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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Hailey is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Nate.

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Speaker 2: She has no idea why, So in a few minutes,

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Speaker 2: we're gonna call him and ask him why is ghosting

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Speaker 2: her and maybe get her another date. But before we

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Speaker 2: do that, Hailey, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 2: heard from Nate?

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Speaker 3: That's been four days?

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, not too long. Yeah, are you sure you're

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Speaker 1: getting ghosted?

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Speaker 3: Not like a hundred percent sure, but I'm pretty sure.

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Speaker 1: Why do you think so?

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Speaker 3: Well? Like the they went really well, but I worry

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Speaker 3: that I I don't know. So we went on a

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Speaker 3: picnic and it was really nice and we even like

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Speaker 3: got to slow dance a little on the picnic blanket,

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Speaker 3: and I don't know, Yeah, I was.

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Speaker 1: Really sweet and I was like, I don't know, he

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Speaker 1: was just really attentive.

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Speaker 3: But I just worry, like I can't dance and I

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Speaker 3: kept stepping on his feet, and so I'm like, maybe

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Speaker 3: he just.

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Speaker 1: Didn't like that I can't dance.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I've been like hyper fixating on it. But I'm just

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Speaker 3: like I really was bad. I'm I was like nervous

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Speaker 3: and stuff. So I can dance a little better than

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Speaker 3: I did, but yeah, it was pretty bad.

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Speaker 5: Okay, did he say anything about your dance skills?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 3: I mean we both laughed it off, but like you know,

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Speaker 3: sometimes people pretend things are funny or okay, and it's not.

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Speaker 3: And I don't know, it's the only thing that I

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Speaker 3: really feel like I did wrong.

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Speaker 2: So tell us about the date though, Like how were

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Speaker 2: things with him? Did you guys get along?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we had a lot in common, so like I

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Speaker 3: brought the wine, he brought the food. We met up

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Speaker 3: at the park and we had a picnic and it

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Speaker 3: was just really chill and we got to talk a lot,

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Speaker 3: so like we got to know each other a little bit,

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Speaker 3: and I really liked it.

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Speaker 5: It was just a nice, peaceful date.

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Speaker 3: You know, I've been dating a little and like nothing

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Speaker 3: really exciting, so this was kind of to me.

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Speaker 1: This one. This really stood out and it felt really special.

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Speaker 1: So like it went really well.

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Speaker 3: We even like got to make out a little bit,

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Speaker 3: So like I I thought he really liked me, But

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I just I'm really concerned because I

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Speaker 3: would have hoped that like the next day or maybe

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Speaker 3: even a couple days later. I mean, I know people

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Speaker 3: have jobs, but I just haven't heard a thing.

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Speaker 5: Was he supposed to reach out to you? Like, did

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Speaker 5: you try to contact him at all?

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Speaker 3: I haven't, but he said he would like text or call,

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Speaker 3: and then I just haven't heard anything.

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Speaker 5: Okay.

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Speaker 1: I feel like after a date like that, I would

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Speaker 1: also want to hear back, like the next day or two,

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Speaker 1: because it ended so well, Like why wouldn't he be

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Speaker 1: messaging back? Well, like he said he would.

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Speaker 3: Reach back the next day, but I texted him when

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Speaker 3: I got home and said thanks.

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Speaker 1: For such a great date.

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Speaker 3: And he didn't text back that night, and he didn't

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Speaker 3: he would, oh the day after that.

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Speaker 1: So I'm like, I don't know, So what.

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Speaker 5: Was your communication like leading up to the date. Is

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Speaker 5: he just kind of one of those guys that takes

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Speaker 5: a few days or was he more attentive?

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Speaker 3: Well, we have a mutual friend who set us up,

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Speaker 3: so like we didn't really talk much before the date. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 3: we just like we texted a little bit so organize

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Speaker 3: who was bringing what, But that was really it.

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Speaker 5: So do we know that he's not sick? Like, did

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Speaker 5: you do some investigating with a mutual friend?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I did, Okay, so yeah I asked her because

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Speaker 3: she works with him, and she was like, no, he's fine,

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Speaker 3: he's at work. Oh yeah, So like because I wanted

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Speaker 3: to give him the benefit of the doubt, like I've

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Speaker 3: definitely been six after a date and I haven't.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, no, he's fine.

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Speaker 5: What I heard watch me pull up real quickly.

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Speaker 1: Well that is a little bit weird. Yeah, no, it

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Speaker 1: is all right. Well we'll see if we can figure

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Speaker 1: it out for you.

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Speaker 2: Then we'll play a song come Back, and then call him,

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Speaker 2: ask him why is ghosting you? And maybe get you

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Speaker 2: another date? Okay, thanks guys, all right, we'll play song

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Speaker 2: come Back, get your first date, follow up next. Right

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Speaker 2: in the middle of the first date follow up. But

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Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Haley is on the phone.

