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Speaker 1: is Strawberry Letter, all right. Subject, I'm tired of his grunting.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband and I are both in

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Speaker 1: our early seventies and we've been married for thirty years.

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Speaker 1: My husband has gained a significant amount of weight in

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Speaker 1: the last ten years, and he's changed in a lot

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Speaker 1: of other ways. His table manners are terrible, and he

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Speaker 1: throws food in his mouth and sounds like he's out

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Speaker 1: of breath the entire time he's eating. He grunts and

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Speaker 1: moans while he choose. Our grandchildren think it's funny, but

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Speaker 1: it drives me crazy. It annoys me so much that

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Speaker 1: I eat in the den and groans when he sits

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Speaker 1: down and when he gets up. He makes noises when

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Speaker 1: he gets out of bed, and when he lies down

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Speaker 1: Whenever he gets in the bed for the night, he

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Speaker 1: in and gets comfortable. I won't even mention sex because

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Speaker 1: it's the worst part of my marriage now. Yes, he

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Speaker 1: still tries to be intimate, so I play along, but

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Speaker 1: his extra weight and the noises he makes are a

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Speaker 1: big turn off. He snores like a grizzly bear and

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Speaker 1: coughs throughout the night. If I sleep in the other room,

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Speaker 1: his feelings will be hurt, and I don't want to

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Speaker 1: do that. He keeps his routine checkups and he does

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Speaker 1: not have any health problems, thank Heavens. The only problem

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Speaker 1: the doctor noted was that he was overweight and wearing

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Speaker 1: out his joint, which is why he grunts so much.

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Speaker 1: My husband was told to do some cardio daily and

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Speaker 1: follow a low carb diet, but he won't. He really suggested.

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Speaker 1: He recently suggested we trade in our Lexus for an

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Speaker 1: cool with all of the extra weight and grunting, but

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Speaker 1: I'm not. Please tell me what to do to fix

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Speaker 1: this problem. Well, it is a problems. It certainly is

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Speaker 1: a problem, and Honestly, I don't know if there's anything

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Speaker 1: you can do to stop it. I mean it has

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Speaker 1: to be on him to begin with. I mean, he

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Speaker 1: has to do the work. You can help him, you know,

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Speaker 1: do it once he starts, and support him. But he

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Speaker 1: has to do his part. But you said in a

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Speaker 1: letter he doesn't want to. So I gotta ask you.

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Speaker 1: Can you talk to him? Can you bring the situation up,

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Speaker 1: the subject up, about what the doctor said, Tell him

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Speaker 1: really would like for him to be healthy or healthier.

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Speaker 1: Lose some weight. Maybe you guys can start walking together.

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Speaker 1: You can suggest these things. What about you know, cooking

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Speaker 1: some less fattening foods can be tasty, but you know,

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Speaker 1: less fattening. Um, you guys are in your seventies. You um,

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Speaker 1: you know you mentioned that. So if he doesn't have

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Speaker 1: any health issues now, some could be coming, you know,

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Speaker 1: with him being overweight. The doctor already said it's taking

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Speaker 1: a toll on his joints, so you know he needs

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Speaker 1: to be cognizant of all of that. You want him

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Speaker 1: to be with you for a long time. You could

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Speaker 1: tell him that and tell him to listen to his doctor.

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Speaker 1: Tell him. You know, you'll be there for him, and

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Speaker 1: he could at least try to do better. He could

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Speaker 1: at least try to do better. That's all I got, Steve,

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Speaker 1: That's all I got. Well, it ain't all I got.

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Speaker 1: See y'all kill me. What y'all like to do? Is

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Speaker 1: y'all like to answer to the letting y'all keep dancing around?

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Speaker 1: What's really going on? All right? Here we go by y'all?

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Speaker 1: You mean me? Yeah, you know? And then Carla won't

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Speaker 1: you to dance around it? You know? So she can?

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Speaker 1: You know, Aird and it don't be offensive to nobody.

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Speaker 1: You two are the non offensive on the show, you know.

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Speaker 1: But can't you try to tell sometimes you have to

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Speaker 1: get two people. Now. That's what I'm here for. My

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Speaker 1: husband now in now early seventies. We've been together, being

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Speaker 1: it didn't gained too much damn weight. Buffalo Bob is

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Speaker 1: up in there now, you know. Chuckie Cheese is in

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Speaker 1: the building now hammering Hank Nah don't tell me about

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Speaker 1: no fat shaming. She wrote the letter, her husband has

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Speaker 1: ain't ten pounds sick snificant. And then he's changed in

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Speaker 1: his shirty in no ball. He don't use no napkin

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Speaker 1: for what. That food got to travel too far from

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Speaker 1: I didn't hate with people like that. Now let me

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Speaker 1: tell you what I did like about the letter. He's

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Speaker 1: He grunts and moans while he choose. Our grandchildren think

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Speaker 1: it's funny, but it drives me crazy. Oh the kids

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Speaker 1: is holly. Oh the kids is holly because they hear it. Now,

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Speaker 1: the kids is Holly's driving you crazy. It annoys me

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Speaker 1: so much that I eat in the den. He moans

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Speaker 1: and groans when he sits up, and he when he

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Speaker 1: old people. Yeah, that's getting That's how you get up. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: gotta make that lage when you get up. Now here's

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Speaker 1: that's sitting down. All right, we'll have part two of

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Speaker 1: Steve's respond Steve, you're healthy. Maybe you can help him out.

