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Speaker 1: H I am Kate Hudson and my name is Oliver Hudson.

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Speaker 1: We wanted to do something that highlighted our relationship and

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Speaker 1: what it's like to be siblings. We are a sibling. Ravalry, No, no, sibling.

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Speaker 1: Don't do that with your mouth, Vely, that's good. So

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Speaker 1: Bobby and Steve Lee are Today's guests, and they're hilarious. Yea, amazing.

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Speaker 1: They had us laughing most of the time, but then

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Speaker 1: it did also get serious. I lost it in this episode.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, it was beautiful. I mean it was really so.

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Speaker 1: It ran the gamut. I mean, because Bobby is an

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Speaker 1: But when they had to sort of talk to each

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Speaker 1: other about what they loved about each other and what

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Speaker 1: That was beautiful. Well. I also got really emotional because

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Speaker 1: of the way that Bobby handles his situations in his

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Speaker 1: life that have happened. You know, he talks, he talks

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Speaker 1: very openly about being molested as a kid, but he

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Speaker 1: I just couldn't handle it. I just know, well, I mean,

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Speaker 1: obviously he's covering up a lot of pain. Yeah, it

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Speaker 1: just hit me, remember, and I really had a moment

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Speaker 1: with it. Will you guys judge for yourself, But how

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Speaker 1: much pain is Bobby Lee actually covering up? But I

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Speaker 1: really love them talking about their parents, how their parents met,

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Speaker 1: their relationship with their parents, San Diego. They grew up

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Speaker 1: just revered Bobby. It was really sweet. Anyway, you'll not

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Speaker 1: want to miss Steve's cowboy rap. My god. That's right.

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Speaker 1: So here's Bobby and Joy. Before we start this episode,

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Speaker 1: I just want to send Oliver and my condolences to

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Speaker 1: the Lee family after we interviewed them. Their father passed

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Speaker 1: So I do all like the heavy lifting and the

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Speaker 1: reading and then all of her free freestyles. That's kind

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Speaker 1: of how this is. That's kind of how this is.

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Speaker 1: That's like how you do yours. You don't research much.

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Speaker 1: Right now, I don't do really any because when I do,

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Speaker 1: I funk it out. Can I swear on this? Is it? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Oh god? Yeah? So what I know about you guys

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Speaker 1: now is that what you're the older brother Bobby, you're

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Speaker 1: the younger brothers. You you basically followed in every single

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Speaker 1: because she does research read so much? Did right? Oh? Big? Okay?

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Speaker 1: So you she knows so many things about you and

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Speaker 1: so and then you also then got into comedy. I

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Speaker 1: into comedy. I was in comedy, and then he started

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Speaker 1: many many years later. And then he opened for me

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Speaker 1: open mics around l A. I choked so hard. Remember

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Speaker 1: your opening. It was like the worst dream you could have.

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Speaker 1: what part of Korea were you born in? I love it?

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Speaker 1: talk about all of this. Yeah, but no, for real,

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Speaker 1: where were you guys born? I was born in San Diego,

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Speaker 1: they born in America? The parents? Okay, So my parents

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Speaker 1: Mom left the state because of my dad. Yeah, because

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Speaker 1: because you don't know the information, all right, you're just

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Speaker 1: Kate Hudson, May I say something, Kate Hudson. The nightclub thing, right,

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Speaker 1: could have been something that I made up to embellish

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Speaker 1: let's put that aside, and I know, and to your

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Speaker 1: Thank you. All right. So I think family members or

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Speaker 1: Because my brother doesn't know what he's talking about. I

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Speaker 1: My brother is playing a game with you. I'm not

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Speaker 1: this is crazy. Hey Bobby, how do you do How

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Speaker 1: do you know? I'm not playing? This is crazy? You're

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Speaker 1: not playing because I know you. No, you don't. I know,

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Speaker 1: but not in this setting. I don't know you in

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Speaker 1: you don't have to stand I think it's authority. I

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Speaker 1: thank you and I love you. I found this out later.

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Speaker 1: But my dad, like he drank a lot, he was

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Speaker 1: don't cry. Yes, you're going to cry. I feel so like,

422
00:25:08,440 --> 00:25:13,359
Speaker 1: what a terrible that's terrible. Yeah, it is terrible. She's

423
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 1: gonna try. Okay, thank you for you know, so, I

424
00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 1: do feel what you're doing. Man, you're making I just

425
00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:26,639
Speaker 1: feel like, yeah, it's real good things out I know

426
00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:29,520
Speaker 1: it is. It is terrible, you know what. You're right?

427
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:36,680
Speaker 1: It is terrible what you know? In her own house, man,

428
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:40,320
Speaker 1: in her own freaking house. Man, this is supposed to

429
00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:44,120
Speaker 1: be fun. Here's what I think. It's bullshit because I've

430
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:46,159
Speaker 1: been with you for two years now. We've talked about this.

431
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:48,119
Speaker 1: I've said the same things that Katie has said. I

432
00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:51,160
Speaker 1: haven't cried. But you're just more accepting of the things

433
00:25:51,240 --> 00:25:53,440
Speaker 1: that she is saying. Is it because she's famous or

434
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 1: something that has nothing to do with that, because you

435
00:25:55,359 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 1: don't you're not tender? What Yeah, you're rough, She's tender

436
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:04,920
Speaker 1: about it, Okay, And I believe her. I don't believe you.

437
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 1: When I look at her, I go, I believe look

438
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:13,680
Speaker 1: at her eyes? Should I cry? You won't, You don't.

439
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:16,440
Speaker 1: You don't have to do don't don't do it. It'll

440
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:20,120
Speaker 1: make it weird. It'll make it weird. Okay, So what's

441
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:26,480
Speaker 1: the age difference? So you're like us, so you're super close.

442
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:30,160
Speaker 1: But here's the thing. Here's another reason why my brother

443
00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:35,200
Speaker 1: and I work is because in the Korean custom, the

444
00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:38,800
Speaker 1: older brother takes care of the siblings. It's just one

445
00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:43,080
Speaker 1: of those things. So you know, my brother, you know,

446
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:45,320
Speaker 1: moved to l A. It's just the two of you,

447
00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 1: it's the two of us, and he literally is like

448
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:51,680
Speaker 1: having a kid. Yeah, I take care of him, you know,

449
00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 1: like he doesn't ever have to worry. Do you give

450
00:26:54,119 --> 00:26:56,960
Speaker 1: him money? My brother money? Do you give your brother

451
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:02,639
Speaker 1: and stuff like that? Yeah? Yeah, yeah? Do you? And

452
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 1: are you cool with that or do you ever? I don't.

453
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 1: I'm not proud of that, and and I'm that's I'm

454
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:09,680
Speaker 1: at a point now where I'm like, dude, like there's

455
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:11,760
Speaker 1: no reason for that. That's why, Like I'm trying to

456
00:27:11,800 --> 00:27:14,240
Speaker 1: do my own podcast and like I'm trying to get

457
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:17,520
Speaker 1: my own sponsorships and I'm trying to do music. It's

458
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 1: like yeah, so, I mean, yeah, I'm not. I don't

459
00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 1: take pride in that at all. No, do you make music? Yeah?

460
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:25,399
Speaker 1: I do? Yeah, I do. Like what kind I did?

461
00:27:25,440 --> 00:27:28,040
Speaker 1: I record on like an eight track and I make

462
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:31,240
Speaker 1: like beats. My brother, my brothers. I'll brack for him.

463
00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:33,399
Speaker 1: So he's in a band with you. I don't know

464
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:36,640
Speaker 1: if you know David chow Is. He's the artist, right

465
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,040
Speaker 1: and the money mark with the Beastie Boys, right, So

466
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:41,520
Speaker 1: my brother's in a band with them. He's the lead singer.

467
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 1: Oh wow. And they toured what they did uh with?

