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Speaker 1: What up, y'all? Happy Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday,

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Speaker 1: whatever day that you are listening to this episode. Thank you,

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Speaker 1: Thank you for listening in. If you are a new listener, welcome.

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Speaker 1: I'm very happy to have you all here, and I

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Speaker 1: hope that you enjoyed Cheeky's in Chill. So today I

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Speaker 1: want to talk about something you've probably heard of. Do

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Speaker 1: nice guys finish last? Do they really finish last? Well,

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Speaker 1: let's get into this episode of Cheeky's and Chill, your

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Speaker 1: favorite podcast. Alrighty guys, I'm gonna make this short and

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Speaker 1: to the point, very precise, very very demure, very mindful.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure you guys have all seen that on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: It's like my favorite word right now. But anyways, the

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Speaker 1: other day, and I'm not going to say who, but

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Speaker 1: the other day I was having a conversation and this

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Speaker 1: particular person, who I am very fond of, who I

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Speaker 1: have always loved with the way that they carry themselves,

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Speaker 1: in the way that they are very ethical in their work, said,

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Speaker 1: you know, I'm just tired. I'm fucking tired of being

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Speaker 1: the nice guy and people taking advantage and I'm just

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Speaker 1: fucking tired of it. I'm done. I'm not gonna be

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Speaker 1: nice anymore, like I'm going to be an asshole. It

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Speaker 1: almost seemed forced. I'm like, this isn't who you are,

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Speaker 1: Like you are genuinely a nice person, and sometimes it

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Speaker 1: takes us a little longer to get to the finish line.

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Speaker 1: It really made me sad because I saw a difference

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Speaker 1: and it was happening right before my eyes, and I

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Speaker 1: was just like, what is happening, Like there's a different

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Speaker 1: energy about this person, and it was confirmation. And I

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Speaker 1: remember telling this person I'm like, don't don't ever get

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Speaker 1: tired of being nice. Trust me. I have the moments

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Speaker 1: actually where I'm like, I'm just so sick of it.

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Speaker 1: People take my kindness for weakness, like and they do

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Speaker 1: a lot of people do. But I don't want to

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Speaker 1: change my essence because I know, at the end of

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Speaker 1: the day, guys, it will take you further than you know. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it might take you a little longer than people that

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Speaker 1: push people out of the way. Imagine imagine us running

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Speaker 1: right on a track, okay, and we're all running to

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Speaker 1: the finish line. Okay. Just imagine come with me, okay,

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Speaker 1: and we're running and there's people that are pushing you

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Speaker 1: out of the way and tripping you and because they

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Speaker 1: want to make it to the finish line before you.

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Speaker 1: But then you turn around and someone you like may

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Speaker 1: not even know, but they fell and they're struggling to

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Speaker 1: get back up. Are you going to say f that

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Speaker 1: person and keep going because you want to get to

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Speaker 1: the finish line, or are you going to go back

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Speaker 1: and say, you know what, let me help that person.

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Speaker 1: Let me help them just get back up and help

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Speaker 1: them get to the finish line. Even if I don't

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Speaker 1: make it, but at least I wasn't that other person

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Speaker 1: tripping people and pushing people and all these nasty things

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Speaker 1: that happen in life just to get to the finish line.

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Speaker 1: I'd much rather be a person to help others, to

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Speaker 1: be there for them. I'm just that person that can

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Speaker 1: never leave a soldier behind. That's just my mentality of like,

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Speaker 1: I'm here for the people, I'm not here for myself.

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Speaker 1: And there's a lot of people that are like that.

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Speaker 1: I'm not one of them, and I suggest that you

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Speaker 1: aren't either, because it's kind of like that whole mentality

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Speaker 1: of every man for themselves. I truly and in my heart,

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Speaker 1: don't believe that. I feel like if the more united

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Speaker 1: we are, the stronger we stand. If we give up

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Speaker 1: cause and and blah blah blah, like it's never gonna

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Speaker 1: get better. If you want to see a change in

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Speaker 1: the world, that has to start with you, Yes, But also,

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Speaker 1: how can I help, even if it's a little bit.

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Speaker 1: This is why I talk about recycling and all this stuff,

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Speaker 1: because even if I do it in my household, it's helping.

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Speaker 1: Imagine if I give up and I'm just you know,

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Speaker 1: adding to the problem, it's better for us to say

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do what I can and help others for

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Speaker 1: the better good of everyone. So that's kind of what

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Speaker 1: I mean. And it made me really sad when this

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Speaker 1: person told me that, because I really really love this

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Speaker 1: And I'm just like, oh, it's kind of like not

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Speaker 1: me want to talk about this and just more than anything,

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Speaker 1: to encourage you, guys, to continue to be nice. Don't

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Speaker 1: get tired of being nice and doing good in the world.

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Speaker 1: It will pay off. I promise you it will pay

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Speaker 1: I guarantee it, it will pay off. Don't give up.

