Speaker 1: What up, y'all? Happy Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday,
Speaker 1: whatever day that you are listening to this episode. Thank you,
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Speaker 1: I'm very happy to have you all here and I
Speaker 1: hope that you enjoyed Cheeky's in Chill. So today I
Speaker 1: want to talk about something you've probably heard of. Do
Speaker 1: nice guys finish last? Do they really finish last? Well,
Speaker 1: let's get into this episode of Cheeky's and Chill, your
Speaker 1: favorite podcast. Alrighty guys, I'm going to make this short
Speaker 1: and to the point, very precise, very very demure, very mindful.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you guys have all seen that on Instagram.
Speaker 1: It's like my favorite word right now. But anyways, the
Speaker 1: other day, and I'm not going to say who, but
Speaker 1: the other day I was having a conversation and this
Speaker 1: particular person, who I am very fond of, who I
Speaker 1: have always loved with the way that they carry themselves,
Speaker 1: in the way that they are very ethical in their work, said,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm just tired. I'm fucking tired of being
Speaker 1: the nice guy and people taking advantage and I'm just
Speaker 1: fucking tired of it. I'm done. I'm not gonna be
Speaker 1: nice anymore, like I'm going to be an asshole. It
Speaker 1: almost seemed forced. I'm like, this isn't who you are,
Speaker 1: Like you are genuinely a nice person, and sometimes it
Speaker 1: takes us a little longer to get to the finish line.
Speaker 1: It really made me sad because I saw a difference
Speaker 1: and it was happening right before my eyes, and I
Speaker 1: was just like, what is happening, Like there's a different
Speaker 1: energy about this person, and it was confirmation. And I
Speaker 1: remember telling this person I'm like, don't don't ever get
Speaker 1: tired of being nice. Trust me. I have the moments
Speaker 1: actually where I'm like, I'm just so sick of it.
Speaker 1: People take my kindness for weakness, like and they do
Speaker 1: a lot of people do. But I don't want to
Speaker 1: change my essence because I know, at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, guys, it will take you further than you know. Yes,
Speaker 1: it might take you a little longer than people that
Speaker 1: push people out of the way. Imagine imagine us running
Speaker 1: right on a track, okay, and we're all running to
Speaker 1: the finish line. Okay. Just imagine come with me, okay,
Speaker 1: and we're running and there's people that are pushing you
Speaker 1: out of the way and tripping you and because they
Speaker 1: want to make it to the finish line before you.
Speaker 1: But then you turn around and someone you like may
Speaker 1: not even know, but they fell and they're struggling to
Speaker 1: get back up. Are you going to say f that
Speaker 1: person and keep going because you want to get to
Speaker 1: the finish line, or are you going to go back
Speaker 1: and say, you know what, let me help that person.
Speaker 1: Let me help them just get back up and help
Speaker 1: them get to the finish line. Even if I don't
Speaker 1: make it, but at least I wasn't that other person
Speaker 1: tripping people and pushing people and all these nasty things
Speaker 1: that happen in life just to get to the finish line.
Speaker 1: I'd much rather be a person to help others, to
Speaker 1: be there for them. I'm just that person that can
Speaker 1: never leave a soldier behind. That's just my mentality of like,
Speaker 1: I'm here for the people, I'm not here for myself.
Speaker 1: And there's a lot of people that are like that.
Speaker 1: I'm not one of them, and I suggest that you
Speaker 1: aren't either, because it's kind of like that whole mentality
Speaker 1: of every man for themselves. I truly and in my heart,
Speaker 1: don't believe that. I feel like if the more united
Speaker 1: we are, the stronger we stand. If we give up
Speaker 1: on the world because the world is just a lost
Speaker 1: cause and and blah blah blah, like it's never gonna
Speaker 1: get better. If you want to see a change in
Speaker 1: the world, that has to start with you, Yes, But also,
Speaker 1: how can I help, even if it's a little bit.
Speaker 1: This is why I talk about recycling and all this stuff,
Speaker 1: because even if I do it in my household, it's helping.
Speaker 1: Imagine if I give up and I'm just you know,
Speaker 1: adding to the problem, it's better for us to say
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do what I can and help others for
Speaker 1: the better good of everyone. So that's kind of what
Speaker 1: I mean. And it made me really sad when this
Speaker 1: person told me that, because I really really love this
Speaker 1: person and I really enjoyed being around them more when
Speaker 1: they were nice, when they were like not being a
Speaker 1: holes and very like confrontational and just trying to hey,
Speaker 1: this is my voice. I'm gonna show you that I'm
Speaker 1: here and that I'm not gonna let you fuck with me.
