WEBVTT - Neha Kumar ON: Building Resilience to Negativity & How to Make Your Passions Practical

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<v Speaker 1>Does everybody need to have a formalized education? Now, what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to say is not very popular, especially in

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<v Speaker 1>the world of academics, but no, not everyone needs to

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<v Speaker 1>go down that traditional path. Hey everyone, welcome back to

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<v Speaker 1>On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks to each and every single one of you that

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<v Speaker 1>come back every week to listen, learn and grow. Now

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<v Speaker 1>you know that I'm always excited to speak to people

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<v Speaker 1>with a broad range of experiences, different backgrounds, different walks

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<v Speaker 1>of life, people who've achieved incredible things but maybe taken

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<v Speaker 1>parts less trodden. Now today's guest is none other than

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<v Speaker 1>Neha Kumar, who has over fourteen years of experience operationalizing

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<v Speaker 1>and scaling startups and is currently running a venture fund

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<v Speaker 1>on a mission to build the next generation of game

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<v Speaker 1>changing consumer focused brands. So, if you also someone who's

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<v Speaker 1>wanting to be an entrepreneur, learning about finance, learning about

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<v Speaker 1>building a business, this is the episode for you. In

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<v Speaker 1>addition to running a venture fund, Naha is also a

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<v Speaker 1>lecturer at UCLA's Anderson School of Management, where she has

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<v Speaker 1>been teaching for over nine years. Prior to launching her fund,

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<v Speaker 1>Nay has served as the CEO and CFO of creating Cultivate,

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<v Speaker 1>which sold a majority stake to a private equity firm

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<v Speaker 1>in twenty twenty, and also led growth efforts at drinks

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<v Speaker 1>dot Com. She received her undergraduate degree from the University

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<v Speaker 1>of California La UCLA and her MBA from the University

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<v Speaker 1>of Southern California. Welcome to the show, Naha, Kumara, Naha,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for being here. It's so great to have

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<v Speaker 1>you on the show. Thank you so much for having me.

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<v Speaker 1>And after the introduction even I feel amazing. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it's an amazing it's an amazing bio. And of course

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<v Speaker 1>we're friends. We've been hanging out a couple of times

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<v Speaker 1>this year. Excited to share that part of the story

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<v Speaker 1>as well. Every time I've sat down with you, you've

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<v Speaker 1>told me stories. You've told me moments of your life,

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<v Speaker 1>your childhood, and I love people who communicate their life

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<v Speaker 1>in such an interesting way. And I was just saying

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<v Speaker 1>to you before we started taping that you have one

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<v Speaker 1>of the hardest jobs in the world, which is keeping

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<v Speaker 1>eighteen to twenty one year olds excited, enthusiastic, and engage

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<v Speaker 1>in the learning process. So I'm going to be like

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<v Speaker 1>a student today asking you questions in a lecture hall.

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<v Speaker 1>But first one I wanted to start it by saying,

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<v Speaker 1>it's your five year of wedding anniversary. Congratulation. Thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much. Yeah, it's been five years since

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<v Speaker 1>we got married today and we started dating when we

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<v Speaker 1>were in business school, my husband and I fifteen years ago. Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>that's pretty unbeliuble. Thank you, thank you, that's amazing. Actually,

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<v Speaker 1>my husband got me the cutest guest this morning. Tell

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<v Speaker 1>me about it. And so for five years it's would

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<v Speaker 1>and so my husband isn't consulting, and he would travel

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<v Speaker 1>a lot before he probably will start traveling a lot again.

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<v Speaker 1>What he got me is a heart box. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>wood box, but it has a heart on it and

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<v Speaker 1>it basically sends you messages. So you can look at it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's plugged into the wall and then the heart starts

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<v Speaker 1>to spin and that means somebody sent you a message

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<v Speaker 1>and they can do it from their phone. You open

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<v Speaker 1>up the box and there was a digital picture and

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<v Speaker 1>a message in there. And so today before I came,

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<v Speaker 1>I this heart was spinning and I looked at it

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<v Speaker 1>and I opened it and I was like, wait, what

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<v Speaker 1>is this? And it says, I am your rock today

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<v Speaker 1>and always. Oh, and there was a picture. No, he's

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<v Speaker 1>here today, but he wanted me to see it so

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<v Speaker 1>that now when he travels, he can just send me

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<v Speaker 1>messages and then the heart spin so I know a

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<v Speaker 1>message is coming in. It is the cutest thing. My

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<v Speaker 1>six year wedding anniversary just went like a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>weeks ago and Rady said to me, she goes and

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<v Speaker 1>we haven't seen each other. She's in London, and her

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<v Speaker 1>rule was she was like, you're not allowed to send

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<v Speaker 1>me anything. I don't want anything. I just want to

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<v Speaker 1>see you and then when I see you, then we

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<v Speaker 1>can celebrate. So I wasn't allowed to send my wife

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<v Speaker 1>anything because that was her order and her rule because

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<v Speaker 1>she knows that I usually go quite over the top.

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<v Speaker 1>But that is a beautiful idea. I love that. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>That's awesome. Yeah, I can't wait for you to meet him. Also,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just been an interesting right and it's a big

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<v Speaker 1>deal for us the five year because we had a

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<v Speaker 1>long road to getting married. It was a bit different

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<v Speaker 1>from a cultural standpoint. My parents are traditionally Indian, as

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and he's not. And my parents now love

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<v Speaker 1>him they absolutely love him, and we have two of

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<v Speaker 1>the most beautiful, adorable children. I have a one year

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<v Speaker 1>old and a three year old, And it's so amazing

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<v Speaker 1>how when you really want you can make things happen

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<v Speaker 1>and make it all come together. It's beautiful. Yeah, tell

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<v Speaker 1>us tell us a bit about that journey. Before we

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<v Speaker 1>dive into the depths of your journey and each part

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<v Speaker 1>of it, I want to hear a bit about what

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<v Speaker 1>is that like. First of all, dating someone at business school,

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<v Speaker 1>someone that your parents may not initially culturally accept, but

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<v Speaker 1>then going on that journey to now being in a

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<v Speaker 1>place where he's loved, you have beautiful family together. Because

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<v Speaker 1>I think for a lot of people listening they may

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<v Speaker 1>face elements of that in their journey, whatever that dysfunction

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<v Speaker 1>or challenge may be. In business school, a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>people made a joke and they said women are just

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<v Speaker 1>here to get their mrs, not just get their MBA.

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<v Speaker 1>And I ended up dating someone in school and it

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<v Speaker 1>was really challenging, you know, getting married after all of that,

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<v Speaker 1>and I always felt that I had to prove myself

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<v Speaker 1>more that I wasn't just here for that reason. And

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<v Speaker 1>it was very interesting. And there is a unconscious bias

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<v Speaker 1>that not only other people have, but we have on ourselves.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't know if years later anybody was looking

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<v Speaker 1>at me anything differently, because I did marry somebody when

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<v Speaker 1>I was in business school. From business school, but I

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<v Speaker 1>looked at myself a little bit differently, and I felt like,

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<v Speaker 1>I need to work harder, I need to strive more

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<v Speaker 1>to prove myself to myself. I wish I would have

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<v Speaker 1>let a lot of that go, because we just get

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<v Speaker 1>caught up in all these small trivial things which aren't necessary,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's, you know, pushing a bull older uphill to

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<v Speaker 1>prove to ourselves that were okay. And I wish I

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<v Speaker 1>would have let that go. That's the first one. The

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<v Speaker 1>second thing was going through it with my parents, and

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<v Speaker 1>it was very, very hard, and it was very challenging,

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<v Speaker 1>and there were a lot of times Jason, my now

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<v Speaker 1>husband's name, we broke up, got back together, broke up,

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<v Speaker 1>got back together because it was am I letting my

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<v Speaker 1>family down? Am I not doing things right? And in

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<v Speaker 1>the end it worked out. But it was the hardest

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<v Speaker 1>thing and it was a journey that I never thought

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<v Speaker 1>I would go through. I remember when I got engaged

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<v Speaker 1>I took my ring home. I hit it in my wallet,

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<v Speaker 1>my engagement ring, because I was scared. How am I

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<v Speaker 1>going to tell my parents? It was the hardest time

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<v Speaker 1>of my life. I'll never forget. It was around Thanksgiving,

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<v Speaker 1>and again, in hindsight, it's twenty twenty. It was going

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<v Speaker 1>to work out. We're going to have the cutest kids.

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<v Speaker 1>Everything is going to work. But going against the grain,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever that might be in your life, while it seems

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<v Speaker 1>really challenging, and while you might have different expectations put

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<v Speaker 1>on by other people onto you, or you think that

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<v Speaker 1>other people have on you, at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to do what is authentic to you and

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<v Speaker 1>what you think is important to you. And I know

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<v Speaker 1>this might seem a little bit far fetched, but I've

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<v Speaker 1>recently been really reading and learning a lot about the

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<v Speaker 1>concept of faith, and sometimes you just have to have faith.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to have faith that it's going to work.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to have faith that I can take a

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<v Speaker 1>leap and it's going to happen. And that's very hard

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<v Speaker 1>for somebody like me who's a planner, accounting in finance background. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>So it was definitely a process and it's great now

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<v Speaker 1>it's amazing, But Jay, it was really hard. This idea

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<v Speaker 1>that women go to business school to get married. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it's incredible to me to hear that that idea had

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<v Speaker 1>seeped in to that place because you're at this repute

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<v Speaker 1>book school, you're getting this incredible qualification and the fact

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<v Speaker 1>that that's the rumor mill around this space. I mean, now,

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<v Speaker 1>when you're someone who's been so extremely successful in finance

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<v Speaker 1>as an entrepreneur, as a business person, tell me a

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<v Speaker 1>bit about where that discrepancy began in your life, where

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<v Speaker 1>you started to feel like you had to work harder,

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<v Speaker 1>where you started to feel like people look to you

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<v Speaker 1>in a certain way, and what were the actual steps

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<v Speaker 1>you took to keep confident, to keep focused, to keep

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<v Speaker 1>driven on that journey. Because when I meet you today,

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<v Speaker 1>one thing I do appreciate about you is that although

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<v Speaker 1>you're a very powerful business person, I don't believe that

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<v Speaker 1>you've lost the ability to have a compassionate heart, or

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<v Speaker 1>the ability to connect, or the ability to be mindful

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<v Speaker 1>and thoughtful like it seems like those are very balanced

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<v Speaker 1>for you. A lot of that compassion and empathy comes

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<v Speaker 1>from what I had to go through, and it was

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<v Speaker 1>really hard and I'm so happy to see things changing

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<v Speaker 1>so much in the world right now. It's great, but

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<v Speaker 1>you know, as a young girl, it is hard. I

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<v Speaker 1>was always interested in accounting in finance. My dad is

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<v Speaker 1>a financial planner, and so we grew up with him

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<v Speaker 1>always wanting to tell and teach me and my younger

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<v Speaker 1>sister about personal finance so we could be independent and

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<v Speaker 1>we could do things. And I remember I was working

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<v Speaker 1>in banking and I was in a credit training program,

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<v Speaker 1>and I remember another guy saying to me, why are

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<v Speaker 1>you doing this. You could just throw parties, be a

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<v Speaker 1>party planner. And it was really hard for me to

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<v Speaker 1>hear that. And it was a lot of moments like

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<v Speaker 1>that that had me say, I'm going to work harder,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to work smarter, I'm going to work stronger,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to do what I have to do to excel.

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<v Speaker 1>And we can look at a lot of those things

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<v Speaker 1>and say they were bad, but in some way, shape

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<v Speaker 1>or form. I think everybody goes through something, whether you're

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<v Speaker 1>a woman, whether you're a male, whether you're a person

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<v Speaker 1>of color, or whatever it is, you go through something,

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<v Speaker 1>and we can either look at those things and we

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<v Speaker 1>can let them beat us down. And sometimes I did, Jay,

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<v Speaker 1>but we also can take those as an opportunity to

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<v Speaker 1>push ourselves harder. And it all comes down to attitude

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<v Speaker 1>of how we're going to view these things, how we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to look at this. And again, I want to

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<v Speaker 1>be clear, a lot of times they did beat me

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<v Speaker 1>down and it was really tough. But you have to

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<v Speaker 1>constantly find yourself and create yourself to be resilient and

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<v Speaker 1>to bounce back up and to deal with all the

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<v Speaker 1>things that can come your way, no matter from where.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so difficult because you realize that there are challenges

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<v Speaker 1>that everyone goes through, but when it's like a whole

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<v Speaker 1>gender is treated a specific way that you know is

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<v Speaker 1>a much larger challenge. I saw this video a few

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<v Speaker 1>years ago that I think summed it up brilliantly. So

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<v Speaker 1>in this video, they had blue balls and pink balls,

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<v Speaker 1>and they asked a ten year old boy and a

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<v Speaker 1>ten year old girl their job was to go and

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<v Speaker 1>pick the blue balls up for the boy and the

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<v Speaker 1>pink balls up for the girl, and they had collect

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<v Speaker 1>them and put them inside this container. So the boy

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<v Speaker 1>ran off. He started picking up all the blue balls

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<v Speaker 1>was the same amount as the pink balls. As girl

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<v Speaker 1>ran out, they filled their containers up. They pretty much

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<v Speaker 1>finished around the same time, and then they gave the

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<v Speaker 1>boy this huge jar of sweets, and they gave the

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<v Speaker 1>girl like three quarters the jar of sweets. And the

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<v Speaker 1>whole video was to show the gender pay gap and

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<v Speaker 1>how men and women doing the same work are rewarded differently.