468
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 1: They did shows with the word for the DJ what's

469
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:52,920
Speaker 1: his name with the long hair? Oh? We did we open? Yeah,

470
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 1: we did a fashion week in New York. So weird

471
00:27:57,560 --> 00:27:59,840
Speaker 1: on tour and all that. Yeahyeah, I'm not on a

472
00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:03,199
Speaker 1: I mean they I mean, you know, Dave was funding,

473
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:06,760
Speaker 1: but he's a great performer. When they're in l a's,

474
00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 1: I like what you're doing. We're in the hiatus right now,

475
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:14,720
Speaker 1: like everyone's kind of doing their own thing, you know.

476
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 1: So that's I like your tattoos. I just want to

477
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 1: say this to anyone watching right now that Stevie Lee

478
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 1: has some seriously my brother Actually, yeah, that's my art.

479
00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 1: These are who who? Who did these tattoos? Are they

480
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:32,280
Speaker 1: actually designed this? When I drew this one and then

481
00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 1: just brought to and what about your e? What about

482
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:39,520
Speaker 1: your E? Walk? Yeah it's yeah, it's a walk a tape.

483
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 1: Have you gotten Bobby Bobby's name yet? No? Yeah, I

484
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 1: have his career name here. Okay, so his initials Bobby

485
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 1: only and then so okay, and you have so now

486
00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 1: this is all of her and I do something you

487
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:58,840
Speaker 1: want to get a tattoo and we're trying to not

488
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:02,960
Speaker 1: with the family, brothers, sister, situationist. But do you guys

489
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 1: have to nick names or anything? I like that with

490
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 1: each other. I mean, my nickname is Bertie, but Bertie,

491
00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:11,200
Speaker 1: I've got to figure that out. But what I know

492
00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:13,280
Speaker 1: about all over on you is that he talks about

493
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:15,960
Speaker 1: you so positively. I knew that you guys had such

494
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:18,760
Speaker 1: a great relationship just by working with him for two years.

495
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:21,720
Speaker 1: Can I say another thing about him? Yes? Can I

496
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:25,040
Speaker 1: say something another thing about him? That when I did

497
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 1: the pilot with him, right, he saved my life Because

498
00:29:28,280 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 1: I'm not really I mean, I've I've been on sitcoms before.

499
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 1: I've been in movies, but I don't really you know,

500
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 1: I to call myself an actor is crazy, right because

501
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:40,000
Speaker 1: I'd never really taken a class. I don't really know

502
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:42,200
Speaker 1: what I'm doing, right. So when I was doing the

503
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 1: pilot with him, right, Okay, no, I was agreeing something

504
00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 1: I relate to that personally, I test well that personally

505
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:57,280
Speaker 1: the wrong when you say you're not doing it the classes,

506
00:29:57,320 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 1: you're not really an actor. Like my insecure sy feels

507
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 1: the same way about me, right, Okay, I mean I

508
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 1: know enough to be in things, right, yes, but just

509
00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:08,760
Speaker 1: you know, to do like you know, I did this

510
00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 1: movie with Ben Kingsley, right, and like I was, I

511
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 1: had lines with him and I was so petrified because

512
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:17,200
Speaker 1: I could. I thought He's going to see right through

513
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 1: this fucking shit because I don't know what I'm saying, right.

514
00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:23,240
Speaker 1: But but Oliver, on the day of the pilot, he

515
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:26,040
Speaker 1: pulled me aside and you got my head right, prol

516
00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:28,800
Speaker 1: you really did, because I go there was so many

517
00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:32,080
Speaker 1: it was a day where everyone showed well because I

518
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:35,080
Speaker 1: related to him. And that's what I was saying before,

519
00:30:35,200 --> 00:30:38,520
Speaker 1: is I feel the same way my insecure self feels

520
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:40,280
Speaker 1: the same way. I knew what he was going through

521
00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 1: because I've been through the same ship that he was

522
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 1: going through. And now those things were like everyone's just

523
00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:47,840
Speaker 1: all the executive showed up and there was a thousand

524
00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 1: people like behind video Villaine, right, and like, I, you know,

525
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:53,560
Speaker 1: I'm scared because I hadn't worked in, like on a

526
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 1: show in four years or whatever. So in my head,

527
00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't get fired, you know, right, And

528
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:01,840
Speaker 1: then he just got my head wrapped around the idea

529
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:05,920
Speaker 1: that it's okay to make mistakes. We're all human beings, right,

530
00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:17,280
Speaker 1: And then he shared some of his experiences with himself. Yeah, Okay,

531
00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 1: is he being real? I think so? Maybe? Okay, yeah,

532
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 1: but it's hard to tell when Steve's being honest than

533
00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:28,880
Speaker 1: you like how he's emotive. I can't tell if he's

534
00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 1: like telling the truth or you like it's a very

535
00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:34,960
Speaker 1: very aloof do you cry? I mean, do you get emotional?

536
00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 1: He has two emotions, right, rage like you no, like,

537
00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:43,640
Speaker 1: do you ever see the movie being there? One of

538
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:48,680
Speaker 1: my favorite but that's an act, Okay, I don't know what,

539
00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 1: and but his other one is pure rage. And so

540
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:58,680
Speaker 1: what you're seeing right now is the Chancey Gardner being there.

541
00:31:59,160 --> 00:32:01,640
Speaker 1: But what you don't don't see is the raging ball.

542
00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:04,360
Speaker 1: Where is that rage? Does that? Does that rage come

543
00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:07,320
Speaker 1: out on stage? It comes out in the weird you

544
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:10,520
Speaker 1: know what. That's a good question. The music helps, yeah,

545
00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 1: because it's an outlet, you know. But I mean on

546
00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 1: the uber ride over here, we almost almost have to

547
00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:18,960
Speaker 1: pull over. Why we don't have to We're we're not

548
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 1: going to get into it, all right. But this also

549
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:23,320
Speaker 1: brings me to something I know, which is you guys

550
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 1: have gotten into physical fights with each other? Do you

551
00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 1: still get physical with each other? You know? We haven't

552
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:33,719
Speaker 1: had a physical altercation in like many years. It sounds

553
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 1: like Stevie was really the number he was, but you

554
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 1: weren't you the number two wrestler? I was ranked two

555
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 1: in nineteen in the nineties. Okay, so I set up

556
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 1: a mat right now, who who would take? He would

557
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 1: destroy you, He would destroy your proby this dude right here, dude,

558
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:54,680
Speaker 1: let me say something. I have the same rage because

559
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 1: it's what my dad has. But through years of conditioning

560
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:02,880
Speaker 1: and just practicing, I can talk myself out of those

561
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 1: situations pretty ninety nine point nine percent of the time.

562
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:09,160
Speaker 1: If you get me into the red zone, which is

563
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 1: so difficult. I might stay in it for twenty minutes, right,

564
00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 1: but my brother gets there quickly, you know, because he

565
00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:18,560
Speaker 1: doesn't have you know, I'm doing therapy now. I've been

566
00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 1: working on better. Yeah, I once better a nice Do

567
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:26,000
Speaker 1: you think that's because of your relationship that you went in?

568
00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 1: Did you that you're there's a whole lot. I mean

569
00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:34,640
Speaker 1: I'm slowly telling him stuff, but yeah, mostly I'm trying to,

570
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:39,680
Speaker 1: you know, work on my age, my red zone. Yeah,

571
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 1: and so I'm trying, but it's not I'm not It's

572
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 1: not a cure, overnight cure. Dude, are you at all

573
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:52,040
Speaker 1: envious of his career and success? There's not an inkling

574
00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:57,200
Speaker 1: of like, god, well, I ask everyone possible. I'm like,

575
00:33:57,440 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 1: I kind of weird about you because Oliver was like

576
00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:05,600
Speaker 1: Oliver every podcast and every time people are like, no,

577
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:08,879
Speaker 1: I'm so proud of my my sibling, and I'm like Oliver, see,

578
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:11,520
Speaker 1: I am proud too. But in order but to deny

579
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:16,880
Speaker 1: you're like that there's envy. No, you're like jeous obvious.

