WEBVTT - “I MIGHT BE RACIST” 0:00:01.400 --> 0:00:06.720 Oh my gosh, hello, Hello, what is your name? My 0:00:06.880 --> 0:00:09.120 name is Olivia, Olivia. 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:12.080 Nice to meet you, Olivia. My name is Lyle. 0:00:12.760 --> 0:00:15.840 Awesome perfect. I watch you and I really enjoy you. 0:00:16.160 --> 0:00:21.560 I am at the dollar store real quick, let me 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:23.239 check out. 0:00:23.560 --> 0:00:24.640 Okay, what are you buying? 0:00:24.760 --> 0:00:24.920 Real? 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:28.080 Oh? 0:00:28.160 --> 0:00:32.440 So, my sister works at the dollar Store and she 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:34.800 had to go to a different location to help out. 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:37.040 And this location has a lot of stuff, so I 0:00:37.080 --> 0:00:40.559 got I got some beads, which they usually never have. 0:00:42.320 --> 0:00:45.199 And my mom is obsessed with their hand sanitizers, so 0:00:45.240 --> 0:00:46.160 I got some of that too. 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:48.400 That's cool. 0:00:48.400 --> 0:00:52.440 Wait, what is it like a flavored hand sanitizer or 0:00:52.479 --> 0:00:54.920 is it just like a standard hand sanitizer? 0:00:56.000 --> 0:00:57.680 What do you mean, like, do you drink it? 0:00:57.760 --> 0:01:00.080 Did you say I flavored? At flavor? 0:01:00.160 --> 0:01:02.200 Doesn't you know what that's that's a good point, I guess, 0:01:02.880 --> 0:01:04.960 like scented, yes, thank you? 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:06.600 SCENTI y. 0:01:08.000 --> 0:01:12.560 It is dragon Fruit loom and Palm Island breeze and 0:01:13.200 --> 0:01:16.000 these are new ones. And my mom's like one of 0:01:16.040 --> 0:01:21.800 those freaks that watches channels on like uh dupes of 0:01:23.840 --> 0:01:27.399 real products sold at the dollar store, and so she 0:01:27.560 --> 0:01:30.160 collects a bunch of this stuff. Mm. 0:01:30.280 --> 0:01:30.520 Hmmm. 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:36.080 Okay, how long is it gonna take you to uh 0:01:36.360 --> 0:01:37.559 check out at the grocery store? 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:43.440 Honestly, I will. I will put my basket back and 0:01:43.480 --> 0:01:44.920 go out in my car to talk to you. 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:47.320 Okay, wait, wait, can we just talk right now? Is 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:49.440 this whatever you're doing right now seems fine? 0:01:51.280 --> 0:01:54.520 Okay? Yeah, well, just you know what I got to 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:56.360 talk about. I don't know if that's okay with public. 0:01:56.960 --> 0:02:01.240 Okay, Well, all right, let's start. You said you texted 0:02:01.240 --> 0:02:05.600 me and you said help. I think I'm racist. I 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:07.080 would like therapy for this. 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:12.640 Yes, okay, go, I'm open, I'm open, my go ahead. 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:13.800 What's what's going on? 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:19.360 Let me let me hurry and go out to my 0:02:19.400 --> 0:02:20.080 car real quick. 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:22.000 Okay, yes, maybe you know what You're right, Maybe this 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:23.920 is a inside of the car. 0:02:25.080 --> 0:02:27.000 Yeah, yeah, you're right. 0:02:27.480 --> 0:02:28.120 I'll be back. 0:02:30.400 --> 0:02:37.320 Okay. So, at my job, we are all very comfortable. 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:40.240 We are me and my coworkers. We're all comfortable. We 0:02:40.960 --> 0:02:46.000 joke all the time. And some of the things I 0:02:46.160 --> 0:02:50.120 joke about is, you know, a little more darker. And 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:53.480 one of the things I joke about a lot is 0:02:54.160 --> 0:02:59.840 a Hispanic and black people. Although I love I love 0:03:00.080 --> 0:03:00.440 both of. 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:01.680 Them, the way. 