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<v Speaker 1>Talk to me about how you've seen that in the industry,

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<v Speaker 1>Like did your friends who identified as women from business school?

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<v Speaker 1>Have they gone on to feel satisfied and accomplished in

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<v Speaker 1>their careers or are they noticing those discrepancies along the

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<v Speaker 1>way as well? And for yourself in your path there

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<v Speaker 1>you took too. I think what's really interesting is a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people talk about the pay gap, all of

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<v Speaker 1>these things which are there and they're apparent, But what

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<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of times is missing is the

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<v Speaker 1>type of careers that you see a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>go into. And the question would be why so in

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<v Speaker 1>business school, for example, the school that I went to,

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<v Speaker 1>the majority of women went into marketing. We have different verticals.

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<v Speaker 1>We have a marketing vertical, finance, etc. In the finance vertical,

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<v Speaker 1>there were three women total in the marketing vertical. I'd

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<v Speaker 1>say like ninety percent of them more female. Now, certain

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<v Speaker 1>industries pay more than other industries. That's the way the

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<v Speaker 1>world right now, right or wrong, that's kind of how

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<v Speaker 1>that works right now. Right. What I think is very

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<v Speaker 1>important is taking the time to educate and allow for

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<v Speaker 1>opportunities for women at younger ages, to show them that

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<v Speaker 1>there's different things that they can do. So here's an

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<v Speaker 1>interesting thing. When I was in junior high, we had

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<v Speaker 1>an elective course we could choose and you could either

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<v Speaker 1>take Homac or wood Shop. And day I really wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to take wood Shop, Like I really was excited to

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<v Speaker 1>like cut the things and things. I thought it was amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>And all the girls were going to take Komac, and

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<v Speaker 1>I remember asking my mom, like, what should I do?

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<v Speaker 1>All the other girls are doing this or taking this class,

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<v Speaker 1>And my dad jumped in and said, no, you do

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<v Speaker 1>what you want. And I ended up taking wood Shop,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm glad I did. But it's just so interesting

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<v Speaker 1>that even when I was taking wood Shop, I kept thinking,

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<v Speaker 1>did I do the right thing? What are my friends

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<v Speaker 1>doing in the other class? Am I being left out?

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<v Speaker 1>So I had a lot of that that was there.

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<v Speaker 1>So I come back to I think it's really important.

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<v Speaker 1>We see a lot of things right now like STEM

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<v Speaker 1>programs that are created, or there's some great programs like

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<v Speaker 1>Girls Who Code to teach women how to do these

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<v Speaker 1>things at younger ages, and I think they're phenomenal, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think we should continue to create more things like that.

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<v Speaker 1>In finance and accounting, one of the things I do

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<v Speaker 1>on my own part is I also teach, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I think that getting to people at younger ages not

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<v Speaker 1>to steer them in a certain direction, but basically to

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<v Speaker 1>let them know that they're options and you get to

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<v Speaker 1>choose what those options are, regardless of your male or female.

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<v Speaker 1>You're someone obviously who's so well educated, you've gone to

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<v Speaker 1>great schools, gone on to become an entrepreneur. I wonder

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<v Speaker 1>there's a lot of debate right now about the value

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<v Speaker 1>of a college education and business school too. And what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm fascinated by is two things again here and you

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<v Speaker 1>can answer them in any order you like. The first

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<v Speaker 1>one is do you see a genuine value and correlation

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<v Speaker 1>between the education you've got and the success you have today.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the first question. And the second question is if

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<v Speaker 1>someone didn't have the opportunity to have the education that

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<v Speaker 1>you've had, whether it was access, capability, interest at the time,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever their reasoning may be, how do they today build

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<v Speaker 1>up financial literacy, goal planning, understanding of their investments, understanding

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<v Speaker 1>of how they manage their money. So my dad was

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<v Speaker 1>an electrical engineer by education. He came here and he's

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<v Speaker 1>now a financial planner. And I remember when I was

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<v Speaker 1>in college. I thought I was pretty cheeky, and I said, Dad,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, did your education do anything for you? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Why do I have to work so hard? You're doing

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<v Speaker 1>something completely different? And he said to me, said, Naha, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>my education gave me the framework from which I can

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<v Speaker 1>have a way to think. And he said, I've been

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<v Speaker 1>successful at my job because I had that education that

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<v Speaker 1>I had. Now, after you know, I've been graduated a

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<v Speaker 1>long time ago, I can say the same. I can

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<v Speaker 1>say that my education in undergrad and grad school and

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<v Speaker 1>everything that came between and around it has absolutely helped

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<v Speaker 1>shape who I am and the success that I've had

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<v Speaker 1>to date completely. Can you tell us how, like what

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<v Speaker 1>parts of it? I love what you said about your

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<v Speaker 1>father saying that he gave him a framework of how

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<v Speaker 1>to think. What did he do for you? Business school

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<v Speaker 1>was a great one, because what it did is it

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<v Speaker 1>gave us a breath of knowledge of how to look

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<v Speaker 1>at companies. So now when I'm evaluating companies for the

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<v Speaker 1>fund or back when I was in banking, it gave

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<v Speaker 1>me a proper understanding of how to think and what

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<v Speaker 1>to look at and if you think about it, right,

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<v Speaker 1>experience that we get from people in academia, etc. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just trying to learn things at an accelerated rate. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>could you learn them on your own? Absolutely? You could, right,

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe one day we'll get to the point where we're

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<v Speaker 1>like the Matrix the movie where you get plugged in, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and then all the information comes in. So the way

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<v Speaker 1>I view academia is it's you go four years for

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<v Speaker 1>a college degree or whatever it is that you do,

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<v Speaker 1>but you're trying to learn the information at an accelerated rate.

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<v Speaker 1>So instead of you having to try and learn and

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<v Speaker 1>figure these things out, it takes a quicker time. Like

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<v Speaker 1>I'll give you a quick example. You might already know this, right,

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<v Speaker 1>but our dogs color blind. Yes, dogs are color blind. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>I told you that information that took me a second

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<v Speaker 1>to tell you. You might have known it, you might

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<v Speaker 1>not have known it. Now if somebody had to go

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<v Speaker 1>figure that out on their own. It's months and months

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<v Speaker 1>of study and research to figure that out. So what

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<v Speaker 1>education allows us to do is learn things at an

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<v Speaker 1>accelerated rate. Having said that, your second part of your question,

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<v Speaker 1>does everybody need to have a formalized education? And what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to say is not very popular, especially in

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<v Speaker 1>the world of academics, but no, not everyone needs to

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<v Speaker 1>go down that traditional path. So if you think about it,

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<v Speaker 1>back in the day, will really shifted education. The first

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<v Speaker 1>thing was the printing blocks. Before you had to have

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<v Speaker 1>a teacher. Now you can have books, so information could

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<v Speaker 1>be easily accessed through these textbooks instead of just from

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<v Speaker 1>one person talking. Then later, if you think about it,

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<v Speaker 1>online learning and education came up, So now you have

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<v Speaker 1>that big shift over there. I think that there's multiple

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<v Speaker 1>different ways that people can get access to education and information.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that the pandemic, it was already going

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<v Speaker 1>to happen. The pandemic just accelerated that. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's amazing. Yeah, it's just fascinating because when I think

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<v Speaker 1>about my own education, I feel the same way I

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<v Speaker 1>went to my high school was where it started. I

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<v Speaker 1>went to a pretty rough and tough elementary school. The

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<v Speaker 1>education was okay. I was surrounded by a group of

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<v Speaker 1>people that didn't have the parenting structure that I did

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<v Speaker 1>when my parents were already forcing me to study hard.

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<v Speaker 1>I was one of probably three people that ended up

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<v Speaker 1>going to a grammar school or a school that you

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<v Speaker 1>had to take an exam to get into in England.

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<v Speaker 1>My parents couldn't afford to somebody or private school, so

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<v Speaker 1>our grammar school is the next best thing where you

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<v Speaker 1>got a private school education for free by passing an exam.

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<v Speaker 1>And so that school is where everything changed for me,

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<v Speaker 1>because all of a sudden, I went from being like

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<v Speaker 1>one of three people who was at the top to

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<v Speaker 1>being literally like in the middle of a bunch of

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<v Speaker 1>really smart people. It was almost trained to us in

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<v Speaker 1>how to work hard, to how to compete, how to build. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>not everyone liked that environment. A lot of people will

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<v Speaker 1>actually look back at their time there and go, I

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<v Speaker 1>would never send my kid there. And that's why I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's so interesting to think of people are so unique. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>what works for us doesn't work for everyone, which is

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<v Speaker 1>what you just said, which is I completely agree with

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<v Speaker 1>that that you know, maybe I love a child one day,

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<v Speaker 1>who wouldn't have flourished in the environment I flourished in,

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<v Speaker 1>or who wouldn't have gravitated towards the teachers that I

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<v Speaker 1>gravitated towards. And so for me, I look at my

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<v Speaker 1>education as having a massive impact on me because I

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<v Speaker 1>value being really right brained and creative but having been

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<v Speaker 1>given lots of logical, hardwired structural thinking. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>that where I am today is because I can toggle

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<v Speaker 1>between those two things. And my education gave me the hardwired, logical,

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<v Speaker 1>rational brain. But then I had teachers that allowed me

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<v Speaker 1>to bring out my art history and creativity, which is

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<v Speaker 1>what I value myself and what I love about myself.

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<v Speaker 1>It is really interesting because I look back at education

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<v Speaker 1>and go, actually, I learned a ton of stuff too.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think the mistake we make is we look

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<v Speaker 1>at our education and we go, I don't do that

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<v Speaker 1>for work today, And that is probably true. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it's definitely true for my life, but it's not what

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<v Speaker 1>I do for work today. It's well, what did I

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<v Speaker 1>take and what did I collect and what did I

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<v Speaker 1>grasp and what did I put into my tool kit

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<v Speaker 1>that actually today makes me better at making decisions or

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<v Speaker 1>makes me better at doing this or that. So, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>was my education directly correlated to my career? No? But

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<v Speaker 1>were there's skills and lessons and tools. And that's what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm hearing you say as well. I think we feel

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<v Speaker 1>aligned on that. When you're teaching today, right like you're

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<v Speaker 1>you're an academic, now you're a professor, You're like you're teaching.

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<v Speaker 1>What I find really interesting about that part of your

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<v Speaker 1>life is how much of what you're teaching do you

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<v Speaker 1>think or do you encourage people to go out to

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<v Speaker 1>the real world and practice. Because I know you have

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<v Speaker 1>lots of interesting methods that you've shared with me before.

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<v Speaker 1>Talk to me a bit about how you think teaching

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<v Speaker 1>has transformed and how you're transforming teaching because a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people who are listening or watching, they may be coaches,

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<v Speaker 1>they may have online schools. I know a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>our audience are trainers who have studios or online apps

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<v Speaker 1>and platforms and things like that. Yeah, how can they

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<v Speaker 1>think deeper and differently about teaching in today's day and age,

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<v Speaker 1>get away from just the textbook or just the content

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<v Speaker 1>in the textbook, and to really get the students the

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<v Speaker 1>opportunity to understand how that connects to the world. Whatever

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<v Speaker 1>the topic is. So right now, one of the courses

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<v Speaker 1>I'm actually teaching it right now is Entrepreneurial Accounting and Finance.

