1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:01,160 Speaker 1: Hey, wind Down listeners. 2 00:00:01,560 --> 00:00:05,160 Speaker 2: So this episode with Molly Sims was tape before the fires, 3 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 2: and we have seen the devastation the fires have caused 4 00:00:08,080 --> 00:00:11,880 Speaker 2: Molly's community, and we are praying for Molly and her family, 5 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:14,840 Speaker 2: her community and everyone that has been affected by the 6 00:00:14,880 --> 00:00:17,439 Speaker 2: fires in LA. And again, thank you to the first 7 00:00:17,480 --> 00:00:22,200 Speaker 2: responders and to everyone who has helped pick up the 8 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 2: pieces during this difficult time. Here's the episode for this. 9 00:00:25,880 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 1: Week, wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast. 10 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:35,280 Speaker 2: You know what's really cool about doing this podcast is 11 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 2: that we get to talk to I mean, obviously we 12 00:00:38,040 --> 00:00:40,559 Speaker 2: have some amazing guests, but it's always really fun when 13 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:43,519 Speaker 2: you see a rundown that's like Matthew McConaughey, or like 14 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 2: Jada Pinkett or Molly Sim that this one was good. 15 00:00:47,600 --> 00:00:51,159 Speaker 2: Like she's a model, Yeah, she's a mom. She's got 16 00:00:51,200 --> 00:00:54,240 Speaker 2: a new podcast that's out called Lipstick on the Rim. 17 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:58,520 Speaker 2: And sometimes all they want to come on wind out yeah, 18 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:01,319 Speaker 2: or I get you. I get super with the US, right, 19 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:05,200 Speaker 2: I get I get super like kind of giddy and excited, 20 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 2: and then I'm like, put for real, I don't know 21 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:09,840 Speaker 2: it's just going to show up. 22 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:10,480 Speaker 3: Are you going to do it? 23 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:13,520 Speaker 2: I know, but it's just it's really it's you know, 24 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 2: she's she's just great. She's an actress, she's all the things, 25 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 2: she's a mom. She's killing it. So I'm excited to 26 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:20,839 Speaker 2: get her on and she's actually like this is also cool. 27 00:01:21,319 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 2: She's here on time right, ready to come on. Like 28 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 2: if I was Molly's times, I'd be like, I'm gonna 29 00:01:27,160 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 2: be ten minutes late. 30 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:28,560 Speaker 3: But you wouldn't. 31 00:01:28,560 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 2: No, I wouldn't at all. 32 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:30,040 Speaker 3: That's not true. 33 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:32,800 Speaker 4: And that's and I've just got to stop there because 34 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:35,680 Speaker 4: there are plenty of Matthew McConaughey was on time. 35 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:39,679 Speaker 3: I'm sorry if you're you know, you can be on time. 36 00:01:39,560 --> 00:01:42,319 Speaker 2: Too, exactly, And I'm we are always on time. It's 37 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:44,200 Speaker 2: one of the things that I will never Yeah, like 38 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:48,880 Speaker 2: hating late, which is something I had to have a 39 00:01:48,920 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 2: conversation with Alan about because he's always late. Oh is he? 40 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 2: I know? 41 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:54,720 Speaker 3: He's slow always? 42 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:59,240 Speaker 2: Yes, slow and late. Ah. And it happened one night 43 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 2: on a date night where we had to you know, 44 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 2: traffic with Nashville too, so it was one of those 45 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:07,000 Speaker 2: things where we had to leave by a certain time. Yeah, 46 00:02:07,440 --> 00:02:10,560 Speaker 2: and we ended up I'm like, Okay, I don't want 47 00:02:10,560 --> 00:02:12,440 Speaker 2: to get upset at him because I don't want to 48 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:14,200 Speaker 2: ruin date night, but I also need him to know 49 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 2: that this now feels like a little disrespectful too to 50 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:21,079 Speaker 2: always be late. And so he had to like change 51 00:02:21,120 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 2: his out fit ten times. And I'm just like, you know, 52 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 2: so she's like, you know, like this Jack, that was 53 00:02:26,200 --> 00:02:28,960 Speaker 2: like fine. So I was like, hey, I just this 54 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 2: is what's coming up for me right now, Like can 55 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:33,640 Speaker 2: you just it's important to me when you're on time, 56 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 2: like it feels like you respect what we're doing, like 57 00:02:36,840 --> 00:02:41,320 Speaker 2: you know. And then it was awful. The Uber driver 58 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:44,359 Speaker 2: we just got we extended our driveway a little bit, 59 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 2: and so Alan was really proud of like this new 60 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:48,919 Speaker 2: grass that he like put in on the side. Well, 61 00:02:48,919 --> 00:02:52,400 Speaker 2: the Uber driver decided to to do like a hole. 62 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 2: He turned wow, completely messed up the grass. And so 63 00:02:56,800 --> 00:02:59,480 Speaker 2: then Alan's like, man, you messed up, you know, like 64 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:02,359 Speaker 2: say something or sorry or something. And in the Uber's 65 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:04,919 Speaker 2: driver was like, I don't want to drive you guys anymore. 66 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:08,360 Speaker 2: So we left, which made us then like, I mean 67 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:10,760 Speaker 2: we missed our reservation. It was like the whole thing, 68 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:15,679 Speaker 2: wait what yeah, because and I was just like, sir, 69 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 2: all you had to just say was acknowledged that you 70 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:19,040 Speaker 2: messed up the ground like you. I mean, he it 71 00:03:19,120 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 2: wasn't just like a little like he completely like messed 72 00:03:22,760 --> 00:03:23,079 Speaker 2: it up. 73 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:24,600 Speaker 3: And Alan's like I need the sorry. 74 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:26,600 Speaker 2: Well no, he was just like, sir, like why did 75 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:28,200 Speaker 2: you do that? You know? And he's like ahead, and 76 00:03:28,200 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 2: he's like, you didn't have to do that. Like everyone 77 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:33,000 Speaker 2: just goes up and then down. I didn't. You didn't 78 00:03:33,040 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 2: have to go all around. So they kind of had 79 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:36,400 Speaker 2: like you know. 80 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:37,160 Speaker 3: And he left you. 81 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:38,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, he was like I'm not going to drive you 82 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 2: guys anymore. And I'm like, sir, I think he was 83 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:44,520 Speaker 2: just wanting just for you to acknowledge what happened, right, 84 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:47,040 Speaker 2: you know, and he left. Oh and you know, it's 85 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:50,200 Speaker 2: not like you can't get ubers no, like did you 86 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:52,880 Speaker 2: even go We ended up driving, But you know, it's 87 00:03:52,920 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 2: just one of those things where it was just like anyways. 88 00:03:54,920 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 3: It was fine, but you know, yeah, that's that sucks. 89 00:03:58,040 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 2: Anyways, how did we get on? She's waiting this entire time? Okay, 90 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:05,640 Speaker 2: let's go. No, she really wasn't. It was just her 91 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 2: people in the waiting room. Now she's here, so let's 92 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:21,039 Speaker 2: take a break and let's get her on. Can we 93 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:23,120 Speaker 2: just hop right into it? Because I have also have 94 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:26,960 Speaker 2: we both have nine year old daughters. She's got three, 95 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:29,480 Speaker 2: I've got three. You've got three, right. 96 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 1: I have three? 97 00:04:30,839 --> 00:04:31,839 Speaker 2: What are the ages again? 98 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 1: So Gray is seven, he's in second grade. 99 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 5: He's my little like just chunky, just you want to 100 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:44,039 Speaker 5: squeeze him. And then Scarlett she's nine, she's in fourth grade. 