WEBVTT - The King of I Do Part 2, Meghan King 0:00:14.360 --> 0:00:16.840 Welcome back to I Do Part two. I'm Cheryl Burke, 0:00:16.880 --> 0:00:20.040 one of your celebrity mentors here on the podcast. This 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:22.919 podcast has been fun for me because I'm an open book, 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:25.200 as you guys know when it comes to my love journey, 0:00:25.520 --> 0:00:27.560 and on this show, I get to meet other people 0:00:27.560 --> 0:00:30.440 and talk about their own experience with love and heartbreak 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:33.800 and second acts and how their experiences have shaped them. 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:36.519 Today on the podcast, I'm going to be joined by 0:00:36.560 --> 0:00:39.760 someone who's had her fair share of heartbreak. You know 0:00:39.840 --> 0:00:43.040 her from the Real Housewives of Orange County. Please welcome 0:00:43.479 --> 0:00:46.479 Megan King to the pod. Well, first of all, welcome 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:48.519 to I Do Part two. Would you say that you're 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:50.800 in your I Do Phase Part two? Megan? 0:00:51.240 --> 0:00:54.400 Not really. I don't know, Like I feel like I 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:55.639 did that a while ago. 0:00:56.280 --> 0:01:01.520 Right, So part three, I mean part like who's counting? 0:01:02.040 --> 0:01:04.800 No, No, I already did that. We're talking about the past. 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:07.000 I Do purchase a while ago. 0:01:07.360 --> 0:01:09.640 Right, Okay, So how is it currently then? 0:01:10.640 --> 0:01:15.560 I mean I'm dating, but like, mainly I'm focusing on myself, 0:01:15.680 --> 0:01:21.000 my kids and money. 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:22.800 Right, like your career and all of that, like hustling. 0:01:22.720 --> 0:01:24.040 Porting myself and my kids. 0:01:24.120 --> 0:01:26.679 Yeah, yeah, I saw your post that it was so 0:01:27.280 --> 0:01:31.720 you know, heartwarming, and reading your caption just felt I 0:01:31.760 --> 0:01:35.160 don't have kids, and I can't relate obviously, but it 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:39.440 was super just transparent and honest, and I really appreciated that. 0:01:39.800 --> 0:01:43.760 And how was that whole experience with your daughter. 0:01:44.760 --> 0:01:48.160 Oh, to be like on a trip with her back. Yeah, oh, 0:01:48.200 --> 0:01:52.360 you're right, Like that was really moving for me. I 0:01:52.480 --> 0:01:57.360 knew that, I like, time with my children individually is 0:01:57.400 --> 0:02:02.960 really special, but I don't often get afforded that privilege 0:02:03.040 --> 0:02:06.760 because I'm a single mother, and I do have help 0:02:06.840 --> 0:02:09.880 because I have to because I'm a working mother. But 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:12.920 like when I do have help, I take advantage of 0:02:12.919 --> 0:02:16.160 that by not being home, by working right, And so 0:02:16.760 --> 0:02:19.240 when I'm home, I have my three children with me 0:02:19.520 --> 0:02:25.720 at once, and it's really in my head it's always 0:02:25.760 --> 0:02:27.640 like a really special gift to be able to spend 0:02:27.639 --> 0:02:32.080 one on one time with them, and but like I 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:35.600 never put like a whole lot of effort into that, 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:38.799 And so when I was able to do this with 0:02:38.840 --> 0:02:42.000 my daughter, I was really looking forward to it. I 0:02:42.040 --> 0:02:46.919 took her skiing in Idaho and it was so amazing. 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:50.679 First of all, it was really easy. One cake, Oh, 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:54.280 he's a cake it was like nothinge it. It was 0:02:54.320 --> 0:02:58.639 like hanging out with a friend, and we realized how 0:02:59.520 --> 0:02:59.920 good of a. 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:01.400 I am you are. 0:03:02.919 --> 0:03:07.160 I am always like trying to chase my tail all 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:11.040 the three kids, and when I just had this one experience, 0:03:12.200 --> 0:03:14.280 I realized it's okay. 