WEBVTT - When Life Doesn't Go Your Way

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<v Speaker 1>You found your way here to waking up with Ryan.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so glad that you pushed play. This is the

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<v Speaker 1>place you and I come to wake up together. So

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<v Speaker 1>let's take a deep breath and begin Good morning Love.

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<v Speaker 1>I wish it weren't so, but I got to share

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<v Speaker 1>a truth with you today, which is that there are

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<v Speaker 1>going to be things that happen today that you don't want.

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<v Speaker 1>There's going to be things that happen in your reality

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<v Speaker 1>that you wish were different. I know that because I

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<v Speaker 1>just had that happen for myself. There was something that

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<v Speaker 1>I've been planning with a lot of intention and desire

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<v Speaker 1>for quite some time, and I just got the message

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<v Speaker 1>saying that it's not going the way that I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to go. It's not happening. And what happened in that

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<v Speaker 1>moment was I got to become aware of how I

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<v Speaker 1>react when life is lifing, and that is the opportunity

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<v Speaker 1>in these moments. It's very common in the times in

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<v Speaker 1>life when things don't work out the way you want

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<v Speaker 1>them to or don't go the way that you would

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<v Speaker 1>like them to. It's totally normal to react to those

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<v Speaker 1>moments with all sorts of thoughts about like of course,

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<v Speaker 1>this isn't working out. Nothing ever works out for me.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I'm not enough. If I were only this,

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<v Speaker 1>then this would have been different. Or what does this

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<v Speaker 1>mean about me? That's totally normal. However, if you let

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<v Speaker 1>yourself get lost in all those thoughts, you're missing out

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<v Speaker 1>on a major, major opportunity. In fact, I believe the

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<v Speaker 1>reason that things happen in your in my life that

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<v Speaker 1>we don't like is for a big purpose. Those things

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<v Speaker 1>are happening as an opportunity for your growth and for

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<v Speaker 1>your healing, for your continued awakening, for your spiritual growth,

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<v Speaker 1>for this expanding sense of self, for the breaking free

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<v Speaker 1>of the little small self that all of us have

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<v Speaker 1>learned that we are. We get broken open through these

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<v Speaker 1>situations where things aren't going our way if and only

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<v Speaker 1>if we take advantage of those moments and see them

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<v Speaker 1>for what they are, which is for an opportunity for healing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's reminding me of a Leonard Cohen quote that said,

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<v Speaker 1>the crack is where the light gets in. That the

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<v Speaker 1>light gets in through these the cracks that inevitably happen

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<v Speaker 1>as a result of being a human being. How do

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<v Speaker 1>those cracks work well? When something is happening that you

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<v Speaker 1>don't want. It's like there's this hit that is stimulating

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<v Speaker 1>all sorts of material, for lack of a better word, right, thoughts, beliefs, feeling,

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<v Speaker 1>sensations that are moving around the world with you because

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<v Speaker 1>you and I, in a way, it's like we are

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<v Speaker 1>these systems of unprocessed emotions and experiences moving around the world,

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<v Speaker 1>and that material is all stuff that often needs to

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<v Speaker 1>be witnessed, needs to be scene, needs to be loved,

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<v Speaker 1>needs to be nurtured so that it can free up

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<v Speaker 1>its hold that it has over us, so that it

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<v Speaker 1>can free up this drive to grab our attention all

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<v Speaker 1>the time needing that healing so that we can be

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<v Speaker 1>free to be ourselves, to be divine, to create, to

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<v Speaker 1>be the incredible, miraculous beings that we came here to be.

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<v Speaker 1>And so in the moment that something isn't going our way,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like there's a wake up call that is happening.

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<v Speaker 1>It's as if the universe is trying to shake us

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<v Speaker 1>to say, hey, pay attention, wake up in this moment

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<v Speaker 1>that if I'm being the Universe's voice right now, there's

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<v Speaker 1>this moment that I am delivering you something that you're

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<v Speaker 1>not going to like so much, and the opportunity tunity

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<v Speaker 1>for you in it is how are you going to

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<v Speaker 1>be with that? Right? How are you going to show

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<v Speaker 1>up for that? Are you going to unconsciously allow your

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<v Speaker 1>mind to hijack the experience and deliver you into a

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<v Speaker 1>whole story about the situation, which is only going to

