Speaker 1: This is How Men Think with Brooks and Gavin to
Speaker 1: Grab and I heard radio podcasts. Welcome to another episode
Speaker 1: of How Men Think. My name is Brooks like and
Speaker 1: this is the show where we dive into the mind
Speaker 1: of a man and really trying to uncover and discover
Speaker 1: what's going on inside the brains of the men in
Speaker 1: your life. And so today we're gonna have a really
Speaker 1: interesting discussion. Is something I'm super passionate about and I'm
Speaker 1: currently going through. We're gonna have a discussion about elevating
Speaker 1: to success and in a pivot in life, changing a
Speaker 1: transitionary trajectory of your life into something new, which a
Speaker 1: lot of people are thinking about right now in the
Speaker 1: time of COVID. Should I change my career paths? Should
Speaker 1: I change my relationship? Should I make a big pivot
Speaker 1: in life? And so I have a special guest coming
Speaker 1: on to co host the next hour with me. I
Speaker 1: love it, love it, love it when I bring on
Speaker 1: a professional athlete because he's a brother, we can speak
Speaker 1: the same language. He was a running back in the
Speaker 1: NFL for the Jacksonville Jaguars, the Oakland Raiders, and the
Speaker 1: New York Giants. Recently tired, he is an author on
Speaker 1: a couple accounts will get into that. He's an entrepreneur,
Speaker 1: he's a philanthropist, he's on TV. He's a man of
Speaker 1: many hats. Welcome to the show, Mr Rasha Jennings. How
Speaker 1: are you, buddy? I appreciate it, man, I'm you know,
Speaker 1: I was listening to your role things off. Also, I
Speaker 1: sound like a cool dude, right, Hey, I know, I know, dude,
Speaker 1: I love I say this every episode of We Bring On,
Speaker 1: we bring on some amazing guests that are multitalented, like
Speaker 1: super multitalented and so, um, I love that you're a
Speaker 1: professional athlete. But then I love what you've done since
Speaker 1: that in your You've become an author, You've written your
Speaker 1: own book, and now you've written a children's book. Um,
Speaker 1: you're very involved philanthropically with service, with your time. You
Speaker 1: are also, I forgot to mention this a mirror ball champion,
Speaker 1: a mirrorble like you want dancing with the stars. So
Speaker 1: I love that. Just the hats that you wear, brother,
Speaker 1: it's inspiring to me. I appreciate that. Man. Yeah, that's uh,
Speaker 1: the mirror ball one, all of the all of all
Speaker 1: of the fortunate, humble accomplishment thus far, definitely. Uh, I've
Speaker 1: been kind of all out of left field for me. Man,
Speaker 1: I've just kind of had my head down with a
Speaker 1: smile on my face, working for dreams and goals. And
Speaker 1: it's cool to see it wasn't started passed so far.
Speaker 1: So I love that. I want to really dive into
Speaker 1: the mirror ball thing because I we want to get
Speaker 1: back to that because Dancing the Stars is back on
Speaker 1: and Emma is a great friend of mine. Um, But
Speaker 1: I want to start right there with what you said.
Speaker 1: You've always had your head down chasing your dreams and
Speaker 1: your goals. And I love your story about even about
Speaker 1: your your first football game. I think it was where
Speaker 1: four other running backs were hurt and you've got a
Speaker 1: chance to play and there happened to be a scout there.
Speaker 1: Can you can you take us back to the start
Speaker 1: of what what became an amazing football career. But how
Speaker 1: you you when I look at you and read your
Speaker 1: story with shot, Um, you have overcome obstacle your entire life.
Speaker 1: You are an extraordinary, extraordinarily resilient person who is become
Speaker 1: obstacle your entire life. Um, can you tell us that
Speaker 1: story about the first football game and sort of a
Speaker 1: lucky break for you. Yeah. Man, So that's funny. Every
Speaker 1: time I tell the story, I chuckle throughout it all. Um,
Speaker 1: because it's a true story. I got none fabricated about
Speaker 1: it at all. But I was a fifth string running
Speaker 1: back in high school football. Um, it's overweight, chubbing kid glasses.
Speaker 1: Asma had a point six g p A at one
Speaker 1: point in time. And Um, when I say I was
Speaker 1: fifth string, I mean literally I was the fifth string
Speaker 1: running back so much to the point I never played either. Um.
Speaker 1: I used to come out, you know when we break
Speaker 1: the white tape, go on the sideline and you know,
Speaker 1: kick off. I would go on and I would take
Speaker 1: the I would take my pads out of my thigh pads.
Speaker 1: No thought pass, remove the thought pass, remove the knee pass,
Speaker 1: removed the hit pass, remove the butt pass. And inside
Speaker 1: of those little soccers, those little holes, stuff in like
Speaker 1: eminem candy. You know, I would stuff in sprites and
Speaker 1: all kinds of stuff. But I know I didn't play,
Speaker 1: and I know I had front Road take us to
Speaker 1: a great game. But the last game we're playing against,
Speaker 1: last game of the season, we're playing against a high
Speaker 1: school rival where the Jepson Force Cavaliers were playing against
Speaker 1: the Brookville Bees and it is sold out because it's
Speaker 1: one of high school rivals last game of the season,
Speaker 1: and also Brookville they beat us, they go to the playoffs.
Speaker 1: We're done. So it's like our super Bowl is a
Speaker 1: big game. We want to knock them out. And um,
Speaker 1: you know, there was a Tennessee Scott there to watch.
Speaker 1: Our started running back. His name is Quincy Freeman, is
Speaker 1: really good and uh a long story short. Started game off,
Speaker 1: We get the ball, go out first play. I started
Speaker 1: running back, gets hurt, and I got a buddy of mine.
Speaker 1: His name is Brandon what we call him speedy, Right,
Speaker 1: he didn't earn his name at all. Okay, he didn't play,
Speaker 1: so I me and him. He's like the friend that
Speaker 1: just is always overly excited for people, and so when
Speaker 1: he saw the start of getting hurt, he was shaking.
Speaker 1: He's like, hey, man, they're gonna play you today. They're
Speaker 1: gonna play you. And I'm sitting over here. I'm like, man,
Speaker 1: get off, me go back to eat my eminem's watching
Speaker 1: the game. Second string goes out a couple of players,
Speaker 1: he gets hurt, you know, so speak again like, yeah,
Speaker 1: they might actually play you like making it off. You
Speaker 1: know they ain't gonna play me go back to eat
Speaker 1: my candy. Third string goes out, he gets hurt, right,
Speaker 1: So then they put back in the starter because then
Speaker 1: he taped up his ankle. He got ankle injury. He
Speaker 1: go back out, he gets hurt again. So then now
Speaker 1: they're down to the fourth running back, and you know,
Speaker 1: four plays later he gets hurt, right, So you know
Speaker 1: it's down to me. Right, Speedy's lost his mind. You know,
Speaker 1: he's over here doing back flips and stuff and and
Speaker 1: the and the coach Kansas sideline. He catches eye contact
Speaker 1: with me, he looks away, he grabs a wide receiver
Speaker 1: and puts him in at running back instead of me. Right, So,
Speaker 1: like part of me is mad because I'm like, this
Speaker 1: is my opportunity. The other part it's like I ain't
Speaker 1: going out there getting hurt, Like I don't know why
Speaker 1: everybody's getting hurt. Sure enough, he gets hurt, have no
Speaker 1: choice but to put me in, right, and I go
Speaker 1: out there, red hands from Eminem's and like I picked
Speaker 1: up the wrong helmet and it was just all bad.