101 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 5: And then Brooks is sixth grade, just got a perm 102 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:55,120 Speaker 5: and he's just you know, your firstborn, lovable. 103 00:04:55,960 --> 00:04:59,120 Speaker 2: Yeah. So I have a My daughter is going to 104 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:01,840 Speaker 2: be nine in January. My son is six. And then 105 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:05,560 Speaker 2: I have a son who's thirteen months I know, And 106 00:05:05,640 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 2: so you know, I had the baby at forty and 107 00:05:09,400 --> 00:05:11,839 Speaker 2: I've been talking and she's also got three years year old. 108 00:05:11,920 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 4: You mind are a little older. I have fifteen, almost thirteen, 109 00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:15,599 Speaker 4: and almost nine. 110 00:05:15,720 --> 00:05:18,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, so but I'll say I'll the nine year old 111 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:21,599 Speaker 2: girl though, because you know, she's my oldest. And I'm like, hmm, 112 00:05:23,760 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 2: it's the sass is already coming in. 113 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it's called the tude, the attitude. 114 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:33,359 Speaker 2: I just feel sometimes I'm like I don't understand what 115 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:36,640 Speaker 2: the like, I'm like, what am I doing wrong, you know, 116 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 2: And I'm like, we're just not We're not like seeing 117 00:05:38,560 --> 00:05:40,480 Speaker 2: eye to eye. I'm like, is this does it get worse? 118 00:05:40,720 --> 00:05:44,040 Speaker 2: Because I'm like, she's just going to be turning nine. 119 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: So you know, I got the opportunity. You guys should 120 00:05:46,960 --> 00:05:47,320 Speaker 1: have her on. 121 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:51,480 Speaker 5: Her name is Eliza Pressman, and she has an incredible 122 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:55,240 Speaker 5: podcast called Raising Good Humans, and she has a book 123 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 5: that came out this past year called The Five Principles 124 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:03,159 Speaker 5: of Parenting. And we were speaking yesterday. I work with 125 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:07,239 Speaker 5: her and her partner braun Win. We were speaking yesterday 126 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 5: that a lot of parenting is listening. Is just listening. 127 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:17,479 Speaker 5: It's not all of it, but it's she breaks it 128 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:22,120 Speaker 5: down really well, it's like responding, reflecting, repair. 129 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: Rules. 130 00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:27,919 Speaker 5: I don't know, I can't think of what it was, 131 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:29,600 Speaker 5: but it was so interesting because she said a lot 132 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 5: of it gets difficult, and a lot of it your 133 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:35,440 Speaker 5: job is to just listen and don't react. Right, So, 134 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:38,039 Speaker 5: because they're not necessarily coming to you and giving you 135 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:40,960 Speaker 5: the tude for you to react, they just it's almost 136 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:43,839 Speaker 5: like you're a sounding board but you're not allowed to speak. 137 00:06:45,160 --> 00:06:46,159 Speaker 3: That is so hard. 138 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:48,599 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think the hardest thing too, is my daughter. 139 00:06:48,839 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 2: She wants to talk the most, like when I'm talking 140 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:53,080 Speaker 2: her into bed, which I always think is like a 141 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:55,240 Speaker 2: delay tactic, and I want to sit there and but 142 00:06:55,279 --> 00:06:57,719 Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm exhausted by the end of the night, 143 00:06:57,760 --> 00:06:59,560 Speaker 2: you know, like chasing around, you know, the one year 144 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:02,120 Speaker 2: old and just like in them work, I'm like, yeah, 145 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:04,800 Speaker 2: and it's like, and I know that I need to 146 00:07:04,920 --> 00:07:07,479 Speaker 2: change that. I need to just sit there and let 147 00:07:07,480 --> 00:07:09,560 Speaker 2: her tell me all the stories because one day she's 148 00:07:09,600 --> 00:07:11,000 Speaker 2: not going to want to tell me all the stories, 149 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 2: you know. But it's just it's I feel like that's 150 00:07:13,040 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 2: the piece of mother like that I need to do 151 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:16,720 Speaker 2: better at because I'm just I'm exhausted. Then I'm like 152 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:18,440 Speaker 2: and then I feel like she's just doing it to 153 00:07:18,480 --> 00:07:20,280 Speaker 2: stall to not go to bed, you know. 154 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 1: Probably I'm like. 155 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:26,200 Speaker 4: There's a good chance that that could be what what 156 00:07:26,240 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 4: she's doing. But it's hard to just listen and not 157 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:32,960 Speaker 4: want to, especially like that middle school girl age, Like 158 00:07:33,200 --> 00:07:35,400 Speaker 4: how do you just listen to all the drama and 159 00:07:35,440 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 4: not like tell them how to fix it or what 160 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:39,800 Speaker 4: to do? Like that part is very hard, but I 161 00:07:39,840 --> 00:07:42,679 Speaker 4: am learning it goes a long way if you just listen. 162 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:44,960 Speaker 5: Yeah, we spoke about that yesterday. She was just like, 163 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 5: you know a lot of it. You know, sometimes the 164 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:51,000 Speaker 5: moms will get involved, but the the lesson here is 165 00:07:51,040 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 5: to try to let them navigate it, figure it out, 166 00:07:57,360 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 5: because you're not going to get invited to every part. 167 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:03,920 Speaker 1: You're not going to get you know, you're gonna. 168 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:06,120 Speaker 5: Get dumped, like all the lessons that are so hard 169 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 5: that you have to let them. 170 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:08,880 Speaker 1: You know. 171 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 5: Again, I'm only in sixth grade, so I'm like dying 172 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 5: at this advice. 173 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:15,120 Speaker 1: But it was really. 174 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 2: I was like, where do you where do you think 175 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:20,040 Speaker 2: you excel as a mom? And then where do you 176 00:08:20,040 --> 00:08:22,040 Speaker 2: think You're? Like, I feel like I need to I 177 00:08:22,080 --> 00:08:23,160 Speaker 2: need to do better at that. 178 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 5: You know, they know that I love them, They know 179 00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 5: I we mom fucking hard, like my mom, my husband, mom, 180 00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:36,800 Speaker 5: my husband. Dad's like, you know, uh, we're pretty good 181 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:37,760 Speaker 5: with structure. 182 00:08:38,679 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 2: You know. 183 00:08:38,920 --> 00:08:40,960 Speaker 5: I got a compliment from one of my heads of 184 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:46,760 Speaker 5: school this morning. You know, I my worst fear is, 185 00:08:47,160 --> 00:08:52,640 Speaker 5: you know, having kids and raising them in LA is 186 00:08:52,640 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 5: for them to be douchey and disrespectful. And we definitely 187 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:01,679 Speaker 5: hold the line with Boudes. I try to be an 188 00:09:01,720 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 5: extension of the school and they try to be an 189 00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:07,000 Speaker 5: extension right back. 190 00:09:07,040 --> 00:09:07,719 Speaker 1: I think. 