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Speaker 1: My parents gave me a phone to track me twenty

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Speaker 1: four seven.

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Speaker 2: At least they know where you're gonna be at.

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Speaker 1: This is that one episode on Black Mair. I sixteen male,

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Speaker 1: recently got my first phone from my parents.

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Speaker 2: Okay, this makes a lot of sense.

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Speaker 1: They told me that one of the conditions for having

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Speaker 1: it was that I have to share my location with

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Speaker 1: them at all times. This feels like an invasion of privacy,

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Speaker 1: but they insist that it's just for my safety.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to the world.

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I know most parent When I was sixteen,

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Speaker 1: most of my friend's parents had Life three sixty or

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Speaker 1: you know whatever tracked their location.

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Speaker 2: Just don't have a phone. Man.

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Speaker 1: My parents never had that for me because I wasn't

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Speaker 1: going anywhere. By the way, this comes from Researcher Talk

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Speaker 1: separate it. So I'm very responsible. I get good grades.

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Speaker 1: I have never snuck out. This doesn't feel reasonable to me.

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Speaker 1: I have tried having calm conversations about it, and I

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Speaker 1: have pointed out that I always tell them where I'm going,

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Speaker 1: but they're holding firm. I don't actually have an issue

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Speaker 1: with them knowing where I am, but the idea of

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Speaker 1: them knowing where I am instantly just through looking up

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Speaker 1: my phone makes me uncomfortable. You're said, honestly, I'm like, Okay, Personally,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to have life through sixty for kids

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Speaker 1: or whatever, but I know so many parents who have it,

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Speaker 1: so I'm like, dude, I'm sorry. You don't really get

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Speaker 1: to say, like my I had a friend whose parents

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Speaker 1: made her have Life through sixty and she was also

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Speaker 1: a good kid, never went out, you know, never snuck

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Speaker 1: out or anything, and she had to have life through sixty.

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Speaker 1: There's not much you can do.

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Speaker 2: My parents gave my brother life. They didn't have like smartphones. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so they got Life through sixty for my brother so

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Speaker 2: I could track him.

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Speaker 1: But also I feel like I I'm going to be

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Speaker 1: sharing my location with my kids because I share my

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Speaker 1: location with everyone, and I hope my kids want to

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Speaker 1: share the location with me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I won't make it. But you're sixteen, man, just

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Speaker 2: don't have a phone. If that, if you're uncomfortable with that,

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Speaker 2: just don't have a phone.

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Speaker 1: Anna says, you're only sixteen. I mean, I get it,

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Speaker 1: but it is common. Yeah, that's my thing. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I get why you're upset, but also, like so many kids,

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Speaker 1: so many parents do this.

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Speaker 2: Also get a flip phone.

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Speaker 1: That's what I had. I have an idea for how

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Speaker 1: to express how I feel about it. I plan to

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Speaker 1: buy a novelty prison or costume for the ankle tag.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're such a sixteen year old. Roll

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Speaker 1: up my leg to show the tag and tell them

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Speaker 1: this is a symbolic representation of how I feel over

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Speaker 1: the location tracking. You're so sixteen, you're so sixteen. Luckily

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Speaker 1: I saw the kind of costume I'm looking for in

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Speaker 1: a shop. The ankle tag is plastic, has a blinking

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Speaker 1: red light and straps around your ankle with falchro It's

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Speaker 1: super fake looking, but perfect for what I want to say.

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Speaker 1: Laugh at you. Your parents are gonna laugh at you, Jesus.

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Speaker 1: But I don't know if this is a good idea.

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Speaker 1: It's not. I want to make a point that I'm

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Speaker 1: not sure how to react. Am I just being disrespectful

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Speaker 1: to hear other thoughts.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I did something to be petty once. I got

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Speaker 2: sick once and I put on a full body suit

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Speaker 2: to show everyone that I'm sick but staying like, you know, safe,

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Speaker 2: And it backfired and everyone actually loved it, and they

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Speaker 2: wouldn't let me out of the room unless I had

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Speaker 2: I didn't have it on.

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Speaker 1: So funny, that's so funny.

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Speaker 2: So in that sense it makes sense. But this, dude,

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Speaker 2: I mean, go for it, you know what. It's an idea.

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Speaker 2: It'd be funny looking back at it. But if you

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Speaker 2: are a minor under eighteen, yeah, you're gonna have tracking

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Speaker 2: on your phone.

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Speaker 1: They're gonna track you, bud, and it's stinks because you

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Speaker 1: want You're like, I'm sixteen, I want to be free.

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Speaker 2: Yep. My kids will not have a screen until they're eighteen.

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Speaker 2: I will give them, Yeah, a flip phone, I agree,

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Speaker 2: but ID nothing like that. No, unless it's like we're together,

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Speaker 2: we can have you know, we can Like I say.

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Speaker 1: A lot of schools are probably gonna make kids hat

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Speaker 1: because that's what my school did at fifth grade. We

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Speaker 1: have to get iPads, but I'm not They're not having

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Speaker 1: it at home. They're gonna have to figure out how

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Speaker 1: to entertain themselves. I'm getting my kids books and they're

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Speaker 1: gonna read like I did. I read all the time. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and I'll give them I don't know, like twister and

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Speaker 2: Well, kids will do with the parents, Like if your

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Speaker 2: parents are always looking at the phone, so that I.

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Speaker 1: Will have to actually work on my own content.

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Speaker 2: Well, dude, just a book and a phone in there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they'll never catch on. I mean I do read

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Speaker 1: a lot, So I think I'll just make them watch

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Speaker 1: movies with me. Yeah, and they can't do it on

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Speaker 2: I watch it again pretty good if I'm like with someone, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: in an area, I don't look at my phone. Sometimes

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Speaker 2: at my phone. It's like a smoking break, and it's

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Speaker 2: like how many smoke breaks a day do I have?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: And it's a lot.

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Speaker 1: Crazy thing too. I'm pretty sure Life three sixty just

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Speaker 1: got sued for like leaking they did they kes yikes?

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Speaker 1: Oh rough Bailey bugs is with love? Tell me you

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Speaker 1: don't have any kids without telling me? Yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I know. It's it's really hard to have no screens

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Speaker 2: One can hope. One can hope.

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Speaker 1: You know, do you wanna? Because I mean, Mike, I

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Speaker 1: will say, like, it is possible because that's what my

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Speaker 1: like literally everyone around us was like, hot, what you

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Speaker 1: don't have a TV? How do you raise your kids

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Speaker 2: And you can see how excited she gets when she

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Speaker 1: Yeah it, you know, so maybe it wasn't best, but

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Speaker 1: like you know, you can raise It is possible. It

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Speaker 2: My mom did that to me, so like I'm probably

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Speaker 2: gonna do it anyways, getting into this who I.

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Speaker 1: Just want to do what my parents did in terms

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Speaker 1: of stuff common or one. I'm on your parents' side.

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Speaker 1: When our daughter started driving, that will be a requirement

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Speaker 1: for her until she becomes an adult. Parents worry about

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Speaker 1: their kids twenty four seven. What they are demanding is

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Speaker 1: not unreasonable. You're still a teen. There a house, There

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Speaker 1: are rules, not to mention they're paying for the phone.

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Speaker 1: Oh Pee. I just wish they would be willing to

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Speaker 1: make some kind of compromise. I have to you know,

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Speaker 1: you're sixteen, they're compromise with you. I have told them

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Speaker 1: why it bothers me, and I have listened to their

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Speaker 1: issue with the idea of them knowing where I am.

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Speaker 1: The way they're doing it just makes me feel like

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Speaker 1: they don't trust me when I never give them a

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Speaker 1: reason not to. Commoner two, I can sympathize. It may

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Speaker 1: not be trust. It's like worry. Like I said, parents

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Speaker 1: worry about kids NonStop, and that is not an exaggeration.

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Speaker 1: What's your compromise, oh p says I would be happy

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Speaker 1: to text them and tell them where I'm going. If

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Speaker 1: it's not somewhere they expect in advance, they would still

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Speaker 1: told them. Commoner two, it's not the same. Again, what

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Speaker 1: they are demanding is not unreasonable. Commenter three. It's a

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Speaker 1: safety thing. It's their phone that they pay for that

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Speaker 1: they let you have. The real reason you got it

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Speaker 1: in the first place, was it because you're such a

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Speaker 1: good boy. It's so that you can call your parents

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Speaker 1: if you end up in a sketchy or dangerous situation.

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Speaker 1: The location tracking is for the same reason, basically from

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Speaker 1: a parent. Don't be a knuckle oeut about it. Enjoy

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Speaker 1: your new phone. It was a and yeah, you have

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Speaker 1: to share your location or you could just go back

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Speaker 1: to not having a phone, Opie says. I will admit

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Speaker 1: probably the best protests would be to just give the

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Speaker 1: where I am from time to time. It's the feeling

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Speaker 1: they don't trust me that bothers me. Oh, I guess.

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Speaker 1: Common to three says, it's not really about trusting or

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Speaker 1: not you. I guarantee most of your friends share their

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Speaker 1: And there is an update, folks. Yeah, yeah, Honestly, a

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Speaker 2: For its Yeah. Yeah, facts, facts, it's just just how

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Speaker 1: It's just you're sixteen, two years you want to have

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Speaker 2: It won't even be there, you know what I'm mad about.

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Speaker 1: I share my location with my parents and they don't

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Speaker 2: Rude, Samsung's sharing it because wasn't he like you guys

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Speaker 2: don't want to know where I'm at? No, he shares

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Speaker 2: his location, does okay? Good for them?

