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Speaker 1: the Fread Show. Laura Laura textas she's like, you know

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Speaker 1: what Kiki thinks? Kiki, what do you think? Kiki's in Greece?

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Speaker 1: I can't tell. You don't know. Kiki's on a Grecian vacation.

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Speaker 1: Guys say, leave her alone, Yeah, Kiki, I'm not going

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Speaker 1: to call Kik. Kiki. You know she's doing a thing.

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Speaker 1: Don't worry you. Obviously, don't follow her on social media

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Speaker 1: because I think she last night packed her bags and

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Speaker 1: we got to see every piece of you know ingredient

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Speaker 1: that went in her every ingredient that went in her bag.

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Speaker 1: I think we got to see. So, yeah, you need

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Speaker 1: to go follow her on social media because don't worry,

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Speaker 1: there will be no part of this trip that is missed.

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Speaker 1: I think she's trying to figure out how to get

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Speaker 1: an internet connection in the sky so she can she

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Speaker 1: can TikTok live the whole whole way over all nine hours.

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Speaker 1: Iune in. Yeah, well for nine hours, you know, the

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Speaker 1: whole time. Fred is criticis a text. Fred is critical

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Speaker 1: over the type of handholding we should do. But at

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Speaker 1: the same time he's single. What is that critical? It

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Speaker 1: was a joke.

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Speaker 2: He was saying it's not his favorite handhold, and that's okay.

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Speaker 1: I think it's not a standard everyday handhold. I think

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Speaker 1: that's it. I think that's a more serious, especial occajun handhold.

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Speaker 2: I think you're critical.

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Speaker 1: I just chance him. She's Louise. She's Louise. Relax. Everybody's

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Speaker 1: not an indictment on it. On a crisscross interlocked hand hold,

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Speaker 1: It's just that's an aggressive handhold.

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Speaker 2: Also, single people can talk and have opinions like I'm

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Speaker 2: really sick of Like.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I know, it's the fact that I won't interlock

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Speaker 1: my fingers right away in the hand hold. That's why

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Speaker 1: I'm single. Now, let me tell you why I'm single.

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Speaker 1: Because I'm mentally ill. That's why I can't take it

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Speaker 1: away to else.

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Speaker 2: I dear blog. Okay, So I want your guys' opinion

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Speaker 2: on something that I've kind of been like looking at sideways.

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Speaker 2: But I don't know if I'm.

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Speaker 1: Better not be a handhold.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, let's talk about tipping and hand holding. No, So

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Speaker 2: I have a friend, Well, I'm no longer friends with

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Speaker 2: someone who I was very close to at one point

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Speaker 2: in my life for a very very very long time.

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Speaker 2: And I don't feel like it was by my decision.

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Speaker 2: It felt like there wasn't a lot of effort to

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Speaker 2: resolve the situation, and so I kind of just like

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Speaker 2: made my peace with it. But this person was very

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Speaker 2: very close to me before I lost my grandma. As

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Speaker 2: I was losing my grandma and afterwards, and because this

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Speaker 2: person was so close to my family and my grandma,

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Speaker 2: after she passed away, she had some really really nice

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Speaker 2: like little crystal things like just you know whatever. Grandmas

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Speaker 2: have a lot of Chatschke's, but these were expensive and

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Speaker 2: we gave some of her stuff to people that were helpful,

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Speaker 2: you know that she loved or you know, like Hillary

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Speaker 2: got hot. Hillary got some because she was actually a

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Speaker 2: nurse at the hospital where when she was passing away.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, so she was close with her. So

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Speaker 2: we just like whatever, But this friend got a ton

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Speaker 2: of expensive crystal from my grandma. And it's just really

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Speaker 2: weird to me that, like, this person for years has

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Speaker 2: still kept it even though we're no longer friends, Like

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Speaker 2: for me, wouldn't you guys feel uncomfortable, Like.

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Speaker 1: Did this person have a relationship with your grandma individually? Well,

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Speaker 1: I mean obviously through you, but I mean like, but

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Speaker 1: but they had their own relationship.

