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Speaker 1: Radio radio radio commies, a myth and bullshit. A radio

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Speaker 1: phonic novella. Look Radio hosted by Malamo. Welcome back to

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Speaker 1: look At Radio. Hello Locas, look exis hi Lo keep

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Speaker 1: us keep those welcome back. It's a wild I really missed. Yes, yes,

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Speaker 1: like now that we are, you know, a few months

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Speaker 1: into this and we're a few gutpiple loves in. This

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Speaker 1: is just becoming more and more like a part of

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Speaker 1: the fabric of our lives. Yes, I agree. I felt

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Speaker 1: totally out of sinc when we you know, took a

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Speaker 1: mini break from recording. But I'm happy that we're back.

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Speaker 1: So us to remind folks for if you're listening for

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Speaker 1: the first time, you're just tuning in. UM, we are

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Speaker 1: look at Our Radio where we celebrate the legacies, brilliance

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Speaker 1: and experiences of women and fems of color. Absolutely, we

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Speaker 1: celebrate brown girl, our every all the time. We keep

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Speaker 1: brown girl our brown Girl time. And I'm Mala and

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Speaker 1: we are your look at And today's this, This newest

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Speaker 1: installment of look at Our Radio is all about your space. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: your space, your area, your sanctuary, UM, your home, your haven,

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Speaker 1: wherever you go to lay your head at night. UM.

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Speaker 1: To seek peace and solitude. That's what we're talking about,

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Speaker 1: because I mean, we'll touch more on this, but your

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Speaker 1: physical space really affects your mental space right at your

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Speaker 1: emotional space. It really you know, filters in UM. So

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Speaker 1: we'll talk about that, but before let's give some updates.

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Speaker 1: We presented at a conference recently in April, April twenty twods.

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Speaker 1: Where were we at, Mala. We were at the Avelantemhead

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Speaker 1: conference at Pasadena City College. And first of all, we

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Speaker 1: want to really thank UM the organizers of Avelantemhead who

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Speaker 1: reached out to us and invited us to participate in

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Speaker 1: the conference and invited us to submit a workshop proposal.

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Speaker 1: So we let a couple workshops on from Tech. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we did, and it was so amazing. It was so wonderful.

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Speaker 1: I think in my head I had envisioned high school girls,

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Speaker 1: which there were some high school students, but there were

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Speaker 1: a lot of young girls like sixth graders, seventh graders,

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Speaker 1: absolutely and their mom's and their mother great to see

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Speaker 1: like two generations together UM talking about fem tech and

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Speaker 1: then having them reimagine being able to see the science,

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Speaker 1: the fem science in their day to day lives. And

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Speaker 1: in their mother's work. And I am never gonna forget.

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Speaker 1: We were talking about right, like fem expression and things

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Speaker 1: like makeup and how there's a stem element to putting

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Speaker 1: on makeup right, and the ASA you talk about the

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Speaker 1: symmetry involved, which is a true actual mathematical concept. You

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Speaker 1: can take a university level symmetry math course, right, and

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Speaker 1: symmetry is something that goes into is your winged liner

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Speaker 1: matching up? Right? Um? And one young lady who must

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Speaker 1: have been in middle school, she gave the example of

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Speaker 1: how well her mother cuts hair and how there's so

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Speaker 1: much symmetry involved when her mother is cutting somebody's hair

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Speaker 1: and making sure that the layers are all lined up

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Speaker 1: an asymmetrical look. Right. So that was really cool. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I agree, so many, so many brilliant little fem techis. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was great. I loved it. Um. So that was fun. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And shout out to Becky actually leaked out to us

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Speaker 1: to I and we were able to meet her that day.

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Speaker 1: She was so cute. Yeah, she was. She also said

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Speaker 1: I'm aware. Lets let's challenge what professionalism is? I love

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Speaker 1: it and the dress looked great? Did she kill um?

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Speaker 1: And then we've also been working on something kind of secret.