580
00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:20,200
Speaker 1: You know what. Now, there might be You're right, You're right,

581
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:23,040
Speaker 1: there might be a little bit like I'm proud of you,

582
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:25,399
Speaker 1: but like, fuck, I wish I could tell him, tell

583
00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:33,960
Speaker 1: them the Barry Cat's story. So you know Barry Kats is,

584
00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:38,319
Speaker 1: he's a manager. He's comedy manager, right, big, big comedy manager. Yeah,

585
00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:40,960
Speaker 1: big comedy manager. And I was sitting at the comedy

586
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:43,919
Speaker 1: store years ago, maybe twelve fourteen years ago, and we're

587
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:46,080
Speaker 1: in the patio of the comedy store and we're sitting

588
00:34:46,120 --> 00:34:49,759
Speaker 1: next to each other. Barry Cat's big guy, big jewish man,

589
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 1: walks up, Bobby, how are you. I'm like, oh, good,

590
00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:54,759
Speaker 1: you know, and he and I go, this is my

591
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:57,880
Speaker 1: brother Steve. And Barry Cats said something, this is the

592
00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:01,600
Speaker 1: worst thing he could ever Could I do it? Yes?

593
00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 1: So he's like it was good, meaning you and then

594
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:07,320
Speaker 1: he starts walking away and he goes, so what's it

595
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:12,000
Speaker 1: like living in your brother's shadow? Whoa? So geez. He

596
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:15,920
Speaker 1: didn't say it like that, but he said those words perception.

597
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:17,800
Speaker 1: He said, try to do it in a joke. So

598
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 1: what's it like, you know? Living? You know that? And

599
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 1: then I looked at my brother's hands and this is

600
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:31,719
Speaker 1: what I see the rage for the zero it like this,

601
00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 1: Yeah that's Alison. It was too much? Does it hurt?

602
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:41,799
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry like that, but I had to do that. Yeah,

603
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:44,800
Speaker 1: one of my questions I have is who's the louder sibling?

604
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:46,560
Speaker 1: And this is what I'm I'm getting at. I think

605
00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 1: you're the louder sibling. But then if it's that moment

606
00:35:49,239 --> 00:35:52,840
Speaker 1: where he goes one to a hundred in his rage,

607
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:56,600
Speaker 1: that he might then be much louder than you ever are. Yeah, yeah,

608
00:35:56,640 --> 00:36:00,759
Speaker 1: that's a that's a very fair assessment. Okay. And now

609
00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 1: in your family, so was your mom loud too? Okay?

610
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:09,080
Speaker 1: So they were both, So both your mom and your

611
00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 1: dad were quite outspoken and expressive. Yeah, I mean my

612
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:19,880
Speaker 1: mom is the funny one, although my dad's funny in

613
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:22,680
Speaker 1: his own way. My mom is the type of woman

614
00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 1: to be in a mall and go I pick a

615
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:28,400
Speaker 1: nap now, and she'll just lay in the middle of

616
00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:32,520
Speaker 1: the mall and fall asleep like she doesn't know social

617
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 1: like right, and then like like you know how, like

618
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:37,920
Speaker 1: you go to a mall there's like a pool, like

619
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:40,839
Speaker 1: like a fountain. My will to take her shoes off

620
00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 1: and just wait around in the film like that's not

621
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 1: what it's there for. It's not a pool for your feet,

622
00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:48,359
Speaker 1: you know. So my mom is like that and then

623
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:52,200
Speaker 1: she's also just very every girlfriend that's ever met My

624
00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:54,680
Speaker 1: mom goes, oh, that's where you get it from my

625
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 1: situation with Oliver and all my brothers. And excuse my

626
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:02,920
Speaker 1: scabs on my feet, it's because I'm athletic and I

627
00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:08,359
Speaker 1: wasn't looking at her. I was, yeah, but well because

628
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 1: there was like a stick model thing happening your your feet,

629
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:18,800
Speaker 1: you also your feet. Yeah, I have good feet. I

630
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:23,239
Speaker 1: love your feet. But it's not that wasn't but that

631
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:28,480
Speaker 1: was observed girls. Okay, so you would stare at their

632
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:33,160
Speaker 1: feet a man? All right, man, this is oh so

633
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:35,239
Speaker 1: you really do you have a feet? He has a feet.

634
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 1: He has a personal feet thing. Oh, he's like obsessed

635
00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:41,359
Speaker 1: with it. Yeah, like when he was younger, he would

636
00:37:41,360 --> 00:37:44,240
Speaker 1: have girls and then they wouldn't they wouldn't mess around,

637
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:46,600
Speaker 1: and then he would be like like repressed, and then

638
00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:48,920
Speaker 1: he would stay up all night just staring at their feet.

639
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:55,799
Speaker 1: Oh you didn't know this. Would you like to? Would

640
00:37:55,880 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 1: you like to smell Kate's feet? Oliver, I don't don't

641
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 1: want to smell that. I'm not in that. This is crazy.

642
00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:08,200
Speaker 1: I'm not like that for you not to smell. I'm

643
00:38:08,239 --> 00:38:11,720
Speaker 1: gonna smell guy, you would you like to like correct

644
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:15,120
Speaker 1: the tops of her foot like nod? Force him to

645
00:38:15,160 --> 00:38:17,160
Speaker 1: do it? Will you just do it? I'm not I'm

646
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:26,359
Speaker 1: not gonna he wants he wants to. I'm gonna smell

647
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:42,880
Speaker 1: white American flash. Yeah, okay, you got that. This is

648
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 1: so funny. Okay, wait, okay, wait who makes mom laugh

649
00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:55,800
Speaker 1: the most? You? Are you sure? Yeah? He's accepting it.

650
00:38:55,920 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 1: He's accepting What about Dad? Him? So? Okay? So so

651
00:39:00,640 --> 00:39:04,320
Speaker 1: Bobby is the funny He's way more extroverted. Yeah, and

652
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:09,759
Speaker 1: who do you think is the favorite child? No? No,

653
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 1: I'm getting a headshake from I tell you why. I

654
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:14,279
Speaker 1: don't think. I think maybe I know Me and mom

655
00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 1: were real close, man, me and mom? Of I know

656
00:39:17,120 --> 00:39:19,439
Speaker 1: you guys are so close because you know what isn't

657
00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:21,160
Speaker 1: like I mean, it's in't like the sibling way, not

658
00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:24,400
Speaker 1: in like the reality like we know our parents all right,

659
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:27,319
Speaker 1: But have you been envious of love? Like? No, I've

660
00:39:27,360 --> 00:39:31,200
Speaker 1: never been. And also when my dad got sick, obviously

661
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:34,560
Speaker 1: because of my schedule, you know, I couldn't help in

662
00:39:34,640 --> 00:39:37,239
Speaker 1: that way, you know, like be physically there. But I

663
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:41,759
Speaker 1: sent my brother Arizona job, right, so my mother would

664
00:39:41,800 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 1: just go out there and stay in Arizona for months

665
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:47,440
Speaker 1: at a time and do all those medical things that

666
00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:50,759
Speaker 1: my dad needed, like the ship, his ass and all that.

667
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 1: Did you have to do that? Well? I saw my

668
00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:55,360
Speaker 1: mom do it, right, you didn't do it, but I

669
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 1: lifted him up. Yeah, so you're kind of winning in

670
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:03,759
Speaker 1: that to apartment and to like like dependability. Okay, how

671
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:07,400
Speaker 1: do you guys feel about this statistic? Firstborns are generally

672
00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:11,600
Speaker 1: smarter than the younger siblings, having on average a three

673
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 1: point IQ advantage over the second siblings. No, no, I

674
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:21,000
Speaker 1: feel about that. Yeah, I don't know he's smarter. I'm not. Well,

675
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:23,400
Speaker 1: he's smart in his own way politically, he knows all

676
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 1: you know about like you know, the lizard aliens. See,

677
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:29,400
Speaker 1: I got a better SAT score than him by ten points,

678
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:32,480
Speaker 1: but if we if we did, I mean I got

679
00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:35,120
Speaker 1: a seven fifty, you got a seven sixty. No, first

680
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:37,799
Speaker 1: of all, that's not what it was. No, it wasn't. Sorry,

681
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:40,759
Speaker 1: that's like we basically spelt our name right. I got

682
00:40:40,800 --> 00:40:43,960
Speaker 1: an eight sixty, you got an eight seventy. So yeah,

683
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:46,600
Speaker 1: that's not Actually you're still wrong. We're going to look

684
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:49,920
Speaker 1: it up. You're still wrong. But but I think it's

685
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:52,320
Speaker 1: possible that if we took an IQ test, which we

686
00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:55,280
Speaker 1: probably should, that I probably still would get ten points

687
00:40:55,360 --> 00:40:58,759
Speaker 1: higher than maybe you. I'm like with Bobby, I think

688
00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:02,520
Speaker 1: it's possible you might win. I'm I'm I'm deep. You

689
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:04,800
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Deep has nothing to do with

690
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:09,759
Speaker 1: IQ depth. You have an IQ depth has nothing to

691
00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:12,960
Speaker 1: do with that. There's emotional intelligence, and there's I think

692
00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 1: I have high emotional intelligence. Not I have a high

693
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 1: e Q an emotional quotion. There's an actual EQ and

694
00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 1: I Q. That's your next statistic. Oh, in one of

695
00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:26,600
Speaker 1: your fights, have you ever made the other one bleed? Oh?

