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Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? It's your girl lex Peak any girl?

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Speaker 2: Drain the call and you are tuned in to another

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Speaker 2: episode of Poor Minds. We're a drunk mind speaks sober

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Speaker 2: thoughts and guys, y'all know, y'all been asking and y'all

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Speaker 2: been waiting, and we finally have y'all's faith here with

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Speaker 2: us today. I'm not even gonna give you, you know,

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Speaker 2: an announcement. I just want them to.

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Speaker 1: Listen to your voice. Say who it is? Girl? What

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Speaker 1: are you?

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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna hold you, but I got many from

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Speaker 2: horrible decisions joining us today.

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Speaker 1: A peg d Salius. What's up? God's been with you

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Speaker 1: for a week. How are you good? I'm good? Okay.

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Speaker 2: So what we do to start the show off is

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Speaker 2: we just do an update? So what's been going on

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Speaker 2: this past week? Little dre d any new news?

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Speaker 1: What's up? What you've been doing? I ain't seen you

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Speaker 1: in the week.

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Speaker 2: I know I didn't.

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Speaker 1: He was in Houston. Yeah, that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: H We're having some craziness going on this week. But

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Speaker 2: you know you don't give the girls too much, and

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Speaker 2: I can't be too much. Well, y'all know, I tell

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Speaker 2: all my business me and football bay is.

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Speaker 1: Uh, we're in a really.

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Speaker 2: Weird space right now. I thought we were done, but

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Speaker 2: he's actually been hitting me up again.

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Speaker 1: It's he had to do and say what you're doing?

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Speaker 2: No, No, we were in a very weird space and

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Speaker 2: he didn't hit me up and say what we were doing.

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Speaker 2: He was saying like something was going on, like he

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Speaker 2: had a near death experience in his family.

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Speaker 1: No, but I don't know. Three day girl.

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Speaker 2: But you have to realize I talked to this man

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Speaker 2: every day, so us going without three days talking.

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Speaker 1: That's a big deal to me.

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Speaker 2: Be emotional as I But if I if I'm fucking Mandy,

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Speaker 2: if you fucking with a nigga, you say, if I

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Speaker 1: Talking, I'll be busy. I be forgetting to hit my

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Speaker 1: fuck But you don't mean I like them any less.

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Speaker 1: I just get busy and wrapped up with me. I

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Speaker 1: don't know how you expect to talk to your niggas

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Speaker 1: every day.

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Speaker 2: I don't see Mandy cut a nigga off because she

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Speaker 2: didn't talk to him for.

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Speaker 1: Our day like that? Who I did that too? You

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Speaker 1: say that what was a dude that you had met

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Speaker 1: at the pool party? Oh?

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Speaker 2: No, I cut him off for I cut him off

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Speaker 2: because when I got back to New York from the

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Speaker 2: West Coast. Mind you, we were talking from the pool party.

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Speaker 2: I was out on the west in the West Coast

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Speaker 2: for ten days. We talked every day. Bitch, I get

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Speaker 2: back to New York, we go, I'm there another five days.

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Speaker 1: There's no plans for us to go on a date

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Speaker 1: or link.

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Speaker 2: Up all for five days. And I've been in town

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Speaker 2: now for another five days. So my nigga, at this point,

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Speaker 2: we've been talking for three weeks and you still ain't

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Speaker 2: setting no date up for us to each other.

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Speaker 1: What are we doing? I don't want no pimpa by

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Speaker 1: I cannot I mean I can agree with that.

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Speaker 2: That out of time and you get back and you

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Speaker 2: there for five days and you still up no date?

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Speaker 1: Like what we're doing?

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Speaker 2: Bye?

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Speaker 1: Okay, the wrong next one.

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Speaker 2: The thing is my thing is though, I like the

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Speaker 2: dynamic of my relationships to stay the same. So if

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Speaker 2: we talk every day and that's what we do, why

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Speaker 2: are you switching it up? I can't agree with that,

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Speaker 2: But then maybe that's the problem.

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Speaker 1: But it's not no, but it's not me. I don't

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Speaker 2: That was on him like enjoying switch up because now

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Speaker 2: he got a whole situation look.

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Speaker 3: Like.

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Speaker 2: But anyway, but besides that word, I mean, but I

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Speaker 2: I really like him and don't see where it goes.

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Speaker 1: So that's my update. Like him special.

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Speaker 2: The conversation is just really good. I'm super not that

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Speaker 1: He's good. We have good conversations. I'm gonna track it

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Speaker 1: to it it ain't.

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Speaker 2: But I just last week I went to tou Loom.

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Speaker 2: I had a great time in tu Loom. I was

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Speaker 1: That's what I've been doing. You had a great time

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Speaker 2: That's what I did. My friends were arguing. They were

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Speaker 2: arguing getting into it, but I personally had a great.

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Speaker 1: Time because I was drunk the whole time. They were

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Speaker 2: I just think I just think, to me, especially with

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Speaker 2: on the same accord otherwise. But that could even be

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Speaker 2: if y'all all decided to go to the club one night,

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Speaker 2: like just I like to go, but it was want

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna get into it with them while we're out

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Speaker 1: It was only four of us.

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Speaker 2: But like I said, I didn't argue with nobody because

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Speaker 1: But y'all know me. Both of y'all know me.

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Speaker 2: I'm not like to argue. It's especially when I'm on vacation.

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Speaker 2: I'm just trying to get drunk and turn up. We

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Speaker 2: we went to Jamaica, Yeah, we had a good time too,

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Speaker 2: But like we went to Jamaica together, we just got back.

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Speaker 1: From DC together. Bitch, we had a good time. We

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Speaker 1: were just drunk the whole time. Even though she left

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Speaker 1: me in the club, y'all, we don't tell that. Do

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Speaker 1: you want to tell the story?

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Speaker 2: Do you want me to tell a story about what

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Speaker 2: she was doing? I mean, all I was doing was

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Speaker 1: Girl, a girl, a fan. I didn't meet her in

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Speaker 2: She was cute and then Sharona. Shauna's was like, oh

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Speaker 2: she fine, I said, back away, that's mine.

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Speaker 1: I'm dead.

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Speaker 2: Ye.

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Speaker 1: So Manny was making out with fans.

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Speaker 2: So first of all, she was there with Weezy, she

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Speaker 1: That was at the club. We was making out. We girl,

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Speaker 1: man and b show. Don't do that? Did not me?

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Speaker 2: By meeting Greek and you might get the beats gating, Yo, honestly,

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Speaker 1: How much didn't.

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Speaker 2: I said, you're not gonna sell and buy a meet

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Speaker 2: many fans get to fun these rappers, so chi give.

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Speaker 1: So that's what I'm giving out A kiss that's not

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Speaker 1: in comparison. Kids. That was a kid. It was a

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Speaker 2: Manny, look at my face and tell me you pack

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Speaker 2: that girl. Please, you can get me in my face

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Speaker 1: Line like ship. You know how many get them. Look

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Speaker 1: at you don't do that around each other.

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Speaker 3: Drunk you shady all you dre you know.

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Speaker 1: and get into the topic. Yes, come on outline. So

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Speaker 2: Topic, I want to talk about, you know, when you

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Speaker 2: first go on a date with somebody. Of course, us

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Speaker 2: being talkers and we like to get to know people,

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Speaker 1: So I want to know how.

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Speaker 2: Y'all feel, would you date a man that's homophobic?

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Speaker 2: I'm more having this conversation. I show her this fine

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Speaker 1: I was talking to him.

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Speaker 2: He's so handsome, and so me and him were talking.

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Speaker 2: And so when we got to talking about it, he

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Speaker 2: And so I definitely got homophobic vice from him, and

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Speaker 1: I don't try.

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Speaker 2: I try not to judge people on their beliefs, like right,

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Speaker 2: you have a right to feel about whatever you want

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Speaker 1: But my thing is, I we all live in sin.

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Speaker 2: So I just hate when people are so judgmental on

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Speaker 1: Why do you care so much? Why do you care?

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Speaker 1: Well you know, they call me queer phobicon.

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Speaker 2: And that's all my mama. And but see how that

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Speaker 2: I brought this up when I was on the friend Zone.

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Speaker 1: If we sit here, it can be accepting the same

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Speaker 1: way we're open with Babe, I made out with my homegirl, yeah.

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Speaker 2: I don't think that she was saying it is something

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Speaker 2: I'm just why is it that women can explore our sexuality?

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Speaker 1: Understand that's it? Yeah, I said that the same way,

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Speaker 1: You gay.

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Speaker 2: Not what I'm saying, though, but we'll not gay bisexual.

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Speaker 2: All the time all the time.

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Speaker 1: Just think it's almost like an obsession.

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Speaker 1: It's a whole g spot in there, So they're missing

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Speaker 2: Done, I do I just put enough lube on it,

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Speaker 1: Gonna like poke some No.

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Speaker 2: I just had a thressome and my nails was this long,

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Speaker 2: Guys. So I want to talk about you know, when

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Speaker 2: you first start dating someone, when is it to let them.

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Speaker 2: No, because let me explain though, because I see a

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Speaker 2: But do you expect your you expect your rent to

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Speaker 2: You expect just like I expect if I'm dating somebody

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Speaker 2: So when do you tell somebody what you expect in

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Speaker 2: So when do you let somebody know all of your

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Speaker 2: for you to pay some views?

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Speaker 1: Period? So would you tell me once you start having

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Speaker 2: Because I feel like when you're initially first dating somebody,

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Speaker 2: like we just dated. We have to know each other

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Speaker 2: once they are an expectation said, and you let me know.

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Speaker 2: Oh I'm not cool what you're doing. So I don't

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Speaker 2: Well you need to start paying some meals?

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Speaker 1: Right, Okay? Because I disagree? Yes, let's go.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because that's the real brokey girl type of mindset.

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Speaker 1: What you mean like, if we're.

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Speaker 2: Not living together, then you're you don't need to pay

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Speaker 1: If you have your apartment and I have my apartment.

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Speaker 2: Why am I expecting you to pay my bills just

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Speaker 2: because we go together. I didn't know we live once

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Speaker 2: It's because there's some some sort of transaction or arrangement

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Speaker 2: you gotta pay for mine too?

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Speaker 1: The fuck kind of bullshit is that? Well?

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Speaker 2: I didn't know that we were talking specifically about. I

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Speaker 1: Because I said expectations?

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Speaker 2: Because yeah, when like initially I don't expect you to

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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna ask you to pay my bills, but

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Speaker 2: if you want to offer to pay them, holes, you

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00:20:23,240 --> 00:20:25,560
Speaker 2: could definitely pay them and I could save my money

444
00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:26,240
Speaker 2: and keep my money and.

445
00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:28,280
Speaker 1: Expect people to pay their bills.

446
00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:30,399
Speaker 2: Though right now I don't expect somebody to pay my bills.

447
00:20:30,520 --> 00:20:33,200
Speaker 2: I ended up being in a lucky situation where somebody

448
00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:35,560
Speaker 2: offered to pay my bills. I ad to pay my bills,

449
00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:37,639
Speaker 2: not one time. I never asked him to do. She

450
00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:40,159
Speaker 2: everything he did, he was doing because that's what he

451
00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:42,480
Speaker 2: wanted to do. But we never had a conversation where

452
00:20:42,520 --> 00:20:45,800
Speaker 2: I was like, Okay, we've been dating for about five

453
00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:48,000
Speaker 2: six months now, when I think she's getting serious, you

454
00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:49,720
Speaker 2: need to start paying my bills because you're always.

455
00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:53,000
Speaker 1: Coming over here. I think even though we talked like,

456
00:20:53,080 --> 00:20:56,480
Speaker 1: I think that there needs to be a.

457
00:20:55,640 --> 00:20:59,040
Speaker 2: Divide as to Okay, is this nigga, Are we are

458
00:20:59,080 --> 00:21:02,399
Speaker 2: we dating like a boyfriend girlfriend building relationship or is

459
00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:04,960
Speaker 2: this a trick nigga because it's a situationship. Is this

460
00:21:05,119 --> 00:21:08,439
Speaker 2: a okay, you're paying my bills because you got a

461
00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:10,280
Speaker 2: whole bunch of money and a whole bunch of situations

462
00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:12,639
Speaker 2: that I can't question you about and x y Z.

463
00:21:12,920 --> 00:21:14,520
Speaker 1: But if you and me are dating, I'm not gonna

464
00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:17,560
Speaker 1: expect you well I'm not live. My point of view

465
00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:18,840
Speaker 1: on it is, if I'm.

466
00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:21,560
Speaker 2: Dating you, I always feel like my man should check

467
00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:24,480
Speaker 2: up on me and say, hey, you straight. That's just

468
00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:26,800
Speaker 2: me And I don't feel like that make you brow. No, No,

469
00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:28,800
Speaker 2: I'm not even that. Like you know, we all have

470
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:31,080
Speaker 2: our ups, our downs, whatever. At the end of the day,

471
00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:32,840
Speaker 2: you know my rent is gonna get paid. I always

472
00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:36,160
Speaker 2: figure out my rent. But I just always feel like

473
00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:39,040
Speaker 2: a man should always just make sure his woman is straight.

474
00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:40,440
Speaker 1: Like you need anything you good?

