1 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:07,760 Speaker 1: Broadcasting live from the Abraham Lincoln Radio Studio, the George 2 00:00:07,880 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 1: Washington Broadcast Center, Jack Armstrong and Joe, Katty arm. 3 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 2: Strong and Getty and he. 4 00:00:17,040 --> 00:00:25,360 Speaker 3: Armstrong and Getty Strong and Not live from Studio C. 5 00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:28,000 Speaker 3: We're Armstrong and Getty. We've taken the day off. We're 6 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:28,840 Speaker 3: just exhausted. 7 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:30,159 Speaker 2: Yes, but you can enjoy this. 8 00:00:30,360 --> 00:00:36,280 Speaker 4: Incredibly carefully prepared Armstrong and Getty replay. Hours minutes of 9 00:00:36,360 --> 00:00:39,920 Speaker 4: effort went into distilling the show to its final assessence. 10 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:43,600 Speaker 4: It's very so it's okay, So sit back and enjoy. 11 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:45,080 Speaker 2: And Armstrong and Getty replay. 12 00:00:45,280 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 5: My brother and I Kayla. This was their first time 13 00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:51,880 Speaker 5: to Burning Down. Kayla woke up, wasn't filling. My brother 14 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 5: Casey ran all and said I need help. Within minutes 15 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 5: they had like an ob G I n and there 16 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 5: in his under helping. There were no signs of pregnancy 17 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:04,280 Speaker 5: or at the lake the weekend before. 18 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 2: She was in a swimming suit. She did not look pregnant. 19 00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a woman talking about how her niece, I 20 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 3: guess because it's the end, had a baby at burning 21 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 3: Man and didn't know she was pregnant. So that's a 22 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:20,679 Speaker 3: good story for the kid when the kid grows up. Yeah, 23 00:01:20,959 --> 00:01:23,560 Speaker 3: I had you at Burning Man. Thank god there happened 24 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:24,480 Speaker 3: to be a doctor there. 25 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:26,319 Speaker 4: I didn't even know I was pregnant while I was 26 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:27,400 Speaker 4: partying at Burning Man. 27 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:29,920 Speaker 2: That's good story right there. That's why I saw. 28 00:01:29,959 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 4: That's for ninety nine point nine percent of women on Earth. 29 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:38,360 Speaker 2: That story is just ahead screen. No kidding, you didn't 30 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:40,760 Speaker 2: know from women to men. 31 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 3: This is going to lead me into my nearly getting 32 00:01:43,520 --> 00:01:46,679 Speaker 3: in a fight on a plane story front page USA 33 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:51,680 Speaker 3: Today cover story, Male anger finds a new home online, 34 00:01:51,920 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 3: dun Dunton, here's the thing to be afraid of, all right, 35 00:01:57,000 --> 00:02:02,400 Speaker 3: And it's about how the online focus on masculinity comes 36 00:02:02,400 --> 00:02:04,600 Speaker 3: at a time when study after study shows men in 37 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 3: America are experiencing unprecedented levels of loneliness, fatigue, depression, in suicide. 38 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 3: That is all true and probably should be discussed more. 39 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 3: I wonder if that has anything to do with the 40 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 3: fifty five shootings in Chicago over the weekend. 41 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:23,079 Speaker 2: Eight deaths so far. 42 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:26,519 Speaker 3: They're still counting, because I haven't got all the numbers 43 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:28,440 Speaker 3: in yet. I don't know how it is at the 44 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:29,160 Speaker 3: end of the summer. 45 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:31,480 Speaker 4: You're just yelling at us, yourself earlier on how it's 46 00:02:31,520 --> 00:02:33,320 Speaker 4: time to get down to business and do you get 47 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:36,040 Speaker 4: serious and the rest of it. You know, you get 48 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:37,919 Speaker 4: to the end of the summer, you realize, God, there's 49 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:40,960 Speaker 4: like five six people I've meant to shoot the summer 50 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 4: and I haven't yet. I've got to get this done. Yeah, 51 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 4: you say to yourself, going to be snowing soon. 52 00:02:46,320 --> 00:02:48,240 Speaker 2: You say to yourself, where did summer go? 53 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:50,920 Speaker 3: So many rivals I haven't shot, And here it is 54 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 3: so many minor conflicts I'm meant to settle with deadly force. 55 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 2: I better get to it. 56 00:02:57,080 --> 00:03:00,320 Speaker 3: Anyway, back to the USA today, and all those awful 57 00:03:00,320 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 3: statistics about men coming to their apparent rescue are groomed, 58 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:08,520 Speaker 3: muscular men in polished videos, smoking cigars, sitting in a 59 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:11,520 Speaker 3: private jet doing push ups, and whispering that men's pain 60 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 3: is because of women. Women are greedy, untrustworthy, weak and inferior, 61 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 3: these influencers say. And then they get into how this 62 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:21,640 Speaker 3: is affecting young men. I don't have any idea. I 63 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 3: know that exists. 64 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 4: I don't have any idea now how big an influence 65 00:03:25,639 --> 00:03:27,880 Speaker 4: that is on the men of the world. I really 66 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 4: don't know. I personally don't know any that are into 67 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:32,840 Speaker 4: that one. Oh, I have a great, great story about 68 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 4: the whole online influencer thing that I want to get 69 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 4: to later. But yeah, I mean that sort of thing 70 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:41,640 Speaker 4: does exist, and some of these guys have followings, absolutely true. 71 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 4: But the number of men who are demonized merely for 72 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 4: being men and told that their masculinity is by definition. 73 00:03:50,520 --> 00:03:52,080 Speaker 2: In itself toxic. 74 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 4: It doesn't have to be toxic, just to be masculine 75 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 4: as ugly, and they're given that message as little boys 76 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:59,120 Speaker 4: at school that they need to sit down and shut 77 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 4: up and act like the little girls. 78 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:01,120 Speaker 2: Blah blah blah. 79 00:04:01,160 --> 00:04:03,400 Speaker 4: The number of guys who have to deal with that 80 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:08,119 Speaker 4: crap as opposed to the vanishingly small number that want 81 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:13,000 Speaker 4: to go all tape Brothers on womankind just please please. 