WEBVTT - Girl, Bye! 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.159 Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:13.480 and the Black Effects. 0:00:14.800 --> 0:00:16.160 Oh shit, we back on the air. 0:00:16.280 --> 0:00:18.680 Welcome back to you got another carefully reckless episode with 0:00:18.840 --> 0:00:22.400 your girl Jess Hellovery. Yes, listen when I say, oh shit, 0:00:22.480 --> 0:00:24.600 we on the air. You know who I remind myself of? 0:00:24.920 --> 0:00:25.400 Nick Cannon. 0:00:25.480 --> 0:00:25.640 Y'all? 0:00:25.640 --> 0:00:26.239 Remember that shit. 0:00:26.320 --> 0:00:29.080 Every time a while in our episode is about to 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:32.640 come on, he'd be like, oh shit, we on the air. Hey, y'all, 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:35.800 that reminds me of Nick every time I do that. 0:00:35.920 --> 0:00:37.519 I just said it one day and was like, Nick 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:38.680 can he used to do that shit? 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:40.960 But yeah, shout out the big Nick, knock the little one. 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:43.920 We're gonna jump straight and y'all, I had taken a 0:00:43.960 --> 0:00:44.600 week off. 0:00:44.920 --> 0:00:46.120 It was a lot going on, y'all. 0:00:46.120 --> 0:00:48.240 It was a lot going on, a lot of big opportunities, 0:00:48.240 --> 0:00:51.520 a lot of great opportunities. Congratulations to myself and other 0:00:51.840 --> 0:00:53.880 writers and actresses as well. 0:00:54.080 --> 0:00:57.280 The writers strike is over. We still got some things 0:00:57.320 --> 0:00:57.840 to wait. 0:00:57.680 --> 0:01:02.160 For because the actors are not completely off the hook yet. 0:01:02.600 --> 0:01:06.400 But congratulations to all the writers, including myself, my brother DESI, 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:08.959 a lot of writers that I do know. Because the 0:01:09.000 --> 0:01:11.920 strike is over and y'ah. That is a really really 0:01:11.920 --> 0:01:14.199 big thing. It's a really serious thing. I think you. 0:01:15.959 --> 0:01:18.240 Everybody who knows how serious it is. 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:22.000 These writers and these people you know in the industry 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:24.360 who feel like they're underpaid and they don't get paid 0:01:24.360 --> 0:01:26.320 for their work. You know, they don't get paid enough, 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:27.920 and some of them don't get paid shit. 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:29.920 You know, all these great films. 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:31.520 That you guys love and you guys watch, and all 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:33.160 these great shows and stuff like that. 0:01:33.520 --> 0:01:35.479 It's a lot of great writers. 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:39.319 Behind these films, these projects that are not getting paid 0:01:39.600 --> 0:01:42.120 you know, what they're worth, you know. So that's what 0:01:42.160 --> 0:01:44.479 the writer strike is about, amongst other things, but that 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:48.720 is mainly what it's about. Now they trying to introduce 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:52.000 the AI and shit, which is scary as fuck because 0:01:52.040 --> 0:01:54.040 that means no human being will be able to have 0:01:54.080 --> 0:01:56.360 a job when it comes to that type of shit, 0:01:56.600 --> 0:01:58.320 because they have. 0:01:58.360 --> 0:02:00.000 Computers, you know what I'm saying. 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:04.840 So that's why I pray every single day against everything 0:02:04.880 --> 0:02:08.120 that's trying to you know, just kill off humanity and 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:11.600 just stop us from living and stop us from you know, 0:02:11.720 --> 0:02:13.840 working and everything that we need to do, you know, 0:02:13.960 --> 0:02:16.280 to provide for our families and shit like that. So 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:18.760 let's jump straight in. It's just a little, a little 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:22.800 gem I wanted to drop in y'all. Ear, here we go. Oh, y'all, 0:02:22.800 --> 0:02:25.960 we got voice notes. Y'all know I'm hyper shit. Voice notes, 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:27.919 voice notes, y'all listen. 