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Speaker 1: I'm so excited to welcome you to a new episode.
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Speaker 1: part of this mission and a part of this movement. Now,
Speaker 1: today's episode is a theme that I think we all
Speaker 1: struggle with. If you want to be more productive and
Speaker 1: less burnt out, this episode is for you. If you
Speaker 1: want to achieve more, if you want to build more,
Speaker 1: if you want to create more, if you want to
Speaker 1: use your time more wisely, this episode is for you.
Speaker 1: If you've been wasting time, if you've been feeling like
Speaker 1: your priorities keep going to the bottom of the list,
Speaker 1: if you feel like, even at this point in the year,
Speaker 1: you're so far away from your goals, this episode is
Speaker 1: for you. Now, I'm going to share with you some
Speaker 1: tips and tricks that have helped me along the way
Speaker 1: to have better time management, have better energy management, and
Speaker 1: have better stress management in order to be productive but
Speaker 1: also be effective. I think for a long time we
Speaker 1: went down this toxic productivity route where everyone was stressed,
Speaker 1: burnt out, over worked, overwhelmed. And when you end up
Speaker 1: in that space, it's really hard to pivot, it's really
Speaker 1: hard to figure out how to get out of it,
Speaker 1: and you almost feel like what was the point of
Speaker 1: being that productive and at the same time, all of
Speaker 1: us want to create, we want to build. We're meant
Speaker 1: to grow as humans, and if we're not growing, we
Speaker 1: feel like things are falling abart. So I want to
Speaker 1: share with you some really practical steps that you can
Speaker 1: apply starting today that are going to try transform the
Speaker 1: way you work, live and love. Now, I want to
Speaker 1: start off with probably my favorite principle of all that
Speaker 1: has transformed my stress levels, my mindset, and it is
Speaker 1: the art of solo tasking or monotasking, doing one thing
Speaker 1: at a time. I found that when we do one
Speaker 1: thing at a time, whether it's eating, whether it's brushing
Speaker 1: our teeth, whether it's talking to someone, whether it's browsing
Speaker 1: the internet, whether it's watching a video, when you do
Speaker 1: one thing at a time, your stress level drops. When
Speaker 1: you do one thing at a time and you're absorbed
Speaker 1: and immersed your quality of effectiveness increases. When you do
Speaker 1: one thing at a time, you feel a sense of
Speaker 1: accomplishment and completion. This is a really interesting thing in
Speaker 1: today's day and age. We live in a world where
Speaker 1: our lives are constantly incomplete. We have books that we've
Speaker 1: read a page of, a couple of and they're incomplete.
Speaker 1: We have a show that we started that we even
Speaker 1: forgot about, and then when you go back onto it,
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, my gosh, I actually started the show.
Speaker 1: I was on episode two halfway through, but I forgot
Speaker 1: I started it. We live in a world of incompleteness.
Speaker 1: So much of what we start never ends. Now I'm
Speaker 1: not saying that we have to finish everything we start,
Speaker 1: but if we focus on one thing at a time,
Speaker 1: chances are our completion rate is going to go up.
Speaker 1: Now what does that do? The completion rate going up
Speaker 1: makes you feel more successful and accomplished. It makes you
Speaker 1: feel you got to the end of something. It makes
Speaker 1: you feel like you've got some where you went on
Speaker 1: a journey, otherwise an incomplete journeys. Imagine you're like, you
Speaker 1: know what, today, I think I'm gonna fly to New York.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna actually, you know, halfway on the fly, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna decide I actually want to go to Atlanta. Okay,
Speaker 1: when I'm on the way to Atlanta, right, So that
Speaker 1: income completeness is what creates inconsistency instability in our lives,
Speaker 1: and we often don't make that connection of just how
Speaker 1: incomplete things have become How many of you have a
Speaker 1: task that's been incomplete for three days and you completely
Speaker 1: forgot about it, Or how many of you had notes
Speaker 1: on your phone and you were writing some notes about
Speaker 1: something you got distracted from a message. Then someone sent
Speaker 1: you a TikTok link, and then after that someone sent
Speaker 1: you a YouTube video, and then after that someone sent
Speaker 1: you a link on Amazon, and now you've forgot that note.
