Speaker 1: Talk talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with an
Speaker 1: opinion who talks back the relationship. And I definitely used
Speaker 1: to call it nigga, a son of a bitch and
Speaker 1: he used to get so good as his mom had
Speaker 1: passed dumb. No, never, I was never calling him you know,
Speaker 1: he was really taking it first, almost like are you
Speaker 1: talking about my mama like that? I'm not talking about
Speaker 1: your mama. Son of a bitch isn't like it? But
Speaker 1: what is the son of a bitch? Though him? But
Speaker 1: so his mama is a bit so that's why he
Speaker 1: takes especially if he at these Okay, all right, yeah,
Speaker 1: now if we want to talk literal, but we're not
Speaker 1: talking literal of them. Are women having problems from these men?
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying because they were raised by
Speaker 1: But that's the thing where I have I have dealt
Speaker 1: with women over the years who have told me like
Speaker 1: I wasn't emotional, I didn't get mad about certain things,
Speaker 1: like oh, show me some emotion, like I had women
Speaker 1: like purposely try to send me exactly they sure do,
Speaker 1: like they'll call me a bitch ass nigga to get
Speaker 1: me the show emotion. And when I almost punched the
Speaker 1: ship out of you. Then I'm a bit your ass nigga.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, I'm like, come on now, nigga, exactly.
Speaker 1: But but and just for the record, I have never
Speaker 1: ever hit a woman that I have dated in my
Speaker 1: entire data women you haven't dated, maybe one. But she
Speaker 1: had got super disrespectful with my mama and my mama
Speaker 1: house and were family. We were all family. We moved
Speaker 1: past it. It was all with it, you know. But
Speaker 1: you know, I mean her brother would have stole off
Speaker 1: for me, you know what I'm saying, or stole off
Speaker 1: on my sister if I said that, you know. But
Speaker 1: we all families, so we all have just completely moved
Speaker 1: past it. Yeah we Yeah, we are definitely patched that up.
Speaker 1: But I've never, out of anger like hit a woman.
Speaker 1: I've never felt the need to. And I feel like
Speaker 1: that's because I always feel like I'm the prize. So like,
Speaker 1: I bit, call me whatever you want to say, go
Speaker 1: out here with these other niggas and you don't see
Speaker 1: that you're gonna get worse. You can call me whatever
Speaker 1: you want to try to get me mad, call me
Speaker 1: a whole ass nigga. Bit I just know that I know,
Speaker 1: thank you. I'm glad you don't. But I just know
Speaker 1: that the niggas out here ain't ship, and you're gonna
Speaker 1: go out here and you're gonna get one of them.
Speaker 1: I feel like we say that a man. I don't look,
Speaker 1: I don't say nothing. I just say. I just say.
Speaker 1: I just say, choose better. I always tell you something
Speaker 1: good men, so I say, but I also know a
Speaker 1: lot of terrible I know, I know a lot of
Speaker 1: terrible men relationship wise. Now, I would definitely say as
Speaker 1: far as relationship goes, I feel like ninety percent of
Speaker 1: the men are bad for relationships. When we talk about
Speaker 1: good people, good fathers, I feel like easily seventy or
Speaker 1: I feel like of all men are good, genuinely good
Speaker 1: hearted and are good will will be good fathers and
Speaker 1: given the opportunity. But I just feel like a lot
Speaker 1: of men who are quote unquote debbie dads, they suffer
Speaker 1: from bad advice. Because I remember when I whenever I
Speaker 1: when I was going through my custody situation, so many
Speaker 1: of my my homies were like, man that ship, for
Speaker 1: that ship, Man, pay pay your child support, let her do.
Speaker 1: I'm like, pay my child supporting. Just let her do whatever.
Speaker 1: When your son get old enough, just explain to that
Speaker 1: you're gonna get to a point here, gonna want to
Speaker 1: know his daddy. Then you could tell him about his mama.
Speaker 1: You won't eventually see all that. Bro, you want me
Speaker 1: to go fourteen years without fifteen when I see kids?
Speaker 1: Out of mind for a lot of men. So this
Speaker 1: is what I want you to say. How do how
Speaker 1: do we get that percent of? What can men do
Speaker 1: to get that? Of I feel like they I feel
Speaker 1: like they just I feel like they just don't know
Speaker 1: how to be good. But men or not been as
Speaker 1: far as relationships, it's the same way with women. I
Speaker 1: feel like a lot of women of them are bad
Speaker 1: in relationships because they just don't know what a good
Speaker 1: relationship looks like. We don't don't have we don't like
Speaker 1: a lot of a lot of I mean, let's just
Speaker 1: be honest with you. We could we could get into
Speaker 1: we can just go into systemic racism. We can go
Speaker 1: into just the overall things that society has done to
Speaker 1: the black family on purpose to divide us. We could
Speaker 1: we could get into that. But we most of us
Speaker 1: know these things, but without these positive images out there
Speaker 1: of a black family. You know, it's hard for anybody
Speaker 1: to really emulate anything. So do you think that a
Speaker 1: man that doesn't take care of his kids, do you
Speaker 1: think that man should have any friends or should he
Speaker 1: be ostracized in the community, Should he have any friends?
Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't. I think that more men
Speaker 1: need to step up because I always say, there's women,
Speaker 1: we be having lunches, brunches, conferences, all these different things,
Speaker 1: so we could sit down and talk about our bullshit.
Speaker 1: But men you'll claim you have nobody to talk to.
Speaker 1: And if there's a good man, if there's a man
Speaker 1: who's a self complaim good man, you need to reach
Speaker 1: out to these niggas who ain't doing ship and speak
Speaker 1: to them and talk to them, and then it won't
Speaker 1: always look like it's the woman fashion these men. You
Speaker 1: see what I'm saying. We need more help from the
Speaker 1: good men. The quote unquote good men need to reach
Speaker 1: back to the other men who are struggling, who just
Speaker 1: have a group of surrounded by a bunch of a
Speaker 1: lot of men don't be receptive. So I would say,
Speaker 1: from my experience, I get a lot of young men
Speaker 1: in my inbox texting me demming me whatever on the
Speaker 1: regular basis who want me to mentor them. But I
Speaker 1: know that I'm an exception to the rule in a
Speaker 1: lot of ways because a lot of these niggas just
Speaker 1: be old men. They don't be o G s. I
Speaker 1: know I'm an o G. I try to get the
Speaker 1: best advice. I know. I was raised by by real
Speaker 1: o gs who gave me great advice. But then I
Speaker 1: know a lot of my friends sometimes to give me
Speaker 1: bad advice. But because I know that y'all are just
Speaker 1: my friends, y'all really gonna be on my side. A
Speaker 1: lot of times. I do talk to the o G s.
Speaker 1: I have brothers, I have uncles, cousins. I have a
Speaker 1: lot of people who are able to sort of get
Speaker 1: me and check you know what I'm saying. And I
Speaker 1: associate with people who are like me. I don't go
Speaker 1: and associate with people who aren't like me. Like I
Speaker 1: said earlier, a lot of these men, they try to
Speaker 1: level up. If they see a nigga with jury, they
Speaker 1: see a nigga with women, he automatically becomes big Bro.
Speaker 1: They don't look at his character, don't look at his morals,
Speaker 1: don't look at his values. Big Bro bib. But a
Speaker 1: lot of look, a lot of them be straight clowns.
Speaker 1: They just got money, you know what I'm saying. And
Speaker 1: a lot of these niggas want to want money too,
Speaker 1: so they're big bro to death thinking they're about to
Speaker 1: get some opportunities to some money. And let's be clear,
Speaker 1: niggas like niggas with money. To be clear, of course,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, nigga, No, seriously, nobody likes
Speaker 1: a broken nigger. Ben women know that nobody does, um,
Speaker 1: and that's that's just real. But I have embraced the
Speaker 1: fact that I'm older. I've embraced the fact that I
Speaker 1: have a lot of knowledge. I embraced the fact that
Speaker 1: you know, Um, I come from a background that has
Speaker 1: taught me to be smart. It was cool to be smart,
Speaker 1: it was cool to be on point. But I do
Speaker 1: know a lot of people don't have that, you know,
Speaker 1: Like I feel like a lot of people who come
Speaker 1: from that type of background, they fight their whole lives
Speaker 1: to be street niggas. And you've got a lot of
Speaker 1: these old, these old people who are supposed to be
Speaker 1: o g s who try to act like the young niggas.
Speaker 1: They want to live vicariously through the through the young niggas,
Speaker 1: and like, bro, like just accept the fact you're you're
Speaker 1: thirty fives and up. You should be transitioning, you know,
Speaker 1: Like like these niggas are not transitioning, like they want
Speaker 1: to be young niggas, no growth whatsoever. I've always wanted
Speaker 1: to grow. But I always know that I come from
Speaker 1: a different background. I'm always being pushed, I'm always being challenged.
Speaker 1: Like I understand that I'm different. I knew. So you know,
Speaker 1: you don't have any friends that don't have no relationship
Speaker 1: with their kids. I have like some that have strained
Speaker 1: the relationships with their kids, and and and a lot
Speaker 1: of times when I came in, the relationship was already strained.
Speaker 1: But I always try to let them know, like, bro,
Speaker 1: you know, the court system is here for you. Like
Speaker 1: they will argue with their baby mamas. I hear them
Speaker 1: on the phone arguing with their baby mamas, and they
Speaker 1: try to work everything out with their baby mamas. A
Speaker 1: lot of these dudes have you know, charges that may
Speaker 1: be on probation. But like dam I own want them
Speaker 1: crackers in my business, Bro, I don't want them just
Speaker 1: at the third But I always try to let them know, like,
Speaker 1: bro handle whatever legal issues you have and go and
Speaker 1: get a nigger fresh out of jail, gonna get two
Speaker 1: days a week with his child. That's just all is
Speaker 1: to it. But I feel like a lot of people,
Speaker 1: including women and men, both the children really aren't the issue.
