54:46,640
Speaker 5: No, I just I just created. It's called a Millionaire's

1207
00:54:46,640 --> 00:54:50,600
Speaker 5: Love course, right, And this doesn't just teach couples about

1208
00:54:50,600 --> 00:54:54,400
Speaker 5: how to become better as one, but singles how to

1209
00:54:54,560 --> 00:54:58,279
Speaker 5: find what you're looking for, how to get your money

1210
00:54:58,320 --> 00:55:01,000
Speaker 5: all the way right, and just falling deeper in love

1211
00:55:01,040 --> 00:55:03,000
Speaker 5: with yourself. And they can they can go to that.

1212
00:55:03,080 --> 00:55:05,560
Speaker 5: Let me shout this out the yachtis dot com because

1213
00:55:05,560 --> 00:55:07,480
Speaker 5: this was creative with my first wife. We both sat

1214
00:55:07,560 --> 00:55:10,440
Speaker 5: down and we created. And she's a multi millionaire. You know,

1215
00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:12,600
Speaker 5: she wasn't a multi millionaire when I met her. And

1216
00:55:12,640 --> 00:55:14,920
Speaker 5: she had a baby when I met her. So she

1217
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:17,120
Speaker 5: came in with a three year old and I wife

1218
00:55:17,160 --> 00:55:19,200
Speaker 5: both of them. I take care of the daughter. I

1219
00:55:19,200 --> 00:55:20,880
Speaker 5: love her like she's my own child, even though she

1220
00:55:20,880 --> 00:55:22,560
Speaker 5: still has her father in her life. This is what

1221
00:55:22,680 --> 00:55:25,600
Speaker 5: real men do. But it's called the yachtis dot com.

1222
00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:29,040
Speaker 5: Th h E y A d a us dot com.

1223
00:55:29,440 --> 00:55:31,319
Speaker 5: Go there and get your life right?

1224
00:55:32,520 --> 00:55:36,400
Speaker 2: Do you do custom mantras? I need custom in the

1225
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:41,120
Speaker 2: mirror like while I'm walking on the street, and right

1226
00:55:41,600 --> 00:55:43,000
Speaker 2: like underneath subliminally.

1227
00:55:46,480 --> 00:55:48,319
Speaker 5: The greatest thing I tell people all the time is

1228
00:55:48,320 --> 00:55:51,480
Speaker 5: just fall in love with yourself. You know, sometimes we're

1229
00:55:51,480 --> 00:55:53,839
Speaker 5: afraid to be alone, but we need to. We need

1230
00:55:53,880 --> 00:55:55,879
Speaker 5: to fall so deep in love with ourselves that nothing

1231
00:55:55,920 --> 00:55:57,920
Speaker 5: knows matters. And I promise you want to attract what

1232
00:55:57,960 --> 00:56:00,360
Speaker 5: you want when you love you, and don't settle for nothing.

1233
00:56:00,520 --> 00:56:05,560
Speaker 5: Have your fun, datam all. You know they don't all,

1234
00:56:06,040 --> 00:56:09,719
Speaker 5: but but don't But don't don't settle for anything. Don't sacrifice.

1235
00:56:09,719 --> 00:56:11,520
Speaker 5: You'll have any for no man. They they're not worthy

1236
00:56:11,560 --> 00:56:14,440
Speaker 5: of that. You are the portals of life. You give birth,

1237
00:56:15,320 --> 00:56:16,759
Speaker 5: you deserve greatness.

1238
00:56:17,280 --> 00:56:20,200
Speaker 1: Now let me ask you this. Since your first wife

1239
00:56:20,239 --> 00:56:22,759
Speaker 1: already had a three year old, how did you get

1240
00:56:22,760 --> 00:56:24,160
Speaker 1: along with her child's father?

1241
00:56:24,440 --> 00:56:30,040
Speaker 5: He hates me because because I introduced his daughter into

1242
00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:33,560
Speaker 5: something that that he didn't. He didn't, he couldn't, and

1243
00:56:33,960 --> 00:56:36,279
Speaker 5: she loves me as her own father, and he hates that,

1244
00:56:36,840 --> 00:56:40,360
Speaker 5: you know, and I uplifted a woman that he couldn't.

