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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Jade is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Ty.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to help her out see if we

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Speaker 2: can get him on the phone and find out why

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Speaker 2: he's ghosting and maybe get her another date. But first

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Speaker 2: let's find out about the date. Jade. Hello, Hey, Jade,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from Ty?

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Speaker 3: It's been four days, which might not sound like a

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Speaker 3: lot to some people, but that's a lot for me.

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Speaker 4: Okay, because you've just never gone four days without hearing

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like people just physically get back to

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Speaker 3: me pretty quickly, so I'm feeling really insecure about it.

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Speaker 4: How many times have you tried to reach out to

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Speaker 4: him in the four days? Did you try it all?

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Speaker 5: Well?

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Speaker 3: No, because when we left off, he said he would

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Speaker 3: call me, so I felt like it might feel desperate

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Speaker 3: to text again.

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Speaker 2: All right, So tell us a little bit about your date.

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Speaker 5: Then.

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Speaker 3: The date was really awesome. We actually met wild back

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Speaker 3: like almost probably almost ten years ago through mutual friends,

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Speaker 3: and I thought he was really cute. But like nothing

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Speaker 3: really went down at the time, but we recently matched

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Speaker 3: on hinge and we did like a cute little walk

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Speaker 3: date and we had some coffee and it just felt

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Speaker 3: really natural. They're so nice. Yeah, it was really sweet

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Speaker 3: and cozy, and I just felt like I'd done him

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Speaker 3: for a long time, which I guess I do, but

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Speaker 3: like I felt a deeper connection, you know, and we

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Speaker 3: even like extended the date spontaneously, which I feel like

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Speaker 3: is always a good mutual sign.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 3: We went out to like a sports bar. We got

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Speaker 3: some snacks and stuff. She did actually have to like

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Speaker 3: dash because he has a daughter and she has texted

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Speaker 3: or maybe the Babylon had texted about like the daughter

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Speaker 3: being sick, so he did have to dash, which I

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Speaker 3: didn't mind to totally get the responsibility of being a parent.

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Speaker 3: But after that, you know, I wanted him to know

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Speaker 3: that I'd really had a really awesome time and felt

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Speaker 3: so comfortable with him, and I was interested in it

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Speaker 3: going somewhere. He texted me, you know, thanking me for

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Speaker 3: my understanding, and I was like, yeah, no problem. I

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Speaker 3: hope your daughter feels better soon. I want to do

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Speaker 3: this again. And he was like cool, I'll call you.

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Speaker 3: And that's kind of where it's been for the last

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Speaker 3: four days.

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Speaker 4: So he studied call and he didn't and maybe things

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Speaker 4: got wrapped up with this kid.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, maybe. I just feel like call is really specific,

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Speaker 3: like intention to follow up, And so I'm definitely freaking

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Speaker 3: out a little bit.

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Speaker 4: Did anything happen on the date, like, other than that call?

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Speaker 4: Was there any awkward moments? Was anything said that could

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Speaker 4: have made things a little bit weirder? Like, you know,

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Speaker 4: was there any flags?

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Speaker 5: I don't think there were any flags.

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Speaker 3: I mean again, like he did leave really abruptly and

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Speaker 3: I ended up paying the check, but again, and I

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Speaker 3: totally didn't mind. It seemed like a genuine emergency.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So that's not because he goes out and he's like, Okay, whoops,

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Speaker 4: my kid's sick, thanks for dinner. Yeah, would be the worst.

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Speaker 2: Scam of all time. But what if it is also scam? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Do we know for sure?

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Speaker 3: He's the worst thing I've had happen on a date.

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Speaker 4: So, but do we know for sure that he's a dad?

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Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure, just because like we have mutual friends

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Speaker 3: the date. So Okay, I'm pretty sure it's a real hope.

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Speaker 2: Okay, is there any I mean, anything else that you

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I mean maybe if he just like changes mind and

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Speaker 3: thought it went well and he was like, oh my God,

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Speaker 3: get me out of here, and he's trying to be

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Speaker 3: like polite about it. I feel like sometimes people think.

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Speaker 5: It's nicer to ghost, which I do not agree with.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, we'll try to figure out for you. Play

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Speaker 2: a song come back, and then call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why is ghosting you, and maybe

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Speaker 2: get you another day if you still want one. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, Well play song come Back. Get your first

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Speaker 2: Day follow up.

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Speaker 1: Next first Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's first Day follow up.

