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Speaker 1: Well, this is the answer the question what are appropriate

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Speaker 2: Now, yeah, like literally all of you right here are

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Speaker 1: We cannot wait to get your get your hot takes

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Speaker 2: Also, everyone has been asking, who's Molly. Molly is our friend.

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Speaker 2: That's right, Hemie, that's only she's very funny, that's right,

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Speaker 1: Up, great comedian, great singer, like honestly, triple threat, triple threat.

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Speaker 1: We met at a job in our mid twenties, in

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Speaker 1: About five weeks ago, I found out from a mutual

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Speaker 1: Yes, So, I'm not entitled to the company of others

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Speaker 1: I try not to frame my friendships as transactional, but

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Speaker 1: So the poll says sixty five percent no contact. Wow,

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Speaker 2: I know we have the most vindictive audience, but no contact,

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Speaker 2: think is exactly what is needed. Like, hey, this is

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Speaker 1: I think that John's unfinished thought the first John's unfinished thought.

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Speaker 2: You've ever We're gonna change Sophia's unfinished thoughts.

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Speaker 3: Like, I guess, is it like even if they came

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Speaker 1: I agreed to meet after we kicked off with rounds

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Speaker 2: Nice, okay, okay.

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Speaker 2: And also the singles need the human connection more than

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Speaker 2: they need you. I'm ready.

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Speaker 1: Break it down, it down, And he had previously voice

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Speaker 3: Yeah no, and don't you think, Okay, this is like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, who cares.

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Speaker 1: Even not like, yeah, singles will invite plus one.

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Speaker 2: I would say like compromise. Singles are not allowed to

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Speaker 2: are you not allowed to?

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Speaker 3: I had a plus one and then and then now

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Speaker 2: And she was like no, oh, because like we don't

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they don't want to pay for the chicken.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, and they want like a rando and.

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Speaker 1: Yeah from all these chicken guys, let's get that hashtag

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Speaker 1: go the chicken.

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Speaker 2: Yes.

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Speaker 1: Hear me up, big boy, guys, let me know in

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Speaker 2: Lay a ge. You get twice as many gifts with

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I could there we go but do so uh.

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Speaker 2: So you're saying, like every single friend was excluded that

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Speaker 2: I think it's a Yeah, I think it's a cover up. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Maybe like I'm so sorry the worst Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And who who do we think this family is? That

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Speaker 2: The most homophobic family members, right, bingo mango.

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Speaker 1: We'll see if it's Rice put a nice you in

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Speaker 1: the college, if you see what I'm saying. So John

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Speaker 2: I doubt that, Like, I'm confused, light way, So he

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Speaker 2: And like if you say yes, you're probably we're probably

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Speaker 2: To be fair. In the Autobiography and Biography of Benjamin Franklin,

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Speaker 2: And they're more likely to befriend him afterwards.

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Speaker 2: So what is you know? I'm just kidding. No, vibrators

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Speaker 4: Jewels?

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Speaker 2: He said, vibrator, That's what he said.

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Speaker 1: We can say that because there's we probably won't get

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Wow, ladies and gentlemen, do you just saym in the comments?

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Speaker 2: What you feel like?

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Speaker 6: Wow?

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Speaker 2: Man, I actually am curious from chat. What do you

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Speaker 1: Shout out to experimentation another word that we can say

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Speaker 2: The last six years. That's wild.

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Speaker 1: This man has literally done everything for them.

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Speaker 2: If I helped you.

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Speaker 3: Build a back deck and I'm not in the in

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Speaker 2: Expect to be in the relationship at that.

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Speaker 3: Ye should undo the back deck, bring some power tools.

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Speaker 3: Just dude, take take the wood back.

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Speaker 2: You can take the wood.

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Speaker 1: He got visibly upset when he said, with the shot

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Speaker 1: And then he did not more adamantly confront that BS

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Speaker 1: No to the future, to the future, so chat, go

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Are you you're saying yeah, go or not go? Pull? Pull?

448
00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:02,720
Speaker 3: Yes, because I feel like you might look like the

449
00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:03,760
Speaker 3: a hole if you don't.

450
00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:07,120
Speaker 2: You made like a whole big fuss. I'm not going.

451
00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:08,920
Speaker 2: And also, what's your reason for not going?

452
00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:12,520
Speaker 3: I was in place, No, but you wanted to go

453
00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:15,400
Speaker 3: in the first place. You care a lot about this

454
00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:17,600
Speaker 3: friend and this is a big day.

455
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:20,880
Speaker 1: I think because of the apology, Like I would go

456
00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:21,879
Speaker 1: because of the type of.

457
00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:28,240
Speaker 2: A yeah, yeah, m yeah.

458
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:31,119
Speaker 3: I think you go unless you don't want to be friends.

459
00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:32,960
Speaker 3: If you decided you don't want to be friends and

460
00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:34,600
Speaker 3: you're like, you know what, this was a big deal

461
00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 3: to me, and this like separate yourself, no contact.

462
00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:39,719
Speaker 2: We're good. Yeah, but if you want to yeah, if

463
00:22:39,760 --> 00:22:45,199
Speaker 2: you want to preserve the friendship, yeah, go well we're split.

464
00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:47,320
Speaker 2: We split.

465
00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:50,680
Speaker 1: They would make it work even if it was desired

466
00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:53,199
Speaker 1: by me. If at this point he said, he is

467
00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:55,840
Speaker 1: not going to try to do some panic damage control,

468
00:22:56,119 --> 00:22:58,840
Speaker 1: but we'll be upfront with our circle. One has already

469
00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:01,280
Speaker 1: dropped the wedding, and I guess another couple has said

470
00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:07,080
Speaker 1: something else by his reporting. Founding like, Okay, I'll keep

471
00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:09,600
Speaker 1: reading like he was with like he was with me

472
00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:13,000
Speaker 1: for his faults, because he and Jane deserve the blowback

473
00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:16,479
Speaker 1: and he needs to earn trust back if if that

474
00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:18,000
Speaker 1: is at all possible.

475
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:21,000
Speaker 2: I'm a little confused with this. Yeah, let me run

476
00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 2: that back real quick, so am I.

477
00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:25,080
Speaker 1: He said he is not going to try to do

478
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:28,840
Speaker 1: some panic damage control, but will be upfront with our circle.

479
00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:31,800
Speaker 1: One person has already dropped the wedding, and I guess

480
00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:34,560
Speaker 1: another couple has said something else by his reporting.

481
00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:38,439
Speaker 2: Oh so basically the word is spreading that. Basically they

482
00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:41,040
Speaker 2: are like, screw all these single people. They're not invited

483
00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:44,120
Speaker 2: to the wedding, and a single person has dropped out

484
00:23:44,119 --> 00:23:46,280
Speaker 2: because of that, and a couple is like that's not

485
00:23:46,359 --> 00:23:47,639
Speaker 2: cool and has dropped out.

486
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, or or possibly that op in their close friend

487
00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:55,760
Speaker 1: circle didn't get right something. I think it's some sort

488
00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:56,800
Speaker 1: of news is getting back.

489
00:23:56,880 --> 00:24:01,560
Speaker 2: The friend circle is basically like turning again Yes to

490
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:02,440
Speaker 2: be married.

491
00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:05,159
Speaker 3: People interesting because I think like, if I were in

492
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:08,080
Speaker 3: a friend group and one of my friends wasn't invited,

493
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 3: I'd obviously feel terrible for them and try to help

494
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:13,160
Speaker 3: them figure it out. But I don't think I would

495
00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 3: make that a part of my wedding the.

496
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:19,480
Speaker 2: Big stance to take. You know what I'm saying, Yeah,

497
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:21,960
Speaker 2: I mean I don't. It depends, I feel like, yeah,

498
00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:24,440
Speaker 2: it depends how egregious it is. If it's like I'm

499
00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:29,359
Speaker 2: not inviting you because you're like gay, then of course

500
00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:31,440
Speaker 2: that was the reason. But if it was like, oh,

501
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,679
Speaker 2: this person's a little weird, but they do help a lot, Like.

502
00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:39,400
Speaker 3: Oh, if it's because of their sexual orientation, I mean

503
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:41,800
Speaker 3: I would never be friends with someone like that, But

504
00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:43,080
Speaker 3: if it turned out to be the case to be

505
00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:44,760
Speaker 3: like yeah, I'm not I'm not going.

506
00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:47,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I would only not go if it

507
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 2: was something like that, but I would try to help.

508
00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:52,520
Speaker 2: If it was more like an interpersonally, I don't know

509
00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:54,879
Speaker 2: if I really like this person kind of thing, right.

510
00:24:56,920 --> 00:25:01,280
Speaker 1: But Opie says one has already dropped out drop the wedding,

511
00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 1: and I guess another couple says something else by his reporting,

512
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,240
Speaker 1: like he was with me for his faults because he

513
00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 1: and Jane deserve the blowback and he needs to earn

514
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:12,879
Speaker 1: trust back if it's at all possible. He has also

515
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 1: made it Jane's problem to find a friend who can

516
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:18,280
Speaker 1: come out nine days in a row to care for

517
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 1: the home and pets. With a smirk, he said she's

518
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 1: having a hard time securing it and he may likely

519
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:24,520
Speaker 1: have to hire help.

520
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:28,200
Speaker 2: So that's what most people do. That's what most people.

521
00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 1: Do literally, and so just to kind of summarize all that,

522
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:33,440
Speaker 1: I think, like, yeah, some people are like dropping out

523
00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:34,679
Speaker 1: of the friend group because they're noticing.

524
00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:35,880
Speaker 2: So I think.

525
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:38,879
Speaker 1: John is like, hey, let me write this wrong with Ope,

526
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:41,760
Speaker 1: It's it's right for us, it's right for the friend group.

527
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,879
Speaker 2: I'm just imagining once things don't work out with Ope,

528
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 2: they go to like another friend like, hey, can you

529
00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:49,919
Speaker 2: like mind our dogs? And those other friends are like,

530
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 2: I'm not minding your dogs as you didn't fighte me

531
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:56,359
Speaker 2: to the wedding. Yeah right, it's just like the avalanche

532
00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:57,920
Speaker 2: of wedding. Yeah.

533
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:01,199
Speaker 1: I told John I really preciated his owning up to this,

534
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 1: and it was really good to see the friend I

535
00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 1: had shined here. I told him that I've always appreciated

536
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:08,359
Speaker 1: him and Jane's friendship, so it hurt when I was

537
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:11,800
Speaker 1: excluded and not even addressed. I felt that I felt

538
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:14,280
Speaker 1: that close enough anyways, and I obviously don't mean to

539
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:16,679
Speaker 1: complicate his wedding. I've just always thought of him and

540
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: Jane were great together. Earnestly, I have supported them as

541
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:22,520
Speaker 1: best as I can, and I've been confused about what

542
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:24,400
Speaker 1: I've done or haven't done to be iced out.

543
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:26,360
Speaker 2: I also admitted it's hard to trust.

544
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:28,800
Speaker 1: Jane again if she has been weighing the validity of

545
00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:32,199
Speaker 1: my presence based on my relationship status, and added with

546
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 1: some humor, it's not like I haven't been trying, and

547
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:37,359
Speaker 1: you guys haven't met some of my haven't met some

548
00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 1: of my previous long term partners. He said he doesn't

549
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 1: get it either, and she has at least one good

550
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:45,280
Speaker 1: friend who is single that she may have burned.

551
00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:46,159
Speaker 2: A bridge with as well.

552
00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:49,359
Speaker 1: Over the wedding philosophy she had that sounds like I

553
00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:51,600
Speaker 1: could have had like a possible match for.

554
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:57,240
Speaker 2: You, but baby wife maybe like the wife is super

555
00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:01,520
Speaker 2: like superstitious and does it want any of the like

556
00:27:01,560 --> 00:27:03,480
Speaker 2: the single energy that's.

557
00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 3: Said that she's insecure. Someone in the chat it was like,

558
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:08,680
Speaker 3: maybe the bride is insecure.

559
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:14,120
Speaker 2: Wait what uh? What was the the sex of op? Op?

560
00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:22,520
Speaker 2: Uh maw yes, m hm hmm. Maybe the still wife

561
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:25,400
Speaker 2: is worried, like, oh, he's going to steal my man. Yeah,

562
00:27:25,440 --> 00:27:33,159
Speaker 2: he's he's so considerate, he's always taking. Yeah, he hit

563
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:42,080
Speaker 2: the back, doesn't want blowback. Well, I said, I'm never

564
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:42,760
Speaker 2: getting married.

565
00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 1: I said, the friendship is going to be changed informed

566
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:50,800
Speaker 1: by this and at least very different for a while.

567
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 1: And I know that you and Jane had a disagreement

568
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,040
Speaker 1: leading up to this, but I hope the wedding goes

569
00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:57,359
Speaker 1: on to be a good celebration. I informed him it

570
00:27:57,359 --> 00:28:01,119
Speaker 1: feels best to take a pass on the invitation, but

571
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:03,199
Speaker 1: he said if there was a change of mind up

572
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,480
Speaker 1: to the last minute, to let him know, which was just,

573
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:08,399
Speaker 1: which was kind and he wasn't desperate or pushy about it.

574
00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:11,880
Speaker 1: So Op said, nah.

575
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 2: And that goes against our very vindictive audience.

576
00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:17,720
Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, this larkers petty.

577
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 2: Deliciously petty. Yes, sixty one percent of you guys say

578
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:24,119
Speaker 2: go and thirty nine percent say don't go.

579
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 1: Can we slay the sway the election and slay the election?

580
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:28,400
Speaker 2: Ways?

581
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:31,400
Speaker 4: Can change your vote if you want, just press two

582
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:33,440
Speaker 4: or one. Yeah, and lark a different number.

583
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:37,440
Speaker 2: Lurkers. Yeah, lurkers. There's no one hundred and seventy three

584
00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:41,360
Speaker 2: of you in here and only two hundred and seventeen likes.

585
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 1: Wow, it's almost like you don't even like like us.

586
00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 1: I thought you loved us, but you don't even like us.

587
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:50,240
Speaker 2: I have a brittle sense of self. I need three

588
00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 2: hundred legs.

589
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, my self worth is dictated upon that number right there.

590
00:28:58,160 --> 00:28:59,120
Speaker 2: Point bump it up.

591
00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 1: Okay, f bump it up. Oh wow, Jean said. John

592
00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:08,720
Speaker 1: said the fault is his for not stepping up on

593
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:11,640
Speaker 1: my behalf. That he is sorry and while he feels

594
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 1: I wouldn't expect otherwise, and I agree, he's very lucky.

595
00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: He is very lucky to have her in his life

596
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 1: and thinks their marriage is a positive development for them.

597
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 1: He even told her this whole situation will have him

598
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 1: questioning and second guessing her judgment on social matters with

599
00:29:24,400 --> 00:29:25,280
Speaker 1: his friends.

600
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 2: For the foreseeable future.

601
00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 1: Gotta throw in this, guys. Put an ICU in the comments.

602
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:31,200
Speaker 1: If you see it, I'll call it up.

603
00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 2: I'll call it right now. They break up? No way, No,

604
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 2: you're thinking. But Op is like, oh, they're so good together.

605
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:44,840
Speaker 2: There's no way they break up. I'll why are we

606
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:45,280
Speaker 2: feeling that?

607
00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 1: Because he's like because he's like, oh man, Jane is

608
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:53,600
Speaker 1: like she keeps uninviting all his single friends, and she

609
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:56,040
Speaker 1: like keeps like she's texting you, She's doing all this

610
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:59,040
Speaker 1: crazy stuff, like don't worry, bro, Like, I got your back.

611
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:02,520
Speaker 2: Like all, I'll go to Jane and I'll give teller.

612
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 2: What's what you know? But rose colored glasses? What'd you say? Off? Off?

613
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 3: Also, from what I've heard, weddings are very stressful. Weddings

614
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 3: are very stressful, bring up a lot of feelings. And

615
00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 3: also I feel like, you know, this is his bro. Ope,

616
00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 3: he is his bro and so it's probably like, Hey,

617
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:25,520
Speaker 3: I know that she's known her thing, but I still

618
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:27,600
Speaker 3: love you, broyh.

619
00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, is it his step bro? Blowback Mountain.

620
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 1: Well by his reporting due to but by his reporting,

621
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 1: but a credit to the relationship. This was quite a

622
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:46,360
Speaker 1: blow to her to hear from him about one she

623
00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 1: has accepted and apologized for this after their arguments about

624
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 1: the subject before we parted ways in the parking lot,

625
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 1: we gave each other a bro hug, and John's voice

626
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:58,240
Speaker 1: broke a bit when he said he is sorry one

627
00:30:58,320 --> 00:31:04,240
Speaker 1: last time row Back Mountain, and I think mine did

628
00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 1: too when I forgave him. It was legitimately surprising and

629
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:10,720
Speaker 1: therapeutic to have John be so frank and accountable, but

630
00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:12,920
Speaker 1: not unlike the friend I've always known for most of

631
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:16,240
Speaker 1: my adult life. It was bittersweet being all things considered

632
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:18,800
Speaker 1: a makeup but also a breakup of sorts to what

633
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 1: was previously an unquestioned and assumed strong trust and camaraderie.

634
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 1: Maybe we can get there again. It seems possible and

635
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 1: it would be nice. I'm sitting here after weeks of

636
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:32,920
Speaker 1: big feelings stewing on a different shade of big boy feelings. Now,

637
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 1: thanks for processing with me.

638
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 2: Okay, So it seems like the friendship is somewhat on

639
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:39,480
Speaker 2: the men.

640
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:44,120
Speaker 1: Yes, oh oh yeah, I think forever damage.

641
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:48,160
Speaker 2: Forever damage that men. Yeah, I don't think forever damage.

642
00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 2: I think for damage. Do you think forever damage.

643
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:53,040
Speaker 3: It just will never be the same. Well, nah, I

644
00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 3: don't think the same.

645
00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:57,400
Speaker 2: Dude, did you? Were you hearing the same story of

646
00:31:57,440 --> 00:31:59,200
Speaker 2: that bro hug? I think I changed my mind that

647
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:02,760
Speaker 2: bro hug, that bro hug hug.

648
00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 3: It was the bro hug.

649
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 2: It was the bro hug. There was so much emotion

650
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 2: in that bro hug.

651
00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:11,120
Speaker 1: John and Ope's relationship I think will survive Jane and

652
00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 1: Op's relationship.

653
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 3: I think, yes, yes, But then but because that will suffer.

654
00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 3: I think that John and Op will suffer too, because

655
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 3: Jane will always be there in the back of talking talk.

656
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 2: That's true. So let's don't there's anything a bro hug

657
00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 2: can't fix.

658
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:28,560
Speaker 1: It does fix a lot.

659
00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, Riley will have bro hugs, fxes everything done.

660
00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:37,800
Speaker 2: Can I have a bro hug? Is that possible? Three?

661
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:42,360
Speaker 2: After that? It will mend a weary soul. That's true.

662
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:46,560
Speaker 1: But so to answer the question of this episode, what

663
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:50,640
Speaker 1: are appropriate requests to ask of your friends? Is there

664
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:56,320
Speaker 1: like a philosophy what to watch your animals while you

665
00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 1: go to Yeah?

666
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it depends how close the friend is. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it depends on yeah, Like like if you're like I

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Speaker 2: think a friend that you if you're gonna you can't

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Speaker 2: ask a friend to mind your animals if you're not

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Speaker 2: going to invite them to the wedding.

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Speaker 1: Please say, watch America, watch that mind my own?

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Speaker 2: Oh shit? Is that? Is that not something you can say?

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Speaker 2: We are in America for now?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:26,760
Speaker 2: Whoa? This is probably a good time to read some donuts. Also,

676
00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:28,400
Speaker 2: is that updating? It's not.

677
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:31,960
Speaker 4: I got to fix it. But we're so close, guys,

678
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:33,960
Speaker 4: Oh my god, Yes, we're gonna update the dono bar.

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Speaker 2: I'm so close.

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Speaker 1: But Sam, you want to read Sam ease?

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00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 2: Yes? Samse uh one hundred and seventy six donation help

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00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 2: them the stream keep going another hour. Sam e almost

683
00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:50,720
Speaker 2: had to cuss people out at work because they didn't

684
00:33:50,720 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 2: want to give me my vacation. But I got my vacation.

685
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:58,680
Speaker 2: I'll be going to California whereabouts. It'll be me and

686
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:02,000
Speaker 2: my daughter's first time there. Hope to run into you

687
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:05,120
Speaker 2: guys in any places you recommend to go check out

688
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:08,840
Speaker 2: we just got brunch, or no, we got we got breakfast.

689
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:14,360
Speaker 2: We got breakfast this morning destroyer. So is it a

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00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 2: coffee shop? It does sell coffee. It could be a

691
00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:21,319
Speaker 2: coffee shop, but it can be so much more than that. Yeah,

692
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Speaker 2: if you choose to let it into your heart, it

693
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Speaker 2: is delicious.

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Speaker 1: Also Griffiths Park and Portos lethels yep.

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Speaker 3: I've heard Waking Late burritos are the best burritos in

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Speaker 3: l A. Really, so I haven't been, which is crazy but.

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Speaker 2: Great res Oh, then Escape Park, the beach, Yeah, the beach.

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00:34:45,640 --> 00:34:48,760
Speaker 2: Oh Point Doom.

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00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:51,200
Speaker 3: Ay, but even better than Point Doom El Matador.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if I've been to even better than

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Speaker 2: El Matador.

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Speaker 3: I'll top you go a beach, Oh, you're right. A

703
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:02,640
Speaker 3: thousand step speech in Laguna.

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00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:07,200
Speaker 2: I think that is a surf spot spot.

705
00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:09,600
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't serve, but I like looking at them.

706
00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 3: But there were some ways I like looking at the surfers.

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00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:18,880
Speaker 3: Who doesn't A thousand steps beach in Laguna? Amazing?

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Speaker 2: Go check it out? Great, great, reckless but Sammy, uh,

709
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 2: thank you so much for the DONU. Keep on the

710
00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:29,560
Speaker 2: stream going. Oh we got another thirty minutes we can go.

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Speaker 1: Who else is next?

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00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:33,920
Speaker 2: Brittany, Yeah, Brittany, I see u. Len thanks for the

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00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:36,680
Speaker 2: twenty dollars. Tip would love to give Molly a delight

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00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 2: of a long stream ten hour stream chant.

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00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 1: You can't force Molly to be on a ten hour stream,

716
00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:46,200
Speaker 1: we at a minimum, we need to like mentally prepare her.

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00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:49,359
Speaker 2: First Yeah, at a bare minimum. One day just got here.

718
00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:51,560
Speaker 2: She could get there. It is possible. When we do

719
00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:54,839
Speaker 2: ten hour streams, we get drunk. Usually sounds fun. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I would do it.

721
00:35:55,640 --> 00:35:57,279
Speaker 3: If I could wear pj's or something.

722
00:35:57,320 --> 00:35:58,319
Speaker 2: You could wear whatever you want.

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Speaker 4: Literally, I'll put shots on the wheels benefit want right now,

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Speaker 4: if you.

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Speaker 2: Want, right now, right now, after five pm.

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Speaker 3: Kind of.

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Speaker 2: Fiama Dola Burquez. Thanks for the two fifty six We

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Speaker 2: love you, Molly Love, Molly, Molly Love, I love Molly Love.

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Speaker 2: An Ozzie Girl in an art shop which I've been

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Speaker 2: seeing you a lot recently. Ozzy Girl. Thanks for the

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Speaker 2: five gifted memberships. Johnny want to take these new ones?

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Speaker 1: You're chatel Oh. Thanks for the twenty five bucks tip

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Speaker 1: on the Donald Like, Hey, everyone been listening for a while.

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Speaker 1: Just wanted to say hi and I love your show

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Speaker 1: to tell you're amazing. Congratulations Belton's Cell having three months

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Speaker 1: of membership. Sorry being a hat bandit I thought more

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Speaker 1: people knew about the site and I didn't want to

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Speaker 1: miss out.

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Speaker 2: Now I just feel creepy.

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Speaker 4: Hat band oh, they were the person that got the

741
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Speaker 4: hat before we like let it go live.

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Speaker 2: Oh wait, you're the hat band Belton. You're you're a hero,

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Speaker 2: not a bandit. But this is a great time if

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Speaker 2: you want to go to oak what is it? Okay

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Speaker 2: story Time dot Show? If you want to go to

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Speaker 2: Okay Storytime Dot Show and Kappa hat like so cute?

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Speaker 2: Yeah you should, you should. We got we got thirty left,

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Speaker 2: Go go grab yours right now.

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Speaker 3: That's cute.

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Speaker 2: That's right. It's a Q one so we'll check it.

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Speaker 2: Go get it before it runs out.

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Speaker 1: And then Asian Persuasion, Thanks for the two bucks. Was

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Speaker 1: it the group?

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Speaker 2: Was it just the groom's friend excluded? Or are her

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00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:32,680
Speaker 2: friends it seems like all all around. Yeah, because she

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00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:35,640
Speaker 2: burnt a bridge with one of her single friends, that's true,

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Speaker 2: which yeah, I feel like terrible foresight.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, burn ninety six. Thanks for the five to

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Speaker 1: five bucks and great birth year if that's your birth year. Teddy,

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Speaker 1: thanks for the five twelve. Hi, I'm just popping in

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Speaker 1: to say hi and give you some money. Haven't been

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Speaker 1: here in a bit, so I feel bad. Take my money.

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Speaker 2: Is that the Teddy?

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Speaker 1: I think it is? You want to tell them what

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Speaker 1: Teddy is in Sam Teddy.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, Teddy is in our It is the Teddy

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Speaker 2: Teddy Teddy and Teddy is in our new game show.

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Speaker 2: We We just released it on our YouTube channel today.

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Speaker 2: If you want to check it out, Uh you should.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna do a couple iterations that the first one,

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Speaker 2: you know, always a little rocky, get in the feel

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Speaker 2: for it. People are like, oh, like, what is this?

773
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:23,279
Speaker 2: But I feel like it has high potential, So go

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Speaker 2: check it out. Let us know what you think. Try

775
00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 2: to give us constructive feedback instead of I love it

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Speaker 2: or I hate it. Yeah, but if you say that too,

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00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 2: that's that's still feedback, so we appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: Thanks uh Caddy, Patrise, thanks for the five bucks round.

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Speaker 1: Don't only a huge fan. Love you guys, especially.

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Speaker 2: The worm Queen pe Here momentary she will join the

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00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:47,000
Speaker 2: Samy again, celebrating five months of membership.

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Speaker 1: Deep in the game, dude, You're You're deep. Sammy is

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Speaker 1: an og.

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00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 2: I think Sammy might be the deepest we've ever experienced.

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00:38:55,520 --> 00:38:56,920
Speaker 2: So deep, so deep.

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Speaker 1: Deep, that's the deepest experience. Sam definitely experience five and alive.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for the recommendations. I'll be there August one, first

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Speaker 1: of the fifth. Also, I order my hat. Hopefully it'll

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Speaker 1: be here before I leave or not, I will wear

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00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:18,040
Speaker 1: it on my mail route. Dude, say, Amy is just

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00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:20,479
Speaker 1: a freaking home e through and through home?

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Speaker 2: Is that all the dons? That's all the donuts? Hurrah?

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00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 2: There you go? Rah?

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Speaker 1: What?

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00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:31,960
Speaker 2: Okay? Yeah?

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00:39:33,560 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 1: So should we hurrahan to this next street? That's right,

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Speaker 1: it's your turn six thirty.

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Speaker 3: I feel like you do great. By the way, like,

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Speaker 3: what's that place? Medieval nights?

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Speaker 2: Dude? With that hurrah?

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00:39:46,719 --> 00:39:46,959
Speaker 8: Yeah?

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00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:50,520
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah yeah? But did they they serve like

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00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:51,480
Speaker 2: mutton there.

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00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:52,600
Speaker 3: And like the turkey legs?

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00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I haven't been there in a sack Field trip.

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00:39:55,840 --> 00:40:00,520
Speaker 2: Is it real? Is it live? I think so? Still?

807
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 2: All right? I joked about getting together with a guy

808
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 2: I met online. Now I'm marrying him, just getting just gidding.

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00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:21,400
Speaker 2: See they're not getting married either. Kimberly says, how deep

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Speaker 2: are they? So deepest? Am I the a hole for

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Speaker 2: asking my friend to take down her bachelorette party photos

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00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:36,800
Speaker 2: because I wasn't in him? Yeah?

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00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:40,160
Speaker 3: I was gonna say how steamy?

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Speaker 2: How steamy are they? Also? By the way, you can

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Speaker 2: join us live on YouTube right freaking now every weekday

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00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:51,200
Speaker 2: at three pm PSD. So come and join us. Also,

817
00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:55,440
Speaker 2: let's get into the story. So uh where This is

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Speaker 2: all answering the question what our appropriate requests to ask

819
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 2: of your friends? And this for story comes from similar

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Speaker 2: Hope nine eight three to nine. Guess what, John what?

821
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:08,319
Speaker 2: They're part of the Okay gang. This was submitted to

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Speaker 2: our subreddit r slash Okay story times. Yeah, so just

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00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 2: start this off. I am a Muslim woman who wears

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00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:20,240
Speaker 2: a job. I cover my hair and most of my body.

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00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:22,040
Speaker 2: I do not judge those who don't do the same,

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Speaker 2: nor do I try to impose my beliefs onto others.

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Speaker 2: Everyone will have their own personal journeys, and just as

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Speaker 2: I know I'm not perfect, I can't judge others for

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Speaker 2: it either. I see you in the comments.

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Speaker 1: I see you already. I see you in yeah, yeah, yeah, I.

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Speaker 2: See you this early. If you see an ICU put

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Speaker 2: I see you in the comments right now, throw it in,

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00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:46,200
Speaker 2: Throw it in. So I twenty three female recently went

834
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Speaker 2: to a friend's bachelorette party women only, no drinks, just

835
00:41:50,480 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 2: girls being girls and celebrating a friend soon to be marriage.

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Speaker 2: No drinks at a bachelorette party is wild. Yeah argument

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Speaker 2: why Yeah. Maya twenty four female has been a friend

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00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 2: of mine since kindergarten, and I'm more than happy to

839
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 2: be part of such a big part of her life.

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00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:11,360
Speaker 2: She isn't religious, but she accepts my views and even

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00:42:11,440 --> 00:42:13,680
Speaker 2: going and is even going to let me wear a

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00:42:13,719 --> 00:42:17,760
Speaker 2: more modest style a Bayah as her maid of honor.

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00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:20,759
Speaker 2: This is to say Maya understands the hujab and what

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00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:23,000
Speaker 2: it means to me, or so I thought, which I

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00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:29,560
Speaker 2: think potentially Maya is going no alcohol for op Definitely potentially,

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Speaker 2: And if that's the case, that is very very kind,

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00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 2: extremely kind, extremely kind, because from what I know about

848
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 2: bachelor and bachelorette parties usually fueled by alcohol and other

849
00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 2: things and other things, it goes pretty deep. Yeah, we've

850
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:45,879
Speaker 2: read some We've read some stories at least goes five

851
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 2: deep alcohol and Molly. Eh. So at the party, I

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00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:56,640
Speaker 2: took it off as it was just women, the job

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Speaker 2: that we're talking about. We were going to sleep over anyways,

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Speaker 2: so I don't think anyone who's expecting me to sleep

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Speaker 2: in the thing. I always find it funny how they

856
00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:07,120
Speaker 2: react when they get to see my hair, like I'm

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00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 2: secretly repundle or something. We watched a movie, took photos

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00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:14,520
Speaker 2: and videos, and generally had a good time. Put I

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00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:16,880
Speaker 2: see you in the comments if you now see the ICU,

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00:43:17,239 --> 00:43:20,719
Speaker 2: because when John first saw the ICU, I didn't see it.

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00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:22,120
Speaker 2: But now I see it.

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00:43:22,120 --> 00:43:22,720
Speaker 1: It's flipped.

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00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:24,600
Speaker 2: What you oh, it's flipped.

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Speaker 1: It's different.