696
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:30,120
Speaker 1: My god, so many times. Okay, I figured if you

697
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:33,480
Speaker 1: could do any other job, what would it be. Just

698
00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 1: just snap your fingers. You don't have to be skilled

699
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:39,320
Speaker 1: like I would love to be. Like just how my

700
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:43,320
Speaker 1: my my buddy Dave cho Is. Just do art, do

701
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:47,880
Speaker 1: art shows and travel the world. Have exhibits that'd be amazing,

702
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:51,719
Speaker 1: sound experience, you know, paint stuff and people will like

703
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:54,759
Speaker 1: really recognize it and appreciate it. Yeah, I'll buy that

704
00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:57,319
Speaker 1: for eight million doll you know, Like you know, it's

705
00:41:57,360 --> 00:41:59,200
Speaker 1: just like I just keep and then you just create,

706
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 1: You keep creating I love that. But that's crazy that

707
00:42:02,120 --> 00:42:04,040
Speaker 1: you can do that, Like that's what you're sort of doing.

708
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:06,800
Speaker 1: I know, it's a different template. I could draw. I

709
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:09,440
Speaker 1: don't know how to painting past. Yeah, but David Chow

710
00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:12,840
Speaker 1: was like you were. He was David, who's this artist?

711
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:16,440
Speaker 1: Was telling my brother send me paintings. How many paintings

712
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:21,400
Speaker 1: did you send them? Drawings? Hundreds? Right? Oh that was

713
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: like at the beginning. Yeah yeah, but little sketches. Yeah yeah,

714
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:28,319
Speaker 1: he's got great sketches. Oh cool, I do it for fun.

715
00:42:28,719 --> 00:42:31,320
Speaker 1: So your brother wants to be an artist if he

716
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:33,319
Speaker 1: could have any other job? What about you, Bobby? Well,

717
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:36,320
Speaker 1: I just got back in the Philippines and what we

718
00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:38,560
Speaker 1: did was we would take these little boats and go

719
00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:41,920
Speaker 1: to these because there's like nine thousand islands around the Philippines.

720
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:44,520
Speaker 1: Was it amazing, fucking amazing. And we would go to

721
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:46,720
Speaker 1: an island and there would be like a group of people,

722
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:49,799
Speaker 1: like you know, people that live there and they would

723
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:52,440
Speaker 1: make us food. And there was one island we went

724
00:42:52,480 --> 00:42:54,759
Speaker 1: to where Caly like was like, you know, this guy's

725
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:56,799
Speaker 1: like was just on TV. He's like the best at

726
00:42:56,840 --> 00:42:59,799
Speaker 1: what they do and they basically they get food from

727
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:03,800
Speaker 1: you know, shrimp and all the local things rise and

728
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 1: they put it beautifully on a table and everyone there's

729
00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:09,920
Speaker 1: no plates. You just eat it, you know what I mean.

730
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:13,279
Speaker 1: I'll share like a communal kind of a thing. And

731
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:17,480
Speaker 1: the best meal I've ever had, so fresh. And I

732
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:20,239
Speaker 1: always thought to myself, I thought to myself, then I

733
00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 1: wish I was on an island and I was able

734
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:26,239
Speaker 1: to cook things for people and make my make it

735
00:43:26,360 --> 00:43:27,480
Speaker 1: my own, you know what I mean. Because this guy

736
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:29,719
Speaker 1: was like the ship. So I always thought, maybe that

737
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:32,319
Speaker 1: would be a good job. You could do that. Yeah, yeah,

738
00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:37,040
Speaker 1: childhood crush. There was a tape at my parents' house.

739
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:39,879
Speaker 1: There's a tape at my brother, cassette tape at my parents' house.

740
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:42,359
Speaker 1: Don't you dare say that right here and you could

741
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:44,680
Speaker 1: hear my brother as a kid. Don't do it. Whatever

742
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:47,760
Speaker 1: you're thinking about doing, please don't say it. For forty

743
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:50,480
Speaker 1: five minutes. This is what you hear. You push play.

744
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 1: I love you, Drew barry More. I love you, Drew

745
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:56,359
Speaker 1: barry More. I love you, d barry More. I love

746
00:43:56,400 --> 00:43:58,200
Speaker 1: you Drew barry More. I love you Drew Barrymore. I

747
00:43:58,239 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 1: love you d barry More. I love you, I love

748
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 1: you very More so Drew Barrymore, I think with him. Yeah, right,

749
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:09,440
Speaker 1: Can I just say this too, it's Drew Berry Moore

750
00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:13,320
Speaker 1: because this is in the early eighties, so when she

751
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 1: was on Firestarter or et Drew Barrymore three. But okay,

752
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:21,520
Speaker 1: so what was his childhood crush? Do you remember Nicole

753
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:27,800
Speaker 1: Eggert Oliver is projecting he loved that one? Right? You

754
00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:31,000
Speaker 1: didn't have Phoebe Kate's. You didn't know. I didn't have

755
00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 1: I didn't have anything you had. No, you know, because

756
00:44:34,600 --> 00:44:36,960
Speaker 1: in the eighties I was drinking and doing drugs and

757
00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff, and I was doing a

758
00:44:38,719 --> 00:44:41,120
Speaker 1: lot of gay things back then that I was just

759
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:45,719
Speaker 1: so just just lost. I didn't have the same childhood

760
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:49,360
Speaker 1: like you know, fantasies like Drew Barrymore. Mine was a

761
00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:53,600
Speaker 1: psych out of survival. Really. Okay. One of these things

762
00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:56,320
Speaker 1: is I just think you guys are very open. So

763
00:44:56,760 --> 00:45:03,200
Speaker 1: something moved the foot just put wrong. Okay, what physical

764
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:06,359
Speaker 1: feature are you most proud of of my own? Yeah?

765
00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:12,640
Speaker 1: Hard question, because I live in this body. I have

766
00:45:12,760 --> 00:45:15,239
Speaker 1: no idea. Yeah, I ever looked at my body and went,

767
00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:18,520
Speaker 1: oh that's the thing. Never never, Yeah, these are the

768
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 1: things we got to work on. You what about what

769
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:22,360
Speaker 1: about the opposite of physical feature? You're just like, this

770
00:45:22,640 --> 00:45:26,040
Speaker 1: is just a disaster for me. Have you heard of

771
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:29,880
Speaker 1: a hegemonics or a hegeomony? Is that the right word? Hoo? Yeah? Where, No,

772
00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:35,680
Speaker 1: it's it's what the culture shows, what's a good looking

773
00:45:35,800 --> 00:45:39,000
Speaker 1: man is through media and guys like my brother and

774
00:45:39,040 --> 00:45:42,759
Speaker 1: I were never like, you know, especially Asian males in Hollywood,

775
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 1: we're never viewed as a sexual, you know, being you know,

776
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:50,320
Speaker 1: I think now they're slowly doing that, but back in

777
00:45:50,400 --> 00:45:53,360
Speaker 1: the day, you have to imagine in the eighties, you know,

778
00:45:53,520 --> 00:45:55,799
Speaker 1: if you were to say, who are your Asian role

779
00:45:55,880 --> 00:46:00,240
Speaker 1: models in media? Right, there's Bruce Lee and then there's

780
00:46:00,320 --> 00:46:03,000
Speaker 1: Pat Marita. Oh, long duck dog, long duck dong. I

781
00:46:03,040 --> 00:46:07,360
Speaker 1: mean you have three options, right, So, you know, we

782
00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:10,000
Speaker 1: don't we have a weird you know, growing up in America.

