1 00:00:01,120 --> 00:00:06,400 Speaker 1: Conversations on life, style, beauty, and relationships. It's the Velvet's 2 00:00:06,480 --> 00:00:08,760 Speaker 1: Edge Podcasts with Kelly Henderson. 3 00:00:08,760 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 2: New York Times best selling author and well known practicing 4 00:00:12,200 --> 00:00:15,080 Speaker 2: intuitive Lord Day is back on the podcast today. 5 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:18,400 Speaker 3: Hi, Laura, Hey, how you doing. I'm good. How are you? 6 00:00:19,320 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 4: I'm doing well good. 7 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:24,400 Speaker 2: I think I was thinking about this before we got 8 00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:27,920 Speaker 2: on the podcast. I feel like intuition gets kind of 9 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 2: passed off as this like wo woo topic, and so 10 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:33,519 Speaker 2: maybe a lot of people even pass over it in 11 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:35,720 Speaker 2: their life and they don't really think about. 12 00:00:35,479 --> 00:00:36,200 Speaker 3: It at all. 13 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:41,159 Speaker 2: But your work is actually to demystify intuition. Why is 14 00:00:41,200 --> 00:00:42,239 Speaker 2: that important to you? 15 00:00:43,360 --> 00:00:47,040 Speaker 4: Well, you know something that just by nature, if anything, 16 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:52,480 Speaker 4: is mystical, it's something we don't understand. And actually, major universities, 17 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:57,440 Speaker 4: many governments have done so much research on psychic skills 18 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 4: intuition and extrasensory perception we want to call it, and 19 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:06,440 Speaker 4: we have confirmation that these skills not only exist, but 20 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:08,600 Speaker 4: they're in play in our lives all the time, for 21 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:13,559 Speaker 4: better or for worse. So I really, for me, what's 22 00:01:13,640 --> 00:01:16,960 Speaker 4: so important? And I started out as a test subject 23 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 4: in the early eighties, But what's so important is not 24 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:22,680 Speaker 4: does it exist? Doesn't it? We know it does, and 25 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:26,080 Speaker 4: the research is online. You can look at it. Stamford, 26 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 4: you know, Duke, all of these Harvard, all of these 27 00:01:29,360 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 4: universities have done research. It's how do we use this 28 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:36,160 Speaker 4: to make our lives better? You know? I feel like 29 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 4: there are all these philosophies, these mystical things. You do 30 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 4: this twenty minutes a day and your life will change. 31 00:01:43,080 --> 00:01:46,480 Speaker 4: I don't have that many twenty minute segments to still 32 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:52,040 Speaker 4: do that. And basic bodily hygiene. So intuition, we all 33 00:01:52,080 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 4: have it. It is an inate ability. It's often misdirected 34 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:59,920 Speaker 4: and can really mess us up. And it's so easy, 35 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:03,559 Speaker 4: unlike intellect, unlike our emotions, as we all know, it's 36 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 4: so easy to master. 37 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, I love that. 38 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 2: And we talked a little bit about this before we 39 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 2: started recording too. But I love the idea of just 40 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 2: like the practical tips, Like last time you were here, 41 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 2: we really tapped into using your intuition and things like 42 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:21,000 Speaker 2: dating and how we can really use our intuition as 43 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:24,000 Speaker 2: a guide for who we're dating, how we're dating, all 44 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:27,560 Speaker 2: of those things, And this time we kind of wanted 45 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:30,720 Speaker 2: to dive into I mean, it's summer and so there's 46 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 2: all these different ways that you and I talked about 47 00:02:34,040 --> 00:02:38,400 Speaker 2: about using your intuition to really maximize your summer. So, 48 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:41,080 Speaker 2: I know a lot of people are probably traveling, you know, 49 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:43,080 Speaker 2: you're doing a lot more of just like the fun 50 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 2: activities in summertime. What do you think are some of 51 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:51,560 Speaker 2: the opportunities that we may have just this time of 52 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 2: year to really tap into our intuition to kind of 53 00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 2: maximize the fun, lighthearted living. 54 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 4: So, you know, I think fun light hearted living is 55 00:03:02,480 --> 00:03:06,720 Speaker 4: actually just when things go right and we struggle with them. 56 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:10,639 Speaker 4: It's not even that it's not work. It's that you 57 00:03:10,639 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 4: you know, you move a piece and the piece stays 58 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 4: moved and it's where you want it. Part of what 59 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:20,080 Speaker 4: happens in our day to day life, which for most 60 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:25,560 Speaker 4: of us is overfull and often with the wrong things, 61 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:29,520 Speaker 4: is that we're in a grid. It's like we're on 62 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:31,760 Speaker 4: a track. We have to do certain amount of things 63 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:37,119 Speaker 4: during the day. Are a lot of our meetings, even 64 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 4: our entertainment, our workouts, everything. We have a structure around 65 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:46,400 Speaker 4: us and that keeps our old way of being in place, 66 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 4: because of course we're held together by our habits and 67 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 4: our patterns, but they also limit us in many ways. 68 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:57,600 Speaker 4: They don't allow us to see metaphorically, see to know 69 00:03:58,480 --> 00:04:01,760 Speaker 4: all of the wealth of possibility that the world has 70 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:05,400 Speaker 4: to offer us. So the neat thing about summer is, 71 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 4: even if you don't go away, other people are going away. 72 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 4: Your grid changes. And when your grid changes, the downside 73 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 4: always like to start with those downsides. The downside is 74 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 4: you can be a little off balance, Things can feel 75 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 4: like more work. Sometimes a lot of the insecurities that 76 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:29,480 Speaker 4: your grid kept repressed may come up. It doesn't mean 77 00:04:29,520 --> 00:04:32,279 Speaker 4: they're true now. It just means that you're not repressing 78 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:35,360 Speaker 4: them anymore and you can let them work their way through. 79 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:38,599 Speaker 4: But the good thing about the grid being removed is 80 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:42,080 Speaker 4: that all of a sudden, if you know what you're 81 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:46,360 Speaker 4: hungry for, you're not trapped by your patterns because lot 82 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:50,960 Speaker 4: they're cracks in those patterns, and so intuition and life 83 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:56,080 Speaker 4: can allow new things in. So I did something for 84 00:04:56,160 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 4: the huff Post like a decade ago, now, maybe more 85 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 4: than a decade ago, called the geographical Okay, it's why 86 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:07,839 Speaker 4: we tend to fall in love or get a new job, 87 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:12,160 Speaker 4: or lose weight when we go to Italy. You know, 88 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:16,599 Speaker 4: when we're eating pasta twice a day. And it's because 89 00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:21,719 Speaker 4: when you move, when you're not in your grid, all 90 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 4: of a sudden, if you even have a vague sense 91 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:28,359 Speaker 4: of what you want, your intuition begins to find all 92 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 4: of the opportunities that you couldn't have seen before because 93 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:32,719 Speaker 4: the curtains were drawn. 94 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 3: I didn't even think about that. 95 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:37,440 Speaker 2: And it's so interesting that you point out it doesn't 96 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:40,040 Speaker 2: even necessarily have to be that our lives look different. 97 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:43,600 Speaker 2: It's just like the nature of summer and how people 98 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:46,800 Speaker 2: are leaving schedules, people kids aren't in school, like schedules 99 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:49,880 Speaker 2: aren't the same. And I love the point you made 100 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:53,680 Speaker 2: about what that can bring up. I noticed that in myself, 101 00:05:53,839 --> 00:05:56,400 Speaker 2: like the more I'm going a lot of times, you know, 102 00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 2: it's easy to get out of touch with yourself, I think. 