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Speaker 1: Wine Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello ladies, we're all together again.

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Speaker 1: I forget that y'all were here last week. I know

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Speaker 1: you were here for like a half second.

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Speaker 2: Literally same because I got the little alert from the podcast.

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Speaker 3: I knew.

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh, And then I was like what

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Speaker 2: was this? And I pressed play. I was like, oh my.

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Speaker 4: Gosh, I did the same thing. I was like, when

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Speaker 4: was this?

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Speaker 3: I was like, oh what, I missed you?

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Speaker 4: And they don't look familiar.

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Speaker 1: So a lot of times I'm like, you know, I

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Speaker 1: might not be in the clip, so I'm like, was

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Speaker 1: I there?

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Speaker 4: Was I not? Then I was like, what are they wearing?

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Speaker 4: Like I don't remember this.

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh wait, I was gone. It was

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Speaker 2: literally the day. Yeah, the next day I got back

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Speaker 2: from Paris and the next day I left. I forget

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Speaker 2: because you were just gone. But I mean I was

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Speaker 2: pretty much sleeping through the episode.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, Honey, how are we doing over there? You're like,

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Speaker 3: you awake, You're doing good, You're doing great. But now

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Speaker 3: we're all back. I missed you, Kay, cambrayk to you.

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Speaker 3: I think I vote myself most likely to have separation

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Speaker 3: anxiety when we're away from each other. No me. Never.

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Speaker 3: Yesterday I was like, don't tell me too much about

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Speaker 3: your vacations. But high girls, I miss you. I do

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Speaker 3: just miss you and I love that y'all. Like I

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Speaker 3: want to know about fall break. Tell me everything. You're

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Speaker 3: on a yacht.

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Speaker 2: It was just so funny because it came after the

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Speaker 2: y everyone's like you.

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Speaker 4: I was like, oh my gosh, that's so funny.

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Speaker 3: Like, yes, it was, Yeah, I mean it was.

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Speaker 2: I felt bad I weren't there, oh to be on

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Speaker 2: the boat with I can't swim, so I.

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Speaker 3: Don't feel any I don't feel boats. It is something

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Speaker 3: you guys could always do sures in the invite. Maybe

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Speaker 3: if there's a life preserver and a little more low

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Speaker 3: I might make my way, But I'm most likely going

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Speaker 3: to pass on anything on the water, even really on

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Speaker 3: a boat like that size, well, I mean that is

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Speaker 3: really a boat at that point. It is again it's

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Speaker 3: more of like a building. But no, I would do

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Speaker 3: that probably, but it's not my first pick.

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Speaker 5: No.

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Speaker 3: Interesting things we learned.

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Speaker 4: About each other decades, Yeah, a lot about you.

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Speaker 2: So you'd rather be on land than see for sure.

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Speaker 2: I love to look at the water. I'll put my

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Speaker 2: toes in it. Sure, sure, yeah, I mean it's just

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Speaker 2: like the late girl in me. I'm just not a

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Speaker 2: big like what Lies beneath kind of great movie.

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Speaker 3: By the way, it's so good.

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Speaker 5: So good.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know that literally one of my favorites.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's good.

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Speaker 2: I mean Michelle Pfiffer in that movie. Sorry, yeah, squirrel moment.

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Speaker 3: But you went on a boat together, you had fun.

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Speaker 3: I didn't know that was going to be a thing,

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Speaker 3: and I was like, wait, you're on a boat and

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Speaker 3: you're so cute. We kind of talked about, yeah, are

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Speaker 3: you going.

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Speaker 1: So like, you know, I'm always planning on going. We

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Speaker 1: go with like the cheer Mom friends, and you know,

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Speaker 1: we've had a lot of kind of ups and downs

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Speaker 1: in the last you know whatever, and so last year

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Speaker 1: if she was there, but they're about twenty minutes away

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Speaker 1: and I didn't get to see her last year. And

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Speaker 1: you know, when you stay with someone, you kind of

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Speaker 1: feel like you have.

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Speaker 3: To, like funny be something I have pinned.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, well you know how you feel like you

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Speaker 1: kind of have to be with them and you feel bad, like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to leave and go see you know, so

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Speaker 1: That's how I've always kind of felt, honestly. So this

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Speaker 1: last time, I was like, we've got a new family

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Speaker 1: that's staying with us, We've kind of changed some things up,

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Speaker 1: and I don't even know how long they're going to

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Speaker 1: be there. There was no like I had to be,

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Speaker 1: you know. So I was like a call Jane. I

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Speaker 1: was like, we're doing stuff this year, Like, let's do stuff.

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Speaker 1: So we kind of talked about doing about I did

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Speaker 1: not know I was showing up to a yacht either,

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Speaker 1: just so we're very.

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Speaker 3: Clear, this is so Cramy.

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Speaker 1: I'm told Ramsey she was going on a pontoon and

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Speaker 1: then we get there and he's like, this is no pondtoon.

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Speaker 4: No, Ramsey's like, what's a pond tuon? We'll just going

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Speaker 4: to start with the yacht for you, honey.

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Speaker 3: That really sends the groundwork, yes, So but it ended

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Speaker 3: up being good.

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Speaker 1: The family ended up still being there. But I was like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I wasn't sure how long y'all going to be there,

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Speaker 1: And it was totally fine. Like they went and did

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Speaker 1: their thing and we went did that for a little while.

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Speaker 1: I left the teens back there, and even though I

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Speaker 1: made Amy very jealous, I text her, I go, welp,

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Speaker 1: we're on a yacht.

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Speaker 4: Sorry.

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Speaker 3: She was like, well, this is a good lesson learned

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Speaker 3: that when your parents are inviting to do something, you

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Speaker 3: just go.

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Speaker 4: I didn't fight her. I didn't even.

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Speaker 6: Oh wow, well, savage cat. Here's the deal. The way

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Speaker 6: we do fall Break is it is one for the teens.

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Speaker 6: They are running around with their friends in seaside, like

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Speaker 6: I barely see them, and so I just didn't think

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Speaker 6: that she would want to and she would have loved

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Speaker 6: it for like an hour, but then she'd be like, Okay,

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Speaker 6: I want to go see my friends.

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Speaker 4: You know, why do I have this?

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Speaker 1: They get on their bike and they're gone like all

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Speaker 1: day long. So that's just kind of what fall Break

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Speaker 1: is for them. So no, she never got invited, so

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Speaker 1: she she was kind of bummed about it though, but

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Speaker 1: it was amazing.

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Speaker 4: It was so much fun. The kids were so cute

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Speaker 4: out four.

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Speaker 2: Hours four hours you okay, that's great. And it was

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Speaker 2: one of those things where when I did you.

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Speaker 3: Book this Bookay?

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Speaker 2: Well, when I was looking it up, there was I

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Speaker 2: saw them on Instagram and I was kind of looking

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Speaker 2: at looking at the different boats and so there's different

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Speaker 2: options where like you could get you can get a

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Speaker 2: pontoon with a slide, you can get you could get

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Speaker 2: a yacht, and I was I was really trying to

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Speaker 2: break it down. I'm like, all right, last year we

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Speaker 2: went on the pontoon and I again had a very

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Speaker 2: terrible parenting moment where Jolie swim with basically the sharks.

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Speaker 4: I thought we were doing that again. By the way.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like, it's fine, everything will be Fine's

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Speaker 1: chum Okay.

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Speaker 2: Again, I still am like, how did I even allow

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Speaker 2: this to happen? But it's fine, So she's fine.

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Speaker 3: She caves it. Please don't right to us.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so you know that happened, and so I'm like,

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Speaker 2: we already did that. But having Roman at that age

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Speaker 2: on that boat, trying to keep him on that boat

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Speaker 2: was also a struggle, right, I guess a lot of anxiety.

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Speaker 2: I'm starting to think. I'm like, I don't want to

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Speaker 2: We don't have any sitters in thirty A. We had

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Speaker 2: one that our the baby Quip company that we used

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Speaker 2: for his crib. She had offered us one last year,

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Speaker 2: but she wasn't available this year.

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Speaker 3: So I was like, I.

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Speaker 2: Don't want to not do it. But at the same time,

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Speaker 2: I feel like being on a pontoon for four hours

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Speaker 2: with Roman is also going to be a little bit

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Speaker 2: more challenging because he's just doesn't want to just sit down,

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Speaker 2: and I think he needs a little bit more room

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Speaker 2: to play. And then I'm like, in a locked door yeah,

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Speaker 2: I mean truly, that age is busy. Yeah, And I

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Speaker 2: would feel safer with him on a bigger boat, and

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Speaker 2: I think the kids would have more fun. We would

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Speaker 2: have more fun. And I just I am again, you

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Speaker 2: guys know me. I don't like to spend money, right, Why,

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Speaker 2: I'm shocked you're on a YPP No, But friendship wise,

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Speaker 2: you do love for experiences and for family stuff. I

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Speaker 2: will spend the money. It's just if it's an experience

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Speaker 2: that everybody's going to enjoy it. My friends are going

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Speaker 2: to enjoy it, my kids are going to enjoy their

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Speaker 2: kids are going to enjoy I am like, it's worth

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Speaker 2: the money.

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Speaker 4: Yes.

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Speaker 2: Now again, that's where I just am like, it's about

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Speaker 2: the experience that everyone's going to have fun.

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Speaker 3: Let's do it.