475
00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:43,159
Speaker 2: In my past, you need anything you good? Could be

476
00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:45,520
Speaker 2: like did you eat today? All right, I'll make sure

477
00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:47,879
Speaker 2: you have something to eat. Like it doesn't necessarily have

478
00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:54,320
Speaker 2: to be your whole livelihood if you can pay for

479
00:21:54,440 --> 00:21:56,800
Speaker 2: it yourself without the nigga giving you the money. I

480
00:21:56,840 --> 00:22:00,399
Speaker 2: don't think he's taking care of your livelihood. It's extra.

481
00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:02,240
Speaker 2: It's extra.

482
00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:04,600
Speaker 1: Like I'm not gonna like.

483
00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:06,920
Speaker 2: I said, I think it's extra too, And I don't

484
00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:09,360
Speaker 2: see nothing wrong with if you're dating somebody and they

485
00:22:09,960 --> 00:22:13,600
Speaker 2: have the funds to do so I won't just stay Realistically,

486
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:17,639
Speaker 2: and if y'all have, if y'all have the listeners that

487
00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:19,920
Speaker 2: not only we have, but Cocktails has and all these

488
00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:22,200
Speaker 2: other like, there's a lot of women listening where when

489
00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:24,920
Speaker 2: we're when we're dating, they're not dealing with men who

490
00:22:24,920 --> 00:22:28,960
Speaker 2: can afford their lifestyles and what they take care of

491
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:31,200
Speaker 2: at home. And then just because I'm dating you, now,

492
00:22:31,280 --> 00:22:35,840
Speaker 2: oh yeah, let me take care of your life. Everybody's

493
00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:39,720
Speaker 2: expectations are different. So we gotta got off topic, like

494
00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:41,840
Speaker 2: we all so.

495
00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:44,400
Speaker 1: Well.

496
00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:48,160
Speaker 2: The conversation is when do you tell somebody your expectations,

497
00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:50,520
Speaker 2: like on the first day, or do you tell them

498
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 2: whenever they start expecting things. I feel like when you

499
00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:56,040
Speaker 2: start expecting ship from me, that's when I feel like

500
00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:56,600
Speaker 2: it's okay.

501
00:22:56,640 --> 00:22:58,480
Speaker 1: If I need to ask you for something, I can

502
00:22:58,520 --> 00:22:59,080
Speaker 1: ask you.

503
00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:03,199
Speaker 2: See, I think how you're asking this question is I

504
00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:08,720
Speaker 2: think you're asking it from a materialistic monetary aspect. Like

505
00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:11,520
Speaker 2: to me, expectations when I talk to somebody, it's what

506
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:15,000
Speaker 2: are your expectations with me? So are you open to

507
00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:19,240
Speaker 2: a relationship? If you are, then what are the steps

508
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:20,960
Speaker 2: that we go through that. If you're not looking for

509
00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:23,280
Speaker 2: a relationship, are you just looking for sex?

510
00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:26,400
Speaker 1: If you're just looking for sex, that's something, that's why.

511
00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:29,399
Speaker 2: And if I don't, then okay, now I come to

512
00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:31,600
Speaker 2: him where if this is all you want from me,

513
00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:33,960
Speaker 2: this is what I would expect from you, But that

514
00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:37,720
Speaker 2: then becomes an arrangement or a transaction or that's not.

515
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:40,920
Speaker 1: We're dating and getting to know each other, talking about expectations.

516
00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:45,720
Speaker 2: That's now okay, I now see you don't want a girlfriend, bet,

517
00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:48,800
Speaker 2: but you clearly want to fuck. Well guess what if

518
00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:51,000
Speaker 2: you want to fuck, this is what I'm gonna want

519
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:54,040
Speaker 2: in exchange for us fucking, And then it becomes an arrangement.

520
00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:56,359
Speaker 1: But that's what I said, and you said you disagreed.

521
00:23:56,600 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 2: Yeah no, because you talk about your expectations is far.

522
00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:02,320
Speaker 1: If I'm dating you and you like me and I

523
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:08,280
Speaker 1: like you, these bills got to get. But I never

524
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:10,320
Speaker 1: real quick because I didn't.

525
00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:13,800
Speaker 2: I never mended from a materialistic point of view. We

526
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:16,840
Speaker 2: just started talking about it because what he talked about earlier,

527
00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 2: like I'm dating a guy with kids, so I don't

528
00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:22,440
Speaker 2: know what he expects from me. So and he let

529
00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:24,200
Speaker 2: me know what he expected from me, but it kind

530
00:24:24,200 --> 00:24:25,840
Speaker 2: of was like, oh, this is kind of too soon.

531
00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:27,480
Speaker 1: I feel for us to be talking about it. But

532
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:29,240
Speaker 1: it's like, but is it because we don't want to

533
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:29,720
Speaker 1: waste each other?

534
00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 2: I think it's not expectations. It's literally just y'all getting

535
00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:36,080
Speaker 2: to know each other. Like we had the conversation and

536
00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:38,119
Speaker 2: you said, he has kids, and y'all got into the

537
00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:40,639
Speaker 2: well do you cook conversation and you said, no, I

538
00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 2: don't cook, and he said, well, I have kids. That

539
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:45,480
Speaker 2: is clearly him saying, bitch, you're gonna have to cook

540
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:49,040
Speaker 2: for these kids. So so to me, that's just that's

541
00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:51,399
Speaker 2: just literally basic conversation of y'all.

542
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 1: You know. So, Y don't feel like that was him

543
00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 1: letting me know what he expects from me.

544
00:24:55,960 --> 00:24:59,560
Speaker 2: No, I think that's him giving you the idea that

545
00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 2: I would want my woman to cook, that I might

546
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:08,080
Speaker 2: have to whip up some real cheese I might have top.

547
00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:10,640
Speaker 1: We just had the conversation.

548
00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 2: Let me ask, y'all, because what you just said, you

549
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:16,359
Speaker 2: don't talking too much.

550
00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:16,879
Speaker 1: You don't cook it all.

551
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:20,919
Speaker 2: Let me ask dream, how soon are you cooking for

552
00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:22,960
Speaker 2: a man that you having sex with? And do you

553
00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:27,080
Speaker 2: cook for a man that you just fucking First of all, No,

554
00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:29,800
Speaker 2: I don't cook for niggas. I'm just fucking well, I

555
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,720
Speaker 2: don't know not yeah, niggas, I'm just fucking.

556
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:37,320
Speaker 1: How long mm hmmm. It just depends.

557
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 2: It means on how much I like you. Okay, it

558
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:42,199
Speaker 2: depends on how much I like you. And if I

559
00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:45,200
Speaker 2: don't like you, I'm not cooking for you, but you

560
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:46,960
Speaker 2: but you fucking them but you don't like them. I

561
00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 2: feel like you get what I'm saying. Okay, Wait, I

562
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:56,280
Speaker 2: mean yeah, because I'm not about some niggas that I

563
00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 2: don't like. But it just depends on how much I

564
00:25:58,440 --> 00:25:58,719
Speaker 2: like you.

565
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:01,240
Speaker 1: Like if I like you, I feel like cooking for

566
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:06,360
Speaker 1: somebody is girlfriend. I feel like cooking for somebody I'm

567
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:08,840
Speaker 1: gonna maybe a meal occasionally is girlfriend. Shit.

568
00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:10,639
Speaker 2: But I think if you getting somebody used to the

569
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 2: expectations of you cooking for them all the time, then yeah,

570
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 2: we need to be in a relationship.

571
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:16,159
Speaker 1: I agree.

572
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like that's definitely to me that's girlfriends girlfriend?

573
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:21,800
Speaker 2: Why and why should I cook for you all the

574
00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 2: time and you ain't maybe your girlfriend? What's gonna make

575
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:25,399
Speaker 2: you want to make me your girlfriend? If I'm already

576
00:26:25,400 --> 00:26:31,200
Speaker 2: doing girlfriend without the title. I agree, I agree.

577
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 1: With you, look at this disagree on.

578
00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:41,200
Speaker 2: Okay, So for me to answer the question like I said,

579
00:26:41,560 --> 00:26:43,960
Speaker 2: you don't cook, that wasn't I'll tell you about the

580
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 2: expectations bitch. For me, I feel like, when do I

581
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 2: let somebody know my expectations, I like to just see first.

582
00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:54,159
Speaker 1: Of all, where things are going.

583
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:56,440
Speaker 2: I don't sit on the first day and be like, oh,

584
00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:58,399
Speaker 2: this is what I expect from my relationship because this

585
00:26:58,440 --> 00:27:00,440
Speaker 2: is what my ex did. I just want to see

586
00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:03,240
Speaker 2: where your mind is because I'm not gonna lie for

587
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 2: me as a person, as a human being.

588
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:06,960
Speaker 1: I'm a bomb ass bitch, and.

589
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:08,320
Speaker 2: I feel like I have a lot to offer to

590
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:10,600
Speaker 2: a man, you know, like honestly, and that's how I feel.

591
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 1: So I don't want to put all.

592
00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 2: That on the table, be like, Okay, this is what

593
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:15,520
Speaker 2: I have to bring to the table, and I'm not putting.

594
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:18,160
Speaker 1: My resume down for no nigga. I let you know, yeah,

595
00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:19,080
Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not doing that.

596
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:20,920
Speaker 2: So I feel like, when you're on a first day

597
00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:24,640
Speaker 2: with somebody, let them know that your expectations off bat

598
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:25,520
Speaker 2: then they want to.

599
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 1: Know, Okay, well you want all this, what do you

600
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 1: bring to the table.

601
00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 2: I feel like this conversation can get real fucking missed

602
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:35,399
Speaker 2: as soon as a man says that yes, yes, So

603
00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 2: I feel like a first day to let somebody your know,

604
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,960
Speaker 2: to know off the bat what your expectations are, it

605
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 2: could get real fucking messing real quick. We've talked about

606
00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:46,159
Speaker 2: these on the Shawl numerous times. Then, I feel like

607
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:49,679
Speaker 2: we both agreed before that it's weirdest fuck to be

608
00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:52,199
Speaker 2: talking about what you expect somebody to do for you

609
00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:52,959
Speaker 2: on the first few day.

610
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:55,400
Speaker 1: But I'm not talking about just materialistically. I'm just talking

611
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:55,720
Speaker 1: about it.

612
00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:57,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I just feel like that's what But

613
00:27:57,960 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 2: that's what I said initially when we first started conversation,

614
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:05,720
Speaker 2: expectations in general, expectations in general, like not just material sheet,

615
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:09,360
Speaker 2: but well, when I first asked a question, both y'all

616
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 2: was like, straight away off top, both y'all did say

617
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 2: that when we started the conversation. I mean, I can

618
00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 2: rewind the tapes, but I said, when do you let

619
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:22,920
Speaker 2: somebody know what you expect from the relationship, y'all? I'm

620
00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:28,320
Speaker 2: not so I do, and I well, I compartmentalize the

621
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:31,200
Speaker 2: men in my life, so I'm not looking for like

622
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:34,120
Speaker 2: if I'm talking to a man and maybe we're talking business.

623
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:36,879
Speaker 2: You're now just a friend, we're talking business. If you

624
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:38,520
Speaker 2: come and talk to me and I know you got

625
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:40,560
Speaker 2: either a girlfriend or a wife, and you're still trying

626
00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 2: to pursue me, bet, now we set up our arrangement,

627
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 2: I'm gonna let you know you gotta pack. But if

628
00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 2: you're single and I know I do genuinely want to

629
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 2: be in a relationship with somebody or have a partner,

630
00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 2: I'm gonna let you know that's what I'm looking for

631
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:55,720
Speaker 2: because right now I do have somebody that I have

632
00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 2: sex with, So I'm not looking.

633
00:28:57,240 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 1: For someone just to fuck.

634
00:28:58,800 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 2: Just just I agree with that because we've talked about

635
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:04,600
Speaker 2: this before. Now I'm not saying, hie the way you

636
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 2: feel or try to be like the cool person I

637
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:10,280
Speaker 2: always feel like once you start developing feelings for somebody, I'm.

638
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:10,840
Speaker 1: Gonna let you know what.

639
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 2: Yes, you need to be honest and tell that person, Okay, hey,

640
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:16,360
Speaker 2: I like you. So I don't know if I wi't

641
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,120
Speaker 2: necessarily feel comfortable with you talking to other people and

642
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 2: this thing like that. Those conversations are okay to have,

643
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 2: but you Yeah, that's what I'm saying. So I mean upfront,

644
00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:28,600
Speaker 2: all of them. I'll put a nigga know up front. Listen,

645
00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:31,040
Speaker 2: I'm not looking to just have sex with somebody. I

646
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 2: don't know if you're even looking for a relationship, but

647
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:36,480
Speaker 2: right now that position is feel and I'm not looking

648
00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:38,240
Speaker 2: to add and you want to you cannot get high

649
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:40,880
Speaker 2: your kid and so and.

650
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:44,040
Speaker 1: I also, I am not looking for just male friends

651
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 1: to just sit on. I don't have time to sit on.

652
00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 2: The phone line, time to talk, and I love spending

653
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 2: time with my girlfriends. So if a man is pursuing me,

654
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 2: up front, I'm letting him know what I want.

655
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:56,240
Speaker 1: And if you can't be that nice meeting.

656
00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 2: You, nick, let's not waste each other. Don't don't waste

657
00:29:58,240 --> 00:29:59,720
Speaker 2: my time. What will y'all say?

