WEBVTT - Humble Yourself

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<v Speaker 1>Hello guys, Happy Monday and Happy Labor Day. I hope

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<v Speaker 1>some of you are enjoying an extra long weekend because

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<v Speaker 1>you deserve it. We work so hard and it's so

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<v Speaker 1>important to make time to rest and take care of

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<v Speaker 1>ourselves too. Hashtag note to self. Okay, So I was

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<v Speaker 1>doing some thinking the other day and self reflecting about

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<v Speaker 1>how we should never feel like we're better than anyone

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<v Speaker 1>else or above anyone else, and so I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>unpack that here on the podcast. So that's what we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to talk about today on Jeez and Joe. Are

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<v Speaker 1>you ready? Here we go? So what do I mean

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<v Speaker 1>by never feeling like you're above others? And why does

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<v Speaker 1>it matter? I've seen a lot of things in my life.

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<v Speaker 1>I've experienced quite a bit, a lot of disappointment. I

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<v Speaker 1>have disappointed others, and a lot of those things helped

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<v Speaker 1>me grow and learn. And I was sitting at my

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<v Speaker 1>desk and this whole idea came up because I was

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<v Speaker 1>dealing with some stuff with some people on my team.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to say any names, it's not worth it.

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<v Speaker 1>We've already talked it out. But I just felt very

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<v Speaker 1>sad because I don't like when people feel like they

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<v Speaker 1>are indispensable. When people don't take accountability and responsibility. We've

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<v Speaker 1>talked about this so many times because it's a huge

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<v Speaker 1>pet peep. One day we're going to do an episode

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<v Speaker 1>of my pet peeves, because I have quite a bit. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>one of my pet peeves is when people can't humble

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<v Speaker 1>themselves and apologize and take accountability and their ego. And

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<v Speaker 1>we've talked about the ego because ego is not your amigo.

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<v Speaker 1>How it gets in the way of you becoming who

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<v Speaker 1>you are meant to be because you're afraid to be

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<v Speaker 1>vulnerable and to show your real feelings. So anyways, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a whole other episode. My point is, guys, that I

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<v Speaker 1>was in a situation where someone felt like, oh, they'll

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<v Speaker 1>come back, and she can't find anyone else. I cannot

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<v Speaker 1>with that. Like, when you give me that energy, I

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<v Speaker 1>will do anything, in everything to find someone else and

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<v Speaker 1>someone better. And that's just a small part of it,

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<v Speaker 1>because there's so much more to that story, and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to get into it because again, we talked

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<v Speaker 1>about things and things are not resolved, but I guess

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<v Speaker 1>we clear the air. I think it's just important that

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<v Speaker 1>we realize that anything can happen at any time. We

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<v Speaker 1>can be on top today and you turn around and

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<v Speaker 1>things have changed. And I've seen it with my own

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<v Speaker 1>two eyes, with people around me, with maybe certain family members, friendships,

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<v Speaker 1>where people are on top and they have all the

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<v Speaker 1>money in the world and the power to buy whatever

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<v Speaker 1>they want and the power to destroy people with the

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<v Speaker 1>money that they have and the power and the positions,

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<v Speaker 1>and they think that they are invincible, and then something happens.

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<v Speaker 1>Life shakes you up. God sits you on your ass

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<v Speaker 1>and everything is taken away, and all those people that

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<v Speaker 1>you treated bad along the way turn their back and say, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you were very mean to me. Why should I help

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<v Speaker 1>you when you need it, when you're on the floor.

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<v Speaker 1>I have seen it freaking happen, guys, I can tell you,

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<v Speaker 1>and you guys know, I'm very honest. I have never

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<v Speaker 1>in my life felt that I am better than anyone

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<v Speaker 1>or less than anyone. I like to treat people the

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<v Speaker 1>way I want to be treated. I will treat the president,

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<v Speaker 1>the CEO of the company the same exact way I

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<v Speaker 1>would treat the janitor that I see that's cleaning the

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<v Speaker 1>restroom that I just used. I promise you because I

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<v Speaker 1>have learned and I have seen it, and I never

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<v Speaker 1>want to go through that. I want to be able

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<v Speaker 1>to say I was nice to everyone, and not because

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<v Speaker 1>it's forced, not because I'm pretending, but because it's really

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<v Speaker 1>who I am. Because I know right now I can

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<v Speaker 1>live in this beautiful home that God has given me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I swear you, guys. I pray and I'm like, God,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for helping me make ends meet every month,

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<v Speaker 1>because when I moved here it was a huge fucking risk.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like I'm taking a huge leap of faith

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<v Speaker 1>right now and I don't know how I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>do it, but God will provide and he has provided.