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<v Speaker 1>And what I do is every week when I start

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<v Speaker 1>off class, I start off with the quote. It could

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<v Speaker 1>be any quote from anyone. Recently, I had one from

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<v Speaker 1>Napoleon Hill and I won't quote it exactly right, but

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<v Speaker 1>it was something about just get started. The tools will

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<v Speaker 1>start to come into place once you get started. And

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<v Speaker 1>I told the students in class, and this is the

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<v Speaker 1>part is so I start off with the quote and

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<v Speaker 1>then I give them an action item every week at

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<v Speaker 1>the beginning of the week. The action item for this

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<v Speaker 1>specific quote was during class, I want you to think

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<v Speaker 1>of two things, any two things that you've been thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about doing and you just haven't been doing. You've been

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<v Speaker 1>dragging your feet. It could be a homework assignment, It

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<v Speaker 1>could be that you need to talk to someone. It

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<v Speaker 1>could be that you want to ask somebody out on

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<v Speaker 1>a date or dinner, whatever it is. But I want

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<v Speaker 1>you to think about it during class, and then I

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<v Speaker 1>want you to write it down and the end of class,

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<v Speaker 1>and then in the next week I want you get

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<v Speaker 1>an action and I want you to do it. And

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<v Speaker 1>so the reason I told them to do it during

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<v Speaker 1>class is because if I gave them a day or

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<v Speaker 1>two days, they're going to overthink it. There's already something

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<v Speaker 1>there for them in their mind of I need to

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<v Speaker 1>do this, and I wanted that to come out right

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<v Speaker 1>away and not overthink it. That's the first part. The

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<v Speaker 1>second thing I also did is I actually went around

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<v Speaker 1>the class and looked at everybody and I asked for

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<v Speaker 1>an acknowledgement. If you just say something to people, that

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't mean it's going to cause action in them. But

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<v Speaker 1>what I actually did is I looked at everyone and

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<v Speaker 1>I said okay, okay, okay, and I'm looking for the

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<v Speaker 1>uhhhh from each person, an acknowledgement. How many people is

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<v Speaker 1>this about? Forty three? Yeah? No, no, no, it's good. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I like it. We went through that and they all

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<v Speaker 1>said yes. The most interesting thing happened is that I

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<v Speaker 1>have one set of office hours right after class. I

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<v Speaker 1>already had students coming in after that class telling me

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<v Speaker 1>about the things that they're going to do right. And

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<v Speaker 1>so when it comes towards back to your original question,

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<v Speaker 1>right or what are some techniques or methods I might

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<v Speaker 1>use in regards to education and teaching and work to

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<v Speaker 1>transform it. So many people get caught up in the

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<v Speaker 1>technical items. Back in the day before, if you were

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<v Speaker 1>teaching formulas or whatever else it was, you had to

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<v Speaker 1>go through it with them. I can go through it

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<v Speaker 1>with them, but I also know they can go on

0:23:49.160 --> 0:23:50.800
<v Speaker 1>Google and get it. I know they can go on

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<v Speaker 1>these other websites, you watch these YouTube videos, whatever it is.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll give it to them in class and we go

0:23:55.760 --> 0:23:58.399
<v Speaker 1>through it. But I also want them to get real

0:23:58.480 --> 0:24:02.960
<v Speaker 1>world application of how these concepts are applied, and so

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<v Speaker 1>they get excited about it. And I think that's something

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<v Speaker 1>that was missing a lot from other classes that I've

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<v Speaker 1>seen or I've taken, as they go straight into just

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<v Speaker 1>the technical items, but they're not actually taking it up

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<v Speaker 1>at three thousand foot level and saying this is why

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<v Speaker 1>it's important. And I really like I always like the

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<v Speaker 1>inspirational items and the quotes and everything else. It keeps

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<v Speaker 1>people in action, and I think that's the most important thing. Yeah, no, absolutely,

0:24:28.320 --> 0:24:30.440
<v Speaker 1>I love those I love those insights, and I think

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<v Speaker 1>acknowledging people. I remember the first time Facebook Live launched

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<v Speaker 1>this was probably around six years ago now, and I

0:24:41.160 --> 0:24:43.080
<v Speaker 1>was one of the first users. This was when I

0:24:43.119 --> 0:24:45.760
<v Speaker 1>was a senior host and producer at huff Post. So

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<v Speaker 1>I was in New York City and we had a

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<v Speaker 1>partnership with Facebook Live. So I went live and the

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<v Speaker 1>first thing I asked was, Hey, if you like anything,

0:24:53.880 --> 0:24:56.800
<v Speaker 1>press the like button. If you love anything, pressed the

0:24:56.920 --> 0:24:59.159
<v Speaker 1>love button, And if you want to share something with me,

0:24:59.240 --> 0:25:01.640
<v Speaker 1>drop a comment in the comment box. And my producer

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<v Speaker 1>was holding her hands over a face, going, Jai, I

0:25:03.960 --> 0:25:06.000
<v Speaker 1>can't believe you just asked the audience to do that.

0:25:06.160 --> 0:25:09.119
<v Speaker 1>And it was really funny because the response was amazing.

0:25:09.200 --> 0:25:12.399
<v Speaker 1>People loved act like what you just said like. People

0:25:12.560 --> 0:25:17.160
<v Speaker 1>loved that there was a prescribed way that they could

0:25:17.200 --> 0:25:19.919
<v Speaker 1>respond to something. So if I shared a quote that

0:25:20.000 --> 0:25:22.320
<v Speaker 1>was inspiring, people would click that light button and then

0:25:22.359 --> 0:25:24.200
<v Speaker 1>I could see and then I could respond to them.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's when I started to understand that people don't

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<v Speaker 1>just want to be receivers. They want to be participants

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<v Speaker 1>in learning, and they don't just want to be on

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<v Speaker 1>the receiving end. They don't just want to be listeners

0:25:34.160 --> 0:25:37.639
<v Speaker 1>and hearers and taking in. They want to be involved

0:25:37.640 --> 0:25:39.360
<v Speaker 1>and they want to be engaged. And so I love

0:25:39.440 --> 0:25:42.480
<v Speaker 1>that example of teaching. Let's say a lot of people

0:25:42.560 --> 0:25:44.840
<v Speaker 1>who are listening right now may have just started a business,

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<v Speaker 1>or they're on the cusp of starting a business. How

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<v Speaker 1>should they be thinking about the finances of this business.

0:25:51.440 --> 0:25:53.000
<v Speaker 1>They don't have a lot of money to get started,

0:25:53.040 --> 0:25:55.640
<v Speaker 1>They're probably not going to go and raise They're probably

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<v Speaker 1>just trying to build something through a few friends, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>from themselves. What are the things they should be thinking about.

0:26:01.280 --> 0:26:03.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean, that's a really great question. I could just

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<v Speaker 1>say take my class. No, not everybody can't. You're right,

0:26:08.400 --> 0:26:12.919
<v Speaker 1>you're right, but I would yeah, yes, yes, yeah. You

0:26:12.960 --> 0:26:15.959
<v Speaker 1>want to be able to think strategically, right, and so

0:26:16.040 --> 0:26:18.600
<v Speaker 1>you want to look at how much runway do I

0:26:18.680 --> 0:26:21.760
<v Speaker 1>need to have to actually get the business started? And

0:26:21.840 --> 0:26:23.560
<v Speaker 1>a lot of this comes back to capital. And I

0:26:23.560 --> 0:26:26.959
<v Speaker 1>don't want to nerd out too much on capital conversations,

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<v Speaker 1>but I mean, one of the first things I do

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<v Speaker 1>with my students, even if I'm not having them go

0:26:30.840 --> 0:26:33.520
<v Speaker 1>through this, is I'll have them build out a ProForma. Right,

0:26:33.680 --> 0:26:36.080
<v Speaker 1>so what is it going to look like? How much

0:26:36.119 --> 0:26:38.480
<v Speaker 1>money do I need to have for what period of time?

0:26:38.880 --> 0:26:42.000
<v Speaker 1>And this doesn't need to be something fancy. You don't

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<v Speaker 1>need to build up a model and put an excel.

0:26:44.080 --> 0:26:46.119
<v Speaker 1>You can write it on a piece of paper. And

0:26:46.160 --> 0:26:47.960
<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of people don't look at the

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<v Speaker 1>basics even to start on something like that. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>also all about following your passion and getting excited and

0:26:57.320 --> 0:27:01.480
<v Speaker 1>everything else, but you also want to combine with things

0:27:01.520 --> 0:27:04.840
<v Speaker 1>that are practical. And I think when I have people

0:27:04.880 --> 0:27:07.600
<v Speaker 1>come to my office hours, I get my current students,

0:27:07.760 --> 0:27:09.480
<v Speaker 1>I get a lot of people come into my office hours,

0:27:09.480 --> 0:27:11.920
<v Speaker 1>even non current students, and they ask me the same

0:27:12.000 --> 0:27:14.560
<v Speaker 1>question you're asking, and I turn it back on them

0:27:15.560 --> 0:27:18.720
<v Speaker 1>and I say, what is your purpose? What is the

0:27:18.800 --> 0:27:22.920
<v Speaker 1>purpose of what you're trying to achieve. Some people will

0:27:22.920 --> 0:27:25.360
<v Speaker 1>tell me I want to make money. Some people will

0:27:25.400 --> 0:27:27.120
<v Speaker 1>say I want to do this for fun. Some people

0:27:27.160 --> 0:27:29.439
<v Speaker 1>will say I just want to have experience. There's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of different reasons of why people are doing things,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think it is very important first and foremost

0:27:36.880 --> 0:27:42.639
<v Speaker 1>to be clear with yourself on why you're starting this business. Now,

0:27:42.840 --> 0:27:45.840
<v Speaker 1>if it's to start a business for your livelihood, we

0:27:45.960 --> 0:27:49.159
<v Speaker 1>actually have to map this out and planet right, what

0:27:49.359 --> 0:27:51.399
<v Speaker 1>is your market size? How many people are in There

0:27:51.400 --> 0:27:53.800
<v Speaker 1>are a lot of companies that we're looking at right

0:27:53.840 --> 0:27:56.080
<v Speaker 1>now are in the beverage space. I love the beverage

0:27:56.080 --> 0:27:58.840
<v Speaker 1>space right It gets me very excited, and you want

0:27:58.840 --> 0:28:00.560
<v Speaker 1>to look at that and see how many people are

0:28:00.600 --> 0:28:02.439
<v Speaker 1>currently in the market. What are the other products that

0:28:02.480 --> 0:28:05.360
<v Speaker 1>are out there. The beverage space also has a low

0:28:05.400 --> 0:28:08.639
<v Speaker 1>barrier to entry. Somebody can take a relatively small amount

0:28:08.640 --> 0:28:11.400
<v Speaker 1>of money and go there tomorrow to a production facility,

0:28:11.480 --> 0:28:12.880
<v Speaker 1>and you can go out there and you can get

0:28:12.920 --> 0:28:16.120
<v Speaker 1>it created. As opposed to another company that I recently

0:28:16.119 --> 0:28:21.080
<v Speaker 1>invested in is a sunscreen company. Sunscreen companies have some

0:28:21.119 --> 0:28:23.600
<v Speaker 1>people might say that there's a low barrier to entry

0:28:23.640 --> 0:28:26.919
<v Speaker 1>for sunscreen. Having said that, there's a long process to

0:28:26.920 --> 0:28:28.919
<v Speaker 1>get a product approved. It can take a year and

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<v Speaker 1>a half two years. So part of it is thinking

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<v Speaker 1>through and this is the framework that I got from

0:28:35.080 --> 0:28:38.240
<v Speaker 1>Business Goal. We have something called Porter's five Forces, which

0:28:38.280 --> 0:28:41.239
<v Speaker 1>is a phenomenal tool. So you look at what are

0:28:41.240 --> 0:28:43.360
<v Speaker 1>the items that are market competitiveness, who are the other

0:28:43.400 --> 0:28:46.480
<v Speaker 1>competitors in the space, what are the barriers to entry,

0:28:46.680 --> 0:28:49.320
<v Speaker 1>what are the alternatives to the product, what are the substitutes.

0:28:50.040 --> 0:28:52.800
<v Speaker 1>It's actually a model. I had a diagram it and

0:28:52.800 --> 0:28:54.520
<v Speaker 1>a whiteboard right now, I draw it up for you

0:28:54.680 --> 0:28:59.520
<v Speaker 1>right thinking through things from that model. That framework allows

0:28:59.600 --> 0:29:03.320
<v Speaker 1>you to properly assess is it even worth it? And

0:29:03.400 --> 0:29:06.120
<v Speaker 1>do I want to go into this business? And again

0:29:06.240 --> 0:29:09.000
<v Speaker 1>probably a non popular opinion at this point in time

0:29:09.040 --> 0:29:11.640
<v Speaker 1>when I'm about to say, but everyone always says, just

0:29:11.720 --> 0:29:14.040
<v Speaker 1>go out there and follow your passion, follow your dream.

