1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,560 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you 2 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:07,400 Speaker 1: need advice in relationships, work, sex, parenting, dating, and more, 3 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com 4 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:14,880 Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your 5 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:17,720 Speaker 1: letter live on the air, just like we're gonna read 6 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:20,200 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. And this is one 7 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:23,079 Speaker 1: you do not want to miss. Who let's go then 8 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:25,759 Speaker 1: buckle up, hold on tight here it is scrow up 9 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: every letter. Thank you nephew. Subject you me and she? 10 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:36,760 Speaker 1: What are we gonna do about this baby? Dear Stephen Shirley. 11 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: I am a thirty five year old lovely woman and 12 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:44,520 Speaker 1: my husband and I are having a dilemma. Four years ago, 13 00:00:44,760 --> 00:00:47,519 Speaker 1: my husband of ten years cheated on me with a 14 00:00:47,600 --> 00:00:50,640 Speaker 1: woman he used to work with, and he got her pregnant. 15 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:54,040 Speaker 1: He told me about the affair and I was livid, 16 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:56,880 Speaker 1: but after the baby was born, I was able to 17 00:00:56,920 --> 00:01:00,560 Speaker 1: forgive him and move on. A year or so later, 18 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 1: I had an affair with a guy that I met 19 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 1: at the gym. He was good and bad, and I 20 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:09,720 Speaker 1: quickly got hooked. I was so far gone that I 21 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:13,200 Speaker 1: got sloppy with my affair and my husband found out. 22 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:16,320 Speaker 1: I admitted that I was having an affair, and my 23 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 1: husband hit me with a double whammy. He told me 24 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:22,240 Speaker 1: he never stopped sleeping with his side piece that he 25 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 1: had the baby with. I was shocked, but then I 26 00:01:25,600 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 1: felt relieved. A few days later, my husband and I 27 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 1: sat down and talked about the future of our marriage. 28 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:35,080 Speaker 1: Since we were both cheaters. Well, here's what we came 29 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:39,200 Speaker 1: up with. We decided to move my husband's side piece 30 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:43,200 Speaker 1: into our home so she could be with my husband 31 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:46,480 Speaker 1: and my husband wouldn't have to sneak around. He allowed 32 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:49,720 Speaker 1: me to let my side piece come over. You heard me. 33 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:52,600 Speaker 1: I told you you didn't want to miss this letter. 34 00:01:53,280 --> 00:01:56,400 Speaker 1: He allowed me to let my side piece come over 35 00:01:56,680 --> 00:02:00,400 Speaker 1: whenever he was so we figured we were in an 36 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:06,680 Speaker 1: open marriage, but we controlled everything. We were shocked and 37 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:10,959 Speaker 1: surprised to find out that when our side pieces were 38 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 1: not with us, they were with each other. We want 39 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:18,639 Speaker 1: the female side piece to get out of our house 40 00:02:18,680 --> 00:02:22,120 Speaker 1: for betraying our trust. She has no place to go, 41 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:25,240 Speaker 1: so we're stuck with her. My side pieces left me 42 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:27,720 Speaker 1: for this other woman, so I want my husband to 43 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 1: stop having sex with her and too much. Okay, okay, 44 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:44,040 Speaker 1: this is a whole. Okay, yeah, okay, you want to 45 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 1: start there. Okay, Well, we were shocked and surprised to 46 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:50,080 Speaker 1: find out that when our side pieces were not with us, 47 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: they were with each other. We want the female side 48 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:57,120 Speaker 1: piece to get out of our house for betraying our trust. 