Speaker 1: And I'm just like, oh, it's kind of like not
Speaker 1: cool energy to be around, and the more and more
Speaker 1: that I saw that, the less and less that I
Speaker 1: wanted to be around that person, And it just made
Speaker 1: me want to talk about this and just more than anything,
Speaker 1: to encourage you, guys, to continue to be nice. Don't
Speaker 1: get tired of being nice and doing good in the world.
Speaker 1: It will pay off. I promise you it will pay
Speaker 1: I guarantee it, it will pay off. Don't give up.
Speaker 1: It's not that the nice guy finishes last. It just
Speaker 1: takes a little longer because there's a lot of assholes
Speaker 1: in the world that just think about themselves and want
Speaker 1: want for themselves. Me me, me, me me, and they
Speaker 1: get there a lot faster. But then what you're alone.
Speaker 1: No one wants to be around you. You're a pest.
Speaker 1: I can't with opportunists, with leeches. I just that's a
Speaker 1: whole other episode, guys. But like, don't get tired of
Speaker 1: being a nice person, of doing good. It feels better.
Speaker 1: Life is watching the universes listening. One way or the other.
Speaker 1: You will get compensated. I promise you. It's always better
Speaker 1: to kill people with kindness, genuine kindness, than to kill
Speaker 1: them with f fed up actions and doing things that
Speaker 1: yes will get you bigger and better opportunities, but you're
Speaker 1: screwing people over like it's just I don't know. I
Speaker 1: hope I'm making sense, but I just wanted to encourage you, guys,
Speaker 1: as I had this in my heart, to continue to
Speaker 1: do good in the world, to do your part, to
Speaker 1: do what you can to Yes, think of yourself, but
Speaker 1: always think of others as well and keep them in mind.
Speaker 1: And always remember, united, we stand, Divided we fall. And
Speaker 1: that's just the freaking truth, no matter how you look
Speaker 1: at it, that is what it is, guys. And even
Speaker 1: in relationships, I'm telling you, I have been very tough
Speaker 1: in loving relationships with partners. And finally when I put
Speaker 1: the gloves down, when I let my guards down, things
Speaker 1: got so much better. It's so exhausting to be on
Speaker 1: defense mode because in every other area of my life
Speaker 1: I have no problem with implementing all of this that
Speaker 1: I'm telling you. It had just been in relationships because
Speaker 1: of what I grew up seeing, because of situations that
Speaker 1: I put myself in, or whatever the case may be.
Speaker 1: So I always felt like I had to have, you know,
Speaker 1: my gloves up in the air, like ready to fight,
Speaker 1: like you know, and I was like no, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: leave you before you leave me, or yeah, you want
Speaker 1: to be mean, I'm gonna be meaner. No, it's so
Speaker 1: fucking tiring. Like I'm just like no, I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: my best. I'm gonna try until trying is no longer
Speaker 1: an option. I'm gonna do my part. I'm gonna love
Speaker 1: you the way I want to love you, the way
Speaker 1: I hope that you love me, and if you don't
Speaker 1: appreciate it and you take me for granted, then I'll
Speaker 1: walk away. It took me a long time to understand that,
Speaker 1: and it feels so damn good to say, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna love the shit out of you. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: treat you good even if you're not doing it, because
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do my part, and if you lose me,
Speaker 1: then you're gonna miss me. That's on you. And once
Speaker 1: I did that, girl, I'm happy, I'm like, whoop. It
Speaker 1: feels good to be nice, It feels good to do good.
Speaker 1: It feels just feels fucking good. It just feels great.
Speaker 1: I don't know how I'll explain it, like I, yes,
Speaker 1: I want to smile and even if you're mean, like
Speaker 1: even when dude, road rage, it's a whole other thing.
Speaker 1: I swear to you. Someone cuts me off, I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna fight with you. I'm not gonna hunk.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna flip you off. I swear. I'm like,
Speaker 1: let them talk shit, whatever the case may be. I
Speaker 1: just blow them a kiss. I'm like, you know what, No,
Speaker 1: takes too much energy to be mean, too much fucking
Speaker 1: energy to be mean. Why No? Like No, life is
Speaker 1: hard and I want to fucking I'm here for a
Speaker 1: good time, you know. And I'm gonna be nice and
Speaker 1: that's that's it. And I don't care even if people
Speaker 1: are mean to me. I'm gonna defend myself. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna be dumb, but I'm not gonna like. You know
Speaker 1: how they say an eye for an eye. Who said this?