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Speaker 1: Coming up in twenty three minutes after the hour something

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Speaker 1: of the letter I'm tired of his grunting. We'll be

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Speaker 1: back right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve, Come on,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry Letters subject I'm tired of his grunting.

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Speaker 1: Lady been laying him in the early seventies. They've been

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Speaker 1: married thirty years. Your husband and grain a lot away.

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Speaker 1: The significant amount of buddy fat asses up in here

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Speaker 1: just eating wrong. His table manners is wrong. He grunt

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Speaker 1: and smacked when he chewing. It sound like he had

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Speaker 1: and the grandchildren think it's funny, but it drives you

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Speaker 1: crazy when the grandkids gonna think it funny. You know,

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Speaker 1: we had a minister that used to come to our

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Speaker 1: Churchen used to smack and taste the whole time he

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Speaker 1: like the LORDE sent y'all, don't hear me. No no, no,

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Speaker 1: no, no no, no, no, no, no, we hear you. It's

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Speaker 1: just that we're hearing a lot of extra stuff too. Well.

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Speaker 1: Now he makes noises when he gets up and when

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Speaker 1: sits down. I told you before, that's getting up, that's

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Speaker 1: sitting down. That's up, that's down all right. Whenever he

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Speaker 1: gets into bed for the night, he sighed really loud,

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Speaker 1: and he makes baby noises until he settling. Here we go.

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Speaker 1: I know what that is, because that's I got, I

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Speaker 1: got part of do that. So he get in the

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Speaker 1: cover upon him and get that pillar right, then he go. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's kind of like old ass versions of nursery rhymes.

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Speaker 1: Don't let that bog all right, now here we go.

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Speaker 1: I won't even mention sex because it's the worst part

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Speaker 1: of my match. Yes, he stills tried to initiate, so

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Speaker 1: I play along. But that extra weight and the nass

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Speaker 1: is a big turn off. I bet it is. And

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Speaker 1: he got in all his big ass, got all his

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Speaker 1: weight in here. He trying to be sexy, sexy, being

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Speaker 1: gonna he roll over on you. But little dude, he

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Speaker 1: know he already was on you. See that's what's hard

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Speaker 1: about when big ass people roll over on you. They

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Speaker 1: don't realize that they was already on you. Now, he'd

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Speaker 1: Now if an overlapt I know, I know, ladies, I

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Speaker 1: know you don't want me to go there, but I'm

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Speaker 1: trying to fix it. And then ain't it just just

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Speaker 1: the park. He snowed like a grizzly bad cough throughout

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Speaker 1: here's apart. He keeps his routine checkups and he does

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Speaker 1: not have any health problems, Thank heavens. What who the

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Speaker 1: hell is y'all's doctor? You the diagnose full medical problems

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Speaker 1: in this damn ladder. And then the doctor tell y'all

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Speaker 1: ain't nothing wrong with him. His fat ass gotta wait problem.

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Speaker 1: He wheezes when he talked, he got a small esophagus

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Speaker 1: because he got a grunt and make noises while he

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Speaker 1: chewing his stuff. He has sex, he way too much.

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Speaker 1: He's slopping. How many more medical problems you need? He

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Speaker 1: got him at now he wants it. The doctor and

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Speaker 1: And we're not having breakfast till you do, because cardio

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Speaker 1: that's all the help I got for you. I'm very

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Speaker 1: much into health, but not in this letter, lady. He

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Speaker 1: didn wants to trade into Lexus so he can get

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Speaker 1: walk and diet and lose some pounds and you know it. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: He ain't cool with it. He just ain't doing nothing

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Speaker 1: But I'm gonna tell you something, man. A doctor one

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Speaker 1: you can't do that in your old age. Your heart

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Speaker 1: can't take it. He has got to get himself together.

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Speaker 1: You have got to work with him. If you love him,

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Speaker 1: you got to get him do it. And that weight

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Speaker 1: that grunting to get up and down. That's what that's weight.

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Speaker 1: That's like having. That's like somebody just laying a careful

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Speaker 1: That's when all that breathing is fro He got a

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Speaker 1: if she yeah, okay, we agree on that. If she

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Speaker 1: helps a lot of harden, you stop saying cook low

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Speaker 1: after the hour Junior Sports Talk. Right after this, you're

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Speaker 1: listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show