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Speaker 1: I have a location. Yeah, I have most people's location.

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Speaker 1: I want everyone's location in my life. If you're in

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Speaker 1: my life and you're my friend, I should not your location.

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Speaker 2: Oh boy?

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Speaker 1: Do you check them all like little? Yeah? Them all

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Speaker 1: like sims? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Sometimes you ever check where I am? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: If I'm wondering where you are?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I do that too. Yeah, it's not I won't

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Speaker 2: do it as much anymore.

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Speaker 1: Oh why I want you to check where I am?

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Speaker 2: I do? I do?

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Speaker 1: But like Riley does it and he goes, why aren't

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah that's exactly, or like, uh, don't come home

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Speaker 2: for a while?

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Speaker 1: Oh you tell me, you know, well.

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Speaker 2: I'm like I'm hoping you won't come home. Oh minutes.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's okay, you can check.

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Speaker 2: Okay, cool?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Tom, Like I want your location. I want everyone's location.

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Speaker 1: Give it to me. I just like to know where

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Speaker 1: people are. That's not a crime.

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Speaker 2: How did this get put as a story? There's better

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Speaker 1: You know what, Sometimes we got to handle the normal ones.

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Speaker 2: Dude, you're gonna have such a hard time when you

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Speaker 1: It's literally just like, honestly, they should just give you

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Speaker 2: AirTag micro trip them. Yeah, like Courtney says.

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Speaker 1: Location sharing is still on, but they now check to

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Speaker 1: I have to use my laptop, what is the so okay?

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Speaker 1: So op? He was like, oh my goodness, I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if you really want to know where he's at.

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Speaker 2: But I'm a new pair of shoes all the time

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Speaker 1: It's like I have the downside of having a phone,

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Speaker 2: Everyone in this room and in chat, raise your hand

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I just told you that all my

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Speaker 2: Okay, everyone, The only way to get away from this.

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Speaker 1: Go off the grid. Everyone.

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Speaker 2: I don't think you can't get away from this.

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Speaker 1: I think that this Yeah, Purple ax Alotle says this

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Speaker 2: I just I just love that this story is commentary

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Speaker 2: on like the kid is us. Yeah, you know what,

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Speaker 2: this is great. I love this, but I don't want

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Speaker 2: with lower capabilities. It's the panopticon, man, dude, we can't

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Speaker 1: The thing is that I think that a lot of parents,

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Speaker 1: Do I think they're being unreasonable for like taking away

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Speaker 1: really done anything wrong. Yeah, but yeah, it sucks. There's

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is just a story about the bigger cause

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Speaker 2: Dare I say the I word.

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Speaker 1: I told them that I wish I had gone with

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Speaker 1: Maya's ankle monitor. Your pars are kind of funny. I

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Speaker 1: I just wish I had never brought any of this

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Speaker 1: because it feels like I can't win commoner once is,

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Speaker 1: take your lumps, apologize. Wearing the costume was never gonna work.

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Speaker 1: The comments in your previous posts said your ankle bracelet

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Speaker 1: idea was immature. Also, look at it this way. If

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Speaker 1: this reaction. They love you, and sometimes that means boundaries,

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Speaker 1: It shows you recognize that trust has to be earned

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Speaker 1: They're going to want to make sure they can find

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Speaker 1: it if you innocently lose it. So it isn't all

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Speaker 1: learn from this and do better. Oh Pi says, I

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Speaker 1: Common or two says kind of. Yeah, the phone isn't optional.

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Speaker 1: You're sixteen and wandering around alone. You need a phone

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Speaker 1: in case your car breaks down or you get lost

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Speaker 1: I agree.

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Speaker 1: I got a phone in eighth grade.

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Speaker 2: We do get live in a world, but like also

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but okay, do you know how any freaking cereal

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Speaker 2: Good for him.

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Speaker 1: So my point is when kids didn't have phones, things

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Speaker 1: I think that when you start going out and anonymous

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Speaker 2: You know, someone was were alive. And remember the eighties, Riley,

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Speaker 2: how was it Purple Trader? You made it out. Did

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Speaker 1: I see why having Well, my point is less about

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Speaker 3: Act?

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Speaker 2: Are these parents like kind of trending towards the helicopter

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Speaker 1: I the only reason why I don't think they are

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Speaker 1: to do it. I wouldn't do it as a parent.

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Speaker 1: My parents didn't do it. But I think that you know,

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Speaker 1: as a parent, this isn't out Like, this isn't abusive.

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Speaker 1: You know, like there are parents who take away their kids' doors.

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Speaker 1: That's not okay.

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Speaker 2: But I might take away my kid's door if they're

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Speaker 1: I don't think you should have a take away at

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Speaker 2: Okay, but what if they're like selling cocaine out.

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Speaker 1: Of there, then tell them to not sell cocaine.

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Speaker 2: But they keep doing it.

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Speaker 1: They're gonna keep doing it without a door. They're just

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Speaker 1: going to keep them locked in their room? Oh well

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Speaker 1: you can't now because they don't have a door.

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Speaker 2: Well, I'm gonna take away their door. So I know

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Speaker 2: if they're doing it or not.

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Speaker 1: They would do it elsewhere.

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Speaker 2: I'd probably teach them. Well, anyways, I.

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Speaker 1: Don't think that getting where the door is ever justifyed.

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Speaker 2: I think I've always kept my door open. It never

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Speaker 1: That's a different closing door, not closing, a different taking

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00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:54,920
Speaker 1: away door. Entirely weird. So the phone isn't optional. They

440
00:17:54,960 --> 00:17:57,000
Speaker 1: try to let you be a mostly adult about it,

441
00:17:57,040 --> 00:18:00,480
Speaker 1: and you refused. You behaved immaturely and in ts that

442
00:18:00,520 --> 00:18:03,720
Speaker 1: this whole situation had to happen on your terms. So

443
00:18:03,840 --> 00:18:05,840
Speaker 1: now they can't trust you to act like an adult

444
00:18:05,880 --> 00:18:08,040
Speaker 1: with the phone. So you get treated like a kid

445
00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:10,919
Speaker 1: with the phone. Because the phone isn't optional. If you

446
00:18:10,920 --> 00:18:13,960
Speaker 1: want to fix this, start acting like an adult, Opie says.

447
00:18:14,080 --> 00:18:16,359
Speaker 1: I disagreed that I was being immature but trying to

448
00:18:16,359 --> 00:18:18,680
Speaker 1: hand the phone back. But I have taken the time

449
00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:21,719
Speaker 1: to digest what everyone has said to me here, and

450
00:18:21,800 --> 00:18:24,000
Speaker 1: I think I've accepted I was wrong to make a

451
00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:26,159
Speaker 1: big deal about this. I have tried to think of

452
00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:29,560
Speaker 1: situations where having the phone's location would help, but where

453
00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:31,800
Speaker 1: me is simply texting them wouldn't. I could think of

454
00:18:31,840 --> 00:18:34,520
Speaker 1: a few, like if the phone itself was lost somewhere.

455
00:18:34,640 --> 00:18:36,600
Speaker 1: I think the reason why it's bothering me is simply

456
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Speaker 1: because I feel I have no choice over it. But

457
00:18:38,680 --> 00:18:40,560
Speaker 1: when I'm older and have my own phone plan that

458
00:18:40,680 --> 00:18:44,320
Speaker 1: I can choose to stop sharing my location, yep, if

459
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Speaker 1: it's something I still object to. At that point, I

460
00:18:46,640 --> 00:18:48,800
Speaker 1: decided to talk to my parents once again about this,

461
00:18:49,080 --> 00:18:51,440
Speaker 1: and I raised that point to them. They agreed and said,

462
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Speaker 1: I'm right and it would be my choice, but even

463
00:18:53,440 --> 00:18:55,439
Speaker 1: when I'm an adult, they would still worry about me.

464
00:18:55,560 --> 00:18:57,840
Speaker 1: We hugged and there is no tension in the house anymore.

465
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Speaker 2: Yay.

466
00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:01,040
Speaker 1: Heck yeah. I think I learned from this experience that

467
00:19:01,080 --> 00:19:02,680
Speaker 1: I don't like seeing my parents as.

468
00:19:02,760 --> 00:19:04,400
Speaker 2: Enemies anemans of the state.

469
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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think the conclusion I've come to is that

470
00:19:08,119 --> 00:19:11,240
Speaker 1: the tool itself isn't good or bad, but how it's used.

471
00:19:11,520 --> 00:19:13,440
Speaker 1: It can be used to be controlling. But if it's

472
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Speaker 1: not being used in that way, then it's harmless. I

473
00:19:15,920 --> 00:19:18,120
Speaker 1: feel really silly for making an issue out of something

474
00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:19,320
Speaker 1: that didn't need to be one.

475
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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is all written by the US government trying

476
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Speaker 2: to get us to be okay that they're tracking us

477
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Speaker 2: with their credit cards.

478
00:19:25,119 --> 00:19:26,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, or it's written by sixteen year olds who was

479
00:19:26,920 --> 00:19:27,760
Speaker 1: annoyed at his parents.

480
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Speaker 2: You get to choose that reality, listen.

481
00:19:30,640 --> 00:19:34,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think, gopee, you're sixteen in two years.

482
00:19:34,960 --> 00:19:37,679
Speaker 1: You can choose whatever you want to do. I remember

483
00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:40,359
Speaker 1: my friends who had life three sixty complaining about it

484
00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:43,080
Speaker 1: all the time and me being like, what that's terrible.

