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Speaker 1: Smuggle up, hold on tight, we got it for you here.

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. Turn my mic on subject.

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Speaker 1: I'm whipped in more ways than one. Okay, I'm whipped

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Speaker 1: in more ways than one. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been

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Speaker 1: married to my wife for over ten years and we

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Speaker 1: have five kids now. Before we got married, my wife

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Speaker 1: was in a crazy relationship, and over time our arguments

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Speaker 1: would get increasingly worse because this is what she's used to.

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Speaker 1: In the first two years of our marriage, we argued

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Speaker 1: daily about stupid stuff. I would never have married this

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Speaker 1: of the time. I'm miserable, but I can never leave

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Speaker 1: her because her sex is so amazing. It's so amazing

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Speaker 1: it has a hold on me. We've broken up before

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Speaker 1: and I moved out, but that thing of hers just

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Speaker 1: keeps calling me, so I always end up going back

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Speaker 1: to her. Right after we have a really bad argument,

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Speaker 1: we end up in the bedroom and she makes it

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Speaker 1: all better. My kids are witnessing our arguments, and I

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Speaker 1: don't want them to think this crazy relationship is okay.

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Speaker 1: I want to take my kids and leave, but I

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Speaker 1: can't leave without this woman and the way she puts

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Speaker 1: it down. I can't live without her and the way

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Speaker 1: she puts it down. When I was younger, I would

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Speaker 1: hear old men talk about how a woman could get you,

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Speaker 1: Pa Wood, I'm living proof that this is true. I'm

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Speaker 1: in a huh do you know? That's what what what

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Speaker 1: we called it in my house. Jay, I'm gonna lose

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Speaker 1: lose situation here if I if I leave for good,

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Speaker 1: my kids will blame me. If I stay with this

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Speaker 1: woman and we continue to go through this, then they'll

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Speaker 1: think the constant conflict is okay, I vowed for better

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Speaker 1: or worse, and I try to keep my word. I

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Speaker 1: just don't understand how she says she loves me, but

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Speaker 1: we can't get along. I'm losing hope. I asked her

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Speaker 1: to go to counseling, but she won't go. What should

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Speaker 1: I do? Please advise? Yeah, this is a mess. This

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Speaker 1: is a mess. No one wants to be with someone

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Speaker 1: who argues all the time. I think there's a verse

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Speaker 1: in the Bible and Proverbs about a contentious woman. You know,

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Speaker 1: you'd rather live on the roof or something like that

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Speaker 1: than to be in a home with with a woman

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Speaker 1: who does this UM, but you know what, I suggest

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Speaker 1: counseling a lot. I'm really gonna have to suggest it

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Speaker 1: for you, guys, because at least in counseling, they will

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Speaker 1: teach you how to resolve conflict and how to resolve

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Speaker 1: arguments in a in a peaceful way. And guess what,

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Speaker 1: if she won't go, you go by yourself. You go

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Speaker 1: so when she does start, at least you'll have a

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Speaker 1: better way of resolving things when she does start arguing. Uh,

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Speaker 1: she is really the one who needs to go, because

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Speaker 1: according to your letter, she's the one that starts arguments

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Speaker 1: all the time, and you saying that's what she's used to.

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Speaker 1: So she's had a string of relationships where she's been

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Speaker 1: in relationships where they argue. Someone's got to put a

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Speaker 1: stop to this. And if not, the both of you,

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Speaker 1: you've got to step out as the head of the

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Speaker 1: household and the man and do something about it. I

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Speaker 1: strongly suggest some sort of marital counseling. I strong and

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Speaker 1: like I said, if she won't go, you need to

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Speaker 1: go by yourself, so you can bring what you've learned

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Speaker 1: back to the house and maybe that will help. Maybe

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Speaker 1: that will help. I understand, you have five children. You

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Speaker 1: don't want them to see this, so you need to

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Speaker 1: take action and do something now, All right, Jr. You

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Speaker 1: want to go next, we're gonna hear some all the

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Speaker 1: guys today. Steve is out by the way. I surely

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Speaker 1: I hate to say that I totally disagree with you,

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Speaker 1: and that's fine. I truly do. I I really done

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Speaker 1: no problem in this letter because of my lifestyle and

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Speaker 1: they're thing. But I just get amazing six equals. Shut up.

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Speaker 1: Oh that's what you saw, amazing six equals. Shut up.

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Speaker 1: Let her say what she want to say. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: be here for this amazing sex because right now in

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Speaker 1: my life I'm not getting it. So I'm gonna have

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Speaker 1: to just shut up. There. You want to say you

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Speaker 1: ain't got no job, I'm gonna shut up. Why the

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Speaker 1: bills late? Shut up. I'm not gonna say nothing. But

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Speaker 1: when we're getting in the room, though, I'm happy. That's

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Speaker 1: funny because men and women are so different. It's hard

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Speaker 1: for women after an argument to feel romantic and get

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Speaker 1: in the mood, but men different for men, and they

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Speaker 1: don't care you argue whatever. You're still I'm going in here.

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Speaker 1: A matter of fact, I didn't got custed out, and

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Speaker 1: I still turn the lights off. I'm in this band.

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Speaker 1: I don't care which I'm talking about. I'm rubbing alls on.

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Speaker 1: I didn't just fresh. You just care show in the hallway,

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Speaker 1: passing the doorway by time, making that bad. It's nothing

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Speaker 1: there for me. Amazing sex equals shut up. I'm through.