Speaker 1: So our incompleteness and this idea of doing one thing
Speaker 1: at a time allows us to feel more accomplished. It
Speaker 1: allows us to close the loop in our minds. It
Speaker 1: allows us to not have this constant state of distraction. Now,
Speaker 1: research shows that when one switches from TASKA to task B,
Speaker 1: their one hundred percent attention does not automatically go to
Speaker 1: the new task. Some people remain stuck at the original assignment.
Speaker 1: This is from the research now. It says that this
Speaker 1: is attention residue, and it's strongest if task A was
Speaker 1: unbounded or low intensity in nature before a person made
Speaker 1: the switch. Even if you complete task A before switching,
Speaker 1: part of your attention will remain temporarily on task A.
Speaker 1: So what we're saying is that if you don't complete
Speaker 1: task A. If you don't finish task A and you
Speaker 1: move to task B, you could find that forty percent
Speaker 1: of your energy is still trying to solve task A,
Speaker 1: and now sixty percent of your energy is going to
Speaker 1: task B. Now, let's say you go to task C.
Speaker 1: You've left forty percent behind. Now that sixty gets split
Speaker 1: up again. You've got forty percent in task A, you've
Speaker 1: got thirty percent in task B, and you've got thirty
Speaker 1: percent in task C. So you're only giving your left overs.
Speaker 1: You're giving the residue to the next task. So your
Speaker 1: attention is getting more split and fragmented. Whereas what we
Speaker 1: think happens is, oh, I was giving one hundred percent
Speaker 1: of my attention to that, Now I'm just going to
Speaker 1: move it over. It doesn't work like that. So when
Speaker 1: you have lots of tabs open, when you have your email,
Speaker 1: your text, your WhatsApp all open on your laptop screen,
Speaker 1: and you're able to switch between all of them, it
Speaker 1: actually creates this challenge. This research I found from the
Speaker 1: great book called Deep Work by cal Newport, and in
Speaker 1: the book it says the principle of attention residue works
Speaker 1: like this. Every time you switch from task A to
Speaker 1: task B. Some of your attention remains in task A.
Speaker 1: Concentrating on the new task is harder, so you lose
Speaker 1: some productivity. When switching tasks one task at a time,
Speaker 1: complete the task, I promise you you will feel like
Speaker 1: you have so much more confidence, so much more lawrance,
Speaker 1: And when it comes to the end of the day,
Speaker 1: you're not looking at your list going that's still incomplete,
Speaker 1: that's still incomplete, that's still incomplete. Because the mind always
Speaker 1: over amplifies how far you have to go, not how
Speaker 1: far you've come, right generally, so we have to switch
Speaker 1: our perspective. When you're halfway up a mountain, you could
Speaker 1: either look down and think, Wow, I've come a really
Speaker 1: long way, or you could look up and go, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, I've got so long to go. And what
Speaker 1: we need in this mindset is actually, I may have
Speaker 1: a lot more left to do, but I completed a
Speaker 1: lot today. I hope that idea of completion really resonates
Speaker 1: and sticks with you, because I see the incompleteness in
Speaker 1: our minds causing so much stress and anxiety. And that's
Speaker 1: what happens, right, if something's left incomplete, if something's left undone.
Speaker 1: That's what causes you stress, That's what causes you anxiety.
Speaker 1: So the reason why doing one thing at a time
Speaker 1: is important is because you can complete it. Now, I'm
Speaker 1: not saying this to mean you complete every book if
Speaker 1: you're bored by it, or you complete a TV show
Speaker 1: if you're bored by it. It's just interesting how much
Speaker 1: of our life has become perplexed by incompleteness. Principal number
Speaker 1: two cleaning your external space and what does that mean.
Speaker 1: I don't mean that everything has to be perfectly tidy.
Speaker 1: What I mean is that when you come to your
Speaker 1: work desk, you have what you need there. You're not
Speaker 1: constantly getting back up and down going Oh I forgot
Speaker 1: the posting notes. Oh I forgot the highlighters. Oh I
Speaker 1: forgot to download this app. Oh I didn't really have
Speaker 1: the latest version of chat jupt. Whatever it is, right,
Speaker 1: whether it's analog or digital, it's there. Where's your water bottle?