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<v Speaker 1>And I've been in this home for three years. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how long I'm going to be here. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know because the job that I have it's a career.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's not like this is why you, guys, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so passionate about school or about learning some type of trait,

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<v Speaker 1>something that no one can ever take from you. Because

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<v Speaker 1>I just have my high school diploma. I didn't go

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<v Speaker 1>to college, and it's never too late to go to

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<v Speaker 1>college if I want to go and become a psychologist.

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<v Speaker 1>I can probably do it. It's just gonna take me

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<v Speaker 1>like for years or whatever. But anyways, like my job is,

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<v Speaker 1>so I guess the word is unreliable. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if I'm people are still gonna love me next year,

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<v Speaker 1>and if brands are still gonna want to work with me,

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<v Speaker 1>or you guys are still gonna want to buy my products. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what happens with the entertainment world. Things

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<v Speaker 1>are changing so rapidly. It's getting harder and harder to

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<v Speaker 1>fill up these venues, and not just with me with

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<v Speaker 1>huge artists. Like a lot of people were in a recession.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of people are saving their money. I see

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<v Speaker 1>it on e commerce, Like things are constantly changing. So

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<v Speaker 1>for me, I can have this position and I can

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<v Speaker 1>have all the things that I'm doing and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>Chiky Sinfield throw and my music and my books and

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<v Speaker 1>my podcast, but I never know what's gonna happen. So

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be able to be okay with knowing, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I was there and I treated people well, and those

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<v Speaker 1>people that I treated well on my way up quote unquote,

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<v Speaker 1>if I turn around, I need their help later or

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<v Speaker 1>I need to sleep on someone's couch they're not gonna say, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you were a bitch to me. They're probably gonna say, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>don't even worry, here's my couch, here's this extra room.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me feed you, Let me feed you and your husband. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have to have a high position in the

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<v Speaker 1>world to be nicer, to be mean to people. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just we're human beings. At the end of the day.

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<v Speaker 1>We are all made of bones, flesh, blood, tendons, like

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<v Speaker 1>we're all made the same. We all are born and

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<v Speaker 1>then we die. What we do in the middle of

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<v Speaker 1>that determines so much. So with this whole situation that happened,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was thinking, and I was feeling sad and

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<v Speaker 1>just disappointed with certain things and certain people just got

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<v Speaker 1>me thinking of just so many things and how important

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<v Speaker 1>it is never to feel like you are more than

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<v Speaker 1>anyone else, and also how important it is for you

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<v Speaker 1>not to feel like you're less than anyone else. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you're any less. Then even the President of

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<v Speaker 1>the United States, guys like I could probably be in

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<v Speaker 1>the same room with the guy, and it was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to be respectful and I'm gonna be cordial,

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<v Speaker 1>but you're still human at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>you still deserve respect because of thee because you're a human.

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<v Speaker 1>Do I agree with everything that you do? Maybe not,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm still going to be respectful. But I don't

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<v Speaker 1>feel less. I don't feel like you are better than me.

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<v Speaker 1>Like we have to understand like the value of being

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<v Speaker 1>alive and what we bring to the world and do

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<v Speaker 1>it every single day, like intentionally. There goes the word

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<v Speaker 1>intentional of being just good humans and treating people well

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<v Speaker 1>and doing good even when people aren't watching, especially when

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<v Speaker 1>people aren't watching. That shows if you are a person

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<v Speaker 1>of integrity, when you do things good things when people

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<v Speaker 1>aren't watching, never think like, oh, I have this position,

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<v Speaker 1>it's never gonna be taken away from me. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to help you because you're less than me. You're

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<v Speaker 1>lower than me. I cannot with that, and I have

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<v Speaker 1>experienced it with even other artists, other female artists, that

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<v Speaker 1>feel because they've been in the game longer than I have,

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<v Speaker 1>because maybe they don't like my voice, they've accomplished more

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<v Speaker 1>than I have, they have more streams than I do.