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Speaker 2: Jade is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 2: a dude named Ty. We're about to call him see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghosting and maybe get

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Speaker 2: her another date. Before we do that, though, Jade why

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Speaker 2: don't you refresh everybody's memory about your date with ty?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Tyana actually met a while ago, never really got together.

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Speaker 3: We matched on pinge, went on a cute walk and

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Speaker 3: even like chose to extend the date for lunch. He

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Speaker 3: had to run because his daughter was sick, which was

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Speaker 3: no big deal for me. But we last off with

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Speaker 3: him planning to call me, and now it's been four days,

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Speaker 3: so I'm just wondering if maybe something changed his mind

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Speaker 4: Well, and you did end up paying for the dates,

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Speaker 4: so we need to make sure it's not a scam

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Speaker 4: just to get a free date.

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Speaker 2: You ready for us to call him? Yeah, okay, here

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Speaker 2: we go. Hello, Hi, man speaks to tie Please, but

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Speaker 2: this is speaking Ty. What's up?

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Speaker 3: Man?

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Speaker 2: How are you? This is Jewbel from a radio show

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Speaker 2: called The Jewbel Show.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and the whole show is here. My name is Nina, Hi,

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Speaker 4: and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 2: How are you stay there?

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Speaker 5: I'm doing pretty good. Did I win something?

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Speaker 2: Not sure yet? Do you ever listen to the show?

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Speaker 5: I have a couple of times.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever heard of first date follow up? No?

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Speaker 5: I haven't caught it.

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Speaker 2: A first day follow up is a segment with you

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Speaker 2: on the show where if you go out with someone

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Speaker 2: and then you end up ghosting them, that person can

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So you are currently ghosting somebody?

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Speaker 2: Do you know who that is?

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Speaker 5: My ghost? Damone? No, I haven't. I can't think I'm

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Speaker 4: Have you gone in any dates recently?

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Speaker 5: I went on a date just like a couple of

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Speaker 2: I guess here, have you messaged back to her?

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Speaker 5: I'm actually a dad and I got a kid that's

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Speaker 5: following day. I thought, I'm going to call her back.

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Speaker 5: But my kids not in the best condition. My baby

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, super dad, we're talking about Jade. Is that

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Speaker 2: who you're talking about?

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Speaker 5: Wait? Is it Jade? Because I would not want to

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Speaker 5: to see her. I've just haven't been able to come

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Speaker 4: Wow, Jade probably would like to know that.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Tis, Jade's on the phone and has been listening.

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Speaker 5: Hi a wow, Hey jid Hi, how are you doing?

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Speaker 3: Not the greatest, but okay?

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, taking care of a sick kid, trying to

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Speaker 5: pe people? Work just didn't buy right now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't know what happened, so I kind of

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Speaker 5: Oh no, onn I'm just kind of in a unique

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Speaker 5: place where, you know, I really had an amazing time

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Speaker 5: My daughter's taking care of the kid. We're just good

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess when you said I'll call you, I

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Speaker 3: was wondering if maybe, like, yeah, you change your mind,

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Speaker 5: I'm so sorry that you felt that way, babe. That

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Speaker 5: was not my intension at all. It's just I've just

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Speaker 5: because you know, I think it's probably just a cold,

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Speaker 5: kind of where I wanted to be, was more available.

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Speaker 5: I didn't want to schedule another date than then after

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Speaker 2: Oh that's sweet, boring, Okay.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I think it's sweet. You know why I think

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Speaker 4: this is sweet?

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Speaker 2: I think it's no.

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Speaker 4: I think that Jade's feelings are super valid. I know

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Speaker 4: four days doesn't seem like a long time, but if

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Speaker 4: something goes really good, you can't help but question things

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Speaker 4: but I can't help but feeling a little bit insecure,

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Speaker 4: you know what I mean? So this communication is actually

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like, I totally get that, and I'm now

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Speaker 4: I think it's normal.

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Speaker 2: Ty, would you like to go on another day with Jade?

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Speaker 2: Will pay for it.

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Speaker 5: I would love to see you day great, Okay.

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Speaker 2: All right, doctor on.

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Speaker 4: So then you can say I'm just kidding, that's not

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would love to see you again. I guess

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Speaker 3: I just want to make like one hundred one thousand,

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think you can rest a shirt on that fact.

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Speaker 5: We're pretty much just, you know, platonic friends. We're good

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