WEBVTT - Thunder Down Under & Lala’s Trip to NYC 0:00:06.080 --> 0:00:09.040 Hello, and welcome to the Give Them Wall of podcast? 0:00:10.400 --> 0:00:12.440 Is that Heather McDonald's Yeah, it's an honor of me 0:00:12.520 --> 0:00:14.800 doing her show last week. I had the best time. 0:00:14.840 --> 0:00:17.760 It hit like number four on Like I mean, she's 0:00:17.800 --> 0:00:20.800 always in the top ten per podcast. All I do 0:00:20.880 --> 0:00:24.880 is promote Heather Talk podcast. This podcast. I'm obsessed. I 0:00:24.920 --> 0:00:25.520 know it's funny. 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:29.120 She like really has just mastered her craft. 0:00:29.680 --> 0:00:31.720 You know, yeah, she don't give up. Fuck no. 0:00:31.920 --> 0:00:35.360 That episode did so well and it makes me want 0:00:35.440 --> 0:00:38.400 you to have her on here and have you guys talk. 0:00:38.560 --> 0:00:40.080 She needs to be on this podcast. 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:41.120 She hasn't been in a while. 0:00:41.200 --> 0:00:43.600 What is that? I know, I'm gonna ask her to 0:00:43.640 --> 0:00:47.479 do the podcast. Yeah, and I'm excited. Bravocn I leave tomorrow, 0:00:47.720 --> 0:00:49.720 Oh my god, yep, I'm gonna land. 0:00:50.560 --> 0:00:51.960 I'm gonna go get dinner with Heather. 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:56.160 Then I am going to get drinks Perry for me, 0:00:56.440 --> 0:01:01.280 drinks for the other fam with Josh Flag, Heather McDonald, 0:01:01.840 --> 0:01:07.600 Jeff Lewis like the whole gang so fun yeah, MJ. Yeah, 0:01:07.680 --> 0:01:08.520 it'll be a whole vibe. 0:01:08.520 --> 0:01:09.520 I'm really you guys gonna go. 0:01:09.640 --> 0:01:12.000 I actually wouldn't you know. And it's so funny. Because 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:14.920 Jeff was. We did his show last week as well, 0:01:15.640 --> 0:01:18.759 and he was like, I'm saying uptown, so we'll come 0:01:18.800 --> 0:01:20.640 downtown and then we'll go to And I'm like, what 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:23.280 the fuck are you talking about? I have no idea what. 0:01:23.640 --> 0:01:26.240 I've been to New York a billion in one times 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:28.560 and I still have no idea where I am. Yep, no, 0:01:28.800 --> 0:01:29.160 me too. 0:01:29.160 --> 0:01:31.200 When we were just there and we were staying in Soho, 0:01:31.640 --> 0:01:35.240 a friend of ours was like, so, you're staying downtown 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:37.120 and I was like, no, we're staying in Soho and 0:01:37.160 --> 0:01:38.360 he's like, same fucking thing. 0:01:39.360 --> 0:01:43.000 I don't know. I liked it though, because the the 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:44.960 boy that I saw while I was there, he also 0:01:45.080 --> 0:01:48.160 had no idea what was happening and where anything was, 0:01:48.560 --> 0:01:51.360 so it made me feel good that we together were like, 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:53.600 I need to send the car you downtown or and Soho. 0:01:53.640 --> 0:01:56.960 I was like, I don't know. I think it might 0:01:57.000 --> 0:01:58.160 be the same same thing. 0:01:58.400 --> 0:02:00.640 Who knows, And there's probably some New Yorkers listening like 0:02:00.840 --> 0:02:02.000 it's not the fucking same thing. 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:05.279 It's not even close, So who knows. Whatever, Yeah, okay, 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:09.000 la wee hoo. I'm here in the car. I don't 0:02:09.040 --> 0:02:10.959 really care. And then it was like, you want a 0:02:11.000 --> 0:02:13.240 black car or an suv. I was like, I don't 0:02:13.280 --> 0:02:16.280 give a fuck, Just send the fucking car. 0:02:16.400 --> 0:02:19.120 You really don't, You really don't, because I've requested us 0:02:19.720 --> 0:02:23.000 black cars and I've requested us minivans, and your attitude 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:24.799 towards both of them is the exact same. 0:02:24.960 --> 0:02:26.280 Get in, get me to where I need to be. 0:02:26.480 --> 0:02:30.959 It's wheels. I don't care for infusions, all of them. No, 0:02:31.040 --> 0:02:33.160 And I'm like, as much as I appreciate you caring 0:02:33.200 --> 0:02:38.120 so much, I've noticed that me being single now, I 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:40.200 don't know if it's just like the men that I 0:02:40.280 --> 0:02:43.200 talk to, they tend to like get very. 0:02:43.000 --> 0:02:44.080 Nervous around me. 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:45.520 Yeah, why do you think that is? 0:02:45.600 --> 0:02:47.560 I don't know. Just get the job done, dude. 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:52.840 It's because you're an elevated woman. So they're in my. 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:54.640 Eventally, I'm elevated, for sure. 