Speaker 1: Hello guys, Happy Monday and Happy Labor Day. I hope
Speaker 1: some of you are enjoying an extra long weekend because
Speaker 1: you deserve it. We work so hard and it's so
Speaker 1: important to make time to rest and take care of
Speaker 1: ourselves too. Hashtag note to self. Okay, So I was
Speaker 1: doing some thinking the other day and self reflecting about
Speaker 1: how we should never feel like we're better than anyone
Speaker 1: else or above anyone else, and so I wanted to
Speaker 1: unpack that here on the podcast. So that's what we're
Speaker 1: going to talk about today on Jeez and Joe. Are
Speaker 1: you ready? Here we go? So what do I mean
Speaker 1: by never feeling like you're above others? And why does
Speaker 1: it matter? I've seen a lot of things in my life.
Speaker 1: I've experienced quite a bit, a lot of disappointment. I
Speaker 1: have disappointed others, and a lot of those things helped
Speaker 1: me grow and learn. And I was sitting at my
Speaker 1: desk and this whole idea came up because I was
Speaker 1: dealing with some stuff with some people on my team.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to say any names, it's not worth it.
Speaker 1: We've already talked it out. But I just felt very
Speaker 1: sad because I don't like when people feel like they
Speaker 1: are indispensable. When people don't take accountability and responsibility. We've
Speaker 1: talked about this so many times because it's a huge
Speaker 1: pet peep. One day we're going to do an episode
Speaker 1: of my pet peeves, because I have quite a bit. Anyways,
Speaker 1: one of my pet peeves is when people can't humble
Speaker 1: themselves and apologize and take accountability and their ego. And
Speaker 1: we've talked about the ego because ego is not your amigo.
Speaker 1: How it gets in the way of you becoming who
Speaker 1: you are meant to be because you're afraid to be
Speaker 1: vulnerable and to show your real feelings. So anyways, it's
Speaker 1: a whole other episode. My point is, guys, that I
Speaker 1: was in a situation where someone felt like, oh, they'll
Speaker 1: come back, and she can't find anyone else. I cannot
Speaker 1: with that. Like, when you give me that energy, I
Speaker 1: will do anything, in everything to find someone else and
Speaker 1: someone better. And that's just a small part of it,
Speaker 1: because there's so much more to that story, and I
Speaker 1: don't want to get into it because again, we talked
Speaker 1: about things and things are not resolved, but I guess
Speaker 1: we clear the air. I think it's just important that
Speaker 1: we realize that anything can happen at any time. We
Speaker 1: can be on top today and you turn around and
Speaker 1: things have changed. And I've seen it with my own
Speaker 1: two eyes, with people around me, with maybe certain family members, friendships,
Speaker 1: where people are on top and they have all the
Speaker 1: money in the world and the power to buy whatever
Speaker 1: they want and the power to destroy people with the
Speaker 1: money that they have and the power and the positions,
Speaker 1: and they think that they are invincible, and then something happens.
Speaker 1: Life shakes you up. God sits you on your ass
Speaker 1: and everything is taken away, and all those people that
Speaker 1: you treated bad along the way turn their back and say, well,
Speaker 1: you were very mean to me. Why should I help
Speaker 1: you when you need it, when you're on the floor.
Speaker 1: I have seen it freaking happen, guys, I can tell you,
Speaker 1: and you guys know, I'm very honest. I have never
Speaker 1: in my life felt that I am better than anyone
Speaker 1: or less than anyone. I like to treat people the
Speaker 1: way I want to be treated. I will treat the president,
Speaker 1: the CEO of the company the same exact way I
Speaker 1: would treat the janitor that I see that's cleaning the
Speaker 1: restroom that I just used. I promise you because I
Speaker 1: have learned and I have seen it, and I never
Speaker 1: want to go through that. I want to be able
Speaker 1: to say I was nice to everyone, and not because
Speaker 1: it's forced, not because I'm pretending, but because it's really
Speaker 1: who I am. Because I know right now I can
Speaker 1: live in this beautiful home that God has given me,
Speaker 1: and I swear you, guys. I pray and I'm like, God,
Speaker 1: thank you for helping me make ends meet every month,
Speaker 1: because when I moved here it was a huge fucking risk.