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Speaker 2: I suppose you could say, I mean it would have

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Speaker 2: never happened without me.

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Speaker 1: I guess what I mean is like, if you if

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Speaker 1: you gave me some things like, well, this is a

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Speaker 1: reminder of this person and the relationship that you had

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Speaker 1: with that person, then I guess I wouldn't necessarily assume

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Speaker 1: that the gift was contingent on our friendship. I would

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Speaker 1: assume the gift was more a reflection of the friendship

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Speaker 1: I had with the person who died. So I guess

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Speaker 1: that I would I would look at it separate from you.

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Speaker 1: Like for example, if I I knew Nana, right, if

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Speaker 1: you had get and I didn't know her well, but

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Speaker 1: if i'd known her a little better and you had

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Speaker 1: given me something, and then for some reason, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: we're not friends anymore. I don't know that I would

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Speaker 1: necessarily think I better give that back to Calin because

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Speaker 1: I would have assumed that it was given to me

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Speaker 1: almost on her behalf. Well you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess in that case, like she didn't ask

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Speaker 2: for it to be given to this person at all.

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Speaker 2: It was just us like showing like, you know whatever here.

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Speaker 2: You know, we know that you were close to us

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Speaker 2: and knew her and maybe helped out a couple times,

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Speaker 2: but they didn't have like their own individual relationship like that.

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Speaker 2: I guess maybe it's not something they're thinking about, but

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Speaker 2: I would just feel odd if someone I used to

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Speaker 2: be friends with like lost someone was so close to

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Speaker 2: them and I had pieces of them, but I like,

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Speaker 2: am not their friend anymore. I guess I don't know,

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Speaker 2: maybe I'm thinking too deep into it.

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Speaker 1: I think if I were given an air like, let's say,

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Speaker 1: I'll say the other way around. If I were to

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Speaker 1: give a romantic partner an heirloom, whether they knew the

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Speaker 1: person or not, but it was a gesture from me

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Speaker 1: to them. Then if we broke up, I would want

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Speaker 1: the heirloom back because like that's not replaceable. So I

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Speaker 1: guess this might be similar, but I don't know it

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Speaker 1: just maybe maybe it's similar now. But then again, that's

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Speaker 1: me giving it to you with an intention that's not

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Speaker 1: here's a chotchke on. I don't know. That's a difficult one. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it is, it is.

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Speaker 2: I think at that time though too, it's a reflection

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Speaker 2: of what was right.

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Speaker 1: So it's like you guys were very close.

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Speaker 2: Obviously it's one of Nana's items, and like at that

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Speaker 2: time she.

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Speaker 1: Was a big part of her he or she would

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Speaker 1: be a part of her lift.

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Speaker 2: So I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I just kind of would leave it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, let it be in the past. And if she

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Speaker 2: also give it to you, she can.

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Speaker 1: But also, what is she going to reach out and say, hey,

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Speaker 1: here's your grandma's stuff back, you know, I just don't.

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Speaker 1: I think if you have a deep meaning to you,

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Speaker 1: then you might have a right to ask for it.

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Speaker 1: But then again, again it's like the way I would

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Speaker 1: interpret it was like she wanted you to have this

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Speaker 1: or we want you to have this on her behalf

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Speaker 1: because it was once her. So then it's like, well

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Speaker 1: now it's not about me anymore, which sucks.

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Speaker 2: But like, yeah, I would never ask for it back.

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Speaker 2: I just personally think that I would probably. I mean

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Speaker 2: I would have worked harder to save the relationship, to

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Speaker 2: be completely honest, So I can't put myself in that person.

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Speaker 1: Can get you a new bottle cap collection. It'll be fine.

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Speaker 1: We'll start right now. We'll go after the show to

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Speaker 1: a bar and we'll start a new one. It'll be fine.

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Speaker 1: Don't even know. That's what I worry about it. It's fine,

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Speaker 1: but I'm not giving it back. Calen, it's mine now,

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Speaker 1: yas about you? Just so you know, waiting by the

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