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<v Speaker 1>increase the anxiety, the tension, the escalation of your nervous

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<v Speaker 1>system and then cause you to react from that place,

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<v Speaker 1>which is just going to then create a cycle of

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<v Speaker 1>kind of acting from that place, which then kind of

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<v Speaker 1>gets that wound to speak for you. And then it's

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<v Speaker 1>like this back and forth where you're fighting with life

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<v Speaker 1>or are you going to see this moment as an

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<v Speaker 1>opportunity to be a crack, to let the lighten, to

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<v Speaker 1>pause and go, oh, in this moment when I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>getting what it is that I want, when things aren't

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<v Speaker 1>going my way, what happens here? What is going on

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<v Speaker 1>inside my body that needs my attention? Can you slow down,

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<v Speaker 1>push pause and simply be aware? You know? In the

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<v Speaker 1>Yoga Sutras, this ancient text, it says the purpose of

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<v Speaker 1>everything that can be perceived is that it be perceived.

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<v Speaker 1>Whoa that means. The purpose of everything that you can see, taste, touch, here, think, feel,

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<v Speaker 1>the purpose of everything that can be perceived is simply

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<v Speaker 1>that it be perceived. There's something about just putting your

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<v Speaker 1>attention on what is here that allows for this orchestration

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<v Speaker 1>of your continued healing. And so today, if something arises

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<v Speaker 1>in your experience that is different from what it is

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<v Speaker 1>that you want, I want you to hit the pause button.

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to notice your temptation to jump up

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<v Speaker 1>into your mind and instead simply be here with what

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<v Speaker 1>is this bringing up for me? What is a rising

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<v Speaker 1>that needs some tender love and attention. This is how

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<v Speaker 1>healing happens, through this detoxification, through this chipping away at

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<v Speaker 1>the layers of memories and personality and beliefs that have

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<v Speaker 1>gotten and developed our whole lives, like layers and layers.

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<v Speaker 1>These situations when things are tough, it's like they're chipping

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<v Speaker 1>away at these layers to unveil the beautiful light, the diamond,

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<v Speaker 1>the beautiful beingness that you are that is right here

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<v Speaker 1>wanting to be exposed, wanting to shine itself into the world.

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<v Speaker 1>And so let's take a brief moment, if you can

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<v Speaker 1>to close your eyes and take a deep breath, feeling

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<v Speaker 1>this groundedness you have to the earth, to life, remembering

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<v Speaker 1>in this moment that there's so much more here than

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<v Speaker 1>you're even aware of, a whole beingness that is you

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<v Speaker 1>walking a journey to remembering who you are, to your

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<v Speaker 1>healing through this process of detoxification, through letting go who

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<v Speaker 1>you think you are, to allow yourself to be aware

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<v Speaker 1>of who you truly are, and so setting yourself up

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<v Speaker 1>now before you go out into your day, to touch

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<v Speaker 1>into this presence so that it may show up for

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<v Speaker 1>you in the moments that you need it today. Let's

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<v Speaker 1>take a deep breath here, I let it go as

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<v Speaker 1>if you are granting permission to your highest self to

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<v Speaker 1>remind you to come back home today as often as possible,

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<v Speaker 1>to come back to this being, This that is here

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<v Speaker 1>living something so much deeper than just the moment to moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Things that are or aren't happening in your day to day,

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<v Speaker 1>an invisible process unfolding that is highly intelligent, that knows

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<v Speaker 1>exactly how to use the challenges you face as opportunities

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<v Speaker 1>for you to remember who you are. Knows how to

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<v Speaker 1>use your pain for your healing, knows how to turn

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<v Speaker 1>your doubt into faith and knows how to turn your

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<v Speaker 1>fear into love, and to that we surrender today. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to take a deep breath here, let it go,

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<v Speaker 1>and if you'd like to open your eyes. My hope

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<v Speaker 1>and my prayer for you today is that you remember

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<v Speaker 1>everything that can be perceived it's happening, so that you

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<v Speaker 1>can perceive it. Notice the temptation to go into judgment, criticism,

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<v Speaker 1>thinking strategy, and instead just come back what's here? What's

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<v Speaker 1>here now? Loving you from here? Hi, I hope you're

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<v Speaker 1>feeling even just a little bit more prepared to take

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<v Speaker 1>on the day. But before you go, I'd love to

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