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:16.799 You can celebrate like what you're doing because you're doing 0:03:16.800 --> 0:03:17.280 a good job. 0:03:18.000 --> 0:03:20.480 Absolutely, And I think that was just like I'm sure 0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:23.040 you just related to so many moms out there, but 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:25.600 I do have to ask. I know you don't want 0:03:25.600 --> 0:03:27.040 to talk about the past, but we need to know 0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:29.320 a little bit about your love journey. And you know 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:32.919 you saying you're being a single mom, and just remind 0:03:33.160 --> 0:03:37.200 our listeners what that in a short few sentences, what 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:38.000 that is for you. 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:42.880 I was married to my ex husband. We had our 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:49.880 first daughter together via IVF. We recorded that journey on 0:03:49.920 --> 0:03:55.800 The Real Housewives of Orange County, and shortly after eighteen months, 0:03:55.800 --> 0:04:02.000 to be exact, I had twin boys. And shortly after that, 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:07.440 I went through a very public scandal slash divorce with 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:12.560 my ex husband and things have gotten progressively worse since. 0:04:14.000 --> 0:04:19.160 And it's been five years now and I've been five 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:23.599 years a single mother minus like a little blip on 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:27.880 the radar there of a big mistake called an annulment, 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:32.160 but that was literally like three months of my life total. 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:38.359 And here I am like still navigating the waters of 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:39.400 single motherhood. 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:44.520 Yeah, and do you want to ever maybe play around 0:04:44.560 --> 0:04:46.839 with getting married again or is that just not on 0:04:46.880 --> 0:04:48.920 your radar? Yeah? 0:04:49.480 --> 0:04:53.359 I think like having a life partner for me is 0:04:53.440 --> 0:04:57.200 very important, and I want to hold with someone. But 0:04:57.560 --> 0:05:01.440 what I've learned through my relationship is that there's no 0:05:01.480 --> 0:05:06.839 one who's going to fill a void for me. There 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:10.320 are voids, don't get me wrong in my life, but 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:15.320 those voids need to be filled by myself and then 0:05:15.360 --> 0:05:19.280 I can accept someone who's going to enhance my life 0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:21.919 after that, not someone who's going to fill avoid because 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:26.320 when I allow that void to be filled by another individual, 0:05:26.480 --> 0:05:32.039 that invites me to accept a lot of faults and 0:05:32.720 --> 0:05:36.520 turn a blind eye to red flags. And I realized 0:05:36.520 --> 0:05:42.159 that through some failed relationships, including that annulment that I 0:05:42.200 --> 0:05:48.040 spoke of, and that's not what we're doing anymore. And 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:52.320 we got this five years. I've done this for five years. 0:05:52.360 --> 0:05:54.359 I don't know how, but here I am surviving. 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:57.479 I mean like an alcoholic, like I am an addict. Honestly, 0:05:57.520 --> 0:06:00.280 it's one day at a time. I haven't day in 0:06:00.320 --> 0:06:03.520 three years and I don't. I'm good, I am fine, 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:07.760 And since my divorce, I'm like, I just have no interest. 0:06:08.400 --> 0:06:09.279 Really, why not? 0:06:10.240 --> 0:06:14.440 Because I owe it to myself to date myself after 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:19.960 being a serial dater for from thirteen till thirty seven. 0:06:20.600 --> 0:06:26.120 You're master dating. What you're master dating, You're dating. 0:06:25.800 --> 0:06:30.160 Yourself, absolutely, But I owe that to myself. Like I'm 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:34.039 enjoying this drama free zone in this home that I 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:40.000 live in, and I have zero interests. But back to you, Okay, 0:06:41.440 --> 0:06:44.920 what has like co parenting been like for you in 0:06:45.080 --> 0:06:46.320 your ex. 0:06:46.800 --> 0:06:51.800 It's been not co parenting, it's been parenting. And parenting 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:56.479 is a term that people use when there's very little 0:06:56.480 --> 0:07:03.680 communication or teamwork with the other parents, and it's more 0:07:03.839 --> 0:07:07.839 like one party is parenting and the other party is 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:11.080 parenting separately. And that's what I've been doing. And that 0:07:11.200 --> 0:07:15.880 is not ideal for the children at all, unfortunately, but 0:07:16.040 --> 0:07:20.680 sometimes that's you know, what the cards have been dealt, 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:23.160 And yeah, it's it's horrible. 