WEBVTT - “Ask Amy & T.J. “ 0:00:02.880 --> 0:00:07.080 Welcome everyone to the Amy and TJ Podcast. In this episode, 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:11.240 we are going to talk about a very exciting, brand 0:00:11.320 --> 0:00:15.880 new project that we're jumping into. It's a column with 0:00:16.079 --> 0:00:19.919 Yahoo and it's called Ask Amy and TJ. It's a 0:00:19.960 --> 0:00:21.400 relationship column. TJ. 0:00:21.560 --> 0:00:22.639 You don't want to call it advice? 0:00:23.120 --> 0:00:30.080 Well, look, we're going to give a suggestion, counter experience, comfort. Yes, yes, 0:00:30.160 --> 0:00:31.320 a perspective. 0:00:31.920 --> 0:00:32.720 Hey, we got that. 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:38.640 But yeah, I when they protest about this, I, for 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:42.400 whatever reason, I was uncomfortable with the idea of calling 0:00:42.440 --> 0:00:46.239 it an advice column. I'm not quite sure, you know what. 0:00:46.280 --> 0:00:49.960 I step away from. The idea still foreign to me 0:00:50.000 --> 0:00:54.040 that anybody would come to me for advice on relationships. 0:00:54.520 --> 0:00:55.920 I think that's what it is. 0:00:56.000 --> 0:00:57.680 Right, and I don't think that either one of us 0:00:57.680 --> 0:01:02.000 feel comfortable at all claiming or having anyone else call 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:05.600 us experts. We're experienced, yes, and we've made a lot 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:08.840 of mistakes and in my life, and I think in 0:01:08.840 --> 0:01:10.960 most people's lives, if you think about it, you learn 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:14.200 the most when you make mistakes through those mistakes. And 0:01:14.240 --> 0:01:16.840 so I would say in that sense, we do have 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:20.720 a lot of information, hard earned information, experience that we 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:24.479 can pass along that perhaps could help someone in some 0:01:24.520 --> 0:01:26.319 sort of relationship dilemma. 0:01:26.200 --> 0:01:29.320 And we smile about it, but it's some we It 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:35.080 never crossed our minds to do a relationship column. We'll 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:36.720 talk about how this came about in just a second, 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:40.039 but we have found over the past several years, and 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:43.720 even sometimes publicly on our podcast and episodes we've done, 0:01:43.760 --> 0:01:46.280 people open up and speak to us in a way 0:01:46.480 --> 0:01:49.160 that maybe they would not have had they done it 0:01:49.160 --> 0:01:51.840 with someone else or didn't know some of what you 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:53.960 and I had gone through. That there has been something 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:56.760 to that. There's a comfort in knowing you're not going 0:01:56.800 --> 0:02:00.800 to be judged, first of all, but in listening to 0:02:00.840 --> 0:02:01.880 someone who's been through it. 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:05.680 As well exactly, and that has been one of the 0:02:05.760 --> 0:02:08.280 silver linings of what we went through. Look, we would 0:02:08.320 --> 0:02:11.360 not have wanted to ever. It's kind of funny the 0:02:11.360 --> 0:02:15.000 situation we found ourselves in. We're both private people. We 0:02:15.040 --> 0:02:18.000 would not have ever been putting our relationship out there 0:02:18.000 --> 0:02:20.080 for people to discuss. We knew it was going to 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:22.880 become public because we had plans to make it public 0:02:22.919 --> 0:02:27.240 within literally a month of when it was revealed, not 0:02:27.560 --> 0:02:29.880 our doing or on the timeline, we would have liked 0:02:29.880 --> 0:02:32.079 it but we would have been private. So we were 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:35.600 thrust our relationship became fodder. We were thrust into the headlines, 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:39.040 and so then yeah, people feel like, Okay, well they've 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:41.480 been through a lot of stuff and we know about 0:02:41.480 --> 0:02:43.440 it because we've read about it. So now I don't 0:02:43.440 --> 0:02:46.360 feel so bad about telling you my stuff and what 0:02:46.400 --> 0:02:49.119 I'm going through because the truth is everybody is going 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:53.200 through something, but nobody wants you to know that exactly. 0:02:53.240 --> 0:02:58.240 Why everybody, y'all, we're all in it. I don't to 0:02:58.360 --> 0:03:02.480 the idea that someone is it is jealous of that 0:03:02.560 --> 0:03:04.880 other couple or that other couple, but. 