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Speaker 2: It's a different ICU for you. Yeah, well that's what

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00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:29,080
Speaker 2: I saw. What you're saying, I saw you saw from

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00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:31,800
Speaker 2: the beginning. Difference, I just saw it right now. I

868
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:36,840
Speaker 2: can see clearly now the I had no problems with

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00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:39,920
Speaker 2: photos being taken since my friends are usually respectful and

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00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 2: don't post them anywhere. It just stays in our group chat.

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00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:48,280
Speaker 2: We went to sleep, and the next day everything was normal,

872
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:53,160
Speaker 2: was cleaned up. I drove home. Finally I checked my phone.

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00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:56,000
Speaker 2: Right if you don't see the ICU at this point, guys,

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00:43:56,560 --> 00:44:02,600
Speaker 2: bro go back to school, you are. I open Instagram

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00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:06,239
Speaker 2: to the tagged icon and checked it to see if

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00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:08,680
Speaker 2: myself and the girls on my oh, and check to

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00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:14,879
Speaker 2: see myself and the girls on Maya's public account. Wait,

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00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:18,920
Speaker 2: so I guess she went straight to check if anyone

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00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:21,799
Speaker 2: had posted because she's she's a little bit nervous about

880
00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:23,720
Speaker 2: it already. It doesn't sound like she was like alerted

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00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:26,560
Speaker 2: of it. She's like, oh, oh crap, did anyone post anything? Yeah,

882
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:28,759
Speaker 2: so she's like trying to be vigilant of it. I

883
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 2: quickly message Maya, asking her to take it down before

884
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 2: anyone else saw, as I couldn't control whether or not

885
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:39,120
Speaker 2: some guy was going to see her post, and she refused,

886
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:42,319
Speaker 2: saying that there were no other good photos of her.

887
00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:50,080
Speaker 2: Oh really quick. There is a magic generative film feature

888
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:54,000
Speaker 2: on Photoshop that you could literally replace anyone with anything,

889
00:44:55,280 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 2: So you could just circle, you could circles head and

890
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 2: just put job and it would put one on.

891
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:04,760
Speaker 1: Whoa, that is true, that is true.

892
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 3: Just take her out of the photo.

893
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:06,839
Speaker 2: I was gonna say.

894
00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 1: There's also just crop.

895
00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:14,640
Speaker 2: That's just mind blowing technology. Yeah, Josepine Medla Berquest says, no,

896
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:18,560
Speaker 2: she got a notification. True, Yeah, yeah, that's what. Yeah,

897
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:20,799
Speaker 2: she was tag she was tagging and went off. But yeah,

898
00:45:20,840 --> 00:45:24,160
Speaker 2: you could, I mean photoshop, but also like, I mean

899
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:26,719
Speaker 2: is it that? Is it that deep? It's bro like

900
00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:28,240
Speaker 2: just like like take it down.

901
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, take it down, especially when you hoelly, if that's

902
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 3: one of your closest friends in your bachelorette party, like

903
00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 3: you know what that means.

904
00:45:35,040 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 2: To literally, like, what are you doing your best friend?

905
00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:38,799
Speaker 8: So?

906
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 2: Oh, here we go. I asked her to simply crop

907
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:45,279
Speaker 2: me out or even draw over my hair and neck,

908
00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:49,320
Speaker 2: but she said it would look wrong and that I'm overreacting. No,

909
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 2: that's rude, that's rude.

910
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:54,880
Speaker 3: That is really one of your close friends.

911
00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:57,759
Speaker 2: Come on, I insisted I wasn't and she knew that

912
00:45:57,840 --> 00:46:00,480
Speaker 2: I couldn't show my hair to just anyone. Instead of

913
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 2: responding to me, she took it to the group chat

914
00:46:02,680 --> 00:46:05,799
Speaker 2: as some sort of council. Half of them agreed that

915
00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 2: she shouldn't have posted a photo of me. Dude, a

916
00:46:08,480 --> 00:46:12,680
Speaker 2: real life am I the A hole? Miniture addition in

917
00:46:12,719 --> 00:46:15,880
Speaker 2: the group chat? Am I the A hole? That's what

918
00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:18,520
Speaker 2: she's literally doing, just what we're doing here. Half of

919
00:46:18,600 --> 00:46:21,759
Speaker 2: them agreed that she shouldn't have posted a photo of

920
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 2: me without my job, and a couple others told me

921
00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:28,000
Speaker 2: I was overreacting and no one cared besides me. Well,

922
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:32,160
Speaker 2: I mean, she's the one that is being transgressed here,

923
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:34,879
Speaker 2: so obviously no one else is going to care as much.

924
00:46:35,080 --> 00:46:37,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, the third option, And I don't love this, but

925
00:46:37,600 --> 00:46:40,200
Speaker 3: like she could have kept the hijab on. Obviously she

926
00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 3: feels comfortable enough with her friends to take it off,

927
00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:45,560
Speaker 3: and that's amazing. Yeah, but if you know it's going

928
00:46:45,600 --> 00:46:47,960
Speaker 3: to be this momentous occasion where photos and videos are

929
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 3: going to be taken that she might want to share.

930
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:53,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I mean, I guess, like yourself, but I

931
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:55,040
Speaker 2: think I mean, she was also saying like, oh, like

932
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:56,920
Speaker 2: I was going to go to sleep and I'm not

933
00:46:56,960 --> 00:47:00,200
Speaker 2: gonna wear it while while I'm there. I mean, I

934
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:05,000
Speaker 2: guess there's like there is like uh uh note like

935
00:47:05,480 --> 00:47:09,240
Speaker 2: pre preemptive jab measures that like she could have taken.

936
00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:12,960
Speaker 2: But I still think it's super disrespectful, especially for a

937
00:47:13,000 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 2: friend that seems likes the knows the m O.

938
00:47:16,280 --> 00:47:19,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, close friends, chilling with her friends, and like it's

939
00:47:20,280 --> 00:47:22,920
Speaker 1: I'm just inferring from what she said before, it sounds

940
00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:24,880
Speaker 1: like she's probably been in a situation before where they

941
00:47:24,880 --> 00:47:26,360
Speaker 1: were all like hanging out at night, like having a

942
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:29,160
Speaker 1: sleepy It's like, I'm usually fine with pictures in this

943
00:47:29,400 --> 00:47:31,120
Speaker 1: like type of scenario.

944
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:36,040
Speaker 2: As long as it's not it's posted everywhere, which all right, just.

945
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:37,359
Speaker 1: Which is why she didn't probably say anything.

946
00:47:37,480 --> 00:47:38,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, because she thought it was just gonna be

947
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:41,400
Speaker 2: posted to the group chat and also, isn't there like,

948
00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:45,720
Speaker 2: uh what like, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.

949
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:48,280
Speaker 2: What happens in the bachtelt party stays in the bachel

950
00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:49,640
Speaker 2: lette party.

951
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:52,520
Speaker 3: This one didn't seem like a super turned party nod.

952
00:47:52,640 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 2: Hey, it could get turnt without alcohol, You're right. Emotional

953
00:47:58,320 --> 00:47:59,880
Speaker 2: emotional emotional turmoil.

954
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 1: Most like what stays inside the bachelor stays inside the bachelor.

955
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:06,320
Speaker 2: And then there's what stays inside the bachelorette. Yeah, stays

956
00:48:06,320 --> 00:48:08,799
Speaker 2: inside the playing like we're not really strangers, you know.

957
00:48:08,880 --> 00:48:11,239
Speaker 2: Some some open hearted communications, a lot of crying, a

958
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:14,919
Speaker 2: lot of cry talking about X Yeah, five deep, five deep.

959
00:48:15,560 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 2: So I should note that one of the most vocal

960
00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:22,239
Speaker 2: of them who disagreed generally doesn't like me, so she

961
00:48:22,280 --> 00:48:24,480
Speaker 2: would have disagreed regardless of what I said. Most of

962
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:26,880
Speaker 2: us are arguing her to take down the post, and

963
00:48:26,920 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 2: now she's claiming we're putting her under a lot of

964
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:30,880
Speaker 2: stress with the wedding a week away. But I don't

965
00:48:31,040 --> 00:48:33,239
Speaker 2: see what this has to do with us. Am I

966
00:48:33,320 --> 00:48:37,880
Speaker 2: really being unreasonable for wanting to be respected? Am I

967
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:43,319
Speaker 2: the a hole? There is an edit, but really quick

968
00:48:43,360 --> 00:48:47,200
Speaker 2: I want to pull everyone really quick. What do you

969
00:48:47,239 --> 00:48:50,879
Speaker 2: guys think Opie should like I should do? Is op

970
00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:53,439
Speaker 2: the a hole for asking to take the photos down?

971
00:48:53,600 --> 00:48:55,840
Speaker 2: Is it a completely okay request?

972
00:48:56,520 --> 00:49:00,440
Speaker 3: Can I just say sometimes I've asked photo not to

973
00:49:00,440 --> 00:49:02,200
Speaker 3: be taken down, but I'll point out if I look

974
00:49:02,719 --> 00:49:07,040
Speaker 3: not great in a photo just because my face and

975
00:49:07,040 --> 00:49:08,840
Speaker 3: and this is like an actual reason, do you know

976
00:49:08,880 --> 00:49:10,600
Speaker 3: what I'm saying? Like there are girls out there that

977
00:49:10,840 --> 00:49:13,960
Speaker 3: are like, why did you post that? Like you know,

978
00:49:14,000 --> 00:49:15,480
Speaker 3: but this is like this is legit.

979
00:49:16,040 --> 00:49:19,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, And usually like if you've ever said that to

980
00:49:19,040 --> 00:49:23,840
Speaker 2: a friend, what is your friend's response? I think it varies.

981
00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:26,480
Speaker 3: So it's like a business because it's like it's it

982
00:49:27,160 --> 00:49:30,520
Speaker 3: is sort of but sometimes friends are like, come on,

983
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:32,719
Speaker 3: like you don't look bad, You're fine. This is not

984
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:36,040
Speaker 3: about looking bad. This is about their identity and feeling safe,

985
00:49:36,280 --> 00:49:36,520
Speaker 3: you know.

986
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:40,360
Speaker 1: And yeah, it's respecting them as a as a person,

987
00:49:40,600 --> 00:49:46,360
Speaker 1: and like uh, and it's literally the bride's faults. She

988
00:49:46,520 --> 00:49:49,480
Speaker 1: kind of just not posted the photo or or or

989
00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:54,400
Speaker 1: posted it crops. There's like a extreme variety.

990
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:57,000
Speaker 2: And also I feel like something really important to note

991
00:49:57,000 --> 00:50:00,279
Speaker 2: here is op is it like, oh my god, how

992
00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:03,840
Speaker 2: dare you post that? Like now it's I'm exposed to everyone,

993
00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:06,319
Speaker 2: but like it's it's not even like how dare you've done?

994
00:50:06,320 --> 00:50:07,799
Speaker 2: It's like, hey, like could you just take this down?

995
00:50:07,840 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 3: I'm not comfortable with could you fix the hair?

996
00:50:11,040 --> 00:50:14,279
Speaker 2: Could you? Like OPI is offering solutions rather than just

997
00:50:14,320 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 2: like attacking the breadth, which like also could be entitled

998
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:22,520
Speaker 2: to do. Yeah, but we have one a hole or

999
00:50:22,600 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 2: no two people. Yeah, but everyone's saying not the ale

1000
00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:32,920
Speaker 2: ninety seven percent, not the a whole. Stella boguefelt Opie's

1001
00:50:33,160 --> 00:50:37,520
Speaker 2: friend is so disrespectful, Manda Panda, those are not true friends.

1002
00:50:38,400 --> 00:50:42,319
Speaker 2: Donna Sharila confused, which is the No? I think one

1003
00:50:42,360 --> 00:50:46,200
Speaker 2: person accidentally, Uh, put can change it? But yeah, you

1004
00:50:46,239 --> 00:50:47,640
Speaker 2: can change it. You can change it. Do it, don't

1005
00:50:47,640 --> 00:50:52,480
Speaker 2: have time, change it, come for you, missus. Romie A

1006
00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:56,320
Speaker 2: Sas is blatantly disrespectful to her and her religion.

1007
00:50:58,080 --> 00:51:00,719
Speaker 1: Us Sleepy Toave says, this would be like a woman

1008
00:51:00,760 --> 00:51:02,960
Speaker 1: who had a nip slip, could you go up with it?

1009
00:51:04,040 --> 00:51:06,120
Speaker 1: And the friend is like, no one's gonna see it.

1010
00:51:06,640 --> 00:51:11,880
Speaker 3: Oh yeah that's yeah.

1011
00:51:10,000 --> 00:51:10,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, like.

1012
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:14,520
Speaker 1: It just it just kind of blows my mind that

1013
00:51:14,560 --> 00:51:18,399
Speaker 1: the like a friend who seemed so close could be

1014
00:51:19,040 --> 00:51:24,880
Speaker 1: so initially clueless and ultimately super cruel.

1015
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:29,000
Speaker 2: And also it is more stressful to keep the photo

1016
00:51:29,200 --> 00:51:32,200
Speaker 2: on than to delete it. If we're talking about stress here,

1017
00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:35,560
Speaker 2: it's like it's one delete button away from being gone

1018
00:51:35,680 --> 00:51:38,200
Speaker 2: and this whole situation disappear.

1019
00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:41,359
Speaker 1: It you created your own stress and continued your.

1020
00:51:41,440 --> 00:51:43,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, you are continuing your stress.

1021
00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:45,320
Speaker 1: Congratulations played yourself.

1022
00:51:45,600 --> 00:51:47,000
Speaker 3: I don't know if we said this or if I

1023
00:51:47,040 --> 00:51:49,880
Speaker 3: said this, but like to have a friend who was

1024
00:51:49,960 --> 00:51:53,239
Speaker 3: not aware enough to know that that wasn't okay to

1025
00:51:53,280 --> 00:51:55,719
Speaker 3: post you know what I'm saying, Like you know your

1026
00:51:55,719 --> 00:52:00,120
Speaker 3: friend's relationship to their religion, to their hijab, Like you

1027
00:52:00,160 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying.

1028
00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:03,000
Speaker 1: And the friends that were like in the group chat

1029
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:04,760
Speaker 1: later they're like, oh no, it's like not an issue,

1030
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:05,960
Speaker 1: Like why are you making a big deal of it.

1031
00:52:05,960 --> 00:52:09,040
Speaker 2: It's like, no, I wonder what, like what part of

1032
00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:12,120
Speaker 2: the world slash country this is in two mm hmmm,

1033
00:52:12,640 --> 00:52:14,640
Speaker 2: because I feel like if this is in LA, everyone

1034
00:52:14,640 --> 00:52:18,239
Speaker 2: would be like, obviously, yeah, take it down, But maybe

1035
00:52:18,280 --> 00:52:25,000
Speaker 2: it's we have more people around. Yeah, Riley, Riley Country.

1036
00:52:26,920 --> 00:52:31,200
Speaker 2: Let's get into the dr edit. There were about forty

1037
00:52:31,200 --> 00:52:34,040
Speaker 2: photos and I was only in six of them. People

1038
00:52:34,040 --> 00:52:36,280
Speaker 2: were under the impression that I was in every photo taken.

1039
00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:39,160
Speaker 2: I wasn't. Yet I was in almost half of which

1040
00:52:39,160 --> 00:52:43,360
Speaker 2: were posted. All of the ones posted were candids. So

1041
00:52:43,480 --> 00:52:47,000
Speaker 2: relevant comments from Opie regarding the pictures. All the photos

1042
00:52:47,040 --> 00:52:49,640
Speaker 2: of me were candids. Besides one, which was not one

1043
00:52:49,640 --> 00:52:52,320
Speaker 2: of the ones she posted, the whole carousel were candids.

1044
00:52:52,440 --> 00:52:54,759
Speaker 2: I've known these girls for years, and it's been known

1045
00:52:54,960 --> 00:52:57,600
Speaker 2: that photos of me without my job just stay between us.

1046
00:52:57,880 --> 00:52:59,840
Speaker 2: I used to just say no to photos, but it

1047
00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:02,759
Speaker 2: always be a mood killer. I generally don't like being

1048
00:53:02,760 --> 00:53:05,839
Speaker 2: in photos. I can recount one time we sat in

1049
00:53:05,880 --> 00:53:08,240
Speaker 2: a booth and I was in the middle, not wanting

1050
00:53:08,280 --> 00:53:09,759
Speaker 2: to be in the photo. I had to get up

1051
00:53:09,800 --> 00:53:12,560
Speaker 2: and get out a frame. These girls know me, plus

1052
00:53:12,680 --> 00:53:16,160
Speaker 2: I don't think someone's framing photos of what was essentially

1053
00:53:16,440 --> 00:53:19,960
Speaker 2: a pajama party. There were and then continuing, there were

1054
00:53:20,040 --> 00:53:21,879
Speaker 2: around forty photos ac and I was in six of them.

1055
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:24,799
Speaker 2: She only posted seven. I was in three. I was

1056
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:28,080
Speaker 2: in the minority of photos and still in almost half

1057
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:30,480
Speaker 2: of the post I removed by a job because that's

1058
00:53:30,480 --> 00:53:33,160
Speaker 2: a conversation I had with my friends ages ago. I've

1059
00:53:33,160 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 2: known Maya since I was five years old. Dude, Yeah,

1060
00:53:37,080 --> 00:53:39,520
Speaker 2: she grew up seeing my mother were a job and

1061
00:53:39,680 --> 00:53:41,600
Speaker 2: was there as I started to wear in my teen years.

1062
00:53:41,640 --> 00:53:44,640
Speaker 2: I've communicated my boundaries to her and the group or

1063
00:53:44,680 --> 00:53:47,920
Speaker 2: over the course of years. Do you state your boundaries

1064
00:53:47,960 --> 00:53:50,279
Speaker 2: every time you talk to someone? Good morning, babe. I

1065
00:53:50,320 --> 00:53:52,000
Speaker 2: know I've said it every day for the past four years,

1066
00:53:52,040 --> 00:53:54,719
Speaker 2: but please don't touch my elbow. I'm really bad at

1067
00:53:54,760 --> 00:54:07,200
Speaker 2: making up scenarios. Sorry the boat and also, yeah, I

1068
00:54:07,239 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 2: was gonna say, like, there is an update. By the way,

1069
00:54:09,560 --> 00:54:10,240
Speaker 2: there is an update.

1070
00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:14,239
Speaker 1: It would have been I think fine if someone was

1071
00:54:14,520 --> 00:54:18,960
Speaker 1: genuinely uneducated on like what that means to like show

1072
00:54:19,000 --> 00:54:22,640
Speaker 1: a woman without her hit job, and then she was like, oh, hey,

1073
00:54:23,040 --> 00:54:25,279
Speaker 1: here's the breakdown. Here's why I don't want to be

1074
00:54:25,280 --> 00:54:27,799
Speaker 1: shown with that, and they're like, oh my gosh, I'm

1075
00:54:27,840 --> 00:54:30,520
Speaker 1: so sorry. Yeah, taken down immediately. You know that is

1076
00:54:30,560 --> 00:54:31,560
Speaker 1: a completely different story.

1077
00:54:31,640 --> 00:54:32,080
Speaker 2: Uh huh.

1078
00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:34,040
Speaker 3: But that's what I'm saying. That's what her response should

1079
00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:36,279
Speaker 3: have been, because even if it wasn't overset on her part, Oh,

1080
00:54:36,360 --> 00:54:38,359
Speaker 3: I just want to share the bachelorette photos. You've known

1081
00:54:38,360 --> 00:54:40,719
Speaker 3: her since you were five years old. The response should be,

1082
00:54:40,800 --> 00:54:43,520
Speaker 3: I am so sorry. That was my bad, Like I

1083
00:54:43,680 --> 00:54:44,200
Speaker 3: slipped up.

1084
00:54:44,719 --> 00:54:46,360
Speaker 1: I never should have done it to begin with, because

1085
00:54:46,440 --> 00:54:50,360
Speaker 1: I actually knew, right like someone who doesn't know. I

1086
00:54:50,640 --> 00:54:52,719
Speaker 1: don't think you can blame them like they just don't know.

1087
00:54:53,080 --> 00:54:56,320
Speaker 1: But like she said, she's communicated to the whole group

1088
00:54:56,560 --> 00:54:59,120
Speaker 1: because I get like again inferring that they probably have

1089
00:54:59,200 --> 00:55:01,880
Speaker 1: like these sleepovers stuff and we'll take it off to.

1090
00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:04,720
Speaker 2: Night and everyone I think agrees with us, and everyone

1091
00:55:04,880 --> 00:55:07,920
Speaker 2: in the chat everyone read it said op is voted

1092
00:55:08,040 --> 00:55:10,680
Speaker 2: not the a hole. Yes, and Rando Espresso says no

1093
00:55:10,760 --> 00:55:11,920
Speaker 2: elbow touching.

1094
00:55:11,680 --> 00:55:15,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't even don't even look elbows are the new

1095
00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:16,080
Speaker 1: feet picks?

1096
00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:20,360
Speaker 2: Honestly true? True? They uh, we're starting it here. You

1097
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:24,640
Speaker 2: heard it here first, some of those.

1098
00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:30,920
Speaker 1: Out bout it actually would be a funny bit if

1099
00:55:30,920 --> 00:55:36,280
Speaker 1: we started boring every elbow. Oh my god, Me and feet,

1100
00:55:36,520 --> 00:55:39,160
Speaker 1: Me and Sam's feet have been a subject of many many.

1101
00:55:38,960 --> 00:55:44,120
Speaker 2: And inside many and are now blurred. Yeah, you want

1102
00:55:44,120 --> 00:55:48,279
Speaker 2: to see after the show, the midnight stream, one of

1103
00:55:48,360 --> 00:55:51,920
Speaker 2: those ten hours, feet will come out. The piggies said,

1104
00:55:52,360 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 2: I've taken out of the piggies, but we do have

1105
00:55:55,120 --> 00:55:57,400
Speaker 2: an update, but I'd also like to update everyone that

1106
00:55:57,480 --> 00:56:00,960
Speaker 2: we live stream every weekday at three pm, so come

1107
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:05,120
Speaker 2: join the live stream more often, come in. So let's

1108
00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:11,839
Speaker 2: get into the update. So four days later, four days later,

1109
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:13,399
Speaker 2: I wanted to give it a couple of days before

1110
00:56:13,440 --> 00:56:16,000
Speaker 2: I updated it, to let the situation cool down or

1111
00:56:16,040 --> 00:56:21,759
Speaker 2: hopefully resolve itself. In short, the post got taken down,

1112
00:56:21,800 --> 00:56:25,680
Speaker 2: Thank god. The wedding finally is still happening okay, and

1113
00:56:25,680 --> 00:56:28,839
Speaker 2: I'm still friends with her. I was gonna say, so, yeah,

1114
00:56:28,880 --> 00:56:32,600
Speaker 2: we're good. We're good, but there is some thick updates

1115
00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:35,200
Speaker 2: coming coming next, so let's see that a day is good.

1116
00:56:35,440 --> 00:56:37,360
Speaker 2: I got a bunch of dms from her fiance the

1117
00:56:37,400 --> 00:56:40,600
Speaker 2: other day, apologizing, saying that he'd recognized me in the

1118
00:56:40,600 --> 00:56:43,319
Speaker 2: photos of me without my whole job, and he'd informed

1119
00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:46,320
Speaker 2: me that he told her to take it down. He's Christian,

1120
00:56:46,320 --> 00:56:49,000
Speaker 2: but from what I understand, his mother veils and he

1121
00:56:49,080 --> 00:56:52,720
Speaker 2: understands the rules around hijab a good bit. He felt bad,

1122
00:56:52,800 --> 00:56:54,719
Speaker 2: and I had to reassure him that it wasn't his

1123
00:56:54,800 --> 00:56:56,880
Speaker 2: fault and thanked him for talking to by for me.

1124
00:56:57,320 --> 00:57:00,800
Speaker 2: He asked if this whole situation would affect our friendship,

1125
00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:03,719
Speaker 2: and I told him I wasn't sure in what way.

1126
00:57:04,520 --> 00:57:07,480
Speaker 2: A bit after Maya finally messaged me one to one

1127
00:57:07,640 --> 00:57:11,000
Speaker 2: for the first time since the whole fiasco, she apologized

1128
00:57:11,040 --> 00:57:12,879
Speaker 2: and explained she didn't think it was a big deal

1129
00:57:13,000 --> 00:57:15,799
Speaker 2: since her other Muslim friend doesn't wear her job and

1130
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:19,280
Speaker 2: she thought I was simply being dramatic. Oh that's not

1131
00:57:19,400 --> 00:57:20,720
Speaker 2: what That's not what you say.

1132
00:57:21,000 --> 00:57:23,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's not what you say. Even if you thought it.

1133
00:57:23,600 --> 00:57:27,240
Speaker 3: She's lying what really to cover up?

1134
00:57:27,600 --> 00:57:29,560
Speaker 1: I think she's lying because she it's a terrible lie

1135
00:57:29,600 --> 00:57:32,240
Speaker 1: if she is right, Yeah, I don't think she's because

1136
00:57:32,280 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 1: because she's known her and her mom since she was

1137
00:57:35,400 --> 00:57:39,360
Speaker 1: five years old, she's why not.

1138
00:57:39,400 --> 00:57:39,960
Speaker 2: Just own it?

1139
00:57:40,000 --> 00:57:41,600
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. That's why I think it is

1140
00:57:41,720 --> 00:57:44,200
Speaker 3: just a bad not a bad lie, know what I'm saying.

1141
00:57:44,240 --> 00:57:45,320
Speaker 3: Maybe it's not a lie.

1142
00:57:45,480 --> 00:57:48,160
Speaker 1: Maybe she just is a horrendous friend.

1143
00:57:48,440 --> 00:57:52,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe that's what I'm That's what people are, monoliths.

1144
00:57:52,160 --> 00:57:55,320
Speaker 2: That's something we've realized again and again on this show. Right. Yeah,

1145
00:57:55,360 --> 00:57:57,520
Speaker 2: everyone everyone's the same, the same? Yeah?

1146
00:57:58,280 --> 00:58:02,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, what what a what a lame excuse excuse?

1147
00:58:03,960 --> 00:58:06,960
Speaker 2: I told her that everyone is different and what someone

1148
00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:09,000
Speaker 2: else chooses to do with their body and faith, does

1149
00:58:09,000 --> 00:58:11,920
Speaker 2: it mean someone else will do the same. My older

1150
00:58:11,960 --> 00:58:14,520
Speaker 2: sister doesn't wear a job. Maya's seen her. It's a

1151
00:58:14,520 --> 00:58:17,640
Speaker 2: personal choice and no two people are going to have

1152
00:58:17,720 --> 00:58:22,680
Speaker 2: the same relationship with it. Yeah, people are different. I

1153
00:58:22,720 --> 00:58:26,040
Speaker 2: have white friends that like roller coasters. I have white

1154
00:58:26,040 --> 00:58:29,520
Speaker 2: friends that don't like roller coasters. You can't just say

1155
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:31,240
Speaker 2: all white people like roller coasters.

1156
00:58:31,360 --> 00:58:34,960
Speaker 1: Example, kow right next to the elbows.

1157
00:58:35,800 --> 00:58:38,920
Speaker 2: White people in roller coasters elbows, neck and neck. I

1158
00:58:38,960 --> 00:58:41,480
Speaker 2: would like to see the demographic breakdown of roller coasters.

1159
00:58:41,680 --> 00:58:48,920
Speaker 2: It would be interesting. Riley pull as y me. Asking

1160
00:58:48,960 --> 00:58:51,040
Speaker 2: her to take it down wasn't enough on its own,

1161
00:58:51,080 --> 00:58:53,240
Speaker 2: since she'd done similar things for others in the past.

1162
00:58:53,240 --> 00:58:59,560
Speaker 2: To think broadstrap showing, think brastraps showing unflattering angle, exposed

1163
00:58:59,600 --> 00:59:02,360
Speaker 2: scars without hesitation. Ye, that's what I was. That's what

1164
00:59:02,400 --> 00:59:02,600
Speaker 2: I was.

1165
00:59:02,640 --> 00:59:04,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, the unflattering angle.

1166
00:59:04,800 --> 00:59:07,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like most people would do that. Yeah.

1167
00:59:07,360 --> 00:59:09,280
Speaker 2: She says she wasn't thinking straight and felt it didn't

1168
00:59:09,320 --> 00:59:11,120
Speaker 2: matter in the grand scheme of things. It was only

1169
00:59:11,160 --> 00:59:12,720
Speaker 2: when her fiance brought it up to her that she

1170
00:59:12,760 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 2: took it down. She put the other four photos up,

1171
00:59:15,240 --> 00:59:17,320
Speaker 2: the ones without me in them, and she realized she

1172
00:59:17,360 --> 00:59:20,160
Speaker 2: was being stubborn for no reason. She asked me if

1173
00:59:20,160 --> 00:59:21,880
Speaker 2: there's anything she could do to make it up for

1174
00:59:21,960 --> 00:59:24,200
Speaker 2: me and make it up to me, and I asked

1175
00:59:24,200 --> 00:59:26,600
Speaker 2: her to just keep it in the past. I'd like

1176
00:59:26,640 --> 00:59:28,880
Speaker 2: to clear up the notion that this is the first

1177
00:59:28,960 --> 00:59:31,720
Speaker 2: bachelorette party or even wedding our friend group has had

1178
00:59:31,920 --> 00:59:36,200
Speaker 2: since That's far from it. Added, We've had conversations regarding

1179
00:59:36,320 --> 00:59:39,680
Speaker 2: special occasions many times, so even if it was the

1180
00:59:39,720 --> 00:59:41,920
Speaker 2: first time, this shouldn't have happened. So basically like this

1181
00:59:42,000 --> 00:59:46,240
Speaker 2: is not their first wedding rodeo, right, this wedding will

1182
00:59:46,240 --> 00:59:48,800
Speaker 2: be the third, and come by September mine will be

1183
00:59:48,840 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 2: the fourth. Also, we've been friends for almost two decades,

1184
00:59:51,800 --> 00:59:53,840
Speaker 2: so cutting her off over this it would be out

1185
00:59:53,840 --> 00:59:56,320
Speaker 2: of proportion. I did not report the photos, and I

1186
00:59:56,320 --> 00:59:58,720
Speaker 2: did not abandon my faith like some of you suggested.

1187
00:59:58,960 --> 01:00:01,520
Speaker 2: This may not be the update somewhere wanting, but at

1188
01:00:01,600 --> 01:00:03,960
Speaker 2: least things are better now and the wedding is going

1189
01:00:04,080 --> 01:00:08,360
Speaker 2: as planned, so that all answers the question what are

1190
01:00:08,440 --> 01:00:13,760
Speaker 2: appropriate requests? Ask your friends? She read, it is like

1191
01:00:13,840 --> 01:00:15,160
Speaker 2: you've abandr day.

1192
01:00:15,480 --> 01:00:18,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, just just literally abandoned your entire religion and self

1193
01:00:18,840 --> 01:00:20,720
Speaker 1: of identity, culture and everything else.

1194
01:00:21,240 --> 01:00:25,600
Speaker 2: Like, just do that, genius. Why did we think of that? Reddit?

1195
01:00:25,680 --> 01:00:28,120
Speaker 2: My god, you're so brilliant. Did you put a roller

1196
01:00:28,160 --> 01:00:33,600
Speaker 2: coaster or not? No, it's the demographic data.

1197
01:00:34,040 --> 01:00:39,040
Speaker 1: Oh live, Well I like roller coaster, roller coaster or not?

1198
01:00:39,240 --> 01:00:42,080
Speaker 1: You know what, sixty percent of people like roller coasters.

1199
01:00:42,080 --> 01:00:46,280
Speaker 1: I'm in the roller coaster camp. I'm roller coaster proler coaster.

1200
01:00:46,480 --> 01:00:48,480
Speaker 4: It depends on the day. It takes me a little bit.

1201
01:00:48,520 --> 01:00:52,280
Speaker 2: But roller coasterkers are not a monoliths. I'm a maybe dude.

1202
01:00:52,320 --> 01:00:53,200
Speaker 2: He's not a roller coaster.

1203
01:00:53,840 --> 01:00:58,000
Speaker 1: He's not like us like that.