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:26.280 Do you see that? How it affects? Because I come 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:28.240 from a divorce family and my dad was just like 0:07:28.280 --> 0:07:30.760 nowhere to be found. I mean he was he left 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:33.600 the country, so like there was really no co parenting 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:37.240 right at all. So until my mom met my stepfather. 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:38.200 Total single mom situation. 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:41.560 Yeah, no, for a good solid I would say four 0:07:41.640 --> 0:07:43.560 or five years, like at the prime you know, of 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:47.920 when I needed a father figure. Most likely have you 0:07:48.000 --> 0:07:51.000 seen it affect Are your kids in therapy or. 0:07:51.560 --> 0:07:53.560 Oh yeah, they're in therapy? Yeah for sure. 0:07:53.560 --> 0:07:54.000 It's good. 0:07:54.280 --> 0:07:57.920 Yeah, it's cute, like they love it, and I think 0:07:58.360 --> 0:08:00.880 like a special gift I've given them because I started 0:08:00.880 --> 0:08:04.200 them in therapy before they understood that therapy was a trigger. 0:08:04.680 --> 0:08:06.040 That's so good for them. 0:08:06.160 --> 0:08:09.840 Therapy is just a word that we use, like go 0:08:09.880 --> 0:08:13.679 play outside. It's just natural to them, and they speak 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:15.960 about it with their friends like it just rolls off 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:19.640 their tongue. And I love that that they have that 0:08:19.800 --> 0:08:22.480 and they're like so good, which were of normalcy. 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:24.760 I love that they're talking to their friends about it 0:08:24.760 --> 0:08:27.280 because there's there was back when I was that age, 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:30.600 probably a lot of shame behind therapy, you know, like 0:08:30.720 --> 0:08:31.760 you only go there. 0:08:31.400 --> 0:08:34.800 I knew what crazy. I don't know it was when 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:35.600 I was their age. 0:08:36.200 --> 0:08:37.480 Totally, it's so good. 0:08:37.800 --> 0:08:38.360 Pside board. 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.080 Well, my mom, I mean I went. I started at four, 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:45.679 but like my mom, for her generation, there was no 0:08:45.800 --> 0:08:46.360 way in hell. 0:08:46.480 --> 0:08:48.239 Like, but where are you from. 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:50.440 I'm from the Bay Area, so. 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:54.079 You're from California, Like that's progressive. I'm from Missouri. 0:08:54.840 --> 0:08:56.720 Well, I went to therapy because I got chi I 0:08:56.800 --> 0:08:59.160 got molested when I was a little girl, so that. 0:08:59.240 --> 0:09:01.160 Was a ness different. 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:05.360 Yes, well, you know, yes, so my mom did what 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:07.880 like you know, she was she was a nurse as well, 0:09:07.920 --> 0:09:10.960 so she knew exactly what to do. Now, if you're 0:09:11.000 --> 0:09:13.880 talking her generation coming from the Philippines, like that is 0:09:13.920 --> 0:09:16.920 a big no. No. You know therapy in general. 0:09:16.920 --> 0:09:19.000 Yeah, that there's a taboo associated with that. 0:09:19.440 --> 0:09:23.560 Yeah. Have you found a tribe of women to like 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:26.480 support you during this time or are you more of 0:09:26.520 --> 0:09:28.199 a person who likes to be alone. 