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Speaker 1: you here. It is the Strawberry letta subject. I'm in

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Speaker 1: love with my best friend's husband, all right, I know,

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm in a crazy love triangle. And

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Speaker 1: I met my man through his wife. She was supposed

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Speaker 1: I ran into my best friend's husband one day and

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Speaker 1: for years behind my back. He never stopped calling me,

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Speaker 1: Then he started texting me nude pictures of himself and

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Speaker 1: eventually led to sex. The sex with him was amazing

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Speaker 1: he said some very nasty things to me. I wanted

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Speaker 1: All right, all right, don't have to repeat it. Just

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Speaker 1: to me. So now we're back together. Every time we

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Speaker 1: fine again. I'm trying to get out of this madness,

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Speaker 1: but now I'm in love. No matter what I do

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Speaker 1: hoping that she can forgive me. Do you think it's

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Speaker 1: possible to repair our friendship? Please? Advise. No, okay, absolutely sure,

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Speaker 1: ye are you kidding me? Right now? She's not gonna

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Speaker 1: take you back after you've been sleeping with her husband.

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Speaker 1: Come on, they don't do that anywhere, Okay, anywhere? And

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Speaker 1: you're being stupid here, I mean, why are you still

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Speaker 1: fooling with this man? You don't like it when you

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Speaker 1: you keep having sex with them. Now you think you're

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Speaker 1: in love with this man. I don't care if they

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Speaker 1: don't circle back and get with your best friends or

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Speaker 1: gonna take you. That's not how this works. That's not

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Speaker 1: how life works. You broke all kinds of girlfriend codes

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Speaker 1: with this, all kinds of everything. You are wrong, so

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Speaker 1: The best thing for you to do is to leave

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Speaker 1: by yourself for a minute. This is just craziness here.

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Speaker 1: You're right, You're in a crazy love triangle. Just you know,

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Speaker 1: You know what I've discovered through these years of strawberry

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Speaker 1: let us crazy ass letters is written by crazy ass people. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Just after all this right here? Do you I want

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Speaker 1: to trade him in and get my friend back? What? Friend? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: What a matter of fact, let's start with the subject.

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Speaker 1: I'm in love with my best friend's husband. I'm I'm

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Speaker 1: But we all get over stupid stuff. Blown out that

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Speaker 1: me to begin with. That was a setup, right, that

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Speaker 1: and it works. It sadly works because this ain't nothing

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Speaker 1: First of all, you're Lyne, this ain't your best friend

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Speaker 1: best friend? What you're trifling you? You got a trifle

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Speaker 1: this letter. But it's all throughout the letter. You started

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Speaker 1: Then he started texting your new photos. What I didn't

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Speaker 1: I knew it, don't even say that. That's normally where

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Speaker 1: Started texting me new pictures of herself saying tech said

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Speaker 1: So what you do at work today, I don't give it,

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Speaker 1: let me explain something to you. This was not you

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Speaker 1: trying to hurt him. You wanted everybody to hurt. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: since you talking to me crazy, let me show you

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Speaker 1: what I've been doing, best friend, that's what your funking

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Speaker 1: tell did. Now that ain't in your letter, but that's

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Speaker 1: what you did. So I wanted to hurt him back,

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Speaker 1: just knew that would be it. You just knew that

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Speaker 1: Now what you really meant was you just knew that

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Speaker 1: you know, him calling you, But no, he came right

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Speaker 1: So now we're back together. Every time we have a fight,

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Speaker 1: You don't understand that. It's people do that. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: that like that. You don't see that. Every time we

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Speaker 1: But now I'm in love. That's not true either. No

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Speaker 1: But where's love in this letter? You keep talking about?

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Speaker 1: First of all, where's the best friend at? Where is

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Speaker 1: the best sex? That's all. He's attached to a nasty

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Speaker 1: and I ain't no saying it nasty ain't good. I'm

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Speaker 1: Now you're doing stuff to him. Hey, you know i'sen

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Speaker 1: the negd ass picture to him white. What else you're

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Speaker 1: could do. He won't leave me alone. I want to

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Speaker 1: trade him in and get my friend back. Are you?

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Speaker 1: Have you lost your rabbid ass? Mind? Is wrong with you?

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Speaker 1: Are you you? You go from dumb to ignorant to

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Speaker 1: flat out stupid. I want to trade him in and

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Speaker 1: get my friend. Am I hoping? I am hoping that

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Speaker 1: she can forgive you, forgive you, forgive you for what?

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Speaker 1: Do you think it's possible to repair our friendship? Please

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Speaker 1: advise it's stupid. Repair the friship you for to mess

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Speaker 1: your ass around and get stabbed? What you what you can?

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Speaker 1: Don't go over to this woman's house. Listen to me

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Speaker 1: to ask at your housew don't you go over this

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Speaker 1: woman's house? Toma, No, I'm sorry, don't tell time, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: Don't sitting on pictures about nothing, don't do nothing. Stay

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Speaker 1: away from this woman. You are done. You can't keep

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Speaker 1: This not fitting to be your man. She not fitting

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Speaker 1: to be your friend. You're not fitting to get no

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Speaker 1: man or your own. Your ass wrong like two left shoes,

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Speaker 1: but then you want to look like you got on socks.

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Speaker 1: This ain't high life work, sister, Please advise. Do you

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Speaker 1: think I can repair our friendship? You didn't want a friendship,

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Speaker 1: y'all couldn't talk it through, so you screwed her husband.

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Speaker 1: Ain't no woman fitting to be your friend after this?

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Speaker 1: No woman. You can't get a woman from no culture

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Speaker 1: woman of no race to be your free and after

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Speaker 1: my boy said and then she killed it him, all right,

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