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:05.519 Yeah, but the way there's there's a there's a certain time, 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:10.360 you know, there's these there's like ways of referring to 0:03:10.400 --> 0:03:13.760 people where like if you if you say it in 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:16.400 a certain inflection, it. 0:03:16.560 --> 0:03:19.720 Sounds I just realized that that's also a problem I 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:20.480 have at my job. 0:03:21.040 --> 0:03:22.600 Uh huh. 0:03:22.639 --> 0:03:25.560 So at work, we joke a lot, and where I live, 0:03:25.760 --> 0:03:33.359 we help a lot of different races, and so I 0:03:33.360 --> 0:03:39.280 I personally, when I think of racism, I think of 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:43.800 like back in the like slave era. I I completely 0:03:43.840 --> 0:03:47.560 do not agree with that. I love I love I 0:03:47.640 --> 0:03:51.640 love everyone. I think they're adorable, especially because I helped 0:03:51.680 --> 0:03:57.120 them a lot. But with my terminology, like earlier I said, 0:03:57.760 --> 0:04:01.040 uh Hispanics and black people. I could have said, let's 0:04:01.040 --> 0:04:04.520 you know, an African American, but my brain, my brain 0:04:04.560 --> 0:04:05.440 doesn't really go there. 0:04:05.920 --> 0:04:06.280 Uh huh. 0:04:08.680 --> 0:04:15.560 I I do make jokes because I think jokes are funny, 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:18.720 and because all my coworkers make jokes. 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:26.200 But then like theyl told me I'm racist, and I'm like, no, no, no, 0:04:26.279 --> 0:04:28.880 but I'm not. And they're like, well, what do you 0:04:28.920 --> 0:04:32.960 think racist means? And I and I've said, well, I was. 0:04:33.240 --> 0:04:36.080 I was always under the impression that it meant that 0:04:36.360 --> 0:04:39.839 you did not view everyone as equal and that you 0:04:39.920 --> 0:04:44.800 wished harm upon these people. And I absolutely do not 0:04:45.960 --> 0:04:53.720 agree with that. But I do joke about stereotypes. I 0:04:54.160 --> 0:04:58.760 think it's funny, and but my co workers told me 0:04:58.920 --> 0:05:04.480 that that is also racism, and I guess I want 0:05:05.279 --> 0:05:13.400 to hear another person's opinion because I really, I really 0:05:13.520 --> 0:05:17.520 like making these jokes. I don't mean it at all, 0:05:17.720 --> 0:05:21.359 and I love everyone, but I also don't want to 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:22.400 be called a racist. 0:05:23.279 --> 0:05:27.200 Okay, So I multiple I have multiple questions. One is. 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:32.440 There's I'm there's a bit of a contradiction in that. 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:37.719 Like you said that you're joking around with your co workers, 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:40.960 but yet you're co and that you're all making these jokes. 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:44.720 But why are your co workers the ones that are 0:05:44.720 --> 0:05:48.400 getting upset about these jokes if they're the ones making 0:05:48.440 --> 0:05:51.000 the jokes with you? Are you Are you making these 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:54.240 jokes with your coworkers? Are you mainly the only one 0:05:54.279 --> 0:05:55.360 making the jokes? 0:05:56.000 --> 0:05:58.000 So I am not the only one making the jokes. 0:05:58.400 --> 0:05:59.000 We have. 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:05.839 So one of my co workers is Argentine and he 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:14.000 speaks Spanish and it's beautiful listening can speak Oh my god, okay, 0:06:14.520 --> 0:06:19.359 he he he will he will make those jokes. Some 0:06:19.480 --> 0:06:22.040 of my other coworkers make those jokes, but they don't 0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:22.600 do it a. 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:26.680 Lot, and I have you're telling me you're doing it 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:28.240 a lot more than they are. 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:34.520 Yes, because I so, I've been at this job about 0:06:34.800 --> 0:06:39.240 three years now, and I was when I first started. 