1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:03,640 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:07,320 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:07,720 --> 00:00:10,920 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com 4 00:00:10,920 --> 00:00:14,640 Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your 5 00:00:14,720 --> 00:00:16,720 Speaker 1: letter live on the air, just like we're going to 6 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:19,720 Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now. And you never know, 7 00:00:20,440 --> 00:00:24,040 Speaker 1: this letter could be yours. It could be yours. Buckle up, 8 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it 9 00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 1: is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject I'm here for 10 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 1: a good time, not a long time. Dear Stephen Shirley, 11 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:36,840 Speaker 1: I'm dating a man that drops by my house to eat, 12 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:40,159 Speaker 1: wash his clothes, and get the cookie. He is a 13 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:43,479 Speaker 1: car salesman, so he works crazy hours, which is why 14 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:46,159 Speaker 1: I allow him to dash in and out all of 15 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:50,560 Speaker 1: the time. But lately he's been getting more and more disrespectful, 16 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 1: and by the time I roll over, he's already dressed 17 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:56,320 Speaker 1: and headed out the door. He tells me all the 18 00:00:56,360 --> 00:00:58,959 Speaker 1: time that he's here for a good time, not a 19 00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:01,840 Speaker 1: long time. I don't want him quoting a Drake song 20 00:01:01,960 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 1: when I'm trying to talk to him about important things 21 00:01:04,360 --> 00:01:06,720 Speaker 1: that are going on in my life. I can barely 22 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 1: talk to him on the phone during the day because 23 00:01:08,880 --> 00:01:11,959 Speaker 1: he says his phone has to stay open for business 24 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:15,600 Speaker 1: and his customers. I've been down to his car lot, 25 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:18,440 Speaker 1: and I don't see how he's that busy all the time. 26 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:21,000 Speaker 1: When he comes over in the evening, he is zoned 27 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 1: out watching sports highlights or listening to podcasts on finance 28 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:27,679 Speaker 1: or music. He says he's trying to better himself, so 29 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:31,560 Speaker 1: that is what he's focused on when he has downtime. 30 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:35,000 Speaker 1: But when it's time for the cookie, he's very attentive. 31 00:01:35,280 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: Then he goes back to the den to get back 32 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: to his laptop. If he tells me one more time 33 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:43,040 Speaker 1: that he's here for a good time, not a long time, 34 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 1: I'm cursing him out. I love him and I want 35 00:01:46,200 --> 00:01:48,360 Speaker 1: to be with him, but he's acting like we're an 36 00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 1: old married couple. What happened to us going out on 37 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 1: dates and a little pregame before the main event in 38 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:57,000 Speaker 1: the bed. I have a male friend that I've been 39 00:01:57,080 --> 00:02:00,160 Speaker 1: venting to and he said, I deserve a man that 40 00:02:00,320 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 1: is in it to me, that is into me more 41 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 1: than a good time. Okay, this guy asked me to 42 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:10,200 Speaker 1: go out with him several times, and I'm so starved 43 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 1: for attention that I'm considering it. Should I see if 44 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 1: this guy can do better than my man? Well, of 45 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 1: course you should. Please go out with this guy, and 46 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 1: go out with him today. This other guy that you 47 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: call your man, it's not your man. This letter is 48 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:28,840 Speaker 1: not even about what he is to you. It's about 49 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:31,799 Speaker 1: what you are to him, and you're nothing to him. 50 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:34,560 Speaker 1: Look at the way he treats you. You're the sidepiece, 51 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:37,160 Speaker 1: You're the jump off, You're the pit stop, to wash 52 00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:40,519 Speaker 1: his clothes, to watch the game, to listen to podcasts. 53 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:42,600 Speaker 1: I could go on and on, but you get the picture. 