783
00:46:10,239 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 1: In America, I was born here, I'm an American citizen,

784
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:15,640
Speaker 1: and I have to say that, you know, my girlfriends

785
00:46:15,640 --> 00:46:18,880
Speaker 1: have all been very attractive and sexy, you know, but

786
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 1: you know, but you know, I've never felt like I

787
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:25,920
Speaker 1: was ever like, you know, a good looking guy. I

788
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:29,080
Speaker 1: know I'm cute, I know I test well you do.

789
00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:31,880
Speaker 1: I do everything, I may, I test well, you know

790
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:37,560
Speaker 1: the audience likes me. But I know that when I

791
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:40,759
Speaker 1: go on stage already I can feel the audience we

792
00:46:40,920 --> 00:46:43,880
Speaker 1: like him. Even as an open micer, I could feel that.

793
00:46:44,560 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 1: That's because I'm sexually non threatening. Right. They always say

794
00:46:48,640 --> 00:46:51,920
Speaker 1: in stand up comedy, the worst, you know, the hardest

795
00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:55,080
Speaker 1: is when you're good looking. Okay, really quick, here's a

796
00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:58,799
Speaker 1: more of a speed round. But we're gonna do Would

797
00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 1: they choose? But you're going to answer this for your brother.

798
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:06,399
Speaker 1: This is Bobby Lee talking about his brother Steve Lee.

799
00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:10,120
Speaker 1: Would he choose? Well, I know the answer to this one. Now.

800
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 1: Would he choose the power of invisibility or the power

801
00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:15,439
Speaker 1: to fight my brother? Would I think? Choose the power

802
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:20,320
Speaker 1: of invisibility? All right? Got one right? Okay? Would he

803
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:23,160
Speaker 1: live in medieval times as a royal or in future

804
00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 1: times as a cyborg? Future times is a sure cyborg? Yeah?

805
00:47:28,520 --> 00:47:32,920
Speaker 1: Can I do him instead of Bobby? Right? I wouldn't

806
00:47:33,160 --> 00:47:36,120
Speaker 1: want to be infused as a robot into technology, So

807
00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:38,520
Speaker 1: you would go back in time in medieval times, and

808
00:47:38,560 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to be a robot, braveheart, Yeah, I

809
00:47:43,239 --> 00:47:44,840
Speaker 1: wouldn't want to be a robot. That's all I know.

810
00:47:45,560 --> 00:47:49,840
Speaker 1: Fantasy or science fiction. Fantasy, but you don't want to

811
00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:53,320
Speaker 1: be a robots? I find no. But there's other aspects

812
00:47:53,360 --> 00:47:56,239
Speaker 1: of science fiction. I was just going with the fucking

813
00:47:56,520 --> 00:48:02,040
Speaker 1: science fiction. There's a lot of contradiction here, I agree. Yeah, okay.

814
00:48:02,120 --> 00:48:07,480
Speaker 1: Beach or mountains beach Yeah, nice. Beetles are rolling stones

815
00:48:07,680 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 1: beetles all day? Yeah, yes, Tupac or Biggie Tupac. I

816
00:48:14,719 --> 00:48:18,480
Speaker 1: like them about the same. Tupac to West Coast, Yeah yeah.

817
00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:23,120
Speaker 1: Infinite power or infinite wealth, infinite wealth. I guess they're

818
00:48:23,120 --> 00:48:26,960
Speaker 1: both relative. Yeah, okay, I guess you're right. Unicorn or mermaid,

819
00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:33,000
Speaker 1: to make love to to be? Yeah, Olive garden or

820
00:48:33,040 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 1: red lobster. Olive garden, red lobster. You've have you? Have

821
00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:43,360
Speaker 1: you been? Pasta? Pasta olive oil. I don't like their bread, alright,

822
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 1: they're known for their bread. Sports car escalade, any car.

823
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:56,359
Speaker 1: I'll take a Corolla at this point. Woodstock sixty nine

824
00:48:56,560 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 1: or Woodstock ninety nine. I like that one. That's a

825
00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:05,279
Speaker 1: good one. One sixty nine. Yeah, LSD S all right, Okay,

826
00:49:06,680 --> 00:49:12,480
Speaker 1: it's your brother's turn invisibility or power to fight invisibility. Okay,

827
00:49:12,520 --> 00:49:19,160
Speaker 1: what about this? What about invisibility or flying? Flying? Yep,

828
00:49:19,239 --> 00:49:22,720
Speaker 1: you gotta say yes, yes, Bobby says yes, yes, Okay.

829
00:49:22,920 --> 00:49:25,800
Speaker 1: Would Bobby like to live in a castle slash mansion

830
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:30,799
Speaker 1: or a high rise apartment mansion castle mansion? Yeah. Appetizer

831
00:49:31,120 --> 00:49:35,080
Speaker 1: or dessert. Oh, he's an appetizer. Yeah, all day every day.

832
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 1: What it is like eight, all day every day? Yeah.

833
00:49:40,440 --> 00:49:44,640
Speaker 1: Beach or mountains? Beach Yeah? Yeah, you said, yeah, I'll

834
00:49:44,800 --> 00:49:47,359
Speaker 1: never come to Colorado. I don't care how many times

835
00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:49,239
Speaker 1: you invite me. You do not want to be a

836
00:49:49,280 --> 00:49:51,040
Speaker 1: part of the mountain. I'll never go. Yeah, I know

837
00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:54,920
Speaker 1: that's that's a fact. I know it will never go

838
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,879
Speaker 1: to the mountains. So your summer, winter, summer or winter

839
00:49:58,280 --> 00:50:02,080
Speaker 1: for him? Yeah, summer. If he had to lose an

840
00:50:02,239 --> 00:50:05,120
Speaker 1: arm or a leg, would it be the arm or

841
00:50:05,160 --> 00:50:07,560
Speaker 1: would it be the leg? It would be a leg. Yeah.

842
00:50:07,840 --> 00:50:11,680
Speaker 1: Because he does stand up, he can he you know,

843
00:50:11,920 --> 00:50:13,839
Speaker 1: he needs both hands. I think that's a good joke.

844
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:17,319
Speaker 1: By the way. Oh yeah, because he does stand up,

845
00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:21,280
Speaker 1: he lose a leg. It is a good joke. Definite

846
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:26,880
Speaker 1: power or infinite wealth power? Ooh, I like that. You

847
00:50:26,920 --> 00:50:33,240
Speaker 1: guys are different. That it's interesting. Weal Unicorner Mermaid, Murman, Mermaid, Murrhman.

848
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:38,200
Speaker 1: You jet ski or wave runner jet ski? Yeah, yeah,

849
00:50:39,160 --> 00:50:41,719
Speaker 1: you do know. Jet ski you need to sit down

850
00:50:41,760 --> 00:50:44,440
Speaker 1: and just push a button. Then the wave Runner's got

851
00:50:44,520 --> 00:50:47,560
Speaker 1: to stand up. And there's a whole situation that goes on.

852
00:50:48,040 --> 00:50:54,320
Speaker 1: Headphones or boombox, headphones from him, sports car escalade, sports

853
00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:56,600
Speaker 1: car yep. And then you know, what about you? For

854
00:50:56,680 --> 00:51:00,120
Speaker 1: Woodstock sixty nine or Woodstock ninety nine, he would do

855
00:51:00,680 --> 00:51:04,320
Speaker 1: sixty nine. Yeah, that's that question. I don't think anyone

856
00:51:04,360 --> 00:51:07,120
Speaker 1: would pick ninety nine. Hey, guys, who's the most sensitive?