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Speaker 2: So I'm like, you know what, Yolo, let's book the

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Speaker 2: app for four hours. I love a good sunset too,

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Speaker 2: so we'll do a post nap where he's had his

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Speaker 2: nap out this you know, fun. We got to jump

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Speaker 2: off the boat too, and Catherine stayed on the boat.

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Speaker 2: She she was the girl.

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Speaker 1: I stayed back, which I'm not scared usually, but I

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: It was weird.

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Speaker 6: I might call that scared and discuss, but that's because

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Speaker 6: I get older, I might be getting a little bit

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Speaker 4: Literally was like, I think, okay, I would I.

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Speaker 3: Would like to say in my anxious world that my

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Speaker 3: awareness grows.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's growing for me. Yeah, app also grows. But anyways, yes,

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Speaker 1: I took one go after it.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, and I feel like everyone had a really

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Speaker 3: nice time. It was you had sandwiches, It was beautiful.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was. The kids were playing Uno inside the thing.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 1: We saw some dolphins that was so like right when

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Speaker 1: we started, dolphins were like going out with us. I

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Speaker 1: mean it was dolphins, Like it was amazing.

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Speaker 2: It was an add on, but it was great, and

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Speaker 2: I just I think, again, experiences like that together are work,

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Speaker 2: are worth that.

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Speaker 3: I thought it was great. I texted Jani message here

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Speaker 3: on Instagram and I was in caps lock and I was.

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Speaker 4: Like, you guys are so cute, how much it.

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Speaker 1: Was so well, and it's like you think about like

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Speaker 1: to me that because you know that's where all spend

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Speaker 1: money too, is on vacations and stuff like that, like

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Speaker 1: those like Ramseys will never forget that, you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean? Like that to me is just like she

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Speaker 1: won't like she will always remember that. That will be

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Speaker 1: a memory. She will talk about everything we've done on

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Speaker 1: vacations and it just it's just worth it to me,

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Speaker 1: you know, like they just they remember those things.

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Speaker 2: I would rather do that for a family than buy

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Speaker 2: myself a nice pair of agreed shoes or the shoes too.

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Speaker 2: But for me, it's like I'd rather spend that money

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Speaker 2: like that is where I'm going to allot my extra money, Yes,

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Speaker 2: for that one time for fall break. You know, I

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Speaker 2: married you to everybody literally this is Preston. I want

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Speaker 2: everybody to have fun, Like it was great seeing Nick

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Speaker 2: and Catherine have Nick's.

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Speaker 4: Never having that.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure right. And my thing is it's I think it's.

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Speaker 2: I would like the person next to you to ask. Now, granted,

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Speaker 3: Or something, right, right, so I would be like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 2: But it's the fact that you're at least asking the

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Speaker 3: Now?

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Speaker 2: Granted we're on a public beach. You can do what

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Speaker 2: that around you that I think bothers me. Now what,

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Speaker 2: I love to listen to my Christians music, which you

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Speaker 2: know I like to listen to when I'm in those places. Yes,

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Speaker 2: Maybe that's like maybe that would be offensive to them,

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Speaker 2: Maybe that they don't listen to grit, Maybe they don't

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Speaker 2: Granted, the person to my right on this day not

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Speaker 2: people that sat there were walking out to country guys.

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Speaker 2: I love country. We used to sing country music, you know.

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Speaker 2: But I don't want to hear Morganwallen on the beach

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Speaker 2: I don't want to listen to your music. It's loud.

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Speaker 2: It's drowning out my own thoughts. And now I'm getting

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Speaker 2: I actually love Morganwallen or Riley Green or whoever that's

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Speaker 3: If I'm not going to accidentally hear, my husband shut

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Speaker 2: I just find it a little bit rude and a

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Speaker 2: little selfish that you're playing your music so loud for

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Speaker 2: it's not so loud, you know, Like these kids are

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Speaker 2: it's fine. Sometimes when I'm running, I've got my I

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Speaker 2: you don't hear me anymore, right, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: It just kind of bothered me, and I'm like, man,

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Speaker 2: I don't want to be that and I would never

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Speaker 2: ever tell someone to turn it off. And I wouldn't either, no, never,

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Speaker 2: And it's you know, once I'm listening to it like

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Speaker 3: I think, Well, there's also a responsibility you have when

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Speaker 3: also like I when I'm the DJ at baseball, you know,

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Speaker 1: I definitely agree that if you're going to play music

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Speaker 6: The perimeter piece that's sure to go down like chair

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Speaker 6: But I'm kind of.

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Speaker 4: As like next to us.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I've never had that experience where it's like

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Speaker 1: I do think you should say something. I do think

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Speaker 2: But like if someone was again, I'm not the person

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Speaker 3: Because I actually do.

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Speaker 2: I do enjoy the country music, right, I just don't

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Speaker 2: next to us when I'm like, I'd like to just

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Speaker 1: I mean, and I don't love it by any means,

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Speaker 1: but I think there's a part of me that was like, Okay,

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Speaker 3: I like to be able to hear what's going on.

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Speaker 3: That's the other piece for me.

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Speaker 4: That loud. Then I definitely have a problem.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, if you can't hear the safety stuff going on,

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Speaker 3: Loud, loud enough for you to hear it. I just

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Speaker 2: Turn it you can sing along. Way, have a problem, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: just turn it down and listen. I'm in mindful of

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Speaker 2: and it's like, I know, listen, dude, I don't want

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Speaker 2: to hear your jazz music. I don't like jazz music.

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Speaker 2: No I do.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't.

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Speaker 3: Well, good to know, and.

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Speaker 4: Now we're opinion about jazz music.

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Speaker 2: Well, I also don't want to I don't like and

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Speaker 2: I don't like the boo boo boot music. Yeah music,

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Speaker 2: I can't get an anxiety.

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Speaker 3: Well, And I also don't appear like I'm such a

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Speaker 4: You know, we're too old for this.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, but I also do just like Karen, am I

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Speaker 7: too old? But I didn't say anything. Karen, A Karen,

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Speaker 7: you're getting close.

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Speaker 1: You say something, You've become a Karen.

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Speaker 3: I already have one. I'm like, no, I don't like it.

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Speaker 3: Turn it off.

441
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Speaker 4: Take a poll.

442
00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:13,560
Speaker 3: Okay, guys, I'm sorry. That just was just a topic.

443
00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:16,720
Speaker 1: At random questions like that. I hate that I didn't

444
00:18:16,720 --> 00:18:18,119
Speaker 1: have a strong opinion on it, though.

445
00:18:19,480 --> 00:18:22,480
Speaker 2: I do get both sides. I really do. I really do,

446
00:18:22,640 --> 00:18:23,760
Speaker 2: truly get both sides.

447
00:18:33,240 --> 00:18:37,320
Speaker 5: Congratulations you finally dump that dude. Now you're ready to

448
00:18:37,359 --> 00:18:40,080
Speaker 5: listen to I Do Part two. Listen to I Do

449
00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:43,560
Speaker 5: Part two on the iHeart Radio app, Apple podcast or

450
00:18:43,600 --> 00:18:45,560
Speaker 5: wherever you get your podcasts.

451
00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:50,520
Speaker 3: I actually have another question that you might have a

452
00:18:50,520 --> 00:18:51,840
Speaker 3: strong opinion on it. I don't know if we want

453
00:18:51,880 --> 00:18:53,480
Speaker 3: to use it now or pin it for another time.

454
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Speaker 3: Is it a whine about it? It could be.

455
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Speaker 4: Let's do it. Let's do it, Let's make it. Are

456
00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:02,600
Speaker 4: you a house or a hotel?

457
00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:05,080
Speaker 3: Person? Is my question. If you're going on vacation and

458
00:19:05,119 --> 00:19:08,399
Speaker 3: someone offers you their home to stay in, would you

459
00:19:08,480 --> 00:19:10,359
Speaker 3: rather stay with someone or would you rather go to

460
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Speaker 3: a hotel?

461
00:19:10,920 --> 00:19:18,120
Speaker 2: Hotel Okay, would would the people? This is a very

462
00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:21,320
Speaker 2: loaded question. It's okay, there can be a million little layers.

463
00:19:21,400 --> 00:19:24,760
Speaker 2: Are you traveling, how well do you know the people?

464
00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:29,240
Speaker 2: You would know them really well. Do they have kids?

465
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Speaker 3: No? Are you bringing your kids? Yes? I would probably

466
00:19:36,280 --> 00:19:39,560
Speaker 3: do hotel. Okay, if is there any circumstance where you

467
00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:41,560
Speaker 3: pick home over hotel, because there's.

468
00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:44,399
Speaker 2: Not for me, yes, I mean I did that really

469
00:19:44,440 --> 00:19:47,000
Speaker 2: a couple times.

470
00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:52,240
Speaker 3: And but for me it's I didn't know the people.

471
00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:56,160
Speaker 2: It was the other side, okay, and I wonder careful

472
00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:57,480
Speaker 2: because they're lovely and I don't even want to say

473
00:19:57,480 --> 00:20:00,800
Speaker 2: when or where, but like it's I don't want to

474
00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:01,480
Speaker 2: feel on.

475
00:20:02,240 --> 00:20:03,840
Speaker 3: That is my biggest issue.

476
00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:08,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to be able to not speak, not talk,

477
00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:10,879
Speaker 2: just be present with my family or feel like I

478
00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:13,919
Speaker 2: have to be on with whoever's in the house.

479
00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:14,600
Speaker 3: Now.

