WEBVTT - #37 Put a Ring on It 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:05.480 I'm here, baby, hell I Suck at Dating with Dean, 0:00:05.559 --> 0:00:12.479 Vanessa and Jared and I heard radio podcast. Hello, Hello, Hello, 0:00:12.840 --> 0:00:15.800 so much for joining all of us on another episode 0:00:15.800 --> 0:00:18.400 of help by Suck at Dating. I'm Dean Anglert, joined 0:00:18.440 --> 0:00:23.040 in studio by Easton Erica and one other lovely human 0:00:23.040 --> 0:00:25.079 being who is not here last week because he was 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:27.479 busy doing other things in a different country on a 0:00:27.520 --> 0:00:31.560 television show we're all very familiar with, Jared Haybond. Hey, guys, 0:00:31.560 --> 0:00:33.479 thanks for having me back. I missed you, guys. It 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:36.479 was a long week without you. Welcome back, buddy, Thank you. 0:00:36.680 --> 0:00:38.760 Good to be back. Not that we have any interesting 0:00:38.760 --> 0:00:41.560 news to cover on your end, I know your life's 0:00:41.560 --> 0:00:43.720 pretty much the same as it was before you left, right, yeah, 0:00:43.760 --> 0:00:46.879 exactly the same. Nothing has changed. Okay, Well for the listeners, 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:48.640 Oh wait, there was one little thing. I'm so sorry 0:00:48.640 --> 0:00:56.720 I completely forgot. I got gay amazing all right. Well, 0:00:56.720 --> 0:00:58.440 so obviously we're gonna spend a little bit of time 0:00:58.480 --> 0:01:00.920 talking about that. If you don't lines, I don't mind 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:03.560 at all. We can talk anything and everything. Um. Okay, 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:06.360 So for the listeners that's maybe aren't quite as aware. 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:08.600 Jared and Ashley made a trip down to Mexico to 0:01:09.120 --> 0:01:11.520 cameo on Paradise. Yeah, so we went to a Bachelor 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:13.920 in Paradise last week and we were doing a cameo 0:01:14.080 --> 0:01:16.679 and Ashley's I was convincing Ashley that we were just 0:01:16.800 --> 0:01:20.640 there for a cameo, but we ended up getting engaged. 0:01:20.959 --> 0:01:24.559 So it's pretty much and that's all I can talk about. 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:26.200 Have a good day, thank you very much, Okay, And 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:28.480 we're gonna need a step by step for all of this. 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:31.280 And and as I tweeted out, I'm a little upset 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:34.319 with you because before you left for Mexico, I was like, Jared, like, 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:35.600 this is how I see it playing out of my head. 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:37.800 They're gonna bring you down at the date card. They're 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:39.000 gonna send you on a day to your own, which 0:01:39.040 --> 0:01:40.880 sounds like it didn't necessarily happen. But then you're gonna 0:01:40.920 --> 0:01:43.560 ask Ashley to marry you in Paradise. You're like, dude, no, 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:45.399 that's not gonna happen. I would tell you if it 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:48.120 would happen. And I understand you have to keep it 0:01:48.200 --> 0:01:49.720 under wraps and keep it a secret all that kind 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:51.440 of stuff, but tell us kind of how this whole 0:01:51.440 --> 0:01:54.120 thing unfolded, and obviously you know Spare that he saies 0:01:54.160 --> 0:01:55.840 that you can. I understand you might not be able 0:01:55.840 --> 0:01:58.040 to share everything, but so pretty much. Also, I didn't 0:01:58.080 --> 0:01:59.360 tell you, Dean because I didn't want a lot of 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:01.880 people with the Bachelor family to know, because I wanted 0:02:01.920 --> 0:02:03.639 to make this as much of a surprise for Actley 0:02:03.680 --> 0:02:05.760 as possible. So I don't want you to take offense. 