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Speaker 3: My sister passed away years ago, but now she's sending

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Speaker 1: I'm flipping out, you guys.

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Speaker 3: My sister forty female and I twenty two female, hadn't

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Speaker 3: been close at all given the age difference, the fact

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Speaker 3: that she lived across the country, and the parent that

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Speaker 3: we share was horrifically awful towards me. Still, when she

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Speaker 3: was diagnosed with twenty thirteen, I helped by sending her

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Speaker 3: some money here and there. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 1: I'm Dakota, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Keon, I'm Carly, and we already give.

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Speaker 3: Good advice Goofily, but we don't have all the answers.

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Speaker 1: We're only human.

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Speaker 3: We only know what we would do in any given situation.

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Speaker 3: So if you would do something different, let us know

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Speaker 3: in the comments. As Op says, she ended up getting

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Speaker 3: a lot worse, and when I dropped out of college

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Speaker 3: help her out a lot more financially. I got the

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Speaker 3: news that she passed away summer of twenty sixteen and

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Speaker 3: Fast forward to today, when I get a request from

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Speaker 3: her social media account and looking through her posts, she's

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Speaker 3: not only alive, but way better off than I am.

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Speaker 3: I'm glad she's not passed away, but what I haven't

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Speaker 3: to confront her about it and be what I even want. First,

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Speaker 3: I'm immediately suspecting this is a hacked account that is

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Speaker 3: now being used for you know, spam or for scamming.

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Speaker 3: I don't think I want to have a relationship with

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Speaker 3: my sister given what went down. But mostly my mind

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Speaker 3: is reeling and I'm trying to make sense of it.

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Speaker 3: Any advice and we have some relevant comments. Fields of

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Speaker 3: Lavender says, who told you the news that she had

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Speaker 3: passed away? Was it possible someone told you without her knowledge?

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Speaker 3: Opie says her husband called to tell me. Fields of

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Speaker 3: Lavender also responds, did your half sister know that her

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Speaker 1: Opie says, no idea.

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Speaker 3: I haven't worked up the courage to talk to her yet.

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Speaker 3: Nami Mimi says, working on the assumption this isn't some

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Speaker 3: kind of phishing scam from someone out for some profit

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Speaker 3: from you. You mentioned that the parent you share was

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Speaker 3: harmful to you both. Can I ask are they still

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Speaker 3: if it isn't some bizarre fake set up by the

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Speaker 3: husband without your sister's knowledge, hasn't got more to do

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Speaker 3: was involved in this passing away scenario, then be wary.

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Speaker 3: She may have legit reasons for pretending to be passed away,

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Speaker 3: but it's.

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Speaker 1: An extreme reaction.

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Speaker 3: More likely it would be to shake some responsibilities or

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Speaker 1: None of this is on you.

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Speaker 3: This is a lot to process, Opie says, well, her

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Speaker 3: latest pictures have been this Christmas with said parent and

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Speaker 3: his new family, as well as her husband. They look

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Speaker 3: account has been active throughout the time she was supposedly

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Speaker 1: The bloody Menace replies.

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Speaker 3: When your sister was ill, did you speak to her

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Speaker 3: her actual bank account or just wire it? That is

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Speaker 3: a good point because remember op has actually been sending

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Speaker 1: Forgot that little detail.

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Speaker 3: Opie has been constantly sending money to their sister because

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Speaker 2: Or was she right?

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Speaker 3: Or was it the sister? Was it maybe the mother?

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Speaker 3: Was it somebody else pretending to be your sister?

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Speaker 1: Let's continue. Is there a mutual family member you can talk.

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Speaker 3: To about this? This is such a big shock and

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Speaker 3: you'll obviously be very betrayed and confused.

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Speaker 3: Sorry this happened to you, Opie says, Thanks, I've gotten

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Speaker 3: that if her husband lied about it, wouldn't she have

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Speaker 3: Unless she was no contact with most of her family,

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Speaker 3: I mean, if you were really the only person or

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Speaker 3: because I have a hard time believing someone would fake

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Speaker 3: a cry for help or she has memory loss of

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Speaker 3: some sort and there's an edit to add. Actually, something

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Speaker 3: has occurred to me sometimes if you go through ad

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Speaker 3: former email contacts, it's actually easy to accidentally request people.

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Speaker 3: LinkedIn is the worst for that. So it's actually possible

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Speaker 3: she did fake her passing and then blew her cover

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Speaker 3: by way of technical failure. But the question remains, how

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Speaker 3: are you the only one who didn't know unless she

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Speaker 3: has all new contacts and or you were the only

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Speaker 3: I'm assuming that I was the only one that got duped,

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Speaker 3: course I never got any confusion when I talked about

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Speaker 3: to seek proof of her passing. I don't know why

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Speaker 3: but your edit seems like a reasonable explanation, and there's

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Speaker 3: a comment from op Honestly, the thing that hurts me

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Speaker 3: the most is the recent holiday pictures with our father.

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Speaker 3: When we reconnected after the diagnosis, we had this huge

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Speaker 3: Even if it turns out to be a huge misunderstanding.

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Speaker 1: And there's an edit.

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Speaker 1: Theories?

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Speaker 2: I mean ideas we've set them either A. The big

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Speaker 2: ones are A she faked it. She faked it, and

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Speaker 2: maybe we don't know why, but maybe this is a

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Speaker 2: her account and trying to reach out to you for money.

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Speaker 3: It just seems so unlikely to me that they'd be

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Speaker 3: Uh, it's so strange. But let's get into the rest

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Speaker 1: A lot of perspectives here.

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Speaker 3: It looks like the only thing I can do is

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Speaker 3: talk to her, but I'm still just not there yet.

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Speaker 3: Judging by the pictures on the account, the cancer was real.

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Speaker 3: so I don't know what to think. It was her

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Speaker 1: At a time like that.

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Speaker 3: She hadn't talked to me for a while because she

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Speaker 3: an update ten days later. Let's just get into it.

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Speaker 3: I want the information. Ten days later, my sister, who

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Speaker 3: She told me that she was reaching out now because

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Speaker 3: hate that our relationship had a price tag. We grew

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Speaker 3: pretty close, at least I thought so, even commiserating about

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Speaker 3: that I'm glad she's well, but that i'd prefer if

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Speaker 3: we didn't talk much going forward, as I was really

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Speaker 1: Control over my life.

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Speaker 3: Well, it's just such an easy workaround. Someone's like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: i'll do this, but all you have to do is

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Speaker 2: Like you could have done didn't know literally anything, didn't

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Speaker 2: opie like reach out to other people and be like,

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Speaker 2: If I were opening a situation like why why why?

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Speaker 3: don't know it's I think it's the wise move though,

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Speaker 3: I don't know why, I don't know what, but I

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Speaker 3: back whatever. I'm just letting you be. I'm glad you're okay,

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Speaker 3: I guess, but don't ask me for money anymore.

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Speaker 1: Don't talk to me.

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Speaker 3: I don't want to connect with you.

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Speaker 2: I finally found my step brother, but then he suddenly

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Speaker 2: This story takes place over several years, and the outcome

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Speaker 2: Ella did, go to the r slash Okay storytime Sebert it. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm Keon, I'm Dakota, I'm Carly, and we're here to

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Speaker 2: give good advice Goofily, But we don't have all the answers.

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Speaker 2: We only know what we'd do, So let us know

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Speaker 2: What we had to separate you from birth? Because if

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Speaker 2: and hates anyone that dresses or looks out of the norm.

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00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:27,159
Speaker 2: Darrel dies, his hair often is covered in tattoos and piercings.

442
00:21:27,760 --> 00:21:29,440
Speaker 2: I told him I was sorry for being the bearer

443
00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:31,600
Speaker 2: of bad news, and he said he was fine with it,

444
00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:34,159
Speaker 2: that he didn't have intentions of meeting or getting to

445
00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:36,760
Speaker 2: know our dad, as he already had his parents that

446
00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:39,919
Speaker 2: love and support him. Over the next several months to years,

447
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:41,880
Speaker 2: we kept in touch with the promise of meeting each

448
00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:46,359
Speaker 2: other one day. Unfortunately, that day never came, as he

449
00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:49,520
Speaker 2: slowly started removing his social media pages. First was his

450
00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:52,440
Speaker 2: Instagram account. I quickly noticed and sent him a message

451
00:21:52,440 --> 00:21:55,119
Speaker 2: on snap asking if all was well since I noticed

452
00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:57,720
Speaker 2: his account was gone, and he said he was okay

453
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:01,320
Speaker 2: but was experiencing hate issues. He's very left wing and

454
00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:05,840
Speaker 2: very vocal about BLM, LGBTQ, et cetera, so I figured

455
00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:08,159
Speaker 2: it had to do with something of that nature. Our

456
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:11,879
Speaker 2: messages between each other also slowly stopped, until finally he

457
00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:15,560
Speaker 2: either shut down his Snapchat or blocked me without any explanation.