1245
00:56:40,480 --> 00:56:43,080
Speaker 5: He hates that, you know, I took a woman she

1246
00:56:43,120 --> 00:56:46,239
Speaker 5: ain't all that, and he sees the greatness in her

1247
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 5: you know when you pull up in a four on

1248
00:56:47,600 --> 00:56:49,880
Speaker 5: a nigga still driving his mama car, it's a difference.

1249
00:56:51,160 --> 00:56:55,760
Speaker 1: Thanks, he hates you even more than Oh my gosh,

1250
00:56:55,920 --> 00:56:57,799
Speaker 1: you think there's ever a time that you guys will

1251
00:56:57,840 --> 00:56:58,480
Speaker 1: be able to like.

1252
00:56:58,680 --> 00:57:00,200
Speaker 5: I'll pull him to the salad. You know, I'm a

1253
00:57:00,200 --> 00:57:01,719
Speaker 5: real man. I'll pull him to the side. I said, Look,

1254
00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:04,120
Speaker 5: she loves both of us. You know, I can't even

1255
00:57:04,120 --> 00:57:06,360
Speaker 5: help you get yourself together. But his ego on man's

1256
00:57:06,400 --> 00:57:09,360
Speaker 5: ailing prize, his downfall. It's a downfall. It's a downfall.

1257
00:57:10,160 --> 00:57:13,880
Speaker 1: Can you imagine? But maybe I don't think that's gonna happen.

1258
00:57:14,680 --> 00:57:22,200
Speaker 1: I can help you get yourself together. Well, listen, I

1259
00:57:22,200 --> 00:57:24,960
Speaker 1: really appreciate you for coming through because I know this

1260
00:57:25,040 --> 00:57:26,520
Speaker 1: is a journey and I cannot wait to hear what

1261
00:57:26,600 --> 00:57:29,440
Speaker 1: people have to say after they hear this episode.

1262
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:30,880
Speaker 4: I don't read the comments, but I think I might

1263
00:57:30,920 --> 00:57:31,640
Speaker 4: have dive.

1264
00:57:33,680 --> 00:57:36,440
Speaker 1: I'm doing a follow up, but this is always interesting

1265
00:57:36,480 --> 00:57:38,120
Speaker 1: to me. Also because a lot of things that I

1266
00:57:38,160 --> 00:57:40,040
Speaker 1: know people will push back on. I wanted to make

1267
00:57:40,040 --> 00:57:42,360
Speaker 1: sure we bring that up so you can respond to

1268
00:57:42,440 --> 00:57:45,000
Speaker 1: that before it actually, you know, comes out, because I

1269
00:57:45,000 --> 00:57:47,280
Speaker 1: want to hear what people have to say, you have

1270
00:57:47,320 --> 00:57:49,560
Speaker 1: a social experiment that we need to figure out. Absolutely,

1271
00:57:49,640 --> 00:57:51,760
Speaker 1: what do you think about? It's not getting married like

1272
00:57:51,840 --> 00:57:53,440
Speaker 1: a lot of people are, like I could be with

1273
00:57:53,480 --> 00:57:54,720
Speaker 1: somebody and not be married.

1274
00:57:56,720 --> 00:57:59,400
Speaker 5: I don't know. I think I believe that a man

1275
00:57:59,440 --> 00:58:01,440
Speaker 5: should be come to a woman, and a woman committed to

1276
00:58:01,440 --> 00:58:03,640
Speaker 5: a man. You're my responsibility.

1277
00:58:03,680 --> 00:58:05,400
Speaker 1: And can you be committed without marriage.

1278
00:58:06,200 --> 00:58:09,520
Speaker 5: It depends on a person. Some people can, but you

1279
00:58:09,520 --> 00:58:11,720
Speaker 5: should reap some benefits. I'm saying if you're going to

1280
00:58:11,840 --> 00:58:13,920
Speaker 5: as a woman, I'm talking speaking from a woman's perspective.