0:02:05.840 --> 0:02:07.560 I love you so much and I would have loved 0:02:07.680 --> 0:02:09.640 to talk about it, But we talked about engagements two 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:11.760 weeks ago on the podcast, and I felt super uncomfortable 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:13.720 because you were like, when's a good time to promose, Jared, 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:14.960 when are you going to propose? In the back of 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:17.440 my mind, I knew I was proposing that week, and 0:02:17.440 --> 0:02:19.200 I was like, I don't know, I will see it 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:21.040 down the line. And then I don't know if you 0:02:21.120 --> 0:02:23.320 caught onto it, but you were like, how long should 0:02:23.360 --> 0:02:26.120 someone date before you get engaged? And I was like months, 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:29.000 I don't know. And what's funny is you were you 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:33.400 were answering those questions so like ambiguously that I was like, 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:36.520 something's up here, like something's about to happen, but I like, 0:02:36.560 --> 0:02:38.000 I can press you on it. I guess because I 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:39.560 didn't really know well enough. But you called it because 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:41.200 after the podcast ended, you were like, you're gonna get 0:02:41.240 --> 0:02:43.000 engaged on you, and I was like, Dean, so soon, 0:02:43.080 --> 0:02:45.440 I'm not going to get engaged this quickly. And then 0:02:45.480 --> 0:02:47.800 because I would be crazy to get engaged that quickly. 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:49.440 You have to be out of your mind to get 0:02:49.440 --> 0:02:52.920 engaged that quick Oh wait, oh oh, I'm doing it. 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:57.600 I'm getting I'm getting down on one day. Okay, so continue, continue, 0:02:57.880 --> 0:02:59.960 so pretty much listen. As soon as Ashley and I 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:02.240 started dating, we knew that this wasn't just a boyfriend 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:04.800 girlfriend thing, that this was a very long term and 0:03:04.840 --> 0:03:07.639 happy relationship because it's just so easy between the two 0:03:07.639 --> 0:03:10.079 of us. Ashlo says that she's had a boyfriend for 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:11.760 two and a half years that just didn't touch her, 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:14.200 and that was me. And so the thing is we've 0:03:14.200 --> 0:03:16.639 been so close we know everything about each other that 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:19.720 for me, it's really not that quickly because it just 0:03:20.280 --> 0:03:25.000 it feels more right. That's improper English, I'm sorry, but 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:28.160 this feels better than not being engaged to that makes 0:03:28.160 --> 0:03:30.120 any sense, Like it just makes sense to be engaged. 0:03:30.160 --> 0:03:33.200 Actually it doesn't. It doesn't make sense. To not be 0:03:33.320 --> 0:03:37.280 with her. So but so it appeals both to the 0:03:37.320 --> 0:03:39.560 logic side of things and the emotional side of things. 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:44.200 Like I was, while I was nervous about getting engaged Ashley, 0:03:45.760 --> 0:03:47.640 I was just more anxious because I was like, I 0:03:47.720 --> 0:03:50.360 want to do this, and then that's really what happened. 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:52.280 Do you think there's any chance in any universe where 0:03:52.320 --> 0:03:55.360 she said no to the engagement? Um? No, just for 0:03:55.400 --> 0:03:57.200 the fact. I mean, when we were at stage coach, 0:03:57.320 --> 0:03:58.640 she was even telling me, She's like, if you asked 0:03:58.640 --> 0:04:00.880 me tomorrow's yes. I mean, she was dropping hints the 0:04:01.040 --> 0:04:03.280 entire way once. I think she had an inkling when 0:04:03.320 --> 0:04:05.480 we're going out to Paradise that this could potentially happen, 0:04:05.520 --> 0:04:07.240 and so she wanted to reassure me that if you 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:09.200 do this, I'm gonna say yes, And so she was 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:11.480 just dropping hints. She even said a couple of weeks 0:04:11.520 --> 0:04:15.040 ago that, um, I'm not allowed to live with her 0:04:15.080 --> 0:04:18.680 until we're engaged, okay, And I said, well, hypothetically speaking, 0:04:18.680 --> 0:04:21.600 actually saying six months we're not engaged and we want 0:04:21.600 --> 0:04:23.640 to move in together. She's like, well, pressures on you. 