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Speaker 1: All right, welcome to the show with Daddy Issues. Hey,

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Speaker 1: oh yeah, it's Burke and Jeffrey.

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Speaker 2: In the morning, there was a Second Date podcast, of course,

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Speaker 2: I'm referring to yesterday's Second Date where the guy said

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Speaker 2: because she had a nose piercing.

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Speaker 1: As I'm staring at Alexis's.

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Speaker 2: Nose piercing, which I had mine peers for eighteen years.

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Speaker 2: The only reason I took it out is because when

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Speaker 2: I was breastfeeding my baby when she was little, she

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Speaker 2: kept ripping it out of my nose.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, it hurts so bad. Oh yeah, yeah. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: my dad was all about it when I got it done,

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Speaker 1: but I'm.

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Speaker 3: Already probably you as well. Yeah, it's like double pain.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was double pain. Some of the comments we're

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Speaker 1: seeing from yesterday, yeah, kind of the same. Megan Jones said,

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Speaker 1: I got my nose piers with my dad. Oh yeah.

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Speaker 2: Michelle says, everyone knows the universal sign for daddy issues

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Speaker 2: is a lower back tattoo. Yeah, it's just the universal

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Speaker 2: sign that you went to high school in the late nineties,

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Speaker 2: everybody had or a palm tree or a heart.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. I used to go to a tanny bed,

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Speaker 1: which don't do. By the way, it's terrible for you.

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Speaker 1: In the back of a video store. It was so sketchy,

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Speaker 1: that is, it was so sketchy.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, we're got awkward Tuesday right now, and so let's

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Speaker 2: get awkward and make it happen.

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Speaker 1: It's brand new and it starts now.

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Speaker 3: The most uncomfortable topic to bring up in any conversation

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Speaker 3: isn't politics or religion or that hairy growth on your

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Speaker 3: lower back hands down? Its money? Oh oh yeah, top.

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Speaker 3: And while it's kind of unavoidable if you're talking with

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Speaker 3: your boss or your roommate, the last person you want

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Speaker 3: to bring it up with is your crush.

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Speaker 1: Ooh, I know.

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Speaker 3: That's exactly what one of our listeners is being forced

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Speaker 3: to do. And the craziest part is why he has

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Speaker 3: to discuss it with her. Oh, it's so weird. You're

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Speaker 3: going to hear it in your brand new awkward Tuesday

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Speaker 3: phone call right after this. It's awkward.

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Speaker 1: It's Tuesday.

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Speaker 3: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. It shouldn't happen, but sometimes

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Speaker 3: it does. Where money comes between friends and ruins their

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Speaker 3: relationship forever.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so easily that can happen.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like when I bought Brooke a seventy dollars wine

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Speaker 3: glass to Canter for her wedding. That should pretty much

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Speaker 3: equal out Brooke paying for all of my lunches over

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Speaker 3: the last decade, but somehow she doesn't see it that day.

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Speaker 3: Why you don't pay her?

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Speaker 2: I actually got married thirteen years ago, so it's been

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Speaker 2: over a decade that I've been paying for lunches.

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Speaker 3: That's three years. You see the hostilities that I'm still

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Speaker 3: getting over a decade later. Now, Brooke and I've been

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Speaker 3: able to work through it, but one of our listeners

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Speaker 3: hasn't had as much success with his friend, and that's

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Speaker 3: why he needs our help today. Nick, Welcome to the

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Speaker 3: friend Dome. How you do it?

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Speaker 4: Hey, guys, if you're having me, do you? Nick?

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Speaker 5: Now?

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Speaker 3: Not yet? Well, tell us about the situation going on

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Speaker 3: that's created issues with you and your friend.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so I got this co worker. She works in

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Speaker 4: my company, but different floor, so I don't really see

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Speaker 1: So this is just a work friend that we're talking about.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, so I've had like a small crush on

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Speaker 4: her for a while.

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Speaker 3: Okay, what's her name?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Dana.

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Speaker 1: Okay, does Dana know you have a crush on her.

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Speaker 4: She does because I actually asked her out in a

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Speaker 4: work event at a year ago.

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Speaker 3: Okay, how long ago?

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Speaker 4: About a year ago?

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Speaker 1: A year ago, so it didn't turn into anything.

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Speaker 4: Now, she actually had a boyfriend at the time, so

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Speaker 4: she said no, thank you, but I would if I

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Speaker 4: So a year later, I'm kind of out of the blue,

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Speaker 4: I get a message from her and she wants me

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Speaker 4: I've always liked this girl. You know, I'm still single,

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Speaker 4: so maybe something exchanged.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, maybe she broke up with her boyfriend. Yeah

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Speaker 4: Yeah yeah. So turns out she needed a plus one

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Speaker 4: for a wedding that she was going to that Saturday.

