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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Smith. Welcome to stuff one

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Speaker 1: ever told your protection of I Heart Radio. So today

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Speaker 1: this is something that I think we'll be talking about

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Speaker 1: of the fictional stories that were infertility is a big

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Speaker 1: In the meantime, please enjoy this classic episode Welcome to

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Speaker 1: Stuff Mom Never Told You from how Stuff Works dot Com. Hello,

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Speaker 1: and welcome to the podcast. I'm Caroline and I'm Kristen.

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Speaker 1: Today's topic is one that has been refusted by a

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Speaker 1: one can be in a line of work where you

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Speaker 1: sometimes feel the need to scream out loud. Insurance claims,

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Speaker 1: I do feel that urge to curse out loud in

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Speaker 1: the workplace every so often, sometimes more than once a day.

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Speaker 1: But I digress. I've heard people say that cursing as

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Speaker 1: a lady makes you seem less educated, I e. She

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Speaker 1: couldn't find a better word in her vocabulary to express

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Speaker 1: that point. I hold a bachelor's degree and would consider

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Speaker 1: myself highly educated, But sometimes my old standby is such

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Speaker 1: as fiddle d d or goodness simply won't cut it.

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Speaker 1: I find myself letting an F bomb slip out at times,

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Speaker 1: and although I may not be the most pleased with it, later,

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Speaker 1: it just feels better. Thank you for offering an escape

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Speaker 1: from my day to day stresses. You're welcome, Crystal, and

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Speaker 1: I hope that us relieving you from some of your

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