Speaker 1: Second. Yeah, thanks for getting off your phone to talk
Speaker 1: to me during the back when you were singing. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I want to ask when you were single, did you
Speaker 1: ever want to give up on finding love? I wasn't really,
Speaker 1: you didn't think you were going to find it anyway.
Speaker 1: I just I don't know if that was my goal.
Speaker 1: Say love it finds you. I really don't like I
Speaker 1: found it and I love him, and I definitely wanted
Speaker 1: to get married in my life, but he was your cousin,
Speaker 1: so that you had to send Michael. I got it,
Speaker 1: but I don't know that. I was in love with
Speaker 1: lots of different people though. Yeah. The reason I ask
Speaker 1: is because one of our listeners has been having kind
Speaker 1: of a tough time, not just finding the one, but
Speaker 1: even just locking down a date, and so now he's
Speaker 1: reaching out to us for help. His name is Hunter.
Speaker 1: A Hunter. Have you considered giving up on love yet? No?
Speaker 1: Not giving up? Good? Okay, well maybe after this we'll
Speaker 1: push you to that point. But first, let's talk about
Speaker 1: the woman that you recently met. I guess what's her name? Well, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm kind of nervous to say it life. Is it inappropriate? No? No, no, inappropriate?
Speaker 1: I don't know what. You've found her name out? Well,
Speaker 1: all right, her name is Jamie. Chased it now, there's
Speaker 1: so many of them. Sorry, I got nervous for no reason.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I'm this whole thing is nervous for me.
Speaker 1: That's okay. We're just trying to have a fun time
Speaker 1: with you. Like that's what makes you feel like kind
Speaker 1: of down about your dating life recently, I'm getting really frustrated.
Speaker 1: I'm going on a lot of dates and a lot
Speaker 1: of them just keep bailing on me at the last minute.
Speaker 1: Oh I don't know, Like I'm talking a couple of
Speaker 1: times I've been at the restaurant or bar, drink in hand.
Speaker 1: You're talking actual last minute day. People are so flaky
Speaker 1: these days. So yeah, it's it really like even in friendships,
Speaker 1: people are flaky. Yeah, no, you're right. Yeah did you
Speaker 1: hear that? Hunter Brooks says, it's not you, it's everyone
Speaker 1: else in the world. Yeah, tell everyone should live their life, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's not my fault. There must be someone else perfect. Yeah,
Speaker 1: humans out there. I'll use that line in my therapist. Good. Okay,
Speaker 1: So times where'd you meant Jamie? Well, I met her
Speaker 1: at the airport. Oh interesting, how so I, um, I
Speaker 1: saw this lady was Jamie grabbed my bag off the
Speaker 1: luggage carousel and I literally chase her down, like across
Speaker 1: the terminal. It was a black bag. I remember buying
Speaker 1: my first piece of luggage and going, wait a minute.
Speaker 1: Everyone has a like, what's the luck that it's someone
Speaker 1: that's single in your attack. Yeah, that's a good strategy, though,
Speaker 1: Just keep taking bags off of the luggage carousel to
Speaker 1: a cute person walks up, don't keep checking bags and
Speaker 1: hopes people will steal it, like sod. Did you catch her? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I finally caught up to her, and I couldn't tell
Speaker 1: what she looked like until I until I did you know?
Speaker 1: She was for me? And okay, so she turns around.
Speaker 1: Yeah did you scream? Oh my god, you sergeant keep
Speaker 1: oh my god? What happened? Well, I made a joke saying, uh,
Speaker 1: you know, I would have taken your bag, but I
Speaker 1: don't think i'd look as good in your clothes as
Speaker 1: you do. Oh night, man, it's funny. Obviously she had
Speaker 1: a good response to that. Yeah, I mean it's all
Speaker 1: downhill from back. That's when this started happening. No, she
Speaker 1: laughed and um, and we just stood and like waited
Speaker 1: for our ubers on the corner and we talked, and
Speaker 1: I took a risk and asked for a number. You
Speaker 1: made friends real quick. So you guys, where'd you go
Speaker 1: for your date? I have her to grab just the coffee.
Speaker 1: I wanted to keep it casual, you know. And yeah,
Speaker 1: we were texting the entire week leading up to it,
Speaker 1: and she was just saying like she was excited to
Speaker 1: meet me and then like blocked bork day of she
Speaker 1: candl No, she canceled on. Yeah. You know it's risky
Speaker 1: with coffee though, because it's easy to cancel on coffee
Speaker 1: because you're like she was early in the morning, Like,
Speaker 1: what's thirty minutes? It's true, Ale says, how many times
Speaker 1: have you done this to guys before it canceled? The
Speaker 1: last time? I don't even say yes to coffee dates.
