1 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:23,240 Speaker 1: What's going on? Everyone? Emily Abadi here, you are listening 2 00:00:23,520 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 1: to Five Minute Friday. Can you do me a favor 3 00:00:26,079 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 1: if you're listening to this right now? I'm talking to 4 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 1: all of the thousands of you that listen to five 5 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:37,040 Speaker 1: Minute Friday and Hurdle on the regular. I want you 6 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 1: to make sure that you're following Hurdle on social over 7 00:00:39,800 --> 00:00:43,879 Speaker 1: on Instagram at Hurdle podcast, and it would make my 8 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:49,160 Speaker 1: day if you would either tag Hurdle on Instagram, show 9 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:52,680 Speaker 1: some love to the show over there, or send me 10 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:56,120 Speaker 1: a note over on email over at Hello at Hurdle 11 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 1: dot us. Let me know what keeps you coming back. 12 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: I'm confid in this period of reflecting and asking myself 13 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 1: what's working and what's not working, And I know that 14 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:11,040 Speaker 1: there are so many dedicated community members out there that 15 00:01:11,080 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: can help me on this journey. So all of this 16 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 1: is me saying to you, hey, I could use your help. 17 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:22,080 Speaker 1: What are you liking, what's feeling good, what's resonating? And 18 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: spread the goodness that is Hurdle. That's my little PSA 19 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:27,920 Speaker 1: for the week. I want to tell you about something 20 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:32,560 Speaker 1: that I did earlier this week on Tuesday. I believe 21 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:36,120 Speaker 1: so I have this personal rule, and the rule is 22 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:39,319 Speaker 1: that if I am sending someone an email and it 23 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 1: is outside what many consider to be conventional work hours, 24 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 1: I schedule send the email for the following day, unless 25 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:52,200 Speaker 1: it's something that's urgent. I was doing this earlier this 26 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:56,400 Speaker 1: week and struggling a little bit, if I'm being honest, 27 00:01:56,880 --> 00:02:01,880 Speaker 1: just about gosh, what's going on with work lately? It 28 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 1: feels as though for me, I am in this pattern 29 00:02:06,440 --> 00:02:10,240 Speaker 1: of banging my head against the wall. And I know 30 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:13,680 Speaker 1: that it's only temporary, and I believe that there is 31 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: so much goodness on the way, but things have just 32 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:22,079 Speaker 1: been a little lonely in the world of Emily A 33 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 1: Body LLC. And so with that said, I made a 34 00:02:27,160 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 1: choice that I know already I am so much better for. 35 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:37,920 Speaker 1: I made the choice to schedule send ten emails to 36 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:43,440 Speaker 1: myself that will arrive over the next two months. And 37 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:47,600 Speaker 1: the body of these emails, it's nothing game changing. It 38 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:51,440 Speaker 1: is truly like, hey, you're doing a great job. That's 39 00:02:51,680 --> 00:02:55,639 Speaker 1: the entire body of one email. Another email is remember 40 00:02:55,680 --> 00:02:58,880 Speaker 1: when you wanted what you have now? I believe A 41 00:02:58,919 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: third one says do good and good will come to you. 42 00:03:03,200 --> 00:03:07,280 Speaker 1: I'll say that again. Do good and good will come 43 00:03:07,520 --> 00:03:11,720 Speaker 1: to you. And I scheduled ten of these let's call 44 00:03:11,760 --> 00:03:16,280 Speaker 1: them affirmative emails to arrive in my inbox before the 45 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: end of March. Sometimes we all need a little boost, right, 46 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:24,919 Speaker 1: and I found that I had the opportunity to provide 47 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:28,240 Speaker 1: that for myself. We each have the opportunity to be 48 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:31,800 Speaker 1: our own biggest hype human. There are going to be 49 00:03:31,880 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: days where you don't feel so shiny and grey, and 50 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 1: so I understand that it is within my power to 51 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 1: show up for myself, and that when I show up 52 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:45,040 Speaker 1: for myself, when I believe in what it is that 53 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:47,920 Speaker 1: I have to offer, then the universe shows up for 54 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 1: me in return. And so, yeah, I scheduled those ten emails. 55 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:56,720 Speaker 1: It might sound a little silly, and you know what, 56 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 1: I'm okay with that because I received the first one 57 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 1: earlier today and it put a smile on my face 58 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:08,600 Speaker 1: and what an awesome moment. That was a moment that 59 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:14,160 Speaker 1: reminded me exactly what I bring to the table. And 60 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 1: so my prompter you this week. Maybe you don't want 61 00:04:16,480 --> 00:04:19,279 Speaker 1: to schedule ten emails, and that's totally fine. I respect that, 62 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:24,440 Speaker 1: But what is one positive thing that you can praise 63 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 1: yourself for right now. What is one good thing that 64 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:32,160 Speaker 1: happened to you in the last twenty four hours. How 65 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 1: can you be your own biggest hype person in this moment? 