658
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:03,760
Speaker 1: What are y'all looking for right now? Like? What do

659
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: you want right now? Do y'all? Do y'all want a boyfriend? Y'all?

660
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:10,280
Speaker 2: There's always you know what I'm saying. What do y'all

661
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:12,080
Speaker 2: want right now in your love life?

662
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:14,480
Speaker 1: Right now? What would be your ideal situation right now?

663
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 2: You go first, I'll go first, Go first?

664
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 1: What do you want? Every?

665
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 2: I'm ready to be in love every I've been in

666
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 2: a relationship in about a year and a half at

667
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:31,400
Speaker 2: this point, and I miss it.

668
00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 1: I really do want to.

669
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:34,360
Speaker 2: And I know we talk about me cheating a lot

670
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,120
Speaker 2: in my infidel, but I feel like I'm ready to.

671
00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 2: I'm ready to be an honest woman. I don't want

672
00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 2: to be married, but I'm definitely ready for a boyfriend.

673
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,440
Speaker 1: Y'all, are you going to be faithful? Yes, you're lying.

674
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:47,400
Speaker 1: No I'm not, because now you know why.

675
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 2: You know why I've been a cheater in the past,

676
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:53,920
Speaker 2: because every time, yes, and let me tell you why,

677
00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:56,120
Speaker 2: because I would find one quality and a man that

678
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 2: I liked, and I would get in a relationship with him,

679
00:30:57,760 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 2: just because I now know that if you don't check

680
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:04,320
Speaker 2: off my five boxes or six boxes or whatever I want,

681
00:31:04,520 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 2: I don't need to be in a relationship that with

682
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:08,280
Speaker 2: that person. Because we've talked about this. I'm a serial

683
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:10,840
Speaker 2: dater and I get in relationships like that. Even if

684
00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 2: a nigga wasn't checking off my boxes, I was just

685
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 2: get in a relationship with him because.

686
00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 1: I'm a relationship girl. Now I'm not doing that shit.

687
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 2: So now that I know you've been in love with

688
00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 2: this new but first of all, out of here.

689
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:28,400
Speaker 1: First of all lying lying athlete.

690
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:31,200
Speaker 2: No, But I mean, wait, no, just way for a second,

691
00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:32,720
Speaker 2: because I am being honest, because y'all know when I

692
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 2: say I'm in love, I'm joking. Y'all know that I

693
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 2: don't be knowing it's sister, you don't fall in love.

694
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 2: I mean, because I'm aliev we be saying that, but

695
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 2: we don't. But I'm being for real right now. I

696
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:44,880
Speaker 2: feel like, now I'm thirty, I really know what I

697
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 2: want and expect out of a man. So if I

698
00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:49,520
Speaker 2: have a man and I find that he checks off

699
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:50,880
Speaker 2: all them boxes.

700
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 1: Yes, but I've said that before.

701
00:31:52,480 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 2: Remember when he talked about the only dude I would

702
00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:56,080
Speaker 2: mess with, and when I was messing with him, I

703
00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:58,720
Speaker 2: would never mess with nobody else because he checked off

704
00:31:58,720 --> 00:32:00,160
Speaker 2: a lot of the boxes that I need to to

705
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,680
Speaker 2: check off. If a nigga checks off all them boxes,

706
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be faithful. So right now, for me, what

707
00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:06,760
Speaker 2: I'm looking for, bitch, I'll want a man.

708
00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:08,480
Speaker 1: Can I know what those boxes and tell me?

709
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 2: Yeah?

710
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 1: I would like to know.

711
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:17,240
Speaker 2: The boxes for me is he has to understand what

712
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 2: I do and how I am because I hate men

713
00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:22,360
Speaker 2: that look at me online or how I act on

714
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:24,720
Speaker 2: Twitter or Instagram and they judge that and they'd be like, oh,

715
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:25,720
Speaker 2: you need to calm it down.

716
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:28,520
Speaker 1: You need you the same person I'm in person I am.

717
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:31,240
Speaker 2: So That's why I've had guys in my past and

718
00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:32,880
Speaker 2: be like, hey, lex you need a tone it now.

719
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 2: You're not gonna make it if you keep being like

720
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 2: this and people not gonna take you seriously.

721
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:39,960
Speaker 1: So I need you to let me be myself. I

722
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 1: need you to let you.

723
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:44,000
Speaker 2: I need you to understand a lex Pi is a

724
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 2: goofy ass bitch and you need to let you be me.

725
00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:49,479
Speaker 2: That's not that's number two number you know what, You're

726
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 2: making this long. We're gonna do three, okay, okay, because

727
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 2: I'm putting my resume. I'm putting my resume out there.

728
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 2: I'm putting my resume out there for y'all.

729
00:32:58,280 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 1: So any mean they won't me just.

730
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:04,080
Speaker 2: Oh number two is I feel like I like, of course,

731
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:06,480
Speaker 2: men that are financially stable. I'm not saying you gotta

732
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 2: make a hundred million dollars, but like I tell people

733
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 2: all the time, just two million. You got a hundred

734
00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:13,560
Speaker 2: million nigga and one hundred thousand niggas a hundred dollars

735
00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:15,520
Speaker 2: nigga gonna get me in, take me out to eat,

736
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:16,280
Speaker 2: I'm gonna choose.

737
00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:16,720
Speaker 1: Him every time.

738
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:18,560
Speaker 2: So as long as you're financially stable and I can

739
00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 2: do what I want to do, cool. Number three thing

740
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:23,560
Speaker 2: I would say is I don't like serious niggas.

741
00:33:23,760 --> 00:33:25,000
Speaker 1: You gotta be goofy as fuck with.

742
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, those are I've dated serious niggas and it's just

743
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 2: it fucking sucks.

744
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:32,160
Speaker 1: So those are the boxes that three boxes. I got both,

745
00:33:32,240 --> 00:33:34,760
Speaker 1: but I'm leaving. Okay, okay, So what are you looking for?

746
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:36,280
Speaker 1: May So I've talked about this.

747
00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 2: My problem is I have yet to see a relationship

748
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:40,440
Speaker 2: that I envy or that I would want.

749
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:44,040
Speaker 1: So to me, it's gonna be trial and error.

750
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 2: For while I was going through school, when I was younger,

751
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:50,840
Speaker 2: I was financially dependent upon a lot of like the

752
00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:52,480
Speaker 2: men who have been in my life for a long time,

753
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:57,040
Speaker 2: and so I wouldn't get into a relationship because unless

754
00:33:57,480 --> 00:34:00,200
Speaker 2: someone could come in and take the financial birth then

755
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 2: off of me that all these other men played a

756
00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:05,680
Speaker 2: larger part in, I wouldn't be in a relationship right

757
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:07,760
Speaker 2: now because I'm financially saved with myself.

758
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:10,520
Speaker 1: I would want a partner who makes as much as

759
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 1: at least matches me or more.

760
00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:19,000
Speaker 2: Someone who is maybe also a creative and understands what

761
00:34:19,120 --> 00:34:22,120
Speaker 2: I'm doing for a living and supports me and all that.

762
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:24,480
Speaker 1: But I don't know. It's weird because I think I

763
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:26,920
Speaker 1: do want someone who is kind of like a lover

764
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:29,920
Speaker 1: and a friend. So do you want to you want

765
00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:32,200
Speaker 1: to be in a relationship right now? I do. I do,

766
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 1: and I think I'm at a position where I can be.

767
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:38,200
Speaker 1: So it's just me finding the right I ain't even

768
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 1: gonna hold you, which I mean, I'll be stopped. I

769
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:42,520
Speaker 1: get uninterested in like a week.

770
00:34:43,200 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 2: Not only that, I feel like my schedule, my schedule

771
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 2: doesn't allow me to date like I would want to

772
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:51,279
Speaker 2: because I'm always out of town and don't do this.

773
00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:55,880
Speaker 2: And then outside of that, I do have a lot

774
00:34:55,920 --> 00:35:00,279
Speaker 2: of high profile guy friends, and so finding a man

775
00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 2: who's secure enough in me like oh yeah, like we

776
00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:06,480
Speaker 2: watched the Lakers game and yeah, that's my best friend

777
00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:08,719
Speaker 2: playing and him being okay with that, you know what

778
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 2: I mean, stuff like that.

779
00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:10,759
Speaker 1: So it's also just.

780
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:13,600
Speaker 2: Them being secure enough and they skin to allow me

781
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:15,839
Speaker 2: to be in these spaces that i'm because I mean,

782
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 2: you have to be a secure man today. Yeah, especially you,

783
00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 2: but just women in this industry. Yeah, so Mandy wants

784
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 2: a boyfriend.

785
00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:26,800
Speaker 1: I do, but but he got to be in the

786
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:30,600
Speaker 1: like we might we might have to swing. I also

787
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:31,400
Speaker 1: don't want like.

788
00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 2: What you were talking about, as far as like just

789
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:38,040
Speaker 2: the expectations of even once you start questioning people. That's

790
00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:40,759
Speaker 2: what I don't want, don't I don't want to be.

791
00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:42,359
Speaker 2: I don't want to have to feel like I gotta

792
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 2: check in with a nigga. I don't want to be

793
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:46,239
Speaker 2: like you always call.

794
00:35:46,200 --> 00:35:48,279
Speaker 1: Me at ten am. It's twelve. I ain't heard from

795
00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:50,360
Speaker 1: you yet. What I don't have the time for that.

796
00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:54,799
Speaker 2: My life is is disgusting, and so I just want

797
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 2: someone when I want to vent. You're there for me

798
00:35:57,040 --> 00:35:59,520
Speaker 2: when I find free time in my schedule. We make

799
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 2: plans to be with each other. I don't need to

800
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 2: see you every day. I don't want you on my

801
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 2: phone every day. I just want you to to check

802
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:09,319
Speaker 2: up on me, and then we fucking cuddle and make bluff.

803
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:18,800
Speaker 1: Goes. Let me just say they trying to play me,

804
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 1: but many love to sing. No, let me tell y'all

805
00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:25,560
Speaker 1: how we got kicked out of our hotel in d C.

806
00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 1: The first night, I'm sure girl. They came and knocked

807
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 1: on the door. I thought it was all right in

808
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 1: the club. It was security, like I don't want to somebody.

809
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 2: No, bitch, you were singing, Come on, bitch, don't do

810
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:46,440
Speaker 2: it already. I believe you, Mandy. I don't need you

811
00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:50,560
Speaker 2: to reenacted. But we always got kicked out, already.

812
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 1: Done something about five songs today. I don't letting you

813
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:55,800
Speaker 1: make it train lightly. I've been giving the girls what

814
00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:56,359
Speaker 1: they need.

815
00:36:57,800 --> 00:36:59,400
Speaker 2: Because I mean, I've been letting you do it. I

816
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 2: have said nothing the whole episode.

817
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:08,759
Speaker 1: So what you want? Do you want? Do you want

818
00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:09,400
Speaker 1: a relationship?

819
00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:09,600
Speaker 2: Drea?

820
00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 1: Are you good with how you know? I really don't

821
00:37:13,120 --> 00:37:16,520
Speaker 1: know if I want a relationship right You didn't answer

822
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:21,600
Speaker 1: her question? What was her question? Are you dad? I

823
00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:27,760
Speaker 1: just tried to. She said, Now I'm not dating anybody

824
00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 1: right now? Okay, no one at all? Wow? I mean

825
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:37,920
Speaker 1: is that really dating? Though? That's not really dating? How

826
00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:38,840
Speaker 1: is it not dating?

827
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:39,480
Speaker 2: I don't know.

828
00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:42,600
Speaker 1: Looking at If I'm fucking you and we're going on dates,

829
00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:46,840
Speaker 1: that's dating. No, it ain't. If we're going we're going to.

830
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:49,600
Speaker 2: Eat, Yes, if we're going out to eat and we're

831
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:50,600
Speaker 2: spending time together.

832
00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:51,840
Speaker 1: We on the phone, we faced.

833
00:37:52,840 --> 00:37:55,279
Speaker 2: I looking at the situations that you be in before.

834
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 2: It's not like a new situation, So I don't really.

835
00:37:57,440 --> 00:38:00,719
Speaker 1: Eat it doesn't it doesn't matter. Just let her live

836
00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:04,680
Speaker 1: in her situationship. Goddamn, it's not a situationship she's dating.

837
00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 1: I'm just saying it's dating. She's like, no, I'm not

838
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:24,600
Speaker 1: dating anybody to changing. It's not a situationship. She's dating.

839
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:28,920
Speaker 2: I ain't trying to get shot, but I mean, I

840
00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:31,280
Speaker 2: just don't know what I want, Like I feel sometimes

841
00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 2: I do feel like I want to be in a relationship,

842
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 2: and then sometimes I.

843
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 1: Feel like I feel like because I really feeling like

844
00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:40,279
Speaker 1: all these niggas is they are.

845
00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:42,480
Speaker 2: I really don't be knowing if I want to get

846
00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:45,279
Speaker 2: into a situation because in the beginning it's always butterflies

847
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:46,600
Speaker 2: and lies. No it ain't.

848
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:53,200
Speaker 1: That's not just telling it. But that's the thing. Even

849
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 1: there's not a lot of times where I've dated and

850
00:38:56,280 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 1: the puffy love faith very long. You are all aready

851
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:02,360
Speaker 1: annoying me. You are we already arguing? Why are we

852
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:03,800
Speaker 1: arguing two weeks into dating?