1204
01:00:58,000 --> 01:01:00,880
Speaker 2: That is a No, it's amazing, Like that's how I

1205
01:01:00,920 --> 01:01:01,640
Speaker 2: do it. I'm fine.

1206
01:01:01,680 --> 01:01:02,240
Speaker 4: It's like coke.

1207
01:01:03,400 --> 01:01:05,720
Speaker 3: Well, I've never done coke, so I wouldn't.

1208
01:01:05,320 --> 01:01:11,800
Speaker 2: Know coke either. Let's go no coka. Oh wow, look

1209
01:01:11,800 --> 01:01:19,680
Speaker 2: at us. Also, we're live right now. We're live right now.

1210
01:01:20,960 --> 01:01:24,880
Speaker 2: Our profile. You can get a membership. You come out here. Yeah,

1211
01:01:24,920 --> 01:01:26,640
Speaker 2: if you're on Facebook, come over to YouTube. You can

1212
01:01:26,680 --> 01:01:28,600
Speaker 2: get a you can get a membership right this second.

1213
01:01:28,640 --> 01:01:31,400
Speaker 2: Literally literally really it could happen. But we see eighty

1214
01:01:31,440 --> 01:01:33,040
Speaker 2: two of you over on Facebook. If you want to

1215
01:01:33,040 --> 01:01:37,280
Speaker 2: stay over there, that's fine too. I will be very angry.

1216
01:01:38,160 --> 01:01:41,120
Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story. Very good.

1217
01:01:41,520 --> 01:01:44,320
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm glad that she it seems like, hey,

1218
01:01:44,520 --> 01:01:47,000
Speaker 1: let me keep this friendship. It's it's it's longer. It's

1219
01:01:47,000 --> 01:01:51,960
Speaker 1: deeper than that me personally five deep. It's longer, it's

1220
01:01:52,000 --> 01:01:57,160
Speaker 1: five five old. I would personally be like, uh uh

1221
01:01:57,440 --> 01:01:58,600
Speaker 1: guilty until proven.

1222
01:01:59,840 --> 01:02:01,560
Speaker 2: Uh oh. So it's like you have to earn back

1223
01:02:01,600 --> 01:02:04,800
Speaker 2: my trust. Yeah. Oh I feel.

1224
01:02:04,520 --> 01:02:06,680
Speaker 1: Like that's how I would feel for for a friend

1225
01:02:06,760 --> 01:02:12,000
Speaker 1: of so long to do that and feel that way. Yeah.

1226
01:02:12,000 --> 01:02:14,080
Speaker 3: But it's so wild because it seemed like op was

1227
01:02:14,160 --> 01:02:17,360
Speaker 3: really understanding. It wasn't like a how could you like,

1228
01:02:17,440 --> 01:02:18,120
Speaker 3: oh my god.

1229
01:02:17,960 --> 01:02:21,280
Speaker 2: This everything? No, it was just like, hey, I'd really

1230
01:02:21,360 --> 01:02:24,280
Speaker 2: appreciate if we could fix this. But they've also been

1231
01:02:24,400 --> 01:02:28,360
Speaker 2: friends for twenty years and so like like the we

1232
01:02:28,440 --> 01:02:30,920
Speaker 2: had like a friend theory a while ago where it

1233
01:02:30,960 --> 01:02:33,120
Speaker 2: was like the longer that you've been friends, the more

1234
01:02:33,160 --> 01:02:35,720
Speaker 2: crap that you're going to deal with. For sure, friendship

1235
01:02:35,720 --> 01:02:38,200
Speaker 2: to tiates like a sister, Yeah exactly, Yeah, you have

1236
01:02:38,200 --> 01:02:40,920
Speaker 2: to do a lot of crap after twenty years of friendship.

1237
01:02:40,600 --> 01:02:43,000
Speaker 1: Or Sam's Golden Rules. So Sam's Golden Rules is you

1238
01:02:43,040 --> 01:02:44,840
Speaker 1: can cheat every four years.

1239
01:02:46,200 --> 01:02:49,600
Speaker 2: Okay, that Oh my god. It's a predictive tool. It's

1240
01:02:49,600 --> 01:02:52,680
Speaker 2: a predictive tool. What I'm saying is for every four

1241
01:02:52,840 --> 01:02:57,840
Speaker 2: years of relationship that you have, Yeah, for every four heybody,

1242
01:02:58,520 --> 01:03:02,320
Speaker 2: Oh oh so cute.

1243
01:03:02,760 --> 01:03:06,720
Speaker 1: It's it's there was a branding issue with Sam's Golden Rules.

1244
01:03:06,760 --> 01:03:08,240
Speaker 1: It is a predictive tools.

1245
01:03:08,320 --> 01:03:10,760
Speaker 2: Predictive tools. So it's like, all right, you're you're four

1246
01:03:10,800 --> 01:03:14,320
Speaker 2: years into relationship. If you can cheat, you are more

1247
01:03:14,440 --> 01:03:18,560
Speaker 2: likely to stay in the relationship cheating. And also for

1248
01:03:18,560 --> 01:03:19,240
Speaker 2: every kid you have.

1249
01:03:19,720 --> 01:03:22,800
Speaker 3: That's a bummer. That's a bummer.

1250
01:03:22,880 --> 01:03:25,439
Speaker 1: So the branding issue happened for people like Sam's Golden

1251
01:03:25,480 --> 01:03:27,200
Speaker 1: Rules cheat every four years.

1252
01:03:27,360 --> 01:03:29,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, I can see how you guys interpreted it like that.

1253
01:03:30,240 --> 01:03:34,120
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. But that yeah, maybe that would be

1254
01:03:34,120 --> 01:03:35,720
Speaker 3: something when you get into a relationship, Hey, if you

1255
01:03:35,760 --> 01:03:37,600
Speaker 3: want to cheat, just wait four years.

1256
01:03:37,640 --> 01:03:40,480
Speaker 2: You know, at least you're more likely to stay together.

1257
01:03:40,560 --> 01:03:43,760
Speaker 2: That the decent, that's the decency to go through legend cycle.

1258
01:03:43,880 --> 01:03:46,920
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. Riley stepped out for a second. Did

1259
01:03:47,240 --> 01:03:49,640
Speaker 2: he's escorting the dog? Oh? I downloaded Hinge.

1260
01:03:49,880 --> 01:03:53,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh yeah, I downloaded Hinge a couple of weeks ago.

1261
01:03:53,760 --> 01:03:59,120
Speaker 1: I heard in your yaw's it been going for you?

1262
01:03:59,480 --> 01:04:02,160
Speaker 3: Because here's what happens. Here's what happens. First of all,

1263
01:04:02,400 --> 01:04:07,960
Speaker 3: a lot of the men that hurt you first make

1264
01:04:08,000 --> 01:04:10,120
Speaker 3: you feel terrible about yourself. It's like, really, is this

1265
01:04:10,200 --> 01:04:11,560
Speaker 3: the level I'm on? You know?

1266
01:04:12,200 --> 01:04:14,400
Speaker 2: And then and then a lot of.

1267
01:04:14,400 --> 01:04:17,880
Speaker 3: The people is just and then the conversations and you're

1268
01:04:17,960 --> 01:04:22,720
Speaker 3: just like, oh my lord, and here's my thing. I

1269
01:04:22,720 --> 01:04:25,080
Speaker 3: don't even think I'm ready for dating right now. Well,

1270
01:04:25,320 --> 01:04:27,240
Speaker 3: it's not that I'm not ready for dating, but I

1271
01:04:27,280 --> 01:04:30,520
Speaker 3: want intention right Like, I'm not trying to get back

1272
01:04:30,560 --> 01:04:32,840
Speaker 3: into another relationship, but I just want intention. If you

1273
01:04:32,880 --> 01:04:35,560
Speaker 3: want my time, show me you want my time. I

1274
01:04:35,600 --> 01:04:37,280
Speaker 3: don't want to be like I'm watching this movie to

1275
01:04:37,360 --> 01:04:39,760
Speaker 3: know you want to come over. No, I don't, No,

1276
01:04:39,840 --> 01:04:44,959
Speaker 3: I don't. I don't like w wy D question Mark

1277
01:04:45,080 --> 01:04:46,480
Speaker 3: at like freaking ten pm.

1278
01:04:46,720 --> 01:04:49,640
Speaker 2: No, Is that is that what you're getting? Wait? What

1279
01:04:50,920 --> 01:04:53,640
Speaker 2: is what is the What is the content of the

1280
01:04:54,000 --> 01:04:56,360
Speaker 2: of the messages you're getting? It's like a couple what

1281
01:04:56,400 --> 01:04:58,280
Speaker 2: you're doings watching movies?

1282
01:04:58,400 --> 01:05:01,080
Speaker 3: Is that what you're doing, or it's like, oh my god,

1283
01:05:01,080 --> 01:05:03,200
Speaker 3: you're so beautiful. I want to buy you a castle.

1284
01:05:03,400 --> 01:05:04,440
Speaker 2: And I'm just kidding.

1285
01:05:09,160 --> 01:05:11,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, I had a guy I wish I had my

1286
01:05:11,280 --> 01:05:13,320
Speaker 3: phone on me. All my phone's over there. But it

1287
01:05:13,480 --> 01:05:16,160
Speaker 3: was someone being like I would fight a lion for

1288
01:05:16,200 --> 01:05:19,080
Speaker 3: you or something, you know, and did you let me

1289
01:05:19,080 --> 01:05:21,720
Speaker 3: try to find this for you guys? Yeah, but he

1290
01:05:21,800 --> 01:05:23,040
Speaker 3: wasn't cute.

1291
01:05:23,440 --> 01:05:24,520
Speaker 2: He was cute. It would work.

1292
01:05:27,360 --> 01:05:30,560
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, there's an let him the lion,

1293
01:05:30,600 --> 01:05:32,000
Speaker 1: ye die.

1294
01:05:32,120 --> 01:05:34,520
Speaker 3: There's just a lot. There's a lot that throws me off.

1295
01:05:34,560 --> 01:05:38,480
Speaker 3: The voice prompts throw me off. There's a lot. But

1296
01:05:38,520 --> 01:05:40,080
Speaker 3: tell me, tell me how it's going for you?

1297
01:05:41,800 --> 01:05:44,040
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, what do you you got for us? So

1298
01:05:44,080 --> 01:05:45,560
Speaker 2: ill her like yesterday?

1299
01:05:46,680 --> 01:05:48,120
Speaker 3: So you're going to delete it tomorrow?

1300
01:05:48,320 --> 01:05:52,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, but but I I do have a date set

1301
01:05:52,200 --> 01:05:54,920
Speaker 2: up for it, got set up for it was today,

1302
01:05:54,920 --> 01:05:56,480
Speaker 2: I got got moved to tomorrow.

1303
01:05:57,560 --> 01:05:59,960
Speaker 1: Honestly, you should just cancel that altogether.

1304
01:06:00,120 --> 01:06:00,360
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1305
01:06:00,400 --> 01:06:02,160
Speaker 1: If she's not if she's not gonna come to where

1306
01:06:02,160 --> 01:06:04,280
Speaker 1: we're going tonight, don't deserve it.

1307
01:06:04,480 --> 01:06:06,840
Speaker 2: Oh wait, actually it doesn't deserve you. There is someone

1308
01:06:06,880 --> 01:06:10,080
Speaker 2: that said she's down literally night. Yeah, let's let's get her.

1309
01:06:10,520 --> 01:06:13,360
Speaker 2: Where are you going? Uh, we're going to this movie

1310
01:06:13,360 --> 01:06:18,600
Speaker 2: premiere show premiere. I think movie show show show premiere

1311
01:06:18,600 --> 01:06:19,040
Speaker 2: show premier.

1312
01:06:19,160 --> 01:06:22,560
Speaker 1: It's on uh Peacock. I think it's called Those About

1313
01:06:22,640 --> 01:06:26,439
Speaker 1: to Die Scary. I think it's kind of like Game

1314
01:06:26,480 --> 01:06:28,280
Speaker 1: of Thrones vibes what well?

1315
01:06:28,320 --> 01:06:31,600
Speaker 3: I got this really quickly. The The comment was I

1316
01:06:31,640 --> 01:06:34,280
Speaker 3: would fight a lion with my hands tied behind my

1317
01:06:34,400 --> 01:06:37,600
Speaker 3: back in a bathroom stall with the lights off, just

1318
01:06:37,640 --> 01:06:38,919
Speaker 3: to get a chance to know you.

1319
01:06:39,760 --> 01:06:40,400
Speaker 2: That's great.

1320
01:06:41,800 --> 01:06:44,680
Speaker 1: I feel like that's great, But that's also it's it's

1321
01:06:44,680 --> 01:06:47,480
Speaker 1: also giving, like like it's given, like.

1322
01:06:47,440 --> 01:06:50,040
Speaker 2: He would lock me in a room or something. That's true.

1323
01:06:50,120 --> 01:06:52,439
Speaker 1: I was thinking he uh like send that to every

1324
01:06:53,760 --> 01:06:57,600
Speaker 1: Oh like yeah, yeah.

1325
01:06:57,160 --> 01:06:58,480
Speaker 4: What's your copy and paste message?

1326
01:06:58,520 --> 01:06:59,919
Speaker 2: So I don't have a copy and paste?

1327
01:07:00,200 --> 01:07:03,280
Speaker 4: I had one. I noticed something in all your picks

1328
01:07:03,400 --> 01:07:04,240
Speaker 4: And then they were all like.

1329
01:07:04,680 --> 01:07:07,400
Speaker 3: It doesn't me Is that what it is?

1330
01:07:08,400 --> 01:07:13,400
Speaker 6: Oh my gosh, there were you We did we did

1331
01:07:13,480 --> 01:07:17,240
Speaker 6: have We all we all went to uh Bali this

1332
01:07:17,320 --> 01:07:19,400
Speaker 6: time last year together and all of the women were

1333
01:07:19,440 --> 01:07:22,280
Speaker 6: just like controlling Riley's dating profile.

1334
01:07:23,000 --> 01:07:24,720
Speaker 3: Oh my god, it was amazing.

1335
01:07:24,440 --> 01:07:26,120
Speaker 4: Don't work. I had to go out there and do

1336
01:07:26,200 --> 01:07:28,800
Speaker 4: it myself. I went on one date with the chick

1337
01:07:28,880 --> 01:07:30,720
Speaker 4: that had a boyfriend. We went rock climbing.

1338
01:07:30,760 --> 01:07:33,520
Speaker 2: Wait, she didn't tell me.

1339
01:07:33,720 --> 01:07:35,479
Speaker 3: Okay, sounded like you knew.

1340
01:07:35,800 --> 01:07:36,320
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, no.

1341
01:07:36,520 --> 01:07:39,160
Speaker 4: It was all good until I was like, hey, you

1342
01:07:39,200 --> 01:07:41,480
Speaker 4: wanna go walk around? She's like, I have the boyfriend.

1343
01:07:41,560 --> 01:07:43,480
Speaker 4: And I was like, what are we doing here?

1344
01:07:43,640 --> 01:07:43,840
Speaker 5: Yeah?

1345
01:07:43,880 --> 01:07:45,000
Speaker 2: That could never happen to me?

1346
01:07:46,360 --> 01:07:51,000
Speaker 9: Oh my no, you stop.

1347
01:07:51,560 --> 01:07:53,160
Speaker 4: You even knew you even had a hint.

1348
01:07:53,760 --> 01:07:57,480
Speaker 2: I I did have a hint. Nothing happened, no kisses,

1349
01:07:57,520 --> 01:08:02,000
Speaker 2: no smooch, but very romantic. So romance, so dumby romance,

1350
01:08:03,160 --> 01:08:08,560
Speaker 2: so dummy romantic. That's bad. Well I was already like

1351
01:08:08,720 --> 01:08:10,360
Speaker 2: five hours into the dates.

1352
01:08:10,520 --> 01:08:18,240
Speaker 1: Five hours, guys, five hours again, but leavest photos for context.

1353
01:08:18,360 --> 01:08:21,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it looked I was like either gay, best friend,

1354
01:08:21,560 --> 01:08:24,880
Speaker 2: brother or boyfriend. And you didn't want to ask. I

1355
01:08:24,880 --> 01:08:28,519
Speaker 2: didn't want to ask. Of course she didn't say anything. Yeah,

1356
01:08:29,400 --> 01:08:32,959
Speaker 2: that's no. I don't like that. You can't trust anybody.

1357
01:08:33,320 --> 01:08:35,919
Speaker 2: But nothing happened. I asked her if you had a boyfriend,

1358
01:08:36,280 --> 01:08:39,240
Speaker 2: like before, I was about to smooch her Eiffel Tower

1359
01:08:39,280 --> 01:08:39,679
Speaker 2: real quick.

1360
01:08:39,800 --> 01:08:45,559
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, Okay, dude, this is sorry.

1361
01:08:46,120 --> 01:08:52,720
Speaker 2: Okay, oh whoa Sam, Okay, this is this is the craziest.

1362
01:08:54,320 --> 01:08:56,560
Speaker 3: No, she unmatched you.

1363
01:08:56,680 --> 01:09:02,479
Speaker 2: Let's go she found Oh my god, samms so sorry, no, no, no,

1364
01:09:02,720 --> 01:09:04,519
Speaker 2: this is this is okay, this is actually good. Yeah,

1365
01:09:04,560 --> 01:09:07,000
Speaker 2: this is I actually took screenshots. I took green shots.

1366
01:09:07,040 --> 01:09:08,720
Speaker 3: Oh wait, this is the one that.

1367
01:09:08,720 --> 01:09:10,800
Speaker 2: Had the boyfriend. No no, no, no, no no, when you

1368
01:09:10,840 --> 01:09:13,760
Speaker 2: were just talking to just talking. Okay, so this is

1369
01:09:14,760 --> 01:09:20,000
Speaker 2: on her profile. She's like, uh what, I'm into Eiffel Tower, right,

1370
01:09:20,479 --> 01:09:22,559
Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh cool, Like I'm going to Paris,

1371
01:09:22,600 --> 01:09:26,400
Speaker 2: like for for the Olympics. But let me, let me,

1372
01:09:26,720 --> 01:09:30,080
Speaker 2: let me but you know, she didn't mean that. But

1373
01:09:30,160 --> 01:09:33,280
Speaker 2: then she says she says, uh, oh, I love that.

1374
01:09:33,320 --> 01:09:35,320
Speaker 2: I heard they also get freaky over there, so maybe

1375
01:09:35,320 --> 01:09:38,200
Speaker 2: I can be good practice. She says. She gets in

1376
01:09:38,240 --> 01:09:41,320
Speaker 2: town eighteen to twenty one. I'm like, cool, I'm free

1377
01:09:41,520 --> 01:09:45,360
Speaker 2: after ten on the eighteenth, and then she's like, I'm

1378
01:09:45,600 --> 01:09:49,200
Speaker 2: just looking for group activities, so if you have friends

1379
01:09:49,760 --> 01:09:54,600
Speaker 2: male male female or male male male male female males,

1380
01:09:54,760 --> 01:09:58,160
Speaker 2: she'll get for like like an forgee. Good for her for.

1381
01:09:58,160 --> 01:10:00,000
Speaker 3: Knowing what she wants. We love a woman who knows

1382
01:10:00,040 --> 01:10:00,880
Speaker 3: what she wants.

1383
01:10:01,600 --> 01:10:03,080
Speaker 2: But then I did. I didn't. She asked me for

1384
01:10:03,160 --> 01:10:06,360
Speaker 2: my Instagram and I didn't respond, Oh because I don't know.

1385
01:10:06,360 --> 01:10:07,519
Speaker 3: I thought you were going to show me the whole

1386
01:10:07,520 --> 01:10:08,080
Speaker 3: profile there.

1387
01:10:08,120 --> 01:10:10,040
Speaker 2: I was really excited. Well, I mean, this is this

1388
01:10:10,120 --> 01:10:11,479
Speaker 2: is just a screenshot of the profile.

1389
01:10:11,640 --> 01:10:13,000
Speaker 3: I know, but I wanted to see the whole thing.

1390
01:10:13,080 --> 01:10:15,559
Speaker 2: She was. She was cute. Yeah, she looked very innocent.

1391
01:10:15,760 --> 01:10:16,439
Speaker 2: She looks so.

1392
01:10:16,880 --> 01:10:18,880
Speaker 3: Doesn't Did you see that outfit.

1393
01:10:19,240 --> 01:10:21,160
Speaker 2: First, the first picture, the first picture, I mean it

1394
01:10:21,200 --> 01:10:22,040
Speaker 2: was a bathing suit.

1395
01:10:22,920 --> 01:10:25,200
Speaker 3: No, but it was it was it was everything, and

1396
01:10:25,240 --> 01:10:26,280
Speaker 3: I love the vibe I do.

1397
01:10:26,439 --> 01:10:30,800
Speaker 4: I don't know she could handle that, dude, I like, oh.

1398
01:10:30,479 --> 01:10:37,680
Speaker 2: Well that's for yeah jeez. Anyway, Yeah, so hinge has

1399
01:10:37,720 --> 01:10:38,680
Speaker 2: been interesting.

1400
01:10:39,000 --> 01:10:46,599
Speaker 3: Is yeah, yeah, I just yeah, no, I just don't

1401
01:10:46,640 --> 01:10:51,480
Speaker 3: have much. I I feel like after being in a relationship,

1402
01:10:51,840 --> 01:10:54,680
Speaker 3: dating is just so much harder because I really know

1403
01:10:54,760 --> 01:10:56,640
Speaker 3: a lot more about myself and what I want and

1404
01:10:56,680 --> 01:10:58,599
Speaker 3: what I don't want. And I think when I was

1405
01:10:58,600 --> 01:11:01,040
Speaker 3: like on the apps before I met my ex, I

1406
01:11:01,120 --> 01:11:01,760
Speaker 3: was just so.

1407
01:11:03,600 --> 01:11:05,639
Speaker 2: Like the bar was really low, kind.

1408
01:11:05,479 --> 01:11:07,960
Speaker 1: Of just like like I feel like you're not like.

1409
01:11:07,840 --> 01:11:12,559
Speaker 2: Spray shooting ray shooting, like just like your shotgun shotgun approach.

1410
01:11:12,760 --> 01:11:16,679
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's like you're you're just like you're kind

1411
01:11:16,680 --> 01:11:18,840
Speaker 1: of just like waiting for the vibes to click.

1412
01:11:19,000 --> 01:11:19,760
Speaker 2: And that's kind of.

1413
01:11:19,680 --> 01:11:23,040
Speaker 1: It like now or before like before like at the

1414
01:11:23,160 --> 01:11:26,680
Speaker 1: like early dating. Yeah, you're just like, oh, you're just

1415
01:11:26,760 --> 01:11:28,400
Speaker 1: kind of like going around and like seeing its vibes

1416
01:11:28,400 --> 01:11:29,920
Speaker 1: click and then it kind of just goes. But now

1417
01:11:29,920 --> 01:11:32,280
Speaker 1: you're like, Okay, here's I know my boundaries.

1418
01:11:33,000 --> 01:11:36,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think even like going on a date again,

1419
01:11:36,240 --> 01:11:37,680
Speaker 3: I don't want to hang out. I don't want to

1420
01:11:37,680 --> 01:11:39,400
Speaker 3: go watch a movie. I don't want to do any

1421
01:11:39,439 --> 01:11:43,559
Speaker 3: of this casual stuff. It can be casual, like a

1422
01:11:43,640 --> 01:11:48,080
Speaker 3: casual vibe, but again intentional like yeah, and like or

1423
01:11:48,160 --> 01:11:51,240
Speaker 3: like my time is valuable, yes, right, my time is valuable.

1424
01:11:51,720 --> 01:11:58,080
Speaker 3: I'm a high value person. I'm trying to I don't

1425
01:11:58,080 --> 01:11:58,679
Speaker 3: get that.

1426
01:12:00,120 --> 01:12:00,519
Speaker 2: Is like.

1427
01:12:05,520 --> 01:12:08,080
Speaker 3: Do but yeah, so that's that's what I'm out and

1428
01:12:08,200 --> 01:12:11,519
Speaker 3: also just trying to better myself. I really feel like

1429
01:12:11,840 --> 01:12:14,599
Speaker 3: I the next relationship I'm in right, Like I want

1430
01:12:14,600 --> 01:12:18,000
Speaker 3: to be with someone who betters me and like pushes me,

1431
01:12:18,640 --> 01:12:21,320
Speaker 3: and so I need to push myself and better myself before.

1432
01:12:21,840 --> 01:12:25,040
Speaker 1: You know, guys, hearts and claps in the chat for Mollie.

1433
01:12:25,240 --> 01:12:29,719
Speaker 2: Oh, no clap for any of us, no clap please.

1434
01:12:32,439 --> 01:12:36,160
Speaker 2: That was good. I love how you thought that was

1435
01:12:36,200 --> 01:12:45,040
Speaker 2: so funny your that was good. That was good. Hey

1436
01:12:45,400 --> 01:12:46,120
Speaker 2: guess what though?

1437
01:12:46,200 --> 01:12:47,639
Speaker 3: Can I just say bumble?

1438
01:12:48,040 --> 01:12:48,600
Speaker 2: Okay?

1439
01:12:48,920 --> 01:12:51,800
Speaker 3: I did download that, And because I thought that only

1440
01:12:51,880 --> 01:12:53,960
Speaker 3: women could message.

1441
01:12:53,760 --> 01:12:57,320
Speaker 2: They changed it. They changed it the only feature amble

1442
01:12:57,439 --> 01:12:59,160
Speaker 2: that was Why would they do that? Why would they

1443
01:12:59,200 --> 01:13:01,120
Speaker 2: do that? I loved.

1444
01:13:01,840 --> 01:13:05,920
Speaker 3: I loved that only I could message. It was great, Like,

1445
01:13:05,960 --> 01:13:08,040
Speaker 3: I have to really like you for me to do that.

1446
01:13:08,600 --> 01:13:11,920
Speaker 4: I got bumbled. You got bumbled ye by my girlfriend?

1447
01:13:14,000 --> 01:13:15,719
Speaker 3: What did she say? Do you remember the first message?

1448
01:13:15,760 --> 01:13:16,880
Speaker 4: Yes, she was like, hey, I think you were in

1449
01:13:16,880 --> 01:13:19,160
Speaker 4: some of these picks because we were at a party before.

1450
01:13:19,680 --> 01:13:22,640
Speaker 2: And then she said what yeah, I think she bumbled me.

1451
01:13:23,080 --> 01:13:28,360
Speaker 1: She bumbled it was it was a two fur met

1452
01:13:28,400 --> 01:13:28,880
Speaker 1: in person.

1453
01:13:28,960 --> 01:13:32,720
Speaker 4: And then yeah, she stood really close behind me the

1454
01:13:32,720 --> 01:13:34,120
Speaker 4: first time I met her, and then I felt her

1455
01:13:34,200 --> 01:13:37,559
Speaker 4: breeze and then like behind and it was like and

1456
01:13:37,600 --> 01:13:40,240
Speaker 4: then later two days later she hit me up. I

1457
01:13:40,280 --> 01:13:41,800
Speaker 4: was gonna wait till the third day and hit her up,

1458
01:13:41,840 --> 01:13:43,080
Speaker 4: but he beat.

1459
01:13:42,920 --> 01:13:47,639
Speaker 2: Me to it. I felt, I felt your breeze. That's

1460
01:13:47,680 --> 01:13:51,200
Speaker 2: what happened. Me and my last ex, she we matched

1461
01:13:51,240 --> 01:13:58,720
Speaker 2: on uh hinge like two years before, and then then

1462
01:13:58,720 --> 01:14:01,000
Speaker 2: she saw me at a party and they had remembered

1463
01:14:01,040 --> 01:14:01,919
Speaker 2: one of my pictures.

1464
01:14:01,960 --> 01:14:04,160
Speaker 3: Do you want to know something funny? So like I

1465
01:14:04,280 --> 01:14:06,080
Speaker 3: had my thing on Sunday, I had like a comedy

1466
01:14:06,160 --> 01:14:09,960
Speaker 3: variety show guys, and one of the comics was like,

1467
01:14:09,960 --> 01:14:12,040
Speaker 3: I'm bringing my friend. I think he knows you and

1468
01:14:12,080 --> 01:14:15,679
Speaker 3: your brother like childhood friends. I didn't remember him from childhood,

1469
01:14:15,720 --> 01:14:17,920
Speaker 3: but I matched with him on a dating app years ago,

1470
01:14:18,360 --> 01:14:21,080
Speaker 3: and at the end of the party, he was like, Hey,

1471
01:14:21,080 --> 01:14:23,400
Speaker 3: what's your number, even though I think I already have it,

1472
01:14:23,920 --> 01:14:28,240
Speaker 3: And sure enough we had texted forty years ago, big text,

1473
01:14:28,760 --> 01:14:31,599
Speaker 3: and I had ended up ghosting him and being like, oh,

1474
01:14:31,760 --> 01:14:33,840
Speaker 3: I don't know where I'm at right now? You know

1475
01:14:34,000 --> 01:14:34,679
Speaker 3: all this stuff?

1476
01:14:34,840 --> 01:14:40,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, what are you gonna do nowoled Am I

1477
01:14:40,760 --> 01:14:41,120
Speaker 2: gonna what?

1478
01:14:41,200 --> 01:14:42,320
Speaker 4: Are you gonna keep ghosting them?

1479
01:14:42,479 --> 01:14:44,320
Speaker 2: No? I mean he's he's a cool guy.

1480
01:14:44,400 --> 01:14:47,920
Speaker 3: He's a cool guy. Uh And we'll leave it at that.

1481
01:14:48,080 --> 01:14:51,479
Speaker 3: It's just like, were you, guys ever in a phase

1482
01:14:51,520 --> 01:14:53,679
Speaker 3: where you would just give your number out so easily

1483
01:14:53,760 --> 01:14:54,120
Speaker 3: you go on.

1484
01:14:54,200 --> 01:14:59,000
Speaker 2: So anybody just me, I give my number out pretty freely.

1485
01:14:59,080 --> 01:15:02,040
Speaker 1: But like, like I get numbers in a romantic sense

1486
01:15:02,120 --> 01:15:02,760
Speaker 1: or in a like.

1487
01:15:04,400 --> 01:15:05,599
Speaker 2: In a romantic sense.

1488
01:15:05,800 --> 01:15:10,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was always pretty open back in the days.

1489
01:15:10,880 --> 01:15:15,360
Speaker 2: I feel like, I feel like very open guys to

1490
01:15:15,439 --> 01:15:18,479
Speaker 2: ask her to like like like, I feel like guys

1491
01:15:18,560 --> 01:15:23,120
Speaker 2: would generally ask more for a number than ask to

1492
01:15:23,160 --> 01:15:28,000
Speaker 2: receive a number. Yeah, to ask for a lot of numbers.

1493
01:15:29,960 --> 01:15:31,520
Speaker 2: Numbers game anyway.

1494
01:15:31,720 --> 01:15:33,160
Speaker 3: So yeah, dating apps.

1495
01:15:34,920 --> 01:15:40,320
Speaker 1: But you know who loves us, our beautiful donators. Shout

1496
01:15:40,320 --> 01:15:44,160
Speaker 1: out to Alena Sanchez Bucks First Live. If you guys

1497
01:15:44,160 --> 01:15:47,120
Speaker 1: are ever in Riverside, California, I'm a tattoo honest.

1498
01:15:47,439 --> 01:15:51,840
Speaker 2: Miss dot ind wait, I'm following you. Yeah, check her out.

1499
01:15:52,479 --> 01:15:52,720
Speaker 2: We have.

1500
01:15:53,000 --> 01:15:55,599
Speaker 1: Me and Riley have talked about maybe getting like okay

1501
01:15:55,680 --> 01:15:58,040
Speaker 1: tattoo because.

1502
01:15:58,000 --> 01:16:00,559
Speaker 4: Only if another guy's in. If he's not on it,

1503
01:16:00,600 --> 01:16:01,840
Speaker 4: I don't know, but I'm down.

1504
01:16:02,520 --> 01:16:03,280
Speaker 2: I want him to be.

1505
01:16:03,640 --> 01:16:05,840
Speaker 1: The okay is Like, that's the first tattoo idea I've.