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Speaker 1: We can't give too many details yet, but it is

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Speaker 1: posted on that. It should be finalized, it shouldn't finalized

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Speaker 1: in the next few weeks. We're gonna drop more hints. Yes,

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Speaker 1: finally comes out. So keep your eyes peeled for that. Yes,

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Speaker 1: and then finally, l A folks, or if you're going

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Speaker 1: and I feel like this summer we're really going to

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Speaker 1: But no, so like being basically being at Frieda's like

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Speaker 1: you know, And um so I call my room the

426
00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:21,479
Speaker 1: palace because it's so me, it's so pink, my vanity

427
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:25,040
Speaker 1: is beautiful. It's just I call it like my it's

428
00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:27,159
Speaker 1: just my space. Right Like if my mom wants to

429
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:28,679
Speaker 1: come and tell me something and I'm like hold on,

430
00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 1: it's a negative and she's like yes, and like you

431
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:32,560
Speaker 1: can't talk about it in here. That's kind of my

432
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 1: role from my room because I'm like, no, this is

433
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:39,680
Speaker 1: my space. Um so yeah, the diosa palace with roses everywhere.

434
00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:43,159
Speaker 1: I have my ceau controllers, you know, hanging, I have

435
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:47,160
Speaker 1: my that is, I have my plants also, so I think,

436
00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:52,000
Speaker 1: um yeah, your your space should be your sanctuary, absolutely,

437
00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 1: and it's and it's a process. It doesn't happen overnight.

438
00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:57,960
Speaker 1: To work on it. You really do have to work

439
00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:00,359
Speaker 1: on it a little by little, yeah, a little by all,

440
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:04,160
Speaker 1: so that it's not so it's like authentically you not

441
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 1: I'm filling up the space because I feel that it

442
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 1: needs to be filled more like for me it's bringing

443
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:14,200
Speaker 1: because like, for example, like my mother. I love my mother,

444
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:17,040
Speaker 1: she's awesome, but she and my grandma, I think, have

445
00:26:17,080 --> 00:26:19,639
Speaker 1: a tendency I think, like a lot of Latino families

446
00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:23,520
Speaker 1: to fill up the space to the brim, Like if

447
00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:26,959
Speaker 1: there's a spare square inch, we need to put you know,

448
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 1: like a little table there or a little nightstand there.

449
00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:32,479
Speaker 1: Needs to be something. It needs to be something. So

450
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:37,520
Speaker 1: I'm trying to like really appreciate that tendency to like,

451
00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 1: you know, utilize the space to maximize the space while

452
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:44,879
Speaker 1: also not letting it get cluttered. Clutter affects me negatively,

453
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:48,119
Speaker 1: but I was raised with a lot of clutter, So

454
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:51,439
Speaker 1: I'm trying to like fight that, you know, maximize the space,

455
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:54,800
Speaker 1: but not be overwhelmed and crowded out of my own area.

456
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:57,520
Speaker 1: You know. That's that's so interesting because we're still like

457
00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 1: extra like excessive pete us to the two of us specifically,

458
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,520
Speaker 1: but here we are talking about how like it needs

459
00:27:07,520 --> 00:27:11,439
Speaker 1: to be minimal trying right, we're trying to make in

460
00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:14,880
Speaker 1: that direction, that general direction, because I aim for that too,

461
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,440
Speaker 1: and it's a struggles. I have a lot of ship.

462
00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:20,000
Speaker 1: It is easier to hold onto things that you don't

463
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:23,080
Speaker 1: need than to really clear out the things that you

464
00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:26,200
Speaker 1: don't need. This is inspiring me to clean out my closet. Also,

465
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 1: it's a disaster and it's a continuous process. Like I

466
00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 1: feel like you're younger and you think, Okay, I cleaned

467
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:36,439
Speaker 1: already and it's over. No, cleaning is continuous, continuous. Clearing

468
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,840
Speaker 1: out is continuous, And I feel like that's a good

469
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 1: metaphor just like for life in general, you know, clearing

470
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:46,240
Speaker 1: your space, your head space, your emotional space, your physical space.

471
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 1: That's a constant process. Yeah, And that just I feel

472
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:52,440
Speaker 1: like I've seen so much on the internet the past

473
00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:55,239
Speaker 1: few weeks or like on Instagram about like how your

474
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 1: ancestors are guiding you, right, the universe is guiding you, like,

475
00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:00,879
Speaker 1: don't be afraid, don't be fearful, Like you have a

476
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 1: tribe of people behind you guiding you. Absolutely. Yeah, And

477
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:06,879
Speaker 1: I really like that and I think that ties in

478
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:11,880
Speaker 1: yeah yeah, hell yeah, hell yeah. And as far as

479
00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:16,560
Speaker 1: other ways that I've made my space like more conducive

480
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 1: to the energy that I want. I took the TV

481
00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 1: out of my room because I really only used the

482
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,879
Speaker 1: TV to watch the news, and the news is horrific.