82 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:17,799 Speaker 3: It's an elephant and an ant. So that's an odd 83 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 3: lead into this. I don't know if it has anything 84 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:21,920 Speaker 3: to do with it, but there was an angry man 85 00:04:21,960 --> 00:04:24,480 Speaker 3: on a plane I got on you so flying domestically 86 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:28,159 Speaker 3: over the weekend. One charming thing that I learned with 87 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:32,039 Speaker 3: a couple of different airports was nobody has any idea 88 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:34,479 Speaker 3: what the new rules are for what you put on, 89 00:04:34,680 --> 00:04:36,760 Speaker 3: what you take off what you take out of your bag, 90 00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:38,719 Speaker 3: what you can leave in your bag. Nobody has any idea, 91 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 3: apparently including the TSA agents, because it just it varies 92 00:04:42,320 --> 00:04:45,279 Speaker 3: from person to person. Even had one TSA agent say 93 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 3: to me, you can leave that on, then the next 94 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:50,240 Speaker 3: TSA agency said you got agents said you got to 95 00:04:50,279 --> 00:04:52,800 Speaker 3: take that off, And then behind me rolled is is, 96 00:04:52,880 --> 00:04:58,880 Speaker 3: oh okay. Here he goes again, like, if y'all can't 97 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:01,200 Speaker 3: get together on anyway, what do you want out of 98 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 3: us anyway? So I get on this plane and I'm 99 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:08,360 Speaker 3: walking down the aisle headed back to my proletariat seats. 100 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:10,040 Speaker 3: I don't sit up in the first class section. I'm 101 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 3: back with the restless. And I'm walking back to my seat, 102 00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:18,080 Speaker 3: and there is a mom who I had seen in 103 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:20,919 Speaker 3: the waiting line in the airport. She's got like a 104 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:22,480 Speaker 3: one and a half year old, and she's, you know, 105 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:24,560 Speaker 3: doing the bouncing up and down, trying to keep the 106 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:25,960 Speaker 3: one and a half year old calm and all that 107 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:29,000 Speaker 3: sort of stuff. And she's sitting there, and then there's 108 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 3: this guy, and I see the whole thing. I end 109 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 3: up seeing the whole thing because I'm just standing right 110 00:05:33,040 --> 00:05:34,520 Speaker 3: there waiting to get back. 111 00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 2: She says. 112 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:39,760 Speaker 3: My husband's not booked to be sitting with us. Would 113 00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:41,560 Speaker 3: you mind trading seats with him? 114 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:47,160 Speaker 4: And he said, plan better, and she said, I'm sorry 115 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 4: what he said, plan better? And she said, you don't 116 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 4: need to be so plan better. All I did was 117 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:58,600 Speaker 4: that plan better. What is wrong with you, Sarah, I'm 118 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 4: just plan better. I mean, he's screaming and he is 119 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 4: right next to my elbow. 120 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 2: I mean, his head is right next to my elbow. 121 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:08,680 Speaker 3: Because I'm standing in the aisle and he's about like 122 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:16,080 Speaker 3: mid late thirties, skinny guy, shaved head, dressed like he's, 123 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 3: you know, not a crazy person, but with the look 124 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:22,640 Speaker 3: of as the expression of a crazy person. Anyway, everybody 125 00:06:22,720 --> 00:06:25,719 Speaker 3: was like immediately on edge because this guy was clearly unhinged. 126 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:29,799 Speaker 3: And I thought, if he touches that woman holding that baby, 127 00:06:29,839 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 3: I am going to choke this guy out. 128 00:06:31,839 --> 00:06:34,560 Speaker 4: I mean, because I was right there. I mean, I 129 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:37,880 Speaker 4: put my bag in my other arm. It would have 130 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 4: taken nothing to do this. 131 00:06:40,200 --> 00:06:42,680 Speaker 3: But then then her husband, who's two rows further up, 132 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 3: same exact seats, so it would have changed this guy's 133 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 3: life not at all. 134 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:48,680 Speaker 2: He doesn't have to change seats. 135 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:51,200 Speaker 3: He could have said no, thank you, or or he 136 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:52,720 Speaker 3: could have done what I would have done and said, sure, 137 00:06:52,760 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 3: it's exactly the same seat to Wars Forward, what do 138 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 3: I care? But the husband said, hey, you don't need 139 00:06:58,360 --> 00:06:58,800 Speaker 3: to You. 140 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:01,040 Speaker 4: Don't need to talk to my wife like that plan better. 141 00:07:01,320 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 3: I phot with my kid before I plan better. 142 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:05,320 Speaker 2: Wow. 143 00:07:05,839 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 4: Wow, this guy's some sort of motivational speaker, evidently with 144 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:13,600 Speaker 4: a very narrow focus to his consentation. 145 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:16,680 Speaker 2: It can be summed up in two words. And so 146 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:18,560 Speaker 2: he was so over the top, so quick. 147 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 3: I think everybody was stunned, like what do you even 148 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:23,720 Speaker 3: where do you even go with this conversation. My favorite 149 00:07:23,720 --> 00:07:26,160 Speaker 3: part of the whole thing was though, coming from behind 150 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 3: me as a British accent, you all the reason that 151 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:30,400 Speaker 3: society is breaking down. 152 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:34,120 Speaker 2: There's people like you and acting like this that is 153 00:07:34,160 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 2: a problem with society. 154 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:39,040 Speaker 4: It's like what he said, and it sounded like we 155 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 4: had a narrator. It was like David Attenborough from the 156 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 4: Wilderness Shows. Here we see the young man in his 157 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:48,840 Speaker 4: natural habitat angry at a woman who has a kid. 158 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:54,800 Speaker 4: Or that is so funny that it was a print 159 00:07:55,080 --> 00:07:56,880 Speaker 4: because while I was in England, then you can get 160 00:07:56,880 --> 00:07:59,040 Speaker 4: on with the story. While I was in England. I 161 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 4: thought I was to be British. I'm more comfortable here. 162 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 4: Oh wow, everybody's a bit more restrained her fight and considerably. 