191 00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:13,640 Speaker 5: Being grateful, being respective, I think we've kind of started 192 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:17,760 Speaker 5: to nail that into them since birth, hammered in just 193 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:21,360 Speaker 5: like as much as you can. I think we excel 194 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:25,960 Speaker 5: in that way that they're very lucky that they are, 195 00:09:28,679 --> 00:09:32,600 Speaker 5: you know, wonderful children. But at the same time, there 196 00:09:32,600 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 5: are boundaries, there is structure, and there's consequences, right I 197 00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:42,440 Speaker 5: think where you know, the wheels can come off right 198 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:45,120 Speaker 5: when everything just goes to shit and you're like, why 199 00:09:45,120 --> 00:09:47,640 Speaker 5: am I screaming at you? You know, we're saying like 200 00:09:48,360 --> 00:09:52,360 Speaker 5: what your mom said to you, Like I'm just telling 201 00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:54,720 Speaker 5: you to do it, Like what just I'm doing it 202 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 5: because I'm telling you as opposed to like really giving 203 00:09:56,880 --> 00:10:02,199 Speaker 5: them a reason, sitting them down, taking that moment I 204 00:10:01,920 --> 00:10:05,240 Speaker 5: can I can improve on, just like when I've had 205 00:10:05,320 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 5: enough and I just lose my ship. 206 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:09,440 Speaker 2: I feel like every mom can relate to that too. 207 00:10:09,480 --> 00:10:11,000 Speaker 2: I Mean, I feel like there's so many times when 208 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 2: you know, I'll call one of you girls and then 209 00:10:13,920 --> 00:10:15,599 Speaker 2: you know it's it's just like oh that, yeah, that 210 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:17,280 Speaker 2: happened to me yesterday, and I'm like, okay, good, So 211 00:10:17,360 --> 00:10:20,080 Speaker 2: like that's that's a normal thing like we It's it's 212 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:23,000 Speaker 2: hard sometimes, you know, and we have our explosions, but 213 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:27,240 Speaker 2: that's also how we come back from it and say sorry, mommy, 214 00:10:27,400 --> 00:10:28,960 Speaker 2: she just do you know why mommy was upset is 215 00:10:28,960 --> 00:10:30,960 Speaker 2: because you just lost your third glasses, you know. 216 00:10:31,080 --> 00:10:34,199 Speaker 1: And it's like I. 217 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:37,440 Speaker 5: Went totally off on her over the water bottle, and 218 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:39,960 Speaker 5: I'm like, I bought you the goat water bottle. 219 00:10:39,720 --> 00:10:42,360 Speaker 1: The twenty five dollars water bottle, all. 220 00:10:42,240 --> 00:10:44,800 Speaker 5: The goats on them. It's like Grace of all times 221 00:10:44,840 --> 00:10:47,559 Speaker 5: is a lacrosse bottle. It's like twenty five dollars. It's 222 00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 5: like expensive, and I normally don't do it because they lose. 223 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:53,240 Speaker 1: The water bottle. And I'm like, you can had it. 224 00:10:53,320 --> 00:10:55,640 Speaker 1: I can't take it. I can't take it. 225 00:10:56,800 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 2: Put it back where it well, I'm pretty sure she 226 00:11:00,200 --> 00:11:00,360 Speaker 2: was No. 227 00:11:00,480 --> 00:11:02,360 Speaker 1: I put it in the bag. I swear to god. 228 00:11:02,400 --> 00:11:04,400 Speaker 1: I put in the bag. Money. 229 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:06,560 Speaker 5: Andy and I were like going through like tons and 230 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:08,000 Speaker 5: I'm like, oh my god. 231 00:11:07,840 --> 00:11:12,520 Speaker 1: The water bottles there. No. I was like, the world 232 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:16,080 Speaker 1: the worst worse. 233 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:16,839 Speaker 3: It's okay. 234 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:19,120 Speaker 4: I had but oughta remind me of something I said 235 00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:20,720 Speaker 4: to her the other day that I should not have said. 236 00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:22,400 Speaker 4: And I'm not going to repeat it because I feel 237 00:11:22,440 --> 00:11:23,280 Speaker 4: really guilty about it. 238 00:11:23,320 --> 00:11:25,160 Speaker 2: Okay, please help you make us feel better. 239 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:26,839 Speaker 3: She brings it up on the daily. 240 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 4: I've obviously apologized, so she knows that she can bring 241 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:32,200 Speaker 4: it up. But I'm like, why are you torturing me 242 00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:35,600 Speaker 4: reminding me daily of what I said that I should 243 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 4: have said. No torture, torture, It's awful. Okay, So what 244 00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 4: are your kids into sports? Because I mean you do 245 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:43,760 Speaker 4: it all obviously. 246 00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:46,239 Speaker 1: Yeah, we're very. 247 00:11:46,080 --> 00:11:47,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, so what are they into? 248 00:11:47,480 --> 00:11:48,640 Speaker 1: So lacrosse? 249 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:53,680 Speaker 5: My girl does lacrosse and she rides. She's equestrian. She 250 00:11:53,840 --> 00:11:58,040 Speaker 5: rides horses, which, by the way, you have to be. 251 00:11:58,760 --> 00:12:00,199 Speaker 1: We're only going to last a couple more year. We're 252 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:01,040 Speaker 1: gonna run out of money. 253 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:04,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, my daughter has been begging for a horse. 254 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:07,520 Speaker 1: Well that's what everyone tells me. 255 00:12:07,559 --> 00:12:10,440 Speaker 2: My husband's like, you know, he was like don't He's like, babe, no, 256 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:12,600 Speaker 2: And I'm like, but so, I just say when you're thirteen, 257 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:14,160 Speaker 2: we'll talk about it when you're thirteen. Well, talk about 258 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 2: it when you're thirteen. But she loves riding horses like 259 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:18,240 Speaker 2: she loves it. 260 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:18,800 Speaker 1: Do you guys know. 261 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:24,480 Speaker 5: Marry Kitchen Mary Kitchen she's amazing. She's a woman here 262 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 5: in LA that I'm very close to, and she has 263 00:12:26,320 --> 00:12:29,760 Speaker 5: three little girls, fabulous by the you want to wear 264 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 5: their wardrobe, and she's fabulous. And so she was like, 265 00:12:32,960 --> 00:12:35,439 Speaker 5: you know, I ride and she's like, I'm really getting 266 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:36,119 Speaker 5: the girls. 267 00:12:36,480 --> 00:12:37,559 Speaker 1: This is in preschool. 268 00:12:37,559 --> 00:12:39,840 Speaker 5: Okay, She's like, you got to come to this little 269 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:45,040 Speaker 5: like pony camp. And sure enough I took her to 270 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:49,839 Speaker 5: the pony camp and she loved it. And so I'm like, okay, 271 00:12:50,360 --> 00:12:53,200 Speaker 5: just ride up here at Sullivan Canyon just you know, 272 00:12:54,400 --> 00:12:56,680 Speaker 5: and she ended up loving it. 273 00:12:56,840 --> 00:13:01,800 Speaker 1: They ended up quitting. I'm like, I don't even ride. 274 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:03,120 Speaker 1: I have no one from Kentucky. 275 00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:07,760 Speaker 5: But like, anyway, so she does a questrian, they all 276 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:09,600 Speaker 5: do lacrosse, and a couple of. 277 00:13:09,559 --> 00:13:14,240 Speaker 1: Them do soccer. But we're very active. I'm hoping. 278 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:17,640 Speaker 5: I know it sounds like a little controversial, but I'm 279 00:13:17,679 --> 00:13:21,760 Speaker 5: not gonna one sport a child just because I feel 280 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:26,000 Speaker 5: like their development and all these coaches and clubs and 281 00:13:26,360 --> 00:13:28,679 Speaker 5: you know, they almost make it impossible for the for 282 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:30,760 Speaker 5: the kids to have more than one sport. And I 283 00:13:30,840 --> 00:13:33,680 Speaker 5: just don't believe in that. I don't they haven't gone 284 00:13:33,679 --> 00:13:34,920 Speaker 5: through puberty. 285 00:13:35,920 --> 00:13:36,719 Speaker 1: And they don't know. 286 00:13:36,880 --> 00:13:39,280 Speaker 5: You don't know where you're going to be in three years, 287 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:43,600 Speaker 5: and I you know, it's that's something that I've learned 288 00:13:44,200 --> 00:13:50,360 Speaker 5: to be very boundaried with coaches and teams of we're 289 00:13:50,400 --> 00:13:52,200 Speaker 5: doing the best we can if you'd like us to 290 00:13:52,240 --> 00:13:54,640 Speaker 5: be on the team. We are not a one sport 291 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:58,240 Speaker 5: family like that's something like as a as a third 292 00:13:58,320 --> 00:14:01,440 Speaker 5: child coming in, I've gotten my armor on because I truly, 293 00:14:02,120 --> 00:14:04,559 Speaker 5: you know, I need them to play something in high school. 294 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:05,440 Speaker 1: I don't care what. 295 00:14:05,679 --> 00:14:08,240 Speaker 5: So I've started with five. Now we're narrowing it down, 296 00:14:08,800 --> 00:14:11,520 Speaker 5: which is really hard. But I think it's an investment 297 00:14:11,559 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 5: into them not being on the phone and not being 298 00:14:14,920 --> 00:14:16,880 Speaker 5: bored and having something that. 299 00:14:18,720 --> 00:14:21,640 Speaker 1: They have to be a part of and that can 300 00:14:21,680 --> 00:14:21,960 Speaker 1: be a. 301 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:25,000 Speaker 5: Single sport, that can be a team sport that just 302 00:14:25,120 --> 00:14:26,280 Speaker 5: they have to do something. 303 00:14:27,360 --> 00:14:29,520 Speaker 2: What are is going to be your boundary with social media? 304 00:14:29,880 --> 00:14:32,280 Speaker 5: I mean I say this because my kids don't even 305 00:14:32,320 --> 00:14:35,680 Speaker 5: have phones. I've spoken, you know. I got to speak 306 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 5: to Jonathan Haye, who wrote the Conversations of an Anxious Generation, 307 00:14:40,280 --> 00:14:43,760 Speaker 5: who is incredible. I got to speak to Eliza, I 308 00:14:43,800 --> 00:14:48,320 Speaker 5: get to speak to a lot of incredible developmental psychologists. 309 00:14:48,960 --> 00:14:54,800 Speaker 5: Family you know, really great people have wonderful advice. 