483
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:28,960
Speaker 1: It's horrifying. So I've decided that your bedroom, my bedroom

484
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:34,280
Speaker 1: should only be for sleeping, sex and I don't know,

485
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:38,520
Speaker 1: just lounging. Yeah, just lounging. It should just be for

486
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 1: for rest and relaxation. I agree with you. Not that

487
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:47,479
Speaker 1: other type of like mental or like sad or scary

488
00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 1: or traumatizing stimulation. You know, that needs to be outside

489
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 1: of the bedroom. So I that's what I've tried to do.

490
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:56,320
Speaker 1: I try to not have electronics in my room anymore,

491
00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 1: you know. Um, I try not to have too much

492
00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 1: like distraction in my room. You know. The focus should

493
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:07,240
Speaker 1: be I'm there to rest and what I loved, Oh

494
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 1: my god, this is why I'm and free to call

495
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:13,120
Speaker 1: our soul sisters. Is because she had a day bed

496
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 1: and a day bedroom and a night bed. I remember that.

497
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:20,280
Speaker 1: I love it. Yes, So she was all about the

498
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 1: day nap, you know, the lounging during the day, which

499
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 1: I think is great. It's great. Oh, I love lounging.

500
00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:30,880
Speaker 1: And now during the day, if you get if you

501
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:33,440
Speaker 1: get a chance to, if we have a day free,

502
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:36,600
Speaker 1: if we have downtime, then yes, I'm going to lay

503
00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 1: down and take a nap. I'm going to chill. Those

504
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 1: are some of my favorite days. They don't happen often,

505
00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:45,040
Speaker 1: right when they do, it's great, it's great, and it's

506
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:49,240
Speaker 1: exactly what you need sometimes exactly. So I'm wondering, Mala,

507
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 1: what do you have like a morning talking about like

508
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 1: day and night beds? Right, do you have like a

509
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:57,840
Speaker 1: morning ritual and an evening ritual? Is that something that

510
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:01,480
Speaker 1: you're creating? Do you have something already in well? I

511
00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:04,920
Speaker 1: was really raised like waking up like at six thirty.

512
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: I wake up at six thirty. It doesn't matter if

513
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:09,040
Speaker 1: I have an alarm, Like my body wakes up at

514
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 1: that time regardless, and turning on the news and having

515
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 1: a cup of coffee and like sitting down and just

516
00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:20,080
Speaker 1: like waking up, having something to eat. I always take

517
00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 1: a shower in the morning. Um, if I can, I'll

518
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:27,040
Speaker 1: take for a walk, you know, because I like to

519
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,800
Speaker 1: do like you know, a lap around the block. Um,

520
00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 1: not running, walking slowly, you know, a little sachet around

521
00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:41,840
Speaker 1: the block, and that's usually like a good morning for me. Um.

522
00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:44,400
Speaker 1: It's good to make your bed if you can. Absolutely.

523
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:47,640
Speaker 1: My mother, I don't remember if it was my mother

524
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:53,760
Speaker 1: or my best friends her mother, but somebody has Senora

525
00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:56,240
Speaker 1: told us when we were younger that if you don't

526
00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 1: make your bed in the morning, then the devil sleeps

527
00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 1: in it. You're in the day. Yes, I've heard right.

528
00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 1: So that has gotten me into the frame of mind

529
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 1: that I better make my bed because I don't even

530
00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 1: want to risk it. I don't even need like, I

531
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:14,760
Speaker 1: don't need just I don't need any other gateways for

532
00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:17,280
Speaker 1: the devil to get to me are enough. I don't

533
00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:21,440
Speaker 1: need to leave any open invitation. I'm just saying it's

534
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:25,120
Speaker 1: a precaution. I love that. So I have a very

535
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 1: similar ritual in the morning. Recently, in the past few months,

536
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 1: I've been really struggling to eat like breakfast and even

537
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 1: like wake up. It's been and I've never been this way,

538
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 1: but in the past few months it's been a thing.

539
00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:40,520
Speaker 1: So I'm trying to track it and see what it is. Um.

540
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:43,320
Speaker 1: But generally my morning is very similar to my mother's.

541
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 1: It's very much like we're we listened to the radio.

542
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:49,200
Speaker 1: My mom always says, Caleb on in the morning, I know,

543
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:52,280
Speaker 1: and or I can from my bedroom, I can hear

544
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:55,160
Speaker 1: the news that she's watching, so I can tune in

545
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 1: while I'm putting my makeup on and having my cup

546
00:31:57,320 --> 00:32:00,960
Speaker 1: of coffee. And that's my morning ritual. I feel like

547
00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:05,040
Speaker 1: I'm always sucking rushing, which I hate that about the morning.