0:02:28.760 --> 0:02:37.400 Jee o MG, just listen. Uh Okay, So let me 0:02:37.520 --> 0:02:40.280 start this off. I don't have an update about my 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:44.800 situation other than I did take your advice regarding the 0:02:44.880 --> 0:02:48.480 communication piece that has all been worked out, no longer 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:52.560 an issue. So that's not what this is about. Girl. 0:02:52.680 --> 0:02:55.720 What I want to talk to you about today, oh lord, 0:02:56.200 --> 0:02:59.400 is I actually feel like I need to check you 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:02.960 just a little bit. And let me explain what I 0:03:03.080 --> 0:03:07.400 mean by that. So I was just listening to your 0:03:07.800 --> 0:03:13.520 Bye Bye Baby episode, and I have a few things 0:03:13.520 --> 0:03:15.239 that I want to say to you that I think 0:03:15.320 --> 0:03:19.400 you need to know, because as awesome as most of 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:24.680 the advice that you give is, you miss the mark 0:03:24.760 --> 0:03:25.280 on this one. 0:03:25.280 --> 0:03:28.440 Shatty, Well what you got to say, baby? 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:31.320 Yeah, you totally missed the mark on this one. And 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:36.880 let me explain to you why. So I have experience 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:40.680 in the arena that the young lady that sent you 0:03:40.760 --> 0:03:43.600 the message was as far as her being bisexual, and 0:03:43.760 --> 0:03:47.440 being married. Now, to my knowledge, you are none of 0:03:47.440 --> 0:03:51.000 those things. So I feel like the advice you gave 0:03:51.440 --> 0:03:54.640 was kind of one sided because you don't understand the 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:58.600 full dynamic. So this young lady, from what I heard, 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:02.040 you know, married or has been married a man, but 0:04:02.120 --> 0:04:05.440 still had cravens for females that he was not. You know, 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:08.520 he can't meet he's not a woman. So she wanted 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:11.200 to have the threesomes you know, once every other month 0:04:11.280 --> 0:04:13.280 was not enough. I agree with you in the effect 0:04:13.320 --> 0:04:15.720 that that's a little greedy. I mean, you know, to 0:04:15.760 --> 0:04:17.599 each their own. You know, I'm saying, I'll never shame 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:23.479 somebody for their sexual preference or desires or sex drive 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:26.000 or whatever they got going on. Never will I do that. 0:04:27.600 --> 0:04:31.240 But just for myself personally, like i've I've always known 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:34.000 that I was bisexual since a kid. I actually was 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:38.600 attracted to females before males, And so now I myself personally, 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:41.800 of course, I am always going to be attracted to females. 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:44.320 That's just who I am. So what we let me 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:49.039 explain what bisexual means. It simply means I am equally 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:51.920 attracted to men and women. I can fall in love 0:04:52.000 --> 0:04:54.120 with each I can have sex with each I don't 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:58.480 see any difference there. I love people period, so because 0:04:58.880 --> 0:05:03.320 types that you are always craving one or the other. 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:06.440 Like as you know from my previous story. I've been 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:11.520 with my husband now for eleven years. I'm still attracted 0:05:11.560 --> 0:05:13.960 to females. I still see a fat ass and look 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:15.440 at it. We look at them together. You know what 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:17.640 I'm saying. That still attracts me, That still turns me on. 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:22.960 But I don't have the desire or the yearning. I 0:05:23.000 --> 0:05:27.360 guess you can say are an unsatiable appetite for women. 0:05:28.200 --> 0:05:30.880 I am more than satisfied, you know, with my husband, 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:33.080 and our sex life is very active. 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:35.680 Girl, you better get to it because it don't sound 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:38.200 like you're saying much of anything different than what the 0:05:38.200 --> 0:05:40.000 fuck I say is, so you better get to it. 0:05:40.720 --> 0:05:43.400 Cool. I don't have no issues there, but that doesn't 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:45.760 take away the fact that I am attracted to and 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:48.800 will always be attracted to women, because that's just who 0:05:48.880 --> 0:05:51.640 I am. Bisex the same way that, even though I'm married, 0:05:52.200 --> 0:05:55.440 I still find other men attractive. You know what I'm saying. 