Speaker 1: I think Gandhi said this. If we do an eye
Speaker 1: for an eye, the whole world is gonna be blind.
Speaker 1: I think that's the quote. Don't quote me, but look
Speaker 1: it up. I'm not that type of person. Don't be
Speaker 1: that type of person of like, Okay, you do this
Speaker 1: to me, I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna do it worse. No,
Speaker 1: Why let God take care of them, You do your part,
Speaker 1: You be good, love the world, Radiate love, radiate light,
Speaker 1: and I promise you it will pay off. Guaranteed it
Speaker 1: will pay off. Do not have that mentality of the
Speaker 1: nice guy ends last. It's not true. We end stronger,
Speaker 1: we in whole, we end victorious, and I've seen it
Speaker 1: in my life. Trust me. I don't know if you
Speaker 1: guys believe in karma. I definitely believe in good karma,
Speaker 1: bad karma. I believe in the ying and the yang.
Speaker 1: I believe in what you give comes back. I believe
Speaker 1: in paying forward. I do. I believe in treating people
Speaker 1: the way I want to be treated. I really do.
Speaker 1: I feel like the more positive energy you put out
Speaker 1: in the world, the more good you put out in
Speaker 1: the world, the more you will receive. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: that because you keep pouring out good, you're not going
Speaker 1: to get bad situations. You're not going to get mean
Speaker 1: people in your way. That's just life. Those are called obstacles.
Speaker 1: Those are things that we can't prevent. Those things are
Speaker 1: going to happen. But if you keep giving good and
Speaker 1: you keep paying it forward, and you keep doing good,
Speaker 1: and you don't give up and you have faith in
Speaker 1: the universe, and whatever it is you have faith in
Speaker 1: in God, you will receive good. It's just a circle.
Speaker 1: It's how it works. It's energetic. We are energy. The
Speaker 1: entire world is made up of energy. So even if
Speaker 1: you feel like, oh my god, I've been doing like
Speaker 1: I've been trying and life is just kicking in the ass, like,
Speaker 1: don't lose hope, do not lose faith, you will. You
Speaker 1: will come out on top. Keep your eye on the
Speaker 1: light at the end of the tunnel. And I know
Speaker 1: I say that a lot, but I really really see
Speaker 1: my life like that. Sometimes sometimes I'm in a dark
Speaker 1: ass place, you guys, and I've thought, honestly, I thought, okay,
Speaker 1: it's fine. I really thought twenty twenty four it was
Speaker 1: gonna be different for me. I thought, oh shit, things
Speaker 1: are just settling, the dust is settling. Like been through
Speaker 1: so much. I look back and I'm like, damn, it's
Speaker 1: been a lot, but I feel like everything's gonna be
Speaker 1: all right. And just when I think that, life teaches
Speaker 1: me something else and I'm like damn, And I have
Speaker 1: those dark moments where I'm just like, oh my God,
Speaker 1: everything is caving in, like, oh my gosh, like I
Speaker 1: just I don't know, and I'm like, Okay, the light
Speaker 1: looks smaller and further and further away, But I don't
Speaker 1: lose my faith. I'm like, it's okay. I've been through
Speaker 1: these moments. I've seen stuff like this, I have felt
Speaker 1: this before. I know that I will get out of this.
Speaker 1: This too shall pass, it will get better. I have
Speaker 1: put in more good in the world. God knows that
Speaker 1: I live my best with trying to help, with being
Speaker 1: a good person. I'm not trying to f anyone over.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't. I feel so proud guys to
Speaker 1: say that there is no one that has said I
Speaker 1: have fucked them over. And if I did, and I've
Speaker 1: made mistakes, I will apologize and I admit to it,
Speaker 1: because you know, no one's perfect. But for someone to
Speaker 1: say that I stole from them, that I did anything
Speaker 1: negative to try to stop their career or stop them
Speaker 1: from becoming like never, Because I'm like, there is a
Speaker 1: God and I want good karma. So I do believe
Speaker 1: in karma, guys. And I know we keep saying about
Speaker 1: you know, men and guys do they finish last? I
Speaker 1: mean I mean that as men and women but let
Speaker 1: me talk about women now that we're here as a woman,
Speaker 1: as a woman in my industry that's mainly dominated by men,
Speaker 1: and even in corporate America, you guys, it's you know,
Speaker 1: it's ran by the man. And you know, I'm not
Speaker 1: a feminist just a little. But anyways, I'm a woman,
Speaker 1: and I'm a strong woman. I have a strong character.