458
00:22:16,080 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 2: Before this, I had shared my number with him, but

459
00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:21,000
Speaker 2: he never called or texted. My final attempt at a

460
00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:23,480
Speaker 2: connection was returning to twenty three in me and sending

461
00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:26,200
Speaker 2: him a message letting him know that I didn't understand

462
00:22:26,240 --> 00:22:29,080
Speaker 2: why he stopped talking to me, but I respected his

463
00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:32,680
Speaker 2: wishes if that's what he wanted. He never responded. All

464
00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:35,480
Speaker 2: of our conversations were chill and there was never a

465
00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:38,280
Speaker 2: rift or confrontation, so I never truly knew the motive

466
00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:41,600
Speaker 2: behind him cutting me off. I kept the secret for

467
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:45,639
Speaker 2: the longest time. I never told my dad, but I

468
00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:48,680
Speaker 2: did eventually tell my mom It wasn't until my last

469
00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:51,919
Speaker 2: visit in twenty twenty three that I finally broke My

470
00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 2: mom and I were having a heart to heart when

471
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:56,120
Speaker 2: I was talking to her about growing up and never

472
00:22:56,160 --> 00:22:59,199
Speaker 2: being never being told I was loved by her or

473
00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:02,320
Speaker 2: my dad. This led to deeper conversations about my depression

474
00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:04,439
Speaker 2: and my self worth and how my life had been

475
00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:08,080
Speaker 2: affected by all of those things. I eventually told her

476
00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:10,119
Speaker 2: that I had something I was hiding from her that

477
00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:13,280
Speaker 2: had been eating me alive for the last several years.

478
00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 2: I told her everything, and it was so freeing good

479
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:22,480
Speaker 2: on EUOPI. Surprisingly, she wasn't upset, she didn't cry, she

480
00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:26,399
Speaker 2: was irreally calm. She asked if I had told my dad,

481
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:29,359
Speaker 2: and I told her, of course not, that there was

482
00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:31,399
Speaker 2: no point since my dad would say that I was

483
00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:33,800
Speaker 2: making it all up, or how can I possibly know

484
00:23:33,920 --> 00:23:36,680
Speaker 2: if those tests were even real? The worst part was

485
00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:38,640
Speaker 2: that the only proof I had was the twenty three

486
00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:41,439
Speaker 2: in me account. All those profiles and pictures of Daryl

487
00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:44,199
Speaker 2: were gone. She said I needed to tell him, but

488
00:23:44,280 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 2: I refused, though I though I said if she wanted,

489
00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 2: if she wanted to, then she could. She said she

490
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 2: was going to save it and place it in her

491
00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:54,880
Speaker 2: arsenal for the future in the event that my dad

492
00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:56,760
Speaker 2: tried talking his nonsense again.

493
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Speaker 1: Ah.

494
00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:01,720
Speaker 2: Several months go by, It's my birthday. It's my birthday,

495
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 2: and I'm in the middle of eating dinner with my

496
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:06,560
Speaker 2: husband at this restaurant I love. When I receive a

497
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 2: call from my mom. She wishes me a happy birthday

498
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:13,040
Speaker 2: and starts chit chatting away as she normally does. Eventually

499
00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:15,879
Speaker 2: she drops the bomb on me that she confronted my

500
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:19,920
Speaker 2: dad about my half brother. In that instant, my stomach

501
00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:22,399
Speaker 2: churned and I wasn't sure if I was ready for

502
00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:25,280
Speaker 2: her to tell me the story. Before I could stop her,

503
00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:28,120
Speaker 2: she gave me the rundown. It started when they were

504
00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:31,200
Speaker 2: talking about a relative having a kid out of wedlock.

505
00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:34,840
Speaker 2: My dad was making snarky comments about how dumb they

506
00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:37,439
Speaker 2: were to let something like that happen, and obviously not

507
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:41,119
Speaker 2: being careful to not get caught cheating. What from the

508
00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:42,240
Speaker 2: cheating guy himself?

509
00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:43,160
Speaker 5: Was your dad?

510
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:47,280
Speaker 3: Like? Who is your dad? What is up with that guy?

511
00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:51,240
Speaker 2: My mom responded along the lines of I'm sure you

512
00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:54,439
Speaker 2: have a lot of them floating around, huh, And he,

513
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 2: without shame, said he probably had like ten.

514
00:24:58,640 --> 00:24:59,959
Speaker 1: Who are these people?

515
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:00,920
Speaker 2: Who is this guy?

516
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,320
Speaker 1: Who is this man? Hope you?

517
00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:04,639
Speaker 2: I just want to talk to him. I want to

518
00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:07,960
Speaker 2: talk to your dad. It took all my mom's might

519
00:25:08,119 --> 00:25:10,440
Speaker 2: not to slap him and said told him she knew

520
00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 2: of one, and essentially told him everything I had told her.

521
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:15,359
Speaker 2: Turns out he knew.

522
00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:18,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, that doesn't surprise me after how he's been talking,

523
00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 3: and the guy sounds like the most unbothered individual of

524
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:22,160
Speaker 3: all time.

525
00:25:22,560 --> 00:25:25,520
Speaker 2: At first, he tried to deny it and how could

526
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:28,840
Speaker 2: she possibly know? My mom told him about the DNA

527
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 2: test and I called it. He tried to say it

528
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:36,639
Speaker 2: was probably a lie. However, he quickly caved after my

529
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:41,120
Speaker 2: mom started sharing the details. He was trusted.

530
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:42,320
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

531
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:43,400
Speaker 2: He knew the whole time.

532
00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:45,240
Speaker 1: He's like, it's probably a lie. Trust me.

533
00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:48,720
Speaker 3: I do that all the time. I'm constantly lying. Take

534
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 3: it from the horse I have the mouth. It's the lies,

535
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:53,359
Speaker 3: he said.

536
00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:56,200
Speaker 2: At the time, Darrel's mom showed Darrel to my dad,

537
00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 2: but my dad didn't believe that Darryl was his. He

538
00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:02,720
Speaker 2: said that he thought the girl was Darryl's sister. For

539
00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 2: all I know, she may be my sibling too, since

540
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 2: Daryl was dark and ugly, and she was fair skinned

541
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:13,040
Speaker 2: and pretty. Those were his words, but he called.

542
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:13,800
Speaker 3: The baby ugly.

543
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:17,240
Speaker 1: His baby's too ugly to be my baby.

544
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:22,080
Speaker 3: I'm beautiful, ugly baby, coma.

545
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:25,359
Speaker 2: It's not what's on the outside, Papa, So it's on

546
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:27,560
Speaker 2: on the inside, and you're the ugliest one of them all.

547
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 2: But didn't claim either because it wasn't his problem. My

548
00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 2: mom called him a pig and told him he should

549
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:38,760
Speaker 2: be ashamed of himself. Daryl suffered because of his choices.

550
00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:42,480
Speaker 2: My mom cried for him and told me she later

551
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:45,320
Speaker 2: prayed for Daryl, praying to God that he is taken

552
00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 2: care of and at peace with his life, and begged

553
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:50,840
Speaker 2: for forgiveness about my dad being the sick person he was.

554
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 2: There's a little bit left. It's one of those things

555
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:57,760
Speaker 2: where it's like, well, we already knew Dad sucked, and

556
00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:00,080
Speaker 2: this is just this is I don't even know how

557
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:02,439
Speaker 2: you can multiply this by even more. But he's like

558
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:05,600
Speaker 2: you just at this point, we should just kick Dad out.

559
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:09,600
Speaker 2: Dad doesn't deserve anything good going for him. I'm sorry.

560
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know what kind of the separation agreement

561
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 3: is or the process, but come on, folks, it's it's

562
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:17,800
Speaker 3: just like him.

563
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 1: Get him out of there. What are we doing? Where

564
00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:22,159
Speaker 1: do we need him to be? Where we want him

565
00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:23,840
Speaker 1: to be? I don't want him to be around us.

566
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, he sucks. Back to the story, I felt sick.