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:32.640 No, I've found I've I have a tribe of people 0:09:33.280 --> 0:09:42.480 and combined men women. But for me, like I think 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:45.200 like I found a ton of support in women and 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:49.319 especially my best friend who's also a single mom, who's 0:09:49.320 --> 0:09:54.440 been through and going through a very similar situation to me. 0:09:55.400 --> 0:09:59.360 And it's just nice to be able to relate to 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:02.240 somebody in the way that I can talk to her 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:06.240 and say X y Z is happening, and basically what 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:11.120 I'm saying is armageddon is happening. And she doesn't react 0:10:11.240 --> 0:10:14.200 like with you know, her jaw to the floor. She 0:10:14.320 --> 0:10:18.160 reacts like, Okay, we can handle this because she understands 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:23.360 that totally. There's something to be said for someone who 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:32.000 understands or can can can like absorb and react to 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:37.760 my trauma in a way that is normal instead of 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:39.800 like thinking that the world is falling. 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:43.360 Apart judging or people are like what, yeah, I hear No, 0:10:43.520 --> 0:10:45.240 I totally hear you. And there's not a lot of 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:49.360 people out there like that, you know, without first of all, 0:10:49.400 --> 0:10:53.040 we're all human. Judgment happens, but also like you just 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:56.559 want to be able to speak about freely about whatever 0:10:56.679 --> 0:10:59.240 is going on without thinking twice about it, especially within 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:00.520 your circle. 0:11:01.400 --> 0:11:03.960 And not only that, it takes a ton of energy 0:11:04.040 --> 0:11:08.720 to speak about what I'm going through and I don't 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:11.920 love to relive that I don't really like to talk about. 0:11:12.440 --> 0:11:14.560 But do you feel like it heals a little part 0:11:14.559 --> 0:11:15.480 of you every time you do. 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:19.680 I feel like there's a sort of release when it's 0:11:19.679 --> 0:11:24.760 the right audience. Otherwise I feel like it's. 0:11:24.640 --> 0:11:29.520 A job, I hear you, and do are you in therapy? No? 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:34.520 I feel like I have a weird take on therapy. 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:38.959 Say more, therapy is very therapeutic, and it's supposed to 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:39.839 be as the word says. 0:11:39.920 --> 0:11:41.199 I mean, it depends on who you're going to. 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:44.240 Yeah, there has to be a relationship and all that, 0:11:44.440 --> 0:11:49.080 But I think therapy is meant to be there until 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:52.640 you've learned your lesson. And I feel as if, like 0:11:52.800 --> 0:11:55.520 for the most part with my situation with my ex husband, 0:11:55.559 --> 0:11:59.600 I've learned my lessons and I know what they're the 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:01.959 advice that would be given to me, and therefore, like 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:04.360 I know how to apply it. It's whether or not I 0:12:04.480 --> 0:12:09.720 do it. Also, I don't know, Like I'm analytical and 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:14.880 I'm emotionally aware. Sometimes I think that therapy is just 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:18.480 a waste of time for me because I've already done 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:22.600 it and got it. I either apply it or I don't. 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:26.640 I mean, it's it's different for everybody, right, like for real, 0:12:26.760 --> 0:12:29.880 Like I think that. I mean, there's no like check 0:12:30.080 --> 0:12:31.600 like I'll be in therapy for the rest of my life. 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:35.520 I just know that. But that's my situation, right, And 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:38.400 do you feel like you're missing an unbiased opinion. 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:42.240 No, because I get my therapy from other sources, so 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:45.400 it's not like a therapist per se, which I do. 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:49.440 I do see a therapist like intermittently. Yeah, it takes 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:50.600 a long time, like it's a no. 0:12:50.760 --> 0:12:53.360 It's a lot. It's heavy. You have to explain everything again, 0:12:53.440 --> 0:12:56.200 like it's a whole thing, right, and it's expensive if 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:57.520 you see, if you're not going. 