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Speaker 1: That's all it takes. That's all it takes. Wow. All right, Jay,

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Speaker 1: we have a couple of just a few seconds. You

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Speaker 1: can start your answer and then come back and we'll

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Speaker 1: hear from you the rest of you and Tommy have

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Speaker 1: to agree with Junior. I can't think getting electric range,

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Speaker 1: find a bull wolf finish. You guys always talk about

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Speaker 1: how much women talk and you want us to shut

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Speaker 1: up and all of that. None of that matters in

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Speaker 1: the bed. At some point they shut up and the

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Speaker 1: next win is great, can talk while we're doing it,

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Speaker 1: And I don't care. I think you're with to Jay.

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Speaker 1: I think you're one of the ones. All right, we're

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Speaker 1: gonna have part two of Jay's response, and then we're

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Speaker 1: gonna hear from you know who the nephew right after this. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: recap today's strawberry letter, um, and then we'll get to

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Speaker 1: part two of your response J and then we'll hear

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Speaker 1: from you know who the nephew. Okay, uh subject I'm

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Speaker 1: whipped in more ways than one. A man wrote this letter. Uh.

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Speaker 1: He's upset because his wife argues all the time. He said, Uh,

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Speaker 1: it's a crazy relationship. Our arguments get increasingly worse because

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Speaker 1: that is what she's used to. Uh. Sometimes they argue

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Speaker 1: in front of the kids. The kids know about it.

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Speaker 1: They have five kids. He doesn't like that. Um, but

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Speaker 1: he says he can't leave because the sex is so good. Well,

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Speaker 1: excuse me, the sex is amazing, amazing. That's better than

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Speaker 1: so good. I guess yeah, he says. Even if he's

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Speaker 1: moved out and he's done that before, it keeps calling him,

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Speaker 1: calling him back. We've been called back. He says. He

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Speaker 1: down in the bedroom. He says, when he was younger,

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Speaker 1: he heard old men talk about how a woman could

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Speaker 1: that that is true. What he wants to know is

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Speaker 1: he doesn't understand actually why she says she loves him,

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Speaker 1: but she keeps this argument of behavior going going, you know,

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Speaker 1: front of the kids and make a bad situation even worse.

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Speaker 1: So Junior said, he vehemently disagrees with me because he

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Speaker 1: doesn't care what she does. He's in the bed. She

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Speaker 1: can cuss him out or whatever. He's right there in

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Speaker 1: the bed with the lights off. Amazing sex equals shut up.

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Speaker 1: Jay pretty much agrees with Junior, and you can finish

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Speaker 1: your answer. Go ahead. I'm gonna give you a list

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Speaker 1: of complaints that I've heard while having sex. But I

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Speaker 1: I hear, I just kind of blocked it out, and

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Speaker 1: stuff like I don't like the way you're mama make

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Speaker 1: Focused on what I'm when, you know, when you finish,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna have to put some in that front time.

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Speaker 1: I don't give a damn that ain't got nothing to

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Speaker 1: You know I'm focused on you know, you know you're

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Speaker 1: not asking me, But I think your sisters picked up

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Speaker 1: a little weight. Say what you gotta say. I'm focused

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Speaker 1: I think you should clean them. Good us, that's what

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Speaker 1: you need to clean them. But because I was focused,

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Speaker 1: let's go see that new I'll just el a movie.

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Speaker 1: I'm staying focused, my focus on what I'm doing. So

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Speaker 1: for me and Junior, YEA, say to me that can

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Speaker 1: men and women are completely different in this than Yeah,

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Speaker 1: thank god. But there is one among us that we

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Speaker 1: haven't heard from. Oh no, step up to the mic,

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Speaker 1: uh and speak your name. Letew timmy right here. I

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Speaker 1: and get down to it. Uh. You know what, I

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Speaker 1: think all the men agreed that we are not walking

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Speaker 1: away from something this good. We're not. Here's what you

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Speaker 1: should do. Go to the doctor, come back and claim

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Speaker 1: That right there stops all the arguments and the cookie

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Speaker 1: is still there. When you're watching TV, put it on

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Speaker 1: close capture. Have this woman thing her man has gone death,

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Speaker 1: and guess what you're through listening to her? Now? All

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Speaker 1: both of y'all learning sign language together. You're doing something

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Speaker 1: so y'all can communicate. You don't wear about getting cussed out, insane,

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Speaker 1: to do it. I know it's frustrated to get cussed

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Speaker 1: That's frustrated. What you need go dellth go de bro.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't care, but Junior, don't care. Junior, don't care. Junior.

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Speaker 1: Just know that's good cooking. But see when when you

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Speaker 1: your car running into a telephone boat. Then get out,

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Speaker 1: him get cussed out and come right back. But the kids, though, guys,

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Speaker 1: want in your room cook that cooking? Have you in

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Speaker 1: front of everybody? Cookie? Would do that? Go in your room.

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Speaker 1: Don't let me have me tell you again? Tell me

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Speaker 1: to mama finished. I do want to ask you, guys,

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Speaker 1: this is it true that you would hear older men

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Speaker 1: say when you were younger that, uh, a good woman

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Speaker 1: I told some dudes back home what I wasn't gonna do,

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Speaker 1: and they told me you you're gonna do? How when

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Speaker 1: when I ain't doing that, I ain't doing that, I

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Speaker 1: ain't buying it. And now we've done it all? But

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Speaker 1: what did you say? What did you say? The Bible

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Speaker 1: say insurance. There's a verse in Proverbs right with a

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Speaker 1: contentious woman with an about just how about he just

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Speaker 1: stay on the roof and just come down, stand and

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Speaker 1: up because he's a father saying anything about you with

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Speaker 1: a good cookie. Jay. Wow. Guys, all right, well listen,

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