103 00:05:59,279 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 2: And so then when stop and slow down and change, 104 00:06:02,120 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 2: like you're saying, the repressed feelings come up. Okay, So 105 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 2: can we talk a little more about that piece of it, like, 106 00:06:08,520 --> 00:06:09,679 Speaker 2: because it's really important. 107 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:13,200 Speaker 4: A lot of people go on vacation, Yeah, inm someplace. 108 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,120 Speaker 4: I want, why do I feel so miserable? Why have 109 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:17,760 Speaker 4: I suddenly noticed that my thighs are hideous? Why have 110 00:06:17,839 --> 00:06:20,840 Speaker 4: I suddenly Why am I suddenly realizing that I have 111 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:24,000 Speaker 4: let a worse job than everyone else? And it's really 112 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:27,480 Speaker 4: because you've been you know, when you're in a grid, 113 00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:30,120 Speaker 4: when you're in your daily life, the nice thing is 114 00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:32,560 Speaker 4: you don't have to feel everything. It's good to repress 115 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:35,479 Speaker 4: some things. But when you're out of your grid, the 116 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 4: things that are getting in your way or that you 117 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:41,320 Speaker 4: think they may not even be true. Most of the 118 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:44,560 Speaker 4: time they aren't. But that you stuff down it's not 119 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:46,960 Speaker 4: that you're not acting on them, but you're not aware 120 00:06:47,080 --> 00:06:51,000 Speaker 4: you are. Those things come up and so and believe me, 121 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:54,120 Speaker 4: I have so many clients and students who when they 122 00:06:54,120 --> 00:06:56,880 Speaker 4: go on vacation, they send me an emergency text and 123 00:06:56,920 --> 00:07:01,040 Speaker 4: I say, remember, you're on vacation the forest. First forty 124 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:03,800 Speaker 4: eight hours are for you to jot down all the 125 00:07:03,839 --> 00:07:06,279 Speaker 4: things you're neurotic about so that when you get back 126 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:10,200 Speaker 4: you can talk to your therapy. You know, doesn't mean 127 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:14,760 Speaker 4: they're true. Know your thighs haven't grown because you're in Aruba. 128 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:16,360 Speaker 3: You just have time. 129 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:17,840 Speaker 4: That's about them. 130 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:21,600 Speaker 2: God, that is such an interesting factor. So if we 131 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 2: are in awareness about that, like I think that we 132 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:27,080 Speaker 2: just pointed that out so maybe people will start noticing it. 133 00:07:27,640 --> 00:07:30,200 Speaker 2: How are ways, like do you have any practical things 134 00:07:30,200 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 2: that are you just said like the jotting down, Like 135 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:34,480 Speaker 2: so when you go on vacation or we notice maybe 136 00:07:34,480 --> 00:07:36,440 Speaker 2: there's a little more quiet time in our life and 137 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:39,280 Speaker 2: we're spiraling out, is one of the tips you would 138 00:07:39,280 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 2: give to write that down. 139 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:45,239 Speaker 3: Go to therapy, like how do we use our intuition here, We'll. 140 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:48,640 Speaker 4: Go to therapy on vacation and don't strut journal misery 141 00:07:48,680 --> 00:07:52,360 Speaker 4: on vacation. Okay, the important thing to do on vacation 142 00:07:52,520 --> 00:07:56,480 Speaker 4: because remember vacation, getting out of the grid opens up 143 00:07:56,560 --> 00:08:00,520 Speaker 4: new opportunities. So I would notice the things that are 144 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 4: going down, jot them down quickly so you can put 145 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 4: them aside. Like maybe once I write this down, every 146 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 4: time I think about it, I'm going to focus on 147 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:12,720 Speaker 4: something else, so you know, realize that it's this is 148 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 4: just it's it's it's static that keeps you from hearing 149 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:20,680 Speaker 4: the opportunity intuitively, So I would you know, put the 150 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 4: static aside. Certainly when there's a change, even when like 151 00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 4: both of you, both of us have had a little 152 00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:31,600 Speaker 4: health stuff. Yeah thing made it, But even a change 153 00:08:31,640 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 4: like that, I always say Okay, like I've had bronchitis, 154 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:38,040 Speaker 4: I was flying too much. Great, I can't do all 155 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:40,560 Speaker 4: the things I wanted to do. But this is an 156 00:08:40,600 --> 00:08:44,800 Speaker 4: opportunity to write more. This is an opportunity to just 157 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 4: indulge myself. This is an opportunity to live on a 158 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:54,480 Speaker 4: diet of Oreo cookies. And this is an opportunity like I, 159 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 4: where is the opportunity here? So when you're on vacation, 160 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:00,319 Speaker 4: believe me, you have plenty of time to obst when 161 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:02,439 Speaker 4: you get home if you want to. But when you're 162 00:09:02,480 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 4: on vacation, you need to be looking for the opportunities. 163 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:08,600 Speaker 4: And one of the things that really helps you look intuitively, 164 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:14,160 Speaker 4: because intuition needs instructions. Intuition one again, once again, there's 165 00:09:14,160 --> 00:09:17,280 Speaker 4: that mystifying of intuition that intuitions an angel who comes 166 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:19,719 Speaker 4: down and guides you in the right direction. No, you 167 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:22,439 Speaker 4: are your angel. How do you guide you in the 168 00:09:22,520 --> 00:09:26,840 Speaker 4: right direction? What do you want? What are you looking for? 169 00:09:27,160 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 4: Get it out of your messy head, write it down, 170 00:09:30,720 --> 00:09:34,000 Speaker 4: and then not a laundry list of fifty things. Pick 171 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:38,840 Speaker 4: your top three champions and then put them under one umbrella. 172 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 4: So the umbrella often is, you know, a functional life. 173 00:09:43,840 --> 00:09:48,719 Speaker 4: The umbrella can often be amazing passion in everything I do. 174 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:53,440 Speaker 4: The umbrella can be ease in supporting my needs, and 175 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:57,079 Speaker 4: the umbrella changes. But when you're on vacation, what are 176 00:09:57,080 --> 00:10:01,080 Speaker 4: you looking for? Are you looking for just rejuvenation? Are 177 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:04,240 Speaker 4: you looking for love and hot passion that will last 178 00:10:04,280 --> 00:10:07,800 Speaker 4: you a lifetime? Like? What are your goals? Because intuition 179 00:10:08,040 --> 00:10:10,800 Speaker 4: responds to your goals. If you take a moment and 180 00:10:10,840 --> 00:10:14,240 Speaker 4: everyone do this now, think of how you phrase things 181 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 4: in your head. Oh my god, I hope I'm not alone. 182 00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:18,320 Speaker 4: Oh my god, I hope I have enough money to retire. 183 00:10:18,679 --> 00:10:20,880 Speaker 4: Oh my god, I hope my child gets into college, 184 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:26,000 Speaker 4: baron preschool? Please could you at least wait? Like, we 185 00:10:26,800 --> 00:10:30,280 Speaker 4: tend to focus our thoughts, our intuition, and our attention 186 00:10:30,880 --> 00:10:35,280 Speaker 4: on negatives. I mean, as mammals to survive, that's what 187 00:10:35,320 --> 00:10:38,240 Speaker 4: we're hardwired to do. But we're not living in the 188 00:10:38,320 --> 00:10:43,280 Speaker 4: jungle or the tundra anymore. We are actually conscious enough 189 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:47,560 Speaker 4: and intellectual enough to be able to, you know, make 190 00:10:47,840 --> 00:10:52,600 Speaker 4: different use information differently. So your intuition is helping you 191 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:57,160 Speaker 4: find all the fearful information about retirement or you know, 192 00:10:57,240 --> 00:11:00,160 Speaker 4: when I was single, I was in my fifties, and 193 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 4: and intuition was helping me find literally every article I'd 194 00:11:03,400 --> 00:11:06,960 Speaker 4: never seen before on how why after fifty you will 195 00:11:06,960 --> 00:11:09,040 Speaker 4: not find a maid and all the men are gone 196 00:11:09,120 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 4: and blah blah blah. I mean, happily I got happily 197 00:11:13,160 --> 00:11:15,560 Speaker 4: married to the man of my dreams in my fifties, 198 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:19,640 Speaker 4: who I adore, Who is my reward for all the frogs? 