Speaker 1: Is it there? Where's your little snack? Where's your nuts
Speaker 1: that you need to nibble on? Now, of course you
Speaker 1: can get up and go and get those things, and
Speaker 1: it's good to move around during the day, but overall,
Speaker 1: is your space set up for success or is the
Speaker 1: first thought when you come to your desk, Oh, oh
Speaker 1: hate working here, hate being here? The first thing when
Speaker 1: you get in your bedroom, oh, it's just too hot
Speaker 1: in here. Like set it up for success, right, So
Speaker 1: cleaning your external space can have massive impact on your productivity.
Speaker 1: One of the things I think we underestimate is scent,
Speaker 1: site and sound. When you walk into a space, what
Speaker 1: scent makes you feel that way? So when I walk
Speaker 1: into my workspace, I want a candle or a diffuser
Speaker 1: that has an energizing scent because I know I need
Speaker 1: to bring focus. We don't use the sense of smell
Speaker 1: enough in order to motivate our mind. Use that. Figure out, diffuser,
Speaker 1: figure out a scent that when you smell it, you're like, Okay,
Speaker 1: it's time to work. It's time to focus. Now a site,
Speaker 1: what's something you want to see? I have this. I
Speaker 1: have some art pieces in my office that have phrases, reminders.
Speaker 1: I have quotes on my table. I have little quote
Speaker 1: books that can just flick through to get motivation. I'm
Speaker 1: surrounded by the energy and it's right there so that
Speaker 1: I can get do it. I know that if I'm
Speaker 1: feeling a certain way, one day, I can pick up
Speaker 1: one of my books, I can pick up one of
Speaker 1: my affirmation cards. I can read it out to myself
Speaker 1: and then sound are use someone who likes to work
Speaker 1: in silence, chatter, or music. A lot of us don't
Speaker 1: even know that. We don't have the self awareness to
Speaker 1: recognize it. I'm a silence worker, or I'm an instrumental
Speaker 1: music worker. I like lots of instrumental beats. I'm happy
Speaker 1: to have them on the background. It gets me to
Speaker 1: lock in. Or I like silence. I really don't like
Speaker 1: working when there's chatter or background conversation and background noise.
Speaker 1: It doesn't work for me. So figure out yours. Number three.
Speaker 1: Don't have a to do list, but have a to
Speaker 1: start list. And what I mean by that is a
Speaker 1: to do list is a list of everything that you
Speaker 1: need to do. A start list is like, well, where's
Speaker 1: the most important place to start? Right? So when we
Speaker 1: have to do list, Like, for example, I could have
Speaker 1: on my to do list write a chapter of my book.
Speaker 1: Now that's quite a big thing on my to do list,
Speaker 1: But how what's my to start list? Okay, to start
Speaker 1: write out what I think the chapter breakdown is going
Speaker 1: to be, right, let's say on your to do list
Speaker 1: it says to complete a presentation. Okay, but to start,
Speaker 1: what do you need to read? So your start list
Speaker 1: almost makes it so easy for you that you just
Speaker 1: lock in rather than you look at the item on
Speaker 1: your to do list. Now, this takes an extra step
Speaker 1: when you're planning. When you're planning, you may have to
Speaker 1: sit down and think to yourself, Okay, I have this
Speaker 1: to do list, Okay, what do I need to start?
Speaker 1: So it's an extra step in advance. But then when
Speaker 1: you wake up and you look at your to start list,
Speaker 1: you know exactly what to get locked into. I think
Speaker 1: this has been a game changer for me because so
Speaker 1: often you look at your to do list and maybe
Speaker 1: a to do list is work on that you know,
Speaker 1: got to finish off that project for work, or maybe
Speaker 1: the to do list is obviously simple things like laundry
Speaker 1: or whatever. That's different. I'm talking about things that you've
Speaker 1: kind of been putting off for a while, things that
Speaker 1: get stuck on that to do list for too long,
Speaker 1: things that are always there. Almost it feels like have
Speaker 1: a to start list, not a to do list. This
Speaker 1: next one applies to that as well. How many of
Speaker 1: you on your to do list cross things off. How
Speaker 1: many of you will put a cross next to it
Speaker 1: or put a line through it? Now, this is really simple,
Speaker 1: and you may be like, Jay, that's not gonna work.