163 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:11,320 Speaker 2: I want to hear. So the only thing left of 164 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:13,280 Speaker 2: the story is so the guy. 165 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:16,720 Speaker 3: It makes it pretty clear that he is not going 166 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:18,880 Speaker 3: to do anything physically, and the line's moving, so I 167 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:19,320 Speaker 3: got a move. 168 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:20,679 Speaker 2: So I get back to my seat. 169 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:23,440 Speaker 3: I sit down, and I say to the two seat 170 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 3: mates I've got, including this one guy who turns out 171 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:29,640 Speaker 3: to be wound so flip and tight. I mean this guy, 172 00:08:29,720 --> 00:08:32,000 Speaker 3: he was chomping his gun the whole time, tapping his 173 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:34,040 Speaker 3: fingers on his keyboard. I don't know if he like 174 00:08:34,080 --> 00:08:36,000 Speaker 3: did cocaine before he got on the plane, or if 175 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:39,800 Speaker 3: that's just the way he rolls all the time. Big, tall, strong, 176 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:42,839 Speaker 3: young dude. And I'm telling him the story and he says, oh, 177 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:43,280 Speaker 3: where is he? 178 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:43,960 Speaker 2: Where is he? 179 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:44,679 Speaker 3: Oh? 180 00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:46,760 Speaker 4: Man, he's I don't care if I get on CNN. 181 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 4: I'm ready to take this guy out. This fantastic there's 182 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:56,360 Speaker 4: like five people on this plane ready to fight right now. 183 00:08:57,080 --> 00:08:57,320 Speaker 2: Wow. 184 00:08:57,520 --> 00:09:01,080 Speaker 6: So you've got the Britain who's kind of functioning as 185 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:06,599 Speaker 6: a very restrained, dignified intelligent commentator on the good and 186 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:10,000 Speaker 6: the bad that is laid arrayed before us. 187 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:12,280 Speaker 3: There's a mother and a young man, a mother and 188 00:09:12,280 --> 00:09:14,640 Speaker 3: a baby she needs to protect from the wild man. 189 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:17,360 Speaker 2: Let's see how it goes well. And then the young 190 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:18,640 Speaker 2: man's like, you know, you make a. 191 00:09:18,559 --> 00:09:21,640 Speaker 4: Good point, granddad, let's whoop some ass, which you know, 192 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:23,959 Speaker 4: also standing up for decency. 193 00:09:24,120 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't know what happened. It looked 194 00:09:27,720 --> 00:09:31,040 Speaker 3: like a whole bunch of people moved their row, like 195 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 3: all of them, like two entire rows moved to accommodate 196 00:09:33,880 --> 00:09:37,360 Speaker 3: the mom, kid and husband because it didn't make any difference. 197 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 2: They were in that section where all the seats are 198 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:39,760 Speaker 2: the same. 199 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:44,160 Speaker 4: And then they all stared at Baldy mcrage the rest 200 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:48,680 Speaker 4: of the flight, pretty next to me though. He just 201 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:50,720 Speaker 4: he spent all his time looking down the aisle, like, 202 00:09:50,760 --> 00:09:52,600 Speaker 4: come on, do something, guy, do something. 203 00:09:52,920 --> 00:09:53,320 Speaker 2: I don't know. 204 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:56,400 Speaker 4: I don't know why he had so much energy he 205 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:59,960 Speaker 4: needed to work out well who he got on the 206 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:01,200 Speaker 4: plane angry at. 207 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:03,760 Speaker 3: It's funny how I we hear these stories, We talk 208 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 3: about them all the time, where somebody's acting out on 209 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:06,440 Speaker 3: a plane, and I think. 210 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 2: How is there not some young guy to take care 211 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:10,080 Speaker 2: of this on my plane. 212 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:12,559 Speaker 4: For whatever reason, just the luck of the draw, there 213 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:14,640 Speaker 4: seemed to be a whole bunch of people that were 214 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:17,400 Speaker 4: looking forward to the opportunity to take care. 215 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:23,000 Speaker 2: Of waffle House airlines exactly. Exactly. 216 00:10:23,080 --> 00:10:25,320 Speaker 3: Waffle House has an airline. Now, yeah, we fly at 217 00:10:25,320 --> 00:10:27,439 Speaker 3: two in the morning. Soon as the waffle house closes. 218 00:10:27,480 --> 00:10:28,560 Speaker 3: Everybody goes straight from. 219 00:10:28,480 --> 00:10:31,080 Speaker 4: The waffle house, the bar, to the waffle House onto 220 00:10:31,080 --> 00:10:33,240 Speaker 4: the plane. That's the way the waffle House airlines works. 221 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:38,080 Speaker 4: And there's a lot of fighting waffle House air Oh 222 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:42,439 Speaker 4: oh no, no, oh, why any who? 223 00:10:43,120 --> 00:10:44,679 Speaker 2: Yeah, I gotta remember that line though. 224 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:46,640 Speaker 4: My wife says, you know, I really should have brought 225 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:48,080 Speaker 4: some heels better. 226 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:49,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, just and. 227 00:10:49,600 --> 00:10:52,880 Speaker 4: Immediately go to eleven exactly. Yeah, shriek that at people 228 00:10:52,960 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 4: more often. 229 00:10:54,120 --> 00:10:55,000 Speaker 2: I don't know. 230 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:56,719 Speaker 3: How many of you, if you were looking at the 231 00:10:56,840 --> 00:11:03,200 Speaker 3: NFL weekend, had put your money on Travis Kelcey sucks. 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What they considered important to 262 00:12:24,720 --> 00:12:29,200 Speaker 4: was successful life. What is important to your personal definition 263 00:12:29,240 --> 00:12:32,160 Speaker 4: of success? And they gave them a bunch of things 264 00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:33,920 Speaker 4: to choose. They could choose no more than one. The 265 00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:37,880 Speaker 4: numbers will make that obvious. But the number one thing 266 00:12:38,600 --> 00:12:44,200 Speaker 4: that's important your personal definition of success among men who 267 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:47,600 Speaker 4: voted for Trump, young men who voted for Trump, number 268 00:12:47,679 --> 00:12:51,480 Speaker 4: one thing was having children, oh, thirty four percent interesting, 269 00:12:52,280 --> 00:12:56,280 Speaker 4: barely beating out financial independence at thirty three percent, A 270 00:12:56,360 --> 00:13:00,000 Speaker 4: fulfilling job and career at thirty percent, and being married 271 00:13:00,080 --> 00:13:05,480 Speaker 4: to twenty nine percent. I family success fulfillment, family. I 272 00:13:05,600 --> 00:13:08,040 Speaker 4: was four answers. I was joking yelling money. I would 273 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 4: not put that on my list of things that make 274 00:13:09,920 --> 00:13:15,160 Speaker 4: you a success. Women who voted for Kamala Harris their 275 00:13:15,240 --> 00:13:19,920 Speaker 4: top four at fifty one percent, fulfilling job and career 276 00:13:21,200 --> 00:13:24,040 Speaker 4: number two, having money to do the things you want, 277 00:13:24,520 --> 00:13:31,040 Speaker 4: number three, having emotional stability whatever that means thirty nine percent, 278 00:13:31,760 --> 00:13:35,120 Speaker 4: and number four using talents and resources to help others, 279 00:13:35,280 --> 00:13:40,960 Speaker 4: which is a lovely idea. Emotional stability, Yeah, so fulfilling 280 00:13:41,040 --> 00:13:43,080 Speaker 4: job and career was fifty one percent. Having money to 281 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:45,720 Speaker 4: do the things you want is forty six percent. Having 282 00:13:45,720 --> 00:13:49,280 Speaker 4: emotional stability whatever that is, thirty nine percent listed that 283 00:13:49,480 --> 00:13:56,280 Speaker 4: in their several choices. Now being married almost the bottom 284 00:13:56,559 --> 00:14:01,400 Speaker 4: six percent. Having children tied at the bottom six percent 285 00:14:02,360 --> 00:14:04,920 Speaker 4: list of that is important a personal definition of a 286 00:14:04,960 --> 00:14:08,360 Speaker 4: successful life. In contrast to the men who voted for Trump, 287 00:14:08,720 --> 00:14:11,520 Speaker 4: having children being married was thirty four and twenty nine percent. 