199 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 4: But wonderful too. But anyway, you know, it's it's we are. 200 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:31,520 Speaker 4: Intuition can is easily inform us about all the miserable 201 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:35,760 Speaker 4: things and how to achieve them. What we want to 202 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:39,080 Speaker 4: do is the same way we take our reins and emotion, 203 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 4: and we take our reins and intellect. You know, if 204 00:11:43,400 --> 00:11:46,439 Speaker 4: you use your intellect to investigate toenails for five days, 205 00:11:46,440 --> 00:11:48,400 Speaker 4: it's not going to do much for you. If you 206 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:51,520 Speaker 4: use your intellect to investigate, your market might do a 207 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:55,920 Speaker 4: great deal for you. So you want to train your 208 00:11:55,920 --> 00:11:58,000 Speaker 4: intuition the same way. And how do you do that? 209 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:02,240 Speaker 4: On vacation? What is it you want to experience? What 210 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:06,000 Speaker 4: is it you want to create? You know, it's funny 211 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:09,839 Speaker 4: goals should be tied to experience, and we don't think 212 00:12:09,880 --> 00:12:12,240 Speaker 4: of it that way. Why do you want a lot 213 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:14,480 Speaker 4: of money. Oh, you want a lot of money to 214 00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 4: have ease in your life and be able to do everything. 215 00:12:17,720 --> 00:12:22,120 Speaker 4: There's so many ways to achieve that. You know, I 216 00:12:22,160 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 4: never pay for an airfare, by the way, I just 217 00:12:25,480 --> 00:12:30,400 Speaker 4: gather points. I fly like a millionaire. You know, there's 218 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:33,679 Speaker 4: so many different ways to skin a cat, more than 219 00:12:33,679 --> 00:12:35,720 Speaker 4: one way to skin a cat. Remember that old saying. 220 00:12:37,440 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 4: What you need to do is focus your intuition on 221 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:43,840 Speaker 4: what is it you want, and then notice where you 222 00:12:44,040 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 4: feel that already in your life, because you'll expand that 223 00:12:48,000 --> 00:12:53,200 Speaker 4: that feeling. Feelings usually aren't very good intuitive markers, because 224 00:12:53,240 --> 00:12:55,319 Speaker 4: a feeling could be that you need to eat a sandwich. 225 00:12:55,920 --> 00:13:00,960 Speaker 4: But what feelings do is they give us information about 226 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:04,880 Speaker 4: what it is we're looking for. So not only what 227 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 4: do you want on vacation you want to fall in love, 228 00:13:07,360 --> 00:13:11,840 Speaker 4: but you want to feel sexy and amazing. Look for 229 00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:15,680 Speaker 4: it in that moment, and actually intuition will help you 230 00:13:15,920 --> 00:13:20,520 Speaker 4: find ways to connect with the people who may become 231 00:13:20,760 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 4: that forever in your future. 232 00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:27,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so interesting because what I hear in everything 233 00:13:27,200 --> 00:13:31,480 Speaker 2: that you're saying is simply that these things that come up, 234 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:33,960 Speaker 2: especially in the quiet times, and maybe for some of 235 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:37,680 Speaker 2: us that summer when plans change, schedules change, it's not 236 00:13:37,760 --> 00:13:41,600 Speaker 2: our norm. We finally are like having even fears come up. 237 00:13:41,679 --> 00:13:44,200 Speaker 2: It's just a way to get to know ourselves more. 238 00:13:44,280 --> 00:13:46,880 Speaker 2: And what I hear you saying is like, these things 239 00:13:46,920 --> 00:13:50,200 Speaker 2: come up, and it's not necessarily to start beating ourselves up. 240 00:13:50,280 --> 00:13:52,600 Speaker 2: They're already in there and probably driving a lot of 241 00:13:52,600 --> 00:13:56,720 Speaker 2: our decisions anyway, as you said, But like they come up, 242 00:13:56,960 --> 00:13:59,440 Speaker 2: and how are we going to reframe this and actually 243 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:02,800 Speaker 2: listen to ourselves or look at what's behind it? Like 244 00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:06,079 Speaker 2: in actuality, like how we're getting to know ourselves. 245 00:14:06,440 --> 00:14:10,000 Speaker 4: The looking what's behind it sometimes is a rabbit hole, 246 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:12,880 Speaker 4: and rabbit holes are not even good for rabbits. 247 00:14:13,040 --> 00:14:15,600 Speaker 3: Okay, okay, so maybe don't do that part. 248 00:14:16,720 --> 00:14:19,720 Speaker 4: You know, the trauma is the difficulty, the trauma, the 249 00:14:19,720 --> 00:14:22,480 Speaker 4: things you're not blah blah blah. That's all going to 250 00:14:22,560 --> 00:14:26,040 Speaker 4: come out anyway if you move ahead on doing what 251 00:14:26,080 --> 00:14:28,720 Speaker 4: you want. So what does that look like? Intuitively? And 252 00:14:28,760 --> 00:14:31,120 Speaker 4: I want to focus people because we've been I've been 253 00:14:31,320 --> 00:14:36,040 Speaker 4: talking a lot about you know, what happens, how it happens, 254 00:14:36,040 --> 00:14:39,200 Speaker 4: what you do, you don't do, what are your goals? 255 00:14:39,280 --> 00:14:42,160 Speaker 4: Write down three goals, and then what is your main goal? 256 00:14:42,200 --> 00:14:44,880 Speaker 4: If you could put those under one umbrella, if you 257 00:14:44,920 --> 00:14:47,280 Speaker 4: were shooting an arrow at a bull's eye, I call 258 00:14:47,320 --> 00:14:50,800 Speaker 4: it for my group abracadabra. If you are arrow at 259 00:14:50,800 --> 00:14:53,840 Speaker 4: a bulls eye? What does that look? What is that 260 00:14:53,960 --> 00:14:55,840 Speaker 4: in terms of your life? What does it look like? 261 00:14:55,920 --> 00:14:59,360 Speaker 4: Smell like, taste like, feel like, sound like? Using all 262 00:14:59,440 --> 00:15:01,840 Speaker 4: of your sense, which is, by the way, how we 263 00:15:01,880 --> 00:15:06,680 Speaker 4: get world information, intellectual information, and how we get intuitive information. 264 00:15:07,280 --> 00:15:13,400 Speaker 4: And then begin to notice as you move through your day, 265 00:15:14,280 --> 00:15:17,200 Speaker 4: where does your mind go, where does your attention go? 266 00:15:17,800 --> 00:15:23,040 Speaker 4: And direct it not toward happy thoughts because I always think, 267 00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:27,600 Speaker 4: you know, if you're not looking, if you're not like realistic, 268 00:15:28,240 --> 00:15:33,520 Speaker 4: then that's pretty stupid. You want to be realistic, But 269 00:15:33,760 --> 00:15:37,920 Speaker 4: realistic is I choose the opportunities. I don't choose to 270 00:15:37,920 --> 00:15:41,600 Speaker 4: be to club myself all the time. So realistically, choose 271 00:15:41,640 --> 00:15:46,360 Speaker 4: the opportunities the obstacles will come up. Commit to when 272 00:15:46,440 --> 00:15:50,360 Speaker 4: obstacles come up, knowing that there is a tool to 273 00:15:50,440 --> 00:15:56,360 Speaker 4: deal with them. Okay, and then notice what you notice? 274 00:15:56,400 --> 00:15:58,720 Speaker 4: And I don't mean in a focused way, because focus 275 00:15:59,320 --> 00:16:04,240 Speaker 4: is actually actually narrows our intuition when you have a goal, 276 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:08,000 Speaker 4: and then just kind of notice what comes in from 277 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:11,520 Speaker 4: left field. As you go through your life, what you're 278 00:16:11,520 --> 00:16:16,600 Speaker 4: perceiving differently, who you're perceiving differently, and what you're noticing 279 00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:20,480 Speaker 4: about yourself differently, and that's not an internal process. You 280 00:16:20,520 --> 00:16:25,480 Speaker 4: may notice that dogs like you, for example, Yeah, dogs 281 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:27,880 Speaker 4: are good judges of character. So you may all of 282 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:30,320 Speaker 4: a sudden notice that dogs have always liked you but 283 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:33,720 Speaker 4: you never noticed it, but don't like you. And then 284 00:16:34,040 --> 00:16:37,840 Speaker 4: you'll notice that when you're with people, you're always trying 285 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:41,360 Speaker 4: to be entertaining, but when you're sitting on a train 286 00:16:41,520 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 4: and there are a bunch of dogs who are just 287 00:16:43,080 --> 00:16:46,400 Speaker 4: looking at you, you're actually just kind of resting in yourself, 288 00:16:46,440 --> 00:16:49,880 Speaker 4: and you think to yourself, Gee, maybe i'll try that 289 00:16:50,720 --> 00:16:54,520 Speaker 4: at this party I'm going to Friday, And so you 290 00:16:54,640 --> 00:16:56,840 Speaker 4: bee as if you were sitting on a train at 291 00:16:56,840 --> 00:17:00,000 Speaker 4: that party, you're just you. You don't try, you don't entertain, 292 00:17:00,560 --> 00:17:03,480 Speaker 4: and all of a sudden you notice, Wow, there's an reaction. 293 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:06,919 Speaker 4: People are coming toward me, people are interested in me, 294 00:17:07,320 --> 00:17:12,240 Speaker 4: and you have a new paradigm that you can practice. 295 00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:16,600 Speaker 4: What's really important about intuition is you have a goal, 296 00:17:17,280 --> 00:17:21,560 Speaker 4: you begin to notice information, you begin to practice and 297 00:17:21,640 --> 00:17:27,880 Speaker 4: apply it, and then if the change verifies your actions, 298 00:17:28,440 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 4: you know it's intuitive. 299 00:17:30,520 --> 00:17:34,200 Speaker 2: Okay, So if the change verifies the actions, meaning it 300 00:17:34,280 --> 00:17:37,399 Speaker 2: plays out, it works. You knew then that was in 301 00:17:37,400 --> 00:17:38,480 Speaker 2: line with your intuition. 302 00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:41,760 Speaker 4: I mean people are talking. You know. I'm a big 303 00:17:41,800 --> 00:17:46,720 Speaker 4: anti manifestation person, although I use it, okay, just means 304 00:17:46,760 --> 00:17:50,080 Speaker 4: you're making something happen. Once again, don't mystify it. I 305 00:17:50,240 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 4: manifest an ice cube by putting water in an ice 306 00:17:52,640 --> 00:17:56,960 Speaker 4: tray and putting it in the freezer. Manifestation. We are 307 00:17:57,359 --> 00:18:01,959 Speaker 4: creatures of manifestation. You know, it makes me so sad 308 00:18:02,320 --> 00:18:06,200 Speaker 4: when people attribute their wisdom to guardian angels and attribute 309 00:18:06,280 --> 00:18:09,880 Speaker 4: their luck to chance. You are your luck, You are 310 00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:14,080 Speaker 4: your guardian angel. You are not alone on this planet. 