Speaker 1: But first play for the yard touchdown? Come on, yeah, man,
Speaker 1: he couldn't tell me nothing. I came back from the sideline,
Speaker 1: I chest bumped speedy. You know, he falls and after afterwards, Um,
Speaker 1: they put me back in on offense. Later I scored
Speaker 1: another touchdown. Similar situation on defense. Guys are getting hurt
Speaker 1: left and right. They put me in on defense. First play,
Speaker 1: I sacked the quarterback he fund bolt. I picked it
Speaker 1: up and scored another thirty yard touchdown. And I sealed
Speaker 1: the game with a pick six for the win. And
Speaker 1: so I'll scored four touchdowns, all right. I played fourteen
Speaker 1: total plays. And that Tennessee scout that came to watch
Speaker 1: the starting running back came up to me after the
Speaker 1: game and he said, you know, ra Shoe, Um, I
Speaker 1: came to watch the starting running back, but I couldn't
Speaker 1: help but to notice you. I didn't even see your
Speaker 1: name on the roster. And I was like, yeah, that
Speaker 1: sound about right. And he said, well, how are your grades?
Speaker 1: And I looked up at him and I said, we're sir.
Speaker 1: I have a point six and he was like, how
Speaker 1: the hell you got a point six? You gotta try
Speaker 1: to do that, but that like he he looked at me,
Speaker 1: he said, Rasha, you have potential. Get your grades right.
Speaker 1: You might play at the collegiate level. For the first
Speaker 1: time in my life, somebody saw something in me outside
Speaker 1: of family. Yeah, they're gonna encourage me no matter what.
Speaker 1: Long story short man, I transferred high schools, I repeated
Speaker 1: my junior year. I took nine homeschool classes, nine summer
Speaker 1: school classes. Um, and I rededicated myself. I never looked back.
Speaker 1: I stopped making excuses, I stopped blaming people. I started
Speaker 1: taking the ownership of responsibility over everything I did and
Speaker 1: the rest of the history from there, dude, And then
Speaker 1: you're drafted twenty three overall to the Jacksonville Jaguar's first
Speaker 1: round pick, and then you play in the NFL for
Speaker 1: how many seasons? Nine seasons? Eight eight seasons? Eight seasons?
Speaker 1: Is amazing, dude. Do you ever just look at that
Speaker 1: day and just there's something greater going on there? Like
Speaker 1: that's if that isn't divine intervention, I have no idea
Speaker 1: what it was like. Five guys get a hurt ahead
Speaker 1: of you, guys on defense get hurt, and you happen
Speaker 1: to just step into this role. Do you ever think
Speaker 1: about what your life might have been like if it
Speaker 1: didn't if that day didn't occur, and so much that
Speaker 1: I wrote a book that became a New York Time
Speaker 1: bestseller about it. Um, side of the if in life
Speaker 1: and uh to play on words spell out the world
Speaker 1: life if it's in the middle, And you know, I
Speaker 1: kind of just talked about all my major moments. But yeah,
Speaker 1: for myself, that never happened. Um, there's no telling. You know,
Speaker 1: I know I would have. You know, from the opportunity
Speaker 1: I did have in place, I would have graduated high school. Um,
Speaker 1: I would have probably have ventured to be a marriage
Speaker 1: counselor with us desired to doing a lot of years
Speaker 1: in my life. I'm actually got my master's UM in
Speaker 1: it now and getting licensed soon. Good for you, buddy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I know I wouldn't be on this platform that
Speaker 1: I have currently today. Not a chance you most likely
Speaker 1: would you say you most likely wouldn't have made the
Speaker 1: NFL if that day didn't happen. Not a chance, No way.
Speaker 1: I don't think that would have happened. I don't think
Speaker 1: I would have been for to suit an opportunity of
Speaker 1: a fresh start. Um. You know, I wouldn't have had
Speaker 1: a clean slate. I would have I would have been
Speaker 1: and I would have had the willow and the demeanor
Speaker 1: that I've built about my name in a school and
Speaker 1: coaches and teachers that I couldn't start over with. So
Speaker 1: I had a fresh start and I took advantage of it. Um.
Speaker 1: I've always said that you can never underestimate the power
Speaker 1: of one person believing in you. When I when I
Speaker 1: think of you, you mentioned your parents and people before,
Speaker 1: I think my mom, I think of my dad, my brother,
Speaker 1: and my sister. Their belief in me just drove me
Speaker 1: so far and was so important to me. But what
Speaker 1: about the belief that this gentleman the scout had in you.
Speaker 1: How did that single interaction with him just saying I
Speaker 1: see you, you could play collegiate ball. Um? What did
Speaker 1: that just do to you individually? As far as changing
Speaker 1: your habits, your behaviors, your character. It made me look
Speaker 1: at future. Um, you know, because my desires were all
Speaker 1: to accomplish things and years to come. I didn't really
Speaker 1: have a lot of desires or dream accomplished in the moment.
Speaker 1: They were always in the future. So when I was encouraged,
Speaker 1: I saw future differently. And um, you know that's why
Speaker 1: I tried. I tried to inspire kids to see you
Speaker 1: down the road. Um seeing today it's kind of tough
Speaker 1: sometimes not just into death, any any any normal to
Speaker 1: um So for me, man, when the scout saw and
Speaker 1: he's coming from a validated position, it's not somebody and
Speaker 1: that's working at sevent eleven, Sandy, you can do it
Speaker 1: one day. It's somebody validated position that does it for
Speaker 1: a living that saw something in me, and um, it
Speaker 1: encouraged me and let me know that it's a possibility.
Speaker 1: I love that. I also, I was having a discussion
Speaker 1: with a friend the other day about positive affirmation and how,
Speaker 1: especially in sports, we would get told so much about
Speaker 1: what we did wrong. Right. You'd get told what you
Speaker 1: did wrong, you messed up this play, blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: In in life, in career, people get told what they
Speaker 1: do wrong, but very rarely do people get told what
Speaker 1: they do right. And that positive affirmation is so powerful
Speaker 1: and people then because they received that positive feedback, it
Speaker 1: encourages them to do that thing more. And so whether
Speaker 1: you're a business owner, whether you're a coach, whether you're
Speaker 1: a parent, any sort of positive affirmation that you could
Speaker 1: give somebody, um in like just in your case, you're
Speaker 1: right here, rashot is. It can be absolutely life changing.
Speaker 1: You know, a short little conversation would be absolutely life changing.
Speaker 1: So I love that you then took that grabbed the reins,
Speaker 1: and it turned yourself into an eight year NFL pro
Speaker 1: um What do you think was your biggest key to
Speaker 1: success in that journey? Man? The biggest? Uh so many,
Speaker 1: But I would say for my my eight year tender
Speaker 1: in the league, um I truly learned. And I tell
Speaker 1: people there's a difference between an NFL player in a
Speaker 1: pro athlete. Um I learned how to become a pro. Ah.
Speaker 1: Your NFL athlete is a guy that has bookoo amounts
Speaker 1: of talent that where was above their um class, beyond
Speaker 1: their time, and could get away with uh lack of
Speaker 1: daisical because as it just talent, they're just gonna show up,
Speaker 1: get an A A on the test, don't study. And but
Speaker 1: once you get to the big leagues, everybody was the
Speaker 1: man before they got there, right like in high school.
Speaker 1: Everybody that's the man goes to college and then all
Speaker 1: of those men are there and then who whoever is
Speaker 1: the man of college goes to the NFL and all
Speaker 1: of those like so it's no more hiding man, everybody
Speaker 1: is really good. Yeah, we we know all those stories
Speaker 1: to get over it. So it's um. Then if you
Speaker 1: get hurt, having to take care of your body, you know,
Speaker 1: understanding the playbook, handling media off the field, you know,
Speaker 1: finances are there. It's like becoming an adult very quickly. Um.
Speaker 1: Was something that I was fortunate enough to have family
Speaker 1: around me, UM and some loving brothers that that kind
Speaker 1: of put me in my place. Um in in college
Speaker 1: so I could be prepared for it. But also I
Speaker 1: learned how to stay um tunnel vision, you know. Um.
Speaker 1: I my my Plan B was to accomplish Plan A, right,
Speaker 1: like I'm super focused individual. I gotta plan and c
Speaker 1: but I'm a very focused individual. UM, and I was
Speaker 1: able to stay out of trouble like just the little things. Man.
Speaker 1: I'm I've never drink alcohol day in my life. UM.
Speaker 1: You know, I never smoked. You know, I didn't get
Speaker 1: arrested and get caught up with some crazy stuff. Um.