548
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:07,719
Speaker 1: My mornings, I'm always rushing, even though I would love

549
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 1: it to be like a ritual like Frank, you know,

550
00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:13,400
Speaker 1: unfortunately I'm not there yet, but I'm working on it.

551
00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:17,600
Speaker 1: Um it's a process. And then in terms of the evening,

552
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 1: do you have any evening ritual? I like I go

553
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:26,240
Speaker 1: in and out of rituals in the evening because like

554
00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 1: sometimes I'm just so tired, Like I just want to

555
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 1: go home and just sit and just like veg and

556
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:35,080
Speaker 1: just go to sleep aboutely, I do like a glass

557
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:38,720
Speaker 1: of wine at night. I have only very recently found,

558
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 1: like discovered the power of the bubble bath. Like I've

559
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 1: taken bubble baths before, but I have a tub now,

560
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:49,920
Speaker 1: and I'm like, why don't I utilize this let me

561
00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:53,280
Speaker 1: take a hot bubble bath and have a glass of wine,

562
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 1: and it was incredible. I've never felt so relaxed in

563
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,360
Speaker 1: my life, you know. Afterwards that was me a few

564
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:01,600
Speaker 1: like maybe a month or two ago. I hadn't I

565
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:04,720
Speaker 1: don't really have edibles and I don't smoke either, but

566
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:06,480
Speaker 1: I had like half of an edible and I took

567
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:08,480
Speaker 1: a bath and it was and it was amazing. I

568
00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:10,320
Speaker 1: felt so relaxed. I was like, I'm going to sleep

569
00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:13,560
Speaker 1: in this bathtub. I need to get out exactly. It

570
00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:17,200
Speaker 1: was beautiful. I had never felt so relaxed. Yeah, a bath,

571
00:33:17,600 --> 00:33:20,959
Speaker 1: a bubble bath, like that's a real tool if you have.

572
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:24,080
Speaker 1: If you have that available, I highly recommend it. Take

573
00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:27,640
Speaker 1: that extra time and soak that. Like it's going to

574
00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:31,920
Speaker 1: be my new like alternative turn up. Like I might

575
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:33,640
Speaker 1: not be at the club, but I will be in

576
00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 1: a body. I asked Mela when she did last night,

577
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 1: did you make it out? She was like, no, I

578
00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:42,120
Speaker 1: fell asleep. I don't go out as much anymore. I'm

579
00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 1: just okay. I'm tired. It's exhausting. It's exhausting, exhausting, and

580
00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 1: I feel like after a while, I get this feeling

581
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:54,200
Speaker 1: that we've already been everywhere. I only do so much

582
00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:59,880
Speaker 1: shout out mommy, collective, collective, our party crew, sisterhood, mommy,

583
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:02,960
Speaker 1: these all of that above. Um, but yeah, do not.

584
00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 1: We cannot end up at ONYX anymore, never again. Please

585
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 1: know A the men apparently are extremely aggressive and become

586
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 1: violent in the sucking toss of a coin because as

587
00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 1: we know, men are trash hashtag men are trash ak

588
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:22,160
Speaker 1: men are trash translation, men are trash um and we

589
00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 1: hold firm to that belief. It's a belief at this point,

590
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:29,480
Speaker 1: it's just a piece of our local epistemology. It is

591
00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:35,319
Speaker 1: or no segment those coming apart. Two is coming up.

592
00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 1: But we've had friends like you know, talk to guys

593
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:41,880
Speaker 1: who end up having like newborn babies and fiance's and

594
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 1: entire families. And then our friend, Um, I guess these

595
00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:49,600
Speaker 1: guys started talking to her and they came off as

596
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:53,600
Speaker 1: quote unquote nice guys, complimenting her, but then when she

597
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:56,080
Speaker 1: walked away, she didn't want to talk to them anymore.