853
00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:07,520
Speaker 2: Like there's no time to even if we're already arguing

854
00:39:07,560 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 2: and things are going south and our schedules ain't right,

855
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 2: and you got all these excuses and if that ship

856
00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:16,359
Speaker 2: is happening early, oh baby, we don't cut the core early,

857
00:39:16,560 --> 00:39:19,799
Speaker 2: yaues either your aid not as interested as I am

858
00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:23,200
Speaker 2: in pursuing you and what this could possibly be, or

859
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 2: this just ain't gonna work because moving forward, our schedules

860
00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:28,200
Speaker 2: just on the line and this is only gonna get

861
00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:30,560
Speaker 2: get harder if I'm not getting along with you. I'm

862
00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:31,920
Speaker 2: not gonna lie if I'm not getting along with you

863
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:33,759
Speaker 2: within the first few weeks. So I'm gonna that's what

864
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:36,040
Speaker 2: I'm saying. Let's go ahead, and just because drops too

865
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:38,360
Speaker 2: early followday, like I said, for me, dating in the

866
00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 2: beginning is supposed to be, it's supposed to be.

867
00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 1: Wow. But y'all I'm already disagreed.

868
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 2: Look, but sometimes I did you did you get a

869
00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:50,359
Speaker 2: response from that good morning text?

870
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 1: Yet? I mean we talked, we talked, okay, Okay, we cool? Okay?

871
00:39:57,840 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 2: You boy?

872
00:39:58,640 --> 00:40:02,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I actually speaking of can we go to the

873
00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:05,439
Speaker 1: next topic. Let's go to the next topic. I'm gonna

874
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:08,040
Speaker 1: intro it because I know what it is. This is

875
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:08,879
Speaker 1: what I want to get into.

876
00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 2: Okay, Oh, go ahead, I want to talk about dating

877
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 2: somebody after that glow up. Here we go, because I

878
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:20,280
Speaker 2: just say you're.

879
00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:22,719
Speaker 1: Wrong, I am I wrong? Just say no.

880
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:24,880
Speaker 2: I mean I've had situations like for me, I always

881
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:26,600
Speaker 2: talk about how I got my body done, and there

882
00:40:26,719 --> 00:40:29,360
Speaker 2: was men that not necessarily that I hit on, but

883
00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:31,480
Speaker 2: I want it. But I don't hit on men first

884
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:33,319
Speaker 2: of all, but I would always try to like walk

885
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 2: by them and give them the eye, and they never

886
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:37,279
Speaker 2: really gave me no attention. But after I got my

887
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:39,279
Speaker 2: body done, you know, I talked about the nigga I

888
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 2: dealt with for three years. I wanted him for a

889
00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:44,759
Speaker 2: long time, and literally the day after I rolled out

890
00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:47,239
Speaker 2: the fucking bed and went to a party.

891
00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:49,640
Speaker 1: Bitch, he was like, yo, LEXP what up? And we

892
00:40:49,760 --> 00:40:50,960
Speaker 1: ended up talking for three years.

893
00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:51,440
Speaker 2: You know.

894
00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:53,640
Speaker 1: So I feel like, how do y'all feel about dating

895
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:55,960
Speaker 1: people after the glow up? I don't. I don't either.

896
00:40:56,360 --> 00:41:03,120
Speaker 1: I always so real, like I was always getting on

897
00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 1: it always.

898
00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:06,480
Speaker 2: But I couldn't speak on this because of course I've

899
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 2: had a transition over the last two years.

900
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:11,880
Speaker 1: I was much bigger, lost the weight, but.

901
00:41:12,120 --> 00:41:13,960
Speaker 2: Kind of like we talked about, like the niggas who

902
00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:17,480
Speaker 2: have been in my life have been with me through broke, poor, rich,

903
00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:22,839
Speaker 2: not rich like known unknown student not student that now

904
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:25,800
Speaker 2: that you know. And so but to me, like I

905
00:41:25,960 --> 00:41:28,600
Speaker 2: was saying, like, oh, I'll shoot my shot at a niggas.

906
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:30,800
Speaker 2: So if I was though, if I if I shot

907
00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:33,279
Speaker 2: my shot at you three years ago when I was

908
00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:35,319
Speaker 2: a big girl and you ain't really want to talk

909
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:38,759
Speaker 2: to me, but now you see, Oh the glow up

910
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:41,400
Speaker 2: as far as even not only my weight loss but

911
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:43,760
Speaker 2: the success I have now my confidence.

912
00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:45,560
Speaker 1: I don't want you now we'll see for me.

913
00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 2: I guess that's why it's a little different because I

914
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:50,080
Speaker 2: never shot my shot with these men because that's when

915
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:52,080
Speaker 2: me and Drea first, but you walking by a man

916
00:41:52,120 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 2: and not getting their attention but to me. But yeah,

917
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:59,240
Speaker 2: if listen, also back then, when I look at myself

918
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:02,719
Speaker 2: in pictures and how my demeanor was, I had no confidence.

919
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:05,080
Speaker 1: No, but that's funny why you didn't get the nigga,

920
00:42:05,120 --> 00:42:06,839
Speaker 1: and more so because of the fact that you got.

921
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:09,399
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying though, But that's how I felt

922
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 2: on the moment because Dre, you know, like when we

923
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:13,239
Speaker 2: first became friends, I wouldn't even go out with you

924
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:16,080
Speaker 2: because I had no confidence, So.

925
00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot. I remember I feel like

926
00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:18,960
Speaker 1: a lot of time.

927
00:42:19,120 --> 00:42:20,479
Speaker 2: Not only was that have to do with my body,

928
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 2: but I'm also different now like a lot of niggas,

929
00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:25,239
Speaker 2: I don't be like tight honestly. I mean, y'all look

930
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:26,759
Speaker 2: better now, but a lot of niggas don't like big

931
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:29,080
Speaker 2: titties and big person I'd be like, but she confident

932
00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:30,279
Speaker 2: as fuck, and they fucked with that.

933
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:33,200
Speaker 1: I didn't have this confidence back then, so I can

934
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:34,840
Speaker 1: kind of understand why nigga was.

935
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:36,759
Speaker 2: Like not want to fuck with twenty five year old

936
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:38,080
Speaker 2: me and want to fuck with thirty on me cause

937
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:40,200
Speaker 2: thirty year old me is lit. Twenty five year old

938
00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:42,839
Speaker 2: me was kind of like I wasn't sure who I was, right,

939
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:44,719
Speaker 2: and I was trying to fit in and do this.

940
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:46,360
Speaker 1: And I didn't know who I was.

941
00:42:46,680 --> 00:42:48,360
Speaker 2: If you ain't want me to understand it, but I

942
00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:50,600
Speaker 2: feel the same way because that's what I was gonna say.

943
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 2: I agree with what you were saying as far as

944
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 2: like when you was younger and you didn't really have

945
00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 2: no money and all that she and now you older

946
00:42:56,760 --> 00:42:58,279
Speaker 2: and niggas be wanting to fuck with you because they

947
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 2: see you got your sheet together now I could really

948
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 2: like to that. Maybe not the looks you know perspective

949
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:03,960
Speaker 2: of it, but it's like, yeah, if you didn't want

950
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:06,200
Speaker 2: to date me back then, when I ain't have sheet

951
00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:08,560
Speaker 2: or you feel like I was broke, I wouldn't do anything.

952
00:43:08,560 --> 00:43:10,840
Speaker 1: Why you want to talk to me now? Atlanta?

953
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 2: And it looks on social media like I'm doing all

954
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 2: of these and doing all of that now you're trying

955
00:43:14,680 --> 00:43:17,160
Speaker 2: to slide in my DM right to me, I just

956
00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:19,239
Speaker 2: if you ain't want me when I was broke, you

957
00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 2: ain't gonna haven me when I was rich. If you

958
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:22,120
Speaker 2: ain't want me when I was fat, you ain't gonna

959
00:43:22,120 --> 00:43:24,040
Speaker 2: have me when I'm slim there and that I don't

960
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 2: want you to here like like I just feel like

961
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:29,919
Speaker 2: I've been the same person throughout like all these years

962
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:31,960
Speaker 2: and ship We've kind of known each other through social

963
00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 2: but always been like a super confident regardless. So to me, like,

964
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 2: if you ain't want me, then you ain't gonna be then.

965
00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:42,560
Speaker 2: Actually they didn't want me back then and they still

966
00:43:42,600 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 2: want me, but you.

967
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 1: Ain't gonna have me. I can't hand me now.

968
00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:49,719
Speaker 2: I grew up like I grew up very different. I

969
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 2: wasn't the I was the popular kid because I was funny.

970
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 1: I was never the bad bitch. I was never you

971
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:55,480
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying.

972
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:57,879
Speaker 2: I always was just relying on my jokes to get

973
00:43:57,920 --> 00:43:59,239
Speaker 2: me in a dog and fuck with people and do

974
00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:02,680
Speaker 2: ship like so I feel like I guess I'm okay

975
00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:05,160
Speaker 2: with it for me because like I said, I don't.

976
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:07,920
Speaker 1: I feel like I get better every year, so I.

977
00:44:07,960 --> 00:44:09,960
Speaker 2: Can understand if a nigga back in the day day

978
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 2: then won't LEXP and he won't XP now because I'm

979
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:15,400
Speaker 2: fucking lit and I get better as I always been

980
00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:16,880
Speaker 2: leading if you ain't want me to, you don't want

981
00:44:16,880 --> 00:44:17,760
Speaker 2: to know what I'm saying.

982
00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:18,320
Speaker 1: But that's because of you.

983
00:44:18,440 --> 00:44:21,120
Speaker 2: You've always been attractive, You've always been a trait. You

984
00:44:21,160 --> 00:44:24,480
Speaker 2: don't feel like you've always been all. I know that's crazy,

985
00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:27,319
Speaker 2: that's just my opinion. But that's how I feel right,

986
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:29,920
Speaker 2: and that's okay. That's why I got my little coincyre

987
00:44:29,960 --> 00:44:31,839
Speaker 2: and when I got my body done. I love my body.

988
00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:35,080
Speaker 2: I'm confidence now. This is confidence that I've never had before,

989
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:37,520
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, So I can understand it.

990
00:44:37,640 --> 00:44:39,800
Speaker 2: I guess being the person on the other side because

991
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:42,080
Speaker 2: the guy that I was with for three years. Like

992
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:45,719
Speaker 2: he was the type of person. He's very cocky, very intensive,

993
00:44:45,760 --> 00:44:47,120
Speaker 2: and that's how he like his bitches.

994
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:50,319
Speaker 1: Every one of the bitches that he dates, they'd be like, bitch,

995
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:51,000
Speaker 1: I'm that bitch.

996
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:52,840
Speaker 2: So why would he be interested in me back then

997
00:44:52,880 --> 00:44:56,239
Speaker 2: when I'm just like here right, I'm lex you know.

998
00:44:56,400 --> 00:44:59,120
Speaker 2: But now I'm like, nigga is LEXP and this motherfucker

999
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:01,640
Speaker 2: Mama big Mama just saw so he was like, okay,

1000
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:03,320
Speaker 2: I'll see you with it.

1001
00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:07,520
Speaker 1: I mean there's different situations. I think there's definitely different situations.

1002
00:45:07,600 --> 00:45:09,960
Speaker 1: But that's just for me. I don't mind a nigga

1003
00:45:10,000 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 1: fucking with me now after my glow up. Heard you

1004
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:16,000
Speaker 1: heard you heard you. I don't feel you, but I

1005
00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:17,520
Speaker 1: hear you. Okay, but excuse me.

1006
00:45:17,719 --> 00:45:24,719
Speaker 2: The two I've always been bad bitches. Wet we knows.

1007
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:31,320
Speaker 2: We get to throw back every Thursday. I though, Okay,

1008
00:45:31,360 --> 00:45:37,400
Speaker 2: so we're gonna get into the b b A maybe Abe,

1009
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 2: I'm gonna put you the fat Okay.

1010
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:42,919
Speaker 1: See, this is what you're not gonna do. You see

1011
00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:46,360
Speaker 1: you see this lane, This lane is my singing lane.

1012
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:51,480
Speaker 1: You're gonna stay over here with little Okay. So today

1013
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:53,400
Speaker 1: I want to talk about. You want to kind of

1014
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:56,280
Speaker 1: introduce this topic because this came from you. What's the topic?

1015
00:45:56,360 --> 00:46:01,239
Speaker 1: Because this is the time limits. So we we're having

1016
00:46:01,280 --> 00:46:03,759
Speaker 1: the conversation. I guess, so this is the topic of sex.

1017
00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:05,080
Speaker 1: You would have me introduced this.

1018
00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:07,840
Speaker 2: I love it. So we were having the conversation of

1019
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 2: using condoms with partners. Basically, this was a conversation we

1020
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:15,040
Speaker 2: had on horrible decisions before that took kind of a

1021
00:46:15,160 --> 00:46:19,720
Speaker 2: left turn because I had made mentioned that the person

1022
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:22,719
Speaker 2: who I do fuck and who is pretty much my

1023
00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:26,400
Speaker 2: only sex partner for the most part, We've been fucking

1024
00:46:26,400 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 2: for about seven years and we have always used condoms,

1025
00:46:31,480 --> 00:46:34,040
Speaker 2: and we'll fuck like three rounds of times.