Speaker 1: I believe it all works, and I'll tell you why.
Speaker 1: It's because you're constantly in communication with yourself and our
Speaker 1: body and mind picks up on subtile cues very strongly.
Speaker 1: There are subtle things in society that have been so hardwired.
Speaker 1: For example, if you see a cross next to something,
Speaker 1: you generally think it's wrong. From school, if you see
Speaker 1: a C to something, it generally means don't enter, do
Speaker 1: not go here, caution. Right. That is a symbol, it's
Speaker 1: an emblem for something. Now you may not process that logically.
Speaker 1: You can differentiate between a cross on your to do
Speaker 1: list and a cross at a you know, at a
Speaker 1: at a traffic signal or a sign or you know
Speaker 1: when they have those train crossings. You can tell the
Speaker 1: difference logically, but subtly, when you're not processing it that intentionally,
Speaker 1: you're getting a negative impact. So what I want you
Speaker 1: to do is swap your crosses for ticks. Put a
Speaker 1: big tick, put a color tick, put a green tick.
Speaker 1: Seeing color, seeing a certain symbol, color gives us a
Speaker 1: certain emotion, and we devalue how much these things work.
Speaker 1: We undervalue how powerful these things can be. Right, we
Speaker 1: just think, oh, yeah, it's just you know, this is
Speaker 1: just pseudo stuff. It's like, yeah, sure, maybe there isn't
Speaker 1: something massively scientific about it. But the idea that you'll
Speaker 1: learn to give yourself positive affirmation, a positive validation of completion,
Speaker 1: a positive sense of self, I think it will make
Speaker 1: a big difference. One of the most well known tools,
Speaker 1: which I only recently realized I was lucky to learn
Speaker 1: when I was very young, and just how many people
Speaker 1: never actually got exposed to it when they were young,
Speaker 1: and I wanted to share it with you. And if
Speaker 1: you know it, that's great. If you don't know it,
Speaker 1: then I really hope that this changes the way you work.
Speaker 1: It's called the Eisenhower matrix or the Eisenhower box, and
Speaker 1: Eisenhower's strategy for taking action was organizing the inbound of
Speaker 1: a task, so on your to do list or a
Speaker 1: task that comes through there are four ways of defining them.
Speaker 1: According to Eisenhower, the four ways are either urgent and important.
Speaker 1: These are things that you will do immediately. There's important
Speaker 1: but not urgent. This is stuff that you'll have to
Speaker 1: schedule to do it at another time. Then there's urgent
Speaker 1: but not important. This is ideally something that someone else
Speaker 1: can do. It may require you to do it, but
Speaker 1: not with the same amount of intentionality and focus. And fourth,
Speaker 1: neither urgent nor important. And these are tasks that you
Speaker 1: actually want to get rid of. Now. When you start
Speaker 1: doing this, you and I want you to do this.
Speaker 1: And again it's it's almost like you'll think, well, why
Speaker 1: do I do that? Why don't I just get on
Speaker 1: with the task, because you might find when you do
Speaker 1: this for the first time, a lot of the tasks
Speaker 1: that you're spending time on maybe neither urgent nor important.
Speaker 1: I analyze every one of my meetings at work this way.
Speaker 1: We often go around the team meeting and my team
Speaker 1: will be filling me in on things, and I'm asking
Speaker 1: myself how much of this was urgent, and how much
Speaker 1: of this was important, and how much of it required me?
Speaker 1: And so ask yourself, is what's this urgent and important?
Speaker 1: Let me do it immediately, because often what we do
Speaker 1: is we trade what is important for what is urgent.