567
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:30,840
Speaker 2: I've never been more ashamed of being this man's blood

568
00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 2: made me so angry that he would see people much

569
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 2: less his own flesh and blood children as disposable. I

570
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:42,399
Speaker 2: shouldn't have been surprised after the way he treated me,

571
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:45,080
Speaker 2: me who actually grew up in this same home, But

572
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:48,480
Speaker 2: it was all still a shock, and it all just

573
00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 2: solidified those negative feelings I had for my dad. I'm

574
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:55,119
Speaker 2: kind of glad Darryl never found out this part of

575
00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:57,840
Speaker 2: his life because I don't want to know what it

576
00:27:57,880 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 2: would have done to him. Would he have been crushed,

577
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:04,880
Speaker 2: would he have ever would he have ever cared? I'll

578
00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 2: probably never know. I wanted to share the story to

579
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:09,879
Speaker 2: kind of put it to rest, to try and find

580
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:13,480
Speaker 2: my peace. I'm still sad about my brother. For a moment,

581
00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:16,280
Speaker 2: I thought I found my equal, someone who got me

582
00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:19,119
Speaker 2: and didn't make me feel so out of place. I

583
00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 2: also just wish I knew how he was. Unfortunately he didn't.

584
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,520
Speaker 2: Luck out with his dad's genetics and suffers from depression

585
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 2: like I do, but his is more severe. I hope

586
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:31,960
Speaker 2: he's happy and living his best life. Darryl, if you

587
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:35,360
Speaker 2: ever read this, just know your little sister still cares

588
00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 2: and is still holding onto the chance of getting to

589
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:42,400
Speaker 2: meet her big bro. Dang right there as oh man.

590
00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:45,320
Speaker 1: That's that aw man. Ouch.

591
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:49,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, again, it seemed like you guys wanted to do something.

592
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:52,880
Speaker 2: But maybe Darryl, it could be again you can respect

593
00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:56,000
Speaker 2: his wishes of maybe he didn't need to figure that out,

594
00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:58,440
Speaker 2: figure that part of his life out. He seems like

595
00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 2: he found people that love and cares for him. It

596
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 2: does suck for uop because again you found someone that

597
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:08,120
Speaker 2: not only by blood but just by coincidence, you all

598
00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 2: seem to mesh well.

599
00:29:10,080 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 1: Y'all have matching tattoos.

600
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 3: But back, you know, you never know. Door doesn't necessarily

601
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:18,320
Speaker 3: stay closed forever.

602
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 2: But yeah, and I don't think you can take it

603
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:21,680
Speaker 2: out in Darryl. I don't think it's like, Okay, we

604
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 2: were talking and then you just kind of fell off

605
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 2: fell off there, like what happened. It's just like all right, cool,

606
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 2: if the door opens again, great, if he reaches out great,

607
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:35,440
Speaker 2: but just be happy that you know you found someone

608
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:39,880
Speaker 2: that you're related to, and you guys, just in life,

609
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 2: you guys, you know at least cross paths that you

610
00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:45,800
Speaker 2: actually had the we were able to reach out to him,

611
00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 2: and you know, even if it was for a moment,

612
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 2: I think he he loved. That. Gets your dad out

613
00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 2: of there. I don't know your dad sucks. That's it.

614
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Speaker 4: My father shamed me for being upset over something they caused.

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Speaker 4: I seventeen female, have a very strain relationship with my

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Speaker 4: dad forty eight and stepmom forty nine. Growing up, my

622
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Speaker 4: dad has always been the type of dad to be

623
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Speaker 4: told when to actually parent and not do it himself.

624
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Speaker 4: My parents separated when I was four years old, and

625
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Speaker 4: due to my mom working in pubs and my dad

626
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Speaker 4: working two jobs at the time, I ended up living

627
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Speaker 4: Ope says there was a system set up so every

635
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Speaker 4: two weeks I would go to my dad's on the weekends,

636
00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:58,240
Speaker 4: and on the weekends between I'd go to my mom's

637
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Speaker 4: so I could see them both. Even before I was born,

638
00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:06,120
Speaker 4: my dad was a crappy person and cheated on my mom.

639
00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:07,480
Speaker 2: Twice ah yikes.

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00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 4: After I was born, she would do everything while he

641
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:13,000
Speaker 4: would sit with a newspaper in front of the TV.

642
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:17,200
Speaker 4: Once I moved into my NaN's and my granddad's house,

643
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 4: my Nan would have to chase after my dad to

644
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Speaker 4: get him to help pay for things. I have hypermobility

645
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 4: in my legs and it affects my feet really badly,

646
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 4: meaning I need to have supportive inserts and specific shoes,

647
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 4: which got expensive. My Nan and mom would pay some

648
00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:35,320
Speaker 4: and my dad would pay some same with school uniform

649
00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 4: and supplies, but my Nan would have to text multiple

650
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 4: times to see any money from my dad to help out.

651
00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 4: Just in general, he would be difficult to get a

652
00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 4: hold of whenever it concerned me. In twenty twenty, my

653
00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:51,000
Speaker 4: nan passed away from cancer, so I moved in with

654
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 4: my mom as my granddad was struggling with having my

655
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 4: uncle and me living there. This then led to my

656
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 4: mom and dad coming to my coming to an agreement

657
00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:02,480
Speaker 4: where he would send my mom fifty pounds a week

658
00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:05,640
Speaker 4: two hundred pounds a month in total to dealt with

659
00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:09,680
Speaker 4: my food, uniform and supplies. That feels like, I don't know,

660
00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 4: is that enough?

661
00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:11,560
Speaker 2: No?

662
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 4: For all of that.

663
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 2: No, But I feel like what we're going to get

664
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:18,640
Speaker 2: and what we already seen his dad is never going

665
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 2: to be enough.

666
00:32:19,360 --> 00:32:21,880
Speaker 4: Yeah. When I got into year eleven, I had to

667
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:24,720
Speaker 4: travel for two hours on a good day or three

668
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:27,880
Speaker 4: to four hours on a bad day home from school.

669
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:31,640
Speaker 4: What so me, my mom and dad decided that my

670
00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 4: mom would get twenty five pounds from my dad instead

671
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 4: of fifty pounds, and I'd get the other twenty five

672
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 4: for travel train fairs. Now, I want to point out

673
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:43,880
Speaker 4: that even though at first the money helped, soon because

674
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 4: of train fairs getting more expensive, the twenty five pounds

675
00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 4: wasn't really helping me. My mom would have to send

676
00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:52,160
Speaker 4: me money a lot of the time so I could

677
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 4: actually get home and get something to eat, especially if

678
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 4: the travel was bad. That day, my mom tried to

679
00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:00,840
Speaker 4: speak to my dad and things got sour quick as

680
00:33:00,840 --> 00:33:03,560
Speaker 4: he thought it was more than enough to make matters worse.

681
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 4: My mom lost her job and went on child benefits

682
00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:10,520
Speaker 4: and universal credit. We lived in a council hostile for

683
00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 4: a year and train fares went up again, so it

684
00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 4: was hard with travel, but thankfully the hostel was closer

685
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:20,560
Speaker 4: to my school. Also, at this time, my dad only

686
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 4: had one job, which was paying well. He told me

687
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 4: so himself. He didn't offer to help out with me

688
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:30,800
Speaker 4: at all though, and I had stopped going every weekend

689
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 4: to his and my stepmoms, so he has more money

690
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 4: now and he's still not helping.

691
00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:37,640
Speaker 2: And Lou says, uniforms are standard, they are standard zone

692
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 2: never mind. Yeah, but still why so far away one?

693
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 4: That's what I'm wondering.

694
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:45,440
Speaker 2: Also, I guarantee the dad was like back in my day. Yeah,

695
00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:48,120
Speaker 2: it cost only twenty five is so much? Twenty five

696
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:49,440
Speaker 2: pounds it cost a cent?

697
00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would have to confirm whether I was going

698
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:55,560
Speaker 4: or not, as I was distancing myself from that side

699
00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 4: of the family due to comments that were made. Now

700
00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 4: on to the main issue. I'm many others, but there

701
00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:04,520
Speaker 4: are the bigger points that still get spoken about. Every year,

702
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:07,760
Speaker 4: for my stepmom's birthday, sometimes not landing on it, whichever

703
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 4: week it was, we would go to a caravan site

704
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:13,480
Speaker 4: for the weekend. There'd be pubs, arcades, and a clubhouse

705
00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:16,400
Speaker 4: for kids with a bar for adults. We went every

706
00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 4: year and sometimes for Easter. As I got older, I

707
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:22,480
Speaker 4: didn't have much in common with my cousins or family friends,

708
00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:25,360
Speaker 4: so I got left out a lot. I would always

709
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 4: end up alone in the arcade or on my phone.