0:05:55.480 --> 0:05:57.240 They still look good to me. If I see a 0:05:57.320 --> 0:05:59.800 nice chest, so I might feel a little tingle. So 0:06:00.480 --> 0:06:03.920 the difference here is when you're in a committed relationship, 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:08.000 married or otherwise, no matter who you're attracted to and 0:06:08.040 --> 0:06:12.159 who you have cravens for, you make that decision to 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:15.880 stay committed to the person you are with, regardless to 0:06:16.120 --> 0:06:19.400 if you are having feelings for the opposite sex and 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:21.520 feeling like your knees are not being met, or whatever 0:06:21.560 --> 0:06:24.240 the case may be, you still need to make that 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:29.320 decision to be faithful. So in this young lady's case, 0:06:29.480 --> 0:06:33.120 it sounds like to me that you know she you know, 0:06:33.160 --> 0:06:35.279 the man just wasn't enough of her, and that's her truth. 0:06:35.839 --> 0:06:38.600 And she explained that, you know, to her husband. And 0:06:40.520 --> 0:06:44.320 what really appalled me about your response to her is 0:06:44.360 --> 0:06:48.800 you place all of the blame on her for introducing 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:53.080 the other woman into the situation and not holding him 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:55.760 not one bit of accountable for the fact that one 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:59.760 here's his first mistake, thinking that he could be everything 0:06:59.839 --> 0:07:05.040 to her. That sounds real egotistical and chauvinistic for one, 0:07:06.400 --> 0:07:09.240 because no matter how good you are in the bed, 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:14.600 you cannot change somebody's makeup. Being bisexual is not a choice. 0:07:14.600 --> 0:07:17.360 That's not something you just choose one day that's who 0:07:17.440 --> 0:07:20.240 you are. As simple as that, it is who you are. 0:07:20.840 --> 0:07:23.960 You can't explain it. I can't explain why I'm attracted 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:26.120 to women, why they turn me on. I just know 0:07:26.200 --> 0:07:28.800 that I am the same way. I can't explain why 0:07:28.800 --> 0:07:31.040 I'm attracted to men. I just know that I am. 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:32.280 Listen, Listen, listen. 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:35.200 So I'm gonna correct you right there, and mind you. 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:37.680 I'm not checking you, and I need you to know 0:07:37.720 --> 0:07:40.679 you ain't checking me either. You're just trying to educate 0:07:40.720 --> 0:07:42.920 me on something you think I don't know about. So 0:07:42.960 --> 0:07:47.360 that's not checking somebody. That's just you having a different 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:51.760 opinion and then also attempting to educate me on something. 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:55.480 So I think you need to go back and listen 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:58.200 to by bye baby, miss ma'am. Because I did not 0:07:58.320 --> 0:08:00.920 place all of the blame on her. I said that. 0:08:01.040 --> 0:08:03.560 In fact, I said he was wrong for even thinking 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:06.280 that he could be everything that she needed if she 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:10.960 went into the relationship slash marriage telling him all the 0:08:11.000 --> 0:08:15.960 facts about her sexuality preference. She's bisexual, She's been bisexual, 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:19.600 and you can't also choose that. I know bisexual people 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:24.560 that has chosen to be bisexual. They have chosen that Okay, 0:08:24.600 --> 0:08:27.160 you may feel that you were born that way, that's you. 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:30.200 Everybody don't feel that way. Some people have the right 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:33.679 to choose, and some people do choose to be bisexual 0:08:33.880 --> 0:08:37.480 because that's what they want to be after a while. Yea, 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:40.680 all people aren't born that way. I don't believe, just 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:43.480 like I don't believe all people are born gay. And 0:08:43.520 --> 0:08:46.000 the reason why I say that is because I know 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:51.400 gay people and bisexual people who became that way. I 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:54.840 know both who became that way. Some people I know 0:08:56.080 --> 0:08:59.280 were born that way they feel they were born that way, 0:08:59.320 --> 0:09:03.800 and some people, boo, became that way. So yeah, you 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:06.640 can speak for yourself, ma'am, and you can't help me 0:09:06.720 --> 0:09:07.640 fix nobody else. 