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:08.600 That happens every I'm guilty of looking, at least in 0:03:08.840 --> 0:03:11.680 past moments in my life, looking at other couples, thinking Wow, 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:13.680 what's that like? What would that be like? 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:16.440 And what I am saying to people are suggesting that 0:03:16.639 --> 0:03:21.360 everybody is going through it in some way just because 0:03:21.360 --> 0:03:24.280 they put on whatever face. You have been guilty of that. 0:03:24.800 --> 0:03:27.960 I have been guilty of that publicly putting out a 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:30.880 phase and people would have looked and said, ha, they 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:32.040 got it together. 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:33.400 A couple of goals. 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:37.400 They're the perk couple goals exactly hashtag couple goals. They're perfect, 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:40.880 they are so in love, they must never fight. I 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:42.560 bet they have the best life. 0:03:43.400 --> 0:03:48.119 Ha, Just everybody's going through it. So when we got 0:03:48.160 --> 0:03:52.280 this opportunity, I mean we were kind of scratching our 0:03:52.320 --> 0:03:54.040 heads saying, well, how did this come about? And then 0:03:54.080 --> 0:03:57.880 we realize this actually is right in our wheelhouse. Because 0:03:58.000 --> 0:04:01.520 we have been giving advice to people on the street 0:04:02.560 --> 0:04:05.960 formerly for a while now Robes. It has been kind 0:04:05.960 --> 0:04:09.520 of remarkable the number of folks who have started telling 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:12.880 us their life stories because they know what we've gone 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:13.600 through and they want. 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:15.080 To hear how to get through it. 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:17.880 Everyone's trying to connect and I think everyone no one 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:21.120 wants to feel alone. Everyone wants to know Hey, me too. 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:25.400 And so it started almost immediately. We started to venture 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:29.160 out a few times, kind of hiding away at a 0:04:29.200 --> 0:04:31.520 restaurant here or there, and people still would find us. 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:33.880 And there was one in particular initially who came up 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:36.160 to us and they said, you think you've been through 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:38.920 the Ringer, wait till you'll hear our story and how 0:04:38.960 --> 0:04:42.360 we got together. A lot we've had flight attendants say hey, 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:45.159 I met my husband. He's a pilot at the job. 0:04:45.279 --> 0:04:48.640 On the job, they're like shocking that two people who 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:51.800 work together might fall in love. Wow, that must never happen. 0:04:52.000 --> 0:04:54.680 You guys are weird. So yes, we've had those kind 0:04:54.680 --> 0:04:58.599 of anecdotal moments where people are connecting because they've had 0:04:59.000 --> 0:05:01.800 either a relationship work or some sort of relationship that 0:05:01.920 --> 0:05:05.080 was frowned upon by others, and so we felt camaraderie 0:05:05.160 --> 0:05:06.920 with them, and that's kind of how it began. 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:09.560 Yeah, but when I guess we got a call and 0:05:09.600 --> 0:05:12.480 we want to give her credit. Carol O'Connor, So when 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:15.839 we worked with back at ABC was now the director 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:19.400 of communications at Yahoo. She knew how to get in 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:22.039 touch with us and reached out because they have a 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:25.359 new editor in chief over at Yahoo News, who is 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:30.159 Rosa Hayman, and those two reached out and had an idea. 0:05:30.200 --> 0:05:32.400 We weren't exactly sure, so Rose, we got together and 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:33.680 trop Becka Bluestone Lane. 0:05:33.720 --> 0:05:35.680 I remember that that morning. 