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:58.040 No, but like in a lot of areas, in most areas, 0:02:58.080 --> 0:03:02.399 so I think they're probably elevating. Like, Okay, a lot 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:05.119 of here's the thing, a lot of women, I think 0:03:05.200 --> 0:03:08.320 in your position who've worked hard to get where they 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:11.519 are that stuff is important to them. You're gonna send 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:13.560 me a fucking black car or I'm not coming to 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:16.400 your house like all those little things. But once people 0:03:16.440 --> 0:03:19.000 get to know you, like you could care less. 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:23.519 Yeah, no, you're right, because yeah, I couldn't care less. 0:03:23.560 --> 0:03:25.520 And I asked him for the address, and you would 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:27.880 not send me the address, and I was like why, 0:03:27.919 --> 0:03:29.280 he goes, why do you need the address? I go 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:31.480 because if I'm calling a car, I need to know 0:03:31.520 --> 0:03:32.720 where to tell them to go. 0:03:32.919 --> 0:03:33.079 Right. 0:03:33.200 --> 0:03:35.520 What type of bitches are you messing with? Where It's like, 0:03:35.520 --> 0:03:37.640 I can't send the address, you may become a stalker. 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:39.640 I was like, I'm just looking. I just want to 0:03:39.680 --> 0:03:40.840 know where to tell the driver to go. 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:42.119 That what you think? 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:44.720 And he was like, I would rather call you a car. 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:46.920 I'm like, fine, just do it. Yeah. 0:03:47.120 --> 0:03:49.560 Also, I'm gonna see the nine. 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:51.760 I'm gonna come there and I could literally just see 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:54.720 where it drop a pin. By the way, you told 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:57.760 me nine, it's nine thirty. Now I'm getting pissed off. 0:03:57.800 --> 0:04:00.680 See in that stuff too. I feel like, you know, 0:04:01.120 --> 0:04:03.680 dating scene is different these days. I would be terrible 0:04:04.120 --> 0:04:06.480 you that stuff matters to you. They can't tell you 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:09.200 nine and then roll around and be like at ten, 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:11.560 hit you up and be like what's up? Oh no, no, no, 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:15.320 you're in bed already if they tell you nine, right. 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:18.279 I gave him mentally, I made a window. I was like, 0:04:18.600 --> 0:04:22.720 he says nine, I'm gonna give until nine thirty. If 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:25.560 he would have told me the car's there and it 0:04:25.680 --> 0:04:29.840 was nine thirty two, Yeah, I chose to do something different. 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:33.760 I ain't coming to Brooklyn to let you hit. Yeah 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:36.279 you said nine thirty, you know. 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:39.039 And also that's getting so late for you. 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:41.760 Very late for me, very late. 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:46.320 After that, good good, I was rejuvenated. I didn't even 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:46.800 go to bed. 0:04:47.400 --> 0:04:49.599 We never talked about We never talked. 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:51.480 About we have to talk about this, you guys, because 0:04:51.520 --> 0:04:53.160 we had a flight go ahead. 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:55.279 The car was picking us up. This is when we 0:04:55.320 --> 0:04:57.640 went for the shop. If I pop up in New York, Yes, 0:04:57.680 --> 0:05:01.239 in New York, and I've been talking to this dude 0:05:01.600 --> 0:05:09.680 for a while, he's an athlete over there. Now nine 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:11.160 thirty the car shows up. 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:13.719 I go to Brooklyn. That's late for me. 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:16.600 Yeah, Like I'm watching First forty eight for about five 0:05:16.640 --> 0:05:20.680 hours by now, and I was just like rejuvenated after 0:05:20.800 --> 0:05:22.839 and literally the car was picking us up to go 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:25.680 to the airport at five thirty am. Just text me 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:30.159 at like five point fifteen, saying that she'll be to 0:05:30.200 --> 0:05:32.320 my room soon. I was like, to help me pack. 