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Speaker 1: Okay, guys, I am officially on my High and Mighty tour.

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Speaker 1: March thirteenth, Cleveland, Ohio. March fourteenth Columbus, Ohio. March fifteenth, Cincinnati, Ohio,

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Speaker 1: and then March twentieth is Denver, Colorado. March twenty seventh, Portland, Maine.

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Speaker 1: March twenty eighth, Providence, Rhode Island. March twenty ninth, Springfield, Massachusetts.

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Speaker 1: April tenth is Chicago. I'll be at the Chicago Theater.

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Speaker 1: April eleventh, Indianapolis, Indiana. April twelfth Louisville, Kentucky. April sixteenth

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Speaker 1: is Albuquerque, New Mexico. April seventeenth is Mesa, Arizona. April

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Speaker 1: twenty third is Kansas City, Missouri. April twenty fourth is

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Speaker 1: Saint Louis, Missouri. April twenty fifth is Minneapolis, Minnesota. April

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Speaker 1: thirtieth Nashville, Tennessee. May first is Charlotte, North Carolina. May

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Speaker 1: second is Durham, North Carolina. May sixth, I'm doing Netflix

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Speaker 1: as a joke festival. I will be in Los Angeles.

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Speaker 1: That is a new announcement, along with Atlantic City. May fifteenth, Toga, California.

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Speaker 1: May sixteenth, Monterey, California, May seventeenth Modesto, California, and then

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Speaker 1: June fourth, Portchester, New York. June fifth is Boston, mass

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Speaker 1: And June twelfth is Portland, Oregon.

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Speaker 2: And then Seattle is June thirteenth. So suck on that. Everybody.

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Speaker 2: Go to Chelseahandler dot com for tickets.

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Speaker 3: Hi Catherine, Hi Chelsea. I have to tell you I

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Speaker 3: was channeling you this morning when I almost got in

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Speaker 3: a fight with a man.

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Speaker 2: Oh wonderful.

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Speaker 3: I went to the gym, wonderful for you, I know, truly, truly.

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Speaker 3: My blood pressure was up.

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Speaker 4: So I went to the gym this morning and like

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Speaker 4: got Princess parking. I was feeling great about it, but

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Speaker 4: a space next to this guy and like just a

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Speaker 4: it's all jacked up and whatever, the small penis truck.

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Speaker 4: And I heard the car start and the truck next

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Speaker 4: my car, make sure I'm not parked like an asshole. Right,

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Speaker 4: So I'm waiting and waiting and I turned off my car.

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Speaker 4: I see him walk up and through my rearview mirror,

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Speaker 4: I can see he's like bending down next to my car.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, what is this guy doing? It looked like

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Speaker 3: he was like taking a picture next to my car.

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Speaker 5: So he gets in his car.

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Speaker 4: I tried, I'd like turn my car on to roll

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Speaker 4: And he doesn't hear me.

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Speaker 3: He's in his car.

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Speaker 4: So I get out a wrap on his window and

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Speaker 4: I'm like, hey, why are you like taking pictures of

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Speaker 4: wasn't taking pictures of your car. I was taking pictures

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Speaker 4: of that. And I look down and like, my gym

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Speaker 4: is right next to a laundromat and there's like, you

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Speaker 4: know those inserts in a bikini that's just like the

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Speaker 4: that had fallen out of somebody's laundry. And I was like, okay, whatever,

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Speaker 4: Like men are so stupid. I'm like, that hasn't even

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Speaker 3: Anyway, So I go into the.

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Speaker 4: Gym, I work out all my like you know, anger issues.

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Speaker 4: I come back out, I try to get in my car.

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Speaker 4: I like opened the door to a black as suv.

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Speaker 4: It's not my car. I'm like, man, this person's a mess.

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Speaker 4: They left their car unlocked. So then I go find

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Speaker 5: So just like, fully.

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Speaker 3: Left my car on in the.

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Speaker 5: So anyway, I'm the car.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, well the key wasn't in the car.

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Speaker 2: I had the key with me.

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Speaker 5: It just like.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, girl, I'm a mess. I'm a mess. Yeah, anyway,

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Speaker 4: I tried to channel you and get in a fight.

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Speaker 2: So did you believe that he was taking a picture.

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Speaker 4: Of that or is that Yeah, he was like down

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Speaker 1: But that reminds me of the time I took a

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, yeah, I didn't know what.

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Speaker 1: after I was the this is the beginning of the fight.

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Speaker 2: I'm trying. I had to I got caught.

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Speaker 1: I had to got caught red handed, and I had

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Speaker 3: I love that you just told the truth, you were like,

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Speaker 1: Was like, I just went through all the scenarios in

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Speaker 4: Well, I have a quick update from Jessica, who called

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Speaker 4: in on our Laura and Jackson episode. She was parenting

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Speaker 4: through the loss of her own mom and so she

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Speaker 4: sent me a picture. When we talked to Laurel and Jackson.

