1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:03,360 Speaker 1: Scrubbing it in with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:11,119 Speaker 1: I Heart Radio podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing it. 3 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:14,320 Speaker 1: I don't know if Becca sounds different to you, but 4 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:18,239 Speaker 1: she looks different to me. I chopped so much haird 5 00:00:18,360 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: how many inches? I have no idea, so many, so 6 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:23,599 Speaker 1: many inches. I just was ready to do it, and 7 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:26,200 Speaker 1: I just I did it. It makes me want to 8 00:00:26,239 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: do it. No, you can't do it, not right now? Yeah, 9 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:31,080 Speaker 1: not right now? Yeah, but I do. We did talk 10 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:32,760 Speaker 1: about I think you look so cute with short hair. 11 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 1: It's like it just gives you're just like cool girl. 12 00:00:35,200 --> 00:00:37,080 Speaker 1: Like it's like, who's that. That's a cool girl. You 13 00:00:37,120 --> 00:00:40,600 Speaker 1: know what's weird is that my hair short looks cuter 14 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:42,920 Speaker 1: with hats, so I'm excited. We're like beanies and stuff 15 00:00:42,960 --> 00:00:46,960 Speaker 1: for the winter. Cuter, yeah, hats, Like I just looked 16 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 1: like you always were out. I just like a mop 17 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:53,160 Speaker 1: with no no. But I did have like a moment 18 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 1: as she was about to cut it. Or do you 19 00:00:54,760 --> 00:00:57,280 Speaker 1: feel like a new woman though? I do. I feel fresh. 20 00:00:57,320 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 1: I feel like I cut off like the year and 21 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:01,200 Speaker 1: it's like onto the Yeah, Like do you feel like 22 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:05,440 Speaker 1: a renaissance of sorts? Renaissance, in fact, so renaissance that 23 00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:07,680 Speaker 1: I ran out of gas this morning and that was 24 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: that was exciting. I don't know how you do that. 25 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:12,560 Speaker 1: Like life just went on and I'm panic because i 26 00:01:12,600 --> 00:01:15,200 Speaker 1: still have like fifty more miles and I'm like panicked. 27 00:01:15,240 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 1: This was one of those like I rarely worry about 28 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 1: running out of gas. Today I was like it could happen, 29 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:24,280 Speaker 1: and it did and luckily. Um, I look over as 30 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: like every car is honking at me because I'm in 31 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 1: the turning lane on the busy street. And Graham Bunn, 32 00:01:29,360 --> 00:01:32,759 Speaker 1: who was like a friend of ours, it's like makes 33 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:35,199 Speaker 1: eye contact with me in this massive truck and he's 34 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 1: like laughing. So he pulls over. We put my car neutral. 35 00:01:38,959 --> 00:01:41,200 Speaker 1: He pushes me over to the side of the road. 36 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:44,880 Speaker 1: Sam Bun is a night and shining is an angel 37 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:48,080 Speaker 1: sent from above, and he drove me to get gas. 38 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 1: We caught up on life and he got me. I 39 00:01:50,760 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 1: was like less than a I would say, less than 40 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:55,520 Speaker 1: half a mile from my house when I Becca just 41 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: loves grand Bun and so she called me to tell 42 00:01:57,680 --> 00:01:59,200 Speaker 1: me said story, and I said, let's have him on 43 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:02,200 Speaker 1: the pod. Yeah, he's single. You're missing the lead I 44 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:05,320 Speaker 1: was learning out of gas. It's such an interesting thing, 45 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:12,359 Speaker 1: like I've never ever, ever, ever done. You're lucky you've 46 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:15,040 Speaker 1: never been in a position where you did that to yourself. 47 00:02:15,040 --> 00:02:16,920 Speaker 1: You just get gas. When your light goes on. Like 48 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 1: your light goes on, it tells you you have today 49 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:24,160 Speaker 1: counting down the miles zero for a long time. Guys, 50 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 1: we cannot, we cannot. We have company right now. I 51 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: can't get into the fight. Yeah, no fight today, but 52 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:33,040 Speaker 1: we do have a very exciting guess And last time 53 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:35,760 Speaker 1: she was here with her sisters. Yeah, but now she's songs, 54 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:39,519 Speaker 1: she's solo. It is Aurora Colpo in the waiting room. 55 00:02:39,560 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 1: Oh r. And we'll be right back with her. I'm excited. 56 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:58,960 Speaker 1: Why am I so kitty? It's the hoops hid my. 57 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 1: I was trying to have a holiday background, but it 58 00:03:02,120 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 1: didn't work out. Do you have a sweater? Is? Actually 59 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:10,200 Speaker 1: this is from a line that we did. I was 60 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:11,800 Speaker 1: gonna say, I feel like this is your line. I 61 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:21,480 Speaker 1: feel like I've owned that wow, remaining pieces um can 62 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:23,960 Speaker 1: you guys hear me on time and everything. I feel 63 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 1: like there's like a little bit of a drag. You 64 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:33,520 Speaker 1: sound looks great, So from our end, great news. Okay, cool, 65 00:03:33,560 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: We're gonna do a quick intro and then we'll get 66 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 1: you in. Okay, all right. As we said before, we 67 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:48,280 Speaker 1: have a very special guest today. We have a royal 68 00:03:48,360 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 1: Colpa scrubbing. So happy to be here. We're so happy 69 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:57,040 Speaker 1: to have you. We are so happy to have you. 70 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:59,880 Speaker 1: I know, I'm like, I'm very excited about this because 71 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: last time you were on, you were with your sisters, 72 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,160 Speaker 1: and we love all three of you. We love the show, 73 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: the Colpo sisters. But I feel like a kindred spirit 74 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:13,000 Speaker 1: connection to you, Aurora, totally. I feel the same way. 75 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 1: It's like wants of those other two girls around anyway, 76 00:04:17,960 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 1: But I feel like I have this connection to you 77 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:22,480 Speaker 1: on many levels. But I also feel like you're having 78 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 1: like a little bit of a renaissance of life right now, 79 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 1: Like you stopped drinking. You're doing all this like reflection 80 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 1: on life, and I just I don't know, I just 81 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:33,200 Speaker 1: feel very drawn to your life era right now. Yeah. 82 00:04:33,279 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 1: I like you call it a renaissance and not like 83 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 1: a mental breakdown. That's very kind of you. I think 84 00:04:39,720 --> 00:04:43,520 Speaker 1: that it's kind of the same thing. Um. Yeah, I 85 00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:46,400 Speaker 1: mean there's I feel like when there's so much change 86 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:48,840 Speaker 1: happening at once. You can go that way or that way, 87 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 1: and you just have to be all in and whichever 88 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 1: way you go. And I don't want to you know, 89 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:55,800 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't want to go the wrong way, 90 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 1: so I really have to cut out. Yeah, I stopped drinking. 