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:34.159 I was like, bitch, I'm packed. 0:05:35.320 --> 0:05:37.159 Here's what it was. I text her at five point 0:05:37.160 --> 0:05:40.840 fifteen and I say like, yeah, maybe something like hey, 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:43.080 reminder cars coming at five thirty. I'll be to your 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:45.840 room in a few minutes. And Lala was like, yeah, 0:05:45.960 --> 0:05:48.560 I'm packed. Me thinking, oh, she must have gotten up 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:50.840 at the same time I did, which, because by the way, 0:05:51.200 --> 0:05:55.039 it was Saturday night. Laala went to her dick appointment 0:05:55.160 --> 0:06:00.560 and I went to the SNL premiere of this So. 0:06:00.600 --> 0:06:02.880 I wanted you told me I was and it was 0:06:02.920 --> 0:06:07.640 the choice. Yes, the SNL whatever. Granted it was great. 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:11.360 I think that from what I heard after, you made 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:14.120 the right choice. I had the greatest time at the premiere, 0:06:14.279 --> 0:06:18.280 but sounded like you had a blast. So but I'm 0:06:18.320 --> 0:06:20.719 feeling all high and mighty because I'm like, oh, I 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:24.520 was up until eleven thirty. Like I'm gonna tell Lala, 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:27.599 I'm so tired. She's probably gonna be so surprised, like 0:06:27.600 --> 0:06:30.760 I'm getting up early. I show up, roll my suitcase 0:06:30.800 --> 0:06:33.760 Talala's room, knock on the door. She opens all bright 0:06:33.800 --> 0:06:36.520 eyed and bushy tails, I'm like, oh, good morning, and 0:06:36.560 --> 0:06:38.120 she goes, I haven't been to bed yet. 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:42.320 I was like, what, No, Like feeling myself, I said, 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:44.120 what time did you go to bed? She's like, oh, 0:06:44.120 --> 0:06:45.239 I haven't been to sleep yet. 0:06:45.440 --> 0:06:48.080 And I then I'm just like, you know, me, feeling like, 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:49.719 oh I only got a few hours asleep. What am 0:06:49.760 --> 0:06:50.200 I twenty? 0:06:50.880 --> 0:06:53.640 I really tried to not get the D all right, Yeah, 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:57.000 I knew. I told myself, you're not hitting it this time. 0:06:57.040 --> 0:06:58.880 You're gonna be back in New York for Bravo Con. 0:06:58.920 --> 0:07:00.760 That's when you can do it. But then he started 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:03.720 doing something with my ear and I was like, fuck it, 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:07.080 fucking fucking I don't care. 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:10.640 No, it sounded like you'd have blast, didn't she. 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:13.640 I was shocked. He was all hot and tall and shit, 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:18.160 oh I know, and you looked incredible. 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:19.840 You were glowing. That's why I was like, oh my god, 0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:21.280 she must have gotten a full night's sleep. 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:23.920 No, that's what happens. Just I know that is a 0:07:23.960 --> 0:07:26.800 real thing. When you get the D, you glow after, 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:32.160 you know, that's a real Yeah. Amber told me okay 0:07:32.840 --> 0:07:38.600 that when she had sexy time with her fiance for 0:07:38.640 --> 0:07:40.680 the first when they first started dating, she had had 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:42.520 a boob job. I really hope she'd be so okay 0:07:42.600 --> 0:07:46.520 with you telling this story, but she said, because I 0:07:46.560 --> 0:07:49.760 told her my skin like after I finally went to 0:07:49.800 --> 0:07:53.000 bang Town, my face looked different, like my skin was glowing. 0:07:53.080 --> 0:07:56.400 And she said her she had a boob job and 0:07:56.480 --> 0:07:59.400 her boobs were like rock hard, and after she had 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:03.440 sex with her partner for the first time, her boobs 0:08:03.480 --> 0:08:06.119 released got soft. Stop. Yep. 