710
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:31,319
Speaker 4: Last year, my cousins and family friends were allowed to

711
00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:34,760
Speaker 4: bring friends and partners who my stepmom had not met

712
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 4: or met briefly, and they all hung out together, leaving

713
00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:40,879
Speaker 4: me out. I tried to join in, but they would

714
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:43,359
Speaker 4: divert to what they wanted to talk about, which I

715
00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 4: wasn't interested in as much. Now the actual issue this

716
00:34:47,840 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 4: year is my step mom's fiftieth birthday and the caravan

717
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:55,360
Speaker 4: weekend is next weekend. Her birthday is next Tuesday. Since

718
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,480
Speaker 4: it's her fiftieth, she and my dad are getting a

719
00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:00,680
Speaker 4: caravan alone, So I originally would have been in a

720
00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:03,560
Speaker 4: caravan with my half siblings and my half brother's girlfriend.

721
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 4: Now I always end up playing referee as my siblings

722
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:10,640
Speaker 4: argue a lot, so I really wasn't comfortable staying in

723
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 4: a caravan with them, knowing there will be arguments. I

724
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:16,879
Speaker 4: had asked originally if my best friend could come this time,

725
00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 4: as pretty much everyone else going, the whole family and

726
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:23,320
Speaker 4: many friends have friends and partners going. My stepmom hasn't

727
00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 4: met her, but my dad is multiple times and likes her.

728
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 4: So I asked my dad to ask my stepmom if

729
00:35:28,719 --> 00:35:30,799
Speaker 4: she could come, as he would vouch. As he could

730
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:34,160
Speaker 4: vouch for her. My friend is responsible, we both are,

731
00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 4: so I knew we wouldn't do anything stupid. Over the weekend,

732
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 4: my dad got back to me and said that he

733
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 4: decided she couldn't come. I said okay and left it

734
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 4: at that. Then one day my mom asked about what

735
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:48,279
Speaker 4: my dad said, so I told her that he said no.

736
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 4: She then offered to pay for a caravan for me

737
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 4: and my best friend Stan by ourselves dealt with space

738
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:57,960
Speaker 4: and take the financial burden off them in case that

739
00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:01,800
Speaker 4: was the issue. So I mentioned it to my dad

740
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:04,279
Speaker 4: what my mom was offering, and he blew up at

741
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 4: me for gone behind his back. I didn't. My mom

742
00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:09,080
Speaker 4: was being nice and offering to do this.

743
00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 2: You know. It's one of those things. It's like the

744
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:12,799
Speaker 2: thing where you're like, you go, you asked your dad? Yeah,

745
00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:15,440
Speaker 2: You're like, Dad, can I can I get this? And

746
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:16,800
Speaker 2: he's like, no, go ask your mom.

747
00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:20,759
Speaker 4: Hmmm, and then and then OPI does and then gets

748
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:21,480
Speaker 4: in trouble for it.

749
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:22,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

750
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:25,240
Speaker 4: My dad then got my stepmom to be to message

751
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:28,920
Speaker 4: me and basically she said, it's my birthday, I choose

752
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:33,040
Speaker 4: who comes, not you, which I understand wholeheartedly. It's her

753
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:36,400
Speaker 4: birthday weekend, so obviously she chooses who comes. But I

754
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 4: wasn't forcing this honor. I was just giving an option

755
00:36:39,600 --> 00:36:42,040
Speaker 4: that my mom gave. They both then said that they

756
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:44,880
Speaker 4: didn't want to be responsible for anything, which they wouldn't

757
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:47,600
Speaker 4: be as my mom was paying for it and my

758
00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:49,960
Speaker 4: brother on my mom's side would be staying with us,

759
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:53,319
Speaker 4: so we had an adult with us. It basically got

760
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,560
Speaker 4: to the point where they both told me I disappointed

761
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 4: them and then didn't speak to me for two weeks.

762
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:03,600
Speaker 4: They both started messaging me acting like nothing happened. I

763
00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:07,240
Speaker 4: then posted a TikTok from the trend You're so funny. Thanks,

764
00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:10,760
Speaker 4: Then you say what bad thing happened? Mine said thanks,

765
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 4: I got shamed for expressing my feelings for the first

766
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:15,760
Speaker 4: time and got told I disappointed them for starting something,

767
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:18,200
Speaker 4: and then didn't speak to me for two weeks. Then

768
00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:21,239
Speaker 4: they decided to message me on separate days, acting like

769
00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 4: they didn't shame me or I have a go at me,

770
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:24,880
Speaker 4: when all I wanted was for them to listen and

771
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:28,719
Speaker 4: understand my perspective for once rather than their own. That's long.

772
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:34,160
Speaker 4: Who was gonna say, also give you it gives no contact.

773
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:38,000
Speaker 4: They both saw it. I clearly didn't name them. I

774
00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:40,400
Speaker 4: even have a screenshot of my original video if anyone

775
00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:43,240
Speaker 4: needs to see it. And they both commented and started

776
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 4: messaging me angrily, so clearly they knew it was about them. Okay, Opie, Opie,

777
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:52,919
Speaker 4: you posted a really petty TikTok.

778
00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:58,440
Speaker 2: Of course they're gonna know, at least specific to anybody,

779
00:37:59,040 --> 00:37:59,920
Speaker 2: this is oh piece of cow.

780
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 4: Oh what TikTok did they post? Oh, it's that's about us.

781
00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:08,560
Speaker 4: They've always acted that way, as in shaming my feelings

782
00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 4: and disrespecting them. My stepmom then blocked me after getting

783
00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:17,320
Speaker 4: pissed off or blasting her on TikTok. Well, technically I didn't,

784
00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:20,560
Speaker 4: as I didn't mention them directly, so it says enough

785
00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 4: that they knew it was about them. Again, pretty obvious

786
00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:27,080
Speaker 4: that it was about them, Pretty obvious. But there is

787
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:31,920
Speaker 4: a little bit left of this story. I feel like

788
00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:34,440
Speaker 4: it is somewhat valid for the stepmom to be like,

789
00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 4: I don't want you to bring a random friend I

790
00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 4: don't know to my birthday celebration.

791
00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 2: That's I think this is all very fair. Again, I

792
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:44,720
Speaker 2: feel like your mom not necessarily. Maybe it's not true.

793
00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 2: Maybe it is. I feel like your mom's kind of

794
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:50,240
Speaker 2: like making decisions for this event when.

795
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:53,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, that shouldn't be Yeah, I mean it's for like

796
00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 4: the step.

797
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 2: Step mom, so it's like stepmom's birthday. Yeah, and again

798
00:38:57,680 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 2: maybe she should have had a conversation with your dad

799
00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:01,719
Speaker 2: about it and maybe your step mo. I'm like, hey,

800
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:04,680
Speaker 2: Opie deserves a friend. You know, everyone has friends going. Yeah,

801
00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:06,239
Speaker 2: the brothers got like, I feel like there was like

802
00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:11,680
Speaker 2: a little miscommunication there. But again, if if it is

803
00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:15,359
Speaker 2: the step mom's birthday, yeah, and I got I.

804
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:18,040
Speaker 4: Know she may suck. Still, I don't want to discredit

805
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 4: experience with you know, stepmom. But I think in this

806
00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:25,360
Speaker 4: situation it.

807
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:28,759
Speaker 2: Is it's the roles reversed. Yeah, I OPI. It was

808
00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:32,000
Speaker 2: your birthday and your step mom was coming, and she's like,

809
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:35,600
Speaker 2: I'm inviting my friend. Yeah, and you're like and she's like,

810
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 2: how do you feel about that? Yeah?

811
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:40,240
Speaker 4: But there's a little left. Anyways, my mom still booked

812
00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:43,280
Speaker 4: the caravan for me and my friend, but my dad, stepmom,

813
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:45,000
Speaker 4: et cetera don't know that we're going.

814
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:46,920
Speaker 2: That's not gonna be great.

815
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:50,400
Speaker 4: Are you going to the same place, So we're just

816
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:52,560
Speaker 4: going for a holiday and not her birthday. If they

817
00:39:52,600 --> 00:39:54,319
Speaker 4: have a problem, then they can treat me like an

818
00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:57,320
Speaker 4: adult and actually listen to me. This is a bad idea.

819
00:39:57,400 --> 00:40:00,880
Speaker 2: This is a very bad idea. You're gonna post this.

820
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 2: I'm TikTok yep.

821
00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:04,840
Speaker 4: Then my dad used my NaN's will to bribe me

822
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:06,759
Speaker 4: into talking to him face to face about it. All.