310 00:14:56,000 --> 00:14:57,960 Speaker 1: We're not going to have a phone. You know, we're 311 00:14:57,960 --> 00:14:58,920 Speaker 1: not going to have a phone. 312 00:14:59,760 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 2: When do you think you'll give the phone? 313 00:15:01,680 --> 00:15:05,960 Speaker 5: Probably eighth grade, you know, seven, he wants it, you know, 314 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:07,680 Speaker 5: when he graduates out of six. 315 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:08,840 Speaker 1: But I think a group of. 316 00:15:08,800 --> 00:15:11,920 Speaker 5: Us, listen, I'm really you know, happy that the schools, 317 00:15:12,000 --> 00:15:14,880 Speaker 5: especially in California, have come together. There's a no there's 318 00:15:14,880 --> 00:15:17,440 Speaker 5: a no phone policy now, which I really think makes 319 00:15:17,520 --> 00:15:20,160 Speaker 5: our life easier, in the teacher's life easier. 320 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:22,240 Speaker 2: Because then it's not like you're like because the kids 321 00:15:22,280 --> 00:15:24,480 Speaker 2: get mad, they'll get mad at you and the parents 322 00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:28,080 Speaker 2: as a post can cat our schools do that. 323 00:15:28,280 --> 00:15:30,200 Speaker 4: I mean, my kids are older and already have them. 324 00:15:30,240 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 4: But I would have done anything for someone to stand 325 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:34,360 Speaker 4: with me and say. 326 00:15:34,240 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 5: I'm not doing I won't say to high school, but 327 00:15:36,240 --> 00:15:40,560 Speaker 5: I learned one high school yesterday in the Valley decided 328 00:15:40,840 --> 00:15:43,080 Speaker 5: that no, they were gonna like they were going to 329 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:45,200 Speaker 5: let the kids have the phones in high school. 330 00:15:45,480 --> 00:15:45,920 Speaker 1: They didn't. 331 00:15:46,040 --> 00:15:48,200 Speaker 5: They were like, they're going to be on it more after. 332 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:51,640 Speaker 5: So it was just like it was so weird. 333 00:15:51,520 --> 00:15:54,960 Speaker 2: Because you're active on social media. Yeah, sorry, but like 334 00:15:55,000 --> 00:15:57,240 Speaker 2: so it's like it's hard because it's like I have 335 00:15:57,320 --> 00:15:59,360 Speaker 2: that same thing with my daughter. I mean, she's way 336 00:15:59,400 --> 00:16:01,160 Speaker 2: too young. I'm not to give her obviously a phone 337 00:16:01,240 --> 00:16:04,160 Speaker 2: or social media, like I'm I'm trying to hold out 338 00:16:04,200 --> 00:16:06,680 Speaker 2: until high school hopefully, like yeah, seventh or eighth. But 339 00:16:06,760 --> 00:16:11,160 Speaker 2: like you know, I she's always like, well, mom, you're 340 00:16:11,200 --> 00:16:13,000 Speaker 2: on social media. I'm like, yeah, behind, it's my work, 341 00:16:13,040 --> 00:16:14,600 Speaker 2: like it's my job. Like I don't want to be, 342 00:16:14,720 --> 00:16:15,320 Speaker 2: but I have to be. 343 00:16:15,560 --> 00:16:17,280 Speaker 1: You know what I mean, You're an adult and you 344 00:16:17,440 --> 00:16:26,640 Speaker 1: have you can regulate, you know. I think listen, all 345 00:16:26,720 --> 00:16:27,560 Speaker 1: kids are different. 346 00:16:28,040 --> 00:16:31,920 Speaker 5: You know Brooks, if I gave Brooks a phone today, 347 00:16:32,040 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 5: he would be so addicted, right he is social he 348 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:39,720 Speaker 5: maybe not because he has an iPad and I see 349 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:42,160 Speaker 5: he doesn't even respond, So maybe he's and he's always 350 00:16:42,160 --> 00:16:46,640 Speaker 5: too busy. But just within their personalities, he's he loves YouTube, 351 00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:51,160 Speaker 5: he loves watching every basketball every like I just know 352 00:16:51,320 --> 00:16:53,000 Speaker 5: him Scarlet. 353 00:16:53,880 --> 00:16:54,960 Speaker 1: I don't know Gray. 354 00:16:55,040 --> 00:16:57,080 Speaker 5: He has no I mean, he wants a phone, but 355 00:16:57,120 --> 00:16:59,400 Speaker 5: he only wants a phone because everybody else wants a phone, 356 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:03,360 Speaker 5: like he doesn't it. But I do think it depends 357 00:17:03,360 --> 00:17:05,800 Speaker 5: on the timperment of your child. You know, how is 358 00:17:05,840 --> 00:17:09,000 Speaker 5: there executive functioning? How is there you know? And a 359 00:17:09,000 --> 00:17:11,720 Speaker 5: lot of it if you're divorced, I mean a lot 360 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:14,440 Speaker 5: of it is is not just that you you want 361 00:17:14,440 --> 00:17:16,000 Speaker 5: to give it, You have to get it, you have 362 00:17:16,080 --> 00:17:16,560 Speaker 5: to somehow. 363 00:17:16,640 --> 00:17:19,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to stop texting my ex husband being like, 364 00:17:19,320 --> 00:17:21,040 Speaker 2: can I talk to the kids please? Like I'd like 365 00:17:21,080 --> 00:17:23,080 Speaker 2: to just straight up call jolly, which is probably why 366 00:17:23,119 --> 00:17:25,000 Speaker 2: they'll get it earlier, Like I get it for sports 367 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:27,480 Speaker 2: and things like that that you know, But that's another 368 00:17:27,520 --> 00:17:29,120 Speaker 2: reason why I'm like, she might get it earlier because 369 00:17:29,119 --> 00:17:30,359 Speaker 2: I don't want to keep texting him. 370 00:17:30,359 --> 00:17:33,919 Speaker 5: Right, which is which is understandably and you also, you know, 371 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:37,439 Speaker 5: you know, depending on your help situation, just getting a 372 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:38,280 Speaker 5: hold of the child. 373 00:17:39,040 --> 00:17:41,480 Speaker 1: But again, it doesn't necessarily have to be an iPhone. 374 00:17:41,520 --> 00:17:44,600 Speaker 5: You can have a phone that doesn't have social media 375 00:17:44,680 --> 00:17:47,960 Speaker 5: that you can you know, they can communicate, because it does, 376 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:51,520 Speaker 5: especially in divorce, can be you know, really tricky and 377 00:17:51,560 --> 00:18:03,760 Speaker 5: then it can even cause more issues for the child. 378 00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:10,439 Speaker 2: Can we move on to skincare because you obviously have 379 00:18:10,520 --> 00:18:14,600 Speaker 2: your podcast Lipstick on the Rim, and I just I 380 00:18:14,680 --> 00:18:18,960 Speaker 2: need to know what you do skincare wise, because I 381 00:18:19,040 --> 00:18:21,639 Speaker 2: stopped botox last year because I had a bad reaction 382 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:26,239 Speaker 2: and I haven't done it since last June, and so 383 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:30,560 Speaker 2: and I really I really don't want to again. But 384 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:34,520 Speaker 2: I'm also you know, I'm in my forties, and I 385 00:18:34,560 --> 00:18:36,720 Speaker 2: didn't do it a lot anyways, Like I would do 386 00:18:36,760 --> 00:18:40,600 Speaker 2: it like every like five months maybe or every six months. 387 00:18:40,640 --> 00:18:41,760 Speaker 2: But do you do botox? 388 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:46,119 Speaker 5: Yeah, that's I only do botox, Okay, I do it 389 00:18:46,480 --> 00:18:47,040 Speaker 5: kind of like you. 390 00:18:47,160 --> 00:18:49,480 Speaker 1: I'm I'm desperate need to get both. 391 00:18:49,320 --> 00:18:51,040 Speaker 2: Talks well, because that's saying I'm getting to the point 392 00:18:51,040 --> 00:18:53,520 Speaker 2: where I'm like I'm starting to see them just like oh. 393 00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:56,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I know there's nothing left in the space. 394 00:18:59,000 --> 00:19:01,080 Speaker 2: I don't want to though, but then anyways, go ahead. 395 00:19:01,119 --> 00:19:04,200 Speaker 1: You know, I just think she's like I do. 396 00:19:04,400 --> 00:19:06,600 Speaker 5: I just think you have to be careful judging yourself, 397 00:19:06,800 --> 00:19:11,400 Speaker 5: like you know, kind of lead with kindness in terms 398 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:15,479 Speaker 5: of that way, like you know, if you maybe instead 399 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:17,640 Speaker 5: of going three months, go seven months if you want 400 00:19:17,680 --> 00:19:20,359 Speaker 5: to do you know, and you can also you have 401 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:23,720 Speaker 5: a reason to be scared. You had a bad reaction, right, 402 00:19:23,800 --> 00:19:26,399 Speaker 5: So you know, a friend of mine had that happen 403 00:19:26,400 --> 00:19:27,520 Speaker 5: and it really put her off. 404 00:19:27,560 --> 00:19:29,440 Speaker 1: And then she finally got over and she's like, what 405 00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:30,479 Speaker 1: the was I doing well? 406 00:19:30,520 --> 00:19:31,440 Speaker 2: Because the wrinkles? 407 00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:33,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, what was I thinking? 408 00:19:34,520 --> 00:19:37,479 Speaker 5: So I have a skincare company we launched about eighteen 409 00:19:37,480 --> 00:19:42,920 Speaker 5: months ago called Wise Beauty Y se Beauty, and I 410 00:19:42,960 --> 00:19:46,240 Speaker 5: had real issues with my skin. I had my last 411 00:19:46,240 --> 00:19:49,200 Speaker 5: baby at forty four. I had my first baby at 412 00:19:49,200 --> 00:19:51,400 Speaker 5: thirty nine. I was like, back to back to back, 413 00:19:52,440 --> 00:19:53,959 Speaker 5: forty four, forty five, I'm fifty one. 414 00:19:54,280 --> 00:19:56,280 Speaker 2: Nice, So you give me hope to have another one. 415 00:19:56,320 --> 00:19:58,800 Speaker 2: My husband's like no, but I'm like, come on, I'm 416 00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:01,200 Speaker 2: forty one. I can do it. Yes, of course you can, 417 00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:03,280 Speaker 2: because I really want one more. 418 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:06,000 Speaker 5: Yes, and go to doctor Ging if you live in 419 00:20:06,160 --> 00:20:11,480 Speaker 5: La doctor Jing. The begs acupuma muxtuious, awful dirt that 420 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:13,120 Speaker 5: you will fellow horrible. 