1026
00:46:34,080 --> 00:46:35,560
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'll fuck him once a week.

1027
00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:40,480
Speaker 2: We have fucked a lot of times, including threesomes in

1028
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:43,680
Speaker 2: which there was just a change of condom happening. So

1029
00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:49,440
Speaker 2: basically the conversation was how long do you continue to

1030
00:46:49,600 --> 00:46:51,360
Speaker 2: use a condom with someone when you're fucking, because I

1031
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:54,719
Speaker 2: feel like once you fuck someone a few times, people

1032
00:46:54,760 --> 00:46:57,239
Speaker 2: think it's then okay to just take the condom off.

1033
00:46:57,760 --> 00:47:00,480
Speaker 1: I'll share my opinion on that and why.

1034
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:02,839
Speaker 2: The person I've been fucking for seven years we still

1035
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:07,880
Speaker 2: use condoms. We both know that we have other partners. Simple,

1036
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:11,440
Speaker 2: we're not exclusive, we're not together, we're not married. We

1037
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:13,840
Speaker 2: both know that we both have sex with other people.

1038
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:17,920
Speaker 2: You know, he may or may not still be fucking

1039
00:47:18,280 --> 00:47:20,960
Speaker 2: on and off of his baby mom. I'm you know,

1040
00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:24,439
Speaker 2: I have my niggas from the past that I still

1041
00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:27,600
Speaker 2: fuck with that he's aware of because we talk about it. So,

1042
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:30,479
Speaker 2: because we both know that we're having sex with other people,

1043
00:47:30,520 --> 00:47:32,359
Speaker 2: there's no need for us to be fucking each other

1044
00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:34,360
Speaker 2: wrong when we both.

1045
00:47:34,280 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 1: Don't know if we're not fucking other people wrong.

1046
00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:42,360
Speaker 2: So to me, it doesn't matter how many times you

1047
00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:47,520
Speaker 2: fuck somebody as long as y'all are not exclusive and

1048
00:47:47,680 --> 00:47:50,560
Speaker 2: y'all aren't sharing results with each other on a.

1049
00:47:52,560 --> 00:47:55,560
Speaker 1: You know, consistent basis. I don't believe you should just

1050
00:47:55,640 --> 00:47:57,880
Speaker 1: be having raw sex with someone.

1051
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:07,000
Speaker 2: That is one hundred percent correct, is very very smart,

1052
00:48:07,480 --> 00:48:09,239
Speaker 2: and you all should listen to.

1053
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:13,560
Speaker 1: So go ahead and pull out me. I had engaged

1054
00:48:13,800 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 1: some risky bag.

1055
00:48:14,920 --> 00:48:17,680
Speaker 2: You know, y'all, I'm gonna be real on your knows

1056
00:48:17,800 --> 00:48:22,200
Speaker 2: is red you said earlier, clown clown makeup. So let

1057
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:26,480
Speaker 2: me tell y'all, it's very important to have that conversation

1058
00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:30,759
Speaker 2: of being exclusive. Now I was dealing with a guy

1059
00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:34,480
Speaker 2: and we weren't exclusive, but we definitely had to talk

1060
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:37,000
Speaker 2: that we were only having sex with each other unprotected.

1061
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:40,520
Speaker 2: But I know, I know, I put I said, my

1062
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:42,840
Speaker 2: clown noses on bench, let me finish.

1063
00:48:42,960 --> 00:48:46,640
Speaker 1: God damn it. But for me, like if I'm continuously

1064
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:49,800
Speaker 1: fucking you, I need some wrong me too. And that's.

1065
00:48:51,719 --> 00:48:53,799
Speaker 2: The besic of my life came from coind of Dick

1066
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 2: really the best dick of my life.

1067
00:48:56,360 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 1: Clearly, it's literally the one I've been. I mean, you

1068
00:48:59,320 --> 00:49:03,480
Speaker 1: don't just be seven years with economy as dick. And

1069
00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 1: then even before him, the other.

1070
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:08,160
Speaker 2: Partner that I had and we had even talked about

1071
00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:11,279
Speaker 2: getting engaged, me moving to Jacksonville. This was like someone

1072
00:49:11,320 --> 00:49:14,560
Speaker 2: I had also been fucking for years, and we had

1073
00:49:14,640 --> 00:49:16,320
Speaker 2: sex also with condoms.

1074
00:49:19,000 --> 00:49:22,680
Speaker 1: Like I do too, because that sounds very safe. So

1075
00:49:22,760 --> 00:49:24,560
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. And I also do it because

1076
00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:26,160
Speaker 1: at the end of the day with.

1077
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:30,400
Speaker 2: Me having you know, I do have the consistent partner.

1078
00:49:30,840 --> 00:49:33,279
Speaker 2: But if I was fucking him raw and then maybe

1079
00:49:33,520 --> 00:49:35,680
Speaker 2: you know, I'm in Atlanta and I'll see some old

1080
00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:38,799
Speaker 2: work and now you know, then my period is gone.

1081
00:49:38,960 --> 00:49:41,759
Speaker 1: Now I don't know who the baby daddy is that.

1082
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 2: But not only that, I don't I don't like the

1083
00:49:44,160 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 2: stress of waiting for my period to come because oh shit,

1084
00:49:48,560 --> 00:49:50,400
Speaker 2: what happened and I'm not on birth control and.

1085
00:49:50,440 --> 00:49:51,160
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie.

1086
00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:55,279
Speaker 2: I oftentimes feel like birth control is an enabler for

1087
00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:58,600
Speaker 2: us to be protected, because as soon as a woman's

1088
00:49:58,680 --> 00:50:00,920
Speaker 2: one birth control, now it's long as you don't get pregnant,

1089
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:01,800
Speaker 2: you really not thinking about it.

1090
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:08,000
Speaker 1: Go ahead, But I'm here of the diseases. I'm sounds good.

1091
00:50:08,280 --> 00:50:11,759
Speaker 2: But I have friends that feel like, just as long

1092
00:50:11,840 --> 00:50:15,000
Speaker 2: as they go get checked, it's okay. Since you're going

1093
00:50:15,080 --> 00:50:17,239
Speaker 2: to kid checked isn't keeping you from catching it.

1094
00:50:17,880 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 1: It's just alerting you that you you get tested. If

1095
00:50:24,040 --> 00:50:26,759
Speaker 1: you haven't sex with multiple niggas raw, youre going to

1096
00:50:27,160 --> 00:50:32,560
Speaker 1: I think one nigga if if I'm if I'm having

1097
00:50:32,680 --> 00:50:33,040
Speaker 1: raw sex.

1098
00:50:33,160 --> 00:50:36,840
Speaker 2: So here's how stupid both of y'all said, Right, but

1099
00:50:37,000 --> 00:50:40,160
Speaker 2: you know that these niggas is fucking other bitch as well. Raw. Well,

1100
00:50:40,239 --> 00:50:43,200
Speaker 2: My is one situation that I was in. I was

1101
00:50:43,280 --> 00:50:45,480
Speaker 2: always in relationships with people that I was working with.

1102
00:50:45,600 --> 00:50:49,520
Speaker 2: Non okay, I've only been in one situation where me

1103
00:50:49,640 --> 00:50:50,560
Speaker 2: and the person was.

1104
00:50:52,160 --> 00:50:53,600
Speaker 1: Knew that it was behavior.

1105
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:55,960
Speaker 2: It really doesn't matter because I feel like whenever you

1106
00:50:56,040 --> 00:50:57,960
Speaker 2: take off the condum, whether you're in a relationship or not,

1107
00:50:58,320 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 2: whether y'all had a talk or not, it's at risky

1108
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:03,640
Speaker 2: because there's people that are married, but there's there's a

1109
00:51:03,760 --> 00:51:06,279
Speaker 2: lady that's actually like she goes around speaking to like

1110
00:51:06,360 --> 00:51:09,000
Speaker 2: different schools and stuff because she called aids from her husband.

1111
00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:12,439
Speaker 2: So it's like taking the condom off is a risky period.

1112
00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:13,840
Speaker 2: Doesn't matter if you're in a relationship or not.

1113
00:51:13,960 --> 00:51:14,560
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

1114
00:51:14,560 --> 00:51:16,839
Speaker 2: I agree with that, but I do, to a certain extent,

1115
00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:19,799
Speaker 2: agree with maybe because once you have the conversation with people, though,

1116
00:51:19,840 --> 00:51:23,960
Speaker 2: I think niggas be more, you know, cognizant of their decisions.

1117
00:51:24,000 --> 00:51:27,319
Speaker 2: They're not gonna just be y'all here fucking fucking all

1118
00:51:27,360 --> 00:51:28,920
Speaker 2: these bitches are all when they know y'all just had

1119
00:51:28,960 --> 00:51:31,200
Speaker 2: a conversation about THEO. No, they still gonna be fuck

1120
00:51:31,280 --> 00:51:33,080
Speaker 2: these bitches wrong. I don't feel like they're about to

1121
00:51:33,120 --> 00:51:35,160
Speaker 2: be y'all here fucking Hillo beaches. If y'all in a relationship,

1122
00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:37,520
Speaker 2: y'all decide that y'all was gonna be lucy and y'all

1123
00:51:37,560 --> 00:51:38,080
Speaker 2: full think.

1124
00:51:38,880 --> 00:51:40,440
Speaker 1: I think it depends on the men, because some men

1125
00:51:40,520 --> 00:51:42,799
Speaker 1: care about their health and some don't, or or.

1126
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:45,600
Speaker 2: A lot of men, especially the ones that we come across,

1127
00:51:45,880 --> 00:51:48,080
Speaker 2: they have so much money they maybe feel invincible to

1128
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:50,640
Speaker 2: these diseases or they feel like, oh shit, I could

1129
00:51:50,640 --> 00:51:52,719
Speaker 2: just pay for it and it'll be gone. And I

1130
00:51:52,760 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 2: don't think they really have the idea of like the

1131
00:51:56,360 --> 00:51:58,640
Speaker 2: risks that they are putting. But I also think it's

1132
00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:02,480
Speaker 2: it's important just for for if you are period. Like,

1133
00:52:02,520 --> 00:52:04,759
Speaker 2: there's a lot of things that we as women may

1134
00:52:04,840 --> 00:52:10,560
Speaker 2: not even have what's the word, we may not have the.

1135
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:12,479
Speaker 1: S there you go sist.

1136
00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:14,600
Speaker 2: So there's a lot of diseases that women may not

1137
00:52:14,719 --> 00:52:18,520
Speaker 2: have the symptoms of, but it could literally affect all inside.

1138
00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:20,960
Speaker 1: We don't know, we don't even know what's going on

1139
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:26,759
Speaker 1: the path. But the path is once a year.

1140
00:52:27,080 --> 00:52:29,680
Speaker 2: If you go with chlamythia or not showing any type

1141
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 2: of symptoms and you at p I D, you can

1142
00:52:32,239 --> 00:52:34,239
Speaker 2: have to where you're you may not be able to

1143
00:52:34,280 --> 00:52:34,800
Speaker 2: have children.

1144
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:39,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just I'm not here for it.

1145
00:52:39,560 --> 00:52:43,239
Speaker 2: But we had that conversation because we had Wax on

1146
00:52:43,360 --> 00:52:47,120
Speaker 2: our show and this conversation got brought up and he

1147
00:52:47,280 --> 00:52:51,800
Speaker 2: decided to say that if if a guy fucks you

1148
00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:53,840
Speaker 2: more than twice with a condom, it's because.

1149
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 1: He thinks you have something, or it is because he

1150
00:52:55,080 --> 00:52:55,680
Speaker 1: thinks you dirty.

1151
00:52:56,880 --> 00:53:00,359
Speaker 2: Yes, And I think that we should and be out

1152
00:53:00,360 --> 00:53:02,440
Speaker 2: here shaming con thin things like that, or the niggas

1153
00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:05,880
Speaker 2: that's walking around with her baby and her feet and

1154
00:53:05,960 --> 00:53:08,279
Speaker 2: they don't have show any symptoms and they're giving it

1155
00:53:08,320 --> 00:53:13,319
Speaker 2: to all these women, right, so you're not dirty. That's disgusting. Now,

1156
00:53:13,400 --> 00:53:15,400
Speaker 2: I will say that if I because I had a

1157
00:53:15,480 --> 00:53:17,080
Speaker 2: guy that I was fucking for a long time, Like

1158
00:53:17,360 --> 00:53:20,120
Speaker 2: I'll say, six months is a long time for me, honestly.

1159
00:53:20,520 --> 00:53:23,799
Speaker 1: So it's like I use condoms. I do use cons

1160
00:53:23,840 --> 00:53:24,799
Speaker 1: a lot. Now, I'm not gonna lie.

1161
00:53:24,800 --> 00:53:26,440
Speaker 2: If I'm really fucking with you and I like you

1162
00:53:26,960 --> 00:53:30,000
Speaker 2: and it goes on and it's like an emotional connection

1163
00:53:30,160 --> 00:53:32,359
Speaker 2: and we've talked about it, I'm gonna take the common off.

1164
00:53:32,400 --> 00:53:33,080
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie.