480
00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:17,159
Speaker 2: I will always offer my house to other people. I

481
00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:18,400
Speaker 2: do it all the time. I just said to Ben

482
00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:20,040
Speaker 2: and Nila, like when they're coming in for the premiere

483
00:20:20,119 --> 00:20:24,840
Speaker 2: or Sadie, I mean Meg, But if it was flipped,

484
00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:28,320
Speaker 2: I would do I would do a hotel. And I've

485
00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:32,119
Speaker 2: been offered like Sarah Boyd, perfect example, she's offered, she's lovely,

486
00:20:32,160 --> 00:20:36,520
Speaker 2: she's branding, you know manager, you know friend has kids,

487
00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:39,600
Speaker 2: same age, daughter, the same age as Jolie.

488
00:20:39,720 --> 00:20:40,920
Speaker 3: But there's still.

489
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Speaker 2: I was still looking at Airbnbs because it's just there's

490
00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:48,800
Speaker 2: something about that being on piece and she's one of

491
00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:55,000
Speaker 2: my dear friends. I still would just want that separation. Okay,

492
00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:58,959
Speaker 2: we're going in. Okay, let's do it, so jump one in.

493
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Speaker 3: I I also agree it's less about being a little

494
00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:05,479
Speaker 3: bit of being on for me, but more just that

495
00:21:05,680 --> 00:21:07,679
Speaker 3: the way that I'm wired, I want to leave whatever

496
00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:09,280
Speaker 3: space it is better than I found it. So I

497
00:21:09,359 --> 00:21:12,480
Speaker 3: end up spending more, spending more time cleaning, like I

498
00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:15,120
Speaker 3: want to, Yeah, I want to. If I'm a guest

499
00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:16,880
Speaker 3: in the home, I want to be the guest best

500
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Speaker 3: guess you've ever had. I want to like replenish what

501
00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:21,000
Speaker 3: my kids. I don't want to be stressed out about.

502
00:21:21,040 --> 00:21:22,960
Speaker 3: Like it's just like let me just be in my

503
00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:25,280
Speaker 3: little vacuum so that I know what they're eating and

504
00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:28,640
Speaker 3: drinking and I don't have to replenish or just kind

505
00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:30,640
Speaker 3: of exhaust me. And that's my own stuff.

506
00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:32,880
Speaker 4: Like I'm that way, but I'm not even that way,

507
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Speaker 4: and that exhausts me.

508
00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:35,800
Speaker 3: Okay, so good to me majorly.

509
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Speaker 1: And I'm not like that in my own space, but

510
00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:40,320
Speaker 1: if I'm in someone else's space, I will completely stress

511
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Speaker 1: about it.

512
00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:42,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like, is it what time is it? What

513
00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:43,119
Speaker 3: time do they want to go to bed? Do they

514
00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:44,359
Speaker 3: want to go to bed? And they're just afraid to

515
00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:46,120
Speaker 3: say they didn't want to go? Yeah, like it's it's

516
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:48,160
Speaker 3: too much. It's just all part ways and get home.

517
00:21:48,280 --> 00:21:51,159
Speaker 3: I love a kid isn't out because it's time for

518
00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:53,399
Speaker 3: bed time and they have to go. Yeah, right only but.

519
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:57,240
Speaker 2: Also kids kid wise. I mean I'm apologizing for room

520
00:21:57,280 --> 00:22:00,719
Speaker 2: and left and right. Sure I don't have to do that.

521
00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:03,080
Speaker 3: There's only one home I can stay in and I

522
00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:05,840
Speaker 3: feel completely welcome, completely myself and I don't stress out.

523
00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:07,160
Speaker 3: And that is the other half of our duo.

524
00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:09,679
Speaker 2: Like I will go and campus as you guys have

525
00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:12,040
Speaker 2: actually lived together on tour bus, yes, yeah.

526
00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:14,880
Speaker 3: And it's just we do so well together. We I mean,

527
00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:21,040
Speaker 3: it's just great. So here's where back to stereotypical Kristin again.

528
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:27,720
Speaker 3: So Christmas is coming while I know, and so I'm

529
00:22:27,760 --> 00:22:31,080
Speaker 3: trying to get ahead of where everyone will stay so

530
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Speaker 3: that we're not spending a fortune on accommodations, and Love

531
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Speaker 3: is in a big event this year. She's in the

532
00:22:37,240 --> 00:22:39,720
Speaker 3: Nutcracker for her ballet class. I know, I just send

533
00:22:39,760 --> 00:22:41,359
Speaker 3: the details out to you guys if you want to

534
00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:45,240
Speaker 3: come watch two pm and six pm showing. And so

535
00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:48,800
Speaker 3: I've invited the grandparents my mom included, to come in

536
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Speaker 3: for the Nutcracker. And then I thought we'll just buffer

537
00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:53,439
Speaker 3: with a couple of days so that we could do

538
00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:59,200
Speaker 3: our family Christmases together. And I don't think me booking

539
00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:03,879
Speaker 3: an airbnb is well received for them. For them, okay,

540
00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:06,640
Speaker 3: So I have found there's a neighborhood really really close

541
00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:10,240
Speaker 3: to ours. It's precious as walkability, shops, restaurants, it's so cute.

542
00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:13,679
Speaker 3: And I found this sweetest little bungalow house. You know me,

543
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:17,640
Speaker 3: I'm vetting it out so it's cozy. Each each bedroom

544
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:20,800
Speaker 3: has its own full bathroom, because that was this for

545
00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 3: his parents, my mom, okay, And I was going to

546
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:27,760
Speaker 3: do like a temperature check, like do you guys want

547
00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:29,200
Speaker 3: to be together? Do you want to be at a hotel?

548
00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:32,760
Speaker 3: Is that weird? But ultimately it's just for sleeping, showering,

549
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:35,960
Speaker 3: and then they're at our home all day so I thought, well,

550
00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:38,400
Speaker 3: this would feel cozy to me that I could give

551
00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 3: them this because there's no real beds at my house.

552
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:44,040
Speaker 3: There's we've lofted Legends beds. Now there's not even a

553
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:46,160
Speaker 3: bottom bunk. The baby has a crib and love has

554
00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 3: this Swee's not room for all these people there. We

555
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 3: could air mattress them or air mattress kids, but then

556
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 3: you're just you can't I have like Legends beds six

557
00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:56,560
Speaker 3: feet in the air. We just don't have the accommodations.

558
00:23:56,600 --> 00:23:59,720
Speaker 3: And we had brainstorm having accommodations by then, but we

559
00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 3: don't have that shocking, So I'm just going, how can

560
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:03,919
Speaker 3: I do this and we can just be buttoned up

561
00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:07,119
Speaker 3: and done. And I think that the original when I

562
00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:11,520
Speaker 3: sent it out, I said, you know, I've one set,

563
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:13,640
Speaker 3: was like, I'll get a hotel. And then I thought,

564
00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:16,040
Speaker 3: well that's weird. And now you're having your own experience,

565
00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 3: Like it's still cozy to me that you go back

566
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 3: at night and you could you know, even if you

567
00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 3: just say good night or you have some bond. I mean,

568
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:24,240
Speaker 3: you're the grandparents, so that's exciting to me. And our

569
00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 3: parents are never really ever have been together, like.

570
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Speaker 4: Yeah, see I wouldn't want to do that.

571
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:30,359
Speaker 2: I can I say something, I don't take us the

572
00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:32,480
Speaker 2: wrong way. I would never put two people together because

573
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:36,800
Speaker 2: then they're kind of putting them. You're making them be together.

574
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:40,359
Speaker 2: That to me will give them an option. So I

575
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:42,040
Speaker 2: just tell my mom, listen, if you want to get

576
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:45,320
Speaker 2: a hotel, you can. The problem is we're going to

577
00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:47,239
Speaker 2: have to pay for all of this. And so at

578
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:50,320
Speaker 2: the point where now I get pained at that pace, Yeah.

579
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:52,199
Speaker 3: I didn't want to pay for two separate hotel rooms

580
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:54,840
Speaker 3: for three nights. I get it, plus plus plus plus,

581
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:58,119
Speaker 3: I trust me, get it. Yeah, I know. So I

582
00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:00,760
Speaker 3: just thought, listen, this is great, it's really close. My

583
00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:02,600
Speaker 3: mom is going to get a car, which I think

584
00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:04,760
Speaker 3: will alleviate some of it, so she's not like stuck.

585
00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:07,239
Speaker 1: So is the pushback that they want to be at

586
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 1: your house or is the pushback that they're being put together?

587
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:11,639
Speaker 3: The indirect pushback is I think that they'd want to

588
00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:12,280
Speaker 3: be at our house.

589
00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:15,679
Speaker 1: Okay, so it's not about them actually together in the house, then.

590
00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:17,800
Speaker 3: No, I don't think. So, I said, I just want

591
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:19,679
Speaker 3: you all to have real beds. You deserve to have

592
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:21,040
Speaker 3: real beds in real bathrooms.

593
00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:24,320
Speaker 1: Well, at that point, it's your money and it's your house.

594
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:27,879
Speaker 1: That is the other option, So that's not an option

595
00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:31,000
Speaker 1: that's on the table, I do think though.

596
00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 3: I didn't want to bunk them, so I wanted to

597
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:35,199
Speaker 3: make sure that the floor plan was spaced out. You

598
00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:37,920
Speaker 3: know that they're not having They'll be with us breakfast, lunch,

599
00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:38,320
Speaker 3: and dinner.