Speaker 1: You know I got my fair share of speeding tickets.
Speaker 1: I'm no saint. I'm not you know what I mean
Speaker 1: saying I'm perfect by any amazing, but I do recognize
Speaker 1: when I go I have nine nephews that I have
Speaker 1: these conversations with Uncle Shot, what did you do? Because often,
Speaker 1: because they're younger than me, they see the red carpet
Speaker 1: side of Uncle Shot. They didn't see what I had
Speaker 1: to do to get to the red car Sharing that
Speaker 1: with him is important. By the way, you're a you're
Speaker 1: running back. You like to go fast man, So the
Speaker 1: ticket again, but heavy foot, babe, I get it. I
Speaker 1: love what you talked about there about learning to become
Speaker 1: a pro, because I believe I think in the NFL,
Speaker 1: the the uh average careers fan, I think is three
Speaker 1: years somewhere around three years in the NHL, and you
Speaker 1: played eight, so he played almost three times. The average
Speaker 1: to the length of the average career the NHL is
Speaker 1: five years, and I was thirteen years in the NHL.
Speaker 1: Um And one of the things I learned too was
Speaker 1: to become what we phrased was a consummate professional. And
Speaker 1: when you see, you know, like when I say that word,
Speaker 1: that term consummate professional, you probably think of guys that
Speaker 1: you played with. You're like, yeah, this guy he ate right,
Speaker 1: he slept right, he thought right, he connected with teammates,
Speaker 1: He was an integral human being. He showed up. He
Speaker 1: had passion, he had dedication, he had resilience injuries he
Speaker 1: would rebound from. He was a team guy. You think
Speaker 1: of the consummate professional, and that was one of the
Speaker 1: things that I learned to the same thing in hockey.
Speaker 1: There's guys that were just better, they were just graced
Speaker 1: with amazing talent. But then when you get to that
Speaker 1: level to repeat year after year after year, it takes
Speaker 1: more than just amazing talent. And it's what you do.
Speaker 1: It's your behaviors of the character of who you are
Speaker 1: as a human being that keep you there. It's your resilience.
Speaker 1: It's your willingness to study the playbook or to pre study,
Speaker 1: to pre video the upcoming games, to video watch video
Speaker 1: from previous games, to rest, to recovery. Like you said,
Speaker 1: you didn't have bad habits of drinking or smoking. Diet
Speaker 1: is on point. So many things keep you there to
Speaker 1: performance um And then I want to touch on one
Speaker 1: other thing that I think professional athletes are able to
Speaker 1: do that maybe separates them from the masses a little bit.
Speaker 1: You said it yourself, you were able to be tunnel
Speaker 1: vision and singular focused. How does that how if you
Speaker 1: can make that understandable and digestible for our How men
Speaker 1: think community that a lot of people are pulled in
Speaker 1: multidirections and not stay laser focused in one way to
Speaker 1: elevate to extreme success. How were you able to do that? Well,
Speaker 1: there's many ways to do it. I I mean, I
Speaker 1: could tuck your head off about this particular topic, but
Speaker 1: I mean I throw one out there that's uncommonly said.
Speaker 1: Um there, anger, right, Anger is a strong, strong emotion
Speaker 1: and it creates a lot of blood flow. M hm um.
Speaker 1: Now what you do with that anger is up to you,
Speaker 1: all right. But you know anger is a nice pre workout. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I get you after that workout. That's so what I
Speaker 1: was I've been able to do throughout my life is
Speaker 1: channel anger. M you. Anger towards an individu truel, anger
Speaker 1: towards something that happened you earlier in life. What's what's
Speaker 1: the anger towards? Yeah? Any and everything. Man. I've taken
Speaker 1: anger out on a relationship with my father before, uh,
Speaker 1: with with relationships with teachers before. And you're talking you're
Speaker 1: taking knees onto the field or into the weight room
Speaker 1: and performance. Yeah, absolutely absolutely. I take some of the
Speaker 1: anger I have in generated to stay up at night
Speaker 1: and write you know what I mean, that's fuel for
Speaker 1: me because it's I've recognized for me that is strong,
Speaker 1: right and and but if you need to learn how
Speaker 1: to channel it the right way. Right and so channeling
Speaker 1: anger is a great motivation, um, because we all have
Speaker 1: it and and a lot of times we try to
Speaker 1: run from our angers, right, I don't want to deal
Speaker 1: with it. But for me, I've recognized no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I want that fuel that use it, right. I think
Speaker 1: that's yeah, And I think that can that if you
Speaker 1: can control that, because I think that can be very
Speaker 1: destructive too if you if you just let that run
Speaker 1: all over you. Um. But I also believe that if
Speaker 1: you can control that and harness it, which you said
Speaker 1: you were able to, You were able to have a
Speaker 1: strong enough mind to control it, harness it and direct
Speaker 1: it in a positive way that I think it can create.
Speaker 1: Like you said, it's a great pre workout. It can
Speaker 1: create enough emotion within you to drive you to suit
Speaker 1: two levels and depths that maybe you weren't able to
Speaker 1: achieve just on your own, when you actually use that
Speaker 1: as a source of motivation, source it. I tried to
Speaker 1: do it yesterday in my workout since I've been out
Speaker 1: of since I've been retired from hockey. I don't have
Speaker 1: a lot of anger. Somebody didn't just kick my ass
Speaker 1: last night, you know, So I don't have a lot
Speaker 1: of anger in my life. Life is pretty good. But
Speaker 1: I tried to like go back is snap back into
Speaker 1: that competitive, intense athlete mindset of trying to beat somebody,
Speaker 1: and it just made me a little more gritty, little
Speaker 1: more uh fired up in my workout, and I felt
Speaker 1: good doing that again. Now I don't want to live there.
Speaker 1: I don't want that to be my only source of
Speaker 1: of motivation, but it is like it is a powerful
Speaker 1: tool to access from time to time right now, absolutely absolutely,
Speaker 1: And then I mean for me, like like there's levels
Speaker 1: to it. Right Um, anger is one way which I
Speaker 1: used the channel. Um some some some fuel, that's the gas.
Speaker 1: But you know when we started talking about the oil
Speaker 1: of the car, you know, now that's different. You know
Speaker 1: what else did you use as motivation? What were other
Speaker 1: ways that you stayed highly motivated during eight years in
Speaker 1: the NFL. I'm my future man. I would always think
Speaker 1: about my kids that I don't have today, and I
Speaker 1: live with death on my mind a lot, not in
Speaker 1: at and it's very happy to talk about death right
Speaker 1: it's it's and not a not a morbid way. But
Speaker 1: I really do keep it on mind a lot that
Speaker 1: because I want to be a leader for into my
Speaker 1: family from the grade, and the only way for me
Speaker 1: to do that is to be cognitive and very present, intentional,
Speaker 1: um with what I do while I'm on this side
Speaker 1: of the earth, From generational wealth, from writing a will,
Speaker 1: a proper way, uh, you know, all the things that
Speaker 1: encompass of what it looks like to be a leader
Speaker 1: from the grade. I think about that, and you know
Speaker 1: that kind of keeps me humble and and and and
Speaker 1: I think about again, I don't have children, and so
Speaker 1: I think about the fact that I'm thirty five right now,
Speaker 1: and I want to be able to tell my kids, Hey,
Speaker 1: you know, I remember this moment when I was twenty five.
Speaker 1: I was thinking about you when I did X one
Speaker 1: and Z. I'm thirty five. I'm having this. I'm having
Speaker 1: a zoom call right now and I actually brought you
Speaker 1: guys up of reason why I'm still motivated today. I
Speaker 1: want to show this like these are the things that
Speaker 1: keeps me going of waking up, excited to grasp like
Speaker 1: in the twelve odd whatever hours that I'm up. Um,
Speaker 1: who can I motivate? How can I be motivated? You know?
Speaker 1: How can I be a better person for my community? Um?