91 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:00,800 Speaker 1: I had to cut out all of my kind of crutches, 92 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:03,520 Speaker 1: which I found out where there was kind of there's 93 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:07,160 Speaker 1: a lot of them. So interesting. I find it interesting 94 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:10,560 Speaker 1: that I think I'm seeing a lot more people talk 95 00:05:10,600 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: about giving up alcohol and drinking and that like lifestyle 96 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:16,680 Speaker 1: because too, I'm seeing it a lot more of And 97 00:05:16,760 --> 00:05:19,359 Speaker 1: it's like young like people in our age range, and 98 00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:21,720 Speaker 1: like young people too like that are in like just 99 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 1: getting into the age where they're like legal to drink, 100 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:26,280 Speaker 1: and I feel like they're like, listen, the healthier lifestyle 101 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:29,080 Speaker 1: just makes more sense to like what I want to 102 00:05:29,160 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: do and like the direction I see myself going. Have 103 00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:34,520 Speaker 1: you had moments like especially I feel like doing a 104 00:05:34,560 --> 00:05:37,760 Speaker 1: show and with your sisters and there's like events and NonStop. 105 00:05:38,080 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 1: Have you had any moments where you're like why am 106 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 1: I doing this? Yes? Well that's the forgetting why you're 107 00:05:44,680 --> 00:05:48,720 Speaker 1: doing it is a real obstacle and something you kind 108 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 1: of have to like set up for because it's easy 109 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: to stop when you remember how bad your hangover was 110 00:05:55,200 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 1: last weekend, or you know, or you're to lose ten pounds. 111 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:04,040 Speaker 1: I don't know, but during the show I was drinking. 112 00:06:04,040 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 1: It's actually funny to look back because I literally have 113 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:10,480 Speaker 1: a glass of wine like every scene and it's very 114 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:14,360 Speaker 1: clear to me. Um. But but yeah, like especially during 115 00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:17,560 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving and everybody, like there's a lot of comments people 116 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:20,120 Speaker 1: being like, oh, like what's one glass? You know you 117 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 1: weren't an alcoholic, so what's the Like, It's not like 118 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:27,400 Speaker 1: it's not like one sip you're gonna go on a 119 00:06:27,440 --> 00:06:31,920 Speaker 1: bender and like leave your kids. Um. So yeah, it's 120 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 1: hard to remember sometimes. But what I've been doing that's 121 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 1: really been helping me is you're right, there is this 122 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:40,440 Speaker 1: movement of sober curiosity, and so there's a lot of 123 00:06:40,640 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 1: resources now. There's a lot of podcasts that are talking 124 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:45,840 Speaker 1: about it. One of the Andrew Human podcast is one 125 00:06:45,839 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 1: that I listened to sometimes, and he talks a lot 126 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:51,919 Speaker 1: about basically the science like what alcohol does to your body. 127 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:53,880 Speaker 1: There's a lot of people who there's a lot of 128 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: Instagram accounts that you can follow that basically just remind you, 129 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:01,840 Speaker 1: like what happens if you are drinking wine every single night, 130 00:07:01,839 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 1: which is what I was doing. I was drinking it 131 00:07:03,680 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 1: like one to two glasses every single night and really realized, 132 00:07:08,160 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 1: and I because I was brought up Italian, like a 133 00:07:10,400 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 1: glass of red wine is good for your heart. It's 134 00:07:12,360 --> 00:07:16,320 Speaker 1: like it's all of that is a myth, but but 135 00:07:16,320 --> 00:07:20,120 Speaker 1: basically the I just feel better without it, and to 136 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:22,280 Speaker 1: say that I'll that I'll never ever drink again. But 137 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:24,040 Speaker 1: now I know the facts that like if you have 138 00:07:24,160 --> 00:07:27,000 Speaker 1: more than two glasses a week, that's when it starts 139 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:30,559 Speaker 1: to affect your health the wrong way. So I also 140 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:34,520 Speaker 1: think there there's something to giving up something that you 141 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 1: think you need and then realizing that you can go 142 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 1: without it and feel better and you don't need it, 143 00:07:42,240 --> 00:07:44,880 Speaker 1: so that when you do maybe want to reintroduce it, 144 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 1: there's not this like I need it. It's just like, 145 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:49,480 Speaker 1: oh yeah, sure, like I'll have a glass and I'll 146 00:07:49,520 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 1: just have a glass whatever. That was like my one 147 00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:55,960 Speaker 1: of the biggest experiments that I'm still working with is 148 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 1: how to do things that I would normally have drunk 149 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:02,360 Speaker 1: with going not just going to concerts, and how to 150 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:06,560 Speaker 1: like relearn how to have fun doing those activities without drinking. 151 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 1: When I was drinking, it would be like how much 152 00:08:09,800 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 1: am I going to drink? Like when are we going 153 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:14,720 Speaker 1: to start drinking? Should I stop now? Like how should 154 00:08:14,720 --> 00:08:16,480 Speaker 1: I space it out? So it's kind of freeing not 155 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:19,080 Speaker 1: to even have to worry about all that. And when 156 00:08:19,080 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: I ended up realizing with all these events in like 157 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:23,720 Speaker 1: fashion Week that I did with my sisters and um 158 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 1: Press tours, is that I'm the only one who can 159 00:08:26,240 --> 00:08:29,240 Speaker 1: still hang on some day like everyone else is burnt out, 160 00:08:30,160 --> 00:08:32,480 Speaker 1: Like I'm in it for the long games. It's so 161 00:08:32,600 --> 00:08:34,560 Speaker 1: true though, like even when I have just like a 162 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 1: glass of wine or two during the week, like I 163 00:08:36,800 --> 00:08:39,480 Speaker 1: feel the next morning like I really, I genuinely do 164 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:41,719 Speaker 1: no matter what, even if I drink a little bit, 165 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:44,800 Speaker 1: I still feel it, but I still do it. To myself. Well, 166 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 1: that's like four am. It's hard. It's hard. It's hard 167 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:50,640 Speaker 1: certain times in your life. I feel like it's harder 168 00:08:50,720 --> 00:08:53,080 Speaker 1: like when you're newly in love. I feel like it's 169 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:55,719 Speaker 1: so hard not to get fat and just drink so much. 170 00:08:55,800 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 1: Please for me, that's always how it worked for me, 171 00:08:58,880 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 1: um And like you, because you just want to go 172 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:04,920 Speaker 1: out to eat, like enjoy things just makes everything feel better. 173 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:07,480 Speaker 1: But so I almost feel like it's easier when you're 174 00:09:07,520 --> 00:09:09,480 Speaker 1: going through something hard to be like, Okay, I'm just 175 00:09:09,480 --> 00:09:12,319 Speaker 1: gonna like gear up and take away the things that 176 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:14,360 Speaker 1: I would normally lean on, because in a way, it 177 00:09:14,400 --> 00:09:17,160 Speaker 1: allows you an opportunity to be proud of yourself. Well 178 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 1: you know, actually I read that like, Um, when you 179 00:09:19,520 --> 00:09:21,920 Speaker 1: are going through like moments of life of like turmoil 180 00:09:22,000 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 1: or a lot of change in your life, that is 181 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 1: really beneficial to like do something that you can actually control, 182 00:09:27,600 --> 00:09:30,600 Speaker 1: Like that is something that you can control yourself, and 183 00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 1: that has a lot of like mental benefits because as 184 00:09:33,040 --> 00:09:35,600 Speaker 1: you control, as you keep controlling, you start to feel 185 00:09:35,640 --> 00:09:38,920 Speaker 1: like better. Yeah, that's so funny because now that you're 186 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:42,440 Speaker 1: mentioning that, it's like I randomly started doing keto and 187 00:09:42,480 --> 00:09:45,240 Speaker 1: then I got really like looking into keto. I started 188 00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:48,839 Speaker 1: looking into like I'm really into intermittent fasting right now. 189 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 1: So I think I am kind of doing all these 190 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:56,920 Speaker 1: control like