54 00:02:42,720 --> 00:02:45,000 Speaker 1: I hope you have allowed this man to treat you 55 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:47,480 Speaker 1: like trash. And he even told you, in no uncertain 56 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: terms what he's about. He's about a good time, not 57 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:52,840 Speaker 1: a long time. That means he's not trying to be 58 00:02:52,960 --> 00:02:55,200 Speaker 1: your man. He does not want to be your man, 59 00:02:55,280 --> 00:02:57,720 Speaker 1: and all he wants is what you give him, freely 60 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:02,360 Speaker 1: and easily, whenever he wants it. Please stop that there's 61 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: no love here. There's no love and there never will be. 62 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: I need you to wake up and see him for 63 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 1: what he really is, for who he really is. Then 64 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 1: maybe you can see yourself and realize that it is 65 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:17,839 Speaker 1: not what you want or need. Love and value yourself. 66 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 1: It's all I can tell you at this point. Steve 67 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:26,800 Speaker 1: Charley Strawberry, great answer. Agree in love everything you said, 68 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:31,320 Speaker 1: no problems whatever. I have a problem with her letter. 69 00:03:31,360 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 1: I will say it up front because I know mine 70 00:03:33,240 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 1: will be so different. I can't say nothing about this one. 71 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:39,920 Speaker 1: She gave you spot on the information. She was right 72 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:42,560 Speaker 1: about it. I don't know what you're thinking about. I 73 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:45,720 Speaker 1: don't know what's wrong with you. The title of the 74 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:49,760 Speaker 1: letter is I'm here for a good time, not alone. 75 00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:53,480 Speaker 1: I didn't know you could tell a person right. I 76 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: didn't know you tell that to a person and getting 77 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:00,400 Speaker 1: them to accept it. I didn't. I didn't. I didn't 78 00:04:00,440 --> 00:04:04,240 Speaker 1: know that. I've never really and I'm gonna be honest 79 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:08,280 Speaker 1: with you, I've never really dated a person who I 80 00:04:08,320 --> 00:04:12,600 Speaker 1: could say that too and they would accept it. Now, 81 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: that might have been your intentions, but that you ain't 82 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:19,640 Speaker 1: gonna get nowhere with that line. I'm dating a man 83 00:04:19,680 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 1: that drops by my house to eat, wash his clothes, 84 00:04:23,560 --> 00:04:28,040 Speaker 1: and get the cookie. Excuse me, you let a man 85 00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 1: come by your house to eat, wash his clothes, and 86 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:36,920 Speaker 1: get the cookie. You unlocked the door, you open it, 87 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:40,719 Speaker 1: and you let him in to do that. Here's a 88 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:43,680 Speaker 1: car salesman, so he works crazy hours, which is why 89 00:04:43,760 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 1: I allow him to dash in and out all the time. 90 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:53,800 Speaker 1: What he said a car? What crazy ass hours he got? 91 00:04:57,400 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 1: What car lot is open all damn night? Loan, What 92 00:05:01,760 --> 00:05:04,479 Speaker 1: carll lot is open early end of damn morning? What 93 00:05:04,720 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 1: car lots call? Lode? Closed? Service departments closed? Seeing the 94 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 1: Marvel five? The damn credit department closed after certain you 95 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:20,440 Speaker 1: can't get your credit checked? After what are you talking about? 96 00:05:21,080 --> 00:05:25,640 Speaker 1: He sells cars, so he worked all types of crazy hours, 97 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:28,480 Speaker 1: which is why I allow him to dash in and out. 98 00:05:28,839 --> 00:05:34,279 Speaker 1: Hard is it to sell a damn car? Now, I'm 99 00:05:34,279 --> 00:05:37,960 Speaker 1: not dismissing car sealsman's Please don't get me wrong, because 100 00:05:37,960 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 1: that's not what I'm doing. But I'm talking about this 101 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 1: dude right here that convinced you that because he sells cars, 102 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: damn calls on some little bit ass a lot somewhere. 103 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:54,680 Speaker 1: But lately he's been getting more and more distrestruckling. By 104 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:57,279 Speaker 1: the time I roll over, he's already dressed in headed 105 00:05:57,320 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 1: out the door. He tells me all the time, he's 106 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:03,280 Speaker 1: here for a good time, not a long time. Where 107 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 1: is a surprise at By the time I rolled over, 108 00:06:10,360 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 1: he's already dressed and hid it out the door, and 109 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 1: he tells me all the time he's here for a 110 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:23,039 Speaker 1: good time, not a long time. The hell are you 111 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 