823
00:40:06,920 --> 00:40:08,520
Speaker 4: I did speak to him, and he didn't let me

824
00:40:08,560 --> 00:40:11,960
Speaker 4: get a word in whatsoever. Like always, many things have

825
00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:14,319
Speaker 4: happened with my dad being like this, which has put

826
00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:16,560
Speaker 4: me in tears, saying I hate him, and just some

827
00:40:16,640 --> 00:40:18,879
Speaker 4: other things. In general. I'm at the point where I'm

828
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:21,240
Speaker 4: certain I will cut them all off once I turn eighteen,

829
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 4: as I won't need my dad's financial aid that he

830
00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:27,040
Speaker 4: sends me each week. I know some things I have

831
00:40:27,160 --> 00:40:30,400
Speaker 4: done aren't right, but I just need an outside opinion

832
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:33,160
Speaker 4: that isn't my mom or my friends who know of

833
00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:35,400
Speaker 4: this so read it. Would I be the able if

834
00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:38,120
Speaker 4: I were to cut them all off after everything that's happened,

835
00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:40,360
Speaker 4: and that's the end of that story.

836
00:40:40,560 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 2: I mean, this is not on U.

837
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:42,239
Speaker 1: Op.

838
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is definitely on your mom and your your

839
00:40:46,719 --> 00:40:47,880
Speaker 2: dad having a conversation.

840
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 4: Parents are probably kind of putting opee in the middle

841
00:40:50,120 --> 00:40:52,799
Speaker 4: of this, That's what I'm saying. Like the mom's like, ah,

842
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:54,400
Speaker 4: I'm gonna do what they don't feel like.

843
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 2: I feel like they're using op as like a like

844
00:40:57,040 --> 00:41:01,440
Speaker 2: a ping pong ball of like yeah haha, no haha,

845
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 2: like she yeah.

846
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:06,920
Speaker 4: And also op in terms of like would it be

847
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:08,839
Speaker 4: the ale if I cut them off? I don't think

848
00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 4: you would be the a hole. If you truly have

849
00:41:10,719 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 4: a terrible relationship with your dad and just cannot be

850
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 4: around them, then yeah, you know, do what you need

851
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 4: to do, but just uh be aware that in this

852
00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:26,400
Speaker 4: situation you know, I don't know. If this is the

853
00:41:26,440 --> 00:41:29,240
Speaker 4: only situation that you're basing this off of, I probably

854
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 4: wouldn't have cut them off. But if it's kind of

855
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:36,239
Speaker 4: a like a comp just foundation of a bunch of

856
00:41:36,280 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 4: different things, then maybe yeah, yeah, I don't have to

857
00:41:40,160 --> 00:41:43,719
Speaker 4: know other scenarios, because from just this one scenario, I'd

858
00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 4: be like.

859
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:48,879
Speaker 2: Dad said no, yeah, was like dad said no, yeah,

860
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:50,479
Speaker 2: and mom said yes yeah.

861
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:52,800
Speaker 4: Not talking to you for two weeks that was crazy.

862
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 2: We've all been there. I've been there. I'm assuming you've

863
00:41:55,200 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 2: been there. Carly's maybe been there. I don't know. I'm

864
00:41:57,360 --> 00:42:00,240
Speaker 2: not speaking for everyone, but I've been there where I'm like, hey,

865
00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:04,040
Speaker 2: parent A, could I do this? Or could I go out?

866
00:42:04,160 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 2: Or could I invite a friend? Or can I go

867
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:08,080
Speaker 2: to whoever? Cah I go do this? And they say no,

868
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:12,920
Speaker 2: and then parent B says sure of course you can,

869
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:15,759
Speaker 2: and you're like, just use that they said yes, yes,

870
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:18,120
Speaker 2: said yes, I'm gonna go, and the other parents like

871
00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:21,080
Speaker 2: I said no, and then it becomes a huge thing

872
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:23,480
Speaker 2: and guess they're like, well I said yes, and they

873
00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:26,160
Speaker 2: just turned towards you and be like, what are you

874
00:42:26,200 --> 00:42:26,480
Speaker 2: to do?

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00:42:26,719 --> 00:42:28,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, so you have to choose.

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00:42:31,040 --> 00:42:32,400
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00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:34,440
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00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:38,840
Speaker 2: I ruined my cousin's life. Just why existing?

881
00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:43,280
Speaker 4: Well, maybe you should stop. We're ruining his life, not existing,

882
00:42:44,040 --> 00:42:45,560
Speaker 4: continue to exist.

883
00:42:45,600 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 2: Okay, trigger warding verbal So I eighteen female have always

884
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:55,400
Speaker 2: had weird drama with my cousin Casey twenty three female.

885
00:42:55,800 --> 00:42:58,480
Speaker 2: For some reason, she's always had this bizarre obsession with

886
00:42:58,600 --> 00:43:02,400
Speaker 2: being in competition with me while loving my older sister

887
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:07,800
Speaker 2: twenty four female like she's God's favorite. No idea why

888
00:43:07,920 --> 00:43:10,279
Speaker 2: I gave up trying to figure it out years ago.

889
00:43:10,440 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from user Lily g. And

890
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 2: if you want to submit your own stories, you could

891
00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 2: submit them to the r slash. Okay, sorry time starbur it.

892
00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 2: I'm Keon, I'm Sophia, I'm Carly. We're here to give

893
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:23,800
Speaker 2: good advice, Googly, but we don't have all the answers.

894
00:43:24,400 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 2: Just flease. We only know what we do, so let

895
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:29,760
Speaker 2: us know what you would do in the comments. Ohpi

896
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:33,400
Speaker 2: says for context, she lived with us from middle school

897
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:36,560
Speaker 2: up to now because of family issues, and even then

898
00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:40,319
Speaker 2: she treated me like a punching bag, and unfortunately it

899
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:43,920
Speaker 2: worked for a while. I had under baggy clothes, avoided people,

900
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:47,560
Speaker 2: and had zero confidence. Fast forward to junior high I

901
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:50,960
Speaker 2: started finding myself made some friends, got a little style,

902
00:43:51,239 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 2: learned makeup from my sister, and got into my nineties

903
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:59,080
Speaker 2: baggy clothes but cute era heck yeah coming back. Casey

904
00:43:59,120 --> 00:44:02,120
Speaker 2: hated every second of it, claimed I was copying her.

905
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:05,040
Speaker 2: She wore baggy hoodies and sweats with crocs every day.

906
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:07,920
Speaker 2: It got worse when I got a boyfriend and she

907
00:44:08,400 --> 00:44:11,480
Speaker 2: dead but tried to steal him. My mom had to

908
00:44:11,520 --> 00:44:14,200
Speaker 2: intervene multiple times, while my dad kept telling me to

909
00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:18,360
Speaker 2: let it go. She's been through a lot. Spoiler alert,

910
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:21,920
Speaker 2: She's been through a lot her entire life. According to everyone,

911
00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:24,920
Speaker 2: I graduated high school early at sixteen with honors and

912
00:44:25,040 --> 00:44:28,800
Speaker 2: college credits. She hated it and called me a dumb

913
00:44:28,840 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 2: prick who wouldn't get far. She didn't even come to

914
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:37,280
Speaker 2: my graduation. Meanwhile, she dropped out of college twice. Projection.

915
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:41,799
Speaker 2: I think, yeah, I think so. What made it worse

916
00:44:41,880 --> 00:44:44,279
Speaker 2: was I found out I was pregnant in November, and

917
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:47,840
Speaker 2: Casey immediately started telling family. I didn't know who the

918
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:51,960
Speaker 2: father was. That could have been multiple men. Casey, mind

919
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:55,640
Speaker 2: your dang business, Casey, Casey, Casey, Oh, well, mind you.

920
00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:57,759
Speaker 2: I'd been with my boyfriend for two years at this

921
00:44:57,880 --> 00:45:01,400
Speaker 2: point when no one believed her, but she tried to

922
00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 2: take the attention off of me and tried to get

923
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:07,320
Speaker 2: pregnant herself. She admitted to this, but it was a fail.

924
00:45:07,719 --> 00:45:10,160
Speaker 2: We were all there for her. I even wore baggy

925
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:13,920
Speaker 2: clothes so she wouldn't feel triggered seeing my bump. Still,

926
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 2: every time I had a craving or talked about my pregnancy,

927
00:45:17,040 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 2: she made it about her. She would literally cry at

928
00:45:20,600 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 2: the dinner table because it should have been her dramatic

929
00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 2: right then, when I announced my baby's name, she went

930
00:45:28,080 --> 00:45:30,879
Speaker 2: and got a customed blanket made with the same name

931
00:45:31,160 --> 00:45:35,839
Speaker 2: and her du date, claiming I stole it. The name

932
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 2: was my mom's mother's name, who she has no relation to.