421 00:20:13,359 --> 00:20:15,720 Speaker 1: She's amazing. I actually saw her this morning. Not to 422 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:16,320 Speaker 1: have a baby. 423 00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:21,879 Speaker 5: But I had really bad cystic acony starting in my 424 00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:24,480 Speaker 5: late twenties, and I thought, okay, I'm done. 425 00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:27,000 Speaker 1: I've you know, I've grown up. 426 00:20:27,359 --> 00:20:29,840 Speaker 5: But with that I ended up trading to be hyper 427 00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:32,440 Speaker 5: pigmentation milasma and I kind of. 428 00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:34,359 Speaker 2: Got I have terrible malasma. 429 00:20:34,840 --> 00:20:35,320 Speaker 1: Oh I know. 430 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 2: She's like, oh I know, I see it. 431 00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:39,159 Speaker 1: No, No, I didn't mean it like that. I just 432 00:20:39,280 --> 00:20:40,800 Speaker 1: I can't see it. 433 00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:44,480 Speaker 5: I meant like it just came out with don't whether 434 00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:47,359 Speaker 5: it's gun or age or hormones or a mixture of 435 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:50,880 Speaker 5: all three. Mine was really bad because I was kind 436 00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:53,160 Speaker 5: of like you, the girl who goes no makeup makeup, 437 00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:57,560 Speaker 5: you know, kind of lead with the skin until you don't. 438 00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:00,200 Speaker 1: I first tried a product called high. 439 00:21:00,080 --> 00:21:03,040 Speaker 5: Your quanone, which is a really strong active that you get. 440 00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:04,080 Speaker 1: It lightens his skin. 441 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:07,399 Speaker 2: I do that every day? Is not Should I not 442 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:08,800 Speaker 2: be doing that? Oh? 443 00:21:08,840 --> 00:21:09,480 Speaker 1: No, you should not. 444 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:13,640 Speaker 2: Oh no, Why I've literally been doing it the last year, 445 00:21:13,920 --> 00:21:15,000 Speaker 2: every day, twice a day. 446 00:21:16,080 --> 00:21:18,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's probably one of the worst things you can do. 447 00:21:19,800 --> 00:21:22,960 Speaker 2: Why but it has like lightened it though I know 448 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:27,120 Speaker 2: sure absolutely? Why is it bad? 449 00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:28,240 Speaker 1: Why did she give it to me? 450 00:21:28,280 --> 00:21:29,639 Speaker 2: Why did my doctor give it to me if it 451 00:21:29,680 --> 00:21:30,000 Speaker 2: was bad? 452 00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:31,440 Speaker 1: Does she know you've been on it a year? 453 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:34,120 Speaker 5: Because see, mine didn't realize that I had been abusing 454 00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:36,760 Speaker 5: it off and on for many years. You're only supposed 455 00:21:36,800 --> 00:21:40,919 Speaker 5: to be on it for about three months. Oh, the 456 00:21:41,080 --> 00:21:46,760 Speaker 5: problem is it's fine while you're using it. I'm sure 457 00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:50,280 Speaker 5: you are a little bit red A lot dry. So 458 00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:52,760 Speaker 5: you're going to trade a lot of things for you know, 459 00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:57,080 Speaker 5: other things. But what ends up happening, and again it 460 00:21:57,119 --> 00:22:00,080 Speaker 5: may not happen to you. But once I stopped using it, 461 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:08,600 Speaker 5: the moment I went outside and got any tinge of sun, it. 462 00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:10,560 Speaker 1: Got worse than even before. 463 00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:14,760 Speaker 5: And this went on from twenty twelve to twenty fifteen 464 00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:16,440 Speaker 5: to twenty seventeen. 465 00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:18,600 Speaker 1: And the more like. 466 00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:24,280 Speaker 5: Kind of the harsher I was whether I did. I 467 00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:27,600 Speaker 5: did a cold laser with oreon. In fifteen, I did 468 00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:29,520 Speaker 5: a couple peals. 469 00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:32,640 Speaker 1: The harsher. The harsher it is. 470 00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:37,479 Speaker 5: The backlash is so bad I can't even tell you. 471 00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:42,679 Speaker 5: So in twenty nineteen I stopped everything again. I would 472 00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:46,120 Speaker 5: I would have even skin until I wouldn't, and then 473 00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:47,879 Speaker 5: I would go out and it would pop up in 474 00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:50,119 Speaker 5: the sun. It would be like patchy and just like 475 00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:55,479 Speaker 5: I looked dirty. But out of that I my husband 476 00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:57,119 Speaker 5: said one day that I had a little dirt on 477 00:22:57,160 --> 00:23:00,240 Speaker 5: my face in twenty nineteen and I could not talking 478 00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:03,720 Speaker 5: to I would take these little pods of Matt kincealer, 479 00:23:04,240 --> 00:23:06,720 Speaker 5: they still have them. They've been around for one hundred years, 480 00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:09,040 Speaker 5: and I would kind of just patch it up so 481 00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:11,320 Speaker 5: I wouldn't have to wear like a full face of foundation. 482 00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:13,920 Speaker 2: I do that every day to cover my malasma because 483 00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:15,440 Speaker 2: I don't like wearing makeup. But i'd just patch it 484 00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:16,480 Speaker 2: my malasma. 485 00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:16,639 Speaker 1: Pack it up. 486 00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:18,320 Speaker 5: So then and then I would take like a wet 487 00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:22,040 Speaker 5: sponge and like dip a little tinted moisturizer and i'd 488 00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:25,880 Speaker 5: kind of like just dotted on to have like. 489 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:30,560 Speaker 1: A little bit of some glow. But I ended up 490 00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:32,600 Speaker 1: stopping all of it, and. 491 00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:37,240 Speaker 5: I didn't really kind of realize what I was doing. 492 00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:40,520 Speaker 1: I just sort of did it. 493 00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:43,439 Speaker 5: I started with a product called that I totally abused 494 00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:46,360 Speaker 5: biology Gresearch Peet fifteen, nineteen seventy. And then I went 495 00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:49,640 Speaker 5: to an ice ice clinical product, then to a skin 496 00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:51,880 Speaker 5: food would lead it, which is a really thick moisturizer 497 00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:55,119 Speaker 5: you get a whole foods, and then I would do glytone, 498 00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:58,639 Speaker 5: and I ended up having like fifteen products. And what 499 00:23:58,680 --> 00:24:03,399 Speaker 5: I would do is I would exfoliate, and then I 500 00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:07,439 Speaker 5: would hydrate push put everything back in, and then I 501 00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:10,159 Speaker 5: would exfoliate and then I would brighten and then I 502 00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:12,880 Speaker 5: would put everything back in. And what I didn't realize 503 00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:17,000 Speaker 5: I was doing was actually a system and within about 504 00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:21,440 Speaker 5: and I went cold Turkey dry on hydrophenone, and in 505 00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:26,119 Speaker 5: about six months, I'm like, I started getting compliments on 506 00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:26,480 Speaker 5: my skin. 507 00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:27,720 Speaker 1: I'm like, I know, it's weird. 508 00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:33,240 Speaker 5: And then cut to twenty twenty, I was actually trying 509 00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:37,000 Speaker 5: to switch managers, which I wanted to. Didn't know that 510 00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:38,879 Speaker 5: I wanted to go and sit in a trailer. I 511 00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:44,280 Speaker 5: had three young babies. My husband's in the entertainment industry 512 00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:46,800 Speaker 5: as well. We can't both be gone at the same time. 513 00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:51,040 Speaker 5: And I was trying to say, faking relevant like a cat, 514 00:24:51,200 --> 00:24:54,480 Speaker 5: you know, just to like have another life, right, And 515 00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:59,439 Speaker 5: I really always wanted to do something, whether it be branding, producing, 516 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,480 Speaker 5: just to to be a part of something from the beginning, 517 00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:06,199 Speaker 5: from the inception, as opposed to, you know, just holding 518 00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,640 Speaker 5: the glass or the product at the very end, which 519 00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,480 Speaker 5: is nothing wrong with it, but you know, after. 