1 00:00:04,600 --> 00:00:07,720 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Danny and Savantha and welcome to stuff 2 00:00:07,760 --> 00:00:19,880 Speaker 1: I've never told your production of I Heart Radio. Okay, Um, 3 00:00:19,920 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: I feel like we do need to put this disclaimer 4 00:00:21,600 --> 00:00:25,400 Speaker 1: at the very beginning. So, fam, we're putting a disclaimer. 5 00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:28,520 Speaker 1: We're recording this before the result of the election slash 6 00:00:28,560 --> 00:00:32,479 Speaker 1: before the actual election day, our voting day, So please 7 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: forgive us as we are hoping for the best, but 8 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 1: sit in a bit of a panic, and as we 9 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:42,400 Speaker 1: have a dramatic flashbox of sixteen, we decided we should 10 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:45,800 Speaker 1: revisit the past, but follow up with some anxiety. We're 11 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 1: leaving exercises and options as we go through this moment 12 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 1: together and just kind of throw some facts out in 13 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:56,680 Speaker 1: statistics because you know, that's what we do. So sometimes 14 00:00:57,480 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: that's what we do sometimes. And yes, this could be 15 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:01,840 Speaker 1: a little bit triggering, a little bit traumatic, so I 16 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:04,959 Speaker 1: put that in here. F y I h Annie. I 17 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,680 Speaker 1: do have a question for you. You ready, aren't you? Glad? 18 00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:11,400 Speaker 1: I've got questions this time. Um, how are you dealing 19 00:01:11,880 --> 00:01:14,440 Speaker 1: with this election season? And I feel like it's been 20 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:23,560 Speaker 1: ten thousand years in this season. I think that's probably accurate. Um, 21 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 1: I think that what I've noticed the most, especially now. 22 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:28,400 Speaker 1: And I know we talked about this a little in 23 00:01:28,480 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 1: a previous episode. Is it's almost like I've shut down 24 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 1: when it comes to thinking about anything that happens past it. 25 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 1: Like I literally can't imagine what's going to happen this week. 26 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: I can't plan anything out. People are like, let's hang out, 27 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 1: and I'm like, my mental state might be royally screwed. 28 00:01:46,319 --> 00:01:47,880 Speaker 1: They're like, I think you'll be fine. I'm like, I don't. 29 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:49,920 Speaker 1: Don't say that, like, don't even tempt it. I don't 30 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 1: even like it, don't. Um. So it's almost kind of 31 00:01:55,680 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 1: like denial. I don't know. It reminds me of whenever, 32 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:03,680 Speaker 1: like when I have a traumatic memory, and a lot 33 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: of times when I'll try to think of it, it's 34 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:08,960 Speaker 1: like a door in my brain slam shut and I 35 00:02:08,960 --> 00:02:12,519 Speaker 1: can't think of it. Um it's a protective mechanism. But 36 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:15,160 Speaker 1: that's kind of where I am. I definitely am, Like 37 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 1: I had trouble sleeping anyway, but I am having a 38 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 1: lot more trouble sleeping. UM. So that's pretty much where 39 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 1: I am. How about you? Yeah? Uh, you know what. 40 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:31,639 Speaker 1: I fluctuate back and forth to complete despair to fighting mode. 41 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:34,680 Speaker 1: I am all over the place. I will say in 42 00:02:34,720 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 1: the last few days, I've had a little more anxiety, 43 00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:41,600 Speaker 1: written dreams, definitely having a hard time sleeping as well, 44 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:47,119 Speaker 1: definitely having a hard time eating and being hungry, which 45 00:02:47,160 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 1: is my panic mode is to like just shut down. 46 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 1: But before then I got really into it and was 47 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:55,040 Speaker 1: like trying to volunteer and I've been giving away my 48 00:02:55,120 --> 00:02:59,079 Speaker 1: money to everything and hopes that that might help. I've 49 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:01,600 Speaker 1: actually been act of lee tweeting and doing all those 50 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:04,440 Speaker 1: social media things that I feel like are good hopefully, 51 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:08,399 Speaker 1: but not without fighting with people necessarily because I don't 52 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 1: love doing that. But yeah, it's definitely a back and 53 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:13,320 Speaker 1: forth and back and forth. And the closer we are, 54 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:17,720 Speaker 1: the more I do feel like I'm re traumatized by 55 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:21,799 Speaker 1: the last election because we don't want to get comfortable 56 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 1: because everything is very similar to that in what we 57 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:29,360 Speaker 1: see in that the numbers, not necessarily the tactics with 58 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 1: the numbers. And it's interesting to be in Georgia. I 59 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 1: think as we are now officially a swing state in 60 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 1: a battleground state, and I love that. I love the 61 00:03:37,040 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 1: fact that it finally took to there, and I actually 62 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:42,320 Speaker 1: predicted that it would become that when the governor race 63 00:03:42,400 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 1: before Stacy Abrams and Brian kept the deal race was 64 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 1: happening because, uh, it was Carter the son the grandson 65 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 1: said grandson, her nephew of Jimmy Carter. Um, he was 66 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 1: the one that was running against deal and actually like 67 00:03:56,520 --> 00:04:02,440 Speaker 1: pulled around and for Georgia at that time was amazing. 68 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:05,920 Speaker 1: So I really did have hope that we would get 69 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:07,640 Speaker 1: to hear. So it's interesting to see because I have 70 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 1: hope for the small things, but for the giant picture, 71 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:17,279 Speaker 1: I'm a little scared. Yeah, I've definitely been having nightmares too. Um. 72 00:04:17,320 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 1: And I was telling Samantha, I have like stress bruises 73 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 1: from where you all catch myself just squeezing my arm, 74 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 1: and I don't realize I'm doing it. Uh. And I know, 75 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:32,920 Speaker 1: like I feel like in the reaction I got a 76 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:37,760 Speaker 1: lot was your being too dramatic, whereas now I'm seeing 77 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:40,160 Speaker 1: a lot of headlines of kind of what we're going 78 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:42,320 Speaker 1: to talk about today, but also just how big a 79 00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:46,400 Speaker 1: source of stress this is. And I love listeners from 80 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: other countries. You've been so kind right again and saying 81 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:52,120 Speaker 1: like we're thinking of you. I hope you're gonna be 82 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 1: okay of a safe week. We really appreciate that, but 83 00:04:56,640 --> 00:05:00,480 Speaker 1: it's so strange to be that this is like such 84 00:05:00,520 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 1: a stress or really is and speaking of that actually 85 00:05:05,520 --> 00:05:09,440 Speaker 1: has a name, uh do is. It's called the election 86 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:12,040 Speaker 1: stress disorder or they've been also calling it the election 87 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:15,719 Speaker 1: related stress and anxiety. It's a thing. In twenty sixteen, 88 00:05:16,080 --> 00:05:18,719 Speaker 1: the phrase came out as the election cycle seemed to 89 00:05:18,720 --> 00:05:23,200 Speaker 1: grow more and more frenzied. Psychologist Dr Steven Stowsney first 90 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:25,479 Speaker 1: wrote about it for an article in The Washington Post, 91 00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:27,440 Speaker 1: and he wrote about it because of the amount of 92 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 1: distress calls he had gotten during the election cycle, and 93 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 1: the term has caught on as the immense amount of 94 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:38,000 Speaker 1: election content continues to flood the country. Yeah, that's interesting 95 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 1: because my therapist, when we were talking about this last week, 96 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:45,760 Speaker 1: I was saying, I don't know where I'm going to 97 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:49,000 Speaker 1: be after the election because we normally do it on Wednesdays. 