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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if we need

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Speaker 1: it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject. We did

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Speaker 1: it and he's trying to do me. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I'm a thirty two year old married woman and I've

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Speaker 1: got a problem with my district manager. For years, we

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Speaker 1: He's married, too, so I never imagined we'd ever fool around,

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Speaker 1: but we did. Here's how it happens. I've been married

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Speaker 1: three years and my husband was being distant and staying

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Speaker 1: She went on to say that my husband confided in

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Speaker 1: we sat in his car talking. My rap dress had

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Speaker 1: and I can't give him more. What my husband did

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Speaker 1: was very wrong, but I honestly do not think my

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Speaker 1: saying my husband doesn't my husband doesn't appreciate me, and

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Speaker 1: revenge sex always makes the person feel better. Is this

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Speaker 1: man crazy or just being manipulative? Well, you're the one

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Speaker 1: that's crazy if you do let this man manipulate you

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Speaker 1: what he's doing right now. You say, you haven't gone

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Speaker 1: because he's unready set. He's unready set right now. All

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Speaker 1: you have to do is give him to go, and

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Speaker 1: he's waiting for that. So now your husband, your husband,

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Speaker 1: on the other hand, what is he doing? You say,

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Speaker 1: you honestly don't believe he would cheat on you. So

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Speaker 1: so what were the dinners for? If it was just

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Speaker 1: with a friend, why didn't he tell you? Why did

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Speaker 1: you have to make him confess it to you? And

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Speaker 1: he went out with her, this other woman, not just

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Speaker 1: once or twice, but a few times, and she's a

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Speaker 1: not looking good at all. Because surely she knows she's

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Speaker 1: not one of your favorite people. Surely she knows that

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Speaker 1: So you know, I just say, definitely tell your your

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Speaker 1: his job and these dinner dates with this college friend

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Speaker 1: and you need to get into the bottom of it. Steve,

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Speaker 1: that's not what this letter is about to me. Ah

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Speaker 1: read these letters. See, Shirley be really trying to help y'all.

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Speaker 1: You know. And there's a difference between me and Shelly

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Speaker 1: but I'm always here for entertainment. And that's the difference

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Speaker 1: her district manager. For years, we flirted with each other

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Speaker 1: This was her doing. She didn't come in out and

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Speaker 1: it happened. I've been married three years now. For them

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Speaker 1: known my husband being distant, staying out what he usually does.

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Speaker 1: that he's fine. Right after that, I ran into one

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Speaker 1: she's not used to seeing him so depressed. Rick, Let's

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Speaker 1: and need to do real friends. All right, Steve, we'll

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Speaker 1: have part two of your response coming up at twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour. Subject for today's Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: we did it and he's trying to do me. We'll

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening Steve

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Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show. Right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter. The subject we did it and he's trying

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Speaker 1: flirting with this district manager for years and it's made

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Speaker 1: but she's been doing this without her husband knowing. Okay,

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Speaker 1: didn't notice her husband standing out more than usual. Ass

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Speaker 1: was everything fine? He said he was stressed out at work.

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Speaker 1: Then you right up in the one of his freemale

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Speaker 1: college friends who you don't really like, never click with.

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Speaker 1: She told you she's praying everything works out for your

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Speaker 1: they praying for you. People always be aware. People come

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Speaker 1: but then it comes in the form of a deed. No,

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Speaker 1: you're not. No, you know you ain't praying for me.

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Speaker 1: That ain't how prayer works. We ain't friends. And then

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Speaker 1: I couldn't stop crying. Now, wait a minute, ain't you

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Speaker 1: the same woman. You can't believe he confided in her.

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Speaker 1: I bet your husband wouldn't believe that. You and with

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Speaker 1: had dinner a couple of times. Now, you can't you

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Speaker 1: then when it happened to you nice all messed up.

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Speaker 1: Now the whole letter is you think your man cheating

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Speaker 1: would work, now you thirty two? My wrap dress had

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Speaker 1: He reached in and he rubbed a few things. He

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Speaker 1: vision that he hadn't rubbed you all tween your thighs

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Speaker 1: would have been amazed to find this out. You've been

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Speaker 1: I hear you sitting in that car cock eye. That's right.

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Speaker 1: I had y'all blump in the back of your head

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Speaker 1: See that what district management to when he was rubbing

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Speaker 1: until you got blurred vision. You don't get blurred vision

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Speaker 1: from somebody running across his hand across your chest. That

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Speaker 1: It opened up at the thighs in the wrap dress,

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Speaker 1: He in both their marriage because your vision blurred. Now

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Speaker 1: he wants more and I can't give him more. Het

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Speaker 1: say you didn't want to, You say you can't. What

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Speaker 1: your BLI to your vision got blurred either, But you did.

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Speaker 1: My district managers using what he knows about my marriage

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Speaker 1: and his favor. But you told him he's trying to

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Speaker 1: coerce me into having an affair by saying my husband

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Speaker 1: doesn't appreciate me. Well, you should ask him does he

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Speaker 1: people on this in this letter right now. Then he says,

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Speaker 1: and revenge sex always makes a person feel better. Revenge sex,

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Speaker 1: that's the stupid approach, your district manager, dumb. You don't

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Speaker 1: got to, you got to, you got to. You got

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Speaker 1: for him. Let's talk about this some more. Let's get

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Speaker 1: somewhere and getting the consolation party. That's the stupid approach.

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Speaker 1: Revenge sex to always make a person feel better, that's

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Speaker 1: a dumb approach. He should be more consoling so he

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Speaker 1: could do more rubbing if that's what he wants. Now,

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Speaker 1: is this man crazier just being manipulative? Keep both. He's

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Speaker 1: He was almost home with the goodies with Jess rubbing now.

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Speaker 1: He talked about revenge sex and is he being manipulative? Yes?

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Speaker 1: And are you willing yes? Have you been flirting for years? Yes?

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