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Speaker 2: She's getting ghosted by a guy named Nate. So in

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Speaker 2: a second we're gonna call him see if it tass,

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Speaker 2: why is ghosting her? Maybe get her another date? But first, Haley,

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Speaker 2: why don't you catch everybody up on your situation?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: So basically we went on this really nice picnic date

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Speaker 3: at the park. It was, in my opinion, pretty romantic,

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Speaker 3: and I thought it went really well. We had a

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Speaker 3: lot of fun. We slow danced, we drank wine, we

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Speaker 3: ate naxt what more did a girl wants? And yeah,

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Speaker 3: I was really hoping for a second date. And I

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Speaker 3: texted in that night, no response, And I haven't heard

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Speaker 3: of things since so and you.

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Speaker 1: Think it might be because of your bad dancing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I have no sense of rhythm. Okay, it's gotten

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Speaker 3: worse than it has better.

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Speaker 2: All right, well we'll see if that is it. Are

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Speaker 2: you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, here we go. Okay, I'm answered to eight. Please

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Speaker 1: was a Mason? Yes you can, Nate. My name is Jewbel.

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Speaker 1: I host the radio show. It's called The Jewbel Show.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, hi, Nate, whole show's here on Nina.

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Speaker 1: Hi, and I'm Victoria. How are you.

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Speaker 4: Doing all right? That I like win something or what's

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Speaker 4: going on here?

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Speaker 1: You might have I'm not really sure. Do you listen

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Speaker 1: to the show ever?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? Actually big fan?

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Speaker 1: Oh cool?

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Speaker 5: Thank you?

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Speaker 1: Are you a big enough fan to know what the

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Speaker 1: first eight follow ups are? Oh?

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Speaker 4: My god? Yeah? Yeah I am.

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Speaker 1: You know why I'm bringing that up, Nate, I might as.

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Speaker 4: Well just what you tell me, right, I guess I'm

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Speaker 4: already on that.

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Speaker 2: But go, you're ghosting somebody and they emailed us because

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Speaker 2: they want to know why they're getting ghosted.

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Speaker 1: Do you have any idea who would email us? I'm

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Speaker 1: imagining this is Haley Haley. Yeah, well.

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Speaker 2: If I guess you forget that there and she forgot. Yes,

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Speaker 2: Haley is on the line, Nate. She wants to know

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting her. I'll just let you guys talk

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Speaker 2: it out now.

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, Hey, what's going on?

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Speaker 5: Right?

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Speaker 3: You know, just chelling?

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Speaker 1: So what what happened? I know I can't dance, but like,

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Speaker 1: I didn't think I was that bad.

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Speaker 4: No, actually I consider myself that good of a dancer.

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Speaker 4: There's no don't worry about that. No, it was that's

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Speaker 4: all good. Like I said, I mean, I did have

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Speaker 4: a good time. But you know, I mean, honestly, the

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Speaker 4: whole entire time we were on the you know, on

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Speaker 4: our picnic, you just kept talking about your you know,

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Speaker 4: that six seven years? He said, I don't like every

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Speaker 4: time you brought up his name I just tuned out.

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Speaker 3: Uh okay, So it was six years ago, and I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: I just knew that you had mentioned that you've been

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Speaker 1: I was trying to like relate your situation.

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Speaker 3: So what I went through, I wasn't like, I'm sorry

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So like there was there was times where you know,

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Speaker 4: I was like, this is like are you even over him?

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Speaker 4: I tried to brush it off every time, you know,

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Speaker 1: Name is not Jason.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm so. First of all, I'm really sorry, Like

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Speaker 1: I was just like, I think I was just nervous.

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Speaker 3: I didn't mean to do that, and I'm really sorry,

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Speaker 3: and like, okay, so like I was comparing your laugh

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Speaker 1: He did have a good laugh.

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Speaker 3: So it was just like I was nervously complimenting you,

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Speaker 1: And I'm sorry. No, I mean, there's no need to

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Speaker 4: And then sometimes wine does talking for us. But you know, honestly,

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Speaker 4: is there something that I'm gonna have to be worrying about?

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Speaker 4: You know, day in day out, is she like, are

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Speaker 4: you even over him? Like you haven't even said anything

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Speaker 1: You are over him or not? And well, so yeah,

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Speaker 1: definitely over him.

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Speaker 4: No, No, I mean I'm definitely over him. Yeah, you

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Speaker 4: said it was just it was just a major, major

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm really like I said, I'm sorry and I'm

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Speaker 3: over him, And if you're willing to give me another shot,

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Speaker 3: I will. I promise that the word Jason will not

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Speaker 1: Yeah, not one.

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Speaker 4: I would hope not. But I mean, yeah, I mean

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Speaker 4: I don't Maybe I'll give you a shoot your text

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Speaker 1: Another day with Hayley. We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 4: Uh yeah, I mean I'm down, but I just hope

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Speaker 4: that it's a Jason free night. Like I'm not.

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Speaker 1: Trying to remember my name is Nate.

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Speaker 3: Awesome. I'm super excited and I promise that it'll be

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Speaker 3: a fun time.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for much for giving.

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Speaker 3: Me another shot.

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Speaker 1: Congratulations, Hailey, Thank you. Juble's first date follow up