98 00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 1: And she was saying, like, yeah, I had I've blocked 99 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:56,000 Speaker 1: off like pretty much all day for just emergency calls 100 00:05:56,040 --> 00:06:00,279 Speaker 1: from patients because so many people are stressed of out it. 101 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:01,800 Speaker 1: And she said, but I also have to put in 102 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:04,360 Speaker 1: time for me in case I'm not in a place 103 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:09,480 Speaker 1: for it. Um. So, yeah, this isn't actually a d 104 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:13,480 Speaker 1: s M term, however, the election stress disorder, but there 105 00:06:13,560 --> 00:06:17,359 Speaker 1: is no denying that stress increases due to the election season. 106 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:20,359 Speaker 1: According to health dot Com, e s D is pretty 107 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:23,000 Speaker 1: much what it sounds like quote an intense level of 108 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:28,760 Speaker 1: election related stress. Was an intense election year. Not only 109 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:33,120 Speaker 1: were there's so many more ways to campaign like social media, telephone, text, 110 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:36,719 Speaker 1: billboards everywhere, but um, it was one of the most 111 00:06:36,760 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 1: polarized elections UH in history. And it also was a 112 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 1: year of a lot of personalized attacks and disinformation and misinformation. 113 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:51,039 Speaker 1: Many people were extremely overwhelmed due to the election and 114 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: the outcome. Yeah, and with the stress of the election, 115 00:06:54,120 --> 00:06:57,080 Speaker 1: there are the added specifics of the issues that are 116 00:06:57,160 --> 00:07:00,440 Speaker 1: in the hands of our electors that have cost trussed 117 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 1: on an individual basis. Specific issues such as gun control, 118 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:08,240 Speaker 1: climate change, discrimination, police brutality, national security, immigration, healthcare, and 119 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:12,040 Speaker 1: abortion were on the list of causes for added anxiety 120 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:15,560 Speaker 1: and stress. And with the issues just keeping up to 121 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 1: date with the news and reports were added stressors to 122 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:22,160 Speaker 1: the different communities as well. Yeah. Um. Some even call 123 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:25,920 Speaker 1: the effects of the current administration the Donald Trump stress syndrome. 124 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 1: And though it may seem obvious, those who identify as 125 00:07:29,840 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 1: Democrat or left leaning have said they felt significantly stressed 126 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 1: due to the presidential outcome. Reported that and only cent 127 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:42,200 Speaker 1: of Republicans said that they were impacted. Yeah, I know, 128 00:07:42,280 --> 00:07:45,800 Speaker 1: that's been a big thing for both parties to make 129 00:07:45,840 --> 00:07:48,200 Speaker 1: fun of. I've never actually heard of this until I 130 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:51,120 Speaker 1: heard I think a country singer trying to talk about 131 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:54,480 Speaker 1: this and was trying to make fun of the Libs 132 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:57,240 Speaker 1: as he would say, uh, but because of the way 133 00:07:57,280 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 1: he wrote it, they thought it was an attack on 134 00:07:59,480 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: Donald Trump. So his followers were attacking him and he 135 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:07,760 Speaker 1: had to correct them. Calmed down, Calm down, like I 136 00:08:07,760 --> 00:08:09,960 Speaker 1: think called this. They called it Donald Trump hysteria. But 137 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:12,160 Speaker 1: essentially it was this, And I thought it was very 138 00:08:12,200 --> 00:08:14,120 Speaker 1: interesting that they could not understand that he was trying 139 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 1: to be sarcastic, and one thought he was attacking Donald Trump. 140 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 1: So that's done a lot to me, and I thought 141 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:20,640 Speaker 1: it was quite funny and not a lie. Um. And 142 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:24,400 Speaker 1: beyond just the political issues and implications, the act of 143 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:28,080 Speaker 1: voting itself has become a huge stress factor. The process 144 00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: of registering, making sure your info is aligned to vote 145 00:08:30,680 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: checking to make sure you haven't been purged from the registry, 146 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:35,559 Speaker 1: trying to decide how to vote during the pandemic, deciphering 147 00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:39,000 Speaker 1: all the disinformation about voting rights if you're absentee voting, 148 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:42,280 Speaker 1: making sure info is completed correctly and sent off correctly, 149 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:44,840 Speaker 1: watching the mail to get status of votes, and for 150 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 1: those voting in person, longline ways being turned away, sudden 151 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:52,440 Speaker 1: poll closures, and overall mishandling of the voting process. The 152 00:08:52,559 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 1: mere fact one of the slogans for the voting was 153 00:08:55,240 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 1: make a plan to vote says a lot about how 154 00:08:58,040 --> 00:09:01,120 Speaker 1: difficult and stressful the US process can be for voting. 155 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:06,800 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, oh yeah. Um, and let's look at the 156 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:11,040 Speaker 1: effects for marginalized people specifically, Um, if we look at women, 157 00:09:11,040 --> 00:09:14,680 Speaker 1: this election plus COVID has put on quite a strain. 158 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:18,560 Speaker 1: In sixteen, one poll reported that at least of women 159 00:09:18,600 --> 00:09:21,120 Speaker 1: were stressed due to the election, while only thirty nine 160 00:09:21,559 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: of men felt stressed. One of the biggest causes of 161 00:09:24,160 --> 00:09:27,040 Speaker 1: the stress was due to the many allegations of sexual 162 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:30,120 Speaker 1: assault and harassment that we're coming out against Donald Trump. 163 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:35,000 Speaker 1: According to Times article, women reported having flashbacks and triggering 164 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:38,560 Speaker 1: of past trauma. As Dr Melissa Lester Olsen states, in 165 00:09:38,600 --> 00:09:41,600 Speaker 1: the article quote, women who I have seen for years 166 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:43,959 Speaker 1: are only now bringing up physical and sexual trauma from 167 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:46,720 Speaker 1: their past. I think this election is re traumatizing them 168 00:09:47,080 --> 00:09:50,440 Speaker 1: verbal and emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, rate discrimination 169 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: at home or at work. Women experience these things often. 170 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:58,120 Speaker 1: There have been many reminders in this election of experiences 171 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:01,280 Speaker 1: that so many of us have had exactly, And I 172 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 1: think we've talked about that previously, because it is one 173 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:06,360 Speaker 1: of those big factors that we're having to hear it 174 00:10:06,440 --> 00:10:09,000 Speaker 1: over and over and over again and then having to 175 00:10:09,040 --> 00:10:12,040 Speaker 1: deal with in the process that personally. And so how 176 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:14,520 Speaker 1: do you get all the information you need but continue 177 00:10:14,520 --> 00:10:16,840 Speaker 1: to get triggered because of past trauma And this is 178 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:21,400 Speaker 1: so related and correlated with that in our own lives. Yeah, 179 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:23,760 Speaker 1: of course, it isn't just the election that is causing 180 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 1: anxiety and stress for women and also causing some trauma. 181 00:10:27,600 --> 00:10:30,560 Speaker 1: The twenty seventeen confirmation hearing of Kavanaugh, as well as 182 00:10:30,600 --> 00:10:32,800 Speaker 1: the hashtag metwo movement, brought the rise of fear and 183 00:10:32,840 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 1: anxiety among women, especially those who had gone through some 184 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:39,720 Speaker 1: kind of sexual harassment, sexual assault, um in any type 185 00:10:39,720 --> 00:10:42,679 Speaker 1: of harassment at all. Actually, and when we look at 186 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:45,520 Speaker 1: the level of stress and anxiety placed on the LGBTQ 187 00:10:45,679 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 1: community doing this administration. The overall stress is even higher. 