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Speaker 2: It is the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: All right, let's go. Subject my sister can't have my girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I have some news to share with you,

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Speaker 1: and I need your input. I am a thirty three

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Speaker 1: year old woman and I have a female friend that

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Speaker 1: everyone thinks is just a friend, but secretly she's my

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Speaker 1: girlfriend girlfriend as in lover. It all started about four

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Speaker 1: years ago when we both were having issues in our

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Speaker 1: love life and we started venting, crying and holding each other.

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Speaker 1: One thing led to another, and it was on. I

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Speaker 1: totally love the experience and wish I could be with

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Speaker 1: her more, but we live in different cities. We've managed

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Speaker 1: to be discreet with everything so no one knows anything.

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Speaker 1: She came to town two weekends ago for my son's

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Speaker 1: birthday party. And she's spent most of the time laughing

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Speaker 1: and talking to my younger sister. I was kind of mad,

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Speaker 1: but I had to play it off because I didn't

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Speaker 1: want to cause the scene. After the party, I told

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Speaker 1: my girlfriend that I was a bit jealous, and she

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Speaker 1: said that it was nothing but light flirting because she

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Speaker 1: was trying to see if my sister was interested. Well,

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Speaker 1: after talking to my sister and jokingly asking her what

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Speaker 1: she and my girlfriend were talking about, my sister considered

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Speaker 1: it to be more than flirting and she is interested

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Speaker 1: in my girlfriend. I was furious, but there is nothing

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Speaker 1: I can do. I didn't even know my sister was

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Speaker 1: interested in women, but she is. So here's the problem.

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Speaker 1: We are all scheduled to go to Mexico for the

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Speaker 1: fourth of July, and I am dreading this trip because

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Speaker 1: if the two of them get together, I would die.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I fail to mention that all three of us

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Speaker 1: are married dot dot dot two men. What shall I

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Speaker 1: read that line again?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 1: I fail to mention that all three of us are

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Speaker 1: married dot dot dot to men. We've all been married

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Speaker 1: at least five years. My husband and my girlfriend's husband

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Speaker 1: are clueless, and now my sister is trying to cheat

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Speaker 1: on her husband with my girl. Can you help me

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Speaker 1: sort this out? Should I be jealous or not? Well, okay,

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Speaker 1: I can try. That's all I can do is try here.

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Speaker 1: Because this is my job. I'm gonna try. Should you

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Speaker 1: be jealous? I would definitely say yes you should be

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Speaker 1: jealous because it does sound like your sister is making

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Speaker 1: her move and trying to push up on your girl

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Speaker 1: and your so called girlfriend. Sounds like she's entertaining your

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Speaker 1: sister's advances. Well, like she put it in the letter,

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Speaker 1: she was just trying to see if your sister was interested. Well,

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Speaker 1: your sister made a plane in the letter that she

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Speaker 1: is interested. Okay, that's pretty clear. The problem in this

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Speaker 1: letter is all these secrets. It's so many secrets. You

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Speaker 1: and your sister have secrets, You and your girlfriend have secrets.

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Speaker 1: You have secrets from all of your husbands. All three

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Speaker 1: of the girls have secrets from all of their from

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Speaker 1: all of your husbands. I don't know how long these

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Speaker 1: secrets are gonna last, because if your sister and your

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Speaker 1: here because you're already jealous just telling us about it.

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Speaker 1: You're upset with your sister. Your sister has a lot

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Speaker 1: of nerve going after your girl, but then because of

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Speaker 1: the secret, she didn't know it was your girl. You

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Speaker 1: three are gonna have to get together and work something

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Speaker 1: out if you want this to continue. And this is crazy?

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Speaker 1: Did I fail to men that this was crazy? Because

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Speaker 1: all three of you guys are married to men, and

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Speaker 1: you're cheating. You're cheating, all right, this is cheating. I

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Speaker 1: don't care if it's a girl on girl, it's still cheating, okay,

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Speaker 1: because the three of you guys are married. This is

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Speaker 1: a mess. I'm trying to help you sort it out.