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Speaker 6: Wow, wedding dates a legit invite.

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Speaker 1: That is her opening, right, just single.

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Speaker 4: Then at the time, I wasn't sure, and I really

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I feel like if I don't ask and

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Speaker 2: I don't have to know.

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Speaker 4: Right, Yes, I wasn't sure, and uh, I just kind

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Speaker 4: of wanted to find out and see, and I legitimately

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Speaker 2: I'm still hoping she's single, and so I can say, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 3: Gone to the wedding yet or no?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so I canceled my plans. I was excited to go.

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Speaker 4: Oh I had plans already.

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Speaker 3: But they can wait totally right.

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Speaker 4: So I went to the wedding, and I did find

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Speaker 4: out that they broke up.

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Speaker 3: Yes, horrible. You're talking about Dana and her boyfriend.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, dated her boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: Dude, that's awesome and lining up for you.

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Speaker 2: I feel like you had to like restrain yourself when

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Speaker 2: she said yeah, we broke up, You're like, oh, pump

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Speaker 4: I pretended to feel sad about it.

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Speaker 1: Good job, what you're supposed to do.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, And we had a great time. And it was

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Speaker 4: our friend from college's wedding. We were dancing, drinking, had

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Speaker 6: Oh good, Yeah, this is random, But like, how were

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Speaker 6: you associating with her other friends?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I guess that they will give you a good

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Speaker 3: read into how there will, like the vibe is between

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: We were all drinking at the bar, having a good time,

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Speaker 4: good great size.

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Speaker 1: Okay, where does the money sign?

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Speaker 2: Like? This is feeling like a second date update, not

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Speaker 2: a for Tuesday.

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Speaker 4: Oh I'm getting there, don't worry.

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Speaker 1: Oh you're life Okay.

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Speaker 4: At the end of the night, we had a hug.

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Speaker 4: I could have went for the kids, but I didn't,

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Speaker 4: Then two days later it happened.

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Speaker 1: What did who?

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Speaker 4: I got a Venmo request asking for one hundred and

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Speaker 4: fifty dollars to cover my wedding guest feet?

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Speaker 1: Oh what from who? It wasn't from her? It was

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Speaker 4: It was from It was from Dana.

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Speaker 3: Yeh wow, I've never even heard of that.

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Speaker 1: Did she Venmo the wrong person?

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Speaker 4: I texted her and I said, are you sure this

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Speaker 3: We will wait wait, so we will.

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Speaker 2: I guess it makes sense if the bride didn't like this,

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Speaker 2: she didn't bring a boyfriend, he said, wedding gift. It

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Speaker 2: sounds like there that she's making him pay for the.

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Speaker 1: Wedding gift that she gave her friend from college.

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Speaker 3: Is that what you said? Gift?

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Speaker 5: Know what?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, wedding costs, guest cost guest wedding.

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Speaker 1: Guess what is that? Then?

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Speaker 3: I'm not sure to be okay, So what is it

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Speaker 4: I mean, I kind of just want to know what

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Speaker 4: the costs are for? Why am I paying them? Yeah,

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Speaker 4: you invited me to a wedding, Like she's hugely like,

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Speaker 4: I want to know what's going on.

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Speaker 1: It's like her okay, I.

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Speaker 3: Mean, it would make sense if he was getting an

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Speaker 2: Well, and there's no explanation. She's treated that like that's

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Speaker 3: Like she said for food or for a give or.

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Speaker 2: Maybe there was like a cash bar and you didn't

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Speaker 4: Maybe.

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Speaker 3: But he wants to keep the chance of a romantic

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Speaker 3: out some ways to flirtily sexily ask her about Hey,

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Speaker 3: what's the one hundred and fifty dollars charge? He sent me?

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Speaker 6: All about flirty conflict this you, Jeff.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we'll come back with some advice for you for

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Speaker 3: your awkward Tuesday phone call right after this. It's awkward.

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Speaker 3: It's it's awkward Tuesday phone call. If you're just joining

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Speaker 3: us for the awkward Tuesday phone call not only as

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Speaker 3: between our listener Nick and his coworker Dana. There's been

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Speaker 3: some unspoken feelings happening there. So when she asked him

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Speaker 3: was his golden opportunity.

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Speaker 1: Oh, he was so excited.

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Speaker 3: The weird part is afterwards, Dana sent him a one

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Speaker 3: hundred and fifty dollars invoice to cover their wedding guest fees.