933
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:43,399
Speaker 2: She's my dad's niece. Eventually I kept the name. We're

934
00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 2: planning my baby shower, talking about decorations and food. When

935
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:50,840
Speaker 2: she loudly scoffs from the living room. No one cares.

936
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:54,400
Speaker 4: Is she's still here? Can we just get her out?

937
00:45:55,080 --> 00:45:57,920
Speaker 2: We ignore her? Yeah, we said, the baby's name again,

938
00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:01,799
Speaker 2: and here she goes, uh name you stole from me.

939
00:46:02,239 --> 00:46:04,920
Speaker 4: I'm sorry if someone yelled no one cares. When I

940
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:08,919
Speaker 4: was announcing baby, I'd be like, uh, can you shut up?

941
00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:11,560
Speaker 4: Can you leave? If you don't care, you can go.

942
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:15,279
Speaker 2: I rolled my eyes because why are you still on this.

943
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:17,640
Speaker 2: I'm showing my mom a pick of a customed Carci

944
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:20,800
Speaker 2: cover I ordered. She storms in with her own baby

945
00:46:20,800 --> 00:46:25,000
Speaker 2: stuff she bought, mumbling hopefully I don't steal her ideas,

946
00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:29,160
Speaker 2: like I have most of her things already. I don't

947
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:32,799
Speaker 2: want your ideas. Once again, I ignored her, and my

948
00:46:32,880 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 2: mom told her she loved them when she sees me

949
00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 2: not caring. She then went full on explode mode, accuses

950
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:43,320
Speaker 2: of me of copying her, being jealous, needing to heal

951
00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:45,800
Speaker 2: before I bring a baby into this world, and rainally

952
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:49,160
Speaker 2: brings up the hormonal hygiene struggles I've been having lately

953
00:46:49,440 --> 00:46:52,239
Speaker 2: that she overheard me talking about. We left to the

954
00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:57,040
Speaker 2: backyard where my sister was, and this woman followed us out, screaming,

955
00:46:57,680 --> 00:46:59,799
Speaker 2: saying we treat her worse than her own parents did.

956
00:47:00,320 --> 00:47:02,359
Speaker 2: That's a big lie. My parents have babied her for

957
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:06,240
Speaker 2: years while she treated me like dirt. My dad eventually

958
00:47:06,280 --> 00:47:09,400
Speaker 2: came upstairs from the basement because she was so loud.

959
00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:12,000
Speaker 2: He asked what was going on, and for once, instead

960
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:16,759
Speaker 2: of coddling her, he went off. He straight up said, Casey, for.

961
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:21,120
Speaker 5: God's sake, I love you, but what is your problem?

962
00:47:21,600 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 5: You pick fights constantly, you play victim, and you're not

963
00:47:26,360 --> 00:47:29,359
Speaker 5: in middle school anymore. If you want to stay here,

964
00:47:29,480 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 5: you need to get your act together. I can't keep

965
00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 5: doing this with you, or picking, or you picking with

966
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:36,880
Speaker 5: a teenager who has done nothing to you.

967
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:40,600
Speaker 2: She was shell shocked.

968
00:47:40,719 --> 00:47:42,719
Speaker 4: Finally put in her place.

969
00:47:42,840 --> 00:47:46,120
Speaker 2: She stormed her room, packed a bag and left. Later,

970
00:47:46,200 --> 00:47:50,240
Speaker 2: she texted me this You've won. I can't fight you anymore.

971
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 2: You've always ruined my life. Even when I was with

972
00:47:53,280 --> 00:47:58,400
Speaker 2: my parents, you were always the favorite, and I always

973
00:47:58,480 --> 00:48:04,360
Speaker 2: hated you. You ruin everything for me, and now I

974
00:48:04,360 --> 00:48:07,520
Speaker 2: feel kind of bad. I didn't respond, and no one's

975
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:09,680
Speaker 2: heard from her since. I would have responded with like

976
00:48:09,760 --> 00:48:15,200
Speaker 2: cup pong or something, Yeah.

977
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:14,000
Speaker 4: Would you like to play game?

978
00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:14,200
Speaker 5: I am?

979
00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:17,240
Speaker 2: I going to play Battleship. Yeah, that's so cool. Update.

980
00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:20,880
Speaker 2: Hey you guys, I'm honestly all overwhelmed by all the responses.

981
00:48:21,280 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 2: I didn't expect this to blow up like it did,

982
00:48:23,320 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 2: but thank you so much for the kindness, advice, and support.

983
00:48:27,040 --> 00:48:27,600
Speaker 2: You're welcome.

984
00:48:27,840 --> 00:48:28,480
Speaker 4: You're welcome.

985
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:30,319
Speaker 2: I wanted to answer some of the questions I've been

986
00:48:30,360 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 2: seeing a lot in the comments. One was she the

987
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:38,120
Speaker 2: youngest girl before me? Yes, she was the last girl

988
00:48:38,120 --> 00:48:41,760
Speaker 2: born for five years before I came along. Our family's

989
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:44,839
Speaker 2: mostly boys, with only a few girls, so I do

990
00:48:44,880 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 2: think that may have played a part in how she

991
00:48:46,760 --> 00:48:48,080
Speaker 2: felt about me.

992
00:48:48,760 --> 00:48:48,960
Speaker 1: Two.

993
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:52,120
Speaker 2: Why didn't my parents get her into therapy? My mom

994
00:48:52,200 --> 00:48:54,600
Speaker 2: has tried several times to give into my dad to

995
00:48:54,600 --> 00:48:58,040
Speaker 2: get us all into therapy, but he's one of those

996
00:48:58,040 --> 00:49:01,400
Speaker 2: people who doesn't believe in it. He always told us

997
00:49:01,440 --> 00:49:04,040
Speaker 2: to pray or write it down, which honestly helped me

998
00:49:04,040 --> 00:49:07,359
Speaker 2: at times growing up. But she definitely needed professional help,

999
00:49:07,440 --> 00:49:10,640
Speaker 2: and she still does. I've asked him recently to consider it,

1000
00:49:10,719 --> 00:49:13,560
Speaker 2: and he just rolled his eyes and ignored me. Three

1001
00:49:13,760 --> 00:49:16,480
Speaker 2: my parents' ages. My mom is forty six and my

1002
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:19,439
Speaker 2: dad is fifty seven. They've been married since nineteen ninety eight,

1003
00:49:19,520 --> 00:49:23,000
Speaker 2: so about twenty six years now. Four What happened with

1004
00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:25,799
Speaker 2: her parents? Well, we live on the East Coast and

1005
00:49:25,840 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 2: they were all the way in Oakland, California. That's for contact. No,

1006
00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:33,760
Speaker 2: we haven't spoken to them since they lost custody of her. Five.

1007
00:49:34,360 --> 00:49:36,840
Speaker 2: Why was I so nice to her because I genuinely

1008
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:39,359
Speaker 2: looked up to her My older sister was never really

1009
00:49:39,400 --> 00:49:41,279
Speaker 2: around much, and I thought she and I could be

1010
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:45,680
Speaker 2: close like sisters. I really wanted that six was their favoritism,

1011
00:49:46,160 --> 00:49:48,480
Speaker 2: Not really. No, I feel like we were treated fairly

1012
00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:50,839
Speaker 2: for the most part. If anything, she got a little

1013
00:49:50,880 --> 00:49:53,719
Speaker 2: more attention and was doted on more, probably because of

1014
00:49:53,760 --> 00:49:56,359
Speaker 2: what she'd been through. Oh, because of what she's been through.

1015
00:49:56,760 --> 00:49:58,719
Speaker 2: I only got extra toys when I was little because

1016
00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:01,040
Speaker 2: I was four years old and too small to do

1017
00:50:01,080 --> 00:50:05,080
Speaker 2: the stuff they did. Seven. Where is she now? No

1018
00:50:05,120 --> 00:50:08,720
Speaker 2: one has heard from her since she left. She's blocked

1019
00:50:08,760 --> 00:50:10,160
Speaker 2: all of us, and as far as we know, she

1020
00:50:10,200 --> 00:50:12,919
Speaker 2: doesn't have a job or anywhere stable to go, which

1021
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:16,080
Speaker 2: honestly makes me nervous because it's likely she'll try to

1022
00:50:16,120 --> 00:50:19,400
Speaker 2: come back eventually. So we're keeping our eyes open and

1023
00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:25,319
Speaker 2: being cautious, and we have some comments. He he he

1024
00:50:26,440 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 2: he he he. Don't feel bad, lol. She constantly was

1025
00:50:29,640 --> 00:50:32,120
Speaker 2: an a hole to you, and when she didn't get

1026
00:50:32,160 --> 00:50:35,080
Speaker 2: her away, she threw a pissy fit and ran off.