288 00:14:12,280 --> 00:14:15,520 Speaker 3: Well, that's a problem. Obviously, you ain't gonna end up 289 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:17,320 Speaker 3: with many kids in your country, which we don't have 290 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:22,520 Speaker 3: lowest birth rate we've ever had in the United States 291 00:14:22,560 --> 00:14:25,480 Speaker 3: of America. I think you just explained it. 292 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:29,720 Speaker 4: It's not like the whole having emotional stability thing. Men 293 00:14:29,720 --> 00:14:34,440 Speaker 4: who voted for Trump that was in last place, probably 294 00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:36,640 Speaker 4: one percent of them said the hell are you talking about? 295 00:14:36,720 --> 00:14:38,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, probably with a heap and helping of what. Well, 296 00:14:38,680 --> 00:14:40,040 Speaker 3: I don't even know what you mean, So I'm gonna 297 00:14:40,040 --> 00:14:41,280 Speaker 3: put this last. 298 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:44,600 Speaker 4: Isn't that what's weird about that. 299 00:14:44,640 --> 00:14:48,880 Speaker 3: Is isn't that something you just kind of inherently want 300 00:14:49,000 --> 00:14:52,440 Speaker 3: every day of your life, starting at birth. I mean, 301 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 3: it's just it's like saying I'd like to have enough 302 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:57,520 Speaker 3: air throughout the day and enough calories to keep me alive. 303 00:14:57,600 --> 00:15:01,080 Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, well, given the fact that not having 304 00:15:01,080 --> 00:15:06,200 Speaker 4: emotional stability means you're emotionally unstable, yeah, that's it. 305 00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:07,080 Speaker 2: You don't want that. 306 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:12,080 Speaker 4: But the fact that really forty percent of women listed 307 00:15:12,080 --> 00:15:14,720 Speaker 4: that in their top I mean, it was the third place. 308 00:15:15,360 --> 00:15:16,920 Speaker 2: That's a priority for life. 309 00:15:17,640 --> 00:15:22,240 Speaker 4: Wow, it speaks to the emotional instability of women in 310 00:15:22,280 --> 00:15:23,120 Speaker 4: the modern world. 311 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:26,880 Speaker 3: Very what year did men are from Mars? Women are 312 00:15:26,880 --> 00:15:32,120 Speaker 3: from Venus? Come out? Early nineties? It's God. Now it's 313 00:15:32,240 --> 00:15:35,360 Speaker 3: men are from Mars and women are from I don't know, 314 00:15:35,480 --> 00:15:40,880 Speaker 3: some alternate universe that we've never looked into. I mean, 315 00:15:41,200 --> 00:15:43,920 Speaker 3: just how far apart they are. I'm not claiming I 316 00:15:43,960 --> 00:15:46,120 Speaker 3: am claiming this. I guess that I think one is 317 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:49,320 Speaker 3: better than the other, and I agree with one much 318 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:50,000 Speaker 3: more than the other. 319 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:53,400 Speaker 2: But there's certainly examples of unhinged young men too. 320 00:15:53,480 --> 00:15:56,040 Speaker 3: But put again, without putting a judgment on it, the 321 00:15:56,560 --> 00:15:59,320 Speaker 3: two sides are very, very far apart. 322 00:16:00,040 --> 00:16:02,640 Speaker 4: How many times has it come up in recent years 323 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:07,480 Speaker 4: that the engine the bulk of the people screaming like 324 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:13,280 Speaker 4: lunatics at these progressive protests are young women. I mean, 325 00:16:13,320 --> 00:16:20,640 Speaker 4: they're just so angry and hostile and misguided and militant. 326 00:16:21,120 --> 00:16:25,400 Speaker 4: And there it is right there. I don't know, I 327 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:27,960 Speaker 4: don't know what to make of that, but like I said, 328 00:16:28,360 --> 00:16:31,040 Speaker 4: it explains why we've got the lowest birthrate we've ever had, 329 00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:32,840 Speaker 4: and it would lead me to believe that we're going 330 00:16:32,920 --> 00:16:35,440 Speaker 4: to continue down that road. I'm looking at some of 331 00:16:35,480 --> 00:16:36,320 Speaker 4: the other answers. 332 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:41,680 Speaker 3: It seems to me and this anecdotally, God, it's way 333 00:16:41,720 --> 00:16:44,640 Speaker 3: more women than men. Anecdotally, it seems to me anecdotally 334 00:16:44,720 --> 00:16:47,840 Speaker 3: that most young women want to have enough money to travel. 335 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:49,800 Speaker 2: That is your goal in life. 336 00:16:50,440 --> 00:16:56,200 Speaker 3: I want to travel the world and period pretty much period. 337 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:56,880 Speaker 2: Drink after all. 338 00:16:56,960 --> 00:17:04,520 Speaker 4: Sprits is at a good Instagram having children listed by 339 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:10,360 Speaker 4: almost six times as many men as women, or six 340 00:17:10,400 --> 00:17:11,440 Speaker 4: times the percentage. 341 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:15,280 Speaker 2: That's it's a problem. That's crazy. It's a problem that 342 00:17:15,280 --> 00:17:18,840 Speaker 2: you ever existed in the history of mankind. That is 343 00:17:18,880 --> 00:17:21,080 Speaker 2: the question. I asked that all the time. Has this 344 00:17:21,160 --> 00:17:22,920 Speaker 2: ever happened before I won? 345 00:17:23,000 --> 00:17:26,600 Speaker 4: You know, it's probably worth as a caveat mentioning again 346 00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:31,280 Speaker 4: it was eighteen to twenty nine year olds. And it's 347 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:39,159 Speaker 4: absolutely the case that many men and women don't really 348 00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:42,280 Speaker 4: feel think they would have kids until they get to 349 00:17:42,280 --> 00:17:45,840 Speaker 4: a certain point in their lives, which is fine and appropriate. 350 00:17:47,320 --> 00:17:51,200 Speaker 4: But given the enormous gulf between men and women on 351 00:17:51,240 --> 00:17:56,240 Speaker 4: that question, that's surprising. Yeah, before I make any doom 352 00:17:56,240 --> 00:17:58,120 Speaker 4: and gloom judgments, I suppose i'd like to hear those 353 00:17:58,119 --> 00:18:01,720 Speaker 4: same questions put to thirty two thirty nine year olds. Well, 354 00:18:01,760 --> 00:18:05,879 Speaker 4: we're surrounded by doom and drowning in gloom, so I 355 00:18:05,880 --> 00:18:09,200 Speaker 4: don't think you need to make that leap here we are. 356 00:18:09,520 --> 00:18:12,119 Speaker 4: We're not having families, we're not having kids. The hell, 357 00:18:12,160 --> 00:18:13,399 Speaker 4: they're not even having sex. 358 00:18:14,640 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 1: Jack Armstrong and Joey Armstrong and Getty Show. 359 00:18:19,160 --> 00:18:24,440 Speaker 4: Oh. According to a new study, twelve percent of Americans 360 00:18:24,440 --> 00:18:26,560 Speaker 4: fine City Sweeney's American. 361 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:29,320 Speaker 2: Eagle ad offensive. The other eighty eight percent are. 362 00:18:29,240 --> 00:18:32,240 Speaker 4: Able to fit in jeans. 363 00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:38,280 Speaker 2: Wow. Wow, Gottfeld, the mean boy in high school. 