520 00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:15,080 Speaker 2: Twenty it served you well for many early. 521 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:16,920 Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? I work with so many brands 522 00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:19,080 Speaker 1: and I love it. It just had to have more. 523 00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:21,240 Speaker 2: You wanted something that was your own, that you could hold, 524 00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:23,320 Speaker 2: that you could have the power and the y'all. 525 00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:23,800 Speaker 1: And so. 526 00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:28,760 Speaker 5: Out of that, you know, I'm a manager, and she 527 00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:33,639 Speaker 5: was this incredible management manager, here in La called Nicole 528 00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:34,360 Speaker 5: King Silocas. 529 00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,560 Speaker 1: She's with Lynden Entertainment, and. 530 00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:39,560 Speaker 5: She was like, yeah, I'll think about taking you, but 531 00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:41,000 Speaker 5: you're going to need a five year plan. 532 00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:42,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, what do you mean You're not going to 533 00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:46,080 Speaker 1: take me? What's wrong with you? And she's like, no, 534 00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:47,280 Speaker 1: I'm going to need more of it. 535 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:49,160 Speaker 5: She's like, I looked at I look at you guys, 536 00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:51,919 Speaker 5: not just as an actor or an actor actress, but 537 00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:53,920 Speaker 5: I look at you as you know, a whole three 538 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:54,760 Speaker 5: sixty you like what? 539 00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:57,400 Speaker 1: And I was like, oh my god. En an upstanding 540 00:25:57,440 --> 00:25:58,679 Speaker 1: next to a woman Kim. 541 00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:02,919 Speaker 5: Kruzberger, who had an incredible company called Pivot Projects, and 542 00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:05,800 Speaker 5: she had just left Goop and I'm like, what are 543 00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:08,199 Speaker 5: you doing now? And she was like, oh, I'm consulting 544 00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:11,800 Speaker 5: with brands and with people on trying to figure out 545 00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:12,680 Speaker 5: what they want to do next. 546 00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:14,480 Speaker 1: I'm like, I am your client. 547 00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:18,840 Speaker 5: So at this kitchen table four years ago, she came 548 00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 5: with another woman, Danielle Pergrimont, and they went through everything 549 00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:25,960 Speaker 5: of my life. They went through mollisims dot com, they 550 00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:28,840 Speaker 5: went through my TikTok, they went through. 551 00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:31,120 Speaker 1: They went through. 552 00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:37,439 Speaker 5: Everything, and they're like, why is this over here. This 553 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:41,360 Speaker 5: is not relate over here, you're you know. And out 554 00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:44,280 Speaker 5: of that came wise and came lipstick on the rim, 555 00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:50,440 Speaker 5: believe it or not. And yeah, we ended up working 556 00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:54,680 Speaker 5: with a manufacturer and we launched eighteen months ago and 557 00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:57,040 Speaker 5: it is a brightening. 558 00:26:58,680 --> 00:26:59,080 Speaker 1: Ritual. 559 00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:04,679 Speaker 5: Routines stem for hyper pigmentation to not get into the circle. 560 00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:08,280 Speaker 5: We have your favorite X pads, their ex boyfriend pads, 561 00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:12,320 Speaker 5: that's what they're called. And then we have a morning cocktail. 562 00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:15,879 Speaker 5: We have a very famous skin glow SPF thirty, and 563 00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:18,680 Speaker 5: then we have our problem solver. Our last call are 564 00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:25,920 Speaker 5: extremely rich and it's we've gotten fifteen awards and fifteen 565 00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:31,359 Speaker 5: months and it's grown faster than ever. I never knew 566 00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:34,320 Speaker 5: a company could grow so fast. It's been pretty scary. 567 00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:36,800 Speaker 2: That's amazing. Congrats, that's awesome. 568 00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:37,440 Speaker 1: For anybody listening. 569 00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:41,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, well for me, I'm like, also, I'm like, I'm 570 00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:43,160 Speaker 2: like on the website right now because I'm like, I'm 571 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:44,520 Speaker 2: gonna have to ditch the hydroqernon. 572 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:47,040 Speaker 5: I am really sorry. We've been really small. We had 573 00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:51,160 Speaker 5: no idea our supply chain would be so freaking crazy. Yeah, 574 00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:54,439 Speaker 5: it was the first time Monday before Black Friday, that 575 00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:56,720 Speaker 5: I've actually had all my products in stock. 576 00:27:57,320 --> 00:28:00,000 Speaker 2: Okay, great, well I'm going to be ordering. I'm very excited. 577 00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:04,359 Speaker 2: But besides that, though, let's just talk about your podcast too. 578 00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:08,439 Speaker 2: Lipstick on the Rim. What can listeners? You know what? 579 00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:11,320 Speaker 2: What's kind of like give the elevator pitch of the podcast. 580 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:13,879 Speaker 5: Oh my god, it's Emmisha kind of like you guys, 581 00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:14,919 Speaker 5: it's my best friend. 582 00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:17,440 Speaker 1: She lives in Jersey, she has three kids. 583 00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:22,760 Speaker 5: It's basically came from a morning meeting that all my girlfriends. 584 00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:25,720 Speaker 5: We were in Cabo on a trip, and we'd all 585 00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:27,880 Speaker 5: come downstairs and we'd be like, oh do you have this? 586 00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:30,800 Speaker 5: You need this? Oh my god, I'm i fucking hate him. 587 00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:31,640 Speaker 5: I'm divorcing him. 588 00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:35,200 Speaker 1: Like, you know, go see this person had those conversations. 589 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:36,600 Speaker 1: Go see this person. 590 00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:41,520 Speaker 5: It's you know, having a sneak peek into a conversation 591 00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:45,560 Speaker 5: with your best friend, but at the same time answering 592 00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:49,760 Speaker 5: a question that you didn't know. So we have everyone 593 00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:55,840 Speaker 5: from plastic surgeons to doctors, to enter chronologists to the 594 00:28:55,920 --> 00:29:01,240 Speaker 5: subject of ozimbic. Our obsession with beauty and you know 595 00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:06,200 Speaker 5: everything we're buying, loving have to have it really does 596 00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:11,120 Speaker 5: kind of run the gamut between beauty, fashion and wellness. 597 00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:14,200 Speaker 5: I've always my mom was a big you know, my 598 00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:16,240 Speaker 5: brand is named after my mom. 599 00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:18,360 Speaker 1: Wise to look to know a little bit more than 600 00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:22,480 Speaker 1: you knew before, and with lipstick on the rim. 601 00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:33,240 Speaker 5: I I have always been a non gatekeeper, and I'm 602 00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:37,040 Speaker 5: sure it's better now. But before, if I would say 603 00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:39,760 Speaker 5: to an actress or she would ask me, oh my god, 604 00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:40,960 Speaker 5: what are you doing, I'd be like. 605 00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:43,760 Speaker 1: Okay, I've starved for six days. 606 00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:48,000 Speaker 5: I've gotten botox, I've gotten X, Y and Z, I've 607 00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:51,160 Speaker 5: done this. And then when I would ask, they would 608 00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:53,040 Speaker 5: be like, oh no, I just drink a lot of 609 00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:54,880 Speaker 5: water and you know, get a lot of sleep. 