1027
00:50:35,680 --> 00:50:39,000
Speaker 2: She'll either be back or crash somewhere else, regardless. It's

1028
00:50:39,080 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 2: not the last you'll hear of her, all right, Opie responds,

1029
00:50:44,360 --> 00:50:46,840
Speaker 2: part of me wants her to stay gone. My parents

1030
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:50,520
Speaker 2: are out here, low key worried, so that's what really

1031
00:50:50,520 --> 00:50:54,279
Speaker 2: makes me feel guilty. Chicken nuggets and subs. Make sure

1032
00:50:54,360 --> 00:50:56,960
Speaker 2: she is on the no list if you put the

1033
00:50:57,040 --> 00:51:00,560
Speaker 2: baby in daycare and even the church nursery. She seems

1034
00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:05,399
Speaker 2: very sadly unhinged and needs therapy help. He responds, Oh,

1035
00:51:05,520 --> 00:51:09,160
Speaker 2: trust she's going on the list. I'm not taking any

1036
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:12,600
Speaker 2: chances with my little one around that chaos. You're absolutely right,

1037
00:51:13,120 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 2: better safe than sorry when it comes to mental health.

1038
00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:21,640
Speaker 2: Uh procrastinators supreme. Don't ever leave her alone with your baby,

1039
00:51:21,840 --> 00:51:24,640
Speaker 2: and don't let anyone else leave her alone with your baby.

1040
00:51:25,040 --> 00:51:28,280
Speaker 2: Be sure your child gets all its checkups, doctor visits,

1041
00:51:28,280 --> 00:51:31,239
Speaker 2: et cetera. She seems like she'd call protective services on

1042
00:51:31,320 --> 00:51:35,800
Speaker 2: made up charges too. Be careful. She may appear better

1043
00:51:36,239 --> 00:51:38,879
Speaker 2: in the future, but I'd be wary of her for

1044
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:42,960
Speaker 2: a very long time. Electrical Elk five three six says,

1045
00:51:43,080 --> 00:51:45,200
Speaker 2: when she was screaming at you, she was screaming about

1046
00:51:45,239 --> 00:51:49,760
Speaker 2: everything she hates about herself. She's jealous and has unresolved issues.

1047
00:51:50,200 --> 00:51:52,319
Speaker 2: She's done well, but that's not a free past to be.

1048
00:51:53,080 --> 00:51:56,080
Speaker 2: To be awful. Distance yourself as much as possible from her,

1049
00:51:56,360 --> 00:51:58,719
Speaker 2: let her stay away. I'm sorry the adults in your

1050
00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:01,359
Speaker 2: life didn't protect you like they should have from her

1051
00:52:01,440 --> 00:52:05,440
Speaker 2: terrible behavior. You're not the a hole, Nope, he responds.

1052
00:52:05,600 --> 00:52:07,600
Speaker 2: He means a lot hearing that, And yeah, I wish

1053
00:52:07,640 --> 00:52:10,160
Speaker 2: the adults had stepped in sooner too, But I'm grateful

1054
00:52:10,239 --> 00:52:12,960
Speaker 2: my dad finally saw it for what it was. I'm

1055
00:52:13,000 --> 00:52:17,160
Speaker 2: definitely focusing on keeping my distance and protecting my peace judgment,

1056
00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:22,319
Speaker 2: not the a hole. Yeah, uh, yeah, you did nothing wrong.

1057
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:24,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, this girl's a nightmare.

1058
00:52:24,280 --> 00:52:26,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, you did nothing wrong that we know of.

1059
00:52:26,160 --> 00:52:28,319
Speaker 4: But yeah, you've not told us about anything you did wrong.

1060
00:52:28,400 --> 00:52:31,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, and we have an update. We're going straight into it.

1061
00:52:31,160 --> 00:52:35,479
Speaker 2: Seven days later. Who well, we all called it. Casey

1062
00:52:35,560 --> 00:52:38,360
Speaker 2: ended up coming back about two days later, wasted and

1063
00:52:38,640 --> 00:52:41,800
Speaker 2: higher than ever. It was around one am. I was asleep,

1064
00:52:42,040 --> 00:52:44,320
Speaker 2: but apparently my parents were still up watching a movie

1065
00:52:44,360 --> 00:52:48,200
Speaker 2: when she came in. My dad, who's a recovering heavy drinker.

1066
00:52:48,440 --> 00:52:52,279
Speaker 2: And has been sober since I was fourteen. Was furious

1067
00:52:52,400 --> 00:52:54,959
Speaker 2: and disappointed. They tried to sit her down to talk,

1068
00:52:55,040 --> 00:52:57,279
Speaker 2: but she just cried and said she was tired and

1069
00:52:57,360 --> 00:53:00,759
Speaker 2: wanted to lay down, so they let her go upstairs.

1070
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:03,480
Speaker 2: A little while later, my parents stepped outside to the

1071
00:53:03,520 --> 00:53:06,439
Speaker 2: back patio for a smoke break, and of course, while

1072
00:53:06,480 --> 00:53:10,000
Speaker 2: they were outside and out of earshot, Casey came to

1073
00:53:10,200 --> 00:53:15,360
Speaker 2: my room. Oh boy, oh no. I woke up to

1074
00:53:15,480 --> 00:53:19,680
Speaker 2: her trying to open my door. Thankfully it was locked.

1075
00:53:19,760 --> 00:53:20,400
Speaker 2: It was locked.

1076
00:53:20,960 --> 00:53:21,440
Speaker 4: Good.

1077
00:53:22,080 --> 00:53:25,080
Speaker 2: She started whisper shouting for me to open it, calling

1078
00:53:25,120 --> 00:53:29,839
Speaker 2: me a piece of crap, and saying we needed to talk.

1079
00:53:30,160 --> 00:53:32,000
Speaker 2: When I told her to go away and that we

1080
00:53:32,040 --> 00:53:34,319
Speaker 2: can talk in the morning, she started banging on my door,

1081
00:53:34,680 --> 00:53:37,440
Speaker 2: kicking it and saying that I would never be prettier

1082
00:53:37,480 --> 00:53:39,879
Speaker 2: than her and that I was the ugly black sheep

1083
00:53:39,920 --> 00:53:42,640
Speaker 2: in the family. I told her to go to bed again,

1084
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:46,160
Speaker 2: but she wasn't done. She threatened me, saying that if

1085
00:53:46,160 --> 00:53:48,680
Speaker 2: she saw me tonight, it wouldn't be good for me.

1086
00:53:48,880 --> 00:53:49,520
Speaker 4: Oh my god.

1087
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:51,839
Speaker 2: At that point I started recording and sent a video

1088
00:53:51,880 --> 00:53:55,280
Speaker 2: to my dad. He came rushing back inside and went off.

1089
00:53:55,520 --> 00:53:57,880
Speaker 2: He told her she wasn't staying another night in the house,

1090
00:53:58,080 --> 00:54:01,400
Speaker 2: and she needed to start packing as soon as possible.

1091
00:54:01,480 --> 00:54:02,520
Speaker 4: Finally, get her out.

1092
00:54:03,239 --> 00:54:06,279
Speaker 2: Coming home wasted and bullying me again was unacceptable, and

1093
00:54:06,320 --> 00:54:08,200
Speaker 2: she needed to figure out where she was going in

1094
00:54:08,239 --> 00:54:11,600
Speaker 2: the morning. She broke down crying again, claiming we were

1095
00:54:11,800 --> 00:54:14,759
Speaker 2: all she had and that she just wanted to talk.

1096
00:54:15,360 --> 00:54:17,920
Speaker 2: All right, alright, five seconds ago, you were threatening me

1097
00:54:18,000 --> 00:54:19,880
Speaker 2: that if you saw me in my own house.

1098
00:54:19,960 --> 00:54:20,920
Speaker 4: Pretty big switch up.

1099
00:54:21,560 --> 00:54:25,120
Speaker 2: That ud good. My dad didn't budge this time. He

1100
00:54:25,239 --> 00:54:27,040
Speaker 2: told her the only person she needed to talk to

1101
00:54:27,560 --> 00:54:28,480
Speaker 2: was a therapist.

1102
00:54:28,680 --> 00:54:31,200
Speaker 4: Yes, finally, your dad's actually.