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<v Speaker 1>They feel like, oh, she's less or I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to do a duet with her because she's not on

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<v Speaker 1>my level. What I honestly, I used to let that

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<v Speaker 1>stuff get to me. Now I'm just like, hmmm, feels

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<v Speaker 1>so bad for you. I have given people opportunities because

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<v Speaker 1>God has given me this platform and any way that

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<v Speaker 1>I can help someone and they can help me and

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<v Speaker 1>we can help each other. Why the hell wouldn't I

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<v Speaker 1>do it. I never have thought that I'm too good

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<v Speaker 1>for anyone where it's like, I can't do this song

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<v Speaker 1>with her because she doesn't have a lot of followers,

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<v Speaker 1>and what is she gonna do for me. I've had

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<v Speaker 1>that happen to me a lot where people that I

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<v Speaker 1>have admired and I've wanted to do collabse with and

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<v Speaker 1>they have said no, and it's hurt my feelings and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, damn, that sucks. But now I look back

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<v Speaker 1>and it's not to make fun and it's not to

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<v Speaker 1>say ha ha ha, that's what you get. But they're

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<v Speaker 1>not filling up stadiums the way they used to. People

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<v Speaker 1>don't believe they're little acts anymore. They're not the cool

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<v Speaker 1>kids on the block anymore. Meanwhile, thank God, thank you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>Little by little things are getting better for me in

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<v Speaker 1>my career. And if they were to come and ask

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<v Speaker 1>me if they wanted to do a duet. Let's say,

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<v Speaker 1>in a year. I am fucking killing it. My streams

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<v Speaker 1>are crazy, like I'm filling up stadium. And they came

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<v Speaker 1>and said, hey, I know I said no to you before,

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<v Speaker 1>but would you be willing to do a duet with

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<v Speaker 1>me or a collab? I'd probably say yes, guys, even

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<v Speaker 1>though they closed the door on my face, because at

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<v Speaker 1>the end of the day, it's not my place to

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<v Speaker 1>judge anyone unless they did really something really messed up

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<v Speaker 1>to me. But all they did was say no, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they did it hurt my feelings? Yes? Do I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's messed up when I do that? No, But at

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<v Speaker 1>least I can say, well, they'll never be able to

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<v Speaker 1>say that my career became what it is or what

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<v Speaker 1>it will be because they gave me the opportunity. Would

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<v Speaker 1>I have loved to do something with them, Yes, but

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<v Speaker 1>they thought they were too good for me. And that's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing my thing. It's taking a little longer than others,

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<v Speaker 1>but a candle that burns twice as bright burns twice

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<v Speaker 1>as fast. The faster you get somewhere. I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>the faster the fall. It's not about getting there, it's

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<v Speaker 1>about sustaining yourself. And I have seen it where people

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<v Speaker 1>will step on anyone. These are called opportunists to get

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<v Speaker 1>to a place, to achieve something, and they'll screw anyone

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<v Speaker 1>over to get there. And they get there because again

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<v Speaker 1>they've screwed a lot of people over, but they don't

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<v Speaker 1>last a long time up there, and the fall, unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 1>is very hard. Again, I've seen it so many times,

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<v Speaker 1>which is why I wanted to tell you guys, be careful.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to be an artist. You don't have

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<v Speaker 1>to be on television to listen to what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Even in your office, if you have a higher position

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<v Speaker 1>than someone else, be nice, be respectful, be friendly, give

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<v Speaker 1>someone a smile. You never know what people are going through,

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<v Speaker 1>and you never know if that janitor that you are

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<v Speaker 1>littling freakin works his ass off for her ass off

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<v Speaker 1>and surpasses you. It's happened. There are so many stories