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:08.560 See, that makes me wonder there's got to be some 0:08:08.600 --> 0:08:11.800 sort of science behind it, like the hormones or like 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:15.040 the even like the endorphins. Something about sex. It's like 0:08:15.160 --> 0:08:17.840 it lightens a person. Yeah, but you can I have 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:21.560 sensual good sex. Yeh sensual good sexy. It does lighten 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:23.960 a person. But you told me because I felt like 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:25.680 I was doing really well. I was like, I got 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:27.920 four on the roster right now, and that seems like 0:08:27.960 --> 0:08:29.720 a lot. And you were like, you gotta have at least. 0:08:29.480 --> 0:08:34.640 Eight, eight, which, by the way, that's more. That is 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:37.640 more men than days in a week. That is seven 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:39.959 jess one hear me out a new one for every night, 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:42.000 Like I wouldn't even do that, but I'm just saying 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:42.839 eight is a lot. 0:08:43.080 --> 0:08:45.880 Well, it's okay. So first off, I lived by that 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:48.520 for a couple of years, so there's that. But the eight, 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:50.960 when I say eight as a single woman, that is, 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:53.200 you guys have been with Kyle for six years, so 0:08:53.280 --> 0:08:56.440 this is in my twenties. But as when I say 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:58.640 eight men on the roster when you're a single woman, 0:08:58.880 --> 0:09:01.880 I think that, well, well, to me, that means because 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:05.360 I always had two to three that were just communicators. 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:08.360 They weren't necessarily oh, just texting buddy texting buddies, but 0:09:08.559 --> 0:09:10.760 they weren't in the friend zone because we would and 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:12.920 I know you hate this, but like maybe sex or 0:09:13.040 --> 0:09:15.559 like talking like horny text or we talk on the 0:09:15.720 --> 0:09:20.000 phone or FaceTime, or like I would be like, hey, 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:22.120 I'm drunk, are you sober? Come pick me up, and 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:24.440 we'd be flirty. We love those like I think I 0:09:24.520 --> 0:09:26.800 made out with one of them, but like those three 0:09:26.800 --> 0:09:28.720 guys were mainly just texters. 0:09:28.760 --> 0:09:32.319 And like, so you're saying eight, but not in this 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:36.800 sexual rotation eight dudes. That one is one, two, three 0:09:36.880 --> 0:09:41.360 or four. Like, hey, I'm feeling myself right now, I'm drunk. 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:43.680 Yeah you can just like they're there, yes, and like 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:46.160 I'd be like I would wear like a top with 0:09:46.320 --> 0:09:48.320 side boot and send a picture and how's this look? 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:50.560 And he would just like, you know, one of them 0:09:50.600 --> 0:09:52.040 would just like light me up and be like, oh 0:09:52.040 --> 0:09:54.480 my god, you're so hot. We never hooked up though, okay. 0:09:54.640 --> 0:09:56.480 Or I'd be pissed at one of the guys and 0:09:56.520 --> 0:09:58.679 I'd call them and I'd be like this guy literally 0:09:58.800 --> 0:10:01.080 just hooked up with last night, and like we would 0:10:01.160 --> 0:10:03.400 vent and he would be like, yeah, this girl, and 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:06.440 like it was more than a friendship. And this was 0:10:06.480 --> 0:10:10.000 like with three of them, but we never fully hooked up. 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:14.199 So those are like on your roster and like maybe 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:17.040 it's always like sexual tension, but you never fully go there. 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:19.920 It's fun to have that with some. But then I 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:22.640 was like four to five guys because it made it 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:27.840 so that like none of us were like we weren't 0:10:28.160 --> 0:10:30.760 what's the word, Like we didn't expect the four to 0:10:30.880 --> 0:10:33.040 five guys, We didn't expect anything from each other. I 0:10:33.080 --> 0:10:35.400 would go like a couple months without talking to one 0:10:35.400 --> 0:10:38.840 of them, okay, and then but they were I knew 0:10:38.880 --> 0:10:41.559 I was in my like single not eraw. 0:10:41.679 --> 0:10:42.960 Then I was in my single. 