364 00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:41,960 Speaker 4: So, speaking of attitudes were supposed to hold you remember 365 00:18:42,000 --> 00:18:44,639 Speaker 4: when we were supposed to take seriously for about ninety seconds, 366 00:18:44,720 --> 00:18:48,280 Speaker 4: the idea that, oh, no, good jeans, jeans, blue jeans, 367 00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 4: jeans with blue eyes. But the white supremacy, but the eugenics, 368 00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:57,600 Speaker 4: these people, oh my gosh, they're so nuts. And here's 369 00:18:57,640 --> 00:19:03,320 Speaker 4: the key, so few people actually agree with them. So 370 00:19:03,400 --> 00:19:09,639 Speaker 4: we're talking last segment about preference falsification, and I'll describe 371 00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:11,120 Speaker 4: to you exactly what it is. This is a great 372 00:19:11,119 --> 00:19:15,080 Speaker 4: description from Glenn Reynolds, who's a professor of law at 373 00:19:15,119 --> 00:19:19,800 Speaker 4: University Tennessee, one of those southern universities where people are 374 00:19:19,840 --> 00:19:25,040 Speaker 4: flocking now because everybody realizes, oh, they like teach you 375 00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:28,359 Speaker 4: stuff there, and don't just indoctrinate you into being a 376 00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:31,080 Speaker 4: good Marxist like the Ivy League. Anyway, So here's this 377 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:37,040 Speaker 4: description of a preference falsification to move usually practiced by 378 00:19:37,040 --> 00:19:40,520 Speaker 4: authoritarian regimes, but now democracies are catching on to it. 379 00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:44,280 Speaker 4: The trick is you make citizens pretend that they believe 380 00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:48,400 Speaker 4: what the government says. 381 00:19:46,480 --> 00:19:46,560 Speaker 3: Or. 382 00:19:48,320 --> 00:19:50,440 Speaker 2: What the powers that be say. 383 00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:55,160 Speaker 4: He's talking about immigration in Britain, and so the government 384 00:19:55,200 --> 00:19:58,640 Speaker 4: is the correct target. We're talking about education, so it's 385 00:19:58,640 --> 00:20:02,440 Speaker 4: more the administration the professor stuff. But anyway, the trick 386 00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:06,880 Speaker 4: is they make citizens pretend they believe what the administration 387 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 4: says and fake their approval of what it does. You 388 00:20:10,440 --> 00:20:14,080 Speaker 4: promote marches and demonstrations and speech in favor of the 389 00:20:14,160 --> 00:20:18,199 Speaker 4: preferred positions, and you severely punish marches and demonstrations and 390 00:20:18,240 --> 00:20:22,719 Speaker 4: speech that oppose those favored positions. You give excuses like 391 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:27,840 Speaker 4: stopping racism or fighting hate speech for shutting down any opposition. 392 00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:31,200 Speaker 4: You may even have informers that ferret out wrong think 393 00:20:31,240 --> 00:20:33,600 Speaker 4: and report it to the authorities or to employers or 394 00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:37,199 Speaker 4: to third parties who will engage in extra legal harassment. 395 00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:40,080 Speaker 4: If you do it right, you can have upward of 396 00:20:40,240 --> 00:20:44,720 Speaker 4: ninety percent of your population hating you and your policies. 397 00:20:44,480 --> 00:20:46,480 Speaker 2: But doing and saying nothing about them. 398 00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:49,359 Speaker 4: Because everyone in the ninety percent thinks they're part of 399 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:55,280 Speaker 4: a tiny minority, resistance will seem futile. This works until 400 00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:59,160 Speaker 4: it doesn't. The problem with preference falsification is that sooner 401 00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:02,000 Speaker 4: or later, some event development can make people realize that 402 00:21:02,040 --> 00:21:05,879 Speaker 4: what they've been told as popular is in fact very unpopular. 403 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:09,399 Speaker 4: When this happens, this Duke University scholar timierka Ran writes 404 00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:12,439 Speaker 4: in his book Private Truth's Public Lives, the result is 405 00:21:12,440 --> 00:21:17,639 Speaker 4: a preference cascade. Let's when a large swath of the 406 00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:21,080 Speaker 4: population realizes their dissonant views are in fact widely held. 407 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:24,080 Speaker 4: They become less afraid of the government or the administration, 408 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:27,240 Speaker 4: or the professors or the media and less hesitant about 409 00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:31,879 Speaker 4: sharing their true sentiments. And then everybody realizes all of 410 00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:33,520 Speaker 4: a sudden, oh, my gosh, not only have I not 411 00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:35,880 Speaker 4: been in a tiny minority all the way, all the time, 412 00:21:35,960 --> 00:21:38,359 Speaker 4: I've been in the strong majority. 413 00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:39,800 Speaker 2: And by the way, we're right. 414 00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:43,280 Speaker 4: And my prayer is that this is going to happen 415 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:46,720 Speaker 4: at some point in the American educational system. Although my gosh, 416 00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:49,000 Speaker 4: they've got the teachers, they got the faculty, they got 417 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:54,400 Speaker 4: the administration, and they're bullying the kids to wit. Really 418 00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:58,960 Speaker 4: interesting Peace in the Hill by a couple of guys, 419 00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:04,800 Speaker 4: the researchers for Strom and Kevin Waldman, on today's college campuses, 420 00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:09,600 Speaker 4: students are not maturing, they're managing. Beneath the facade of 421 00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:14,159 Speaker 4: progressive slogans and institutional virtue signaling lies a quiet psychological 422 00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:20,120 Speaker 4: crisis driven by the demands of ideological conformity. I first 423 00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:25,159 Speaker 4: read the right upon this from an opinion writer in 424 00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:27,760 Speaker 4: the Wall Street Journal. I'm very pleased to see this 425 00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:31,800 Speaker 4: as in The Hill, which is a very mainstream slash 426 00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:36,919 Speaker 4: left leaning, because you know, their readership is people who 427 00:22:36,960 --> 00:22:40,440 Speaker 4: work in Washington, d C. Generally in government or lobbyists 428 00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:44,480 Speaker 4: and on who depend on government, and that crowd tends. 429 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:46,720 Speaker 2: To be left leaning. Obviously they like more big government. 430 00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:48,680 Speaker 4: So the fact that this is being published in the 431 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:50,560 Speaker 4: Hill and has gotten a bit of attention is very 432 00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:51,720 Speaker 4: encouraging anyway. 433 00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:53,800 Speaker 2: So here's the story. 434 00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:56,560 Speaker 4: Between twenty twenty three and twenty twenty five, these guys 435 00:22:56,560 --> 00:23:00,560 Speaker 4: conducted about fifteen hundred confidential interviews with under grads at 436 00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:04,640 Speaker 4: a couple of universities, Northwestern and University of Michigan. We 437 00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:08,840 Speaker 4: were not studying politics, we were studying development. Our question 438 00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:14,320 Speaker 4: was clinical, not political. Quote, what happens to identity formation? 