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:42.000 I was reserved. I kept quiet because I am a 0:06:42.120 --> 0:06:47.040 very outgoing, loud person, and so I wanted to get 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:52.200 a feel of this job. I do work with one 0:06:52.200 --> 0:06:54.800 of my old co workers at my very first job, 0:06:54.880 --> 0:06:58.279 so I'm like, Okay, that's a good sign. And we 0:06:58.360 --> 0:07:00.520 all have a lot of fun. We play card games, 0:07:00.640 --> 0:07:04.159 we play board games at work. We've gone out to 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:08.840 do escape rooms and dinners. But there there are some 0:07:08.920 --> 0:07:15.600 coworkers that don't care for those jokes, okay, and they don't. 0:07:16.560 --> 0:07:21.280 I think she calls it out on me only because 0:07:21.360 --> 0:07:25.840 I give a reaction, and I am told that I 0:07:25.840 --> 0:07:31.280 am very easy to rage, bait and make fun of. Okay, 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:34.960 So whenever my other two male coworkers workers will make 0:07:35.000 --> 0:07:39.000 a joke, they don't say it as much, but when 0:07:39.040 --> 0:07:42.880 they say a joke, she doesn't call them out on it. 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:45.960 Is it fair to say that if everyone in the 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:50.640 group you seem to like the jokes the most. 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:54.280 Yes, Okay, there, there we go. 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:58.120 Okay, so listen, go ahead, go ahead, go ahead and 0:07:58.160 --> 0:07:59.119 say your piece. 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:03.440 I did grow up in a household. My grandpa was 0:08:03.480 --> 0:08:05.080 a terrible person. Thank god he's dead. 0:08:05.560 --> 0:08:07.280 Okay. 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:14.000 She she would say the worst things about other people, 0:08:14.960 --> 0:08:19.120 and that rubbed off on my brother and the rest 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:21.400 of my family quite a bit. Not that we would, 0:08:22.640 --> 0:08:24.960 you know, again, wish them harm or anything. 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:30.760 But what's what's your name again? 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:31.560 Olivia? 0:08:32.080 --> 0:08:34.080 Olivia? Okay, let me think about what my thoughts are 0:08:34.120 --> 0:08:34.400 on this. 0:08:36.200 --> 0:08:39.520 So I'm gonna approach this from the perspective simply of 0:08:40.160 --> 0:08:50.080 you as a person wanting to maintain social cohesion among your. 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:51.559 Community of other people. 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:54.840 So I'm gonna approach it from that perspective and less 0:08:54.840 --> 0:09:00.440 of a you know, moral policing words forerspective. 0:09:00.440 --> 0:09:00.959 And from that. 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:08.840 Perspective, it sounds like your coworkers like having fun, but 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:13.680 that you're taking it too far to a point where 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:16.400 it seems like it is making them uncomfortable. 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:19.600 Is that accurate? 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:31.880 I mean, yes, I understand why you're saying that, but yeah, yeah, 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:32.640 I think you're right. 0:09:33.720 --> 0:09:41.440 Okay, So so listen from that perspective. If you want 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:45.960 to maintain greater social cohesion with your coworkers and they're 0:09:46.000 --> 0:09:50.480 telling you that you're like making all of these jokes 0:09:50.559 --> 0:09:56.000 that are making people uncomfortable, then I think it would 0:09:56.679 --> 0:10:01.480 be best for you and your desire to maintain social 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:05.640 cohesion to keep it down a little bit and maybe 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:11.080 like have a have some restraints and some intention about 0:10:11.920 --> 0:10:13.400 how you're going about. 0:10:13.160 --> 0:10:15.200 These social situations. 0:10:15.880 --> 0:10:17.120 Yes, so. 0:10:20.320 --> 0:10:22.600 You know that is keep it, keep it, keep it 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:26.559 down a little bit, is the uh long and short 0:10:26.960 --> 0:10:31.040 of it. Yeah, And I get the whole thing of 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:34.920 like your dad said, crazy shit growing up and all that. Sure, 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:38.720 but like now now it's on you to figure out 0:10:38.840 --> 0:10:44.679 how to you know, be among the world. So what 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:46.600 do you think about that? What do you think about 0:10:46.679 --> 0:10:50.839 toning down the jokes for your own sake of maintaining 0:10:50.840 --> 0:10:51.760 social cohesion? 