Speaker 1: It was like I'm taking a huge leap of faith
Speaker 1: right now and I don't know how I'm going to
Speaker 1: do it, but God will provide and he has provided.
Speaker 1: And I've been in this home for three years. I
Speaker 1: don't know how long I'm going to be here. I
Speaker 1: don't know because the job that I have it's a career.
Speaker 1: But it's not like this is why you, guys, I'm
Speaker 1: so passionate about school or about learning some type of trait,
Speaker 1: something that no one can ever take from you. Because
Speaker 1: I just have my high school diploma. I didn't go
Speaker 1: to college, and it's never too late to go to
Speaker 1: college if I want to go and become a psychologist.
Speaker 1: I can probably do it. It's just gonna take me
Speaker 1: like for years or whatever. But anyways, like my job is,
Speaker 1: so I guess the word is unreliable. I don't know
Speaker 1: if I'm people are still gonna love me next year,
Speaker 1: and if brands are still gonna want to work with me,
Speaker 1: or you guys are still gonna want to buy my products. Like,
Speaker 1: I don't know what happens with the entertainment world. Things
Speaker 1: are changing so rapidly. It's getting harder and harder to
Speaker 1: fill up these venues, and not just with me with
Speaker 1: huge artists. Like a lot of people were in a recession.
Speaker 1: A lot of people are saving their money. I see
Speaker 1: it on e commerce, Like things are constantly changing. So
Speaker 1: for me, I can have this position and I can
Speaker 1: have all the things that I'm doing and you know,
Speaker 1: Chiky Sinfield throw and my music and my books and
Speaker 1: my podcast, but I never know what's gonna happen. So
Speaker 1: I want to be able to be okay with knowing, Hey,
Speaker 1: I was there and I treated people well, and those
Speaker 1: people that I treated well on my way up quote unquote,
Speaker 1: if I turn around, I need their help later or
Speaker 1: I need to sleep on someone's couch they're not gonna say, no,
Speaker 1: you were a bitch to me. They're probably gonna say, hey,
Speaker 1: don't even worry, here's my couch, here's this extra room.
Speaker 1: Let me feed you, Let me feed you and your husband. Like,
Speaker 1: you don't have to have a high position in the
Speaker 1: world to be nicer, to be mean to people. It's
Speaker 1: just we're human beings. At the end of the day.
Speaker 1: We are all made of bones, flesh, blood, tendons, like
Speaker 1: we're all made the same. We all are born and
Speaker 1: then we die. What we do in the middle of
Speaker 1: that determines so much. So with this whole situation that happened,
Speaker 1: and I was thinking, and I was feeling sad and
Speaker 1: just disappointed with certain things and certain people just got
Speaker 1: me thinking of just so many things and how important
Speaker 1: it is never to feel like you are more than
Speaker 1: anyone else, and also how important it is for you
Speaker 1: not to feel like you're less than anyone else. Don't
Speaker 1: feel like you're any less. Then even the President of
Speaker 1: the United States, guys like I could probably be in
Speaker 1: the same room with the guy, and it was like,
Speaker 1: I'm going to be respectful and I'm gonna be cordial,
Speaker 1: but you're still human at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: you still deserve respect because of thee because you're a human.
Speaker 1: Do I agree with everything that you do? Maybe not,
Speaker 1: but I'm still going to be respectful. But I don't
Speaker 1: feel less. I don't feel like you are better than me.