1165
00:53:33,160 --> 00:53:35,800
Speaker 2: I feel like I needed our started back talking to

1166
00:53:36,280 --> 00:53:40,240
Speaker 2: we be using now, Yeah, like you gotta be careful

1167
00:53:40,239 --> 00:53:42,400
Speaker 2: about even with what you said, like when we was

1168
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:45,120
Speaker 2: talking about then, I've been fucking for forever. It seemed

1169
00:53:45,160 --> 00:53:47,160
Speaker 2: like forever you were like dag y'all never even took

1170
00:53:47,200 --> 00:53:48,560
Speaker 2: it off once in real life.

1171
00:53:48,680 --> 00:53:51,000
Speaker 1: That's the thing too. Once you're going out of condo,

1172
00:53:51,280 --> 00:53:52,480
Speaker 1: it's hard to go back to.

1173
00:53:52,600 --> 00:53:58,239
Speaker 2: A con don't mother fucking this is not tra Look,

1174
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:01,560
Speaker 2: I'll be getting some backlash about I just feel like

1175
00:54:02,040 --> 00:54:02,520
Speaker 2: because I'm.

1176
00:54:02,440 --> 00:54:02,839
Speaker 1: Not gonna lie.

1177
00:54:02,880 --> 00:54:06,279
Speaker 2: We talked about this before, about using a condom after

1178
00:54:06,360 --> 00:54:11,040
Speaker 2: you not use because I had a nigga put it

1179
00:54:11,239 --> 00:54:12,920
Speaker 2: was like, oh, we need to use condoms, and I

1180
00:54:13,000 --> 00:54:14,840
Speaker 2: knew I would, And I was like why because I

1181
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:18,840
Speaker 2: knew he must have fucked. He must have, But I

1182
00:54:18,960 --> 00:54:21,600
Speaker 2: appreciated him from retecting me and y know, and being

1183
00:54:21,680 --> 00:54:24,040
Speaker 2: real about it. But it hurt my feelings because I'm like,

1184
00:54:24,440 --> 00:54:26,399
Speaker 2: you're supposed to be fucking me row But that's why

1185
00:54:26,400 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 2: I said, these niggas fucking more than just the are.

1186
00:54:29,280 --> 00:54:33,279
Speaker 2: They definitely are, So you know, we just got to

1187
00:54:33,320 --> 00:54:36,120
Speaker 2: wrap it up, be like Mandy Bee, you know, and

1188
00:54:36,200 --> 00:54:38,960
Speaker 2: wrap up. You put a time limit on condom just

1189
00:54:38,960 --> 00:54:41,439
Speaker 2: because you've been fucking somebody for three months, six months,

1190
00:54:41,480 --> 00:54:44,960
Speaker 2: a year, seven years. If y'all aren't exclusive and y'all

1191
00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:46,960
Speaker 2: haven't had the conversation just put that.

1192
00:54:47,040 --> 00:54:50,200
Speaker 1: Ship just so scary to think about. But that wrong,

1193
00:54:51,280 --> 00:54:54,000
Speaker 1: Yes it is. I love it.

1194
00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:57,759
Speaker 2: I'll be like, okay, I don't even like these ovulation

1195
00:54:57,920 --> 00:54:58,799
Speaker 2: tracker bullshits.

1196
00:54:58,840 --> 00:55:02,160
Speaker 1: I'm like, wait, is it possibility, bitch, I don't even care.

1197
00:55:02,440 --> 00:55:05,320
Speaker 1: If I and and I'll be gripping condoms off, I

1198
00:55:05,640 --> 00:55:10,360
Speaker 1: still listen. I'll be like, oh, yeah, I know you

1199
00:55:10,440 --> 00:55:11,439
Speaker 1: ain't coming listen.

1200
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:15,080
Speaker 2: I mean once they're done, Like, even if they come

1201
00:55:15,160 --> 00:55:17,720
Speaker 2: in the condom, we'll pull the condom off and make sure.

1202
00:55:17,600 --> 00:55:24,000
Speaker 1: It's all Mariah, protect you. We be making sure the

1203
00:55:24,120 --> 00:55:26,320
Speaker 1: condom is like the com is at the bottom of

1204
00:55:26,400 --> 00:55:32,160
Speaker 1: the condom drinking. You're disgusting. You ain't drinking no com

1205
00:55:34,120 --> 00:55:40,319
Speaker 1: I mean, so that's the other thing. Come smoothie, you're

1206
00:55:40,360 --> 00:55:41,320
Speaker 1: just because in the morning.

1207
00:55:41,640 --> 00:55:43,840
Speaker 2: See he does come in my mouth every time. He

1208
00:55:44,000 --> 00:55:47,160
Speaker 2: don't like the one from seven years. He don't nothing

1209
00:55:47,160 --> 00:55:49,080
Speaker 2: in the commomy, not in my mouth. But everyone else

1210
00:55:49,120 --> 00:55:52,240
Speaker 2: if they were checking the condoms, I'm horny if anybody

1211
00:55:52,280 --> 00:55:54,920
Speaker 2: wants to come fuck me. By the way, you always horny.

1212
00:55:55,000 --> 00:55:59,000
Speaker 1: What else? I am horny bad? And then she thought

1213
00:55:59,040 --> 00:56:00,440
Speaker 1: she was gonna get Dicky was like, I.

1214
00:56:00,560 --> 00:56:05,399
Speaker 2: Did, but I am when you really think about it, though,

1215
00:56:05,480 --> 00:56:07,640
Speaker 2: Like when I really seen here thinking about the times

1216
00:56:07,680 --> 00:56:10,560
Speaker 2: that I did fucking nigga without a condum, how it started.

1217
00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:13,680
Speaker 2: It was like it was never no conversation. See, and

1218
00:56:13,760 --> 00:56:17,160
Speaker 2: that's terrible. Last time this nigga slipped it in in

1219
00:56:17,239 --> 00:56:17,720
Speaker 2: a shower.

1220
00:56:23,360 --> 00:56:25,799
Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna lie with me. I'm gonna be.

1221
00:56:25,800 --> 00:56:28,040
Speaker 2: Completely honest when I start fucking nigga, I always have

1222
00:56:28,120 --> 00:56:28,719
Speaker 2: that conversation.

1223
00:56:28,840 --> 00:56:30,000
Speaker 1: And I'm not even being funny.

1224
00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:33,360
Speaker 2: I really really do because I had a situation a

1225
00:56:33,400 --> 00:56:35,160
Speaker 2: long time ago that happened and I had it scared.

1226
00:56:35,200 --> 00:56:37,160
Speaker 2: It was just like really a lot of shit going on,

1227
00:56:37,280 --> 00:56:39,640
Speaker 2: So I learned at an early age. I'm like, bitch,

1228
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:42,040
Speaker 2: not fucking playing with your health. Well, I've had a

1229
00:56:42,080 --> 00:56:46,040
Speaker 2: conversation afterwards, but I'm talking about before it happened.

1230
00:56:46,440 --> 00:56:49,160
Speaker 1: No, Yeah, I always. I mean sometimes she just.

1231
00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:51,720
Speaker 2: Ended up happening, like you know what I mean. Sometimes

1232
00:56:52,360 --> 00:56:53,719
Speaker 2: But like I said, I mean, I don't know. I

1233
00:56:53,800 --> 00:56:56,680
Speaker 2: tried my best tonight. I haven't had many sexual partners

1234
00:56:56,719 --> 00:56:58,320
Speaker 2: that I haven't used the condom with.

1235
00:56:58,400 --> 00:57:00,680
Speaker 1: I can still count on one hand that be good

1236
00:57:00,719 --> 00:57:06,319
Speaker 1: for your shade. No, I say no, that's really good

1237
00:57:06,360 --> 00:57:07,719
Speaker 1: for her because me, she.

1238
00:57:09,480 --> 00:57:13,319
Speaker 2: When I don't got enough hingers, I'm I'm just playing,

1239
00:57:13,400 --> 00:57:16,080
Speaker 2: y'all say six six, so let us know how y'all feel.

1240
00:57:16,200 --> 00:57:18,400
Speaker 2: Is there a time limit on how long you're supposed

1241
00:57:18,440 --> 00:57:20,800
Speaker 2: to use condoms? So we're gonna get into the bop

1242
00:57:21,200 --> 00:57:24,240
Speaker 2: of the week, So I'll go first because I'm ready.

1243
00:57:24,360 --> 00:57:26,960
Speaker 2: Y'all know I love this girl. I'm obsessed with her.

1244
00:57:27,080 --> 00:57:29,760
Speaker 2: I would literally like, I don't like to eat vagina,

1245
00:57:29,920 --> 00:57:32,040
Speaker 2: but I would probably get her vagina, even though people

1246
00:57:32,040 --> 00:57:33,880
Speaker 2: say she probably smooths doja cat?

1247
00:57:34,240 --> 00:57:41,760
Speaker 1: I love y'all check out album. I think album is

1248
00:57:41,840 --> 00:57:42,160
Speaker 1: so far.

1249
00:57:42,400 --> 00:57:44,440
Speaker 2: She has a song called like That with Gucci Man,

1250
00:57:45,080 --> 00:57:48,959
Speaker 2: and it's just this bitch can really fucking ramp. First

1251
00:57:49,000 --> 00:57:52,640
Speaker 2: of give her her fucking things. This girl I didn't

1252
00:57:52,640 --> 00:57:55,240
Speaker 2: even know she was signed before the move song. She

1253
00:57:55,360 --> 00:57:57,880
Speaker 2: had been on a label. They weren't giving her attention,

1254
00:57:58,000 --> 00:58:00,280
Speaker 2: they weren't giving her a budget, and so she just

1255
00:58:00,400 --> 00:58:03,200
Speaker 2: kept creating and kept making music and finally she just

1256
00:58:03,280 --> 00:58:05,000
Speaker 2: did something being silly and now she's here.

1257
00:58:05,280 --> 00:58:08,320
Speaker 1: The girl is a fucking superstar, is she? She's a

1258
00:58:08,840 --> 00:58:11,280
Speaker 1: And when Harvey came out with that first song, move.

1259
00:58:11,880 --> 00:58:15,880
Speaker 1: That's what I was just talking about. You know, her

1260
00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:21,720
Speaker 1: videos are sick, juicy and her how she's dressing. She

1261
00:58:21,880 --> 00:58:23,960
Speaker 1: does need someone to help her with them lace weeks,

1262
00:58:24,280 --> 00:58:25,280
Speaker 1: but but we all do.

1263
00:58:25,640 --> 00:58:28,720
Speaker 2: It was sitting a little far back right now, you

1264
00:58:28,800 --> 00:58:33,120
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying. But I love her, love her superstar.

1265
00:58:34,160 --> 00:58:36,360
Speaker 2: So my bop of the week is Doja Cat Like

1266
00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:39,680
Speaker 2: That featuring Gucci Mane Shots to Gucci. My bop of

1267
00:58:39,720 --> 00:58:41,919
Speaker 2: the week and a song that I just sang every

1268
00:58:41,960 --> 00:58:44,240
Speaker 2: time I wake every because I feel like it's my

1269
00:58:44,400 --> 00:58:47,880
Speaker 2: life comes from someone else that they think is dirty,

1270
00:58:49,080 --> 00:58:49,800
Speaker 2: the dirty Girl.

1271
00:58:53,080 --> 00:58:56,680
Speaker 1: My song from her is off of her debut album

1272
00:58:59,000 --> 00:59:02,640
Speaker 1: over It, and the song is just my feature and

1273
00:59:02,680 --> 00:59:05,840
Speaker 1: party next door, and it just might be a.

1274
00:59:08,280 --> 00:59:10,160
Speaker 2: Wake up saying that She's like you just might get

1275
00:59:10,240 --> 00:59:13,840
Speaker 2: more from a drug dealer or a sugar daddy because.

1276
00:59:14,040 --> 00:59:16,200
Speaker 1: This love game ain't fun and it hurts.

1277
00:59:16,400 --> 00:59:19,000
Speaker 2: And at this at the end of the day, you know,

1278
00:59:19,120 --> 00:59:22,920
Speaker 2: being a hole sometimes is more fun. So you know,

1279
00:59:23,280 --> 00:59:26,600
Speaker 2: instead of following in love, being emotionally heartbroken and dealing

1280
00:59:26,640 --> 00:59:29,240
Speaker 2: with these boys, you could just be.

1281
00:59:33,120 --> 00:59:35,120
Speaker 1: I'm a fan of the whole goddamn album. I love

1282
00:59:35,160 --> 00:59:37,760
Speaker 1: that album. Okay, so my bop of the week.

1283
00:59:38,200 --> 00:59:40,120
Speaker 2: It's a bop that I feel like we I don't

1284
00:59:40,160 --> 00:59:42,240
Speaker 2: know why we haven't talked about this bop on the

1285
00:59:42,280 --> 00:59:43,480
Speaker 2: show because it goes.

1286
00:59:43,320 --> 00:59:45,040
Speaker 1: So hard based on her.

1287
00:59:46,040 --> 00:59:57,760
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, first Russ and I started talking about I

1288
00:59:57,840 --> 00:59:59,960
Speaker 2: actually heard from Russ from listening to the Joe butdenpok

1289
01:00:00,360 --> 01:00:00,800
Speaker 2: how much.

1290
01:00:01,120 --> 01:00:03,160
Speaker 1: But his music is a whole mood.

1291
01:00:03,520 --> 01:00:05,600
Speaker 2: You can listen to his ship like straight through. I

1292
01:00:06,360 --> 01:00:08,480
Speaker 2: love Russ's whole vibe. If y'all haven't listened.