1103
00:54:30,880 --> 00:54:33,600
Speaker 2: Listening to you, and until she got professional help, she

1104
00:54:33,880 --> 00:54:37,920
Speaker 2: wasn't welcome here. She was shocked because, like I said before,

1105
00:54:38,320 --> 00:54:41,719
Speaker 2: my dad was has always been old school and kind

1106
00:54:41,760 --> 00:54:45,319
Speaker 2: of coddled her. But not this time. My mom came

1107
00:54:45,320 --> 00:54:48,640
Speaker 2: inside mid conversation, sat her down, and apparently had a

1108
00:54:48,640 --> 00:54:51,680
Speaker 2: heart to heart about how unacceptable it was for her

1109
00:54:52,040 --> 00:54:56,520
Speaker 2: to live in our home while treating me like garbage.

1110
00:54:56,680 --> 00:54:57,319
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1111
00:54:57,480 --> 00:54:59,160
Speaker 2: I was watching the whole thing go down on the

1112
00:54:59,160 --> 00:55:05,120
Speaker 2: security cameras from my phone because yes, I'm that petty. Yeah,

1113
00:55:05,160 --> 00:55:09,720
Speaker 2: But then my sister Monica started texting me taking Casey's side. Oh.

1114
00:55:09,880 --> 00:55:12,080
Speaker 2: She asked me to stop making it so hard with Casey,

1115
00:55:12,360 --> 00:55:15,040
Speaker 2: saying she only wanted to talk. I told her it

1116
00:55:15,160 --> 00:55:17,600
Speaker 2: was one o'clock in the morning and I was barely

1117
00:55:17,640 --> 00:55:19,839
Speaker 2: able to get out of bed, so I didn't want

1118
00:55:19,880 --> 00:55:22,600
Speaker 2: to talk. Monica responded that she was tired of me

1119
00:55:22,719 --> 00:55:25,400
Speaker 2: playing the victim and that I was exhausting and making

1120
00:55:25,440 --> 00:55:28,000
Speaker 2: things harder to deal with. I replied that I had

1121
00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:30,480
Speaker 2: cooked for them, cleaned up after them, always tried to

1122
00:55:30,480 --> 00:55:33,840
Speaker 2: be nice, and neither of them did anything for me.

1123
00:55:34,640 --> 00:55:36,600
Speaker 2: I told her to stop texting me and to say

1124
00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:39,799
Speaker 2: good night. I cried. I always looked up to both

1125
00:55:39,840 --> 00:55:44,080
Speaker 2: of them, even after everything, but this was my breaking point.

1126
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:47,080
Speaker 2: So here's where we are now. Casey left the next

1127
00:55:47,080 --> 00:55:49,360
Speaker 2: morning to go stay with the friend. She's been texting

1128
00:55:49,440 --> 00:55:52,759
Speaker 2: and calling my parents begging them to reconsider, but they're

1129
00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 2: standing firm. If she wants to be a part of

1130
00:55:55,080 --> 00:55:58,520
Speaker 2: this family, she needs therapy first, no exceptions.

1131
00:55:58,840 --> 00:55:59,320
Speaker 4: Agreed.

1132
00:56:00,120 --> 00:56:04,239
Speaker 2: Heavily agreed. As for my older sister, Monica, we haven't

1133
00:56:04,280 --> 00:56:05,400
Speaker 2: spoken since those texts.

1134
00:56:05,440 --> 00:56:07,480
Speaker 4: You know what, Monica can go deal with this girl

1135
00:56:08,200 --> 00:56:10,640
Speaker 4: if she loves her so much, Yeah, you can deal

1136
00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:12,920
Speaker 4: with her, she can have her to live with her

1137
00:56:13,520 --> 00:56:15,839
Speaker 4: and then everything's fine. Yeah, put your money with your

1138
00:56:15,840 --> 00:56:16,120
Speaker 4: mouth this.

1139
00:56:17,280 --> 00:56:19,360
Speaker 2: My mom noticed and asked what was going on, but

1140
00:56:19,400 --> 00:56:21,600
Speaker 2: I told her to ask her daughter because I had

1141
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:25,600
Speaker 2: nothing to say. So there's a little bit left, Syvia.

1142
00:56:26,360 --> 00:56:26,759
Speaker 2: What do you?

1143
00:56:26,840 --> 00:56:27,120
Speaker 5: What do you?

1144
00:56:27,560 --> 00:56:28,000
Speaker 2: What do we do?

1145
00:56:28,360 --> 00:56:32,239
Speaker 4: I think you're I mean your dad's kicked her out,

1146
00:56:32,640 --> 00:56:35,960
Speaker 4: Casey out. Uh, she's not, hopefully not going to be

1147
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:37,440
Speaker 4: around you. I think you block her.

1148
00:56:38,560 --> 00:56:40,719
Speaker 2: I would block, I would block. I'm maybe like I

1149
00:56:40,840 --> 00:56:43,040
Speaker 2: might need to get a restraining order.

1150
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:45,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, she's threatening you, and then you just go no

1151
00:56:45,960 --> 00:56:48,160
Speaker 4: contact with her, and then you tell your dad that

1152
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:48,799
Speaker 4: she threatened you.

1153
00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:53,200
Speaker 2: I've officially uninvited both Monica and Casey from my baby shower.

1154
00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:56,080
Speaker 2: Neither of them will be involved with my baby, and

1155
00:56:56,120 --> 00:56:59,960
Speaker 2: my mom said, it's my decision. No aunt Monica, no cousin.

1156
00:57:00,960 --> 00:57:05,320
Speaker 2: My dad's standing firm too, no more excuses, no more drama.

1157
00:57:05,880 --> 00:57:09,520
Speaker 2: And me, I'm focusing on my pregnancy, my business, and

1158
00:57:09,520 --> 00:57:11,880
Speaker 2: reclaiming my piece. This is supposed to be a happy

1159
00:57:11,920 --> 00:57:14,920
Speaker 2: time for me, and I'm done letting them take that away.

1160
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:18,320
Speaker 2: I deserve to be excited about this baby without guilt.

1161
00:57:18,800 --> 00:57:21,520
Speaker 2: Thank you to everyone who's been so kind, offered advice

1162
00:57:21,560 --> 00:57:24,480
Speaker 2: and reminded me that I don't have to tolerate this treatment.

1163
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:28,000
Speaker 2: It means more than you know. And we have some

1164
00:57:28,080 --> 00:57:32,520
Speaker 2: comments here comments the thief Empress. When I had my daughter,

1165
00:57:32,560 --> 00:57:35,120
Speaker 2: I was hit with the absolute fact that this was

1166
00:57:35,240 --> 00:57:39,080
Speaker 2: a person. I had made a person, and oh my god,

1167
00:57:39,240 --> 00:57:42,000
Speaker 2: that made me a person too, and I knew I

1168
00:57:42,040 --> 00:57:43,960
Speaker 2: could no longer allow people to treat me like I

1169
00:57:44,040 --> 00:57:46,640
Speaker 2: wasn't a person, because my daughter would grow up thinking

1170
00:57:46,680 --> 00:57:49,800
Speaker 2: that I'm not a person, and by extension, she wasn't

1171
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:53,000
Speaker 2: a person either. I stand it for myself, talk back,

1172
00:57:53,160 --> 00:57:55,960
Speaker 2: refuse denial of facts, and do what I know is

1173
00:57:56,040 --> 00:57:59,400
Speaker 2: right for us. And she sees that You'll see it too,

1174
00:57:59,800 --> 00:58:03,439
Speaker 2: and your baby will thrive on it. Hepy responds, thank

1175
00:58:03,480 --> 00:58:05,720
Speaker 2: you for sharing this. It really moved me. I love

1176
00:58:05,760 --> 00:58:07,760
Speaker 2: it you connected your own sense of worth and agency

1177
00:58:07,800 --> 00:58:10,200
Speaker 2: to the example you're setting for your daughter. It's such

1178
00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:13,560
Speaker 2: a powerful reminder that how we treat ourselves shapes how

1179
00:58:13,680 --> 00:58:16,440
Speaker 2: our children see themselves. I'm taking this to heart and

1180
00:58:16,480 --> 00:58:18,280
Speaker 2: I hope to be that kind of strengthen example from

1181
00:58:18,280 --> 00:58:21,640
Speaker 2: my little one too, and that here's the end.

1182
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:26,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, worry about your baby. Don't worry about Casey. Get

1183
00:58:26,000 --> 00:58:26,800
Speaker 4: her out of your life.

1184
00:58:27,000 --> 00:58:27,440
Speaker 1: Yeah,