0:12:57.360 --> 0:12:59.960 Through relationship right, like it has to be the right man. 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:03.600 Yes, that's very important. I mean there's a lot of 0:13:04.000 --> 0:13:05.760 a lot of people that say, you know, I just 0:13:05.800 --> 0:13:07.560 tried it and didn't work out for me, And I 0:13:07.600 --> 0:13:10.480 always say try again, you know, because like there's just 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:14.480 I've been through ten and now I've been with my 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:17.400 last therapyt or my current one for like almost twenty years. 0:13:17.400 --> 0:13:20.160 So it's like when you find the right one, you 0:13:20.200 --> 0:13:22.840 stick to it unless she retires or he retires. 0:13:23.240 --> 0:13:25.080 So I have a life coach I work with. 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:26.480 Oh okay, that's great. 0:13:26.920 --> 0:13:29.240 Yeah, and that's similar to a therapist. 0:13:29.360 --> 0:13:32.959 They're not late, they're not certified, but yes, correct, so 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:38.160 they're still unbiased. Right. Yeah, that's great, that's awesome. Okay, 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:45.040 let's transition into dating here. Tell me about your dating life. 0:13:45.679 --> 0:13:52.480 Okay, so I've been in an on and off relationship 0:13:52.559 --> 0:14:02.479 for several years and that's safe and than like comfortable 0:14:02.920 --> 0:14:07.280 and then but like outside of that, I date casually 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:11.360 and it's fun. I was actually just thinking about this 0:14:11.520 --> 0:14:14.400 a couple of days ago. I love falling in love. 0:14:14.880 --> 0:14:15.840 It's like addiction. 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:18.520 It's it brings something up right. 0:14:18.679 --> 0:14:22.040 One million yeah, and I love it. It's the most 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:25.400 fun thing ever to fall in love. But like that's 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:29.640 not that's not sustainable, and that's not it's real in 0:14:29.680 --> 0:14:32.680 the moment, but it's not real in the long term. No, 0:14:33.480 --> 0:14:36.600 And so there's something really special about this relationship that 0:14:36.640 --> 0:14:39.280 I've had on and off for five years that I 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:43.840 think that, Okay, I'm gonna get deep. 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:44.840 Here and we love deep. 0:14:45.440 --> 0:14:47.880 When I was in my relationship with my ex, he 0:14:48.080 --> 0:14:52.320 has a lot like looking back, he has some traits 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:56.440 of what some might think of narcissistic like me, And 0:14:57.640 --> 0:15:02.200 a typical trade of a narcissist is to like love 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:04.400 bomb and like you fall in love quickly, and that's 0:15:05.400 --> 0:15:08.360 and I did that. That was amazing and then it 0:15:08.880 --> 0:15:12.360 ended poorly for me. But for me, as like a 0:15:12.440 --> 0:15:15.120 late twenty year old, that was how I thought love 0:15:15.200 --> 0:15:17.880 was supposed to be, and so I think that's what 0:15:17.920 --> 0:15:23.720 I still seek in a lot of ways. And that's not, 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:28.160 like we said, sustainable, and so I'm like trying to 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:30.440 get out of that cycle. But to get out of 0:15:30.440 --> 0:15:33.040 that cycle means to like get out of that like 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:41.120 huge release of serotonin and to like keep you know, 0:15:41.280 --> 0:15:47.640 consistent with like this a stable individual or a stable relationship. 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:51.320 You have to retrain the brain and that is really 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:54.640 difficult if like you have to do things that are 0:15:54.680 --> 0:15:57.040 not comfortable, right, that are that you have to be aware, 0:15:57.040 --> 0:15:59.240 which I think you are. Obviously you're saying that you're 0:15:59.280 --> 0:16:04.280 aware of what you were or still attracting, right as 0:16:04.280 --> 0:16:08.520 far as personality traits go, And I feel like I 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:11.240 can relate because I'm just a bad picker because my 0:16:11.480 --> 0:16:15.440 sense of home was abuse, right, So my abuse is 0:16:16.120 --> 0:16:19.800 what I was attracting and people who were unavailable, men 0:16:19.840 --> 0:16:23.120 that were unavailable, And I still can gravitate towards that. 