439 00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:17,400 Speaker 4: Which is part of becoming an adult? 440 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:19,000 Speaker 2: Who am I? What do I believe? 441 00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:19,240 Speaker 4: Right? 442 00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:21,760 Speaker 2: What happens to identity. 443 00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:28,640 Speaker 4: Formation when belief is replaced by adherents to orthodoxy instead 444 00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:32,679 Speaker 4: of painstakingly trying to understand the world and coming to 445 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:36,439 Speaker 4: a set of beliefs, instead you're just told you need 446 00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:38,680 Speaker 4: to adhere to this point of view. 447 00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:40,840 Speaker 2: What happens to identity formation? 448 00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:44,520 Speaker 4: We asked, have you ever pretended to hold more progressive 449 00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:48,960 Speaker 4: views than you truly endorse to succeed socially or academically. 450 00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:54,840 Speaker 4: You want to know what percentage said yes? Eighty eight percent? 451 00:23:56,480 --> 00:24:00,639 Speaker 4: Eighty eight percent said they pretended to hold more progressive 452 00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:04,520 Speaker 4: views than they truly endorse. To succeed socially or academically, 453 00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:08,280 Speaker 4: These students were not cynical, but adaptive. In a campus 454 00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:12,520 Speaker 4: environment where grades, leadership and peer belonging often hinge on 455 00:24:12,680 --> 00:24:17,400 Speaker 4: fluency in performative morality, young adults quickly learn to rehearse 456 00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:22,520 Speaker 4: what is safe. The result is not conviction or beliefs, 457 00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:27,800 Speaker 4: but compliance, and beneath that compliance, something vital is lost. 458 00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:33,040 Speaker 4: Quoting now from the authors, Late adolescents in early adulthood 459 00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:37,720 Speaker 4: represent a narrow and non replicable developmental window. It's during 460 00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:41,320 Speaker 4: this stage that individuals begin the lifelong work of integrating 461 00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:47,080 Speaker 4: personal experiences with inherited values, forming the foundations of moral reasoning, 462 00:24:47,480 --> 00:24:55,080 Speaker 4: internal coherence, and emotional resilience. Oh my gosh, emotional resilience toughness. 463 00:24:57,160 --> 00:25:00,800 Speaker 4: When belief is prescriptive, meaning you're tol what to believe, 464 00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:05,359 Speaker 4: an ideological divergence or disagreement is treated as social risk. 465 00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:10,320 Speaker 4: That integrative process stalls, rather than forging a durable sense 466 00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:13,560 Speaker 4: of self. Through trial, error and reflection, students learn to 467 00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:17,639 Speaker 4: compartmentalize publicly they can form privately. 468 00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:20,240 Speaker 2: They question often in isolation. 469 00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:23,600 Speaker 4: Oh but remember what we were just talking about with 470 00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:28,680 Speaker 4: a preference falsification and preference cascade. They only think they're 471 00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:31,240 Speaker 4: in isolation. Well, I guess they are in isolation, but 472 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,879 Speaker 4: sows everybody around them thinking the same things. 473 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:36,280 Speaker 2: So insidious. 474 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:42,080 Speaker 4: This split between outer presentation and inner conviction not only 475 00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:47,160 Speaker 4: fragments identity but arrests its development, and the dissonance. 476 00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:47,680 Speaker 2: Shows up everywhere. 477 00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:51,280 Speaker 4: Seventy eight percent of the students told us the self censor. 478 00:25:51,560 --> 00:26:00,840 Speaker 4: On their beliefs surrounding gender identity, Seventy eight percent believe 479 00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:05,080 Speaker 4: all that gender pending madness is madness, but they got 480 00:26:05,119 --> 00:26:08,680 Speaker 4: to be quiet. Seventy two percent do that on politics 481 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:15,720 Speaker 4: in general. Sixty eight percent on family values. I mean, 482 00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:17,960 Speaker 4: that's a lot smaller number than the seventy eight percent 483 00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:20,679 Speaker 4: that are they're soft pedaling their views on gender bending madness, 484 00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:25,560 Speaker 4: But sixty eight percent on just general family values are 485 00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:30,240 Speaker 4: soft pedaling their views. Our college students are so much 486 00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:35,920 Speaker 4: more conservative insane than you think they are, partly because 487 00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:41,919 Speaker 4: who gets amplified and applauded and publicized. They're radical, lefty 488 00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:46,679 Speaker 4: lunatic front. The normy kids just they they're afraid, so 489 00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:50,320 Speaker 4: they're quiet, and they certainly don't make any noise, and 490 00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:53,360 Speaker 4: if they do, they're they're punished or ignored anyway. More 491 00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,439 Speaker 4: than eighty percent so they had submitted class work that 492 00:26:56,560 --> 00:27:01,760 Speaker 4: misrepresented their views in order to align with professors. For many, 493 00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:05,439 Speaker 4: this has become second nature, an instinct for academic and 494 00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:06,879 Speaker 4: professional self preservation. 495 00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:08,399 Speaker 2: Listen. 496 00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:10,560 Speaker 4: Maybe it was because I was clueless or stubborn or 497 00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:13,320 Speaker 4: something as a youngster. But when I was in school 498 00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:15,880 Speaker 4: and I was in a political science, economics, pre law 499 00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:18,439 Speaker 4: program that had lots and lots and lots of the 500 00:27:18,520 --> 00:27:21,680 Speaker 4: sort of stuff we're talking about in it, I never 501 00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:25,960 Speaker 4: once misrepresented my view in order to align with a professor. 502 00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:30,800 Speaker 2: Maybe I didn't have of you at that point, but 503 00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:32,359 Speaker 2: that's terrible. 