600
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Speaker 1: I mean, as long as they're okay with that, but

601
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 1: they don't. I mean, it's your home.

602
00:25:42,320 --> 00:25:45,159
Speaker 3: I just kept thinking, like, goodness, gracious, if anyone is

603
00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:48,159
Speaker 3: offering me a Airbnb, like thank you some you know,

604
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:50,399
Speaker 3: obviously I wouldn't take it. I would well send me

605
00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:50,920
Speaker 3: or whatever.

606
00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 1: Well, what would happen in that situation, Like if if

607
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:56,240
Speaker 1: I'm one of them and I truly just don't want

608
00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 1: to stay, but I know that's the option, I would say,

609
00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:01,199
Speaker 1: thank you so much for the for We're going to

610
00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:04,000
Speaker 1: get a hotel, and I would pay for the hotel.

611
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 2: One hundred percent. And also, this is so interesting, this

612
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:08,640
Speaker 2: is coming up too. So when we were we posted

613
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:10,959
Speaker 2: when we were at the beach at our place, someone

614
00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:14,800
Speaker 2: that we know very close to that actually is like

615
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 2: my business manager essentially was like, that's my same building,

616
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:22,439
Speaker 2: and I was that you're staying and that you're airbing

617
00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:24,399
Speaker 2: being and I'm like, oh my goodness, I had no idea.

618
00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:27,720
Speaker 2: And he's like, next year, just stay there and I said,

619
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:29,399
Speaker 2: so sweet, But I don't.

620
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 3: I don't. I can't do it.

621
00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 2: I do not like staying at people's place rent free

622
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 2: or like I would rather airbing be out than feel

623
00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:40,919
Speaker 2: like someone is giving me a free place.

624
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 3: I don't know, it bothers me. There's a stress level

625
00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:47,159
Speaker 3: that comes with yeah it and and not it's we're.

626
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:49,920
Speaker 2: Not close enough to but also like I still would

627
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:50,719
Speaker 2: feel weird about it.

628
00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:54,800
Speaker 3: Akareed agreed. So I just said I thought yesterday I

629
00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 3: said to Christine, I was like, I'm forty three, and

630
00:26:57,359 --> 00:27:01,119
Speaker 3: there's no way if if a time and listen, I

631
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 3: know I come across impossible on the show. You guys

632
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 3: know how deeply I love. Like what's wild, though, we'll

633
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:10,920
Speaker 3: know quickly if the parents listen to this is that

634
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:13,960
Speaker 3: at the beginning of November, all of my Eastern Michigan

635
00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:16,560
Speaker 3: girlfriends are going and them and their daughters are staying

636
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:17,520
Speaker 3: in my house for one night.

637
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 6: Oh man, well yeah, backmire.

638
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:25,640
Speaker 3: But it's funny because love actually was like so crazy.

639
00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 3: So the Eastern girls are piling in. But you know, yeah,

640
00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:30,160
Speaker 3: pop up and grass stuff.

641
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:32,959
Speaker 4: It's different. Yeah, it's also you're probably gonna hear about it,

642
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:34,400
Speaker 4: but it is. It is different.

643
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:36,520
Speaker 3: Yeah. But also like they can climb up to a

644
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:38,879
Speaker 3: six foot loft. I don't know. I just said, well true,

645
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:41,960
Speaker 3: It's just I don't know. I just I love that

646
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:44,960
Speaker 3: people will open their houses. I think that's so great.

647
00:27:45,040 --> 00:27:47,680
Speaker 3: Airbnbs people are always like come stay. You know. Rosemary

648
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:50,160
Speaker 3: Beach for Nashville is like the up North for Michigan.

649
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:52,719
Speaker 3: So people are always offering homes, condos, whatever. I just

650
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 3: can't not do it either. Yeah, I'd love to remove

651
00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 3: the obligation and just have my time.

652
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure, guys, this headline had me scream no

653
00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 2: at the beach.

654
00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:17,880
Speaker 3: No it did.

655
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 2: Diane Keaton fame for roles in the Father of the Bride,

656
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Speaker 2: First Wives Club, and more. She died at night seventy nine.

657
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 2: I literally I opened when I was coming up to

658
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 2: make lunches or whatever. I looked at my phone and

659
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:32,000
Speaker 2: was like, no, I love Dyankeet and I mean Family Stone.

660
00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:33,320
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna be able to watch that the same

661
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 2: now and then something's got to give. Were my absolute

662
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 2: two favorite. I mean I had always dreamt of meeting her,

663
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 2: and of course working with her had be insane, but

664
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,160
Speaker 2: never met her, never got to But she's just like,

665
00:28:46,280 --> 00:28:48,720
Speaker 2: she's so iconic that one just killed me.

666
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 3: Just the words of wisdom she has. She's so great,

667
00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 3: She's so phenomenal. Her work is phenomenal, her style was phenomenal,

668
00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:01,320
Speaker 3: her smile was infectious. But her works are just really,

669
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:06,600
Speaker 3: really beautiful. This headline might resonate with you, KB. Dylan

670
00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 3: Efron reveals while Dancing with the Stars has been tougher

671
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 3: for his girlfriend Courtney. You know, studio five hours a day,

672
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:14,960
Speaker 3: he's dealing with the repercussions. My brain's most my body

673
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:17,600
Speaker 3: hurts and leads Courtney to deal with things on her own,

674
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,440
Speaker 3: you know, KB, I feel like you can understand this

675
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 3: where he's like out on the road and he comes

676
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:25,600
Speaker 3: home and he's like, I'm tired, and you're like, oh,

677
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:30,480
Speaker 3: you'ren't tired. Sunday? Was that you're reading my diary? Reilly

678
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:33,880
Speaker 3: silly Gramer. Yeah, I can't. I don't do well. I

679
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:37,520
Speaker 3: try to. We have a twenty four hour unofficial period

680
00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:39,880
Speaker 3: in my house where you can reacquaint back in re

681
00:29:40,200 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 3: entry is what a lot of business families call it,

682
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:47,920
Speaker 3: probably in any business. But then after twenty four I

683
00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 3: think what is tricky is that moms don't the primary parent.

684
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 3: I'll say that because it's not just mom's. The primary

685
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 3: parent doesn't get days off and doesn't get to be tired.

686
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 3: So that is some times where it's an ugly word

687
00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:04,320
Speaker 3: and I'm really not putting my best foot forward this episode,

688
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 3: but it gets a little resentful for me because what's

689
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:09,480
Speaker 3: it like is the comment I make in my brain,

690
00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 3: It's a really ugly comment. What's it like to be

691
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 3: able to take a nap? What's it like to watch for?

692
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 3: You know? That's not great? So I'm trying to reframe recently.

693
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:19,400
Speaker 1: I have to say, though, and a little bit in

694
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:23,840
Speaker 1: defense of this, I have never in my entire career

695
00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:28,760
Speaker 1: seen anything harder or more hard working than Dancing with

696
00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 1: the Stars. I mean, you you didn't have moments well,

697
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 1: I think too.

698
00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 2: What was different with my situation was that I was

699
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 2: still on tour. Yeah, and it was towards the last

700
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:42,880
Speaker 2: few weeks that were like we end up canceling the

701
00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 2: shows because there wasn't physically time too much like we

702
00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 2: are learning glev and I were learning dances, like on

703
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:49,920
Speaker 2: stage after sounds.

704
00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 1: You had to do like multiple dance. I've just never

705
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 1: seen anyone work harder ever. And I mean, and you're hurting,

706
00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:59,480
Speaker 1: you got hurt. A lot of people get hurt on

707
00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:02,280
Speaker 1: Dancing with the Stars, like you had Jolie, and you

708
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 1: did what you could to see that child, like it

709
00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:08,800
Speaker 1: was unbelievable. But a little bit in his defense on this,

710
00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:13,240
Speaker 1: it is not not saying anything to Preston, but it's

711
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:15,480
Speaker 1: not just going on the tour. It is not just

712
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,600
Speaker 1: going on tour. Dancing with the Stars was hours and

713
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 1: hours and houracy the physical work, and so would still

714
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:25,560
Speaker 1: be frustrating. I mean, of course it would still be

715
00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:27,800
Speaker 1: frustrating on the other end having to deal with everything,

716
00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:30,040
Speaker 1: But I mean it is it is a different ballgame.

717
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 1: Like there's no way he's napping, you know what I mean,

718
00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:37,600
Speaker 1: There's no way, Like he's lucky to get a normal

719
00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 1: night's sleep.

720
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, in the midst of it, I think it's hard

721
00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 3: to be the person that gets the leftover when someone's

722
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 3: chasing their dream.

723
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:46,800
Speaker 4: Okay, that's fair.

724
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:50,240
Speaker 3: That's probably where I resonate with her, for sure, or

725
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 3: and not that he's even this, I don't think that

726
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 3: applies to where we are now. To be honest, I'd

727
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 3: like make jokes about Sunday, but at the very beginning

728
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:00,800
Speaker 3: of marriage and I'm kindkind of knee deep in a

729
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:03,720
Speaker 3: prayer life with a couple of country music that's young

730
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 3: right now, that's kind of going through this, And I

731
00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 3: just felt that so deeply. It was like, you are

732
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:15,040
Speaker 3: tired because you're doing bucket list items, you're doing really cool,

733
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 3: amazing things. Some of those things didn't provide for family,

734
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 3: but just we're a really cool opportunity and I want

735
00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:24,360
Speaker 3: you to have that. And also it's hard on the person.