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:45.760 Phase, like my hoe ish phase, and I just like 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:48.240 guys would disappoint me. So I'm like, well, if this 0:10:48.280 --> 0:10:53.760 guy doesn't respond, guy, yes, I'm feeling myself. And it's 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:55.800 like seven pm and I text this one guy and 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:57.920 he doesn't respond within thirty minutes. Well guess what. 0:10:58.120 --> 0:10:58.520 Moving on? 0:10:58.720 --> 0:10:59.760 Moving on totally. 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:00.920 How do you feel about that? 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:02.080 I feel great about it. 0:11:02.120 --> 0:11:05.120 I think that that makes way more sense because I 0:11:05.160 --> 0:11:07.840 was like eight dudes on the hit it roster. It 0:11:07.840 --> 0:11:09.840 seems like a lot. You know, you got a book 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:10.720 two in one day. 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:14.240 Yeah, yeah, per week because you were thinking of it 0:11:14.280 --> 0:11:16.199 per week. There's some you don't go, you go a 0:11:16.240 --> 0:11:16.839 couple months. 0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:20.480 Yeah, But there's also there's a roster. And I think 0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:24.000 this is for all chicks. Roster for like, these are 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:27.760 the dudes. You keep them at arms length, you don't 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:29.800 let them in. You keep your guard up that way 0:11:29.880 --> 0:11:33.000 because what happens. And I learned this, which I think 0:11:33.040 --> 0:11:35.200 is just like a known fact. But I remember in 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:40.880 psychology when I went to community college, they showed the brain, right, 0:11:41.080 --> 0:11:43.480 yeah that was hooked up when two people were having sex. 0:11:44.120 --> 0:11:46.079 The female brain was. 0:11:46.200 --> 0:11:50.319 All emotion like lit the fuck up? Okay. The male 0:11:51.160 --> 0:11:54.960 brain was all about the pleasure, like oh okay, you 0:11:55.000 --> 0:11:59.480 know so for me, for me in order for me 0:11:59.600 --> 0:12:02.079 to not get attached, because I'm a woman and I'm 0:12:02.080 --> 0:12:03.520 not going to sit here and be like no, I 0:12:03.559 --> 0:12:06.520 think like a man, I don't get attached. I can 0:12:06.640 --> 0:12:08.840 very well get attached, right if I don't keep the 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:11.600 guard up. Right, if I let the guard down and 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:15.400 then we sleep together, slippery slope, I don't want it right. 0:12:15.720 --> 0:12:20.600 So that's interesting, and I think, yeah, I think that's 0:12:20.800 --> 0:12:25.040 because that's another thing that's good to mention. Not a 0:12:25.080 --> 0:12:27.199 single guy on my roster when I was single, I 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:29.360 would have dated a couple of them had said like, 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:31.280 I want to be your boyfriend, and I would like 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:34.840 laugh and be like, no, you don't. But like, for instance, 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:39.240 when I met Kyle, I knew after our first date 0:12:39.360 --> 0:12:40.640 and the fact that like he took me out on 0:12:40.640 --> 0:12:44.840 an actual date, I knew. Okay, I either at this moment, 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:47.480 I choose to date this guy and drop everyone off 0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:50.600 my roster, or I let him know ahead of time. 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:54.079 There's just certain people for you. Is Kyle like, looking 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:56.800 back when you first met him, was he the type 0:12:56.800 --> 0:12:58.960 of dude physically that you were normally attracted to? 0:12:59.760 --> 0:13:03.040 Yeah? But it's funny because and I hate fucking saying this, 0:13:03.120 --> 0:13:05.880 and all my girlfriends are like, that's so cliche. Kyle 0:13:06.080 --> 0:13:08.480 was like the first guy in a long line of 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:11.760 not a long line, but that out of guys I 0:13:11.760 --> 0:13:13.560 had dated or hooked up with, that I was like 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:17.200 the most physically attracted to. Really Yeah, And I was like, Okay, 0:13:17.400 --> 0:13:19.760 A lot of the other guys were like funny, or 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:24.480 they