0:29:14.120 --> 0:29:17.800
<v Speaker 1>I get that, I do, but you also have to

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<v Speaker 1>look at something that is a survivable business and how

0:29:22.080 --> 0:29:23.840
<v Speaker 1>much time do you want to spend on it. I'm

0:29:23.840 --> 0:29:26.920
<v Speaker 1>really happy you said that. I mean, when I started

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<v Speaker 1>doing what I do today, I was working a full

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<v Speaker 1>time job, getting home from the full time job and

0:29:33.240 --> 0:29:36.840
<v Speaker 1>then editing videos from nine pm to two am, and

0:29:36.880 --> 0:29:38.880
<v Speaker 1>then waking up, going to my full time job, coming

0:29:38.880 --> 0:29:41.000
<v Speaker 1>back and doing the same thing, and then doing this

0:29:41.120 --> 0:29:44.040
<v Speaker 1>on the evenings and weekends. And therefore it didn't need

0:29:44.080 --> 0:29:46.840
<v Speaker 1>to make money. So for two years, me doing my

0:29:46.960 --> 0:29:51.080
<v Speaker 1>passion didn't directly relate to money. It didn't make me revenue,

0:29:51.080 --> 0:29:53.160
<v Speaker 1>it didn't make any profit. It didn't pay my bills

0:29:53.360 --> 0:29:55.640
<v Speaker 1>because I was paying my bills through a full time job,

0:29:56.160 --> 0:29:58.720
<v Speaker 1>and that to me, was the healthiest way for me

0:29:58.800 --> 0:30:01.800
<v Speaker 1>to start, because I was able to see what the

0:30:01.880 --> 0:30:05.400
<v Speaker 1>options were and what opportunities came up. So while I

0:30:05.400 --> 0:30:07.360
<v Speaker 1>was doing my full time job paying my bills, I

0:30:07.360 --> 0:30:10.239
<v Speaker 1>didn't have to worry about anything, and actually using my

0:30:10.320 --> 0:30:13.720
<v Speaker 1>evenings and weekends to build my passion led to that

0:30:13.760 --> 0:30:17.520
<v Speaker 1>being my long term business. And I don't think I

0:30:17.560 --> 0:30:19.479
<v Speaker 1>could have done that. If I would have quit my

0:30:19.520 --> 0:30:23.760
<v Speaker 1>full time job and tried to build my passion from scratch,

0:30:24.200 --> 0:30:27.000
<v Speaker 1>I think there would have been quite a few years where,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I would have been broke because there wasn't

0:30:30.560 --> 0:30:32.959
<v Speaker 1>a way to monetize what I was doing. And so

0:30:33.000 --> 0:30:35.280
<v Speaker 1>I love that you're encouraging people to not think about

0:30:35.280 --> 0:30:40.720
<v Speaker 1>their passion in this romanticized way, because it's so easy

0:30:40.760 --> 0:30:43.440
<v Speaker 1>to get romantic about your passion and your purpose and

0:30:43.520 --> 0:30:46.320
<v Speaker 1>just believe that because you believe that, everyone's going to

0:30:46.360 --> 0:30:49.160
<v Speaker 1>believe and something's going to happen. And I often prefer

0:30:49.320 --> 0:30:51.960
<v Speaker 1>that people either do or you're saying where they actually

0:30:51.960 --> 0:30:55.160
<v Speaker 1>ever planned their structured they're thoughtful, or they're in two

0:30:55.200 --> 0:30:57.520
<v Speaker 1>boats for a while. They have their job or their

0:30:57.560 --> 0:30:59.280
<v Speaker 1>part time job, and then they have this other thing

0:30:59.320 --> 0:31:02.080
<v Speaker 1>that's going on, and that's a much safer place to be.

0:31:02.640 --> 0:31:05.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't believe that every passion can be a business

0:31:05.600 --> 0:31:08.320
<v Speaker 1>or should be a business. How do you help your

0:31:08.320 --> 0:31:11.720
<v Speaker 1>students or anyone decipher between what should remain a hobby

0:31:11.720 --> 0:31:14.840
<v Speaker 1>and a passion, yeah, and what can has the market

0:31:14.840 --> 0:31:17.080
<v Speaker 1>potential to evolve into a business Because I think, I

0:31:17.080 --> 0:31:18.560
<v Speaker 1>think we're living in a town. We're pretty much a

0:31:18.640 --> 0:31:21.040
<v Speaker 1>lot of random things have become businesses. So it kind

0:31:21.040 --> 0:31:23.480
<v Speaker 1>of feels very open. But there's things to think about

0:31:23.480 --> 0:31:26.240
<v Speaker 1>and becoming a CEO or a business person that are

0:31:26.240 --> 0:31:29.040
<v Speaker 1>different to being a passion business. So the IRS when

0:31:29.040 --> 0:31:32.080
<v Speaker 1>you actually have a business that over for a period

0:31:32.120 --> 0:31:33.959
<v Speaker 1>of time, it doesn't create any income, but you have

0:31:34.000 --> 0:31:37.800
<v Speaker 1>expenses against it. It's literally defined as a hobby. A

0:31:37.920 --> 0:31:41.120
<v Speaker 1>hobby is an actual definition of an IRS term. Right.

0:31:41.440 --> 0:31:43.320
<v Speaker 1>So I always find that very interesting, and I ask

0:31:43.440 --> 0:31:46.880
<v Speaker 1>my students or any other entrepreneurs I talk to, even

0:31:46.880 --> 0:31:49.080
<v Speaker 1>if I'm talking to them about the fund or anything else,

0:31:49.080 --> 0:31:51.640
<v Speaker 1>will come to me and ask me advice, right, And

0:31:51.680 --> 0:31:53.920
<v Speaker 1>I say, you just have to be clear with yourself.

0:31:54.080 --> 0:31:56.640
<v Speaker 1>Is this a passion project and a hobby or is

0:31:56.640 --> 0:31:59.600
<v Speaker 1>this something you really want to make money on? And

0:31:59.640 --> 0:32:03.560
<v Speaker 1>I think that it's very important to decipher between the two.

0:32:04.040 --> 0:32:06.600
<v Speaker 1>I tried to start my own startup before I left banking.

0:32:06.800 --> 0:32:09.520
<v Speaker 1>Took a big risk, quit my job, and I tried

0:32:09.520 --> 0:32:11.080
<v Speaker 1>to start my own startup. And if I could go

0:32:11.120 --> 0:32:14.520
<v Speaker 1>back and tell myself something, it would be nahaw, be

0:32:14.720 --> 0:32:17.040
<v Speaker 1>clear on what this is. Can you tell us about

0:32:17.080 --> 0:32:18.880
<v Speaker 1>that story? Tell us a bit about that, like what

0:32:19.000 --> 0:32:21.040
<v Speaker 1>did you start? How did it go? Because I think

0:32:21.200 --> 0:32:22.920
<v Speaker 1>hearing about that would be awesome. I had a great

0:32:23.000 --> 0:32:25.400
<v Speaker 1>job in banking and graduated from business school. They rolled

0:32:25.400 --> 0:32:27.440
<v Speaker 1>out the red carpet type of job in banking. It

0:32:27.520 --> 0:32:29.560
<v Speaker 1>was amazing. So I was working with a lot of

0:32:29.560 --> 0:32:31.720
<v Speaker 1>companies that were looking to do an IPO or looking

0:32:31.760 --> 0:32:34.160
<v Speaker 1>to get acquired within the next so many years. I

0:32:34.200 --> 0:32:37.400
<v Speaker 1>had the opportunity to spend time with founders CFOs CEOs.

0:32:37.520 --> 0:32:39.440
<v Speaker 1>When you're a startup and you're with a bank, that

0:32:39.480 --> 0:32:42.640
<v Speaker 1>means you're pretty sophisticated. You're far along, right. So I

0:32:42.680 --> 0:32:44.440
<v Speaker 1>was dealing with a lot of people and I saw

0:32:44.480 --> 0:32:46.160
<v Speaker 1>how much they were making and what they were doing,

0:32:46.200 --> 0:32:48.960
<v Speaker 1>and I thought, whoa, I'm so smart. I could do that,

0:32:49.880 --> 0:32:53.200
<v Speaker 1>And so I left a great job in banking to

0:32:53.280 --> 0:32:56.120
<v Speaker 1>start my own startup. It was ironically, it was an

0:32:56.160 --> 0:32:59.920
<v Speaker 1>online platform which was going to be to teach personal

0:33:00.240 --> 0:33:04.920
<v Speaker 1>finance to predominantly predominantly women, and then branch out from

0:33:04.960 --> 0:33:07.120
<v Speaker 1>that to women and men. But I should have been

0:33:07.160 --> 0:33:11.200
<v Speaker 1>more focused. I failed at what I wanted to do,

0:33:11.320 --> 0:33:13.680
<v Speaker 1>and it was hard. How did you define failure? What

0:33:13.760 --> 0:33:16.240
<v Speaker 1>went wrong there? The whole thing had to stop. Any

0:33:16.240 --> 0:33:18.600
<v Speaker 1>money that I had spent we lost. I'd gotten money

0:33:18.600 --> 0:33:20.720
<v Speaker 1>from families and friend for about a year and a half.

0:33:20.760 --> 0:33:24.120
<v Speaker 1>I'd been working on it. We lost everything, and it

0:33:24.200 --> 0:33:26.880
<v Speaker 1>was very, very tough because I had been so used

0:33:26.920 --> 0:33:30.600
<v Speaker 1>to being successful and amazing. I have immigrant parents who

0:33:30.600 --> 0:33:33.760
<v Speaker 1>are phenomenal, who are also very driven, right, and who

0:33:33.800 --> 0:33:36.600
<v Speaker 1>also have driven their children to work hard and succeed

0:33:36.680 --> 0:33:39.880
<v Speaker 1>and excel. And so went to school, did well, went

0:33:39.920 --> 0:33:42.120
<v Speaker 1>to business school, did well, went to banking, did well.

0:33:42.200 --> 0:33:44.040
<v Speaker 1>And then all of a sudden, I start my own thing,

0:33:44.040 --> 0:33:45.760
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, I don't even know how to properly

0:33:45.760 --> 0:33:49.560
<v Speaker 1>ship boxes, Like I don't know the difference between ups,

0:33:49.920 --> 0:33:52.680
<v Speaker 1>FedEx all of these things. Like it was a really

0:33:52.720 --> 0:33:55.440
<v Speaker 1>big learning experience for me on basic items that I

0:33:55.440 --> 0:33:59.760
<v Speaker 1>didn't understand. And the startup didn't work right. It wasn't

0:33:59.760 --> 0:34:01.560
<v Speaker 1>what I wanted. It to be and it was very,

0:34:01.640 --> 0:34:03.880
<v Speaker 1>very hard. And if I could go back and give

0:34:03.920 --> 0:34:07.320
<v Speaker 1>myself one piece of advice, it would be be able

0:34:07.320 --> 0:34:12.400
<v Speaker 1>to decipher between passion and business. They can be both,

0:34:12.760 --> 0:34:15.080
<v Speaker 1>but you have to be clear on what you're trying

0:34:15.120 --> 0:34:19.239
<v Speaker 1>to do and achieve, because when it's a business, you

0:34:19.280 --> 0:34:22.200
<v Speaker 1>move out all the noise and you focus in on

0:34:22.440 --> 0:34:24.399
<v Speaker 1>do I have the right market? Is there the right

0:34:24.440 --> 0:34:27.400
<v Speaker 1>market product fit? Are people ready to buy this? You

0:34:27.440 --> 0:34:29.520
<v Speaker 1>can't just go and talk to your friends and say, hey,

0:34:29.520 --> 0:34:31.520
<v Speaker 1>do you think this idea is great? They're going to

0:34:31.560 --> 0:34:33.359
<v Speaker 1>go yeah, of course, They're not going to tell you

0:34:33.480 --> 0:34:37.200
<v Speaker 1>yes or no. Really right, you need to ask them, hey,

0:34:37.239 --> 0:34:39.160
<v Speaker 1>I have this product, it's great, Okay, are you going

0:34:39.200 --> 0:34:41.399
<v Speaker 1>to buy it? Will you pay for it right now?

0:34:41.760 --> 0:34:44.720
<v Speaker 1>That's what makes the difference there, And so being able

0:34:44.760 --> 0:34:47.360
<v Speaker 1>to decipher between passion and a business I think is

0:34:47.880 --> 0:34:51.840
<v Speaker 1>very very important. Yeah. Absolutely. I think that one of

0:34:51.840 --> 0:34:55.160
<v Speaker 1>the misconceptions that I think I had, and also people

0:34:55.320 --> 0:34:58.160
<v Speaker 1>have in general, is that when you live a passion

0:34:58.239 --> 0:35:01.279
<v Speaker 1>business that you just to do what you want to do.

0:35:02.120 --> 0:35:06.200
<v Speaker 1>And I would honestly say that in the come up period,

0:35:07.400 --> 0:35:09.760
<v Speaker 1>I did more of what I didn't want to do

0:35:10.400 --> 0:35:13.400
<v Speaker 1>and what I had to learn, whether it was the

0:35:13.480 --> 0:35:16.960
<v Speaker 1>UPS or FedEx in your scenario, in my scenario, it

0:35:17.200 --> 0:35:24.160
<v Speaker 1>was client relationships, editing learning, videography learning, social media learning.

0:35:24.320 --> 0:35:26.080
<v Speaker 1>I had to learn all these skills in order to

0:35:26.120 --> 0:35:28.000
<v Speaker 1>do what I do. To to learn about podcasting, I

0:35:28.040 --> 0:35:30.920
<v Speaker 1>had to learn about publishing. These were not things I

0:35:30.960 --> 0:35:33.839
<v Speaker 1>wanted to do, but they were vehicles to do what

0:35:33.920 --> 0:35:36.000
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to do. So I had to spend more

0:35:36.040 --> 0:35:42.279
<v Speaker 1>time studying vehicles and modalities and frameworks and mechanisms and

0:35:42.360 --> 0:35:45.640
<v Speaker 1>tools so that I could spread my message, which is

0:35:45.680 --> 0:35:50.200
<v Speaker 1>what I wanted to do. But if I just tried

0:35:50.239 --> 0:35:53.120
<v Speaker 1>to spread my message, that was never going to work

0:35:53.239 --> 0:35:56.160
<v Speaker 1>because I had to understand the tool. Today, I live

0:35:56.200 --> 0:35:58.080
<v Speaker 1>a life where, yeah, I do way more of what

0:35:58.120 --> 0:36:00.720
<v Speaker 1>I want to do today. But I think the mistake

0:36:00.800 --> 0:36:03.040
<v Speaker 1>is believing that you will be able to let go

0:36:03.080 --> 0:36:05.720
<v Speaker 1>of what you have to do. And I think that's

0:36:06.040 --> 0:36:07.960
<v Speaker 1>where I've realized that there is no one in the

0:36:08.000 --> 0:36:10.359
<v Speaker 1>world who can completely let go of things they have

0:36:10.520 --> 0:36:12.879
<v Speaker 1>to do in order to do what they want to do.