0:10:53.640 --> 0:10:56.520 Yes, I do. I do like the idea of that. 0:10:58.080 --> 0:11:01.840 It's just rather hard for me. So I have ADHD 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:04.800 and I have an impulsivity disorder. 0:11:06.360 --> 0:11:07.120 I do take. 0:11:07.080 --> 0:11:11.000 Medication, but a lot of times I will just blurt 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:15.400 out before I even think about it, and then people's 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:19.040 reactions is what made me be like, makes me realize 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:20.760 like Oh my gosh, did I just say something that 0:11:20.960 --> 0:11:21.520 was okay? 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:22.200 Yes? 0:11:22.360 --> 0:11:23.280 Fair, fair, fair? 0:11:23.440 --> 0:11:26.280 Do you I mean, do you have some Do you 0:11:26.320 --> 0:11:29.080 have like a form of autism or something like that? 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:36.040 They I I was told that I was tested when 0:11:36.080 --> 0:11:41.040 I was younger, and I did not. But everyone at 0:11:41.080 --> 0:11:43.200 work is convinced I have something. 0:11:43.920 --> 0:11:50.160 Okay, and listen, whatever it is you are claiming that 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:54.840 you have some sort of mental thing that causes you 0:11:55.240 --> 0:11:59.400 to speak before saying stuff, and I empathize. 0:11:59.400 --> 0:12:00.839 I really am AiZ with you on that. 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:05.160 Okay, we're not all born with perfect social skill sets, 0:12:05.679 --> 0:12:13.600 but you have the agency to like identify it and 0:12:14.600 --> 0:12:16.400 you know, talk on here about it. 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:18.640 And so I believe that. 0:12:18.559 --> 0:12:24.320 If if you want two and then maybe this is 0:12:24.320 --> 0:12:28.520 the question for you. Do you want to have greater 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:32.720 social cohesion and more control over what you say and 0:12:32.720 --> 0:12:33.760 how you present yourself? 0:12:35.040 --> 0:12:37.800 Yes, absolutely, it's then great. 0:12:37.920 --> 0:12:44.000 Then if you do, then you would feel good going 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:49.480 through these exercises of restraint. And and by the way, 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:52.800 and here's the thing about social skills and exercises of 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:56.439 restraint is that for the beginning of it, it's going 0:12:56.480 --> 0:13:00.040 to feel very manual. So when you're out there and 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:02.599 you're like I'm going to like when you when you 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:06.680 say to yourself, okay today, I am going to think 0:13:06.800 --> 0:13:09.600 about what I say before I say it. It's gonna 0:13:09.679 --> 0:13:13.200 you're gonna struggle with it, because that's you're like rewiring 0:13:13.240 --> 0:13:16.920 your brain to act in a way that is different 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:21.439 from your impulses. And so it's gonna be really a 0:13:21.480 --> 0:13:24.640 struggle for a bit. But then here's the thing is 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:30.240 that once you practice this, it'll stop being a manual thing. 0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:35.160 It'll start being automatic, and you'll you'll your social skills 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:37.880 will grow as a result of this intentional effort. 0:13:39.120 --> 0:13:44.920 Okay, I I will definitely start doing that. I think 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:52.720 another factor of it is I if I like the company, 0:13:52.840 --> 0:13:57.280 then I love attention. I love making. I love making 0:13:57.320 --> 0:14:02.000 people laugh. And my older brother I didn't get along 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:04.200 with him a lot growing up because I don't know, 0:14:04.360 --> 0:14:07.400 he has his own problems. I had ADHD. I was unmedicated, 0:14:07.480 --> 0:14:12.240 so I hear I was a little monster. Now we've 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:17.280 started connecting and he loves those kinds of jokes. And 