1506
01:16:05,720 --> 01:16:08,400
Speaker 2: Ever been that. I don't, I just I don't. I

1507
01:16:09,080 --> 01:16:11,439
Speaker 2: feel weird about having a tattoo.

1508
01:16:11,640 --> 01:16:13,799
Speaker 4: Me too, Bro, what do you think about that?

1509
01:16:15,560 --> 01:16:17,360
Speaker 2: Those look great. Well, I grew up in the South.

1510
01:16:18,080 --> 01:16:22,360
Speaker 2: I don't care. I don't care about that.

1511
01:16:23,640 --> 01:16:27,280
Speaker 1: Sam back again with the twenty five bucks. You guys

1512
01:16:27,280 --> 01:16:29,280
Speaker 1: still got all the girl Scout cookies I sent you.

1513
01:16:29,760 --> 01:16:32,280
Speaker 1: That's all right, Sam saying that we definitely have eaten

1514
01:16:32,360 --> 01:16:36,720
Speaker 1: through a lot so many. Yeah, trust there will be

1515
01:16:36,720 --> 01:16:39,960
Speaker 1: playing around when the cookie sales starts up again. I'll

1516
01:16:40,000 --> 01:16:42,920
Speaker 1: send you cases of your favorite cookies. Let us freaking know,

1517
01:16:43,680 --> 01:16:45,920
Speaker 1: and we will. But in Yeah, because there's a there's

1518
01:16:45,920 --> 01:16:48,040
Speaker 1: a few we'd love to get. Asian Persuadion takes her

1519
01:16:48,080 --> 01:16:50,840
Speaker 1: to two bucks ten hour stream. I'm stuck at work

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1525
01:17:10,640 --> 01:17:12,840
Speaker 1: was listening to the episode on the seventh. You were

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01:17:12,840 --> 01:17:15,800
Speaker 1: talking about bad HR and you asked for people who

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01:17:15,800 --> 01:17:18,479
Speaker 1: work in HR. That's me over fifteen years and I

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Speaker 1: have all the stories and we don't all suck.

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Speaker 2: Some of you guys may.

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Speaker 1: Have gotten fired from putting CEOs in their place? Uh

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Speaker 2: from there. The last one wasn't our slash Okay Storytime

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Speaker 1: Thanks thanks for the two bucks, but there was a

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Speaker 2: I see you last story. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Don't touch my weakness. Don't even look at it. That

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Speaker 2: ain't what are you doing. I had a nice ween it.

1542
01:18:04,360 --> 01:18:06,360
Speaker 2: We can't just show that to anyone who asks.

1543
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Speaker 3: It would be cool to get like a funny tattoo.

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Speaker 2: Now around it. I don't know something.

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01:18:12,040 --> 01:18:17,120
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Speaker 1: Lily Bug. Thanks for a five bucks tip. John is

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01:18:20,080 --> 01:18:22,479
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1549
01:18:25,439 --> 01:18:30,439
Speaker 1: Let's freaking yeah. I need to actually like figure stuff out. Yeah, dude,

1550
01:18:30,880 --> 01:18:33,559
Speaker 1: I had this whole big plan decade anniversary of me

1551
01:18:33,640 --> 01:18:34,080
Speaker 1: moving here.

1552
01:18:34,720 --> 01:18:36,679
Speaker 2: Didn't do it. I haven't done anything almost.

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01:18:36,760 --> 01:18:39,679
Speaker 4: Sam and I were thinking about getting a rodeo bull

1554
01:18:39,760 --> 01:18:41,040
Speaker 4: thing in the backyard.

1555
01:18:40,640 --> 01:18:44,120
Speaker 2: Before you were. That would be hell of funny. That

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01:18:44,160 --> 01:18:47,160
Speaker 2: would be crazy. I'm down to well. We can get

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01:18:47,240 --> 01:18:53,720
Speaker 2: at least a bounce house. Please, please, Dad, please.

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01:18:53,760 --> 01:18:54,439
Speaker 4: At your party?

1559
01:18:54,600 --> 01:18:56,519
Speaker 2: You well, do you want it? Do you want it?

1560
01:18:57,240 --> 01:18:59,519
Speaker 2: You just don't say you want it. Let's do something

1561
01:18:59,560 --> 01:19:01,599
Speaker 2: funam wants. Yeah, I like to do Let's do that.

1562
01:19:01,640 --> 01:19:02,040
Speaker 2: I'm down.

1563
01:19:03,080 --> 01:19:09,800
Speaker 1: Thanks Sam Eve for the twenty gifted memberships. Absolutely Banana

1564
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Speaker 1: growing the fam and then who's owned Anna?

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01:19:14,040 --> 01:19:14,640
Speaker 2: Banana takes it?

1566
01:19:14,720 --> 01:19:17,880
Speaker 1: Five bucks was trying to send before I couldn't find

1567
01:19:17,880 --> 01:19:20,479
Speaker 1: my card. In the wise words of the late Jimmy Buffett,

1568
01:19:20,479 --> 01:19:21,559
Speaker 1: it's five o'clock somewhere.

1569
01:19:21,920 --> 01:19:26,280
Speaker 2: I think that's shut shut shut shut shots shut shot,

1570
01:19:26,320 --> 01:19:31,840
Speaker 2: shut shut shut. I had to wait for everybody.

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01:19:32,000 --> 01:19:35,679
Speaker 1: Thanks Josephine for the six seventeen Once I got matched

1572
01:19:35,720 --> 01:19:37,720
Speaker 1: with a girl on two different dating apps, and then

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01:19:37,760 --> 01:19:41,080
Speaker 1: she got in a relationship, and then when she became single,

1574
01:19:41,320 --> 01:19:43,800
Speaker 1: we matched on Tinder to try again.

1575
01:19:44,360 --> 01:19:46,800
Speaker 2: Oh wow, did do you do something about it?

1576
01:19:47,000 --> 01:19:51,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, Josephine, what did you do about it?

1577
01:19:51,439 --> 01:19:53,479
Speaker 3: It is kind of funny seeing the same people on apps.

1578
01:19:53,520 --> 01:19:55,720
Speaker 3: It makes you feel better about yourself. You're still here,

1579
01:19:55,880 --> 01:19:56,120
Speaker 3: you know?

1580
01:19:56,640 --> 01:19:59,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're going to give Molly a shot to read?

1581
01:20:00,520 --> 01:20:07,320
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, yes, most definitely are you indubitably yes.

1582
01:20:07,960 --> 01:20:11,240
Speaker 1: I actually am going to abandon you all you're gone

1583
01:20:11,439 --> 01:20:12,479
Speaker 1: and get ready for sadness.

1584
01:20:12,560 --> 01:20:15,559
Speaker 2: Yes, and okay, we love you.

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01:20:15,720 --> 01:20:21,040
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, guys, clapse again for Mollie. I'm sad. I'm

1586
01:20:21,040 --> 01:20:23,120
Speaker 1: missing your very first read ever on the street.

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01:20:23,360 --> 01:20:25,639
Speaker 3: You're going to be I can't talk.

1588
01:20:26,280 --> 01:20:27,439
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe you're happy.

1589
01:20:28,360 --> 01:20:30,200
Speaker 1: No, it'll come back, there will be a reunion.

1590
01:20:31,680 --> 01:20:39,160
Speaker 2: Oh what a sub Oh yeah, a submissive. Don't complete

1591
01:20:39,160 --> 01:20:46,960
Speaker 2: that sentence. Oh my goodness, I'm giving you your phone, Molly. Oh.

1592
01:20:47,040 --> 01:20:49,320
Speaker 1: Joseph says not she got a new boyfriend. I never

1593
01:20:49,360 --> 01:20:54,440
Speaker 1: got a date. Rats Haylo says yes. I love Molly's.

1594
01:20:54,080 --> 01:20:59,280
Speaker 2: Voice, very soothing voice. Wait here sing We'll have like

1595
01:20:59,640 --> 01:21:04,000
Speaker 2: a little sing along episode at some point.

1596
01:21:03,680 --> 01:21:08,799
Speaker 1: Whatever our friends. Cam came on and sung an episode. Yeah, Cam,

1597
01:21:08,960 --> 01:21:13,880
Speaker 1: Cam on, Cameron.

1598
01:21:13,920 --> 01:21:17,960
Speaker 2: Get the heck kitty out of here. Molly, here's my phone.

1599
01:21:18,040 --> 01:21:22,280
Speaker 2: If I get a text, let me know, because that

1600
01:21:22,680 --> 01:21:26,280
Speaker 2: could be my date for tonight. It'll either be her.

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01:21:26,360 --> 01:21:30,759
Speaker 2: A Christian. I love christ Christians Christian shootout.

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Speaker 3: Cancel is the man?

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01:21:34,520 --> 01:21:37,559
Speaker 2: Christian is the man? Tell them how sexy Christian is.

1604
01:21:40,320 --> 01:21:42,040
Speaker 3: It's not because I don't think he is. I just

1605
01:21:42,080 --> 01:21:45,080
Speaker 3: I felt awkward for a second. Christian is a beautiful man,

1606
01:21:45,240 --> 01:21:47,160
Speaker 3: inside and out, inside and out.

1607
01:21:47,479 --> 01:21:48,000
Speaker 2: He's great.

1608
01:21:48,040 --> 01:21:49,200
Speaker 4: We know about the inside.

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01:21:50,520 --> 01:21:54,920
Speaker 2: Oh that was kind of gross, but it's okay. But

1610
01:21:54,960 --> 01:21:57,720
Speaker 2: it's okay. Are we waiting for uh no, we can.

1611
01:21:57,800 --> 01:21:59,840
Speaker 2: We can just we can just hoss right into it,

1612
01:22:00,160 --> 01:22:01,880
Speaker 2: into it, hit it.

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01:22:02,240 --> 01:22:03,679
Speaker 3: Okay, let's see.

1614
01:22:04,920 --> 01:22:06,080
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, do you know how to do this?

1615
01:22:06,360 --> 01:22:08,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm pretty sure.

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01:22:08,520 --> 01:22:13,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, so just just read the title and yeah, get

1617
01:22:13,040 --> 01:22:14,519
Speaker 2: into it, and just get into it.

1618
01:22:15,360 --> 01:22:17,479
Speaker 3: Am I the a hole for telling my son and

1619
01:22:17,560 --> 01:22:19,799
Speaker 3: my friend that they shouldn't have left my wife alone

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01:22:19,800 --> 01:22:20,280
Speaker 3: at home?

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01:22:21,400 --> 01:22:24,280
Speaker 2: Dude, you leave your wife alone at home, you will

1622
01:22:24,280 --> 01:22:27,479
Speaker 2: have home alone traps that will try to off your wife.

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01:22:27,960 --> 01:22:34,839
Speaker 9: Oh, oh my gosh, what oh whoa oh oh Sam E.

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01:22:36,560 --> 01:22:44,160
Speaker 2: Fifty gifted memberships. Let's go. Oh my goodness, gracious, saint, ignacious,

1625
01:22:44,160 --> 01:22:45,160
Speaker 2: Holy moly, guacamole.

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01:22:45,320 --> 01:22:47,400
Speaker 3: Sam E seems like a cool person.

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01:22:47,560 --> 01:22:51,080
Speaker 2: Sam is a cool person. Sam giving us thirty more

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01:22:51,120 --> 01:22:56,719
Speaker 2: minutes on the street. Woo, oh my goodness, Sam's going crazy.

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01:22:56,800 --> 01:22:59,960
Speaker 4: If you got donated, good thank you a good tea?

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01:23:00,439 --> 01:23:02,760
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, put a t y put it. Put some

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01:23:02,840 --> 01:23:06,120
Speaker 2: SAMs in the chat for Samy or no some Sam ease.

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01:23:07,040 --> 01:23:08,960
Speaker 4: You can put a cookie because she's the cookie lady too.

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Speaker 2: Oh she is a cookie lady.

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01:23:10,280 --> 01:23:12,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, cookie lady.

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01:23:12,640 --> 01:23:13,880
Speaker 4: W Well, thanks for thirty minutes.

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01:23:15,360 --> 01:23:19,200
Speaker 3: Okay, can I just get into this say the thing below.

1637
01:23:20,760 --> 01:23:23,200
Speaker 3: By the way, you can join us live on YouTube

1638
01:23:23,280 --> 01:23:26,680
Speaker 3: every weekday at three pm PST. Just tap our profile

1639
01:23:26,840 --> 01:23:30,920
Speaker 3: hoop it. What are appropriate requests to ask of? Are

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Speaker 3: your friends?

1641
01:23:33,800 --> 01:23:37,240
Speaker 2: So that's a question we're trying to answer today. What

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01:23:37,400 --> 01:23:41,320
Speaker 2: our appropriate requests ask your friends? I'm excited to hear

1643
01:23:41,360 --> 01:23:42,760
Speaker 2: what the story has to offer.

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01:23:43,720 --> 01:23:45,760
Speaker 3: So the username deleted.

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Speaker 2: Deleted, deleted oo.

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01:23:47,920 --> 01:23:55,599
Speaker 3: Says, uh, my my twenty eight, this is weird.

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01:23:55,960 --> 01:23:59,200
Speaker 2: My male, twenty eight wife female twenty seven, and I

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01:23:59,280 --> 01:24:03,080
Speaker 2: had our son twelve early. That's how you'dit Ling's Reddit lingo.

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Speaker 3: Hey, guys, that's kind of because no, no, no, because

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01:24:05,320 --> 01:24:08,200
Speaker 3: I would have been like my wife twenty seven female

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01:24:08,200 --> 01:24:10,120
Speaker 3: and I twenty eight male.

1652
01:24:10,120 --> 01:24:13,680
Speaker 2: Which honestly, I'm correct, usually how it should go.

1653
01:24:14,040 --> 01:24:17,519
Speaker 3: Okay, we got this my twenty eight male, wife, twenty

1654
01:24:17,560 --> 01:24:20,960
Speaker 3: seven female, and I had our son twelve male early.

1655
01:24:21,600 --> 01:24:24,479
Speaker 3: My wife is a very sensitive and vulnerable person. She

1656
01:24:24,560 --> 01:24:28,240
Speaker 3: has suffered from depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety for several years

1657
01:24:28,680 --> 01:24:31,160
Speaker 3: and had a problem with alcohol and weed. He's been

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01:24:31,200 --> 01:24:34,439
Speaker 3: clean for five years. So myself and her parents did

1659
01:24:34,439 --> 01:24:37,360
Speaker 3: the hard work saving her, And until twenty twenty two,

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01:24:37,479 --> 01:24:38,920
Speaker 3: I worked from home and I was able to be

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01:24:38,960 --> 01:24:41,080
Speaker 3: home all day. I was always there for my wife

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01:24:41,120 --> 01:24:43,240
Speaker 3: when she needed help. And our son knows that his

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01:24:43,320 --> 01:24:45,559
Speaker 3: mom needs help often and he is accustomed to always

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01:24:45,600 --> 01:24:47,760
Speaker 3: being there for her if I am not home. He's

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01:24:47,800 --> 01:24:50,240
Speaker 3: old enough to make her breakfast, help with grocery shopping,

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01:24:50,439 --> 01:24:50,920
Speaker 3: et cetera.

1667
01:24:51,280 --> 01:24:53,439
Speaker 2: Okay, so it seems like they really caring for what's this?

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01:24:54,040 --> 01:24:57,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, a week ago, me, my friend, my wife, and

1669
01:24:57,200 --> 01:25:00,120
Speaker 3: our son went on a little trip in a next town.

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01:25:00,360 --> 01:25:03,360
Speaker 3: He rented a house one kilometers to the beach and

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01:25:03,400 --> 01:25:04,040
Speaker 3: sea for the.

1672
01:25:04,120 --> 01:25:06,719
Speaker 2: Race I could close. That's like half a mile. That's amazing.

1673
01:25:07,640 --> 01:25:10,160
Speaker 3: Two days ago, my wife got very upset and cried

1674
01:25:10,240 --> 01:25:12,960
Speaker 3: because I ordered her salad and it fell on the ground.

1675
01:25:13,680 --> 01:25:16,439
Speaker 3: I comforted her as best I could, but she got worse.

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01:25:16,720 --> 01:25:16,880
Speaker 2: Oh.

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01:25:16,960 --> 01:25:18,920
Speaker 3: No, to be fair, I get sad when my salad

1678
01:25:18,960 --> 01:25:19,679
Speaker 3: falls on the ground.

1679
01:25:19,960 --> 01:25:22,519
Speaker 2: Dude, if anything falls on the ground, I get sad. Yeah.

1680
01:25:22,800 --> 01:25:26,439
Speaker 3: About one hour later, my wife woke up. She had

1681
01:25:26,439 --> 01:25:29,880
Speaker 3: a tantrum again. She thought I was missing and or

1682
01:25:30,040 --> 01:25:32,840
Speaker 3: had been in a car accident, and according to my son,

1683
01:25:32,920 --> 01:25:34,639
Speaker 3: my wife friend out of the house and went towards

1684
01:25:34,640 --> 01:25:36,960
Speaker 3: the sea. He couldn't catch up with her and couldn't

1685
01:25:36,960 --> 01:25:39,519
Speaker 3: find her. He came back twenty to thirty minutes later

1686
01:25:39,520 --> 01:25:42,920
Speaker 3: and was crying that she had lost me. My son

1687
01:25:42,960 --> 01:25:45,679
Speaker 3: comforted her and told her that they would find me. Luckily,

1688
01:25:45,760 --> 01:25:47,320
Speaker 3: I came back just in the nick of time.

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01:25:47,600 --> 01:25:50,639
Speaker 2: Wait, so she's kind of like going like kind of.

1690
01:25:50,920 --> 01:25:52,000
Speaker 3: Losing it a little bit.

1691
01:25:52,120 --> 01:25:53,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, JINX.

1692
01:25:56,479 --> 01:25:58,280
Speaker 3: When I was on the phone with my wife's parents,

1693
01:25:58,320 --> 01:26:00,920
Speaker 3: her father got really mad at me. He asked why

1694
01:26:00,960 --> 01:26:04,080
Speaker 3: the f I had left his daughter home alone. I

1695
01:26:04,160 --> 01:26:06,320
Speaker 3: later asked my friend and my son the same question.

1696
01:26:06,760 --> 01:26:09,120
Speaker 3: They knew how hard my wife was, what my wife

1697
01:26:09,160 --> 01:26:11,360
Speaker 3: was going through, how could they leave her home alone?

1698
01:26:11,880 --> 01:26:14,080
Speaker 3: They knew I had gone grocery shopping, they knew there

1699
01:26:14,120 --> 01:26:16,120
Speaker 3: was no one to look after her, and my friend

1700
01:26:16,120 --> 01:26:19,240
Speaker 3: suddenly got angry with me. He said he was tired

1701
01:26:19,280 --> 01:26:22,080
Speaker 3: of having custody of a grown woman at twenty seven,

1702
01:26:22,360 --> 01:26:24,639
Speaker 3: and that he was not a babysitter for my wife.

1703
01:26:25,600 --> 01:26:27,439
Speaker 3: On top of all of this, he said that my

1704
01:26:27,560 --> 01:26:30,200
Speaker 3: child is my son, not my wife and that my

1705
01:26:30,320 --> 01:26:32,920
Speaker 3: son is not a parent. I said that my son

1706
01:26:32,960 --> 01:26:35,479
Speaker 3: doesn't suffer for mental disorders like my wife, and that

1707
01:26:35,520 --> 01:26:37,760
Speaker 3: it's his mom. He shouldn't be it shouldn't be hard

1708
01:26:37,760 --> 01:26:40,200
Speaker 3: for him to help her. My friend then hung up

1709
01:26:40,240 --> 01:26:40,639
Speaker 3: the phone.

1710
01:26:42,520 --> 01:26:45,559
Speaker 2: Okay, is there more to the story? I think is there?

1711
01:26:45,680 --> 01:26:51,360
Speaker 2: Is there living comments, certain relevant comments, but I think

1712
01:26:51,400 --> 01:26:53,439
Speaker 2: so so. Bell Confliden says, what's wrong with her? It

1713
01:26:53,479 --> 01:26:55,040
Speaker 2: seems like depression, some.

1714
01:26:55,200 --> 01:26:59,479
Speaker 3: Bipolar disorder, anxiety, a lot of a lot of stuff

1715
01:26:59,479 --> 01:27:02,560
Speaker 3: that would make it hard, I think to.

1716
01:27:01,760 --> 01:27:05,360
Speaker 2: Take care of someone yourself, and like this is this

1717
01:27:05,439 --> 01:27:07,960
Speaker 2: situation sucks. First of all, it's like this is a

1718
01:27:08,000 --> 01:27:12,320
Speaker 2: hard situation to deal with. But I don't know if

1719
01:27:12,360 --> 01:27:15,400
Speaker 2: it's if you can push that on like the Kids

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01:27:15,600 --> 01:27:19,040
Speaker 2: and Friends twelve family, twelve year old kid, Yeah, it's

1721
01:27:19,080 --> 01:27:22,320
Speaker 2: like it's I don't think it's on. Yeah yeah. Aliah J.

1722
01:27:22,479 --> 01:27:26,000
Speaker 2: Says twelve years old is not a parent, like like

1723
01:27:26,479 --> 01:27:29,320
Speaker 2: to take a care of a grown woman.

1724
01:27:30,200 --> 01:27:33,920
Speaker 3: Oh so what I'm gathering that means that she had

1725
01:27:33,960 --> 01:27:35,400
Speaker 3: the kid when she was fifteen.

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01:27:37,240 --> 01:27:41,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, unless it's like a step did or something. Yeah

1727
01:27:41,920 --> 01:27:47,519
Speaker 2: or yeah, but it very well really hard. Yeah. But

1728
01:27:47,640 --> 01:27:50,599
Speaker 2: like I I think it's a lot to put on

1729
01:27:50,640 --> 01:27:53,880
Speaker 2: a family, on family and friends for someone who needs

1730
01:27:53,920 --> 01:27:56,200
Speaker 2: this kind of support. I think what she needs she

1731
01:27:56,240 --> 01:27:59,600
Speaker 2: needs extra help. Yeah, probably outside of the family, some

1732
01:27:59,720 --> 01:28:02,080
Speaker 2: like chiatric help. Like I think this is getting this

1733
01:28:02,160 --> 01:28:04,559
Speaker 2: is getting a little bit above the familial pay grade.

1734
01:28:04,760 --> 01:28:05,519
Speaker 2: Oh for sure.

1735
01:28:05,920 --> 01:28:09,280
Speaker 3: I mean it's a little scary too. You know, I

1736
01:28:09,320 --> 01:28:12,759
Speaker 3: can't imagine taking care of someone and you're not equipped

1737
01:28:12,760 --> 01:28:14,599
Speaker 3: to take care of them. Ye what that would put

1738
01:28:14,600 --> 01:28:16,360
Speaker 3: on you, especially a kid, I don't know.

1739
01:28:16,520 --> 01:28:19,320
Speaker 2: And it's also like if you've never dealt with any

1740
01:28:19,360 --> 01:28:22,840
Speaker 2: mental health stuff, like you might not even know where

1741
01:28:22,960 --> 01:28:26,200
Speaker 2: to start to go. No, Like you're like, like do

1742
01:28:26,240 --> 01:28:28,720
Speaker 2: I go to a therapist? Do I go to a psychiatrist? Like?

1743
01:28:28,760 --> 01:28:32,640
Speaker 2: Where do I go for help? But definitely not to

1744
01:28:32,640 --> 01:28:35,360
Speaker 2: your twelve year old kid? No, if there's one place,

1745
01:28:35,479 --> 01:28:37,439
Speaker 2: And so like Opie, I don't want to say, OPI

1746
01:28:37,520 --> 01:28:38,960
Speaker 2: is the a hole because you know, this is a

1747
01:28:39,000 --> 01:28:42,760
Speaker 2: really hard situation. Like what it's it's hard to make

1748
01:28:42,800 --> 01:28:44,960
Speaker 2: the right decisions in these kinds of situations. But the

1749
01:28:45,040 --> 01:28:48,040
Speaker 2: right decision is not put so much pressure on your family.

1750
01:28:48,080 --> 01:28:49,920
Speaker 2: This is this is the time that you step in

1751
01:28:50,040 --> 01:28:51,040
Speaker 2: for some professional help.

1752
01:28:52,240 --> 01:28:56,639
Speaker 3: Agreed, It's this just sounds really really difficult and not fun.

1753
01:28:56,840 --> 01:29:00,920
Speaker 2: No, ka A Yukimore says, are we missing part of

1754
01:29:00,960 --> 01:29:02,760
Speaker 2: the story. No, I think that's I mean, I think

1755
01:29:02,760 --> 01:29:10,840
Speaker 2: that's that's everythingg Oh oh, I mean we're we're very

1756
01:29:10,840 --> 01:29:14,519
Speaker 2: excited about this. That this story has a different mood

1757
01:29:14,520 --> 01:29:16,839
Speaker 2: than the one that I want to express right now. Yeah,

1758
01:29:16,880 --> 01:29:19,960
Speaker 2: but Karistian begs for the one hundred dollars. Tip I

1759
01:29:20,080 --> 01:29:23,880
Speaker 2: found the daughter link. Yeah, you did, but we have

1760
01:29:23,960 --> 01:29:25,320
Speaker 2: some relevant commentary, y'ah.

1761
01:29:26,000 --> 01:29:32,280
Speaker 3: Two relevant comments. Mohito Bozito said, yes, you're wrong. Your

1762
01:29:32,280 --> 01:29:34,920
Speaker 3: friend's daughter had a medical emergency he had to attend to.

1763
01:29:34,960 --> 01:29:38,200
Speaker 3: And your son isn't responsible for your wife. He's a child.

1764
01:29:38,600 --> 01:29:40,920
Speaker 3: You're placing a burden on him that isn't his to bear.

1765
01:29:41,280 --> 01:29:43,760
Speaker 3: Sounds like he's already doing more than is needed. And

1766
01:29:43,800 --> 01:29:45,559
Speaker 3: if your wife is struggling this much, you need to

1767
01:29:45,600 --> 01:29:49,080
Speaker 3: revisit her care plans, need a hire help, a caretaker

1768
01:29:49,120 --> 01:29:52,599
Speaker 3: of some kind. This isn't fair to either of them, which.

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01:29:52,360 --> 01:29:57,120
Speaker 2: Is why we hear any of the story, is it?

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01:29:57,520 --> 01:29:57,600
Speaker 4: No?

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01:30:00,080 --> 01:30:02,400
Speaker 2: Oh, okay, I don't think we.

1772
01:30:02,400 --> 01:30:05,560
Speaker 3: Did, But if I did, I'm sorry, but it seems.

1773
01:30:05,439 --> 01:30:09,000
Speaker 2: Not saying content skipped. What do we skip? What did

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01:30:09,000 --> 01:30:15,160
Speaker 2: we skip? I thought we hit it. You skipped a

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01:30:15,240 --> 01:30:21,960
Speaker 2: whole paragraph which one oh, Brenda said, So my family

1776
01:30:22,040 --> 01:30:23,680
Speaker 2: is a blind parent, and my kids know there are

1777
01:30:23,720 --> 01:30:26,120
Speaker 2: certain things you have to help mom with. It sucks.

1778
01:30:26,160 --> 01:30:28,080
Speaker 2: It's not a position you want to put your kids

1779
01:30:28,240 --> 01:30:31,960
Speaker 2: in to help with a grown person. Brenda pet's oh wait, no,

1780
01:30:32,040 --> 01:30:37,439
Speaker 2: that's that's a different sce. Oh I did okay, second paragraph,

1781
01:30:37,520 --> 01:30:38,360
Speaker 2: I did, thank you.

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01:30:38,720 --> 01:30:42,680
Speaker 3: I can't read today. Uh so they went to the

1783
01:30:42,680 --> 01:30:46,759
Speaker 3: beach house, right and after the salad dropped on the ground.

1784
01:30:46,760 --> 01:30:50,400
Speaker 3: We remember that yesterday I went grocery shopping and on

1785
01:30:50,439 --> 01:30:52,040
Speaker 3: the way I hit a traffic jam and my phone

1786
01:30:52,120 --> 01:30:55,000
Speaker 3: ran out of battery. Unfortunately, I forgot to bring my charger.

1787
01:30:55,280 --> 01:30:58,240
Speaker 3: According to my friend, his wife called him and said

1788
01:30:58,280 --> 01:31:01,479
Speaker 3: their daughter was having severe abdominal pain. My friend called me,

1789
01:31:01,560 --> 01:31:03,439
Speaker 3: but my phone was off, so we got in his

1790
01:31:03,479 --> 01:31:05,920
Speaker 3: car and drove to his daughter. My son stayed with

1791
01:31:05,960 --> 01:31:08,639
Speaker 3: my wife, and according to my son, my wife wanted

1792
01:31:08,720 --> 01:31:10,960
Speaker 3: to take a nap. He told her he would play.

1793
01:31:10,800 --> 01:31:15,439
Speaker 2: In the yard. Okay, so that's what we missed. Yeah,

1794
01:31:15,520 --> 01:31:17,840
Speaker 2: we didn't really miss much though, like she I mean, yeah,

1795
01:31:17,880 --> 01:31:20,720
Speaker 2: she took a nap. Yeah. Also, editors, you can like

1796
01:31:20,800 --> 01:31:23,640
Speaker 2: place that a little bit earlier. But yeah, I mean like,

1797
01:31:23,840 --> 01:31:26,599
Speaker 2: I don't know if that gives us any any new

1798
01:31:26,640 --> 01:31:30,840
Speaker 2: information really in terms of how how we should how

1799
01:31:30,880 --> 01:31:34,639
Speaker 2: we should react. I feel like my advice stays the same,

1800
01:31:34,640 --> 01:31:36,040
Speaker 2: but I'm curious if there's any.

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01:31:38,200 --> 01:31:42,760
Speaker 3: Relevant, relevant comments yet. Serena said, I completely agree. The

1802
01:31:42,840 --> 01:31:45,439
Speaker 3: friend is absolutely right. Your friend had to leave because

1803
01:31:45,439 --> 01:31:48,720
Speaker 3: their daughter had an emergency. Your child was simply playing outside.

1804
01:31:48,840 --> 01:31:51,000
Speaker 3: You just want to get groceries. If you can't leave

1805
01:31:51,000 --> 01:31:53,360
Speaker 3: her to get groceries and your kid can't play outside

1806
01:31:53,400 --> 01:31:56,080
Speaker 3: unless she have a breakdown, then you absolutely should be

1807
01:31:56,080 --> 01:31:57,920
Speaker 3: looking at alternative care options for her.

1808
01:31:58,280 --> 01:31:58,559
Speaker 2: Agreed.

1809
01:31:58,640 --> 01:32:01,080
Speaker 3: I feel incredibly sad for the child in this story.

1810
01:32:01,200 --> 01:32:03,439
Speaker 3: I can't imagine how difficult it is living like this

1811
01:32:03,760 --> 01:32:06,160
Speaker 3: and getting blamed for your mom's mental health struggles because

1812
01:32:06,200 --> 01:32:07,400
Speaker 3: you dare to play outside.

1813
01:32:08,680 --> 01:32:11,760
Speaker 2: Praising it like that too, that's really interesting. I mean,

1814
01:32:11,800 --> 01:32:14,559
Speaker 2: I think really puts it in perspective, like you're like,

1815
01:32:14,800 --> 01:32:17,840
Speaker 2: the kid is being robbed of a childhood.

1816
01:32:18,240 --> 01:32:20,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't think. I didn't think about that. Yeah,

1817
01:32:20,760 --> 01:32:22,559
Speaker 3: And I didn't think about how Yeah, if a mom

1818
01:32:22,640 --> 01:32:26,439
Speaker 3: can't be home with their kid alone, then there needs

1819
01:32:26,479 --> 01:32:27,280
Speaker 3: to be extra help.

1820
01:32:27,479 --> 01:32:29,200
Speaker 2: And that's not to say, like, you know, a twelve

1821
01:32:29,280 --> 01:32:33,519
Speaker 2: year old still can be helpful to a familial family member.