how can I control what I have control? Yeah? Um, 191 00:09:57,240 --> 00:09:59,360 Speaker 1: and I didn't. I didn't really realize I was doing that, 192 00:09:59,400 --> 00:10:01,080 Speaker 1: But at least I'm doing it a healthy way and 193 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: not you know, yeah, at least you're putting that energy 194 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:08,880 Speaker 1: into something good for you. UM, I was curious. Um, 195 00:10:09,040 --> 00:10:11,040 Speaker 1: Tony and I were talking about this before you came on, 196 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:14,200 Speaker 1: and I was saying, we were talking about you, um 197 00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:18,800 Speaker 1: talking about your divorce and how what did you have 198 00:10:19,040 --> 00:10:22,520 Speaker 1: like anxiety or stress going into the show knowing that 199 00:10:22,520 --> 00:10:24,319 Speaker 1: that was going to be a topic and something that 200 00:10:24,360 --> 00:10:27,520 Speaker 1: like was spoken about and like having this, I mean, 201 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:29,080 Speaker 1: I know you posted like you talked about on your 202 00:10:29,080 --> 00:10:31,440 Speaker 1: social media, but having it on such a huge platform, 203 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:33,800 Speaker 1: was there like anxiety around that or were you kind 204 00:10:33,800 --> 00:10:35,760 Speaker 1: of like, this is my story and I'm I'm just 205 00:10:35,800 --> 00:10:39,320 Speaker 1: gonna put it out there. So we we filmed our 206 00:10:39,360 --> 00:10:42,959 Speaker 1: pilot in October, and I didn't actually we didn't decide 207 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 1: that we were getting divorced until Thanksgiving end of November. 208 00:10:46,120 --> 00:10:49,320 Speaker 1: So when the pipe picked up, this was an April 209 00:10:49,400 --> 00:10:51,600 Speaker 1: that we like picked up and filmed the remaining episodes, 210 00:10:51,640 --> 00:10:53,679 Speaker 1: and they were like what's changed in everybody's lives? And 211 00:10:53,720 --> 00:10:55,960 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not married anymore. So if you watched 212 00:10:56,120 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 1: some of the episodes, UM, I have a ring on 213 00:11:00,120 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 1: in the from like the pilot, we didn't actually end 214 00:11:03,400 --> 00:11:07,440 Speaker 1: up like airing a pilot and just took scenes right. Yeah, 215 00:11:07,520 --> 00:11:11,680 Speaker 1: So so yeah, I was It wasn't like I was 216 00:11:11,679 --> 00:11:13,560 Speaker 1: gonna be like, no, I don't want to film anymore 217 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:16,280 Speaker 1: because I don't want to have to talk about this, 218 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:18,600 Speaker 1: and so I just kind of made the commitment that 219 00:11:18,640 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 1: I was going to just try to portray my side 220 00:11:22,080 --> 00:11:26,040 Speaker 1: as authentically it's possible without dragging any bay through mud. 221 00:11:26,080 --> 00:11:29,200 Speaker 1: And yeah. But the thing that I really admire about 222 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 1: you is that, like I remember we had you on 223 00:11:31,280 --> 00:11:34,640 Speaker 1: the Morning Show and you were saying, how like there 224 00:11:34,679 --> 00:11:36,520 Speaker 1: there was this feeling and I think I forget how 225 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 1: old you were. You were like twenty five, Oh probably, 226 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:42,640 Speaker 1: I don't even remember. You said you were twenty five 227 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:44,480 Speaker 1: and you felt like you needed to like have the 228 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:46,720 Speaker 1: kids and do all this stuff by like a certain age. 229 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:49,320 Speaker 1: So you kind of, um, you maybe did things that 230 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:51,560 Speaker 1: you didn't necessarily. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I thought you meant 231 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 1: when I was twenty five. On the Morning show, I 232 00:11:53,040 --> 00:11:56,560 Speaker 1: was like, really, no, no. Last week we were talking 233 00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:59,040 Speaker 1: about this pressure that you had when you were twenty five, 234 00:11:59,040 --> 00:12:02,200 Speaker 1: and maybe you made some decisions that weren't necessarily you 235 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:04,600 Speaker 1: didn't think them all the way through. But it's because 236 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:08,480 Speaker 1: we as women have this like time stamp on our 237 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:10,800 Speaker 1: foreheads like no matter even if anybody says they're not 238 00:12:10,920 --> 00:12:13,120 Speaker 1: thinking about it, like we're I mean, we're just like 239 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:15,960 Speaker 1: constantly thinking about it. And so I think it's really 240 00:12:15,960 --> 00:12:18,040 Speaker 1: cool that you're kind of opening up and sharing these 241 00:12:18,040 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 1: things because I think, like, if you could go back 242 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,559 Speaker 1: and tell your twenty five year old self anything, like, 243 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:25,920 Speaker 1: what would you say to her? I would be I 244 00:12:25,960 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: would say, I mean, it's always hard to be like, oh, 245 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:32,559 Speaker 1: to be like I don't regret the moves that I made, 246 00:12:32,640 --> 00:12:38,160 Speaker 1: but I think just knowing that there's just no what 247 00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:40,600 Speaker 1: I think what I would say is that the things 248 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:43,360 Speaker 1: they are that are like the red flags to you 249 00:12:43,480 --> 00:12:46,480 Speaker 1: right now, the things that don't feel right, those things 250 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:50,120 Speaker 1: don't go away, and you can't just wish. You can't 251 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:53,040 Speaker 1: just kind of assume or count that things are going 252 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:57,040 Speaker 1: to work out in your favor favor, especially when they 253 00:12:57,520 --> 00:13:01,440 Speaker 1: involve other people and you're banking on them going along 254 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 1: with your idea of what life should be. You know, 255 00:13:05,960 --> 00:13:09,240 Speaker 1: I think what I've like overarching lesson for all life 256 00:13:09,320 --> 00:13:12,600 Speaker 1: is just you can't control other people. You can't you 257 00:13:12,679 --> 00:13:17,320 Speaker 1: can't predict the future. You can't you can't force like 258 00:13:17,880 --> 00:13:20,560 Speaker 1: around peg in a square hole or whatever that expression is. 259 00:13:20,760 --> 00:13:23,000 Speaker 1: I think what I really tried to do is kind 260 00:13:23,040 --> 00:13:25,800 Speaker 1: of play God in that way, like this person is 261 00:13:25,800 --> 00:13:28,960 Speaker 1: gonna they're gonna work out for me one way or another. 262 00:13:28,960 --> 00:13:32,200 Speaker 1: We're just gonna make it happen. I was listening to 263 00:13:32,240 --> 00:13:35,200 Speaker 1: a podcast that y'all did, and um, I want to 264 00:13:35,200 --> 00:13:39,480 Speaker 1: say the podcast was called pretty Smart, Pretty Smart? Oh yeah, 265 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:43,480 Speaker 1: and she y'all were talking about like who has the 266 00:13:44,160 --> 00:13:46,520 Speaker 1: It's really funny. Y'all all sound so similar. So while 267 00:13:46,559 --> 00:13:49,440 Speaker 1: I was listening to the podcast a lot, I was like, wait, 268 00:13:49,440 --> 00:13:51,480 Speaker 1: who's speaking? Who speaking? Who's doing this right now? But 269 00:13:51,559 --> 00:13:53,280 Speaker 1: y'all were talking about like who has the worst taste 270 00:13:53,280 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 1: of men? And I want to say that you and 271 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:59,720 Speaker 1: Olivia were both like we're tied, like you were. We 272 00:13:59,720 --> 00:14:04,680 Speaker 1: were like, y'all kind there was no like actual like 273 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:06,320 Speaker 1: who's the best or the worst, But y'all are all 274 00:14:06,360 --> 00:14:08,920 Speaker 1: kind of like, Yeah, do you still like now that 275 00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:11,120 Speaker 1: you have been through this with your marriage, do you 276 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:14,719 Speaker 1: feel like you have this new set of like what 277 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:16,920 Speaker 1: you're looking for and like things that you're going to 278 00:14:17,040 --> 00:14:21,240 Speaker 1: listen to, like moving forward and dating definitely. I mean 279 00:14:22,080 --> 00:14:26,240 Speaker 1: I don't. I think, I think if it does feel 280 00:14:26,360 --> 00:14:28,760 Speaker 1: I'm a firm believer and like you have a lot 281 00:14:28,800 --> 00:14:31,360 Speaker 1: of your answers right off the bat when you meet somebody. 