Speaker 1: Like we have to understand like the value of being
Speaker 1: alive and what we bring to the world and do
Speaker 1: it every single day, like intentionally. There goes the word
Speaker 1: intentional of being just good humans and treating people well
Speaker 1: and doing good even when people aren't watching, especially when
Speaker 1: people aren't watching. That shows if you are a person
Speaker 1: of integrity, when you do things good things when people
Speaker 1: aren't watching, never think like, oh, I have this position,
Speaker 1: it's never gonna be taken away from me. I don't
Speaker 1: have to help you because you're less than me. You're
Speaker 1: lower than me. I cannot with that, and I have
Speaker 1: experienced it with even other artists, other female artists, that
Speaker 1: feel because they've been in the game longer than I have,
Speaker 1: because maybe they don't like my voice, they've accomplished more
Speaker 1: than I have, they have more streams than I do.
Speaker 1: They feel like, oh, she's less or I don't want
Speaker 1: to do a duet with her because she's not on
Speaker 1: my level. What I honestly, I used to let that
Speaker 1: stuff get to me. Now I'm just like, hmmm, feels
Speaker 1: so bad for you. I have given people opportunities because
Speaker 1: God has given me this platform and any way that
Speaker 1: I can help someone and they can help me and
Speaker 1: we can help each other. Why the hell wouldn't I
Speaker 1: do it. I never have thought that I'm too good
Speaker 1: for anyone where it's like, I can't do this song
Speaker 1: with her because she doesn't have a lot of followers,
Speaker 1: and what is she gonna do for me. I've had
Speaker 1: that happen to me a lot where people that I
Speaker 1: have admired and I've wanted to do collabse with and
Speaker 1: they have said no, and it's hurt my feelings and
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn, that sucks. But now I look back
Speaker 1: and it's not to make fun and it's not to
Speaker 1: say ha ha ha, that's what you get. But they're
Speaker 1: not filling up stadiums the way they used to. People
Speaker 1: don't believe they're little acts anymore. They're not the cool
Speaker 1: kids on the block anymore. Meanwhile, thank God, thank you guys.
Speaker 1: Little by little things are getting better for me in
Speaker 1: my career. And if they were to come and ask
Speaker 1: me if they wanted to do a duet. Let's say,
Speaker 1: in a year. I am fucking killing it. My streams
Speaker 1: are crazy, like I'm filling up stadium. And they came
Speaker 1: and said, hey, I know I said no to you before,
Speaker 1: but would you be willing to do a duet with
Speaker 1: me or a collab? I'd probably say yes, guys, even
Speaker 1: though they closed the door on my face, because at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, it's not my place to
Speaker 1: judge anyone unless they did really something really messed up
Speaker 1: to me. But all they did was say no, Yeah,
Speaker 1: they did it hurt my feelings? Yes? Do I think
Speaker 1: it's messed up when I do that? No, But at
Speaker 1: least I can say, well, they'll never be able to
Speaker 1: say that my career became what it is or what
Speaker 1: it will be because they gave me the opportunity. Would
Speaker 1: I have loved to do something with them, Yes, but
Speaker 1: they thought they were too good for me. And that's okay.
Speaker 1: I'm doing my thing. It's taking a little longer than others,
Speaker 1: but a candle that burns twice as bright burns twice
Speaker 1: as fast. The faster you get somewhere. I feel like
Speaker 1: the faster the fall. It's not about getting there, it's
Speaker 1: about sustaining yourself. And I have seen it where people
Speaker 1: will step on anyone. These are called opportunists to get
Speaker 1: to a place, to achieve something, and they'll screw anyone
Speaker 1: over to get there. And they get there because again
Speaker 1: they've screwed a lot of people over, but they don't
Speaker 1: last a long time up there, and the fall, unfortunately,
Speaker 1: is very hard. Again, I've seen it so many times,
Speaker 1: which is why I wanted to tell you guys, be careful.