188 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:53,560 Speaker 1: In a survey conducted last November, nineteen people stated they 189 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:57,959 Speaker 1: were already stressed by the twenty twenty election, and six 190 00:10:58,679 --> 00:11:01,280 Speaker 1: of the LGBTQ adults are vase stated that issues in 191 00:11:01,320 --> 00:11:05,240 Speaker 1: regard to elections and discrimination impacted their daily lives. There 192 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:07,720 Speaker 1: are many issues at hand that the queer community are 193 00:11:07,760 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 1: watching closely, especially as the new justices have been appointed 194 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 1: and when we love specifically at the transgender community, there 195 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:16,080 Speaker 1: are many more issues as they continue fighting on a 196 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:19,760 Speaker 1: state level as well as federal level, including voting practices 197 00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:22,360 Speaker 1: and problems like name change and different genders on ID 198 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:25,000 Speaker 1: cards have caused so much stress for that community, and 199 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 1: even UH discouraged them to vote Yeah and speaking at 200 00:11:29,559 --> 00:11:31,720 Speaker 1: voting stress, we have mentioned a lot on the show 201 00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:34,840 Speaker 1: about continued suppression of black and Latin X voters and 202 00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:37,959 Speaker 1: specifically black and Latin X women. UM. One of the 203 00:11:37,960 --> 00:11:40,760 Speaker 1: big issues is also the stricter voter ID law and 204 00:11:40,800 --> 00:11:44,000 Speaker 1: the scrutiny of i D put into play the continued 205 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:47,880 Speaker 1: issues with registry purchases, jerrymandering, closing up polling locations and 206 00:11:47,880 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 1: the effects and words of trying to vote alone. All 207 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:54,839 Speaker 1: that causes stress. And then on top of that, the 208 00:11:54,960 --> 00:11:59,520 Speaker 1: continued political issues of discrimination and continued devaluing of the 209 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:04,080 Speaker 1: voices black got Necks and other POC citizens. And for 210 00:12:04,120 --> 00:12:06,760 Speaker 1: those with a cognitive or physical disability, which by the way, 211 00:12:06,800 --> 00:12:09,840 Speaker 1: affects one in four adults, the outcome of the election 212 00:12:09,880 --> 00:12:12,400 Speaker 1: alone can cost stress as their healthcare continues to be 213 00:12:12,440 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 1: an unresolved issue and is often overlooked or outright denied 214 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:19,040 Speaker 1: for those with a pre existing condition, and as we 215 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:21,400 Speaker 1: continue to watch the election, the fight to keep the 216 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:24,520 Speaker 1: Affordable Health Care Act is also another added issue which 217 00:12:24,559 --> 00:12:28,000 Speaker 1: even though yes, the election does affect this, however, the 218 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:30,120 Speaker 1: Supreme Court and who have been appointed are the ones 219 00:12:30,120 --> 00:12:31,880 Speaker 1: that's actually going to make a lot of these decisions, 220 00:12:31,880 --> 00:12:33,960 Speaker 1: and it is kind of scary about what can happen 221 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:37,720 Speaker 1: if it is presented to them. Um, And it's another stressor, 222 00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:40,880 Speaker 1: and even more so with people with disabilities, and with 223 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:44,000 Speaker 1: that added pressure of voting, some literally for their lives, 224 00:12:44,000 --> 00:12:46,200 Speaker 1: the added stress of being able to vote can be 225 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:49,960 Speaker 1: another factor. According to a New York Times article, at 226 00:12:50,040 --> 00:12:52,840 Speaker 1: least thirty eight million eligible voters have a disability, which 227 00:12:52,840 --> 00:12:56,320 Speaker 1: is more than six of the electorate. And if they 228 00:12:56,360 --> 00:12:58,800 Speaker 1: break it down even further, with twenty one point three 229 00:12:58,800 --> 00:13:02,960 Speaker 1: million eligible voters with mobility disabilities, thirteen point one with 230 00:13:03,040 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 1: cognitive disabilities, eleven points six with hearing disabilities, and seven 231 00:13:06,920 --> 00:13:09,920 Speaker 1: million with visual disabilities, and many have had not have 232 00:13:10,040 --> 00:13:12,600 Speaker 1: the accessibility of using their right to vote and having 233 00:13:12,640 --> 00:13:15,199 Speaker 1: to go through great links to get their vote counted. 234 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 1: And it's just a shame because I remember the first 235 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:22,440 Speaker 1: time I voted and it was so exciting, like I 236 00:13:22,520 --> 00:13:26,640 Speaker 1: was like, oh, this is so fun, and it's and 237 00:13:26,720 --> 00:13:29,280 Speaker 1: I was, you know, in a lot of ways. And 238 00:13:29,360 --> 00:13:32,520 Speaker 1: I am still am very privileged and I didn't have 239 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:36,679 Speaker 1: that things to worry about, um, but it could be 240 00:13:36,760 --> 00:13:40,880 Speaker 1: just sort of this fun experience for me. It's very 241 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:45,199 Speaker 1: upsetting that it's so stressful for a lot of people, 242 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:47,880 Speaker 1: and I mean even for me now because the stakes 243 00:13:47,920 --> 00:13:51,679 Speaker 1: so high and also like just the sewing of distrust 244 00:13:52,600 --> 00:13:58,600 Speaker 1: that maybe your absenteeval that won't be counted. And I 245 00:13:58,640 --> 00:14:00,480 Speaker 1: will say it does feel like a when when you 246 00:14:00,520 --> 00:14:03,480 Speaker 1: see it going through and you're like I'm like, yes, 247 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:06,600 Speaker 1: I did it. Uh somehows I like I want a prize. 248 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:09,199 Speaker 1: But yeah, it's really sad to see all of these 249 00:14:09,240 --> 00:14:13,319 Speaker 1: people being just purposely discouraged because of suppression and all 250 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:15,280 Speaker 1: of that. And then again, we want to talk about 251 00:14:15,320 --> 00:14:17,880 Speaker 1: the fact that those were the disabilities are more higher 252 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:21,080 Speaker 1: risk for COVID, so that also pushes them further back 253 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:24,040 Speaker 1: into how am I going to do this safely? And 254 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:26,360 Speaker 1: we've heard many stories and even though the Americans with 255 00:14:26,400 --> 00:14:29,520 Speaker 1: Disability Act is supposed to prevent all of these ridiculous 256 00:14:30,000 --> 00:14:34,280 Speaker 1: uh tactics or rather mistakes however they want to say it, Um, 257 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:36,720 Speaker 1: it doesn't. It hasn't stopped people from trying to suppress 258 00:14:36,760 --> 00:14:39,920 Speaker 1: that vote as well. But it is really encouraging to 259 00:14:39,960 --> 00:14:42,440 Speaker 1: see as we have been we haven't actually come to 260 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:45,760 Speaker 1: national voting Day, but they're the numbers of voters, and 261 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:48,320 Speaker 1: the numbers of votes is so high that it's very 262 00:14:48,400 --> 00:14:52,200 Speaker 1: very impressive. It's really really amazing to watch people push 263 00:14:52,280 --> 00:14:55,120 Speaker 1: further and fight harder because they're like, no, my vote 264 00:14:55,120 --> 00:14:59,160 Speaker 1: is gonna count. Yeah yeah, um, But we did want 265 00:14:59,160 --> 00:15:03,160 Speaker 1: to talk about what E s D looks like. But 266 00:15:03,320 --> 00:15:05,280 Speaker 1: first we're gonna take a quick break for a word 267 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 1: from our sponsor m M. And we're back. Thank you. Sponsor. Yeah. 268 00:15:22,760 --> 00:15:26,880 Speaker 1: So uh. Like any stress or anxiety related disorders or diagnosis, 269 00:15:26,880 --> 00:15:31,480 Speaker 1: similar effects happen like lots of sleep, body and stomach aches, headaches, 270 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:35,840 Speaker 1: increased worry, increase in blood pressure, and food related issues overreading, 271 00:15:35,920 --> 00:15:38,680 Speaker 1: not eating enough and for election of related stress. You 272 00:15:38,760 --> 00:15:41,640 Speaker 1: also see an addiction of news and social media try 273 00:15:41,680 --> 00:15:43,760 Speaker 1: to keep up to date on all the information, which 274 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:46,680 Speaker 1: can lead to more worry and anxiety you but also 275 00:15:46,760 --> 00:15:49,920 Speaker 1: can lead to an inability to focus, irritability and crankiness. 