66 00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:39,800 Speaker 1: Don't overthink it. That's where we get caught up. Okay, 67 00:04:40,600 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 1: and now a listener question. Hi, Emily, my name is Pfeiffer. 68 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:47,159 Speaker 1: I'm a longtime listener of the show, but I've never 69 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:49,960 Speaker 1: sent in a question before. I really admire the way 70 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 1: that you go about your solo adventures, and I'm especially 71 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:56,039 Speaker 1: loving hearing about the new things you're doing in twenty 72 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:59,560 Speaker 1: twenty five. Thank you. I am single and recently can't 73 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 1: seem to get comfortable with the idea of doing things 74 00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:06,200 Speaker 1: on my own, even though I really really want to. 75 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:09,159 Speaker 1: Do you have any advice on where to begin? Thank 76 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:10,840 Speaker 1: you so much for taking the time to read this. 77 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:15,240 Speaker 1: Keep hurtling. Okay, this is a good one, and honestly, 78 00:05:15,279 --> 00:05:17,039 Speaker 1: this is the kind of question that comes in a 79 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:20,440 Speaker 1: lot through my DMS as well. I want to reiterate 80 00:05:20,480 --> 00:05:22,760 Speaker 1: that I didn't really get comfortable with the idea of 81 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 1: spending time on my own outside of living on my 82 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:29,520 Speaker 1: own for some times. In fact, I remember the first 83 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:32,160 Speaker 1: time that I went on a solo vacation. I cried 84 00:05:32,279 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 1: on my way to the airport. I was so nervous. 85 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 1: With that said, I would say start small. So something 86 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:45,160 Speaker 1: like going out to dinner on your own might feel intimidating. 87 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:47,440 Speaker 1: It all might feel intimidating, but going out to dinner 88 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:51,720 Speaker 1: on your own requires you to buffer against other people 89 00:05:51,760 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: if you will, whereas going on a solo date to 90 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:58,280 Speaker 1: the movies might feel a little bit more accessible. You're 91 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:00,719 Speaker 1: in a dark room, you don't have to think about 92 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:04,720 Speaker 1: other people looking at you, and you're doing an activity. 93 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:07,920 Speaker 1: You are occupied in that moment, So meet yourself with 94 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 1: where you're at. If you're starting, just to spend time 95 00:06:11,000 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 1: on your own, and I would recommend beginning with a 96 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:19,039 Speaker 1: movie and then segue into I'm going to spend an 97 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:23,240 Speaker 1: hour or two at a coffee shop reading perhaps, or 98 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 1: I'm going to my favorite restaurant to sit at the 99 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:31,359 Speaker 1: bar and enjoy a meal and then also read or journal. 100 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 1: That would be my secondary tip to all of this 101 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 1: is if you're out in the world on your own, 102 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:43,000 Speaker 1: enjoying an experience, enjoying your surroundings, that's all find and good, 103 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 1: but do yourself a favor and bring something like a book, 104 00:06:47,080 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: a kindle, a journal, so that you're not sitting there 105 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:54,040 Speaker 1: solo on your phone. I find that when you are 106 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:56,920 Speaker 1: in the space of looking at your device and perhaps 107 00:06:56,960 --> 00:07:00,719 Speaker 1: scrolling through social media, we get into a viral of 108 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:05,400 Speaker 1: perhaps comparison, and that is the last thing you want 109 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 1: during your solo time. This is time that should fill 110 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:12,160 Speaker 1: up your cup, that should make you feel like the 111 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 1: badass human that you are, and content and good. So 112 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:20,240 Speaker 1: those are my two beginner tips. As always, I'm hunting 113 00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 1: your listener questions. Like I said at the top of 114 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:24,440 Speaker 1: this episode, I want your feedback. I want to know 115 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:26,920 Speaker 1: what you like. I want to know that you are 116 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:31,280 Speaker 1: here with me, So hit me on Instagram over at 117 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 1: Hurdle Podcast, or shoot us an email over at Hello 118 00:07:35,080 --> 00:07:38,520 Speaker 1: at Hurdle dot us. I'm also over at Emily a 119 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: Body another Hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.