Speaker 1: I could feel like it's canceling him after she gets
Speaker 1: her drink, canceling before they even ask she was she sorry? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Did she give you an excuse? No? I didn't even
Speaker 1: hear from her. And at this point it's happened so
Speaker 1: many times, Like I need to understand what's going on
Speaker 1: because there's candles be a coincidence. I mean, I hear you,
Speaker 1: I'm like canceling on coffee. But this is just happened
Speaker 1: so many times. It's weird. You can get dates, you
Speaker 1: seem charmingly attractive enough. Yeah, they're not even catfishing people
Speaker 1: because you're meeting people in person. Every time I think
Speaker 1: that there's other people that want this exact same answer,
Speaker 1: I want the answer. Yeah, Well, I think you need
Speaker 1: to stop screaming at people, Jeff, and that'll probably call. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're gonna we're gonna call Jamie for a year and
Speaker 1: in a very even keel voice, I'm going to ask
Speaker 1: her why she's not going out with I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: super chill about answer, Jeff. All right, Hunter, her situation
Speaker 1: could be different from from the other ones. I don't know, hope,
Speaker 1: but I'd at least like to hear from her what happened, right,
Speaker 1: is that someone you met in person and actually had
Speaker 1: a connection with yea yeah, Or we can call every
Speaker 1: girl that's cancer twenty five minutes segment or threatened to
Speaker 1: steal her luggage because now you know what it looks like.
Speaker 1: I don't know if threats are good. Yeah, we'll avoid
Speaker 1: the threats, we'll just we'll just speak with the questions
Speaker 1: to get your second date update right after this. We
Speaker 1: just learned one of the best places to meet someone
Speaker 1: is at the airport, specifically the baggage claim area. You
Speaker 1: just stand in front of the carousel, wait for a
Speaker 1: really attractive guy or girl to walk up to a bag,
Speaker 1: and then run up and nab it right before they
Speaker 1: and say oops, I thought that was mine. Now that
Speaker 1: we have our bags in common, maybe we should hook up.
Speaker 1: It's pretty good, honestly. That's almost how one of our listeners,
Speaker 1: Hunter met Jamie the other day. She accidentally took his
Speaker 1: bag thinking it was hers, so he had to go
Speaker 1: chase her down and they ended up vibing at the airport,
Speaker 1: but then she canceled the day of their coffee date,
Speaker 1: which has been happening to him over and over again. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's got to be so frustrating. We agree that that's
Speaker 1: kind of become the new dating culture where people are
Speaker 1: just flaking now all the time. In fact, I'm kind
Speaker 1: of thinking of flaking on my lunch with Brooke tomorrow
Speaker 1: unless she buys again, and then I always buy. Maybe
Speaker 1: I'll come Hunter, how are you feeling nervous but excited
Speaker 1: to get an answer. Yeah, maybe get some truth out
Speaker 1: of this. Figure out if it's something you've been doing
Speaker 1: wrong and you can fix it. I disagree. I think
Speaker 1: you're perfect. Hunter. Don't listen to what my host say.
Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with you. Oh well, you know, if
Speaker 1: if only I wasn't interested in women. I don't think
Speaker 1: that's where I was going with it, but I appreciate that. Hunter, Jeffrey,
Speaker 1: you started this. Yeah, you may be free for lunch tomorrow. Bro,
Speaker 1: that is true. We'll see what happens with you. Actually
Speaker 1: blushed her. Will you buy? Are you gonna pay? Hunter? Sure?
Speaker 1: All right, got a solid plan, bake. Let's call your
Speaker 1: plan a though, Jamie. Here, we'll see what she has
Speaker 1: to say. Let's do it. Hello. Hey is this James? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Hey Jamie. I know this is going to sound a
Speaker 1: little bit weird, but you're talking to a morning radio
Speaker 1: show right now? Hey Jamie? Um, Hi, yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Why am I talking to a morning show right now? Oh?