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Speaker 1: We still don't know what that means.

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Speaker 3: Nobody knows what that means, least of all Nick, and

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Speaker 3: it just felt wrong to him because he was the

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Speaker 3: still keeping his chances with her alive. Honestly, though, Nick,

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Speaker 3: if you really want this woman to like you, maybe

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Speaker 3: the best answer is just eat that one hundred and

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Speaker 3: fifty dollars and don't make this phone call.

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Speaker 2: I was gonna say no, you guys, this sets the

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Speaker 2: tone for the entire relationship.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, he takes care of his lady.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she'll like that about you. Yeah, okay, Brook, you

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Speaker 3: have better advice for him? What's do?

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Speaker 1: I think you should get out of pen and write

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Speaker 1: down my question right now? Seriously, Brook, nobody writes with

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Speaker 2: Just write on your phone and okay, okay, I need

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Speaker 2: to ask her, Nick, why pay her half?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, seriously? Why pay her half?

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Speaker 2: Because she said that it's for me as well. Right,

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Speaker 2: so she invited you, it's her friend. Sure she should

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Speaker 1: But but in the least, why do you have to

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Speaker 1: pay her wedding fee? That doesn't make any sense.

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Speaker 3: Are you saying that on a date? Brook? You wouldn't

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Speaker 3: make your husband Michael pay for stuff.

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Speaker 1: This isn't a date.

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Speaker 2: This is a wedding and this is her friends like

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Speaker 1: All the time.

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Speaker 3: When you and Michael are at a wedding, all bets

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Speaker 3: and whatever happens just happened. I see what you're saying.

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Speaker 3: B take that in mind, Jose, what's your advice?

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Speaker 1: I don't understand.

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Speaker 6: I get it, Jose, you are going to do something

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Speaker 1: Really?

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Speaker 2: Why?

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah?

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Speaker 4: Why why would I think her?

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Speaker 6: Well this, it's a positive tone. Immediately you're like, hey,

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Speaker 3: Rather than accusing her of what it's for, you're like

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Speaker 6: Yes, it must have been a wedding gift.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it could get you the answers you want

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Speaker 1: Out of pain for it.

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Speaker 6: One step at a time, for happy, keep the vibes positive.

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Speaker 3: What do you think you feel like that's helping you out?

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Speaker 4: Call here, yeah, I guess I'm still very confused on

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Speaker 3: But we've given you the tools to be able to

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Speaker 2: I'm so curious how you're going to feel after you

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Speaker 1: Wonder what the is seven five each is a pretty

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Speaker 3: Saying you're lucky that she didn't invoice you to pay

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Speaker 4: Hello, Hey, Dana, it's Nick. How you doing.

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Speaker 5: Hi, Nick, I'm great, It's great to hear from you.

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Speaker 4: You too. How's everything going.

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Speaker 5: It's going pretty well. Just working like usual, as you know.

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Speaker 4: Yep, yep, just another day on the grind.

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Speaker 5: What we do. So what's up? Are we still getting

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Speaker 4: Or yeah? Yeah? I mean I had a great time

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, well you know the bride she sent me

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I just kind of came out of nowhere. When

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Speaker 4: I also just I should have asked if I, you know,

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Speaker 4: you know, I never want to chalk in between that,

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Speaker 5: I mean maybe I read the situation wrong. I mean

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Speaker 5: Are you saying you wouldn't want to pay if we

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Speaker 4: I was a date, I think it would be different.

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Speaker 4: I just kind of you kind of invited me, and

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Speaker 4: I didn't know if it was you were considering it

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Speaker 4: probably would have helped. You know.

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Speaker 5: Oh that's interesting. It kind of feels like you're criticizing

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Speaker 5: how I handled it.

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Speaker 4: Not trying to criticize, just kind of thinking out loud

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Speaker 5: Well, ever, since I broke up with my boyfriend, I've

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Speaker 5: just notoriously cheap, And that's why I'm just so glad

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Speaker 5: that I'm getting to spend time with you. You know,

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Speaker 5: you have so much integrity and you really know how

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Speaker 5: to treat a woman.

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Speaker 4: Well, I appreciate that.

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Speaker 5: So if you wanted to spend more than one hundred

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Speaker 5: and fifty, you know, I did have to uber home

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Speaker 5: that night, and there were just a couple other expenses.

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Speaker 5: Oh man, Nick, you're not saying a lot. Is there

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Speaker 4: So? Uh, that's a little that's a little outlandish, that's

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Speaker 5: It's outlandish. Is Atlantis to want to take care of

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Speaker 5: me to make sure that I get home safe? Like

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Speaker 5: you wouldn't just want to spend a little extra money.