276 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:53,600 Speaker 1: Yeah that too, and also to an extreme uh a 277 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:56,160 Speaker 1: feeling of hopelessness and helplessness. And I'm not gonna lie. 278 00:15:56,920 --> 00:15:59,400 Speaker 1: These are times that I've really had to shake off 279 00:15:59,720 --> 00:16:02,560 Speaker 1: some of the overall things I couldn't control because I 280 00:16:02,600 --> 00:16:05,000 Speaker 1: have felt like I'm slipping into a depressive state and 281 00:16:05,040 --> 00:16:07,880 Speaker 1: I'm I'm like, I got I can't allow this to 282 00:16:07,920 --> 00:16:10,800 Speaker 1: affect my life this way, But it's sometimes really hard 283 00:16:10,960 --> 00:16:16,160 Speaker 1: not just sinking into that mm hmmm. Yeah, And sustained 284 00:16:16,200 --> 00:16:19,400 Speaker 1: anxiety and stress can cause releasing a portisol in your body, 285 00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:21,920 Speaker 1: which we can zero immune system, which, by the way, 286 00:16:21,920 --> 00:16:24,200 Speaker 1: it can affect how you are protected from different viruses 287 00:16:24,240 --> 00:16:27,920 Speaker 1: including COVID nineteen yes, and I don't think that we 288 00:16:27,960 --> 00:16:29,920 Speaker 1: have to remind you. The mere stress of going through 289 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:33,200 Speaker 1: that on top of everything else that is very frustrating 290 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:37,400 Speaker 1: to be that I feel I just don't feel well 291 00:16:37,440 --> 00:16:40,640 Speaker 1: a lot anymore. And I think it's stress. But but 292 00:16:40,720 --> 00:16:43,720 Speaker 1: because there's COVID, it's like, I'm like, oh, but what 293 00:16:43,760 --> 00:16:47,280 Speaker 1: if this is COVID? But I think it's stress. Right, 294 00:16:47,280 --> 00:16:49,360 Speaker 1: It's like, is it stress? Is it covid? Is a cold? 295 00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:53,720 Speaker 1: Is it allergies? Am I dying? What is happening? Because 296 00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:55,520 Speaker 1: and then it was like, who have I come in 297 00:16:55,560 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 1: contact with? Where could have picked something? Yeah? This is bad? Um. 298 00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:03,560 Speaker 1: So with that, we wanted to kind of talk about 299 00:17:03,560 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 1: how to deal with election related stress. Uh so how 300 00:17:09,240 --> 00:17:12,120 Speaker 1: do we We found a few suggestions and just a reminder, 301 00:17:12,200 --> 00:17:14,720 Speaker 1: you're the only one that knows what is happening with you, 302 00:17:14,840 --> 00:17:16,800 Speaker 1: as in, we can give you all the suggestions in 303 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:18,840 Speaker 1: the world and one may work for you, and all 304 00:17:18,880 --> 00:17:20,879 Speaker 1: of these may work for you, and that's okay, and 305 00:17:20,960 --> 00:17:23,639 Speaker 1: it's normal, and it's okay if it doesn't. If you 306 00:17:23,720 --> 00:17:25,960 Speaker 1: have a different way of handling things, that's fine, as 307 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:28,800 Speaker 1: long as you are healthy and listening to your body 308 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:35,960 Speaker 1: and not making anyone else miserable meaning purposely being mean. Um, 309 00:17:36,240 --> 00:17:39,480 Speaker 1: then go for it. But just a reminder, listen to 310 00:17:39,520 --> 00:17:42,679 Speaker 1: your own body. You have to do what is best 311 00:17:42,840 --> 00:17:45,399 Speaker 1: for you, and that means if you're doing what is 312 00:17:45,400 --> 00:17:47,920 Speaker 1: healthy and good for you, you can also be good 313 00:17:47,920 --> 00:17:53,239 Speaker 1: for others. Yeah yeah, um. And another one one I 314 00:17:53,240 --> 00:17:55,760 Speaker 1: have definitely had to do is put down, put it, 315 00:17:55,800 --> 00:17:58,720 Speaker 1: put away your phone, get away from your computer TV. 316 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:02,680 Speaker 1: I noticed a huge I know I've said it before, 317 00:18:02,720 --> 00:18:04,879 Speaker 1: but wow, the difference that I noticed when I was like, 318 00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:07,000 Speaker 1: I'm only going to get on social media like at 319 00:18:07,040 --> 00:18:10,119 Speaker 1: one point during the day and only for this long 320 00:18:10,359 --> 00:18:15,480 Speaker 1: and oh man. Um. Yeah, that is something that people 321 00:18:15,640 --> 00:18:19,280 Speaker 1: suggest is setting the time limit, a time limit on it. Um, 322 00:18:19,320 --> 00:18:23,960 Speaker 1: going on a sabbatical. It's okay to step away. Fear 323 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:25,960 Speaker 1: of missing out is a real thing for election time, 324 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:28,320 Speaker 1: but it's okay to take a minute and step away 325 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:30,960 Speaker 1: from all the back and forth. It will definitely be 326 00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:33,080 Speaker 1: there when you come back. And you know, sometimes with 327 00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:36,560 Speaker 1: the world we're living in, sometimes a story like just 328 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:40,720 Speaker 1: it turns out it was just to like make you miserable, 329 00:18:40,960 --> 00:18:44,760 Speaker 1: but nothing really came of it. So there's always that 330 00:18:45,440 --> 00:18:49,560 Speaker 1: And don't don't hold on to what you can't control 331 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:52,960 Speaker 1: and focus on what you can. That's something else I've seen, 332 00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:57,880 Speaker 1: like the benefits of doing something. Um, if you can't 333 00:18:57,880 --> 00:19:01,359 Speaker 1: control your uncle who won't stop ranting up racebook, friend, 334 00:19:01,520 --> 00:19:07,439 Speaker 1: m on follow him? It's all okay, Yeah, definitely agree. 335 00:19:07,880 --> 00:19:10,680 Speaker 1: It's okay. We've all lost a few followers here and there. 336 00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:13,879 Speaker 1: We've also lost of people. Uh, we've also stopped following 337 00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:16,280 Speaker 1: people for reasons, and it's okay whatever. It's good for 338 00:19:16,280 --> 00:19:19,840 Speaker 1: your mental health. Find your social support group, whether it's 339 00:19:19,840 --> 00:19:23,720 Speaker 1: through zoom tax or social distancing. Hang support each other. 340 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:26,240 Speaker 1: Remember you're not in it alone and most likely they 341 00:19:26,359 --> 00:19:28,920 Speaker 1: need you just as much as you need them, and 342 00:19:29,040 --> 00:19:32,240 Speaker 1: it's good. It's good to be around people. Don't isolate yourself, 343 00:19:32,440 --> 00:19:38,680 Speaker 1: which I'm bad about during social isolation. You know whatever. 344 00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:43,359 Speaker 1: Remember to breathe, whether you have a specific exercise or 345 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:45,720 Speaker 1: just need to take a big sigh, which I do 346 00:19:45,800 --> 00:19:48,119 Speaker 1: often and people think I'm upset, but it's actually one 347 00:19:48,119 --> 00:19:50,080 Speaker 1: of the most are leaving things for me. Like my 348 00:19:50,160 --> 00:19:51,879 Speaker 1: partner was like, what's wrong. I'm like, no, no no, no, 349 00:19:52,240 --> 00:19:54,879 Speaker 1: I just like the sigh. It's okay. My access a 350 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:57,000 Speaker 1: joke that my if I ever had a production company, 351 00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:59,639 Speaker 1: I should call it heavy sigh. I thought we were 352 00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:05,560 Speaker 1: gonna band after that, we should slow down, listen to 353 00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:08,480 Speaker 1: your breath and then proceed. Whether it's just kind of stopping, 354 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:12,119 Speaker 1: taking a deep breath and then moving forward, that's okay too. 355 00:20:12,960 --> 00:20:16,160 Speaker 1: And therapy therapy. If you have access to set therapy, 356 00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:18,879 Speaker 1: then do it. Make an appointment. Make sure you're checking 357 00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:20,840 Speaker 1: in on yourself and your own mental health. If you 358 00:20:20,920 --> 00:20:24,480 Speaker 1: have medications that you're having to take because of anxiety, depression, 359 00:20:24,480 --> 00:20:26,679 Speaker 1: any of those things, make sure you keep going with it. 360 00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:30,119 Speaker 1: It's okay. None of this is uh, none of this 361 00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:35,280 Speaker 1: is easy. So if you need some extra help, that's okay. Yeah. Um. 362 00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:38,119 Speaker 1: And then moving around, whether it's going outside for a 363 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:41,400 Speaker 1: little bit, hiking, or walking around your neighborhood, taking some 364 00:20:41,440 --> 00:20:44,080 Speaker 1: time to move around. I have been really bad about 365 00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 1: this actually lately, and I just recently got a little 366 00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:50,840 Speaker 1: standing desk from ourselves, so I'll hopefully move about a 367 00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:52,960 Speaker 1: bit more because I noticed this was a problem and 368 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:57,359 Speaker 1: it was really impacting my mental state. UM. Arts and 369 00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:01,399 Speaker 1: crafts use them doing of a relief. If you like 370 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:04,520 Speaker 1: to draw, do it. If you like to knit, gardens 371 00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:07,399 Speaker 1: up your Alley. I just read about the comeback of 372 00:21:07,520 --> 00:21:11,480 Speaker 1: Victory Gardens in the United States. Um, this is a 373 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:19,040 Speaker 1: really good time. Uh. And I'm accidentally growing cucumber. Everybody, 374 00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:21,919 Speaker 1: you can take that time to process that as you will. 375 00:21:22,160 --> 00:21:25,560 Speaker 1: But I am accidentally growing cucumber. Yeah, I was gonna say, 376 00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:27,879 Speaker 1: I actually don't know anything about gardening, and so that 377 00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:30,439 Speaker 1: I why I don't know what season grows what. So 378 00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:32,520 Speaker 1: I'm sure you can do something even though it's kind 379 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:37,200 Speaker 1: of cold. Kale always kale. That's why Yale, well, kale 380 00:21:37,240 --> 00:21:39,640 Speaker 1: is one of them, because that's why we went through 381 00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:42,159 Speaker 1: such a kale a phase where nobody liked it in 382 00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:44,240 Speaker 1: the US because it just grew all the time. And 383 