1822
01:32:33,560 --> 01:32:36,559
Speaker 2: But it's just too it's just too much. It's just

1823
01:32:36,640 --> 01:32:40,320
Speaker 2: too much for one person. Yeah, Rater said, Molly skipped

1824
01:32:40,320 --> 01:32:42,840
Speaker 2: like three sentences. It's her first time reading a story,

1825
01:32:43,080 --> 01:32:45,280
Speaker 2: her first time reading a story.

1826
01:32:45,640 --> 01:32:48,040
Speaker 3: No I read, I think I read last week, but I.

1827
01:32:48,040 --> 01:32:50,400
Speaker 2: Just uh, second time reading a story at your job

1828
01:32:50,680 --> 01:32:51,080
Speaker 2: this time.

1829
01:32:51,120 --> 01:32:55,080
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, guys, I feel like the story doesn't give

1830
01:32:55,160 --> 01:32:57,000
Speaker 3: us much though I wish it. I wish it gave

1831
01:32:57,040 --> 01:33:03,559
Speaker 3: us too little more thicker. Okay, but then Panada Gooses says,

1832
01:33:04,120 --> 01:33:05,080
Speaker 3: I was this kid?

1833
01:33:05,720 --> 01:33:08,080
Speaker 2: It really fs? What do you guys do?

1834
01:33:08,160 --> 01:33:11,960
Speaker 3: Instead of really f's a child up being parented like that,

1835
01:33:12,320 --> 01:33:14,880
Speaker 3: being responsible for the adults in their lives having to

1836
01:33:14,880 --> 01:33:18,840
Speaker 3: shoulder the burden of adult problems before your prefrontal cortex

1837
01:33:18,880 --> 01:33:23,120
Speaker 3: has even developed. WHOA, Yeah, my mom is bipolar and

1838
01:33:23,160 --> 01:33:25,840
Speaker 3: a gambling addict, and my entire childhood was walking on

1839
01:33:25,880 --> 01:33:29,720
Speaker 3: eggshells and babysitting a grown Can I say that word?

1840
01:33:29,880 --> 01:33:33,559
Speaker 2: What grown? A grown?

1841
01:33:33,720 --> 01:33:38,080
Speaker 3: A woman grown, but woman, I was pulling my hair

1842
01:33:38,120 --> 01:33:40,439
Speaker 3: out because I was riddled with so much anxiety, and

1843
01:33:40,520 --> 01:33:43,479
Speaker 3: not one even thought to question if I was okay.

1844
01:33:43,880 --> 01:33:46,480
Speaker 3: I was in charge of the family finances at fourteen

1845
01:33:47,080 --> 01:33:49,320
Speaker 3: because my mom couldn't be trusted with access to her

1846
01:33:49,360 --> 01:33:50,840
Speaker 3: bank account or cards.

1847
01:33:51,000 --> 01:33:52,080
Speaker 2: That is so sad.

1848
01:33:52,840 --> 01:33:55,800
Speaker 3: I'm a recovering people pleaser with crippling anxiety and depression.

1849
01:33:56,120 --> 01:34:00,120
Speaker 3: Don't do this this as to your kid, Op, you

1850
01:34:00,400 --> 01:34:02,840
Speaker 3: get him in therapy now, and get your wife hospitalized

1851
01:34:02,880 --> 01:34:05,599
Speaker 3: and medicated. What you're doing right now clearly isn't working,

1852
01:34:05,640 --> 01:34:08,200
Speaker 3: and it's causing real lasting damage to your child, the

1853
01:34:08,280 --> 01:34:10,040
Speaker 3: kind of damage he'll spend the rest of his life

1854
01:34:10,040 --> 01:34:13,080
Speaker 3: trying to heal, with varying degrees of success and failure.

1855
01:34:16,160 --> 01:34:17,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, Ash, I got a.

1856
01:34:17,720 --> 01:34:19,719
Speaker 3: Really dark story last week too.

1857
01:34:20,120 --> 01:34:24,400
Speaker 2: I know, all the darkest stories, dark stories. Yeah, I

1858
01:34:24,439 --> 01:34:27,839
Speaker 2: feel like that's I mean, it's just it's it's hard.

1859
01:34:28,240 --> 01:34:31,160
Speaker 2: It's just hard. I mean, it's a hard situation. But

1860
01:34:31,240 --> 01:34:32,960
Speaker 2: I don't think OP, he is handling it in the

1861
01:34:33,000 --> 01:34:36,240
Speaker 2: best situation or in the best way. Putting it on

1862
01:34:36,280 --> 01:34:37,680
Speaker 2: your kid is not the best way to do it.

1863
01:34:38,040 --> 01:34:42,160
Speaker 3: No, And I'm like, it's hard to be. Nobody gets

1864
01:34:42,160 --> 01:34:44,679
Speaker 3: taught how to how to deal with this, Like people

1865
01:34:44,680 --> 01:34:47,000
Speaker 3: going through mental health journeys don't get taught, and then

1866
01:34:47,080 --> 01:34:48,960
Speaker 3: their partners don't get taught, and you have to want

1867
01:34:49,000 --> 01:34:51,280
Speaker 3: to learn, and especially if you have a kid in

1868
01:34:51,320 --> 01:34:56,439
Speaker 3: the mix. It's trying to figure out, Oh, that's sad.

1869
01:34:56,800 --> 01:35:00,320
Speaker 2: It is sad, It is sad, but you know what's yeah,

1870
01:35:00,640 --> 01:35:06,839
Speaker 2: you know what's not sad. Molly Kitsler celebrating three months

1871
01:35:06,880 --> 01:35:10,840
Speaker 2: of being a nights in our Worm Army. Molly Kisser

1872
01:35:10,840 --> 01:35:13,200
Speaker 2: celeby three months of membership Light to Live. Actually tried

1873
01:35:13,240 --> 01:35:16,480
Speaker 2: to sell a bunny to my boss's kid without realizing

1874
01:35:16,680 --> 01:35:20,320
Speaker 2: whose kid it was. Why are you selling bunnies? What

1875
01:35:20,360 --> 01:35:25,760
Speaker 2: the heck? Killer Asian persuasion. Thanks for the five gifted memberships.

1876
01:35:26,280 --> 01:35:29,640
Speaker 2: Gifted memberships all around. If you're on Facebook and you

1877
01:35:29,720 --> 01:35:33,799
Speaker 2: want like a gifted membership to access our our members

1878
01:35:33,920 --> 01:35:39,839
Speaker 2: only live streams that happen on Wednesdays and Monday and Fridays. Uh,

1879
01:35:40,160 --> 01:35:42,720
Speaker 2: come through, come through on YouTube, Come over here, get

1880
01:35:42,800 --> 01:35:46,960
Speaker 2: you a little cute over Yeah. Joseph and Madela Burquiz,

1881
01:35:46,960 --> 01:35:49,240
Speaker 2: thanks for the six seventeen. Honey, I ain't getting nothing

1882
01:35:49,760 --> 01:35:54,559
Speaker 2: what you think I am a a muncher, a cat

1883
01:35:54,640 --> 01:35:57,840
Speaker 2: muncher with thirst after you, guys, if I got me

1884
01:35:57,960 --> 01:36:01,280
Speaker 2: some what is what is that? What did I just read?

1885
01:36:02,080 --> 01:36:05,000
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know what I just read.

1886
01:36:05,120 --> 01:36:07,599
Speaker 2: If I did have context for that, that would be great.

1887
01:36:08,000 --> 01:36:11,280
Speaker 2: Any wait, did did did Sammy do another one? We're

1888
01:36:11,280 --> 01:36:13,920
Speaker 2: gonna read this one, okay. Corey b celebrates four months

1889
01:36:13,960 --> 01:36:15,840
Speaker 2: of membership. Catching up and everything I missed while I

1890
01:36:15,840 --> 01:36:18,519
Speaker 2: was on vacation in LA. Keep the events coming. I

1891
01:36:18,560 --> 01:36:20,320
Speaker 2: need something to watch when I fly to DC. You

1892
01:36:20,320 --> 01:36:26,120
Speaker 2: should watch our new game show that we just released, Corregian.

1893
01:36:26,520 --> 01:36:28,280
Speaker 2: I found the donor like one hundred bucks. We already

1894
01:36:28,280 --> 01:36:30,160
Speaker 2: shouted you out, but you deserve another shout out, so that

1895
01:36:30,160 --> 01:36:33,720
Speaker 2: we're giving it to you. Dixy Bluesteal. I can't get

1896
01:36:33,720 --> 01:36:38,200
Speaker 2: my membership donations to work, so I'll try on here. Hey,

1897
01:36:38,280 --> 01:36:42,120
Speaker 2: we appreciate you. Use the donut link, use the membership link,

1898
01:36:42,200 --> 01:36:47,000
Speaker 2: whatever you want, tinam dot sam not Molly's first read

1899
01:36:47,320 --> 01:36:53,920
Speaker 2: she read last Thursday with Riley and SOPHIEP. Molly is great. Sorry, No,

1900
01:36:54,040 --> 01:36:58,080
Speaker 2: you're you missed like three sentences. It was great and

1901
01:36:58,320 --> 01:37:00,479
Speaker 2: you want to read this one? Yeah, wait.

1902
01:37:02,160 --> 01:37:05,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, sam E gifted twenty memberships.

1903
01:37:05,680 --> 01:37:08,320
Speaker 2: Twenty let's go twenty memberships.

1904
01:37:08,400 --> 01:37:13,320
Speaker 10: Shout out Sammy, am Sammy needs like a plaque writing

1905
01:37:13,360 --> 01:37:14,400
Speaker 10: you know something.

1906
01:37:15,400 --> 01:37:18,280
Speaker 2: And then you want to hit Asian persuasion, Asian persuasion.

1907
01:37:18,920 --> 01:37:23,880
Speaker 3: Pretty sure, got me shadow band on ig.

1908
01:37:24,200 --> 01:37:29,559
Speaker 2: So Agatha is like, so this guy basically created like

1909
01:37:29,800 --> 01:37:36,240
Speaker 2: sexually attracted to, uh, cockroaches, and created an anthropomorphic cockroach

1910
01:37:36,360 --> 01:37:39,800
Speaker 2: that he envisioned as his wife and got more and

1911
01:37:39,800 --> 01:37:42,160
Speaker 2: more romantically attached to it. Read this whole.

1912
01:37:42,000 --> 01:37:45,200
Speaker 3: Story about Have you guys seen Despicable Me for no?

1913
01:37:45,360 --> 01:37:50,200
Speaker 2: I feel like it? Yeah no, there's well.

1914
01:37:50,040 --> 01:37:51,519
Speaker 3: I don't want to give it away if people want

1915
01:37:51,520 --> 01:37:52,040
Speaker 3: to see it.

1916
01:37:53,680 --> 01:37:55,479
Speaker 2: But does it give a little bit away? Yeah?

1917
01:37:56,120 --> 01:38:00,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like the bad guy basically has like a community cockroaches,

1918
01:38:00,880 --> 01:38:04,599
Speaker 3: and that's I'll say that cockroaches are in the movie.

1919
01:38:04,640 --> 01:38:09,560
Speaker 3: So so of the watch to speakable before.

1920
01:38:09,400 --> 01:38:13,640
Speaker 2: If you're really trying to wet your whistle. Yeah, but uh,

1921
01:38:14,160 --> 01:38:24,240
Speaker 2: shall we get into this next story? Uh? Let me

1922
01:38:24,320 --> 01:38:27,719
Speaker 2: see how long it will take to get to this thing?

1923
01:38:30,479 --> 01:38:35,160
Speaker 2: Oh wait, my date is what my date said? Hey

1924
01:38:35,200 --> 01:38:39,120
Speaker 2: it's a less how's it going? I mean, hey, it's

1925
01:38:39,160 --> 01:38:42,479
Speaker 2: a person how's it going? Knows?

1926
01:38:43,000 --> 01:38:44,439
Speaker 3: So you guys exchange numbers?

1927
01:38:44,920 --> 01:38:51,960
Speaker 2: Should I should I call her? And right now.

1928
01:38:53,120 --> 01:38:56,160
Speaker 3: You're gonna tell her you're on the stream righter go with.

1929
01:38:56,200 --> 01:39:01,840
Speaker 2: Me to I'm not gonna call it movie, but uh,

1930
01:39:02,320 --> 01:39:06,080
Speaker 2: I will call her right after this thing. I'm not

1931
01:39:06,120 --> 01:39:09,400
Speaker 2: gonna call her. Riley's the devil on my shoulder. Molly

1932
01:39:09,520 --> 01:39:10,719
Speaker 2: is the angel.

1933
01:39:10,840 --> 01:39:12,320
Speaker 3: I'm the angel, but I have a little bit of

1934
01:39:12,360 --> 01:39:16,519
Speaker 3: devil popping out. Yeah, Like I think that would be

1935
01:39:16,640 --> 01:39:19,479
Speaker 3: entertaining if you told her I call you on the list.

1936
01:39:19,920 --> 01:39:24,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not a two way state. It is a

1937
01:39:24,760 --> 01:39:31,200
Speaker 1: two way state actually, but uh Molly, uh yeah, I

1938
01:39:31,240 --> 01:39:34,040
Speaker 1: love how dude. Half of the chat is the devil

1939
01:39:34,040 --> 01:39:37,280
Speaker 1: on the shoulder, half of the chat is the angel.

1940
01:39:37,320 --> 01:39:39,120
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna go grab Sophia.

1941
01:39:40,000 --> 01:39:42,280
Speaker 3: Texture texture and say you're on the live.

1942
01:39:42,360 --> 01:39:43,040
Speaker 2: Can I call you?

1943
01:39:44,600 --> 01:39:44,840
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1944
01:39:44,920 --> 01:39:48,240
Speaker 2: Right right? I think she'll say no, dude. She She

1945
01:39:48,439 --> 01:39:51,880
Speaker 2: also says she is the thing starts at seven and

1946
01:39:51,920 --> 01:39:53,760
Speaker 2: she gets off worth like seven thirty. I think it

1947
01:39:53,840 --> 01:39:54,960
Speaker 2: might unfortunately be too.

1948
01:39:54,960 --> 01:39:59,839
Speaker 3: Late single as a pringle, Sam, I'm take Christian? Oh Christian?

1949
01:40:00,080 --> 01:40:00,680
Speaker 3: Yeah you guys?

1950
01:40:00,720 --> 01:40:01,840
Speaker 2: Will you guys look good together?

1951
01:40:01,880 --> 01:40:03,760
Speaker 4: I don't know, if you're trying to get girls, don't

1952
01:40:03,800 --> 01:40:06,200
Speaker 4: take Christian.

1953
01:40:07,760 --> 01:40:10,880
Speaker 2: First of all, Christian, I have two man so well

1954
01:40:11,040 --> 01:40:13,120
Speaker 2: really yeah. I tried to tune man with him and

1955
01:40:13,160 --> 01:40:19,000
Speaker 2: he just girl well because you know Christians hot but quiet. Yeah,

1956
01:40:19,040 --> 01:40:22,240
Speaker 2: and I'm cute but loud and so together for quiet

1957
01:40:22,280 --> 01:40:26,240
Speaker 2: and cube but loud. I think we we we do,

1958
01:40:26,320 --> 01:40:29,960
Speaker 2: we do well talking to people together. Okay, I'm gonna

1959
01:40:31,040 --> 01:40:34,960
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go. He is coming in your worm Queen

1960
01:40:35,040 --> 01:40:39,920
Speaker 2: will be with you. You can handle it, all right,

1961
01:40:40,360 --> 01:40:53,000
Speaker 2: I will see you soon. Bye. Oh? Man, wait is

1962
01:40:53,040 --> 01:40:54,639
Speaker 2: that the girl? Wait?

1963
01:40:54,680 --> 01:40:56,320
Speaker 3: The girl is not the Eiffel Tower girl?

1964
01:40:57,479 --> 01:40:58,479
Speaker 2: Oh? Different girl?

1965
01:40:58,520 --> 01:40:59,240
Speaker 4: Guys?

1966
01:41:00,280 --> 01:41:00,519
Speaker 3: Girl?

1967
01:41:00,640 --> 01:41:01,160
Speaker 4: All right?

1968
01:41:01,400 --> 01:41:06,000
Speaker 2: Were you mold? Are you mollard? What up? We're getting

1969
01:41:06,080 --> 01:41:06,519
Speaker 2: into it?

1970
01:41:06,640 --> 01:41:07,080
Speaker 4: Let's go.

1971
01:41:07,520 --> 01:41:12,479
Speaker 3: Okay okay, guys, Am I the a hole for falling

1972
01:41:12,479 --> 01:41:14,680
Speaker 3: in love with my friends with benefits?

1973
01:41:14,880 --> 01:41:17,840
Speaker 4: Would you ever? Have you ever?

1974
01:41:19,160 --> 01:41:19,280
Speaker 3: Uh?

1975
01:41:19,760 --> 01:41:20,320
Speaker 2: I have not?

1976
01:41:20,439 --> 01:41:22,120
Speaker 3: But I can totally see how that would happen. I

1977
01:41:22,160 --> 01:41:24,519
Speaker 3: think it's so easy to get feelings for someone that

1978
01:41:24,560 --> 01:41:27,360
Speaker 3: you're like casually hooking up with, right, yeah, yeah, I

1979
01:41:27,439 --> 01:41:28,400
Speaker 3: am Yeah.

1980
01:41:28,600 --> 01:41:30,080
Speaker 2: My heart would be too in it tonight.

1981
01:41:31,080 --> 01:41:34,360
Speaker 3: That's why you need someone who like you're really attracted

1982
01:41:34,400 --> 01:41:40,479
Speaker 3: to physically but mentally. But it's like, you know, yeah,

1983
01:41:41,240 --> 01:41:44,800
Speaker 3: all right. Uh, by the way, you can join us

1984
01:41:44,840 --> 01:41:47,720
Speaker 3: live on YouTube every weekday at three pm PST. Just

1985
01:41:47,760 --> 01:41:54,880
Speaker 3: tap our profile. So okay, Holiday thirty five ninety says, what.

1986
01:41:55,160 --> 01:41:58,439
Speaker 4: One second I have to Yeah, never mind, We're good,

1987
01:41:58,479 --> 01:41:59,960
Speaker 4: We're good, keep going, okay.

1988
01:42:00,840 --> 01:42:04,160
Speaker 3: I eighteen, female, started university this year. I was in

1989
01:42:04,200 --> 01:42:06,960
Speaker 3: a long time high school relationship with my high school sweetheart,

1990
01:42:07,120 --> 01:42:08,640
Speaker 3: and I was convinced him and I were going to

1991
01:42:08,680 --> 01:42:11,120
Speaker 3: get married once we finished high school and got our degrees.

1992
01:42:11,320 --> 01:42:13,240
Speaker 2: Oh, I know, that's cute.

1993
01:42:13,280 --> 01:42:16,640
Speaker 3: Sadly, in eleventh grade, my high school sweetheart failed the

1994
01:42:16,760 --> 01:42:20,720
Speaker 3: year and had to repeat while I did my final year. Ooh,

1995
01:42:20,760 --> 01:42:24,479
Speaker 3: that's a bummer, humbling moment. It's a humbling moment for sure.

1996
01:42:24,960 --> 01:42:26,960
Speaker 3: Anybody out there had to repeat a year high school.

1997
01:42:27,040 --> 01:42:29,720
Speaker 4: Let us know, is getting held back in kindergarten. I

1998
01:42:29,760 --> 01:42:32,040
Speaker 4: didn't get held it back in kindergarten, but my mom

1999
01:42:32,120 --> 01:42:33,360
Speaker 4: was like, we're going to wait a year before you

2000
01:42:33,400 --> 01:42:34,000
Speaker 4: go to kindergarten.

2001
01:42:34,040 --> 01:42:34,519
Speaker 2: Does that count?

2002
01:42:34,520 --> 01:42:35,639
Speaker 3: I think some people did that?

2003
01:42:35,840 --> 01:42:36,439
Speaker 2: Did they? Did?

2004
01:42:36,439 --> 01:42:38,040
Speaker 4: They? I was in September, so like I would have

2005
01:42:38,040 --> 01:42:38,880
Speaker 4: went to kindergarten when.

2006
01:42:38,800 --> 01:42:39,160
Speaker 2: I was four.

2007
01:42:39,560 --> 01:42:41,160
Speaker 3: Right, So they held you back because your birthday, not

2008
01:42:41,200 --> 01:42:44,040
Speaker 3: because you're stupid. Yeah, because my birth you know, I'm

2009
01:42:44,080 --> 01:42:47,559
Speaker 3: just kidding, hot, I'm just kidding. I love you, Relly

2010
01:42:48,960 --> 01:42:51,479
Speaker 3: all right, sadly in eleventh grade, right, he had to

2011
01:42:51,520 --> 01:42:53,519
Speaker 3: repeat while I did my final year. We tried to

2012
01:42:53,560 --> 01:42:55,479
Speaker 3: make it work, and it did for a while, but

2013
01:42:55,520 --> 01:42:57,320
Speaker 3: I found out that he had been cheating on me

2014
01:42:57,360 --> 01:42:58,519
Speaker 3: with a girl in his grade.

2015
01:42:58,640 --> 01:42:59,960
Speaker 2: Oh no, that's not good.

2016
01:43:00,000 --> 01:43:00,200
Speaker 4: Good.

2017
01:43:01,439 --> 01:43:03,840
Speaker 3: Fast forward to this year and I'm now in UNI,

2018
01:43:04,000 --> 01:43:06,160
Speaker 3: a few hours away from him, and I haven't talked

2019
01:43:06,240 --> 01:43:09,639
Speaker 3: or seen him since we broke up. That's some no contact.

2020
01:43:09,720 --> 01:43:14,320
Speaker 3: That's pretty good, right. Yeah. When I started UNI, I

2021
01:43:14,400 --> 01:43:16,320
Speaker 3: vowed not to talk to anyone, as I was still

2022
01:43:16,360 --> 01:43:18,720
Speaker 3: extremely heartbroken, and I'd hope that him and I were

2023
01:43:18,760 --> 01:43:21,040
Speaker 3: going to get back together and get married like we

2024
01:43:21,080 --> 01:43:23,960
Speaker 3: always promised each other. But in January of this year,

2025
01:43:24,000 --> 01:43:26,000
Speaker 3: I heard from my neighbor, who was still in high school,

2026
01:43:26,040 --> 01:43:27,960
Speaker 3: that he had been dating the girl he cheated on

2027
01:43:28,080 --> 01:43:30,880
Speaker 3: me with, and they were now known as the it

2028
01:43:31,040 --> 01:43:34,080
Speaker 3: couple at the school. I was heartbroken, and I did

2029
01:43:34,080 --> 01:43:36,920
Speaker 3: what any dumb, heartbroken teenager would do. I went out

2030
01:43:36,960 --> 01:43:38,719
Speaker 3: and found solace in another guy.

2031
01:43:38,840 --> 01:43:41,280
Speaker 4: What's that saying to get over guy.

2032
01:43:41,040 --> 01:43:43,559
Speaker 3: You gotta get under someone mm hmm, Which I don't

2033
01:43:43,600 --> 01:43:47,599
Speaker 3: know if that's entirely true, but it's a good saying.

2034
01:43:47,600 --> 01:43:52,519
Speaker 3: It has a nice ring to it. Yeah, this guy,

2035
01:43:52,760 --> 01:43:55,719
Speaker 3: Ron twenty two mail was like a gift sent from heaven.

2036
01:43:56,600 --> 01:43:58,840
Speaker 3: I met Ron through my roommate's friend, and him and

2037
01:43:58,880 --> 01:44:00,920
Speaker 3: I instantly hit it off. We had a lot in

2038
01:44:00,960 --> 01:44:03,800
Speaker 3: common and he was just everything that I wanted. We

2039
01:44:03,840 --> 01:44:06,040
Speaker 3: spent almost every day together since we lived at the

2040
01:44:06,040 --> 01:44:09,559
Speaker 3: same university residency. Months had now passed and everyone who

2041
01:44:09,640 --> 01:44:11,800
Speaker 3: knew Ron and I knew that we were together, though

2042
01:44:11,880 --> 01:44:14,360
Speaker 3: him and I had not officially put a title to it.

2043
01:44:14,560 --> 01:44:20,840
Speaker 4: Okay, I know, so this is a friends with Benefits textbook.

2044
01:44:20,040 --> 01:44:22,559
Speaker 3: Damp right, But it's like people are seeing them as together,

2045
01:44:22,640 --> 01:44:24,639
Speaker 3: but they haven't been, like we're together.

2046
01:44:25,040 --> 01:44:29,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, what's your limit on that till you put a

2047
01:44:29,479 --> 01:44:34,040
Speaker 4: label on it? I say a month? Hanging out every

2048
01:44:34,120 --> 01:44:37,040
Speaker 4: day a month? I mean, hey, I'm a lover boy.

2049
01:44:37,160 --> 01:44:38,639
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm a lover girl.

2050
01:44:38,720 --> 01:44:41,160
Speaker 3: But I feel like you just got to feel the vibes, right.

2051
01:44:41,479 --> 01:44:44,040
Speaker 4: Vibes are good, right, and it's been a month.

2052
01:44:44,600 --> 01:44:46,400
Speaker 3: Vibes are good, and it's been a month, I think

2053
01:44:46,439 --> 01:44:48,479
Speaker 3: then it's totally fine to be like, hey, where are

2054
01:44:48,520 --> 01:44:52,760
Speaker 3: we going with this? Yeah? So for background information, Ron

2055
01:44:52,840 --> 01:44:56,320
Speaker 3: is from another province, around five to eight hours away.

2056
01:44:56,680 --> 01:44:58,560
Speaker 3: When we first started talking, I asked him if he

2057
01:44:58,600 --> 01:45:00,920
Speaker 3: had a girlfriend back home, because it wasn't uncommon for

2058
01:45:01,000 --> 01:45:03,680
Speaker 3: guys here to have girlfriends back home and cheat on

2059
01:45:03,720 --> 01:45:06,439
Speaker 3: them when they got to university. Eight How is that

2060
01:45:06,600 --> 01:45:12,320
Speaker 3: not uncommon? That's wild? Oh my gosh. He said no,

2061
01:45:12,479 --> 01:45:15,160
Speaker 3: and I believed him. Nonetheless, I didn't want to be

2062
01:45:15,200 --> 01:45:18,080
Speaker 3: the cause of a relationship ending. Okay, ohp he seems

2063
01:45:18,080 --> 01:45:20,479
Speaker 3: really respectful, like that low key.

2064
01:45:20,560 --> 01:45:21,840
Speaker 2: The sneaky link is that?

2065
01:45:22,000 --> 01:45:22,800
Speaker 4: Do I read that right?

2066
01:45:23,760 --> 01:45:23,920
Speaker 2: No?

2067
01:45:24,000 --> 01:45:25,720
Speaker 3: But she doesn't want to be the sneaky link. She

2068
01:45:25,760 --> 01:45:28,080
Speaker 3: wants to make it very clear that he's single and

2069
01:45:28,160 --> 01:45:29,439
Speaker 3: doesn't have someone back home.

2070
01:45:29,600 --> 01:45:34,000
Speaker 2: Gotcha. Yeah. One night I tried alcohol for the first time.

2071
01:45:34,840 --> 01:45:38,559
Speaker 3: Legal drinking age here is eighteen, and I got extremely drunk.

2072
01:45:38,640 --> 01:45:40,840
Speaker 3: To say the very lead, I ended up kissing one

2073
01:45:40,880 --> 01:45:44,360
Speaker 3: of my female friends and Ron had seen. I understand

2074
01:45:44,400 --> 01:45:45,920
Speaker 3: that I shouldn't have kissed her, and I tried my

2075
01:45:46,000 --> 01:45:48,479
Speaker 3: hardest to apologize to Ron and explain that I didn't

2076
01:45:48,479 --> 01:45:50,920
Speaker 3: mean it. He was angry as he believed that I

2077
01:45:51,000 --> 01:45:53,640
Speaker 3: kissed my female friend due to my sexuality. I was

2078
01:45:53,680 --> 01:45:56,120
Speaker 3: openly pan sexual and I have never tried to hide it.

2079
01:45:57,040 --> 01:45:59,080
Speaker 3: But I explained to him that I was drunk and

2080
01:45:59,080 --> 01:46:03,000
Speaker 3: I had no attract to my friend. I understand that

2081
01:46:03,040 --> 01:46:05,360
Speaker 3: I was wrong nonetheless, and still had to take the

2082
01:46:05,400 --> 01:46:10,320
Speaker 3: responsibility for it. But but where we haven't had a

2083
01:46:10,320 --> 01:46:13,840
Speaker 3: conversation about defining the relationship.

2084
01:46:13,240 --> 01:46:17,559
Speaker 2: So there's no exclusivity explucivity. Yeah, thank you, you got it.

2085
01:46:17,960 --> 01:46:20,600
Speaker 3: So it's like, you know what I'm saying. Obviously that

2086
01:46:20,640 --> 01:46:22,240
Speaker 3: would hurt, That would hurt for anybody.

2087
01:46:22,400 --> 01:46:22,599
Speaker 2: Yeah.

2088
01:46:22,640 --> 01:46:27,040
Speaker 9: See, but it's it's technically the boat is going off

2089
01:46:27,080 --> 01:46:30,280
Speaker 9: the cliff, off the market, and it's going down that way.

2090
01:46:30,320 --> 01:46:31,160
Speaker 2: It's not there yet.

2091
01:46:31,240 --> 01:46:34,160
Speaker 4: The boat is going off the water's road. Well, I

2092
01:46:34,160 --> 01:46:36,880
Speaker 4: don't know what else to say. The beat is making

2093
01:46:36,920 --> 01:46:39,080
Speaker 4: it to the hive. Not in the hive yet, but

2094
01:46:39,120 --> 01:46:39,719
Speaker 4: almost there.

2095
01:46:39,880 --> 01:46:45,360
Speaker 2: Holy crap. What, oh my gosh, Oh wow, whoa Samy?

2096
01:46:46,479 --> 01:46:46,799
Speaker 3: Wow?

2097
01:46:47,080 --> 01:46:48,040
Speaker 1: Thirty more minutes.

2098
01:46:48,640 --> 01:46:54,800
Speaker 3: Wow, thank you, Oh my god, that Sammy last one.

2099
01:46:54,840 --> 01:46:57,080
Speaker 3: Guys got to save some money for my vacation a

2100
01:46:57,080 --> 01:46:58,479
Speaker 3: two hundred and fifty dollars tip.

2101
01:46:58,560 --> 01:47:01,640
Speaker 2: Let's go Sam, e h. I know I don't know you,

2102
01:47:01,720 --> 01:47:04,920
Speaker 2: but you rock. You're really cool. You just met Oh

2103
01:47:04,960 --> 01:47:05,280
Speaker 2: my god.

2104
01:47:05,320 --> 01:47:07,920
Speaker 9: But the bees making it to the hive, not making

2105
01:47:08,000 --> 01:47:10,480
Speaker 9: it to the high when you say that's exclusive.

2106
01:47:12,360 --> 01:47:13,599
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. This is tough.

2107
01:47:13,640 --> 01:47:15,400
Speaker 3: I feel like these days, if you're not having a

2108
01:47:15,439 --> 01:47:16,920
Speaker 3: conversation about like.

2109
01:47:17,040 --> 01:47:19,640
Speaker 4: What we are, then it's the wild West, is.

2110
01:47:19,760 --> 01:47:23,120
Speaker 2: Exactly so okay.

2111
01:47:23,880 --> 01:47:25,920
Speaker 3: I understand that I was wrong nonetheless and still had

2112
01:47:25,920 --> 01:47:28,400
Speaker 3: to take the responsibility for it. He, however, did not

2113
01:47:28,439 --> 01:47:31,000
Speaker 3: want to hear it. I understood and decided to give

2114
01:47:31,080 --> 01:47:34,439
Speaker 3: him some space like he asked. However, a few hours

2115
01:47:34,479 --> 01:47:36,800
Speaker 3: after he has to give him space, he proceeded to

2116
01:47:36,880 --> 01:47:39,479
Speaker 3: change all his social media profile pictures.

2117
01:47:39,680 --> 01:47:44,120
Speaker 2: He put a picture of him and his girlfriend. Oh

2118
01:47:44,240 --> 01:47:49,000
Speaker 2: that's cold, my gosh, Ron, dude, that is so cold.