311 00:18:14,560 --> 00:18:17,000 Speaker 4: People are working with you, and I want to talk 312 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:21,160 Speaker 4: about telepathy, so remind me of working with you. You're 313 00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:25,720 Speaker 4: just learning to run your machine, and when you get 314 00:18:25,760 --> 00:18:30,680 Speaker 4: the user manual down, even halfway down, all of a sudden, 315 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:35,640 Speaker 4: life works out. Not because of magic, not because of angels, 316 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:39,720 Speaker 4: not because of a higher wisdom, but because you are 317 00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:45,200 Speaker 4: taking power and responsibility in your own life and listen. 318 00:18:45,280 --> 00:18:47,720 Speaker 4: We're all knocked down. I've been knocked down plenty of times. 319 00:18:47,840 --> 00:18:52,440 Speaker 4: Google me, We're all knocked down. That the trick is 320 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:56,280 Speaker 4: to be able to when you're knocked down, say, even 321 00:18:56,280 --> 00:18:58,680 Speaker 4: though all I want right now is to become part 322 00:18:58,720 --> 00:19:03,200 Speaker 4: of the pavement and never get up again, what would 323 00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:05,399 Speaker 4: make it better right now? And then do a tiny 324 00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:08,760 Speaker 4: piece of that. Because intuition will answer your questions if 325 00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:12,479 Speaker 4: you ask it questions, it will answer. It may answer 326 00:19:12,520 --> 00:19:15,840 Speaker 4: in terms of someone new popping into your life, it 327 00:19:15,880 --> 00:19:19,280 Speaker 4: may answer in terms of your noticing things you didn't notice. 328 00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:24,320 Speaker 4: But intuition is there as a survival skill to make 329 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:29,880 Speaker 4: it okay for you, and your intuition is something that 330 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:33,960 Speaker 4: really wants you direct it without your having to see 331 00:19:34,080 --> 00:19:37,639 Speaker 4: or know all this information will simply take you to 332 00:19:37,760 --> 00:19:42,119 Speaker 4: the right people, making the right decisions, and to the 333 00:19:42,200 --> 00:19:43,119 Speaker 4: right places. 334 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:47,600 Speaker 2: I wholeheartedly believe everything you just said to me. That 335 00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:50,679 Speaker 2: is how I live my life as well. And I 336 00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:54,399 Speaker 2: think it's been an interesting journey of getting to the 337 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:57,520 Speaker 2: really like trusting myself and trusting my own intuition and 338 00:19:57,600 --> 00:19:59,359 Speaker 2: listening and all of those things, and then taking the 339 00:19:59,359 --> 00:20:02,800 Speaker 2: next step. I agree with you that we are much 340 00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:07,480 Speaker 2: more powerful than we ever attribute. However, I can hear 341 00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:11,119 Speaker 2: the naysayer saying, well, if I'm like, if there's no 342 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:14,720 Speaker 2: higher power or anything like that, and I'm just the person, 343 00:20:14,760 --> 00:20:17,240 Speaker 2: what that sounds to me like ego? So could you 344 00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:21,199 Speaker 2: talk a little bit about maybe the difference between ego 345 00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:24,800 Speaker 2: and intuition and how we know when we're operating in 346 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:25,400 Speaker 2: one or the other. 347 00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:29,959 Speaker 4: Absolutely, First of all, I don't believe in intuition. I 348 00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:33,720 Speaker 4: was a test subject in the early eighties. My experience 349 00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:38,959 Speaker 4: is and research shows that we are intuitive. Intuition works, 350 00:20:39,040 --> 00:20:41,640 Speaker 4: It's able to do a lot of things, and it's 351 00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:47,160 Speaker 4: based on the fact that I began as a research 352 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:50,800 Speaker 4: project and I still use my intuition that way. One 353 00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:54,359 Speaker 4: reason I work mostly for companies is because if you're wrong, 354 00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:58,960 Speaker 4: they fire you. So you know whether you are intuitive 355 00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:03,439 Speaker 4: or whether you're just having a nervous breakdown right with 356 00:21:03,680 --> 00:21:09,960 Speaker 4: subjective information. So I forgot what you had just said 357 00:21:09,960 --> 00:21:15,800 Speaker 4: about the native Oh ego. Don't have an ego, then 358 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:19,920 Speaker 4: you belong and probably are in a mental institution unable 359 00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:26,320 Speaker 4: to understand this. The ego is the architecture of your 360 00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:31,040 Speaker 4: physical being, of your reality. I didn't say there's not 361 00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:38,080 Speaker 4: a higher power. The higher power is us in unity. 362 00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:40,919 Speaker 4: You know a lot of people do a lot of 363 00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:44,600 Speaker 4: spiritual practices that are really about how do I medicate 364 00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:48,800 Speaker 4: and become one with everything? One with everything. Doesn't build 365 00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:52,560 Speaker 4: a building, doesn't find your true love, doesn't build a business. 366 00:21:53,200 --> 00:21:58,560 Speaker 4: Human beings do, and human beings need ego any sentence 367 00:21:58,600 --> 00:22:01,080 Speaker 4: that you begin with, I as e go, I love, 368 00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:07,360 Speaker 4: I believe, I construct, I defend, I enjoy, I honor. 369 00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:10,480 Speaker 4: You know, so, I think that we need to read 370 00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:13,040 Speaker 4: when we talk about someone have an ego, what we're 371 00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:17,520 Speaker 4: really saying is ego injury, and is all the stuff 372 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:19,720 Speaker 4: that comes up that first day of vacation when you 373 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:22,760 Speaker 4: notice that your thighs nobody could possibly love you and 374 00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:25,439 Speaker 4: you can't be in a success ever with those hubs. 375 00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:28,200 Speaker 4: You know, that's ego injury. 376 00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:28,919 Speaker 3: Okay. 377 00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:34,200 Speaker 4: Ego is actually being able to say I believe in 378 00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:37,520 Speaker 4: this or I want this, and I am going to 379 00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:42,240 Speaker 4: use all of the energy, all of the people, all 380 00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:44,280 Speaker 4: of the events around. 381 00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:48,800 Speaker 5: Me, and I, as an incarnate being, as someone with 382 00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:52,520 Speaker 5: an ego, the architecture of manifestation, am going to take 383 00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:57,200 Speaker 5: all of that energy and manifest from it, create from 384 00:22:57,240 --> 00:23:01,040 Speaker 5: it a reality and you know. 385 00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:04,440 Speaker 4: Spirit when people speak of spirit. And my new book 386 00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:08,080 Speaker 4: that's coming out in the spring is about this spirit. 387 00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:10,920 Speaker 4: If something if you think of the concept of spirit 388 00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:16,240 Speaker 4: or of God, if something's omniscient, omnible, and omnipresent, it's 389 00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:22,080 Speaker 4: not changing. Think about that. You're not changing. So spirit 390 00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:27,520 Speaker 4: is the perfect manifestation of all energy at this point 391 00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:33,480 Speaker 4: in space and time. Who gets up, makes difficult decisions, 392 00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:37,359 Speaker 4: has to sacrifice for others or not, and feel whatever 393 00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:41,640 Speaker 4: they feel around who works hard humans do. We evolve 394 00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:45,359 Speaker 4: spirit through our actions, which is why when we look 395 00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:48,280 Speaker 4: down on someone who is struggling, they are struggling for 396 00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:52,800 Speaker 4: us all. And I think when I see in boot camp, 397 00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:56,320 Speaker 4: which I teach every year, and I see as people 398 00:23:56,440 --> 00:24:00,880 Speaker 4: really see that intuition can give them detailed information, that 399 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:05,080 Speaker 4: that that healing and intuition can actually make things happen 400 00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:07,919 Speaker 4: in the real world or in their bodies in a 401 00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:11,240 Speaker 4: different way. I see them look at one another differently. 