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Speaker 2: Meg is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named James.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and
Speaker 2: see if I tells us why he's ghosting her and
Speaker 2: maybe get her another date. But first, Meg, how long
Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from James.
Speaker 3: Here's the deal.
Speaker 1: We live in the same building, so I actually saw him. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I know, so I see him in the elevator all
Speaker 1: the time. So I actually saw him like this morning,
Speaker 1: and uh, it's a little bit awkward just because of
Speaker 1: all of this. So but I haven't heard, like, he
Speaker 1: hasn't kind of followed up by a text or phone,
Speaker 1: which is what I was kind of waiting for, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean.
Speaker 4: Yeah, So, did you reach out to him other than
Speaker 4: seeing him in the elevator. No.
Speaker 1: Well, here's so at the end of our date, which
Speaker 1: went really well, by the way, so that's yeah, So
Speaker 1: I was sort of expecting a call, and then this
Speaker 1: morning when I saw him, I just kind of was like,
Speaker 1: I have to say some things I haven't heard from him,
Speaker 1: So I just said like, like, hey, you know, do
Speaker 1: you want to go for dinner sometime, And he basically
Speaker 1: said I'll get back to you, which I feel like
Speaker 1: is a bad sign.
Speaker 5: Yeah probably, Yeah, yeah, exactly right.
Speaker 1: But it was so great, Like we went to this
Speaker 1: trivia night that he had been telling me about because
Speaker 1: you know, I had seen him in the elevator. We'd
Speaker 1: make small chat all the time. I actually have a
Speaker 1: tiny confession that I would kind of plan to be
Speaker 1: in the elevator when he was there.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I was like, oh, if I keep running into
Speaker 6: this guy, so yeah, so I kep like running into
Speaker 6: him and we were chatting and he had told me
Speaker 6: with this trivia night, and then finally he asked me out,
Speaker 6: which I was really psyched about, and we just like
Speaker 6: had this great night.
Speaker 1: We even went back to his place afterwards and we
Speaker 1: had a great night cap and I don't want to
Speaker 1: be not PG thirteen, but we had a pretty great
Speaker 1: kid at the end of it. So so anyway, that's
Speaker 1: why I was totally expecting to hear from him. So
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't.
Speaker 4: Know, well, did something happen, did anything actually go down
Speaker 4: on the date that may have made it a little
Speaker 4: bit awkward or that you felt like was a turning point.
Speaker 1: Well, here's obviously I have been analyzing this for days
Speaker 1: because it's all I can even get sure. So yeah,
Speaker 1: so the only thing. So I started to go, Okay,
Speaker 1: maybe it was this because like my sister, she's going
Speaker 1: through a bit of a bad kind of breakup right now.
Speaker 1: She's a single mom, so she's having a hard time.
Speaker 1: She did call me a couple of times. Oh, it
Speaker 1: might have been like three or four times when we
Speaker 1: were on the date, and I did answer because I
Speaker 1: just knew, you know, and at the time I wasn't thinking.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I've got to answer. It's my sister,
Speaker 1: you know, she needs me. But I'm kind of wondering
Speaker 1: did that kill the vibe? And does he think I'm rude,
Speaker 1: you know for answering the phone so much? And then
Speaker 1: I'm like, if he did that to me, yeah, would
Speaker 1: I be a little pissed. So I'm wondering if that's it,
Speaker 1: did he say.
Speaker 5: Anything about it, or did he seem annoyed by that?
Speaker 1: Okay, full disclosure. One of them may have come when
Speaker 1: we were kind of making out a little bit, So
Speaker 1: I guess he seemed a little annoyed when that got
Speaker 1: cut off, but he didn't say anything. It was just
Speaker 1: kind of I kind of feel like, I guess, yeah,
Speaker 1: that was kind of the end of the night sort
Speaker 1: of thing. So but he didn't say anything about it,
Speaker 1: Like he just was like, Okay, you know, good night.
Speaker 4: Did he know who you were talking to? Like, did
Speaker 4: he know that was your sister that was calling?
Speaker 1: I mean, I told him it was. But now I'm thinking, like,
Speaker 1: did he believe me? Does he think that, you know,
Speaker 1: I was, you know, screwing away to talk to some
Speaker 1: other guy, Like does he think I'm in a relationship
Speaker 1: or something like? Now, I'm not sure because that's what
Speaker 1: I told him, But I don't know. Would I be
Speaker 1: suspicious probably to be honest.
Speaker 5: So what was the last thing you texted him?
Speaker 1: The last thing? Oh, the last So the last thing
Speaker 1: I texted him was had a great time, you know, thanks,
Speaker 1: thanks for the thanks for the night, because of course
Speaker 1: he paid for dinner and you know everything. So I said,
Speaker 1: thank you, I hope to see you again. And then
Speaker 1: that was after I left, and then I didn't hear
Speaker 1: anything back from that, and then saw him in the
Speaker 1: elevator this morning. So that's where we're at.
Speaker 5: That's awkward.