1281
00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:16,920
Speaker 5: If you're going to dedicate yourself to a man, laying

1282
00:58:16,960 --> 00:58:19,720
Speaker 5: with this man, that sex is not good. You're trying

1283
00:58:19,760 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 5: to raise them because a lot of men are broken,

1284
00:58:21,560 --> 00:58:23,960
Speaker 5: literally broken, So you have to literally play mama some

1285
00:58:24,040 --> 00:58:26,440
Speaker 5: of the times and a therapist some of the times,

1286
00:58:26,920 --> 00:58:29,320
Speaker 5: as long as you're reaping some type of benefit that

1287
00:58:29,400 --> 00:58:32,160
Speaker 5: suits you. Some women don't want money. Someone might just

1288
00:58:32,280 --> 00:58:34,440
Speaker 5: buy me a house and rent it out and let

1289
00:58:34,480 --> 00:58:37,840
Speaker 5: me make money from that. But I believe a woman

1290
00:58:37,840 --> 00:58:40,680
Speaker 5: should be if you're going to play wife to a man,

1291
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 5: play the role of a wife, make sure he puts

1292
00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:44,880
Speaker 5: you in a house to make sure you can handle

1293
00:58:44,880 --> 00:58:46,840
Speaker 5: your responsibilities.

1294
00:58:46,040 --> 00:58:48,800
Speaker 1: Because your second wife. You guys, can you be legally married?

1295
00:58:48,880 --> 00:58:50,240
Speaker 1: I know she's not in this into.

1296
00:58:50,080 --> 00:58:54,000
Speaker 5: A different country. Depends if on the countries itself, you know,

1297
00:58:54,000 --> 00:58:54,920
Speaker 5: because he's not tied.

1298
00:58:56,200 --> 00:58:58,640
Speaker 1: But now I'm just wondering about that because I feel

1299
00:58:58,680 --> 00:59:00,600
Speaker 1: like nowadays for some people, but they're like, we can

1300
00:59:00,640 --> 00:59:02,240
Speaker 1: just be together. We don't have to be married, Like

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00:59:02,280 --> 00:59:04,880
Speaker 1: we can be committed to each other. You know, marriage

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00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:05,640
Speaker 1: for a lot of.

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00:59:05,640 --> 00:59:10,280
Speaker 5: People scared, it's scary because they only seen the bad

1304
00:59:10,320 --> 00:59:10,920
Speaker 5: side from it.

1305
00:59:11,960 --> 00:59:14,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, marriage is a scary thing. So many people get

1306
00:59:14,880 --> 00:59:18,000
Speaker 1: divorced or do not like their husband or wife.

1307
00:59:18,160 --> 00:59:20,720
Speaker 5: Women women are leading in the voice race like they're

1308
00:59:20,760 --> 00:59:23,560
Speaker 5: divorcing men at high numbers because men aren't men anymore.

1309
00:59:24,320 --> 00:59:25,840
Speaker 5: They're not men. They don't know how to lead and

1310
00:59:25,840 --> 00:59:27,480
Speaker 5: on how to protect. And when I say protect them,

1311
00:59:27,480 --> 00:59:30,000
Speaker 5: i'm talking about physically, I'm talking about emotionally. Most men

1312
00:59:30,120 --> 00:59:32,600
Speaker 5: do not know how to protect them women. Emotionally, you'll

1313
00:59:32,640 --> 00:59:34,840
Speaker 5: start crying. He'll blame you for crying. Why are you crying?

1314
00:59:35,040 --> 00:59:39,000
Speaker 5: What you're doing? Like, come on, man, I'm soft love

1315
00:59:39,080 --> 00:59:41,440
Speaker 5: that woman. I want to take care of her.

1316
00:59:41,680 --> 00:59:43,080
Speaker 1: How do you feel when a man cries in front

1317
00:59:43,080 --> 00:59:46,200
Speaker 1: of you, depending on the situation.

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00:59:48,600 --> 00:59:53,800
Speaker 3: Okay, and I've been around a man when he lost

1319
00:59:53,840 --> 00:59:56,440
Speaker 3: the you know, a family member and cried.

1320
00:59:57,040 --> 00:59:58,560
Speaker 4: It depends on, like what's the reason.

1321
00:59:58,640 --> 01:00:00,280
Speaker 3: I also had a man who cried when I tried

1322
01:00:00,320 --> 01:00:05,120
Speaker 3: to break up with him, but.

1323
01:00:03,080 --> 01:00:04,040
Speaker 4: But then he tried to kill me.

1324
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Speaker 1: So, oh my gosh, she's seen it all. Basically, you said,

1325
01:00:07,600 --> 01:00:08,520
Speaker 1: what she's seen it all?