49 00:02:57,560 --> 00:02:59,920 Speaker 1: She has no place to go, so we're stuck with 50 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:03,440 Speaker 1: with her. My side pieces left me for this other woman. 51 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 1: So I want my husband to stop having sex with her. 52 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 1: Am I being selfish? Or is this woman taking money? 53 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:15,840 Speaker 1: Or is this woman taking my kindness for weakness? I know, 54 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:21,120 Speaker 1: I know, I know. My husband can go with her 55 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 1: if he wants to, but I want her out of 56 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 1: my house? How should I handle this situation? So, first 57 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:32,079 Speaker 1: of all, this subject should have been you call it you, 58 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 1: me and she? What are we gonna do about the baby? 59 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 1: But it should have been my husband and I are 60 00:03:36,080 --> 00:03:42,800 Speaker 1: both stupid and gullible. Your husband did what, and then 61 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:47,160 Speaker 1: you did what? And then you guys agreed to let 62 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:51,400 Speaker 1: them move into your home? What is going on here? 63 00:03:51,720 --> 00:03:54,520 Speaker 1: I don't know anyone who does this. I mean, even 64 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 1: in an open marriage, Even in an open marriage, at 65 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:01,360 Speaker 1: least the living quarters are somewhat sacred. I mean, you 66 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 1: don't move everybody in together. You say we want the 67 00:04:05,320 --> 00:04:09,120 Speaker 1: female side piece to get out because she betrayed your trust. 68 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:13,040 Speaker 1: You sound crazy. You know, all of you guys sound 69 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 1: crazy because you all betrayed each other. We see each other, 70 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 1: and you know you produced a baby in this madness. 71 00:04:22,279 --> 00:04:25,479 Speaker 1: I just have to say, poor little baby. I feel 72 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:29,040 Speaker 1: for this baby. So to me, it doesn't matter if 73 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:31,479 Speaker 1: you're being selfish, because that's what you asked. Is she 74 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:34,840 Speaker 1: taking your kindness for weakness? Who cares? That's not even 75 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:37,839 Speaker 1: the issue. You gotta tell her she's got to lead. 76 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:40,919 Speaker 1: You gotta tell her that your husband, if he's still 77 00:04:40,960 --> 00:04:44,159 Speaker 1: doing her, just might go with her. You said he 78 00:04:44,200 --> 00:04:46,680 Speaker 1: can go with her if he wants to. He just 79 00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: might do that. But the main thing is, you know, 80 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 1: he needs to make sure that he's taking care of 81 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:55,040 Speaker 1: this innocent little baby he brought into this mess of 82 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:58,560 Speaker 1: a marriage and mess of a situation. Here. This is 83 00:04:58,640 --> 00:05:07,279 Speaker 1: a complete mess craziness. Steve Wow Harvey. Steve Harvey rarely 84 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:13,080 Speaker 1: ever at a loss, but this is crazy. This bs right, 85 00:05:13,320 --> 00:05:20,160 Speaker 1: hill man, this damn crazy man, This is damn crazy. 86 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 1: So let me let me wind my way through this hill. Yeah, 87 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:31,040 Speaker 1: I'm a thirty five year old lovely woman. That's that 88 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:35,160 Speaker 1: that The worst damn statement you've made is at the 89 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:38,280 Speaker 1: very top of this never I'm a thirty five year 90 00:05:38,279 --> 00:05:45,599 Speaker 1: old lovely woman, okay, and my husband now having a dilemma. Okay, 91 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:49,680 Speaker 1: four years ago the husband y'all been together ten years, 92 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:52,039 Speaker 1: cheated on you with this lady that he worked with, 93 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:56,200 Speaker 1: and he got a prignan, came home, told you body 94 00:05:57,240 --> 00:06:00,479 Speaker 1: and got a pregnant. You was living, but when the 95 00:06:00,520 --> 00:06:03,920 Speaker 1: baby was born, you was able to forgive him to 96 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:08,520 Speaker 1: move on. That's another lie because while you was forgiving 97 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:11,039 Speaker 1: him and moving on, a year or later, so you 98 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:13,800 Speaker 1: had an a fair with a guy you met at 99 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 1: the Jim. This is called payback. So now he was 100 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:21,359 Speaker 1: good in bed and I quickly got hooked. I was 101 00:06:21,400 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 1: so far gone. I got sloppy with my affair and 102 00:06:25,080 --> 00:06:30,240 Speaker 1: my husband found out, as if he give a damn right. 