282 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:33,640 Speaker 1: Don't know if you remember that book Blinked by Malcolm Gladwell, 283 00:14:33,840 --> 00:14:35,840 Speaker 1: and it was basically all of that. It's basically all 284 00:14:35,880 --> 00:14:39,160 Speaker 1: about like that we know all of the answers to 285 00:14:39,200 --> 00:14:42,200 Speaker 1: our questions within like the split second that we meet somebody, 286 00:14:42,280 --> 00:14:44,160 Speaker 1: we know, like you have to trust your body and 287 00:14:44,200 --> 00:14:45,920 Speaker 1: your gut and what all of that tells you, and 288 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:49,800 Speaker 1: like really be tuned in in order to know, in 289 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:52,440 Speaker 1: order to hear what your body and your gut telling you. 290 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:54,720 Speaker 1: And that's another reason why I feel like being clear, 291 00:14:54,880 --> 00:14:58,360 Speaker 1: like not being hungover, not drinking, not going on these 292 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:02,160 Speaker 1: first dates and relying on alcohol to ease up, because 293 00:15:02,480 --> 00:15:04,640 Speaker 1: then you're not able to hear that voice inside you 294 00:15:04,720 --> 00:15:08,200 Speaker 1: being like this is not clicking, Like I think honestly, 295 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:11,280 Speaker 1: for the first year of my relationship, way back when 296 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:12,920 Speaker 1: when I was twenty five, that's like all we did 297 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:15,640 Speaker 1: was drinking party and it's like now when you have kids, 298 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:17,600 Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, what do we have a common what 299 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:19,720 Speaker 1: do we have a comming from you can't do all that, 300 00:15:20,120 --> 00:15:22,680 Speaker 1: like what time do you go to bed? Like yeah, 301 00:15:22,760 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 1: that's always like that was always my thing, Like what 302 00:15:25,200 --> 00:15:27,080 Speaker 1: time do you go to bed on the weekdays? What 303 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:29,280 Speaker 1: do you like to do for fun on the weekends? 304 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:33,120 Speaker 1: How do you eat? Like all of those things, because 305 00:15:33,120 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 1: it's like compatibility, you know, like lifestyle compatibility. Actually, that's 306 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 1: so interesting because the dates I went on, so before 307 00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:41,720 Speaker 1: I went on The Bachelor, I went on like a 308 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:46,560 Speaker 1: slew of like uh dating, like tender dates. So yeah, 309 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:49,120 Speaker 1: I kind of like, oh my god when tender first 310 00:15:49,120 --> 00:15:52,600 Speaker 1: got popular, so I was like, this is interesting. I 311 00:15:52,640 --> 00:15:55,720 Speaker 1: love I love that app I hated having a year ready. 312 00:15:55,960 --> 00:15:59,320 Speaker 1: I well, I didn't drink at the time, so like 313 00:15:59,440 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 1: I would know right off the bat. I would be like, 314 00:16:02,400 --> 00:16:06,120 Speaker 1: you know, like there was like an immediately like no feeling. 315 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:09,720 Speaker 1: And that's so funny that you say that, because I 316 00:16:09,760 --> 00:16:13,120 Speaker 1: wonder if I had been like, oh, let's get a drink, 317 00:16:13,200 --> 00:16:15,760 Speaker 1: if I would have been more like, oh, this guy's cute, 318 00:16:15,800 --> 00:16:18,120 Speaker 1: Like let me tell you. Because I drank every first day, 319 00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:20,000 Speaker 1: like I would get slosh and I would just make 320 00:16:20,040 --> 00:16:24,320 Speaker 1: out with anybody that had a pulse. So like he 321 00:16:24,440 --> 00:16:30,520 Speaker 1: was awesome. He was awesome. I think fund like we 322 00:16:30,600 --> 00:16:49,880 Speaker 1: made out so definitely was good. At some point I 323 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:53,760 Speaker 1: wanted to talk about the deal that you had where 324 00:16:54,440 --> 00:16:56,440 Speaker 1: what he had a hall pass or what was the 325 00:16:57,280 --> 00:17:00,600 Speaker 1: what was and this was from your this this was 326 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:03,600 Speaker 1: your deal, right, this is my deal. So the hall 327 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:07,719 Speaker 1: past was an interesting thing. We It was based on 328 00:17:07,760 --> 00:17:12,720 Speaker 1: the premise that it's like sex is something. Sex is sex, 329 00:17:12,760 --> 00:17:16,679 Speaker 1: it's different from a relationship, and that men like haven't 330 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:21,040 Speaker 1: urge to Basically, it's like a biological thing where men 331 00:17:21,320 --> 00:17:26,200 Speaker 1: are more wired to want to hook up with different 332 00:17:26,200 --> 00:17:30,440 Speaker 1: people and just want it more. Yeah, and just wanted 333 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:33,520 Speaker 1: more and like want that excitement of like the variety. 334 00:17:33,720 --> 00:17:35,800 Speaker 1: And I was like okay, well and and also when 335 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:37,960 Speaker 1: I end he was forty and he had had never 336 00:17:38,000 --> 00:17:45,639 Speaker 1: been married, and I think I thought that he and 337 00:17:45,920 --> 00:17:48,199 Speaker 1: I was right and assuming so he had never been 338 00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:50,200 Speaker 1: married because I never wanted to be I never really 339 00:17:50,240 --> 00:17:53,200 Speaker 1: wanted to be in that monogamy that's like objective, objectively 340 00:17:53,560 --> 00:17:56,560 Speaker 1: not something that I judge or thought was bad. But 341 00:17:56,600 --> 00:17:58,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, this is the person that I want to 342 00:17:58,080 --> 00:17:59,440 Speaker 1: have kids with it and I want to be with, 343 00:17:59,520 --> 00:18:01,720 Speaker 1: so I'm gonna have to make this work for him somehow, 344 00:18:02,200 --> 00:18:03,840 Speaker 1: like it doesn't really bother me that much. Like I 345 00:18:03,840 --> 00:18:05,400 Speaker 1: don't really think sex is that big of a deal. 346 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:07,879 Speaker 1: So it's like, as long as I don't know about it, 347 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:10,880 Speaker 1: and if it's something that you need and we're so 348 00:18:10,960 --> 00:18:12,800 Speaker 1: close and we get along so great that like it's 349 00:18:12,800 --> 00:18:15,359 Speaker 1: not going to jeopardize anything within our arrangement. That I 350 00:18:15,400 --> 00:18:19,159 Speaker 1: was like, Okay, that's fine, you can take it. M 351 00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:22,560 Speaker 1: not the best deal I should, you know. I think 352 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:24,680 Speaker 1: I didn't look at the longevity and I think if 353 00:18:24,680 --> 00:18:27,200 Speaker 1: he had used the past during like that first year, 354 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:29,399 Speaker 1: I made it for the second year, I might not 355 00:18:29,560 --> 00:18:32,040 Speaker 1: have like I might have been okay with it, Like 356 00:18:32,080 --> 00:18:34,320 Speaker 1: it might have been fine. But I think when you start, 357 00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:37,880 Speaker 1: when you have kids and once there are different pressures 358 00:18:37,880 --> 00:18:39,840 Speaker 1: on the relationship and you've been together for so long 359 00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:43,280 Speaker 1: and you do need that like reassurance from each other 360 00:18:44,440 --> 00:18:49,320 Speaker 1: just to keep the spark alive. It's just it was 361 00:18:49,359 --> 00:18:51,119 Speaker 1: just it was just like a nail and a coffin 362 00:18:51,400 --> 00:18:53,560 Speaker 1: I do. It wasn't the reason we decided to end 363 00:18:53,560 --> 00:18:56,320 Speaker 1: the marriage. It was just another reminder of like that 364 00:18:56,359 --> 00:19:00,320 Speaker 1: we're just not in it. You were there, what were 365 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:03,280 Speaker 1: the parameters. Was it like he can like you don't 366 00:19:03,359 --> 00:19:06,800 Speaker 1: see that person more than once, or like, was it yeah, 367 00:19:06,920 --> 00:19:09,160 Speaker 1: you can't like exchange numbers, you can't see that person 368 00:19:09,200 --> 00:19:11,000 Speaker 1: more than once. You have to use protection and can't 369 00:19:11,040 --> 00:19:14,960 Speaker 1: be anybody we know. And what happened was somebody on 370 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:20,359 Speaker 1: Instagram reached out to me. Yeah, somebody from Utah and 371 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:24,479 Speaker 1: they were like they were really religious and they're like, 372 00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:28,040 Speaker 1: my friend, look up with your husband. And I'm whispering 373 00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:31,360 Speaker 1: because they think, like might actually downstairs. What's fine? We 374 00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:39,640 Speaker 1: still share how so he had them on a show. 375 00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:41,840 Speaker 1: I mean that would be great. Um, he might walk 376 00:19:41,920 --> 00:19:44,680 Speaker 1: up and want want to share his side. Let's bring 377 00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:47,159 Speaker 1: about not here. But let me tell you here's the 378 00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:49,480 Speaker 1: thing that's interesting. So we were like talking about this 379 00:19:49,680 --> 00:19:51,399 Speaker 1: and they asked me. They were like, what would Tanya, 380 00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:53,840 Speaker 1: what would you do if if like your boyfriend approached 381 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:56,280 Speaker 1: you with this deal? And I was like I really 382 00:19:56,320 --> 00:19:57,879 Speaker 1: had to like sit and think about it because like 383 00:19:57,960 --> 00:19:59,480 Speaker 1: off the bat, you hear that and you're like there's 384 00:19:59,520 --> 00:20:01,280 Speaker 1: no way, like I would never be okay with that. 385 00:20:01,320 --> 00:20:03,680 Speaker 1: And then I was like I'm so I'm knee deep 386 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:05,800 Speaker 1: in this is the guy for me, Like I know, 387 00:20:05,920 --> 00:20:09,199 Speaker 1: he's my guy, if that's what he needed, Like, I 388 00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:12,040 Speaker 1: would really have to think about it, like if it's not, 389 00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:16,240 Speaker 1: especially when you feel like that clock when you're like 390 00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:19,080 Speaker 1: I've already invested over like I don't have time for that. Yeah, 391 00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:21,239 Speaker 1: I'm like, I've already invested three years. You're You're an 392 00:20:21,240 --> 00:20:23,480 Speaker 1: amazing dad. I see that, you know what I mean? 393 00:20:23,480 --> 00:20:25,399 Speaker 1: Like I was like, I really would have to to 394 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:27,960 Speaker 1: like think about it. As wild as that sounds for 395 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:29,720 Speaker 1: me to say, Like I was like I would actually 396 00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:31,399 Speaker 1: have to think about it. I think I would end 397 00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:34,920 Speaker 1: up on you. I appreciate that somebody kind of sort 398 00:20:34,920 --> 00:20:36,760 Speaker 1: of understand a little bit where I was coming from. 399 00:20:36,840 --> 00:20:39,120 Speaker 1: I think people tell the people at like these swinger 400 00:20:39,200 --> 00:20:42,040 Speaker 1: convention where are they. They're not coming out to be like, oh, 401 00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:44,640 Speaker 1: that's normal. I know. I actually feel bad, Like did 402 00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:46,639 Speaker 1: you receive a lot of like crazy d m s 403 00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:51,080 Speaker 1: after that episode. There's one person that was like, that's normal. 