485
00:19:43,359 --> 00:19:44,240
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness.

486
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Speaker 2: I don't think it's eighteen. Kids are able to do

487
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Speaker 2: whatever they want to do.

488
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Speaker 1: Well, I mean, yeah, he might still be on his

489
00:19:49,600 --> 00:19:50,800
Speaker 1: friends or his parents.

490
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Speaker 2: Once you're out of the house and paying for your

491
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Speaker 2: own stuff, you do whatever you want.

492
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Speaker 1: Yeah, But I think when you're eighteen, they should not

493
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Speaker 1: be like putting you know, parent controls on your phone

494
00:20:02,240 --> 00:20:05,640
Speaker 1: at that point, that's ridiculous. Maybe I think that would

495
00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:09,480
Speaker 1: be ridiculous if at eighteen my parents put like controls

496
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Speaker 1: on my phone, I'd be like I did. Think it's

497
00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:12,800
Speaker 1: a little bit different than tracking. I think that's a

498
00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:15,560
Speaker 1: step too far. When you're eighteen, maybe what do you say?

499
00:20:15,640 --> 00:20:18,040
Speaker 1: Maybe I don't age you.

500
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Speaker 2: Consent my ray soon, and then you're gonna get canceled

501
00:20:20,560 --> 00:20:23,080
Speaker 2: for saying that eighteen year olds should have this way

502
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Speaker 2: of life. What if the age of consent is a

503
00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:26,560
Speaker 2: twenty one and now everyone's going to count to you

504
00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:28,960
Speaker 2: because you didn't say it was twenty one, they might.

505
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Speaker 1: That doesn't make any sense.

506
00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:31,320
Speaker 2: They're gonna canst to you when you're sixty, when know

507
00:20:31,359 --> 00:20:33,840
Speaker 2: the age of concent goes to twenty one. What calling

508
00:20:33,920 --> 00:20:34,760
Speaker 2: it all right?

509
00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:36,040
Speaker 1: That doesn't make any sense?

510
00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:37,320
Speaker 2: What do you mean it doesn't make any sense?

511
00:20:37,560 --> 00:20:38,800
Speaker 1: What do you mean? What do I mean?

512
00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:41,159
Speaker 2: Okay, this is wild take, But you used to it

513
00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:43,399
Speaker 2: was sixteen the age of sixteen in the UK. You

514
00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:45,480
Speaker 2: can vote at sixteen in the UK. Would you say

515
00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:47,840
Speaker 2: kids in the UK at sixteen should have parents or

516
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Speaker 2: controls on the phone?

517
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Speaker 1: Vote in the UK at sixteen right.

518
00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:52,639
Speaker 2: Noway, you can if they's passed it. I think it

519
00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:54,240
Speaker 2: was in Germany or the UK somewhere in there.

520
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Speaker 1: The UK is not Germany, I.

521
00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:58,520
Speaker 2: Said, one of those countries. I forget. That's both European.

522
00:20:58,600 --> 00:20:59,760
Speaker 2: I don't keep both the Europeans.

523
00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:01,200
Speaker 1: Are you talking about?

524
00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:04,040
Speaker 2: What I'm talking about is in certain areas and you

525
00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:07,800
Speaker 2: could in France. In France and that stuff, you can

526
00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:08,920
Speaker 2: go to clubs at sixteen?

527
00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:11,359
Speaker 1: You can, yeah, because there's okay, can.

528
00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:13,639
Speaker 2: You have what about them? Should they have parents controls

529
00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:14,880
Speaker 2: if they go to the club at sixteen?

530
00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:16,399
Speaker 1: What are you talking about?

531
00:21:16,600 --> 00:21:18,440
Speaker 2: She knows she's about to get canceled now she's backing

532
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:24,199
Speaker 2: on what you're talking about. M codder odder. Alright, alright,

533
00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:28,080
Speaker 2: that's a different culture. Well then age consent Kansas sixteen?

534
00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:31,560
Speaker 2: Should those kids be Should those kids have parents will

535
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Speaker 2: control if they can make?

536
00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:34,480
Speaker 1: Age of consent is different than.

537
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Speaker 2: Adult I'm just asking his phone stuff. I think that

538
00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:41,359
Speaker 2: this is a bigger story than us as a sixteen

539
00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:42,920
Speaker 2: year old. I think this is a bigger story as

540
00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:45,640
Speaker 2: us as Americans or wherever we live with us being

541
00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:46,360
Speaker 2: tracked everywhere?

542
00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:49,400
Speaker 1: All right, Oh, I mean Riley's on the conspiracy theory.

543
00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:52,159
Speaker 2: Also, come check out my conspiracy theory YouTube channel that

544
00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:56,080
Speaker 2: I'm going to make so me and Dakota are doing it.

545
00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:57,600
Speaker 1: Okay, I love that for you.

546
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:00,000
Speaker 2: She's a spin off. We're gonna make a spin off. Guys,

547
00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:03,680
Speaker 2: We've got an Sylvia just hates me because to view

548
00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:04,320
Speaker 2: the world differently.

549
00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:08,040
Speaker 1: No, and you're so annoying. I'm literally trying to give

550
00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 1: like actual commentary, and you're like.

551
00:22:11,080 --> 00:22:15,639
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe I just I just did not like that

552
00:22:15,720 --> 00:22:18,640
Speaker 2: story because there was no cheating or anything bad happening.

553
00:22:18,880 --> 00:22:21,520
Speaker 2: Now this story right here, okay, this one might be

554
00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:25,040
Speaker 2: all right. All right, here we go. I refuse to

555
00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:26,880
Speaker 2: share my aunt's inheritance.

556
00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:28,639
Speaker 1: Don't share with anyone.

557
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:33,080
Speaker 2: My thirties female aunt, sixties female recently passed away less

558
00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:35,880
Speaker 2: than a year after being diagnosed with stage four cancer.

559
00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:39,240
Speaker 2: She's never been married, never had kids. I'm one of

560
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Speaker 2: six nieces and nephews. Both my sister and female cousin

561
00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:47,000
Speaker 2: Nina are married with kids. My male cousin, Caleb forty male,

562
00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:49,680
Speaker 2: is married with two daughters, and neither of my younger

563
00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:53,320
Speaker 2: brothers is married. They are largely irrelevant to this story.

564
00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:55,160
Speaker 2: So it looks like we're going to be messing around

565
00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:58,600
Speaker 2: with Caleb and Nina. Oh, I do not know how

566
00:22:58,640 --> 00:22:59,359
Speaker 2: old Nina is.

567
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:00,679
Speaker 1: What do you mean messing around?

568
00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:03,000
Speaker 2: Like not messing around, but like that's gonna be my

569
00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 2: main characters of the story. Okay, I'm single and I

570
00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:07,959
Speaker 2: have no intention of having kids of my own. By

571
00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:10,639
Speaker 2: the way, this comes from Family Jewels Throwaway and if

572
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Speaker 2: you want to smart your own stories, go to the

573
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Speaker 2: r slash Okay stories. I'm subur so background. My aunt

574
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:18,640
Speaker 2: was a doctor and went to a palliative care when

575
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Speaker 2: she was diagnosed, so she wanted to enjoy the time

576
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Speaker 2: she had left, mostly with travel. I was close to

577
00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:28,440
Speaker 2: graduating from surgery regisency when she was diagnosed. She asked

578
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Speaker 2: if I would be willing to be her care physician

579
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:34,920
Speaker 2: after graduation, accompanying her on travels, prescribing her pain meds,

580
00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:37,320
Speaker 2: et cetera. She paid me a little bit more than

581
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:39,480
Speaker 2: I'd been making as a resident. I paid for my

582
00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:43,359
Speaker 2: travel business and first class flights, nice hotels, et cetera,

583
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Speaker 2: contributed towards my student loans, and put me on the

584
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Speaker 2: deed to her house. I moved in with her. I

585
00:23:48,920 --> 00:23:53,960
Speaker 2: also moonlit slash did locums when we weren't traveling, and

586
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:57,440
Speaker 2: after she got too sick to travel, so I could

587
00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:02,040
Speaker 2: keep up my surgery skills. Long story shorter. Even with

588
00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:05,760
Speaker 2: the time I wasn't making a full surgeon salary, I

589
00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 2: still benefited financially from the agreement. My aunt had been

590
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Speaker 2: a doctor in the Foreign service and had accumulated a

591
00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:18,119
Speaker 2: lot of Middle Eastern carpets, furniture, silk and cashmere scarves,

592
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:22,280
Speaker 2: art jewelry in her career. Everything was open to all

593
00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:25,480
Speaker 2: her nieces and nephews to split as we see fit,

594
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:30,600
Speaker 2: except the jewelry was left specifically to her nieces. Okay, wow,

595
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:32,240
Speaker 2: so she was making bank.

596
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:35,119
Speaker 1: Yeah, she had a lot of stuff to give away.

597
00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 2: Dang, Okay. There was surprisingly little drama splitting any of it.

598
00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:41,960
Speaker 2: We even had a praise, so we were all in

599
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:45,240
Speaker 2: agreement on the value of what we were getting. My sister,

600
00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:49,399
Speaker 2: Nina and I all have different enough tastes in jewelry

601
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:52,119
Speaker 2: that we easily agreed on how to split the nice stuff,

602
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 2: and most of the custom jewelry was set aside for

603
00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:58,080
Speaker 2: my niece and Nita's daughter for when they were older.