857
00:51:07,480 --> 00:51:09,360
Speaker 1: I think you're more sensitive than I am. Yeah, I

858
00:51:09,400 --> 00:51:11,960
Speaker 1: think I'm more sensitive. Ye. Yeah. But I want to

859
00:51:12,000 --> 00:51:13,719
Speaker 1: say this. I mean, I know we're not ending right

860
00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 1: now at this very second, but I wanted to kind

861
00:51:16,239 --> 00:51:19,600
Speaker 1: of express how I really do feel about my brother.

862
00:51:20,560 --> 00:51:24,920
Speaker 1: Is that that I only honestly at the end of

863
00:51:25,000 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 1: the day, Let's say I died in those chapters in

864
00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 1: my book, my brother would be half the book. You know.

865
00:51:33,680 --> 00:51:36,840
Speaker 1: He is the only one, aside from my parents and

866
00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:42,479
Speaker 1: my maybe Krlila, that I truly love from every sense

867
00:51:42,560 --> 00:51:46,319
Speaker 1: of my being. Like for me, it's like I mean,

868
00:51:46,600 --> 00:51:51,479
Speaker 1: God forbid anything happened to my brother, I honestly don't

869
00:51:51,560 --> 00:51:54,919
Speaker 1: know how I would be able to even function in life.

870
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:57,600
Speaker 1: I mean it would be like, you know, people could

871
00:51:57,680 --> 00:52:01,479
Speaker 1: die and I would be hurt him specifically, it would

872
00:52:01,560 --> 00:52:05,360
Speaker 1: be so you know, devastating that I just would not

873
00:52:05,480 --> 00:52:08,560
Speaker 1: be able to function. You know, I love him more

874
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:11,640
Speaker 1: than anything really, and that's why when we fight, it

875
00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:14,000
Speaker 1: gets really emotional, it gets you know, combat of but

876
00:52:14,640 --> 00:52:16,560
Speaker 1: and you know, at the end of the day, it's

877
00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:20,680
Speaker 1: like he's a part of me. You know, he we have.

878
00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:24,120
Speaker 1: We come from the same blood, and we come from

879
00:52:24,160 --> 00:52:27,560
Speaker 1: the same you know, our parents and him. He's the

880
00:52:28,520 --> 00:52:32,399
Speaker 1: longest person I've ever known. I knew him from I'll

881
00:52:32,400 --> 00:52:39,240
Speaker 1: show you a photo. Let's not do this, and Steve,

882
00:52:39,280 --> 00:52:41,400
Speaker 1: you should start. You've got to prepare your side of

883
00:52:41,480 --> 00:52:44,080
Speaker 1: this right now. So think about the beautiful things that

884
00:52:44,120 --> 00:52:47,480
Speaker 1: you're going to say to Bobby, because he just when

885
00:52:47,520 --> 00:52:51,400
Speaker 1: he was born. And this is me looking at my

886
00:52:51,440 --> 00:52:55,280
Speaker 1: brother's hand right going you know, all I ever wanted

887
00:52:55,440 --> 00:52:57,719
Speaker 1: was all And then that's me and my brother. That's

888
00:52:57,800 --> 00:53:01,480
Speaker 1: me and Steve, you know, right Steve right here see

889
00:53:02,239 --> 00:53:04,960
Speaker 1: me holding my little brother. Steve. You know, me and Steve,

890
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:09,600
Speaker 1: like he's my best friend. He's uh, this is high school,

891
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:11,759
Speaker 1: you know. I know what I'm wearing my head, but

892
00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:14,000
Speaker 1: like you know what I mean. But so my my

893
00:53:14,120 --> 00:53:19,160
Speaker 1: brother and I he is from a part of my life,

894
00:53:20,239 --> 00:53:24,920
Speaker 1: you know, and you know I will always at the

895
00:53:25,040 --> 00:53:29,520
Speaker 1: end of the day, we'll take care of him. There's

896
00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 1: he'll never struggle, He'll never you know. That's what it is.

897
00:53:36,080 --> 00:53:37,759
Speaker 1: You know, I mean, that's what it is. Go ahead,

898
00:53:38,840 --> 00:53:42,719
Speaker 1: go ahead that I mean no, to be honest, like

899
00:53:42,880 --> 00:53:45,800
Speaker 1: I wish my sister would say something like that to me.

900
00:53:46,719 --> 00:53:49,120
Speaker 1: Yeah you want me to, I can totally do that,

901
00:53:49,200 --> 00:53:51,839
Speaker 1: but I just I'm too emotional. I'll just start crying. Okay,

902
00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:53,719
Speaker 1: you could start it, you could start it off, but

903
00:53:53,840 --> 00:54:00,360
Speaker 1: you have to finish. Okay, Well, I'll just hate it

904
00:54:00,440 --> 00:54:02,799
Speaker 1: about Oliver in the mok you can add it. And right,

905
00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:06,839
Speaker 1: I feel that I feel the same way, although I'm

906
00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:13,279
Speaker 1: not good at uh expressing you know, like my how

907
00:54:13,360 --> 00:54:15,360
Speaker 1: much you mean to me? You know, And I know

908
00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:20,399
Speaker 1: I've like in a way I've you know, just kind

909
00:54:20,440 --> 00:54:24,480
Speaker 1: of I haven't been in full gratitude many you know,

910
00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:28,080
Speaker 1: for some years as far as how like, how how

911
00:54:28,160 --> 00:54:31,279
Speaker 1: good you are to me, and and like I thought,

912
00:54:31,320 --> 00:54:32,800
Speaker 1: you know, through all this thing, I'm not going to

913
00:54:32,840 --> 00:54:35,480
Speaker 1: bring his name up, but I thought that you like

914
00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:37,600
Speaker 1: abandoned me, you know, like as far as like when

915
00:54:37,640 --> 00:54:40,480
Speaker 1: you're in the Philippines. But then when I realized that

916
00:54:41,320 --> 00:54:43,320
Speaker 1: you were actually like fighting for me, I was like

917
00:54:43,560 --> 00:54:46,279
Speaker 1: it really like I it like I kind of broke

918
00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:50,399
Speaker 1: up then, like as far as like, oh my brother,

919
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:53,840
Speaker 1: like I thought that he like didn't have my best intentions.

920
00:54:53,880 --> 00:54:56,160
Speaker 1: I don't want to go into the story, but like

921
00:54:56,320 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 1: the whole time he was like fighting for me, like

922
00:55:00,840 --> 00:55:03,040
Speaker 1: so I could get my channel back and so I

923
00:55:03,120 --> 00:55:04,800
Speaker 1: could have you know what I'm saying. So but like

924
00:55:05,040 --> 00:55:08,200
Speaker 1: I but then but then I realized, like why did

925
00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:11,080
Speaker 1: I question that, you know? And so it was it's

926
00:55:11,080 --> 00:55:12,640
Speaker 1: one of those things as far as like why would

927
00:55:12,640 --> 00:55:16,000
Speaker 1: I question like this is blood. You can't fuck with blood,

928
00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:20,680
Speaker 1: you know, like where so you know him, He's the

929
00:55:20,760 --> 00:55:25,759
Speaker 1: best brother I could have ever asked for. And I

930
00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:27,680
Speaker 1: want to get to a point. I appreciate you you

931
00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:30,600
Speaker 1: helping me throughout the years, but like I want to

932
00:55:30,640 --> 00:55:32,279
Speaker 1: get to a point where you know, like as far

933
00:55:32,360 --> 00:55:35,360
Speaker 1: as monetarily, I could be self supporting as well, like

934
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:37,520
Speaker 1: I don't. I'm not trying to, you know, live off

935
00:55:37,600 --> 00:55:39,640
Speaker 1: his dime. You know. That's why I'm like trying to

936
00:55:39,640 --> 00:55:42,959
Speaker 1: get these things going because in a way I feel

937
00:55:43,040 --> 00:55:48,239
Speaker 1: bad because he's catering towards my parents, and in a

938
00:55:48,280 --> 00:55:53,600
Speaker 1: way I feel shame because I'm unable to provide that,

939
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:59,359
Speaker 1: but you know, he's doing it. So what I'm trying

940
00:55:59,360 --> 00:56:02,000
Speaker 1: to say is I, yeah, he's He's probably the best

941
00:56:02,160 --> 00:56:06,320
Speaker 1: brother anyone could ask for. And uh, I know we

942
00:56:06,480 --> 00:56:08,040
Speaker 1: fight a lot, but at the end of the day,

943
00:56:08,080 --> 00:56:10,719
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, I mean I have a you know,

944
00:56:10,920 --> 00:56:15,040
Speaker 1: this is like he's you know that blood is blood.