Speaker 1: They want each other. They're so bitter towards each other
Speaker 1: that the children, not always, it's not always, but the
Speaker 1: children are just paused because remember they didn't want the
Speaker 1: children at first, that they didn't sit down and playing
Speaker 1: out having children. They wanted to be together. And they
Speaker 1: got so wrapped up in each other that the nigger
Speaker 1: wasn't pulling out or the girl didn't get up whenever
Speaker 1: he said, get up off and get upout for getting product.
Speaker 1: So they went so love with each other. The kid
Speaker 1: was just a product of it. The kid was never
Speaker 1: supposed to be here. You see what I'm saying, Many
Speaker 1: of us, like many of us, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I mean, I can't say with me because my days
Speaker 1: were married, but my mom definitely said I wasn't supposed
Speaker 1: to be married. Married, my mom said, and my dad
Speaker 1: my mom said, your dad was done at three, Like
Speaker 1: I had to hide your pregnancy from him for the
Speaker 1: longest until you know, he just got to the point
Speaker 1: where I couldn't hide it no more and he was pissed.
Speaker 1: He was like like the four ye the fourth. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I do understand that. You know, a lot of the
Speaker 1: children weren't meant to be here, and a lot of
Speaker 1: times people are just navigating parenthood without proper role models
Speaker 1: and with kids that they really didn't first the first place.
Speaker 1: They wanted the other person. So now both are using
Speaker 1: the kids. And for the most hard, a man can
Speaker 1: be with a woman and really just I mean a
Speaker 1: man cannot be with a women really just want to
Speaker 1: be a dad. Men can do that. Yeah, yeah, bitch,
Speaker 1: were cool and all, but yeah, I want to see
Speaker 1: my son. For the most part, women when they have kids,
Speaker 1: they go into a family mode, and the family includes
Speaker 1: the child and the dad. So it takes a long
Speaker 1: time for them to just settle for the fact that
Speaker 1: I'm a single parent and it's not gonna work single
Speaker 1: excuse me a parent that's single. I'm a parent that's single.
Speaker 1: Or when they finally get over the dude, now they
Speaker 1: want the family so bad that they're trying to create
Speaker 1: the family with other men who really aren't worthy of
Speaker 1: being in the family. You know what I'm saying. So,
Speaker 1: and I've been in that predicament before. I have so
Speaker 1: many women who tell me my most attractive quality is
Speaker 1: the fact I'm a good father. They're like, that is
Speaker 1: your most attractive quality. You're attractive in other ways, but
Speaker 1: that right there. Run it from you money. But how
Speaker 1: does that make you feel knowing that you don't want
Speaker 1: kids outside of marriage? Um, he don't want no more
Speaker 1: babies at this point period? No, No, I could, I could,
Speaker 1: I could do another one, but my but the window
Speaker 1: is closing. That's what we're talking about, closing. I don't
Speaker 1: want to. I don't want to be fifty with a
Speaker 1: tom closing or closed. You said, I want you to
Speaker 1: marry a woman who already had kids, I would how old? Um,
Speaker 1: they would at least have to be four or five
Speaker 1: or better. Job symbol, daddy, chuck, give me a dollar
Speaker 1: any problem, especially if she got a daughter, come in, baby,
Speaker 1: got two boys, come in, Daddy got you, Cody got you?
Speaker 1: But but no. So the only reason why I put
Speaker 1: an age in limit on the kids is because when
Speaker 1: the kids are a certain age and my daddy depend no,
Speaker 1: because I want to catch them young. So they don't
Speaker 1: say that can you catch them either? They're like yo, yo, yo,
Speaker 1: you can't take me to the studio. I know, well,
Speaker 1: be with all the celebrity rapp ship. You know young dolf,
Speaker 1: you know the baby, you know that you can't take it.
Speaker 1: So but what's wrong with that? Sometimes you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. But um, when they're that young, they're still
Speaker 1: a little bit of an attachment between the mom and dad.
Speaker 1: So you gotta be as you you got two or
Speaker 1: three month oh, because even if even if, like I said,
Speaker 1: a man can be detached and just want to be
Speaker 1: a dad. But that woman is gonna get you. Hell,
Speaker 1: the woman gonna the first woman after don't be the
Speaker 1: don't be the first woman after don't do not know
Speaker 1: even the second or the third, the first get up
Speaker 1: there and the numbers. Now, she's just another bitch. Last
Speaker 1: one didn't last long either, you know, the last mama