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:46,920 Speaker 1: during Victory Gardens and rash Ing, people got really sick 384 00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:52,240 Speaker 1: of kale, like never never again. Um. But yeah, and 385 00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:56,560 Speaker 1: I love I've been loving to see different hobbies. My 386 00:21:56,640 --> 00:21:59,159 Speaker 1: friends have picked up, our different projects they've tackled. It's 387 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 1: been fun to say, Yeah, my knitting has slowed down, 388 00:22:02,600 --> 00:22:05,480 Speaker 1: m um. But I have found tons of games that 389 00:22:05,480 --> 00:22:07,520 Speaker 1: I've played on my phone. I have a weird chicken 390 00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:10,359 Speaker 1: reading game right now that I'm playing with. Don't judge me, 391 00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:13,880 Speaker 1: don't judge me. Joe has already judged me a lot. 392 00:22:14,520 --> 00:22:16,520 Speaker 1: I think that's about factory industry, and I was like, 393 00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:18,399 Speaker 1: I don't know, I just kind of hitting this button, 394 00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:22,000 Speaker 1: the chickers come out, Okay. Um, so I enjoyed that. 395 00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:24,000 Speaker 1: I know we've talked about the fact that we've been 396 00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:27,919 Speaker 1: doing I've been doing Switch and VR, so you know 397 00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:31,080 Speaker 1: those are some of my things. So yeah, that's all good. Um. 398 00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:34,240 Speaker 1: Speaking of which, do something you know will comfort you, 399 00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:36,560 Speaker 1: whether it's Red, watching all of Parks and rec or 400 00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:41,240 Speaker 1: all of the original Star Wars trilogy, or game drug 401 00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:43,640 Speaker 1: or going for a run. Just do what you love, 402 00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:47,000 Speaker 1: whatever it is that makes you happy. Do it. Is 403 00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:50,520 Speaker 1: it making fabric. I don't know what you can make. 404 00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:54,440 Speaker 1: You can't make that. Paper mache is what I meant. 405 00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:58,040 Speaker 1: Pepper paper pepper paper mache is what I meant. If 406 00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:00,639 Speaker 1: you want to make something with paper mache, make make it, 407 00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:02,520 Speaker 1: go for it. Do something that you haven't done in 408 00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:06,239 Speaker 1: a long time. If you have remember loving that, do it. 409 00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:11,480 Speaker 1: Cooking great, making more bread great, and also last but 410 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:13,919 Speaker 1: not least for us. I mean, there's many more that 411 00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:17,760 Speaker 1: you can find out there. Uh, fill your feelings. And 412 00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:19,960 Speaker 1: I know it's cheesy to say but if you need 413 00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:23,080 Speaker 1: to grieve, grieve, If you need to be angry, be 414 00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:27,359 Speaker 1: healthy angry obviously, UM, put that in a way that 415 00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:30,400 Speaker 1: is constructive. Don't try to deny what you can't help, 416 00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:34,120 Speaker 1: and that's reacting. However, is it is naturally for you, 417 00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:39,840 Speaker 1: of course in healthy boundaries. UM, I mean, maybe don't 418 00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:41,719 Speaker 1: do all of the heavy drinking all the time, but 419 00:23:41,760 --> 00:23:43,560 Speaker 1: if you need to grab a drink with a friend, 420 00:23:43,640 --> 00:23:46,920 Speaker 1: or need to grab a drink with a friend of our, zoom, okay, 421 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:50,400 Speaker 1: co coo cool, have your adult moment um. But do 422 00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:54,000 Speaker 1: what you feel is natural and what will be whatever 423 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:55,760 Speaker 1: it is if it needs. If you need to cry, 424 00:23:56,080 --> 00:23:58,960 Speaker 1: that's okay. I think we all were there. Um. I 425 00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:01,840 Speaker 1: just saw the Tailor's of video or the ad with 426 00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:04,960 Speaker 1: Taylor Swift's song that was for Biden Harris, and it 427 00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:08,400 Speaker 1: showed a lot of women crying, and I remember I 428 00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:14,920 Speaker 1: cried after the election, and crying it was the only 429 00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:18,040 Speaker 1: thing I could think to do, honestly that day. And 430 00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:20,680 Speaker 1: I remember friends of mine who are like, oh my god, 431 00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:23,239 Speaker 1: not just to me, but overall, you liberals are so 432 00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:25,399 Speaker 1: weak that at a and then really they're still saying 433 00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:28,920 Speaker 1: that they're still saying that today. And it wasn't a 434 00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:32,399 Speaker 1: cry about losing It was about the loss of humanity, 435 00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:37,240 Speaker 1: a little bit of hope that should have been there, 436 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:43,320 Speaker 1: and it came out way worse than we expected. And 437 00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:46,080 Speaker 1: I think that's the feared is now that people said 438 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:50,720 Speaker 1: it wouldn't be that bad, they're wrong. As we've seen 439 00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:55,520 Speaker 1: many of videos, many of threats against people. Uh, the 440 00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:58,800 Speaker 1: neo Nazis and the Proud Boys coming out headstrong and 441 00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:02,000 Speaker 1: ready to go. It's just as bad as we were 442 00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:08,720 Speaker 1: afraid of it being. So it's okay to fill that. Yeah, 443 00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:11,520 Speaker 1: And you know, Samantha, I feel like you've just given me, 444 00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:15,359 Speaker 1: You've basically instructed me to go watch the original Star 445 00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:19,440 Speaker 1: Wars movies and work on fan fiction, maybe with the cocktail. 446 00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:25,720 Speaker 1: So thank you, You're welcome. I am very happy to 447 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,920 Speaker 1: do that. Uh, we do have a little bit more 448 00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:31,200 Speaker 1: for you, but first we have one more quip break 449 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:47,880 Speaker 1: for word from a sponsor and we're back. Thank you sponsor. 450 00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:51,760 Speaker 1: And I wanted to ask you some personal questions about 451 00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:55,560 Speaker 1: your stress relief and practice in general. Um, when do 452 00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:59,040 Speaker 1: you know you're not in the right space like headspace 453 00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:01,399 Speaker 1: or emotional space, sort of mental space. How do you 454 00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:07,800 Speaker 1: measure that for yourself? That's an interesting question. It's almost 455 00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:11,000 Speaker 1: like a feeling that's really hard to describe, of like 456 00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:18,960 Speaker 1: numbness and tension at the same time, it's like being 457 00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:26,680 Speaker 1: somehow both like numb in thoughts and just like physically tense. Um. 458 00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:31,720 Speaker 1: And so it's the scary thing about it is sometimes 459 00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:34,720 Speaker 1: it's like the frog and the boiling boiling pot, where 460 00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:38,040 Speaker 1: I don't realize I've gotten to a place until it 461 00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:43,480 Speaker 1: feels too late. Um. And then other times, especially when 462 00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:49,760 Speaker 1: it comes to the news, like I'll just catch myself 463 00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:58,640 Speaker 1: feeling such like fear and hopelessness that I'll be I'll 464 00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:02,640 Speaker 1: tell myself, you need to step way, this is not good. UM. 465 00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:06,600 Speaker 1: How about you? Yeah? For me, I I actually can 466 00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:09,439 Speaker 1: tell because I feel physically drained to the point that 467 00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:11,639 Speaker 1: and I've told the many of people have said this 468 00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:14,200 Speaker 1: before that I'm like, I'm maybe knocalyptic. I'm not really 469 00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:17,760 Speaker 1: sure that I get so exhausted and so tired that 470 00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:21,760 Speaker 1: I can't function um. And definitely I've been feeling that 471 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,439 Speaker 1: as a recent last week was stressful. Uh. You and 472 00:27:24,440 --> 00:27:27,000 Speaker 1: I've talked about this, Uh, the Hurricane Z that came 473 00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:30,240 Speaker 1: through here. UM and knocked out my power for a 474 00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:34,040 Speaker 1: few days, and it was probably if there was the 475 00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:36,679 Speaker 1: worst day, was the worst day possible for us to 476 00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:38,200 Speaker 1: have the power out because I was supposed to be 477 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:41,359 Speaker 1: our big long recording day and everything fell apart and 478 00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:44,040 Speaker 1: I couldn't work because we had no internet, and then 479 00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:47,600 Speaker 1: my phone went dead because the towers had gotten knocked 480 00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:49,480 Speaker 1: off or something like that. So I was like, this 481 00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:52,680 Speaker 1: is the apocalypse is happening. It's happening, and I don't think. 