604
00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:00,560
Speaker 2: They're both under four. Here's where Caleb comes, and he

605
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:03,199
Speaker 2: said that his daughters deserve to have some of my

606
00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:06,520
Speaker 2: aunt's jewelry as well. My sister and Nina said they're okay.

607
00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:09,439
Speaker 2: Was splitting the custom jewelry to include his daughter, but

608
00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:11,920
Speaker 2: he said that they deserve some of the nice stuff

609
00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:16,359
Speaker 2: as well. My niece will probably get my sister's jewels someday,

610
00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:20,480
Speaker 2: and possibly mine and Nina's daughter will probably inherit what

611
00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:23,280
Speaker 2: Nina got. So Caleb says it's not fair and my

612
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:26,359
Speaker 2: niece and Nina's daughter will get more than his daughter.

613
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 2: Caleb also says, since I got the house, the furniture

614
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 2: in the house that no one else wanted, got to

615
00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:35,119
Speaker 2: travel with my aunt, and she paid off a large

616
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:39,359
Speaker 2: portion of my student loans, that I should share the wealth.

617
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 1: No, it was divvied up. How I was divvied up.

618
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Speaker 2: I do.

619
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Speaker 1: The only thing is I think that like it would

620
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Speaker 1: probably be nice because you don't want kids, it'd probably

621
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Speaker 1: be nice to give your niece if you have a

622
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:51,640
Speaker 1: relationship with her, that jewelry. We you know, like she

623
00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:54,040
Speaker 1: inherits it from you, But I don't think you owe

624
00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:56,240
Speaker 1: it to anyone. No, that was that was given to you,

625
00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 1: Like everything was divvied up by the aunt.

626
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:00,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, The only thing that I have that this could

627
00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:03,680
Speaker 2: be wrong is the jewelry thing, Caleb, if you want

628
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:06,280
Speaker 2: something that your daughter's remembered, I would probably be like, Hey,

629
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:08,280
Speaker 2: is there anything I could give to my daughter so

630
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:10,480
Speaker 2: that they can remember their aunt? Like one nice piece

631
00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:13,480
Speaker 2: of jewelry? That's that Everything else is set in place.

632
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:16,880
Speaker 2: You shouldn't even say anything exactly, a dude, don't even

633
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:21,080
Speaker 2: get me started on inheritance. Right now, my siblings are

634
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:24,399
Speaker 2: staying out of it, and Nina says it's ultimately my choice.

635
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 2: But that what Caleb says, is it wrong? Am I

636
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:30,200
Speaker 2: they for holding my aunt's will? Is this a heel

637
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:32,960
Speaker 2: worth passing away on? I have a great relationship with

638
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:35,879
Speaker 2: my cousins and siblings and don't want this to sour

639
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:38,959
Speaker 2: that top comment. This happened to my family once my

640
00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 2: uncle gave my brother his truck, and my brother wanted

641
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,920
Speaker 2: to do altercations to the truck that he bought from

642
00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 2: my uncle. But my uncle was like, like add like

643
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:50,879
Speaker 2: lift it or like you know, customize or whatever. But

644
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:52,600
Speaker 2: my uncle was like, no, don't do that to my

645
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:55,119
Speaker 2: truck after my brother bought it. Yeah, but it already

646
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:59,280
Speaker 2: is exactly, So my uncle came to my sister, or

647
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:01,240
Speaker 2: it came to his there my mom. It was like, hey,

648
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:03,400
Speaker 2: I don't want this to be a big thing. I'm

649
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:05,880
Speaker 2: gonna buy the truck back because it's what I really

650
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:07,480
Speaker 2: care for because I've had it for a long time.

651
00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:09,639
Speaker 2: But I don't want this to mess up anything. And

652
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 2: he talked it out like an adult and they worked

653
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 2: out a compromise.

654
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:14,120
Speaker 1: Well, there you go.

655
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:15,160
Speaker 3: It was a compromise.

656
00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:17,800
Speaker 2: What was my uncle bought back the truck and then

657
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:21,240
Speaker 2: my brother just got another vehicle. Yeah, yeah, and all

658
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 2: you need to do and that's all you need to

659
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 2: do this right here.

660
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 1: He could have totally come to her and said like, hey,

661
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:28,679
Speaker 1: it would really mean a lot if you would, you know,

662
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,440
Speaker 1: put aside some jewelry for my daughter.

663
00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 2: With the intention not to sour the relationship. That's huge.

664
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 2: I don't like the middleman here. Nina's like, ah, you.

665
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 1: Know, he is a run like go, I don't know, Nina,

666
00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 1: give your jewelry away.

667
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:43,440
Speaker 2: There you go, there we go, Yeah, give your piece

668
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 2: away to him. Come ask me. Also, Caleb's daughter could

669
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 2: just so recycle or like full circle. This is since

670
00:27:51,080 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 2: op he's going to be a surgeon and a doctor

671
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:54,960
Speaker 2: she's going to be traveling everywhere one of his daughters,

672
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:55,959
Speaker 2: could she?

673
00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:58,720
Speaker 1: Because yeah, she's like, you're going to be the aunt

674
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:00,080
Speaker 1: that gives me the inherent when.

675
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:04,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, exactly. Uh top comment, not the a hole.

676
00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:07,320
Speaker 2: Your aunt specifically left it to you. She clearly cares

677
00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:09,760
Speaker 2: about it, and it wouldn't be right to disrespect her

678
00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 2: wishes I had hold on to the jewelry, Opie replies,

679
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:15,800
Speaker 2: my aunt was really interested in the whole jewelry played

680
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 2: in women's inheritance and financial security in various cultures, which

681
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:22,359
Speaker 2: is why I think she specifically left the jewelry just

682
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 2: to the nieces and not all six of us. But

683
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:27,080
Speaker 2: I know the last thing she wanted was for us

684
00:28:27,080 --> 00:28:30,239
Speaker 2: to argue about the inheritance and my great grandfather. Her

685
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:34,080
Speaker 2: grandfather passed away. Her cousin contested parts of the will

686
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:36,960
Speaker 2: and it caused a lot of drama. My dad still

687
00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:39,680
Speaker 2: hasn't spoken to that cousin and it's been more than

688
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:43,760
Speaker 2: thirty years. Someone replied to OPI, I think Caleb's argument

689
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:46,880
Speaker 2: that you got more is really petty in a low blow,

690
00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:50,560
Speaker 2: trying to manipulate you. You rearranged your entire life to

691
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 2: be your aunt's career that isn't insignificant, and it sounds

692
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:57,920
Speaker 2: like you had a really special relationship that she acknowledged

693
00:28:57,920 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 2: in her will. Caleb also inherited items and their proceeds

694
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:04,720
Speaker 2: from selling some items, so he wasn't left out of

695
00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:07,160
Speaker 2: the will. There isn't anything wrong here that needs to

696
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 2: be fixed in the future. You can sell a gift

697
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:12,080
Speaker 2: or leave the items to whomever you like. If you

698
00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 2: have a close relationship with Caleb's daughters, maybe that will

699
00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:17,680
Speaker 2: include them. Given his age, I'm assuming it would be

700
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:20,480
Speaker 2: some years yet before they have any use for inherited

701
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 2: family hairloms hope. He replies, Yeah, his daughters are two

702
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,280
Speaker 2: and five, so it's not like there's any piece of jewelry.

703
00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:29,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're not even anyone's.

704
00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:30,480
Speaker 2: Been really eyeing for a wedding or anything.

705
00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 1: I truly think if Caleb had come to her and said, hey,

706
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:36,280
Speaker 1: is there anything you could set aside when you pass?

707
00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 1: I don't know. Is there anything like later down the line,

708
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:43,040
Speaker 1: when my daughters are like older that you would wouldn't

709
00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:45,360
Speaker 1: mind giving up that? I'm fine.

710
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 2: Another top comment, not the a hole. I'm sorry for

711
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 2: your loss. You must have come quite close to your

712
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:53,400
Speaker 2: aunt during the time you cared for her. I think

713
00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:56,120
Speaker 2: your cousin needs to appreciate that you sacrificed a lot

714
00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:59,240
Speaker 2: to provide care for your aunt, and that that timeout

715
00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 2: may have hel back career progression, although you were wise

716
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 2: to keep in date to be able to maintain where

717
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 2: you were before you gave up full time work. Whatever

718
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 2: your aunt's will said, your property is yours now to

719
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:15,959
Speaker 2: dispose of as you wish. So, as you say, have

720
00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:18,280
Speaker 2: a good relationship with your cousin, might be nice to

721
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 2: consider sharing items that you're not really using or have

722
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:26,040
Speaker 2: no real attachment to, or selling them and sharing the proceeds.

723
00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:29,920
Speaker 2: You are under absolutely no obligation to do any of that, though,

724
00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:33,600
Speaker 2: as your loss was quite shocking and recent, don't make

725
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 2: any big decisions and ask your siblings for support. Hope.

726
00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 2: He replies, thank you for that. My aunt was awesome

727
00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:43,480
Speaker 2: and I really miss her. She was physically present when

728
00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:46,320
Speaker 2: I was growing up because of her foreign service career,

729
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:49,840
Speaker 2: but she was there every Christmas instead of postcards from

730
00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 2: everywhere she went. I looked up to her for as

731
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 2: long as I can remember, and that's why I became

732
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:56,800
Speaker 2: a doctor. Getting to spend those last months with her

733
00:30:57,000 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 2: and getting to see the favorite places where she lived

734
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:03,200
Speaker 2: visited was a blessing that I wouldn't trade anything for.