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:38.560 And they said, we would like to have the two 0:05:38.600 --> 0:05:41.480 of you write an advice column. And they already had 0:05:41.480 --> 0:05:45.760 a name, ask Amy and TJ. And they kind of 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:49.600 felt what we had been experiencing. That because our relationship 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:51.680 was so out there and because we had been through 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:55.359 the Ringer and because so many other people privately go 0:05:55.480 --> 0:05:59.320 through versions of something they just figured there'd be an 0:05:59.360 --> 0:06:03.520 immediate connect, and because we had experienced so much and look, 0:06:03.720 --> 0:06:07.200 we can go through our resumes on relationships, but we 0:06:07.400 --> 0:06:10.480 both have two divorces, and a lot of people could 0:06:10.520 --> 0:06:12.640 point to that and say, well, why would you then 0:06:12.680 --> 0:06:17.360 give relationship advice? But man, going through those experiences and 0:06:17.440 --> 0:06:21.200 learning and then relearning the dues and don'ts and where 0:06:21.200 --> 0:06:23.160 things went wrong, there's there. We've both done a lot 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:25.880 of work and introspection on how things got to where 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:27.680 they were and why we chose the mates we did. 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:29.480 I just feel like when you look at it from 0:06:29.520 --> 0:06:32.560 that perspective, we do have a lot of experience them. 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:34.200 It's weird to think, well, I don't want to listen 0:06:34.240 --> 0:06:38.400 to this person on relationship advice because that person has 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:42.239 had some failures in their relationships. Well, go find someone 0:06:42.279 --> 0:06:44.599 who's perfect in a relationship and get advice from them. 0:06:45.080 --> 0:06:46.000 Go right ahead. 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:49.720 It might take you a while to find them, but 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:53.880 it's nice. We are not at all. We wouldn't make 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:57.360 that suggestion that we're just trying to tell people how 0:06:57.400 --> 0:07:02.120 to necessarily avoid mistakes. We are the folks who a 0:07:02.120 --> 0:07:03.680 lot of people reached out to us, talk to us 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:08.200 about not making the mistake, but how to get through it. 0:07:08.839 --> 0:07:11.680 And that's where so many people right now find themselves. 0:07:11.680 --> 0:07:15.280 They're already in the thick of something robes and now 0:07:15.320 --> 0:07:18.520 they're trying to figure out how to get sometimes out 0:07:18.520 --> 0:07:19.600 of it or through it. 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:22.160 You know, I have come back and this is this 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:24.800 has been going on now for at least two years. 0:07:24.800 --> 0:07:27.640 Where whether I'm going to a doctor's office, I'm going 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:33.160 to a lawyer's office dealing with divorce proceedings, whether I'm 0:07:33.280 --> 0:07:36.800 at an event where I see an old colleague, a medium, mogul, 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:40.160 you know, people from all walks of life will seek 0:07:40.240 --> 0:07:43.200 me out and say, oh my god, I'm about to 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:45.280 get divorced. I think I'm going to tell my husband 0:07:45.320 --> 0:07:47.320 I want a divorce, or I'm in the middle of 0:07:47.360 --> 0:07:50.560 a messy divorce. And then they have questions, how did 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:52.520 you handle this? How did you deal with this? But 0:07:53.160 --> 0:07:55.840 these are women who I don't think otherwise would have 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:59.040 ever come up and shared any of this with me. 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:01.600 But because they know I've been through it, and because 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:05.119 they know our dirty laundry was aired all over the place, 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:08.600 they know, like you said, there's no judgment, and there's 0:08:08.640 --> 0:08:11.000 a lot of experience, and so I have just been 0:08:11.200 --> 0:08:15.400 kind of amazed at how forthcoming, how vulnerable. I have 0:08:15.560 --> 0:08:19.520 seen powerful women who I know would not even otherwise, 0:08:20.080 --> 0:08:23.040 how they've been able to open up because they feel safe. 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:26.520 The think you have that you know you're talking to 0:08:26.640 --> 0:08:31.000 a kind and empathetic ear is how differently people will 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:33.679 talk to you because of so off And I'm sure 0:08:33.720 --> 0:08:35.520 you saw it in some of those rooms. A powerful 0:08:35.559 --> 0:08:40.040 person comes over vulnerable with you and then turn around 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:43.160 and go back to being mispowerful. 