402 00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:15,959 Speaker 4: Because the person on the street has the same power 403 00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:20,920 Speaker 4: as the person with the billion dollar corporation. They are 404 00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:24,760 Speaker 4: just as useful. They are learning something for that whole 405 00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:30,040 Speaker 4: body of energy that we call spirit. And so you know, 406 00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:34,960 Speaker 4: you start by and again. Summer is a great time 407 00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:37,800 Speaker 4: to do this, not because it's peaceful. Summer shouldn't be peaceful. 408 00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:39,720 Speaker 4: I think you're I hope you're all going out and 409 00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:40,480 Speaker 4: raising Cain. 410 00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:45,320 Speaker 6: But but but you know, it's it's a it's a 411 00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:51,400 Speaker 6: great time to value yourself, to say, these great, wonderful 412 00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:54,000 Speaker 6: thunder thighs, they have taken me places. 413 00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:57,000 Speaker 4: I love them, and someone else will too. You know, 414 00:24:57,119 --> 00:25:01,119 Speaker 4: when the neurosis comes up, it's a great time to 415 00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:05,159 Speaker 4: really know that you make mistakes, but the things you 416 00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:08,320 Speaker 4: did right took a lot of effort. You know, life 417 00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:13,160 Speaker 4: is complicated and we need to respect ourselves and protect 418 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:17,119 Speaker 4: ourselves and respect one another just on the basis that 419 00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:19,879 Speaker 4: we are all here fighting the good fight, you know, 420 00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,800 Speaker 4: and we need to be helpful. One of the things 421 00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:28,240 Speaker 4: that I notice when people do intuition work is that 422 00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:31,600 Speaker 4: they approach others differently. They really think, wow, what can 423 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:35,320 Speaker 4: this person offer me? Also, what can I offer this person? 424 00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:38,919 Speaker 4: How do I create that energetic dynamic where I'm not 425 00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:44,199 Speaker 4: walking this walk alone? And it's people don't realize, you know, 426 00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:50,160 Speaker 4: what they have to offer. They're often they often feel like, oh, 427 00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:52,439 Speaker 4: people want me for this or that, but actually they 428 00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:55,560 Speaker 4: want you for something completely differently, and people don't ask 429 00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:58,320 Speaker 4: for what they need. You know, if what you want 430 00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:04,159 Speaker 4: is to find someone to love, advertise it, let everybody know, 431 00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:09,280 Speaker 4: go on vacation and be open to it. Walk, walk 432 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:12,919 Speaker 4: as if you are in love, and say hello to 433 00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:15,920 Speaker 4: that person who you're ashamed to say hello to because 434 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:18,560 Speaker 4: you think you're not. You know, just be in it. 435 00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:25,359 Speaker 4: In intuition, we call it embodiment, allowing your intuition to 436 00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:30,440 Speaker 4: give you the details of the best you can possibly have, 437 00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:32,640 Speaker 4: then make it even better. 438 00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:36,440 Speaker 2: Because yeah, and I just hear this tying back into 439 00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:38,440 Speaker 2: what you were saying at the beginning, though, like when 440 00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:41,320 Speaker 2: we get quiet, when life's. 441 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:45,959 Speaker 4: Quiet, though it's not quiet. Actually, intuition takes place often 442 00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:48,360 Speaker 4: in the middle of a lot of busyness, and all 443 00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:50,760 Speaker 4: of a sudden you notice something and it takes your 444 00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:53,920 Speaker 4: attention and you decide to either go in that direction 445 00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:58,399 Speaker 4: or be distracted by everything else. That direction isn't quietness, 446 00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:01,879 Speaker 4: it's just appropriate busy. And I think that people, you know, 447 00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:04,879 Speaker 4: intuitions a survival skill and if you have a goal, 448 00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:07,119 Speaker 4: all those waves will carry you home. 449 00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:13,199 Speaker 2: Yes, I think I was saying maybe it's not that 450 00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:16,399 Speaker 2: you get quiet. It's when time your life changes a 451 00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:18,159 Speaker 2: little bit and the things start to come up. And 452 00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:20,400 Speaker 2: we look at those a lot of times as these 453 00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:23,240 Speaker 2: bad narratives, these negative narratives, and it's like, no, it's 454 00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:26,439 Speaker 2: actually your guidance and it's coming up and how do 455 00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:28,840 Speaker 2: you how you respond to it is your full intuition. 456 00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:32,480 Speaker 4: Also, we don't you know, we're mammals, and mammals are 457 00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:35,120 Speaker 4: hardwired to not like change. 458 00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:37,639 Speaker 3: Right, It's not like I. 459 00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:39,840 Speaker 4: Hate it when people say, oh, maybe it was for 460 00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:41,119 Speaker 4: the best, It's like, screw you. 461 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:44,080 Speaker 3: This is oh yeah, especially when you're going through it. 462 00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:45,800 Speaker 3: It's like exactly, But. 463 00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:48,639 Speaker 4: It's my job is in my life to make it 464 00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:52,159 Speaker 4: for my best. Right, someone handed me the best on 465 00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:55,160 Speaker 4: the silver platter, Like I just want to smack people 466 00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:58,120 Speaker 4: when they say that. But it's but it's my job 467 00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:00,880 Speaker 4: to make it the best. And what but we do 468 00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:06,840 Speaker 4: in order to do that is to process the horribleness 469 00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:10,840 Speaker 4: while looking for the can do in any situation. What 470 00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:15,159 Speaker 4: someone dumps you, well, that's heart. That's like one of 471 00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:17,760 Speaker 4: the worst. And I see it in my life and 472 00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:21,560 Speaker 4: in my students. Someone dumps you, you feel like nothing 473 00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:26,640 Speaker 4: your heart is broken, you get obsessive. Everything comes up. 474 00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:33,760 Speaker 4: There's all this political negotiation of mutual friends. But and 475 00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:37,720 Speaker 4: the only thing that that starts your motor in a 476 00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,680 Speaker 4: good direction is what What does this open up for me? 477 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:41,960 Speaker 4: What can I do? 478 00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:42,200 Speaker 6: No? 479 00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:46,240 Speaker 4: I never want anyone else, but I can date again? Uh, 480 00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:50,400 Speaker 4: you know, No, I wish, I wish his little shirts 481 00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:53,000 Speaker 4: were still there, but I have more closset space. Like 482 00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:57,920 Speaker 4: I'm not Pollyanna Ish. I'm not saying don't grieve, don't 483 00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:02,600 Speaker 4: you know, rail against the god. But it's our job 484 00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:06,680 Speaker 4: to survive what's thrown at us. And guess what intuition 485 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:11,800 Speaker 4: allows us to do that? Not always easily. Change is 486 00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:16,560 Speaker 4: rarely easy. Even falling in love is hard and fantasy 487 00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:20,120 Speaker 4: it's great in reality it's okay. How do we deal 488 00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:22,360 Speaker 4: with finances? How do we deal like my husband and 489 00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:24,280 Speaker 4: I had to deal with each other's children, Like, how 490 00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:27,280 Speaker 4: do we deal with you know, closet space? Whose house 491 00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:29,880 Speaker 4: do we live in? How are we? Oh, your mother 492 00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:33,600 Speaker 4: doesn't like me? Oh, your father is judgmental. It's you know, 493 00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:39,560 Speaker 4: in our fantasy. You know, there's there's the Arabian stallions. 