945
00:56:15,120 --> 00:56:18,759
Speaker 1: You know, you can't you know, like, no matter who

946
00:56:18,880 --> 00:56:22,520
Speaker 1: you meet throughout your life span, you can never replace that.

947
00:56:22,880 --> 00:56:25,920
Speaker 1: You especially this, you can't replace. There's you know, I

948
00:56:25,960 --> 00:56:28,040
Speaker 1: don't care if it's your best friend. It's like blood

949
00:56:28,160 --> 00:56:32,880
Speaker 1: is It's just there's a certain power and bond to that.

950
00:56:33,120 --> 00:56:38,200
Speaker 1: That's it's it's everlasting. You can't at least that's the

951
00:56:38,239 --> 00:56:41,960
Speaker 1: way we were raised. So yeah, yeah, if you were

952
00:56:42,040 --> 00:56:46,960
Speaker 1: to give advice to say brothers that didn't or weren't

953
00:56:47,040 --> 00:56:52,960
Speaker 1: talking or weren't connecting or like, what would that look like,

954
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:55,560
Speaker 1: what would that be. I would just say, man like,

955
00:56:55,760 --> 00:56:58,560
Speaker 1: life is too short. We don't know how much time

956
00:56:58,640 --> 00:57:01,680
Speaker 1: we have on this planet or tomorrow's never promised, so

957
00:57:01,800 --> 00:57:04,480
Speaker 1: any day above ground is a good day. You should

958
00:57:04,600 --> 00:57:08,600
Speaker 1: really cherish the one. I know. This one thing you

959
00:57:08,680 --> 00:57:10,759
Speaker 1: don't do is you don't hold resent You don't hold

960
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:13,960
Speaker 1: on to resentment. Resentment is the thing that eats its

961
00:57:13,960 --> 00:57:18,800
Speaker 1: own container. Like resentment, resentment, it's kind of like you're

962
00:57:18,880 --> 00:57:21,960
Speaker 1: you're drinking poison expecting the other person to die from

963
00:57:22,120 --> 00:57:25,520
Speaker 1: what you're doing. So that's the main thing that keeps

964
00:57:25,600 --> 00:57:29,680
Speaker 1: families apart. This is just my opinion, is resentment. And

965
00:57:30,000 --> 00:57:32,680
Speaker 1: you know that could be coupled with envy and jealousy

966
00:57:32,760 --> 00:57:35,840
Speaker 1: and all these other aspects, but the main thing I

967
00:57:35,920 --> 00:57:39,800
Speaker 1: think is resentment. I would say to life is short,

968
00:57:39,840 --> 00:57:43,720
Speaker 1: and you have to swallow your pride. You look at

969
00:57:43,760 --> 00:57:47,680
Speaker 1: your own inventory you're part in it, and then and

970
00:57:47,760 --> 00:57:50,920
Speaker 1: then make up because life is short. You should. If

971
00:57:50,960 --> 00:57:55,560
Speaker 1: it's family, there's no reason why you can't be in

972
00:57:55,640 --> 00:57:59,320
Speaker 1: touch unless that person murdered your kids or you know

973
00:57:59,360 --> 00:58:05,200
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, it's something horrific that's unforgivable. But Bobby,

974
00:58:05,400 --> 00:58:09,480
Speaker 1: it was going so well, I'm sorry. No, you're right

975
00:58:09,560 --> 00:58:13,320
Speaker 1: that resentment is huge. It's huge. It will destroy you,

976
00:58:13,560 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 1: and it's and it's we will won't end up drinking

977
00:58:15,880 --> 00:58:19,480
Speaker 1: and doing drugs if we don't deal with resentment. That's

978
00:58:19,560 --> 00:58:22,440
Speaker 1: the thing that is our downfall. We're right. Essentially, the

979
00:58:22,560 --> 00:58:26,680
Speaker 1: resentment is suicidal. Yeah, and attempting to it's a version

980
00:58:26,760 --> 00:58:30,160
Speaker 1: of contempt. That was really beautiful you guys. I think

981
00:58:30,600 --> 00:58:33,080
Speaker 1: you said gratitude, like I think it's just such a

982
00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:36,600
Speaker 1: great thing to say, Oh, yeah, did that feel good

983
00:58:36,640 --> 00:58:40,880
Speaker 1: to hear he did it? It felt good? Yeah, because

984
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:43,360
Speaker 1: he doesn't. We don't, don't, you know, don't have that

985
00:58:43,520 --> 00:58:46,720
Speaker 1: kind of I think, yeah, that's thank you for doing that,

986
00:58:46,800 --> 00:58:51,040
Speaker 1: because we haven't had that kind of yeah, like that

987
00:58:51,520 --> 00:58:54,880
Speaker 1: interaction in years. It's not it's not an easy thing

988
00:58:54,960 --> 00:58:58,320
Speaker 1: to do, noial and because there's there's also so much emotion.

989
00:58:58,400 --> 00:59:00,280
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, they say, and I could into

990
00:59:00,280 --> 00:59:02,280
Speaker 1: all the stats and stuff, but like we've spent the

991
00:59:02,360 --> 00:59:05,360
Speaker 1: most time with each other than anybody in our family.

992
00:59:05,560 --> 00:59:08,640
Speaker 1: I mean, that's just what it is. So you guys

993
00:59:08,640 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 1: are super super close and well, no, but most siblings,

994
00:59:11,920 --> 00:59:14,720
Speaker 1: that is just most siblings. So you guys spent more

995
00:59:14,800 --> 00:59:18,920
Speaker 1: time with each other than anybody else, your partners or

996
00:59:19,000 --> 00:59:23,720
Speaker 1: any I mean, like anybody else. And and so when

997
00:59:23,760 --> 00:59:27,439
Speaker 1: you start to actually communicate to that person, like from

998
00:59:27,480 --> 00:59:32,400
Speaker 1: a real vulnerable place, you're like, oh my god, it's

999
00:59:32,480 --> 00:59:35,760
Speaker 1: beautiful that you can even say those things. And I'm

1000
00:59:35,920 --> 00:59:39,160
Speaker 1: just learning to honestly, because it's not easy for me

1001
00:59:39,400 --> 00:59:41,640
Speaker 1: to do what you guys did, to sit across from

1002
00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:44,960
Speaker 1: Kate and just say that openly and honestly without fear,

1003
00:59:45,600 --> 00:59:48,080
Speaker 1: you know, And that's his personal fear of judgment and

1004
00:59:48,240 --> 00:59:50,960
Speaker 1: fear of Look now I'm freaking out later on the

1005
00:59:51,040 --> 00:59:53,760
Speaker 1: net and be like, you did that at Kate Hudson's house,

1006
00:59:55,240 --> 00:59:59,360
Speaker 1: you know, the one that was almost famous Kate Hudson.

1007
01:00:00,120 --> 01:00:08,600
Speaker 1: Now that that's snakeskin. Yeah, that like that whole thing

1008
01:00:08,760 --> 01:00:11,920
Speaker 1: you did that, Steve, What did you do? Yeah? Then

1009
01:00:11,960 --> 01:00:14,439
Speaker 1: my head's gonna be it's gonna be like a hamster wheel,

1010
01:00:14,680 --> 01:00:16,600
Speaker 1: like why did you do it? Why did you? Fine?