736
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:28,360
Speaker 2: Now I also think too, and this is obviously you know,

737
00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 2: your husband, but for you know, you know, for for

738
00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 2: Dylan's girlfriend, it's you have It's like you said, you

739
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 2: have no clue, Like there's so much that it's so hard.

740
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:41,320
Speaker 2: So it's like to be in their shoes too, to

741
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:45,400
Speaker 2: be in even Preston's shoes, like doing the yeah, you know,

742
00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:47,280
Speaker 2: being on like that and stuff.

743
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 3: You know, it's it's also having an experience with another woman.

744
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 3: So I wonder if there's a piece of that for

745
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 3: her that will be a piece for me. That would

746
00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 3: be a piece for me for sure. Yeah. So like

747
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 3: to have this like once in a lifetime thing, like

748
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 3: all of Preston's once in a lifetime experiences are always

749
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 3: with Chris. Sure, And I love that they have that brotherhood,

750
00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 3: Like he's closer with Chris, I think than even his

751
00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 3: own brother brothers. So I love that. But it was

752
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 3: with another woman. Yeah, I've already told you. I've said

753
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 3: it on here. We are not Dancing with the Stars. Families.

754
00:33:17,040 --> 00:33:18,840
Speaker 3: We will watch it our dad. I will not. I

755
00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 3: couldn't do that. No, I don't think I'm and that

756
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 3: canna be my own security. I don't even care to

757
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 3: say it. That's fine.

758
00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 1: I just don't think people realize until they get into

759
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 1: it how much it takes, how close these people really

760
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 1: are when they're practicing. I don't think you have any

761
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 1: clue until you really get there and see it.

762
00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:36,920
Speaker 3: Couldn't do it. I'm not strong enough maybe for that,

763
00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:40,600
Speaker 3: I think as a spouse. Yeah, and I'm strong with

764
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:42,880
Speaker 3: a lot of things. Yeah.

765
00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:45,720
Speaker 2: Chrissy Tiagan shares why she opened up about zembic after

766
00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 2: ozembic use after suffering a miscarriage. She said she knew

767
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:52,000
Speaker 2: it would resonate. Since the beginning of social media, I've

768
00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:54,000
Speaker 2: always wanted people to know that things weren't as fluffy

769
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:56,120
Speaker 2: and as beautiful as they may seem. I knew it

770
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:58,240
Speaker 2: would really resonate and make a lot of people feel

771
00:33:58,280 --> 00:34:00,760
Speaker 2: a lot better about their families and her own bodies.

772
00:34:02,240 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 2: She said that she made a promise to herself to

773
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:06,720
Speaker 2: be completely transparent on social media, adding that if it

774
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 2: frustrates that, it's frustrating sometimes when other people don't share

775
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 2: their hardships online. I want to like asterisk that comment.

776
00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 2: And then she had said that on September eighteenth, the

777
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,280
Speaker 2: Self Conscious podcast that she tried the GLP one medication

778
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 2: after struggling to lose weight following her miscarriage with her

779
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 2: son Jack in twenty twenty, admitting that she had deep

780
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:30,400
Speaker 2: depression of seeing this pregnant belly with no baby in it.

781
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:34,920
Speaker 2: I can't even fricking imagine.

782
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:35,359
Speaker 3: Yeah.

783
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:39,640
Speaker 2: I mean, you know, obviously, Catherine, you've been public about

784
00:34:40,160 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 2: taking that was what was your reasoning for being public

785
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:45,440
Speaker 2: about it?

786
00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 1: I don't if and this is kind of a strong

787
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:50,759
Speaker 1: stance to take. I think it is very unfair to

788
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:54,759
Speaker 1: not be transparent about it. I don't I think that

789
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:57,440
Speaker 1: we are in a world of I'm open about it,

790
00:34:57,480 --> 00:34:59,160
Speaker 1: and I'm great, and it's probably one of the best

791
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:02,719
Speaker 1: decisions I've made. But I don't think it's fair for

792
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:05,480
Speaker 1: me to sit in front of people who are struggling

793
00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:07,879
Speaker 1: to act as if I just did it on my own.

794
00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:12,480
Speaker 1: I don't necessarily see it as a cheat or anything necessarily,

795
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:14,680
Speaker 1: But at the same time, I think you have to

796
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:17,359
Speaker 1: be very open with how any way that you lose weight,

797
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:20,759
Speaker 1: you know, like if someone's just starving themselves, you know,

798
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:22,880
Speaker 1: Like I think you just have to be transparent. You

799
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:28,000
Speaker 1: can't make people believe, especially having daughters that like, oh,

800
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 1: I'm just losing weight. Like I'm just very open with them,

801
00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:33,680
Speaker 1: and I think it's very important to be open about that.

802
00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:36,799
Speaker 1: I just I just don't it frustrates me when you

803
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:38,759
Speaker 1: see someone are like, there's no way and maybe they're

804
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:39,880
Speaker 1: not on it.

805
00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 3: Do you think it should be public, social or just

806
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:44,839
Speaker 3: in your circle, because I would disagree that you owe

807
00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:45,960
Speaker 3: anybody an explanation.

808
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:49,800
Speaker 4: I don't think you, but I would I if I'm.

809
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:52,279
Speaker 3: A personal trainer and I'm like, did it on my

810
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:55,319
Speaker 3: own and I'm using that, I think that is misleading in.

811
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:59,000
Speaker 1: Your circle, but I also I'm sorry, I don't like it,

812
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:01,440
Speaker 1: and I'm I can't think of an example. But if

813
00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:03,640
Speaker 1: there are people that have lost weight in that way

814
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:04,239
Speaker 1: and they are.

815
00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:07,840
Speaker 2: Thinking the very beginning of the peoples, how are more

816
00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 2: open because more people have been open about sharing From

817
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:13,000
Speaker 2: the beginning, most people are like, obviously they take a

818
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:14,839
Speaker 2: GLP one, they're not going to say it right. But

819
00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 2: now I think more people that are being open about

820
00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 2: it are speaking about yeah.

821
00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:19,280
Speaker 3: But then I hate it because I feel like people

822
00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 3: that actually do work hard and lose it and are like, no,

823
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:23,399
Speaker 3: I didn't do it, They're like, ah, they probably did

824
00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 3: it well.

825
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 1: I think that that's why sometimes I think you can

826
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 1: tell a difference. Sometimes I don't, you know, sometimes I

827
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:31,520
Speaker 1: don't think it's so obvious. And yes, no one owes

828
00:36:31,560 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 1: anyone anything. I don't disagree with that, but I do

829
00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:37,239
Speaker 1: believe in transparency. I do think that what she is

830
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:40,640
Speaker 1: saying is it's important. She wants people to know that

831
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:43,319
Speaker 1: she has struggled, and it's not just easy because you're

832
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,319
Speaker 1: if you're just saying, oh, this is so easy, I

833
00:36:46,400 --> 00:36:48,560
Speaker 1: just lost this weight, like I just don't. That's just

834
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:51,840
Speaker 1: makes it harder on other people and I don't and

835
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 1: I don't. I hate to see that and people just

836
00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:57,280
Speaker 1: watching these people lose all these people lose weight online

837
00:36:57,280 --> 00:36:59,319
Speaker 1: and you're like, man, I'm sitting here, I'm trying so

838
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:01,799
Speaker 1: hard and nothing things working, you know. So I just

839
00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 1: think it's important to be transparent about it.

840
00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:05,960
Speaker 3: Listen, I'm the one that tells you all the injectables

841
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:08,720
Speaker 3: I get because I think it's important to be transparent. Yeah.

842
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:11,800
Speaker 2: The part where she says though, that it's frustrating sometimes

843
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 2: when other people don't share their hardships online, I feel

844
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:16,400
Speaker 2: like I have a bit of a struggle with that

845
00:37:16,440 --> 00:37:21,880
Speaker 2: one because I don't think again, I look back, and

846
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:23,920
Speaker 2: I'm like, I regret sharing as much as I have,

847
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:30,320
Speaker 2: which is why I'm way more private with things because

848
00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:32,920
Speaker 2: I don't want the opinions of everybody else. And when

849
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 2: you put something out there, your hardships, like, yes, I

850
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:40,520
Speaker 2: will obviously always share things from past and maybe you

851
00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:45,880
Speaker 2: know present, but I don't look at someone else and go, okay, like,

852
00:37:46,719 --> 00:37:50,600
Speaker 2: let's take my friend, I don't know some some any

853
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 2: star that I've seen or that I follow. I'm not

854
00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:56,920
Speaker 2: gonna get frustrated because this actress is not sharing her

855
00:37:57,000 --> 00:38:00,920
Speaker 2: hard days or get frustrated. You find that in so

856
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 2: many other influencers out there that share they're happy and

857
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:07,239
Speaker 2: you know sad days. I mean, you've also got you know,

858
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:09,840
Speaker 2: people saying like oh I get so annoyed and people cry.

859
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 2: It's like how people share information is their way of

860
00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 2: sharing information, you know. For her to say like I

861
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:21,719
Speaker 2: get fresh and people don't, it's like that's also their

862
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:23,440
Speaker 2: journey too, you know, and unloss.

863
00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:23,839
Speaker 3: I love her.