103 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 1: I admitted I was having a fair, and then your 104 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:35,440 Speaker 1: husband said, well, hold on, I got news for you. 105 00:06:36,120 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 1: I ain't never stopped sleeping with the side piece that 106 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:42,480 Speaker 1: I had the baby with time with me back Hold 107 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 1: it right there, Steve. Yeah, at twenty three minutes after 108 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:49,479 Speaker 1: subject you me and she, what are we gonna do 109 00:06:49,520 --> 00:06:55,799 Speaker 1: about this baby right after this? You're listening, all right, Steve, 110 00:06:55,839 --> 00:06:58,520 Speaker 1: Come on, let's let's try to recap this strawberry letter 111 00:06:58,560 --> 00:07:01,480 Speaker 1: if we can. Subject and she what are we going 112 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:04,719 Speaker 1: to do about this baby? Thirty five year old later 113 00:07:05,839 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 1: husband of ten years has at a fair with a 114 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 1: woman at work. He cheats with the woman and got 115 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 1: her pregnant. He came and told you about a fair 116 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 1: you was living. But after the baby was born, he 117 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:25,280 Speaker 1: was able to forgive him and move home. So you say, 118 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:30,000 Speaker 1: a year after forgiving him and moving home, you had 119 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:33,920 Speaker 1: an affair with the guy you met down at the gym. 120 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:38,520 Speaker 1: He was good in bed. You quickly got hooked. So 121 00:07:38,600 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 1: this was on going. I was so far gone. I 122 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:46,360 Speaker 1: got sloppy with my fail and your husband found out. 123 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 1: So you admitted that you was having a fan. And 124 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:52,880 Speaker 1: then your husband hit you with a double whammy. He 125 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 1: told you he never stopped sleeping with the side piece, 126 00:07:55,840 --> 00:08:00,840 Speaker 1: that he had the baby with. Oh love, but now 127 00:08:00,880 --> 00:08:03,280 Speaker 1: here your ass got the nerve the type this line. 128 00:08:03,400 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 1: I was shocked. Really well, let me tell you what 129 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:14,960 Speaker 1: you did after you got shot, But you felt relieved 130 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:19,120 Speaker 1: a couple of days later, you and this man you're 131 00:08:19,120 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 1: married to. Y'all sat out and talked about the future 132 00:08:22,120 --> 00:08:25,400 Speaker 1: of our marriage. If this is what you want to 133 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:33,439 Speaker 1: call it, since we both cheat us Jesus, well, here's 134 00:08:33,480 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 1: what we came up when here's whatnot This is an 135 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:40,400 Speaker 1: important line, he says, here's what we came up with. 136 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:42,800 Speaker 1: Now I want y'all to pay close attention, because this 137 00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:46,600 Speaker 1: is when two fools have a conversation. This is where 138 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:50,839 Speaker 1: two fools come up with because Jesus two fools talking right, 139 00:08:52,160 --> 00:08:57,280 Speaker 1: all right, we decided to move my husband side peace 140 00:08:57,920 --> 00:09:01,480 Speaker 1: into our home so she could be with my husband 141 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:05,240 Speaker 1: and my husband wouldn't have to sneak around that. That hell, 142 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 1: that solved everything. I'll be dog gone. These two foods 143 00:09:10,240 --> 00:09:13,120 Speaker 1: came over. God, now shed left out the part that 144 00:09:13,200 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 1: the baby came to Yeah. See uh. And then on 145 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:24,720 Speaker 1: top of that, he allowed me to let my side 146 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:28,200 