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Speaker 1: I don't think I did a very good job.

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Speaker 2: I just know.

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Speaker 1: I just know that this is a mess, and you

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Speaker 1: guys are gonna have to work this out. I don't

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Speaker 1: think your sister should be pushing up on your girl, though,

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Speaker 1: and I don't think you should be cheating on your

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Speaker 2: I'm not even gonna try to straighten this out.

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Speaker 3: It's just Sureley, I didn't understand when you said your

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the lady who wrote the letter, Uh huh, her sister.

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Speaker 1: Her sister is interested in her girlfriend.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, her sister don't know that's her girlfriend. I

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Speaker 2: know that. So what you mean she shouldn't be pushing

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Speaker 1: Her, Well, she shouldn't. She shouldn't be pushing up on her.

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Speaker 1: She's Yeah, of course she's married.

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Speaker 3: You know that. You know what, Shirley, ain't even gonna

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Speaker 3: you did a good job. I ain't even gonna try

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Speaker 3: to figure this out. Everybody know this ain't none of

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Speaker 3: my damn lane. Everybody know I don't know nothing about this.

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Speaker 3: Everybody know this. Say what I do? Stop this on

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Speaker 3: It's relationship advice, Steve. That's all you have to look

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Speaker 3: at it like, well, yeah, that's true. But when it's this,

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Speaker 3: it's three women that's married to three dudes. But three

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Speaker 3: three women, yeah, is loving on each other about two? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: don't none of y'all belong to each other and all

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Speaker 3: three of y'all belong to somebody else.

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Speaker 2: At church? Amen?

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Speaker 3: Amen, Amen, though none of y'all three belong to each other,

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Speaker 3: but all three of y'all belong to someone else.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 3: Well, in the words of be with us almost sangle,

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Speaker 3: beal with this song when we come back.

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Speaker 2: No, you're not. You're about to get done. That not

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Speaker 2: the one. I thank you, you know what.

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Speaker 3: I love it.

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Speaker 1: But you can let me just say this, Steve, you

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Speaker 1: can handle it. I have confidence in you. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: we're gonna have part two off you. We come on

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Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three after the hour subject my

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Speaker 1: sister can't have my girlfriend. I we'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening morning show. All right,

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Speaker 1: come on, Steve, you can do this. Let's recap today's letter.

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Speaker 1: My sister can't have my girlfriend.

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Speaker 3: Thirty three year old woman got this friend to hers

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Speaker 3: that they didn't hear it from everybody that they molding friends.

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Speaker 2: They really love us.

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Speaker 3: She loved it. The way they be doing it together

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Speaker 3: is for her. Wish she could do it more, but

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Speaker 3: they live in separate cities. Got together have a weekend

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Speaker 3: for her son's birthday party. She spent the whole time

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Speaker 3: loft laughing and talking to this woman's younger sister, her girl,

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Speaker 3: her girl. I was kind of mad, but I had

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Speaker 3: to play it all because I ain't want to cause

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Speaker 3: a scene. Then after the party, I told my girlfriend

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Speaker 3: I was a bit jealous, and she said it was

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Speaker 3: if my sister was interested. Then I went over there

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Speaker 3: and started talking my damn sister, jokingly asking to her

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Speaker 3: and my girlfriend was talking about My sister considered it

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Speaker 3: molding flirting. Now she interested in my girlfriend. I was

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Speaker 3: mad as hell, but ain't nothing. I don't even know

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Speaker 3: my sister was interested in women. Well, I bet she

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Speaker 3: ain't know you was interested in women either, but she is,

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Speaker 3: what so is you? So here's the problem. All three

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Speaker 3: of y'all is the problem. We are all scheduled to

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Speaker 3: go to Mexico for the fourth of July. Whoa, and

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Speaker 3: I'm dreading this trip because the two of them getting together.