1011
01:00:16,640 --> 01:00:19,400
Speaker 1: You're great? All right? We like to go nineties hip

1012
01:00:19,440 --> 01:00:23,000
Speaker 1: hop style? Are we freestyling for real? Right now? Oh? Yeah,

1013
01:00:24,160 --> 01:00:27,200
Speaker 1: I'll do all right? Do you want a nose vibe?

1014
01:00:27,640 --> 01:00:35,200
Speaker 1: Here we go waiting for the beat well, Kogi is

1015
01:00:35,240 --> 01:00:41,240
Speaker 1: my meat street meat fleet week, screwing guys with big feet.

1016
01:00:41,360 --> 01:00:43,280
Speaker 1: I don't want to be cool, but I'm the man

1017
01:00:43,320 --> 01:00:46,600
Speaker 1: who's going to crossroads school. I learned to educate. I

1018
01:00:46,680 --> 01:00:49,000
Speaker 1: go on a few dates and then I found one

1019
01:00:49,080 --> 01:00:52,000
Speaker 1: girl who I called my mate, and little Ray is here.

1020
01:00:52,360 --> 01:00:55,080
Speaker 1: I got the sharp spear coming through. You need to

1021
01:00:55,200 --> 01:00:57,320
Speaker 1: open up your ear because I got a lot of

1022
01:00:57,400 --> 01:01:01,680
Speaker 1: fear growing through my heart. Yes, I strite start to depart,

1023
01:01:01,800 --> 01:01:04,840
Speaker 1: then I pull apart the parts like a god dang motor.

1024
01:01:05,080 --> 01:01:07,960
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck. I got the straight soldier

1025
01:01:08,200 --> 01:01:11,360
Speaker 1: type of mentality in my straight brain, insaying in the

1026
01:01:11,400 --> 01:01:13,800
Speaker 1: brain like I'm Cypress Hill. When I got the feel

1027
01:01:13,880 --> 01:01:16,240
Speaker 1: and I need to chill and I need to not kill.

1028
01:01:16,480 --> 01:01:19,840
Speaker 1: I got the rage streaming through my eyebrows. I keep

1029
01:01:19,920 --> 01:01:22,120
Speaker 1: going because I'm headed towards the clouds. When I look

1030
01:01:22,200 --> 01:01:24,360
Speaker 1: up to this guy, then I look up to the ground,

1031
01:01:24,760 --> 01:01:27,880
Speaker 1: heaven or hell. Yes, I am a damn clown, profound

1032
01:01:28,000 --> 01:01:31,520
Speaker 1: ricochetan thoughts in my mind state. I'm not claiming that

1033
01:01:31,600 --> 01:01:35,360
Speaker 1: I'm great, but I'm hanging out with Kate Hudson and Allie.

1034
01:01:35,840 --> 01:01:38,840
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah why do you cover

1035
01:01:38,920 --> 01:01:45,240
Speaker 1: your eyes? Oh? Oh that was fun. We have one

1036
01:01:45,280 --> 01:01:47,640
Speaker 1: more question because there's a charity aspect to your fil

1037
01:01:48,320 --> 01:01:50,040
Speaker 1: So Kate and I have a ten thousand dollars bet.

1038
01:01:50,080 --> 01:01:53,240
Speaker 1: Throughout this season we are asking our guests and you

1039
01:01:53,360 --> 01:01:55,960
Speaker 1: have to answer honestly. No feelings are going to get hurt.

1040
01:01:56,280 --> 01:01:59,160
Speaker 1: But after and and and the winner the ten thousand

1041
01:01:59,200 --> 01:02:01,360
Speaker 1: dollars will go to the charity of our choice of

1042
01:02:01,440 --> 01:02:05,439
Speaker 1: one of ours choices. So after this podcast throw away

1043
01:02:05,640 --> 01:02:08,880
Speaker 1: all you knowing me and everything else, who do you

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01:02:09,720 --> 01:02:15,920
Speaker 1: like better? Myself or Kate? Just relate to just generally

1045
01:02:16,200 --> 01:02:23,160
Speaker 1: vibe like you know I honestly, Kate, really yeah? Yeah?

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01:02:26,600 --> 01:02:29,200
Speaker 1: Can I tell you it's fine saying there's no hard

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01:02:29,200 --> 01:02:32,040
Speaker 1: feeling it was my feet. It's not just no, it

1048
01:02:32,120 --> 01:02:34,360
Speaker 1: wasn't just the feat, right, It's just that, you know,

1049
01:02:34,640 --> 01:02:37,360
Speaker 1: she seems like somebody that I can trust more, Okay,

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01:02:39,520 --> 01:02:46,080
Speaker 1: somebody that like, you know, like, like, here's what I think.

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01:02:46,200 --> 01:02:50,919
Speaker 1: Kate has projected a wonderful motherly figure. And I think

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01:02:51,000 --> 01:02:53,960
Speaker 1: that you have found a mother figure in her if

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01:02:54,040 --> 01:02:56,360
Speaker 1: you wanted to make love to her feet. I don't

1054
01:02:56,360 --> 01:02:58,400
Speaker 1: know about likeness, but I have to be honest I

1055
01:02:58,680 --> 01:03:01,600
Speaker 1: fear you guys both. Okay, but who do you like

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01:03:01,680 --> 01:03:05,800
Speaker 1: the most? Both of you? Guys? It's hard. You don't

1057
01:03:05,800 --> 01:03:09,920
Speaker 1: you're there's there's no there's there's there's no hurting feelings either.

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01:03:09,960 --> 01:03:12,080
Speaker 1: It's just it's just an over gotta be hous. I

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01:03:12,120 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 1: feel a little bit more comfortable with all of our Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but but it's because I because I fear you so much,

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01:03:20,040 --> 01:03:23,400
Speaker 1: because I'm like, I can't go down step. He's a

1062
01:03:23,480 --> 01:03:26,800
Speaker 1: star too, but I'm not. Yes, yeah, but he's a

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01:03:27,080 --> 01:03:30,320
Speaker 1: yeah yeah yeah, yeah yeah yeah, but don't doubt Yeah.

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01:03:30,320 --> 01:03:32,160
Speaker 1: I guess he gets sensitive. So I just want to

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01:03:32,200 --> 01:03:36,360
Speaker 1: say something I loved every hour we sat here together.

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01:03:37,080 --> 01:03:43,800
Speaker 1: Love meaning you, I love you, right. Yeah. We're bringing

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01:03:43,840 --> 01:03:48,960
Speaker 1: in the family psychologists, so you guys can sling. We

1068
01:03:49,000 --> 01:03:51,680
Speaker 1: can do I'll read you. Yeah. You know, I think

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01:03:51,760 --> 01:03:54,520
Speaker 1: my brother and I you know, I think it maybe

1070
01:03:54,760 --> 01:03:58,600
Speaker 1: is a cultural thing being Korean or whatever, but we're

1071
01:03:58,720 --> 01:04:01,120
Speaker 1: very real. I mean, we we don't really. If we

1072
01:04:01,320 --> 01:04:05,080
Speaker 1: feel it, we'll say it. And so you know, everything

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01:04:05,160 --> 01:04:08,720
Speaker 1: we've talked about is stuff that we feel and we've

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01:04:08,760 --> 01:04:12,120
Speaker 1: talked about before. We're not uncomfortable pop. Yeah, I think

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01:04:12,200 --> 01:04:15,400
Speaker 1: that being with you two really was very comfortable because

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01:04:15,440 --> 01:04:17,680
Speaker 1: we were a little nervous about how that was gonna go.

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Speaker 1: But it went splendidly and I really enjoyed myself. You know, Yeah,

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01:04:23,760 --> 01:04:25,400
Speaker 1: I have to mean I was nervous at first, but

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01:04:25,440 --> 01:04:29,080
Speaker 1: I'm not nervous right now. Yeah you're not. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I was chilling freestyle and at the end, thank you God.

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Speaker 1: Sibling Revelry is executive Gruce by Kate Hudson, Alira Hudson,

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Speaker 1: and sim Sarna. Supervising producer is Alison Presnik. Editor is

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Speaker 1: Josh Wendish. Music by Mark Hudson aka Uncle Mark.