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:09.720 Mess. How you gonna come to me to fit? 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:10.080 Girl? 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:13.040 All right, let's finish, let's finish, let's finished. 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:15.680 Hold up, Hold up, I know this shit getting good, 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:18.000 But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:19.200 If you love me, you'll listen. 0:09:20.760 --> 0:09:23.440 You know, nothing happened in childhood that turned me that way. 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:28.320 That's no uh, you know, the trauma or anything that's you, 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:31.679 nothing of that sort. That's just how I always have been, right, 0:09:31.880 --> 0:09:35.160 that is how she always will be. So it was 0:09:35.280 --> 0:09:39.080 the husband's fault first and foremost, thinking that his dick 0:09:39.160 --> 0:09:41.319 gang so good that he was gone fuck her out 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:45.080 of being by That's just unrealistic and immature to think 0:09:45.120 --> 0:09:45.520 that way. 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:47.800 But I'm saying, how do you know that's all he 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:48.400 was thinking. 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:51.680 This ain't no lord that this wasn't just his like 0:09:51.720 --> 0:09:54.600 a fling you're talking about. He thought he had like 0:09:54.720 --> 0:09:56.560 the most amazing dick that could change. 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:57.000 Nah. 0:09:57.040 --> 0:09:59.680 This is his wife, ma'am. This this is somebody that 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:01.960 he want to marry. So I think it was more 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:06.079 about dick, more about him just having this awesome piece 0:10:06.120 --> 0:10:08.640 of pole, you know what I mean. Like it could 0:10:08.640 --> 0:10:10.800 have been I'm gona love her this way, or the 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:14.200 way I look at her, or the way I hold 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:16.200 her to a high standard, or it could have been 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:19.640 everything else, including dick. But I don't think he was 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:21.760 just thinking that he could just fuck her out of 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:24.120 being bisexual. I don't think that, or he wouldn't have 0:10:24.160 --> 0:10:26.320 went so far to marry her if it was just 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:27.160 all about his dick. 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:32.360 But continue, you cannot change someone's orientation. There have been 0:10:32.480 --> 0:10:35.960 enough studies about that to prove, like the little gender 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:40.920 reassignment stuff not reassignment. But the little therapies that you know, 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:43.040 psych words and stuff used to do to try to 0:10:44.120 --> 0:10:47.040 conversion therapy and all that, it doesn't work. You can't 0:10:47.160 --> 0:10:51.680 change who you are attracted to, simply cannot. So that 0:10:51.679 --> 0:10:55.360 that's the first mistake. That was his mistake there. So 0:10:55.559 --> 0:10:59.760 then so Shorty, you know, gets the green light. You know, 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:02.560 the threesome situation. You know what I'm saying, they're having 0:11:02.600 --> 0:11:05.320 their threesomes, you know, And I completely I do agree 0:11:05.320 --> 0:11:06.920 with you, you know, on the fact that you know, 0:11:07.040 --> 0:11:10.319 she introduced this and maybe she should have just when 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:12.640 he said no, just let that be that, and she 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:15.000 kind of pushed it. So I agree with you there. 0:11:15.640 --> 0:11:18.760 But this is, this is the thing. She was open 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:22.640 and honest with him about how she was feeling and 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:26.600 wanted to find a remedy to where she could you know, 0:11:27.280 --> 0:11:31.119 get her satisfaction that she needed with him being included. 