494 00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:46,840 Speaker 4: Obviously in reality it's that my husband's probably going to 495 00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:47,840 Speaker 4: get the cold I have. 496 00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:53,160 Speaker 3: Right, It ain't sexy, it. 497 00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:57,520 Speaker 4: Ain't and it is amazingly you know, feel intimacy We 498 00:29:57,640 --> 00:30:02,520 Speaker 4: have packaged and that's a wonderful thing about vacations, you know, 499 00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:08,480 Speaker 4: we have packaged fun. We have packaged intimacy in these 500 00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:12,000 Speaker 4: little cubes that are actually, if you look at them, 501 00:30:12,120 --> 00:30:18,400 Speaker 4: incredibly uninteresting. Real intimacy is having that knockdown, drag out 502 00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:22,040 Speaker 4: fight and you know, torturing each other maybe for a 503 00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:24,840 Speaker 4: few days, until you get all the puss out of 504 00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:28,360 Speaker 4: the wound, and coming back together, and then learning the 505 00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:30,959 Speaker 4: next time to do it a little more graciously at 506 00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:37,240 Speaker 4: that point yet, but it's real. Real intimacy is learning 507 00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:43,160 Speaker 4: that people aren't perfect and forgiving them. Real intimacy is, wow, 508 00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:46,640 Speaker 4: this person doesn't check all the boxes, but I really 509 00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:51,040 Speaker 4: love this person, and how can I, you know, how 510 00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:53,160 Speaker 4: can I work with this in a way that all 511 00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:55,920 Speaker 4: my boxes are checked? Because it is important to get 512 00:30:55,920 --> 00:31:00,960 Speaker 4: your boxes checked, you know. But you know, often what 513 00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:03,640 Speaker 4: we want others to do for us is what we 514 00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:06,080 Speaker 4: really want to be able to do for ourselves, but 515 00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:09,080 Speaker 4: don't have the confidence in ourselves to do it. And 516 00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:13,920 Speaker 4: you know, a great way to a lot of times 517 00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:16,880 Speaker 4: my readers or students will say, well, I don't believe 518 00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:18,960 Speaker 4: in myself, and I'm like, yeah, I wouldn't believe in 519 00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:22,760 Speaker 4: you either right now. But do you know, do as 520 00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:27,440 Speaker 4: if work hard, get it done anyway, you know, A 521 00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:33,680 Speaker 4: not a prerequisite. Feeling confident is not a prerequisite. The 522 00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:37,200 Speaker 4: day I feel confident about my work. I have moments 523 00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:39,760 Speaker 4: where I feel confident, But the day I feel confident 524 00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:41,120 Speaker 4: is the day I've stopped growing. 525 00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:44,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, oh, I totally ass. 526 00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:48,640 Speaker 4: And I've stopped growing because I'm so anxious about everything 527 00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:53,680 Speaker 4: I do and it allows it allows me to be 528 00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:57,960 Speaker 4: to be better, to create more to you know, and 529 00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:01,440 Speaker 4: people also, you know, put down shame and guilt. There 530 00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:03,880 Speaker 4: there are definitely places for shame and guilt. I've done 531 00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:06,200 Speaker 4: things I'm ashamed of, and I've done things I feel 532 00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:09,240 Speaker 4: guilty for. I try to make them up to people. 533 00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:13,000 Speaker 4: I try to ask forgiveness. I you know, we hold 534 00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:18,080 Speaker 4: ourselves to these very plastic standards that actually you'd be 535 00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:24,120 Speaker 4: very uninteresting if you were perfect, and you are perfect 536 00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:27,840 Speaker 4: for whatever place in your life you need. 537 00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:31,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, well we kind of we've kind of touched on 538 00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:33,040 Speaker 2: the body thing a couple of times. So you kind 539 00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:35,760 Speaker 2: of just put me into a really good transition mentioning 540 00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:37,840 Speaker 2: the plastic and all of those things, and you've kind 541 00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:41,080 Speaker 2: of thrown in the hating your thighs on vacation. So 542 00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:43,680 Speaker 2: let's talk about body image and how we can use 543 00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:48,720 Speaker 2: our intuitions to tap into our bodies and even in 544 00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:50,560 Speaker 2: diet and exercise. I know this is some of the 545 00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:52,959 Speaker 2: stuff that you're working with people on now, and I 546 00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:56,320 Speaker 2: had never thought about it in this capacity at all. 547 00:32:57,520 --> 00:32:58,920 Speaker 3: So I want to talk about that. 548 00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:01,760 Speaker 2: We just describe kind of the work that you're doing 549 00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:06,880 Speaker 2: and the strategies for achieving our healthiest selves via our intuition. 550 00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:09,680 Speaker 4: So I have a lot of clients who I tease, 551 00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:12,760 Speaker 4: I say, you know, you've actually lost a five year 552 00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:16,400 Speaker 4: old child because that's how much weight they've lost. Or gay, 553 00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:17,920 Speaker 4: I said, you know, you used to carry on a 554 00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:24,800 Speaker 4: five year old child. Child's gone. It's dealing. We we 555 00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:30,320 Speaker 4: deal with diet and exercise very counter intuitively. Okay, you 556 00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:34,360 Speaker 4: know there's always the fad of the moment, one size 557 00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:39,040 Speaker 4: fits all spending. It's a huge, multi billion dollar industry 558 00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:41,240 Speaker 4: of all kinds of If all of these things worked, 559 00:33:41,280 --> 00:33:44,600 Speaker 4: we'd have no diet industry, we'd have no weight loss 560 00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:48,720 Speaker 4: in industry. But what I have seen in forty years 561 00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:53,080 Speaker 4: of teaching that does work is a very simple, intuitive process. 562 00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:57,520 Speaker 4: Not that it doesn't take discipline. Everything worth doing takes elbow, 563 00:33:57,600 --> 00:34:02,600 Speaker 4: grease and discipline, but it has and it's based on 564 00:34:03,760 --> 00:34:07,360 Speaker 4: the formula in the book I wrote called the circle. Okay, 565 00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:15,280 Speaker 4: is first, what is your goal? And that will evolve 566 00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:19,960 Speaker 4: over time. You know your goal initially maybe to lose 567 00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:24,080 Speaker 4: fifty pounds, but that goal as you begin to lose 568 00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:26,280 Speaker 4: weight and you don't like the look of your body 569 00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:29,040 Speaker 4: or the feel of your body, maybe to feel and 570 00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:34,399 Speaker 4: look great, and then that goal may evolve into you know, 571 00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:39,200 Speaker 4: being in good health to be able to x y 572 00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:42,840 Speaker 4: or z or get pregnant or whatever it is you 573 00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:46,200 Speaker 4: want to do. So set your goal, and then the 574 00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:50,239 Speaker 4: second element of the circle is embodiment. So allow yourself 575 00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:55,760 Speaker 4: to notice as if that goal in your life. Don't pretend, 576 00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:58,680 Speaker 4: because pretend he uses things you already know that didn't 577 00:34:58,719 --> 00:35:00,719 Speaker 4: work before and aren't going to work now. 578 00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:01,480 Speaker 3: Okay. 579 00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:05,319 Speaker 4: Bodyment is allowing, so everybody try this now. Even if 580 00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:10,239 Speaker 4: you're perfectly happy with your body, try allowing yourself to 581 00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:14,959 Speaker 4: experience your body the way you want to experience it, 582 00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:19,239 Speaker 4: and don't do it in a meditative state. Life is 583 00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:22,040 Speaker 4: not in a meditative state. Whenever I make a suggestion 584 00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:24,120 Speaker 4: like that, I see everyone's eyes go space. 585 00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:25,279 Speaker 3: I just wanted to do that. 586 00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:30,879 Speaker 4: Alla. No, you're in your body. You're okay when you're 587 00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:34,719 Speaker 4: doing this, but you are allowing the experience of your 588 00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:38,680 Speaker 4: body the way that you want it to be. Allow it. 589 00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:41,759 Speaker 4: You set a target. When you set a goal and 590 00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:45,320 Speaker 4: allow it. And by the way, it may not be physical. 