404 00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:55,160 Speaker 1: Nobody had my back on that one. I mean, people 405 00:20:55,359 --> 00:20:57,480 Speaker 1: just felt bad for me. Really, They're like, wow, what 406 00:20:57,520 --> 00:21:00,439 Speaker 1: will self esteem you must have had? But really I 407 00:21:00,480 --> 00:21:03,520 Speaker 1: think it was not most self esteem. I think it 408 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:07,440 Speaker 1: was just it was just it was like bad foresight 409 00:21:07,520 --> 00:21:10,040 Speaker 1: more than I. Yeah, I was gonna say, I I 410 00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:12,440 Speaker 1: agree with you. I think right off the back, think 411 00:21:12,440 --> 00:21:14,680 Speaker 1: about it right now, like you invested four years into 412 00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:17,560 Speaker 1: Haley and she comes to But I know myself, like 413 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:19,679 Speaker 1: I could never. I just know I would not. But 414 00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:21,560 Speaker 1: you wouldn't just say okay, by we're done. I would 415 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:24,479 Speaker 1: say about Scorpio and like evil about it, like I 416 00:21:24,520 --> 00:21:26,959 Speaker 1: just could never. I just know myself. But I do 417 00:21:27,160 --> 00:21:31,240 Speaker 1: think that people don't realize that just I mean, it's 418 00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:33,840 Speaker 1: the same thing as if someone did something that was 419 00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:36,520 Speaker 1: like a red flag or like super toxic. You don't 420 00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:40,360 Speaker 1: just walk away. You go You're like, oh, I love them, 421 00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:41,720 Speaker 1: like I want to try to make it work. So 422 00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:43,679 Speaker 1: I don't think people. I think people just hear that 423 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:45,280 Speaker 1: and think like, oh, I could never, But I don't 424 00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:48,119 Speaker 1: think if they were faced with that, do I keep this, 425 00:21:48,320 --> 00:21:49,800 Speaker 1: Do I get to keep the love in my life? 426 00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:52,520 Speaker 1: Or do I have to let them go? Like that's 427 00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:57,240 Speaker 1: a that's in a lot of ways, it's like I 428 00:21:57,320 --> 00:21:59,520 Speaker 1: might have I might still have done it the same 429 00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:02,439 Speaker 1: way because I did want kids at that time, and 430 00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:04,359 Speaker 1: I'm glad that I had kids at that time. Like 431 00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:06,639 Speaker 1: I I'm going through the nitty gritty of the divorce 432 00:22:06,760 --> 00:22:08,920 Speaker 1: right now, and so that there are some things that 433 00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:10,960 Speaker 1: would have done a little differently. I'm not gonna lie 434 00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:14,359 Speaker 1: like just the way everything was laid out time wise 435 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:16,760 Speaker 1: and all that, um, you know, buying property. There's a 436 00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:21,840 Speaker 1: lot of things that get sticky, but um but time wise, 437 00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:24,120 Speaker 1: like I'm happy, I feel I feel a lot less 438 00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:27,879 Speaker 1: pressure now to find a person that can help me 439 00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:31,360 Speaker 1: fulfill my dream of other because I already am a mom, 440 00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:33,359 Speaker 1: I have my kids, and now it's like, if you 441 00:22:33,400 --> 00:22:35,640 Speaker 1: don't if you don't make me, if you don't bring 442 00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:38,280 Speaker 1: like joy into my life, help me be a better 443 00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:41,960 Speaker 1: version of myself, I'm out. And I think I think 444 00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:43,760 Speaker 1: that's going to also help you meet like a really 445 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:46,760 Speaker 1: amazing partner, because that's how my boyfriend was, Like it 446 00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:50,080 Speaker 1: was he It's almost like you did the thing you 447 00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:53,160 Speaker 1: had the kids, Like you're good, so you only want 448 00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:55,480 Speaker 1: somebody that's going to be so amazing to bring into 449 00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:57,840 Speaker 1: your kids lives, Like you're not just gonna bring anybody 450 00:22:57,840 --> 00:22:59,760 Speaker 1: around your kids, like you need someone that's gonna be 451 00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:02,840 Speaker 1: like amazing for them. So it's almost gonna like elevate 452 00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:06,800 Speaker 1: you just by Yeah, that's so true. I didn't even 453 00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:09,000 Speaker 1: think of it really that way, because it's true and 454 00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:11,600 Speaker 1: a lot of times, like like the things that we 455 00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:15,400 Speaker 1: would put ourselves through never put our kids through higher 456 00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:19,320 Speaker 1: standards for them. So way, even if I did have 457 00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:22,359 Speaker 1: really low self steaming poorly at myself, I would have 458 00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:25,480 Speaker 1: to elevate my standard because you know, I don't. I 459 00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:30,119 Speaker 1: wouldn't put just anybody around my kids. So I'm feeling 460 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:34,720 Speaker 1: feeling good about Rocky Road. I don't know, So I'm like, 461 00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:36,639 Speaker 1: I want to be friends with you, Like I'm like, 462 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:39,000 Speaker 1: I like, I know you're busy, and I know you 463 00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:41,280 Speaker 1: have kids. I know you live, like I know, I 464 00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:42,879 Speaker 1: think you live far away from me, and I know 465 00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:45,600 Speaker 1: that like I know I know you well literally you 466 00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:47,960 Speaker 1: know where I live. We live like forty five minutes away, 467 00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:50,159 Speaker 1: which you're like, so it will never work out. We 468 00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:52,439 Speaker 1: can never hang out, I know, but I could see us. 469 00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:55,679 Speaker 1: I could see us like working out together and like 470 00:23:56,080 --> 00:24:02,120 Speaker 1: doing things like not drinking together totally, you know, yeah, 471 00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:05,359 Speaker 1: like playing board games or like vision boarding together. Like 472 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:08,160 Speaker 1: I don't know why vision boarding vision boarding. You seem 473 00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:10,520 Speaker 1: like a vision boarder. We oh, yeah, I feel we 474 00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:13,399 Speaker 1: because me Olivia and Sophie have made many a vision 475 00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:18,399 Speaker 1: board together. Um, yes, I love it boarding. Actually, no, 476 00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:20,919 Speaker 1: I see, I get it. I feel like Aurora and 477 00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:23,920 Speaker 1: I are like, well I meant to be, I will say, 478 00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:29,960 Speaker 1: Roora like I I'm like, so, I love the sisterhood 479 00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:32,879 Speaker 1: that y'all have with like you, Sophie and Olivia. Like, 480 00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:35,800 Speaker 1: I'm just so fascinated by all because you're all like Sophia, 481 00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:38,840 Speaker 1: they call her Sophie, so I called her Sophie. So 482 00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:41,240 Speaker 1: that's how That's how it is when you're like part 483 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:44,280 Speaker 1: of the group, you know. Um, but I just love 484 00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:46,639 Speaker 1: like the dynamic and I'm just like fascinating. You'll are 485 00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:50,120 Speaker 1: also funny, you're smart, you're stunningly beautiful, and I love 486 00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:53,359 Speaker 1: that y'all are so close. But has there been any 487 00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:57,120 Speaker 1: Because I have three sisters, so I was curious, like 488 00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:00,320 Speaker 1: in this world that y'all are in, which is just 489 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:05,479 Speaker 1: constant like attention and glam and like getting dressed up, 490 00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:09,120 Speaker 1: has there been any moment where there's just like conflict 491 00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:11,720 Speaker 1: or you're just like I do not want to see 492 00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,480 Speaker 1: you guys anymore. I don't want to work with you anymore. 