Speaker 1: Where the quality levels is just like a It's like
Speaker 1: a scale of vitamins, right, um? And every year I
Speaker 1: get I get my blood drawn to see where my
Speaker 1: levels are. And you know, for me waking up, I
Speaker 1: checked my attitude levels as well. Yeah I love that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know I can and enjoy I gotta put it
Speaker 1: in there. So um, true balance in life, man, I
Speaker 1: I consider myself somebody that always is trying to find
Speaker 1: poise and balance. I mean, I mean, I mean that
Speaker 1: to the fullest from if if you if a Democrat
Speaker 1: argument with me, they're gonna think I'm a Republican. And
Speaker 1: for republican argument women, they're gonna think I'm a democrat.
Speaker 1: I'm a true independent. So like I'm so even killed balanced.
Speaker 1: I'm a logical thinker and all aspects of my life,
Speaker 1: I love it. I love it. Dude. How about this
Speaker 1: This is a question for you because I'm thirty seven,
Speaker 1: I'm two years older than you. We are both athletes
Speaker 1: but retired athletes when we I don't have kids either,
Speaker 1: when we have kids, they won't know us as a
Speaker 1: professional athlete, right like they won't be in the in
Speaker 1: the football stadium with your at practice with you. You
Speaker 1: played with guys that had their kids in the locker
Speaker 1: room and stuff, and that's so cool. But our kids,
Speaker 1: when we have kids, hopefully we both do, won't know
Speaker 1: us as that. That will be memories that we share
Speaker 1: with them and show them, but they won't know us
Speaker 1: as that. They're gonna know you as an author or
Speaker 1: as a an actor or a TV host, whatever you're
Speaker 1: currently doing. Does that Do you ever think about that
Speaker 1: that my kids aren't gonna be able to watch me play.
Speaker 1: They aren't gonna be I'm not gonna be able to
Speaker 1: take him to the stadium. Yeah, no, I've thought about
Speaker 1: that before into touch on what you have mentioned about
Speaker 1: watching guys come in with their sons or their daughters.
Speaker 1: And you know, I even think about, man, if I
Speaker 1: was a kid trying to soap all listening, well, what
Speaker 1: how are you thinking? You know, how much of it
Speaker 1: or how big of life would my dad be if
Speaker 1: he if my dad was currently playing in the NFL?
Speaker 1: Thing um to a kid's mind. Good gracious. So, but
Speaker 1: now I think about that, about how how cool it
Speaker 1: is though that I will have to hang on to
Speaker 1: the moments of videotapes and the stories. Um, and I'm
Speaker 1: excited that they won't have to grow up in the
Speaker 1: um height of the nfl US. I think that could
Speaker 1: be difficult. I watched my nephews go up in it
Speaker 1: when I was in my prime, and they're in high school,
Speaker 1: and even how much attention they would receive just because
Speaker 1: of what their uncle was doing. Yeah, Um, it's cool,
Speaker 1: but you don't receive a lot of attention because Hey,
Speaker 1: I saw your uncle's new book out. Yeah, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. I'm I'm I'm excited to instantly come
Speaker 1: off as a door to my car. So cool man,
Speaker 1: that's what I want to be to him. Um, I
Speaker 1: think I think it's gonna be cool. One thing about
Speaker 1: that is your kids are going to know you as
Speaker 1: so you're you're gonna have some other quote unquote profession
Speaker 1: when you have kids, and you're going to be in
Speaker 1: a shining example for them of somebody who can live
Speaker 1: multiple lives, that you are multitalented, that you elevated to
Speaker 1: the best of the best in football, and now you
Speaker 1: transitions and now you've elevated in this other arena on life,
Speaker 1: and then maybe there's another one you elevate to another
Speaker 1: arena in life. I think that's wonderful. I think that
Speaker 1: that's just so inspiring to a kid to see that
Speaker 1: that dad can be successful in whatever he does. So
Speaker 1: it's not just about what he's doing, it's about the
Speaker 1: characteristics of dad. So I think that's so cool. Let's
Speaker 1: talk about the artists, the or the author's side of you. Um,
Speaker 1: let's talk about the two books you've written, because I
Speaker 1: love how you've segued from athletes into an author. Can
Speaker 1: you tell us about the two books you've written? Yeah, sure,
Speaker 1: so again tapping back into the first book, UM, the
Speaker 1: If and Life, which became a New York Time bestseller.
Speaker 1: I had no idea that that was in the mix. Um.
Speaker 1: I don't even know how they evaluate which one has
Speaker 1: become the New York Times bestseller, but when they I
Speaker 1: got that call, I was floored. Um, But I wrote,
Speaker 1: thanks man. I appreciate that so much. And when I
Speaker 1: have people come up to me, you know, it's there's
Speaker 1: still people come up to me periodically either because of football,
Speaker 1: then print I left there, or because of dancing with
Speaker 1: the stars. People want to get to that in a second. Yeah,
Speaker 1: or or or or you know, writing books, or I
Speaker 1: saw you doing catfish, or you know I've seen you
Speaker 1: on a good Morning America. Whatever. Anybody has seen me.
Speaker 1: You know, they come up to say something or ask
Speaker 1: for an autograph. But I tell you, it's nothing more
Speaker 1: rewarding between if I had to pick which one touches
Speaker 1: me more to sign or have a kid come up
Speaker 1: to me and say, hey, can autograph my jersey? Autographed
Speaker 1: this book? The book wins everything every time because the book, well,
Speaker 1: football is a is a piece of me. Like the
Speaker 1: book I really gave a lot of me. Wow, And
Speaker 1: that's my life versus a chapter. You know, football is
Speaker 1: just the chapter of my life, and my book encompasses
Speaker 1: all of me. So like watching a kid get excited
Speaker 1: and say he's motivated to read my book or has
Speaker 1: read it and has touched them, and the emails I
Speaker 1: get from parents, um, it makes me stay up at
Speaker 1: night and continue to think, how can I connect to
Speaker 1: this world more by by print? Dude? Every time I
Speaker 1: talked to you, I get so inspired by you because
Speaker 1: the last time we saw each other was at Lewis
Speaker 1: Houses event um, and we chatted afterwards, and I asked
Speaker 1: you about your transition from the NFL to afterlife, and
Speaker 1: you gave me a really cool storage. Remember what you
Speaker 1: said that night, no, which I can't recall it right now.
Speaker 1: You said, Uh, you said you looked at your NFL
Speaker 1: career like you were a young kid who was at
Speaker 1: the bar and you knew the bouncer was going to
Speaker 1: throw you out in just a matter of attack. So
Speaker 1: so you're like, I enjoyed every second. I knew it
Speaker 1: wasn't gonna last forever, and I knew at some point
Speaker 1: I'd get kicked out of this place, but I was
Speaker 1: gonna love it until I did. Um. And that kind
Speaker 1: of care freeness about about your career is something that
Speaker 1: I've always I remember that story and I've always tried
Speaker 1: to bring with me and tried to apply to my
Speaker 1: life because letting go of my career has had a
Speaker 1: little more constraint on me. It's been harder for me
Speaker 1: to let go of it. And you, you're an inspiration
Speaker 1: for me for seamlessly transitioning into life after sport and
Speaker 1: into other other endeavors, and so hearing that that football
Speaker 1: is just a part of you, but the book and
Speaker 1: what you're doing is like your whole life is just
Speaker 1: inspiring for me to hear. Can you talk a little
Speaker 1: bit about the children's book? Yes, the children's book again,
Speaker 1: because I grew up with a red acomprehensive deficit. I
Speaker 1: struggled academically and I didn't enjoy reading. And one of
Speaker 1: the reasons why I didn't enjoy reading is because of struggle, right,
Speaker 1: which actually it's it, this is uh, this is very well.