1326
01:00:08,760 --> 01:00:11,760
Speaker 3: He boohoo cried and then kicked the air conditioning unit

1327
01:00:11,840 --> 01:00:13,880
Speaker 3: in my window and woke me up with a knife

1328
01:00:13,920 --> 01:00:14,400
Speaker 3: to my throat.

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Speaker 5: What the first one?

1330
01:00:20,200 --> 01:00:22,600
Speaker 4: The second one is the one who may he rest

1331
01:00:22,600 --> 01:00:22,919
Speaker 4: in peace?

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. All right, Well on that note, oh

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Speaker 1: my girl, got to thank you so much for joining appreciated.

1334
01:00:32,760 --> 01:00:38,919
Speaker 1: I appreciate you. Thank you to O g W. That's

1335
01:00:39,440 --> 01:00:42,240
Speaker 1: that's our guy right here, street lord Win. Everybody in

1336
01:00:42,280 --> 01:00:44,800
Speaker 1: Detroit knows him, so even before he came out here,

1337
01:00:44,840 --> 01:00:48,160
Speaker 1: everybody's like, you got to make sure that you, you know,

1338
01:00:48,360 --> 01:00:50,440
Speaker 1: talk to one. I remember when you came home from

1339
01:00:50,800 --> 01:00:53,040
Speaker 1: from jail, you know, and what a big deal it

1340
01:00:53,120 --> 01:00:56,400
Speaker 1: was for everybody. Is that where you're originally.

1341
01:00:56,080 --> 01:01:00,200
Speaker 3: From, where you originally from California, Okay, yeah, did you

1342
01:01:00,200 --> 01:01:01,160
Speaker 3: live in Detroit.

1343
01:01:01,600 --> 01:01:04,000
Speaker 5: A little bit? A little bit, because.

1344
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Speaker 3: I've noticed from experience that Detroit men are a lot

1345
01:01:07,400 --> 01:01:10,240
Speaker 3: like what you're Is that true?

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01:01:10,480 --> 01:01:11,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, the treatment.

1347
01:01:14,160 --> 01:01:15,800
Speaker 3: Are men and they know how to take care of

1348
01:01:15,840 --> 01:01:20,400
Speaker 3: their women. Sure, in my in my experiences, without a question,

1349
01:01:20,560 --> 01:01:23,800
Speaker 3: it's always them Detroit where I need to go.

1350
01:01:24,760 --> 01:01:26,320
Speaker 4: Let's take a triplet's.

1351
01:01:27,480 --> 01:01:31,120
Speaker 1: Social experiment in Detroit. Okay, yeah, So we do have

1352
01:01:31,360 --> 01:01:35,800
Speaker 1: a party in Detroit coming up July twentieth, so come

1353
01:01:35,880 --> 01:01:38,640
Speaker 1: with because it's going to be at the rooftop of Cambria.

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01:01:38,600 --> 01:01:41,440
Speaker 1: I'm also hosting like a concer rn BLA for a

1355
01:01:41,480 --> 01:01:43,840
Speaker 1: couple of days and it is We're gonna have a

1356
01:01:43,840 --> 01:01:47,360
Speaker 1: good time. So that's them away. Shout out to everybody

1357
01:01:47,360 --> 01:01:50,160
Speaker 1: in the baby all right, Well, thank you so much

1358
01:01:50,200 --> 01:01:53,320
Speaker 1: again for coming through. And we're gonna do this experiment

1359
01:01:53,360 --> 01:01:53,680
Speaker 1: for real.

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01:01:53,960 --> 01:01:55,920
Speaker 4: No, you know, I mean, you.

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01:01:55,920 --> 01:01:57,760
Speaker 1: Know, I got my man, so I'm I'm not I'm

1362
01:01:57,800 --> 01:01:58,560
Speaker 1: gonna just watch y'all.

1363
01:01:58,600 --> 01:01:59,400
Speaker 2: You're just gonna observe.

1364
01:01:59,560 --> 01:02:01,920
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna observed. I got to do it. But

1365
01:02:02,160 --> 01:02:06,439
Speaker 1: layers in this. But yes, yes, write notes. I write

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Speaker 1: a slip service.

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Speaker 5: Mm hmm.