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:26.200 I was like, Okay, she's obviously dropping this hint to 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:28.000 be like, if you ask, I'm going to say yes, 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:31.440 so you better ask. I will say I love. I 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:34.599 love the whole story, um, mostly as it pertains to Ashley, 0:04:34.640 --> 0:04:36.400 because she's been in the and I know we have 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:39.159 discussed this a little bit behind the scenes. Um, she's 0:04:39.200 --> 0:04:41.360 been in bachelation for so long, having gone on Chris 0:04:41.440 --> 0:04:44.640 Soul season and the Paradise one paradise to her season, 0:04:44.760 --> 0:04:47.080 what Paradise two and three? I guess with you, um, 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:49.120 and not necessarily getting the story that you wanted going 0:04:49.120 --> 0:04:52.159 on Winter Games, um. And how her life has been 0:04:52.240 --> 0:04:54.760 so bachelor centric for basically three years now, and how 0:04:55.160 --> 0:04:57.200 you know she's built such a name for herself within 0:04:57.320 --> 0:04:59.960 this I guess world, And now for it to come 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:04.960 full circle to have you and her get engaged at 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:07.120 the place where you first met each other, it's like, 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:10.080 it's like the happiest thing I could have possibly imagined. Four. Actually, 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:12.240 when she gets a Neil Lane ring, she gets, you know, 0:05:12.320 --> 0:05:14.960 the engagement on the beach. She I would assume a 0:05:15.200 --> 0:05:17.200 televised wedding if you guys decided to go to that route. 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:19.479 We haven't even thought about that, being honest, right, I mean, 0:05:19.520 --> 0:05:21.720 it's very fresh I guess it's a weekend. Um, how 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:24.119 did you handle the whole conversation with maybe your parents, 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:26.600 with asking her father all that kind of stuff before 0:05:27.200 --> 0:05:31.000 Once there was an idea thrown out there with conversations 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:33.479 about potentially getting engaged in paradise. One of the first, 0:05:33.640 --> 0:05:35.400 you know, I called my parents first and said, listen, 0:05:35.920 --> 0:05:37.680 this is kind of what's happening. I know it's soon. 0:05:37.839 --> 0:05:41.400 I wanted to get your thoughts on it. And actually 0:05:41.480 --> 0:05:43.200 one of the so I talked to my parents about it, 0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:45.080 and obviously they said, it's your decision. We love you, 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:47.240 we'll back you up anyway anything you want to do. 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:50.800 But my mom was like, you also have to remember that, 0:05:52.360 --> 0:05:54.640 I mean, you're not going to get another opportunity to 0:05:54.720 --> 0:05:56.960 like this ever again in your life. And she's like, 0:05:57.680 --> 0:05:59.920 you know, in ten years, do you see yourself being 0:06:00.000 --> 0:06:02.120 with Ashley? And I said of course, And she's like, 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:04.800 then why would you not do this? You know? And 0:06:04.839 --> 0:06:06.840 then actually I talked to Tanner about it. Tanner my 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:11.560 little very godfather, um, and because he's had experience getting 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:14.720 engaged in paradise, and he said, listen to the proposals 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:18.560 for the girl, you know, and you have an opportunity, 0:06:18.640 --> 0:06:21.000 and I'm sure he's like, listen, you're a very romantic guy. 0:06:21.040 --> 0:06:22.520 I'm sure if you don't do it on paradise, if 0:06:22.560 --> 0:06:23.960 you do it, you know, four or five months later 0:06:24.279 --> 0:06:26.960 you'll come up with something very nice and very moment romantic, 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:29.760 and it's gonna be such a wonderful moment for both you. However, 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:33.080 you also have a chance to get engaged at the 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:36.920 place where you first met Ashley, like put the show aside. 