WEBVTT - Have a weekly calendar meeting

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to have a weekly calendar meeting. If

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<v Speaker 1>you have a complicated life with logistics that involve another person,

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<v Speaker 1>chatting every week about who does what can go a

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<v Speaker 1>long way toward making life run smoothly. My husband and

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<v Speaker 1>I have had on and off calendar meetings over the years,

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<v Speaker 1>especially if we're both traveling a lot. It is critical

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<v Speaker 1>that we both know who is going where and when.

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<v Speaker 1>But we are far from the only people who do this.

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<v Speaker 1>Writer and speaker Amy Julia Becker recently wrote a blog

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<v Speaker 1>post where she identified a weekly calendar meeting with her

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<v Speaker 1>husband as one of the most important factors contributing to

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<v Speaker 1>their marital happiness. Every week, Amy Julia and her husband

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<v Speaker 1>talk through what they need to do to make their

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<v Speaker 1>family life function. Who needs to be driven where and

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<v Speaker 1>when evening weekend or travel commitments that she and her

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<v Speaker 1>partner have, appointments for the kids that need to be scheduled.

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<v Speaker 1>You get the idea. As Amy Julia puts it, there's

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<v Speaker 1>nothing romantic about it, but it keeps us from chasing

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<v Speaker 1>after each other. With texts and emails and irritation when

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<v Speaker 1>we just need to know who is picking merrily up

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<v Speaker 1>from soccer on Wednesday, and who is going to call

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<v Speaker 1>about the leaking sink, and whether a vacation next spring

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<v Speaker 1>is in the budget. Calendar meetings can be especially beneficial

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<v Speaker 1>when there is one partner who loves scheduling and managing

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<v Speaker 1>logistics and another who doesn't, or, perhaps the more likely scenario,

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<v Speaker 1>one partner who winds up doing it all and resents

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<v Speaker 1>that the other partner does not. The partner who doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>like dealing with schedules and logistics might not naturally want

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<v Speaker 1>to schedule a calendar meeting, but he or she will

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<v Speaker 1>probably appreciate this. If there is a calendar meeting, that

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<v Speaker 1>is the time when logistics get discussed and they won't

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<v Speaker 1>have to deal with these matters all week long. The

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<v Speaker 1>partner who does like schedules in logistics, or who winds

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<v Speaker 1>up dealing with the bulk of these things, benefits from

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<v Speaker 1>knowing that there is a designated time when their partner

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<v Speaker 1>will be ready to engage on these topics and won't

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<v Speaker 1>find conversation about them annoying. Of course, romantic partners aren't

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<v Speaker 1>the only ones for who whom a weekly calendar meeting

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<v Speaker 1>can be helpful. You may find that a calendar meeting

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<v Speaker 1>with older kids or your child care provider keeps your

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<v Speaker 1>life at home running smoothly, or that check ins with

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<v Speaker 1>your assistant at work keep your professional life in order.

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<v Speaker 1>But whoever you need to meet with, the basic topics

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<v Speaker 1>can be the same. What's happening that one or both

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<v Speaker 1>of us needs to know about, what needs to get

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<v Speaker 1>done or decided, and how will we make it happen.

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<v Speaker 1>What's on our minds that we need to share. When

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<v Speaker 1>you walk through these things, your home life will feel

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<v Speaker 1>less like a catastrophe and more like a well oiled machine.

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<v Speaker 1>Well some of the time, but even if it isn't

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<v Speaker 1>a well oiled machine, it will probably be better then

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<v Speaker 1>if you are both just winging it. If you try

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<v Speaker 1>having a weekly calendar meeting with your partner or another

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<v Speaker 1>person whose life is closely linked with yours, you can

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<v Speaker 1>let me know how it goes at Laura at Laura

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<v Speaker 1>Vanderkam dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening, and here's to making the moose of our time. Hey, everybody,

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