610 00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:57,280 Speaker 1: There was and I was like, really, that that's what 611 00:29:57,280 --> 00:29:58,840 Speaker 1: your that's what you do it. 612 00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:02,160 Speaker 5: So that really is the place of lipstick on the 613 00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:04,920 Speaker 5: ring on the rim. And you know, it's non gate keeping. 614 00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:10,720 Speaker 5: It's you know, not necessarily spilling your entire life, but 615 00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:13,720 Speaker 5: being vulnerable, but being very transparent on what we do, 616 00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:16,680 Speaker 5: how we do it, whether it's as best friends or 617 00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:20,640 Speaker 5: moms or friends and just really having this community. It's 618 00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:23,760 Speaker 5: being a mom, it's being it's being you know, as 619 00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:26,960 Speaker 5: honest and truthful as we can on what we do 620 00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,440 Speaker 5: and how to make ourselves look better. I mean we 621 00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:33,560 Speaker 5: had this, we had Dan Brutner on from the Blue 622 00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:37,280 Speaker 5: Zone Diet. I mean we'll have every like nutritionous, like 623 00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:40,520 Speaker 5: you know, how to gain muscle, how to lose my like, 624 00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:41,760 Speaker 5: we'll just come. 625 00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:43,480 Speaker 1: But it's fun, you know. 626 00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:49,120 Speaker 5: I have to say, I uh, I didn't really want 627 00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:50,480 Speaker 5: to do it. 628 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:52,400 Speaker 1: Because I'm like, who's who does podcast? 629 00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:55,720 Speaker 2: So many plates, you know, but this was four years ago, 630 00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:57,320 Speaker 2: right when no one was really doing. 631 00:30:57,200 --> 00:31:00,640 Speaker 5: Podcasts and like a podcast, who's gonna listen to this 632 00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:03,880 Speaker 5: on a podcast? But it's like, you guys, it's really 633 00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:08,080 Speaker 5: fun and I actually I actually learn I mean, uh, 634 00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:11,960 Speaker 5: I learned stuff all day long, which is kind of 635 00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:13,920 Speaker 5: I get to go back to school with my guests. 636 00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:17,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. No, I mean I love that too. I feel 637 00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:18,719 Speaker 2: like it's one of those things where it's like not 638 00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:21,280 Speaker 2: only do we learn you know, things about beauty from 639 00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:23,640 Speaker 2: amazing guests like you and you know, just life stuff, 640 00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:25,880 Speaker 2: but also it's I think it's that relation too, of 641 00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,880 Speaker 2: relating like Okay, here's another you know, kick ass mom 642 00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:31,560 Speaker 2: who's just doing it all and juggling it and like 643 00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:35,440 Speaker 2: you're doing it gracefully. But also just like everybody else. 644 00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:35,600 Speaker 1: You know. 645 00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:38,200 Speaker 2: I think people would think, oh, Molly Simms, like you know, 646 00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:41,120 Speaker 2: the model actress. It's like, no, she's she's human and 647 00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:44,440 Speaker 2: she you know, she has her days too where she 648 00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:45,200 Speaker 2: loses her shit. 649 00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:46,160 Speaker 1: Oh you know she's. 650 00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:48,320 Speaker 2: Juggling at all and you know, being the best like soccer, 651 00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:50,960 Speaker 2: you know, you know across mom and everything. 652 00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:51,240 Speaker 5: You know. 653 00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:54,280 Speaker 2: It's like, I mean, I think it's awesome. You know, 654 00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:58,239 Speaker 2: you're I love people like you too, who you know, 655 00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:01,719 Speaker 2: you're letting people in and I think that's in this world, 656 00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:04,720 Speaker 2: like people want that. But you're also doing it in 657 00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:06,920 Speaker 2: a way where it honors you too, where you're not 658 00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:07,880 Speaker 2: giving so much of it. 659 00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:11,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know you want privacy you want. 660 00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:14,440 Speaker 2: Because I do it way too much, like I let 661 00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,440 Speaker 2: people in a little bit too much where I'm trying 662 00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:18,760 Speaker 2: to like close the door a little bit now, But. 663 00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:21,120 Speaker 1: But I do too. It's nice in that way. I'm like, 664 00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:22,840 Speaker 1: why do I have no boundaries? 665 00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:23,240 Speaker 5: Why? 666 00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:25,880 Speaker 1: Why? What is wrong with me? 667 00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:29,600 Speaker 2: Like, well, I think we I think it's because you 668 00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:32,640 Speaker 2: want the relation and you want people to know you, 669 00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:36,000 Speaker 2: and I think that's a beautiful thing. We've had people 670 00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:37,760 Speaker 2: come on here that you know, it's like, oh, like 671 00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:39,120 Speaker 2: they don't like, well, I don't even know why they 672 00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:41,440 Speaker 2: came on a podcast to talk when they don't even 673 00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:42,000 Speaker 2: want to talk. 674 00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:43,400 Speaker 1: You know, isn't that the worst? 675 00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:46,320 Speaker 5: When you'll get talked in a booking a client, you're like, 676 00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:47,920 Speaker 5: do you really. 677 00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:48,640 Speaker 1: Do you want to be here? 678 00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:50,280 Speaker 3: Yeah? 679 00:32:49,640 --> 00:32:53,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, If you don't, it's okay, it's fine, But. 680 00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:54,600 Speaker 2: You don't have to be You did not have to 681 00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:56,640 Speaker 2: say yes, Like I did not force you down, hold 682 00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:58,560 Speaker 2: you down to say yes to do this podcast. 683 00:32:59,320 --> 00:32:59,600 Speaker 1: I know. 684 00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,240 Speaker 5: I had a situation with a very famous person the 685 00:33:02,280 --> 00:33:04,240 Speaker 5: other day and she's like, canceled three times ago. 686 00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:06,840 Speaker 1: Listen to me, I said, I could give two folks, 687 00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:08,920 Speaker 1: if you want. 688 00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:11,240 Speaker 5: To be on this podcast or not. I said, I'm 689 00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:14,440 Speaker 5: not going to help your brand. Uh, I'm I'm happy. 690 00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:17,120 Speaker 5: You know, I have a great audience and I know 691 00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:18,440 Speaker 5: you want to really tap into that. 692 00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:20,440 Speaker 1: But if you cancel one more time, we're done. 693 00:33:21,240 --> 00:33:24,280 Speaker 5: And you know, I have a group of women who 694 00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:28,600 Speaker 5: work really hard, I like produce my like, and one 695 00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:30,560 Speaker 5: was flying with me to New York to do the 696 00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:31,360 Speaker 5: content like. 697 00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:33,480 Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, don't worry, she's going to cancel it. No, 698 00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:35,200 Speaker 1: she said, she wasn't and. 699 00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:39,520 Speaker 5: It was just so like and I, you know, I 700 00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:42,200 Speaker 5: was like, you know what, I held my ground and 701 00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:47,040 Speaker 5: I was like we're good, you know, and she's like, no, 702 00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:48,720 Speaker 5: we definitely want to do it, and I was like, okay, 703 00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:52,160 Speaker 5: Like but it's it's you know, it gets a little 704 00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:55,680 Speaker 5: like you're not doing me a favor at this point, 705 00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:58,000 Speaker 5: like Michelle Pfeifer's coming back on, I just saw her. 706 00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:00,280 Speaker 1: Like I freaking levet, Like we're great to talk to. 707 00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:04,040 Speaker 5: We have an incredible audience, you know, and a community 708 00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:07,840 Speaker 5: that really listens and taps into everything. 