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Speaker 1: It's not that the nice guy finishes last. It just

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Speaker 1: takes a little longer because there's a lot of assholes

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Speaker 1: get there a lot faster. But then what you're alone.

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Speaker 1: No one wants to be around you. You're a pest.

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Speaker 1: I can't with opportunists, with leeches. I just that's a

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Speaker 1: whole other episode, guys. But like, don't get tired of

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Speaker 1: being a nice person, of doing good. It feels better.

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Speaker 1: Life is watching the universes listening. One way or the other.

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Speaker 1: You will get compensated. I promise you. It's always better

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Speaker 1: to kill people with kindness, genuine kindness, than to kill

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Speaker 1: them with f fed up actions and doing things that

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Speaker 1: yes will get you bigger and better opportunities, but you're

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Speaker 1: screwing people over like it's just I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: hope I'm making sense, but I just wanted to encourage you, guys,

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Speaker 1: as I had this in my heart, to continue to

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Speaker 1: do good in the world, to do your part, to

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Speaker 1: do what you can to Yes, think of yourself, but

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Speaker 1: always think of others as well and keep them in mind.

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Speaker 1: And always remember, united, we stand, Divided we fall. And

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Speaker 1: that's just the freaking truth, no matter how you look

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Speaker 1: at it, that is what it is, guys. And even

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Speaker 1: in relationships, I'm telling you, I have been very tough

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Speaker 1: in loving relationships with partners. And finally when I put

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Speaker 1: got so much better. It's so exhausting to be on

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Speaker 1: of what I grew up seeing, because of situations that

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Speaker 1: So I always felt like I had to have, you know,

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Speaker 1: an option. I'm gonna do my part. I'm gonna love

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Speaker 1: I hope that you love me, and if you don't

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Speaker 1: appreciate it and you take me for granted, then I'll

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Speaker 1: walk away. It took me a long time to understand that,

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Speaker 1: and it feels so damn good to say, you know what,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna love the shit out of you. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: treat you good even if you're not doing it, because

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do my part, and if you lose me,

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Speaker 1: then you're gonna miss me. That's on you. And once

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Speaker 1: I did that, girl, I'm happy, I'm like, whoop. It

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Speaker 1: feels good to be nice, It feels good to do good.

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Speaker 1: It feels just feels fucking good. It just feels great.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how I'll explain it, like I, yes,

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Speaker 1: I want to smile and even if you're mean, like

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Speaker 1: even when dude, road rage, it's a whole other thing.

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Speaker 1: I swear to you. Someone cuts me off, I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna fight with you. I'm not gonna hunk.

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna flip you off. I swear. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: takes too much energy to be mean, too much fucking

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Speaker 1: energy to be mean. Why No? Like No, life is

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Speaker 1: and that's that's it. And I don't care even if

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Speaker 1: not gonna be dumb. But I'm not gonna like. You

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Speaker 1: know how they say an eye for an eye? Who

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Speaker 1: said this? I think Gandhi said this. If we do

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Speaker 1: an eye for an eye, the whole world is gonna

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Speaker 1: be blind. I think that's the quote. Don't quote me,

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Speaker 1: but look it up. I'm not that type of person.

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Speaker 1: Don't be that type of person of like, Okay, you

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Speaker 1: do this to me, I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: do it worse. No, Why let God take care of them.

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Speaker 1: You do your part, You be good, love the world,

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Speaker 1: Radiate love, radiate light, and I promise you it will

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Speaker 1: pay off. Guaranteed, it will pay off. Do not have

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Speaker 1: We end stronger, we in whole, we end victorious, and

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Speaker 1: I've seen it in my life. Trust me. I don't

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Speaker 1: know if you guys believe in karma. I definitely believe

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Speaker 1: not saying that because you keep pouring out good, you're

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Speaker 1: have faith in the universe, and whatever it is you

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Speaker 1: just a circle. It's how it works. It's energetic. We

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Speaker 1: are energy. The entire world is made up of energy.

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Speaker 1: So even if you feel like, oh my god, I've

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Speaker 1: been doing like I've been trying and life is just

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Speaker 1: kicking in the ass, like, don't lose hope, do not

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Speaker 1: lose faith, you will, you will come out on top.

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Speaker 1: Keep your eye on the light at the end of

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Speaker 1: the tunnel. And I know I say that a lot,

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Speaker 1: but I really really see my life like that. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: sometimes I'm in a dark ass place, you guys, and

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Speaker 1: I've thought, honestly, I thought, okay, it's fine. I really

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Speaker 1: thought twenty twenty four it was gonna be different for me.

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Speaker 1: I thought, oh shit, things are just settling, the dust

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Speaker 1: is settling. Like, been through so much. I look back

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Speaker 1: like damn, And I have those dark moments where I'm

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Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, the light looks smaller and further and

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Speaker 1: further away, But I don't lose my faith. I'm like,

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