1: righting this? You ain't? You can't here? I rolled over. 112 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:32,479 Speaker 1: What you're doing? I'm here for a good time, not 113 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:35,400 Speaker 1: a long time. Hang on, stick, I don't want him 114 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:39,280 Speaker 1: quoting Drake soon. I didn't even know that. Hang on. 115 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:42,039 Speaker 1: We'll have part two of your response coming up at 116 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subjects 117 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:48,960 Speaker 1: is I'm here for a good time, not a long time. 118 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:54,039 Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening 119 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:56,799 Speaker 1: morning show, all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's 120 00:06:56,839 --> 00:06:59,479 Speaker 1: strawberry letter. The subject is I'm here for a good time, 121 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: not a long time. This woman right here telling me 122 00:07:03,240 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 1: about she dating the man that drops about her house 123 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:08,360 Speaker 1: to eat, wash his clothes, and get the cookie. Like 124 00:07:08,480 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 1: I said, you let him in the house, you unlock 125 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 1: the door. He is a car salesman, so he works 126 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 1: crazy hours, which why I allowed him to dash in 127 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:19,120 Speaker 1: and out all the time. What what crazy hour. What 128 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:24,040 Speaker 1: crazy hours? The cars salesman head, he's selling weed. He's 129 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:27,880 Speaker 1: selling cars to dude. The saal weed got trap house. 130 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:34,320 Speaker 1: There was some crazy ass hour. The car salesman don't 131 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:40,280 Speaker 1: have crazy hours. He sall call the service department closes. 132 00:07:41,040 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 1: You almost can't even go to a car dealership at dog. 133 00:07:44,680 --> 00:07:46,960 Speaker 1: You can't test drive when it's dog. None of that. 134 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:50,200 Speaker 1: And don't run you credit after a certain hour. Lady, 135 00:07:50,240 --> 00:07:53,560 Speaker 1: what's wrong with you? You're just letting this man tell 136 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:56,680 Speaker 1: you anything. And by the time I roll over, he's 137 00:07:56,720 --> 00:07:59,200 Speaker 1: already dressed and headed out the door. The name of 138 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:01,200 Speaker 1: the letter is I'm here for a good time, not 139 00:08:01,240 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 1: a long time. But he tells you all the time 140 00:08:03,520 --> 00:08:06,120 Speaker 1: he's not here for a good time. He's he's he's 141 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:08,880 Speaker 1: here for it that he's here for a good time, 142 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 1: not a long time. I don't want him. Quote the 143 00:08:11,280 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 1: Drake song when I try to talk to him about 144 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:16,080 Speaker 1: an important thing now but gentling the commercial break, I 145 00:08:16,080 --> 00:08:17,960 Speaker 1: found out this Saint the Drake song. This is a 146 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 1: big Sean song. Look at you rappers off on the 147 00:08:24,760 --> 00:08:27,240 Speaker 1: damn song. There's a big Sean record. You needn't get 148 00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 1: your hip hop. That's your problem. You don't know your 149 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:35,360 Speaker 1: hip hop because you just getting hopped all over They 150 00:08:35,440 --> 00:08:37,600 Speaker 1: just hopping all over your head because you don't know 151 00:08:37,640 --> 00:08:41,480 Speaker 1: your damn hip ho hop. You know you need to 152 00:08:41,480 --> 00:08:45,360 Speaker 1: go somewhere and get yourself put on. You don't know nothing. 153 00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: Dumb man. He sailed cause he got the crazy as 154 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:52,000 Speaker 1: the hours, like he got a crack house or something. 155 00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 1: He sailed cars. I can barely talk to him on 156 00:08:57,520 --> 00:08:59,600 Speaker 1: the phone during the day because he says, this phone 157 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:02,560 Speaker 1: has to stay open for business and his customer. His 158 00:09:02,720 --> 00:09:07,559 Speaker 1: phone don't have call waiting. He can't click over though. 159 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:09,760 Speaker 1: He can't click, He can't click on. What kind of 160 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:18,440 Speaker 1: phone he got? Who does he have my mama's own 161 00:09:18,480 --> 00:09:25,280 Speaker 1: phone with the rotary on y I've been down to 162 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:27,319 Speaker 1: his call out now. I don't see how he's that 163 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 1: busy all the time? Who busy at a call out 164 00:09:30,360 --> 00:09:33,240 Speaker 1: all the damn times? They just is't here. They can't 165 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:38,560 Speaker 1: keep a car. Who go they just lined up. You 166 00:09:38,559 --> 00:09:43,080 Speaker 1: haven't seen a line at the car dealership, the line 167 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:48,560 Speaker 1: after carter morning after dope, they out dope. They tried. 