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Speaker 5: Maybe you're not the person that I thought you weren't.

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Speaker 4: Nick.

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Speaker 2: Oh god, god, Nick, that is terribless.

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Speaker 5: No, not, Hey, what's going on?

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Speaker 1: Who is that?

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Speaker 4: Hell?

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Speaker 1: That was so manipulative, Dana.

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Speaker 3: We're all very impressed with you, Dana, because, yeah, you're

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Speaker 2: Morning, a radio show.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Nick's there too.

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Speaker 5: Nick, Why would you do this?

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Speaker 2: This is between you and me.

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Speaker 5: Why would you call a radio show? What is happening?

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Speaker 4: It just kind of was taken off guard. I was

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Speaker 4: I called them to help me because I really like

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Speaker 5: So, yeah, you don't like me enough to pay for

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Speaker 5: my uber to get home safe, So I guess that's

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Speaker 1: Or even go to the wedding and uber home regardless.

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Speaker 2: There, dam How does that have any indication of whether

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Speaker 1: You guys work at the same place. You probably make

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Speaker 5: First of all, I don't know who the hell you are.

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Speaker 5: And certain women have standards. It sounds like you have none.

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Speaker 1: No, certain women have independence, and you need some.

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Speaker 5: Excuse me, No, do you know what year it is, Grandma.

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Speaker 5: Women are still to be taking care of.

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Speaker 2: Taking care of Okay, we're back into the nineteen ten.

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Speaker 3: Is enough of to pull yourself up by your own bootsteps.

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Speaker 1: It's not that pay for. You invited him to the wedding.

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Speaker 3: Let us puts we want to lift you to greatness.

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Speaker 3: That's what tells me.

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Speaker 4: Okay, hey, so yeah, these people were trying to give

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Speaker 4: me a hand. But you know, I'm sorry, Dana. I

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Speaker 4: want to take responsibility for it.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's nice, that's really nice.

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Speaker 4: I could have been better.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Now, why are you taking blame for this?

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Speaker 4: I mean, Brook, you're ganging up on her. You're getting

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Speaker 4: a guest. I don't have to put up with this.

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Speaker 3: Up for you, No, he does. He wants to stand

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Speaker 3: up for Dana because he was her date.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and so at the beginning, this is what you want.

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Speaker 5: That is how women should be treated. Thank you, Nick.

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Speaker 3: Okay, we'll start. I'll come into an agreement here. So

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Speaker 3: are you willing to cost towards her and venmo to

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Speaker 4: Whatever she needs to feel comfortable here.

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Speaker 3: Wow, you just want a good guy.

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Speaker 2: You're just buying her affection at this point. That is

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Speaker 1: It won't last in the end.

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Speaker 3: Brook, you're not dating anymore. I don't think you have

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Speaker 3: any You you checked out thirteen years ago from this

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Speaker 2: So you know after this, I'm venmoing you a charge

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Speaker 2: for attending my wedding and that's just Nick.

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Speaker 3: You're going to cover that cost from me, right, Bro,

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Speaker 3: it's about love.

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Speaker 4: I don't have you, but I do have Dana. Dana,

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Speaker 4: You and I are good.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, what a gentleman, Dana. You landed a good

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Speaker 3: one there. Yeah, chivalry Ison dead?

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Speaker 1: What romos?

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Speaker 4: Nick?

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Speaker 5: Don't listen to him. I'll see you at lunch. You're

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Speaker 5: paying Okay?

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Speaker 2: Now, you actually do sound like Jeffrey.

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Speaker 3: You should be so lucky.

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Speaker 2: Brook.

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Speaker 3: It Jeffrey in the morning, and we don't have Dana

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Speaker 2: It just sounds like she's cheap to me. She doesn't

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I think.

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Speaker 3: That's possible. Sure, or it could just be like she

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Speaker 1: Consider a date too.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, date, He wasn't sure, but he heard Dana's explanation

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Speaker 1: He eventually came around coward coward.

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Speaker 3: To her, like every woman wants a good man to

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Speaker 3: do absolutely so, as long as expectations are laid out

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Speaker 3: ahead of time, it's really up to Nick to say

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Speaker 1: Well, he does finally know and we did help him

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Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure, because it's his life and he chose

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you're taking such a noble stance on this.

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Speaker 3: Well, you know, I'm just trying to play the middle. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: so we'll try to do that for you. If you

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Speaker 3: need help with your awkward lives, email the show, and

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