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Speaker 2: I think we should have, uh, just get like an arena,

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Speaker 2: and just like flower girls.

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Speaker 1: Don't get a dome thunderdome thunderdome, the last flower girl

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Speaker 1: standing is allowed to be the one and only flower

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Speaker 1: girl to the death. To the death there can there're

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Speaker 1: gonna be no living survivor. No, they can't be two

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Speaker 1: living flower girls at the end of this. But but

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Speaker 1: as like a consolation, the flower girl that wins has

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Speaker 1: to put flowers at the gravestone of the dead flower girl.

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Speaker 3: That's it.

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Speaker 1: That's it, that's it. Hey, we just solved your problem.

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Speaker 1: You're well, no need to be the story.

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Speaker 3: It's over.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's over. Okay. My fiance and I are planning

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Speaker 1: our wedding. She comes from a large family. She has

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Speaker 1: her sisters are her bridesmaids. I feel like you have

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Speaker 1: your sisters of bridesmaids, and like the rest it's nothing. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I wonder which was the least eligible bridesmaid of the sisters.

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Speaker 2: Like eligible for yeah, yeah, okay, I thought you met,

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Speaker 2: Like like, who's the ugly sister?

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Speaker 1: What's to do that? And one is serving as made

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Speaker 1: of honor. I come from a smaller family, just my parents,

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Speaker 1: my sister, and my niece, Bryn. Brynn is three years

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Speaker 1: and I love her to bits. I didn't care when

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Speaker 1: and likewise, my sister was cool with it. I did

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Speaker 1: of my fiance's brother in laws in my wedding party

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Speaker 1: at my fiance's requests, but ultimately it's her set of

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Speaker 1: the party. She can do what she wants. Wait, so,

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Speaker 2: is maybe she didn't. She just didn't pick she.

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Speaker 1: Like definitely like a little bit of a like usually

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Speaker 1: Then it came time to pick the younger roles in

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Speaker 2: I think it's just like the little dudes, little dudes,

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Speaker 2: the ushers, I remember, Yeah, maybe the ushers. I remember

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Speaker 2: But that's is that a junior not? Yeah, I don't

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Speaker 1: Her older nephews are junior grooms men. The younger is

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Speaker 1: the ring bearer. I don't know what the junior grooms

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Speaker 1: My fiance wants her to be the flower girl. I said,

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Speaker 1: He has a small family. He's just trying to make

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Speaker 2: Junior groomsman is someone who's too old to be the

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Speaker 2: like standing, you know, with the so I it seems

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Speaker 1: Of course. Nope, my fiance says she wants our wedding

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Speaker 1: What's so traditional traditional? I've seen I've seen two flower

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Speaker 2: Also that's a dumb tradition. Yes, the whole point of

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Speaker 1: Yeah, freaking okay. I suggested Brinn could hold a sign

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Speaker 3: Why? Why?

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Speaker 1: He also provided such a great solution, the best.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but there is an update. This morning, my fiance

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Speaker 1: parroting it's tradition, let Aubrey have the spotlight. She shot down. Compromise.

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Speaker 2: And that means the parents are in on it too,

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Speaker 4: Yo, yo, dude, Ah shit, red flag dog, big big,

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Speaker 3: And so his sister or his nephew or niece or.

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Speaker 1: Whatever it's his nephew Ernie snee niece. Yeah. God. Also

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, the activity. There we go. The whole

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Speaker 2: Just like that, but like another thing that was truly disturbed,

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Speaker 1: Gonna is it going to like disturb or derail the wedding?

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Speaker 1: This this doesn't seem like it's the case. Right, It's

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Speaker 2: If anything, everything's gonna be like, Wow, this is such

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I like everyone wins. Dude, stop the madness is

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Speaker 2: All right.

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Speaker 1: First of all, it's just a little girl. Like little

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Speaker 1: I actually this is gonna be so weird. But down

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, wow.

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Speaker 1: Fucking atomic bomb, but low key huge red flag.

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Speaker 3: I mean it really.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, at a minimum, it's like we are not doing

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Speaker 1: Yeah, shit, dude, I've left our apartment, staying at my

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Speaker 1: Y'all were right, dude, Like yeah, so dude, dude, dude,

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Speaker 1: that's a nuclear bomb. Wow, Well imagine you're fucking playing

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Speaker 1: And but I feel like like ableism is a I

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Speaker 1: how do you not see the red flags?

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Speaker 3: Man?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just but you're you are right, Like this

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she could kind of keep that under under the rug.

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