168 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:54,600 Speaker 1: Mornay tried to get the tether when he comes over 169 00:09:54,640 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: in the evening. He zoned out watching sports, highlights of 170 00:09:57,400 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: listening to podcast or on fin now some music. He says, 171 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:04,199 Speaker 1: he's trying to better himself. That's he's focused on when 172 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 1: he has this downtime. Oh so he trying to better himself. 173 00:10:08,559 --> 00:10:11,480 Speaker 1: But you ain't he over your house watching TV and 174 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:14,760 Speaker 1: listen to podcasts because you let him. But when it's 175 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:16,960 Speaker 1: time for the cookies, very tenant, you know what, how 176 00:10:17,040 --> 00:10:19,840 Speaker 1: is she gonna get it? A man make time for 177 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 1: what he wants. All that he don't want, he don't 178 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 1: make time. Man make time for what he wants. He 179 00:10:29,600 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 1: make time for what he wants. All that he don't want, 180 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:35,640 Speaker 1: he don't make time for. It's true, I don't know. 181 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:37,640 Speaker 1: I don't know how I will tell you this about us. 182 00:10:37,920 --> 00:10:40,280 Speaker 1: You gonna list him? Then he goes back to the 183 00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:42,679 Speaker 1: then get back to the laptop. He tells me, if 184 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:44,880 Speaker 1: he tells me one more time, he's here for a 185 00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:47,760 Speaker 1: good time, not a long time. I'm cussing him out. Okay, cool? 186 00:10:47,800 --> 00:10:50,960 Speaker 1: And then you think that's gonna hurt him times I've 187 00:10:50,960 --> 00:10:57,320 Speaker 1: been cussed out, lady. That's about probably about in my 188 00:10:57,400 --> 00:11:02,079 Speaker 1: life is six six years. Huh, yeah to the master, Huh, 189 00:11:03,880 --> 00:11:08,000 Speaker 1: that's a lot of that's about about nine hundred and 190 00:11:08,080 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 1: fifteen times. I'm getting close to a thousand. I probably 191 00:11:16,960 --> 00:11:22,120 Speaker 1: hit the thousand by the time I'm seventy. You know, 192 00:11:22,280 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 1: Bron think he breaking records. He ought to see I 193 00:11:26,000 --> 00:11:30,440 Speaker 1: got one Lebron on me and asked me how many 194 00:11:30,480 --> 00:11:38,000 Speaker 1: people I've cussed back out number? That's nine thousand. Man, 195 00:11:38,720 --> 00:11:40,760 Speaker 1: I'm getting up on ten thousand. I'll be a ten 196 00:11:40,800 --> 00:11:44,560 Speaker 1: thousand fold each year ago out. I love him and 197 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:46,560 Speaker 1: I want to be with him. Probably is lady, he 198 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 1: don't love you and you want to be with him, 199 00:11:49,120 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 1: but he don't want to be with you. But he's 200 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:54,800 Speaker 1: acting like we're an old married couple. What happened us 201 00:11:54,880 --> 00:11:57,960 Speaker 1: going out on dates and a little pre pre game 202 00:11:58,040 --> 00:12:01,360 Speaker 1: before the main event? He ain't never did that? What 203 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:04,040 Speaker 1: you mean, what happened to it? That's in another relationship 204 00:12:04,040 --> 00:12:07,480 Speaker 1: with another man and another woman all time. He has 205 00:12:07,559 --> 00:12:09,760 Speaker 1: told you he here for a good time, not a 206 00:12:09,760 --> 00:12:12,040 Speaker 1: long time. If he ain't for a long time, why 207 00:12:12,040 --> 00:12:15,920 Speaker 1: would he invest time? What's wrong with you? I have 208 00:12:16,000 --> 00:12:18,240 Speaker 1: a male friend that I've been fitting to and he said, 209 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:20,120 Speaker 1: you deserve a man that's in it for me and 210 00:12:20,200 --> 00:12:22,440 Speaker 1: more than a good time. This guy asked me to 211 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:24,640 Speaker 1: go out with him several times, and I'm so starved 212 00:12:24,679 --> 00:12:28,000 Speaker 1: for attention, and I'm so starved for attention. I'm at considering. 213 00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:31,640 Speaker 1: I'm surprised you ain't with should I see if this 214 00:12:31,679 --> 00:12:34,520 Speaker 1: guy can do better than my man? He's not your man. 215 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:38,040 Speaker 1: Surely told you that he ain't your man. You're gonna 216 00:12:38,040 --> 00:12:41,360 Speaker 1: mess up with him too. You're the pitch stop, but 217 00:12:41,440 --> 00:12:43,520 Speaker 1: you ain't gonna get a real dude a chance because 218 00:12:43,520 --> 00:12:48,280 Speaker 1: you're gonna keep letting old pitch stops swaying through. All right, Stee, 219 00:12:48,400 --> 00:12:51,680 Speaker 1: post your comments on today's getting a Nast Car Drive 220 00:12:53,120 --> 00:13:00,920 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey on Instagram and Facebook. Man coming up at 221 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:03,360 Speaker 1: forty six minutes after the hour, we got Junior in 222 00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:07,080 Speaker 1: Sports Talk. 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