591 00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:47,640 Speaker 4: Like when I set my target, I want to just 592 00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:52,759 Speaker 4: feel happier and more relaxed. That's my physical target, is 593 00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:55,000 Speaker 4: that my body operates in a way where I'm happy 594 00:35:55,080 --> 00:36:00,719 Speaker 4: and relaxed. I'm very type okay. And then what you do, 595 00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:03,200 Speaker 4: and I often suggest you do this at the top 596 00:36:03,280 --> 00:36:05,920 Speaker 4: of every hour, you know, one o'clock, two o'clock, three 597 00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:11,040 Speaker 4: o'clock for ten seconds, is you do this repetitively. And 598 00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:17,520 Speaker 4: what happens is that what your intuition notices about how 599 00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:21,240 Speaker 4: it wants to how you want to feel or look, 600 00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:29,160 Speaker 4: becomes the new pattern and you'll find yourself doing things. 601 00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:34,520 Speaker 4: I did this for health what thirty two years ago, 602 00:36:35,360 --> 00:36:38,960 Speaker 4: and all of a sudden. I guess maybe a week 603 00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:40,960 Speaker 4: or two into doing it, and I was doing it 604 00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:45,960 Speaker 4: in preparation for getting pregnant. I wanted a really strong body. 605 00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:48,240 Speaker 4: I had an aversion to sugar. All of a sudden, 606 00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:51,600 Speaker 4: I couldn't stand the aftertaste that I'd never noticed before 607 00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:55,320 Speaker 4: of sugar, and I couldn't eat anything with pure sugar 608 00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:59,399 Speaker 4: in it. I could still eat bread, but I hate 609 00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:02,360 Speaker 4: began and I am someone who lived on chocolate Claire's. 610 00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:06,520 Speaker 4: I couldn't stand the taste. So there was this sudden thing. 611 00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:09,440 Speaker 4: I have another This is a more a powerful one. 612 00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:12,560 Speaker 4: Another woman in my group, and this is going back 613 00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:16,399 Speaker 4: in time who had been obese her whole life, and 614 00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:18,960 Speaker 4: she did this, and all of a sudden, whenever she 615 00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:21,440 Speaker 4: ate a fat she would I mean, I'm sorry for 616 00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:25,279 Speaker 4: the detail, she would vomit. And it ends up that 617 00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:30,840 Speaker 4: her gallbladder got on board and got irritated. Nothing that 618 00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:34,520 Speaker 4: was risky to her, and she couldn't digest more than 619 00:37:34,560 --> 00:37:38,440 Speaker 4: a little bit of fat and she lost all this weight. 620 00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:40,160 Speaker 3: Oh my god. 621 00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:43,080 Speaker 2: Also, it was just after changing the mindset like you 622 00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:44,239 Speaker 2: just taught everyone to do. 623 00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:48,120 Speaker 4: And then there are other steps in the circle that 624 00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:51,839 Speaker 4: will help speed the process and that will happen organically. 625 00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:54,319 Speaker 4: So it's good to know about them because sometimes they 626 00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:57,479 Speaker 4: kick you in your butt, like feeling sick every time 627 00:37:57,560 --> 00:37:59,799 Speaker 4: you have a fat can kick you in your butt. 628 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:05,280 Speaker 4: As you realize that you have things like inner roadblocks 629 00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:09,960 Speaker 4: and outer roadblocks, and that your life has to work together. 630 00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:13,120 Speaker 4: And it was interesting because she had to find she 631 00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:16,719 Speaker 4: had used fats as a comfort and she had had 632 00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:19,920 Speaker 4: to find other ways to comfort herself. And she ended 633 00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:23,880 Speaker 4: up more groups in her work so she had more company, 634 00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:29,200 Speaker 4: so she switched over from individual to group work, which 635 00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:33,160 Speaker 4: by the way, had her meet her future husband. I 636 00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:37,600 Speaker 4: mean it was what's really interesting is a small change 637 00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:43,000 Speaker 4: in your life. Tiny one changes your entire life because 638 00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:47,000 Speaker 4: you're a change. People always when I was doing laying 639 00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:49,680 Speaker 4: on of hands, people would say, listen, work on the ecima, 640 00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:52,680 Speaker 4: but don't worry about the asthma. It's like your system. 641 00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:54,240 Speaker 4: If you heal, you heal. 642 00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:59,400 Speaker 7: Yeah, So when you're working on your body, really and 643 00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:04,440 Speaker 7: then notice sing like like I probably could have overwhelmed 644 00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:07,840 Speaker 7: the aversion to sugar, but I knew what I was 645 00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:11,680 Speaker 7: doing and I took it as a queue. Oh okay, 646 00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:16,400 Speaker 7: I'm going to honor this what am I wanting now? 647 00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:21,239 Speaker 7: And and what I was wanting then was more protein. 648 00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:29,000 Speaker 7: And I later met Deepak Chopra, and apparently my type 649 00:39:29,360 --> 00:39:35,960 Speaker 7: in Vedic medicine, Aravedic medicine should eat protein and fat 650 00:39:36,080 --> 00:39:39,319 Speaker 7: and like in a certain way. Whereas everyone was saying 651 00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:42,759 Speaker 7: to me, oh, you're you're not healthy because you're not. 652 00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:44,120 Speaker 4: Eating enough fruits and vegetables. 653 00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:51,160 Speaker 2: That's not the right food for my body unless. 654 00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:53,520 Speaker 4: And and so and you know, every they're always be 655 00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:58,320 Speaker 4: careful when you're in anything in your life. They're always fads. 656 00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:03,399 Speaker 4: So now fat, the fad is met Foreman, and the 657 00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:05,920 Speaker 4: fad is I forget what the other one what the 658 00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:09,760 Speaker 4: other medicine is called. The fad is taking these pills 659 00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:15,400 Speaker 4: to lose weight ozempic ozembic. Yeah, it may be great 660 00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:19,879 Speaker 4: for you, Andy, but allow intuition to weigh in if 661 00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:23,959 Speaker 4: you have concerns checked. Sure. Yeah, if when you take 662 00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:30,319 Speaker 4: something like ozempic or met Foreman your tastes change, notice it, 663 00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:34,319 Speaker 4: report it to your doctor, but don't don't ignore it, 664 00:40:34,520 --> 00:40:40,120 Speaker 4: and don't not factor it into your intellect sellectual understanding. Ideally, 665 00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:45,319 Speaker 4: in any kind of change, your emotions, your intellect, and 666 00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:49,440 Speaker 4: your intuition work together to give you the best result. 667 00:40:54,200 --> 00:40:56,440 Speaker 2: I think you've given us a lot of tips for 668 00:40:56,600 --> 00:40:59,759 Speaker 2: intuition today, and I love tying into the body all 669 00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:02,279 Speaker 2: of the summer practices we talked about. If there are 670 00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:05,040 Speaker 2: people listening and they are like, but where do I 671 00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:07,520 Speaker 2: start with this intuition stuff? 672 00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:10,560 Speaker 3: What is your top tip for just getting started? 673 00:41:11,280 --> 00:41:12,440 Speaker 4: Okay? Can I give four? 674 00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:13,640 Speaker 3: Of course? 675 00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:18,239 Speaker 4: Okay? Top tip? Have one single goal? What is up 676 00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:21,200 Speaker 4: wanting more than anything? What is it you're jealous of 677 00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:23,440 Speaker 4: in others? What is it you go to bed empty 678 00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:26,440 Speaker 4: for one goal and stick with that goal. You know, 679 00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:29,640 Speaker 4: life keeps wanting you to focus a million places, but 680 00:41:29,719 --> 00:41:33,600 Speaker 4: you're dividing your energy a million ways one goal. It 681 00:41:33,640 --> 00:41:36,200 Speaker 4: doesn't mean that you don't care about everything else, but 682 00:41:36,280 --> 00:41:39,919 Speaker 4: you can textualize those things in terms of that one goal. 683 00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:42,399 Speaker 4: Your goal is love, but you need a new job. 684 00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:44,560 Speaker 4: You get a new job, but you also look at 685 00:41:44,560 --> 00:41:47,120 Speaker 4: that new job. Where is it that I can meet 686 00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:50,360 Speaker 4: people who will expand my social you know, use everything 687 00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:55,200 Speaker 4: for that goal? Okay, embody, So allow take a moment 688 00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:59,080 Speaker 4: thirty seconds at the top of every hour to notice 689 00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,960 Speaker 4: the experience, and some of it will be challenging. You know, 690 00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:05,440 Speaker 4: some of it will be the obstacles, but to notice 691 00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:09,759 Speaker 4: the experience of being in that goal. Okay, or you 692 00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,840 Speaker 4: go to sleep. Sleep is a really interesting time for intuition. 