Speaker 1: I come back to it because it is a very
Speaker 1: deep thought that I like had a whole revelation about
Speaker 1: like four years ago. That's kind of cool. I think
Speaker 1: that inspire some people that may struggle academically or just
Speaker 1: even in general life. But the reason why I want
Speaker 1: to write kids books is because a lot of young
Speaker 1: males don't enjoy reading. You know, you'd rather play a
Speaker 1: video game, go outside, run around. But statistically speaking, the
Speaker 1: percentage of kids that have the ability to read above
Speaker 1: a third grade level um are less likely to become incarcerated. Rely, Yes,
Speaker 1: So I wanted to catch kids at a young level
Speaker 1: and give them material that they can actually get lost
Speaker 1: in and so for myself as a writer, you know,
Speaker 1: I understand this idea of things becoming very addictive, and
Speaker 1: they have an addiction inside of food. Right, chips are
Speaker 1: one of the prime ways that science have proven addiction
Speaker 1: between the amount of carbohydrates, fat, and sodium. The combination
Speaker 1: makes things addictive. Why you can't have one ship truly? Um,
Speaker 1: there's neurological. I want to have it, and so I've
Speaker 1: tried my hardest two for these kids to write in
Speaker 1: such a way that's addictive to what is going to
Speaker 1: happen next. I have to know before I go to sleep. Like,
Speaker 1: that's the type of energy that's in these books. Because
Speaker 1: if you're gonna be addicted, be addicted something that's good.
Speaker 1: I love that, man. I love the intention and the
Speaker 1: encoded energy you're putting into this. Like it's not just
Speaker 1: I want to write a children's book for kids to read.
Speaker 1: It's of kids who have a third grade reading level,
Speaker 1: are higher, are less likely to be incarcerated. Like there's
Speaker 1: such an encoded energy and a purpose into this. Um,
Speaker 1: you're a deep dude, man. Every time I talk to you,
Speaker 1: I discovered more and more. You're really thoughtful guy. No, man,
Speaker 1: and so what one of the things talking about being thoughtful,
Speaker 1: you might appreciate this or you know, just take a
Speaker 1: seat on it for a second, because I wanted to.
Speaker 1: I struggled reading right, And I realized I struggled reading
Speaker 1: because I didn't respect my voice. When I read at
Speaker 1: my best, it was because I was pretending to sound
Speaker 1: like a teacher. I was pretending to sound like somebody
Speaker 1: I respected. You know, we can read a book and
Speaker 1: narrating somebody else's voice. M whenever I pretend to be
Speaker 1: another person reading, I would read, well, why because I'm
Speaker 1: hearing them because I respected them. I never really respected
Speaker 1: my own voice, so I ran from it when I
Speaker 1: heard it, and I struggled listening and listening to it.
Speaker 1: And the same thing when I was younger with my opinions. Right,
Speaker 1: if I hear somebody else's opinion that I respect, I
Speaker 1: take it and run. But if I hear my own voice,
Speaker 1: hear my own opinion about myself, I don't really know
Speaker 1: if I can do it. I don't know if I
Speaker 1: could because I really struggle respecting my own voice. So
Speaker 1: over time. You know, when some people say I have
Speaker 1: a voice, it totally resonates with me differently because the
Speaker 1: more I begin to respect the sound that I have,
Speaker 1: I totally became a better reader. Dude, we should do
Speaker 1: a whole another episode on that about trusting yourself because
Speaker 1: so many of us trust other people almost implicitly. You know,
Speaker 1: we have good friends, we have people in our lives,
Speaker 1: in our circles that we look up to and almost
Speaker 1: hang on their words and really trust them, but have
Speaker 1: very little trust in ourselves. It's a very common thing
Speaker 1: going on in the world. Um, But that would be
Speaker 1: a whole another I think podcast, but an interesting topic
Speaker 1: to uncover. I want to now talk about Dancing with
Speaker 1: the Stars. You are You are a Mirror Ball champion
Speaker 1: dancing with the Stars bad. I'm so I'm so jealous
Speaker 1: of you, um because Emma, Emma is a great friend
Speaker 1: and a wonderful human being. Uh and right and Sasha too,
Speaker 1: I love them both. Um. Can you tell me about
Speaker 1: why you wanted to go on Dancing with the Stars.
Speaker 1: So it's such a highlight in my life, man, like
Speaker 1: wouldn't wouldn't a whirl? You smile about it every time
Speaker 1: I ask you about it. You instantly smile, like almost
Speaker 1: a bigger smile than asking you about the NFL, right
Speaker 1: it is? It really is. I have no idea. The
Speaker 1: NFL at least had a desire and I worked really
Speaker 1: hard at like it was a whole plan of hope.
Speaker 1: And this came out of clear blue sky Dancing with
Speaker 1: the stars. What So what I do every offseason, I
Speaker 1: will say that I'm an auder to deck. I'm addicted
Speaker 1: to learning. I just love learning new things, and so
Speaker 1: every off season I will pick up a new art
Speaker 1: or craft. Um. The first off season, I picked up
Speaker 1: the guitar, learn how to play it until the point
Speaker 1: I could get in the studio John Mayer's the reason
Speaker 1: why I picked up a guitar. Um. Then the next
Speaker 1: off season, I learned a bunch of magic tricks right
Speaker 1: so of them I love it. It's never a dull
Speaker 1: party with me and uh so, Then the next off
Speaker 1: season I picked up poetry, archery, Olympic style fencing. Every
Speaker 1: single off season I picked up something new. And this
Speaker 1: last offseason I was at one of my buddy Shouldn't dig.
Speaker 1: They're having a whole little party and hanging out, barbecueing,
Speaker 1: and I was in the house and there was this
Speaker 1: commercial that came on and some people was moving across
Speaker 1: the screen really good, and they were dancing. I was like, Yo,
Speaker 1: that is dope. What in the world are they doing.
Speaker 1: One of my buddies she's actually a dancer, and she
Speaker 1: knew what they were doing, so she said, oh, that's
Speaker 1: a chat chat. I said. She said, that's ballroom dancing.
Speaker 1: So what the heck is ballroom dance? And she said
Speaker 1: you should really check it out. I said, kind that
Speaker 1: teached me to do that? They said, yeah, sure, I said,
Speaker 1: you know what, That's what I'm gonna learn this offseason.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go figure out some ballroom dancing. Right. So
Speaker 1: I'm in for a lot of Del Florida train every
Speaker 1: day from eight am to buy like one pm, and
Speaker 1: then I have the rest of the evening all and
Speaker 1: uh So, one day, all sweating, yoked up, just finished
Speaker 1: working out, when I google the local ballroom studio, the
Speaker 1: nearest ballroom studios where I was staying, and I go in,
Speaker 1: open the door, ding, I got a tank top on,
Speaker 1: like just girly dude coming in and everybody's all daintily
Speaker 1: and yeah, ballroom And I'm like, what the heck is this?
Speaker 1: And the lady this told you how much I knew nothing.
Speaker 1: The ladyships. He can we help you? And I said,
Speaker 1: I said, yeah, I'm looking for the chat like it's
Speaker 1: a person. And she you know, yes, we can teach
Speaker 1: you how to jot you. Oh yeah, yeah, that's that's
Speaker 1: what I was looking looking for. And she she laughed,
Speaker 1: and she pulled me to the desk and she said,
Speaker 1: with you like some privates or are you okay with
Speaker 1: open floors? Had definitely gotta be private. I don't want
Speaker 1: anybody see anything. She said, well, we don't have any
Speaker 1: availability until two weeks from today. I said, sure, no problem,
Speaker 1: I'll be back in two weeks. A week from that day,
Speaker 1: Danced with the Stars called come on. Never got a
Speaker 1: chance to go to that ballroom studio. And what makes
Speaker 1: this funny? I never got a chance to go to
Speaker 1: the ballroom studio. The first dance on Dance with the
Speaker 1: Stars I learned wasn't When I won that lady called
Speaker 1: me and said that I was supposed to learn from them.
Speaker 1: He said, what just had learned? And she's looking on
Speaker 1: TV seeing me win the shows. So it was it
Speaker 1: was a time, but no man, I enjoyed it. Um.