0:11:31.640 --> 0:11:34.120 She could have went and cheated, She could have had 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:36.520 a homegirl that she was fucking on the side when 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:38.160 they go out for you know what I'm saying, Like, 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:40.480 she could have done it the other way and he 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:43.880 would have been none the wiser, but she didn't. She 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:47.280 honored her vows and was honest with her husband about 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:50.160 what she wanted and what she needed, and he eventually 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:53.920 gave in. He is the one who took it a 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:58.560 step further, stepped outside of their union and decided to 0:11:58.640 --> 0:12:02.800 continue with this female outside of her. That was dishonored. 0:12:03.120 --> 0:12:04.200 Yeah, it was dishonest. 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:06.880 But when you get into all of this I need 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:10.480 someone else type of bullshit, then this is what happens, ma'am. 0:12:10.800 --> 0:12:15.160 This is what happens, whether you're by straight, gay, whatever. 0:12:15.800 --> 0:12:19.000 If you're married, be married to that one motherfucker, do something, 0:12:19.080 --> 0:12:22.640 do everything with that one motherfucker until you're able to 0:12:22.640 --> 0:12:25.920 be with one motherfucker. You got to be single or 0:12:25.960 --> 0:12:27.200 be polling or whatever. 0:12:27.360 --> 0:12:27.800 That's it. 0:12:28.280 --> 0:12:33.080 That was dishonest, That was disloyal, That was sneaky. So yes, 0:12:33.160 --> 0:12:35.440 I understand now he got this new pompom that he 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:37.720 been in after being with hers for four years, so 0:12:37.760 --> 0:12:40.360 it's new. Probably feel a little different. Like you said, 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:42.280 he didn't got time to learn the girl's body. All 0:12:42.360 --> 0:12:44.200 of that. All of that is true, not taking nothing 0:12:44.240 --> 0:12:45.960 away from what you said on that. All of that 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:49.880 is true, but the fact still remains that she was 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:53.400 honest with him, open with him, introduced it to him 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:58.520 with him, he stepped outside of that and decided to 0:12:58.559 --> 0:13:02.040 do his own thing outside side of that. How is 0:13:02.080 --> 0:13:05.760 that her fault? Yes, she introduced the female, but it 0:13:05.880 --> 0:13:09.640 is him who made the choice to dishonor his vows. 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:13.079 So the fact that you're blaming her for that can 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:17.280 be even further more traumatizing on top of this situation 0:13:17.400 --> 0:13:21.959 of her just being feeling betrayed. I also do agree 0:13:22.000 --> 0:13:24.440 with you that you know, the first time that she 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:26.720 had a little side eye situation when he was. 0:13:26.720 --> 0:13:29.680 Getting to I agree with what you're saying. I'll let 0:13:29.720 --> 0:13:32.000 you continue, because that was in the middle of a thought. 0:13:32.320 --> 0:13:36.439 I did not solely blame her for him sneaking out. 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:40.000 I mean for him fucking the girl by himself. But okay, 0:13:40.040 --> 0:13:41.280 I'll let you continue. 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:45.080 She absolutely should have checked it and nipped it in 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:48.600 the butt at that point, like, okay, Hubby, I appreciate you, 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:51.400 you know, obliging me in this request, but I feel 0:13:51.400 --> 0:13:53.960 like you and the third parties getting a little closer 0:13:53.960 --> 0:13:55.880 than I would prefer for y'all to be. So you know, 0:13:55.920 --> 0:13:58.040 I'm cool on that. That's what I would have done, 0:13:58.120 --> 0:13:59.360 you know what I'm saying. First of all, I'm not 0:13:59.360 --> 0:14:00.199 having no threason. 