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:39.560 I mean, this is the beach you first saw Ashley, 0:06:39.640 --> 0:06:41.920 where you guys met three years ago, and you have 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:45.919 the opportunity to give her the ending that she's always wanted, 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:49.800 and you're nervous because it might be too soon, even 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:51.480 though you plan on spending the rest of your life 0:06:51.520 --> 0:06:53.560 with this girl. It's like, that's just something you have 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:55.920 to factor it. And so after talking to my friends 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:58.760 about it for like an hour, I was like, I 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:00.760 one of my one of my thinking why am I 0:07:00.800 --> 0:07:04.000 even hesitating? This is this is what I not only 0:07:04.080 --> 0:07:05.720 what I want to do, but what I want to 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:09.800 do for Ashley. So and it was pretty romantic and cute. 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:11.920 The way that whenever you guys talked about your relationship 0:07:12.480 --> 0:07:14.880 on or off the air in front of her behind 0:07:15.040 --> 0:07:17.080 closed doors. It's like you were always talking about how 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:19.760 this is your forever person, how you know, you guys 0:07:19.920 --> 0:07:22.120 plan on having kids once you guys get to that bridge, 0:07:22.120 --> 0:07:23.400 all that kind of stuff, and so it's just like 0:07:23.520 --> 0:07:26.920 it was always a foregone conclusion that the engagement was 0:07:26.960 --> 0:07:29.040 going to happen. And so I fully understand where you're 0:07:29.040 --> 0:07:30.880 coming from. Where it's like, and I think it even 0:07:30.920 --> 0:07:33.000 goes back to your first Instagram capturing you guys announced 0:07:33.000 --> 0:07:35.760 the relationship, where it's like the second you want your 0:07:36.040 --> 0:07:37.640 life to be with someone else, you want your life 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:39.480 to begin as soon as possible. Well that's a quote 0:07:39.480 --> 0:07:41.200 from when Harry Mets Alley. So that movie is very 0:07:41.240 --> 0:07:42.440 near and dear in my heart. I don't know if 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:46.320 you're familiar with it. Are you familiar with The Dean? Okay? 0:07:46.440 --> 0:07:49.200 So anyway, long story short, Billy, Crystal mcgrhand and the Stars. 0:07:49.240 --> 0:07:52.720 They are friends for twelve years um before they finally 0:07:52.920 --> 0:07:55.160 realize that they are meant to be together. And so 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:58.440 the end seen when Billy Crystal realizes, oh my god, 0:07:58.480 --> 0:07:59.880 the love of my life is rained from my eyes 0:07:59.920 --> 0:08:01.280 and she's my best friend and I need to do 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:02.960 everything I can to make sure that I end up 0:08:02.960 --> 0:08:04.720 with her. He goes to a New Year's Eve party 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:07.160 where she's lonely and sad, and he comes up and 0:08:07.240 --> 0:08:09.160 he's like, Okay, I've been doing a lot of thinking, 0:08:09.280 --> 0:08:11.560 and the thing is I love you. And then he 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:14.000 goes up and he's like, He's like, when you realize 0:08:14.000 --> 0:08:15.320 who you want to spend the rest of your life with, 0:08:15.400 --> 0:08:16.800 you want the rest of your life to start as 0:08:16.840 --> 0:08:19.800 soon as possible. And that line was something that I 0:08:19.880 --> 0:08:22.600 really wanted. I say, I wanted to go to St. 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:25.400 Lucian and be like, Actually, when you're realize you want 0:08:25.400 --> 0:08:27.000 to spend the rest of your life with, you want 0:08:27.040 --> 0:08:29.000 the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. 0:08:29.080 --> 0:08:32.280 And so that movie has been, uh, you know, just 0:08:33.000 --> 0:08:36.520 very influential and important in my life, specifically over the 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:38.960 past you know, six months, because it's just really been 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:41.079 you be close to my heart. You guys do a 0:08:41.120 --> 0:08:44.479 great job of incorporating your favorite movies into your relationship. 