735
00:31:03,440 --> 00:31:05,960
Speaker 2: I think taking some time to sit on decisions is

736
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:08,240
Speaker 2: the way to go. It's jewelry. It's not like it's

737
00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:10,720
Speaker 2: going bad. And his daughters are two and five. It's

738
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:12,239
Speaker 2: not like there's a wedding coming up that they need

739
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:15,120
Speaker 2: jewelry for. Anyway, we have an update. I just saw

740
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:16,800
Speaker 2: the title key unspoiled.

741
00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 1: The title and I didn't actually see it, so.

742
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:22,480
Speaker 2: Good good, Yeah, look away. If you haven't seen it,

743
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:26,760
Speaker 2: I will say there has been ever since my great

744
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 2: grandpa died, I'm not gonna sugarcoat it. Ever since my

745
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:31,120
Speaker 2: great grandpa died, there have been some like talks about

746
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:33,600
Speaker 2: the inheritance that have rubbed me the wrong way.

747
00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:38,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, people, money talk is so tricky. I mean, I've lost,

748
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:41,960
Speaker 1: you know, a couple two uncles and the money talk

749
00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 1: that happens, and even now like my grandparents are older,

750
00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 1: it's tricky. Yeah, and my dad's one of ten even

751
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 1: you know, we people with the best of intentions tricky

752
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:51,080
Speaker 1: trying to figure it all that out.

753
00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 2: I have definitely looked at a few people a little

754
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:55,240
Speaker 2: differently since and I'm.

755
00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:58,600
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, no, money is money is hard man. Money

756
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 1: makes things tricky. I don't even care if I get

757
00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:02,000
Speaker 1: my family relationships.

758
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 2: The only thing I want for my great grandpa's house

759
00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:06,840
Speaker 2: is his popcorn bucket that he would make popcorn for

760
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:08,720
Speaker 2: me as I grew up. That's the only thing I want.

761
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:12,840
Speaker 1: I honestly don't want my I want my parents' house

762
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 1: to be like Salmon I's shared vacation home, you know,

763
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 1: like summer home or whatever, like where all the kids

764
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:21,440
Speaker 1: come and we all hang out at the house. I

765
00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:21,840
Speaker 1: want that.

766
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 2: Oh, Like, I don't want.

767
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 1: Either anyone to get it.

768
00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:25,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I want both.

769
00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 1: Of us to have it.

770
00:32:26,840 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 2: I just want that popcorn bucket he makes, and he

771
00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 2: has too, so me and my brother because every Friday

772
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:33,720
Speaker 2: night we would go to his house, eat popcorn, watch

773
00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:36,400
Speaker 2: I eat ice cream and watch Blue Bloods and Monk

774
00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 2: and something else, and then we would work in the

775
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 2: morning every Friday night. It was the best. Anyways, update

776
00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:46,200
Speaker 2: Sam here, we're gonna get back to the stories.

777
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:48,120
Speaker 1: But here's three of its bads from our sponsors.

778
00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:50,800
Speaker 2: Am they old for not sharing my aunt's jewelry with

779
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 2: my cousin's kids, positive resolution resolution and because there was

780
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:59,240
Speaker 2: some confusion about who everyone was. Two cousins siblings, Caleb

781
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 2: and Nina. Three siblings. I didn't give them letters, but

782
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 2: let's call them Emma, Dave, and Tom. So these are

783
00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:08,480
Speaker 2: all siblings. So that she had two cousins who are siblings,

784
00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:11,040
Speaker 2: Caleb ber Nina, and then she has three siblings of

785
00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:14,240
Speaker 2: her own, Emma, Dave and Tom. Caleb Banina are cousins.

786
00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 2: Emma all have kids. Okay, so Caleb, Nina, and Emma

787
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:21,120
Speaker 2: have kids. Op, Dave and Tom do not. So I'll update.

788
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:23,600
Speaker 2: Six of us got together over the fourth of July.

789
00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 2: I was able to disperse the last of the proceeding

790
00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 2: from selling the art, rugs, antiques, et cetera that none

791
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:32,640
Speaker 2: of us wanted, that being up being a few thousand

792
00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:35,479
Speaker 2: dollars each, not live changing money for any of us,

793
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:38,200
Speaker 2: but nice to have. I will probably use it to

794
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 2: go on a solo trip in my aunt's honor once

795
00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 2: I accrue enough vacation now that I'm working full time again.

796
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 2: I had decided, based on your comments, that I would

797
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:51,400
Speaker 2: offer any of my nieces existing and future if Dave

798
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:53,520
Speaker 2: and Tom ended up having kids, and that they could

799
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 2: shop from my inherited jewelry for their weddings. Before I

800
00:33:56,840 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 2: could even present that solution, Cabb was super apologetic about

801
00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:04,200
Speaker 2: the way he had acted, yes, and was feeling guilty

802
00:34:04,520 --> 00:34:07,000
Speaker 2: that he hadn't been able to spend more time with

803
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:09,000
Speaker 2: her aunt before she passed away.

804
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:10,880
Speaker 1: It's great, this is great news.

805
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:13,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, he gained his solution is like, hey.

806
00:34:13,080 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, should have done that, should have been more

807
00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:17,640
Speaker 1: respectful about it, and we love that.

808
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:22,880
Speaker 2: This is beautiful small kids at home, work obligations, et cetera.

809
00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:26,480
Speaker 2: And jealousy that had been more flexible to travel with

810
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:32,040
Speaker 2: her for those months and that made him lash out. Yeah, yeah, sorry,

811
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:35,920
Speaker 2: was just thinking about Oh man, that did hard. Yeah,

812
00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:39,600
Speaker 2: take your time. Oh dude, I will be real. I

813
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:41,799
Speaker 2: have pushed that so far down that I'm not even

814
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:43,960
Speaker 2: really thinking about it because I'm like, oh, I just

815
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:46,080
Speaker 2: got I got a podcasts to do. But then this

816
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 2: story is thinking about my great grandpa through his going

817
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:52,000
Speaker 2: through his care. Wow, okay. Sorry. It turns out his

818
00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:55,239
Speaker 2: wife had essentially read him the Riot Act when he

819
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:58,760
Speaker 2: had complained to her that their daughters weren't included. Reminded

820
00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 2: him that their daughters have their whole side of the

821
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 2: family reminded him that the jewelry is traditionally passed down

822
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:07,759
Speaker 2: to female lines, the whole bit. He was quite embarrassed

823
00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:10,560
Speaker 2: by how childish he had acted, But I did present

824
00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 2: that solution, and both Nita and Emma thought it was

825
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:15,080
Speaker 2: such a good idea and that they had the same

826
00:35:15,239 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 2: when the next generation of girls get married, that they

827
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:19,759
Speaker 2: can choose from their inheritance too.

828
00:35:19,960 --> 00:35:21,360
Speaker 1: Oh this is so cute.

829
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:24,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is amazing. I like that he comes to

830
00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:26,799
Speaker 2: his conclusions. I also don't like the theme of this

831
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:29,239
Speaker 2: episode that everyone's like thinking the right headspace because I

832
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:30,600
Speaker 2: want something crazy to happen.

833
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:34,799
Speaker 1: I want them oh crazy. But uh, that was the

834
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:37,759
Speaker 1: end of that story. Nope, it's not the end of

835
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:38,280
Speaker 1: that story.

836
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:39,040
Speaker 2: We got a little bit more.

837
00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:41,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I forgot Yep, that's not the end of that story.

838
00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:44,120
Speaker 1: Seems like everything's pretty, it seems like everything's good.

839
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 2: Yeah. I love that women passed down jewelry to each

840
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:50,200
Speaker 2: other to like, you know, that's so cute. I love

841
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:51,680
Speaker 2: that that's so significant.

842
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 1: I unfortunately did not get any jewelry from my grandmother.

843
00:35:56,080 --> 00:35:59,360
Speaker 1: Well that's actually not true. I just realized because a

844
00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 1: lot of it went to my aunts. So kind of

845
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:02,719
Speaker 1: a similar thing of it, like it went to my

846
00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:05,799
Speaker 1: aunt's rather than my dad, even though I'm here. But

847
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 1: my grandmother years ago gave me this beautiful little like

848
00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:13,359
Speaker 1: brooch which I have in my room actually, and it's

849
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:17,480
Speaker 1: like a gold clown with a little pearl belly and

850
00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:20,520
Speaker 1: it's kind of like for acting, basically theater thing that

851
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:27,040
Speaker 1: was her mother her Yeah, her mother's I believe her

852
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:29,840
Speaker 1: grandmother who I'm named after, who was also an actor.

853
00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:32,000
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, that's perfect.

854
00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, So that was like that felt really lovely and

855
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:34,719
Speaker 1: I still have that.

856
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 2: That's cute.

857
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's this beautiful little clown.

858
00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:41,480
Speaker 2: Yeah. It's hard divving up stuff too, because there's so

859
00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:43,080
Speaker 2: many of us with my great grandpa.

860
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:46,600
Speaker 1: That's how it was. My dad's family. So much, so

861
00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:49,800
Speaker 1: many people and not that much to divvy up. Yeah.

862
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:52,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, so all is well, Thank you for your support

863
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:55,240
Speaker 2: and kind words. I'm not going no contact with any

864
00:36:55,320 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 2: of my siblings or cousins. I still miss my aunt.

