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Speaker 1: Well, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you

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Speaker 1: You never know it could be yours. Yeah, you never know.

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Speaker 1: you here. It is Strawberry Letter, all right? Subject? Should

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Speaker 1: I punch her or pray for her? Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I'm a fifty seven year old single mother, and I

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Speaker 1: am all up in my daughter's business. My daughter is

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Speaker 1: thirty one years old and a professional woman. She's stating

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Speaker 1: Rita has vandalized my daughter's car and she's tried to

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Speaker 1: that Tony is too ghetto and he's used to ghetto girls,

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Speaker 1: but she is crazy about him. Last week, my daughter

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Speaker 1: was at Tony's house by herself and Rita walked in

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Speaker 1: teach kickboxing, so I was ready for miss Rita. Tony

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Speaker 1: Rita has some mental issues and she acts out sometimes,

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Speaker 1: so we have to pray for her. I know my

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Speaker 1: daughter is sheltered, but not this darn naive. I told

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Speaker 1: Rida beat her butt one good time so she'll ride,

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Speaker 1: she'll wise up? Please help what mama, let Rita beat

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Speaker 1: your daughters? But no, don't do that. Rita is crazy

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Speaker 1: and please don't let her crazy behind get it at

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Speaker 1: you shouldn't have to fight your daughter's battles. This trifle man,

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Speaker 1: like you said, we'll call him Tony, doesn't care anything

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Speaker 1: the one that's allowing this to happen. I agree with

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Speaker 1: you that he tolerates too much from Rita. What is

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Speaker 1: come in Handy. I think this is a wrong man.

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Speaker 1: I think this is a wrong relationship. For your daughter,

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Speaker 1: but until she sees it for herself, and she doesn't

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Speaker 1: because you said she is crazy about mister Tony. But

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Speaker 1: you can do, Mom, but rush over there when she

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Speaker 1: She's no respect for this relationship. She just walks in

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Speaker 1: Did steven sherl out and fifty seven year old single mother?

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Speaker 1: I'm all up in my daughter's business. Bat right there,

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Speaker 1: What what do you mean? You have a problem with

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Speaker 1: it with how he tolerates cerddain behavior. So let's call

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Speaker 1: Here we go. Reader has vandalized my daughter's card. He

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Speaker 1: The man didn't tolerate that crazy ass reader tried to

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subject

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Speaker 1: to Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject is should punch her

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Speaker 1: or pray for her? Fifty seven year old single mother

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Speaker 1: all up in her daughter's business right there, right there?

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Speaker 1: Bad letter daughter thirty one professional dating a man. I

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Speaker 1: can't believe it because the man is forty year old,

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Speaker 1: makes a good living. So what is it you don't like?

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Speaker 1: But he's flashing. He loves be the center of attention.

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Speaker 1: He's always been respectful to me. Okay, that don't mean nothing,

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Speaker 1: see how the man is tolerating He let the twins

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Speaker 1: mother mother's name reading the boyfriend named Tony Reader vanalize

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Speaker 1: what does that have to do with Tony tolerating the

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Speaker 1: Blah blah blah blah blah. I don't know what that

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Speaker 1: arrangement is, Bud. She got a key to his housles.

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Speaker 1: She might have lived there before with the kids. Anybody

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Speaker 1: That ain't got nothing to do with them. What the

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Speaker 1: of there, but not before Reader swung at me. Freda asked, crazy, Yes,

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Speaker 1: Reader swung at you. That's not him tolerating the behavior.

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Speaker 1: Why you think Reader his acts because he no Reader?

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Speaker 1: Crazy crazy people Sometimes, I'm just saying this. Sometimes crazy

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Speaker 1: Tony diffused his situation and asked my daughter to explain

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure Tony didn't ask you to pray for

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Speaker 1: I know my daughter is shelter, but not this dog.

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Speaker 1: One night I told my daughter that Tony is feeding

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Speaker 1: Reader beat her but one good time so she will

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Speaker 1: Because one time you she gonna be over there, and

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Speaker 1: Reader's gonna get that whipping info you get. You spared

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Speaker 1: old business. She ain't got all the facts, Tony and

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Speaker 1: what's going on? Over hill? Steve, if this was your daughter,

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Speaker 1: He got a crazy ex. I know this letter right him. See,

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Speaker 1: agreed to disagree. We agree to disagree. Okay, all right,

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