0:08:44.720 --> 0:08:46.600 I think both actually and myself. One of the first 0:08:46.640 --> 0:08:48.240 things we bonded over was the fact that I quoted 0:08:48.280 --> 0:08:51.240 Jerry McGuire and she's like, you quote Jerry McCully looked 0:08:51.280 --> 0:08:52.559 at dead in the eyes and he said, show me 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:55.720 the money. The money I did. Uh, I forget what line. 0:08:55.760 --> 0:08:57.360 I did that one her over but it was just 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:01.560 an obscure line and and she was like, Holy Christ, 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:04.280 like I'm in trouble and uh. And so we quoted it, 0:09:04.280 --> 0:09:07.200 and then we started quoting rain Man. And I love 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:11.840 romantic comedies, so does Ashley. And so I've always idolized 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:14.480 the guys in the romantic comedy that can like fight 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:16.480 for the girl that they want, and like, yes, they 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:20.520 have made mistakes and they've done some dumb things, but 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:22.720 you know, at the end of the movie, they're kind 0:09:22.760 --> 0:09:24.719 of like, I need to go for it, you know, 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:27.079 jump all in, fight for the woman I love and 0:09:27.200 --> 0:09:30.959 so um. So that's why, you know, let's talk a lot. 0:09:30.960 --> 0:09:33.760 I don't want to say, like, yeah, let's talk Neil 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:36.480 Lane for a second. Let's talk Neil And so Ashley's 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:38.880 might be strutting around, might not be strutting around with 0:09:38.920 --> 0:09:41.360 a pretty fat rock on her finger right now? Can 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:43.599 we go through the decision process for the ring that 0:09:43.640 --> 0:09:45.520 you chose? Are you allowed to talk much about the 0:09:45.600 --> 0:09:47.760 ring at all? I can't talk too much about it. Um. 0:09:48.720 --> 0:09:51.000 But what I can say is that as soon as 0:09:51.040 --> 0:09:54.640 I saw it, it was obviously I was in conversations 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:57.719 about what I wanted, what actually wanted, and trying to 0:09:57.760 --> 0:10:00.559 figure out the best ring for everybody, typically the best 0:10:00.640 --> 0:10:03.160 ring for Ashley, because that's the most important thing. Um. 0:10:03.720 --> 0:10:05.280 And as soon as I saw the ring, I knew 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:07.319 it was perfect. Um. It was everything I could have 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:11.079 possibly imagined. And I knew she was gonna love it. Um. 0:10:11.720 --> 0:10:14.160 And uh, it's actually being fitted right now. She's allowed 0:10:14.200 --> 0:10:16.240 to wear it because the news is out. It was well, 0:10:16.480 --> 0:10:18.559 I'll go to the story in a second, but um, 0:10:19.240 --> 0:10:21.080 so she's gonna we're going back on the East Coast. 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:22.640 We're visiting my family and right is and then we're 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:24.400 gonna go down to Virginia to visit her family. So 0:10:24.480 --> 0:10:26.160 she's gonna be wearing the ring, which is great. We 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:28.280 don't have to hide anything because the news came out 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:29.719 so quickly. I mean, I can talk about this. We 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:32.800 got engaged on Sunday and then Monday morning we woke 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:35.599 up and was like, oh, that's oh okay, that's me 0:10:35.679 --> 0:10:38.080 on one knee. That is it's out there. I guess 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:40.559 we don't have to hide anything, which is very you know, 0:10:40.679 --> 0:10:43.520 refreshing and easy, but at the same time very surprising. 