Speaker 1: And I think that's one of the biggest misses in
Speaker 1: productivity and time management. We get a request that's urgent
Speaker 1: for someone else. That's another thing. Not only is it
Speaker 1: not important for you, it's not urgent for you, it's
Speaker 1: urgent for someone else, and we drop what we're doing
Speaker 1: and being able to say, Hey, I'm going to get
Speaker 1: back to you in five minutes. I've just got to
Speaker 1: finish something off. Hey, I've been working on that. What
Speaker 1: time do you need it by? Right? When do you
Speaker 1: need it by? And in what condition are you looking
Speaker 1: for We're looking for it to be like are you
Speaker 1: looking for it to be complete? I think these qualifying
Speaker 1: questions help you to plan it out, help you to
Speaker 1: factor it out. One of the big ones of this
Speaker 1: this is the next principle, But this applies to the
Speaker 1: next principle very strongly. No email until ten am. A
Speaker 1: lot of us we get to work and the first
Speaker 1: thing we do, and I remember I used to do
Speaker 1: this as well. Was I used to open my email.
Speaker 1: You're starting your day off with a few things. First
Speaker 1: of all, it's reactive. You haven't started proactively on what
Speaker 1: you need to focus on. You start reactively with what
Speaker 1: everyone else wants to focus on. Therefore it's urgent to
Speaker 1: someone else even if it's not urgent and important to you.
Speaker 1: And thirdly, you get distracted down a rabbit hole and
Speaker 1: you focus on things that you don't even know are
Speaker 1: of value to what you're trying to do. Set a time,
Speaker 1: no email for the first thirty minutes of the day,
Speaker 1: no email for the first hour. When I get into work,
Speaker 1: I'm going to focus on my projects. So I'm going
Speaker 1: to focus on what I need to deliver. I'm going
Speaker 1: to focus on what I need to build. That's how
Speaker 1: you want to plan your day out right, That's how
Speaker 1: you want to focus. One of the next productivity tips
Speaker 1: that's made a big difference in my life is something
Speaker 1: I called goal of the day and goal of the week.
Speaker 1: I knew the goal of my day to day was
Speaker 1: to script, research and record to credible solo episodes. This
Speaker 1: is one of them, right, That was my goal of
Speaker 1: the day. Because I'm traveling for the rest of the
Speaker 1: day today, I'm flying to London, and so my goal
Speaker 1: of the day is to get to London safely and
Speaker 1: do that, and that's it. I have a lunch in
Speaker 1: between for work, and but that's my goal. My goal
Speaker 1: is simple. It's the podcast, it's the solos, it's being
Speaker 1: present with all of you. That's the goal of the day.
Speaker 1: No matter what happens, I have won if this goes well.
Speaker 1: I think what we often do is we have ten
Speaker 1: goals of the day. We have ten goals of each day,
Speaker 1: and it's almost impossible. Now, this doesn't mean you don't
Speaker 1: do more tasks. I've done more tasks today. I haven't
Speaker 1: had the luxury of only doing two episodes. I've got
Speaker 1: a lot of other tasks to do today. But I'm
Speaker 1: very clearly in my mind saying to myself, this is
Speaker 1: the win, because what happens is that every day will
Speaker 1: feel like a loss when you look at it and
Speaker 1: you look, I didn't get six out of ten things done,
Speaker 1: but maybe you've got two of the most important things
Speaker 1: done in those four things you got done. We don't
Speaker 1: properly weigh things for what their value truly is. We
Speaker 1: overvalue something and we undervalue something else, or we give
Speaker 1: everything the same value, and no tasks like to me
Speaker 1: recording my solos today and doing a bit of housekeeping,
Speaker 1: they're not of the same value to my work, They're
Speaker 1: not of the same value to my life. They are
Speaker 1: of different value, and so the goal of the day
Speaker 1: has to be based around what you value. Today. Some days,
Speaker 1: the goal of the day will be to get the
Speaker 1: dishes done. Tonight some day the goal of the day
Speaker 1: will be to get the laundry done, and that's totally fine.
Speaker 1: But know your value. Set a goal of the day,
Speaker 1: and set a goal of the week, and pursue that.