0:36:13.200 --> 0:36:15.879
<v Speaker 1>But it's a balance of the two. And so when

0:36:15.880 --> 0:36:18.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm hearing you talk, I'm reflecting on my own journey

0:36:18.160 --> 0:36:21.560
<v Speaker 1>and going, Yeah, that makes a lot of sense because

0:36:22.200 --> 0:36:24.200
<v Speaker 1>in order to do what I love to do today,

0:36:24.480 --> 0:36:27.239
<v Speaker 1>I have to do things that I just have to do. Yeah,

0:36:27.239 --> 0:36:31.560
<v Speaker 1>And to live a pure passion business is a hobby

0:36:31.680 --> 0:36:34.000
<v Speaker 1>because that means you're just enjoying the passion of it.

0:36:34.080 --> 0:36:36.440
<v Speaker 1>So if I said every Friday night, I was going

0:36:36.520 --> 0:36:39.640
<v Speaker 1>to go live on Facebook and just teach my message

0:36:39.640 --> 0:36:42.160
<v Speaker 1>and whoever turned up turned up, that's a hobby. That's beautiful.

0:36:42.520 --> 0:36:44.879
<v Speaker 1>But if I really want to create ways in which

0:36:44.920 --> 0:36:48.440
<v Speaker 1>people can learn, grow, get educated, change their life, transform,

0:36:48.680 --> 0:36:50.279
<v Speaker 1>that's going to need me to be a bit more

0:36:50.719 --> 0:36:54.239
<v Speaker 1>organized and focused. Yea, As you rightly said, focus is

0:36:54.280 --> 0:36:56.319
<v Speaker 1>such a big deal. And I also think it comes

0:36:56.360 --> 0:37:00.320
<v Speaker 1>back to priorities, right, there's certain times. One thing I

0:37:00.400 --> 0:37:02.560
<v Speaker 1>really like that you said is there are certain times

0:37:02.680 --> 0:37:05.000
<v Speaker 1>right where you're on your way up right, you had

0:37:05.040 --> 0:37:06.520
<v Speaker 1>to do a lot of the things that you didn't

0:37:06.520 --> 0:37:08.799
<v Speaker 1>want to do. And one of the things that I

0:37:08.880 --> 0:37:11.200
<v Speaker 1>keep hearing people always talk about is well do you

0:37:11.239 --> 0:37:14.200
<v Speaker 1>have the right work life balance. There's a story, and

0:37:14.200 --> 0:37:16.760
<v Speaker 1>I know you've heard this before, but there's a person

0:37:16.840 --> 0:37:18.960
<v Speaker 1>standing in the front of the room and they have

0:37:19.000 --> 0:37:21.680
<v Speaker 1>a glass and first they put rocks in the glass

0:37:21.680 --> 0:37:23.600
<v Speaker 1>and they say is there anything else more? Room laughed

0:37:23.640 --> 0:37:25.279
<v Speaker 1>and if everybody goes no, and then they put the

0:37:25.280 --> 0:37:27.400
<v Speaker 1>pebbles in, then they put the what is it? Sand?

0:37:27.440 --> 0:37:30.280
<v Speaker 1>And then water. Right, Here's what I think is missing

0:37:30.320 --> 0:37:34.400
<v Speaker 1>from that story, though, is that that all makes sense.

0:37:35.080 --> 0:37:39.120
<v Speaker 1>But there's certain times in life where you're going to

0:37:39.280 --> 0:37:43.040
<v Speaker 1>have situations where that priority level is going to shift,

0:37:43.680 --> 0:37:47.120
<v Speaker 1>and that's what's missing. So we're there certain times in

0:37:47.160 --> 0:37:50.160
<v Speaker 1>my life also where the rocks would be just career

0:37:50.280 --> 0:37:52.080
<v Speaker 1>or just work or just the things that I don't

0:37:52.120 --> 0:37:55.160
<v Speaker 1>want to do. They were and it wasn't that I

0:37:55.200 --> 0:37:58.760
<v Speaker 1>didn't have a work life balance anything in that way.

0:37:59.080 --> 0:38:01.160
<v Speaker 1>It was more of that point in time in my

0:38:01.200 --> 0:38:05.399
<v Speaker 1>life that was the priority. So even though now my

0:38:05.480 --> 0:38:09.439
<v Speaker 1>priority is family and I love my work, I love

0:38:09.520 --> 0:38:12.040
<v Speaker 1>running the fund, I love teaching, you know that though

0:38:12.080 --> 0:38:14.799
<v Speaker 1>I teach for fun, right, I love it. But the

0:38:14.880 --> 0:38:18.000
<v Speaker 1>priority set is going to shift over time. I'm so

0:38:18.000 --> 0:38:20.600
<v Speaker 1>glad we're having such a real conversation about this because

0:38:20.800 --> 0:38:25.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm like loving this right now because I completely agree

0:38:25.400 --> 0:38:28.200
<v Speaker 1>with you. So when we got married, we got married

0:38:28.200 --> 0:38:30.759
<v Speaker 1>in twenty sixteen, which is kind of where my external

0:38:30.840 --> 0:38:34.960
<v Speaker 1>career took off, and for three years we didn't go

0:38:34.960 --> 0:38:37.239
<v Speaker 1>on a honeymoon because we can't afford it. Like we

0:38:37.320 --> 0:38:40.040
<v Speaker 1>didn't go on our honeymoon, we never had one because

0:38:40.040 --> 0:38:41.880
<v Speaker 1>we didn't have the money or the time to My

0:38:41.960 --> 0:38:45.000
<v Speaker 1>career was busy, things were growing, I had momentum on

0:38:45.040 --> 0:38:48.000
<v Speaker 1>my side, and I couldn't afford to take the time

0:38:48.160 --> 0:38:50.399
<v Speaker 1>or the money to pay for something. Three years later,

0:38:50.440 --> 0:38:52.840
<v Speaker 1>we went on a beautiful honeymoon. It was it was amazing.

0:38:52.880 --> 0:38:55.440
<v Speaker 1>It was so fun to have waited for something like

0:38:55.480 --> 0:38:58.640
<v Speaker 1>that and have this amazing experience. And I look at

0:38:58.640 --> 0:39:01.720
<v Speaker 1>those first three years and I go, I'm so happy

0:39:01.760 --> 0:39:03.400
<v Speaker 1>that we lived the way we did. We lived in

0:39:03.440 --> 0:39:05.720
<v Speaker 1>this five hundred square foot apartment in New York City.

0:39:06.320 --> 0:39:10.000
<v Speaker 1>You know, we ate, worked and slept in the same areas,

0:39:10.120 --> 0:39:12.600
<v Speaker 1>didn't have any other space. And I have such good

0:39:12.680 --> 0:39:16.000
<v Speaker 1>memories from that time. And I'm so grateful that the

0:39:16.120 --> 0:39:21.960
<v Speaker 1>rocks became just hard work, networking, meetings, events, whatever it was,

0:39:22.200 --> 0:39:24.960
<v Speaker 1>and my wife was doing the same for herself. I'm

0:39:25.040 --> 0:39:28.000
<v Speaker 1>so happy that I allowed myself to do that for

0:39:28.080 --> 0:39:31.080
<v Speaker 1>three years in order to have the life I have today.

0:39:31.680 --> 0:39:34.719
<v Speaker 1>And I don't think there's a right or wrong way.

0:39:34.719 --> 0:39:37.280
<v Speaker 1>And that's what I'm hearing from you too. It's about

0:39:37.440 --> 0:39:41.360
<v Speaker 1>the hope that you have for the result you want.

0:39:41.680 --> 0:39:45.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah right, It's like everything's proportionate to what you want.

0:39:45.560 --> 0:39:48.840
<v Speaker 1>And I don't think that we should have either romantic

0:39:49.160 --> 0:39:53.319
<v Speaker 1>or unromantic views of what we want to have in life.

0:39:53.360 --> 0:39:55.239
<v Speaker 1>We should just be clear that if this is where

0:39:55.239 --> 0:39:58.160
<v Speaker 1>I want to be, this is what it's going to require.

0:39:58.560 --> 0:40:01.080
<v Speaker 1>And yeah, I just I'm great for those memories. I'm

0:40:01.080 --> 0:40:03.839
<v Speaker 1>grateful for those times I look back and I'm so

0:40:03.880 --> 0:40:06.160
<v Speaker 1>happy that and and even today I was saying this

0:40:06.200 --> 0:40:07.919
<v Speaker 1>to a friend today, I was like, I still haven't

0:40:07.960 --> 0:40:11.160
<v Speaker 1>taken my foot off the gas today because the people

0:40:11.200 --> 0:40:14.000
<v Speaker 1>I look up to and admire and respect, they haven't

0:40:14.040 --> 0:40:16.200
<v Speaker 1>taken the foot off the gas after thirty years of

0:40:16.320 --> 0:40:20.520
<v Speaker 1>being at the top of their game. And I want longevity, right,

0:40:20.560 --> 0:40:23.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm not looking for a flash in the pan or

0:40:23.360 --> 0:40:25.239
<v Speaker 1>I want longevity. I want to be doing this for

0:40:25.280 --> 0:40:28.200
<v Speaker 1>the next three to four decades of my life, which

0:40:28.239 --> 0:40:31.920
<v Speaker 1>requires a different level of planning and maturity as opposed

0:40:31.960 --> 0:40:34.399
<v Speaker 1>to just going for quick wins. So I'm glad we're

0:40:34.440 --> 0:40:36.759
<v Speaker 1>having this conversation because I think it's a tough conversation

0:40:36.800 --> 0:40:40.239
<v Speaker 1>to have, but it is true. And again, I want

0:40:40.239 --> 0:40:42.600
<v Speaker 1>to go back and say to people, like, it wasn't

0:40:42.600 --> 0:40:45.719
<v Speaker 1>about not having work life balance. It's that the term

0:40:45.760 --> 0:40:49.680
<v Speaker 1>work life balance means everything should be equally. And I

0:40:49.680 --> 0:40:55.080
<v Speaker 1>think equality is the issue because equality doesn't actually mean balance.

0:40:55.160 --> 0:40:58.719
<v Speaker 1>For example, two hours of time for myself a day

0:40:59.400 --> 0:41:02.480
<v Speaker 1>could balance, and so out ten hours of well that day, Yes,

0:41:02.719 --> 0:41:05.319
<v Speaker 1>I can, one hundred percent. I was talking to my

0:41:05.360 --> 0:41:08.040
<v Speaker 1>mom about it previously, and she's like, you know, work

0:41:08.080 --> 0:41:10.839
<v Speaker 1>life balance, just because everybody always talks about that with

0:41:10.880 --> 0:41:13.520
<v Speaker 1>motherhood and this and that. You know, I have two kids. Right.

0:41:13.640 --> 0:41:15.880
<v Speaker 1>If you literally think of balance, it's if you think

0:41:15.920 --> 0:41:18.240
<v Speaker 1>about like two weights on a side. You have fifty

0:41:18.280 --> 0:41:21.279
<v Speaker 1>pounds of gold and another person who's fifty pounds. It's

0:41:21.280 --> 0:41:23.799
<v Speaker 1>a balance, it's equal. It's it's never going to in

0:41:23.880 --> 0:41:26.640
<v Speaker 1>life be that way. And I think the challenge that

0:41:26.719 --> 0:41:29.279
<v Speaker 1>people have is they're calling it balance to begin with,

0:41:29.680 --> 0:41:32.040
<v Speaker 1>when it should be priorities. When I was at Drinks

0:41:32.040 --> 0:41:36.480
<v Speaker 1>dot Com Direct, a consumer wine company, I probably was

0:41:36.520 --> 0:41:39.839
<v Speaker 1>working you know, seventy to eighty plus hours a week.

0:41:39.960 --> 0:41:41.600
<v Speaker 1>Like I remember looking at this and I'm going I'm

0:41:41.640 --> 0:41:43.879
<v Speaker 1>eighty plus hours a week. What that means is I'm

0:41:43.920 --> 0:41:45.960
<v Speaker 1>working all day, come home, have dinner, and then I

0:41:46.000 --> 0:41:47.879
<v Speaker 1>work again. And you do that six days a week.