0:10:44.840 --> 0:10:47.280 I will say that from the time that you guys left, 0:10:47.280 --> 0:10:49.520 because from my perspective, all that experience was you guys leaving, 0:10:50.120 --> 0:10:51.599 and then within even just a few days of you 0:10:51.600 --> 0:10:54.320 guys leaving, I saw the news being published or whatever, 0:10:54.679 --> 0:10:56.640 and I was like, that was really fast. Like, I mean, 0:10:57.280 --> 0:10:58.719 we had no idea it was gonna come out that fast. 0:10:58.720 --> 0:11:00.880 So we flew on a Saturday and and you know, 0:11:01.000 --> 0:11:04.240 Sunday everything went down and then Monday morning bought a 0:11:04.240 --> 0:11:06.360 bing bat a boom. I don't know, like, holy moly, Okay, 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:07.959 I guess we I guess we can talk about it. 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:10.079 I don't know what. I don't think you wouldn't not 0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:13.040 be allowed to share this aspect of the post engagement thing. 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:15.160 But can you share the FaceTime that you had or 0:11:15.240 --> 0:11:17.400 the video that was sent to you specifically but you 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:19.839 and Ashley as well from one of your favorite I 0:11:20.160 --> 0:11:23.560 can't talk about that, you know, you are What Dean 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:25.640 is alluding to is something that you're going to just 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:27.640 have to watch on Bachelor in Paradise. They're gonna air 0:11:27.679 --> 0:11:30.079 it though, oh yes, and if they don't air it. 0:11:30.200 --> 0:11:32.480 Then I will be more than happy to talk at 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:35.040 length about it. Well, I think we'll all forgot about 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:39.719 about it by then. He's a funny guy, that is 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:43.360 a gentleman. Engaged. I never thought i'd see the day. 0:11:43.600 --> 0:11:45.640 I know. It's so crazy. It's weird when people are like, 0:11:45.640 --> 0:11:48.400 congratulations on your engagement. It's like, oh my god, that's right, 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:51.040 I'm engaged because I still sometimes even not in a 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:53.480 bad way, but it's just so crazy, right, you wait 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:56.319 your entire life to be engaged and then it's like, no, 0:11:56.520 --> 0:11:59.559 it's it's here. That was the craziest part about proposing, 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:02.160 was like, Okay, this is holy moldy, this is the 0:12:02.240 --> 0:12:04.600 most the moment that you've all been that you've waited 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:07.679 your entire life for the be all end all. This 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:09.360 is the only time you're ever gonna do it, so 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:12.760 you know, no pressure. Um, but but it's cool, like 0:12:12.880 --> 0:12:16.760 sometimes uh actually be like oh I love my boyfriend 0:12:16.800 --> 0:12:20.240 and I'm like, well, I'm not your boyfriend fiance. It's 0:12:20.280 --> 0:12:22.199 just weird even saying But the good thing is we're 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:24.280 taking it slow. We're not sure when we're gonna get married. 0:12:24.360 --> 0:12:28.360 We say within a year, uh no later The next summer. 0:12:28.600 --> 0:12:31.360 That's because we want we don't want a very long engagement. 0:12:31.400 --> 0:12:35.439 We want just kind of, like, um, long enough, you know, 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:37.520 we want to be engaged. We want to enjoy being fiance's, 0:12:37.559 --> 0:12:39.120 but we don't want a two or three year engagement. 0:12:39.160 --> 0:12:42.079 Perhaps maybe exactly one year when you're back in Mexico 0:12:42.559 --> 0:12:47.800 in June of two thousand nineteen. We'll see first, folks. 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:50.400 I mean, we'll see, we'll see what happens, We'll see 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:52.199 what the future has a store. But right now, we're 0:12:52.280 --> 0:12:54.280 just really happy. We're kind of soaking in the fact 0:12:54.320 --> 0:12:59.319 that we're fiance's enjoying the momentum. What a wee can happen? 