0:08:42.400 --> 0:08:45.199 In that right exactly without a doubt. I mean, we've 0:08:45.240 --> 0:08:49.200 even had it on our podcast where we've had people 0:08:49.280 --> 0:08:51.599 come in, prominent guests come in, and then all of 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:54.480 a sudden they'll break down a little bit in the 0:08:54.600 --> 0:08:57.440 actual podcast and kind of reveal more than maybe they 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:00.800 would have. But then when the mics turn off, they 0:09:00.880 --> 0:09:04.880 will just tell you comes out everything. And I've been 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:07.080 stunned by that because you and I have spoken with 0:09:07.160 --> 0:09:10.480 celebrities for the last two decades, and that just doesn't 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:12.200 happen if you have a little bit of a connection, 0:09:12.240 --> 0:09:14.200 a little bit of laugh after the cameras turn off, 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:17.200 when the micser turned off. But this has been on 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:20.720 a whole other level with what we've been through, where 0:09:20.880 --> 0:09:23.200 people who I get would probably have a lot to 0:09:23.240 --> 0:09:25.400 lose if we talked about what they told us. It 0:09:25.520 --> 0:09:27.600 still felt connected enough to say. 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:29.760 It we should get official licenses to be. 0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:32.520 We can't name names, but it's been jaw dropping. 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:35.840 It had, and I would say I've had different conversations 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:37.840 with people since we've been podcasting than I did when 0:09:37.840 --> 0:09:42.520 we were in broadcasting on broadcast television. There's something about it, 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:44.760 and I've appreciated and felt more connection with people that 0:09:44.840 --> 0:09:47.520 we have been talking to, and quite frankly, you and 0:09:47.559 --> 0:09:50.720 I have been more vulnerable in this role than we 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:53.080 have been in our careers, and I think that shows 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:55.000 and it's paid off in the people we talk to, 0:09:55.080 --> 0:09:59.920 So I've appreciate it. 0:10:05.160 --> 0:10:08.200 One of the cool moments when we were approached by 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:12.280 Rosa and Kara to do this advice column, they had 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:16.199 just listened to our February series called Love Stories, And 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:18.199 I've given you full credit, TJ, because this was your 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:22.520 idea for us to interview couples in different stages in life, 0:10:22.840 --> 0:10:26.079 coming at it from different places in life. There were 0:10:26.120 --> 0:10:29.960 age gaps, there were religious differences, there were sexual orientation differences, 0:10:30.200 --> 0:10:32.000 people who had been married a long time, people who 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:34.520 had just gotten married, people had been married four times. 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:35.120 You know. 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:39.040 It was like every single possible relationship scenario. And then 0:10:39.120 --> 0:10:42.920 these were currently successful couples, and so we wanted to 0:10:42.960 --> 0:10:45.880 ask them questions and so we just had a unique experience. 0:10:45.960 --> 0:10:49.080 So because it was you and I a couple interviewing 0:10:49.559 --> 0:10:50.559 another couple. 0:10:50.320 --> 0:10:51.160 I love that series. 0:10:51.880 --> 0:10:53.360 I love I didn't know it was going to come 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:55.400 out like that, but we asked all these couples the 0:10:55.480 --> 0:10:58.679 exact same questions from a list and just to hear 0:10:58.720 --> 0:11:01.480 how the conversation said off and how the differences and 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:03.880 the similarities and everything you do you see a theme 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:06.000 in so many couples, no matter what the differences are. 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:08.520 I loved it, and we absolutely folks were telling you 0:11:08.520 --> 0:11:11.360 now we are going to continue that series. 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:13.080 We give you our word there. 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:16.079 But I was surprised Robes and we did get some response, 0:11:16.360 --> 0:11:19.480 some online and some friends talking about it. But I 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:22.880 was surprised to hear Yahoo. It got Yahoo's attention, and 0:11:23.000 --> 0:11:24.439 that's part of the reason they approached us. 