Speaker 1: Don't pursue this endless feeling of I just want to
Speaker 1: check everything off my list. I just need to get
Speaker 1: everything done, because you could get everything done and ten
Speaker 1: more things are going to appear. But if you've done
Speaker 1: the big things, if you've done the big goals, goal
Speaker 1: of the day, the goal of the week, you're going
Speaker 1: to feel a sense of accomplishment. The next principle is
Speaker 1: know your best time to be productive and put the
Speaker 1: most important activity at that time. This is another self
Speaker 1: awareness tip. If you know when you're most powerful, lean
Speaker 1: into that. I know that I might my best energy
Speaker 1: in the morning, I'm far better all the way up
Speaker 1: into one or two pm. That is my golden time,
Speaker 1: that is my most impactful time. So I'm going to
Speaker 1: place one of my most important activities in that nine
Speaker 1: am to one to two pm slot, then other things
Speaker 1: I'm going to add later on in the day. What
Speaker 1: I find is a lot of us will find our
Speaker 1: best stuff. We're doing it at the hardest times. So
Speaker 1: many of us are trying to do our best work
Speaker 1: at the worst time during the day for us. So
Speaker 1: get a sense of it. Observe yourself, Audit yourself over
Speaker 1: the next week, and ask yourself, what time of day
Speaker 1: was I most productive? What tasks do I find easiest
Speaker 1: to my confidence? Am I better when I start with
Speaker 1: the hardest thing of the beginning of the day or
Speaker 1: the easiest thing at the start of the day, Know
Speaker 1: your best time and schedule accordingly. And this applies to
Speaker 1: the next rule, which is lean into beast mode. You
Speaker 1: have to follow momentum. Sometimes I'm on a streak where
Speaker 1: I'm just writing it. It's really flowing, and I've realized
Speaker 1: to myself, that's the wind of the day. I'm going
Speaker 1: to switch some of my tasks and focus on that.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm in a recording mode and I can tell
Speaker 1: I've really locked in, and I'm like, all right, let
Speaker 1: me just lean into this right. And I think a
Speaker 1: lot of us don't follow our momentum we don't follow
Speaker 1: that desire and energy when it's flowing, it's flowing, go
Speaker 1: with it and lean into it. Now, if you work
Speaker 1: in a workplace with other people, the biggest block out
Speaker 1: of productivity people think is chatter or noise, and that
Speaker 1: is there. There's some truth in that, because one of
Speaker 1: the principles that I'll talk about later actually refers to that.
Speaker 1: But the one I want to talk about right now
Speaker 1: is actually one of the big causes of inefficiency at
Speaker 1: work is a lack of trust. When people have a
Speaker 1: lack of trust, you have to ask them three times
Speaker 1: for that document. When people have a lack of trust,
Speaker 1: you have to navigate a meeting so carefully that you're
Speaker 1: de energized after the meeting. When people have a lack
Speaker 1: of trust and chemistry, there's likelihood of being more conflict
Speaker 1: or competitiveness. We have to try in our workplaces to
Speaker 1: create a space of workplace trust. And what that is
Speaker 1: is to make sure people don't feel intimidated and you
Speaker 1: don't feel intimidated. And I know this is so hard
Speaker 1: because sadly you're around people who have their ego up,
Speaker 1: their barrier up, their boundary up. You've kind of got
Speaker 1: into the same place now, So what do you do?
Speaker 1: And I've been there before as well. I remember being
Speaker 1: in workplaces where I really felt that it was backs
Speaker 1: up against the wall and I really didn't feel like
Speaker 1: people were right, not just to me, to each other.
Speaker 1: Sometimes people are warm to me and not to other people,
Speaker 1: and that made me uncomfortable. So what do you do?
Speaker 1: I can honestly say that leading with integrity, leading with respect,
Speaker 1: leading with your best self, communicating effectively, always going higher,
Speaker 1: no matter how hard it is, will ultimately win the
Speaker 1: trust of the right people. It's always better. Don't get
Speaker 1: stuck in office politics, don't get brought down by it,
Speaker 1: don't get trapped by it, don't get ruined by it.
Speaker 1: And the way you do that is by constantly engaging
Speaker 1: with on purpose. You know, reading books that inspire you,
Speaker 1: being around people maybe outside of work or people at work.