0:12:59.480 --> 0:13:02.800 I know, it's it's it's so it's so fresh. It 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:05.199 also just feels like it's so crazy to think that 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:08.360 I've only actually dated Actuley for you know, four months 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:10.640 or so right about now, because it feels like I've 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:14.280 been with her for forever, if I'm being honest, but 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:16.920 in a good way, because it's still that lustful, puppy 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:21.679 love um, playful type relationship. But it also feels like 0:13:21.960 --> 0:13:25.200 I've you know, been with Ashley for my entire life. 0:13:25.640 --> 0:13:27.160 I know you have mentioned something about the East Coast 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:29.319 and her wearing her ring out out east. Are you 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:33.079 have you guys seeing each other's parents in person post engagement? No, 0:13:33.280 --> 0:13:35.920 just FaceTime. So we've as soon as it was funny 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:37.800 because we thought we were gonna have, like we talked 0:13:37.800 --> 0:13:40.400 about at least a couple of weeks before we before 0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:42.800 the news came out. Uh. And so we went back 0:13:42.840 --> 0:13:46.199 to the hotel and we FaceTime my parents, her parents, um, 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:48.960 you know, a couple of our close family and friends, 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:54.280 but dany um. But it was just honestly, four or 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:56.200 five facetimes. We're like, all right, we just gotta FaceTime 0:13:56.240 --> 0:13:57.719 these people talk about it and then we can go 0:13:57.800 --> 0:13:59.800 to bed because we were just exhausted after the day 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:02.199 and then thinking we had a couple of weeks before 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:04.319 you know, everybody knew, so we had plenty of time 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:07.280 to call everybody, face time everybody. And then Monday morning happened, 0:14:07.320 --> 0:14:09.040 We're like, oh boy, and it was funny because actually 0:14:09.040 --> 0:14:12.760 tweeted out She's like, I haven't even told my grandmother yet. Uh. 0:14:13.000 --> 0:14:14.599 So we had, you know, we had a lot of 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:17.079 people texting us and being like, what the hell, why 0:14:17.160 --> 0:14:19.920 didn't you tell me? Like, oh, we well, it was 0:14:20.000 --> 0:14:21.880 a surprise for Ashley. I didn't want it to get out, 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:23.240 and now we didn't think it was gonna be out 0:14:23.320 --> 0:14:27.320 so soon. So next steps for you? Guys? You mentioned 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:30.760 you wouldn't live together until you were engaged. Yes, Um, 0:14:31.080 --> 0:14:32.800 is that on the horizon. Have guys talked about that 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:35.360 at all? We've talked about that. So Ashley just got 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:38.000 a brand new place um with her sister Lauren, and 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:41.120 so I think we're probably gonna wait till u fall. 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:43.880 Probably sometime in the fall, I'll move in. Okay, so 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:47.200 a couple more months. Um, But her face, because her 0:14:47.240 --> 0:14:49.280 apartment is still so fresh, it's she's not even done 0:14:49.440 --> 0:14:51.680 moving in herself. So I don't want it to I 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:53.880 don't want to bombard her at all. So we'll wait. 0:14:53.960 --> 0:14:56.360 We'll wait a couple more months, and I'll probably move 0:14:56.400 --> 0:14:59.000 in there and I'll be the next step in our relationship. 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:01.240 I'm gonna I'm gonna vent to say that Ashley began 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:03.680 shopping for her wedding dress the second she got back 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:07.640 from Mexico after meeting you the first time. But do 0:15:07.760 --> 0:15:10.840 you think that she has begun her wedding dress shopping. 