693 00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:15,560 Speaker 4: Dreams don't tend to be intuitive. They tend to be 694 00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:21,080 Speaker 4: your emotional vomit. But it's a great time because you're 695 00:42:21,080 --> 00:42:24,759 Speaker 4: not using your intuition to survive and respond to your environment. 696 00:42:25,200 --> 00:42:29,120 Speaker 4: So before you go to sleep, give your intuition a task. 697 00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:35,120 Speaker 4: I want to end this fight with Jennifer. I want 698 00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:41,120 Speaker 4: to find a comfortable way to lose weight or to 699 00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:45,480 Speaker 4: have a healthy body that also opens up other avenues 700 00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:48,440 Speaker 4: in my life. I want so give it a task. 701 00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:51,920 Speaker 4: Write it down. It's really important to get it out 702 00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:55,719 Speaker 4: of your messy space and into someplace you can find it. 703 00:42:56,239 --> 00:42:58,799 Speaker 4: And then if you like something a little magic, put 704 00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:03,080 Speaker 4: it under your pillow. Not necessary. Most important thing is 705 00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:05,759 Speaker 4: to write it down. But sometimes people like ritual. It 706 00:43:05,880 --> 00:43:10,520 Speaker 4: engages their awareness that they're not alone. And then when 707 00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:13,360 Speaker 4: you wake up in the morning, don't try to remember dreams, 708 00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:15,960 Speaker 4: but notice who you're thinking of, what you're thinking of, 709 00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:19,360 Speaker 4: where your attention goes, how you feel, what you want, 710 00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:22,200 Speaker 4: what you don't want, what questions are coming up. Just 711 00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:25,160 Speaker 4: take a moment to notice and then start your day. 712 00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:29,120 Speaker 4: Okay again, jot down what you notice. What you will 713 00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:33,200 Speaker 4: find is you get a lot of information that you 714 00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:38,080 Speaker 4: then either do something about or don't. Okay, important thing, 715 00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:45,440 Speaker 4: you really need to take action on information. Now. If 716 00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:48,400 Speaker 4: intuition is telling you to do something that is risky, 717 00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:52,440 Speaker 4: it's probably not intuition. That's not how intuition works. But 718 00:43:52,520 --> 00:43:57,640 Speaker 4: if intuition is saying to you, you know what Tuesday 719 00:43:57,680 --> 00:43:59,759 Speaker 4: night feels exciting, and all of a sudden you get 720 00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:05,600 Speaker 4: an invitation to something really boring on Tuesday night, say yes, okay, 721 00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:11,439 Speaker 4: you know, and use discipline if intuition is telling you 722 00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:15,440 Speaker 4: that every morning, Like my intuition recently told me, in 723 00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:18,400 Speaker 4: order to jump start something I'm doing, I need to 724 00:44:18,440 --> 00:44:20,839 Speaker 4: get up and write a thousand words before I even 725 00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:23,440 Speaker 4: look at my phone. That's like pulling teeth for me. 726 00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:29,640 Speaker 4: I'm applying discipline. Okay, but I'm a Discipline is a 727 00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:35,960 Speaker 4: really important thing. Spend your energy on yourself. It doesn't 728 00:44:36,000 --> 00:44:39,400 Speaker 4: have to work the first time. You are the magic. 729 00:44:40,239 --> 00:44:42,800 Speaker 4: I said four, but I'm going to give five. Okay, 730 00:44:44,719 --> 00:44:49,799 Speaker 4: you are the magic. Give magical properties to everything you do. 731 00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:52,479 Speaker 4: When you drink a glass of water, say this will 732 00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:55,120 Speaker 4: cleanse me because your body will use it for that. 733 00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:59,959 Speaker 4: When you eat, don't eat the oreole cookie and hate yoursel. 734 00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:04,040 Speaker 4: Eat it and say, you know what, I'm choosing to 735 00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:07,000 Speaker 4: give myself this treat even though it's not on my diet. 736 00:45:07,200 --> 00:45:10,400 Speaker 4: I'm going to enjoy it. I'm going to savor it. 737 00:45:10,760 --> 00:45:16,360 Speaker 4: You know, be intentional and magicalize things only when it 738 00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:20,080 Speaker 4: serves you. Broken mirror, good luck, step in the ono 739 00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:24,840 Speaker 4: crack good luck. Do not let things that have no 740 00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:29,080 Speaker 4: meaning take on a meaning and power that is detrimental 741 00:45:29,160 --> 00:45:32,359 Speaker 4: to you. Give them a meaning and power that empowers 742 00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:34,560 Speaker 4: you and your life and your dreams. 743 00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:36,320 Speaker 3: Oh I love that. 744 00:45:36,320 --> 00:45:38,520 Speaker 2: That is my favorite note to end on because it's 745 00:45:38,520 --> 00:45:41,319 Speaker 2: so empowering. Laura, I know we've mentioned the circle a 746 00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:43,360 Speaker 2: couple times, and I'll go ahead and link that in 747 00:45:43,440 --> 00:45:46,200 Speaker 2: the description of this podcast for you guys, where else 748 00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:47,919 Speaker 2: can people find you if they want to know more 749 00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:51,480 Speaker 2: about your books or just keep up with you or 750 00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:52,359 Speaker 2: maybe work with you. 751 00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:55,480 Speaker 4: So I do a boot camp every year, which is 752 00:45:55,520 --> 00:45:58,160 Speaker 4: a training and the people stay together forever. So you 753 00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:00,719 Speaker 4: have kind of fifty other free sete gets to read 754 00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:03,520 Speaker 4: you for the rest of your life. Lauraday dot com 755 00:46:03,560 --> 00:46:06,600 Speaker 4: is my website. I put out a newsletter, I pop 756 00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:10,120 Speaker 4: on Instagram, live all the time at Laura Day into It, 757 00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:14,640 Speaker 4: and just give free little workshops. People exchange readings. My 758 00:46:14,760 --> 00:46:19,640 Speaker 4: advanced students who I refer clients to, they do readings 759 00:46:19,719 --> 00:46:24,640 Speaker 4: on the lives and they're amazing and newcomers are often amazing. 760 00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:26,920 Speaker 4: So you can see your own you can experience your 761 00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:31,840 Speaker 4: own intuition. I've written six books on intuition on a variety, 762 00:46:31,920 --> 00:46:34,839 Speaker 4: whether it's love or business or the Circle, which I 763 00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:38,839 Speaker 4: really really adore because it's the system I use every 764 00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:42,680 Speaker 4: day and that's about That's about it, and I travel 765 00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:44,520 Speaker 4: all over I do a lot of events. I do 766 00:46:44,560 --> 00:46:46,799 Speaker 4: a lot of free events. I do a lot of 767 00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:52,040 Speaker 4: little workshops. And we're a very inclusive community because one 768 00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:55,480 Speaker 4: of the things intuition teaches you is we are all 769 00:46:55,520 --> 00:46:56,360 Speaker 4: in this together. 770 00:46:57,600 --> 00:47:01,520 Speaker 2: We need some of that in this culture and these days. Laura, 771 00:47:01,600 --> 00:47:03,080 Speaker 2: thank you so much for being here. I'm going to 772 00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:05,279 Speaker 2: put all of her contact info in the description of 773 00:47:05,320 --> 00:47:06,359 Speaker 2: this podcast as well. 774 00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:07,600 Speaker 3: You guys, go check it out. 775 00:47:07,760 --> 00:47:09,720 Speaker 2: You're one of my favorite people to follow on Instagram 776 00:47:09,719 --> 00:47:10,560 Speaker 2: for all the reasons you. 777 00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:13,960 Speaker 3: Listed, so oh, thank you. Yes, I so appreciate you 778 00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:15,200 Speaker 3: being back with us today. 779 00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:18,480 Speaker 4: Thank you so much for having me. This is always fun. 780 00:47:19,280 --> 00:47:22,280 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening to The Velvet's Edge podcast with Kelly Henderson, 781 00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:24,960 Speaker 1: where we believe everyone has a little velvet in a 782 00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:29,160 Speaker 1: little edge. 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