0:41:48.160 --> 0:41:50.400
<v Speaker 1>Now is that good or bad? I don't know. But

0:41:50.480 --> 0:41:52.600
<v Speaker 1>at that point in time, it was a priority of

0:41:52.600 --> 0:41:55.440
<v Speaker 1>my life. I was married. My husband travels for work,

0:41:55.920 --> 0:41:59.799
<v Speaker 1>as you know, and so he wasn't there, right, he

0:41:59.880 --> 0:42:02.879
<v Speaker 1>was gone every single week, And so I loved what

0:42:02.920 --> 0:42:05.719
<v Speaker 1>I was doing and it was exciting to learn more

0:42:05.760 --> 0:42:07.440
<v Speaker 1>and do things. And the more things I would say

0:42:07.480 --> 0:42:09.120
<v Speaker 1>at work I can take on. They'll be like, you

0:42:09.160 --> 0:42:11.839
<v Speaker 1>want to launch a new wine project over here, go

0:42:11.920 --> 0:42:13.880
<v Speaker 1>do this. You want to look at how some of

0:42:13.920 --> 0:42:17.040
<v Speaker 1>these things run for we were doing a wine program

0:42:17.040 --> 0:42:21.720
<v Speaker 1>for Martha Stewart. You can do this, right, It was amazing, Right,

0:42:21.880 --> 0:42:24.080
<v Speaker 1>So I felt like whatever I wanted to take on,

0:42:24.160 --> 0:42:27.439
<v Speaker 1>I could. But my priority, my rocks at that point

0:42:27.480 --> 0:42:30.200
<v Speaker 1>in time in my life was my career. Yeah. A

0:42:30.239 --> 0:42:32.879
<v Speaker 1>lot of people look at priority lists that you have, right,

0:42:32.880 --> 0:42:34.799
<v Speaker 1>so you have ten priorities of things that I wanted

0:42:34.880 --> 0:42:37.000
<v Speaker 1>a job or what I did. It was with a guy, right,

0:42:37.080 --> 0:42:39.719
<v Speaker 1>how you're dating, and they look at it in a

0:42:39.760 --> 0:42:41.880
<v Speaker 1>horizontal manner like, these are the list of all the

0:42:41.960 --> 0:42:45.080
<v Speaker 1>things I like to look at in a vertical fashion.

0:42:45.600 --> 0:42:50.400
<v Speaker 1>And then you have to put in order right the priorities,

0:42:50.680 --> 0:42:53.360
<v Speaker 1>and you can quickly see even if it's this is

0:42:53.400 --> 0:42:57.239
<v Speaker 1>almost like playing with your subconscious, right you yourself will

0:42:57.239 --> 0:42:59.719
<v Speaker 1>start to see what are the priorities and what's the

0:43:00.040 --> 0:43:03.719
<v Speaker 1>ink amongst them. Once you do that, then you can say,

0:43:03.719 --> 0:43:05.439
<v Speaker 1>all right, at this point in time in my life,

0:43:05.440 --> 0:43:07.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to focus on this later. It's going to

0:43:08.040 --> 0:43:10.520
<v Speaker 1>change later, it's going to change, you know. It's just

0:43:10.560 --> 0:43:12.520
<v Speaker 1>like buying a house. I have so many friends right

0:43:12.520 --> 0:43:15.600
<v Speaker 1>now who are in the market. It's a crazy market, right, yeah,

0:43:15.640 --> 0:43:19.040
<v Speaker 1>it's insane. Yeah, but everybody always says we want great location,

0:43:19.320 --> 0:43:21.520
<v Speaker 1>good price, and a lot of space. We live in

0:43:21.640 --> 0:43:24.440
<v Speaker 1>LA I mean, come on now, right yeah. And then

0:43:24.440 --> 0:43:26.480
<v Speaker 1>what I've noticed is that when they're with their partners,

0:43:26.560 --> 0:43:29.560
<v Speaker 1>they're not on the same page. And so what I've

0:43:29.600 --> 0:43:31.920
<v Speaker 1>been telling them. My husband and I did was is

0:43:31.960 --> 0:43:34.400
<v Speaker 1>we both sat down and we created a vertical list.

0:43:35.040 --> 0:43:37.960
<v Speaker 1>I now know what his top priority is and he

0:43:38.000 --> 0:43:40.640
<v Speaker 1>knows what mine is. When we're going out and looking

0:43:40.680 --> 0:43:42.960
<v Speaker 1>for places, it's easier for us to be on the

0:43:43.000 --> 0:43:46.080
<v Speaker 1>same page and it sounds like you understand what I'm

0:43:46.120 --> 0:43:48.120
<v Speaker 1>talking about. I am completely in agreement with you. We

0:43:48.160 --> 0:43:50.319
<v Speaker 1>did the same exact thing, and you know, Faradi, it

0:43:50.360 --> 0:43:52.480
<v Speaker 1>was a big kitchen like that was very important to

0:43:52.480 --> 0:43:55.479
<v Speaker 1>her because that's her world. For me, it was having

0:43:55.520 --> 0:43:57.560
<v Speaker 1>a space where we could have a studio like this,

0:43:58.160 --> 0:44:00.480
<v Speaker 1>an office like those were priorities for me, where where

0:44:00.480 --> 0:44:02.480
<v Speaker 1>I could work from home because I love working from

0:44:02.520 --> 0:44:04.760
<v Speaker 1>home from my husband. It was being close to the beach.

0:44:04.880 --> 0:44:07.279
<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, it has to be close to the beach,

0:44:07.520 --> 0:44:10.320
<v Speaker 1>a total beach person. And then for me, I needed

0:44:10.360 --> 0:44:12.560
<v Speaker 1>something where I can have my own office space. Yeah

0:44:12.600 --> 0:44:17.600
<v Speaker 1>that was separate away from the office. Yeah, but that's beautiful.

0:44:17.640 --> 0:44:20.399
<v Speaker 1>And I love that idea of people writing down their

0:44:20.440 --> 0:44:24.600
<v Speaker 1>priorities separately and also just recognizing that different stages in

0:44:24.640 --> 0:44:27.160
<v Speaker 1>life will have different priorities. Yeah, and knowing that it

0:44:27.200 --> 0:44:30.239
<v Speaker 1>can change and absolutely and that balance if everyone could

0:44:30.280 --> 0:44:35.120
<v Speaker 1>remove the idea from their mind that balance means equal

0:44:35.960 --> 0:44:38.799
<v Speaker 1>because the way we think about balance is time. We

0:44:38.840 --> 0:44:43.840
<v Speaker 1>think dividing our time equally means balance. Yeah, but that's

0:44:43.840 --> 0:44:47.759
<v Speaker 1>the wrong currency to divide. Balance means how much time

0:44:47.760 --> 0:44:51.200
<v Speaker 1>do you need for yourself in order to feel great

0:44:51.640 --> 0:44:54.279
<v Speaker 1>so that you can give and build and create for

0:44:54.280 --> 0:44:56.719
<v Speaker 1>the rest of the day. That's what balance is. And

0:44:56.800 --> 0:44:59.680
<v Speaker 1>I find for me personally that two to three hours

0:44:59.680 --> 0:45:02.920
<v Speaker 1>a day for myself gives me enough energy to go

0:45:02.960 --> 0:45:05.200
<v Speaker 1>ahead and do that. Someone else say it, may say

0:45:05.200 --> 0:45:07.960
<v Speaker 1>they need four or five, someone may need one. You know,

0:45:08.080 --> 0:45:11.040
<v Speaker 1>it's it's all subjective. But to me, it balanced. You

0:45:11.080 --> 0:45:14.160
<v Speaker 1>shouldn't be about times. It's not about equality of time.

0:45:14.320 --> 0:45:15.719
<v Speaker 1>I mean, this is one of the vast things that

0:45:15.760 --> 0:45:19.520
<v Speaker 1>I've heard anybody say, because it's you constantly keep hearing

0:45:19.600 --> 0:45:22.880
<v Speaker 1>this all the time. Everywhere. Everyone needs work life balance.

0:45:23.400 --> 0:45:26.400
<v Speaker 1>You do need a balance, but again it's not equated

0:45:26.440 --> 0:45:28.680
<v Speaker 1>to time. I think it's more you've got to do

0:45:28.719 --> 0:45:32.359
<v Speaker 1>the priorities. What are my priorities? I need to make

0:45:32.360 --> 0:45:35.600
<v Speaker 1>sure I'm getting all those priorities in whatever that might be,

0:45:35.640 --> 0:45:39.080
<v Speaker 1>and in different stages of your life that also does change. Yeah,

0:45:39.480 --> 0:45:41.680
<v Speaker 1>so I think that's a wonderful way to put it.

0:45:41.840 --> 0:45:44.160
<v Speaker 1>This is what I love about you. You know, you're

0:45:44.200 --> 0:45:47.480
<v Speaker 1>a woman, you're a business person, you're an academic, you know,

0:45:47.600 --> 0:45:50.320
<v Speaker 1>a mom like you know, And that's why I'm enjoying

0:45:50.320 --> 0:45:53.160
<v Speaker 1>having this conversation with you, because I haven't had the

0:45:53.239 --> 0:45:55.840
<v Speaker 1>challenges you've had. I'm not a mom, Like I don't

0:45:56.280 --> 0:45:59.160
<v Speaker 1>have to raise kids and build businesses, and like I'm

0:45:59.200 --> 0:46:01.239
<v Speaker 1>not in that position right and so I have so

0:46:01.320 --> 0:46:05.720
<v Speaker 1>much respect for you, and I have so much admiration

0:46:05.880 --> 0:46:07.920
<v Speaker 1>for you and what you're able to achieve and do,

0:46:08.440 --> 0:46:11.040
<v Speaker 1>because I think every time I've seen you all so

0:46:11.160 --> 0:46:13.680
<v Speaker 1>you just carry yourself very well. And at the same time,

0:46:13.719 --> 0:46:15.560
<v Speaker 1>I have all this going on at the same time,

0:46:15.600 --> 0:46:17.120
<v Speaker 1>but you love it, and you can tell that you

0:46:17.200 --> 0:46:19.640
<v Speaker 1>love being a mom, a teacher, and a coach. You

0:46:19.719 --> 0:46:24.160
<v Speaker 1>love being an investor and an entrepreneur. I read a

0:46:24.239 --> 0:46:28.319
<v Speaker 1>study from two and twenty one that said that, and

0:46:28.440 --> 0:46:32.799
<v Speaker 1>of course, let's be honest, what mothers do is priceless

0:46:33.000 --> 0:46:35.120
<v Speaker 1>and you can't put a value on it. If someone

0:46:35.160 --> 0:46:37.600
<v Speaker 1>asked me how much what my mom did for me,

0:46:37.719 --> 0:46:40.280
<v Speaker 1>how much was that worth? Could never put a price

0:46:40.320 --> 0:46:44.120
<v Speaker 1>on it. But I do believe it's important to understand value.

0:46:44.400 --> 0:46:47.120
<v Speaker 1>There was a research study from twenty twenty one that

0:46:47.239 --> 0:46:50.640
<v Speaker 1>said that if you looked at a mom's career as

0:46:50.640 --> 0:46:53.000
<v Speaker 1>a career and looked at the over one hundred and

0:46:53.000 --> 0:46:55.360
<v Speaker 1>three hours a week more like twenty four to seven.

0:46:56.160 --> 0:46:59.279
<v Speaker 1>If you tallied up all the costs of how much

0:46:59.280 --> 0:47:02.120
<v Speaker 1>everything would call us to do or or outsource, it

0:47:02.120 --> 0:47:04.400
<v Speaker 1>would be one hundred and eighty six th four hundred

0:47:04.400 --> 0:47:07.759
<v Speaker 1>dollars that an average mum would make. When you hear that,

0:47:08.360 --> 0:47:10.480
<v Speaker 1>what goes through your mind? I want to hear your

0:47:10.520 --> 0:47:12.759
<v Speaker 1>response and thoughts. It's a lot of work, and it's

0:47:12.800 --> 0:47:14.839
<v Speaker 1>a lot of time, and I just don't know if

0:47:14.880 --> 0:47:19.160
<v Speaker 1>society always understands. Again, it comes back to the unconscious bias, right,

0:47:19.280 --> 0:47:22.360
<v Speaker 1>that we feel as women that it's our responsibility to

0:47:22.400 --> 0:47:24.759
<v Speaker 1>take care of the household, It's our responsibility to do

0:47:24.800 --> 0:47:27.120
<v Speaker 1>all of these different things, and the amount of time

0:47:27.120 --> 0:47:31.840
<v Speaker 1>and energy that goes in it's constant. And sometimes you

0:47:31.960 --> 0:47:34.440
<v Speaker 1>might be lucky and get a smile from your child,

0:47:34.840 --> 0:47:37.160
<v Speaker 1>but that doesn't always happen. You know. I'm going to

0:47:37.200 --> 0:47:39.120
<v Speaker 1>take this in a little bit of a different direction here,

0:47:39.160 --> 0:47:41.880
<v Speaker 1>but I do think that what makes a lot of

0:47:41.880 --> 0:47:45.480
<v Speaker 1>these things hard is that in the workplace, we don't

0:47:45.520 --> 0:47:49.919
<v Speaker 1>always have the ability to have others that empathize with us, right,

0:47:49.960 --> 0:47:53.640
<v Speaker 1>and having people around who have similar fashion like who

0:47:53.719 --> 0:47:56.920
<v Speaker 1>understand these things makes a big difference. And my husband's

0:47:56.920 --> 0:48:00.000
<v Speaker 1>at Deloitte. Deloitte is known to take care of women.