Speaker 1: I learned so much about myself. Um, I'm a true
Speaker 1: hopeful romantic, so I enjoy the connectivity that I understand
Speaker 1: the dance provides, you know. And also I cannot wait
Speaker 1: to release a book that I have about how much
Speaker 1: relationships in ballroom dance merge um man. It was just
Speaker 1: such a highlight. I can't And and then when we
Speaker 1: went on tour and if you would have told me
Speaker 1: at the age of fifteen, one day you're gonna be
Speaker 1: selling out arenas for dancing, you know, I felt it's
Speaker 1: so cool. But you know what, I I also like,
Speaker 1: really admi owned respective vote for that is one, you
Speaker 1: had the courage to go to a totally different arena. One.
Speaker 1: I love the fact that you learn a new skill
Speaker 1: every offseason. That's amazing. That's just like I hope people
Speaker 1: just absorbed that like a sponge because that's incredible too.
Speaker 1: You had the courage to go into a totally different
Speaker 1: arena and try something you've never done before. But then
Speaker 1: I also remember when you won. I think they announced
Speaker 1: that you and Emma headlogged I think three hundred and
Speaker 1: twenty four hours of practice during that season. It was
Speaker 1: it was some astronomical number that was almost twice as
Speaker 1: much as any other competitor there um, which just goes
Speaker 1: to show that you'll be successful in whatever you do
Speaker 1: because there's underlying characteristics present within you as a human
Speaker 1: being that will come out and can come out in
Speaker 1: any different avenue of life or any different career that
Speaker 1: you pursue. So myself watching that witnessing that is super
Speaker 1: inspiring and I would go on that show in a
Speaker 1: heartbeat because I think it's a beautiful art and I
Speaker 1: would so love to learn to dance. Dude, if if
Speaker 1: they has definitely doing it, it's it's life changing. Man.
Speaker 1: I had a great experience. Emma helped that. Uh that
Speaker 1: that the whole notion of you know, one wanting to
Speaker 1: learn how to dance, and you know you create, you create,
Speaker 1: So I created from friendships from the show, and you know,
Speaker 1: as a whole new audience, I got to let people
Speaker 1: know who I am as a person, not just the
Speaker 1: jersey I where, but with the neatest bar And you
Speaker 1: probably understand this man like coming from sports and you know,
Speaker 1: playing like true American gladiator sports man amongst hitting each
Speaker 1: other and then parlaying it into one of the most
Speaker 1: gentle arts ballroom dance like Polar opposes you built the
Speaker 1: run through human beings, and I have to figure out
Speaker 1: where to place this cost and stand on. Yeah, it's crazy.
Speaker 1: It's being your head back and just underneath all that
Speaker 1: kind of stuff. Yeah. But what's super cool about it too,
Speaker 1: is like you have a rhythm. You have a rhythm
Speaker 1: and athletic rhythm of running, of agility, of jumping, of
Speaker 1: of squatting, of weightlifting. That's a whole different rhythm. But
Speaker 1: rhythm and dance. Moving your body is in dance is
Speaker 1: a completely different language, just because like we're athletes, we
Speaker 1: know how to move our bodies through space. But the
Speaker 1: thing I love about it is like that captivates M
Speaker 1: is then interpreting the music and having that rhythm come
Speaker 1: through your body. And when I dance, I just feel
Speaker 1: so awkward. I'm like, God, why do I feel so
Speaker 1: out of rhythm? I'm an athlete, I moved my body.
Speaker 1: How my body feels like it's moving really weird. That's hilarious, man.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you would kill it though, I know you
Speaker 1: would if I was partnered with M. I yeah, because Emma,
Speaker 1: I think can I think am I can make magic
Speaker 1: out of anybody. She made me a little better than
Speaker 1: I am dude, I love it. It was so fun
Speaker 1: to watch you because you crushed that season. Um, we're
Speaker 1: gonna get We're gonna take a quick break, my man,
Speaker 1: and then we're gonna come back with some listener questions
Speaker 1: for professional athletes. So some of these were shot. I'm
Speaker 1: sure you've been asked. Other ones are community submit some
Speaker 1: interesting questions. So other ones I don't know if you've
Speaker 1: ever been asked these questions. We'll be right back more
Speaker 1: after the break back from break, we have our outstanding engineer,
Speaker 1: slash producer, slash man of all trades and that's my
Speaker 1: stash in the business. Mr Easton Allen with us, and
Speaker 1: he's gonna fire some some of the how men think
Speaker 1: listener questions rapid fire two Rashad and I uh. We
Speaker 1: are two professional athletes and we're gonna answer your questions
Speaker 1: as best we can. Let's see where we get. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what do we got? Eastern? Thank you for that introduction, Bricks.
Speaker 1: I appreciated our first question, where can you meet a
Speaker 1: professional athlete and have a chance but not be mistaken
Speaker 1: for a groupie chance? Chance? Well, hey, look I'm gonna
Speaker 1: say like like I think you can meet a professional
Speaker 1: athlete anywhere. Um nowadays, UM, I would say for myself
Speaker 1: where you would find me at? You will find me
Speaker 1: at a lot of foundational events. Um, You'll you'll find
Speaker 1: me from time to time just at a great sushi
Speaker 1: restaurant you know. Uh that those type of places you're
Speaker 1: gonna find me. Yeah, you will find me too often
Speaker 1: in the club. And if you find me in the club,
Speaker 1: I'm in the VFP section anyway, so I gotta know
Speaker 1: some my those money. But into the approach simple, You'll
Speaker 1: be surprised. A lot of a professional athlete is just
Speaker 1: an athlete, and the athletes just a human. Most people
Speaker 1: like simplicity. Just come up, have a genuine conversation, uh
Speaker 1: and see where you see where it goes from there,
Speaker 1: you probably have a chance more thing, you know, ask
Speaker 1: him to choteya. I'm whearing the chart. Um. I love
Speaker 1: what you said there, dude. Um, yeah, because the foundational
Speaker 1: one for sure, that's a great place to meet somebody.
Speaker 1: And then sushi. I would I would? I echo with
Speaker 1: that as well. So I'm gonna just accept for Shawn's
Speaker 1: answers as mine. I would I would, I would. I
Speaker 1: know she can't answer, but I would like her to
Speaker 1: answer this, Where does a professional athlete go to find
Speaker 1: a genuine girl? Here we go? Oh another you gotta
Speaker 1: you gotta go to like yoga class or like a
Speaker 1: coffee shop. I found out that the kils section and
Speaker 1: hope foods or where the best women are. M M,
Speaker 1: there you go. Okay, alright, kale section, that's where we
Speaker 1: gotta hang. Uh. Next question, is it a no go
Speaker 1: if he or she has dated or slept with someone
Speaker 1: else on the team. Yeah, that's a that's a that's
Speaker 1: almost a no fly zone. That's a tough one. Yeah. Me, personally,
Speaker 1: I lose all interests if if a dude has talked
Speaker 1: to a girl in any way shape form Capa's that's
Speaker 1: just me though. I don't know what it is about it,
Speaker 1: So for me, it's it's all limits. I have a team.
Speaker 1: I played with one guy who married a girl that
Speaker 1: used to date one of our teammates. So it does happen. Yeah,
Speaker 1: for sure, they have and they have kids. Now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's a personal deal. If if if you have any
Speaker 1: interest in me, yeah, you better you can't have talk
Speaker 1: to somebody I know. Alright. Next one, between training and
Speaker 1: practice and everything like that, how much time can you
Speaker 1: actually devote to a relation ship? Um. My answer of
Speaker 1: that when when I was like between the age of
Speaker 1: twenty and thirty, I was consumed as a professional athlete,
Speaker 1: Like every every ounce of energy I had, every decision
Speaker 1: I made was toward my sport. I was, and I
Speaker 1: did that to myself. I fully where that I was consumed.
Speaker 1: It was each sleep, rest, train, rinse, wash, repeat. It
Speaker 1: was if like my rest was important, so I wasn't
Speaker 1: going out on date nights. My diet was important, so
Speaker 1: I wasn't just eating everything and what it was just
Speaker 1: I was dialed in as an athlete. I fully admit
Speaker 1: I did not have a lot of time to date
Speaker 1: when I was twenty to thirty, and after that I
Speaker 1: wanted more fulfillment in my life and started getting a
Speaker 1: little more balanced in my personal life. Yeah, and that second,
Speaker 1: that is it can be. It depends on the person, right,
Speaker 1: Like you can't have box and went after. I know
Speaker 1: some people that don't eat right and don't sleep right
Speaker 1: and that you know, and still don't have time for
Speaker 1: a relationship. So but I would say for myself, I
Speaker 1: was I was. I was tonal vision. Um, you know,
Speaker 1: I was married to my dream and uh before before anybody,
Speaker 1: and so I gave a lot of effort to it.