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<v Speaker 1>like that of people that started off at the lowest

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<v Speaker 1>position in their company and they become the chairman. Like

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<v Speaker 1>it happens. Guys, Be nice to everyone, Be nice to

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<v Speaker 1>the lady on the on the corner selling flowers. There's

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<v Speaker 1>nothing more beautiful than a person that is spreading and

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<v Speaker 1>radiating love and respecting others. And I don't know how

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<v Speaker 1>this all even started with just that little conversation that

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<v Speaker 1>we had, because I feel like it had nothing to

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<v Speaker 1>do with the issue that I was having, but it

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<v Speaker 1>was just I didn't get into details with you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why as well. But I just I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I felt it in my heart and I just see

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<v Speaker 1>it so much, especially in my industry, especially in my industry,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, it's so fucking sad. It's so depleting. It's

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<v Speaker 1>so I can cry about it right now, because people

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<v Speaker 1>can be so mean, Like it's so mean, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just so happy. I'm so proud to say that no

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<v Speaker 1>matter what, no one can never say that I was

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<v Speaker 1>mean to them and that I felt like I was

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<v Speaker 1>better than them. Granted, I'm not perfect. I'm sure I've

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<v Speaker 1>had an attitude or whatnot, but I always am very

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<v Speaker 1>intentional of treating people right because I am so grateful

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<v Speaker 1>to have everything that I have, But I also know

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm wise enough to know that it can be

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<v Speaker 1>taken away from me, and I want to treat people well,

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<v Speaker 1>and I want them to have this good feeling about

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<v Speaker 1>me when they think about Cheeky's. That's part of my legacy.

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<v Speaker 1>One day when I'm gone, I want people to be

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<v Speaker 1>able to say, she was very nice to me. She

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<v Speaker 1>gave me a smile. She didn't have to say hello

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<v Speaker 1>to me when I walk into a room because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>quote unquote no one, but she did. Like That's what

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to just leave in your guys's hearts

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<v Speaker 1>and imprint it in your mind and in your heart

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<v Speaker 1>is for you guys to just be fucking nice, because

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<v Speaker 1>it's something that I have to deal with a lot

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<v Speaker 1>being a woman in the industry and dealing with other women.

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<v Speaker 1>Because they asked me to interview the other day, what

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<v Speaker 1>do you think needs to change Cheeky's for women to

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<v Speaker 1>become more successful and to have a better position in

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<v Speaker 1>your genre. And my answer was women that are in

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<v Speaker 1>important positions in the industry to give us women the opportunity.

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<v Speaker 1>There's so much jealousy and the women instead of supporting women,

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<v Speaker 1>they support the men and they won't even give us

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<v Speaker 1>the time of day, and they are in high positions,

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<v Speaker 1>and as a woman, it makes me proud to see. Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>that girl got there, but she won't take the time

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<v Speaker 1>to look down at me or at us and say, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>let me give you an interview, let me play your music,

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<v Speaker 1>let me whatever the case may be. And not only that,

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<v Speaker 1>other artists, other women, female artists, for them to also

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<v Speaker 1>give us the opportunity, the ones that came before us,

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<v Speaker 1>to say, hey, is there any type of advice that

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<v Speaker 1>I can give you? Like something? And that's what I

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<v Speaker 1>feel is missing in the world in general. But anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I've talked about so many different things

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<v Speaker 1>on this episode, but it's just I'm just talking. I

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<v Speaker 1>haven't even looked at my note to you guys. I

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<v Speaker 1>am just letting my heart speak. And this is what

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<v Speaker 1>I love about my podcast, that I'm able to just

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<v Speaker 1>talk and express myself. And it's like a form of

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<v Speaker 1>therapy for me. That I am out here in the

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<v Speaker 1>world learning and dealing with a lot of things and

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people in a lot of shitty situations.

