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Speaker 1: of started to tick up. And I guess if you

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Speaker 1: come from an abusive household, you will sense things more quickly,

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Speaker 1: Like I can send someone who has an eating disorder

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Speaker 1: It's just a feeling. So I could feel that the

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Speaker 2: Knowing that I'm a public person. We're in a public place.

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Speaker 1: People are everywhere who because a server and by the

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Speaker 1: hadn't brought over serving utensils, and the meat was rare

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Speaker 1: fucking not done on the fucking this is bullshit. We're leaving,

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Speaker 2: I didn't say anything.

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Speaker 1: I didn't I didn't, I just I just literally disappeared

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Speaker 1: And by the way, he didn't punch anybody in the face,

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Speaker 1: I couldn't even believe it. On a first date, I

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Speaker 1: just like, this is a snapshot of my future. We're

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Speaker 2: The fuck out of there.

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Speaker 3: I just well, I'm glad you got out of there.

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Speaker 3: You didn't have to suffer fools. And there's a lot

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Speaker 1: What about saying that so many young girls would sit

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Speaker 2: What are they? What's this person going to say to them?

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Speaker 1: Or is this a me too moment that I'm just

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Speaker 1: It may sound easy that I stood up, It wasn't

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Speaker 2: It was not. It wasn't because I was in love

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Speaker 4: Up, I'm sorry I had to go through that.

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Speaker 4: Is this is this biology?

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Speaker 3: Is this sociology where women are taught to get along,

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Speaker 3: So such people pleasers that they end up not being

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Speaker 1: Well, it comes from It comes from the same women

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Speaker 2: Yeah, at my level with what I'm dealing with.

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Speaker 1: Them, with the rare air of the opportunities that I have,

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Speaker 1: I'll never know, because I'll never be flat broke. But

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Speaker 1: I also think women are acutely aware that there's another

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Speaker 4: Great.

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Speaker 3: Now we're getting somewhere, So who fucking cares that someone

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Speaker 3: You're not losing a billion dollars, You're gaining freedom. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: many you know better than I do. How many rich,

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Speaker 2: Very well, they're rich every people.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, right, right, It's not unique to the rich.

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Speaker 3: It's just the idea that if I have money, all

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Speaker 3: I'm not saying it's bad. It's that when you have money,

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Speaker 3: it gives you the freedom I've always said, Rupert Murdoch

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Speaker 1: That's different though, because men are stereotypically successful. Men have

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Speaker 3: I mean, whether you want to or not, doesn't this

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Speaker 3: bring us back to you, do you need another powerhouse

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Speaker 4: Rolls with your program?

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Speaker 2: I need another powerhouse for sure.

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Speaker 1: Okay, because there because I also think that what I've

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Speaker 1: Then that's different. I wouldn't be attracted to that guy anyway.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't matter. But there are a number of very

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Speaker 1: it's been in a long time, and I see men

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Speaker 4: I agree. Can we slice that and dice that more?

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Speaker 4: Or am I allowed to?

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Speaker 2: Sure?

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Speaker 4: Okay?

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Speaker 3: So a absolutely positively any man worth his salt wants

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Speaker 3: Why I have so much fun talking to you? So

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Speaker 3: like absolutely one true that I think the metaphor I'm

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Speaker 3: that you're both mega rich is that you're both the sun. Right,

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Speaker 3: you'll both have your own gravitational pulls, So it's your program.

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Speaker 3: Like to get on the program with you, we had

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Speaker 3: to reschedule four times because you've got a million things

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Speaker 3: going on. You got more things going on than I do. Right,

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Speaker 3: So another guy who's as busy and takes up as

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Speaker 3: You could be attracted to each each other, but you

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Speaker 1: I don't want someone. I want someone. I don't want

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Speaker 1: someone in their action era. I want them to be

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Speaker 1: But I'm not attracted to a man who's as hungry

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Speaker 1: oh my god, this is so inspiring and it's making

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Speaker 1: me want to do everything. I don't want a guy

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Speaker 3: I do not want that, Okay, And I agree with you,

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Speaker 3: not that it doesn't matters what I have to say

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Speaker 4: That that's accurate.

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Speaker 3: I also think it makes it more challenging because it

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Speaker 1: Not only the lane. The lane is three people in

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Speaker 3: That not only do I need a guy who's as

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Speaker 3: And a lot of those guys there's a reason that

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Speaker 3: they grind. All they care about is work, power, money, right, And.

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Speaker 2: I'm man attracted to that guy.

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Speaker 4: So I didn't say you are.

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Speaker 3: I'm saying there's a lot of those guys that's why

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Speaker 1: No, but at a certain age, they're calming it down

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Speaker 1: at a certain age, don't I don't worry as much.

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Speaker 1: I don't worry that much about that. I don't worry

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Speaker 1: But then to your point, you know, if you're getting

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Speaker 1: into attachment styles and horoscopes and geography and financial and

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Speaker 4: I think that is uh.

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Speaker 3: I'm tho Zen Buddhists, But we do have to have

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Speaker 3: some measure of non attachment. We could desire something, but

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Speaker 3: that may or may not happen. That it kind of

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Speaker 3: goes for every day. We kind of have to live

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Speaker 3: brings you generous with the La Fires, I came this

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Speaker 3: and here fire here that's way bigger than me. If

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Speaker 3: the if the economy tanks because of all the crazy

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Speaker 4: Nothing I could do about it.

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Speaker 3: So I think all you could do is, you know,

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Speaker 3: and that they want to be with you. I think

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Speaker 3: there's just I'm not an energy woo guy, but there's

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Speaker 3: definitely an energy that you get in exchange from people

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Speaker 4: Yeah, they're tiring.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Bud want to walk to the utterm