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Speaker 3: I would die. Then I failed to mention that all

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Speaker 3: three of us is married to men, all right now,

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Speaker 3: so crazy though none of y'all I'm talking about the

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Speaker 3: three women don't None of y'all belong to each other,

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Speaker 3: but all of y'all belonged to somebody else. Y'all got husbands,

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Speaker 3: y'all tripping. So here's my solution for all this. We

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Speaker 3: got to stop some of this line. I think all

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Speaker 3: six of y'all put it all out on the table.

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Speaker 3: What yeah, I think all the women ort to go

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Speaker 3: to all their husbands as go hey, just so you

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Speaker 3: know we all care about each other. You might find

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Speaker 3: out that there's more care in that group. Then you

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Speaker 3: got stomach for what.

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Speaker 2: You might find.

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Speaker 3: Out that there's more caring in that group, and you

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Speaker 3: got stomach fault.

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Speaker 2: Now you running there with that news if you want to,

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Speaker 2: But you might get some news of your damn own.

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Speaker 3: No, man, because I kind of got a feeling that

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Speaker 3: one of the men might know something. I bet you

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Speaker 3: one of them men would love to know that y'all

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Speaker 3: is interested in each other.

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Speaker 2: I promise you wanted the men want to know.

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Speaker 1: Why do you say that though?

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Speaker 2: Because he gonna want to get involved too? Yeah? I

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Speaker 2: want to go to Mexico? My else? Yeah where they're

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Speaker 2: going Mexico? What's the point one for July? I'm available? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: we open three of a man. When you're a time,

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Speaker 2: y'all going to play golf? Hurry up? For the course closed?

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Speaker 1: So the only.

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Speaker 3: Damn it, when is y'all going to play golf? Don't

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Speaker 3: y'all want to go get some drinks?

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Speaker 2: Get out of here to hurry them up?

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Speaker 3: Girl, I'm so glad they're gone. What y'all want to do. Girl,

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Speaker 3: let's go get niked getting this swimming pool.

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Speaker 2: Girl, I'm just chew.

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Speaker 3: I thought they never leave. I don't know why these

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Speaker 3: could have been in this damn water. Wow.

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Speaker 2: Oh man, it's too much, little girl. I missed you

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Speaker 2: so much. Does not last laughing with you?

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Speaker 3: Oh god?

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Speaker 2: Oh I see you just got your bottoms on. All right,

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Speaker 2: Oh that's how we're gonna do this, all right? Be

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Speaker 2: just up in there.

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Speaker 3: How long you think they'll be playing golf? At least

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Speaker 3: five hour? Girl, I'm gonna be tired. I can five hours, man,

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Speaker 3: get on my nerves. Then we're gonna have to get

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Speaker 3: with them tonight. They gonna get the drinking. They gonna

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Speaker 3: want to do something. I don't feel like them on me.

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Speaker 3: I why man, he wants to come over here. He

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Speaker 3: don't be doing nothing. He don't be doing nothing. But

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Speaker 3: you curlvil and just go out in the ocean. In

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Speaker 3: the ocean, dog, be there. We ain't got to get

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Speaker 3: that hairway. Who said something about getting their hair with

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Speaker 3: you could just hold.

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Speaker 2: Your head bag? Oh my god, girl, you can.

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Speaker 3: Just hold your head back. You ain't even got to

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Speaker 3: get in no walk. See right there on the edge

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Speaker 3: of that's hot hot?

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Speaker 2: Can I ask you question what you need?

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Speaker 1: Call it?

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Speaker 2: How much tequila? Girl?

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Speaker 3: We don't drink up all the gave they got died here. Girl,

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Speaker 3: I don't drink so much tequila. I feel like I'm

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Speaker 3: Puerto Rican down girl, Puerto Rican. We're in Mexico. Guy,

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Speaker 3: that's how much tequila.

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Speaker 2: I don't know where I'm in.

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Speaker 3: I've been down here. Go get that big blue and

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Speaker 3: white tall bottle over there. They say that's real good

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Speaker 3: ignorant man. Okay, I'm so tired of these man.

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Speaker 2: This is all right. Listen.

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