Speaker 1: piece come over whenever he won't. Yeah. Okay, So a 147 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:32,640 Speaker 1: man let another man come over his house and bring 148 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:38,720 Speaker 1: his wife, okay, yeah, yeah, so we figured we was 149 00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:43,240 Speaker 1: in an open marriage, y'all in some trash. Yeah, this 150 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:50,600 Speaker 1: is this some trash. Hold up, Steve right here, y'all 151 00:09:50,600 --> 00:09:54,560 Speaker 1: know I ain't well, thank the lord for the man 152 00:09:55,720 --> 00:10:00,880 Speaker 1: right there. Now, he's where it get good. He let 153 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:02,920 Speaker 1: the side piece come over whenever he wants. So we 154 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:07,720 Speaker 1: figured were in an open manage, but we controlled everything. Well, 155 00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 1: here we go again. We were shocked and surprised find 156 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:17,360 Speaker 1: out that when our side pieces were not with us, 157 00:10:18,080 --> 00:10:23,840 Speaker 1: they was with each other. Now we want the female 158 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 1: side piece, that's the chick with the baby, to get 159 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:33,160 Speaker 1: out of our house. But betraying our trust. What damn 160 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:40,960 Speaker 1: trust is you talking about? She betrayed your trust? What 161 00:10:41,280 --> 00:10:46,600 Speaker 1: trust you trusted a woman that slept with your husband. 162 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:51,440 Speaker 1: You trusted your husband that slept with a woman your 163 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:54,480 Speaker 1: husband is supposed to trust you that slept with a 164 00:10:54,600 --> 00:10:58,400 Speaker 1: man you met at the gym. Now, when they all 165 00:10:58,440 --> 00:11:01,160 Speaker 1: over the house and name with you, you you expect them 166 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 1: to non trustworthy people in the relationship with y'all, to 167 00:11:05,120 --> 00:11:09,160 Speaker 1: non trustworthy people to have some trust and not sleep 168 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:11,839 Speaker 1: with each other. They bringing each other so hard they 169 00:11:11,880 --> 00:11:17,200 Speaker 1: can't see good. But now you want the female to 170 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:19,720 Speaker 1: get out of the house, and she ain't got no 171 00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:24,440 Speaker 1: where to go, so we stuck with her. Now, your 172 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:27,719 Speaker 1: side piece, the one you met at the gym, he 173 00:11:27,880 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 1: tod left you for this other woman. So now you 174 00:11:33,559 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 1: won't your husband to stop having sex with her? Am 175 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:45,160 Speaker 1: I being selfish? Selfish is not the word you're looking for, right, 176 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:52,040 Speaker 1: Oh it starts with an S, but it ain't. Or 177 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:58,480 Speaker 1: is this woman taking my kindness for weakness? Wait a minute, 178 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 1: how is she taking your kindness for weakness? Y'all invited 179 00:12:05,440 --> 00:12:10,559 Speaker 1: her over to this Now y'all have determined she ain't 180 00:12:10,559 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 1: got nowhere to go? So what you means she ain't 181 00:12:13,240 --> 00:12:18,440 Speaker 1: gonna where to go if she can't come here, She's 182 00:12:18,440 --> 00:12:23,720 Speaker 1: just gonna stand in the middle of the street. Now, 183 00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:27,160 Speaker 1: my husband can go with her if he wants to, 184 00:12:27,679 --> 00:12:30,360 Speaker 1: but I won't hurt out my house. So how should 185 00:12:30,360 --> 00:12:33,120 Speaker 1: I handle this situation? I'm gonna just be real with 186 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:35,480 Speaker 1: your sister, and I hope to nobody take a fence 187 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:44,679 Speaker 1: to my answer. I really don't give what I wish. 188 00:12:44,840 --> 00:12:49,000 Speaker 1: I would spend my precious brain power to help to 189 00:12:49,160 --> 00:12:53,600 Speaker 1: help somebody. I just damn mess right here. Closet your 190 00:12:53,640 --> 00:12:57,079 Speaker 1: counting to today Strawberry Letter and Steve HARVEFM on Instagram 191 00:12:57,080 --> 00:12:59,160 Speaker 1: and Facebook, and don't forget to check out the Strawberry 192 00:12:59,240 --> 00:13:02,120 Speaker 1: Letter podcast on demand and coming up Steve and forty 193 00:13:02,160 --> 00:13:04,520 Speaker 1: six minutes after the hour, Our Girl from the Top, 194 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:08,800 Speaker 1: the One and Only Sheryl Underwood. 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