482 00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:54,360 Speaker 1: It really pushed me over the edge of like this 483 00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:57,880 Speaker 1: is the worst time this could happen, but that that 484 00:27:57,960 --> 00:28:01,840 Speaker 1: level of hopelessness, like I I can drop into the depression, 485 00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:04,399 Speaker 1: but it comes on to me physically first, so I 486 00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:07,680 Speaker 1: can feel it and so I do see it that way. 487 00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:10,640 Speaker 1: So I have to like figure it out, and UM 488 00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:12,479 Speaker 1: kind of take a moment to be like why do 489 00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:14,479 Speaker 1: I feel this way? This is not usual? But it 490 00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 1: takes me a minute to realize, oh, this is not usual. Okay, 491 00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:20,119 Speaker 1: something's about to happen to my body or my emotions, 492 00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:22,600 Speaker 1: my state, and I need to I need at the moment. 493 00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:25,240 Speaker 1: And yeah, you were talking about you need to step away. 494 00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:31,400 Speaker 1: How do you step away? Uh? I'm a very action 495 00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:36,800 Speaker 1: oriented checklist person. So I like to have like put 496 00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:40,040 Speaker 1: for me putting on my calendar literally six to seven 497 00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:43,520 Speaker 1: pm social media, or like I'll put on my dangn 498 00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:46,160 Speaker 1: calendar like this is when you're gonna do it. I 499 00:28:46,200 --> 00:28:51,720 Speaker 1: put all these systems in place of uh I And 500 00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:53,480 Speaker 1: I know we talked about this in our Routine episode. 501 00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:57,240 Speaker 1: Some people routine is not it just stresses them out more. 502 00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:00,160 Speaker 1: But for me, having this kind of like calendar you're 503 00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:03,120 Speaker 1: gonna you know, work out from this amount of time, 504 00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:06,360 Speaker 1: this amount of time and having that structure is really 505 00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:12,240 Speaker 1: helpful for me when it comes to stepping away. And then, um, 506 00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:16,400 Speaker 1: you know, when this whole quarantine first started, I began 507 00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:19,800 Speaker 1: a journey, Samantha began a fan fiction journey that I 508 00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:23,720 Speaker 1: thought was only gonna be I thought it was maybe 509 00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:25,960 Speaker 1: gonna last a month. But here we are. I'm on 510 00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:30,040 Speaker 1: like page three something. Um. And sometimes I'll just catch 511 00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:33,120 Speaker 1: my stuff, like if I get too stressed, I literally 512 00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:37,239 Speaker 1: will just automatically open it and start writing it and 513 00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:40,440 Speaker 1: I don't even think about it. It's like, nope, we're 514 00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:46,680 Speaker 1: going to do this thing for a minute. Um, which 515 00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:51,479 Speaker 1: feels it feels both very silly but it's helped me. 516 00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:54,400 Speaker 1: It's really helped me get through some stuff. So I 517 00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:59,600 Speaker 1: think having for me having both the structure that hopefully 518 00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:04,480 Speaker 1: helped myself have these beats through the day, and then 519 00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:08,160 Speaker 1: given that doesn't work, I have this like over in 520 00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:10,200 Speaker 1: the background fan fiction that all I want to do 521 00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:15,920 Speaker 1: is write it so right, so three pages right? Yeah? 522 00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:23,520 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and it's no end in sight. Um for me, 523 00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:28,000 Speaker 1: as antisocial and as of an introvert I am, I 524 00:30:28,120 --> 00:30:31,360 Speaker 1: have specific people that I will reach out to. I 525 00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:35,280 Speaker 1: have gotten really good and understanding that isolation or things 526 00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:38,240 Speaker 1: that being by myself, wanting too much of being by 527 00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:41,040 Speaker 1: myself is a bad sign, because I need someone to 528 00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:42,840 Speaker 1: give me a reality check. So I will reach out 529 00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:45,880 Speaker 1: to people, whether it's doing the Marco Polo app or 530 00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:48,680 Speaker 1: calling you, doing like hey you go into the skype, 531 00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:52,560 Speaker 1: or getting with my partner and like letting him know 532 00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:56,320 Speaker 1: there's something wrong. I'm not okay. I have to be 533 00:30:56,400 --> 00:31:00,480 Speaker 1: able to admit that for myself. So that is number one. 534 00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:02,520 Speaker 1: I have to do that, take a moment, take a 535 00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:05,120 Speaker 1: reality check. Then I have to do something. I have 536 00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:07,760 Speaker 1: to do something with purpose, whether it's to volunteer, whether 537 00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:09,560 Speaker 1: it's to give money, whether it's to do something like 538 00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:13,440 Speaker 1: I have to do something because I can't control what's 539 00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:16,520 Speaker 1: happening around me, but I can control what I do, right, um. 540 00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:18,480 Speaker 1: As well as the fact that I am a binger 541 00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:20,880 Speaker 1: like nobody's business, so I have comfort shows that I 542 00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:24,120 Speaker 1: will sit and watch all day. Right now, it is 543 00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:27,680 Speaker 1: Once upon a Time again, which I love those fairy 544 00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:30,960 Speaker 1: tales with heroes anyway, and so yeah, this is nice. 545 00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:32,800 Speaker 1: This is a nice little wrapped up It never really 546 00:31:32,800 --> 00:31:35,200 Speaker 1: wraps up because it's a series, so problems have to 547 00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:38,480 Speaker 1: happen all the time. But if they're all predictable, wonderful. 