Speaker 1: You don't have to be an artist. You don't have
Speaker 1: to be on television to listen to what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Even in your office, if you have a higher position
Speaker 1: than someone else, be nice, be respectful, be friendly, give
Speaker 1: someone a smile. You never know what people are going through,
Speaker 1: and you never know if that janitor that you are
Speaker 1: littling freakin works his ass off for her ass off
Speaker 1: and surpasses you. It's happened. There are so many stories
Speaker 1: like that of people that started off at the lowest
Speaker 1: position in their company and they become the chairman. Like
Speaker 1: it happens. Guys, Be nice to everyone, Be nice to
Speaker 1: the lady on the on the corner selling flowers. There's
Speaker 1: nothing more beautiful than a person that is spreading and
Speaker 1: radiating love and respecting others. And I don't know how
Speaker 1: this all even started with just that little conversation that
Speaker 1: we had, because I feel like it had nothing to
Speaker 1: do with the issue that I was having, but it
Speaker 1: was just I didn't get into details with you guys.
Speaker 1: That's why as well. But I just I don't know.
Speaker 1: I felt it in my heart and I just see
Speaker 1: it so much, especially in my industry, especially in my industry,
Speaker 1: you guys, it's so fucking sad. It's so depleting. It's
Speaker 1: so I can cry about it right now, because people
Speaker 1: can be so mean, Like it's so mean, and I'm
Speaker 1: just so happy. I'm so proud to say that no
Speaker 1: matter what, no one can never say that I was
Speaker 1: mean to them and that I felt like I was
Speaker 1: better than them. Granted, I'm not perfect. I'm sure I've
Speaker 1: had an attitude or whatnot, but I always am very
Speaker 1: intentional of treating people right because I am so grateful
Speaker 1: to have everything that I have, But I also know
Speaker 1: and I'm wise enough to know that it can be
Speaker 1: taken away from me, and I want to treat people well,
Speaker 1: and I want them to have this good feeling about
Speaker 1: me when they think about Cheeky's. That's part of my legacy.
Speaker 1: One day when I'm gone, I want people to be
Speaker 1: able to say, she was very nice to me. She
Speaker 1: gave me a smile. She didn't have to say hello
Speaker 1: to me when I walk into a room because I'm
Speaker 1: quote unquote no one, but she did. Like That's what
Speaker 1: I just want to just leave in your guys's hearts
Speaker 1: and imprint it in your mind and in your heart
Speaker 1: is for you guys to just be fucking nice, because
Speaker 1: it's something that I have to deal with a lot
Speaker 1: being a woman in the industry and dealing with other women.
Speaker 1: Because they asked me to interview the other day, what
Speaker 1: do you think needs to change Cheeky's for women to
Speaker 1: become more successful and to have a better position in
Speaker 1: your genre. And my answer was women that are in
Speaker 1: important positions in the industry to give us women the opportunity.
Speaker 1: There's so much jealousy and the women instead of supporting women,
Speaker 1: they support the men and they won't even give us
Speaker 1: the time of day, and they are in high positions,
Speaker 1: and as a woman, it makes me proud to see. Wow,
Speaker 1: that girl got there, but she won't take the time
Speaker 1: to look down at me or at us and say, hey,
Speaker 1: let me give you an interview, let me play your music,
Speaker 1: let me whatever the case may be. And not only that,
Speaker 1: other artists, other women, female artists, for them to also
Speaker 1: give us the opportunity, the ones that came before us,
Speaker 1: to say, hey, is there any type of advice that
Speaker 1: I can give you? Like something? And that's what I
Speaker 1: feel is missing in the world in general. But anyways,
Speaker 1: I feel like I've talked about so many different things
Speaker 1: on this episode, but it's just I'm just talking. I
Speaker 1: haven't even looked at my note to you guys. I
Speaker 1: am just letting my heart speak. And this is what
Speaker 1: I love about my podcast, that I'm able to just
Speaker 1: talk and express myself. And it's like a form of
Speaker 1: therapy for me. That I am out here in the
Speaker 1: world learning and dealing with a lot of things and
Speaker 1: a lot of people in a lot of shitty situations.