493 00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:17,480 Speaker 1: Have there been any of those moments? Yeah? I mean, 494 00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:20,560 Speaker 1: we definitely need our breaks, but there's there's never been 495 00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:22,600 Speaker 1: a time where we're like we don't want to ever 496 00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:26,600 Speaker 1: see each other again. We're way too cold to anyway, 497 00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:30,600 Speaker 1: like we we do love each other, so but yeah, 498 00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:33,800 Speaker 1: we get in fights. We gotta fights like quarterly, maybe 499 00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:37,679 Speaker 1: by yearly a really big one maybe, But what are 500 00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:40,040 Speaker 1: the fights about? Like when it's because my sisters and 501 00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:42,119 Speaker 1: I when they lived with me, it was about like 502 00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,320 Speaker 1: clothes and stuff. That's where I was just like, you're 503 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:47,160 Speaker 1: driving me insane. But like, we've never had any like 504 00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:50,119 Speaker 1: fights where it was like we didn't talk for a 505 00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:52,680 Speaker 1: period of time. The biggest fight Livian and I got 506 00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:55,720 Speaker 1: into was like after I had I gave birth to 507 00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:58,879 Speaker 1: both my children, actually both the two type of times. 508 00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:03,840 Speaker 1: If birth, my mom came to like help me, but 509 00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:05,720 Speaker 1: then it was like the height of COVID and my 510 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:09,040 Speaker 1: brother Gus brought like nine friends to my house and 511 00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:11,120 Speaker 1: then Sophie wanted her boyfriend to sleep in my couch. 512 00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:12,840 Speaker 1: I had just given birth to a baby, and I 513 00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:15,520 Speaker 1: was like, I don't want all these people in my space. 514 00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:18,280 Speaker 1: It's COVID. I don't know who they are, and my 515 00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:21,520 Speaker 1: family is just like that like my brother Gus, like 516 00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:25,560 Speaker 1: he just travels with like nine strangers that I never know. Literally, 517 00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:28,920 Speaker 1: last there was a parent teacher conference like open house 518 00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:31,439 Speaker 1: at my school. Gus wanted to bring a friend and like, 519 00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:34,919 Speaker 1: I'm like, you can't. And Olivia always sticks up for 520 00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:39,359 Speaker 1: She's always trying to tell me that I need to 521 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:41,960 Speaker 1: like let Gus's friends sleep at my house, or that 522 00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:44,320 Speaker 1: I'm not grateful enough for the help that my mom 523 00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:46,520 Speaker 1: gives me. She's just it's because she doesn't want them 524 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:49,040 Speaker 1: at her house. That's like if those are the fights 525 00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,359 Speaker 1: we get into, if we get into fights about what 526 00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:53,280 Speaker 1: you want to bring a friend to parent teacher and 527 00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:56,520 Speaker 1: I are back to school, it was the most bizarre thing, 528 00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:59,400 Speaker 1: Like so like I'm like, why do you guys even 529 00:26:59,440 --> 00:27:02,480 Speaker 1: want to come? Um, Like it's like it's like my 530 00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:05,720 Speaker 1: son wanted to show my brother his uncle some of 531 00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:08,439 Speaker 1: his work that he's done. It's like, who is this 532 00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:12,000 Speaker 1: friend at what time? That what I need to know? 533 00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:15,000 Speaker 1: Like first of all, that's kind of red flag enough, 534 00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:18,359 Speaker 1: like like I'm pretty sure he's not allowed within like 535 00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:25,720 Speaker 1: feet of the school. So that I listened on that podcast, 536 00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:28,920 Speaker 1: ya were saying, um, they were saying that you were 537 00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:32,760 Speaker 1: the most like you're not scared of confrontation like you 538 00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,280 Speaker 1: will like you're you're not scared of it, and he 539 00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:38,320 Speaker 1: was saying like, I don't like confrontation, and I personally 540 00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:42,159 Speaker 1: hate confrontation. And I think part of why I I 541 00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:44,000 Speaker 1: was trying to say earlier, I love your sister as 542 00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:46,920 Speaker 1: a family, but I am I am so like drawn 543 00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:48,880 Speaker 1: to you as a person because I feel like you're 544 00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:52,600 Speaker 1: so just like yourself. I think I see things in 545 00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:54,200 Speaker 1: you that I wish I had a little more of 546 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:57,560 Speaker 1: it myself, which is like the like I don't want 547 00:27:57,560 --> 00:28:00,560 Speaker 1: to say confrontational, but like the confident and so like 548 00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,359 Speaker 1: knowing who you are and standing up for yourself and 549 00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:05,359 Speaker 1: things that you believe in. Whether they get like a 550 00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:08,400 Speaker 1: positive feedback or not, I don't know. I'm just like, well, 551 00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:12,080 Speaker 1: thank you. I appreciate that. I mean, I do think 552 00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 1: that that's something that gets me in trouble and is 553 00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:18,600 Speaker 1: like my one of my biggest assets. Like I I 554 00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:22,280 Speaker 1: you should some of the texts threads, it's like I 555 00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:25,439 Speaker 1: probably should have waited twenty four hours before answering I 556 00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:28,320 Speaker 1: get myself in problem like that a lot, like's impulsive 557 00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:32,520 Speaker 1: with with with answering, and I do call people out 558 00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:35,240 Speaker 1: before I have all the facts that are embarrassing. You know, 559 00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:39,640 Speaker 1: there's things that can go wrong. But but yeah, I 560 00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:41,280 Speaker 1: appreciate that. Thank you. I feel like it is a 561 00:28:41,320 --> 00:28:44,560 Speaker 1: Scorpio trade too, because Sophie's a Scorpio and she does 562 00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:49,200 Speaker 1: not like confrontation at all, and she and one of 563 00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,760 Speaker 1: my other friends to also scorpio. Yeah, so I feel 564 00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:53,480 Speaker 1: like it's a good week. Yeah, it's a good way. 565 00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:57,640 Speaker 1: What's your sis? I'm an aries? Oh my girlfriends in 566 00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:04,760 Speaker 1: the area is like the most known, like asshole's scary scary. 567 00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:07,640 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, my so my girlfriend's and aries and she 568 00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:10,840 Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't think of her as scary at all, 569 00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,800 Speaker 1: but I do. She is bossy, like she is definitely 570 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:16,840 Speaker 1: like likes being in control, Like it's something she's passionate about. 