0:48:00.160 --> 0:48:02.520
<v Speaker 1>They are known to be a great place for the

0:48:02.560 --> 0:48:04.840
<v Speaker 1>working mother. They have a lot of partners that they

0:48:04.880 --> 0:48:08.040
<v Speaker 1>interact with right who are mothers. What that has done

0:48:08.120 --> 0:48:11.880
<v Speaker 1>for me, though, in my personal life is my husband

0:48:12.400 --> 0:48:16.080
<v Speaker 1>gets it more. It's more common to him. He understands that.

0:48:16.440 --> 0:48:18.879
<v Speaker 1>You know, when I was nursing my baby, it was okay,

0:48:18.920 --> 0:48:20.960
<v Speaker 1>how much work is it for Nay? How to constantly

0:48:21.000 --> 0:48:22.959
<v Speaker 1>have to nurse throughout the day or take the pump

0:48:23.000 --> 0:48:25.399
<v Speaker 1>with her to work, And the issues that I've had

0:48:25.440 --> 0:48:28.640
<v Speaker 1>even with pumps and everything else. One time, startup life,

0:48:29.000 --> 0:48:31.879
<v Speaker 1>the electricity stopped working in our building and the pump

0:48:32.000 --> 0:48:34.880
<v Speaker 1>that I had, I didn't realize it was my first child,

0:48:35.360 --> 0:48:37.520
<v Speaker 1>that I should have a battery pack as a backup

0:48:37.640 --> 0:48:40.839
<v Speaker 1>or something like that, and I needed to pump. So

0:48:40.880 --> 0:48:42.920
<v Speaker 1>I had to leave and drive home to go do it,

0:48:42.960 --> 0:48:45.120
<v Speaker 1>and it was such an ordeal. But these are the

0:48:45.120 --> 0:48:48.440
<v Speaker 1>things as women that we're constantly having to deal with

0:48:49.080 --> 0:48:53.440
<v Speaker 1>that not everyone understands. And I think that having women

0:48:53.719 --> 0:48:57.440
<v Speaker 1>in certain positions at work, it does make a difference

0:48:58.000 --> 0:49:02.560
<v Speaker 1>because it shifts the conversation. Even my husband who's amazing

0:49:02.680 --> 0:49:07.360
<v Speaker 1>and very loving. He's constantly being exposed to it his work,

0:49:08.040 --> 0:49:10.160
<v Speaker 1>so he sees it, he hears it, and then he'll

0:49:10.160 --> 0:49:13.720
<v Speaker 1>empathize more with his wife. But Jay, to your point,

0:49:13.760 --> 0:49:16.560
<v Speaker 1>it is non stop. It is twenty four to seven.

0:49:17.239 --> 0:49:19.600
<v Speaker 1>You never get a break. I think the only time

0:49:19.640 --> 0:49:21.280
<v Speaker 1>I get a break, and I think I'm lucky about

0:49:21.280 --> 0:49:23.360
<v Speaker 1>this one is when I go to the bathroom. Yeah,

0:49:23.400 --> 0:49:27.160
<v Speaker 1>But otherwise, if I'm at home, it's NonStop. Yeah. I

0:49:27.200 --> 0:49:29.600
<v Speaker 1>remember my mom doing the same thing. Like, my mom

0:49:29.680 --> 0:49:33.839
<v Speaker 1>was the main breadwinner of the family. She used to

0:49:33.840 --> 0:49:36.719
<v Speaker 1>cook for us breakfast, lunch, and dinner, pack our lune,

0:49:36.760 --> 0:49:38.520
<v Speaker 1>sent us to school, she dropped me and my sister

0:49:38.560 --> 0:49:42.200
<v Speaker 1>to different schools, pick us up like the whole works,

0:49:42.280 --> 0:49:43.799
<v Speaker 1>you know, and it was, and to help us with

0:49:43.840 --> 0:49:47.799
<v Speaker 1>our homework and planned weekend activities. I mean, supermom like

0:49:47.960 --> 0:49:50.239
<v Speaker 1>just incredible. And also I agree with what you said.

0:49:50.280 --> 0:49:52.399
<v Speaker 1>So I grew up seeing my mum work really hard,

0:49:52.440 --> 0:49:54.560
<v Speaker 1>and so that gave me a sense of empathy and

0:49:54.600 --> 0:49:57.359
<v Speaker 1>compassion to how hard moms work. I have a younger

0:49:57.480 --> 0:50:00.359
<v Speaker 1>sister who you know, when she gets married, I think

0:50:00.360 --> 0:50:02.560
<v Speaker 1>about the same thing. I'm like, I can understand that

0:50:02.760 --> 0:50:04.480
<v Speaker 1>you know she can't be left to do it all

0:50:04.480 --> 0:50:06.680
<v Speaker 1>on her own and so and I love what you

0:50:06.760 --> 0:50:09.480
<v Speaker 1>said about the workplace I worked at Accentia. Again, Accentia

0:50:09.560 --> 0:50:13.760
<v Speaker 1>as incredible practices, especially in the UK at least where

0:50:13.840 --> 0:50:16.759
<v Speaker 1>I worked there, for moms, where women who'd go away

0:50:16.800 --> 0:50:19.319
<v Speaker 1>and maternity leave, when they come back, they'd come back

0:50:19.360 --> 0:50:21.399
<v Speaker 1>to the position they would have earned if they stayed

0:50:21.400 --> 0:50:23.880
<v Speaker 1>at the company. Yeah, so it wouldn't be that, Oh,

0:50:23.920 --> 0:50:25.360
<v Speaker 1>you went off and became a mum, so you're going

0:50:25.440 --> 0:50:27.840
<v Speaker 1>to start where you were. It's like, no, we trust

0:50:27.880 --> 0:50:30.399
<v Speaker 1>that you've continued to grow and evolve and now when

0:50:30.400 --> 0:50:32.120
<v Speaker 1>you come in, you're going to take on that role.

0:50:32.200 --> 0:50:35.200
<v Speaker 1>And I loved seeing that because it was why would

0:50:35.239 --> 0:50:38.000
<v Speaker 1>someone get penalized for going off to do the most,

0:50:38.880 --> 0:50:41.239
<v Speaker 1>to do the most in the world? How have you

0:50:41.280 --> 0:50:43.560
<v Speaker 1>allowed yourself? And I'm really intrigued by this, and I'm

0:50:43.600 --> 0:50:46.319
<v Speaker 1>asking this question on behalf of all my friends people

0:50:46.360 --> 0:50:48.560
<v Speaker 1>who ask me this question, I always say I need

0:50:48.560 --> 0:50:50.439
<v Speaker 1>to ask a mom because I'm not qualified to answer

0:50:50.520 --> 0:50:54.480
<v Speaker 1>this question. How do you deal with mom guilt? In

0:50:54.920 --> 0:50:59.120
<v Speaker 1>the idea that you are an ambitious business person who

0:50:59.200 --> 0:51:02.000
<v Speaker 1>wants to do eight of things who loves what they do,

0:51:02.600 --> 0:51:04.480
<v Speaker 1>and then you deal with the challenge that but what

0:51:04.560 --> 0:51:07.799
<v Speaker 1>if I miss that moment with my kid or what

0:51:07.920 --> 0:51:11.080
<v Speaker 1>if I'm not a part of that moment of their growth?

0:51:11.480 --> 0:51:15.440
<v Speaker 1>How have you dealt with that? Because I think that's

0:51:15.480 --> 0:51:17.880
<v Speaker 1>the hardest thing that I from. When I speak to

0:51:17.880 --> 0:51:20.839
<v Speaker 1>women today who are mums, they just say to me, go, Jay,

0:51:21.040 --> 0:51:23.440
<v Speaker 1>I miss being able to be that person. But at

0:51:23.440 --> 0:51:25.240
<v Speaker 1>the same time, I don't want to miss this moment

0:51:25.280 --> 0:51:28.480
<v Speaker 1>with my kid. And that is sounds like the hardest

0:51:28.520 --> 0:51:31.160
<v Speaker 1>place it is. And you know, the way I look

0:51:31.200 --> 0:51:35.399
<v Speaker 1>at this is life is not about either or. It's

0:51:35.400 --> 0:51:38.439
<v Speaker 1>about finding a way to create an end and it's

0:51:38.520 --> 0:51:40.959
<v Speaker 1>it is very, very hard to make it work, Jay,

0:51:41.040 --> 0:51:44.319
<v Speaker 1>it is I mean, just being completely honest, Yeah, there

0:51:44.400 --> 0:51:48.560
<v Speaker 1>isn't right. But I when we sold Creating Cultivate and

0:51:48.560 --> 0:51:50.960
<v Speaker 1>we were going through the diligence process, I was pregnant

0:51:51.000 --> 0:51:54.120
<v Speaker 1>with my daughter Ava. Even now, when I look at

0:51:54.120 --> 0:51:57.360
<v Speaker 1>the photos that we have online of you know, the

0:51:57.360 --> 0:52:00.920
<v Speaker 1>announcement of the sale, I was thirty six weeks pregnant

0:52:00.920 --> 0:52:03.160
<v Speaker 1>in the photo. But hey, look at that, and I go,

0:52:03.200 --> 0:52:05.440
<v Speaker 1>Ava's in the photo with me, right, She's there in

0:52:05.480 --> 0:52:09.239
<v Speaker 1>the announcement page. It was really hard, right because I

0:52:09.280 --> 0:52:12.239
<v Speaker 1>didn't take a day off from Eternity leave. I had

0:52:12.280 --> 0:52:15.360
<v Speaker 1>to work through the transaction and the sale. And somebody

0:52:15.360 --> 0:52:17.640
<v Speaker 1>could look back at that and say, that was so hard.

0:52:17.680 --> 0:52:20.120
<v Speaker 1>What was going on when we had the closing call.

0:52:20.239 --> 0:52:22.680
<v Speaker 1>It was online on zoom for the sale. I was

0:52:22.760 --> 0:52:24.880
<v Speaker 1>nursing my daughter at the time, so I had the

0:52:24.920 --> 0:52:27.320
<v Speaker 1>camera off and everybody said, hey, we can hear Ava,

0:52:27.440 --> 0:52:29.160
<v Speaker 1>we can do all this stuff. And somebody can look

0:52:29.160 --> 0:52:32.320
<v Speaker 1>at that and say, and every mom has their own journey.

0:52:32.360 --> 0:52:34.239
<v Speaker 1>For some people, it's good for them not to work

0:52:34.280 --> 0:52:37.120
<v Speaker 1>and stay at home. For me, the type of person

0:52:37.200 --> 0:52:39.040
<v Speaker 1>that I am, and I don't need to feel bad

0:52:39.080 --> 0:52:42.359
<v Speaker 1>about it. I love working. I love being out there,

0:52:42.440 --> 0:52:44.880
<v Speaker 1>and you know what I'm gonna love doing. I'm gonna

0:52:44.920 --> 0:52:48.120
<v Speaker 1>love telling my daughter the story of how she was

0:52:48.200 --> 0:52:51.360
<v Speaker 1>born and the village and the army of people that

0:52:51.440 --> 0:52:53.440
<v Speaker 1>stepped in to come and help me out so that

0:52:53.480 --> 0:52:55.719
<v Speaker 1>I could get through the transaction. I felt like I

0:52:55.760 --> 0:52:58.040
<v Speaker 1>had my baby straps from my back and I'm going

0:52:58.040 --> 0:53:00.400
<v Speaker 1>out there and I'm doing all these great things. And

0:53:00.440 --> 0:53:03.560
<v Speaker 1>the fact that I was able to get and be

0:53:03.600 --> 0:53:07.440
<v Speaker 1>a part of getting a company sold that focused on

0:53:07.520 --> 0:53:13.839
<v Speaker 1>live events during a global pandemic while pregnant. I will

0:53:13.880 --> 0:53:16.520
<v Speaker 1>always have that and I get to tell my daughter

0:53:16.640 --> 0:53:20.319
<v Speaker 1>Jay what I did when I was having her and

0:53:20.360 --> 0:53:22.279
<v Speaker 1>what she can be able to go and do in

0:53:22.320 --> 0:53:25.520
<v Speaker 1>the world. So what my thought for people is who

0:53:25.600 --> 0:53:27.920
<v Speaker 1>have mom guilt, that they have work and they have

0:53:28.000 --> 0:53:30.279
<v Speaker 1>personal life and all of these things going on, is

0:53:30.960 --> 0:53:34.040
<v Speaker 1>you have to first take care of yourself and then

0:53:34.080 --> 0:53:36.200
<v Speaker 1>you can take care of the child. It's the old

0:53:36.680 --> 0:53:39.479
<v Speaker 1>story right of the airplane when the air masks come down.