2119
01:47:49,320 --> 01:47:51,320
Speaker 2: Why are you mad? Exactly?

2120
01:47:52,360 --> 01:47:55,920
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. I was gutted and embarrassed. I would

2121
01:47:55,920 --> 01:47:59,599
Speaker 3: be so embarrassed what I got text from people who

2122
01:47:59,680 --> 01:48:02,400
Speaker 3: knew us that asked me what was going on? I

2123
01:48:02,400 --> 01:48:04,600
Speaker 3: couldn't even answer, as I also didn't know what was

2124
01:48:04,640 --> 01:48:08,439
Speaker 3: going on. That you know that boat went off a cliff.

2125
01:48:09,120 --> 01:48:13,280
Speaker 3: That's wild. Instead of asking him straight up, I decided

2126
01:48:13,320 --> 01:48:15,840
Speaker 3: to become a private investigator and find out what was

2127
01:48:15,880 --> 01:48:16,320
Speaker 3: going on.

2128
01:48:16,560 --> 01:48:16,920
Speaker 2: H oh.

2129
01:48:17,040 --> 01:48:19,760
Speaker 3: Turns out this was his high school sweetheart. Pictures of

2130
01:48:19,800 --> 01:48:22,160
Speaker 3: them together were on Instagram, dating all the way back

2131
01:48:22,200 --> 01:48:24,680
Speaker 3: to a few years ago, and the most recent one

2132
01:48:24,720 --> 01:48:28,479
Speaker 3: being in February, a few days before him and I met.

2133
01:48:28,960 --> 01:48:29,280
Speaker 2: Girl.

2134
01:48:30,040 --> 01:48:32,240
Speaker 3: Girl, this is not good. This is not good.

2135
01:48:33,560 --> 01:48:33,760
Speaker 2: Now.

2136
01:48:33,800 --> 01:48:35,800
Speaker 3: I know, the most reasonable thing to do was to

2137
01:48:35,840 --> 01:48:37,880
Speaker 3: just let him go and live my life, but it

2138
01:48:37,920 --> 01:48:40,360
Speaker 3: wasn't that easy. In the midst of my heartbreak for

2139
01:48:40,439 --> 01:48:42,600
Speaker 3: my high school sweet heart, I had given Ron my

2140
01:48:42,720 --> 01:48:46,639
Speaker 3: first everything, and walking away from him wasn't that easy.

2141
01:48:46,800 --> 01:48:51,439
Speaker 2: Wait they did. Yeah, that's a really vulnerable state to

2142
01:48:51,520 --> 01:48:51,720
Speaker 2: be in.

2143
01:48:52,000 --> 01:48:55,680
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, Oh my lord, and like

2144
01:48:55,720 --> 01:49:01,200
Speaker 3: you're going to university? Okay, so op. So I texted

2145
01:49:01,280 --> 01:49:03,240
Speaker 3: him and told him that I may have fallen in

2146
01:49:03,320 --> 01:49:04,160
Speaker 3: love with him.

2147
01:49:05,720 --> 01:49:09,800
Speaker 2: No, you can't do that. Oh my gosh.

2148
01:49:09,960 --> 01:49:12,000
Speaker 3: My friends think that I'm not in love with him

2149
01:49:12,040 --> 01:49:14,800
Speaker 3: and I'm just in a toxic relationship because I didn't

2150
01:49:14,800 --> 01:49:17,920
Speaker 3: truly heal from my last relationship, and I just jumped

2151
01:49:17,920 --> 01:49:20,800
Speaker 3: into this one, which, to be fair, I think a

2152
01:49:20,840 --> 01:49:23,040
Speaker 3: lot of people do that. A lot of people cope

2153
01:49:23,080 --> 01:49:27,040
Speaker 3: by filling the void.

2154
01:49:24,400 --> 01:49:28,799
Speaker 4: Because Shackel Shaquilo.

2155
01:49:28,080 --> 01:49:35,840
Speaker 3: I rebound, but nonetheless, nonetheless like it still sucks to

2156
01:49:36,720 --> 01:49:39,439
Speaker 3: feel lied to and cheat it on and all the things.

2157
01:49:41,640 --> 01:49:43,559
Speaker 3: He answered my text and told me to come over

2158
01:49:43,600 --> 01:49:46,720
Speaker 3: to his house. You can imagine what happened after that.

2159
01:49:47,560 --> 01:49:50,080
Speaker 3: He refused to explain the situation with his girlfriend, but

2160
01:49:50,120 --> 01:49:52,559
Speaker 3: told me that he'll keep in touch when he wants

2161
01:49:53,040 --> 01:49:59,400
Speaker 3: some ew Ron, Ron, come on now, I don't know

2162
01:49:59,439 --> 01:50:01,439
Speaker 3: what to do. I know that he's just using me

2163
01:50:01,520 --> 01:50:03,800
Speaker 3: for my body. He also has a girlfriend, and I

2164
01:50:03,840 --> 01:50:06,479
Speaker 3: feel terrible knowing if that if she ever found out,

2165
01:50:06,800 --> 01:50:10,639
Speaker 3: she would resent me for ruining her relationship. Please help,

2166
01:50:10,920 --> 01:50:12,160
Speaker 3: I don't know what to do anymore.

2167
01:50:12,560 --> 01:50:14,000
Speaker 4: Tell them, Molly, tell her what to do.

2168
01:50:14,760 --> 01:50:18,680
Speaker 3: Girl, you are worth more than this. I know that

2169
01:50:18,720 --> 01:50:21,160
Speaker 3: you liked Ron, I know that he filled the void

2170
01:50:21,360 --> 01:50:24,960
Speaker 3: after you know your heartbreak from high school happened, but

2171
01:50:25,400 --> 01:50:29,000
Speaker 3: you deserve more. It's time to let Ron go. Okay,

2172
01:50:29,080 --> 01:50:30,080
Speaker 3: You're more than your body.

2173
01:50:30,120 --> 01:50:30,400
Speaker 2: Girl.

2174
01:50:32,120 --> 01:50:34,920
Speaker 3: That is sad, and I feel like this happens so much.

2175
01:50:35,040 --> 01:50:38,120
Speaker 3: I feel like I don't know, how is it that

2176
01:50:38,680 --> 01:50:42,040
Speaker 3: people end up with people that have full blown relationships?

2177
01:50:42,240 --> 01:50:42,719
Speaker 2: Yeah?

2178
01:50:42,760 --> 01:50:43,679
Speaker 3: How does that happen?

2179
01:50:44,040 --> 01:50:47,639
Speaker 4: Instagram's a thing context clues. But he must have archived

2180
01:50:47,640 --> 01:50:48,599
Speaker 4: those photos.

2181
01:50:48,800 --> 01:50:49,599
Speaker 2: That's so bad.

2182
01:50:50,960 --> 01:50:52,920
Speaker 3: Although I will say it's kind of funny how people

2183
01:50:53,120 --> 01:50:56,160
Speaker 3: use social media as a way to gather if people

2184
01:50:56,200 --> 01:50:58,360
Speaker 3: are in relationships or not. Like, just because you don't

2185
01:50:58,360 --> 01:51:01,599
Speaker 3: post your significant other doesn't mean you're dude.

2186
01:51:01,640 --> 01:51:03,400
Speaker 4: I need to I need to post mine.

2187
01:51:03,640 --> 01:51:05,519
Speaker 3: I have not, you know what I'm saying though, Like

2188
01:51:05,560 --> 01:51:08,760
Speaker 3: it doesn't, but it doesn't mean a relationship isn't real

2189
01:51:08,840 --> 01:51:09,879
Speaker 3: and alive and amazing.

2190
01:51:10,120 --> 01:51:12,200
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, I just don't post any part of

2191
01:51:12,240 --> 01:51:12,719
Speaker 4: my life.

2192
01:51:13,280 --> 01:51:18,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, before I did.

2193
01:51:18,320 --> 01:51:21,600
Speaker 4: That's hilarious.

2194
01:51:22,160 --> 01:51:25,519
Speaker 2: Oh of them them all? Right, guess who's with us now?

2195
01:51:26,280 --> 01:51:30,040
Speaker 4: The one the only one queen.

2196
01:51:33,760 --> 01:51:34,400
Speaker 2: Outfit today?

2197
01:51:35,000 --> 01:51:36,320
Speaker 3: Oh this is the work vibe.

2198
01:51:36,439 --> 01:51:39,760
Speaker 2: I copied your Yeah, the pink. Oh, the pink. Let's go.

2199
01:51:40,439 --> 01:51:41,200
Speaker 2: I love it.

2200
01:51:41,200 --> 01:51:43,960
Speaker 7: It's it's your uniform. Really go put a pink shirt on.

2201
01:51:44,360 --> 01:51:47,080
Speaker 2: Hugh guys wear pink.

2202
01:51:48,520 --> 01:51:50,639
Speaker 7: I knew this kid in middle school and he had

2203
01:51:50,640 --> 01:51:53,479
Speaker 7: a shirt that said he had a pink shirt and

2204
01:51:53,520 --> 01:51:55,920
Speaker 7: it had this list of reasons of why he was

2205
01:51:55,960 --> 01:51:58,320
Speaker 7: wearing a pink shirt. It was like, my mom didn't

2206
01:51:58,320 --> 01:52:01,840
Speaker 7: do long like mess, step laundry. It was like all

2207
01:52:01,920 --> 01:52:04,439
Speaker 7: of these reasons, it's so sad, just so we could

2208
01:52:04,439 --> 01:52:05,600
Speaker 7: wear a pink shirt.

2209
01:52:06,479 --> 01:52:08,400
Speaker 3: That such a bummer, Such a bummer.

2210
01:52:08,400 --> 01:52:10,400
Speaker 7: It's kind of a funny shirt. But it was like,

2211
01:52:10,439 --> 01:52:13,000
Speaker 7: you could just wear a good color. Yeah, you know

2212
01:52:13,120 --> 01:52:16,800
Speaker 7: this solid color solid. Yeah, but I agree with what

2213
01:52:16,840 --> 01:52:17,400
Speaker 7: you were saying.

2214
01:52:17,600 --> 01:52:21,599
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's so so sad. One time I dated this

2215
01:52:21,640 --> 01:52:27,200
Speaker 3: guy and then he was going to like Joshua Tree.

2216
01:52:27,200 --> 01:52:29,960
Speaker 3: He said he was going to Joshua Tree for his birthday.

2217
01:52:30,560 --> 01:52:32,680
Speaker 3: And then I saw that there was a girl in

2218
01:52:32,680 --> 01:52:35,840
Speaker 3: those photos. Turns out that was his girlfriend. And now

2219
01:52:35,840 --> 01:52:37,280
Speaker 3: they have a full blown baby.

2220
01:52:37,479 --> 01:52:38,639
Speaker 2: Oh they have a.

2221
01:52:38,479 --> 01:52:44,360
Speaker 7: Full blown baby, just like a quarter Oh man, what

2222
01:52:45,400 --> 01:52:47,280
Speaker 7: is he doing?

2223
01:52:47,360 --> 01:52:47,800
Speaker 2: I know?

2224
01:52:47,960 --> 01:52:49,680
Speaker 3: And it's like, you know, I think you could think

2225
01:52:49,720 --> 01:52:51,519
Speaker 3: whatever you want to think to make yourself feel better,

2226
01:52:51,600 --> 01:52:53,519
Speaker 3: like oh, maybe they were on a break, maybe they

2227
01:52:53,520 --> 01:52:57,840
Speaker 3: were this and that, but like, damn, come on, come on, on,

2228
01:52:58,520 --> 01:52:59,960
Speaker 3: do better, do better?

2229
01:53:00,120 --> 01:53:04,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, cheaters, please, cheater, cheater, that's what I.

2230
01:53:04,720 --> 01:53:05,640
Speaker 3: Have to do.

2231
01:53:05,720 --> 01:53:07,960
Speaker 10: We know where that came from. I don't know why

2232
01:53:08,000 --> 01:53:12,639
Speaker 10: pumpkins let's see. Yeah, you can let her the dog.

2233
01:53:14,280 --> 01:53:15,639
Speaker 3: Wait, how long have you had this dog?

2234
01:53:16,360 --> 01:53:19,240
Speaker 7: Ava? We've had since COVID It was my parents' dog.

2235
01:53:19,360 --> 01:53:22,720
Speaker 2: But okay, yeah, like I've never met her, she's never

2236
01:53:22,720 --> 01:53:34,400
Speaker 2: been here before. Oh god, she's so cute.

2237
01:53:34,439 --> 01:53:36,080
Speaker 7: She's she's kind of like a cat, like she won't

2238
01:53:36,120 --> 01:53:37,559
Speaker 7: let you pet her unless she wants to be.

2239
01:53:38,200 --> 01:53:40,280
Speaker 3: No. See, I mean I love all animals, but I

2240
01:53:40,360 --> 01:53:42,640
Speaker 3: really love super affectionate animals.

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01:53:42,720 --> 01:53:45,880
Speaker 7: Yeah, she's like super affectionate only when she wants to be. Yeah,

2242
01:53:46,320 --> 01:53:47,759
Speaker 7: she gets us. It's very cute.

2243
01:53:48,720 --> 01:53:49,000
Speaker 2: Kitty.

2244
01:53:49,840 --> 01:53:53,559
Speaker 4: Wow to get to this yeah.

2245
01:53:54,520 --> 01:53:58,840
Speaker 3: Uh oh, Molly Kissler five dollars tip, let's go, Malley.

2246
01:53:59,160 --> 01:54:03,160
Speaker 3: It's my job as farm associate at Rural King one hundred.

2247
01:54:03,600 --> 01:54:06,360
Speaker 3: Can't wait to get my electrical engineering degree, but I

2248
01:54:06,360 --> 01:54:08,840
Speaker 3: can get my dream working with the power grid. Let's

2249
01:54:08,880 --> 01:54:13,040
Speaker 3: let's go electrical engineering. Something I know nothing about.

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01:54:13,720 --> 01:54:14,680
Speaker 4: That's common.

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01:54:14,840 --> 01:54:19,920
Speaker 7: It's from a children's miligon story rhyme nursery rhyme, and

2252
01:54:20,200 --> 01:54:21,040
Speaker 7: someone said.

2253
01:54:21,320 --> 01:54:22,200
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah.

2254
01:54:22,360 --> 01:54:24,800
Speaker 7: The first surviving version of the rhyme was published in

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01:54:24,880 --> 01:54:29,640
Speaker 7: Infants Institutes, Part the first or a nursical essay on

2256
01:54:29,680 --> 01:54:32,480
Speaker 7: the poetry. When is this okay, well, yeah, it's from

2257
01:54:32,480 --> 01:54:33,200
Speaker 7: a nursery rhyme.

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01:54:34,120 --> 01:54:34,600
Speaker 2: There you have it.

2259
01:54:35,120 --> 01:54:38,760
Speaker 7: Yeah, I have it more, you know, the more you know,

2260
01:54:39,320 --> 01:54:42,880
Speaker 7: I want to know what I don't know.

2261
01:54:42,960 --> 01:54:46,520
Speaker 2: You'd have to tell me. I just got here.

2262
01:54:46,560 --> 01:54:49,160
Speaker 4: Also like to stream, guys, I got a will here

2263
01:54:49,600 --> 01:54:50,800
Speaker 4: that's ready to be spun.

2264
01:54:51,080 --> 01:54:52,680
Speaker 2: Isn't that the first one? Did you?

2265
01:54:52,880 --> 01:54:53,080
Speaker 7: Yeah?

2266
01:54:53,080 --> 01:54:53,960
Speaker 4: They didn't do it right?

2267
01:54:54,200 --> 01:54:57,839
Speaker 2: Okay? Yeah? I was like, have you only done one story?

2268
01:54:57,880 --> 01:54:59,400
Speaker 2: You've only done one story? Whatever?

2269
01:54:59,440 --> 01:55:02,600
Speaker 4: Sam and jo Honor here they never get through anything.

2270
01:55:03,080 --> 01:55:07,960
Speaker 7: Okay, donkey, let's do it. I joked about getting together

2271
01:55:08,040 --> 01:55:11,920
Speaker 7: with a guy I met online and now I'm marrying him.

2272
01:55:12,280 --> 01:55:15,120
Speaker 7: Whoa And this is super special because it comes right

2273
01:55:15,160 --> 01:55:16,720
Speaker 7: from our slash Okay storytime.

2274
01:55:17,000 --> 01:55:19,360
Speaker 2: Let's go right from the source.

2275
01:55:19,640 --> 01:55:21,440
Speaker 4: Where should someone go if they have a story.

2276
01:55:21,680 --> 01:55:24,320
Speaker 7: By the way, oh wait, you should go to our

2277
01:55:24,400 --> 01:55:29,800
Speaker 7: slash Okay storytime to submit a story. I thought I

2278
01:55:29,800 --> 01:55:31,560
Speaker 7: had to do that thing from the beginning though. By

2279
01:55:31,600 --> 01:55:33,720
Speaker 7: the way, you can join us on live on YouTube

2280
01:55:33,760 --> 01:55:35,320
Speaker 7: every weekday at three pm.

2281
01:55:35,800 --> 01:55:40,320
Speaker 2: Just stop our profile to do that. Yeah, okay, I

2282
01:55:40,320 --> 01:55:42,160
Speaker 2: did it. Have they been doing it? Yeah?

2283
01:55:42,520 --> 01:55:45,840
Speaker 7: Okay, good, Okay, I'm gonna read that that title again.

2284
01:55:46,280 --> 01:55:48,879
Speaker 7: I joked about getting together with a guy I met online.

2285
01:55:49,120 --> 01:55:51,560
Speaker 7: Now I'm marrying him. And this is to answer the

2286
01:55:51,640 --> 01:55:54,000
Speaker 7: question of when is it worth it to push aside

2287
01:55:54,240 --> 01:55:56,120
Speaker 7: complications or love.

2288
01:55:57,520 --> 01:55:58,160
Speaker 3: I'd like to know.

2289
01:56:00,000 --> 01:56:03,200
Speaker 7: Oh Rich Confusion thirty nine ninety six says I posted

2290
01:56:03,240 --> 01:56:05,560
Speaker 7: this once before, and the old one before the subreddit

2291
01:56:05,640 --> 01:56:08,520
Speaker 7: was removed, so I'll post again adding just a few

2292
01:56:08,560 --> 01:56:15,680
Speaker 7: more details, and those details made it perfect. Years ago,

2293
01:56:15,800 --> 01:56:17,840
Speaker 7: I was part of a writing group on a website.

2294
01:56:17,880 --> 01:56:20,920
Speaker 7: We would post, discuss our stories, and share snippets to

2295
01:56:20,960 --> 01:56:24,240
Speaker 7: get feedback. It was a friendly and helpful community for writers.

2296
01:56:24,440 --> 01:56:27,440
Speaker 7: We often talked about other topics too. None of us

2297
01:56:27,520 --> 01:56:30,160
Speaker 7: knew each other's real names or what we looked like.

2298
01:56:30,480 --> 01:56:33,000
Speaker 7: My avatar in the group was red haired and green eyed,

2299
01:56:33,320 --> 01:56:35,920
Speaker 7: as I always loved red hair and wish mine was red.

2300
01:56:36,480 --> 01:56:38,160
Speaker 7: I was a member of this group for over a

2301
01:56:38,240 --> 01:56:42,160
Speaker 7: year when a new member, Zi joined. Zi was friendly

2302
01:56:42,320 --> 01:56:44,800
Speaker 7: and fit in well with the group. One day, I

2303
01:56:44,960 --> 01:56:47,240
Speaker 7: entered the chat and found the group discussing whether they

2304
01:56:47,280 --> 01:56:48,480
Speaker 7: wanted children or not.

2305
01:56:49,080 --> 01:56:50,120
Speaker 2: I'm not sure.

2306
01:56:49,880 --> 01:56:52,280
Speaker 7: Why that topic came up, but it wasn't uncommon for

2307
01:56:52,400 --> 01:56:56,040
Speaker 7: us to jump into random conversations. I dropped into the

2308
01:56:56,120 --> 01:56:59,440
Speaker 7: chat and mentioned that I didn't want kids. Then Zi

2309
01:56:59,520 --> 01:57:02,040
Speaker 7: entered the chat, picked up on the topic and joked

2310
01:57:02,040 --> 01:57:04,400
Speaker 7: that he wanted kids but hadn't yet found a woman

2311
01:57:04,480 --> 01:57:08,720
Speaker 7: willing to volunteer to give him one. I and another

2312
01:57:08,760 --> 01:57:12,080
Speaker 7: woman in the group joked back that we'd volunteer. O wakay,

2313
01:57:12,640 --> 01:57:19,360
Speaker 7: you switched up so fast. The other woman pointed out

2314
01:57:19,640 --> 01:57:21,520
Speaker 7: out that while she was willing to have a child,

2315
01:57:21,720 --> 01:57:24,280
Speaker 7: she would likely drop the child and ghost him if

2316
01:57:24,280 --> 01:57:27,960
Speaker 7: he wanted the mother, but what was messed up? I

2317
01:57:28,000 --> 01:57:30,120
Speaker 7: would be the better choice since I was too nice

2318
01:57:30,160 --> 01:57:34,800
Speaker 7: and would more likely stay. So with that, our joking

2319
01:57:34,840 --> 01:57:38,160
Speaker 7: started about us being a couple. I also asked him

2320
01:57:38,200 --> 01:57:41,160
Speaker 7: a question, telling him it was super important and what

2321
01:57:41,280 --> 01:57:44,840
Speaker 7: he answered would make or break us. What do you

2322
01:57:44,840 --> 01:57:49,080
Speaker 7: think of Doctor Who? That's such a ats a super

2323
01:57:49,240 --> 01:57:51,360
Speaker 7: relevant question, and I think you should ask all of

2324
01:57:51,400 --> 01:57:55,080
Speaker 7: your partners that I've only seen a little bit. Willing

2325
01:57:55,120 --> 01:57:58,240
Speaker 7: to watch more, he said, good enough for now. Got

2326
01:57:58,240 --> 01:58:00,000
Speaker 7: to like Doctor Who. If we're going to be together,

2327
01:58:01,280 --> 01:58:04,520
Speaker 7: says op. I thought the importance of this was a joke,

2328
01:58:04,720 --> 01:58:09,160
Speaker 7: but seeing how things turned out, this could have changed everything.

2329
01:58:10,040 --> 01:58:12,920
Speaker 7: Over the next next few months, we playfully flirted in

2330
01:58:12,960 --> 01:58:15,960
Speaker 7: the chat, acting like a loving couple. One day, as

2331
01:58:15,960 --> 01:58:17,640
Speaker 7: I mentioned that he had to take his mom to

2332
01:58:17,680 --> 01:58:21,240
Speaker 7: dialysis and that the internet wasn't working well there, he

2333
01:58:21,360 --> 01:58:24,800
Speaker 7: offered an alternative way to talk if someone wanted to

2334
01:58:25,280 --> 01:58:28,760
Speaker 7: chat with him. I decided to jump into a private

2335
01:58:28,840 --> 01:58:30,880
Speaker 7: chat with him, and we talked for hours while his

2336
01:58:30,960 --> 01:58:34,320
Speaker 7: mom was on dialysis. This became a regular thing for us.

2337
01:58:34,840 --> 01:58:37,520
Speaker 7: I eventually told him I didn't want kids, and due

2338
01:58:37,560 --> 01:58:40,160
Speaker 7: to some medical issues, it was unlikely that I would

2339
01:58:40,200 --> 01:58:41,200
Speaker 7: ever have children.

2340
01:58:41,480 --> 01:58:41,919
Speaker 2: Hmmm.

2341
01:58:42,520 --> 01:58:44,680
Speaker 7: As time went on, we discovered that we lived over

2342
01:58:44,760 --> 01:58:46,360
Speaker 7: two thousand miles apart.

2343
01:58:46,640 --> 01:58:49,360
Speaker 4: Two thousand Wow, where were you guys?

2344
01:58:49,520 --> 01:58:52,440
Speaker 2: Where were you? It was like a little pen palace situation.

2345
01:58:53,240 --> 01:58:56,120
Speaker 7: As the months passed, my feelings for Zye grew stronger.

2346
01:58:56,560 --> 01:58:59,120
Speaker 7: I was unsure how to approach him about where we stood.

2347
01:58:59,560 --> 01:59:01,400
Speaker 7: I was worried that if I asked if we were

2348
01:59:01,440 --> 01:59:03,760
Speaker 7: still just joking, he might take it the wrong way.

2349
01:59:04,280 --> 01:59:06,720
Speaker 7: If I asked and he said no, it could cause

2350
01:59:06,760 --> 01:59:09,520
Speaker 7: tension between us. If I asked and he said yes

2351
01:59:09,600 --> 01:59:11,920
Speaker 7: but only joked about it all along, he might be

2352
01:59:11,960 --> 01:59:13,000
Speaker 7: freaked out and ghost me.

2353
01:59:14,040 --> 01:59:15,720
Speaker 2: So I spent a few.

2354
01:59:15,600 --> 01:59:18,320
Speaker 7: Weeks trying to figure out what to do, while my

2355
01:59:18,360 --> 01:59:22,440
Speaker 7: feelings continued to grow. During this time, Zi started sharing

2356
01:59:22,520 --> 01:59:23,800
Speaker 7: a story he was writing with me.

2357
01:59:24,400 --> 01:59:25,680
Speaker 2: He gave me, Oh, he.

2358
01:59:25,680 --> 01:59:29,000
Speaker 7: Gave the main character a love interest with my real name.

2359
01:59:29,440 --> 01:59:31,320
Speaker 2: Okay, so they've they've revealed names.

2360
01:59:32,160 --> 01:59:36,560
Speaker 7: Yeah, seemingly unless he just randomly knew her name, like

2361
01:59:36,800 --> 01:59:39,400
Speaker 7: guess a name. Oh yeah, I think I think they

2362
01:59:41,280 --> 01:59:43,840
Speaker 7: I think they're I think they're moving forward. They're moving

2363
01:59:43,840 --> 01:59:48,240
Speaker 7: forwards away, and they're ready for the next step. Just

2364
01:59:48,280 --> 01:59:52,320
Speaker 7: a step closer. Yeah, this is really cute. This is

2365
01:59:52,400 --> 01:59:54,560
Speaker 7: much better than the last relationship.

2366
01:59:55,480 --> 01:59:56,000
Speaker 2: Yeah.

2367
01:59:56,960 --> 02:00:03,040
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Well we don't know. Well, see that's true.

2368
02:00:03,280 --> 02:00:06,920
Speaker 7: Maybe two thousand miles is too many miles too close?

2369
02:00:07,040 --> 02:00:11,160
Speaker 2: Many thousand too many? Did you say too close?

2370
02:00:11,280 --> 02:00:13,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, that might be too close because he is a stalker.

2371
02:00:15,360 --> 02:00:16,320
Speaker 2: Two thousand's a lot.

2372
02:00:20,240 --> 02:00:20,360
Speaker 1: Uh.

2373
02:00:20,760 --> 02:00:22,560
Speaker 7: When I asked about it, he said he thought it

2374
02:00:22,600 --> 02:00:25,120
Speaker 7: was a pretty name and his favorite name to give

2375
02:00:25,400 --> 02:00:28,760
Speaker 7: in stories. He also mentioned other traits about her that

2376
02:00:28,800 --> 02:00:31,840
Speaker 7: matched my real life characteristics. He's just putting her, He's

2377
02:00:31,880 --> 02:00:33,040
Speaker 7: inserting her into his store.

2378
02:00:33,040 --> 02:00:34,200
Speaker 2: He's got a crush.

2379
02:00:34,400 --> 02:00:36,960
Speaker 7: Keep in mind he at the time didn't know my

2380
02:00:37,120 --> 02:00:40,640
Speaker 7: real name? Oh okay, then that's kind of weird or

2381
02:00:41,920 --> 02:00:45,000
Speaker 7: did okay? Either he's a stalker, that's fate.

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Speaker 3: I would go for stalker.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, still only knowing me by my uh screen name

2384
02:00:55,880 --> 02:00:59,680
Speaker 7: Kendra or uh and of these random details he was

2385
02:00:59,720 --> 02:01:02,840
Speaker 7: given the l I. What is l I?

2386
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Speaker 2: I don't know, still know only my.

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Speaker 7: Oh yeah yeah, still giving it to the l I

2388
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Speaker 7: E love interest in This made me feel like we

2389
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Speaker 7: were meant to be together.

2390
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Speaker 2: I guess that's all it takes.

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02:01:15,840 --> 02:01:18,600
Speaker 7: I guess so yeah, but I still wasn't sure how

2392
02:01:18,640 --> 02:01:21,160
Speaker 7: to bring up my feelings. Then one day, while having

2393
02:01:21,200 --> 02:01:24,400
Speaker 7: a private chat, I suddenly have the thought, this is him.

2394
02:01:24,800 --> 02:01:26,280
Speaker 7: I'm going to marry this man.

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02:01:26,840 --> 02:01:31,480
Speaker 2: But do you know his name? That's a wild like I.

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Speaker 3: I feel like there are a lot of people that

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Speaker 3: have that feeling of like, this is the person I'm

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Speaker 3: gonna marry, and I wonder how many people it actually is.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, how many people actually marry that person?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah?

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02:01:42,320 --> 02:01:47,080
Speaker 7: Well, maybe OP is seeing into their future. Maybe they know.

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Speaker 3: If this ends in marriage, I'll be very happy.

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02:01:52,560 --> 02:01:54,120
Speaker 2: Okay, but you're not.

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02:01:54,160 --> 02:01:56,080
Speaker 7: You're not putting all your You're not putting all your

2405
02:01:56,080 --> 02:01:58,040
Speaker 7: eggs and one basket.

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Speaker 2: I guess it does.

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02:01:59,360 --> 02:02:02,080
Speaker 3: Now I'm married him, but as we've seen, be wrong.

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02:02:02,200 --> 02:02:03,839
Speaker 2: Thanks, you can change, we could divorce.

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02:02:04,200 --> 02:02:11,560
Speaker 3: Who's to say, baby, you're marrying him in the story. Anyway,

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Speaker 3: I'll be quiet.

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Speaker 2: Go ahead.

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02:02:13,440 --> 02:02:16,600
Speaker 7: Then one day, well that I actually never planned to

2413
02:02:16,600 --> 02:02:19,040
Speaker 7: get married. So that thought hit me hard. Oh, he's

2414
02:02:19,120 --> 02:02:24,960
Speaker 7: like switching all of all of their you know, previously thought.

2415
02:02:25,320 --> 02:02:28,600
Speaker 2: What's the word? I don't know? Plans up for value.

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02:02:28,720 --> 02:02:30,480
Speaker 7: Yeah, they're like, I don't want children, but if you

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02:02:30,480 --> 02:02:32,200
Speaker 7: want children, I don't want to get married.

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02:02:32,240 --> 02:02:33,880
Speaker 2: What if you want to marry? Which I guess is

2419
02:02:33,920 --> 02:02:34,160
Speaker 2: you know.

2420
02:02:35,080 --> 02:02:40,480
Speaker 9: Psychology, it's love for reverse psychology, Yes, it's love.

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02:02:41,280 --> 02:02:43,400
Speaker 7: Then, while I was freaking out on the inside about

2422
02:02:43,400 --> 02:02:49,440
Speaker 7: this thought, he out of nowhere blurted out, I love you.

2423
02:02:49,480 --> 02:02:53,680
Speaker 2: What him clearly nervous. That's so sweet.

2424
02:02:53,800 --> 02:02:56,520
Speaker 7: Wait, she was thinking about how she wants to marry him,

2425
02:02:56,560 --> 02:02:58,560
Speaker 7: and then he they're really in sync.

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02:02:58,600 --> 02:03:01,080
Speaker 10: They're in sync, you like knows her name before she

2427
02:03:01,120 --> 02:03:04,680
Speaker 10: tells him. I still don't know how that happened, but

2428
02:03:04,760 --> 02:03:05,960
Speaker 10: that is really cute.

2429
02:03:06,280 --> 02:03:09,480
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, I want to know if that was truly

2430
02:03:09,640 --> 02:03:14,040
Speaker 7: just by chance? Op he says, what and then he responds,

2431
02:03:14,080 --> 02:03:17,320
Speaker 7: I love you. That solved my problem, and we officially

2432
02:03:17,400 --> 02:03:21,680
Speaker 7: started dating him quietly now sounding worried.