864
00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:26,080
Speaker 2: I love I'm not like I'm sir beefoot Christine. It's

865
00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:29,239
Speaker 2: just an interesting topic to go. I regret so much

866
00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:32,279
Speaker 2: of what I've shared, but also the things that I

867
00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 2: have shared of help so many people too. So I

868
00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:36,839
Speaker 2: love that she's talking about this and helping people through

869
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 2: that because yeah, I mean it's you know, especially after

870
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:44,080
Speaker 2: suffering miscarriage, which I understand, we understand, but you know,

871
00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:48,280
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't fault anyone for not sharing certain

872
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 2: things online. We have someone that just went off that

873
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:52,879
Speaker 2: we know that we also follow that said like, oh,

874
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:55,560
Speaker 2: I can't believe they didn't share about this, this person's

875
00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:58,319
Speaker 2: death or this, Like where are those influencers? Then it's

876
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:02,319
Speaker 2: like let them. Maybe they're privately doing that you know,

877
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:04,480
Speaker 2: I just don't think people have to share their worst

878
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:08,360
Speaker 2: days because they don't want the opinion of everybody. Again,

879
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:11,520
Speaker 2: I have such regret about certain things I've shared, but

880
00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:14,000
Speaker 2: also we'll probably continue because I know it helps people.

881
00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:15,840
Speaker 3: So it's a too sitim saying.

882
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:16,800
Speaker 4: Yes one hundred percent.

883
00:39:16,840 --> 00:39:18,799
Speaker 1: And really I kind of want to go back a

884
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 1: little bit when on what I said talking about that

885
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 1: in the sense that no, I don't think that they

886
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 1: have to They don't have to talk about it.

887
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:32,040
Speaker 4: I don't like, but it can go okay.

888
00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 1: That makes me see that point of view a little bit,

889
00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:36,720
Speaker 1: like they don't have to share that. Like I wouldn't

890
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 1: expect them to share all of their hardships. It's their page.

891
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:41,440
Speaker 1: They can share whatever they want to share. So I

892
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:44,440
Speaker 1: do believe that. So going back and with my answer

893
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 1: a little bit going, I just want you to be honest.

894
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:50,720
Speaker 1: If it's asked and you talk about it, you don't

895
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:53,600
Speaker 1: have to share everything. You shouldn't have to share everything online.

896
00:39:53,640 --> 00:39:56,120
Speaker 1: It's your page, it's your opinion, and you can now

897
00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 1: if you're an influencer, your celebrity, just know you may

898
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 1: lose some, you may gain some for it. That's just

899
00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:03,920
Speaker 1: what you have to know you may not want to

900
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:06,319
Speaker 1: share about this, that, and the other, and people might

901
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:07,799
Speaker 1: not like that, or they may like that.

902
00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:10,280
Speaker 2: I see both sides of it. But I also follow

903
00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 2: people that do that, and then follow people that don't

904
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:15,160
Speaker 2: and don't I don't. I don't get frustrated the person

905
00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 2: that doesn't do it because they want to live their

906
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:19,800
Speaker 2: life more privately, and I respect that because I also

907
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:22,839
Speaker 2: didn't and have learned the mistakes of that too.

908
00:40:23,160 --> 00:40:25,439
Speaker 3: I just think there's so much judgment. Like I love

909
00:40:25,520 --> 00:40:27,880
Speaker 3: to share real life experience, I may not share it

910
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:31,200
Speaker 3: in real time if I'm still trying to process or

911
00:40:31,880 --> 00:40:36,840
Speaker 3: keep my family protected or healthy, yeah or yeah or maybe,

912
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:38,960
Speaker 3: Like I do think the human experience when you share

913
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 3: it is just invaluable. But I also know that there's

914
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 3: been times if I was to just out to share something,

915
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:47,719
Speaker 3: it wouldn't be for the right reason if I was

916
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:48,640
Speaker 3: sharing it in real time.

917
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:48,920
Speaker 4: Right.

918
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 2: Sometimes I've learned to never share an open wound. The

919
00:40:52,200 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 2: backfire many times with wind down with my ex yep,

920
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:58,120
Speaker 2: you know, And That's something that I've always taken. It

921
00:40:58,120 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 2: has to be healed before I can really share it.

922
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:04,040
Speaker 2: If I'm ready for the opinions of everybody else.

923
00:41:04,160 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, and also the vast amount of judgment. It's there's

924
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 3: this like very underlying angry mentality that I just can't

925
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 3: do on social media. It's just like, what what does that?

926
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:19,719
Speaker 3: I almost just want to be like, sys sit down

927
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:21,839
Speaker 3: and take a minute. Why does this offend you? Why

928
00:41:21,880 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 3: does this irritate you? What is it about you that

929
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 3: makes this? Like? You know, if I'm caring so overtly

930
00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 3: about and outwardly about somebody's issue, it's usually has nothing

931
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:34,120
Speaker 3: to do with them for me.

932
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, like the people that it's not about, there's something.

933
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:42,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like, I'm fired up something they're hitting a

934
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:44,279
Speaker 3: nerve with me? What is that nerve?

935
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:46,680
Speaker 2: But I would be upset though if it was a

936
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:48,920
Speaker 2: fitness trainer and this person did do a jail and

937
00:41:49,000 --> 00:41:51,200
Speaker 2: wasn't honest about that, that would bother me because I'm

938
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 2: like your false advertisement.

939
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like the girl in Going On, She's like I

940
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:55,719
Speaker 3: had a light bulb.

941
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:56,560
Speaker 2: I mean.

942
00:41:58,160 --> 00:42:00,879
Speaker 8: That's what I'm saying, And it's I mean, you get

943
00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:02,759
Speaker 8: to a point where it's like you just you can

944
00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:05,480
Speaker 8: be honest about that and not false advertise and say

945
00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:07,919
Speaker 8: I am a trainer and I'm doing this, like there's

946
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:08,839
Speaker 8: a way to do that.

947
00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:12,160
Speaker 1: But yeah, the opinions I understand. At the same time,

948
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:14,560
Speaker 1: people don't want, especially in the front end of this

949
00:42:14,640 --> 00:42:16,880
Speaker 1: whole thing, people didn't want negative opinions.

950
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 3: People.

951
00:42:17,640 --> 00:42:19,360
Speaker 4: It's hard. People don't want to hear it.

952
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:21,440
Speaker 1: People don't want to you know, And sometimes you get

953
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:22,719
Speaker 1: to a point where you're like, I want to share

954
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:23,160
Speaker 1: this anyway.

955
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:23,560
Speaker 4: Guess what.

956
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:25,600
Speaker 1: I want to share that video of me crying, And

957
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:27,520
Speaker 1: I don't really care what your opinions are of that

958
00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 1: right now, Like you know, sometimes I think you do

959
00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:32,359
Speaker 1: get to a point whatever that is, Like I want

960
00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 1: to post stuff about Charlie Kirk. I don't really care

961
00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:38,160
Speaker 1: what your opinion is of that. Like I'm strong in

962
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:40,520
Speaker 1: my convictions and I'm okay. If that makes you mad,

963
00:42:40,680 --> 00:42:41,800
Speaker 1: you can keep walking.

964
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 8: You know.

965
00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 4: I like her.

966
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:45,360
Speaker 3: I like yelling along on some murph things. This is

967
00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:45,680
Speaker 3: not like it.

968
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:47,960
Speaker 1: And I'm saying if she doesn't like, no, no, no, I'm saying,

969
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:50,920
Speaker 1: if she doesn't like looking at people crying, right then

970
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 1: move on. You don't have to follow them and you

971
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:55,800
Speaker 1: don't have to look at it. But that's their page

972
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:57,799
Speaker 1: and they have every right to post what they want

973
00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 1: to post if they're crying, if they're happy all the time,

974
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 1: whatever that is, you can keep moving on right.

975
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 2: And it's like I have the photo when I was

976
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 2: sitting in the parking lot at my divorce lawyer the

977
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:10,279
Speaker 2: day that I signed the parenting plan. I was a

978
00:43:10,320 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 2: mess and I was like I and I did and

979
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:15,880
Speaker 2: it's like, I get why people get annoyed with people

980
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:19,239
Speaker 2: that take videos of themselves crying or pictures. But to me,

981
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:21,800
Speaker 2: it's like I want to look back and have hope

982
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:24,719
Speaker 2: that I'm that I feel better than this picture, and

983
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:28,799
Speaker 2: when something happens that causes me to have that like

984
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:31,719
Speaker 2: I need to see the difference. And that's just I'm

985
00:43:31,719 --> 00:43:33,880
Speaker 2: more of a visual I guess, you know, healer and

986
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:36,480
Speaker 2: learner and grower with that. So it's like I want

987
00:43:36,480 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 2: to see, Okay, from that picture, how do I feel today?

988
00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:42,040
Speaker 2: Like I used to in my because my diary. This

989
00:43:42,120 --> 00:43:44,920
Speaker 2: is so stupid, but I had this diary from way back,

990
00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 2: even from high school all the way up until Mike essentially,

991
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:50,800
Speaker 2: and I would be I would go into the middle

992
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:54,960
Speaker 2: of the the the diary and be like I would

993
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:56,719
Speaker 2: date the date that it was at and go am

994
00:43:56,719 --> 00:44:00,240
Speaker 2: I happier now. And it's just like cause I wanted

995
00:44:00,320 --> 00:44:02,960
Speaker 2: to like be like, is there a difference? Do I

996
00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:05,640
Speaker 2: feel better? Because to me, that's a tracker of am

997
00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:06,479
Speaker 2: I on the right path.

998
00:44:06,600 --> 00:44:09,480
Speaker 3: I love that you've always been who you've always been, Like,

999
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:14,600
Speaker 3: that's you now, Like peek and pit everybody, what's you know?