Speaker 1: It is it is time assuming if you you know,
Speaker 1: if you're eating right, you know now you can't have
Speaker 1: the QC date night eating your brown Sharon and Shandon
Speaker 1: dessert as much because you focus and now you know
Speaker 1: that could make her feel like she's not important. So
Speaker 1: if it's not the right I wouldn't say right person. Uh,
Speaker 1: if it's not the right timing. If if two people
Speaker 1: really just don't understand where each other are at in
Speaker 1: life and know their limits, it could be tough. I
Speaker 1: don't want to say that's every professional athlete, though, I
Speaker 1: don't want to like scare people off. That's just how
Speaker 1: I approached it, and maybe that's how we shot approach it.
Speaker 1: But I played with many, many, many guys that were married,
Speaker 1: a lot of guys that were married young and and
Speaker 1: their partners were a huge part of their lives and
Speaker 1: a huge part of their careers as well. That was
Speaker 1: just my path. Mhm. Absolutely, would either of you consider
Speaker 1: dating someone who isn't famous? Absolutely? Yeah, I probably uh
Speaker 1: would prefer to be honest with you, um to to
Speaker 1: be with somebody that's not famous, Um, you know, but
Speaker 1: that's me I think, And there's no right and right. Hey,
Speaker 1: you fall in love with what you fall in love with.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that I would never, but instantly, if
Speaker 1: somebody put on paper, would you want to dad a
Speaker 1: celebrity or non celebrity, I would say non celebrity. And
Speaker 1: uh here here's another like lifestyle one. What about here?
Speaker 1: Is it true that athletes only date girls that are
Speaker 1: super fit? No? I say no, My my ex wasn't.
Speaker 1: So no, I'm not. I think, uh, now you're I
Speaker 1: think you're Most humans are attracted to people that are fit.
Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong, like hello, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But no, so as far as the as far as
Speaker 1: a commitment to someone, um, you know you want somebody
Speaker 1: that is I think more so active than this figurative
Speaker 1: model sort of speak. I think that is very important
Speaker 1: to be with somebody that is an active individual. I
Speaker 1: would echo that. Um, the question was super fit. So
Speaker 1: to be real picky, here the question said super fit.
Speaker 1: I don't think every athlete dates somebody who is super fit,
Speaker 1: but um, to be honest, both at moost athletes will
Speaker 1: date somebody who is is Like Rishad said active looks
Speaker 1: after themselves, cares for themselves. Well, is a healthy, active,
Speaker 1: fit person. Is it more attractive if the girl is
Speaker 1: interested in sports? I don't think so. Yeah. I would
Speaker 1: say what's attractive is the willingness, right, So, like I
Speaker 1: actually what I actually enjoy somebody that doesn't understand the
Speaker 1: game of football. It's like, it's hilarious to watch them
Speaker 1: trying to figure it out. Yeah, so it it's the
Speaker 1: willingness to sit there and wait, he did what I
Speaker 1: thought that was? I thought that was a foul, Like,
Speaker 1: that's hilarious, right to try to figure watch her figure
Speaker 1: it out in the same thing for me to her,
Speaker 1: Like I don't know anything about probably some of the
Speaker 1: stuff she may bring to the table, but she probably
Speaker 1: would love the fact that I'm willing to figure out
Speaker 1: what narrow polish is the best. So it's the willingness
Speaker 1: that is what it's attractive. I ain't really worried if
Speaker 1: you know everybody's stats their names more than me, that
Speaker 1: ain't attractive. Uh. Yeah, I actually liked because I was
Speaker 1: so focused on my career, I actually liked and preferred
Speaker 1: somebody that didn't have any idea about the sport because
Speaker 1: I could get away from the sport. Whereas I have
Speaker 1: teammates who had wives that were like, what did the
Speaker 1: coach say in the locker room after the game? What
Speaker 1: it like? And I was like, Wow, how could you
Speaker 1: be that invested everywhere? Like I needed to get away
Speaker 1: from it. I needed to be all in when I
Speaker 1: was there, and then in a relationship get away from it.
Speaker 1: And I actually preferred some that didn't have a real
Speaker 1: in depth knowledge or background on the sport. All right,
Speaker 1: all right, this is an interesting one. Are As an athlete,
Speaker 1: are you easily tempted to be unfaithful? I would say
Speaker 1: that is just you can take out the word athlete
Speaker 1: and just say as a human. You know, um, I
Speaker 1: see more. I've seen more doctors. I've seen more doctors
Speaker 1: in places they shouldn't be at then athletes. All right,
Speaker 1: so it's not just an athlete thing, it's it's truly
Speaker 1: a human thing in it. Are you tempted? Yes? Who?
Speaker 1: Everybody is always tempted. The tempt is revelatant, and it's
Speaker 1: about are you going to respond, you know, to to
Speaker 1: these tempts. But to answer the question, yeah, everybody's tempted,
Speaker 1: you know, Yeah, I would agree with that I think,
Speaker 1: um more is kind of more temptation kind of comes
Speaker 1: your way. You're as an athlete, you're a young guy,
Speaker 1: you are very successful, very driven. Um you probably have
Speaker 1: a few bucks in your wallet. Um, you have some
Speaker 1: sort of fame or notoriety, some sort of communal importance
Speaker 1: quote unquote. Um. So that that there's just more. Probably
Speaker 1: you'll probably get approached more than maybe just the other
Speaker 1: guy from town. Um. So then, but it's just like
Speaker 1: Rashad said, then it's you know, how do you handle it?
Speaker 1: Do you just you know, um say hey, it's great,
Speaker 1: nice to me. Do you have a nice day and
Speaker 1: be cordial and polite with a human being? Because you
Speaker 1: can still do that, that's completely fine. Or do you
Speaker 1: do you cross boundaries? It's just who you are as
Speaker 1: a human being. But I think to answer the question, yes,
Speaker 1: you probably are more tempted just because of what comes
Speaker 1: with being an athlete. Rashot, are you open to dating
Speaker 1: right now? Dating? I don't know how about this? Who
Speaker 1: would be your dream date? Uh, that's a good one,
Speaker 1: that's a really good one. I mean that wouldn't be,
Speaker 1: this would not be. This isn't answering the question, But
Speaker 1: this was not this is not my dream day. But
Speaker 1: like just to give some kind of like ideas of
Speaker 1: you know myself, I grew up Jennifer Lopez is my
Speaker 1: childhood crush, you know what I mean? Um, but like
Speaker 1: my ideal date of a person. So I enjoy going
Speaker 1: out on days. This is a very true thing about me.
Speaker 1: When I was in uh, when I was in New York,
Speaker 1: when I would go out on different dates all the time,
Speaker 1: Like it was a point where I think I went
Speaker 1: out on a different date, like every four or five days,
Speaker 1: somebody different, and and but this is this is why, um,
Speaker 1: how I look at dating, right you they didn't get
Speaker 1: to know somebody cool, nothing wrong with I think you
Speaker 1: get to know somebody all the time. We get annoy
Speaker 1: each other right now, you just don't quote it anything
Speaker 1: of the setting. But I would try to find somebody
Speaker 1: that had some type of skill or profession that they
Speaker 1: did and we would go out on the date. Right
Speaker 1: Like to give no names to anybody, but I would
Speaker 1: take somebody that was a professional golf a golfer out.
Speaker 1: I don't know nothing about golf. You spent thirty years
Speaker 1: to professional to make this to profession, so you know,
Speaker 1: a lot about golf. I know a lot about football.
Speaker 1: Let's exchange lives of information. I'll take it. Who's a gardener? Man?