548 00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:42,760 Speaker 1: I love predictable, um, and that's kind of what I do. 549 00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:45,880 Speaker 1: I need that zoning out. I can't get too caught 550 00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:50,560 Speaker 1: up in the disgustingness of some things. I'm really bad 551 00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:53,000 Speaker 1: about social media though, that I can't let go of 552 00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:55,320 Speaker 1: it sometimes that I watched will read it too much. 553 00:31:55,720 --> 00:31:58,120 Speaker 1: My phone tells me how much screen time I have 554 00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:05,160 Speaker 1: and it's not good judged. Oh but yeah, I try. 555 00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:07,840 Speaker 1: I've been trying a little harder by at least playing 556 00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:12,560 Speaker 1: games instead of reading social media on Yeah, you know, 557 00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:18,720 Speaker 1: but speaking of my own problems with something that I 558 00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:21,400 Speaker 1: mean that you see, is an unhealthy thing that you've 559 00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:29,840 Speaker 1: done during this pandemic or not pandemic during the stressful time. Yeah, uh, definitely, 560 00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:34,560 Speaker 1: the like not getting enough exercise or not even moving 561 00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:37,240 Speaker 1: around enough. My body physically hurts now just every day 562 00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:40,080 Speaker 1: it hurts, so I'm trying to fix that, or the 563 00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:43,560 Speaker 1: squeezing of my arms. Um. And then I you know, 564 00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:46,160 Speaker 1: I'll admit it, I've started drinking a lot more since 565 00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:51,680 Speaker 1: this than I did before, and it's like become one 566 00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:56,360 Speaker 1: of those things where it used to be, well, surely 567 00:32:56,400 --> 00:33:02,760 Speaker 1: this can't go on forever, right, just kept going on. UM. 568 00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:05,680 Speaker 1: So I've been working on that as well. In general, 569 00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:11,680 Speaker 1: I'm not I don't have many good coping mechanisms. Um. 570 00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,080 Speaker 1: Are there not really healthy mechanisms? And it's something I 571 00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:16,800 Speaker 1: know and I've been working on. So sometimes I'll trade 572 00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:19,640 Speaker 1: one off for the other. And it's so hard right now, 573 00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:22,560 Speaker 1: because it is so hard right now to work on 574 00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:26,160 Speaker 1: a problem that you already had, um and now it's 575 00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:30,200 Speaker 1: exacerbated because of stress. Um. And then for sure, sleep 576 00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:33,040 Speaker 1: like just not taking care of myself overall. I guess 577 00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:36,080 Speaker 1: you've always had issues with sleep, Like you're saying you 578 00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:38,480 Speaker 1: can't really have a hard time fixing something that it 579 00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:41,840 Speaker 1: was already going to be problematic on a normal day, 580 00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:44,480 Speaker 1: and then having the stress on top of that doesn't 581 00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:50,240 Speaker 1: help at all. Obviously, Yeah, I'm the same way. Um. 582 00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:54,160 Speaker 1: I think for me, it's the I sleep too much 583 00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:57,440 Speaker 1: sometimes and that's problematic for me. I go back and forth. 584 00:33:57,480 --> 00:33:59,400 Speaker 1: I'm one extreme or the other, like either I don't 585 00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:02,239 Speaker 1: get any sleep or I get too much sleep. And 586 00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:04,800 Speaker 1: then as well as the fact, yeah, I have not 587 00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:08,399 Speaker 1: been exercising at all, and I feel like I'm just 588 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:11,360 Speaker 1: giving up half the time, I'm like, no, I'm just 589 00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:13,640 Speaker 1: gonna I'm just gonna stay here now. I'm not gonna 590 00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:15,080 Speaker 1: move and just sit on this couch for a while 591 00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:17,560 Speaker 1: a while longer. I'm gonna play my phone games. However, 592 00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:21,400 Speaker 1: Switch has helped me a little bit with the just dance. Yeah, 593 00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:23,880 Speaker 1: I got that immediately because I was like, Okay, at 594 00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:26,080 Speaker 1: the very least, I missed dancing, I miss hip hop, 595 00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:29,080 Speaker 1: I miss all of these things. So I will do that. 596 00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:34,520 Speaker 1: But yeah, it's definitely not a healthy situation. I also, man, 597 00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:36,680 Speaker 1: I like to crawl into a hole and not see 598 00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:40,400 Speaker 1: people for a long period of time. I gotta stop that. 599 00:34:41,760 --> 00:34:43,720 Speaker 1: Not that I can see people, but even like social 600 00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:46,640 Speaker 1: distancing stuff. I mean, for Halloween, I did absolutely nothing 601 00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:51,040 Speaker 1: because it just felt pointless. Oh yeah, I hate that 602 00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:53,200 Speaker 1: I said it like that, but it does. It's definitely 603 00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:57,120 Speaker 1: hard to celebrate things. And I give so much props 604 00:34:57,120 --> 00:34:59,440 Speaker 1: and credits to people who can actually see the positive 605 00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:01,520 Speaker 1: of things, and it is just like, no, no, I'm 606 00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:04,799 Speaker 1: just gonna sit here in the dark. Now that I mean, 607 00:35:04,880 --> 00:35:10,320 Speaker 1: that's some one way to sell real credit. Creepy, It's true, 608 00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:11,920 Speaker 1: that's gonna what I did. I was like, I'm just 609 00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:16,200 Speaker 1: gonna sit here in the dark. Cappy Halloween, everybody. And now, honestly, 610 00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:18,680 Speaker 1: the stress of the holidays, because I do not like 611 00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:21,320 Speaker 1: the holidays is coming towards me. And I think we 612 00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:24,160 Speaker 1: just had the daylight Savings time or whatever, and I'm 613 00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:29,840 Speaker 1: just like, why, why do we need to have more darkness? Yeah, 614 00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:32,120 Speaker 1: and I've been seeing a lot of articles coming out 615 00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,200 Speaker 1: about that about how you know, the holidays were already 616 00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:36,439 Speaker 1: a stressful thing for a lot of people, and now 617 00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:39,040 Speaker 1: you have COVID, so you kind of had that conversation 618 00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:43,360 Speaker 1: and the election then that is the election the aftermath 619 00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:51,919 Speaker 1: of that, and yeah, I understand there's so much. Yeah, man, 620 00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:54,400 Speaker 1: I mean, there are so many things that I can't 621 00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:58,400 Speaker 1: think of. But how do you feel like the selection 622 00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:03,280 Speaker 1: season is too tony sixty, your emotional state, everything about everything, 623 00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:07,879 Speaker 1: how do you feel like it compares? Mm hmm. I 624 00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:12,560 Speaker 1: feel in some ways the numbness I was talking about 625 00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:16,960 Speaker 1: has sort of insulated me from I feel for me, 626 00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:21,799 Speaker 1: the lead up was more painful, just because it was 627 00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:24,880 Speaker 1: kind of like, oh, it's ree trauma all the time, 628 00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:26,960 Speaker 1: and I felt like we were in this echo chamber 629 00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:32,560 Speaker 1: where you were as as a trauma survivors someone with trauma, 630 00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:35,399 Speaker 1: you were hearing all the doubts you had about well, 631 00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:37,640 Speaker 1: people won't believe me, or they'll think this, so they'll 632 00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:42,320 Speaker 1: think this, or what do I really? What value do 633 00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:44,880 Speaker 1: does society give me or not give me? Or what 634 00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:47,319 Speaker 1: do they believe me or not believe me? And not 635 00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:49,560 Speaker 1: to say that it's not going on, because it absolutely 636 00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:52,040 Speaker 1: still is, but I'm just sort of numb to it 637 00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:57,600 Speaker 1: now in a way that I wasn't then. And at 638 00:36:57,600 --> 00:37:02,080 Speaker 1: the time you and I I both said we we 639 00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:04,160 Speaker 1: did hear this refrain of you know, it's going to 640 00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:08,800 Speaker 1: be fine, you're overreacting, And now we know we weren't. 641 00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:11,680 Speaker 1: But at the time, even I sometimes try to convince 642 00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:13,920 Speaker 1: myself like, but there's got to be maybe I am. 643 00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:18,520 Speaker 1: Maybe this it's silverlying, maybe something something, And so I 644 00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:23,600 Speaker 1: don't feel like I have that anymore, right, I guess 645 00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:30,400 Speaker 1: I just feel a little just really tired and numb 646 00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:34,000 Speaker 1: kind of. Yeah, I think I think in the same 647 00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:36,239 Speaker 1: way in a in a certain respect, But yeah, I 648 00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:40,560 Speaker 1: have a deeper sense of dread because it's so familiar. 