1293
01:00:10,240 --> 01:00:12,880
Speaker 1: Music, it's good. Why do people hate him so much? So,

1294
01:00:13,200 --> 01:00:14,680
Speaker 1: I don't know people hate him?

1295
01:00:14,720 --> 01:00:19,160
Speaker 2: Maybe because no people hate him really. They always see

1296
01:00:19,200 --> 01:00:22,080
Speaker 2: like tweets that go viral about him, like, oh Russ sucks.

1297
01:00:22,000 --> 01:00:23,040
Speaker 1: Not his music, just him.

1298
01:00:24,040 --> 01:00:26,880
Speaker 2: I just think he moves like because I've seen a

1299
01:00:26,920 --> 01:00:30,000
Speaker 2: few interviews with him, and I think people are intimidated

1300
01:00:30,120 --> 01:00:31,640
Speaker 2: by arrogance.

1301
01:00:31,800 --> 01:00:33,160
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, maybe.

1302
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Speaker 2: Condiiness because I think, if I'm not mistaken, he is

1303
01:00:35,680 --> 01:00:37,000
Speaker 2: independent and owns a lot of it.

1304
01:00:37,080 --> 01:00:39,800
Speaker 1: Like he got he makes him making money. He's making

1305
01:00:39,840 --> 01:00:42,720
Speaker 1: because he owns everything that he puts out. So I

1306
01:00:42,800 --> 01:00:45,120
Speaker 1: think it may just have something to do with kind

1307
01:00:45,120 --> 01:00:47,200
Speaker 1: of him being a know it all, so it's really

1308
01:00:47,280 --> 01:00:47,760
Speaker 1: just haters.

1309
01:00:48,400 --> 01:00:52,680
Speaker 2: Would Rihanna effect because Rihanna posted that song and that's

1310
01:00:52,720 --> 01:00:55,360
Speaker 2: when it really went and we're crazy because Rihanna posted.

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01:00:55,080 --> 01:01:01,479
Speaker 1: All yeah, like I also posted Chris Brown and right.

1312
01:01:02,240 --> 01:01:06,840
Speaker 2: I don't know why people keeping anyway? Okay, and Chris

1313
01:01:06,920 --> 01:01:08,280
Speaker 2: brownsong is also a bot.

1314
01:01:08,160 --> 01:01:13,360
Speaker 1: This mine and my baby whatever. I like this okay.

1315
01:01:13,440 --> 01:01:18,920
Speaker 2: So we're gonna get into the questions, right, So as always,

1316
01:01:18,920 --> 01:01:21,080
Speaker 2: if y'all have any questions, make sure y'all email us

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01:01:21,160 --> 01:01:24,800
Speaker 2: at askpoorminds at gmail dot com. That's a s k

1318
01:01:25,080 --> 01:01:27,160
Speaker 2: p oh you are in my n d s at

1319
01:01:27,200 --> 01:01:32,520
Speaker 2: gmail dot com. So I'm gonna go first, and it says, hey, y'all,

1320
01:01:32,640 --> 01:01:36,120
Speaker 2: please keep me anonymous. Do y'all think men do more

1321
01:01:36,280 --> 01:01:39,320
Speaker 2: to show that they're interested before getting the pussy.

1322
01:01:39,840 --> 01:01:40,600
Speaker 1: Have y'all ever.

1323
01:01:40,560 --> 01:01:45,440
Speaker 2: Experienced a man's efforts declining after y'all fuck, I'm not

1324
01:01:45,520 --> 01:01:48,800
Speaker 2: referring to the infamous hit it and quit it. He

1325
01:01:48,920 --> 01:01:51,640
Speaker 2: still shows some interest, but just not as much as

1326
01:01:51,720 --> 01:01:54,200
Speaker 2: before the sex. How do I handle shit like this?

1327
01:01:54,520 --> 01:01:56,640
Speaker 2: Take my l and move on? Or should a conbo

1328
01:01:56,760 --> 01:02:00,800
Speaker 2: be had help? Queens love y'all so much? That's actually

1329
01:02:00,880 --> 01:02:03,720
Speaker 2: an interesting question. So this is what I have to

1330
01:02:03,760 --> 01:02:05,959
Speaker 2: think about it. I'll give my little short answer real quick.

1331
01:02:07,760 --> 01:02:11,120
Speaker 2: Men love men or horning first of all, so I

1332
01:02:11,280 --> 01:02:13,280
Speaker 2: understand that we enjoy sex, but you have to realize

1333
01:02:13,280 --> 01:02:15,480
Speaker 2: a lot of men aren't real niggas out here, because

1334
01:02:15,520 --> 01:02:16,960
Speaker 2: a real nigga, if you really fuck with you, he

1335
01:02:17,040 --> 01:02:18,920
Speaker 2: gonna fuck with you and keep fucking with you. But

1336
01:02:19,000 --> 01:02:20,800
Speaker 2: it's a lot of niggas that just get the pussy

1337
01:02:20,840 --> 01:02:23,240
Speaker 2: and lose interest because they pussy niggas. So if you

1338
01:02:23,440 --> 01:02:25,120
Speaker 2: but I'm not gonna call him a pussy nigga because

1339
01:02:25,120 --> 01:02:27,000
Speaker 2: I don't know him. So my thing is, if you

1340
01:02:27,120 --> 01:02:30,320
Speaker 2: really like him, one conversation needs to be had and

1341
01:02:30,440 --> 01:02:33,840
Speaker 2: if nothing changes, fuck him and move on. Because at

1342
01:02:33,840 --> 01:02:35,160
Speaker 2: the end of the day, you never know what a

1343
01:02:35,240 --> 01:02:37,760
Speaker 2: nigga's intentions are with you. So if he just wanted

1344
01:02:37,760 --> 01:02:39,920
Speaker 2: the pussy, maybe that's really just what he wanted from you.

1345
01:02:40,280 --> 01:02:43,400
Speaker 1: But I don't know the situation. So I'll say one

1346
01:02:43,440 --> 01:02:44,320
Speaker 1: conversation and done.

1347
01:02:44,400 --> 01:02:47,680
Speaker 2: Do not beg this nigga, don't keep texting him, don't

1348
01:02:47,760 --> 01:02:48,440
Speaker 2: keep calling him.

1349
01:02:48,480 --> 01:02:52,680
Speaker 1: One conversation and if nothing changes, move on. Y'all feel

1350
01:02:52,920 --> 01:02:54,800
Speaker 1: I feel like if you having this issue.

1351
01:02:54,880 --> 01:02:57,919
Speaker 2: Obviously, y'all probably haven't been day in each other that long,

1352
01:02:58,440 --> 01:03:00,840
Speaker 2: so I just feel like, how to come say you're

1353
01:03:00,840 --> 01:03:01,760
Speaker 2: not feeling what he's saying?

1354
01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:05,400
Speaker 1: Lead alone, because you don't need to be chasing. Yeah,

1355
01:03:05,440 --> 01:03:07,280
Speaker 1: don't chase him, says because you're a queen. I mean,

1356
01:03:07,320 --> 01:03:09,560
Speaker 1: but that goes back to even the conversation we had earlier.

1357
01:03:09,920 --> 01:03:12,040
Speaker 1: He may not be someone that was looking for a relationship.

1358
01:03:12,680 --> 01:03:16,120
Speaker 2: Maybe all he wanted was the fuck, and maybe for

1359
01:03:16,240 --> 01:03:20,080
Speaker 2: whatever reason, the chemistry didn't resonate with him as much.

1360
01:03:20,200 --> 01:03:22,600
Speaker 1: Maybe you liked it, but maybe he didn't. So maybe

1361
01:03:22,640 --> 01:03:26,080
Speaker 1: he's like, all right, well there's what else are we doing?

1362
01:03:26,440 --> 01:03:27,600
Speaker 1: But maybe he didn't.

1363
01:03:27,640 --> 01:03:30,120
Speaker 2: Because I've been with guys too, like we dated, I

1364
01:03:30,400 --> 01:03:32,800
Speaker 2: probably really like them, and after we have sex, I

1365
01:03:32,920 --> 01:03:37,640
Speaker 2: was like this, I don't I don't care, So that

1366
01:03:37,760 --> 01:03:39,800
Speaker 2: could be it too. And and as women, we got

1367
01:03:39,880 --> 01:03:42,400
Speaker 2: to realize, like, it's okay to feel, it's okay to

1368
01:03:42,440 --> 01:03:46,120
Speaker 2: be rejected, Okay, it's okay to hear no, it's okay

1369
01:03:46,160 --> 01:03:47,120
Speaker 2: for someone not to like you.

1370
01:03:47,240 --> 01:03:49,840
Speaker 1: It's okay for you not to be someone's best pussy.

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01:03:50,000 --> 01:03:54,040
Speaker 2: Right, I mean in situations to where I felt that

1372
01:03:54,160 --> 01:03:56,200
Speaker 2: way after I had sex with somebody and I didn't

1373
01:03:56,240 --> 01:03:57,360
Speaker 2: give them the card see.

1374
01:03:57,520 --> 01:04:00,200
Speaker 1: Of having a conversation with them either. It's just it.

1375
01:04:02,160 --> 01:04:03,880
Speaker 2: But and now I think that was important that you

1376
01:04:03,960 --> 01:04:06,000
Speaker 2: said that many like it's okay to be rejected. Literally,

1377
01:04:06,240 --> 01:04:07,760
Speaker 2: that is bitches in the world all of a sudden

1378
01:04:07,800 --> 01:04:08,920
Speaker 2: here we've all been rejected.

1379
01:04:09,400 --> 01:04:11,200
Speaker 1: We've all been rejected before.

1380
01:04:11,440 --> 01:04:15,160
Speaker 2: Young and may would not take the drink offer at

1381
01:04:15,200 --> 01:04:15,680
Speaker 2: the drink.

1382
01:04:18,240 --> 01:04:18,400
Speaker 1: Too.

1383
01:04:20,120 --> 01:04:22,520
Speaker 2: So I'll say this, I think that if you like him,

1384
01:04:22,560 --> 01:04:24,440
Speaker 2: it's okay to have a conversation, because I'm really big

1385
01:04:24,520 --> 01:04:26,720
Speaker 2: on expressing how you feel and not holding back and

1386
01:04:27,040 --> 01:04:29,520
Speaker 2: trying to be cool. So I'll say, have one conversation

1387
01:04:29,880 --> 01:04:31,760
Speaker 2: and if he doesn't react to it, then move on.

1388
01:04:33,240 --> 01:04:35,320
Speaker 1: So what you got dreamed? Okay?

1389
01:04:35,680 --> 01:04:39,720
Speaker 2: So my question is from Olivia Griham. She said, it's

1390
01:04:39,920 --> 01:04:42,800
Speaker 2: something wrong with me. Hey, sisters, I'm hitting you with

1391
01:04:42,880 --> 01:04:46,560
Speaker 2: another with another one DJ Cally boy. My name is

1392
01:04:46,640 --> 01:04:48,960
Speaker 2: Olivia and she gave her I gave us her. I

1393
01:04:49,120 --> 01:04:51,720
Speaker 2: g She said, I'm thirty five. My issue is I

1394
01:04:51,840 --> 01:04:54,960
Speaker 2: can only get off onor stimulation. That is literally the

1395
01:04:55,080 --> 01:04:56,800
Speaker 2: only way I can come. I want to know what

1396
01:04:56,920 --> 01:04:58,560
Speaker 2: it feels like to come from penetration.

1397
01:04:59,160 --> 01:04:59,800
Speaker 1: I love deck.

1398
01:05:00,080 --> 01:05:02,160
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm supposed to be a lesbian since

1399
01:05:02,200 --> 01:05:03,080
Speaker 2: penetration just.

1400
01:05:03,120 --> 01:05:05,160
Speaker 1: Ain't giving me what they need to finish.

1401
01:05:05,720 --> 01:05:08,880
Speaker 2: I have millions of toys I have using that I

1402
01:05:09,000 --> 01:05:11,600
Speaker 2: have to use during six and my nigga gets upset

1403
01:05:11,880 --> 01:05:13,720
Speaker 2: when I pull it out after I don't know what

1404
01:05:13,880 --> 01:05:16,959
Speaker 2: to do help signing off thirty five year old freak

1405
01:05:17,080 --> 01:05:17,720
Speaker 2: nasty verse.

1406
01:05:18,000 --> 01:05:18,800
Speaker 1: I know that's right.

1407
01:05:19,440 --> 01:05:21,880
Speaker 2: So first of all, sister, you're not a lesbian just

1408
01:05:21,960 --> 01:05:26,280
Speaker 2: because you only come from clitoral stimulation, like you're very straight.

1409
01:05:26,760 --> 01:05:30,640
Speaker 2: Like it's okay, but you have to realize what's the percentage,

1410
01:05:30,640 --> 01:05:32,959
Speaker 2: And y'all know the exact percentage. It's like ninety percent

1411
01:05:33,040 --> 01:05:37,920
Speaker 2: of women, yeah, don't come from that come from clitoral stimulation.

1412
01:05:40,000 --> 01:05:43,120
Speaker 1: I'm the opposite. I come from penetration, and that's what

1413
01:05:43,160 --> 01:05:46,720
Speaker 1: I'm saying. But you're one of the very few. Took

1414
01:05:46,800 --> 01:05:51,480
Speaker 1: a while, But I also think that orgasms are a

1415
01:05:51,600 --> 01:05:53,280
Speaker 1: lot more mental. Thank you.