709 00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:10,879 Speaker 1: Like it's it's we're all good well. 710 00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:13,680 Speaker 4: And everyone's taking time away from something in their life, 711 00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:15,880 Speaker 4: like you have a sick daughter, Like yeah, exactly, Like 712 00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:18,000 Speaker 4: you have a sick daughter and you didn't cancel today. 713 00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:19,799 Speaker 5: I would never, you know what. I didn't want to 714 00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:22,960 Speaker 5: do it, you know, and it's my kitchen table. I 715 00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:25,480 Speaker 5: would like to go downstairs, but she's been so ill. 716 00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:29,560 Speaker 5: My son, you know, I locked him outside of the door. 717 00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:33,279 Speaker 5: I locked the door locked. He's like banging on the door. 718 00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:35,520 Speaker 1: It's like my stomach hurts. I'm like go around. 719 00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:41,759 Speaker 5: He's like really hurts, and I'm like I I want 720 00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:44,759 Speaker 5: mom and my stomachs, and. 721 00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:47,040 Speaker 1: I opened the door. I'm like, why can't you just 722 00:34:47,080 --> 00:34:49,480 Speaker 1: walk around and goes? I think I shit my pants. 723 00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:55,000 Speaker 5: I was like, and sure enough he has had diarrhea. 724 00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:57,320 Speaker 5: I like got into the shower with him. 725 00:34:57,680 --> 00:35:00,719 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, I'm like everywhere and then 726 00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:01,399 Speaker 1: he got out. 727 00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:05,400 Speaker 5: It was just like, I'm like, and then my husband 728 00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:07,960 Speaker 5: was leaving to take a red eye. I'm like, em 729 00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:11,560 Speaker 5: Michew was deathly sick downstairs taking a nap from because 730 00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:12,560 Speaker 5: we'd finished from seven. 731 00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:16,880 Speaker 1: I was like, what is happening right now? But that's 732 00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:17,919 Speaker 1: you know, that is life? 733 00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:22,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's life. To wrap up, what are the what 734 00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:24,839 Speaker 2: is the best piece of marriage advice you have? And 735 00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:29,000 Speaker 2: what is the best overall advice that you have taken 736 00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:33,800 Speaker 2: into your life. 737 00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:35,120 Speaker 1: For marriage? 738 00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:41,400 Speaker 5: You're not gonna like everything mm hmmm, and there is 739 00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:44,400 Speaker 5: that's such a good You will want to change, that 740 00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:47,520 Speaker 5: will not change, and you have to come to somewhere 741 00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:53,360 Speaker 5: within yourself to either accept it and be able to 742 00:35:53,480 --> 00:36:02,560 Speaker 5: be in it or not. I think I think you know, and. 743 00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:05,000 Speaker 2: We all have our stuff. The grass is not always green. 744 00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:07,000 Speaker 5: And I can dig down and I can, I can, 745 00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:12,200 Speaker 5: I can dig it on an issue you can't always 746 00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:16,520 Speaker 5: dig in. You know, you got to know when to 747 00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:23,080 Speaker 5: like there's a boundary, there's there's a line, and I 748 00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:25,480 Speaker 5: have to say too, like pick your battles right, like 749 00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:28,600 Speaker 5: I think. I mean, you have a lot of young 750 00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:32,799 Speaker 5: women listening to this podcast. I think, you know, date 751 00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:37,279 Speaker 5: as long as you can, because you'll get to know 752 00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:40,880 Speaker 5: things that you wouldn't know in a year of dating. 753 00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:45,880 Speaker 1: You know, ask the hard questions. Don't ignore. 754 00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:52,160 Speaker 5: What you you you want to ignore because it doesn't 755 00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:56,640 Speaker 5: change from dating to marriage. It only gets amplified by 756 00:36:56,880 --> 00:37:01,040 Speaker 5: children and work and finance and schedules. 757 00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:03,080 Speaker 1: And you know, I. 758 00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:05,400 Speaker 5: Would say, I think the best in marriage would be 759 00:37:05,480 --> 00:37:08,000 Speaker 5: to not date a narcissist or marry. 760 00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:11,040 Speaker 1: One, which I did not do, but I dated a 761 00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:11,520 Speaker 1: lot of them. 762 00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:19,239 Speaker 5: So I think overall advice, I think, go big or 763 00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:24,440 Speaker 5: go home. I think there's always another chapter. I'm fifty one. 764 00:37:25,080 --> 00:37:28,840 Speaker 5: But also be passionate about what you're doing. You know, 765 00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:32,400 Speaker 5: I never thought I would start a skincare company or 766 00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:36,920 Speaker 5: a production company at fifty at you know, forty six, 767 00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:38,319 Speaker 5: forty seven and have it. 768 00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:39,920 Speaker 1: A completely other. 769 00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:46,520 Speaker 5: Side of my business, I think, But just go for 770 00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:50,000 Speaker 5: it and go forward in every way and lean into 771 00:37:50,280 --> 00:37:53,320 Speaker 5: your community and lean into people and ask for help 772 00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:58,680 Speaker 5: and just keep opening that door that's constantly kind of 773 00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:04,200 Speaker 5: being shut, because good things will happen in the end. 774 00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:07,239 Speaker 2: Amen to that. Well, Mollie, thank you so much for 775 00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:11,560 Speaker 2: coming on. Everyone go listen to her podcasts Lipstick on 776 00:38:11,600 --> 00:38:13,960 Speaker 2: the Rim and just thank you so much for. 777 00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:17,200 Speaker 5: Guys are awesome, awesome, all right, thanks bra Siya. 778 00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:19,000 Speaker 2: I love her. 779 00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:23,239 Speaker 4: I love when famous working moms are so real. It 780 00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:24,200 Speaker 4: just makes me so happy. 781 00:38:24,239 --> 00:38:26,839 Speaker 2: It makes me so happy because I can't say who 782 00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:29,759 Speaker 2: the celebrity was that we had on the show, but 783 00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:32,719 Speaker 2: it actually never aired. But it's like, what don't come 784 00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:36,560 Speaker 2: on to not say something? You know it's or have 785 00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:38,680 Speaker 2: you know? I just love I love that. Well. 786 00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:40,759 Speaker 4: I think, you know, a lot of people want to 787 00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:43,080 Speaker 4: be completely private, which is fine, but I'm. 788 00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:44,800 Speaker 2: Like, why then really go on a podcast exactly? 789 00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:46,920 Speaker 4: I mean, you know, there's other ways that you can 790 00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:48,880 Speaker 4: promote things without going on because people are going to 791 00:38:48,920 --> 00:38:51,200 Speaker 4: dig in and want to know things on a podcast. Yeah, 792 00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:54,840 Speaker 4: but she was lovely loved her, love her stunning. 793 00:38:56,520 --> 00:38:59,200 Speaker 2: She's Molly Sims like, I know, it's great. 794 00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:01,640 Speaker 3: I love that. She was like, yeah, that's the worst 795 00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:02,200 Speaker 3: thing you can do. 796 00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:05,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's great. I know. I'm like, well she. 797 00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:07,319 Speaker 3: Learned, so yeah, I learned for you. 798 00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:21,520 Speaker 2: There you go, all right, Well, see you next week.