649 00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:44,760 Speaker 1: Everything looks familiar, the number looks familiar now, the amount 650 00:37:44,760 --> 00:37:48,440 Speaker 1: of voters much better, The tactics are different, it's dirtier, 651 00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:50,520 Speaker 1: and that's where I'm kind of a little bit scared. 652 00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:53,000 Speaker 1: I'm hoping for the best, like always said at the 653 00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:56,680 Speaker 1: beginning of the show. But the pessimist in me is 654 00:37:57,080 --> 00:38:01,120 Speaker 1: who wins out, you know, in this year of essentially 655 00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:05,480 Speaker 1: like who wins out the dear person because they played dirty? 656 00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:08,560 Speaker 1: I don't know, and that's the question. And then after that, 657 00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:11,719 Speaker 1: I think there's also a sense of like fighting me 658 00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:13,839 Speaker 1: and knowing that if it does come down to that, 659 00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:17,440 Speaker 1: I'm ready, let's go, let's go, let's fight. Uh whatever 660 00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:20,520 Speaker 1: that might be, um, But yeah, I think I'm with you. 661 00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:25,160 Speaker 1: The numbness, but still deeper sens of drud. Well, yeah, 662 00:38:25,200 --> 00:38:28,239 Speaker 1: because it just feels like that, even if we have 663 00:38:28,320 --> 00:38:32,200 Speaker 1: like the best possible outcome, it's gonna take so long, 664 00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:37,440 Speaker 1: so long, and the bar has been lowered so so 665 00:38:37,440 --> 00:38:41,560 Speaker 1: so much. It just feels like, well, even if we 666 00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:46,640 Speaker 1: win this time, some other Donald Trump could come around, um, 667 00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:51,560 Speaker 1: and we allowed for it once. Right's scary, and I 668 00:38:51,600 --> 00:38:57,200 Speaker 1: guess you know, overall, it's just a whole set of wolves. 669 00:38:57,400 --> 00:39:00,640 Speaker 1: But again, I look at look at the that so 670 00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:04,360 Speaker 1: many people have like risen Up and many different organizations 671 00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:07,600 Speaker 1: that have come out to fight voter suppression, to fight 672 00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:12,640 Speaker 1: for individual rights, the protests that continued, uh, like Alley Ship. 673 00:39:12,800 --> 00:39:15,239 Speaker 1: It's it's not lovely to see, it really is, and 674 00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:17,719 Speaker 1: it does make me really hopeful seeing the people that 675 00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:19,960 Speaker 1: go out there to vote, seeing the people standing in 676 00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:23,000 Speaker 1: line at seven am to make sure their vote is counted. 677 00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:24,959 Speaker 1: I love it. I love that this is the fact 678 00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:27,719 Speaker 1: that you know, I told you guys that um, the 679 00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:30,239 Speaker 1: man yelled at me to stay in line, thinking that 680 00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:31,960 Speaker 1: I was leaving the line because it was too long. 681 00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:34,040 Speaker 1: I mean, I love that. Those are the things that 682 00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:36,359 Speaker 1: I do have a lot of hope and again I'm 683 00:39:36,360 --> 00:39:40,400 Speaker 1: looking at Georgia and I'm hoping for a turn at 684 00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:42,600 Speaker 1: least in a couple of the seats. And I'm really 685 00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:45,840 Speaker 1: excited by that, by the fact that it is that close, 686 00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:48,839 Speaker 1: and hopefully that we can make a few changes. You know, 687 00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:51,800 Speaker 1: it's like small steps, and for me being in Georgia, 688 00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:54,920 Speaker 1: that's a big step, even though it's small to everyone else. 689 00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:59,480 Speaker 1: And yeah, and just to add to everything else, we 690 00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:02,759 Speaker 1: were thinking of doing like a breathing exercise, kind of 691 00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:06,239 Speaker 1: a mantra moment. But um, I think there's so much 692 00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:09,480 Speaker 1: trauma and suggering that even trying to be in your 693 00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:12,839 Speaker 1: own thoughts can be triggering. UM. I know we said 694 00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:15,600 Speaker 1: this when we did the trauma Yoga practice, which by 695 00:40:15,640 --> 00:40:17,000 Speaker 1: the way, is still there if you guys want to 696 00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:21,080 Speaker 1: look for it um in our Instagram. But the fact is, 697 00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:25,040 Speaker 1: sometimes just breathing and thinking can be traumatic. In this self, 698 00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:28,879 Speaker 1: I've definitely had flashbacks in my moments of being zen, 699 00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:30,920 Speaker 1: so we didn't want to put that on you. But 700 00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:34,319 Speaker 1: if you do want some recommended exercises, please email us. 701 00:40:34,320 --> 00:40:36,960 Speaker 1: We'll send you some sites. Again, we have the Trauma Yoga, 702 00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:39,879 Speaker 1: which we need to um put up and led us 703 00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:42,280 Speaker 1: through and we can send you those as well, because 704 00:40:42,280 --> 00:40:45,480 Speaker 1: there are some really good benefits to all of that, UM. 705 00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:48,359 Speaker 1: And overall, take care of yourself. I think it's safe 706 00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:52,000 Speaker 1: to say our fam y'all, all of y'all are people 707 00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:54,359 Speaker 1: who are prone to care past the point of their 708 00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:57,719 Speaker 1: own health, of our own health, and four times like 709 00:40:57,760 --> 00:41:00,279 Speaker 1: this we have to help. We have to remember to 710 00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:02,719 Speaker 1: help and love ourselves as much as we want to 711 00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:05,279 Speaker 1: help others. UM. And I know, believe me, I know 712 00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:08,680 Speaker 1: this bill feels so big and overwhelming, But we can't 713 00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:11,839 Speaker 1: be so overwhelmed and will unwilling to care for ourselves 714 00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:15,040 Speaker 1: that we can't keep fighting. UM. And no matter what, 715 00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:17,759 Speaker 1: justice is, something we have to and we'll continue to 716 00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:21,080 Speaker 1: have to fight for a matter the results. UM. And 717 00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:23,520 Speaker 1: we see that, we see the numbers, and we see 718 00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:28,480 Speaker 1: the outcries, and we see the ridiculousness out there and 719 00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:32,839 Speaker 1: again for people who are our listeners and for ourselves, 720 00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:38,440 Speaker 1: we can't give more than we have, and if you do, 721 00:41:38,719 --> 00:41:41,920 Speaker 1: you're not going to be able to help others. We 722 00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:47,520 Speaker 1: love you be we do, we do, And truly, so 723 00:41:47,600 --> 00:41:52,920 Speaker 1: many of you are doing inspiring things, UM. And you 724 00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:55,040 Speaker 1: are out there fighting and you did start their organization 725 00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:57,480 Speaker 1: or you start volunteering. So many of you are doing that. 726 00:41:57,520 --> 00:41:59,360 Speaker 1: And I know a lot of this has been a 727 00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:04,719 Speaker 1: down or in terms of I guess our mental states. Um, 728 00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:09,600 Speaker 1: but I do find that very very inspiring and hopeful 729 00:42:09,920 --> 00:42:14,120 Speaker 1: and it makes me so proud. So yeah, please take 730 00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:20,000 Speaker 1: care of yourselves. Um. Again, it's Monday before election day 731 00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:22,560 Speaker 1: as we record this, so who knows that it's gonna 732 00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:26,359 Speaker 1: be like when you listen to it, um, But we're 733 00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:30,520 Speaker 1: thinking of you and we care about you, and just 734 00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:33,400 Speaker 1: know that and take care of yourself. Um. And we 735 00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:37,520 Speaker 1: would love if you're doing any any volunteering in any 736 00:42:37,680 --> 00:42:41,160 Speaker 1: organizations that might you might be interested in, or any 737 00:42:41,239 --> 00:42:44,000 Speaker 1: actions that have helped you feel good or get out 738 00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:49,760 Speaker 1: of maybe a funk, or any crafting projects. Oh please, yes, 739 00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:53,080 Speaker 1: please please send those to us. Our email is Stuff 740 00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:55,400 Speaker 1: Media mom Stuff at iHeart media dot com. 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