Speaker 1: But I can turn around and talk to you guys
Speaker 1: and hopefully help you and for you to learn something
Speaker 1: from my experiences. And that's what this episode is about, really,
Speaker 1: And now that I'm thinking about it. I mean, we
Speaker 1: learn as children or as people. We learn a lot
Speaker 1: of the things that we're passionate about, or just our
Speaker 1: traits and how we are from our par parents and
Speaker 1: a lot of things I didn't learn. I learned along
Speaker 1: the way, and I learned from reading books and stuff
Speaker 1: like that. But if I really think about it, that's
Speaker 1: something that my mom did. My mom, even if she
Speaker 1: had a very strong attitude, my mother was very respectful
Speaker 1: and very cordial to everyone. She would also put you
Speaker 1: in your place real quick and say some pretty mean things,
Speaker 1: but she was straight up. She wouldn't like run around
Speaker 1: the bush. But I think that that's definitely where I
Speaker 1: saw it. And I saw how my mom treated everyone equally,
Speaker 1: and I just thought it was just such a beautiful thing,
Speaker 1: you know, And I thank her for that because I
Speaker 1: see it in my siblings, and my siblings are the
Speaker 1: same way, and that's something I guess I learned from her.
Speaker 1: And I've led by example with my siblings and they've
Speaker 1: seen and I love that, like I love to see
Speaker 1: that we really really, none of them, not one of us,
Speaker 1: thinks that we're better than anyone else, or we've wanted
Speaker 1: to get out of situations or into situations because we
Speaker 1: are the children of its like we treat people the
Speaker 1: way we want to be treated. And I think that
Speaker 1: that's one of the most beautiful things people can do.
Speaker 1: And I don't mean to boast and like, you know,
Speaker 1: to my own horn, but sometimes you just got toot it,
Speaker 1: you know, tooto Lulu. You know. So I'm just very proud,
Speaker 1: I guess, of my siblings and and I never want
Speaker 1: to forget this. And that's why I want to like
Speaker 1: leave it here on this podcast so that there is
Speaker 1: a record of it and it keeps me accountable that guys,
Speaker 1: maybe I could be like the next Beyonce. I don't know.
Speaker 1: And I want to remember this podcast in this episode
Speaker 1: and remember that I said this saying and this is
Speaker 1: a whole other thing again, this episode is everywhere, guys.
Speaker 1: But anyways, I choose to bend the knee to kneel
Speaker 1: at night because that's my way of humbling myself, of
Speaker 1: reminding myself, Yes, I did all these things all day long.
Speaker 1: I was on television, I went on stage, whatever. But
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, I need to humble
Speaker 1: myself before a higher power and remind myself that there
Speaker 1: is something someone higher and bigger than I am, and
Speaker 1: that just keeps me grounded. And that's why I do it,
Speaker 1: because I'm like, Okay, doesn't matter what I do in
Speaker 1: the world, what position I have, at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, I have someone that I need to respect.
Speaker 1: Hopefully that makes sense. But anyways, again, guys, I appreciate
Speaker 1: you listening to me and allowing me to express myself
Speaker 1: and pour my heart out and allow me to be
Speaker 1: vulnerable and cry. And this is just such a beautiful
Speaker 1: space for me. And I'm so grateful for my podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for you guys, for my listeners, and
Speaker 1: I just I'm out here just trying to do my thing,
Speaker 1: do my part, and this is part of it, a
Speaker 1: huge part of it, and I'm just grateful that you
Speaker 1: take the time time to listen. So if you like
Speaker 1: this podcast and you like this episode, share it, share
Speaker 1: it with someone that you feel needs to hear this,
Speaker 1: because it's never too late to change, it's never too
Speaker 1: late to correct. So yeah, guys, I love you, and
Speaker 1: I will catch you on the next episode of Cheekys
Speaker 1: and Chill. I appreciate you. Have a beautiful rest of
Speaker 1: your week. Okay, besitos. Do you need advice on love, relationships,
Speaker 1: health emails? I'm so excited to share with you that
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