2433
02:03:22,760 --> 02:03:25,040
Speaker 2: Uh oh oh him.

2434
02:03:25,000 --> 02:03:27,200
Speaker 7: Quietly now, I think when he said I love you again,

2435
02:03:27,960 --> 02:03:31,320
Speaker 7: So now we were officially a couple. We never told

2436
02:03:31,320 --> 02:03:33,440
Speaker 7: the group we were together for real, and kept up

2437
02:03:33,480 --> 02:03:36,200
Speaker 7: the joke inside the group chat until he came to

2438
02:03:36,280 --> 02:03:38,120
Speaker 7: visit me for the first time in real life.

2439
02:03:39,080 --> 02:03:39,680
Speaker 2: He told the.

2440
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Speaker 7: Group he was going on a week long trip and

2441
02:03:42,160 --> 02:03:44,080
Speaker 7: wouldn't be online much during that time.

2442
02:03:45,040 --> 02:03:46,600
Speaker 2: He's pound town.

2443
02:03:48,240 --> 02:03:53,160
Speaker 7: No, he's getting married this week, marriage town, marriage down.

2444
02:03:53,400 --> 02:03:55,040
Speaker 2: Down, he told the group.

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02:03:55,520 --> 02:03:58,600
Speaker 7: I later dropped hints that I wouldn't be online much either,

2446
02:03:58,960 --> 02:04:02,960
Speaker 7: since I had over during planning for this trip. Is

2447
02:04:03,000 --> 02:04:04,480
Speaker 7: also when we learned what our.

2448
02:04:04,360 --> 02:04:05,280
Speaker 2: Real names were.

2449
02:04:06,920 --> 02:04:07,240
Speaker 3: Wait.

2450
02:04:07,440 --> 02:04:10,840
Speaker 7: Wait, so you plan to to like visit each other

2451
02:04:11,720 --> 02:04:13,720
Speaker 7: and still didn't know each other's names.

2452
02:04:14,640 --> 02:04:19,080
Speaker 2: That's commitment. That is a leap of faith. Leap of faith.

2453
02:04:19,360 --> 02:04:23,840
Speaker 7: That is a jump up off the off the waterfall,

2454
02:04:25,160 --> 02:04:31,480
Speaker 7: leaping into the hive. Uh and saw pictures of what

2455
02:04:31,520 --> 02:04:34,640
Speaker 7: we looked like. He learned I didn't have red hair

2456
02:04:34,720 --> 02:04:38,760
Speaker 7: like my avatar did, but the color he preferred dirty blond.

2457
02:04:39,240 --> 02:04:41,520
Speaker 3: You guys didn't know what one another looked like.

2458
02:04:41,560 --> 02:04:43,040
Speaker 7: No, they didn't know what they looked like. They didn't

2459
02:04:43,040 --> 02:04:46,720
Speaker 7: know their names. It was purely like penpal.

2460
02:04:47,120 --> 02:04:49,360
Speaker 4: What's that one show where Love is Blind or whatever?

2461
02:04:49,600 --> 02:04:50,240
Speaker 2: Love is Blind?

2462
02:04:50,440 --> 02:04:52,520
Speaker 7: His Love is Blind? But you also don't know their names?

2463
02:04:52,560 --> 02:04:54,320
Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, the TV show on Netflix?

2464
02:04:54,640 --> 02:04:55,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, Love is Blind?

2465
02:04:55,680 --> 02:04:58,680
Speaker 7: Oh no no no, Love is Blind?

2466
02:05:00,000 --> 02:05:02,040
Speaker 3: Would you ever go on Love is Blind?

2467
02:05:01,560 --> 02:05:01,600
Speaker 2: No?

2468
02:05:02,200 --> 02:05:02,480
Speaker 5: Go on it.

2469
02:05:02,520 --> 02:05:04,360
Speaker 7: I don't think I could go on any relationship, don't know,

2470
02:05:05,120 --> 02:05:05,600
Speaker 7: would you?

2471
02:05:05,920 --> 02:05:08,720
Speaker 2: I can't. I would never check in with me in

2472
02:05:08,800 --> 02:05:12,440
Speaker 2: like fo or five years, like we'll see, we'll see

2473
02:05:12,440 --> 02:05:14,880
Speaker 2: where I'm We'll see. Yeah.

2474
02:05:15,040 --> 02:05:17,280
Speaker 7: Now, I just feel like like all of those relationships

2475
02:05:17,320 --> 02:05:19,920
Speaker 7: like dating shows like what's the other one? Love Island?

2476
02:05:20,720 --> 02:05:22,360
Speaker 7: I feel like it would be too easy for me.

2477
02:05:23,200 --> 02:05:24,040
Speaker 2: What do you mean?

2478
02:05:24,280 --> 02:05:26,800
Speaker 7: Like, I like the rules are that you can't like

2479
02:05:27,200 --> 02:05:30,400
Speaker 7: sleep with someone or engage in any like intimate acity.

2480
02:05:30,160 --> 02:05:31,360
Speaker 3: That's too hot to handle?

2481
02:05:31,440 --> 02:05:34,840
Speaker 2: Oh, too hot to handle me? Break it down? Yeah?

2482
02:05:34,880 --> 02:05:37,760
Speaker 3: Oh yeah yeah no, but they want people.

2483
02:05:37,480 --> 02:05:40,080
Speaker 7: Who exactly I don't think I could get on the show.

2484
02:05:40,200 --> 02:05:43,800
Speaker 7: I'm in the bedroom, yeah yeah yeah. But Love is Blind.

2485
02:05:43,840 --> 02:05:47,440
Speaker 3: I feel like it's a wide array of people on there,

2486
02:05:47,600 --> 02:05:50,040
Speaker 3: But this is that situation. I can't believe you guys

2487
02:05:50,080 --> 02:05:51,240
Speaker 3: didn't know what each other looked like.

2488
02:05:51,920 --> 02:05:53,000
Speaker 2: You should go on love is Blind.

2489
02:05:53,320 --> 02:05:55,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, well they're getting med ye.

2490
02:05:55,120 --> 02:05:56,080
Speaker 2: Right, it's too late.

2491
02:05:57,760 --> 02:05:59,920
Speaker 7: You should You should both go on love is Blind

2492
02:06:00,520 --> 02:06:06,760
Speaker 7: and then just relive this. We enjoyed watching them talk

2493
02:06:06,760 --> 02:06:10,240
Speaker 7: about our hypothetical meeting in the group chat without knowing

2494
02:06:10,320 --> 02:06:13,800
Speaker 7: we were still watching the chat. He showed up and

2495
02:06:13,840 --> 02:06:16,200
Speaker 7: it was a lovely week. We popped in the group

2496
02:06:16,280 --> 02:06:18,760
Speaker 7: chat once and for all to confirm that we were

2497
02:06:18,800 --> 02:06:20,360
Speaker 7: indeed together.

2498
02:06:20,440 --> 02:06:22,040
Speaker 2: Now that's KEYO sweet.

2499
02:06:22,400 --> 02:06:24,800
Speaker 7: The group was more excited than I have ever imagined

2500
02:06:24,800 --> 02:06:27,280
Speaker 7: people would be for my dating life. Oh here, I

2501
02:06:27,320 --> 02:06:31,040
Speaker 7: am now happily married to a man I met online

2502
02:06:31,080 --> 02:06:34,240
Speaker 7: since twenty fifteen, and our whole love story started as

2503
02:06:34,280 --> 02:06:36,760
Speaker 7: a joke. So be careful what you joke about. You

2504
02:06:36,840 --> 02:06:38,000
Speaker 7: never know what might happen.

2505
02:06:38,120 --> 02:06:42,320
Speaker 2: I'm gonna start joking with everybody, so many jokes.

2506
02:06:42,520 --> 02:06:44,880
Speaker 7: Yeah, I guess you shouldn't be careful. I think the

2507
02:06:44,880 --> 02:06:46,800
Speaker 7: moral of this story is don't be careful when you

2508
02:06:46,880 --> 02:06:49,200
Speaker 7: joke about, because it might end up.

2509
02:06:49,360 --> 02:06:52,760
Speaker 2: Finding the love of your life. Wow. And also talk

2510
02:06:52,840 --> 02:06:54,080
Speaker 2: to strangers.

2511
02:06:53,880 --> 02:06:55,400
Speaker 3: Two thousand miles away, two.

2512
02:06:55,240 --> 02:06:56,440
Speaker 2: Thousand miles away.

2513
02:06:57,120 --> 02:06:58,760
Speaker 7: And this is to answer the question of when is

2514
02:06:58,800 --> 02:07:02,280
Speaker 7: it worth it to push aside complications for love? Now

2515
02:07:03,000 --> 02:07:05,600
Speaker 7: this this is the second right for the second push

2516
02:07:05,640 --> 02:07:09,440
Speaker 7: those complications aside, unless they have a partner already. Yes,

2517
02:07:09,640 --> 02:07:14,120
Speaker 7: if the complication is they have a partner, push that aside,

2518
02:07:14,160 --> 02:07:14,880
Speaker 7: Push that aside.

2519
02:07:15,280 --> 02:07:16,400
Speaker 2: But if the complication is.

2520
02:07:16,400 --> 02:07:18,840
Speaker 7: They're two thousand miles away and you don't know their name,

2521
02:07:19,440 --> 02:07:21,560
Speaker 7: push those complications aside.

2522
02:07:21,600 --> 02:07:22,320
Speaker 2: They don't matter.

2523
02:07:22,920 --> 02:07:25,560
Speaker 3: Distance is hard, and I think, you know, you guys

2524
02:07:25,680 --> 02:07:28,280
Speaker 3: clearly wanted to make it work, and that's really beautiful.

2525
02:07:28,520 --> 02:07:28,840
Speaker 2: Yeah.

2526
02:07:29,640 --> 02:07:33,600
Speaker 7: No, I think also because it started as an online friendship,

2527
02:07:33,640 --> 02:07:36,640
Speaker 7: I think it was easier already to maybe reach the gah.

2528
02:07:36,640 --> 02:07:39,560
Speaker 7: But like, yeah, that gay was already like the relationship

2529
02:07:39,600 --> 02:07:42,280
Speaker 7: was already long distance the thing, so it was yeah.

2530
02:07:42,800 --> 02:07:47,720
Speaker 3: Holy moly, holy moly, how did you how did you

2531
02:07:47,720 --> 02:07:49,400
Speaker 3: guys decide where to move?

2532
02:07:50,040 --> 02:07:52,520
Speaker 7: Like that's true? Who if did you draw stalls too?

2533
02:07:52,640 --> 02:07:54,280
Speaker 3: Yeah? That's what I want to know.

2534
02:07:54,440 --> 02:07:56,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to know more.

2535
02:07:57,360 --> 02:07:59,520
Speaker 7: Rich Confusion thirty nine ninety six.

2536
02:07:59,560 --> 02:08:00,480
Speaker 2: If you're year.

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02:08:02,040 --> 02:08:05,240
Speaker 7: Sound off, oh wait, Titan Summer, says Opie is in

2538
02:08:05,320 --> 02:08:05,800
Speaker 7: the chat.

2539
02:08:06,720 --> 02:08:08,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so. I think I saw that.

2540
02:08:08,520 --> 02:08:12,440
Speaker 7: Wait text message Riley on the discord. I want to

2541
02:08:12,480 --> 02:08:18,280
Speaker 7: hear more about your story. Melinda Burgess says, this could

2542
02:08:18,280 --> 02:08:20,600
Speaker 7: be my story with my husband, moved across the country

2543
02:08:20,600 --> 02:08:23,880
Speaker 7: for him, married now got a beautiful daughter. All from

2544
02:08:23,920 --> 02:08:25,840
Speaker 7: a husband and wife on a random mobile game.

2545
02:08:25,840 --> 02:08:26,560
Speaker 3: That's wow.

2546
02:08:27,280 --> 02:08:30,080
Speaker 7: Everyone's saying spin the wheel and also apparently Opie is

2547
02:08:30,080 --> 02:08:31,120
Speaker 7: in the chat somewhere.

2548
02:08:32,000 --> 02:08:34,080
Speaker 2: Let's go hit Riley up.

2549
02:08:34,000 --> 02:08:35,480
Speaker 7: So we can hear more of your story because we

2550
02:08:35,520 --> 02:08:39,440
Speaker 7: want to know how you decided to pick a.

2551
02:08:41,360 --> 02:08:45,200
Speaker 2: Place to live. Here we goes, we're spinning that.

2552
02:08:45,240 --> 02:08:49,440
Speaker 7: Willia ballersh ben that well.

2553
02:08:55,120 --> 02:08:58,280
Speaker 4: We have a new video that we're gonna share with everyone.

2554
02:08:58,400 --> 02:09:00,560
Speaker 4: But Sophia, I'm gonna need you to read these donations

2555
02:09:00,560 --> 02:09:01,120
Speaker 4: as I said that.

2556
02:09:01,120 --> 02:09:04,480
Speaker 7: Up sure Lynette Petalbert, thank you for the five buck tip.

2557
02:09:04,720 --> 02:09:06,440
Speaker 7: Hey guys, first time donating.

2558
02:09:06,520 --> 02:09:06,920
Speaker 2: Thank you.

2559
02:09:07,440 --> 02:09:09,640
Speaker 7: I'm going through some stuff and I wish I could

2560
02:09:10,040 --> 02:09:12,680
Speaker 7: tell you the story, but I'm not on Reddit. You

2561
02:09:12,680 --> 02:09:15,520
Speaker 7: guys make me feel less alone. I love y'all, we

2562
02:09:15,600 --> 02:09:16,000
Speaker 7: love you.

2563
02:09:16,520 --> 02:09:16,880
Speaker 2: Put it.

2564
02:09:16,920 --> 02:09:18,560
Speaker 7: If you're on the discord, you could put in the

2565
02:09:18,600 --> 02:09:24,000
Speaker 7: discord if you want to tell the story, but but no,

2566
02:09:24,000 --> 02:09:25,040
Speaker 7: no worries either way.

2567
02:09:25,080 --> 02:09:25,360
Speaker 2: Thank you.

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02:09:25,400 --> 02:09:27,240
Speaker 7: I hope that you're okay, and thank you for the tip.

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02:09:27,760 --> 02:09:30,120
Speaker 7: Were there any was that all them?

2570
02:09:30,480 --> 02:09:31,680
Speaker 2: Ley trying to.

2571
02:09:31,680 --> 02:09:31,920
Speaker 7: Get this.

2572
02:09:33,560 --> 02:09:34,320
Speaker 2: Okay?

2573
02:09:35,320 --> 02:09:38,800
Speaker 7: Op and husband are watching. We want to talk to you.

2574
02:09:39,880 --> 02:09:42,280
Speaker 7: I feel like I keep missing them. Hit me up, yeah,

2575
02:09:42,360 --> 02:09:47,840
Speaker 7: hit Riley up on the discord.

2576
02:09:45,800 --> 02:09:54,320
Speaker 2: Discord discord read that what Yes, I did. It'll be

2577
02:09:54,400 --> 02:09:59,680
Speaker 2: so worth it. Just keep so freaking ready. U.

2578
02:10:00,040 --> 02:10:01,360
Speaker 7: What's how's your day going?

2579
02:10:03,480 --> 02:10:03,720
Speaker 5: You know?

2580
02:10:04,160 --> 02:10:08,520
Speaker 2: I think I think good. I could be good, could

2581
02:10:08,560 --> 02:10:08,880
Speaker 2: be good.

2582
02:10:08,920 --> 02:10:12,120
Speaker 7: I mean I went to work nice, and then you

2583
02:10:12,160 --> 02:10:14,920
Speaker 7: went to work two point zero or two point.

2584
02:10:14,760 --> 02:10:18,880
Speaker 2: Oh and I stopped talking. I don't want to know

2585
02:10:18,880 --> 02:10:19,720
Speaker 2: about your day anymore.

2586
02:10:19,840 --> 02:10:21,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, here we are, everyone woo.

2587
02:10:22,640 --> 02:10:30,720
Speaker 5: The sequel, in a kingdom ruled by fear, the worm

2588
02:10:30,800 --> 02:10:36,240
Speaker 5: Queen's tyranny grows with each passing day. One man, John,

2589
02:10:36,720 --> 02:10:39,400
Speaker 5: the Lord commander of the City Watch known as the

2590
02:10:39,400 --> 02:10:46,400
Speaker 5: Orange Cloaks, foresaw this darkness. The beloved hand of the

2591
02:10:46,480 --> 02:10:52,920
Speaker 5: Queen vanished, leaving the kingdom in peril. As hope fades,

2592
02:10:53,520 --> 02:10:59,200
Speaker 5: John knows he must act to save the realm. Meanwhile, Sam,

2593
02:10:59,280 --> 02:11:02,440
Speaker 5: the Pigeon Lord commander of the Queen's guard and brother

2594
02:11:02,560 --> 02:11:07,760
Speaker 5: to the queen, faces an impossible choice. Will he stand

2595
02:11:07,840 --> 02:11:11,280
Speaker 5: by his sister or protect the kingdom from her wrath

2596
02:11:12,920 --> 02:11:15,600
Speaker 5: In a battle between love and loyalty. The fate of

2597
02:11:15,680 --> 02:11:19,480
Speaker 5: the kingdom hangs in the hands of Sam.

2598
02:11:20,120 --> 02:11:22,400
Speaker 2: Leave the Pride Lads and never return.

2599
02:11:25,640 --> 02:11:27,480
Speaker 3: That was so good, so good.

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Speaker 2: I've not seen this.

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02:11:28,920 --> 02:11:31,800
Speaker 7: I specifically didn't watch this, guys, because I wanted to

2602
02:11:31,800 --> 02:11:32,880
Speaker 7: watch it on stream.

2603
02:11:33,000 --> 02:11:34,120
Speaker 2: That's so good.

2604
02:11:34,200 --> 02:11:35,720
Speaker 4: It was such a good ai voice.

2605
02:11:35,480 --> 02:11:40,160
Speaker 7: Of John like an evil ruler?

2606
02:11:41,440 --> 02:11:42,360
Speaker 2: Did I become evil?

2607
02:11:42,560 --> 02:11:44,640
Speaker 4: What were you for your birthday? What do you mean

2608
02:11:44,800 --> 02:11:47,120
Speaker 4: an evil queen? You were right?

2609
02:11:47,480 --> 02:11:48,520
Speaker 2: No, I was just a queen.

2610
02:11:48,680 --> 02:11:49,880
Speaker 4: Oh thought you were an evil queen?

2611
02:11:50,320 --> 02:11:50,480
Speaker 3: No?

2612
02:11:50,560 --> 02:11:56,040
Speaker 7: I just beheaded the losers, not evil. That was so good,

2613
02:11:56,320 --> 02:11:56,840
Speaker 7: so good.

2614
02:11:57,080 --> 02:11:57,320
Speaker 2: Yeah.

2615
02:11:57,360 --> 02:12:00,000
Speaker 7: Also the audio was great.

2616
02:12:00,200 --> 02:12:03,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, you killed that, Sarah.

2617
02:12:03,520 --> 02:12:05,360
Speaker 2: I've always over Yeah.

2618
02:12:06,440 --> 02:12:10,600
Speaker 7: Game of Thrones. Someone said, but okay, story of Time. Wow,

2619
02:12:10,960 --> 02:12:14,879
Speaker 7: I am I Uh what's her name? Uh, dear Denis?

2620
02:12:16,480 --> 02:12:16,760
Speaker 3: Did it?

2621
02:12:17,840 --> 02:12:18,280
Speaker 2: Sorry?

2622
02:12:18,320 --> 02:12:21,640
Speaker 7: Okay, I've only seen five seasons, I think I I've

2623
02:12:21,960 --> 02:12:23,520
Speaker 7: Some people have told me I look a little bit

2624
02:12:23,600 --> 02:12:25,280
Speaker 7: like the younger Rania.

2625
02:12:25,920 --> 02:12:27,760
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, which I like.

2626
02:12:28,560 --> 02:12:32,440
Speaker 7: Yeah, And Smitheen says, I can't believe Sophia is a tyrants.

2627
02:12:33,720 --> 02:12:35,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're not giving tyrant.

2628
02:12:35,360 --> 02:12:38,480
Speaker 7: What the heck, guy, I'm not giving I need I

2629
02:12:38,560 --> 02:12:42,640
Speaker 7: need to I need to take control. Yeah, I need

2630
02:12:42,640 --> 02:12:46,800
Speaker 7: people to bow to my will. The other armies are

2631
02:12:47,120 --> 02:12:48,600
Speaker 7: they're they're getting too powerful.

2632
02:12:49,320 --> 02:12:50,480
Speaker 2: They need to know other place.

2633
02:12:51,360 --> 02:12:54,560
Speaker 4: If you're put your emoji or what your clan is,

2634
02:12:54,600 --> 02:13:00,680
Speaker 4: you got big protein worms oranges, pigeons, We'll figure out

2635
02:13:00,680 --> 02:13:04,280
Speaker 4: Molly's Molly will get you an emoji one of these days.

2636
02:13:04,640 --> 02:13:06,960
Speaker 4: Of these days, you'll get your own army.

2637
02:13:07,000 --> 02:13:11,160
Speaker 10: Who's the orange John John because he's from Florida?

2638
02:13:12,000 --> 02:13:16,520
Speaker 7: Yeah, alrighty, do you want to read the next story?

2639
02:13:16,960 --> 02:13:18,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's do it. Riley, can I have your phone?

2640
02:13:19,080 --> 02:13:19,720
Speaker 2: Let's do it?

2641
02:13:20,840 --> 02:13:30,720
Speaker 3: Sure.

2642
02:13:22,400 --> 02:13:35,280
Speaker 7: Somebody digital says she's just a queen that heads losers.

2643
02:13:35,280 --> 02:13:35,560
Speaker 2: Guys.

2644
02:13:35,560 --> 02:13:42,879
Speaker 7: She's not evil, She's just quirky like that. Everyone's got flaws.

2645
02:13:43,560 --> 02:13:51,280
Speaker 2: Hm, no, just the bold z bird.

2646
02:13:52,200 --> 02:13:59,520
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, oh, Riley, so adorable, boy, were really quickly

2647
02:13:59,600 --> 02:14:01,000
Speaker 3: king ram me through the emojis.

2648
02:14:01,200 --> 02:14:05,360
Speaker 4: Yep, so you got you got the worms for number one,

2649
02:14:05,480 --> 02:14:08,600
Speaker 4: and then you got my worm color this one, and

2650
02:14:08,640 --> 02:14:10,720
Speaker 4: then you got uh so you got you got pigeon

2651
02:14:10,840 --> 02:14:12,960
Speaker 4: for a big protein. No, no, you got the meat

2652
02:14:13,000 --> 02:14:17,160
Speaker 4: for big protein, pigeon for pigeon boy, uh, worm for sofia,

2653
02:14:17,240 --> 02:14:20,200
Speaker 4: and then orange for John the pigeon.

2654
02:14:20,640 --> 02:14:20,760
Speaker 9: Uh.

2655
02:14:21,000 --> 02:14:25,040
Speaker 4: One time we did a swap personality and John was

2656
02:14:25,920 --> 02:14:28,040
Speaker 4: acting as Sam and he said, oh my gosh, I

2657
02:14:28,040 --> 02:14:31,200
Speaker 4: read this article about pigeons and everyone called him pigeon boy.

2658
02:14:31,200 --> 02:14:33,080
Speaker 4: I think Sophie and I WinCE Stream were like, call

2659
02:14:33,160 --> 02:14:35,440
Speaker 4: him pigeon boy, and everyone did.

2660
02:14:35,480 --> 02:14:36,280
Speaker 2: And yeah, we.

2661
02:14:36,240 --> 02:14:38,720
Speaker 7: Told yeah, oh, we told everyone to do it and

2662
02:14:38,760 --> 02:14:42,440
Speaker 7: they did. And now, oh, Nicole Hadden says, Molly's an

2663
02:14:42,480 --> 02:14:46,680
Speaker 7: ice cube because she's so chill. Whoa, you've got kind

2664
02:14:46,720 --> 02:14:49,800
Speaker 7: of the ice cube. I love that. Thank you for that,

2665
02:14:49,920 --> 02:14:54,000
Speaker 7: even if that doesn't become my thing. I really appreciate you.

2666
02:14:54,160 --> 02:14:56,600
Speaker 7: I really do, because well, we're not going to go

2667
02:14:56,640 --> 02:15:01,160
Speaker 7: into my feelings about are you certain things? No, just

2668
02:15:01,160 --> 02:15:05,920
Speaker 7: like you know, sometimes people make comments and you're like

2669
02:15:06,400 --> 02:15:10,560
Speaker 7: my ex and you know you're like and so that

2670
02:15:10,760 --> 02:15:11,680
Speaker 7: just made me feel better.

2671
02:15:16,760 --> 02:15:19,160
Speaker 4: Time out. We gotta, we gotta, we gotta hold up.

2672
02:15:19,160 --> 02:15:22,440
Speaker 4: We got her lady from the last story on the line.

2673
02:15:22,840 --> 02:15:24,960
Speaker 7: Yes, okay, I was stalling a little bit because I

2674
02:15:25,000 --> 02:15:25,480
Speaker 7: wanted her.

2675
02:15:25,360 --> 02:15:26,120
Speaker 2: To breathe.

2676
02:15:27,960 --> 02:15:34,320
Speaker 4: Everyone how to say her name? Armela or Armia?

2677
02:15:34,480 --> 02:15:35,120
Speaker 2: Here we go.

2678
02:15:38,560 --> 02:15:41,760
Speaker 4: Would be joining momentarily looks steady.

2679
02:15:42,680 --> 02:15:42,880
Speaker 2: Hello.

2680
02:15:43,280 --> 02:15:49,080
Speaker 4: Hello, I don't know if your mic is on? Can

2681
02:15:49,120 --> 02:15:49,520
Speaker 4: you hear us?

2682
02:15:50,120 --> 02:15:50,240
Speaker 7: Hi?

2683
02:15:50,760 --> 02:15:53,360
Speaker 2: Hello? Hello? Hi?

2684
02:15:55,040 --> 02:15:55,240
Speaker 3: Hi?

2685
02:15:55,640 --> 02:15:58,920
Speaker 7: Tell us more your love story.

2686
02:15:59,200 --> 02:15:59,960
Speaker 2: It was so sweet.

2687
02:16:01,000 --> 02:16:06,400
Speaker 7: Yes, uh yeah, Hey, my husband is actually right here

2688
02:16:06,440 --> 02:16:06,760
Speaker 7: with me.

2689
02:16:07,320 --> 02:16:10,480
Speaker 2: Let's go Hello. Hello.

2690
02:16:10,680 --> 02:16:13,160
Speaker 4: Can you tell us about like your first impressions on

2691
02:16:13,600 --> 02:16:16,280
Speaker 4: like seeing each other, because we got his perspective that

2692
02:16:16,880 --> 02:16:18,960
Speaker 4: dirty blonds, But what was your perspective?

2693
02:16:19,080 --> 02:16:19,240
Speaker 2: Yeah?

2694
02:16:19,280 --> 02:16:22,440
Speaker 7: What were you expecting? And was it? Did he live up?

2695
02:16:22,880 --> 02:16:29,600
Speaker 7: Presumably he did? He actually looked nothing like I'm usually

2696
02:16:29,640 --> 02:16:30,000
Speaker 7: go for.

2697
02:16:30,440 --> 02:16:37,400
Speaker 2: Oh, I really like long hair. His hair was short.

2698
02:16:37,800 --> 02:16:39,000
Speaker 2: I prefer black hair.

2699
02:16:39,120 --> 02:16:40,920
Speaker 7: His dirty blonde and so on.

2700
02:16:42,360 --> 02:16:43,880
Speaker 3: Not your typical type.

2701
02:16:45,760 --> 02:16:49,160
Speaker 7: No, but the longer I spent with him, the more

2702
02:16:49,200 --> 02:16:50,240
Speaker 7: I fell for him.

2703
02:16:50,320 --> 02:16:53,959
Speaker 2: And after a while it mattered.

2704
02:16:54,360 --> 02:16:59,080
Speaker 7: And how did you guys decide like to move? Did

2705
02:16:59,120 --> 02:17:02,240
Speaker 7: you did you just kind of alternate visiting each other?

2706
02:17:02,480 --> 02:17:07,160
Speaker 7: When when did you decide to you know, bridge the

2707
02:17:07,200 --> 02:17:09,240
Speaker 7: gap and move to one place or another?

2708
02:17:12,160 --> 02:17:17,880
Speaker 8: Uh so, about about a year after uh I came

2709
02:17:17,920 --> 02:17:23,160
Speaker 8: over to see her, Uh, so the two I saw

2710
02:17:23,200 --> 02:17:26,400
Speaker 8: you guys were talking about the two thousand miles. So

2711
02:17:26,840 --> 02:17:32,080
Speaker 8: I'm originally from Washington State, m hm, and I is Michigan.

2712
02:17:32,680 --> 02:17:39,120
Speaker 7: Oh wow, that is a lot of that's yeah, that's miles.

2713
02:17:40,200 --> 02:17:47,560
Speaker 8: So uh at the time, as as it said, I

2714
02:17:47,600 --> 02:17:50,119
Speaker 8: was taking I was taking my mom to dialysis.

2715
02:17:50,879 --> 02:17:52,080
Speaker 4: So we.

2716
02:17:54,200 --> 02:17:58,680
Speaker 8: When we made up, when we made a plan too

2717
02:17:59,440 --> 02:18:05,760
Speaker 8: to try and move moved together. Ari actually came over

2718
02:18:05,920 --> 02:18:14,160
Speaker 8: to Uh, she actually came over to to Washington because

2719
02:18:14,360 --> 02:18:17,080
Speaker 8: it was going to it was the plan of I

2720
02:18:17,080 --> 02:18:20,080
Speaker 8: would help take care of my mom for about five

2721
02:18:20,520 --> 02:18:25,800
Speaker 8: five more years, uh, until my dad was able to

2722
02:18:25,840 --> 02:18:29,800
Speaker 8: retire from his job, and then he was actually gonna

2723
02:18:30,320 --> 02:18:34,600
Speaker 8: take over taking my mom to dialysis and helping her

2724
02:18:34,680 --> 02:18:41,119
Speaker 8: ound the house like I was. So originally she moved

2725
02:18:41,160 --> 02:18:48,320
Speaker 8: over to Washington, but my mom, my mom passed soon

2726
02:18:48,400 --> 02:18:51,000
Speaker 8: after we made the agreement of she was moving over

2727
02:18:51,920 --> 02:18:55,120
Speaker 8: and then I moved a few years ago, we both

2728
02:18:55,160 --> 02:18:59,840
Speaker 8: moved back to Michigan because of her dad's.

2729
02:18:59,640 --> 02:19:04,039
Speaker 2: And it's where you guys are now. Yeah, lovely.

2730
02:19:05,800 --> 02:19:08,359
Speaker 7: Yeah, And also we have a lot of people asking

2731
02:19:08,440 --> 02:19:11,920
Speaker 7: the chat, how like was it truly just coincidence that

2732
02:19:12,000 --> 02:19:14,000
Speaker 7: you knew her name or you got her name right

2733
02:19:14,040 --> 02:19:15,760
Speaker 7: in the story that you sent.

2734
02:19:17,040 --> 02:19:18,800
Speaker 2: It was pure coincidence.

2735
02:19:18,840 --> 02:19:24,760
Speaker 8: I knew nothing about the true Wow, you have the

2736
02:19:24,800 --> 02:19:26,000
Speaker 8: time that I wrote the story.

2737
02:19:26,440 --> 02:19:28,880
Speaker 7: Whoa, that's so it's it's faded.

2738
02:19:29,320 --> 02:19:30,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was meant to be.

2739
02:19:31,240 --> 02:19:33,440
Speaker 7: Thank you well, thank you so much for calling in

2740
02:19:33,480 --> 02:19:36,560
Speaker 7: and telling us about your story. We really love to

2741
02:19:36,600 --> 02:19:36,960
Speaker 7: hear it.