1000
00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:17,279
Speaker 1: And guess what you can do that because it's your page.

1001
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 1: And if it makes you feel better and it's about you,

1002
00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 1: or if it's because you're trying to help someone else

1003
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:24,680
Speaker 1: feel better and it's about them, all are valid reasons.

1004
00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:26,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, And it's a form of creativity. I think that

1005
00:44:26,600 --> 00:44:29,000
Speaker 3: people don't understand, like when you're creating content, you're really

1006
00:44:29,040 --> 00:44:33,640
Speaker 3: in it to create content, like real authentic, connective content. Well,

1007
00:44:33,640 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 3: then that's just a form of creativity.

1008
00:44:35,280 --> 00:44:50,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, hello ladies. First, I'd like to say how amazing

1009
00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:52,240
Speaker 2: I think this podcast is. I love the new layout.

1010
00:44:52,239 --> 00:44:54,319
Speaker 2: Thank you for speaking about your faith in Jesus. Within

1011
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:56,400
Speaker 2: the last two to three years, I've gotten more involved

1012
00:44:56,440 --> 00:44:58,319
Speaker 2: in my local Christian church and getting to know God

1013
00:44:58,360 --> 00:45:00,960
Speaker 2: on a deeper level. I really enjoy your insights and

1014
00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:04,080
Speaker 2: how you lean into your faith and get you into

1015
00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:07,000
Speaker 2: your faith to get you through challenging times. Lastly, I

1016
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:09,520
Speaker 2: recently took a leave of absence from work because the

1017
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:12,600
Speaker 2: stress of it all made my depression anxiety so much worse.

1018
00:45:12,719 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 2: I have found a psychiatrist and a therapist. Through this,

1019
00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:19,640
Speaker 2: I have learned that I have chronic PTSD from childhood

1020
00:45:19,640 --> 00:45:22,400
Speaker 2: and OCD that has been making my anxiety and depression

1021
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:25,840
Speaker 2: worse over time. My PTSD comes from physical and verbal

1022
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:28,960
Speaker 2: abuse in the home, mainly coming from my brother to

1023
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:32,480
Speaker 2: my parents, but also my parents. Like Kristin, I was

1024
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 2: never the victim, but saw and heard a lot starting

1025
00:45:35,239 --> 00:45:38,000
Speaker 2: at the age of eight. Also PTSD from sexual assault

1026
00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:39,960
Speaker 2: starting at the age of nine. I have two girls

1027
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 2: that are five and nine now, and a psychiatrist believes

1028
00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:45,640
Speaker 2: the age of my oldest has triggered the PTSD even more.

1029
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:48,239
Speaker 2: I'm thirty seven and just now starting to deal with

1030
00:45:48,280 --> 00:45:50,160
Speaker 2: all of this that I have buried for many years.

1031
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:51,840
Speaker 2: I know this is a lot, but I'm curious to

1032
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:54,240
Speaker 2: know what has worked the best for you girls dealing

1033
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:58,280
Speaker 2: with PTSD, anxiety and depression. I'm desperate for any advice

1034
00:45:58,360 --> 00:46:01,040
Speaker 2: at this point, just to feel normal again. I appreciate

1035
00:46:01,080 --> 00:46:02,680
Speaker 2: any and all advice you can give me.

1036
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 3: Thank you.

1037
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 2: Wholeheartedly. M thank you for your honest message. Thank you

1038
00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:11,919
Speaker 2: for listening. You know it's interesting. Oh do you want

1039
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:13,760
Speaker 2: to share from your feelings so I know could help people.

1040
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:18,120
Speaker 2: We just talked about it, right of cour is it?

1041
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:21,200
Speaker 3: I don't know if it's woundy. I have so much

1042
00:46:21,239 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 3: storty to do and I don't have Amy until next week.

1043
00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:28,600
Speaker 2: I got our Wednesday, and I can't give you the.

1044
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:29,319
Speaker 3: No.

1045
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 4: You know what, but I should I go back and

1046
00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:32,440
Speaker 4: start scheduling.

1047
00:46:35,719 --> 00:46:41,560
Speaker 3: No, I think what's really like, there's so much right

1048
00:46:41,560 --> 00:46:47,080
Speaker 3: now because what's wild is I'm just being met constantly

1049
00:46:47,160 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 3: with something that I know I'm supposed to be working on.

1050
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:54,000
Speaker 3: And so I feel like so much of this is

1051
00:46:54,080 --> 00:46:58,560
Speaker 3: just what's like at the forefront for me right now,

1052
00:46:59,520 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 3: and it's and it's just not lost on me. I

1053
00:47:04,719 --> 00:47:06,600
Speaker 3: it's not lost on me. It's all I can say

1054
00:47:06,640 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 3: because I can. I mean, as if someone has been

1055
00:47:11,680 --> 00:47:16,360
Speaker 3: in my head, you know, so much of the memories

1056
00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:21,640
Speaker 3: I have or loves age and just to be able

1057
00:47:21,680 --> 00:47:24,440
Speaker 3: to witness how incredible is for a kid to just

1058
00:47:24,480 --> 00:47:28,000
Speaker 3: be a kid. Is like when I found out I

1059
00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:30,960
Speaker 3: was pregnant with her, we were do a day apart

1060
00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:33,640
Speaker 3: so my mom's do date with me, my do date

1061
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:35,239
Speaker 3: with love was a day apart, and I knew it

1062
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 3: was a girl, and I knew what she would look

1063
00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 3: like because I just knew. I knew cycles ended with me.

1064
00:47:42,080 --> 00:47:44,800
Speaker 3: I knew this was going to be a poetic redemption.

1065
00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 3: And there's so much about the way I parent that

1066
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:53,480
Speaker 3: is just all in on childhood. Like I just every

1067
00:47:53,520 --> 00:47:56,520
Speaker 3: parent loves childhood. We all just soak it up. Like

1068
00:47:56,560 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 3: I am determined to keep them little and not too sheltered,

1069
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:05,840
Speaker 3: but just at moderation, you know, like developmentally appropriate moderation

1070
00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 3: matters to me. And so when she's as you're like,

1071
00:48:10,160 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 3: I honestly like even in parts of that I didn't

1072
00:48:12,719 --> 00:48:14,680
Speaker 3: even hear because I was just like hold it together,

1073
00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:19,000
Speaker 3: Like it just came over me like a wave. It's

1074
00:48:19,040 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 3: just a lot right now, and there is some brokenness

1075
00:48:23,960 --> 00:48:26,560
Speaker 3: in the family, and I don't know what to do

1076
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:28,600
Speaker 3: with that right now. So and I also think I

1077
00:48:28,600 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 3: should probably stop talking. I just I'm really struggling with

1078
00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:36,600
Speaker 3: like how to forgive, because the most recent hurts, these

1079
00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:40,160
Speaker 3: aren't childhood hurts I'm holding on to. I forgave so

1080
00:48:40,360 --> 00:48:43,719
Speaker 3: much of that, the hurt that hurts right now is

1081
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:46,920
Speaker 3: a more recent hurt, so it's like you should know better.

1082
00:48:48,640 --> 00:48:51,120
Speaker 3: And there's this fight for little me that I'm like,

1083
00:48:51,360 --> 00:48:54,359
Speaker 3: we don't get treated that way anymore and we get

1084
00:48:54,360 --> 00:48:56,840
Speaker 3: to use a voice, and there's just so much of

1085
00:48:56,840 --> 00:48:58,880
Speaker 3: that that I feel that question. So I'm sorry that

1086
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:01,279
Speaker 3: like hit me like a wave. This isn't like me

1087
00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:06,600
Speaker 3: projecting like I don't. It's so it's so healthily separate

1088
00:49:06,680 --> 00:49:09,200
Speaker 3: from me, like I don't put my stuff on love

1089
00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:12,880
Speaker 3: like I love that as if you know, like that

1090
00:49:13,040 --> 00:49:16,080
Speaker 3: visual of like a mom protecting her kids with a

1091
00:49:16,080 --> 00:49:19,160
Speaker 3: million arrows in her back, that is it's like they'll

1092
00:49:19,200 --> 00:49:21,919
Speaker 3: just never know, right, it's just sunshine and there they

1093
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:24,600
Speaker 3: have their fair share of reality and hardships, but nothing

1094
00:49:24,640 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 3: it's all age appropriate. That always matters to me. I

1095
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:31,759
Speaker 3: think the biggest thing is there's this exercise that I

1096
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:36,080
Speaker 3: started doing, and this is EMDR I think is really

1097
00:49:36,080 --> 00:49:40,960
Speaker 3: really super helpful. I watched Black Rabbit and there's a

1098
00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 3: scene in Black Rabbit that sent me back and it

1099
00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:48,160
Speaker 3: was interesting because I I just hadn't I guess I

1100
00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:50,400
Speaker 3: hadn't like that hadn't been to the front for me

1101
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:52,239
Speaker 3: in a while, like not that it's like sealed and

1102
00:49:52,239 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 3: I'm healed and I'm done. It just was like so

1103
00:49:56,800 --> 00:49:58,840
Speaker 3: I don't know, it was a visceral reaction. Like I

1104
00:49:58,920 --> 00:50:00,799
Speaker 3: covered my ears and I closed my eyes. It was

1105
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:03,840
Speaker 3: like weird, like almost like I didn't I was like,

1106
00:50:03,880 --> 00:50:08,400
Speaker 3: what is happening to me? But there is something I

1107
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:11,080
Speaker 3: do and this is like super holy, So just bear

1108
00:50:11,120 --> 00:50:13,080
Speaker 3: with me. But like I'll go back to those moments

1109
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:15,880
Speaker 3: in childhood and I envision Jesus's hands on my shoulder,

1110
00:50:16,200 --> 00:50:20,160
Speaker 3: turning me or moving me or protecting me or whatever,

1111
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:23,960
Speaker 3: and there's just something really redemptive about that. So the

1112
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:25,920
Speaker 3: problem for me is that there's memories that will come

1113
00:50:25,960 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 3: back unexpected that I didn't, like I haven't processed through

1114
00:50:29,120 --> 00:50:31,480
Speaker 3: or like you know, aren't one of the major ones,

1115
00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:34,319
Speaker 3: and like I'll see something on TV just reminds me

1116
00:50:34,360 --> 00:50:35,280
Speaker 3: of that or something.