504 00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:39,080 Speaker 4: To test the gap between expression and belief, we used 505 00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:43,400 Speaker 4: gender discourse, a contentious topic, both highly visible and ideological, 506 00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:47,480 Speaker 4: ideologically loaded, right the authors In public, students were echoed 507 00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:52,879 Speaker 4: I'm sorry. In public, students echoed expective progressive narratives. In private, however, 508 00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:57,280 Speaker 4: their views were more complex. Eighty seven percent identified as 509 00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:04,280 Speaker 4: exclusively heterosexual and supported a binary model of gender. There's 510 00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:10,240 Speaker 4: men and there's women, period. That's eighty seven percent. Nine 511 00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:17,960 Speaker 4: percent expressed partial openness to gender fluidity. Seven percent embraced 512 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,920 Speaker 4: the idea of gender as a broad spectrum, and most 513 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:26,440 Speaker 4: of these belong to activist circles. Practically nobody believed there's 514 00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:29,280 Speaker 4: fifty eight genders and you get to choose what you are. 515 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:37,480 Speaker 4: Practically nobody seven percent. How different is this from the 516 00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:40,520 Speaker 4: perception we've all formed of what college kids actually think 517 00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:46,200 Speaker 4: because they've been psychologically battered into conformity. I am not 518 00:28:46,280 --> 00:28:48,320 Speaker 4: a violent man, but I swear to God, I'd like 519 00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:51,320 Speaker 4: to take a bulldozer to a lot of our college campuses. 520 00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:56,640 Speaker 2: Metaphorically, of course. Perhaps most telling. 521 00:28:57,080 --> 00:29:00,760 Speaker 4: Seventy seven percent, and these are college kids, said they 522 00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:04,760 Speaker 4: disagreed with the idea that gender identity should override biological 523 00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:08,640 Speaker 4: sex in domain such as sports, healthcare, or public data, 524 00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:14,800 Speaker 4: but would never voice that disagreement allowed. So of the 525 00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:19,160 Speaker 4: eighty seven percent that say, no, there's dudes and there's gals, 526 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:24,200 Speaker 4: that's it eighty seven percent. All but ten percent of 527 00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:29,440 Speaker 4: those said I would never say that out loud. Holy crap. 528 00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:35,080 Speaker 4: These poor kids are bullied. It's Stockholm syndrome. They're terrified 529 00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:41,400 Speaker 4: to speak their minds. Hi Karama. Thirty eight percent described 530 00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:45,200 Speaker 4: themselves as morally confused, uncertain whether honesty was still ethical, 531 00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:50,840 Speaker 4: if it meant exclusion, whatever that means. Authenticity, once considered 532 00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:54,320 Speaker 4: a good thing for all of us psychologically, has become 533 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:57,480 Speaker 4: a social liability, and this fragmentation does not end at 534 00:29:57,520 --> 00:30:01,160 Speaker 4: the classroom door. Seventy three percent of student reported mistrust 535 00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:05,000 Speaker 4: in conversations about these values with close friends. They were 536 00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:07,240 Speaker 4: afraid to even talk to their friends. 537 00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:08,200 Speaker 2: That's that. 538 00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:19,760 Speaker 4: Preference falsification, that's its direct fruit. They're sure they're friends, 539 00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:25,360 Speaker 4: excuse me disagree with them, even though eighty seven percent 540 00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:29,200 Speaker 4: agree with them, They're terrified to say anything out loud. 541 00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:35,320 Speaker 4: This is not simply peer pressure. It is identity regulation 542 00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:39,800 Speaker 4: at scale. Being institutionalized, universities often justified these dynamics in 543 00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:43,600 Speaker 4: the name of inclusion, But inclusion that demands dishonesty is 544 00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:48,360 Speaker 4: not ensuring psychological safety. It is sanctioning self abandonment in 545 00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:52,400 Speaker 4: attempting to engineer moral unity. Higher education is mistaken consensus 546 00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:58,200 Speaker 4: for growth and compliance for care, and the students know it's. 547 00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:00,680 Speaker 2: Wrong when they're given permission is speak freely. 548 00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:05,600 Speaker 4: Many describe the experience of participating as not only liberating, 549 00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:10,480 Speaker 4: but clarifying for students trained to perform the act of 550 00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:17,280 Speaker 4: telling the truth felt radical. Finally, if higher education is 551 00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:19,520 Speaker 4: to fulfill its promise as a site of intellectual and 552 00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:23,840 Speaker 4: moral development, it must relearn the difference between support and supervision. 553 00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:29,240 Speaker 4: It must recenter truth, not consensus, as its animating value, 554 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:31,080 Speaker 4: and it must give back to students what has been 555 00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:33,600 Speaker 4: taken from them, the right to believe in the space 556 00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:37,280 Speaker 4: to become. I don't know how exactly you can join 557 00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:41,440 Speaker 4: this fight. Maybe it's by supporting organizations or I don't know, podcasts, 558 00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:45,480 Speaker 4: radio shows that are fighting the fight. But man, we've 559 00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:49,280 Speaker 4: got to win this for the youngsters. They are being 560 00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:56,120 Speaker 4: mentally and intellectually tortured and bullied by these monsters, these 561 00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:58,680 Speaker 4: monsters in their ivory towers, and it's got to stop. 562 00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:08,200 Speaker 4: You said this many times after your years of trying 563 00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:10,360 Speaker 4: a number of different kinds of therapy for me and 564 00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:14,680 Speaker 4: my family, kids, marriage, all kinds of different stuff. I 565 00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:18,080 Speaker 4: think it's mostly worthless. I really do, I really do. 566 00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:21,760 Speaker 4: I think it's mostly a waste of money. Unfortunately, but 567 00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:25,680 Speaker 4: this is pretty good from a marriage psychologist who reveals 568 00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:27,960 Speaker 4: the number one sign of a future separation. And this 569 00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:30,240 Speaker 4: stuff is almost always crap, especially if it's in the 570 00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:31,160 Speaker 4: New York Post, which. 571 00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:32,720 Speaker 2: Is where I got this, but I thought this was 572 00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:33,200 Speaker 2: really good. 573 00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:35,400 Speaker 4: If you want to know if your marriage is heading 574 00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:38,600 Speaker 4: to splitsville, don't check your partner's phone, check their face. 575 00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:39,160 Speaker 2: Like any of that. 576 00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:43,160 Speaker 3: You know, there's so many stupid things out there, you know, 577 00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:45,640 Speaker 3: the one sign that he's gonna cheat or whatever the 578 00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:48,560 Speaker 3: hell I mean, They're just all dumb, but click bait. 579 00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:52,800 Speaker 3: The subtle smirk of superiority is the number one red 580 00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:57,280 Speaker 3: flag for divorce, according to this psychologist. And they get 581 00:32:57,320 --> 00:33:05,280 Speaker 3: into why. Research found that four nasty little habits, criticism, contempt, defensiveness, 582 00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:08,760 Speaker 3: and stonewalling are the four horsemen of the apocalypse when 583 00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:10,160 Speaker 3: it comes to dooming relationships. 