865
00:36:57,760 --> 00:37:00,120
Speaker 2: Orc is not terribly exciting, but it's a paycheck, and

866
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 2: it's nice to see that my surgical skills did not

867
00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 2: slip irreparably, but irreparably, irreproberably irreprobably, irreprobably Yeah, there you

868
00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:16,000
Speaker 2: Goah you irreparably. That's five syllables right there for a

869
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:16,839
Speaker 2: very short word.

870
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:17,799
Speaker 1: Hey it's actually four.

871
00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:23,120
Speaker 2: Okay. Top comment. Your cousin has a good wife, Opie replies,

872
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 2: she's quite awesome. He did well. One of the top comments.

873
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:28,800
Speaker 2: One change you may consider is to set an age,

874
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:31,040
Speaker 2: say twenty five. If they're not married, they can have

875
00:37:31,080 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 2: the same choosing not everyone gets married. Opie replies, that's

876
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 2: not a bad thing to consider in my thirties. And

877
00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 2: while I'm not ruling out marriage someday, I'm also not

878
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:42,000
Speaker 2: really seeking it. Download a comment waiting for the update

879
00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:44,839
Speaker 2: that Caleb is broke and will be coming soon, ask

880
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:47,319
Speaker 2: you for a loan, OPI replying, Lol, I read a

881
00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 2: lot of best of utter or update. If this were there,

882
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 2: it would be a seven part saga and at the

883
00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:55,400
Speaker 2: end I would somehow have twins. Caleb would be divorced

884
00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:59,040
Speaker 2: with the gambling or substance habit and expecting triplets with

885
00:37:59,080 --> 00:38:01,719
Speaker 2: the mistress. A friend of a friend lawyer would crawl

886
00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:04,600
Speaker 2: out of the woodwork for something, and family helps family,

887
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:08,040
Speaker 2: we said at least a dozen times. Yeah, so that's

888
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:08,680
Speaker 2: not gonna happen.

889
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:12,560
Speaker 1: Great story, Yeah, real real story.

890
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 2: Real story about real people that have real emotions and morals.

891
00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:17,200
Speaker 2: Were stories we can read on the story show them.

892
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 1: I want you to have no morals.

893
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 2: No morals, cheating, and everyone hates each other. Look right, guys, um,

894
00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:26,840
Speaker 2: but we've got another start.

895
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:30,799
Speaker 1: I'm moving across country without telling my mom because I

896
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:32,120
Speaker 1: know she'll try and stop me.

897
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:35,120
Speaker 2: Can't stop me now.

898
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:38,359
Speaker 1: So I twenty two female and moving to New York

899
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 1: City within the next six months with a friend I've

900
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:45,160
Speaker 1: known for the last ten years. Twenty one female. Let's

901
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:45,880
Speaker 1: call her Carly.

902
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:48,400
Speaker 3: It's with a sea, though not with a K.

903
00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 2: Well, they're probably trying to like be anonymous and do

904
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:51,680
Speaker 2: it with the sea instead.

905
00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:52,800
Speaker 3: Of a going yeah, dude.

906
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:56,399
Speaker 1: I currently live somewhere in the Midwest. I'm not telling where,

907
00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:59,120
Speaker 1: just for safety reasons, but I have always planned to

908
00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:01,719
Speaker 1: move to a difference where I felt I could accomplish

909
00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:04,560
Speaker 1: my dreams better and connect more with the people around me.

910
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Cool Dinner A five

911
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:08,280
Speaker 1: to one one one and if you want to submit

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Speaker 1: your own stories, go to the r slash Okay story

913
00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:13,000
Speaker 1: Time subret it. So for all of last year, I

914
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:15,680
Speaker 1: have been traveling across the country, even to the UK,

915
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 1: to find the perfect city. It just so happened that

916
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 1: one of the trips I went on, my friend Carly

917
00:39:22,440 --> 00:39:25,080
Speaker 1: came along with me because she also wanted to see

918
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:27,400
Speaker 1: some cities she'd like to move to as well. We

919
00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 1: went to New York City and absolutely fell in love.

920
00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 1: I also know it could have been just because I

921
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 1: was on vacation, because honestly, everything that could have gone

922
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:39,799
Speaker 1: wrong with the trip went wrong. Nevertheless, we still loved it.

923
00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:42,080
Speaker 1: We decided that would be the city we wanted to

924
00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 1: move to about four months ago, and I have been

925
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 1: working two jobs plus some side work such as selling

926
00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 1: art and clothes to save up for this move. Now

927
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 1: that it's getting closer to the move, I have been

928
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 1: telling some friends and family just so they're prepared, but

929
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:58,280
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about not telling my mom until the week

930
00:39:58,320 --> 00:40:00,880
Speaker 1: of the move, or maybe not at all. For context,

931
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:03,239
Speaker 1: my mother and I have never had a good relationship.

932
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:06,200
Speaker 1: She is an immigrant and a single mother of six. Currently,

933
00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:08,120
Speaker 1: almost all of her kids are out of the house

934
00:40:08,400 --> 00:40:11,440
Speaker 1: except the two youngest twins, who are in junior year

935
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Speaker 1: of high school. She honestly doesn't have a good relationship

936
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Speaker 1: with any of her kids.

937
00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:16,799
Speaker 2: Oh gosh, Joie.

938
00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:20,200
Speaker 1: Her oldest child, twenty seven female, hasn't talked to her

939
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:22,040
Speaker 1: in the last two years.

940
00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:23,560
Speaker 2: Ah poof.

941
00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:26,480
Speaker 1: Our mom doesn't even know she's currently engaged to a

942
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:29,239
Speaker 1: great woman. The reason for this is because she's your

943
00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:33,320
Speaker 1: text book self absorbed person. Anything we do, we're dealing

944
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:36,160
Speaker 1: atdr Like when I was failing classes during the VID

945
00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 1: due to stress and depression, all she could do is

946
00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 1: scream at me and ask why am I doing this

947
00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:42,920
Speaker 1: to her?

948
00:40:43,239 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

949
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:47,360
Speaker 1: She also has a lot of double standards between raising

950
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:50,000
Speaker 1: boys and girls, and if you knew what country she

951
00:40:50,120 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 1: was from, this would be normal. But she has always

952
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:55,480
Speaker 1: put more pressure on her three girls on taking on

953
00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:58,360
Speaker 1: more responsibility than her three boys. Part of the reason

954
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 1: my older sister doesn't talk to her anym is because

955
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:02,960
Speaker 1: of this. I could imagine that amount of pressure she

956
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 1: went through. My mom is also not much of a

957
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:07,520
Speaker 1: loving mother. She has probably told me she loved me

958
00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 1: twice before, oh my.

959
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:13,200
Speaker 2: Gosh, and it's probably after she did something amazing ouch.

960
00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:16,240
Speaker 1: I can only remember hugging her once, and she really

961
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 1: doesn't show sympathy to anyone ever. Other family members know

962
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:22,560
Speaker 1: this about her and tend to stay away, such as

963
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:24,960
Speaker 1: all of my cousins in half of her own siblings.

964
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:27,839
Speaker 1: On the other hand, I know the reason why she's

965
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:30,120
Speaker 1: like this. It was really hard for her family to

966
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:33,560
Speaker 1: get to America. It's pretty obvious she suffers from PTSD

967
00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:36,359
Speaker 1: and other traumatic condition and from the few stories I've

968
00:41:36,400 --> 00:41:39,080
Speaker 1: heard about her parents, they were simply monster as compared

969
00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 1: to her. And on top of that, raising six children

970
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:44,640
Speaker 1: alone as an immigrant after your partner leaves when you're

971
00:41:44,680 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 1: giving birth to twins can be very hard on a person.

972
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:49,480
Speaker 2: Oh oh my gosh.

973
00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 1: She also has helped me when I needed a place

974
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:54,080
Speaker 1: to say for six months. I use that time to

975
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 1: save on rent by getting to travel the country and

976
00:41:56,680 --> 00:41:59,400
Speaker 1: ultimately choosing to move to New York City. Although she

977
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:01,719
Speaker 1: did get me heck when I stayed with her by

978
00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:04,480
Speaker 1: telling me I'm going nowhere in life and how I

979
00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 1: need to come up with a real plan in life,

980
00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 1: she let me stay for free. She has always pressured

981
00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:11,200
Speaker 1: me to go back to school. She believes that the

982
00:42:11,239 --> 00:42:14,400
Speaker 1: only way I'll be successful is by doing that. But

983
00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:16,799
Speaker 1: I've just gotten out of the worst depression last year

984
00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:19,239
Speaker 1: over school, and I think going back will only be

985
00:42:19,280 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 1: a waste of time, mental health, and money. I also

986
00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:24,880
Speaker 1: truly have a real plan when I get to New

987
00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:27,759
Speaker 1: York City. My mom has already expressed to me how

988
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 1: it hurts that one of her daughters has gone fully

989
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 1: no contact with her, and how most of her kids

990
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:34,959
Speaker 1: don't talk to her about their lives. Girl, Maybe time

991
00:42:34,960 --> 00:42:35,720
Speaker 1: for self reflection.

992
00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:37,800
Speaker 2: I wonder, huh or why huh?

993
00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:39,960
Speaker 1: Maybe we're like, why don't they talk to me?

994
00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 2: Yeah? Maybe look at the common denominator where every.

995
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:44,719
Speaker 1: Daughter doesn't want to talk to you.

996
00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:47,600
Speaker 2: It's like, oh, I do not enjoy talking to mom.