Speaker 1: You do move you and motivate you. But recognize that
Speaker 1: sometimes you're trying to solve tasks and everything else, but
Speaker 1: it's a people issue. Know what's a people issue and
Speaker 1: know what's a task issue. This is a huge rule
Speaker 1: for productivity. Sometimes your productivity is hampered because you're not
Speaker 1: solving a people issue, and you're trying to solve a
Speaker 1: task issue, and sometimes your problem is you're focusing on
Speaker 1: people when actually it's a system issue. So ask yourself,
Speaker 1: should I solve the system or do I need to
Speaker 1: solve a relationship and figure that out, and that will
Speaker 1: save you so much time, money, and energy. I've only
Speaker 1: got a couple more that I want to share with you.
Speaker 1: This next one is called the Pareto principle, and it's
Speaker 1: a concept that's based on this idea that eighty percent
Speaker 1: of your business success is actually based on twenty percent
Speaker 1: of business. Right, So it's almost like saying that eighty
Speaker 1: percent of your revenue is based on twenty percent of
Speaker 1: your clients. Eighty percent of your success is based on
Speaker 1: the twenty percent of people you actually know at work,
Speaker 1: not the other way around. What we often do is
Speaker 1: we often get lost focusing on the eighty percent as
Speaker 1: opposed to the twenty percent. In essence, we don't focus
Speaker 1: on the root of our success and failure. We get distracted,
Speaker 1: and so it's a reminder that figure out what is
Speaker 1: really causing success or failure and focus on that. So
Speaker 1: ask yourself, what is your twenty percent? Here are four
Speaker 1: questions I want you to reflect on number one, what
Speaker 1: is your twenty percent? What is the thing that actually
Speaker 1: drives the eighty percent? Then what's your eighty percent? What
Speaker 1: are you focused on eighty percent of the time and
Speaker 1: is it really leading to anything? Third question, where are
Speaker 1: you spending your time? In fourth? How can you reprioritize?
Speaker 1: How can you recognize that you want to focus on
Speaker 1: the twenty percent that is life changing, that is building,
Speaker 1: and not get lost in the eighty percent. Now, the
Speaker 1: last method I want to share with you is monk mode.
Speaker 1: I remember so much of our meditation training during my
Speaker 1: time as a monk was about finding that silence and
Speaker 1: that stillness and going inward and in the workspace. This
Speaker 1: monk mode is this idea that how can you find
Speaker 1: that feeling of being locked in? How can you find
Speaker 1: that feeling of being so focused that you're not distracted
Speaker 1: by everything else around you? And research shows that in
Speaker 1: person conversations ranked as the top source of distraction at
Speaker 1: work forty seven percent, followed by phone calls twenty percent
Speaker 1: and chat platforms fifteen percent. One of my team members
Speaker 1: does this, and I see it work wonders for her
Speaker 1: when we're all chatting away. She wears headphones, right, she
Speaker 1: wears headphones and they're noise canceling, and she's locked in
Speaker 1: doing her work. And I see the amount of focus
Speaker 1: she has and how productive she is because of that.
Speaker 1: And I see a couple of my team members actually
Speaker 1: doing this, and so I recommend it. If you're struggling
Speaker 1: to disconnect, it's great to have them on. It's not rude,
Speaker 1: it's not antisocial. You can always join into conversations, and
Speaker 1: people actually admire it because people can see how locked
Speaker 1: in you are. So I want to know which principles
Speaker 1: you're going to test, which ones you're going to try.
Speaker 1: I hope that this helps you be more productive and
Speaker 1: effective and also lowers your stress levels. And I'm sending
Speaker 1: you so much love and positive energy. Remember I'm always
Speaker 1: in your corner and I'm forever rooting for you. Thanks
Speaker 1: for listening on purpose. I'll see you soon. Thank you
Speaker 1: so much for listening to this conversation. If you enjoyed it,
Speaker 1: you'll love my chat with Adam Grant on why discomfort
Speaker 1: is the key to growth and the strategies for unlocking
Speaker 1: your hidden potential. If you know you want to be
Speaker 1: more and achieve more, this year. Go check it out
Speaker 1: right now. You set a goal today, you achieve it
Speaker 1: in six months, and then by the time it happens,
Speaker 1: it's almost a relief. There's no sense of meaning and purpose.
Speaker 1: You sort of expected it, and you would have been
Speaker 1: disappointed if it didn't happen.