571 00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:19,920 Speaker 1: She has no problem confronting anyone about it. I cannot 572 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:23,520 Speaker 1: date in aerieses. I follow her on Instagram and I 573 00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:28,720 Speaker 1: and she give me aries by fire sign. What's your sign? 574 00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:32,440 Speaker 1: I'm a cancer and I'm like the most cancers cancer 575 00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:36,160 Speaker 1: you could ever mean, Like I'm super sensitive, very emotional, 576 00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:39,720 Speaker 1: so sentimental, Like every gift I give has to have 577 00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:43,200 Speaker 1: some sort of meaning. It gets like weird. Oh my god, 578 00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:46,960 Speaker 1: that's I feel like that's the opposite of me. That's 579 00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:48,640 Speaker 1: why I could never date in aries. It would be 580 00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:52,240 Speaker 1: very bad. Yeah, you'd offended a lot. My boyfriend's a 581 00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:54,560 Speaker 1: water sign, and so it's like like we're a good 582 00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:57,280 Speaker 1: match in that sense because he's very emotional sensitive too. 583 00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:00,680 Speaker 1: I know. It's like, who am I supposed to date 584 00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,719 Speaker 1: a leo? I don't know somebody who doesn't think I'm 585 00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:07,480 Speaker 1: a jerk for not being sentient sentimental. I think that's 586 00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:09,840 Speaker 1: also plays into like how I made that deal. People 587 00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 1: don't understand it, maybe like more areas would understand it 588 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:18,800 Speaker 1: because not sentimental, Like we're not right, it's transactional. It's 589 00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:22,680 Speaker 1: more it's more um uh, not transactional is not the 590 00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:26,560 Speaker 1: right word, but it's more like, um, I feel like 591 00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:34,160 Speaker 1: transactional does. And I'll leave that there. Then it's not personal, right. 592 00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:37,120 Speaker 1: Do you still feel that way though, Like do you 593 00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:39,280 Speaker 1: feel like if you like, when you fall in love again, 594 00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:45,840 Speaker 1: that you would like I feel like it's there's just 595 00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:50,080 Speaker 1: too many there's too many human conditions that I didn't 596 00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:55,440 Speaker 1: take into account that I think from from every like 597 00:30:55,640 --> 00:30:58,160 Speaker 1: we're different from one day to the next. It's just 598 00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,520 Speaker 1: not sustainable. And also, no, I don't want I don't 599 00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:02,680 Speaker 1: I don't want somebody to need that. Like, I just 600 00:31:02,760 --> 00:31:06,600 Speaker 1: feel like I should be enough, like I did it 601 00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:10,440 Speaker 1: at least try, you know, if I don't know, like, 602 00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:13,200 Speaker 1: and if I'm not then maybe then then they like 603 00:31:13,280 --> 00:31:15,440 Speaker 1: I just move on to the next person. You know, 604 00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:17,720 Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, like, instead of being like, because 605 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:19,920 Speaker 1: I I do think of a big part of the 606 00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:22,479 Speaker 1: conversation that we had was that you wanted kids. So 607 00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:25,600 Speaker 1: I think, like, not feeling that pressure, you're able to 608 00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:28,440 Speaker 1: go Okay, even if I fell in love with this person, 609 00:31:28,480 --> 00:31:30,200 Speaker 1: if they need something from me that I'm not willing 610 00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:32,360 Speaker 1: to give again, I can walk away, as opposed to 611 00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:35,080 Speaker 1: being like I need to make it work totally. Yeah, 612 00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:37,120 Speaker 1: there's not that. There's not that pressure anymore, which really 613 00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:39,120 Speaker 1: bumps me out for the people who feel like like, 614 00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:41,280 Speaker 1: I don't want to sound like I'm validating the pressure 615 00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:43,320 Speaker 1: for people who don't have kids that want kids, Like, 616 00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:45,520 Speaker 1: it's still not a valid reason to try to make 617 00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:49,360 Speaker 1: something work that's not working, but it's a pressure that's there, Like, 618 00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:51,640 Speaker 1: and actually it's interesting and I'm seeing a lot more women. 619 00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:55,920 Speaker 1: I'd say the last six months, I've met three separate 620 00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:58,480 Speaker 1: women like randomly that I've had babies on their own, 621 00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:01,120 Speaker 1: like god a sperm don't and just said like I 622 00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:03,320 Speaker 1: want kid and I'm going to do it on my own. 623 00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:06,719 Speaker 1: And I feel like I haven't heard that many in 624 00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:10,320 Speaker 1: years past. Like I feel like it's becoming more the norm, 625 00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:12,440 Speaker 1: and it's good that people are like starting to just 626 00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:14,600 Speaker 1: take matters into their own hands. It's like, you know, 627 00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:19,920 Speaker 1: you don't need Yeah, I think that the pressure, it's 628 00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:23,200 Speaker 1: it's not right that we feel that way about certain things, 629 00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:25,320 Speaker 1: Like I don't think it's fair because I don't know 630 00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:27,840 Speaker 1: that I don't think I definitely don't think that men 631 00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:32,360 Speaker 1: have that pressure they're falling out of bed. I think 632 00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:36,000 Speaker 1: that your story is just very relatable to so many 633 00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:39,360 Speaker 1: women that like, yeah, oh I don't have to sacrifice 634 00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:41,600 Speaker 1: something that I really want in a relationship because of 635 00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:44,760 Speaker 1: the pressure that I feel. I also just like have 636 00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:48,200 Speaker 1: a really big problem with so my ex is he's 637 00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:51,120 Speaker 1: like forties seven now, and his friends who are saying 638 00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:56,560 Speaker 1: they set there like tinder age at like thirty, you know, 639 00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:58,840 Speaker 1: so it's like there's a whole there's like an expiration. 640 00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:02,400 Speaker 1: Like there's a whole up with women over forty single 641 00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:05,240 Speaker 1: probably you know, either have never been married been married before, 642 00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:08,920 Speaker 1: who have very slim pickings because all these old men 643 00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:12,160 Speaker 1: set their age rage so low and it's just not 644 00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:16,880 Speaker 1: I don't know, it's hot when they're older, and women 645 00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:21,240 Speaker 1: like are just like written off. No, I'm I'm so 646 00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:23,000 Speaker 1: much better of a catch now than it was at 647 00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:25,560 Speaker 1: twenty five. Let me tell you, Like I am, Like 648 00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:29,240 Speaker 1: my boyfriend is a lucky man because he met me 649 00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:32,520 Speaker 1: when I was five, was whack when I was twenty, 650 00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:35,000 Speaker 1: and I am so much better and now as a partner, 651 00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:38,200 Speaker 1: like honestly, like the way I handle things now are 652 00:33:38,320 --> 00:33:40,400 Speaker 1: so much better. I'm like, oh my gosh, if you 653 00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:43,360 Speaker 1: would have met me ten years ago, Like, no, it 654 00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:47,360 Speaker 1: would not have worked. I agree, Yeah, I agree, Why 655 00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:50,160 Speaker 1: don't It's I think that's one of the problems in 656 00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:53,120 Speaker 1: society is like that we don't give the time to 657 00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:57,520 Speaker 1: like really mature, Like by the time they're matured, their 658 00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:02,480 Speaker 1: physically out of a line. It was what like men, Yeah, 659 00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:08,040 Speaker 1: it's gross, gross, not functional clearly because it's like the 660 00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:26,160 Speaker 1: divorce rate is just climbing. Yeah, it's not working. Wait, 661 00:34:26,200 --> 00:34:27,360 Speaker 1: I want to ask you if you have any like 662 00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:30,120 Speaker 1: goals or plans or anything for I feel like you're 663 00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:32,520 Speaker 1: like that kind of gal. Yeah, I have goals, I 664 00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:36,440 Speaker 1: got I got some plans. Hopefully we'll stick to them. 665 00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:38,800 Speaker 1: I want to do another clothing line with my sisters. 