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:26.080 My lazy brain, I like to say, like my subconscious 0:16:26.200 --> 0:16:28.560 is very used to that. That is my home. I 0:16:28.640 --> 0:16:31.520 was disgusted by nice people, right, So there was that 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:36.160 because I never experienced that. So I was like, well, 0:16:36.200 --> 0:16:39.120 with all of this. Obviously I didn't like myself, let 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:40.840 alone love myself. And then I was like I was 0:16:40.880 --> 0:16:47.640 attracting that type of just people around me, both romantic 0:16:47.680 --> 0:16:53.280 and not romantic. Do you are you active in untraining 0:16:53.320 --> 0:16:54.560 the brain to then train it? 0:16:55.160 --> 0:17:00.680 Absolutely? And I completely relate to what you're talking, like 0:17:00.760 --> 0:17:07.000 speaking of with the the attraction quotient. I think that 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:11.040 that's like a very reveeling part of who we are 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:13.399 that sometimes we don't want to look at you know, like. 0:17:13.600 --> 0:17:16.520 You are, you are who you were raised by. 0:17:17.320 --> 0:17:22.439 In that too, And it's to break those generational cycles 0:17:22.600 --> 0:17:25.960 and to and to break even not generational like just 0:17:26.000 --> 0:17:30.240 to break like your own life cycles is really difficult 0:17:30.280 --> 0:17:35.160 to stop and it takes. It takes like a ton 0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:38.040 of inner work, and not only that, like a ton 0:17:38.320 --> 0:17:43.680 of being comfortable with myself. And that is the fucking 0:17:43.760 --> 0:17:48.679 hardest part. And I mean to love the body and 0:17:48.760 --> 0:17:53.560 from head to toe, and to love everything about me, 0:17:54.400 --> 0:17:58.200 including my anxiety, including the bad things that I've done, 0:17:58.400 --> 0:18:00.600 and not to love them and not to be proud 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:03.240 of the bad things, but to say to those things, 0:18:04.080 --> 0:18:07.639 I see you, I understand when you do this, I 0:18:07.760 --> 0:18:12.240 understand how you feel. And this is Okay, we're going 0:18:12.280 --> 0:18:15.400 to get through this and then to move on from there, 0:18:15.440 --> 0:18:21.679 because I think that once I recognize the feelings and 0:18:21.800 --> 0:18:24.640 the person that I am, that allows me to love 0:18:24.680 --> 0:18:28.640 myself more and then to be able to heal totally. 0:18:28.760 --> 0:18:31.240 It's just like you have to mother you're inner child, 0:18:31.320 --> 0:18:34.200 you know, because that's exactly what it is. And it's 0:18:34.200 --> 0:18:37.280 so amazing that you're very aware of this, and you 0:18:37.320 --> 0:18:40.000 should be proud of yourself, because I am. That's a 0:18:40.040 --> 0:18:41.400 lot to swallow. 0:18:41.760 --> 0:18:53.240 It is, Yes, thank you, I am. 0:18:53.680 --> 0:18:56.320 Now I have to ask you about this ring post 0:18:56.800 --> 0:19:01.840 on October sixth, to be exact or not? Okay, say more? 0:19:02.800 --> 0:19:06.239 What ring you there showed like an engagement? Was an 0:19:06.320 --> 0:19:09.560 engagement ring? Did that you post it on Instagram? 0:19:09.680 --> 0:19:10.520 Let me look it up? 0:19:10.880 --> 0:19:12.600 Or maybe it was an Instagram it was a different 0:19:12.640 --> 0:19:15.680 social platform, but I'm pretty sure it was in October. 0:19:15.720 --> 0:19:19.880 It was on Instagram and it was a ring. Yes, Oh, 0:19:19.920 --> 0:19:22.720 come on, you cannot forget about your policy of people 0:19:22.760 --> 0:19:23.720 posting for you. 0:19:23.760 --> 0:19:26.240 No, I post my own step. 0:19:26.480 --> 0:19:29.960 October sixth unless you erased it. I don't think it 0:19:29.960 --> 0:19:35.040 was October sixth. It was in October, Okay, come on? 0:19:35.359 --> 0:19:36.840 It was a string it was in a string. It 0:19:36.840 --> 0:19:37.640 was like in a carousel. 0:19:38.320 --> 0:19:39.120 Was a big ring? 0:19:39.240 --> 0:19:41.040 Was it a carousel of pictures? 0:19:41.640 --> 0:19:43.040 Well, it had to be my big ring. 0:19:43.160 --> 0:19:45.280 October twentieth, per my producer. 0:19:45.800 --> 0:19:49.800 Okay, October first, October twenty eighth. 