1117
00:50:35,600 --> 00:50:36,399
Speaker 4: There's also a.

1118
00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:39,959
Speaker 3: Really great deal of denial and ownership on the parent

1119
00:50:40,200 --> 00:50:46,719
Speaker 3: side for me. So there's this, you know, a vast

1120
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:50,160
Speaker 3: idea of covering things and looking a certain way. And

1121
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:52,520
Speaker 3: I'm not here out to trash anyone. I don't want

1122
00:50:52,560 --> 00:50:54,279
Speaker 3: to like throw anyone under the bus. I just it

1123
00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:57,320
Speaker 3: is my reality. So I feel like I've been gaslight

1124
00:50:57,400 --> 00:50:59,280
Speaker 3: quite a bit by a few people in my family

1125
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:02,799
Speaker 3: to not speak nice side of the story, and I'm

1126
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:05,800
Speaker 3: not I mean, listen, my dad can't defend himself. I

1127
00:51:05,840 --> 00:51:11,720
Speaker 3: don't want anyone to defend themselves. But there is some truth,

1128
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:14,480
Speaker 3: right and it's a nice, lating feeling when you're a kid,

1129
00:51:14,760 --> 00:51:16,680
Speaker 3: and so I don't want other people to feel that way.

1130
00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:19,560
Speaker 1: I think it's also important. I think, you know, my

1131
00:51:19,719 --> 00:51:23,279
Speaker 1: age is for my stuff is different than y'all. I

1132
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 1: don't even remember much of being their ages. Mine is

1133
00:51:28,600 --> 00:51:32,239
Speaker 1: definitely more teenage years, and I think it's really important

1134
00:51:32,360 --> 00:51:38,080
Speaker 1: for her to remember the person who wrote in that

1135
00:51:38,160 --> 00:51:42,600
Speaker 1: you might mess up, that you might because of the

1136
00:51:42,640 --> 00:51:45,480
Speaker 1: way that you were treated. You might accidentally do that

1137
00:51:45,560 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 1: to your own daughter, and it may trigger something, and

1138
00:51:48,600 --> 00:51:52,560
Speaker 1: it may, But for me, I've had those moments and

1139
00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:55,440
Speaker 1: I've realized in those moments, like this is a trigger

1140
00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:58,400
Speaker 1: from my childhood and it is coming out in me.

1141
00:51:58,520 --> 00:52:03,560
Speaker 1: Because everyone doesn't do it perfectly. Everyone doesn't just completely

1142
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:05,080
Speaker 1: change the cycle.

1143
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:06,359
Speaker 4: And you know.

1144
00:52:06,440 --> 00:52:09,200
Speaker 1: It's easier for some, and it is. It's been a

1145
00:52:09,280 --> 00:52:11,560
Speaker 1: it's been hard for me, you know, I've wanted to

1146
00:52:11,600 --> 00:52:16,040
Speaker 1: protect my teenage daughter so much because of how I

1147
00:52:16,080 --> 00:52:20,520
Speaker 1: was treated as a teenage daughter that it's almost backfired

1148
00:52:20,600 --> 00:52:22,439
Speaker 1: in some ways. And so I think it's just really

1149
00:52:22,480 --> 00:52:25,359
Speaker 1: important to remember that those things might still come out

1150
00:52:26,160 --> 00:52:28,000
Speaker 1: on All you can do is learn from that, and

1151
00:52:28,080 --> 00:52:30,799
Speaker 1: all you can do is see in those moments and

1152
00:52:30,840 --> 00:52:34,600
Speaker 1: try to do better the next time. But also we

1153
00:52:34,680 --> 00:52:37,319
Speaker 1: can't protect them from everything, and I think that that's

1154
00:52:37,440 --> 00:52:39,640
Speaker 1: just one thing I'm really having to learn as much

1155
00:52:39,680 --> 00:52:43,360
Speaker 1: as I've tried so hard to protect her from those things,

1156
00:52:43,960 --> 00:52:46,040
Speaker 1: that things still hurt them and still happen.

1157
00:52:46,120 --> 00:52:48,040
Speaker 4: It might not be me, but it might be me.

1158
00:52:48,800 --> 00:52:49,400
Speaker 3: It might be me.

1159
00:52:49,600 --> 00:52:51,360
Speaker 1: I might have done something that hurt her and in

1160
00:52:51,400 --> 00:52:53,080
Speaker 1: the future she's going to have to deal with that.

1161
00:52:53,200 --> 00:52:55,000
Speaker 1: But we can only do so much with that, and

1162
00:52:55,000 --> 00:52:57,319
Speaker 1: we can only do But EMDR was a huge help

1163
00:52:57,360 --> 00:52:58,120
Speaker 1: for me as well.

1164
00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:02,800
Speaker 3: In that dete conception is that cycle breaking is perfection.

1165
00:53:02,920 --> 00:53:07,080
Speaker 3: It's really just about intention absolutely so like it's not perfect, Yeah,

1166
00:53:07,120 --> 00:53:10,520
Speaker 3: it's just a constant Yeah, And that's.

1167
00:53:10,360 --> 00:53:12,560
Speaker 1: Just something I wanted to mention because that's something I've

1168
00:53:12,560 --> 00:53:14,200
Speaker 1: gotten really down on myself about.

1169
00:53:14,280 --> 00:53:14,480
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1170
00:53:14,520 --> 00:53:17,400
Speaker 1: No, I really wanted to break this cycle, but I

1171
00:53:17,640 --> 00:53:19,719
Speaker 1: just did X, Y, and Z, and that's something my

1172
00:53:19,760 --> 00:53:21,600
Speaker 1: mom would have done to me, you know. And it's like,

1173
00:53:21,800 --> 00:53:23,759
Speaker 1: because it won't be you can't do yeah, and it

1174
00:53:23,800 --> 00:53:26,600
Speaker 1: doesn't look the same, but you have and it can

1175
00:53:26,680 --> 00:53:27,240
Speaker 1: be a trigger.

1176
00:53:27,320 --> 00:53:28,240
Speaker 4: Yes, majorly.

1177
00:53:28,840 --> 00:53:30,719
Speaker 3: I've just told you so much around it that it

1178
00:53:30,719 --> 00:53:31,680
Speaker 3: will never be the same.

1179
00:53:31,760 --> 00:53:32,880
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1180
00:53:32,960 --> 00:53:37,239
Speaker 2: I think to just end on this too, is I

1181
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:38,759
Speaker 2: want to just call out she because I'm desperate for

1182
00:53:38,800 --> 00:53:41,080
Speaker 2: any advice at this point to just feel normal again,

1183
00:53:41,360 --> 00:53:46,120
Speaker 2: and to the word normal if you like, you know

1184
00:53:46,120 --> 00:53:48,560
Speaker 2: now that you're listening, sitting on the couch, other people listening,

1185
00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:51,920
Speaker 2: it doesn't not make you not normal. Yeah, it's just

1186
00:53:52,800 --> 00:53:56,319
Speaker 2: the season that you're in. You are perfectly normal. You know,

1187
00:53:56,360 --> 00:53:58,560
Speaker 2: you're actually more normal than ninety percent of the people.

1188
00:53:58,719 --> 00:54:01,120
Speaker 4: That word has really been trigged ring me lately. Normal.

1189
00:54:01,200 --> 00:54:01,960
Speaker 4: What is normal?

1190
00:54:02,239 --> 00:54:06,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know it's like, I don't like normal person,

1191
00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:09,880
Speaker 2: And I think we all have seasons that are really

1192
00:54:09,880 --> 00:54:12,680
Speaker 2: hard and that are really good and storms that are

1193
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:17,040
Speaker 2: really difficult storms, and we have beautiful, beautiful days, you know,

1194
00:54:17,080 --> 00:54:20,040
Speaker 2: and so I don't think there is It doesn't make

1195
00:54:20,080 --> 00:54:24,200
Speaker 2: anybody less normal. I know, the feeling because against society

1196
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:26,560
Speaker 2: is like, what, we have a normal family and a

1197
00:54:26,640 --> 00:54:29,160
Speaker 2: normal this, and like, it mustn't mean that we're not

1198
00:54:29,200 --> 00:54:30,600
Speaker 2: normal if we have to go to therapy. No, it

1199
00:54:30,640 --> 00:54:34,000
Speaker 2: makes us human. And yeah, so just take that. However,

1200
00:54:34,440 --> 00:54:38,800
Speaker 2: I agree, one big breath and.

1201
00:54:38,960 --> 00:54:41,120
Speaker 3: See you next week guys. Yeah, I