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:01.880 My husband, But oh, I know you're not. 0:14:02.240 --> 0:14:04.640 That's right, And so she should have checked it right there, 0:14:04.640 --> 0:14:05.000 and you are. 0:14:05.000 --> 0:14:07.000 Absolutely bisexual or not. 0:14:07.160 --> 0:14:09.360 I bet you won't right because you don't want to 0:14:09.400 --> 0:14:12.600 be another one writing me about an incident like that 0:14:12.600 --> 0:14:15.680 that happened, and then now I got to fix your mess. Yeah, 0:14:15.760 --> 0:14:19.080 you wouldn't be, so that that should exclude this whole 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:22.040 shit that you write in me about because you would 0:14:22.080 --> 0:14:26.120 never do those things right. And you're bisexual yourself, something 0:14:26.120 --> 0:14:30.040 that you'll never not be right, something you didn't choose 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:32.480 to be. These are your words, not mine, but it's 0:14:32.520 --> 0:14:35.640 just who you are. And even with that being who 0:14:35.720 --> 0:14:39.240 you are, you would never bring another woman in the 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:42.160 bedroom with you and your husband. Why because you made 0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:47.000 a conscious decision to commit to one person, whether that 0:14:47.080 --> 0:14:51.720 be man or woman, to one person. Right, So right, 0:14:51.840 --> 0:14:55.800 this excludes everything. This really just excludes everything that you're saying. 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:58.560 But okay, there, she should not have stood back and 0:14:58.600 --> 0:15:01.640 just let it be. But the fact that he is 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:06.320 sneaking around with this female is not okay, and that 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:09.320 is not her fault. I agree, So I kind of 0:15:09.360 --> 0:15:11.880 see it from another point of view. I feel like 0:15:12.600 --> 0:15:15.239 the reason why the husband may have been so adamant 0:15:15.280 --> 0:15:19.160 and not wanting to do it to begin with was 0:15:19.240 --> 0:15:23.120 because we don't know his past. Is he a known cheater? 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:26.160 You know what I'm saying. Is this something that he 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:28.400 is known for doing? Is that a part of his past? 0:15:28.480 --> 0:15:28.960 Oh girl? 0:15:29.000 --> 0:15:32.560 As he had a problem with keeping just one female and. 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:35.760 Oh girl, come on now, we're not about to do that. 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:38.880 We definitely not about to do that. The nigga said no, 0:15:38.960 --> 0:15:43.160 He said no, not you offer your husband a threesome 0:15:44.000 --> 0:15:46.960 and the niggas say no. So now you want to 0:15:47.000 --> 0:15:50.440 dig into why he's saying noose because he may be 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:53.000 a cheater. He may be scared to dive into something 0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:54.880 like this because he know he can't just be with 0:15:54.960 --> 0:15:55.400 one woman. 0:15:55.600 --> 0:15:58.320 Come on, girl, come on, come on, let's cut it out. 0:15:58.440 --> 0:15:59.200 Let's cut it out. 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:02.480 It sounds like to me that you don't think that 0:16:02.520 --> 0:16:04.680 she needs to be held accountable for anything. 0:16:04.960 --> 0:16:05.960 That's what it sounds like. 0:16:06.040 --> 0:16:08.560 It sounds like that you want to make this from 0:16:08.600 --> 0:16:12.040 her fault to his fault when they both share faults. 0:16:12.600 --> 0:16:14.720 That's what it sounds like, that that you're putting this 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:17.360 more on him. What's what's going on with your past, 0:16:17.600 --> 0:16:21.360 like did this trigger you in any way? Has your 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:24.280 man cheated on you before? Because now I'm about to 0:16:24.400 --> 0:16:27.440 I'm about to have to fix some more mess for you. 0:16:27.520 --> 0:16:29.840 I feel like, well, what's what is going on? Are 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:33.600 you projecting because of this story? What is happening? Because 0:16:33.640 --> 0:16:35.600 that that that's some bullshit. 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:39.200 And being with just one female and maybe in the 0:16:39.240 --> 0:16:41.840 back of his mind he knew that this was gonna 0:16:41.880 --> 0:16:44.000 open up that can of worms again and he wasn't 0:16:44.000 --> 0:16:45.040 gonna be able to stop his sin. 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:46.600 This is how people get single. 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:49.360 You know what I'm saying. We got to consider that 0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:49.840 we don't know. 