598
00:34:56,200 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 1: Like I guess, immediately they flipped and they called her

599
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:02,400
Speaker 1: like a miserable bitch and this and that and started

600
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:06,160
Speaker 1: kussing in her, which is like why do we keep

601
00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:09,800
Speaker 1: having these experiences We shouldn't have these experiences. Keep in mind,

602
00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:14,839
Speaker 1: these are adults, adult men exactly, that can't regulate their

603
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:18,600
Speaker 1: own emotions. Yeah, that happened to me recently at at

604
00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:22,440
Speaker 1: a fundraiser that I was at where well, not that exactly,

605
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 1: but somebody there was really insistently trying to talk to

606
00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 1: me and kept trying to take me outside or talk

607
00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:31,440
Speaker 1: to the side, like just really trying to have a

608
00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:33,239
Speaker 1: conversation with me that I did not want to have

609
00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:35,760
Speaker 1: and away from other people and away from other people

610
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:37,839
Speaker 1: that when I did step out, I had to let

611
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 1: my bodma know, like, hey, if can you come and

612
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:41,920
Speaker 1: get me in five minutes because I don't want to

613
00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:45,279
Speaker 1: be outside with this person. Um, but I just need

614
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:48,239
Speaker 1: to get this over with because they're not leaving me alone, right,

615
00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 1: And unfortunately it had to get to that point, right.

616
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:55,400
Speaker 1: But it's like these are grown people, adults that don't

617
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:59,239
Speaker 1: know it's their needs, what they want when they want

618
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:04,120
Speaker 1: it exactly. And actually, when me and my girlfriends were

619
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 1: in Mexico City, we hadn't experience where of course, the

620
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 1: men that tried us the most aggressively were these white

621
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:17,000
Speaker 1: British businessmen. We were out to dinner one night, me

622
00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:18,920
Speaker 1: and my two home girls. Oh my god, I was

623
00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 1: so upset. I was so mad. I was so mad.

624
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:24,360
Speaker 1: And I'm not afraid to fight with men like I

625
00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:26,839
Speaker 1: will get I will cuss at you, i will tell

626
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:29,319
Speaker 1: you you ain't shit and fuck you in front of

627
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:31,640
Speaker 1: you and all of your homeboys out in public. And

628
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:33,840
Speaker 1: I don't care. Like she has done it, I've seen it,

629
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:36,319
Speaker 1: I'm known, I am known to snap it men, and

630
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 1: I will not hold my tongue. So we're out at dinner.

631
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 1: Luckily I was not drinking. We had just sat down,

632
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,080
Speaker 1: we had just ordered, we didn't have our stuff yet.

633
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:45,280
Speaker 1: And at the table next to us at this restaurant

634
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 1: in Mexico City, there's a mixture of like Mexican business

635
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:51,840
Speaker 1: people in their suits and stuff, and then these white

636
00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:55,759
Speaker 1: British men in their suits, and they were all like

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00:36:56,040 --> 00:37:00,080
Speaker 1: disgustingly drunk. Like everybody was let up, everybody was so girl.

638
00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 1: And one of the white British guys was like making

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00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:04,960
Speaker 1: a big scene and being really sloppy and being really annoying,

640
00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:07,720
Speaker 1: and like the waiters and stuff, like the Mexican waiters

641
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 1: would like stand behind us so that this guy wouldn't

642
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:14,480
Speaker 1: fall on top of us because he was so sloppy.

643
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:16,600
Speaker 1: But then he would come over to our table and

644
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:20,880
Speaker 1: he started, like so drunk, saying to us like, listen, ladies,

645
00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:22,680
Speaker 1: if you want me to leave, just say so. But

646
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:25,680
Speaker 1: I just have something to say. So he lead with that,

647
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 1: if you want me to leave, just say so. So

648
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 1: we said to him immediately, okay, please leave, you know,

649
00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:34,880
Speaker 1: walk away, and then he would repeat listen, listen, listen.

650
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:36,319
Speaker 1: If you don't want me to if you don't want

651
00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:38,840
Speaker 1: me here, just tell me. So we would say go,

652
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:42,439
Speaker 1: please leave, and then he started cussing at us. Oh,

653
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 1: funk off, funk off, are you telling me I don't

654
00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:47,160
Speaker 1: have a chance? This and that? And his friends, all

655
00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,560
Speaker 1: these other men Mexican and British alike. Nobody stopped him,

656
00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:53,799
Speaker 1: nobody pulled him away. He's over here cussing at us,

657
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 1: these random women just trying to get our dinner. And

658
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:02,880
Speaker 1: so he's cussing at us. His friend comes over and

659
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 1: it's just kind of like laughing and enabling him, and

660
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:09,560
Speaker 1: he's participating and like taunting us and stuff, and like

661
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:12,840
Speaker 1: the waiters, nobody said anything to him or pulled him away.