0:19:50.440 --> 0:19:53.040 It was in a carousel, I believe. I mean, you 0:19:53.040 --> 0:19:53.960 could have just been a ring. 0:19:54.600 --> 0:19:57.520 Guys, I'm looking oh that one. 0:19:58.119 --> 0:19:59.160 Oh yeah, that one? 0:20:00.040 --> 0:20:00.640 Oh pretty? 0:20:00.960 --> 0:20:03.040 It is pretty. That's why we were talking about it. 0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:04.000 Say more, I. 0:20:03.960 --> 0:20:05.080 Wish that was mine. 0:20:05.720 --> 0:20:09.359 What I forgot about it? Were you ring shopping? What 0:20:09.440 --> 0:20:10.840 was what was all of that about? 0:20:11.080 --> 0:20:13.160 Oh yeah, I'm always ring shopping. 0:20:13.320 --> 0:20:16.320 For an engagement ring. Come on, who's is that? 0:20:16.480 --> 0:20:18.080 I wonder who's that that is? 0:20:18.080 --> 0:20:18.760 Is that your hand? 0:20:19.280 --> 0:20:24.000 My friends have really beautiful, big ass rings, and I 0:20:24.080 --> 0:20:26.679 just thought I was gorgeous. And by the way, I think. 0:20:26.560 --> 0:20:28.400 You're you know what, I have a really good lie detector. 0:20:28.560 --> 0:20:31.960 I think you're lying. But that's okay, you do. Yeah, 0:20:32.000 --> 0:20:34.360 I'm like almost psychic. I swear to god. My grandma 0:20:34.400 --> 0:20:36.760 was it's this whole thing. It's like, I am, I 0:20:36.800 --> 0:20:39.119 can smell you from a mile away. 0:20:39.240 --> 0:20:41.200 Somebody. Do you think somebody's gonna buy that for me? 0:20:42.960 --> 0:20:45.639 I mean yeah. I mean, I have a poshmark account. 0:20:45.680 --> 0:20:47.440 I can just sell it for you if you want. 0:20:48.440 --> 0:20:51.960 It's not mine, I would know. I wish it was mine. 0:20:52.119 --> 0:20:55.000 It's okay, so you're playing KOI obviously you don't want 0:20:55.040 --> 0:20:57.239 to say more than that, right, I'm not. I'm not 0:20:57.440 --> 0:20:59.600 like that was just a random picture. 0:21:00.600 --> 0:21:03.480 No, I think it was my friend's. Like my friends 0:21:03.560 --> 0:21:05.680 have like really big diamonds and I love to try 0:21:05.720 --> 0:21:08.360 them on. And I think I will. 0:21:08.200 --> 0:21:11.080 Be here that you're engaged in one week from today. 0:21:11.240 --> 0:21:12.960 I'm gonna murder you. 0:21:13.520 --> 0:21:16.720 Who's who's gonna be Who's gonna be the husband? Cheryl? 0:21:17.000 --> 0:21:19.959 I don't know, I mean, who knows how? So how 0:21:20.000 --> 0:21:22.040 many people are you dating at the same time right now? 0:21:22.080 --> 0:21:23.680 I mean, you're gonna have to give me some tips here. 0:21:24.000 --> 0:21:28.880 So in my head, I love to date multiples of the. 0:21:28.800 --> 0:21:31.040 Same really, I don't know how you do that in 0:21:31.119 --> 0:21:34.360 my head? I said, oh, that's fine, and you still 0:21:34.359 --> 0:21:35.760 don't do that in my head? How do you do that? 0:21:36.800 --> 0:21:39.359 I don't know. I'm like, oh, I'm a modern woman. 0:21:39.560 --> 0:21:42.879 I'm gonna date like, oh guys, and like you know, 0:21:42.960 --> 0:21:45.080 I'm gonna like just be free. 0:21:46.200 --> 0:21:48.440 I cannot I wish I could. I get I am 0:21:48.640 --> 0:21:49.639 so not like that. 0:21:50.160 --> 0:21:52.399 I'm monogamous big time. 0:21:52.680 --> 0:21:54.920 Like when I have sex with you, you're screwed. You 0:21:55.000 --> 0:21:55.800 might as well marry me. 0:21:57.040 --> 0:21:58.840 There's a lot to be said for that and say 0:21:59.680 --> 0:22:02.280 and like I try not to be that way, but 0:22:02.840 --> 0:22:05.440 like that's how my brain works, that's how my body works, 0:22:05.440 --> 0:22:06.920 and I can't help it. 0:22:07.840 --> 0:22:10.520 So, okay, how are you on a dating app? 0:22:10.720 --> 0:22:10.800 Like? 0:22:10.920 --> 0:22:13.240 How do I do this? If you were me, if 0:22:13.240 --> 0:22:15.919 we were besties and you were here with me, and 0:22:15.960 --> 0:22:17.680 I was just like it was this friday, it was 0:22:17.720 --> 0:22:20.600 a weekend. See, I'm a hermit. I'm like, I am 0:22:20.720 --> 0:22:23.879 so too comfortable alone with my frenchiet and it's just 0:22:23.960 --> 0:22:27.239 the two of us bitches and we're hanging out, you know, 0:22:27.400 --> 0:22:30.680 So like what would you say? What are the first 0:22:30.680 --> 0:22:32.919 steps when I'm interested in dating? Because I'm just not 0:22:33.040 --> 0:22:33.320 right now. 0:22:33.359 --> 0:22:35.480 But anyway now, I'm like, you're not interested, Like. 0:22:35.440 --> 0:22:36.639 There's at all for you? 0:22:37.359 --> 0:22:40.639 Okay, cool, there's nothing you do. You stay in with 0:22:40.680 --> 0:22:42.320 your French gye and you watch Love Is Blind. 0:22:42.720 --> 0:22:45.960 Thank you. I'm halfway through season eight, Like I get it. 0:22:46.359 --> 0:22:48.520 I get it, thoughts, but. 0:22:49.480 --> 0:22:52.239 I know, no, it's not for you, Cheryl, It's not 0:22:52.359 --> 0:22:53.000