Speaker 2: That's an awkward elevator, right, all right, we'll see if
Speaker 2: we can figure it out for you. Then we'll play
Speaker 2: a song come Back, and then call him and see
Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why is ghosting you and maybe
Speaker 2: get you another date?
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, all right, thanks guys.
Speaker 2: Okay, we'll play a song come back. Gave your first
Speaker 2: a follow up next if you're just joining us for
Speaker 2: today's first day follow up. Meg is on the phone
Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named James. So
Speaker 2: we're about to call him and see if he'll tell
Speaker 2: us why is ghosting her and maybe get her another date.
Speaker 2: But before we do that, Meg, why don't you catch
Speaker 2: everybody up on your situation?
Speaker 7: Yes?
Speaker 1: Okay, So I went out with this amazing guy, James,
Speaker 1: who lives in my building. I see him all the
Speaker 1: time in the elevator. He finally asked me out. We
Speaker 1: had a great time, there was even some makeouts. But
Speaker 1: it's been like, oh my god, it's been weeks now.
Speaker 1: He has not responded to my last text, and I've
Speaker 1: recently seen him in the elevator and basically said, hey,
Speaker 1: do you want to go for dinner sometime, and he
Speaker 1: basically said I'll get back to you, which doesn't feel positive.
Speaker 2: Yeah all right, And the reason you think you might
Speaker 2: be getting ghosted is because you kept answering your phone, right,
Speaker 2: I did.
Speaker 1: My sister kept calling during the date and she's having
Speaker 1: a tough time, so I did keep answering my phone. Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: to be honest.
Speaker 2: So yeah, all right, Well are you ready for us
Speaker 2: to call him and see if I tell us why?
Speaker 7: Oh? Good?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I'm ready. I'm nervous, but I'm ready.
Speaker 5: Here we go. Hi, I'm asking to James. Please.
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is changed, James.
Speaker 5: How you doing?
Speaker 7: Man?
Speaker 2: My name is Jewbell. I'm calling from a radio show.
Speaker 2: It's called The Jewbel Show.
Speaker 4: Hi, James, the show's here too. I'm Nina, Hi, and
Speaker 4: I'm Victoria.
Speaker 5: How are you?
Speaker 7: Hey?
Speaker 3: I'm good? What's up? Not much?
Speaker 5: Have you heard the show before?
Speaker 4: Ever?
Speaker 3: Have something to do with like first dates or something? Yes?
Speaker 5: Actually it does.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: We do a segment on the show it's called the
Speaker 2: first Day follow Up, So where if you go out
Speaker 2: on a date with somebody and you up ghosting them,
Speaker 2: they can email us to get you on the phone
Speaker 2: and ask why.
Speaker 5: So, we got an email about you from somebody. That's
Speaker 5: why we're calling.
Speaker 7: Oh my god, I actually have before. Oh my god,
Speaker 7: Oh my god.
Speaker 5: Yes, we got an email about you.
Speaker 4: Okay, are you sting somebody?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 5: You have any idea who?
Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, I'm pretty sure I know what you're talking about.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, who do you think it is?
Speaker 3: Meg? Yes?
Speaker 5: It is Meg. She also told us she saw you
Speaker 5: this morning in the elevator. That's awkward.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yep, we did. We're in the ovator.
Speaker 7: We live in the same building, so it's kind of
Speaker 7: hard not to sometimes.
Speaker 2: Can you tell us why you're ghosting her? She said
Speaker 2: she really liked you a lot. She's confused.
Speaker 7: Yeah, all right, here's the story. So, I mean, yeah, honestly,
Speaker 7: we did have a great date. I had a good time,
Speaker 7: and you know, she's super nice, beautiful. I think we
Speaker 7: did have some chemistry. But the real deal breaker for me,
Speaker 7: and this might sound like a small thing, but it's
Speaker 7: big to me, she let it slip that she doesn't
Speaker 7: like dogs, and that is a huge deal.
Speaker 3: Breaker for me.
Speaker 5: Do you have a dog?
Speaker 3: No, I don't have a dog.
Speaker 7: Right now, we're not allowed to have dogs in our buildings.
Speaker 3: But I'm planning on buying a house someday and I
Speaker 3: definitely am getting a dog when I have my house.
Speaker 3: I grew up a dog. I love dogs. It's just
Speaker 3: something I can't live without having in my life.
Speaker 4: I wonder what she would say, though, if you were like,
Speaker 4: I need to have dogs.
Speaker 8: But what did she say? Like she say like she
Speaker 8: absolutely hated dogs. She just didn't like them, she's allergic
Speaker 8: to them.
Speaker 7: Well, she was complaining about one of her friends bogs
Speaker 7: and just kind of complaining about the smell and the
Speaker 7: mess that I make all the time, and just kind
Speaker 7: of like was like, you know, complaining about this one dog.
Speaker 7: But then like let it get to the point of like,
Speaker 7: and that's because of that I don't like dogs at
Speaker 7: all and not for me. It was like, you're gonna
Speaker 7: judge all dogs based off this one dog that it
Speaker 7: is not for me.