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:14.200 I know for a fact that she's had people reach 0:15:14.280 --> 0:15:19.000 out and she's definitely had conversations. Okay, I don't think 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:21.560 she's looked at any particular dresses. The thing is, Ashley 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:24.600 has watched Say Yes to the Dress for years. I 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:27.360 watched Say Yes to the Dress now because I'm dating her, 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:31.360 I'm engaged to her and so um, so she's definitely 0:15:31.400 --> 0:15:33.080 had people reach out and talked to her, and she 0:15:33.200 --> 0:15:34.680 has an idea of what kind of dress you wants. 0:15:34.720 --> 0:15:37.920 So it's very exciting and still very new. Um. But 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:40.360 the cool thing is it's it's while it's very exciting 0:15:40.400 --> 0:15:43.200 and they're all these outside factors about planning a wedding 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:46.000 and what's going to happen, dress and where and blatta 0:15:46.000 --> 0:15:48.400 bladah blah, it's just built on such a strong foundation 0:15:48.440 --> 0:15:52.280 between Ashley and myself, um that it's very very exciting. 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:54.400 Mark my words. I'm gonna put a hundred dollars down 0:15:54.440 --> 0:15:56.640 on this that Jared at his wedding, while standing on 0:15:56.680 --> 0:15:59.760 the alter altar will be wearing a Superman T shirt 0:15:59.800 --> 0:16:05.040 under as tuxedo. Uh, I'm gonna rip that thing open 0:16:05.080 --> 0:16:07.680 when she's walking down the aisle. It's gonna fantastic. And 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:10.160 then her dad is quickly, just gonna turn her around 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:12.040 and walk her down the other way, and I'm gonna say, 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:18.000 bite Ashley, no, um unless she cry. There were there 0:16:18.040 --> 0:16:20.320 were tears. So she cried. She cried a lot. She 0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:22.600 was she cried a lot. Um. It was just a 0:16:22.720 --> 0:16:24.800 very emotional moment that all of you guys will be 0:16:24.840 --> 0:16:29.120 able to witness, which is weird just say, um. But 0:16:30.040 --> 0:16:34.480 it was just a really it was a special moment 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:39.200 that I wanted. Yeah, I can't really talk too much 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:41.800 about it, but um, there were a lot of tears. 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:44.440 It's just crazy to think that I was able to 0:16:44.520 --> 0:16:47.040 propose to the love of my life on the beach 0:16:47.080 --> 0:16:49.520 where we first met. Like, that's the crazy part to 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:51.800 me is when we were when we were on the beach, 0:16:52.360 --> 0:16:55.360 I just kept thinking, Wow, three years ago, three years ago, 0:16:55.440 --> 0:16:58.760 we met at this exact bar. I'm seeing you walking 0:16:58.880 --> 0:17:01.280 down the stairs with your sister Lauren, because I don't 0:17:01.280 --> 0:17:02.840 know if you remember, that was the season that her 0:17:02.920 --> 0:17:05.560 and her sister came in together. And to think three 0:17:05.640 --> 0:17:08.200 years later, I'd be getting down on one knee on 0:17:08.320 --> 0:17:12.560 this beach with Ashley. Uh, It's pretty cool. Pretty cool, 0:17:13.080 --> 0:17:15.240 all right, Jed, One more question for you, right after 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:17.760 you guys announced your relationship, you're you, and actually I 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:19.679 asked you a question that you dodged a little bit. 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:21.159 I'm gonna ask you again and hopefully you can give 0:17:21.200 --> 0:17:24.280 us a little bit more of a clear answer. How 0:17:25.040 --> 0:17:32.680 is the sex damned? Um? I don't want to dodge 0:17:32.720 --> 0:17:37.159 it because I don't want to sound like God. This 0:17:37.280 --> 0:17:42.680 is hard to answer. No, I mean it's I'm not 0:17:42.720 --> 0:17:47.359 going to answer specifically, but you can. It's God, how 0:17:47.400 --> 0:17:50.359 do I answer this? I know, Easton, you're just just waiting, 0:17:50.680 --> 0:17:52.400 all right, because I don't want to dodge it, because 0:17:52.400 --> 0:17:53.840 I don't want people be like, oh, we did say anything, 0:17:53.880 --> 0:17:56.880 it's probably bad because it's not. It's it's the physical 0:17:57.040 --> 0:17:58.600 all right, all right, let me let me I'll answer 0:17:58.640 --> 0:17:59.840 it this way. I'll answer it this way. Here we go. 0:18:00.680 --> 0:18:04.720 When we first crossed over from friendship to boyfriend girlfriend, 0:18:04.800 --> 0:18:07.560