Speaker 1: We had one of the greatest dates. We went out
Speaker 1: and and and uh and uh in a park and
Speaker 1: she was explaining every plant and how it was made
Speaker 1: and what is it doing an atmosphere. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: this is amazing. You're giving me life. I never would
Speaker 1: let me explain some of my life. Like, so I
Speaker 1: date all the time. There's, um, what you just touched
Speaker 1: on your There's a couple of things I remember hearing
Speaker 1: things that are afrodisiacs. Natural afrodisiacs. Two people, uh, and
Speaker 1: who of the things? Are watching somebody perform their mastery,
Speaker 1: whatever it is that they do. You're a football watching
Speaker 1: you perform at the highest level as a football player
Speaker 1: is something that is an aphrodisiact to person, to somebody, Um,
Speaker 1: it could be the same as this lady who's a
Speaker 1: gardener watching her guard do her thing something that that
Speaker 1: is her mastery, her art form. Watching somebody perform their
Speaker 1: art form is an aphrodisiac And the other one is
Speaker 1: watching somebody perform a charitable act that is very much
Speaker 1: an aphrodisiact to somebody as well. So, um, anyway, I
Speaker 1: just wanted to share that with the community. There you go,
Speaker 1: Eastern rapid fire questions. Let's go all right? These are
Speaker 1: these are when it comes to women, it's kind of
Speaker 1: like an either or thing. So this first thing that
Speaker 1: comes to mind sneakers or stilettos. Stilettos are so sexy.
Speaker 1: Makeup or no makeup? I don't like how to makeup?
Speaker 1: Can I go very little makeup? If I had to choose,
Speaker 1: I go no makeup or very little makeup, not makeup. Yeah,
Speaker 1: either way, they only don't make me no difference. Whatever
Speaker 1: makes it ain't too much either, all right, athlete or
Speaker 1: non athlete? Athletic you gotta be athletic. Athletic is fun? Active,
Speaker 1: active or athletic? Yeah, somebody? Because I want to do
Speaker 1: athletic things in my life. I want to climb hills,
Speaker 1: I want to climb mountains, I want to go on
Speaker 1: adventures like and so if somebody isn't isn't able, or
Speaker 1: doesn't want to come on that, that's difficult for me.
Speaker 1: Right needs to communicate all day long or goes a
Speaker 1: week without talking, you know, I'm gonna take I'm gonna
Speaker 1: take the uh uh untrodden road and say communicate all
Speaker 1: the time. I would do it. I would I echo
Speaker 1: that I'm okay with talking my head off. Cooking or cleaning.
Speaker 1: We have to choose one. I'm gonna have to say cooking.
Speaker 1: If I might have to pick between between these two,
Speaker 1: it's tough. If I have to cooking, cooking is cooking
Speaker 1: is a thing for me? Definitely? I agree with some shot. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I am happy to happy to be to clean everything.
Speaker 1: If one of the like my love languages is just
Speaker 1: give me food. Please, just give me healthy food, cook
Speaker 1: for me, and I'm a happy man. And so I
Speaker 1: will happily clean all the dishes everything, just like when
Speaker 1: somebody cooks for me. That is a love language. Yeah,
Speaker 1: a dog person or dog person all day. No casts
Speaker 1: allowed in the house. There was hair with cats. Much
Speaker 1: looking for a cat. A cat has too many personalities.
Speaker 1: You have to earn their trust, you have to earn
Speaker 1: their love. And if there's already one person, I'm trying
Speaker 1: to earn all that from. I don't have time for two.
Speaker 1: I need that's just happy to see me every time
Speaker 1: I see him. I'm not trying to earn no cats,
Speaker 1: trust this. Next one's coffee or Cosmo? I don't get it.
Speaker 1: What's cosmo? It calls my apolitan. I'm guessing. Like drink,
Speaker 1: you know, like whichever. Yeah, I don't. I don't drink.
Speaker 1: I don't drink either. I don't drink coffee. So it's
Speaker 1: not like I want to share a coffee and I
Speaker 1: don't drink a Cosmo cosin palitin like for shot, I
Speaker 1: don't drink. So um, Yeah, I don't know. Next question, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't drink either. I don't know what that means.
Speaker 1: Um horror movie or action comedy, action comedy all day.
Speaker 1: It depends on the move. Man. I I love a
Speaker 1: good horror movie, I really really really do. So what's
Speaker 1: the best one you've seen lately? Man, I haven't seen
Speaker 1: a good one lately. Like it's um, I mean the
Speaker 1: last one I saw what was the summer um summer you?
Speaker 1: I mean I had that seeing a solid horror mov
Speaker 1: in a while. So if y'all got any please have
Speaker 1: It's it's not so much a horror movie, but have
Speaker 1: you seen the movie? It's probably this like scariest movie
Speaker 1: I've ever seen because it's based on a true story.
Speaker 1: Have you seen the movie The Fourth Kind? No? Oh,
Speaker 1: look up the watch. Here you go. You got a
Speaker 1: new movie to watch. Just have somebody in the house
Speaker 1: the rest of the night, because you're gonna have nightmares
Speaker 1: when you watch it. It's based up in Alaska, and
Speaker 1: it's based on some alien encounters. And there's like different
Speaker 1: types of alien encounters. In the fourth it's like seeing
Speaker 1: an alien talking to an alien whatever. The Fourth Kind
Speaker 1: is like abduction by an alien. And so that's what
Speaker 1: this movie is about. And it's got real life video,
Speaker 1: it's got real life audio included in the movie. It's
Speaker 1: called The Fourth Kind. It's will Scare Them. Okay, So man,
Speaker 1: I know you can find it somewhere. But it's called
Speaker 1: The Fourth Kind. It's probably on Netflix or Amazon Prime
Speaker 1: somewhere like that. I'm gonna check it out, all right.
Speaker 1: We got one more strict vegan or dunkin Donuts regular vegan. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if I had to pick between them two, I'm going
Speaker 1: to Duncan Donuts Regular. That might lead to a bad
Speaker 1: life trajectory. Yeah. Yeah, it's not a good it's not
Speaker 1: a good thing. Rashad, my brother. I appreciate you taking
Speaker 1: the time for us. Um, dude, where can where can
Speaker 1: people find you? Where do you hang out on social media? Yeah?
Speaker 1: So my name Rasha Janis. I'm at Dennis on every
Speaker 1: social media platform, UM, Twitter and Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn everything
Speaker 1: is just my name? Which one do you spend the
Speaker 1: most time on? Uh? Instagram and LinkedIn? Right on? Love brother?
Speaker 1: And then where can people find the the new Kids book?
Speaker 1: What's it called? And where can people find it? Yeah?
Speaker 1: So you can Actually, I would say for just go
Speaker 1: to rashais dot com. That's where everything will fun know
Speaker 1: you um to anything directly, but just go to shots
Speaker 1: dot com. Everything I've ever done, um or for sell
Speaker 1: or I'm about you will get to know me on
Speaker 1: a different level. Um. And you can find ways to
Speaker 1: support and also you can find ways that I can
Speaker 1: help you. Guys. I'm always tell people I don't have
Speaker 1: all the answers. There's nothing special about me. Is just
Speaker 1: a position I'm in. It's very unique. It's my job
Speaker 1: to be a magnifying glass when I when I find
Speaker 1: opportunities to do so. So I'm always looking for more
Speaker 1: people in the community to help me. Help you. Brother,
Speaker 1: You are a special person. There is a tome special
Speaker 1: about you. You're integral, you are resilient, you're intelligent, you
Speaker 1: are driven, You're kind. I love your heart, brother, Thank
Speaker 1: you so much for taking the time, buddy. Our audience
Speaker 1: appreciate it. Appreciates it. I appreciate it. Um and uh,
Speaker 1: next time I see it, we're gonna do with jo job.
Speaker 1: Let's let's do it, man, Let's do it. Thanks for shot,
Speaker 1: best brother. I can't wait to see against soon, Buddy.
Speaker 1: Everybody else, thank you for listening till next week. Take
Speaker 1: care of one another, love one another, and we'll see you.
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