Speaker 1: I consider myself to be a person that is very
Speaker 1: strong and very strong willed and vocal when need be
Speaker 1: in a very respectful way. I have run into other
Speaker 1: women that, because they are in a man's world quote unquote,
Speaker 1: they feel the need to put forward this very like
Speaker 1: hard shell because they want to be taken seriously. And
Speaker 1: I just feel that there's nothing more beautiful than a
Speaker 1: woman that can still be tender and still be very
Speaker 1: strong in her position without being disrespectful. There's a very
Speaker 1: fine line, because yes, we want to be taken seriously,
Speaker 1: especially because for me, in the beginning of my career,
Speaker 1: I felt like I needed to be this tough, strong
Speaker 1: type of woman on stage and in my interviews, and
Speaker 1: I'm just like, dude, it got exhausting. I'm like, that's
Speaker 1: not really who I am. If that's really who you are,
Speaker 1: then so be it. But I'm saying, like, if it's
Speaker 1: not really who you are, don't put up a front.
Speaker 1: Because I did. I felt like I needed that because
Speaker 1: I wanted people to be like, no, I'm tough and like,
Speaker 1: you know, my mom was tough, and I wanted to
Speaker 1: be I guess respected. But I don't think I was
Speaker 1: doing it in the right way. You know. I wasn't disrespectful,
Speaker 1: but it wasn't really who I genuinely am. It's not
Speaker 1: my real, authentic self. So I had to find the
Speaker 1: balance of just being a nice, respectful, cordial woman but
Speaker 1: still holding my ground and holding my own and being
Speaker 1: very direct but always respectful, you know, and mindful and demure.
Speaker 1: So I think that there's a fine line, and I
Speaker 1: think that us as women, my only advice is to
Speaker 1: always have a tender heart because it is it is tougher.
Speaker 1: I feel like the world can be tougher on women.
Speaker 1: Not can I really I believe it. But it's important
Speaker 1: to always keep our essence and keep our heart soft
Speaker 1: and our shell hard, like just you know, hold our
Speaker 1: own and find that balance between being too nice and
Speaker 1: being naive and gullible. Because I've been there as well,
Speaker 1: and finding our voice, but also always being respectful and
Speaker 1: cordial and not having to overcompensate because of the position
Speaker 1: that we're in to prove something to a man. So
Speaker 1: I hope that made sense. But I do think that
Speaker 1: it is very important to always be a lady, be
Speaker 1: a strong woman with our head held high in a
Speaker 1: world that men feel that they run. But in reality, guys,
Speaker 1: if it wasn't for women, there would be no life.
Speaker 1: There is life, and there are men on this earth
Speaker 1: because of women, whether they want to admit it or not.
Speaker 1: And in that there's a lot of strength. But again,
Speaker 1: don't feel like you're better than anyone else, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. AnyWho, I just wanted to clear that
Speaker 1: up because I know we keep thinking about, you know,
Speaker 1: talking about guys. It's a person does a nice person
Speaker 1: and last is basically what I'm talking about. I hope
Speaker 1: you enjoyed this episode, and I hope that you understood
Speaker 1: me with all the things that I talked about, and
Speaker 1: it was short and quick and to the point the
Speaker 1: way we like it. Boom boom boom. I hope something
Speaker 1: resonated with you. And all I want to do in
Speaker 1: this world is help and better people's lives, for all
Speaker 1: of us to become the better versions of ourselves and
Speaker 1: who we are meant to be. So I hope I'm
Speaker 1: doing that. So thank you so much for listening. I
Speaker 1: really really appreciate you. I can't even tell you how
Speaker 1: excited and how great it feels when I see you
Speaker 1: guys on the streets get a restaurant, or when I
Speaker 1: see you out in the world in the real world,
Speaker 1: or I see you guys at my meeting greets and
Speaker 1: you tell me I listen to your podcast. Thank you
Speaker 1: so much Cheeky's Like, I love it, Like makes me
Speaker 1: feel so good. I feel like, ah, I'm doing good
Speaker 1: in the world, and that's all I want to do.
Speaker 1: So thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1: I'm never going to get tired of saying thank you.
Speaker 1: I love you, guys, and I will see you here
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