Speaker 1: Good question, Jamie. The answer to that is we're doing
Speaker 1: a segment called a second Date Update. Okay, okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't think she knows that is a lot of
Speaker 1: date though, a lot of dates. That's fun. We've been dating. No, well,
Speaker 1: we hear that you're a very attractive, fun lady social
Speaker 1: idea yeahprene flying away. Oh well yeah, I travel a
Speaker 1: lot for work. I'm sorry, I don't know what this
Speaker 1: is about. Well, we heard that information from one of
Speaker 1: our listeners name Hunter, who you met the other day
Speaker 1: at the airport. Ah. Yeah, you remember a Hunter because
Speaker 1: you didn't have a long interaction with them. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: grabbed his bag by accident and we sage bags and
Speaker 1: that was kind of like funny, cute coincidence. Huh yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean sure, what was your first impression of Hunter? Um,
Speaker 1: he's like, you know, it's kind of normal guy, but
Speaker 1: he's he's cute. Yeah, marriage material sort of thing. Whoa, Jeffrey.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know if I felt that right
Speaker 1: off the bat, but um, I think it was a
Speaker 1: little ramped up because I had his bag. Yeah, what's good.
Speaker 1: You know, somewhere between nice and marriage material. That's a good,
Speaker 1: you know, happy medium in there. So it's somewhere. But
Speaker 1: the weird part that we heard is that the two
Speaker 1: of you were supposed to go out to coffee and
Speaker 1: then yeah, something happened and you had to cancel. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it didn't feel like maybe you were going to reschedule
Speaker 1: with him. Is that true? I don't think so. I
Speaker 1: think we kind of are a little different in how
Speaker 1: we approach things, So maybe it just wasn't like the
Speaker 1: best fit. How would you know that, though? How would
Speaker 1: you know that if you hadn't even hung out with them? Well?
Speaker 1: They texted? What text for a week? Right? Yeah? We
Speaker 1: texted for a week beforehand, and two days before he
Speaker 1: texted me and said, are we still on? I said yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm excited to see you. And then after that, like
Speaker 1: twenty four hours before, he was like, hey, we're twenty
Speaker 1: four hours out. I just want to make sure we're
Speaker 1: still on. I was like at that point, I was like,
Speaker 1: that's a little weird. I was like, yeah, we're still on.
Speaker 1: And then he sent me like text leading up to
Speaker 1: the next day it was like, hey, I'm excited to
Speaker 1: see I just want to make sure we're still on.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh yeah, I'm like really busy with work
Speaker 1: and stuff. Like how did you like respond to these
Speaker 1: texts over and over again or do you have one
Speaker 1: of those limited text plans where you can only, But
Speaker 1: I have one of those limited life plans where I
Speaker 1: don't have them a lot of time to deal with,
Speaker 1: like something really high mainan's right off the bat when
Speaker 1: I haven't even met you like that. It's called making
Speaker 1: yourself too available. How many times did he text you
Speaker 1: asking if you were still on let me see there
Speaker 1: was like yeah, it was like ten. He was exciting. Yeah.
Speaker 1: On the bright side, it means he was really really
Speaker 1: looking forward to seeing you again. I mean that's great.
Speaker 1: It's like you've met somebody. But like I feel like
Speaker 1: the initial meeting should be really just kind of like
Speaker 1: short to the point, and then maybe after yeah, and
Speaker 1: then after if it goes well, maybe then a little
Speaker 1: more text. But it's like that was well. If the
Speaker 1: initial meeting went well, maybe the second meeting will go
Speaker 1: even better, which is going to happen in three two one,
Speaker 1: because he's on the phone right now. Okay, are you
Speaker 1: excited to meet him again? I guess, hey, hunter, look
Speaker 1: I gott in him. I'm a little embarrassed hearing it
Speaker 1: all aired out like that, but I do want to
Speaker 1: I just want to give you some contexts. It's not
Speaker 1: so much a high maintenance thing. I just I've been
Speaker 1: canceled on last minute a lot on dates women, and
Speaker 1: it's just yeah that I wouldn't be putting that sort
Speaker 1: of information out there. Hunter. It doesn't sound great too. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean this may be the reason, buddy. No, No,
Speaker 1: that's why I was doing it with Jamie. I wasn't
Speaker 1: doing this before, but after so many times, I guess
Speaker 1: it's affected me more than I thought. Did you realize it? Wow?
Speaker 1: I mean do you see where he's coming from, Jamie?