2742
02:19:36,959 --> 02:19:41,000
Speaker 2: It's so cute. Thank you for reading it. Of course,

2743
02:19:41,360 --> 02:19:42,119
Speaker 2: we have.

2744
02:19:42,040 --> 02:19:43,600
Speaker 7: A great rest of your day and we'll see you

2745
02:19:43,680 --> 02:19:45,120
Speaker 7: back in the in the chat.

2746
02:19:45,760 --> 02:19:51,240
Speaker 2: Mm hmm, bye bye. That's just that's crazy.

2747
02:19:53,920 --> 02:19:56,240
Speaker 7: What what coincidences?

2748
02:19:56,360 --> 02:19:57,560
Speaker 3: So that's so awesome.

2749
02:19:57,640 --> 02:19:59,080
Speaker 2: The universe works in mysterious ways.

2750
02:19:59,160 --> 02:19:59,360
Speaker 3: Yeah.

2751
02:19:59,400 --> 02:19:59,960
Speaker 2: I love love.

2752
02:20:00,080 --> 02:20:02,440
Speaker 3: Then, I love people. I love love, and I love

2753
02:20:02,480 --> 02:20:04,280
Speaker 3: people fighting for their love, you know.

2754
02:20:04,600 --> 02:20:09,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, just trying hard to keep it. Ava looks

2755
02:20:09,480 --> 02:20:12,960
Speaker 2: very cute. She's sleeping so cute. I love doggies. I

2756
02:20:13,000 --> 02:20:16,000
Speaker 2: love love, I love it. I love dogs. And that'sh

2757
02:20:16,080 --> 02:20:18,400
Speaker 2: about it things.

2758
02:20:19,720 --> 02:20:22,680
Speaker 7: Eric Peter Allen, thank you for celebrating one month of membership.

2759
02:20:22,840 --> 02:20:25,720
Speaker 7: I love everyone, and I want to add that there

2760
02:20:25,800 --> 02:20:29,600
Speaker 7: is a god emperor worm Licho the second within the

2761
02:20:29,720 --> 02:20:31,039
Speaker 7: Dune series book four.

2762
02:20:31,160 --> 02:20:35,080
Speaker 2: This is wow. That's some war that's some more them

2763
02:20:35,160 --> 02:20:39,879
Speaker 2: doune more alrighty, alrighty, everybody, let's hurt it.

2764
02:20:40,760 --> 02:20:42,800
Speaker 3: I am in love with my friends with benefits, but

2765
02:20:42,879 --> 02:20:44,400
Speaker 3: he's giving mixed signals.

2766
02:20:45,160 --> 02:20:46,320
Speaker 2: What do I do not.

2767
02:20:46,360 --> 02:20:53,240
Speaker 7: Another mixed signals? Friends with benefits man mixed signals in general?

2768
02:20:54,040 --> 02:20:57,760
Speaker 7: No go, no, stop giving mixed signals. Yeah, so just

2769
02:20:57,760 --> 02:21:00,760
Speaker 7: just give one signal one it's green.

2770
02:21:00,879 --> 02:21:01,199
Speaker 2: Please.

2771
02:21:02,360 --> 02:21:04,160
Speaker 3: By the way, you can join us live on YouTube

2772
02:21:04,240 --> 02:21:06,240
Speaker 3: every weekday at three pm PST.

2773
02:21:06,560 --> 02:21:14,680
Speaker 2: Just have our profile. So can I say that? Yeah?

2774
02:21:14,800 --> 02:21:17,280
Speaker 7: But also this comes from our slash Okay story time.

2775
02:21:17,560 --> 02:21:24,800
Speaker 2: Oh yeah it does. Sweet you can say that, but

2776
02:21:26,000 --> 02:21:27,480
Speaker 2: so click.

2777
02:21:28,800 --> 02:21:30,920
Speaker 3: That's not a word that we use off and you

2778
02:21:30,959 --> 02:21:33,120
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. Unless you're like in bed and

2779
02:21:33,200 --> 02:21:35,039
Speaker 3: trying to like like over.

2780
02:21:34,840 --> 02:21:44,920
Speaker 2: Here, bro, you're left, You're left? Okay? Sorry, guys?

2781
02:21:45,360 --> 02:21:49,840
Speaker 7: What's that? What's that song called? You know when they

2782
02:21:49,840 --> 02:21:50,560
Speaker 7: played weddings?

2783
02:21:51,400 --> 02:21:57,960
Speaker 2: Oh we did this last time. It was the left goodness?

2784
02:22:00,440 --> 02:22:04,520
Speaker 4: Yeah with them than with.

2785
02:22:04,560 --> 02:22:10,240
Speaker 3: The Okay, what's the rest of the so klit underscore?

2786
02:22:10,400 --> 02:22:14,560
Speaker 3: The non binary elf says, I love that. By the way,

2787
02:22:15,520 --> 02:22:18,160
Speaker 3: I twenty three female met a guy twenty two male

2788
02:22:18,640 --> 02:22:22,080
Speaker 3: Jack about a year ago. Through a friend. I had

2789
02:22:22,160 --> 02:22:24,959
Speaker 3: just gotten out of a very toxic relationship and Jack

2790
02:22:25,080 --> 02:22:27,400
Speaker 3: as well. He made it clear from the start that

2791
02:22:27,400 --> 02:22:29,879
Speaker 3: he's not interested in a relationship and if something were

2792
02:22:29,879 --> 02:22:32,240
Speaker 3: to happen between us that it would be strictly casual

2793
02:22:32,560 --> 02:22:35,080
Speaker 3: friends with benefits. Okay, so we're putting it out.

2794
02:22:34,879 --> 02:22:35,760
Speaker 2: There, Yeah, we know.

2795
02:22:35,959 --> 02:22:38,480
Speaker 7: Well, at least we got like clear line of communication.

2796
02:22:38,879 --> 02:22:40,360
Speaker 2: Yes, always good.

2797
02:22:41,040 --> 02:22:43,400
Speaker 3: This arrangement fit me well since I was still going

2798
02:22:43,400 --> 02:22:45,600
Speaker 3: through trauma therapy with my life coach at the time

2799
02:22:45,640 --> 02:22:48,360
Speaker 3: and knew I wasn't ready for a commitment. The day

2800
02:22:48,360 --> 02:22:50,520
Speaker 3: after we first slept together, he picked me up for

2801
02:22:50,640 --> 02:22:54,959
Speaker 3: netball practice and explained that his ex recently broke up

2802
02:22:55,000 --> 02:22:57,680
Speaker 3: with him, threw a complete fit when she found out

2803
02:22:57,720 --> 02:23:00,680
Speaker 3: about me, and that he would just like to distance

2804
02:23:00,760 --> 02:23:03,640
Speaker 3: himself from all girls since he's tired of the drama.

2805
02:23:04,200 --> 02:23:06,039
Speaker 2: Okay, well, I don't love that energy.

2806
02:23:05,879 --> 02:23:09,520
Speaker 3: Don't love that, but okay, Apparently she has been stringing

2807
02:23:09,640 --> 02:23:11,760
Speaker 3: him along for months and when she found out he

2808
02:23:11,800 --> 02:23:13,760
Speaker 3: had a girl over and asked him about it, he

2809
02:23:13,879 --> 02:23:17,600
Speaker 3: was honest. I gave him his space for a couple

2810
02:23:17,600 --> 02:23:19,800
Speaker 3: of months, and we began seeing each other at practice

2811
02:23:19,840 --> 02:23:21,160
Speaker 3: again and going out as a group.

2812
02:23:21,520 --> 02:23:25,240
Speaker 7: Okay, wait, so the girl, the ex girlfriend found out

2813
02:23:25,320 --> 02:23:27,400
Speaker 7: and then he was like, I have to distance myself

2814
02:23:27,400 --> 02:23:28,880
Speaker 7: from the youth specifical girls.

2815
02:23:28,959 --> 02:23:29,279
Speaker 2: Okay.

2816
02:23:29,440 --> 02:23:32,160
Speaker 7: I thought he was singling her out, like I'm gonna

2817
02:23:32,160 --> 02:23:33,240
Speaker 7: see you but not anyone else.

2818
02:23:33,520 --> 02:23:35,160
Speaker 3: Okay, No, I think he was just like, you know what,

2819
02:23:35,200 --> 02:23:38,960
Speaker 3: this is drama, wet a pause, got a pause. At

2820
02:23:39,040 --> 02:23:40,800
Speaker 3: least he was communicating yeah away.

2821
02:23:41,720 --> 02:23:44,640
Speaker 7: But at that point it's like is it friends? Is

2822
02:23:45,080 --> 02:23:46,640
Speaker 7: there the friends bit there?

2823
02:23:47,600 --> 02:23:48,520
Speaker 2: Like are they even friends?

2824
02:23:48,720 --> 02:23:53,520
Speaker 7: Are they even friends with benefits?

2825
02:23:54,400 --> 02:23:57,000
Speaker 3: I don't know, Like that's a question, right. Do you

2826
02:23:57,000 --> 02:23:58,600
Speaker 3: think your friendship will ever be the same if you

2827
02:23:58,640 --> 02:23:59,480
Speaker 3: ever hook up with them?

2828
02:24:00,240 --> 02:24:01,640
Speaker 2: I think very few are.

2829
02:24:01,879 --> 02:24:03,680
Speaker 7: I think I think it's possible because I think that

2830
02:24:03,720 --> 02:24:06,000
Speaker 7: people have different like you know, like if you're a

2831
02:24:06,120 --> 02:24:08,160
Speaker 7: romantic or something that might be but that might not

2832
02:24:08,240 --> 02:24:11,280
Speaker 7: even be like a thing that you're thinking of. It depends,

2833
02:24:11,520 --> 02:24:13,879
Speaker 7: but I think I think it's it's pretty hard.

2834
02:24:14,080 --> 02:24:16,240
Speaker 4: I think it's lines crossed with you to make each

2835
02:24:16,240 --> 02:24:21,480
Speaker 4: other orgasm.

2836
02:24:19,120 --> 02:24:26,560
Speaker 7: If that happens, not a real friend.

2837
02:24:27,040 --> 02:24:27,400
Speaker 2: Okay.

2838
02:24:27,480 --> 02:24:29,560
Speaker 3: So about five months after the first hook up, we

2839
02:24:29,640 --> 02:24:32,040
Speaker 3: slept together and he once again made it very clear

2840
02:24:32,040 --> 02:24:34,240
Speaker 3: that he's not ready for a relationship and does not

2841
02:24:34,360 --> 02:24:37,360
Speaker 3: want one. This was once again fine by me since

2842
02:24:37,360 --> 02:24:39,160
Speaker 3: I have no friends in the small town we live

2843
02:24:39,160 --> 02:24:41,680
Speaker 3: in and I enjoy his company. I moved into my

2844
02:24:41,720 --> 02:24:44,440
Speaker 3: parents last year when I discontinued my studies and work

2845
02:24:44,480 --> 02:24:48,720
Speaker 3: from home. There isn't an opportunity to make new friends. Okay,

2846
02:24:48,879 --> 02:24:51,640
Speaker 3: So one friend, okay, and it's the one she's looking up.

2847
02:24:53,680 --> 02:24:55,560
Speaker 3: Fast forward a few months and we're seeing each other

2848
02:24:55,600 --> 02:24:58,400
Speaker 3: at least two to three times per week. That's like

2849
02:24:58,600 --> 02:24:59,880
Speaker 3: relationship status.

2850
02:25:00,200 --> 02:25:00,959
Speaker 2: I think.

2851
02:25:02,280 --> 02:25:04,920
Speaker 3: We're going out to restaurants, cooking it home the.

2852
02:25:05,000 --> 02:25:11,880
Speaker 7: Relationship, Yeah, exactly. At that point, it's like why, I

2853
02:25:11,920 --> 02:25:13,959
Speaker 7: don't know, Like I feel like when you're doing.

2854
02:25:13,720 --> 02:25:17,600
Speaker 2: All of that, like why not label? I don't know.

2855
02:25:17,720 --> 02:25:21,320
Speaker 7: I mean again, people have different different you know, they

2856
02:25:21,320 --> 02:25:23,440
Speaker 7: don't want exclusivity. But I think also you could talk

2857
02:25:23,440 --> 02:25:25,760
Speaker 7: about that and say, hey, yeah, I want this to

2858
02:25:25,760 --> 02:25:26,080
Speaker 7: be a thing.

2859
02:25:26,120 --> 02:25:27,320
Speaker 2: I just don't want it to be exclusive.

2860
02:25:29,640 --> 02:25:31,920
Speaker 3: But I feel like that's where you get into like

2861
02:25:32,240 --> 02:25:33,920
Speaker 3: a sticky situation.

2862
02:25:33,720 --> 02:25:37,520
Speaker 7: Because this is already a sticky situation because it's not

2863
02:25:37,600 --> 02:25:38,480
Speaker 7: casual anymore.

2864
02:25:38,760 --> 02:25:42,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, going out to restaurants, cooking it home, movie nights,

2865
02:25:42,480 --> 02:25:46,560
Speaker 3: game night. A lot of these activities with his roommate included.

2866
02:25:47,360 --> 02:25:49,760
Speaker 3: Jack would do everything for me. I wasn't allowed to

2867
02:25:49,760 --> 02:25:52,920
Speaker 3: pour my own drink, up with dishes, warm up my food,

2868
02:25:52,959 --> 02:25:55,360
Speaker 3: open my own door, let's go.

2869
02:25:55,600 --> 02:25:56,879
Speaker 7: I love this for you.

2870
02:25:58,360 --> 02:26:01,280
Speaker 3: Just chivalry to the max. He didn't want me making

2871
02:26:01,280 --> 02:26:04,320
Speaker 3: the bed or fetching him something or anything. Then he

2872
02:26:04,360 --> 02:26:08,560
Speaker 3: started showing me a lot of affection outside of the bedroom. Okay,

2873
02:26:08,760 --> 02:26:11,560
Speaker 3: so oh man, oh my god, check this out. He

2874
02:26:11,600 --> 02:26:14,000
Speaker 3: would wake me up with kisses on my shoulder and

2875
02:26:14,040 --> 02:26:17,320
Speaker 3: coffee in bed. He would kiss my forehead when we're

2876
02:26:17,320 --> 02:26:20,360
Speaker 3: playing video games and give me long hugs when dropping

2877
02:26:20,360 --> 02:26:24,040
Speaker 3: me off at home. We started texting every day and

2878
02:26:24,080 --> 02:26:27,000
Speaker 3: he would send me a couple reels on install.

2879
02:26:27,080 --> 02:26:31,199
Speaker 7: Oh my god, you're dating. You're dating. You're dating, you're dating,

2880
02:26:31,240 --> 02:26:34,039
Speaker 7: you're dating. This sounds so nice, it sounds great. And

2881
02:26:34,840 --> 02:26:37,560
Speaker 7: god if she says, hey, like, what are we and

2882
02:26:37,640 --> 02:26:45,360
Speaker 7: he says casual? No, yeah, when I find you, Yeah, I.

2883
02:26:45,280 --> 02:26:48,000
Speaker 2: Think this is coming. Let's see. No. No, this is

2884
02:26:48,000 --> 02:26:49,400
Speaker 2: one of the okay, fam I don't want to.

2885
02:26:51,959 --> 02:26:55,120
Speaker 3: He would compliment me constantly, But this is where the

2886
02:26:55,120 --> 02:27:00,560
Speaker 3: mixed signals coming. He would never invite me over. If

2887
02:27:00,600 --> 02:27:03,320
Speaker 3: I didn't invite myself or make plans, we wouldn't do

2888
02:27:03,440 --> 02:27:04,520
Speaker 3: anything but text.

2889
02:27:04,879 --> 02:27:08,080
Speaker 2: Oh that's a red flag. That is a red flag.

2890
02:27:08,280 --> 02:27:10,959
Speaker 7: I do think that you could commute if if it

2891
02:27:11,000 --> 02:27:14,720
Speaker 7: seems like he, you know, enjoys all the time spent,

2892
02:27:14,920 --> 02:27:18,200
Speaker 7: maybe you could be like, hey, I would appreciate if

2893
02:27:18,240 --> 02:27:19,359
Speaker 7: you play litigated.

2894
02:27:19,520 --> 02:27:20,480
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.

2895
02:27:20,520 --> 02:27:22,640
Speaker 3: It's funny though, because I think that that feels more

2896
02:27:22,680 --> 02:27:26,040
Speaker 3: of like this is my boyfriend type thing, like something

2897
02:27:26,040 --> 02:27:30,840
Speaker 3: that you would communicate. Yea. You know, there's been a

2898
02:27:30,840 --> 02:27:33,320
Speaker 3: few times where he is canceled last minute when I'm

2899
02:27:33,360 --> 02:27:35,680
Speaker 3: already dressed and packed and waiting for him to pick

2900
02:27:35,720 --> 02:27:39,480
Speaker 3: me up. He always explained his reasons, which were reasonable,

2901
02:27:39,840 --> 02:27:41,520
Speaker 3: and try to make it up to me by inviting

2902
02:27:41,560 --> 02:27:43,280
Speaker 3: me the next day or something. Wait, so he is

2903
02:27:43,280 --> 02:27:48,040
Speaker 3: inviting you to something true but canceling last minute. Yeah yeah, yeah,

2904
02:27:48,480 --> 02:27:50,359
Speaker 3: I think anybody canceling last minute.

2905
02:27:50,520 --> 02:27:51,040
Speaker 2: Yeah.

2906
02:27:51,160 --> 02:27:53,200
Speaker 3: Last week I invited him to play video games at

2907
02:27:53,240 --> 02:27:56,760
Speaker 3: my house and his exact words were, yeah, if I

2908
02:27:56,760 --> 02:27:58,640
Speaker 3: don't have anything better to do, I'll let you know

2909
02:27:59,000 --> 02:28:01,240
Speaker 3: what what.

2910
02:28:02,680 --> 02:28:05,520
Speaker 2: I'm sorry saying that to anyone that's rude.

2911
02:28:05,640 --> 02:28:08,280
Speaker 7: That is rude, and one of my friends texted me,

2912
02:28:09,040 --> 02:28:10,320
Speaker 7: or if I texted one of my friends and I

2913
02:28:10,360 --> 02:28:11,760
Speaker 7: was like, hey, you want to come over and make dinner?

2914
02:28:11,760 --> 02:28:14,440
Speaker 7: And they texted back, yeah, let's say there's something better

2915
02:28:14,480 --> 02:28:14,640
Speaker 7: to do.

2916
02:28:15,280 --> 02:28:20,520
Speaker 3: Really, I'm biocorrect, like what I did text him that night,

2917
02:28:20,600 --> 02:28:23,080
Speaker 3: explaining that he hurt my feelings and how he doesn't

2918
02:28:23,080 --> 02:28:25,920
Speaker 3: communicate his plans with me, kind of just stringing me along,

2919
02:28:26,000 --> 02:28:28,880
Speaker 3: to which he apologized and thank me for calling him

2920
02:28:28,879 --> 02:28:31,720
Speaker 3: out so he can improve on his flaws from then

2921
02:28:31,760 --> 02:28:34,440
Speaker 3: on out. I haven't invited myself over and he hasn't

2922
02:28:34,480 --> 02:28:38,760
Speaker 3: invited me either. No, so I think we know she

2923
02:28:39,480 --> 02:28:42,200
Speaker 3: Op was putting in the energy and he was just

2924
02:28:42,280 --> 02:28:44,920
Speaker 3: kind of going along with it, even though he likes Op.

2925
02:28:45,600 --> 02:28:47,720
Speaker 7: It's really annoying because like, yeah, I've done that before,

2926
02:28:47,760 --> 02:28:50,480
Speaker 7: where I've been the person in seeing all the things

2927
02:28:50,520 --> 02:28:52,440
Speaker 7: and then I'm like, okay, well you back off back

2928
02:28:52,760 --> 02:28:53,800
Speaker 7: and they don't, and I'm like.

2929
02:28:53,800 --> 02:28:54,840
Speaker 3: Okay, well you don't care.

2930
02:28:55,000 --> 02:28:58,840
Speaker 7: Yeah, So unfortunately, you know, if he's not putting in effort,

2931
02:28:58,920 --> 02:29:00,560
Speaker 7: then he is not worth your time.

2932
02:29:01,840 --> 02:29:06,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, in all this time, I think I've fallen for him.

2933
02:29:06,520 --> 02:29:09,280
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean he's freaking your he's your freaking boyfriend,

2934
02:29:09,320 --> 02:29:10,600
Speaker 7: but he's just not your boyfriend.

2935
02:29:10,640 --> 02:29:13,720
Speaker 3: He's giving you four head kisses and making you come Oh.

2936
02:29:13,800 --> 02:29:17,760
Speaker 7: If you give someone a forehead kiss, yea as your partner.

2937
02:29:19,120 --> 02:29:22,680
Speaker 3: No, But these days I think that people a lot

2938
02:29:22,720 --> 02:29:26,920
Speaker 3: of people date, like really close dating without a label.

2939
02:29:27,160 --> 02:29:28,879
Speaker 2: Yeah. Well no, we've talked about it before.

2940
02:29:28,920 --> 02:29:32,400
Speaker 7: I think that there's like a more so today there

2941
02:29:32,440 --> 02:29:36,280
Speaker 7: is a fear of labeling relationship asolutely, and people will

2942
02:29:36,320 --> 02:29:38,520
Speaker 7: go for like a months and months like I've like,

2943
02:29:38,760 --> 02:29:41,760
Speaker 7: I don't know, I've had friends who are like, yeah,

2944
02:29:41,760 --> 02:29:44,080
Speaker 7: I've been in this situationship for a year and a month.

2945
02:29:44,080 --> 02:29:46,160
Speaker 3: No, you can't be in a situationship for a year.

2946
02:29:46,200 --> 02:29:49,360
Speaker 7: You can be in a situationship for like two months. Yeah,

2947
02:29:49,440 --> 02:29:52,879
Speaker 7: you cannot be in a situation off yeah, maybe three.

2948
02:29:53,000 --> 02:29:53,800
Speaker 2: I mean you can be.

2949
02:29:54,000 --> 02:29:56,080
Speaker 3: But I don't think it's a situationship at that point,

2950
02:29:56,120 --> 02:29:58,520
Speaker 3: because I think it's just very like, I don't know,

2951
02:29:58,560 --> 02:30:00,840
Speaker 3: it's just a casual like this is a person, I

2952
02:30:00,959 --> 02:30:02,560
Speaker 3: just you know, we're not going to be something.

2953
02:30:02,720 --> 02:30:05,560
Speaker 7: Yeah at that point, it's just yeah, it's gedual.

2954
02:30:05,320 --> 02:30:09,640
Speaker 3: Oh goodness for a year. Yeah, I don't know if

2955
02:30:09,640 --> 02:30:12,360
Speaker 3: he's love bombing, but all the affection has made me

2956
02:30:12,400 --> 02:30:13,480
Speaker 3: develop some feelings.

2957
02:30:13,879 --> 02:30:14,520
Speaker 2: That makes sense.

2958
02:30:15,160 --> 02:30:17,240
Speaker 3: I fall asleep at night thinking about him and look

2959
02:30:17,280 --> 02:30:20,080
Speaker 3: forward to seeing him all the time. Oh, I'm scared

2960
02:30:20,080 --> 02:30:22,400
Speaker 3: to just blatantly ask him because it might cause him

2961
02:30:22,440 --> 02:30:24,840
Speaker 3: to completely cut me off, and then I lose his

2962
02:30:24,920 --> 02:30:27,959
Speaker 3: friends as friends as well. And like I said, I

2963
02:30:27,959 --> 02:30:30,520
Speaker 3: don't have any friends in this town besides him in

2964
02:30:30,560 --> 02:30:31,000
Speaker 3: his group.

2965
02:30:32,120 --> 02:30:32,720
Speaker 2: That's tough.

2966
02:30:33,080 --> 02:30:35,120
Speaker 7: That is, Yeah, that is really tough when you're you know,

2967
02:30:35,240 --> 02:30:39,520
Speaker 7: your kind of friend group hinges on this. Yeah, However,

2968
02:30:39,680 --> 02:30:43,920
Speaker 7: I think that it would benefit you to bring this up,

2969
02:30:43,959 --> 02:30:47,040
Speaker 7: as you know, as soon as you can, because otherwise

2970
02:30:47,120 --> 02:30:48,600
Speaker 7: it's going to hurt more in the long run.

2971
02:30:48,600 --> 02:30:51,200
Speaker 2: I think sucks.

2972
02:30:51,360 --> 02:30:56,080
Speaker 3: Unrequited love been there. He might be leaving at the

2973
02:30:56,160 --> 02:30:58,160
Speaker 3: end of the year when he qualifies, but he's still

2974
02:30:58,240 --> 02:31:01,519
Speaker 3: uncertain about that. I just feel like he's giving me breadcrumbs.

2975
02:31:01,520 --> 02:31:04,879
Speaker 3: But then when we're together, he treats me like a princess. See,

2976
02:31:04,920 --> 02:31:06,520
Speaker 3: and that messes with your head.

2977
02:31:06,600 --> 02:31:07,280
Speaker 2: So I get it.

2978
02:31:07,480 --> 02:31:10,199
Speaker 3: I get it. I don't know whether he's maybe scared

2979
02:31:10,240 --> 02:31:12,440
Speaker 3: to ask me out because putting a label on something

2980
02:31:12,480 --> 02:31:15,480
Speaker 3: has the tendency to ruin the whole dynamic. He might

2981
02:31:15,520 --> 02:31:17,640
Speaker 3: be scared if he made it official. You know, I'd

2982
02:31:17,640 --> 02:31:20,120
Speaker 3: start to have all these expectations from him and we

2983
02:31:20,160 --> 02:31:24,160
Speaker 3: would start fighting. We never fight, we never have disagreements,

2984
02:31:24,320 --> 02:31:26,959
Speaker 3: and there's a lot of mutual respect. But I'm afraid

2985
02:31:27,000 --> 02:31:29,000
Speaker 3: that if I say something that I could lose him

2986
02:31:29,000 --> 02:31:33,360
Speaker 3: as a friend completely. I just need some advice, you know,

2987
02:31:33,440 --> 02:31:35,959
Speaker 3: am I maybe reading the signs wrong. Should I just

2988
02:31:36,000 --> 02:31:37,840
Speaker 3: sit back and wait to see if he invites me

2989
02:31:38,000 --> 02:31:38,480
Speaker 3: over ever?

2990
02:31:38,600 --> 02:31:38,880
Speaker 2: Again?

2991
02:31:39,440 --> 02:31:42,600
Speaker 3: I struggle with rejection and have cried multiple times over

2992
02:31:42,760 --> 02:31:45,560
Speaker 3: just the thought of never seeing him again. I've never

2993
02:31:45,560 --> 02:31:48,000
Speaker 3: felt this lonely in my life like I'm feeling in

2994
02:31:48,040 --> 02:31:50,640
Speaker 3: this town, and spending time with him helps me get

2995
02:31:50,640 --> 02:31:51,520
Speaker 3: through my weeks.

2996
02:31:51,800 --> 02:31:57,360
Speaker 7: Oh, I still think that he needs to have that conversation.

2997
02:31:59,240 --> 02:32:01,400
Speaker 2: Ah, absolutely, yeah. I think.

2998
02:32:01,440 --> 02:32:04,160
Speaker 7: I think you don't want to waste your time, and

2999
02:32:04,240 --> 02:32:07,840
Speaker 7: I think that and because you are at the level

3000
02:32:07,840 --> 02:32:10,959
Speaker 7: of I like him a lot and I want this Obviously,

3001
02:32:10,959 --> 02:32:12,959
Speaker 7: It's different if you both were like, we want casual

3002
02:32:13,000 --> 02:32:15,039
Speaker 7: relationship and we want to continue that way. That's not

3003
02:32:15,080 --> 02:32:17,280
Speaker 7: a waste to buy the person's time. But I think

3004
02:32:17,320 --> 02:32:20,080
Speaker 7: you have to have a conversation about that and make

3005
02:32:20,120 --> 02:32:21,160
Speaker 7: sure you're on the same.

3006
02:32:21,000 --> 02:32:22,960
Speaker 2: Page at all points. Yeah.

3007
02:32:23,040 --> 02:32:24,920
Speaker 7: I think maybe that's the issue. I think that when

3008
02:32:24,920 --> 02:32:27,400
Speaker 7: you do, like have a casual or friends with benefits,

3009
02:32:27,400 --> 02:32:30,200
Speaker 7: you just have to have check ins where you're like, hey, feelings,

3010
02:32:31,200 --> 02:32:33,160
Speaker 7: feelings for each other and if you do put them

3011
02:32:33,160 --> 02:32:36,320
Speaker 7: away one to ten, do you want feelings for me?

3012
02:32:37,240 --> 02:32:38,880
Speaker 3: Like every time you just fill out a survey?

3013
02:32:39,000 --> 02:32:45,160
Speaker 7: Yeah, and it's anonymous, yeah, trade man, I just yeah,

3014
02:32:45,200 --> 02:32:49,360
Speaker 7: And I think it seems like, I don't know, if

3015
02:32:49,400 --> 02:32:52,080
Speaker 7: you don't have a lot of friends and you really

3016
02:32:52,120 --> 02:32:55,959
Speaker 7: care about their friendship, maybe best to just leave it

3017
02:32:56,000 --> 02:32:58,119
Speaker 7: at that, even though it won't be the same.

3018
02:33:00,080 --> 02:33:01,720
Speaker 3: As of course they're like, oh, let's be together.

3019
02:33:02,120 --> 02:33:06,600
Speaker 7: But yeah, I think, yeah, I think that. Wait, wait,

3020
02:33:06,600 --> 02:33:08,640
Speaker 7: what do you mean, like leave? Don't say anything?

3021
02:33:08,959 --> 02:33:12,520
Speaker 3: No, like, do say something. But if they're like I

3022
02:33:12,560 --> 02:33:13,960
Speaker 3: want all of these things, but I don't want to

3023
02:33:14,000 --> 02:33:16,240
Speaker 3: be in a relationship and that's what you really want,

3024
02:33:16,800 --> 02:33:20,199
Speaker 3: best to just put the romantic aspect aside.

3025
02:33:20,320 --> 02:33:20,720
Speaker 2: Mmmm.

3026
02:33:21,600 --> 02:33:22,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know.

3027
02:33:22,240 --> 02:33:22,600
Speaker 2: I think that.

3028
02:33:23,959 --> 02:33:26,440
Speaker 7: I think that if I think that if you want

3029
02:33:26,760 --> 02:33:32,240
Speaker 7: that from him and he doesn't, then I don't know,

3030
02:33:32,280 --> 02:33:33,560
Speaker 7: I just don't. I don't think that I think it's

3031
02:33:33,560 --> 02:33:35,280
Speaker 7: gonna hurt more for a p to stay in it.

3032
02:33:36,360 --> 02:33:39,879
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, oh yeah, I think yeah, because.

3033
02:33:39,640 --> 02:33:41,920
Speaker 7: The longer goes on it, Like especially if you if

3034
02:33:41,920 --> 02:33:44,560
Speaker 7: you clarified, he's like, no, I don't want it, and

3035
02:33:44,600 --> 02:33:47,680
Speaker 7: you're like, okay, let's stay together, which I think a

3036
02:33:47,680 --> 02:33:50,160
Speaker 7: lot of a lot of times people do. In like

3037
02:33:50,280 --> 02:33:53,440
Speaker 7: some you know, situationships or casual relationships, if there is

3038
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Speaker 7: one person who has developed feelings, uh and yeah, just

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Speaker 7: in the long run, you you have that expectation that

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Speaker 7: they will change their mind.

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Speaker 2: Right, someone not thinking that they might on the.

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Speaker 7: Like, on the chance that they might, because the end

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Speaker 7: they might.

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Speaker 2: This is true. I mean, like I know.

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Speaker 7: Also I have friends who did change their mind and

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Speaker 7: we're like, actually, I do want a relationship. But I

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Speaker 7: also have friends who you know, it never happened and

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Speaker 7: you're just waiting around for something. But yeah, you want

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Speaker 7: you want someone who wants you.

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Speaker 10: Yeahserve someone who wants you to someone who wants you facts.

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Speaker 2: Yeah,