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:26.200 Yes, and you know, we wanted to take this time 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:28.520 to think those couples, because it does take a lot, 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:31.959 oh my god, yes, to be vulnerable. I mean that's 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:35.080 the best word to use to actually, especially when you're 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:39.960 a celebrity, to actually talk about sometimes taboo topics. Because 0:11:40.000 --> 0:11:43.800 we asked all the couples basically the same question, so 0:11:43.840 --> 0:11:45.559 we wanted just to see the different answers like when 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:46.920 it was your first date, when did you know you 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:49.800 were in love, how often do you have sex, etc. Etc. 0:11:50.280 --> 0:11:53.160 But Trista and Ryan Suitor, they were weren't they the 0:11:53.200 --> 0:11:55.440 first ones we spoke with right, and they were awesome? 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:58.200 And Ryan was a chatty kathy yeah, which we're not 0:11:58.360 --> 0:12:00.640 used to hearing if you've ever seen interviews with him 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:04.880 over the years. He's the tall, dark and quiet one. 0:12:04.800 --> 0:12:06.000 And he was great. 0:12:06.160 --> 0:12:08.000 He did most of the talking almost We gragged a 0:12:08.040 --> 0:12:09.360 bunch of jokes and we got to hang out with 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:11.720 him in La and absolutely loved it. So they set 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:14.800 a good tone. But I was taken rogues by what 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:18.400 we got out of these couples. We learned a lot ourselves. 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:18.520 As a couple. 0:12:18.720 --> 0:12:21.040 I think we felt better about and this is part 0:12:21.120 --> 0:12:23.360 of the point, I guess of this series and maybe 0:12:23.400 --> 0:12:27.120 hopefully even this advice column, this relationship column is that 0:12:27.640 --> 0:12:30.480 you start to realize you're not that different from everybody else. 0:12:30.720 --> 0:12:33.080 So some of their answers just to go, oh my god, 0:12:33.120 --> 0:12:35.120 that's us too, where that happens to us too, where 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:37.600 we went through that as well, and you just feel 0:12:37.640 --> 0:12:41.480 like I felt more confident in our relationship because it 0:12:41.520 --> 0:12:44.120 didn't feel like we had a bigger problem, more a 0:12:44.160 --> 0:12:46.960 different problem. It kind of felt like we were all 0:12:46.960 --> 0:12:47.600 in the same boat. 0:12:47.720 --> 0:12:50.760 And I loved all of these couples. Of course, Jenna 0:12:50.800 --> 0:12:53.120 Cram and her husband Alan Russell, we had a good 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:56.559 chat with them. Jenny Garth her husband Dave were great. 0:12:56.640 --> 0:12:58.600 Dave was amazing in that one. 0:12:59.000 --> 0:13:00.559 The guy who drove around for a year and a 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:02.880 half with divorce papers in the back of his truck. 0:13:03.120 --> 0:13:05.240 I mean, it can get that bad, folks, and you 0:13:05.280 --> 0:13:08.960 can still ten years later be smiling, holding hands and 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:10.240 being interviewed by us. 0:13:10.120 --> 0:13:12.480 And we laugh about it because they were laughing about it. 0:13:12.480 --> 0:13:18.200 I've never heard such a story. Eddie and Tamra, they're amazing. 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:23.280 You have Pita and Max, Mike, the situation in Lauren Sorrentino. 0:13:23.480 --> 0:13:25.000 They surprised me a lot. 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:25.720 They were amazing. 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:28.760 This is this is a couple that got together when 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:31.800 he was about to go to prison and she went 0:13:31.880 --> 0:13:33.960 to go visit him and they got Their story is 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:37.000 incredible and their love was so palpable. We had doctor 0:13:37.040 --> 0:13:40.040 Jeff Gardier and doctor Amber Brody with a thirty year 0:13:40.040 --> 0:13:44.040 age gap, interracial couple, once Jewish, once not. I mean, 0:13:44.040 --> 0:13:46.400 it was every opposite you could think of, Like all 0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:49.120 the stacks were against them, and yet still they were. 0:13:49.200 --> 0:13:52.280 We were at their wedding, so and we Yeah. Kevin 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:55.280 green so sorry, Samantha Greenstone and Jacob Hoff the mixed 0:13:55.320 --> 0:13:58.160 orientation couple, which was just a mind blower. 