662
00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 1: His friends weren't pulling him away, so I got angry

663
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:17,759
Speaker 1: and I got loud, and I started cussing at him,

664
00:38:17,800 --> 00:38:19,560
Speaker 1: and I was like, you need to funk off and

665
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:23,400
Speaker 1: this and that, because it was so persistent and nobody

666
00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:27,080
Speaker 1: was saying anything, you know, And it was like incredible

667
00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 1: to me because as a woman, I have never had

668
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:34,319
Speaker 1: a desire or a need to like go up to

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00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:38,120
Speaker 1: somebody who like didn't invite me over, didn't signal that

670
00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:40,759
Speaker 1: they want to talk to me, who's actively asking me

671
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:44,880
Speaker 1: to leave and insist on like being there. It's weird

672
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:48,279
Speaker 1: the way that a lot of men insist on like

673
00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 1: imposing their presence on you if you're a woman. So

674
00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:55,480
Speaker 1: it was really annoying. Finally they dragged him away, but

675
00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:58,239
Speaker 1: it was like I could not believe, like really in

676
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:03,040
Speaker 1: Mexico City, this white man just tried me. Like it's

677
00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:06,600
Speaker 1: just frustrating, you know, frustrating. So how do you keep

678
00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 1: your space positive? Exactly? That's exactly what I was gonna say.

679
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:11,919
Speaker 1: We live in a harsh ass world where men won't quit,

680
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 1: women are trashed. So having your sanctuary, having your space,

681
00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:20,040
Speaker 1: your sacred space away from away from men, for yourself,

682
00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 1: away from any toxic people, anyone um that you need

683
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 1: to get away from, because when we're out in public,

684
00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 1: we can't control who comes into our space or imposes

685
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 1: it imposes themselves on our space, like as women or

686
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,799
Speaker 1: as fems right right. I'm thinking like, because say you

687
00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:37,040
Speaker 1: don't have the privilege or the luxury to have your

688
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 1: own space, right either you share a bedroom, you you

689
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:43,080
Speaker 1: share an apartment, you know, whatever it is. So I

690
00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:46,920
Speaker 1: think trying to find something that makes you feel like

691
00:39:46,960 --> 00:39:50,799
Speaker 1: this is mine, absolutely yeah. And I feel like for

692
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:53,640
Speaker 1: some people that might even be you have your table

693
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,799
Speaker 1: at your coffee shop that you always go to, yeah, absolutely,

694
00:39:56,920 --> 00:40:00,480
Speaker 1: or your your your desk at the library that is

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00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 1: comfortable for you, or keeping like obsidian, or like some

696
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:07,799
Speaker 1: type of negative block, um, negative energy block at your

697
00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:10,880
Speaker 1: desk at work, right that can make you feel safer

698
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:13,399
Speaker 1: when there's a bunch of ship happening at work, right,

699
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:17,120
Speaker 1: or something that's ways I think maybe finding maybe you

700
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:22,720
Speaker 1: have multiple like little safe spaces like throughout your your life. Yeah,

701
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 1: something like that your routine, Yeah absolutely, Yeah it's important

702
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:30,680
Speaker 1: because like again, like it's so possible to live a

703
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 1: life where either you're shut in and shut away from everybody,

704
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:38,840
Speaker 1: and you risk like not reaching your full potential, or

705
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:41,120
Speaker 1: you risk not meeting like the types of friends you

706
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:44,680
Speaker 1: might want to have, or developing those connections with chosen family.

707
00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:47,439
Speaker 1: But sometimes when you're not shutting and you're you're out

708
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:50,719
Speaker 1: and about, there's also always that potential for somebody to

709
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:55,240
Speaker 1: invade your space, right, So it's so tricky. Sometimes finding

710
00:40:55,280 --> 00:41:00,920
Speaker 1: the balance works for you. Absolutely. Yeah, So that's all

711
00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 1: that we have for today. It felt so good to

712
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:07,680
Speaker 1: record again. Yeah, I'm happy Ali. Yeah, I missed Mala

713
00:41:07,760 --> 00:41:11,239
Speaker 1: while she was away. Um so yeah, thank you for

714
00:41:11,280 --> 00:41:16,200
Speaker 1: tuning into another brown our radio. Thank you for tuning in.

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Speaker 1: Please check out Lajuna and the Flyers were gonna be

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00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:29,160
Speaker 1: cabana at the party so you can come. Basically say

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Speaker 1: hi to all of us. If you come to the party.

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00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:34,680
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