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<v Speaker 1>But I can turn around and talk to you guys

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<v Speaker 1>and hopefully help you and for you to learn something

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<v Speaker 1>from my experiences. And that's what this episode is about, really,

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<v Speaker 1>And now that I'm thinking about it. I mean, we

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<v Speaker 1>learn as children or as people. We learn a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of the things that we're passionate about, or just our

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<v Speaker 1>traits and how we are from our par parents and

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of things I didn't learn. I learned along

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<v Speaker 1>the way, and I learned from reading books and stuff

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<v Speaker 1>like that. But if I really think about it, that's

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<v Speaker 1>something that my mom did. My mom, even if she

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<v Speaker 1>had a very strong attitude, my mother was very respectful

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<v Speaker 1>and very cordial to everyone. She would also put you

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<v Speaker 1>in your place real quick and say some pretty mean things,

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<v Speaker 1>but she was straight up. She wouldn't like run around

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<v Speaker 1>the bush. But I think that that's definitely where I

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<v Speaker 1>saw it. And I saw how my mom treated everyone equally,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just thought it was just such a beautiful thing,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, And I thank her for that because I

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<v Speaker 1>see it in my siblings, and my siblings are the

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<v Speaker 1>same way, and that's something I guess I learned from her.

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<v Speaker 1>And I've led by example with my siblings and they've

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<v Speaker 1>seen and I love that, like I love to see

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<v Speaker 1>that we really really, none of them, not one of us,

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<v Speaker 1>thinks that we're better than anyone else, or we've wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to get out of situations or into situations because we

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<v Speaker 1>are the children of its like we treat people the

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<v Speaker 1>way we want to be treated. And I think that

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<v Speaker 1>that's one of the most beautiful things people can do.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't mean to boast and like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>to my own horn, but sometimes you just got toot it,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, tooto Lulu. You know. So I'm just very proud,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess, of my siblings and and I never want

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<v Speaker 1>to forget this. And that's why I want to like

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<v Speaker 1>leave it here on this podcast so that there is

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<v Speaker 1>a record of it and it keeps me accountable that guys,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I could be like the next Beyonce. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>And I want to remember this podcast in this episode

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<v Speaker 1>and remember that I said this saying and this is

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<v Speaker 1>a whole other thing again, this episode is everywhere, guys.

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<v Speaker 1>But anyways, I choose to bend the knee to kneel

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<v Speaker 1>at night because that's my way of humbling myself, of

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<v Speaker 1>reminding myself, Yes, I did all these things all day long.

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<v Speaker 1>I was on television, I went on stage, whatever. But

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<v Speaker 1>at the end of the day, I need to humble

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<v Speaker 1>myself before a higher power and remind myself that there

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<v Speaker 1>is something someone higher and bigger than I am, and

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<v Speaker 1>that just keeps me grounded. And that's why I do it,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm like, Okay, doesn't matter what I do in

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<v Speaker 1>the world, what position I have, at the end of

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<v Speaker 1>the day, I have someone that I need to respect.

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<v Speaker 1>Hopefully that makes sense. But anyways, again, guys, I appreciate

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<v Speaker 1>you listening to me and allowing me to express myself

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<v Speaker 1>and pour my heart out and allow me to be

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<v Speaker 1>vulnerable and cry. And this is just such a beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>space for me. And I'm so grateful for my podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so grateful for you guys, for my listeners, and

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<v Speaker 1>I just I'm out here just trying to do my thing,

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<v Speaker 1>do my part, and this is part of it, a

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<v Speaker 1>huge part of it, and I'm just grateful that you

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<v Speaker 1>take the time time to listen. So if you like

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<v Speaker 1>this podcast and you like this episode, share it, share

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<v Speaker 1>it with someone that you feel needs to hear this,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's never too late to change, it's never too

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<v Speaker 1>late to correct. So yeah, guys, I love you, and

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<v Speaker 1>I will catch you on the next episode of Cheekys

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<v Speaker 1>and Chill. I appreciate you. Have a beautiful rest of

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<v Speaker 1>your week. Okay, besitos. Do you need advice on love, relationships,

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<v Speaker 1>health emails? I'm so excited to share with you that

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<v Speaker 1>my Cheekys and Chill podcast will have an extra episode

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<v Speaker 1>drop each week. I'll be answering all your questions. Just

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<v Speaker 1>leave me a voice message. All you have to do

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