Speaker 1: I mean I do, But like when I don't know
Speaker 1: him at all, like to come off like that, that's
Speaker 1: like my only reference point for who this person is,
Speaker 1: it just seems like a little much. Yeah. I didn't
Speaker 1: mean to come off that way. I just I was
Speaker 1: excited to go on a date with Jin. I just
Speaker 1: wanted to make sure it wasn't going to be another
Speaker 1: blast minute cancelation. And I get it. I mean it's
Speaker 1: like that's just what you deal is in the stating world.
Speaker 1: So like, I've been canceled on two and it sucks.
Speaker 1: But I don't think that I would like, oh, so
Speaker 1: you know the feeling that he has. Yeah, I definitely
Speaker 1: know the same thing. But it's I wouldn't just then
Speaker 1: send ten texts to somebody making sure they weren't canceling.
Speaker 1: I find a middle ground, you know, if it's a
Speaker 1: middle ground. But but it sounds like Hunter, you're hearing
Speaker 1: her right, like you're hearing what she's saying. I do
Speaker 1: hear what she's saying. And I've heard this segment before.
Speaker 1: I know. Normally we asked if there's another date opportunity.
Speaker 1: I mean, Jamie, would you be interested? I promise someone
Speaker 1: text you? Oh God, that breath was not good. Yeah, Jamie,
Speaker 1: I think it's sweet. You know, he's a little jaded,
Speaker 1: a little herb from the dating scene. But and Jamie, look,
Speaker 1: I'll text you the proper about this time around him.
Speaker 1: I'll go three to six, two to four. Let's get down.
Speaker 1: Let's cut this down in writing. How many texts per day?
Speaker 1: Exactly are we going to be sending back and forth?
Speaker 1: It feels like option right now? Yah? Who was three
Speaker 1: four texts a day? So yeah, and here's the deal, Like,
Speaker 1: if I commit to something, I will show up. Well, actually,
Speaker 1: you didn't show up when you committed to the last
Speaker 1: date with her, so that's a point. Well, I mean
Speaker 1: she was going to until all the text came in,
Speaker 1: but she didn't follow through with her commitment. That's not
Speaker 1: following through. But look, Jamie, I'm gonna forgive you for that.
Speaker 1: Not only do I forgive you, I'm gonna pay for
Speaker 1: your next date as long as it's with Hunter. Three
Speaker 1: texts a day max, one text minimum. We're negotiating, what
Speaker 1: is this a contract? It's making it sound really unattractive.
Speaker 1: But as you will, Uy, I shouldn't be written. I
Speaker 1: do think you should give him another chance. Yeah, Jamie,
Speaker 1: give me another chance. I want to communicate with you
Speaker 1: the proper amount. Proper I mean, it's a proper amount.
Speaker 1: That sounds so like romantic. You're right, Yeah, I guess yeah,
Speaker 1: why not? All right? Okay, look at that. I love this.
Speaker 1: We're doing two texts. We're doing three texts where we're
Speaker 1: bringing on. Let Jamie said too, Yeah, lock it in
Speaker 1: two texts a day or you guys are done. Yeah.
Speaker 1: He's gonna be like, oh no, I forgot to ask
Speaker 1: directions to the limit, Brookie. Jeffrey. In the morning, I
Speaker 1: just got a text from Hunter saying, do you think
Speaker 1: it's okay to text her right now? I knew it.
Speaker 1: I knew someone needs to take his phone away from
Speaker 1: until the day we just finished, so I would give
Speaker 1: it a few hours before you finally reach out to her.
Speaker 1: His first text her is going to be like, do
Speaker 1: you mind if I text you? Yeah? And there it's
Speaker 1: one text and the second one is sure right, yeah,
Speaker 1: I can stop if you want. Yeah. I mean, I
Speaker 1: think she did bring up a good point where she
Speaker 1: said the pendulum swung too far the other way, because
Speaker 1: she was probably right. He was trying to overcorrect because
Speaker 1: he felt bad about getting digital. Many kids all understandable.
Speaker 1: It really is from both sides here. But I think
Speaker 1: what Hunter needs is he needs like a dummy texter,
Speaker 1: like a buddy who he can text instead of her
Speaker 1: every time he's feeling the urge. It's not like a
Speaker 1: you know, a sponsor or something and the other. If
Speaker 1: you want to volunteer to be his sponsor text person,
Speaker 1: get texted him all night. Well, you can give out
Speaker 1: your phone number No. Seventy five nine too. But remember,
Speaker 1: if you ever want to listen to any of our
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Speaker 1: Jeffrey in the morning,