0:53:39.880 --> 0:53:41.919
<v Speaker 1>First you put it on yourself and then you put

0:53:41.920 --> 0:53:43.640
<v Speaker 1>it on the child. And you have to take care

0:53:43.680 --> 0:53:47.560
<v Speaker 1>of yourself first. And this comes back to self care

0:53:47.600 --> 0:53:50.799
<v Speaker 1>and mental health everything else. If you don't take care

0:53:50.840 --> 0:53:56.600
<v Speaker 1>of yourself first, you can't be the best mom. After

0:53:56.680 --> 0:54:00.440
<v Speaker 1>my first child, I dealt with severe postpartum and it

0:54:00.480 --> 0:54:04.160
<v Speaker 1>was very, very hard. I went back to work very early.

0:54:04.200 --> 0:54:06.640
<v Speaker 1>I started a new job, this job at Create and Cultivate,

0:54:07.320 --> 0:54:10.239
<v Speaker 1>and I remember thinking, I have to push through this.

0:54:10.400 --> 0:54:13.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm not a good mom. I'm not great. If I

0:54:13.360 --> 0:54:15.920
<v Speaker 1>can't make this work for my child, what's wrong with me?

0:54:15.960 --> 0:54:19.719
<v Speaker 1>I thought all these things. I started working when my

0:54:19.800 --> 0:54:23.880
<v Speaker 1>son was seven weeks old. Within two days, I stopped crying.

0:54:24.560 --> 0:54:27.400
<v Speaker 1>I was crying all the time. It's a part of postpartum.

0:54:27.840 --> 0:54:31.160
<v Speaker 1>Within two days I stopped crying, and everybody around me

0:54:31.200 --> 0:54:33.800
<v Speaker 1>would say, why are you working so soon? Your baby

0:54:33.880 --> 0:54:36.839
<v Speaker 1>needs you this? That, And I said, I need me

0:54:37.200 --> 0:54:39.200
<v Speaker 1>When I go to work and I can focus on

0:54:39.239 --> 0:54:41.360
<v Speaker 1>the things I'm great at. I feel good and I

0:54:41.360 --> 0:54:43.640
<v Speaker 1>feel confident, and then I get to go home and

0:54:43.719 --> 0:54:46.360
<v Speaker 1>be the best mother to my son. And this is

0:54:46.360 --> 0:54:50.200
<v Speaker 1>again when I had my first child, and I think

0:54:50.239 --> 0:54:53.440
<v Speaker 1>that mom guilt Again, I've used this phrase, but it's

0:54:53.440 --> 0:54:57.200
<v Speaker 1>an unconscious bias. It's there from other people, but it's

0:54:57.239 --> 0:55:01.280
<v Speaker 1>also there from ourselves. And every mom has their own journey.

0:55:01.360 --> 0:55:03.520
<v Speaker 1>And you need to do what's right for you and

0:55:03.600 --> 0:55:09.479
<v Speaker 1>your child. And there is no wrong. There's actually no wrong. Yeah, First,

0:55:09.480 --> 0:55:11.399
<v Speaker 1>you got to take care of yourself. The second thing

0:55:11.440 --> 0:55:14.000
<v Speaker 1>for me that worked out very well is I created

0:55:14.040 --> 0:55:17.440
<v Speaker 1>what I call a life team. You know, and we

0:55:17.520 --> 0:55:20.240
<v Speaker 1>create these teams at work, but you have to create

0:55:20.280 --> 0:55:22.920
<v Speaker 1>these teams around you with your life. I have an

0:55:22.960 --> 0:55:27.040
<v Speaker 1>amazing supportive husband, I have phenomenal parents, my parents. My

0:55:27.160 --> 0:55:30.040
<v Speaker 1>mom is my coach, right, she talks to me every

0:55:30.080 --> 0:55:32.520
<v Speaker 1>time I'm driving in the car, helping me sort through things.

0:55:32.520 --> 0:55:36.799
<v Speaker 1>She's phenomenal. Right. My in laws are amazing. They help

0:55:36.880 --> 0:55:38.839
<v Speaker 1>with my kids all the time. I don't know what

0:55:38.880 --> 0:55:41.359
<v Speaker 1>I would do without them. I have some friends who

0:55:41.400 --> 0:55:44.480
<v Speaker 1>are always there. You know, you create this great team

0:55:44.560 --> 0:55:48.480
<v Speaker 1>of people around you, and what that has allowed me

0:55:48.520 --> 0:55:52.239
<v Speaker 1>to do is spend what I think are the important

0:55:52.239 --> 0:55:55.000
<v Speaker 1>moments with my kid by both of my kids. So

0:55:55.120 --> 0:55:58.279
<v Speaker 1>right now, every Friday, the second half of Friday, I

0:55:58.320 --> 0:56:02.040
<v Speaker 1>take off and three other Friday I'll take out one

0:56:02.080 --> 0:56:05.080
<v Speaker 1>of my kids just for mommy and me time. My

0:56:05.120 --> 0:56:07.040
<v Speaker 1>son's name is in there. He's so cute and he goes,

0:56:07.400 --> 0:56:10.719
<v Speaker 1>is it mamma? And in their time, it's the sweetest thing.

0:56:10.800 --> 0:56:15.080
<v Speaker 1>He's a little over three, right, But to me, that's

0:56:15.160 --> 0:56:18.279
<v Speaker 1>more important than hearing a word that he said for

0:56:18.320 --> 0:56:22.600
<v Speaker 1>the first time, or seeing my daughter do something different

0:56:22.680 --> 0:56:24.839
<v Speaker 1>like she turned over a different way. She's just over

0:56:24.880 --> 0:56:28.560
<v Speaker 1>one right for me, that time I get to spend

0:56:28.600 --> 0:56:31.760
<v Speaker 1>with them one on one. For me, that's what's important.

0:56:32.320 --> 0:56:34.959
<v Speaker 1>Everybody will have their own though that's important for them.

0:56:35.239 --> 0:56:37.040
<v Speaker 1>I love that. I think, I think, I mean, I

0:56:37.080 --> 0:56:39.400
<v Speaker 1>took so much away from that, but I think the

0:56:39.520 --> 0:56:44.000
<v Speaker 1>ultimate answer is that there is no wrong like recognizing

0:56:44.080 --> 0:56:48.000
<v Speaker 1>that however you're functioning and dealing with it and as

0:56:48.040 --> 0:56:50.359
<v Speaker 1>long as there is time. I love what you said

0:56:50.400 --> 0:56:53.000
<v Speaker 1>when you said I needed me right Like, I think

0:56:53.000 --> 0:56:56.680
<v Speaker 1>that's so powerful, like I needed me and and when

0:56:56.680 --> 0:56:59.600
<v Speaker 1>we all full, we are able to give ourselves to others.

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's the old cliche, but it's true. But hearing

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<v Speaker 1>that from you is really powerful. Now, you've been so

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<v Speaker 1>generous with your time today and I actually absolutely love

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<v Speaker 1>everywhere we've gone. But I do want to talk a

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<v Speaker 1>bit about and this is the last question I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to ask you before we go to our final five,

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<v Speaker 1>which you're aware of because you're a listener, so you

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<v Speaker 1>know that we're going to end with our rapid fire around.

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<v Speaker 1>But before that, you launched New Money Ventures. Yes, which

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<v Speaker 1>is your fund? You know you're investing in lots of

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<v Speaker 1>exciting companies and brands. How are you deciding what to

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<v Speaker 1>invest in? What is it that you, as an investor

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<v Speaker 1>look at. I think that would be really educational for

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<v Speaker 1>our audience who potentially may want to have investors one

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<v Speaker 1>day and raise one day. What are the things you

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<v Speaker 1>look for. There's two big things I look for. One

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<v Speaker 1>is the market opportunity, right, so what can this actually

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<v Speaker 1>grow into? And then number two is the founder. We're

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<v Speaker 1>investing in early stage, so for us, that's going to

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<v Speaker 1>be seed in Series A companies. I know that things

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<v Speaker 1>are going to change no matter what. There's gonna be upstairs,

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<v Speaker 1>going to be downs with a lot of these startups.

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<v Speaker 1>We want to be able to invest in the right

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<v Speaker 1>people who can pivot along with those changes. And those

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<v Speaker 1>are the two big things of how we look at

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<v Speaker 1>which companies we're going to invest in. Amazing, very clear.

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<v Speaker 1>It's very clear, very concise. Yes, very clear, very simple.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it all right, So we're gonna end with

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<v Speaker 1>a final five, So nay, I'll go on. Oh, of

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<v Speaker 1>course I was gonna say. I have to tell you too.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been listening to this podcast. I listened to it

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<v Speaker 1>all the time on the drive to class. I love

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<v Speaker 1>it so Tuesdays and Thursdays right now I go to

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<v Speaker 1>class and it takes me about forty five minutes to

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<v Speaker 1>an hour, perfect, perfect timing. I love it. And sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>I told you, I tell my students to quote. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>actually pull it from some of your podcasts. I love that,

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much. That means the world to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that of course that I'm a part of

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<v Speaker 1>your day and my class is day two. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>love that. That means the world to me. Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>so much. So now you can put a quote from

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<v Speaker 1>your own podcast now when you listen to it on

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<v Speaker 1>the way. So something you said. Okay, so Nick comard

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<v Speaker 1>your final five. The first question is what is the

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<v Speaker 1>best advice around money you've ever received. My dad would

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<v Speaker 1>always tell me this, and you'd say, when you have money,

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<v Speaker 1>everybody wants to give it to you. When you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have money, nobody wants to give it to you. And

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<v Speaker 1>the reason that's something to be very cognizant about is

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<v Speaker 1>about how you manage your finances from a personal side

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<v Speaker 1>but also from a work side. Love that great, great answer,

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<v Speaker 1>We've never had that before. All right, Second question, what

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<v Speaker 1>is the worst money or finance advice you've ever heard?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, there's a lot of people who get up

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<v Speaker 1>on panels and things and they'll say, just go out

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<v Speaker 1>there and get the money, Just go out there and

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<v Speaker 1>raise it. Yeah, and there's a lot of fluff behind that.

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<v Speaker 1>You need to be able to support it. You need

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<v Speaker 1>to be able to show that you can, that you

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<v Speaker 1>have the right business behind it. And the last thing

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<v Speaker 1>that you want to do is I mean, I hear

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<v Speaker 1>all these I says of you know, drain your four

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<v Speaker 1>oh one k, go out there if you believe in

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<v Speaker 1>what you're doing. I'm all about faith. I left my

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<v Speaker 1>job right. I did all of these things. But you

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<v Speaker 1>do need to be able to have some support before

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<v Speaker 1>you completely drain out your four oh one k. And

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<v Speaker 1>you need to make sure that you're financially doing the

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<v Speaker 1>right thing for your business. That's great. Love that question

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<v Speaker 1>number three? How would you define your current purpose to

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<v Speaker 1>leave the world in a better place than I found it?

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<v Speaker 1>I love that. It's beautiful. Question number four, if someone

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<v Speaker 1>has just failed, what would be your best advice to them?

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<v Speaker 1>Right now? Get up and start again right away, don't

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<v Speaker 1>even think about it. Brilliant. I love that that was

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<v Speaker 1>very quick, very quick. You'll really wrap it. This is

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<v Speaker 1>good or fifth and final question. We asked this to

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<v Speaker 1>every guest. If you could create one law in the

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<v Speaker 1>world that everyone had to follow, what would it be?

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<v Speaker 1>Don't judge other people? I love that. I think we're

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<v Speaker 1>all so quick, especially in the media world today, we're

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<v Speaker 1>so quick to judge everybody around us, and I think

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<v Speaker 1>that if we were to take a step back and

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<v Speaker 1>know that everybody has something that they're coming from, and

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<v Speaker 1>just not to judge them and not already have our

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<v Speaker 1>own listening of what we're when they're talking, what we're

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<v Speaker 1>listening to, and not judge, but create a space for

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<v Speaker 1>them to say or do whatever they want. I think

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<v Speaker 1>that'd be amazing. Everyone. That's Naha Kumar and everyone. You

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<v Speaker 1>need to share this episode with someone who is starting

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<v Speaker 1>a business, just failed running one, figuring it out. I

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<v Speaker 1>believe this was one of the most rural, honest, open

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<v Speaker 1>conversations where Naya didn't hold back at all. We really

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<v Speaker 1>got stuck into some really difficult topics and territory. Naya,

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<v Speaker 1>where's the best place that people can find you, follow you,

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<v Speaker 1>connect with you? If people are like I need more

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<v Speaker 1>of Naya's advice in my life, where's the best place? Absolutely?

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<v Speaker 1>So I do have my Instagram profile right Nihat Kumar,

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<v Speaker 1>I will be starting up a couple of things as well,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I'll be putting it through my Instagram links.

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<v Speaker 1>Also amazing. So Naha Ti Kumara on Instagram Please go

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<v Speaker 1>follow her. Please go and tag me and Naha on

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<v Speaker 1>Instagram and on any other platform that you're using, to

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<v Speaker 1>tell us what resonated with you, what stood out to you,

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<v Speaker 1>what connected with you. I'd love to know you might

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<v Speaker 1>even end up in one of her classes. But thank

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<v Speaker 1>you so much for listening and watching today. Please pass

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<v Speaker 1>this one on. I think it's going to impact a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people and I can't wait to have you

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<v Speaker 1>back for another episode of On Purpose. Thank you so much, Naha,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you