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:52.440 Oh my god, we got it now it's a wee. 0:16:52.560 --> 0:16:55.240 You ain't helping me fix nobody mass ma'am. 0:16:55.680 --> 0:16:56.760 You don't need to help me. 0:16:57.480 --> 0:17:00.680 You're you're totally biased, like and I think it's because 0:17:00.680 --> 0:17:04.480 you're by That's that's how I feel like you're taking 0:17:04.880 --> 0:17:08.280 a biased stance because you are bisexual as well as 0:17:08.320 --> 0:17:10.959 this woman. But see, that's why it's good for me 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:13.520 to fix them, to fix the mess, because I'm neither 0:17:13.720 --> 0:17:16.399 like you said, I'm not married yet and I'm not 0:17:16.560 --> 0:17:21.080 by ever, So that that's that's why I can never 0:17:21.160 --> 0:17:23.679 be biased. Now we got a commercial and if you 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:26.840 click off of this podcast, I swear i'mnna beat your ass. Listen, 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:30.280 I tell it like it is like I see it. 0:17:30.320 --> 0:17:34.600 Whether this woman is street, gay, trans whatever, everybody gets 0:17:34.680 --> 0:17:38.200 the same advice, no matter what you know, no matter 0:17:38.240 --> 0:17:42.120 what their preference is, their sexuality, it doesn't matter you get. 0:17:42.200 --> 0:17:45.879 Everybody's gonna get the same type of advice depending on 0:17:45.920 --> 0:17:46.560 the situation. 0:17:47.840 --> 0:17:51.199 Like what that ground you know what I'm saying. The 0:17:51.200 --> 0:17:54.159 fact that he was so cocky enough to feel like 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:56.679 he could be her everything and she wouldn't need no 0:17:56.960 --> 0:17:59.520 was he cocky? Lets me know? That says to me 0:17:59.600 --> 0:18:03.399 that he feel very highly about himself. So how do 0:18:03.480 --> 0:18:06.440 we know as you're supposed to a connoisseur of multiple 0:18:06.440 --> 0:18:09.760 women in the past, and you know, maybe settled down 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:12.400 when he met her, and now she done introduce him 0:18:12.400 --> 0:18:14.000 to what he was used to in the past, and 0:18:14.040 --> 0:18:16.199 he was remembering how much he likes having more than 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:17.000 one pompom. 0:18:17.920 --> 0:18:22.800 Yo, you are diluted. I'm sorry. I'm so sorry, baby girl. 0:18:23.280 --> 0:18:26.040 You are making you see how you just said, Dad 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:30.200 made up a whole story about this man's back history, 0:18:30.320 --> 0:18:33.000 about his life, like you made up a whole backstory 0:18:33.040 --> 0:18:36.920 about this man's life. You don't even know, Like, what 0:18:37.440 --> 0:18:40.960 are we talking about here? Look, I hope for damn 0:18:41.119 --> 0:18:45.359 sure you got everything going on right in your fucking 0:18:45.400 --> 0:18:47.760 love life, because baby, the way you just sat here 0:18:47.800 --> 0:18:51.040 and made this whole shit up has me wanting to 0:18:51.080 --> 0:18:53.800 re evaluate what I told you. 0:18:53.800 --> 0:18:58.239 You know what I'm saying. So, uh, my whole point is, 0:18:58.800 --> 0:19:02.640 I understand your point about her introducing the other female 0:19:02.680 --> 0:19:06.840 to him, but she did it openly and honestly with him, 0:19:07.520 --> 0:19:10.520 in commitment with him and conversation with him. 0:19:11.320 --> 0:19:14.720 Yeah, you're traumatized too by something. 0:19:15.200 --> 0:19:18.639 He, on the other hand, snuck and did something behind 0:19:18.720 --> 0:19:23.280 her back, whether she introduced the female or not, he 0:19:23.480 --> 0:19:26.120 was the one that's been lying and has been disloyal. 0:19:26.280 --> 0:19:28.399 Well, that's why you don't do shit like this. 0:19:29.119 --> 0:19:32.679 He went outside of her. So, whether she introduced it 0:19:32.800 --> 0:19:36.800 or not, once again, she was open, honest and brought 0:19:36.800 --> 0:19:39.960 it to the forefront. He's hiding shorty in the background. 0:19:40.840 --> 0:19:46.280 That's not right, point blank period. So just another point 0:19:46.280 --> 0:19:50.639 of view from someone who is bisexual and Mary, So 0:19:50.720 --> 0:19:53.000 I definitely am gonna have a different take on it 0:19:53.040 --> 0:19:56.480 than you do, and we can agree to disagree, but 0:19:56.600 --> 0:19:59.760 I would want you to just think about those points 0:19:59.760 --> 0:20:02.960 that I brought up. And I'm not gonna lie. Stop 0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:05.840 the bye bye baby at nine minutes and two seconds 0:20:05.840 --> 0:20:07.359 because it was too triggering for. 0:20:07.280 --> 0:20:13.080 Me, right exactly, that's what we're talking about, exactly, baby, girl. 0:20:13.480 --> 0:20:17.040 Look, even listening to you continue to absolve him of 0:20:17.119 --> 0:20:19.240 his wrongdoing and put all the blame on heart. That's 0:20:19.280 --> 0:20:19.640 not right. 0:20:19.960 --> 0:20:22.400 Well, how the fuck can you even be sitting here 0:20:22.440 --> 0:20:24.840 writing me and make sure this's your last message to me? Because, 0:20:24.880 --> 0:20:26.600 to be honest with you, I ain't about to go 0:20:26.640 --> 0:20:28.800 back and forth with your ass because I know the 0:20:28.920 --> 0:20:32.000 next the next bulk of messages you're gonna send me 0:20:32.240 --> 0:20:34.720 ain't gonna be so pretty. And I ain't got time 0:20:34.760 --> 0:20:38.000 for none of this shit. Like for real, girl, Look 0:20:38.680 --> 0:20:41.840