997
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:49,440
Speaker 2: I do not enjoy talking to Mama. I do not

998
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:54,120
Speaker 2: intartding to mom. What is the common den I wonder why? Yeah?

999
00:42:54,160 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 1: And I just know she's going to feel hurt about

1000
00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:58,919
Speaker 1: me moving across country without telling her. I just get

1001
00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:01,640
Speaker 1: so much anxiety talking to her. I've told my cousins

1002
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 1: about this, who personally know her. They believe I shouldn't

1003
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:06,960
Speaker 1: tell her until the very last minute because she'll just

1004
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:09,560
Speaker 1: try to sabotage my move. So am I the ale

1005
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:11,520
Speaker 1: for not wanting to tell my mom that I'm moving

1006
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 1: across country? And there are some comments and I think

1007
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:17,359
Speaker 1: an update folks, But what do you think.

1008
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:19,680
Speaker 2: I had a friend with this, whereas one was pretty controlling,

1009
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:21,880
Speaker 2: and he went to New York City to grab a poster,

1010
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:24,480
Speaker 2: a seven foot poster. Dang, and came back home the

1011
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:26,920
Speaker 2: same day he did in twenty four hours. Well then

1012
00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:29,000
Speaker 2: she'll never know Tennessee to New York City.

1013
00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:31,439
Speaker 1: Well, opia's I think moving for a full time.

1014
00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:34,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, so in that scenario, one day, it's good to know,

1015
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:38,360
Speaker 2: but forever, maybe give her a letter. I think would

1016
00:43:38,360 --> 00:43:39,440
Speaker 2: be good if you don't want to talk to her

1017
00:43:39,480 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 2: in person, because I understand if you're like I cannot

1018
00:43:41,680 --> 00:43:44,920
Speaker 2: stay yeah, in contact, this is just gonna She's gonna

1019
00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:47,680
Speaker 2: sabotage it somehow. I think leaving a letter would be perfect.

1020
00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 1: I think that you tell her when you're going, you know,

1021
00:43:51,120 --> 00:43:53,399
Speaker 1: you get everything in order, make sure you have all

1022
00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:57,840
Speaker 1: the plans set, and then say, hey, I'm leaving. Maybe

1023
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:00,720
Speaker 1: like give her a couple of days notice or big Apple,

1024
00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:03,120
Speaker 1: I'm going to the Big Apple and ain't coming back.

1025
00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:05,839
Speaker 2: I don't think so. I think doing a letter if

1026
00:44:05,840 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 2: you feel very strongly that you don't want to have

1027
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 2: her sabotage it, because I think the mom would do

1028
00:44:09,960 --> 00:44:11,040
Speaker 2: something like where she she.

1029
00:44:11,160 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 1: Do though, if you had everything set, car you're taking

1030
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 1: could retire. I think you park somewhere else.

1031
00:44:18,719 --> 00:44:21,000
Speaker 2: Say you stole something, called the police on you say

1032
00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:21,560
Speaker 2: you're missing.

1033
00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:24,640
Speaker 1: Dang, people get crazy. Well, if you truly are that

1034
00:44:24,680 --> 00:44:27,040
Speaker 1: worried about it, then yeah, don't you know, send her

1035
00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 1: a letter or whatever. But uh, I don't know. If

1036
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:31,359
Speaker 1: you want any sort of relationship with her, I think

1037
00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:31,919
Speaker 1: tell her.

1038
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:35,840
Speaker 2: Leave a note saying we will come back around this later.

1039
00:44:36,080 --> 00:44:36,840
Speaker 2: I need space.

1040
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:39,799
Speaker 3: Do you the one would like the ransom with like

1041
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:43,400
Speaker 3: the different letters magazines like your daughter's in New York City?

1042
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:45,840
Speaker 3: Don't try and fine again? Yeah?

1043
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:50,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, but there are some comments, folks, so comment one,

1044
00:44:50,400 --> 00:44:53,319
Speaker 1: not the a hole. If you're worried about her sabotaging

1045
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:56,560
Speaker 1: your move in life, she's been at least emotionally abusive,

1046
00:44:56,680 --> 00:44:59,320
Speaker 1: then you have every right to keep information to yourself.

1047
00:44:59,480 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 1: Thank you, carm You seem like somebody who tries to

1048
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:05,200
Speaker 1: be compassionate and understanding. I think that your outlook on

1049
00:45:05,239 --> 00:45:07,759
Speaker 1: your mom is a good one. She doesn't deserve to hurt.

1050
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:10,920
Speaker 1: She's gone through a lot, and circumstances make being a

1051
00:45:10,960 --> 00:45:14,240
Speaker 1: good parent difficult, but that is never an excuse to guilt,

1052
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:17,400
Speaker 1: trip control, et cetera. Her reaction to you getting the

1053
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:21,040
Speaker 1: space that you deserve and may need is not your responsibility.

1054
00:45:21,320 --> 00:45:23,440
Speaker 1: If she is hurt, then another child is moving on

1055
00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 1: to healthier relationships. Maybe she'll be more inclined to take

1056
00:45:26,520 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 1: a look at what's really going on. I'm sorry things

1057
00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 1: can be so complicated, but it sounds like you have

1058
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:34,279
Speaker 1: some amazing plans coming up. Don't let anybody stop you.

1059
00:45:34,600 --> 00:45:37,759
Speaker 1: Moving away also doesn't have to mean no contact. Eck,

1060
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: maybe you'll grow closer with the distance that helps enforce boundaries.

1061
00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:44,560
Speaker 1: Good luck, and there is an update, folks. Do you

1062
00:45:44,560 --> 00:45:45,840
Speaker 1: have any thoughts before we get into that?

1063
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:46,840
Speaker 2: Go to the big Apple.

1064
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, just leave your laugh let go.

1065
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:50,360
Speaker 2: Hey, it's John here. We're gonna get back to the stories.

1066
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 2: Put a quick three minute ad break from our sponsors

1067
00:45:52,400 --> 00:45:53,280
Speaker 2: that keep the show going.

1068
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:56,359
Speaker 1: I know I haven't responded to any comments in post yet.

1069
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:59,360
Speaker 1: I haven't been able to update sooner because I literally

1070
00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:01,520
Speaker 1: work all the time time. I work about seventy to

1071
00:46:01,560 --> 00:46:03,880
Speaker 1: eighty hours a week. I get one day off every

1072
00:46:03,920 --> 00:46:06,880
Speaker 1: two weeks, and all I do is sleep. Goodness, I

1073
00:46:06,920 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 1: know that sounds tough, but I haven't been more at

1074
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:11,279
Speaker 1: peace in my life before I know what I want

1075
00:46:11,360 --> 00:46:13,879
Speaker 1: and I'm actually able to make it happen. Just wanted

1076
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:16,320
Speaker 1: to update everyone about some of my plans and things

1077
00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:18,680
Speaker 1: that are happening about the move. Rest assured that I

1078
00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 1: have an actual plan. I have friends who live in

1079
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 1: New York in my industry and have at least two

1080
00:46:23,239 --> 00:46:25,560
Speaker 1: jobs lined up when I go there as backs for

1081
00:46:25,640 --> 00:46:27,839
Speaker 1: each other, and all this working will lead to at

1082
00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:31,120
Speaker 1: least ten thousand dollars in savings when I go, not

1083
00:46:31,200 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 1: including the paid for travel, and stay for two to

1084
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:36,759
Speaker 1: four weeks before I can find an apartment. Yeah, leave,

1085
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:39,400
Speaker 1: you gotta go, I will say. My friend Carly that

1086
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:41,720
Speaker 1: I was moving there with has dropped out from coming

1087
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:44,440
Speaker 1: with me. That happens. It sucks, but it happens. She

1088
00:46:44,520 --> 00:46:46,760
Speaker 1: has an opportunity to go to school where she stays

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Speaker 1: currently for practically free, and she's taking that option. Needless

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00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 1: to say, that does make moving even scarier because I'll

1091
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:56,239
Speaker 1: be doing it alone. But that won't stop me from

1092
00:46:56,320 --> 00:46:58,799
Speaker 1: chasing my dreams and it shouldn't. Sometimes we have this

1093
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:01,000
Speaker 1: like idea that all work to go on this trip

1094
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:03,279
Speaker 1: with her, or like do something with her friends, and

1095
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:05,200
Speaker 1: then you're faced with, oh, I got to do it alone,

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00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:08,680
Speaker 1: and you you know, you have way better you know,

1097
00:47:09,200 --> 00:47:12,239
Speaker 1: you make way better memories and outcomes than it is

1098
00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:15,680
Speaker 1: to add that kind of like hand holding going into it.

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00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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00:47:16,480 --> 00:47:18,360
Speaker 1: I mean that's what happened. When I went to UCSD.

1101
00:47:18,440 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 1: I had to decide. I was like, Wow, none of

1102
00:47:20,080 --> 00:47:22,359
Speaker 1: my friends are going here. I don't you know. I'm

1103
00:47:22,520 --> 00:47:24,719
Speaker 1: close enough to my parents, but I'm moving to a

1104
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:27,200
Speaker 1: new town where I don't know anyone, and it's scary.

1105
00:47:27,440 --> 00:47:29,600
Speaker 1: But you figure it out and you make new friends,

1106
00:47:29,640 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 1: you make new relationships, and your life is better for it.

1107
00:47:32,280 --> 00:47:33,279
Speaker 3: Sure from the nest.