0:13:58.280 --> 0:14:00.360 Okay, if you're trying to put your head around mixed 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:04.160 orientation couple. He is a gay man, she is a 0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:08.840 straight woman. They are married and a monogamous sexual relationship. 0:14:08.840 --> 0:14:11.440 With a monogamous sexual relationship, he hasn't talked about how 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:14.520 they made it work. And then Austin Mackenzie and Kevin McHale. 0:14:14.800 --> 0:14:18.440 I love them. They're so fun. Yeah. So it's just 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:22.600 it was a blast getting to know all of these couples. 0:14:22.600 --> 0:14:25.040 We know some of them individually as stars, but to 0:14:25.080 --> 0:14:27.280 know them as couples and how they relate to one another, 0:14:27.320 --> 0:14:30.520 it was just if you haven't listened to the series, 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:32.280 if you want to go back and find it, I'm 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:36.160 telling you it is absolutely worth the listen. I have 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:38.640 listened to it multiple times, several of them because they're 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:40.920 so good. But yes, Rosa and Karatt caught their eye. 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:44.640 I think it sparked their It sparked an idea to 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:50.040 have a relationship column. It's funny, I keep saying. So 0:14:50.080 --> 0:14:52.120 we told them we wanted to call a relationship column. 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:54.560 They wanted advice column. Did you see the finished version? 0:14:54.600 --> 0:14:59.720 They called it a relationship advice column. So now, yeah, 0:14:59.760 --> 0:15:01.480 I shu read that this morning when I saw the 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:05.120 press release just went out yesterday, the day before we 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:07.840 recorded this, and I just looked at it because we 0:15:07.880 --> 0:15:10.120 had already fallen asleep by the time the press release. 0:15:11.240 --> 0:15:13.960 And they called it. So they married the two and 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:16.640 they called it a relationship advice column. 0:15:16.800 --> 0:15:20.720 And again, we've already seen a number of questions with 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:26.560 a few wild scenarios but all relatable. 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:32.280 Still, yes, we we've already actually started the process of 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:34.520 answering a couple of questions. And so yeah, if anyone 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:38.120 listening has a question for us, please contact Yahoo and 0:15:38.640 --> 0:15:41.920 submit your question and wherever you can see, even on 0:15:41.920 --> 0:15:44.000 our social media. If you've got a question you want 0:15:44.040 --> 0:15:46.920 to be anonymous, that's fine, Like we will welcome any 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:49.320 and all because it's it's fascinating to know what people 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:52.560 are dealing with. But yeah, we had a I think 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:55.760 one of the first ones that caught our attention was 0:15:57.240 --> 0:15:59.280 do we do we give? Should we give? Specifics about 0:15:59.280 --> 0:16:05.200 some of these questions. 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:04.320 Just generally speaking. 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:09.840 That was a great scenario about a husband telling people 0:16:10.000 --> 0:16:11.760 that he was married out of obligation. 0:16:12.120 --> 0:16:14.480 Yep. There was another one about you know, when you 0:16:14.480 --> 0:16:17.480 have that third person in your marriage, what would happen 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:19.480 if someone moved that third person into your home? 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:24.880 That was a great The plastic surgery one was devastating. 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:29.000 There was an unbelievable plastic surgery scenario where you know, 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:32.080 what happens if one partner changes how they look? 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:35.200 Yeah, and the other partners is no longer attracted. 0:16:37.320 --> 0:16:39.800 Yeah, then there's sexual issues. You know what if one 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:42.960 partner just doesn't want to have sex anymore. So, yes, 0:16:43.640 --> 0:16:48.120 this has been really interesting and I do think completely relatable. 