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:23.600 so when I say something light, like a light comment 0:14:24.480 --> 0:14:30.520 and I get reactions like laughter, I want more. And yeah, 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:35.520 when I just get deeper and deeper with the kind 0:14:35.560 --> 0:14:38.960 of things that I joke about because I don't know 0:14:39.000 --> 0:14:41.160 if it's because I want to test the limits, but 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:45.320 I love the reactions I get, except for when I'm 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:47.000 told it was it's too much. 0:14:47.320 --> 0:14:49.040 So let me let me, let me explain this to you. 0:14:49.040 --> 0:14:50.920 And this is something that I've been thinking about a 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:54.160 lot in my personal life recently that uh you, maybe 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:58.000 you'll get something out of which is that, uh, okay, 0:14:58.040 --> 0:15:01.080 so your brother, right, your brother likes these jokes. 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:04.560 So when you're so, when you're. 0:15:04.400 --> 0:15:07.000 With your brother, be yourself and tell your jokes and 0:15:07.080 --> 0:15:10.560 be and feel feel free to be the version of 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:14.920 yourself that you feel comfortable being with your brother. 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:20.360 Right, And then in. 0:15:19.520 --> 0:15:26.600 This bigger social situation where like the reception is not 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:29.400 going to be the same as it is with your brother. 0:15:30.520 --> 0:15:33.720 Get this, I don't believe, I really don't. 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:39.480 I don't believe that you have to necessarily dilute yourself, 0:15:40.520 --> 0:15:48.160 or be less yourself, or or even really censor yourself, 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:54.040 because those are all like kind of versions of withholding 0:15:54.640 --> 0:16:02.640 who you are. And instead, I would say that you 0:16:02.680 --> 0:16:07.920 should use it as an opportunity to explore a different 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:11.680 version of yourself, because I don't believe in the true self. 0:16:11.800 --> 0:16:14.240 I believe in am that are just our lives are 0:16:14.280 --> 0:16:19.200 just we're an amalgamation of of you know, the infinite 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:22.560 of ourselves, you know, in relation to the infinite, different 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:25.120 people in different situations that we find ourselves in. So 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:28.080 use it as an opportunity to explore a different version 0:16:28.120 --> 0:16:32.080 of yourself that can still be funny, and can still 0:16:32.360 --> 0:16:38.720 be interesting, and can still be engaging and and all 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:43.960 these things that you like being, but in a way 0:16:45.360 --> 0:16:53.640 that is more appropriate for the situation, because you'll develop 0:16:53.720 --> 0:16:56.800 new parts of yourself, right like for it, like like 0:16:56.840 --> 0:17:00.200 with being funny, right Like, there's a version of yourself 0:17:00.360 --> 0:17:04.400 when you're like like when you're flirting with someone, that's 0:17:04.400 --> 0:17:06.880 a version of yourself that's trying to be funny and interesting. 0:17:07.280 --> 0:17:08.840 When you're with your friends and you're trying to make 0:17:08.880 --> 0:17:11.159 your friends laugh, that's you're doing it. You're gonna be 0:17:11.400 --> 0:17:14.600 acting differently. You'd be doing a different version of yourself 0:17:15.080 --> 0:17:17.560 trying to be funny in different ways. When you're talking 0:17:17.560 --> 0:17:19.560 to your parents and you're trying to you know, be 0:17:19.640 --> 0:17:21.439 the best verd of yourself, that's a different version of you. 0:17:21.680 --> 0:17:27.240 And so you're just exploring a different version of yourself 0:17:27.320 --> 0:17:34.280 that's still yourself, but that is more suited for the 0:17:34.359 --> 0:17:37.000 situation that you're in. Does that make sense? 0:17:38.760 --> 0:17:39.480 Yes, it does. 0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:41.640 And so now you don't have to be like, oh, 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:45.879 how do I not say these things? But rather like, 0:17:47.280 --> 0:17:49.920 when I'm in this situation, like how do I feel? 