1108
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:36,040
Speaker 1: Honestly, it helps, and you put into focus that I

1109
00:47:36,160 --> 00:47:39,080
Speaker 1: really wanted it more than I thought. Edit. Carly actually

1110
00:47:39,080 --> 00:47:41,399
Speaker 1: read my first post and the comments helped inspire her

1111
00:47:41,400 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 1: to go back to school too. All Right, I'm just

1112
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 1: bummed it's not with me. It also made me focus

1113
00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:48,720
Speaker 1: on what actual steps I need to take to get

1114
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:51,400
Speaker 1: to my goals. So I have also decided to go

1115
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:55,080
Speaker 1: back to school and redo my freshman year of college. Interesting,

1116
00:47:55,360 --> 00:47:58,399
Speaker 1: I have applied and been accepted for grants and scholarships.

1117
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:01,280
Speaker 1: I'm not too worried about fail like last time, because

1118
00:48:01,320 --> 00:48:04,239
Speaker 1: before the depression, the VID and the over abusive mother.

1119
00:48:04,480 --> 00:48:06,600
Speaker 1: I was a straight A student with a four point

1120
00:48:06,680 --> 00:48:09,839
Speaker 1: zero GPS. Yeah you got this, And seeing as none

1121
00:48:09,880 --> 00:48:12,200
Speaker 1: of those three things are happening anymore, it will be

1122
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:15,160
Speaker 1: better this time. Absolutely. I'll be taking courses out of

1123
00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:18,320
Speaker 1: community college to not spend much money. I mostly decided

1124
00:48:18,360 --> 00:48:20,800
Speaker 1: to go back because the field I wanted to succeed

1125
00:48:20,880 --> 00:48:23,400
Speaker 1: in I'll need more knowledge. This has nothing to do

1126
00:48:23,440 --> 00:48:25,840
Speaker 1: with anyone else but me, But there is a little

1127
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:27,000
Speaker 1: bit left to this story.

1128
00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 2: Do you know what LP wants to do?

1129
00:48:29,239 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 1: No, some something in New York City. I think she

1130
00:48:33,239 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 1: wants to go her own way, be your own person,

1131
00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 1: and go back to school.

1132
00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:38,120
Speaker 2: If I had to do it again, I wouldn't go

1133
00:48:38,160 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 2: back to I wouldn't do school because I could have

1134
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:42,160
Speaker 2: learned everything I know by myself.

1135
00:48:42,280 --> 00:48:45,239
Speaker 1: I definitely would I needed that structure. It was great

1136
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:45,480
Speaker 1: for me.

1137
00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:47,720
Speaker 2: Well yeah, I mean theater, well.

1138
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:49,600
Speaker 1: Theater inlet though I don't think you need to go

1139
00:48:49,600 --> 00:48:51,799
Speaker 1: to school for theater, but I think that I really

1140
00:48:51,840 --> 00:48:54,840
Speaker 1: wanted more. I was really looking for a more academic

1141
00:48:54,960 --> 00:48:58,759
Speaker 1: side MM rather than just like learning how to act,

1142
00:48:59,320 --> 00:49:01,480
Speaker 1: and I think that UCST provided that to me.

1143
00:49:01,880 --> 00:49:03,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I mean just a bit. It might seem

1144
00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:06,160
Speaker 2: like she's going to medical or something like that school.

1145
00:49:06,239 --> 00:49:07,920
Speaker 2: Go for it. I think that's a good pivot instead

1146
00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:09,440
Speaker 2: of New York City. Right now she is.

1147
00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:11,239
Speaker 1: Going to New York. I think she's just also doing

1148
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:12,239
Speaker 1: community college there.

1149
00:49:12,320 --> 00:49:16,440
Speaker 2: Oh oh great, both Okay, yeah, go do it. It's scary,

1150
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:18,480
Speaker 2: but you're gonna you got this. It was scary moving

1151
00:49:18,520 --> 00:49:20,279
Speaker 2: to LA but it's been like the best decision of

1152
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 2: my life.

1153
00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:22,879
Speaker 3: The one thing that scared me for op was like,

1154
00:49:22,960 --> 00:49:25,480
Speaker 3: oh we went on was was it a four month

1155
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:28,440
Speaker 3: or four week like excursion to New York? And loved

1156
00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:31,000
Speaker 3: it four week it was a four week and was like,

1157
00:49:31,160 --> 00:49:32,560
Speaker 3: I already know I want to move here. I was like,

1158
00:49:32,760 --> 00:49:35,600
Speaker 3: do you know how much it costs New York's expence?

1159
00:49:35,719 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 3: New York is one of the most expensive cities to live.

1160
00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:40,000
Speaker 2: So expensive I thought Cinta Monica was the most expensive

1161
00:49:40,560 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 2: New York is.

1162
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Speaker 1: The thing is that you're you might be paying the

1163
00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:47,200
Speaker 1: same that like I'm probably paying No, I'm playing less

1164
00:49:47,239 --> 00:49:49,440
Speaker 1: than my friend is in New York for what we have.

1165
00:49:49,760 --> 00:49:51,439
Speaker 3: I have it's probably half of this room.

1166
00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:54,840
Speaker 1: It is. I want to say her bedroom is from

1167
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:58,600
Speaker 1: here to like that the end of that desk and

1168
00:49:58,680 --> 00:50:01,719
Speaker 1: like maybe like to where you are. It's tiny. I've been,

1169
00:50:01,960 --> 00:50:03,239
Speaker 1: and she's saying more than I am.

1170
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Speaker 3: But here's the positive of New York is the public transport.

1171
00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:08,600
Speaker 1: Transport. You're around a lot of stuff.

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Speaker 3: You don't have a car, usually don't need a car.

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00:50:10,600 --> 00:50:12,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's so much going on. But with LA you

1174
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:13,680
Speaker 1: get way more space.

1175
00:50:13,719 --> 00:50:17,359
Speaker 3: But again he might love like that, but again that's

1176
00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:18,520
Speaker 3: just life. You figure it out.

1177
00:50:18,719 --> 00:50:22,680
Speaker 2: But no gardens. It's yeah, I'll probably do the city

1178
00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:24,279
Speaker 2: life for the next like five to ten years. I

1179
00:50:24,280 --> 00:50:25,880
Speaker 2: don't think I can do this forever.

1180
00:50:26,320 --> 00:50:26,919
Speaker 1: I love this.

1181
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:30,279
Speaker 2: It's this is all I got, dude, being able to

1182
00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:33,279
Speaker 2: like sped your legs and like shoot a firearm on

1183
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:35,759
Speaker 2: your property and not worrying about what other people think.

1184
00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:37,080
Speaker 1: N't want city life.

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00:50:37,160 --> 00:50:37,640
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1186
00:50:38,400 --> 00:50:40,120
Speaker 1: You said I do want city live.

1187
00:50:40,200 --> 00:50:41,440
Speaker 2: I said I might do this for the next five

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00:50:41,480 --> 00:50:42,000
Speaker 2: to ten years.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I thought you were saying, like, oh, I

1190
00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:47,240
Speaker 1: want city life, Like this wasn't city life.

1191
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:49,439
Speaker 2: Because I'd like to have my own land, be able

1192
00:50:49,440 --> 00:50:52,279
Speaker 2: to drive around like Forerunner have a dog outside. I don't.

1193
00:50:52,360 --> 00:50:54,440
Speaker 2: It's an outside dog. It just lives outside and that's

1194
00:50:54,480 --> 00:50:56,040
Speaker 2: all he does, and he takes care of the goats.

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00:50:56,040 --> 00:50:58,880
Speaker 2: That's what I want, all right. Yeah, this this is

1196
00:50:58,880 --> 00:51:00,880
Speaker 2: stuff I feel constrained.

1197
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:04,280
Speaker 1: Also knowing that I'm going alone. My mother would definitely

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00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:07,120
Speaker 1: not support my choice, even if she knew I'm going

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Speaker 1: back to school, and will not be telling her until

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Speaker 1: the week of meat leaving, which is what I said.

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00:51:12,000 --> 00:51:17,520
Speaker 2: Yep, you said, Gowing, I'm going go that g real low.

1202
00:51:17,680 --> 00:51:19,680
Speaker 1: I just looked at Angelus. She said, did you say

1203
00:51:19,800 --> 00:51:21,000
Speaker 1: spread your legs rightly?

1204
00:51:21,239 --> 00:51:22,799
Speaker 2: I did, Yes, spread your legs out.

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00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:23,680
Speaker 3: You want to see him do it?

1206
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:26,000
Speaker 2: You just like, just you feel like you can do this.

1207
00:51:26,320 --> 00:51:29,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe I'll send her the link to these boasts.

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00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:31,840
Speaker 1: I have told all my siblings and cousins and not

1209
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:34,319
Speaker 1: too worried about them spilling the beans because not many

1210
00:51:34,400 --> 00:51:36,480
Speaker 1: of us talk to our parents. I've also asked them

1211
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Speaker 1: not to. I want to again thank everyone for supporting

1212
00:51:39,560 --> 00:51:42,279
Speaker 1: me and chasing my dreams. And I'm not even gonna

1213
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:45,920
Speaker 1: shot at them. Thanks guys, And that is the end

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Speaker 1: of that story, folks. I think Opie's you know, I

1215
00:51:49,640 --> 00:51:50,839
Speaker 1: think Ope knows what they want.

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00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:53,600
Speaker 2: Good and speaking about shouting out people I'm gonna look

1217
00:51:53,640 --> 00:51:56,080
Speaker 2: at that Facebook messenger and see that person responded.

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Speaker 1: Folks, that is the end of that story and the

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