584 00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:11,160 Speaker 2: I'll read those four again. 585 00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:18,680 Speaker 3: Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. But contempt is the kiss 586 00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:21,760 Speaker 3: of death. That's the one, and you've said that for years. 587 00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:23,400 Speaker 3: That's the one you can't get past. 588 00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:26,440 Speaker 2: Done. The largest marriage experiment ever done. 589 00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:31,080 Speaker 4: They think of couples that you know, survive and don't survive. 590 00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:34,080 Speaker 4: Body language experts brought couples into a lab and if 591 00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:37,120 Speaker 4: one member of the couple shows a one sided mouth raise, 592 00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:41,560 Speaker 4: which I had never heard before, as like a physical 593 00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:42,880 Speaker 4: contempt thing. 594 00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:46,320 Speaker 2: But I guess we're just programmed. When we're feeling that 595 00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:48,040 Speaker 2: feeling of contempt. 596 00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:49,920 Speaker 3: For something, or you know, the oh please er get 597 00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:54,160 Speaker 3: out of here with that BS or whatever feeling, you raise. 598 00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:55,200 Speaker 2: One side of your mouth. 599 00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:57,920 Speaker 3: It's funny if one member of the couple shows a 600 00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:00,400 Speaker 3: one sided mouth raise towards the other can tell you 601 00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:03,720 Speaker 3: if they're going to get divorced because it's contempt. He 602 00:34:03,760 --> 00:34:07,360 Speaker 3: could predict divorce with an astonishing ninety four percent accurate fear. 603 00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:09,440 Speaker 4: Now, this is the part I thought was really interesting. 604 00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:12,879 Speaker 4: Fear comes in a burst, and then you calm down. 605 00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:17,080 Speaker 4: Happiness comes, and then you go back to normal. Anger 606 00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:21,080 Speaker 4: comes and then you calm down, but not contempt. If 607 00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:23,560 Speaker 4: you feel scorn or disdain for someone else, and if 608 00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:27,040 Speaker 4: it's not addressed, it just festers and grows and stays 609 00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:31,560 Speaker 4: at the same level fear, anger, and then obviously happiness 610 00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:34,160 Speaker 4: you get back to a normal level. 611 00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:36,480 Speaker 2: Contempt does not go away. 612 00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:39,560 Speaker 4: And you know, in a definition of contempt, the feeling 613 00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:42,840 Speaker 4: that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless 614 00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:44,120 Speaker 4: or deserving scorn. 615 00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:45,520 Speaker 2: Yes, coming back from that. 616 00:34:45,840 --> 00:34:49,040 Speaker 4: I've not felt contempt, but I have been on the 617 00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:51,640 Speaker 4: wrong end of contempt, I think, And having read this, 618 00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:54,719 Speaker 4: I thought, yeah, that's what was insurmountable. I mean, because 619 00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:58,480 Speaker 4: once you have contempt for someone you don't agree, you 620 00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:03,200 Speaker 4: don't think they are worthless listening to on anything. This 621 00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:06,240 Speaker 4: is how I feel. This is my priority. I don't 622 00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:10,240 Speaker 4: care right. Yeah, that's a tough one to get passed. 623 00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:14,600 Speaker 4: So look out for contempt and whatever started to bring 624 00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:16,759 Speaker 4: it on. The point is you start to deal with 625 00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:19,000 Speaker 4: it right away. Otherwise it does just grow and fester 626 00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:21,319 Speaker 4: and then it gets into a situation where it might 627 00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:25,760 Speaker 4: might not be reversible. They also believe that many couples 628 00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:29,560 Speaker 4: get stuck in an endless loop of the same three 629 00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:32,080 Speaker 4: arguments throughout the relationship. 630 00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,960 Speaker 3: They just don't realize it. And if you can nail 631 00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:38,080 Speaker 3: down what your three most common arguments are you and 632 00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:41,640 Speaker 3: your partner, you can solve a lot of problems. Like 633 00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:43,080 Speaker 3: you get into something. 634 00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:45,400 Speaker 4: You say, okay, here we're in argument number two again. 635 00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:49,400 Speaker 4: We always argue about this, and you can you know, 636 00:35:49,520 --> 00:35:51,799 Speaker 4: realize that you know, you don't see eye to eye 637 00:35:51,800 --> 00:35:53,719 Speaker 4: in this particular thing, and how you've dealt with it 638 00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:56,719 Speaker 4: in the past. Back to the contempt thing discussed, and 639 00:35:56,880 --> 00:36:00,839 Speaker 4: contempt are to a relationship with gasoline, and matches are 640 00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:06,200 Speaker 4: to a fire. The telltale signs are irolling, mouthcrimping, and 641 00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:09,840 Speaker 4: then subtle fidgeting like picking it close or cleaning fingers 642 00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:13,960 Speaker 4: mid conversation as signals of disdain. This person said that 643 00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:17,520 Speaker 4: they dubbed this move the lint picker, a behavior that 644 00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:20,759 Speaker 4: he says, screams contempt louder than words ever could. 645 00:36:21,239 --> 00:36:21,759 Speaker 2: Interesting. 646 00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:24,400 Speaker 4: You know, it's probably worth presenting the other side of 647 00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:25,560 Speaker 4: the coin at some point. 648 00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:27,880 Speaker 2: We don't have time now, but how do you prevent 649 00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:28,440 Speaker 2: that sort of thing? 650 00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:31,040 Speaker 4: Nip it in the bud, having lint on your shirt, 651 00:36:31,239 --> 00:36:35,440 Speaker 4: no contempt in your No, I'm strong and getty.