0:16:48.360 --> 0:16:50.920 All of these are specific questions to specific people, but 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:54.920 I think everyone reading it will either it's either going 0:16:55.000 --> 0:16:56.480 to relate to them or someone they know. 0:16:56.680 --> 0:16:58.920 You're going to scream at the screen either way. 0:16:59.080 --> 0:17:01.200 Yes, because some of the Oh my god, because our 0:17:01.280 --> 0:17:03.800 jaws dropped in seeing some of these already. 0:17:03.880 --> 0:17:07.760 So we're really excited about this new project, and we 0:17:07.800 --> 0:17:10.680 hope that that you all are too, Because our plan 0:17:10.760 --> 0:17:14.840 right now is to have the column in Yahoo and 0:17:14.840 --> 0:17:19.080 then the next day or you know, in some you 0:17:19.119 --> 0:17:22.840 know timeline, but a timely timeline, we'll have a podcast 0:17:23.040 --> 0:17:27.080 about the column. And my dream is whoever writes the question, 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:30.160 they can remain anonymous, but if we could get them 0:17:30.160 --> 0:17:32.280 on the podcast to go in deeper, how fun would 0:17:32.280 --> 0:17:34.680 that be? So they ask us the question, we give 0:17:34.720 --> 0:17:37.840 our best attempt at advice, and then when we get 0:17:38.280 --> 0:17:41.720 him or her on the podcast, we can start asking questions. 0:17:41.720 --> 0:17:42.640 We can go deeper. 0:17:43.080 --> 0:17:45.919 We should say it more confidently. You said we're gonna 0:17:46.200 --> 0:17:48.040 make our best attempt at advice. 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:49.639 Well, you know we I think we just came up 0:17:49.680 --> 0:17:51.959 with this idea. Yes, I'm sorry, I forgot. Yes, we're 0:17:51.960 --> 0:17:52.879 gonna make it happen. 0:17:53.440 --> 0:17:54.480 Why did your voice get deeper? 0:17:54.480 --> 0:17:57.280 Well, you know, because it was just authoritative. A yeah, 0:17:57.640 --> 0:17:58.520 I meant what I said. 0:17:58.600 --> 0:17:59.960 So a man's voice is more authoritative. 0:18:00.600 --> 0:18:05.960 Yeah, I hate to admit that, why don't we just fine? 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:09.000 But we're going to make that happen. And I do 0:18:09.080 --> 0:18:11.000 think that that will be an exciting way to go 0:18:11.080 --> 0:18:14.600 even deeper, because if you're into the column, then you're 0:18:14.600 --> 0:18:16.560 invested in the story and you really want to hear 0:18:16.600 --> 0:18:17.920 from this person and what's going on. 0:18:17.960 --> 0:18:20.960 I didn't realize it, but I was complaining earlier. I 0:18:21.000 --> 0:18:23.800 didn't realize this was my complaint with columns. I'm not 0:18:23.920 --> 0:18:26.399 used to the payoff. Someone writes in a question, they 0:18:26.400 --> 0:18:29.320 get an answer. I'd never get to know that the 0:18:29.359 --> 0:18:31.639 person take the advice, did it go well? Did it 0:18:31.680 --> 0:18:34.720 go poorly? So I would love to be able to 0:18:34.720 --> 0:18:35.239 pay these off. 0:18:35.359 --> 0:18:37.879 Yeah, we could have multiple follow ups. If some of 0:18:37.920 --> 0:18:40.000 these stories as good as they sound, if you really 0:18:40.000 --> 0:18:42.920 get into the weeds, it actually might be it could 0:18:42.960 --> 0:18:45.800 become a series, you know. I mean some of these 0:18:45.840 --> 0:18:49.440 questions I think could actually be Netflix series. That's how 0:18:49.760 --> 0:18:51.680 crazy they are. No, there was a couple that we 0:18:51.680 --> 0:18:55.439 were just thinking, is this for real? Who's living like this? 0:18:55.640 --> 0:18:57.879 Like the eggshells you would have to step on every 0:18:57.960 --> 0:19:00.320 day in your own home to try and deal with 0:19:00.320 --> 0:19:02.760 the situation. So yes, I think this could have a 0:19:02.760 --> 0:19:03.480 lot of legs. 0:19:03.640 --> 0:19:04.240 One issue. 0:19:04.640 --> 0:19:06.480 I just thought about this. So what if we get 0:19:06.480 --> 0:19:09.600 the follow up? Yeah, they took our advice and it 0:19:09.680 --> 0:19:10.240 went poorly. 0:19:10.520 --> 0:19:13.439 Well, then we'll all learn an even bigger lesson. 0:19:13.480 --> 0:19:15.040 We won't use those follow ups. 0:19:15.480 --> 0:19:18.639 No, Hey, you all told me to do this, and 0:19:18.680 --> 0:19:22.600 look what happened. Oh, that would be terrible. Let's hope 0:19:22.640 --> 0:19:25.240 that doesn't happen. We'll try to use our best effort 0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:28.439 to make sure you all learn from our mistakes, not 0:19:28.520 --> 0:19:30.560 continue to make them or make more. That would be 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:33.119 the goal. But we just wanted to let y'all know 0:19:33.160 --> 0:19:35.040 what was going on and what was behind it, and 0:19:35.320 --> 0:19:38.320 hopefully you're excited as well. And again, bring those questions 0:19:38.359 --> 0:19:41.600 to us on our social media to Yahoo. We want 0:19:41.640 --> 0:19:44.439 to hear what you're going through and how we can help. 0:19:45.280 --> 0:19:48.120 So thanks for listening to us, and we'll see you later.