1416
01:05:53,920 --> 01:05:56,520
Speaker 2: If you're not in a comfortable state, if you're not relaxed,

1417
01:05:56,960 --> 01:05:59,880
Speaker 2: if you don't have that sexual chemistry with that individual,

1418
01:06:00,800 --> 01:06:04,000
Speaker 2: you may never feel an orgasm from them. Penetratively, because

1419
01:06:04,400 --> 01:06:08,400
Speaker 2: you're just not their mind, body spirit, and as you

1420
01:06:08,480 --> 01:06:10,920
Speaker 2: come from clatoral simulation. I think your man needs to

1421
01:06:11,000 --> 01:06:13,400
Speaker 2: be more understanding of that, and don't he needs to

1422
01:06:13,520 --> 01:06:16,560
Speaker 2: not be intimidated by toys, first of all, because that's

1423
01:06:16,600 --> 01:06:19,800
Speaker 2: gonna help because when you're on top of him and

1424
01:06:19,960 --> 01:06:21,960
Speaker 2: riding his dick, there's so many toys that you could

1425
01:06:22,120 --> 01:06:25,080
Speaker 2: use to be stimulating your clip while you're on top

1426
01:06:25,120 --> 01:06:25,400
Speaker 2: of him.

1427
01:06:25,520 --> 01:06:27,720
Speaker 1: So don't tell him not to be afraid of the toys.

1428
01:06:27,760 --> 01:06:29,800
Speaker 1: That's not him. There's nothing wrong with him.

1429
01:06:29,880 --> 01:06:33,040
Speaker 2: Obviously, you enjoy having sex with him, so I feel

1430
01:06:33,080 --> 01:06:34,680
Speaker 2: like you need to have a conversation with him as

1431
01:06:34,760 --> 01:06:37,160
Speaker 2: well to introduce toys in the bedroom and bitch, you're.

1432
01:06:37,040 --> 01:06:38,760
Speaker 1: Gonna be done on top of that dick in no time.

1433
01:06:38,920 --> 01:06:40,680
Speaker 2: And if you want to day a little deeper, he

1434
01:06:40,760 --> 01:06:44,160
Speaker 2: could try to, you know, his sixth game and try

1435
01:06:44,240 --> 01:06:44,560
Speaker 2: to make.

1436
01:06:44,520 --> 01:06:45,480
Speaker 1: You come badgingly.

1437
01:06:47,440 --> 01:06:50,800
Speaker 2: No, I can't say that because some women just don't

1438
01:06:51,360 --> 01:06:53,400
Speaker 2: feel like he can up his six game, like try

1439
01:06:53,440 --> 01:06:55,240
Speaker 2: to see if he could do something to make her

1440
01:06:55,440 --> 01:06:58,200
Speaker 2: come badgingarly, since nobody has ever did that before. I

1441
01:06:58,280 --> 01:07:01,680
Speaker 2: think there's things that you can do that can kind

1442
01:07:01,720 --> 01:07:04,600
Speaker 2: of train to you that, like, like we all know,

1443
01:07:04,680 --> 01:07:06,640
Speaker 2: when you're eating pussy, you're supposed to finger the pussy

1444
01:07:06,640 --> 01:07:09,040
Speaker 2: and stuck on the clip, right that those are things.

1445
01:07:09,200 --> 01:07:12,440
Speaker 2: So now whenever you feel that penetration, you're kind of

1446
01:07:12,520 --> 01:07:15,120
Speaker 2: used to feeling the clip being suck So now it's

1447
01:07:15,240 --> 01:07:17,400
Speaker 2: just like you know how that that test a long

1448
01:07:17,440 --> 01:07:19,400
Speaker 2: time ago where the guy would ring the bell and

1449
01:07:19,520 --> 01:07:21,440
Speaker 2: the dog would be hungry because he would ring the bell.

1450
01:07:21,640 --> 01:07:23,720
Speaker 2: So it's kind of like you're training your pussy, you

1451
01:07:23,760 --> 01:07:25,680
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying. So if you if you touch

1452
01:07:25,760 --> 01:07:28,680
Speaker 2: your clip every time you're getting fucked in your vagina,

1453
01:07:29,160 --> 01:07:31,600
Speaker 2: you're and you orgasm, you're kind of training yourself.

1454
01:07:31,680 --> 01:07:34,200
Speaker 1: That's how I learned how to have an orgasm and

1455
01:07:34,680 --> 01:07:38,320
Speaker 1: my pussy. So I feel like you're not gay. First

1456
01:07:38,360 --> 01:07:41,640
Speaker 1: of all, just clip and tell your man to let

1457
01:07:41,720 --> 01:07:42,600
Speaker 1: him use the toys.

1458
01:07:42,840 --> 01:07:46,000
Speaker 2: Don't use the toys afterwards, use the toys with him,

1459
01:07:46,320 --> 01:07:49,120
Speaker 2: right because yeah that.

1460
01:07:52,200 --> 01:07:56,120
Speaker 1: Queen okay.

1461
01:07:56,240 --> 01:07:58,920
Speaker 2: So, as always, the item of the week is European

1462
01:07:58,960 --> 01:08:01,640
Speaker 2: Wax Center. Shout out to them and Tamika. Make sure

1463
01:08:01,680 --> 01:08:03,040
Speaker 2: y'all keep you all waxes up.

1464
01:08:03,240 --> 01:08:06,000
Speaker 1: During the fall and winter month. Do you want to

1465
01:08:06,080 --> 01:08:08,640
Speaker 1: harry pussy. Nobody went on hare pussy. So many what

1466
01:08:08,760 --> 01:08:09,600
Speaker 1: is show item of the week?

1467
01:08:09,640 --> 01:08:12,640
Speaker 2: What you've been using this week besides the Louis Vatana

1468
01:08:12,640 --> 01:08:14,960
Speaker 2: and the Gucci don't do that because bb and y'all.

1469
01:08:15,000 --> 01:08:19,200
Speaker 2: My sister making money that got a champagne at the

1470
01:08:19,200 --> 01:08:23,639
Speaker 2: Gucci stole. She had to finish my drink, your ship

1471
01:08:23,800 --> 01:08:24,360
Speaker 2: and mine.

1472
01:08:24,600 --> 01:08:27,320
Speaker 1: I said, Oh, we live a larger take, y'all. I

1473
01:08:27,560 --> 01:08:31,200
Speaker 1: hate Well, I guess it's something that I got.

1474
01:08:31,840 --> 01:08:34,120
Speaker 2: One of my followers thought I was a peasant walking

1475
01:08:34,120 --> 01:08:37,160
Speaker 2: around with corded headphones. So at the meat and greet

1476
01:08:37,200 --> 01:08:40,560
Speaker 2: and Philly, one of my fans gifted me some Airpine.

1477
01:08:41,080 --> 01:08:43,800
Speaker 1: Airplands are expensive, as I know. That's why I'm glad.

1478
01:08:43,840 --> 01:08:47,559
Speaker 1: I ain't my mind. That's what I'm saying. For a fan.

1479
01:08:48,479 --> 01:08:53,679
Speaker 2: Look, poor girls and poor boys, y'all game, send me something, niggas, damn.

1480
01:08:54,080 --> 01:08:58,720
Speaker 1: So shout out to King free one. I don't even

1481
01:08:58,760 --> 01:09:03,560
Speaker 1: have hairphones. I lost supers.

1482
01:09:04,800 --> 01:09:06,920
Speaker 2: Okay, that's something that I got now, So I'm gonna

1483
01:09:06,920 --> 01:09:09,880
Speaker 2: see how long I can keep up with these bitches. Okay,

1484
01:09:11,479 --> 01:09:15,599
Speaker 2: you know, because I thought, and I haven't lost one yet.

1485
01:09:16,360 --> 01:09:19,160
Speaker 2: Don't you better knock on some wood.

1486
01:09:21,439 --> 01:09:21,760
Speaker 1: Knock on.

1487
01:09:23,200 --> 01:09:29,719
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, Okay, So, of course, only reason that people

1488
01:09:29,720 --> 01:09:32,719
Speaker 2: are here because I was on your podcast, so you tell.

1489
01:09:32,720 --> 01:09:34,920
Speaker 1: Who you are. But yeah, let us know where they

1490
01:09:34,920 --> 01:09:35,400
Speaker 1: can catch you.

1491
01:09:36,240 --> 01:09:39,120
Speaker 2: So y'all can catch me on all social media platforms

1492
01:09:39,240 --> 01:09:41,880
Speaker 2: at Full Court Pumps. Y'all can also catch me every

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01:09:42,080 --> 01:09:45,559
Speaker 2: Monday on Horrible Decisions type and Horror we pop up.

1494
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Speaker 2: We are everywhere you listen to your favorite podcast. Also,

1495
01:09:49,720 --> 01:09:52,560
Speaker 2: I do have a solo show coming out soon, so

1496
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Speaker 2: I'm excited to be on the look of that.

1497
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Speaker 1: It will be a weekly.

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Speaker 2: Live show that you guys can also listen to on demand.

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Speaker 2: I'm super excited about that. Also, Boston, if any of

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Speaker 2: y'all motherfucking hoes live, poor people live in Boston.

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Speaker 1: You know, not poor people that the poor girl, poor boy,

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Speaker 1: she said, people saying sweeties, I'm so sorry that the

1503
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Speaker 1: poor boys.

1504
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Speaker 2: Horrible Decisions has a live show in Boston on December

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Speaker 2: of all I got going on the years wrapping up

1509
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Speaker 2: since coming to it, and wait, I don't have to

1510
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Speaker 2: add this because I feel like a lot of people

1511
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Speaker 2: don't know that Manny has been on the scene for

1512
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Speaker 2: a very long time, and I just want to tell

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Speaker 2: the story of how I first started following Manny and

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Speaker 2: knowing Manny.

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Speaker 1: Oh lord, I cannot wait because I've been asking this

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01:10:54,040 --> 01:10:54,880
Speaker 1: bitch to do this again.

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01:10:55,040 --> 01:10:57,120
Speaker 2: So back in the she's full court punks because she

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Speaker 2: used to be a sports bar and she came out

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Speaker 2: with this book. Y'all, when I tell you, I ain't

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01:11:03,080 --> 01:11:04,720
Speaker 2: read a book since I was in fifth grade reading

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01:11:04,800 --> 01:11:07,240
Speaker 2: Harry Potter, and I bought this book and I read it.

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01:11:07,360 --> 01:11:10,479
Speaker 2: It was basically saying like sex escapades that women have

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01:11:10,600 --> 01:11:14,360
Speaker 2: had with like athletes and how they went wrong and disasters,

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Speaker 2: and it.

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Speaker 1: Was such a good fucking rain.

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Speaker 2: And it's so crazy because I look back at that book.

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Speaker 2: I I published this book as I believe I was

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Speaker 2: twenty two years old. It was in twenty thirteen. I

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01:11:28,840 --> 01:11:30,240
Speaker 2: was twenty two, and I look back at it now

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Speaker 2: and girl, I'm like, oh my god, proofread what the fuck?

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Speaker 2: But a lot of people did, like enjoy it, So

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Speaker 2: I would love to write another book. But yeah, so

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01:11:38,800 --> 01:11:40,559
Speaker 2: at this time, I did do sports blog. I did

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Speaker 2: sports gossip and tea and also kind of did like

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Speaker 2: a how to get Fleu down, Yeah type of ordeala thing.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, that's how Talbot. Well, it's funny.

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Speaker 2: Because I think lex Is is super funny. A lot

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Speaker 2: of us like don't know how we can monetize the

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01:11:55,880 --> 01:11:57,840
Speaker 2: things that we say online. And I literally would just

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01:11:58,160 --> 01:12:02,120
Speaker 2: go on my rants and it is Robert Lttel who

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01:12:02,160 --> 01:12:04,560
Speaker 2: does black sports online. He got he pushed me to

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Speaker 2: do my blog.

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01:12:05,360 --> 01:12:05,719
Speaker 1: And then.

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Speaker 2: Just seeing Cudding and all the things she's done, it's

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Speaker 2: just like, Okay, all this stuff I'm putting online.

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Speaker 1: For free, let me go ahead and monetize, right.

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01:12:13,880 --> 01:12:16,160
Speaker 2: And I know Joe talks about that now, owning your content,

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Speaker 2: creating to where people have to buy the good things

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Speaker 2: that you put out.

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Speaker 1: So I pretty much just yeah.

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Speaker 2: Put it into a book and yeah, that's told everybody

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Speaker 2: how to be a hop And now I'm talking about

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Speaker 2: second for a living.

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Speaker 1: Yes, we love Circle.

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Speaker 2: Well, once again, shout out to Mandy and thank you

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01:12:32,640 --> 01:12:35,360
Speaker 2: for coming out. Shout out to we having we got

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01:12:35,479 --> 01:12:40,040
Speaker 2: to have both of y'all obviously come back there. So

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Speaker 2: once again this is episode of our mindes and make

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Speaker 2: sure y'all tune in the ninety six seven to be

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Speaker 2: every Tuesday.

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Speaker 1: Take out horrible decisions than you guys for having me.

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Speaker 1: It's always fine, all right. We'll see y'all next week.