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:54.520 Because because part of the the blurting out things is 0:17:54.920 --> 0:17:57.760 to me, it's a version of not being even present. 0:17:59.119 --> 0:17:59.280 Right. 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:04.399 So before, so when you're around you're co workers and 0:18:04.440 --> 0:18:07.159 you're in these situations, just like get a feel for 0:18:07.320 --> 0:18:11.400 like how you feel in your body and in your 0:18:11.480 --> 0:18:15.520 mind when you're around these people, and like explore different 0:18:17.160 --> 0:18:20.480 like feelings and different ways of being when you're around 0:18:20.480 --> 0:18:26.679 these people that aren't necessarily the ones that are your 0:18:27.000 --> 0:18:30.160 your gut reactions. And it's great because you'll find you'll 0:18:30.200 --> 0:18:32.240 find you'll be like, oh, I didn't realize I can 0:18:33.720 --> 0:18:36.960 be this version of funny, you know, like it's like 0:18:37.000 --> 0:18:40.760 a comedian right like like like like the greatest stand 0:18:40.840 --> 0:18:44.320 up comedians of all time. They can be really funny 0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:50.800 saying like you know, dark crazy, uh uh, you know, 0:18:50.840 --> 0:18:53.880 politically incorrect shit, but they can also like if they're 0:18:53.880 --> 0:18:56.160 really skilled, they can also be really funny without doing 0:18:56.160 --> 0:18:58.399 any of that shit, and they can be funny and 0:18:58.520 --> 0:19:05.560 interesting over a uh, you know, wide spectrum of ways 0:19:05.600 --> 0:19:07.640 of being. So look at yourself as a human being 0:19:07.760 --> 0:19:09.760 like that and be like, oh, I can be funny 0:19:09.760 --> 0:19:12.280 and interesting and engaging. 0:19:11.960 --> 0:19:16.040 Over a wide variety of ways. 0:19:16.200 --> 0:19:19.280 And you'll and it'll you'll like, if you really try 0:19:19.320 --> 0:19:22.160 to approach your social life like that, you'll discover new 0:19:22.280 --> 0:19:24.360 versions of yourself and that's really exciting. 0:19:27.240 --> 0:19:35.800 Okay, Yeah, I like this. I like the sound of that. 0:19:36.160 --> 0:19:42.480 I yeah, I definitely because I don't. Of course, I 0:19:42.560 --> 0:19:47.720 hate it when she's like, you're being racist, but then 0:19:48.000 --> 0:19:51.800 I'm yeah, I don't like being called it, and I'm 0:19:51.840 --> 0:19:58.480 worried that it's actually starting to maybe of like influence 0:19:58.720 --> 0:19:59.800 how I think of people. 0:20:00.080 --> 0:20:03.520 But how what do you mean? How what do you 0:20:03.520 --> 0:20:05.320 mean it's starting to influence how you think of people? 0:20:06.880 --> 0:20:17.160 So I have neighbors across the street. They are it's 0:20:17.200 --> 0:20:18.119 a Latino family. 0:20:18.760 --> 0:20:19.000 Ok. 0:20:19.160 --> 0:20:24.639 They they repair cars, They buy cars, repair them and 0:20:24.720 --> 0:20:29.600 sell and then sell them m hm. And they always 0:20:30.000 --> 0:20:32.399 their garage is so full of equipment that there's no 0:20:32.560 --> 0:20:37.200 cars in their garage. They park them in their driveway 0:20:37.280 --> 0:20:39.960 on the grass on our street. And I live right 0:20:40.040 --> 0:20:43.119 in an area where like it's a curve into a 0:20:43.160 --> 0:20:47.040 neighborhood and my house is the first one there. There 0:20:47.080 --> 0:20:51.560 has been several people that have almost gotten into accidents 0:20:51.600 --> 0:20:54.640 because they have so much cars parked on the road 0:20:55.200 --> 0:20:59.120 that you can't see over their cars on if there's 0:20:59.160 --> 0:21:03.159 a car coming to or not. And even even in 0:21:03.200 --> 0:21:05.520 the winter, because it's it's kind of a sharp turn, 0:21:07.560 --> 0:21:08.840 there's a lot of cars. 0:21:08.600 --> 0:21:11.920 That will slit what's your what's your name again? 0:21:12.680 --> 0:21:13.160 Olivia? 0:21:13.520 --> 0:21:16.959 Olivia? Olivia? Did anything I say get through to you? 0:21:17.000 --> 0:21:17.119 Did? 0:21:17.160 --> 0:21:18.840 You did? Did anything that makes sense? 