666 00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:41,680 Speaker 1: We were were a brainstorming ideas that we didn't love 667 00:34:41,760 --> 00:34:44,440 Speaker 1: your clothes. I literally I a wore this. I was like, 668 00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:48,160 Speaker 1: I'm putting it into the universe. I'm just love all 669 00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:51,359 Speaker 1: your stuff all the time. Like I was the like 670 00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:55,400 Speaker 1: I feel like I can remember you. Yeah why, I 671 00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:57,440 Speaker 1: just could see you in the And this all the 672 00:34:57,560 --> 00:34:59,920 Speaker 1: sweat outfits too. I was like, I rocked this one 673 00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:03,160 Speaker 1: Offits like it was my job. Yeah, we need more 674 00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:07,319 Speaker 1: fancy sweat outfits, that's for damn sure. Yeah. Um yeah, 675 00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:11,759 Speaker 1: So just that. And I'm still just the everything with 676 00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:15,759 Speaker 1: separating lives. And I've never lived by myself before, so 677 00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:19,879 Speaker 1: I'm kind of scared to do that. I don't really 678 00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:21,279 Speaker 1: want to live by myself, but I'm gonna have to 679 00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:22,640 Speaker 1: be a big girl, just like learning how to be 680 00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:27,200 Speaker 1: comfortable being alone. I don't know, we're doing fifty fifty, 681 00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:28,960 Speaker 1: so there's gonna be days when I'm just I don't 682 00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:31,400 Speaker 1: have any kids, and I don't really know what I'm 683 00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:33,359 Speaker 1: gonna do at that time. So I think there's gonna 684 00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:35,080 Speaker 1: be a lot of growing pains, but I was hoping 685 00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:38,040 Speaker 1: that I can get through it. Like I don't know, 686 00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:41,279 Speaker 1: I think you're gonna thrive. I honestly, I feel like 687 00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:43,760 Speaker 1: this is gonna be like the new phase of your life, 688 00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:46,759 Speaker 1: and I think you're gonna just like it's only up 689 00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:49,360 Speaker 1: from here. Thank you. I can give you some tips 690 00:35:49,360 --> 00:35:52,160 Speaker 1: on living alone. I did it for many years. Yeah, 691 00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:53,800 Speaker 1: and like I feel like the first day I slept 692 00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:56,920 Speaker 1: by myself on my own, I like had a what 693 00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:58,960 Speaker 1: was it not a broom like a mop. I have 694 00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:00,879 Speaker 1: like a mop that I left with because I didn't 695 00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:05,400 Speaker 1: have locks on my door door, my bedroom door, like 696 00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:08,160 Speaker 1: I have walked to the house, but like not like 697 00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:10,200 Speaker 1: my bedroom door didn't have one. And I would hear 698 00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:12,520 Speaker 1: things and I would just like I get I got 699 00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:17,640 Speaker 1: them to bang somebody. Yeah, I always hear about I 700 00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:21,520 Speaker 1: need to learn some I don't know, I to actually 701 00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:28,040 Speaker 1: take jiu jitsu. I started taking jiu jitsu son more skills, um, yeah, 702 00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:31,360 Speaker 1: but I don't know. Yeah, just learning how to be 703 00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:34,440 Speaker 1: single and alone. I haven't been that ever that I 704 00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:38,240 Speaker 1: can remember, So yeah, I think I think growing pains 705 00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:42,160 Speaker 1: is very like a and honestly, it might happen faster. 706 00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:45,840 Speaker 1: You might like adapt to the quiet, living alone and 707 00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:48,680 Speaker 1: be like I never even gave myself a tip to 708 00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:53,320 Speaker 1: like this. Possibilities are endly Well, we are rooting for you, 709 00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:56,279 Speaker 1: and thank you so much for coming back and scrubbing in. 710 00:36:57,200 --> 00:37:00,920 Speaker 1: We obsessed with you the show, and you're a new website. 711 00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:02,640 Speaker 1: I mean you have like all the things I'm like 712 00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:04,960 Speaker 1: watching all your baking and like everything that you're doing. 713 00:37:05,320 --> 00:37:09,200 Speaker 1: I subscribe to the news letter. Thank you so much 714 00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:11,879 Speaker 1: for getting lots of recipes here. You know how to cook. Yeah, 715 00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:16,719 Speaker 1: I'm just like an Aurora Colpo stand so I appreciate it. 716 00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:19,640 Speaker 1: I just I love that, always here to support you. 717 00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:21,160 Speaker 1: So for you ever want to come back or you 718 00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:25,320 Speaker 1: want to be friends, we're here, just coming on totally. 719 00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:27,960 Speaker 1: That's an unnegotiable. If you need someone to come sleep 720 00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:32,759 Speaker 1: with you in your house, Tanya, I am here, I'm available. Yeah, 721 00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:37,600 Speaker 1: I love a sleepover. Yeah. Well, we're always supporting you 722 00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:40,239 Speaker 1: and so happy that you came on. And yeah, thanks 723 00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:43,759 Speaker 1: for being so just yourself and open. Thank you. And 724 00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:46,200 Speaker 1: if you guys have not yet watched our finale, um, 725 00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:49,680 Speaker 1: we had a two episode finale Aaron on Monday, so 726 00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:52,120 Speaker 1: you can still catch it on Discovery Plus or tlc 727 00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:55,960 Speaker 1: um And I think poste episodes were the best. So 728 00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:59,919 Speaker 1: where can people follow you on social media too? Yeah? 729 00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:04,800 Speaker 1: Aurora Colpo on Instagram and then Aurora ontur Culpo on TikTok. 730 00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:09,719 Speaker 1: But I needed to do better try and with the 731 00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:15,359 Speaker 1: TikTok's I'm the same thing. I'm like, I tried. I'm 732 00:38:15,400 --> 00:38:18,200 Speaker 1: trying to make a space for myself and the TikTok 733 00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:20,759 Speaker 1: land and it just doesn't. It's not like there's no 734 00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:25,440 Speaker 1: for me. It does not come naturally. Instagram I can do, 735 00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:28,120 Speaker 1: it comes naturally, but TikTok is not. It does not 736 00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:31,040 Speaker 1: come naturally to me. It feels like I'm trying to 737 00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:34,879 Speaker 1: put like I'm trying to put a sandal on when 738 00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:37,040 Speaker 1: I'm wearing socks, do you know what I mean? Like, 739 00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:40,480 Speaker 1: I'm like, it's just not like learn how to TikTok 740 00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:44,719 Speaker 1: retreat for old people. Okay, well, here are all of 741 00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:48,399 Speaker 1: our goals for will involve being better on TikTok. We'll 742 00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:55,520 Speaker 1: try our best thank you so much. Bye. You're the best. 743 00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:57,080 Speaker 1: Call me