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Speaker 4: Laura had told her look out for a blue butterfly

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Speaker 4: and a chicken. She's like, it's gonna come soon. Keep

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Speaker 4: an eye out for your blue butterfly and the chicken.

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Speaker 4: So Jessica texted me that very night with a picture

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Speaker 4: I didn't expect it so soon. I noticed it in

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Speaker 4: I had never seen it before, and when I asked

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Speaker 4: me to make things work with her. Jessica, So it

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Speaker 5: This I did.

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Speaker 3: I did.

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Speaker 2: Ok, yeah, oh that's sweet.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So we'll see if she gets back about the chicken.

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Speaker 2: Order a chicken at dinner and then there it is.

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Speaker 3: Maybe yeah, maybe it's that kind of chicken. Okay, cool.

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Speaker 4: Well. Our caller today is Melissa. Her subject line is microdosing,

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Speaker 4: shrooms and lesbian marriage rock bottom, Dear Chelsea.

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Speaker 3: Was my subject line? Catchy enough?

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Speaker 4: What a combo right shroom question is? For myself? I'm

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Speaker 4: the birth mom of our three young kids, currently on

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Speaker 3: Actually, she sent me an update.

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Speaker 4: She was on zoloft and now she's on lexapro and

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Speaker 4: it's going pretty well. The lesbian marriage advice is for

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Speaker 4: myself and my wife, who've been married for seven years

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Speaker 4: and together for twelve. My wife is going on forty

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Speaker 4: and she's not thrilled to say the least. Definitely a

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Speaker 4: midlife crisis type of situation. I'm currently typing this as

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Speaker 4: I feed our toddler twins on their bedroom floor while

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Speaker 4: breastpumping some fresh milk and eating animal crackers. Anyway, I'm

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Speaker 4: on lexapro now, but I want to try microdosing to

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Speaker 4: help with my anxiety, obsessive thinking and ADHD undiagnosed officially,

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Speaker 3: Is this a good idea?

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Speaker 2: Now?

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Speaker 4: I'll try to summarize the deep hole my wife and

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Speaker 4: I are in. We've been cycling through the same issues

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Speaker 4: throughout most of our relationship.

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Speaker 5: Problem one.

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Speaker 4: We deal with conflict very differently. She's yeller and quick

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Speaker 4: to let everything fester inside and get passive aggressive when

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Speaker 4: it's too much. I always feel like I have to

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Speaker 4: defend myself. Problem too. We live in chaos most of

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Speaker 4: and I feel like my energy is so depleted that

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Speaker 4: How do we get through this phase and make it

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Speaker 3: Thanks for reading my middle of the night email? Love Melissa.

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Speaker 2: Hi Melissa, Hi, Hi, Hi. How old are your kids?

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Speaker 6: I have a four year old son, and then my

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Speaker 1: Well, nobody's having a good time during that okay, sexually

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Speaker 6: We tried like four sessions and our therapists was a disaster,

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Speaker 6: no time, we have no time. We were doing sessions

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Speaker 6: at like eight thirty nine o'clock at night, rushing the

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Speaker 6: which didn't end up working out. Try reaching out like

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Speaker 6: a couple therapists, but like when do we have time?

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Speaker 1: really important. Yeah, you have Like, especially when you have

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Speaker 1: Like the communication is so important that I would really

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Speaker 1: give it a whirl. I understand you have no time,

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Speaker 1: you will see changes quickly. So it sucks that you

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Speaker 2: I know that.

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Speaker 1: And like you need to make the time because it's

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Speaker 1: your relationship, and you know, like you're both wanting different things.

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Speaker 2: She's wanting more sex, you're not feeling it.

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Speaker 1: You're obviously you're breastfeeding, you have two little kids.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you look at it now, you're done with

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Speaker 2: the breastfeeding. Great, Great, You're just dealing with different.

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Speaker 1: Things and you're not you know, you're not aligned, But

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Speaker 1: that doesn't mean you're not going to become aligned. Like

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Speaker 1: it is, this is an impermanent thing, you know, so

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Speaker 4: Chelsea who says I'm planning a fiftieth birthday trip with

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would say Palm is really busy Alcudia that

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Speaker 1: is Minneapolis, Minnesota. April thirtieth Nashville, Tennessee. May first is Charlotte,

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Speaker 1: North Carolina. May second is Durham, North Carolina. May sixth

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Speaker 1: Atlantic City May fifteenth, Saratoga, California, May sixteenth, Monterey, California,

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Speaker 1: May seventeenth, Modesto, California, and then June.

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Speaker 2: Fourth Portchester, New York.

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Speaker 1: June fifth is Boston, mass and June twelfth is Portland, Oregon.

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Speaker 1: And then Seattle is June thirteenth. So suck on that, everybody.

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Speaker 1: Go to Chelseahandler dot com for tickets.

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Speaker 4: podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 4: Follow Chelsea on all socials at Chelsea Handler and find

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Speaker 3: Dear Chelsea is edited and engineered by Brandon.

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