0:21:19.840 --> 0:21:29.080 It did? I'm okay, Yeah, it just so so like look. 0:21:29.359 --> 0:21:31.399 Like the whole thing about like the way that people 0:21:31.560 --> 0:21:35.520 I don't think you should really be concerned about. I 0:21:35.520 --> 0:21:37.920 don't think you should be so concerned about what other 0:21:38.000 --> 0:21:43.919 people think of you necessarily, but you should. But you 0:21:43.960 --> 0:21:46.520 want to keep the social cohesion, You want to keep 0:21:46.560 --> 0:21:48.720 hanging out with these people, and you want to be 0:21:48.760 --> 0:21:54.680 able to both fit in and be yourself, and you 0:21:54.720 --> 0:21:59.560 want to be able to overcome whatever mental illness or 0:22:00.160 --> 0:22:03.720 family whatever that prevents you from doing that. And I'm 0:22:03.760 --> 0:22:08.119 just saying that I think there's a blueprint for you 0:22:08.200 --> 0:22:13.600 to be able to do that, and that you should 0:22:13.600 --> 0:22:16.600 look at it as like a you know, a way 0:22:16.640 --> 0:22:21.320 of discovering new versions of yourself, as opposed to just like, oh, 0:22:21.359 --> 0:22:23.720 I don't want to be thought of as racist just 0:22:23.720 --> 0:22:24.280 because it's not. 0:22:24.600 --> 0:22:32.480 It's kind of boring. But Olivia, yes, are you still there? 0:22:33.160 --> 0:22:33.360 Yeah? 0:22:33.520 --> 0:22:34.280 Yeah? Sorry? 0:22:34.600 --> 0:22:36.280 Was this helpful to you in any way shape or for. 0:22:37.880 --> 0:22:38.200 Yes? 0:22:38.720 --> 0:22:45.679 Do you hate green people? No? Okay? Good? 0:22:48.200 --> 0:22:49.359 Is there anything else you want to say to the 0:22:49.359 --> 0:22:56.880 people of the computer before we go? H? 0:22:56.920 --> 0:23:00.800 I don't know, sweet, you. 0:23:00.760 --> 0:23:02.760 Want to say one of the jokes? No, I'm just kidding. 0:23:03.440 --> 0:23:09.440 No, no, no, well, I really I really appreciate that advice. 0:23:09.880 --> 0:23:12.760 And for sure, man, I'm gonna I'm gonna be thinking 0:23:12.760 --> 0:23:13.720 about that a lot more. 0:23:14.520 --> 0:23:16.960 All right, man, Olivia, good luck. I'll see you are 0:23:17.040 --> 0:23:18.439 in the universe. Let me know how it goes. 0:23:19.119 --> 0:23:21.120 Call back in. See if you call back in, well, 0:23:21.240 --> 0:23:23.399 I want to hear if. 0:23:22.640 --> 0:23:24.280 There were if you feel if you feel like there's 0:23:24.280 --> 0:23:25.639 a dice, I would I would be down to hear 0:23:25.680 --> 0:23:27.440 from you again. If you feel like there's a development, 0:23:27.760 --> 0:23:30.040 If you feel like there you've got a development here, 0:23:30.160 --> 0:23:31.480 I want to hear it. 0:23:31.560 --> 0:23:37.840 So call back and I do have a lot of problems, 0:23:37.960 --> 0:23:41.520 so we can always talk about something else after. 0:23:42.920 --> 0:23:45.560 Okay, okay, all right, we'll do this again. We'll figure 0:23:45.560 --> 0:23:47.240 this out. We're gonna get We're gonna get somewhere. 0:23:47.880 --> 0:23:49.359 Okay, thank you so much. 0:23:49.720 --> 0:23:58.600 Okay, bye, Olivia, goodbye. I think is Olivia a racist? Well, 0:24:00.480 --> 0:24:04.560 you know, you know what's fun is like, I don't know. 0:24:04.640 --> 0:24:05.800 I'm I think. 0:24:07.920 --> 0:24:12.960 Some people are are They just have a bit of 0:24:12.960 --> 0:24:15.119 a crazy They just have crazy vibes. 0:24:15.240 --> 0:24:17.800 We all know people like this. We all know we 0:24:17.840 --> 0:24:19.000 all have them in our lives. 0:24:20.880 --> 0:24:25.840 We keep them at varying amounts of distance, but we 0:24:25.880 --> 0:24:27.560 all know we all have people like this in our 0:24:27.600 --> 0:24:33.359 lives who say stuff without thinking that we keep it 0:24:33.840 --> 0:24:38.239 varying lengths of distance. We want them to, you know, 0:24:38.640 --> 0:24:42.160 thrive and live good lives as we want to, as 0:24:42.200 --> 0:24:47.399 we want all of our friends too. So thanks for 0:24:47.440 --> 0:24:50.119 Sharon Olivia. Hey, folks, I just want to interrupt the 0:24:50.160 --> 0:24:54.080 episode very quickly to remind you guys that I am 0:24:54.119 --> 0:24:58.320 about to be on tour. I am going on the 0:24:58.440 --> 0:25:02.680 road to twenty three three different cities in America as 0:25:02.720 --> 0:25:06.600 well as a few in Canada to do my live 0:25:07.119 --> 0:25:11.760 therapy Gecko Show, where I will be telling stories, giving presentations, 0:25:11.840 --> 0:25:17.359 and conducting live group Gecko therapy sessions with the audience. 0:25:17.960 --> 0:25:21.080 I am very happy with the material that I've been 0:25:21.119 --> 0:25:23.800 doing at these shows and the stories that I've been telling. 0:25:23.800 --> 0:25:26.880 I think that they're fun and interesting. And we will 0:25:26.880 --> 0:25:31.920 also be doing our trademark group therapy sessions with people 0:25:32.240 --> 0:25:32.760 as well. 0:25:33.240 --> 0:25:34.800 And if you're a fan. 0:25:35.000 --> 0:25:37.399 Of the podcast, you'll have a good time at the show. 0:25:37.720 --> 0:25:39.879