Speaker 3: That's just not for me, man.
Speaker 5: So that's it, just that she doesn't like dogs that honestly, Yeah.
Speaker 3: It's a huge deal breaker for me.
Speaker 7: Like you like, sure you could, you can tolerate dogs,
Speaker 7: but I got to have a dog, and I can't
Speaker 7: foresee myself having a future with somebody who just can't
Speaker 7: live with a dog.
Speaker 3: In their lives.
Speaker 4: Ran, everybody's got their thing. I've never met anybody that
Speaker 4: doesn't like dogs.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I haven't either.
Speaker 8: But also I would do try to say, like Devil's Advocate,
Speaker 8: like it could be maybe her friend just really is
Speaker 8: bad take like not great at taking care for dogs?
Speaker 4: Is that like bad to say?
Speaker 7: I could see that, But you know, then you then
Speaker 7: you like you got to feel some pity for that
Speaker 7: dog and not just complain about it. You talk to
Speaker 7: your friend, right, That's it was just a total deal
Speaker 7: breaker for me.
Speaker 3: The way you had to hear it.
Speaker 7: I don't know, it's just to say the things that.
Speaker 3: She was saying, because it was it was a gut
Speaker 3: punch to me.
Speaker 2: Maybe you should just ask her because she is on
Speaker 2: the phone listening and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, hy Jane's.
Speaker 3: Hey, yeah, hey, I fort about this.
Speaker 1: Part I got. I can't believe this, Like my god,
Speaker 1: and if I had like a hundred guesses, I would
Speaker 1: never guess this is why you're ghosting me.
Speaker 3: Listen. It's just like, this is why I didn't want
Speaker 3: to bring it up.
Speaker 7: It feels like a little thing to a lot of people,
Speaker 7: but it's a big thing to me. It's a big
Speaker 7: part of my life. And you know, I really did
Speaker 7: feel like we had some chemistry and you know, and
Speaker 7: but just it's a hard no.
Speaker 3: For me that it's a real deal breaker.
Speaker 1: But oh my god, we did.
Speaker 3: Listen, I agree.
Speaker 1: I think we had like amazing chemistry, including on that night,
Speaker 1: like the build up to our first date all that stuff.
Speaker 1: And I guess I'm just like, okay, what if it
Speaker 1: was like I'm okay, I could learn to be okay
Speaker 1: around dogs, like I just wouldn't like kept them as
Speaker 1: if I was around a dog, I could be okay
Speaker 1: with dogs. If not that I think they're evil, I
Speaker 1: just don't like them. They're like I do think they're messy.
Speaker 1: And there's all these dog here everywhere and like whatever.
Speaker 1: But I mean, does that change.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm talking about. This is this is what
Speaker 3: I'm talking about.
Speaker 7: This is a no for me, absolutely not Like you
Speaker 7: can't even get for a sentence without saying something negative.
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess, but like it could be worse.
Speaker 1: I just feel like there's so many worse things. Like
Speaker 1: it's not like I'm like a murderer or like a stalker, like,
Speaker 1: and I would like, those are real reasons to not
Speaker 1: be with somebody.
Speaker 7: I just feel like, I don't know, someone who doesn't
Speaker 7: like those could be a murderer.
Speaker 5: Okay, So I just feel like this is.
Speaker 1: Such I mean, is that a thing like where you like,
Speaker 1: don't trust people who don't like people say that, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, what does that even mean? Like you don't
Speaker 1: trust people who don't like dogs like or you absolutely.
Speaker 3: Don't trust people who don't like dogs. That is a
Speaker 3: hard line. Absolutely don't try.
Speaker 7: You know, I was thinking it might have been fun
Speaker 7: for a one night stand, which is why I let
Speaker 7: it get as far as it did.
Speaker 3: But I'm kind of done at this point. It's a
Speaker 3: hard note for me.
Speaker 1: Wow, okay, And now knowing that you were just like
Speaker 1: hanging on for one night stand starts to make it
Speaker 1: feel like a no for me too. So that was
Speaker 1: a little a little much to hear. So what do
Speaker 1: I and now if this is great? We live in Like,
Speaker 1: what am I supposed to do? When I see you
Speaker 1: in the elevator? We can ignore all of this?
Speaker 3: And well, I don't know, you know what time I
Speaker 3: ride the elevator every day? Maybe you can avoid getting
Speaker 3: in the elevator with James.
Speaker 2: Would you like to go on another day with Meg?
Speaker 2: Will pay for it?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 3: Thank you?
Speaker 1: Okay, I mean I thought yeah, if I mean we
Speaker 1: could get together and talk it out in person and.
Speaker 7: Not like this. No.
Speaker 3: Thanks, I do not want to be murdered.
Speaker 5: All right, Well I guess you got your answer. Meg
Speaker 5: and James. Thank you. Thank you for telling us.
Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you. I really do like the show.
Speaker 5: Thanks, thank you, Jules.
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