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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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Speaker 1: tip is to come up with creative ways to split

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Speaker 1: the holidays. If you have a big family, Inevitably some

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Speaker 1: folks are going to need or want to spend holidays

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Speaker 1: with other sides of the family. But if you plan well,

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Speaker 1: you might be able to see everyone and avoid bad

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Speaker 1: feelings too. If you have a partner, it is possible

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Speaker 1: that you live near both sides of your family, or

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Speaker 1: maybe one family loves to celebrate Thanksgiving while another leans

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Speaker 1: more into Christmas or another religious holiday. If so, that

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Speaker 1: is great, but many families wind up in more complicated situations.

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Speaker 1: Two sets of grandparents are many hours away from each

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Speaker 1: other and both want their whole broods under their roofs.

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Speaker 1: Or maybe one particular family member can't or won't travel

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Speaker 1: or has to work on the holiday itself, which means

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Speaker 1: that people more often than not wind up going to them.

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Speaker 1: That means these travelers don't get to spend holiday time

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Speaker 1: at home, which many people like to do too. You

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Speaker 1: can alternate doing Christmas and Thanksgiving with each side of

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Speaker 1: the family, But what if another set of siblings is

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Speaker 1: on a different schedule, then you are never seeing them. Ideally,

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Speaker 1: everyone is accommodating, but that doesn't always happen. It can

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Speaker 1: lead to hard feelings. But I recently heard an idea

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Speaker 1: which I find is intriguing and is a good one

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Speaker 1: for the matriarch or patriarch of a far flung or

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Speaker 1: big family to implement. That is, you establish a holiday

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Speaker 1: gathering time that is not Thanksgiving or Christmas. You all

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Speaker 1: gather on your family's particular celebration day, but that leaves

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Speaker 1: the other days open for families who wish or need

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Speaker 1: to celebrate with their other side of the family, or

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Speaker 1: who'd like to stay home. Your family's celebration day could

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Speaker 1: still be around the holidays. For instance, you could host

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Speaker 1: your big holiday gathering on a mid December weekend. You

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Speaker 1: all gather on, say December seventeenth. People might need to

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Speaker 1: take a day or two off work to travel, but

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Speaker 1: maybe not too many days. And in any case, for

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Speaker 1: folks who work in say law enforcement or at a hospital,

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Speaker 1: it might be easier to request the days around decem

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Speaker 1: number seventeenth off than an actual holiday. You can all

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Speaker 1: celebrate and then people can spend Christmas or Thanksgiving at

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Speaker 1: home or with other relatives if they wish, or those

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Speaker 1: who are available can gather again if they want to.

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Speaker 1: More family time, fewer bad feelings now. To be sure,

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Speaker 1: there are often a lot of office parties and kid

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Speaker 1: Christmas events and such on December weekends, So to make

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Speaker 1: this even easier on people, you might host your holiday

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Speaker 1: gathering the weekend after New Year's whatever that happens to be.

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Speaker 1: I will note that the twelve days of Christmas actually

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Speaker 1: happen after Christmas, extending to January sixth. Many places still

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Speaker 1: have their lights up, and it might be easier to

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Speaker 1: get tickets if you are the frugal sort. I'd note

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Speaker 1: that having a family holiday party around January sixth means

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Speaker 1: you've got a week of shopping time available during the

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Speaker 1: biggest sales of the year. How much of a win

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Speaker 1: is that, plus you stretch out the fun. January can

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Speaker 1: be bleary in many places, having a big celebration to

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Speaker 1: look forward to pushes any doldrums off a few weeks

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Speaker 1: closer to spring. So if you've got a big family

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Speaker 1: you'd like to see, and many of your family members

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Speaker 1: have other sides of the family that they need or

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Speaker 1: want to see, then consider instituting a non holiday holiday.

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Speaker 1: The holidays are more about spending time with loved ones

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Speaker 1: than the actual dates themselves. If you can arrange to

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Speaker 1: spend time with your whole family without causing tough choices,

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Speaker 1: that's really a huge present you are giving to everyone.

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Speaker 1: It is definitely better than another tie. In the meantime,

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Speaker 1: this is Laura. Thanks for and here's to making the

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Speaker 1: most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear

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