were like country music singers, or they were like Tennessee. Yes, 0:13:24.480 --> 0:13:27.400 I was in Tennessee. Or they were like producers, and 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:30.360 I was like more attracted to and I'm not really 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:32.400 a shamed to say it their personality and what they 0:13:32.440 --> 0:13:35.040 did rather than like the way they looked as much. 0:13:35.240 --> 0:13:37.600 Yeah, but that's I think that's just a young brain. Yeah. 0:13:37.640 --> 0:13:39.040 I was like, oh, that's so hot. They have a 0:13:39.120 --> 0:13:40.280 number one song. 0:13:40.160 --> 0:13:42.120 Like, yeah, I thought that. It's like when I was 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:44.600 in when I was young, I was like, but he's 0:13:44.640 --> 0:13:49.560 like the star player for us. Yes, is gonna get drafted. 0:13:49.720 --> 0:13:52.160 It's the idea of the idea of the person. 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:52.480 Yeah. 0:13:52.480 --> 0:13:54.439 And then you grow up and you're like, you know what, 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:58.400 I'm going to like change this way of thinking because 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:01.479 it's not you Just you grow up and you realize 0:14:01.640 --> 0:14:04.439 a life partner what you want in that person, and 0:14:04.720 --> 0:14:07.360 sometimes what you think you want it doesn't turn out 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:09.559 the way you thought it would. Yeah, Like, at this 0:14:09.640 --> 0:14:13.720 point in time, you have to challenge me mentally. I 0:14:13.760 --> 0:14:15.920 don't want to sit here and only talk about what 0:14:16.000 --> 0:14:19.520 we did during the day for our jobs, because your 0:14:19.640 --> 0:14:20.880 job is not who you are. 0:14:21.160 --> 0:14:24.280 Yeah right, Yeah, no exactly, And that's so important and 0:14:24.400 --> 0:14:28.040 our physical features top for you at this point? 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:30.480 Or is it? Like if I'm not physically attracted to 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:33.840 you and if I can't keep my hands off of you, 0:14:34.360 --> 0:14:37.640 that is what I want. Yeah, so I want that. 0:14:37.640 --> 0:14:41.400 That is very important to me. Like it's got to 0:14:41.440 --> 0:14:43.600 be like, oh my gosh, we're at dinner and I 0:14:43.720 --> 0:14:47.280 need to be on top of you right right along 0:14:47.320 --> 0:14:50.120 with all the other stuff, along with all the other stuff. Yeah, 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:54.120 So when someone tells you you can't have it all, 0:14:54.680 --> 0:14:57.800 you have to compromise. No, you don't, No, you don't, 0:14:57.760 --> 0:15:00.280 because because I would rather be alone. 0:15:01.040 --> 0:15:03.640 And that's what I said before, right literally right before 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:05.600 I met Kyle, I was like, I'm going to live 0:15:05.640 --> 0:15:09.640 the single life. I'm gonna get a sperm donor I'm 0:15:09.640 --> 0:15:12.480 going to be the most badass single mom. Like you've 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:15.200 ever met. I had this whole plan, like I was 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:17.320 like ready, and then I met Kyle and I was like, oh, 0:15:17.320 --> 0:15:19.920 this is a guy you like settled down with. I 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:22.680 didn't meet him and go, oh, adam, he's hot and 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:25.200 he's at the time, he's like a producer and he 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:27.200 was a he was doing fitness on the side, and 0:15:27.240 --> 0:15:29.280 I'm like, oh my god, everything I want. He's hot, 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:32.560 he's driven. Let's add him to the roster. That's when 0:15:32.600 --> 0:15:34.680 I was like, oh no, no, this is a different connection. 0:15:34.720 --> 0:15:36.040 I either so there's two. 0:15:35.920 --> 0:15:39.360 Legs, yes, leave this guy alone, yep, or drop my 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:41.160 guys from the roster and like just do that. 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:43.760 By the way, Yeah, there's the two rosters. The one 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:46.200 you you smash and then the ones that are like okay, 0:15:46.240 --> 0:15:48.960 I like you. Yeah, but those dudes can never go 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:49.720 over to the other. 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:51.760 No, no, no, no go. 0:15:52.080 --> 0:15:54.280 If it starts getting too much, you cut him off. 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:56.600 If if I had added Kyle to my roster and 0:15:56.640 --> 0:15:58.680 I was like not going to date this guy emotionally, 0:15:58.880 --> 0:16:00.800 I would have been a wreck. My heart would have 0:16:00.800 --> 0:16:02.440 been in it. But if I didn't let myself like 0:16:02.520 --> 0:16:04.400 date him like I want to be single, I would 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:06.160 have been fucked up. I would have been like and 0:16:06.160 --> 0:16:08.360 I would have fucked with him, because he wasn't very 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:11.240 like like like that guy. No, he was very He's 0:16:11.360 --> 0:16:14.760 very monogamous and has relationship had just got Kyle, he 0:16:14.880 --> 0:16:16.680 did you marry? Yeah, he had just gotten out of 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:19.920 like a four year relationship, So that would have been Honestly, 0:16:19.960 --> 0:16:22.920 at that point, if I said to Kyle, I just 0:16:22.960 --> 0:16:25.640 want to hook up, he would have most likely said, oh, yeah, no, 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:27.760 I'm not into that. Buy like. He would have been 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:28.280 like moving on. 0:16:28.840 --> 0:16:31.760 You know what, though, I was nervous at first, you 0:16:31.840 --> 0:16:34.760 know this, to start having sex again, because number one, 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:38.920 I'm sober now and I've never done that before. And 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:42.600 I started getting nervous because I had only been with 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:48.359 the hot, the very hot and very available emotionally, physically 0:16:48.560 --> 0:16:49.040 all of it. 0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:50.760 He's staying first. 0:16:50.560 --> 0:16:52.760 He's staying the very first dude that you'll see on 0:16:52.840 --> 0:16:56.000 vander Pump. So I'm with this dude. I'm like, I'm 0:16:56.040 --> 0:16:58.520 not sleeping with him because I'm nervous. And then the 0:16:58.560 --> 0:17:01.280 ear thing starts happening and I was ready. Can I 0:17:01.320 --> 0:17:03.600 tell you in that moment, I was like, I still 0:17:03.600 --> 0:17:04.240 fucking got this. 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:06.880 Yeah, wait, you meant like you were ready to. 0:17:06.800 --> 0:17:09.640 Go, Oh my god, why the hand stands? 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:11.119 Where do you want me to hang from? 0:17:11.520 --> 0:17:14.880 I was in it, like, I'm back, you know, I'm 0:17:14.920 --> 0:17:17.119 not afraid. What do you want to do right? What 0:17:17.320 --> 0:17:18.640 do you want to do right? 0:17:19.440 --> 0:17:23.480 Okay, let's say this. Let's just say hypothetically you're back 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:28.200 in New York. Yeah, hypothetically for Bravo Cohn hypothetically, and 0:17:28.359 --> 0:17:29.159 you guys meet up. 0:17:29.200 --> 0:17:32.080 I'm smashing. Oh that's what. 0:17:32.240 --> 0:17:34.280 But are you nervous again? Or you're like no, I'm great. 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:35.720 I'll probably get nervous right before. 0:17:36.240 --> 0:17:36.760 Oh my god. 0:17:36.760 --> 0:17:39.240 That's cute though, because I don't have anything to calm 0:17:39.280 --> 0:17:41.560 my nerves right, you know, so I can get in 0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:43.760 my head and be like, what if it's different than. 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:44.320 The last time? 0:17:44.880 --> 0:17:48.040 I hope it is? You know why we won't talk 0:17:48.080 --> 0:17:49.880 about it? Poor poor guy. 0:17:50.040 --> 0:17:52.399 She had fun, though she left feeling like a bad bitch. 0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:56.159 I can tell you that. Yes, I'm so hyped on 0:17:56.240 --> 0:17:59.640 today because we have I sat next to this guy 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:03.400 as she his wedding Kurt. He's a thunder down under man, 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:07.280 which means he does thunder down under in Vegas. Yes, 0:18:07.920 --> 0:18:09.840 because I'm like, what do you call them like? Chippendale's. 0:18:09.840 --> 0:18:12.720 You call them chipp'd Chippendales, yeh, I call these hot 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:16.920 men thunder Down under Men. We have Kurt and Alex 0:18:17.080 --> 0:18:20.360 and I'm so excited because I'm so horny all the time. 0:18:20.440 --> 0:18:25.720 Now I don't get it, but I am. And I'm 0:18:25.760 --> 0:18:28.560 hyped because they flew in from Vegas to do the 0:18:28.560 --> 0:18:31.800 podcast and they said that we could give tickets away, 0:18:31.960 --> 0:18:33.879 and you know that I love to give shit away. 0:18:34.080 --> 0:18:36.840 So this is what's happening to you, guys. 0:18:36.960 --> 0:18:37.600